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“We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable rights, that among these are life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.” - Declaration of Independence Most of us are familiar with the Preamble of The Declaration of Independence but how long has it been since any of us have read the whole thing? In this month’s issue, we have printed it out for you. What do you do with it? Maybe this year on July 4th, we take the time and read it, not just ourselves, but to our family. Perhaps at the picnic or before the fire works, we teach our children just a little about what our freedom cost. I looked up what the word “Freedom” really means and according to the Webster Dictionary this is the definition of “Freedom”: the quality or state of being free: as a : the absence of necessity, coercion, or constraint in choice or action b : liberation from slavery or restraint or from the power of another : INDEPENDENCE
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So what is the cost of Freedom? The “Cost of Freedom” refers to the cumulative actions made by of all those who have given of themselves to establish and to defend the freedoms all Americans enjoy. Most evidently, this means the Veterans who have fought and all too often died throughout the history of our country so that the rest of us might live in peace. My grandfather fought in World War I and my father and all his brothers fought in World War II. My husband and many of the people I went to school with fought in the Vietnam War. Family members have fought in Dessert Shield and now our friend’s children and grandchildren are fighting in Afghanistan and other places. Why? It is because that little seven letter word “Freedom” means so much more than a definition. It means a way of living. A way of living that we would not want to be without. A way of living that we so often take for granted. FREEDOM….Thank you Veterans for it. Thank you men and women who are serving today. FREEDOM…Let’s give thanks for it! Let us also pray for all those who are serving at home and abroad.
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Message From The Heart..........................................................................................pg 3 Renewed, Re-used, Refubished and Fabulous by Meredith Adams.........................pg 6 Mandy’s Misadventures............................................................................................pg 7 Reaching Your Full Potential by Kim Flether..........................................................pg 8 Traveling The World by Eddie Mitchell.................................................................pg 11 How To Decorate Using Your Spouse’s Junk by Susan Guest...............................pg 12 The Fly Lady: Living Off Of Fast Food.................................................................pg 13 Ask The Coach: Why Am I Stuck Doing This?......................................................pg 15 Declaration of Independence..................................................................................pg 16 Nicole Greer: Sophisticated Women Take Their Time...........................................pg 17 Jay Chua: 3 Practical Tips For Your Backyard.......................................................pg 18 The Male Box.........................................................................................................pg 21 Girlfriends In God...................................................................................................pg 22 Secrets To A Happy Marriage by Amber Benge.....................................................pg 23 Nicole Dean: Chaos, Children, and Chores............................................................pg 24 Truth & Beauty: by Teresa Pope.............................................................................pg 25 Get Serious About Your Money by Terry Rigg......................................................pg 26 The Front Porch......................................................................................................pg 27 The Sophie Shopper................................................................................................pg 28 Dinner Diva: Make My Meal A Salad....................................................................pg 31 Shutterbuggerz Feature...........................................................................................pg 32
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Fabulous
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Creating beautiful spaces in our home has become much more fun and economical as we become more willing to mix old and the new styles to find our unique look. Though times are tough and money is tight, we still want “home” to be a beautiful expression of who we are, and a comfortable place to find togetherness with those we love. Treasure hunters and decorators have begun to seek out options for purchasing used antiques and “nearly new” home furnishings to add style and save money for their clients Let’s take a look at some examples of old and new items used together to build an exciting look. Wing Back chairs are a great example of an item that regularly appear in pairs in thrift or consignment stores, but often in dated colors and fabrics. The lines and construction of these chairs are great, but they often need a fresh look easily given by reupholstering. For less than half of what you would pay for a new set of chairs, refurbishing used chairs allow you to add your exact choice of uphostery and style. A set of two gorgeous chairs is enough to create new focal point and exciting change in your home. Lighting is one of the most fabulous ways to save money by choosing vintage or refurbished styles. Whether an ornate crystal chandelier with antique flair, or a sleek contemporary style with modern lines, the right light fixture or chandelier will be the perfect
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Life As A Moving Target
