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Vol 2, Iss 4 ,2017
Editorial
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Love Quotes
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The thought of you makes my heart warm. Your jokes make me giggle in the dark. You bring out the best in me.
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Though tomorrow may come with tides and huddles, I am at peace because with you in my life, I will surly dance through the storm.
I have known you for years but each time I see you walk through the door, I still feel those butterflies like a teenager in love.
How time flies! It still feels like yesterday. You keep the girl in me always excited.
SHINE Magazine
Editorial It’s Valentine’s Day! What are you celebrating? The love or the excitement? What is your fascination-your partner or the gifts? What kind of lover are you? What kind of relationship are you in? What can your boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse say about you? Bottom line is , a great celebration of love is one that is continuous. Not because of any gift or attraction, but because of what your heart has to offer your significant other. So, are you the kind of lover who only thinks about the bed and the wallet? Or are you the kind of person people rush home to after work? Who are you? Are you the kind of person that lightens up people’s mood after a crazy day? Or are you the one that is always plotting against others? Are you the kind of person who exploits the weaknesses of others? Are you the kind of person who schemes their way into people’s hearts at their expense? Just what kind of person are you? What do you celebrate? What would the day after Valentine’s... be like for your relationship? Would it be ‘thank you for the gift but I’m sorry’ we can’t be together? Or would it be let’s give this a chance and forget the hurt? Would it be the beginning of wedding plans or would it be the end of the relationship? Would it be the time to say sorry because you want to make things work or because you want to move on? If Valentine’s day is an expression of love, the days following would be even sweeter and better but that is up to you to decide. Happy Valentine’s Day... Publisher
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Watch!
Dealing with Addiction Addiction is the inability to let go of any bad habit that is detrimental to self or the community. Some people blame addiction on previous problems such as sexual abuse, peer pressure, etc. Dealing with an addiction is all about the struggle to quit. Quitting an addiction is not easy but with the right determination you can do it.
Drawing from a former drug addict, below are some points to note when struggling with addiction.
6 ways to overcome addiction Understand the cause and address it: To successfully quit an addiction, it is important to take some time for self evaluation, and find out the cause of the problem. For example, do you find yourself jumping for a cigarette when you are sad, angry, scared? Do you take a hard drug/alcohol when you are about facing a crowd? Do you feel less attractive and use a substance to overcome your low self esteem/ confidence? Such questions can give you a lead way and help you in your efforts to quit. Failure to understand the reasons for the addiction will only result to unsuccessful attempts.
Don’t settle for an alternative. In some situations, when the person suffering from the addiction is unable to identify the cause of the problem, he/she may be tempted to settle for an alternative which they often refer to as a “lesser evil”. For example using cigarette to substitute for alcohol. This will only increase the areas of addiction.. By Karl ( MD. USA)
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Talk about your addictions. As embarrassing as this may sound, it is a quick way for quitting. Telling those you trust about your intentions to quit will create a good support system for you.
Do it for you!- Don’t quit an addiction in order to please someone. This is because you might find yourself going back to it when these persons don’t meet up to your expectation. For example, quitting a habit because of a relationship would mean a worse situation if the relationship doesn’t work out. So you must do it for you and no one else.
Practice Self discipline. Try to avoid self destructive company as well as loneliness. When in a bad company, peer pressure may be too strong for you to overcome. In the same way being alone can be equally tempting to try out things.
Increase your engagements: Find something you are great at and channel that negative energy into. An addiction comes with a strong urge and cravings. Channeling that energy into something productive each time the urge comes in can go a long way. For example, someone who wants to quit smoking or substance abuse etc, can try writing, painting, drawing, boxing etc each time they feel the urge to use the drug. Such activities should be engaging enough to redirect the focus of your thoughts, or concentration. Drug and substance abuse
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Me Myself and I
Home Remedy for Hair Loss Sometimes it is good to look at the reason for the problem before engaging in treatment. Hair loss is commonly associated with aging but it could also come as result of poor blood circulation, depression, anxiety among others. Thus keeping a balance in these areas as well as your minerals and vitamin levels can help a lot more. However, a quick home remedy for hair loss would be the use of egg and honey. Egg: Egg is rich in sulphur and has phosphorous, selenium, iodine, zinc and protein all of which are stimulants for hair growth. Steps:  Take the white of one egg and mix in a teaspoon of honey.  Beat to give a paste-like consistency and apply to the entire scalp and hair.  Keep it on for about 15 to 20 minutes and then rinse with cool water and a mild shampoo
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Getting Rid of Dandruff Avoiding hair loss also entails getting rid of hair discomforts like dandruff. Given that some dandruff could be a result of fungi, it is always good to seek medical attention when home remedies don’t bring relief. In order to get rid of dandruff, you can make use of the vinegar in your kitchen, using the steps below.
