massachusetts MARCH 2009
singles
MAGAZINE
BUILDING YOUR GREEN WARDROBE ST. PATRICK’S DAY HOT SPOTS EPIDEMIC! FEMALE-ON-FEMALE HATRED
TOP 10 PLUS THIS MONTH’S
FEATURED SINGLES
DATING DOs & DON’Ts
Volume 1, Number 2
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inside
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04 CONTRIBUTORS 05 EDITOR’S LETTER Plus, our Ask Marie dating advice column.
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06 THE DATING LIFE
10 FEATURED SINGLES Meet this month’s crop of eligible men and
Top 10 Dos & Don’ts for a First Date.
women…and maybe drop one of them a line!
LIPSTICK CORNER 08 The epidemic of female-on-female hatred.
FASHION SEN$E 13 How to build a green wardrobe.
THE COLUMN 09 The beginning stages of a relationship.
CONFESSIONS OF A SATYROMANIAC 14 My first orgy. (And you thought all they did in college was study!)
16 ON THE TOWN WITH MSM Photos from our monthly singles events.
18 SPOTLIGHT
Where to find local singles on St. Patrick’s Day.
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19 HOROSCOPE
What to expect in the month ahead.
ON THE COVER: Robin, age 29, photographed by Mehdy Ogine-Noel at Grafton Street Pub & Grill, Cambridge, MA, February 2009. Robin is one of this month’s FEATURED SINGLES. (see page 10). If you would like to be considered for our cover, contact us at: 617-527-0381 or publisher@singlesmag.net. © 2009 by MSM. Massachusetts Singles Magazine is published monthly in Newton, Massachusetts. ADVERTISERS: contact MSM at 617-527-0381 or publisher@singlesmag.net. Visit us online at www.singlesmag.net.
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contributors JANELLE POWERS Writer janelle.powers@singlesmag.net Janelle was born and raised right here in Boston. She attended Hofstra University in New York where she studied journalism and theatre. She’s had several small acting roles in film and television, as well as some roles on the stage. She currently works as a histology technician and lives in Brighton with her fiancé.
JENNIFER ROMAN Writer jennifer.roman@singlesmag.net Jennifer holds a Bachelor’s degree in Business Management and Corporate Systems from Boston College, and also has a Professional Certificate in Paralegal studies from Boston University. Though her business interests remain in the legal industry, her passions lie in expression through writing as she seeks to inspire and be inspired by all forms of written word. In her free time, Jennifer participates on an all-star cheerleading team, enjoys cooking, and volunteers for Big Sisters of Greater Boston. She is single and ready to mingle!
MEHDY OGINE-NOEL Photographer, graphic designer, video editor realtouch@ymail.com Mehdy earned his graphic design degree from the Katherine Gibbs school in 2003. Mehdy owns RealtoucH, a photography company. Mehdy has done photography for weddings, corporate events, and websites. Visit him on MySpace/ realtouchphotography.com.
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Bobby is always looking to utilize his creative attributes, which have led him in many different directions, including starring in the independent horror film Prichard and Silas. He is now following his true passion to be a writer. Bobby states, “My only unfulfilled aspiration is finding true love, because I believe you are not truly happy unless you can share that happiness with someone else—which is why I am ecstatic about writing for a singles magazine.”
DAVE HERMAN DJ dave.herman@singlesmag.net Dave started his career in 1979 as an assistant DJ for radio personality Gary Williams of WVBF in Framingham, MA, where he quickly learned the tricks of the trade. He then moved on to doing small parties, before landing a job as a DJ at Roll-On America roller rink in Lawrence, MA. There he perfected his craft, and he has now performed hundreds of events over the years. DJ Dave has DJ’d for night clubs, corporate functions, school dances, fundraisers, expositions, anniversaries, birthday parties, and weddings! There isn’t any event he can’t do.
PHI Writer phi@singlesmag.net Phi earned his degree in Psychology and Legal Studies at UMass–Amherst. He writes a humor blog also has several musical side projects. An avid movie watcher, he can usually be found in a movie theater on the weekend, taking in as many films as he can. He currently works at a local university and continues to try to live his life in a way that will bring you the most entertaining column possible.
JOHN F Art direction, graphic design & layout retropolis@att.net John earned his degree in graphic design from Middlesex Community College, and interned at Mullen Advertising and Belgraphix Studios. He works in the health care field and does freelance graphic design and video production. His video short Other Priorities was screened at the 2007 100-Second Film Festival.
