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Volume 1, Number 7

August 2009

Thai beef salad

06 Editor’s letter 07 Fading Friendships

09 Is speed dating really for you?

12 Lipstick Corner Office Romance

10 Club wear Do’s and Don’ts

14 15 Horoscopes 4

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Janelle Powers, writer, janelle.powers@ singlesmag.net Janelle was born and raised right here in Boston. She attended Hofstra University in New York where she studied both journalism and theatre. She’s had several small acting roles in both film and television, as well as some roles on the stage. She is currently working as histology technician and lives in Brighton with her fiancé.

Bobby Carr, writer, bobby.carr@singlesmag.net Bobby is always looking to utilize his creative attributes, which have led him in many different directions such as starring in the independent horror film Prichard and Silas and now following his true passion to be a writer. Bobby states “My only unfulfilled aspiration is finding true love, because I believe you are not truly happy unless you can share that happiness with someone else which is why I am ecstatic about writing for a singles magazine.”

Mehdy Ogine-Noel, photographer, realtouch@ymail.com Mehdy earned his graphic design degree from the Katherine Gibbs school in 2003. He owns RealtoucH, a photography company. Mehdy has done photography for weddings, corporate events, and websites. Visit him on www.realtouchpg.com

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{Editor’s letter}

MSM’s upcoming changes Dear Readers, Massachusetts’ Singles Magazine is now on its seventh issue and it is still going strong. After months of promoting the classified section of MSM, in this issue, I proudly introduce the classified section. You can now post all your classifieds (jobs, items for sale, personals, etc ...) for the low price of $2.00, it will run in MSM’s classified section for 30-days. Check out page 14 for more information. Changes are happening at MSM, they are happening fast and it has all been very positive. At this time, I am now looking forward to MSM’s one year anniversary and I have already began planning the anniversary party. It seems like yesterday, I was planning the launch of MSM and now I am doing it all over again. The next few months leading to the one year anniversary are going to be exciting and I am looking forward to put in the work. I am working on putting together a party committee for the one year anniversary to make this the best anniversary party you’ve ever experienced. Readers, stay tuned because in the next few months, I will be updating you on the progress of MSM and MSM’s one year anniversary party. Best,

Marie Stuart Noël Publisher and Editor-in-Chief 617-418-1750 Publisher@singlemag.net 6

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The Column Where have all the close friends gone? Every so often television entertainment comes out with a dramatic sitcom illustrating the relationships that occur between close friends. Normally in their high twenties, early thirties these usually stereotypical characters experience the ups and downs of early professionalism while searching for companionship. Friends, Seinfeld and most recently How I Met Your Mother, all depict a close nit group of friends that support each through relationship problems. As significant others come and go, their friendships withstand. With that said, how close do these fictional plots actually relate to real life? When it comes to close friendships, what really happens when significant others, outside of the group, enter the lives of one of its members? For the sitcoms, the friendships usually remain the same. However, in real life as some of us couple off, far too often are the remaining singles left with unresolved spin-offs. One warm Friday in July, my friends and I decided an outside, late night reunion was necessary to make up for the last few weeks of constant rain and lack of togetherness. After some drinks and burgers, catching up was replaced with hilarious reminiscing and before we knew it we were back three years and into 30 beers. I began to truly appreciate the friendships I had fashioned and after numerous stories of relationship drama, I began to also appreciate my current bachelor status. Sadly, these channeled feelings of appreciation soon turned into negative reception. It was slightly before midnight and as I returned from inside with a bag of chips and a bowl of salsa, I realized I would be dinning alone. Some had left and others were leaving and once again, as the only single in the group, I was by myself with a slight buzz on and huge mess to clean up. That same night, my sister Leslie and her friend Ally aka Q, were also experiencing the effects of close friendships. At a local bar, surrounded by old friends in new relationships, they wondered why two attractive young professionals like themselves were singled out. By the end of night, Q determined to leave with a prospect, approached two familiar looking guys that were sitting at the bar staring in their direction. Waving over her single partner in crime she and Leslie engaged in about twenty minutes of superficial conversation before suggesting they meet the following night. One of the guys while pointing in the direction of their friends asked whether or not their boyfriends would be jealous. The guys had seen Q and Leslie in the bar numerous times before and witnessed the affectionate showcase of a single gal and her gay best friend. After Leslie cleared up the miss understanding that their assumed boyfriends were nothing of the sort, she immediately realized that the problem wasnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t them, it was the abundance of close friends that used their company to escape the unwanted companies of their significant others. A few hours later, as I put out a fading fire, I began to reminisce over my faded friendships. Ironically enough, half an hour later, I received a phone call from one of my departed guest wanting to talk about an issue she was having with her boyfriend. So in the end, as preached through the friendship sitcom, a friend is supposed to be honest, supportive and careful not to judge. So how do we honestly support the closest people in our lives jumping into something that is driving them away? We don't really have to. All we need to do is sit back, wait for them to call on us when need be and hope that they do the same for us. After all thatâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s what friends are for.

