She Magazine—May '12

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the 23rd annual glaad media awards in los angeles and new york city.

the queer queens of qomedy tour’s stop at the improv in hollywood, fl.

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When I was growing up, my mom was the cool mom in the neighborhood. I had the house where all my friends wanted to hangout. When you came to my house, my mom was totally okay with you being whoever you wanted to be and doing whatever you believed you wanted to do. I vividly remember seeing my mom, when I was in my late teens, walking into the living room, weekend after weekend, to find a group of 6 or more kids sleeping on the floor.

She’s do a quick headcount, then head into the kitchen and emerge with boxes of cereal and just the right number of spoons and bowls, place them on the dining room table and head out to run her errands. She loved every one of those kids as if they were her own. She knew and liked all the same music as we did. And she could go with the flow better than anyone I had ever known.

I don’t know when exactly it happened, but somewhere along the way, I woke up one day and my mom became Goldilocks. She reached an age when go with the flow means nothing more than remembering to pee before she leaves the house. Everything is either too hot, too cold, too soft, too hard, too short, too tall, too deep, too narrow, makes her butt sweat (which she charmingly calls, “Swamp ass,”) or gives her gas. You can only imagine what it takes to find something that is, “Just right.”

One thing that has remained a constant is the way she loves me and the people in my life. For all the times I am astounded by how high-maintenance she’s become, there are quadruple the times when I am blown away by how she goes above and beyond for any of us. Sure she may nag me to quit smoking and answer my phone more than once a week, but no matter when we call, she’s always there with a happy, “Hello,” and “I love you.” And if any of us are in need, she’s there without delay (right after she pees).

Heading into my forty’s, it was nowhere near my radar that I would suddenly become a parent, especially not to a teenager. But you know, my mom taught me enough to know that when a kid needs you, you do what you need to do. And in these last 5 years, I’d like to think that I afforded him with the same benefits I had with my mom. I’m okay with him being whoever he wants to be and doing whatever he believes he wants to do. Like my mom did with me, I make sure he knows that I won’t judge him because he is responsible for his own life and choices. I may nag him to quit smoking cigarettes if he can’t afford to buy his own and to at least text me once a week, but when he calls, I am always there with a happy, “Hello,” and “I love you.” And if he needs me, I’m there. Period.

Looking back, I realize that my mom really gave me all the tools I needed to be a good parent. And I have every intention of remaining the kind of mom she continues to be. She may be Goldilocks, but she’s my Goldilocks, and as far as I’m concerned, she’s, “Just right.”

See you next month.

Tina Sordellini Managing Executive Editor P.S. Don’t tell her I said any of this, or she’ll expect me to answer the phone more than once a week.

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MANAGING EXECUTIVE EDITOR Tina Sordellini PUBLICITY SHE ESPAÑOL EXECUTIVE EDITOR Maria Espinal ASSOCIATE EDITORS Marissa Cohen • Shawn Nicholson Christina Radish • Denise Warner CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Marissa Cohen • Verónica Espinal Christina Radish • The Village Sage Nadine Smith • Tina Sordellini Denise Warner • Donna Woessner CONTRIBUTING PHOTOGRAPHERS Verónica Espinal • Yadira Claralt Karina Luna • Angie Sowers Juan Saco Mironoff • Boi-Photography SALES ASSOCIATES Maria Espinal • Diana Price Portia Weiss ads@shemag.com DISTRIBUTION Robin Rotellini • Randy Justice SUBSCRIPTIONS www.shemag.com EDITORIAL OFFICE 6511 Nova Drive, #173 • Davie, FL 33317 954.354.9751 office info@shemag.com • www.shemag.com

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MAY 2012 / VOLUME 14 / ISSUE 4

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24 features

18 LBT MOMS 1 20 LBT MOMS 2 Celebrating our Moms on Mother’s Day

22 QUICKIE WITH...

The Real L Word’s Rose Garcia

24 COVER STORY Fortune Feimster

30 GIRLS IN WONDERLAND All you need to know to party with the girls!

40 SURROGACY 101

“Infertility does not discriminate, it impacts everyone, regardless of...”

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she espaÑol 38 ESPECIAL Entrevista con el vocero de la principal organización LGBT en Chile (Movilh) sobre el pasado, presente, futuro y derechos a conquistar para su comunidad.

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MULTIMEDIA

with tina sordellini

Check out Occupy This Album: a compilation of music by, for and inspired by the Occupy Wall Street movement and the 99%. Proceeds will go directly towards the needs of sustaining this growing movement. 99 Artists, 99 Tracks, for The 99%, it appeals to lovers of rock, hip hop, reggae, jazz, alternative, indie and more. This compilation is all encompassing and is the definitive compilation of “Protest Music” of modern times.

In spite of hitting several ratings lows over the course of this season, Fringe will return for a fifth and final season. Fox said of the decision, “Bringing it back for a final 13 allows us to provide the climactic conclusion that its passionate and loyal fans deserve.” The current season will end with a two-part finale, airing May 4 and May 11 at 9pm on Fox.

Opening in theaters on May 15, is the fantasy/action/adventure, Snow White and the Huntsman, starring Kristen Stewart, Chris Hemsworth and Charlize Theron. In a twist to the fairy tale, (in the same vibe as Grimm and Once Upon A Time) the Huntsman ordered to take Snow White into the woods to be killed winds up becoming her protector and mentor in a quest to vanquish the Evil Queen.

The commemorative release Glee Season Three: The Graduation Album, releasing on May 15, captures the bitter sweetness of senior year with the cast’s triumphant versions of “We Are The Champions,” “Edge of Glory” and “I Won t Give Up.” Glee fans will get a sneak peek of 8 new songs recorded for the season finale, including “Glory Days,” Beyonce’s “I Was Here,” and Madonna’s “I’ll Remember.”

In honor of Mother’s Day, the big screen brings us What to Expect When You’re Expecting, starring Cameron Diaz, Jennifer Lopez, Elizabeth Banks and Brooklyn Decker. It’s a look at love through the eyes of five interconnected couples experiencing the thrills and surprises of having a baby, and ultimately coming to understand the universal truth that no matter what you plan for, life doesn’t always deliver what’s expected.

The time has come to say goodbye to ABC’s Desperate Housewives. The ladies take their final bow in a two-hour finale on May 13 at 9pm. Also this month look for the season finales of other ABC faves GCB on May 6, Private Practice on May 15, Grey’s Anatomy and Scandal on May 17, DWTS on May 21-22, and Modern Family and Revenge on May 23.

not to be missed: The Avengers starring Robert Downey Jr., Chris Evans, Scarlett Johansson and Jeremy Renner. Nick Fury of S.H.I.E.L.D. brings together a team of super humans to form The Avengers to help save the Earth from Loki and his army. In theaters now.