{editor’s letter}
Dear Reader, MSM held its launch party at Vox Populi in Boston on January 30th, 2009 and it was, by all accounts, a resounding success. I still cannot believe that we are now on our second issue! I would like to thank Yasmin of Vox Populi for her invaluable assistance. It has taken a lot of hard work to publish MSM, and I want to thank everyone who lent a hand. Special thanks to all of you who bought raffle tickets and all those who volunteered at the launch—DJ Dave Herman, photographers Mehdy O, Jeffrey, Katherine Castro, and Kiki Taboh—and the videographers. Congratulations to the winner of the Wii, Mr. Jason Coburn. (Some photos from the launch party can be found on pages 18 and 19.) March is GREEN month at MSM so we’re focusing on St. Patrick’s Day and the Green Lifestyle. In this issue, our Fashion Sen$e article is all about the Green Lifestyle and how you can help save the planet even
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while doing laundry. I believe that we can each do our part without making huge sacrifices. Each month, MSM will not only provide you with fun information about dating and relationships, but we will also address issues that really matter in the dating world. MSM will soon be introducing a new column that will focus on the serious adversities faced by singles, such as personal safety and financial security. Solutions will be discussed and we will provide information on where you can turn for help. We want you to know that you do not have to face these experiences alone. MSM is also looking to partner with local charities in the upcoming months to bring you fun events that also support a good cause. Starting with our March issue, we want to let you know that you can now read MSM online as well as in print. To find locations where the magazine is distributed, visit our website at singlesmag.net. Thank you!
Marie Stuart Noel Publisher and Editor 617-527-0381 publisher@singlesmag.net
our monthly advice column on dating & relationships Send your questions to: publisher@singlesmag.net
Dear Marie, I need all the help I can get! I haven’t dated much, but I’ve been seeing this sexy Jamaican guy for three weeks. I wish I had more dating experience and had a better understanding of guys—but I don’t. This is all so new to me. —Ashley Dear Ashley, I am glad that you've come to me to get some advice about dating. First: Be very careful to protect your body and your heart. Love and respect yourself, and keep in mind that any man who does not respect you should
not be part of your life. Do not allow any man to use your body in vain or stomp over your feelings. Second: If you choose to get intimate with someone, make sure you protect yourself with a condom. You are young and have a long life ahead of you; don't allow anyone to take away your health. Third: If a man shows any sign of verbal or physical abuse, he is definitely not for you. I hope that these words will be helpful to you in your new dating journey. I wish you the best of luck, and sincerely hope that Sexy Jamaican Guy turns out to be Mr. Right! —Best, Marie
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DOs & DON’Ts FOR A FIRST DATE BY JANELLE POWERS
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e all know that first impressions are usually what people remember about us. Yes it’s unfair and often times awkward but it’s that pressure filled window of the first meeting that people tend to carry with them. To make it a little easier on you I have compiled a list of the most common do’s and don’ts of a first date. If you follow these guidelines you have a decent shot at knowing whether this person is right for you or if you need to keep looking. And remember nothing is totally foolproof.
1. DON’T mention in any shape way or form desperation, depression, “the last resort”, or for the ladies your “biological clock”. Nobody and I mean nobody wants to feel like they are a last ditch effort at happiness. I have seen so many good first dates go wrong because a woman has told her date that she can feel her biological clock ticking, or a guy telling a girl that he is uber depressed because he feels that he’ll never find “the one.” It’s a major mistake and must be avoided at all costs.
2. DO try to present yourself in a confident manor. If you believe that you’re a catch and you are an excellent partner than the other person is more likely to believe it. And if you don’t believe it then fake it. Just don’t overdo it! And please for all the guys out there don’t confuse cocky with confident, cat calls and macho frat boy smugness will usually get you nowhere.
If you can’t control your wandering eye on the first date how do you plan to control it in a relationship.
4. DO try to be, and I know this is cliché and has been done to death, but just be yourself. Don’t try to pretend you’re someone you’re not and don’t pretend to have the same interests and goals as the other per-
son. If you are truly trying to find someone compatible then be honest with your likes and dislikes. And don’t write the other person off to quickly, even thought you may not have the exact same interests you may find that you like trying new things with this person.
3. DON’T check out other people, this will usually piss off your date to no end, and will likely cause them to write you off completely.
