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KACIE AT A LOSS FOR WORDS OF COMFORT
My cousin just got diagnosed with cancer. We’re pretty close but I’m at a loss as to what to say to her. What do I tell someone when they've been diagnosed with cancer?
First of all, most people don’t know what to say. You’re not alone in having a loss for words. The most important thing you can do is reply in a way that feels comfortable to you, because it will be genuine. Your cousin will want to hear your words, not a canned response. Even if you’re completely honest and answer with, “I don’t know what to say, but I’m here for you.” Most of the time, simple expressions of concern are the most appreciated. And even not saying anything at all can be helpful if your cousin just needs someone to listen. Be encouraging, but don’t show false optimism or tell your cousin to always stay positive. Doing these might discount her very real fears or concerns. Using humor is helpful, but let your cousin take the lead on this. And if she looks great, tell her! Above all, being present and supportive is what most people need. And always listen—sometimes your words aren’t needed if you just listen.
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