White Vinegar White vinegar is one of the best home treatments for dandruff. Vinegar has acetic acid that prevents growth of fungi on your scalp and relieves itching. Add one-half cup of vinegar to two cups of water. Rinse your hair with this mixture after shampooing your hair. Another option is massage your scalp with a mixture of two parts white vinegar, one part olive oil and three parts water. After 10 minutes, rinse it off and shampoo your hair using a mild shampoo. By Nancy. USA.
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Man in D Mirror
Visualize your dreams to reality Imagine the origin of everything around you- the cars, planes, infrastructure to name a few. Ask yourself this question- what were their inventors thinking? Looking at the potential of the people around and the complexity of their desires, it’s therefore clear that a mere wish wouldn’t suffice in getting one to where they want to be. Wishes are cheap, anyone can make them. The hassle lies in their accomplishment. The big question remains; how to get from dreaming to actualizing? And the answer lies in the power house of the MIND (ones thoughts, believes, opinions, concerns, fears etc). Without the right mental attitude, ones efforts cannot be effectively directed towards success. There is a process to every accomplishment; to grow muscles, you exercises. To harvest crops, you plant. To accomplish great things, you must visualize them. It is said “what we think about, we bring about”. Our thoughts become words, our words become action and our actions determine our outcomes. Today’s experiences were determined by yesterdays thought process. And tomorrows depend on how you thinks and act today. That’s why visualization is very important as one strives towards success because one cannot create what they cannot first imagine. Nothing good is born of spontaneity only chaos. Creativity on the other hand is intentional and must be consciously and/or subconsciously initiated. Success is not an accident. To achieve success in your endeavours requires supplying your mind with the right content in the form of clear desires. To create a lasting mental impression, visualization must be a constant periodic supply of the right virtual image of your desires in order to spur the mind into action and to keep it constantly engaged.
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Clarity and consistency engrossed with the conviction that ones goals are feasible and subsequently attainable maintains the mental energy required for creativity. Your dreams are only as real as you think of them. The mind cannot distinguish physical experience with virtual reality if both are of equal intensity. If you tell a lie long enough you might soon start to believe your own lie. So visualize your goals exactly as you want to see them when they are fully realized, think of the sounds and colours, visualize your emotional state when everything finally happens and let the beauty of such thoughts feel your mind. Every strong feeling is associated with an emotional response. We fight with emotion, we laugh with emotion. If used rightly, emotions can lead people to their goals. We run fastest when we are scared, we scream loudest in pain and we love most when happy. Every action is connected to an emotional state of equal magnitude; resting calmly, jumping excitedly, clapping cheerfully. So determine the emotional state most related to your goals and attempt to mentally recreate that experience. It helps if one can remember the last time they felt a particular emotion and recall that experience to memory. Emotionally elevate your desires and your creative energy will assemble the elements that are necessary for the physical manifestation of that mental experience. Don’t give much thought to the things you don’t want, else you might create your nightmares instead of your desires. … continue reading
Kizito Njah (Singapore)
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Climbing the Ladder
Ngwi’s Fruit Artistry There is a difference between a job and a career and there is a difference between a skill and a talent. SHINE magazine’s inspirational choice for this edition is Ngwini Azenwi, a Cameroonian from the North West Region. Wedding décors are gradually moving towards the garden theme with creative minds like hers. The CEO of Ngwi’s Fruit Artisry makes fruits glow and look like a piece of art. This is an example of someone who has moved her dreams from thought to a reality through the right thinking and the right attitude towards achieving these dreams.
Contact SHINE magazine if you know anyone doing something unique.