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5. DON’T put out on the first date! I mean this for guys and girls. I know you might really click with some-
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one right off and you may really be attracted to them but if you sleep with them the first time around you may find out that the person you just slept with is a creep, or a pervert, or doesn’t really like you; they just wanted to get into your pants! 6. DO pick a place or an activity that you both can agree on and enjoy. The movies are a classic so is coffee or dinner. If you’re really looking for something different then try a museum or bowling. Whatever you can agree on and whatever you both feel comfortable with. Most importantly try to make it on neutral territory. Some place that neither of you can really claim home field advantage.
7. DON’T in any way put your date on the spot by inviting friends or relatives to join you. You may really like the other person right away but if you tell them you want to call your girlfriends to check him out or your bro’s to get a look at her, not only are you putting that person in a position of being outnumbered but it also makes them feel like they are on display there to be
judged. Double dates are fine if you both agree. If you happened to accidentally run into a friend, and I really mean accidentally, being polite and introducing them is okay but encouraging them to stay is not.
8. DO I know this one may seem unnecessary but some people have to be reminded, do practice good hygiene. Brush your teeth regularly, floss, and rinse, deodorant and clean clothes and undies on the first date. And every date following. In fact this is a good rule for life.
MAKE AN EFFORT TO ENJOY YOURSELF. DATING SHOULD BE FUN! diarrhea. Don’t pretend you don’t know what I mean. Don’t go on and on about yourself incessantly. Don’t start rambling utter nonsense and don’t try to dominate the conversation. It may put the other person off and it may even come across as bullying, not to mention narcissistic.
10. DO make an effort to enjoy yourself. Dating should be fun and if you don’t set unreasonable expectations you should at the very least enjoy yourself for the evening. You may or may not find Mr. or Mrs. Right but having a pleasant evening with a new friend is always worth it. Janelle Powers can be reached at janelle.powers@singlesmag.net
Shonna Clark
9. DON’T get a nasty case of verbal
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LIPSTICK CORNER
Lipstick Corner is written by women, for women
BY JENNIFER ROMAN
The epidemic of female-on-female hatred
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uman interaction involves the exchange of ideas, actions, and emotions through various forms of communication and/or physical activity. However, there is an intrinsic difference when the interaction is broken down by human anatomy. Men interact with men in certain ways, and women interact with women in completely different ways. Something exists among women of the world that urges them to act against other women. What is going on? Here is a classic example. Patty was out with friends at a bar celebrating a birthday. A friend of a friend of a friend (female of course), whom Patty didn’t know, started giving her dirty looks and making negative remarks about her appearance. She even referred to her as a “bitch.” Patty became uncomfortable, unsure of what she had done to provoke such animosity, but she tried her best to enjoy her time with her friends. The night took a turn for the worst, however, when the other women decided to “bump” into Patty and spill a glass of red wine down her dress. Instead of apologizing, she laughed in her face, calling her a “stupid c—t” for getting in the way. Patty went home early in tears. Typically, a woman might attack another woman for cheating on her with her boyfriend. A woman will sometimes defame another’s name simply for having more material possessions than she does. Or a woman
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might sabotage another’s chance at promotion in the workplace because she wasn’t experienced enough to be a candidate herself. The list could go on and on. Why do women sometimes “hate on” each other so much? The answers are: Jealousy. Jealousy. And would wouldn’t you know it—JEALOUSY! It seems to be true—women who act out against other women are often simply jealous or envious. If a woman has something another woman wants or needs, she tends to get jealous. It doesn’t matter if the want or need is a new purse, a promotion at work, a better-looking body, or a man.