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in the news New Report Shows Hispanics More Likely Than Majority of Americans to Support the LGBT Community Countering popular assumptions that Hispanics are more anti-gay than other segments of society, a new report co-released in April by NCLR (National Council of La Raza) and Social Science Research Solutions (SSRS) finds that Latinos are, in fact, as open and tolerant, if not more tolerant, than the general population in the U.S. toward gays and lesbians. The report, LGBT Acceptance and Support: The Hispanic Perspective, offers an in-depth look at how Latinos view gays and lesbians within their own community and their level of support for LGBT issues.

The 125-page report, funded by the Arcus Foundation, notes that Hispanics are actually slightly more inclined to support legal same-sex marriage and to be more accepting of gays and lesbians in society than most Americans.

Also, Latinos are just as likely as any other group in the U.S. today to identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender.

“There is a clear misperception among the general population about where Latinos stand on LGBT issues, partly because the media pushes this narrative that the culture and values of Latinos and LGBT progress are simply incompatible,” said David Dutwin, Vice President of SSRS and author of the report. “Such misperceptions manifest in story after story about a particular Hispanic group opposing a gay rights bill, even though this anti-gay sentiment is not reflective of all Latinos. In reality, as society is evolving on LGBT issues and becoming more accepting of this community, so too are Hispanics.”

WHY don’t I have a mommy and a daddy?—a PANEL FOR LGBT PARENTS The issues that LGBT parents face in raising our children are myriad. Participate in a panel discussion focused on issues that are important to LGBT parents and their children, “Why don’t I have a Mommy & a Daddy.”

Co-hosted by Elizabeth F. Schwartz, PA, the panel will present relevant material to increase awareness, develop understandings, and think about issues and challenges in ways that support child and family well being. A large part of the time will be spent on Q & A where participants ask questions, share their experiences and hear from other parents as well. After, you are invited to stay for an event hosted by Shining Families at 4:30PM, which is a great opportunity to spend additional time with LGBT families.

“Why don’t I have a Mommy & a Daddy” will take place on Saturday, May 19th, 2PM-4PM at St. Stephen’s Episcopal Church, in the Great Hall • 2750 McFarlane Rd., Coconut Grove • This event is FREE and refreshments will be provided. Child care is available if you pre-register online at sobelaw.com/panelreg.html. A $5.00 parking fee will apply if parking at church/school lots.

president obama released lgbt progress list over three years “Together, we’ve fought for equal rights for LGBT Americans—and the repeal of ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell’ is just one example of the progress we’ve achieved since President Obama took office.”

2009 President Obama Takes Office JUNE 17 Ordered the federal government to extend key benefits to same–sex partners of federal employees JUNE 29 Hosted the first-ever White House LGBT Pride reception AUGUST 12 Awarded the highest civilian honor, the Medal of Freedom, to Billie Jean King and Harvey Milk OCTOBER 28 Signed the Matthew Shepard and James Byrd Jr. Hate Crimes Prevention Act into law OCTOBER 21 Created a National Resource Center for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Elders 2010 / JANUARY 1 Banned discrimination in federal workplaces based on gender identity JANUARY 4 Lifted the ban that prohibited people with HIV/AIDS from entering the United States MARCH 23 Enacted the Affordable Care Act, reforming health care in America by lowering costs, expanding choice, and improving health care quality APRIL 15 Ensured hospital visitation and medical decisionmaking rights for gay and lesbian patients JUNE 9 Allowed transgender Americans to receive true gender passports without surgery JUNE 22 Released America’s first comprehensive plan to prevent and end homelessness, which includes homeless LGBT youth JUNE 22 Clarified the Family and Medical Leave Act to ensure family leave for LGBT employees OCTOBER 1 Awarded a grant to the Los Angeles Gay and Lesbian Community Services Center to work with LGBT foster youth OCTOBER 21 Recorded “It Gets Better” video to support LGBT youth experiencing bullying DECEMBER 21 Led a United Nations measure to restore “sexual orientation” to the definition of human rights DECEMBER 22 Signed the repeal of D.A.D.T. 2011 / FEBRUARY 23 Declared the Defense of Marriage Act unconstitutional and announced the administration will no longer defend it in court MARCH 10 Hosted first-ever White House Conference on Bullying Prevention in America’s schools MARCH 31 Completed an Institute of Medicine study on LGBT health, the first of its kind MAY 27 Issued guidance to foster safer working environments for transgender federal employees JULY 19 Endorsed the Respect for Marriage Act, a legislative effort to repeal the Defense of Marriage Act read full list at www.shemag.com

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pridefest, beyond the rainbow celebrated its 35th anniversary at war memorial in

fort lauderdale, fl. photos by angie sowers / view more photos at www.shemag.com

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1- Maila & Lucas, Fort Lauderdale. 2- Moms Sky & Claudia with daughter Nikole Ann, Miami. 3- Moms Marta & Christina with Cathryn & Ethan, Miami. 4Moms Amy & Mariana with Ava, Miami. 5- Moms Renee & Lisa with Milla, Aden & Julian Liss, Chicago. 6- Nelsy & Eddy, Miami. 7- Moms Candy & Ashley with Brandon, Corrisa, David & Jesse, Wilton Manors. 8- Samantha with daughter Omari, Fort Lauderdale. 9- Yvonne with daughter Kristen & grandsons Ben & Jack, Fort Lauderdale. 10- Moms Vanessa & Melissa with Elizabeth, Tennessee. 11- Moms Joyce, Sandy with Josa, Ohio. 12- Moms Kimberly & Mary with son Parker, Tampa. 13- Moms Lisette & Wendy with daughter Lexi, Coral Springs • Happy Mother’s Day to all our beautiful moms and their families!

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by maria espinal

quickie with...

rose garcia The Real L Word Photo Adam Bouska www.NOH8campaign.com

As we get ready for the third season of TRLW, can we expect you back for the whole season?

Not the whole season. I am not a cast member. You may see me here and there depending on the editing. I filmed a lot with Romi since we have developed a very close friendship.

In season two, the “sex scenes” were introduced.

Are they back in the third season?

I’m assuming they will continue that trend. Romi and Whitney have always been open to that part of their lives being documented and I’m sure they picked some ladies that felt the same way about being open to cameras in the bedroom.