I like to run. No, scratch that. I NEED to run. It’s a definite need. I am a person who has a lot of pent up energy. Nervousness. Aggression I’m too chicken to let out. Semantics, that’s all that is. But when I run; it shoves all of those things out the window, and I can float on my natural endorphin high. You can believe me when I say that if I don’t run for a few days, my entire family starts shoving me toward the door. All this to say I hadn’t been running in a week, when I was starting to feel it. I’d been up for two nights in a row and after Memorial Day week’s new low of shoving ice cream into my face and calling myself “Fatty McButterpants,” I decided it was high time to get up and just do it. So, I made my way to the local park, where there’s a circular walking track on top of a dam that winds down to the bottom of a grassy hill and back up; the total length encompasses a little over two miles. There is a way to cut the track in half, so, I figured I could make it a three mile jog and then throw in the last mile if I felt like it. Which is pathetic because as recently as a month ago I was running seven miles three times a week or more. In any case, I felt that I should start back slow, in hopes of building back up to that, and I didn’t want to overexert myself and thus be unable to get up in the morning. I lumbered over to the start of the track, did a few stretches, cranked up my Ipod and took off, feeling slightly smug at rushing past a twelve year old. I set a good pace, marked where I would let myself rest/walk, and then fell into the music. It wasn’t the typical kind of day for running, being Memorial day and all that goodness. Boats were out on the lake, people were fishing and lots of birds were diving for said fish. I watched a big man struggling with his catch as vultures circled him (yes, literal vultures y’all. I live in critter kingdom). I said a small prayer for him and sped up. The sky was a deep indigo and lightning struck the water in the distance, but no one seemed to be affected by it. That’s the way it is here sometimes. A storm will spin up out of nowhere only to pass by without leaving so much as a drop of rain as evidence. Either way, I was enjoying the nice breeze at about the 1.5 mile marker, a small
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sheen of sweat on my skin and the first glorious bubbles of endorphins beginning when I saw him. He was looming over me, the jerk, flapping his ginormous wings and looking at me. I swear he was grinning. I wanted to ignore him, to run on by because he sure was holding his legs funny when the telltale spray of poop began to fall. I tried desperately to roll away from it; angling my body off the roadway and toward the grass but, as fate would have it, a strong gust of wind kicked up at about that time. Thank God I had the presence of mind to keep my mouth shut as the poo-mist smacked into my arm, which I held up in a feeble attempt to protect myself. As I mustered up what little dignity I had left and began to drag myself on, I could hear the bird’s cackling call in the distance. I swore I would somehow be avenged, more than likely by simply finding a different running track (remember, I’m a peace-keeper at heart..), or by learning how to run in zig zags whenever a bird flies over me. Be proud of me though, I finished my three mile run, then sped home to a bleach bath. That oughta show him.
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these children have come to mean to me. Just a few days before our lakeside day together, their mom had told me that one of the kids asked her what a Godmother is. She shared with him that she had chosen me as their Godmother because I am most like her and if anything should ever happen to her, she wants someone in their lives along with their wonderful family who will instill her values and beliefs into them while loving them unconditionally. Campfire ashes and muddy footprints fade, but the honor of holding this position in a child’s life lasts forever. In recent articles, we have considered what it takes to Reach Your Full Potential. We have specifically considered the power of encouragement and positive supports as well as the impact of taking times of extreme rest and reflection to sharpen your life’s vision. Even more recently, it seems that I am being honored with multiple coaching relationships with younger individuals. Much like my vision and hope for my Godsons is the vision I hold for these youth and young adults that I have the privilege of coaching. Whether they are trying to establish themselves as young parents, choose a college and career path or develop healthier life choice strategies, I pray that these young men and women are becoming more of who they were created to be as a result of our interaction. As Wess Stafford once said, “You know, anyone who is a contributing member in society, you can ask them, Who do you owe that to? Who made a difference in your life? Who believed in you before you believed in yourself?” They can usually point to that person, and the impact is usually nothing more than a phrase or an act of kindness. On the other hand, you can destroy a life just as easily. When I talk about that with people, I watch tears fill their eyes, because most people can remember who exactly almost destroyed them. They remember what they said. They can even remember what the room smelled like, what was going on around them, when that death blow was dealt to them.” As we continue on this journey of living out our full potential, I would like to challenge you with this perspective… No man or woman is truly living out his or her full potential unless they are investing in the lives of the young people around them. As you consider Wess’ question of who has impacted you, take it one step further and ask yourself, “Who can I impact? What lasting life memories can I help create? Who can I believe in and how can I communicate that belief?” You don’t have to be a parent or a grandparent, a teacher or a guidance counselor. There are children in every neighborhood, every church, every family that are just waiting for that impact to come… will yours come to them in time and will it impact them forever in a positive or a negative way?