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ut why be jealous at all? Although women may feel empowered, secure and independent, we are each instinctively programmed to compete with other females in situations that, consciously or subconsciously, seem threatening to our individual well-being. If we consider our animal nature, it’s easy to see how a woman might feel the need to compete against other women. Take the lioness, for example. The female is responsible for hunting for food, mating with the alpha male, reproducing and providing for her cubs, while the others in her pride are trying to accomplish the same tasks. Essentially, human females do the same. We are constantly seeking to feed, mate, and reproduce, which over time can
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manifest itself in superficial motivations such as appearance, material possessions, status, etc. One can see, then, that it’s not totally bizarre for women to act out against each other the way they do. The problem arises when women compete when there is no true competition, and end up unreasonably and unnecessarily “hating on” each other. The trick is to figure out how to flick the off-switch on the natural tendency to compete against one another. If, for example, you see an attractive woman in beautiful attire conducting herself beautifully, don’t hate… congratulate. Even if she’s a complete stranger, compliment her and ask where she got her dress. If a female colleague is excelling in the workplace, don’t be jealous— befriend her, learn from her, let her mentor you so you can also rise in the ranks. Women need to use other women to elevate themselves, not push each other down. Don’t let petty things create the drama that the men you’re “seeking” don’t want any part of. And know that without camaraderie, we females will just be the dirt on our brand new stilettos. So wipe up the hate and flush it down the toilet already. Feedback welcome (unless you’re “hating”). Jennifer Roman can be reached at jennifer@singlesmag.net
THE COLUMN BOBBY CARR talks sex, dating & relationships
The beginning stages of a relationship
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hen a relationship is in its beginning stages, most of us start off with overwhelming feelings of excitement and lust. The more time we spend with someone the more comfortable we get and eventually have to make the decision to either continue on or fizzle out. It had been two months and my potential prospect had turned into a potential lover. A few minutes after ringing in the New Year, I was cornered by my potential and told in a slightly drunken slur that I was a dream come true. I was extremely flattered, and a little embarrassed. Then after being labeled a dream come true, one week later, I was experiencing a nightmare. My pseudo relationship had gone from barely being apart to barely talking. I began to overanalyze the situation, only to come to the realization that I was overreacting. And then it happened. I knew something was wrong when I received the text message, “I’m just staying in tonight. I’ll call you tomorrow to make plans.” Three days and no phone calls later, I began to ask myself, “If we are constantly told to follow our intuitions, what is the difference between
overanalyzing and simply reading between the lines?” As my mind was running wild, so were a good friend’s hormones. Annie had gone from dating bad boys to dating a good girl. After meeting up with friends for some cocktails, Annie started the conversation with “I have broken up with Julian, I’m now dating a girl, named Salina”. Overnight Annie had
turned into a Salinian! Within two months, Annie’s friendships were falling apart, not because of a lack of support, but because she was falling in love and spending almost all of her time with her better half. For the first time Annie was not willing to sacrifice any part of her new relationship to bridge gaps in her old ones. Annie was continuing
on and now needed to find a way to stop friendships from completely fizzling out. The next day I made the call that would give some truth to my assumptions about my pseudo relationship. Being busy and distracted translated to me as: I’m really not feeling this. After fifteen minutes of awkward conversation it was over. I soon began to contemplate what went wrong, but realized that dating and relationships are never going to be easy. Insecurities take over and thoughts run wild. Sometimes we need to sacrifice old relationships to move on to another and other times we need to accept that one relationship is over to hopefully experience an even better one in the future. I have come to the conclusion that although it hurts to Leslie Vega admit that someone is not that into you, it’s important to follow your gut. If you feel that something is wrong, it probably is, and the only way to solve the problem is to approach it, deal with it and not let it run wild in the back of your mind. You can reach Bobby at bobby.carr@singlesmag.net
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featured
SINGLES To be featured in Massachusetts Singles Magazine, fill out our on-line survey at www.singlesmag.net., email us at singles@singlesmag.net, or call us at 617-527-0381. There is no charge to post your profile in our Featured Singles pages.
Robin, age 29 robink@singlesmag.net
ZODIAC SIGN: Pisces LIVES: Charlestown, MA WORKS: Lynn, MA MSM: What do you do for work? Robin: I am a reporter in the metro Boston area, and that because of my hectic job; I don't have time to go out much, hence my busy lifestyle! What do you like to do when you are not busy? I enjoy reading, watching sports and I enjoy going to Jury's. I love to cook, especially when I have someone to spoil! I enjoy going to Boston Red Sox games as well as the Celtics and Bruins whenever I get a chance with my busy schedule. Because of my love of sports, it would be great to meet someone who shares the same affinity. How long have you been single and why? I've been single on and off for two years. I have a tough time meeting men because of my crazy work schedule! I'm looking for a funny, honest and trustworthy individual that is also intelligent and of course, handsome! My last long-term relationship was with an older TV news reporter in Boston who shared the same interests and profession as me, but it just didn't work out. I would love to meet a fellow reporter who understands my crazy life, but by the same token, it might be nice to meet a guy with a completely opposite profession as me to keep things interesting. What do you look for in a man? Intelligence and a sense of humor are must-haves for me. My date has to be able to hold an intellectually stimulating conversation as well as enjoy my love of laughter. And of course, physical attractiveness doesn't hurt either!