Why did you decide to not go there?

It was never expected or requested by production. I went with the flow to the point of my comfort level. I think Natalie and I did a very classy job of showing our attraction, love, and sexiness to the public. I don’t think (sex is) needed but if cast members are comfortable, then more power to them. It takes a lot of courage to do that.

Why do you think production chose to go with some of the same cast for two and three instead of maybe going to another city and follow new girls?

Whitney and Romi are on all seasons. I think after season one, they chose to go that route and explore deeper into their stories and know that all can and will be shown with no apprehensions. They are introducing the New York lesbian scene this coming season, but I think the show’s foundation has been and will continue to be around Whitney.

From checking your Facebook fan page, I guess Natalie is back in your life. What’s different this time around? You are my fave girl, but I would have kicked you to the curb a long time ago!

We’re not together. That’s the biggest difference (laughs). I’ve spent the last year and few months being very, very single and happy. We reconnected because of a mutual love and respect we have for one another, but things are moving so slow they are going backwards (laughs). We have so much fun together and have an amazing attraction, so there’s that!

Is there something about you that you’d like people to know that hasn’t come out yet?

This year was a rough one. I lost both of my grandmothers to cancer after long battles. As everyone has seen, my family is everything to me, so it’s been tough. It’s made my family even closer than ever.

With that said, it’s made me appreciate life so much more. I’m blessed to have had them and cherish what and who I have now.

Everyone should. Life is a precious gift.

What’s next for you?

Wow! I would’ve thought that after season two the demand would’ve died out, but it hasn’t. Glad I didn’t have to masturbate on camera to stay relevant (laughs). I’ll be doing some projects with Romi. We are working with “Wake Up Call Tees” to put out some signature tees. We’ll donate to various charities. I am also working on a project with Cori, Casey and Romi called the “You Are Never Alone Project.” We’ll do speaking engagements and reach out to college age kids focusing on LGBT issues/topics. I’m looking forward to this continuous ride.

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cover story BY denise warner

If you’re a late night talk show junkie and have flipped on the E! Network, chances are you’re familiar with Chelsea Handler’s newest gay, Fortune Feimster of “Chelsea Lately.” If you haven’t, grab the remote and be prepared to laugh because Fortune is funny!

You’re a total rock star lesbian comedian right now! How does it feel to be recognized everywhere you go? Is there pressure to have the right polo shirt on at all times?

That makes me sound way cooler than I am, especially the part about polo shirts. It’s definitely been pretty trippy getting recognized lately. Every now and then I’ll see somebody staring at me and I’m always certain it’s because my zipper is open. That’s because my zipper usually is indeed open.

You started off doing some stand up gigs, but also posting some pretty funny stuff on YouTube. Do you think

social networking is making it easier for new comedians to get work?

Absolutely. Social networking has been the best promotional tool any performer could have ever asked for. It gives you a way to connect with people from all over the world who might have never heard of you otherwise. The only time it doesn’t come in handy is when my mom sees something inappropriate I wrote and doesn’t find it funny. Oops!

What a relief to have a steady job doing something you’re good at and love.

Did you have a bunch of crappy jobs before you landed “Chelsea Lately”?

I was pretty lucky with jobs before working with Chelsea. I was an entertainment journalist for almost seven years with a really wonderful newspaper column called Beck/Smith.

They were so good to me and I got to go to all kinds of cool events like the Oscars and movie premieres. The best part about it was that I also got to pursue comedy at night.

We get to see you in some ridiculously funny skits on “After Lately” and “Chelsea Lately.” Have you ever turned down anything yet because it was too uncomfortable?

I haven’t had to turn anything down so far. I told them from the beginning that I had one rule: I would never show my stomach. Trust me, nobody needs to see that! Unfortunately, that hasn’t stopped them from putting me in ridiculously tight outfits.

You’ve worked with Jen Aniston, Reese Witherspoon, Dave Grohl and some other really big artists. What’s the dumbest thing you’ve ever said to a famous celebrity?

The first time I met Jen Aniston, I put my arm around her and accidentally grazed her butt. I swear on my life, it was an accident!

I then said to her, “I just touched your butt.”

She said, “That isn’t the first time that’s happened.” Then I said, “Well, I’m not going to lie.

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I’m not sorry about it.” I’m pretty sure it was the smoothest move she’s ever seen! Haha!

I’ve heard you’re single and that women rarely approach you. What is up with that? Do they at least send over drinks?

I’d like to know what’s up with that too! Ladies? I am single, though I do date if that makes sense. I just don’t have a plethora of women hitting on me. Not that there needs to be a plethora of women hitting on me. I just wanted to use the word plethora. I guess what it boils down to is I just don’t get asked on many dates. I don’t know if they’re too intimidated to come say hi or if I’m putting out a weird vibe, but hopefully that gets better as I get older. I guess I better go hit the gym!

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So much of my standup is me telling personal stories about my life that it would be way too weird to never address my sexuality.”

First Chelsea, then Heather McDonald, and now Sarah Colonna with the best selling books. Can we expect one from you any time soon? What kind of title would you go with?

I’d love to write a book someday. It’s certainly an idea that I’ve been entertaining. The problem is I don’t know what it’d be about. I’m too young to write an autobiography, too gay to give advice on how to snag a man, and too fat to tell people how to take care of their bodies.

Has being an out lesbian had any negative impact on your career?

I’ve been very lucky when it comes to being an out comedian. People have been nothing but supportive. So much of my standup is me telling personal stories about my life that it would be way too weird to never address my sexuality. There was no other option than to just be myself and hope that people would accept me. So far, so good.

How has your family reacted to your recent success?

My family has always been a really huge support system for me. They were a little weary

Does having access to Ross Matthews on a regular basis make you a better dresser or just plain happy all the time?

I love Ross. I just saw him give a speech at the Human Rights Campaign dinner in Los Angeles and he’s just so funny and such a likeable guy. I’m really glad that I’ve been able to get to know him through the show and it’s nice getting to go to gay events together. Unfortunately, his sense of style has not rubbed off on me, but there’s hope yet!

You have over 60,000 followers on Twitter (@fortunefunny)...how much of a job is it to keep them entertained and replied to?

You grew up in the south. What was it like for you when you first arrived in Los Angeles? Did you have any fishout-of-water experiences?