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Dr. Zee Writes Back
How to Fix a Broken Relationship Relationships can be complicated and the unseriousness can put us in a fix. Sometimes, you find yourself in a relationship that was all sweet and horny but after several episodes of life, things turned sour and though you just can’t handle it; you won’t leave it either. A lot of broken relationships can be fixed especially when the one hurting is still available. Here are some tips on the “how to”. Let go of the hurt and accept apologies: Letting go of the hurt is a two way traffic. It takes two to tangle and so in every problem there is a protagonist and the antagonist. In order words, there is the trouble and the cause. Thus forgiving and also asking for forgiveness is a major step to fixing the broken relationship. You can do this by talking about the hurt. Don’t avoid the topic with the person who hurt you. Sit him/her down and open the chapter. Don’t shut up even if he/she is defensive. Tell them exactly how you feel. Just vent it out but remember opening such pages can also bring in tons of unpleasant emotions. So be aware of it, and feel free to cry, shout, scream as the feeling arise. It’s a good way of easing the pain and letting go. Don’t accumulate anger and frustrations. When you let go, you must kick out the habit of accumulating anger. It is common human tendency especially with women to accumulate anger. For example, someone annoys you and instead of telling them how you feel, you frown at them and store it. Sometimes thinking you are making peace reign which is not true because if you decide not to talk on it then you should truly forget it.
So strike the nail when it is hot and when you do, let go. Don’t talk today about what happened yesterday. So let the anger of today be confronted today and also be ready to accept apologies when they are given. Page 15
Build some trust. When a relationship has gone sour, we turn to sleep with one eye open. However, don’t be too critical and judgmental because sometimes people are only trying to appease you. But you can’t look pass their past and so you judge their every move. It is important to give people benefit of doubt especially when rebuilding trust. It is true to say look before you leap but sometimes you’ve got to chance and enjoy the moment. Being overly critical and judgmental will only cause others to vent out on you and make matters worse. Challenge yourself to a hug/warm greeting/or a kiss depending on which one existed before the storm. This can reignite lost emotions and bring in some warmth the relationship needs to be good again. Hugging/ kissing a loved one goes beyond the pleasure. It makes both parties feel at home and the comfort of home is the craving of every human being. In other words, just challenge yourself to doing the things you did beforethe love notes, the kiss, the hugs, the walk, the date night etc Empower your spiritual lives: This has to do with understanding God’s purpose for your life. With an empowered spirit you will rebuild your mind in the path of positivism and also learn to be appreciative of the things you take for granted. You will be able to see your weaknesses and when this happens, u will consciously or unconsciously start making efforts to love and not only concentrate of being loved. Most times in relationships we tend to be selfish, and think of only what we go through and endure in the relationship.
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Kitchen Talk
Home made Blood Cleanse Recipes Blood cleanse facilitates transfer of oxygen and other important nutrients to all body parts for proper functions. This blood-cleansing juice recipe will help cleanse your blood and leave you feeling fantastic! So what are you waiting for? Get juicing!
Ingredients 6 carrots 2 apples 2 lemons a thumb of ginger half a bunch of parsley
Instructions Squeeze the lemons and grate the ginger and then combine them with the remaining ingredients in a juicer. Juice well and consume the drink immediately.
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Ingredients: – – – – – – –
3 medium beets 4 celery stalks 1 bunch dandelion greens 2 medium sized carrots 3 apples 1 cucumber 2 lemons, peeled – 2 inches ginger root Method: Run all ingredients through a juicer such as the Omega,
Curtsey of http://livelovefruit.com
Bon appétit
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Women’s Corner
How to make him fall in love on the first date Do you sometimes wonder why some women always seem to have the great guys around? It is because they know how to keep their men’s imagination on the wild without revealing too much. If you want to be in that confident league, below is how to make a man fall in love with you from the very first date. Body Language: Let your body language express confidence, security and self esteem Avoid too much talking especially when on the first date. Let your eyes keep him gazing and let your body keep him wondering. This is not about dressing too sexy and revealing. Men like sexy women but they like that sexiness to be kept for their personal entertainment, and not shown to the public. . Smile: A warm smile speaks louder than words. It makes a man feel welcome and puts him at ease with you. Men hate pretence and as such enjoy the company of those with whom they can be themselves. A good smile tells him you are comfortable he’s around and he too gets to feel same. Speak constructively: Being productive in your conversations is very attractive and challenging to men. Men love women that challenge their intelligence in a teasing manner. In other words, doesn’t sound like you know too much. Rather make your conversations sound like you have an opinion but won’t mind to hear his point of view.