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By Marie Stuart Noel

Y ou’ve seen the ads online, on buses, in the newspaper and pretty much everywhere you go. You probably know a friend or colleague who’s done it, why haven’t you? I mean, you’ve done online dating. Speed dating has gotten very popular in the last decade. It has been featured in movies like Hitch, the 40 year-old virgin and TV shows like Sex and the city, the L word. It really is a great way for any single to jump start a dating life. It’s true that you know in 3-8 minutes if you are attracted to your date. I’ve put together the pros and cons of speed dating so you may decide whether it is for you or not.

Pros of speed dating Most speed dating services are inexpensive. You meet several people in a few hours. You get to socialize in a comfortable, safe environment. Some Services pre-screened daters to ensure match. Speed dating is a no-pressure, no-obligation first date. Daters get to meet people they would never meet otherwise. Only daters who mutually select each other gets each other’s contact information. If you don’t make any connections, nobody will know.

Cons of speed dating Everything is based on first impression, no second chances. Daters have only a few minutes to make a good first impression. Some speed dating services are expensive. There is no refund, you may get a rain check if the men to women ratio is uneven. Daters have to register prior to speed dating event. You may not make any connections. Speed dating is time-efficient, no-nonsense dating which to me is more effective than online dating. Though speed dating is popular, it is not for everyone. My advice is before you jump into speed dating, do your homework. Research the different speed dating companies, read reviews, and learn about your local speed dating organizers. Whatever route you choose to use for dating does not matter. In the end, finding your soul mate is all that matters. 9

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Club wear Do’s and Don’ts Do go on the nightclub web site to find out their rule on proper attire.

Don’t show too much skin. Do wear a sexy flirty attire.

Don’t wear new high heel shoes that you have yet to break into. Do wear comfortable shoes. Don’t wear church attire to a nightclub. 10

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This Thai salad is very delicious. It is the perfect summer meal, seasoned just right with spicy ingredients. This serving is just for one but if you have a sweetie coming over for dinner, double the ingredients and wow your date.

Ingredients 250 g lean beef steaks 1 tablespoon soy sauce 1/2 clove crushed garlic

Salad Dressing 1/4 teaspoon garlic 1/4 teaspoon chili 1/4 teaspoon ginger 1/2 tablespoon fish sauce 3/4 tablespoon lime juice 3/4 tablespoon sweet chili sauce 1 teaspoon soy sauce 1/2 teaspoon sweet soy sauce or sugar, to sweeten 1 tablespoon chopped coriander

Salad shredded lettuce, of your choice 1/4 diced red onion (any salad ingredients you desire).

Directions Combine soy and garlic and marinate steak for at least 3 hours. Combine salad ingredients in two separate bowls. Combine dressing ingredients together, mix well, and put aside. Cook steak on grill or in pan until cooked to desired level. Slice steak into strips and place on top of salad. Drizzle over dressing. Bon Appetit!