Moving to Los Angeles was a piece of cake because I had just lived in Spain for a year and that was one of the hardest adjustments I’ve ever had. At least in L.A., people spoke English (for the most part) and I could talk to my family on the phone (without it costing a bazillion dollars). My biggest mistake when I first moved here was thinking that everybody shopped at a store called Forever 21. Turns out 21 days are exactly how long the clothes last before they fall apart.

special bonds. I share an office with Heather McDonald, I talk about girls with Chris Franjola, and I think Josh Wolf and I share the same brain.

when I moved to LA just because they knew it was a hard place to live and a hard business to be in. My mom also wanted me to go to graduate school. That didn’t keep them from rooting me on, though. Now that I’m making a living doing what I love, they couldn’t be happier for me.

There is always such an element of “party time!” on the show. Is it really as much fun as it seems?

We definitely have our share of fun and Margarita Thursdays are a beloved tradition, but we all work really hard. None of us could have gotten as far as we have if we were drunk all the time. In fact, we work a lot harder than we play. We just like to laugh and enjoy ourselves while we do it.

Out of all the staff and co-workers on the show, which one are you most comfortable motorboating?

I would like to say that I motorboat Chelsea, but she actually motorboats me. That’s ‘cause she’s the boss! And I gots no problem with it!

As far as working with everybody else, there isn’t one person I enjoy most. We all have our

Sometimes it feels like a full-time job! Whenever I can’t think of a funny tweet, I feel like I’m going to get in trouble. With whom I’m not sure! The Twitter police? That would actually be awesome if that existed. You know, I never really did Twitter before I joined “Chelsea Lately,” but it’s a big part of the show. All the other writers are so good about tweeting people back. I can’t bring myself to be on there for hours at a time but I try to respond when I can. It’s nice to let people know how much you appreciate their support.

You manage your own Twitter and Facebook, still do stand-up, and are a regular on a hit TV show. When is it time for a personal assistant?

Look, I wish I could get a personal assistant immediately but I’m definitely nowhere near that yet. Maybe some day. Until then, people unfortunately have to wait to get a response for a few days. Maybe a week. Sometimes a month. Ok, who wants to be my assistant?

What’s the best part about being you at this moment in your life?

I’m just really happy. I’ve got great friends and a really supportive family. I’m (somewhat) healthy. I’m getting paid to do what I love. I’m getting to travel the world doing standup, and I get to make people laugh every day. It’s pretty stinkin’ cool! Now if I could just find a good man then I’d have it all!

for more info on fortune and upcoming appearances, visit: www.fortunefeimster.com

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indie chicks Discography: One Year Happy (2008), Your Last War (May, 2012) When & How Did You Start in the Music Business? I started doing open mics in Los Angeles. Pig & Whistle in Hollywood was my first. It was as dirty as it sounds. From there I met up with a local producer and made One Year Happy. Once I moved up to Canada, I did the same thing and got plugged into a really solid music base, which enabled me to make this next album with Daniel Ledwell.

Musical Influences: The Black Keys, Alanis Morissette, John Mayer, Burt Bacharach, The Carpenters, Gordie Sampson, The Bird & The Bee Favorite Cover to Perform: “You Don’t Know Me” by Cindy Walker and Eddy Arnold.

If You Could Record a Duet With Anyone, Who Would you choose?

Ria Mae. Honestly, my first choice is John Mayer, but I probably couldn’t breathe around him, so it’d pretty much ruin everything.

What Would You Say Makes a Good Song? Depth of lyrics and musical intricacies.

What Do You Like Most About Your Music? I really love how individual people interpret songs, and how different each interpretation can be.

If Not Music, What Do You Think You’d Be Doing As a Career? Art therapy, computer science, or bus driving.

Album You Are Most Embarrassed to Admit You Own But Secretly Enjoy: Shania Twain, Come On Over. I do flog myself after listening, though.

Why Did You Choose to Work Under an Independent Label Rather Than Mainstream Record Labels: Flexibility and being able to make critical musical decisions on my own.

If the Opportunity Presented Itself, Would You Sign With a Mainstream Record Label? I would consider it, for sure.

What Is In Your CD Player Right Now? Meshell Ndegeocello -Weather Upcoming Projects: “Your Last War” CD Release! Halifax May 12, 2012; Los Angeles June 2012. www.heathergreen.ca SHE - 28 - 05/12

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It’s that time of year—time to pack your swimsuits, sunglasses, and mouse ears and head to Orlando, Florida’s Disney World Gay Days™ for the 2012 Girls in Wonderland. Thursday, May 31st kicks off the magical weekend, and the fairy-dust doesn’t settle until Sunday, June 3th. Even Sleeping Beauty is sure to stay awake through all of this excitement.

Gay Days® weekend began twenty-one years ago, and has grown to become the largest gay and lesbian vacation event in America. Over 125,000 gays and lesbians flock from all over the world to attend this truly magical weekend of gay celebrations, shows, Disney theme park magic, celebrities, and more. Eleven years ago South Beach event producers, Pandora events created Girls In Wonderland and now thousands of ladies have their own parties host hotels and celebrities to play with.

Each year, the Pandora team—Alison Burgos, Yesi Oliver-Leon, and Amy Alonso—raises the bar on this heavenly extra-long fun in the sun weekend tradition. Besides securing spotlight evening entertainment featuring live performances by rockers Halcyon and showstopper, Baby Blue along with a rousing gyrating core of leggy dancers and some of the best Djs on the planet, notably Dj Lisa Pitman, Dj Pat Pat and Dj Zehno. Daily pool parties also whet the appetite. Numerous splash bashes include music, poolside cocktails, games and giveaways.

Bikinis by day, party clothes by night… the immediate goal is on pure satisfaction. But this feel good weekend is also a do good event. Pandora producer Yesi Oliver-Leon concurs, “We are pioneers in producing women’s events for charity. Good causes motivate us!”

Indeed, Girls in Wonderland pays homage and partial profits to the trailblazing NCLR, The National Council for Lesbian Rights. This dynamic group is committed to the rights and safety of lesbians and the greater LGBT community and their families through litigation, public policy and education.

The whole weekend radiates with a “Don’t worry, be happy” vibe. To assure that no guest feels uneasy about arriving on time, or getting lost, or drinking and driving, Pandora offers complimentary transportation to and from each nightly venue. Olivera-Leon is pleased to provide this assurance for guests, “Of course we want everyone to have an amazing time, but safety first!” The emphasis is clearly on fun, freedom, and relaxation for all participants.

Headquarters for Girls in Wonderland is the Courtyard Village in Lake Buena Vista. Guests take over two large hotels, The Courtyard Marriot and The Fairfield Inn. While both establishments boast a list of inviting amenities such as complimentary WIFI and guest parking, each one has its own personality. Like a wild child and her mellower sister, the Marriott has a rambunctious reputation and the Fairfield Inn is a bit more laid back. The fabulous pool parties are free to hotel guests, so don’t miss out in the fun.