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It is much easier to start early and build a solid, strong and positive foundation anchored in love than to have to dismantle a life foundation that was built upon disappointment, hurts and disillusionment. Whether you were blessed with a strong loving foundation or find yourself having to rebuild as an adult, I leave you with this challenge: “Imagine the world differently – if children weren’t too small to ignore. If we really had our hearts toward them; if we fought on their behalf, how could the world be different? What would it look like internationally, nationally, and in our cities? How would our churches be different? And even how would our homes ultimately be different?” Wess Stafford, Author Too Small to Ignore Kim Fletcher is a Life Coach,Speaker and Author serving clients nationally and internationally. She would love to offer you a FREE CONSULTATION on how her services could benefit you and your team/organization/group. Contact Kim directly to create a coaching partnership today or to secure her to speak to your group: PHONE: 828 327 6702, EMAIL: kimfletchercompass@gmail.com, WEB: lifecompassinternational.org. Kim would like to thank Mercy Hope, Founder of Faithtalks.com for these personal insights into her interview with Wess Stafford. She invites you to check out the full interview at: http://www.FaithTalks.com/WessStafford.htm.
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Traveling the World
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A country that has captured the imagination over the past few years is China. Many of the old Chinese ways have disappeared so the country seems to more welcoming. Women especially have gained from this new found freedom. They can now work in jobs where they can compete with men; from working in the computer industry to becoming a doctor or lawyer. One negative is that after they have babies it is hard for them to get back to work again. Employers would rather have single women or women without children because it saves them problems with the woman needing time-off to care for the child or being unable to travel. Since 1980 a married couple can only have one child, this was the government’s way of controlling the population. It was important that the woman bore a boy and this especially applied to small town women. This is why so many baby girls either were abandoned or were adopted by American families. In the beginning people were very much against this law but as time has evolved the thinking has altered somewhat. Raising a child is very expensive so many people do not even have children as they feel they cannot afford them. So many changes have taken place in China. The younger generation really does not believe in any religion at all. There are churches and temples for people to pray if they wish but like so many places around the world the young people do not want to take advantage of this. As in the United States women control the buying habits of a family. Chinese women feel that they are far smarter than men when it comes to
sophiewomansmagazine.com / July 2010 / pg 11 controlling money. It is amazing how the Chinese woman’s role has changed so much over the last fifty years. There was a time when the females in a house could not even sit at the table with the men but had to go into another room to eat the meal. In the cities most young people go onto college to earn a degree and many travel overseas to finish their studies. In the small towns however people are much poorer and cannot afford to send the young people on to college. This is a big problem in China, the large cities people have money and in the country they are very poor. Although the Chinese people have a lot more freedom there are still restrictions. The Chinese government still does not allow total freedom of the press. The Olympic Games held in Beijing in 2008 did a tremendous amount to show the Chinese in a different light from the Tiananmen Square fiasco of June 4th 1989. There are still many under lying currents in China but changes are slowly coming. I would prefer to live in America any day.