Irene, Cameroon
Avoid too many questions. In as much as questions are good because they give you an insight of others, some women are too interrogative. No man wants an FBI for a girlfriend/woman. If you need answers to something, don’t sound too obvious. Make him reveal the things you want to know by asking general questions. Take it easy with the questions; you will get to know more about him with time.
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Humour: Don’t be too serious on a date. A good sense of humour is an attraction to every man. This is because nature makes men too serious, busy with one calculation or the other. A woman with a good sense of humour is like the solution to a stressful day. However, don’t overdo it because it would be taken for clown. Appearance. You need to look good and kempt. Wear good clothes (not necessarily expensive) but fitting and stylish. Avoid very revealing clothes because you only drive their minds to one thing (sex). But if you want a man to fall in love with you, you need to keep his imagination running wild, thinking what is beneath the smile, the dress etc. Don’t be too obvious unless you just want a one night stand. Don’t be too demanding: In as much as men like to feel important and needed, they hate to feel exploited. As such avoid being overly demanding. Don’t make him pay for everything you do, eat and wear. Having some financial independence means you are not a burden. Don’t be too available. Some women are fun to be with within the first two weeks of a relationship after which they act crazy. Take it easy on the calls, text messages, visits etc. so not to be seen as clingy and expect the man to do same. Men naturally enjoy what they earn better than what is available. That which seems to be always available is o ten taken for granted.
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Ms. P’s Diary Letter to my Valentine My Sweet Love, When I look back at the yesteryears, I can’t help but smile because the feelings are still the same. I can’t believe how far we’ve come. The road has not been all straight but it has not been crocket either. I remember the fights and how I blamed you for every difficulty we faced. I remember how annoying I sounded, playing the little miss perfect and painting you black. I remember how frustrated you were trying to please me but all I could see were your faults. Now I see how selfless you have been and how much you love me. I think of your sweet words and they make me blush because they were so sincere. You understand me like no other and rock my world like I was the only reason for your existence. The woman in me is so proud of the man in you; and the girl in me is still so excited by the boy in you. Every time I see you, my heart blossoms. You make me feel so special. It’s Valentine’s day and I can’t help but reminisce. You are My Sweet Love!!! I love you so much Sweet. Cheers!!!
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D’s Month
The Bombing of Dresden, 1945 Though Valentine’s Day may be a day for beautiful memories filed with love quotes, romantic escapades and even engagement rings, in Germany, it is a day with sad historic tales as people remember the lives of thousands that were lost in a bombing attack. In the final months of World War II, British and American bombers unleashed a devastating aerial attack on the historic capital of the eastern German state of Saxony. The firestorm that ignited from the first round of highexplosive bombs and incendiary devices that were dropped just minutes after midnight was so intense that bomber pilots in the second wave could see the glow from 500 miles away. The massive two-day air raid decimated 90 percent of the city center, destroyed cultural treasures and killed between 35,000 and 135,000,. This is but a wideranging estimate because it was unknown how many refugees were in the city at the time. The bombing was controversial because Dresden was neither important to German wartime production nor a major industrial center. Curtsy of
http://www.history.com
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Guy’s Chat Pleasing the Girl in your woman Hello fellows, has the girl in your woman retired, expired, or on break? Just as there’s a boy in every man, regardless of how mature we’ve evolved., there is equally a girl in every woman yearning for attention. The word girl, has a connotation of ingenuity, youthfulness and excitement; words which when combined with affection creates an explosive pleasurable relationship.
The “girl” in a woman is excited about her beauty, she brags of breasts that are overcoming gravity (if you know what I mean). Daily, she spends hours taking pictures of her beautiful face, or trying on different outfits that show perhaps her coke-bottle figure.
How has your relationship evolved, and has this change been influenced by how you please your woman? For some, relationships have been a series of troughs and peaks, while a stable peak in others points to some “secret”. Not quite a hidden truth per se, but common things, which if emphasized and maintained, creates a firm foundation in a relationship.
Fellows, is it a coincidence that when there was excitement in your relationship, I mean when your woman was so girlish, you were the best at cuddling, dating her, and at courtesy to women? And as this peak began to dwindle, you were also in need of reminders to cuddle, or date your woman?