With gay women flocking to Orlando, from all over the world, to join in the Girls in Wonderland festivities, it’s hard to believe that once upon a time, Orlando did not cater to the gay princesses of the world.

Oliver Leon recalls, “We noticed only men’s events here, so right then and there we started figuring out ways to fill the void.” The Pandora visionaries quickly resolved the issue, and soon enough, in this magical land, lesbian celebrations took root and started to grow.

Pandora’s mission to connect and strengthen the gay female community in the context of total enjoyment and relaxation is fully flourishing now. At Girls in Wonderland, the magical mood is so crazy and contagious, in fact, that it is rumored Cinderella has been wooed over to the lesbian lifestyle and that now, she is living more happily ever after than ever imagined!

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SCHEDULE OF EVENTS Thursday / May 31 Bud Light Happy Hour • 5pm - 7pm FREE for hotel guests Courtyard at the Marriot Village 8623 Vineland Avenue, Lake Buena Vista Seduction • 9pm - 2am Rix Lounge 1000 West Buena Vista Drive, Orlando, Florida 32830 $10/Advance - $12/Door We take over one of Orlando’s sexiest haunts for dancing, music and wild shows.

Friday / June 1 WET Pool Party • Noon – 5PM DJ Pat Pat & Zehno $10/Advance - $12/Door Courtyard at the Marriot Village Get ‘wet’ and enjoy the first pool party event of the weekend.

NCLR Welcome Cocktail Reception 5pm - 7pm • Courtyard at the Marriot Village FREE for hotel guests Climax • 9PM – 2AM DJ Pat Pat & DJ Marilyn Bongos at Downtown Disney 1498 E. Buena Vista Drive, Lake Buena Vista Two dance floors featuring dance, hip hop and Latin sounds. Don’t miss the salacious go-go girls and our infamous Wet T-shirt contest. $15/Advance - $20/Door Saturday / June 2 Splash Bash Pool Party • Noon – 5PM DJ Lisa Pittman & DJ Pat Pat Courtyard at the Marriot Village $12/Advance - $15/Door / FREE for Girls in Wonderland host hotel guests Laugh Out Loud with Dana Goldberg • 7pm – 9:30pm • House of Blues 1490 E. Buena Vista Dr. Lake Buena Vista $25 in advance / $30 at the door Shuttle service to and from host hotel.

Girls in Wonderland 11 • 9PM – 2AM DJ Lisa Pittman & DJ Pat Pat House of Blues Downtown Disney THE PARTY OF THE YEAR! Ladies get ready for a sexy night of dirty dancing with over 2,000 of your closes friends. $26 in advance / $31 at the door $68 VIP in advance / $75 VIP at the door

The Rabbit Hole • 2am – 5am DJ Zehno • Courtyard at the Marriot Village Ladies continue partying or wind down from a wild night of fun. $15/Advance - $20/Door (with House of Blues ticket stub) $25 / Door without Sunday / June 3 Wonderland Pool Bash • 12PM – 5PM DJ Pat Pat & DJ Lisa Pittman Courtyard at the Marriot Village Fierce beats by our DJ Pat Pat on the turntables, steamy bikini clad go-go girls, drinks specials and the infamous Bikini Contest. Browse our vendor fair pool side, win great prizes and giveaways all day including exciting gifts and memorabilia from (Sweet Cruises, Olivia Cruises, She Magazine, Damron and more) $12Advance - $15/Door / FREE for Girls in Wonderland host hotel guests.

Halcyon Live • 6pm - Midnight Kitty O’Sheas Irish Pub 8470 Palm Parkway, Orlando Karaoke contest, drink specials and delicious Irish pub fare will be available. $10/Advance - $15/Door www.girlsinwonderland.com SHE - 31 - 05/12

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See all photos online at www.shemag.com / by boi papi photography

My occupation: Account Executive.

Dream Job: Lawyer My pets: 3 dogs, 2 cats.

My mother thinks I: Am her best kid.

Turn-ons: Intelligence Turn-offs: Arrogance Sensitive Body Part: Back of my legs My Best Quality: Selflessness Secret Fetish: If I told you, it wouldn’t be a secret.

I have a weakness for: Tattooed girls.

I like to wear: My rosaries.

I first kissed a girl at the age of: 18 If you could have one super power, what would it be and why?: Heal pain, because pain is inevitable. However, to

take it away would be beautiful.

Your house is on fire, besides a loved one, what is the inanimate object you’d grab?: My purse, it has

everything in it.

What breakfast cereal best describes you?: Life If you could change your name, what would you pick?: I kinda like my name. Besides, Sexual Chocolate is way too

long.

The last book I read was: Being Me If my life were made into a movie, my part will be played by: Megan Fox My greatest accomplishment: Raising my daughter to

become the strong person she is today Celebrity’s butt I would most like to squeeze: It has to

be JLo’s.

The cartoon character I am most like: Smurfette The strangest place I’ve ever been naked: In my car in

my driveway.

The weirdest thing I ever ate was: Octopus My favorite quote: “Do unto others as you’d have them do

unto you.”

I just won a million dollars. The first thing I am going to buy is: A bigger pet store for my mother.

My favorite TV show: Drop Dead Diva.

French Fries, French Vanilla, French Toast or French Manicure?: Definitely a French manicure. Gotta keep my feet

pretty.

If I could have one wish granted, I would wish: To be

complete.

My coming out was: Very easy. I have a very supportive family.

If you were to become an activist in the LGBT community, which organization would you choose and why: Jasmyn, because our young gay and lesbian youth need to feel accepted and loved as they are going through the hard transition of teenager to adult while dealing with the hardship of being accepted as they are in society.

I think our community needs: More free education

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pets of the month

Choosing

The Right Pet For You

SUNNY / 1 YR OLD Breed: Cockatiel Lutino Turn ons: Being petted, flying, walking around my house and interacting with humans Turn offs: Loud noises and my brother I am Special Because: I am very free, I don’t live inside a cage, I am loving and adorable My favorite place to go to is: The living room & kitchen My Mom doesn’t know I: miss her when she is not around, because I love being around her In My Next Life, I want to be: An angel

HONEY/ 4 YRS OLD Breed: Cocker Spaniel Turn ons: Stuffed Animals, Food & Water Turn offs: Fire Pitts & Fire Works I am Special Because: I have been rescued & I am very happy now!