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Ok, this topic was my husband’s idea. I had no idea that he still carried a grudge over losing his bachelorhood “style”. When we were newlyweds, one item of marital concern was stereo speakers. Not knowing that they were a status symbol in the GQ world, I tried to hide them behind plants. Of course, the plants had to be huge because the speakers were the size of small elephants. Thank goodness Bose stepped up and made small, unobtrusive marriage-saving speakers that were most likely designed by a woman in distress. Another early marriage acquisition was a blue corduroy recliner that had, what I hoped, Captain Crunch and milk stains. This manly chair was comfortable but did not blend with my antiques. Luckily, our aunt bought a second home in Asheville and needed some furniture. Since most households have similar design issues, I have assembled a list of rules for helping them staying out of divorce court during a decorating project. •
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We have lived our whole lives being put down because we were unable to live up to someone else’s standards. You know exactly what I mean! As children we were continually fussed at for not being able to keep our rooms clean. When we went in there to start, we would be completely overwhelmed and no one understood what was the matter! Now as adults we are still have to deal with those accusing tongues! You know the put downs you have received from family members; Mother, husband, sisters-in-law, sisters, and even your children. Most of these people are Born Organized (BO) and have no clue why you just can’t clean your home! For them it comes naturally! For us, we need to be taught! We are not stupid, lazy or slobs! We just don’t do things the way they do. Let’s face it; it is hard for anyone in the family to live up to their standards. Could that be why they are not much fun to be around? They are caught up in their perfectionism and don’t know how to get off of that destructive merry-go-round. There is a fine line between BOs and SHEs(Sidetracked Home Executives). That line is perfectionism. BOs tend to go past that line into obsessive about cleaning. SHEs feel that if we don’t have enough time to do it perfectly, then why even bother. We were taught if you can’t do it right, then don’t do it at all! We do as we are told. Let’s look at what happens when we are confronted with some of those unkind words coming from our loved-ones mouths. I really hate to use that term, because they are not loving when they judge us! Love is unconditional. Their love is only if we live up to their standards. The nasty words can be in snide little remarks or in actions. It doesn’t matter they all hurt just the same. As children we would get in tiffs with our friends and blurt out, “Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words will never hurt me!” As adults, those kind of words do hurt! Here is how! Your mother comes over and you really know in your heart that she is going to look down her nose or say, why can’t you just keep the house clean. It is the same when your husband gets mad because he can’t find any clean socks. You jump up with that serge of adrenalin and get started doing something, anything to look busy! You are running around with your head cut off and you can’t seem to accomplish anything but spinning. We have lived off of this adrenalin since we were children. Let’s call it fast food. Yes it gives us the spurt of energy for a while, but we can’t sustain it for very long. Then we crash and burn. Our anger has been turned inward on ourselves. So with each nasty unkind word, we let a little more of our spirit die; even if those unkind words are only in our heads. I want to teach you how to take a different Flight Plan for your life. You don’t have to eat their fast food anymore! Don’t listen to those voices in your head and make assumptions about what people are thinking. I want you to FLY (Finally Loving Yourself) and it is not going to happen in a few short weeks. Follow a simple morning and before bed routine, declutter just 15-minutes a day and get dressed to shoes and fix your hair and face every morning first thing. Before long you will not care what they have to say, because you know in your heart that you have the Flight plan that will get you out of the CHAOS. You have been starving for just a few crumbs of acceptance from your loved ones. The only way that you are going to be fed, is if you feed yourself with the love and attention you deserve. You can do this! BabySteps will help you to find the substantial nourishing food you need to sustain your Flight! The adrenalin you have been living on, only leaves you wanting. Scarlett said in Gone With The Wind,(I have paraphrased it) “As God as my witness, they aren’t going to lick me. I’m going to live through this, and when it’s all over, I’m never going to be hungry again.” I want for you what I have; PEACE. When you get a small taste of peace, you will never like adrenalin fast food again. No more crash and burn from your self-loathing! You will be FLYing! Are you ready to FLY? For more help getting rid of your CHAOS, check out her website and join her free mentoring group at www.FlyLady.net or her book, Sink Reflections published by Bantam and her New York Times Best Selling book, Body Clutter published by Fireside. Copyright 2010 Marla Cilley Used by permission in this publication.