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Written by a woman, for women together. You see each other socially, and you see

Office romance

each other professionally. Everyone in the office

By Janelle Powers knows your business and in some cases your coworkers know what is going to happen in your It starts with innocent flirtations over the water cooler. relationship before you do. There are only two ways Then it escalates into perverted emails and catching this can end, one being marriage, and the other is a eye contact all day. Finally it comes out “would you break up. The worst part about the latter is, if you like to have a drink after work?” and before you know break up, there is the inevitable awkwardness. You it you’re embroiled in a passionate office relationship. still have to see each other, work together and are Things are all well and good at first. You see each expected to be professional and civil. Which can be other every day, you have lunch together, you go avoided if there is another branch of the company you home together at night and spend the night making can transfer to. Even in the best of circumstances, love. It goes on like this for a few weeks and you’re in office romance are proven to be very difficult. a blissful bubble not realizing that you’re the talk of In the end, if you insist on pursuing an office the office. People start talking and remarking on your relationship, there are a few things I can tell you. Try relationship. Everyone has something to say, some to keep your relationship as private as possible. You remarks are good but most are not. Most are scandal won’t be able to keep everything private but most and gossip, “I hear he’s bonking someone else in things can be kept quiet. Go into this relationship with accounting.” I hear she’s just using him to make the your eyes wide open and consider all the variables boss jealous.” Most of this is fictional nonsense, but that I have mentioned. Know that what you are doing that is where the trouble starts. can be worth it but it can also be complicated and A wise man once said “you never crap where you messy. Talk to your partner about all these eat” and this expression though graphic does seem to possibilities and remember that trust and hold true most of the time. The major problem with communication are key to any relationship. dating someone you work with is too much time 12

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LEO July 23-August 22 You've got an extra knack with sizing people up, not to mention assessing all sorts of situations in an uncanny manner. The trick is that you'll have to pry the attention off yourself first. VIRGO August 23-September 22 Is that a little romantic tension between you and a certain someone? Well, are you just going to let it sit there or are you going to explore the possibilities? The stars say take the next step! LIBRA September 23-October 22 Chatting with a new person, whether online or faceto-face, can lead all sorts of unexpected places now. You're thinking big and expressing yourself beautifully -- and they're loving you. SCORPIO October 23 - November 21 You're particularly skilled at uncovering what's beneath the surface -- and it's a skill that'll come in handy right now. Ask around. Look closely. Pay attention to the ambient vibe. SAGITTARIUS November 22-December 21 You're sitting pretty if the stars have their say, the object of much admiration and the center of certain attention. Keep those eyes open for an unexpected sign, opportunity or occurrence. CAPRICORN December 22-January 19 If at first you don't succeed, well, whatever with them -- move on and say hi to the next cutie! Cupid loves somebody who makes an effort. Show you're trying and some arrows will be flying!

AQUARIUS January 20-February 18 Look around and see who needs introducing! Whether you're the official host or not, you're putting people together in possibly miraculous ways now -and the universe will return the favor. PISCES February 19-March 20 The stars are sending some pretty sweet stuff your way -- what'll you do to enjoy it today? Hint: Spacing out is not the way to go. Stay fully present and receive some cosmic gifts! ARIES March 21-April 19 Now this is a lot more like it! Pack your social schedule both during the day and tonight -- you'll love meeting new people and maybe developing some deeper bonds with a certain someone now. TAURUS April 20-May 20 Of course you want the initial attraction, but right now you're particularly interested in getting into who they are and what they believe. The right romantic candidates respond in kind.

GEMINI May 21-June 21 You'll learn so much by listening now, you may hardly need to say a word. Maybe it's because when you do talk, you're asking the right questions and making them feel like the only person in the room.

CANCER June 22-July 22 Looks like some sort of conflict or challenge surrounds a social occasion or interaction now. Rather than turning away, put your best foot forward. Make a real effort to make yourself understood.

*horoscopes.astrology.com

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