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Just as every treasure in life is bound to evolve, so is beauty and relationships. However the case, has your erotic excitement for your woman dwindled as she ages? Gentlemen, could you make your woman to see the stretch marks as a trophy and not a low score in a beauty contest? Doesn’t she play with your beer-belly, or rubs her hand on your receding hair line (balding head)? Therefore, for fairness sake, boys!, we too are changing. Keep the machismo thing on the side and be real! Go date, cuddle, and honor your woman, and see the pleased girl in her come out of retirement, expiration or from break; its no secret!
Tell her she looks good even with the extra weight. Don’t forget she was your miss sexy before letting it go to build the family. If you look past her appearance you will see that she is still the same sweet girl and loving woman of yesterday.
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Famous
Teckno Miles When your song makes you the lady’s man, you rock the billboards. This Nigeriean artist Augustine Miles Kelechi AKA Tekno can pass for a love doctor in this generation . Irrespective of the location, the sensation of his music is same. Women go crazy when they hear his songs. It would appear he gives his fans the opportunity to contribute in his music. His recent question on Instagram drove his fans wild; asking them the female name they would want in his next song. In response to that, we wonder about female names likes of Carole, Linda etc we have heard a lot of Curtsey of http://www.nsukaland.com
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L’ambiance
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Reniss
Reniss is having the moment of her life with her sngle “La Sauce” making waves in Cameroon. Undoubtedly young and beautiful she has successfully walked her way into the hearts of many Cameroonians especially after the CAN2017. For people who didn’t know her hit single “La Sauce”, the2017, African Cup of Nations made it reign from “Senegal dans La Sauce to L’Egypt dans la Sauce”. To our non French speakers, La Sauce simply means “ the soup”. There is some gist claiming this diva is among the few Cameroonian artist who earn 6 figures per show. Now don’t get it twisted! We are talking about CFA not dollars. For the fans, does it really matter the currency? “All na say na six figures right.” Thumps up gurl...
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Opportunities Jobs and Grants Social Enterprise World Forum, 2017 Location: New Zealand , When: 27-29 September . Registration Deadline: April 17. International Youth Leadership Conference, 2017 When: March18-23rd Location: Dubai 6th International Youth Conference on Energy 2017. Location: Budabest, Hungary Deadline– 5th May 2017 IWMF Howard G. Buffet Fund for Women Journalist. Eligibility: Women around the world. Deadline: March 7, 2017.Yale Young African Scholars 2017 UN Volunteers, 2017 Position: Grant Proposal Writer. Location: Zambia Eco Bank Fintech Challenge, 2017 Eligibility: African Tech innovators and entrepreneurs. Deadline:
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How to Write A Killer Cover Letter
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1. In one sentence state your understanding of the company/ organization. In another sentence state how their mission aligns to your goals and fit into the position you are applying for. This should make up the introduction. 2. In the second paragraph, state where you see the organization in the next couple of years and how you fit in the picture. Now look at the roles of this position you are applying for and say how your skills can deliver on them. 3. The third paragraph is a continuation of the second and should state what you think the company needs to achieve in the future and how you can contribute to this by your skills. 4. Your last paragraph-Conclusive statement. Talk about your life experience in one sentence and how your experience is beneficial to the organization/ company. This is where you sell the other side of you which is not necessarily formal but which can be an addition to the tea you want to join.
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The Consultant Soial Media Marketing Tips for Startups. Narrow Your Target audience for better engagement. In order to get a more engaging audience, it is important to narrow the size of the target audience. By this the post targets those who matter the most and this would increase the amount the engagement. It is not wise to have a very wide audience because your post may get to those who don’t really matter and it would be a waste of time and resources for the business. Post Consistently Post regularly on social media. This does not necessarily mean posting more than one Tweet or Facebook post per day. Depending on the social media platform you have chosen for your business, it is important to maintain a routine and take priority in the quality of post. Remember that your followers are also following hundreds or even thousands of other people with similar interest. Posting regularly will keep you in the minds of your target audience. Choose your content wisely When choosing content for your social media platforms you need to consider the relevance of the content to your target audience. Thus strive to make it helpful, relevant and entertaining because these are the things that make a post engaging. The most engaging content are accompanied by images be they videos or pictures. That notwithstanding, remember not to compromise your goals and objectives for engagement.
Boosting is key: Facebook and other social media networks are continuously reducing the amount of organic reach of content posted. As a result, it is profitable for the business to boost or promote content for more visibility. Unlike other platforms, social media platforms are more affordable and have better targeting options such as location demographics and interest to mention a few.
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