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Michelle, age 24 michelled@singlesmag.net ZODIAC SIGN: Virgo LIVES: Medford, MA WORKS: Everett, MA MSM: What do you do for work? Michelle: I currently am getting my MBA degree at Bentley College while working in the administrative field. What do you like to do when you are not busy? I love to hang out with friends, go to the movies and enjoy hanging at Alibi at the Liberty Hotel. How long have you been single and why? I have been single since April 2006, have done some dating since then, but haven't found anyone that really captures my attention since. What kind of men do you prefer? I look for honesty, someone who loves life and what they do, and someone who is funny. I like to go out and have fun, so someone who can balance going to nicer restaurants but also likes to order take-out for a movie at home once in a while. Looks-wise, I like taller (I like high shoes) and I think Vince Vaughn and Javier Bardem are both my type. I should also say that I prefer Italian men, too. Tell us one good thing and one bad thing that all your exes had in common. They were all family oriented but most of them were not motivated enough and were all self-centered.
Kevin, age 31 kevink@singlesmag.net
ZODIAC SIGN: Gemini LIVES: Weston, MA WORKS: Newtonville, MA MSM: What do you do for work? Kevin: I am in the healthcare/education field. What do you like to do in your free time? I love to travel and explore new destinations. I also like to network. I enjoy hanging at the Blue Ribbon BBQ. How long have you been single and why? I've been single for over five years. I just haven’t found anyone special yet. What do you look for in a woman? I look for a sense of humor and intelligence.
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Lauren O, age 28 laureno@singlesmag.net ZODIAC SIGN: Scorpio LIVES: Medford, MA WORKS: Andover, MA MSM: What is your favorite place to hang out? Lauren: Acapulcos.
What do you look for in a man? Honesty and a fun personality. What is the most interesting thing about you? I am a graduate of the American Academy of Dramatic Arts in NYC, and I love water parks and amusement parks. I love to have fun.
Tony, age 35 roxbury617@gmail.com ZODIAC SIGN: Taurus LIVES: Boston, MA WORKS: Boston, MA MSM: What do you do for work? Tony: I’m an educator and nightlife promoter.
beauty not just physically but intellectually as well. I tend to gravitate to women who have a beautiful smile and who are outgoing, and adventurous. I like a woman who enjoys and appreciates quality time together. Someone who can be to me the priority she wishes me to be to her.
How long have you been single? Two years.
What are your hobbies? Billiards, basketball, travel, tennis, Broadway plays, massage therapy, cooking.
What do you look for in a woman? I simply seek a woman who embodies class, style and
Stephanie N, age 23 stephanien@singlesmag.net
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ZODIAC SIGN: Leo LIVES: Newton, MA WORKS: Newton, MA
What do you look for in a man? Confidence, maturity, sense of humor, attractiveness and open-mindedness.
MSM: What is your favorite place to hang out? Stephanie: Mooo on Beacon Street, Las Vegas, South Beach.
What is the most interesting thing about you? I am not into the bar or club scene, but I love going out to dinner.
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FASHION SEN$E Building a
BY MARIE STUART NOEL
GREEN wardrobe
GETTING STARTED Here are 3 tips to get you started with your green wardrobe:
Recycle clothing Buy vintage (i.e. used) clothes. Shop at a clothing swap party—or better yet, host your own!
Start with “green” labels Look for organic materials like organic cotton, organic wool and hemp. Hemp is an organic fiber that is much stronger and more absorbent than cotton. Products made from hemp are naturally hypoallergenic and provide natural UV protection.
Laundry Save energy (and money) by running full loads. Wash with cold water and line dry.
WHERE TO FIND IT The following local stores carry green fashion. They sell clothing and accessories that help you save the planet while saving you some green.
G Green Design Center 28 Bates Road, Mashpee, MA 508.477.7988 www.ggreendesign.com G Green design is the number one destination for anyone who wants to live a green lifestyle. G Green carries green clothing and accessories and also offers a large selection of green products for the home. From lighting to wall coverings to HVAC, if it’s green you want, G Green has it all. G Green carries these fabulous Gecko Trader bags, which are created from discarded rice bags in Vietnam.
They are collected, brought to Cambodia, cleaned and double stitched into functional and hip market bags, perfect for toting just about anything around town. And they hold more than the traditional paper or evil plastic bag.* *From www.ecobags.com/Gecko-Recycled-Rice-BagMarket-Bags
Artwear 189 Massachusetts Avenue, Arlington, MA 781.648.0900 www.artweararlington.com Many of Artwear’s fashions are made by local artists. Most of the materials used in these products are organic.