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Have you ever asked yourself that question? Most people have when they are doing something that they don’t feel is taking them anywhere. Frustration, irritation, and maybe even hopelessness can build up when we find ourselves in a situation like this. I want to provide some insight and hopefully some encouragement to you if you find yourself in this situation. First, I believe that God makes everyone with greatness within them. There is something that we are all called or made specifically to do. When we find that occupation, then the work becomes exciting, energizing, and even fun to do. In fact, it doesn’t seem like work anymore because we love it and as a result we are good at it. Wait a minute, you were just talking about being stuck in a job that you hate and now you are saying that this is part of a process to getting to my ultimate calling and purpose in life. How does that work? Yes, if you stick with the plan and continue to grow and learn, this unpleasant experience can lead you to the right place at the right time for you to live out your dream. Now please understand, I am not saying everything will just come easily without any effort or hard-times in the search for that calling. These experiences are what sharpens our skills and makes us even better at our chosen endeavors. It may take us years of working in other areas and learning skills from other people before we are ready to start our own business. These learning experiences are all training opportunities that have the potential to payoff big for us in the future. However, too many times people miss out on the training because they are focused on how they aren’t doing what they want. They are looking at the negatives of their current situation and not finding the nuggets of learning that will guide them to success. I worked for one of the meanest, most volatile managers I have ever had the displeasure of knowing when I first graduated from college. I was in the banking business and one minute this guy was your best buddy and the next he was biting your head off. I hated the way he acted but I learned to always be prepared for meetings. I never wanted to have him ask for data that I didn’t have or ask a question that I hadn’t thought of an answer before the meeting. I learned to anticipate and have a contingency for all of my
sophiewomansmagazine.com / July 2010 / pg 15 proposals and to be able to think on my feet. This has been invaluable as I progressed in my career and now as the owner of my own business. Those skills are what led me into strategic planning and business development later and allowed me to work with the executive management teams of fortune 100 companies. You don’t want to be unprepared for a question from the CEO or CFO in the board room full of executive vice presidents. That unpleasant experience of working with that manager many years ago actually taught me skills that have made me successful today. So don’t miss out on the education of your current situation hoping for the next job. There is a second chance to miss out on your purpose and that is if you give up and just settle for where you are. I see this a lot in my interactions with people in our community. People who have just resigned themselves to being unhappy at work and never doing anything that is fulfilling or motivating. I have asked some of these people if they could do anything they wanted to and make a living doing it, what would they do. What are you passionate about? Sadly, I have had many people say they are not passionate about anything. This forfeiting of happiness is an early death. It is the death of the spirit and soul of a person. Again I repeat, God puts greatness in all of us. For some it is to be a great teacher who will have an impact on kids for generations to come. It could be the business owner who will create a business that will employ people with good wages that support families and our community. Others may be doctors, lawyers and other professionals, skilled and unskilled laborers. If they are doing what they were made to do then they will be enthusiastic about their work and contributions. We have all met people who love to do their jobs and some of those jobs are things that we would think no-one could possibly enjoy. We need all of these people to make this world a better place to live and work. If you are unhappy with what you are doing, start looking for the nuggets of learning and focus on those. Your attitude will change and your productivity will improve. This will provide you with additional opportunities for growth either within your current employer or outside. Either way you will be growing. This is the key to success in life – constant learning and constant growth. Jody Williams, MBA Action Business Coaching 828-466-2279