My favorite place to go to is: The lake I think my Vet is: Very cute My Mom doesn’t know I: Steal my brother’s and sister’s chew

bones.

In My Next Life, I want to Be: A swimming instructor

Choosing a pet can have a more lasting impact than almost any other acquisition. Studies show that pets acquired on impulse are more likely to be given up than pets that are carefully and thoughtfully chosen. Every person, family, and pet is unique. There is no one-size-fits-all kind of pet. But with a little forethought and planning, you can avoid common pitfalls and find the right pet.

1. Be Reasonable. Put old biases aside. Just because you grew up with a dog doesn’t mean you have time for one now.

2. Start With the Heart. Make a list of the types of pets that you really like.

3. Add Facts. Learn about prospective pets. Lifespan, size, space and time required, cost of supplies and vet bills and kind of care needed, are all things you need to know to narrow your choices.

4. Inventory Your Resources. Take a quick but realistic look at your resources and circumstances. How much time, money, energy and space do you really have?

5. Consider Special Issues. What pets are permitted where you live?

Who will care for the pet when you are working late or traveling? If you are a parent, think about your children’s ages, temperaments, interests and physical abilities in relation to a pet.

Ready to choose? By now, you should have a fairly clear sense of: the type of pet you like; what it will take to care for this pet; whether or not you have the resources to provide such care; whether other circumstances rule out or rule in this pet. There is a wide range of appealing pets to choose from, in addition to cats and dogs. For almost everyone, a good match is possible. Some quick facts: Cats: A good choice if you want a quiet, indoor pet. They like human company and attention, and can be quite affectionate. They need regular meals, grooming, a clean litter box, toys and a window.

Dogs: Great if you have lots of space and time for exercising and playing. Dogs are sociable and need a lot of interaction with people. They need training and grooming, as well as food and regular vet care.

Small Mammals: Ferrets, rabbits and the like, require nearly as much time and attention (and exercise outside the cage) as dogs. The need daily attention and most should not be inside their habitat fulltime. They need daily feeding and handling, and a thoroughly clean the pet habitat.

Birds: These can be charming, endearing companions. They are intelligent, sociable and often amusing. Unless you get two, birds require substantial human interaction, including time outside the cage, which can be messy. Like all pets, they need daily care.

Fish: Perfect if you are pressed for time. Setting up an aquarium can be time-consuming, but daily feeding takes only a moment, and weekly maintenance can be accomplished in less than an hour.

Exotic, Alternative or Non-traditional Pets: Reptiles and amphibians, are harder, and generally more expensive, to care for. It is difficult to find vets trained in these specialties, and reliable information about their care. The transmission of salmonella bacteria from reptiles to humans is also a serious health concern.

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Accessorizing you iStuff Since I got my iPad, I am all about getting accessories for my new toy.

The first one I love is the DIVOOM IFIT-2–speaker stand for smartphones and tablets made by Satechi, a leading mobile accessories manufacturer. The sleek and compact iFit-2 delivers high fidelity audio, it is very light and it is equipped with a rechargeable lithium-ion battery, delivering up to 7 hours of playtime. The slanted design of the speaker stand gives users optimal viewing angle for FaceTime, watching movies and controlling music.

FIND IT AT AMAZON.COM OR SATECHI.NET / $29.99

THE iCORNER Another great company with great products for all your iToys is Griffin Technology. You can find accessories compatible with iPads, iPhones, iPods, Smartphones, Kindle and other tablets at much lower prices than you would at the Apple Store and sometimes even amazon.com. One of my favorites is the POWERDOCK DUAL good for charging your iPad & iPhone at the same time while you have space for anything else you need handy. It is worth its $59.99 value.

Also by Griffin is the various cases for iPad & iPad2 available in leather and hard case such as the ELAN FOLIO SLIM, the SURVIVOR Extreme-duty case & the INTELLICASE. Check them out online at WWW.GRIFFINTECHNOLOGY.COM.

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CHILE LGBT “En Chile la comunidad LGBT es bastante grande, aunque siempre es complejo hablar de números. Como en el país no hay estadísticas al respecto, se hace difícil cuantificar”.

Interesantemente, la homosexualidad en la época precolombina (Imperio Inca) en Chile era prácticamente normal hasta que fue prohibida por la conquista Española en el 1541.

A partir de la década de 1920, la homosexualidad comenzó lentamente a ser aceptada.

Según Wikipedia, “En los círculos artísticos y literarios chilenos, radicados principalmente en Santiago, la homosexualidad era vivida libremente e incluso diversos homosexuales eran sumamente influyentes” sin embargo había aquellos reconocidos escritores que ocultaban su orientación sexual como fue el caso de la poetisa Gabriela Mistral.

Actualmente, y aunque sigue siendo un país conservador como casi todos los países de América Latina, Chile tiene una comunidad LGBT activa, si tomamos en cuenta otros países donde la visibilidad se da a cuentagotas.

La fundación del Movilh (Movimiento Chileno de Minorias Sexuales), creada entre 1990-1991 es la principal fuerza que busca los derechos de su comunidad. Recientemente hablamos con su vocero, Jaime Parada, sobre los logros obtenidos, la actualidad y el futuro de la misma.

A través de los años, ¿Cómo sientes que ha ido cambiando en Chile la aceptación de los ciudadanos en general para nuestra comunidad?

La aceptación de la comunidad ha sido muy lenta en Chile, incluso desde el ámbito del auto reconocimiento. Reconocerse homosexual en los 90, aún en el espacio privado, significaba ser tratado como delincuente, enfermo y hasta como pecador. Eran muy pocos los que hace dos décadas se atrevían a visibilizar su orientación sexual. Movilh como actor principal, pero también otras organizaciones, han desplegado estrategias de visibilización de la comunidad LGBT, con el propósito de realizar un cambio cultural potente, el cual está comenzando a instalarse en la ciudadanía. ¿Cuán grande y activa es la comunidad LGBT en Chile?

En Chile la comunidad LGBT es bastante grande, aunque siempre es complejo hablar de números. Como en el país no hay estadísticas al respecto, se hace difícil cuantificar.

Sin embargo, hay una cantidad importante de clubes desperdigados por todo el país donde se reúne la diversidad sexual. Los asistentes

a las marchas son cada vez más numerosos, lo que nos hace pensar que representamos más del 10% de la población nacional. ¿Cuáles son los logros más importantes que ha logrado movilh para la comunidad LGBT en Chile?