READ ALL ABOUT IT Green Chic by Christie Matheson Want to go green without giving up great style? Offering up dozens of author-tested, earth-friendly ideas, writer Christie Matheson reveals that being chic and saving the planet aren't mutually exclusive. Embrace the fabulousness of green living and you can: • Look gorgeous • Have a killer wardrobe • Feel amazing • Travel in style
• Create a home that's an oasis • Host fun parties • Eat incredible food and drink phenomenal wine …all while feeling more connected to your friends, family and nature. Printed on recycled paper, with a portion of its proceeds going to a green cause, Green Chic is the perfect book for style-savvy readers with a green heart. Paperback. 2008, 240 pages. MASSACHUSETTS SINGLES MAGAZINE • www.singlesmag.net
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confessions of a SATYROMANIAC Magda P.
My first orgy BY PHI
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ave you ever wondered if the ludicrous situations in porn happen in reality? I mean if it did, pizza delivery guys must be the biggest boyhood job aspiration next to astronauts right? But alas, it’s all horribly written fiction…or is it? It’s a random Saturday night at a house party like any other college party. You know the one, beer pong in one room, people passed out on the couch, you’re not even sure who you know here but you see familiar people so at least you’re in the right place. Then it happens, there’s that obnoxious drunken couple making out in the corner. At first glance, you think they’re just kissing, but then you look closer and they’re really going at it. And
then the line is crossed. They go from being joined at the mouth and their hands between each other’s legs, to her unzipping his jeans and treating his manhood like a refreshing ice cream cone on a hot summer’s day. This is when things start to get weird. It seems that first couple was the catalyst. Instead of being disgusted or even continuing gawking, the couple next to them started heavily making out. This time, the guy’s hands disappeared between her legs. What happened over the next few minutes could only be described as a pornographic domino. People were getting together by 2s and 3s. Making out, undressing, sucking, licking caressing all around me. I too was engulfed in this torrent of inebriat-
ed passion. What happened next was a whirlwind of different girls, positions, sounds and sensations. All around me were the sounds of gasps, moans, grunts and wet slapping that I’m sure we’ve all heard in our lives when then lights are off. It was one after another after another for hours and hours. When the last of us were done, the sun was finally coming up. We all went to sleep where we could find any space, exhausted yet swimming in endorphins. As I was getting ready to leave, I saw my hoodie being used as a pillow by a girl whose body I knew very intimately just a few short hours before. I tried to wake her gently so I could grab my coat, but I didn’t know her name.
Single? Photo of Tiffany Abril by Drew Devine
MSM: Showcasing Massachussetts’ eligible singles.
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8-MINUTE DATING MARCH 2009
Hosted by Maureen Trickett Email: maureent@8minutedating.com Looking to meet some great new singles? Come see what you’ve been missing! Join host Maureen Trickett at Tommy Doyle’s in Kendall Square, Cambridge, MA. Enjoy a fun, relaxing night of 8-Minute Dating, where you’ll mix and mingle with attractive, compatible singles—like yourself! Come early and enjoy some preevent mingling, light appetizers and cash bar. We GUARANTEE you will not be disappointed or your next event is on us! When 8minuteDating gets started, you'll have four 8-minute one-on-one conversations with four single professionals, followed by a brief intermission where you can meet other singles who might have caught your eye. After the intermission, you'll have four more 8minute dates. All attendees will receive a discount coupon for a return visit to Tommy Doyle's (coupon will print when you log on to our website after the event). All events below will be held at: Tommy Doyle's Pub and Restaurant One Kendall Square Cambridge, MA 02139 617-225-0888 www.tommydoyles.com Sunday, March 15, 2009 • 5:30 PM Older Men • Younger Women Suggested ages: Men: 38-48 Women: 30-40 Price: $39.95 Sunday, March 15, 2009 • 5:30 PM Older Women • Younger Men Suggested ages: Men: 35-42 Women: 42-50 Price: $39.95
Sunday, March 29, 2009 • 5:00 PM Single Professionals Suggested ages: 45-55 Price: $39.95
To register for any of these events, log on to www.8minutedating.com, and select Massachusetts and Boston Area + Eastern MA.