Los logros son muchos. Entre los más relevantes, están haber conseguido el fin de los allanamientos y hostigamientos policiales en bares y discotecas LGBT (1997); despenalización de las relaciones entre personas adultas del mismo sexo (1999); fin de las restricciones que impedían a las minorías sexuales donar sangre en bancos públicos (2003); aprobación de ordenanzas municipales contra la discriminación en varias ciudades (20092010), entre muchos otros. ¿Cómo calificarías o posesionarias el activismo en Chile dentro de los demás países de América Latina?

Cada país tiene su propia realidad en este sentido, la que depende de factores como el tamaño de la población, la idiosincrasia, el rol y peso que tengan las organizaciones sociales, etc. Hay países como Perú, por ejemplo, que están haciendo inmensos esfuerzos por

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abrirse un espacio. Brasil y Argentina, en cambio, por ser sociedades más pobladas e idiosincráticamente más abiertas o cosmopolitas, tienen grupos muy potentes que han conseguido grandes logros. El caso de Argentina es el más paradigmático, con la aprobación del matrimonio de parejas del mismo sexo el año 2010. En el caso del activismo que se realiza en Chile desde la década del ‘90–hablo particularmente del Movilh—tiene como particularidades su pro actividad en el sentido de ser capaces de poner en la agenda social y política los temas de la comunidad LGBT. El mes pasado mes de Abril iniciaron la campaña para que las parejas del mismo sexo sean reconocidas por primera vez en el Censo de este año, que corre de Abril a Junio. ¿Cuánto esfuerzo llevó esto?

Movilh viene luchando por añadir la pregunta desde el último censo (2002). Si bien ésta no apunta a cuantificar la población gay –nuestra intención original—ayudará a saber cuántas parejas del mismo sexo conviven en Chile. Esto es un primer paso para lograr políticas públicas hacia la diversidad sexual.

Lanzamos la campaña “Reconoce a tu media naranja”, con el objetivo de que los datos que entregue el censo sean lo más reales posibles. Los resultados definitivos se estima estarán disponibles en Abril de 2013, aunque en Septiembre ya podrían haber resultados. se reunieron recientemente con el embajador de Estados Unidos en Chile. ¿Cuál fue el resultado?

Nos reunimos con el embajador de Estados Unidos, Alejandro D. Wolff, para entregarle antecedentes sobre la violación de derechos humanos que en Chile viven día a día los miembros de la comunidad LGBT. Tal información será usada para para el informe mundial de derechos humanos que prepara anualmente la Oficina para la Democracia, Derechos Hu-

manos y Trabajo del Departamento de Estado de los EEUU. El embajador demostró especial interés por lo sucedido con Daniel Zamudio, que asesinado brutalmente por su orientación homosexual.

Hablando de la desagradable y brutal muerte de Daniel recientemente, ¿qué otros pasos va a tomar MOVILH en cuanto a la discriminación?

Nosotros venimos luchando por la no discriminación desde 1991. Sin embargo, el triste caso de Daniel–con el cual estamos involucrados desde el primer día—aceleró algunos procesos, por ejemplo, la tramitación de la Ley Antidiscriminación. Desde que el gobierno le pusiera urgencia a la misma, a mediados de Marzo, hemos realizado una labor muy activa para que esta ley sea de la mejor calidad posible. Seguimos, además, impulsando ordenanzas antidiscriminación en distintas comunas del país, y repartiendo nuestro manual “Educando en la diversidad”, el cual ya está siendo usado en 500 colegios de todo el país.

A nivel de gobierno, ¿cuánto apoyo recibe la comunidad para lograr nuevas leyes contra discriminación y derechos?

Los gobiernos han actuado muy erráticamente desde que se recobró la democracia en 1990. Por ejemplo, esperábamos mucho de la coalición de centro izquierda que gobernó durante 20 años. Sin embargo, hizo muy poco por la causa gay. Hoy gobierna Chile un Presidente de derecha. Él prometió en su campaña un Acuerdo de Vida en Pareja (especie de pacto de unión civil para heteros y homosexuales), el cual no sabemos si será aprobado antes de que finalice su mandato.

Asimismo, está por aprobarse la Ley Antidiscriminación, legislación que fue postergada por 7 años. Con esto quiero decirte que ser de izquierda o derecha no es garantía de apoyo o rechazo a nuestra causa. www.movilh.cl / @movilh

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Surrogacy

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It is estimated that there are 7.3 million women in this country, ranging from the ages of 15 to 44, who are unable to conceive due to different infertility complications. Infertility does not discriminate. It impacts everyone, regardless of skin color or sexual orientation.

For a long time, the only solution for infertile people was to either adopt or remain childless. Despite advancements in IVF (In-Vitro Fertilization), artificial insemination, and other Advanced Reproductive Technologies (ART), being able to carry a child to full term can be the biggest challenge in having a family. Surrogacy may be necessary to complete the dream of having a family if a woman has never had or no longer has a uterus or if she has medical complications that prohibit her from pregnancy. Single gay men or male couples also use surrogates.

There are two different types of surrogacy: Traditional and Gestational. In a traditional surrogacy arrangement, the surrogate mother is also the biological mother. Fertilization occurs through artificial insemination, whether it is from a sperm donor or the intended father.

The process for gestational surrogacy uses In Vitro Fertilization/Embryo Transfer (IVF/ET), also known as ‘test-tube babies,’ to impregnate the surrogate. With IVF/ET, the embryo is fertilized using the intended mother’s or donor’s eggs, and the intended father’s or donor’s sperm.

The fertilized egg(s) are then transferred into the uterus of the surrogate. With gestational surrogacy, the surrogate mother has no biological relation to the baby.

What does it take to become a gestational surrogate mother? First, attitude is everything. It’s imperative that a potential surrogate mother understands that the baby is not her child. Intended parents can invest upwards of $100,000 for the entire process of In-Vitro Fertilization in order to have a child, and the surrogate mother needs to understand that the decisions made in regards to the unborn child are that of the parent(s), not the surrogate mother.

The next major factor for becoming a surrogate mother is the overall general health of the potential surrogate. Fertility specialists must

“Infertility does not discriminate. It impacts everyone, regardless of skin color or sexual orientation.” evaluate a potential surrogate mother to determine if she is healthy enough to have a safe pregnancy and delivery. As with any medical procedure, there are risks involved. It’s important that the potential surrogate be thoroughly screened for any potential challenges that could occur from pregnancy. Having had a successful healthy pregnancy and delivery of a child prior to surrogacy can provide a better indication of the risks and likelihood of successfully carrying a baby to term.