Sunday, March 29, 2009 • 5:00 PM Group: Single Professionals Suggested ages: 35-45 Price: $39.95
Come enjoy 8 great dates in 1 fun night!
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On the Town with
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Photos by Katherine Castro, Kiki Taboh & Mehdy Ogine-Noel
Launch Party at
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Vox Populi
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Katherine Castro
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MSM celebrated the launch of its inaugural issue on January 30 at Vox Populi in Boston. Dave Herman hosted the evening, which featured drinks, hors d’oeuvres and raffles. Join us on March 15 at Tommy Doyle’s in Harvard Square, and watch this page for YOUR photo next month!
Katherine Castro
Kiki Taboh
Katherine Castro
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Above & left: MSM’s launch party at Vox Populi, Boston, MA, January 30, 2009. Photos by Mehdy Ogine-Noel. Below: MSM at Project Smile, Hard Rock Café, Boston, MA, February 12, 2009. Above: Raffle winner Jason Coburn and his prize, a Wii system. Congrats, Jason!
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SPOTLIGHT Where to find local singles on St. Patrick’s Day
Bartender Paul Barry puts the finishing touches on an apple martini at Grafton Street Pub & Grill.
BY MARIE STUART NOEL Grafton Street Pub & Grill 1230 Mass Ave, Cambridge, MA 617-497-0400 www.graftonstreetcambridge.com Originally opened in October of 1996, Grafton Street Pub & Grill has been a beloved institution of Harvard Square for over a decade. Located at the Gateway of Harvard Square, this neighborhood hotspot is named after the spirited cobblestone-lined shopping district in Dublin’s famed Temple Bar area. Grafton Street deftly combines a traditional Irish pub’s warmth and coziness with a contemporary and comfortable environment.
from Chef Joseph Carli, who creates dishes inspired by simple flavors and classic European techniques that will satisfy every palate. Blu is located in The Sports Club/LA, was voted Best of Boston in 2008 and is one of Boston's most exclusive restaurants. On Monday, March 16th, Blu will hold their Monday Night Supper Club. Brandt Beef, an all-natural corn fed cattle from California, will be the focus of March's installment of the Monday Night Supper Club at Blu. Blu is available for catering, private functions, and features the city's only private bar, dining room and outdoor patio that overlooks Boston's Theater District.
Tommy Doyle's Irish Pub & Restaurant Overtime Sports Bar and Restaurant 208 Rantoul Street, Beverly, MA 978-52-0005 www.overtimesportsbar.net When you're in the mood for good times and great cuisine, be sure to check out Overtime Sports Bar & Restaurant. The restaurant is located in one of the area's most pleasant settings and is known for its delightful staff and superb cuisine. The menu at Overtime Sports Bar & Restaurant features a wide array of great selections, made from only the freshest and highest quality ingredients, with something sure to please every member of your group. Overtime Sports Bar & Restaurant has established itself as one of the area's favorite culinary destinations and is sure to offer you a pleasant and unique dining experience every time you visit. Check out the live entertainments most nights. Please stop in soon!
Blu 4 Avery Street, Boston, MA 617-375-8550 www.blurestaurant.com Take in a sky-high view while dining on seasonal menus
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1 Kendall Square, #100, Cambridge, MA 617-225-0888 www.tommydoyles.com If you are looking for a great bar, good food selection and a pub to meet new people, Tommy Doyle's is the place to go. It is an Irish-owned restaurant that has the feel of a true Irish pub. The bartenders are friendly and the staff are attentive. Monthly, Maureen Trickett hosts several 8-Minute Dating events at Tommy Doyle's where attendees have fun speed dating while sampling complimentary appetizers. Tommy Doyle's has two other locations: 96 Winthrop St., Cambridge, MA, 617-864-0655 and 334 Main St., Hyannis, MA, 508-862-9430.
Funky Murphy's 305 Shrewsbury Street, Worcester, MA 508-753-2995 www.funkymurphys.com Funky Murphy's is a pretty cool place to hang out and to have dinner. Their food has a home-cooked taste and the atmosphere is quite friendly. If you are in the market for a date, try visiting on a Friday or Saturday night. If you reside in the Worcester area, we recommend Funky Murphy’s as a top destination for St. Patrick's Day.
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HOROSCOPE
PISCES PISCES
VIRGO
February 19–March 20 Now's a great time to empower yourself. Life is a series of choices—nothing more, nothing less. If you're not where you want to be as far as work or romance, it's time to make some changes. So put a lid on the blaming, rationalizing and minimizing already. It's about personal responsibility.