When being a surrogate, all expenses related to the prenatal care and delivery of the baby are the responsibility of the intended parents.

Additional compensation and dispersment of funds are outlined in legal contracts between the surrogate mother and the intended parent(s). It is important that both parties each have their own attorney who specializes in reproductive law to ensure the contracts are fair and executed appropriately.

Becoming a surrogate mother is one of the most selfless, precious gifts anyone can give. For the parent(s), a surrogate mother is the means by which their dreams of having a family can come true. There are many agencies that are available to connect parent(s) with surrogate mothers and help facilitate the steps involved with the process.

If you’re thinking about becoming a surrogate mother or know someone who might want to become one, do your research and find the right agency that fits best with you. Check out the American Society for Reproductive Medicine (www.asrm.org) and The National Infertility Association (www.resolve.org) for more resources.

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on the shelves Are You My Mother?: A Comic Drama by Alison Bechdel: Best known for the decadeslong Dykes to Watch Out For and the award-winning runaway hit Fun Home, Alison Bechdel brings her scathing analysis, intense focus and tender humor to her complex relationship with her brilliant mother. Fun Home went to the heart of Bechdel’s bond with her bisexual and troubled father and Are You My Mother? is a remarkable second graphic memoir: an intricate, heartbreaking tale of a narcissistic mother and the daughter who yearns to solve her mysteries.

Are You My Mother? reads like a pop culture novel penned by Germaine Greer. The result is a stunning and hilarious epic.

Gay Lives by Robert Aldrich: This gorgeous collection looks at the lives of famous gays and lesbians, spanning over four thousand years of queer heroes and heroines. From two unknown ancient Egyptian lovers to world-famous individuals such as Michelangelo and Harvey Milk, Gay Lives is an impressive survey of the richness of gay lives. Also profiled are WWII lovers who were the subject of the award-winning film Aimee and Jaguar, author Radclyffe Hall who wrote the lesbian classic The Well of Loneliness, and Del Martin, co-founder of the 1950s lesbian magazine The Ladder.

Untied by Meredith Baxter: Baxter’s memoir Untied gives readers an intimate look at her struggles with childhood neglect, years of alcoholism, and her abusive marriage to David Birney. Baxter is best known for her starring role as hippie mom Alyce Keaton, mom to Michael J. Fox’s Alex P. Keaton on TV’s Family Ties. After years of playing America’s favorite mom, it was time for Baxter to get clean and come out. Baxter’s late-in-life coming out story is inspiring, honest, and triumphant. Baxter’s raw courage and intensity lifts Untied above the standard celeb tell-all fare.

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scopes AQUARIUS JAN 21 - FEB 19

leo July 23 - aug 22

You’ll have a greater chance of achieving goals and enjoying life if you slow down and focus your energies on building solid foundations. Now is the time to implement your ideas, but it’s not the right time to argue about them. Instead, just do it. Don’t be surprised if new opportunities appear out of the clear blue sky.

You have lots of opportunities to create a better future for yourself, so be sure to accept any and all networking invitations. Show off your expertise, but don’t be pushy. Use your charm to attract. You’ll make many new friends, catch up with lots of old friends, and generally have a really good time. However, you’ll have to balance your responsibilities with your social life.

pisces feb 20 - mar 20 There will be plenty of opportunities to reconnect within your sphere of influence. Why not mix business with pleasure and organize your own networking event? Let your gut guide you when deciding on projects, but allow your practical side to create successful strategies for achieving your goals. Be realistic about your current cash flow and ask for help from friends and family to save money.

virgo aug 23 - sept 23

aries mar 21 - apr 20

libra sept 24 - oct 23

You’ll need to focus on your finances. Keep your eye on the bottom line and make necessary purchases, but don’t spend more than you make. Meet challenges cheerfully and do your best to avoid confrontations, especially about money. Don’t fly off the handle. Choose to make love, not war. Put off major decisions and discussions till next month.

You’re ready to review and release the past.and stop negative habits and patterns. Finances, especially those involving others, need to be carefully reviewed, understood and realistically budgeted. Relationships also are featured. Don’t be surprised when ‘blasts from the past’ resurface, wanting resolution, and/or resumption. Forewarned is forearmed, so be prepared with the right answer. Be true to who you are now.

taurus apr 21 - may 21

scorpio oct 24 - nov 22

Your focus is on how to improve your image, market your skills and fulfill all of your personal desires. You can assure your own success by practicing will power.

Even when others are uncooperative, you don’t have to be. You won’t impress anyone with a temper-tantrum. You’ll need to be flexible and you’ll definitely need to be logical when making necessary revisions and adjustments.

You need to pay attention to improving your relationship with yourself and others. Communication is key to achieving your goals. Do whatever you have to in order to compromise and cooperate your way back to a positive state of mind. You have the unique opportunity to achieve your heart’s desires, but only if you don’t allow yourself to fall into ‘back-up’ behavior.

gemini may 22 - june 21

sagittarius nov 23 - dec 21

You’re fighting battles within yourself as you try to balance what both twins want and need with what the significant others in your life wants. Examine your past issues with an eye to correcting misunderstandings. Remember that communication is the key to keep conflicts from morphing into huge battles. Be diplomatic and be prepared to negotiate a fair solution. Be optimistic about your future.

You’re ‘celestially supported’ to accomplish practically anything you put your considerable mind and talent to. Now’s the time to take your shot. Be confident when you present your ideas and be ready to get up and go when opportunity knocks. Remember that all creative playtime needs to be balanced with your responsibilities. Don’t be surprised at the financial rewards your efforts bring to you.

cancer June 22 - july 22

capricorn dec 22 - jan 20

Take every opportunity to turn social invitations into business opportunities. Combine your practical experience with your creative ideas to enhance your business income. Don’t be afraid for ask for what you want. Be open to the ideas of influential new friends, and feel free to express your own. Defend your position, but don’t get defensive. Accept positive changes to the plan.

The Universe is giving you permission to stop being so serious. Go out and have some fun! You can handle your business with a smile. You’ll be able to make whatever changes and adjustments that are necessary. You’ve got a case of wanderlust, which you should definitely fulfill, whether you explore locally with family and friends, or travel to distant shores, enjoy having romantic-comedy-adventures.

You’ve got to stay positive even as the planets conspire to make you argumentative. Stay focused on your hopes, even as you admit your strategies. Be realistic about your resources and concentrate on managing your current cash flow. Avoid power struggles, use your charm to convince, rather than your anger to bully, and create win-win compromises.

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