August 23–September 22 The weather's warming up nicely—why isn't your personality doing the same? Mingling is a necessary evil right now when it comes to your career. So always arrive early to business functions. Better to be there when everyone arrives than to step into a filled room where all eyes are on you.
ARIES
LIBRA
March 21–April 19 You have a tendency to make others squirm, particularly when it's one on one. Now's a good day to tone down your intensity—just to make people feel a bit more at ease. Simply turn the conversation on them; encourage the other person to talk while you listen.
September 23–October 22 You're chewing on a past failure—the decisions you should have, could have, would have made. Stop dwelling on the hasbeens. It's just a waste of time. You have lots of life to live so get out there and live it. Take the good; throw away the bad and move forward.
TAURUS
SCORPIO
April 20–May 20 Procrastination isn't your best asset. In fact, you often find yourself floating, watching life pass you by. Make a commitment and take action. How do you want people to remember you? Create a mission statement and start living by it or write your own obituary.
October 23–November 21 A bad habit of yours is taking up so much time it leaves you exhausted by the end of the day. Pick one: either stop it or accept it and move on. Self-knowledge isn't enough to change behavior—you must go a step further and take action; otherwise, you'll stay in that holding pattern.
GEMINI
SAGITTARIUS
May 21–June 21 You're spending way too much time complaining and not enough finding dates and having fun. What's that all about? No wonder times are lean—who wants to hang out with you under that perpetual black cloud? Embrace discomfort; find the hidden lessons.
November 22–December 21 Everything between you and that hottie were going so well, but all of a sudden, a weird look or an odd vocal intonation fills you with doubt. It's actually not about you—you're just super sensitive today. Don't hesitate to clear the air for your benefit. If you want to know, just ask.
CANCER
CAPRICORN
June 22–July 22 You're experiencing a huge burst of confidence right now— don't let it go to waste. Use your newfound self-assuredness to improve your finances. Ask for a deal; make an offer. Always have some type of leverage. And if you can't get what your asking for, be prepared to walk away.
December 22–January 19 Your half-cocked plan is setting you up for confusion and disappointment. If you don't have all the information, don't bother. Sure, you want to start your own business, but until you're armed with solid facts and well-researched possibilities, keep your day job .
LEO
AQUARIUS
July 23–August 22 Decorum saves the day when you receive the most atrocious gift every. What a poker face! You must write a thank-you note no matter what to acknowledge the good intentions—remember, it's the thought that counts. Don't lie, but don't be brutally honest either.
January 20–February 18 If you put half as much effort into focusing on yourself as you invest in everything else, you'd be totally and completely unstoppable. But alas, you'd rather get high off the endorphin rush of complaining. Until you break the addiction, expect little progress. Horoscopes provided by: horoscopes.astrology.com MASSACHUSETTS SINGLES MAGAZINE • www.singlesmag.net
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Logo Design Contest Massachusetts Singles Magazine and www.singlesmag.net have been operating since December 2008 without a real logo—and now we think we’re ready for one! We thought it would be a great idea to give our readers the opportunity to design and choose our logo. WHAT WE’RE LOOKING FOR: We are looking for a graphic symbol or icon that elegantly captures and communicates the essence of MSM’s unique concept—connecting creativity with dating.The logo should be a vector graphic (not a bitmap image) and should be usable in both monochrome and full-color media. It should include the words “Massachusetts Singles Magazine” somewhere in the design. PRIZE: The contest winner will receive two (2) tickets to a 2009 Boston Red Sox® home game, plus a two-page editorial spread in MSM’s May 2009 issue. Winner will be chosen by an on-line vote on our website. Voting ends on April 20. SUBMISSION FEE: $15 per entry. Multiple entries will be accepted. SUBMIT ENTRIES TO: www.singlesmag.net, along with your payment. Please include your name, telephone number, email address, home address, and website (if any). ENTRY DEADLINE: All entries are due by 11:59 PM (EST) on Sunday, March 29, 2009. All entries will appear on our website (www.singlesmag.net). Winner will be announced on May 1, 2009. This contest is void where prohibited. All submissions become the shared property of the artist and www.singlesmag.net. Entries must be received by March 29th, 2009. Any prizes awarded will be at the sole discretion of www.singlesmag.net. The entry must be an original design, and not a copy that may be subject to copyright laws. All entries must obey contest rules or may be subject to disqualification.
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