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hen, in the course of human events, it becomes necessary for one people to dissolve the political bands which have connected them with another, and to assume among the powers of the earth, the separate and equal station to which the laws of nature and of nature’s God entitle them, a decent respect to the opinions of mankind requires that they should declare the causes which impel them to the separation. We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable rights, that among these are life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. That to secure these rights, governments are instituted among men, deriving their just powers from the consent of the governed. That whenever any form of government becomes destructive to these ends, it is the right of the people to alter or to abolish it, and to institute new government, laying its foundation on such principles and organizing its powers in such form, as to them shall seem most likely to effect their safety and happiness. Prudence, indeed, will dictate that governments long established should not be changed for light and transient causes; and accordingly all experience hath shown that mankind are more disposed to suffer, while evils are sufferable, than to right themselves by abolishing the forms to which they are accustomed. But when a long train of abuses and usurpations, pursuing invariably the same object evinces a design to reduce them under absolute despotism, it is their right, it is their duty, to throw off such government, and to provide new guards for their future security. --Such has been the patient sufferance of these colonies; and such is now the necessity which constrains them to alter their former systems of government. The history of the present King of Great Britain is a history of repeated injuries and usurpations, all having in direct object the establishment of an absolute tyranny over these states. To prove this, let facts be submitted to a candid world. He has refused his assent to laws, the most wholesome and necessary for the public good. He has forbidden his governors to pass laws of immediate and pressing importance, unless suspended in their operation till his assent should be obtained; and when so suspended, he has utterly neglected to attend to them. He has refused to pass other laws for the accommodation of large districts of people, unless those people would relinquish the right of representation in the legislature, a right inestimable to them and formidable to tyrants only. He has called together legislative bodies at places unusual, uncomfortable, and distant from the depository of their public records, for the sole purpose of fatiguing them into compliance with his measures. He has dissolved representative houses repeatedly, for opposing with manly firmness his invasions on the rights of the people. He has refused for a long time, after such dissolutions, to cause others to be elected; whereby the legislative powers, incapable of annihilation, have returned to the people at large for their exercise; the state remaining in the meantime exposed to all the dangers of invasion from without, and convulsions within. He has endeavored to prevent the population of these states; for that purpose obstructing the laws for naturalization of foreigners; refusing to pass others to encourage their migration hither, and raising the conditions of new appropriations of lands. He has obstructed the administration of justice, by refusing his assent to laws for establishing judiciary powers. He has made judges dependent on his will alone, for the tenure of their offices, and the amount and payment of their salaries. He has erected a multitude of new offices, and sent hither swarms of officers to harass our people, and eat out their substance. He has kept among us, in times of peace, standing armies without the consent of our legislature. He has affected to render the military independent of and superior to civil power. He has combined with others to subject us to a jurisdiction foreign to our constitution, and unacknowledged by our laws; giving his assent to their acts of pretended legislation: For quartering large bodies of armed troops among us: For protecting them, by mock trial, from punishment for any murders which they should commit on the inhabitants of these states: For cutting off our trade with all parts of the world: For imposing taxes on us without our consent: For depriving us in many cases, of the benefits of trial by jury: For transporting us beyond seas to be tried for pretended offenses: For abolishing the free system of English laws in a neighboring province, establishing therein an arbitrary government, and enlarging its boundaries so as to render it at once an example and fit instrument for introducing the same absolute rule in these colonies: For taking away our charters, abolishing our most valuable laws, and altering fundamentally the forms of our governments: For suspending our own legislatures, and declaring themselves invested with power to legislate for us in all cases whatsoever. He has abdicated government here, by declaring us out of his protection and waging war against us. He has plundered our seas, ravaged our coasts, burned our towns, and destroyed the lives of our people. He is at this time transporting large armies of foreign mercenaries to complete the works of death, desolation and tyranny, already begun with circumstances of cruelty and perfidy scarcely paralleled in the most barbarous ages, and totally unworthy the head of a civilized nation. He has constrained our fellow citizens taken captive on the high seas to bear arms against their country, to become the executioners of their friends and brethren, or to fall themselves by their hands. He has excited domestic insurrections amongst us, and has endeavored to bring on the inhabitants of our frontiers, the merciless Indian savages, whose known rule of warfare, is undistinguished destruction of all ages, sexes and conditions. In every stage of these oppressions we have petitioned for redress in the most humble terms: our repeated petitions have been answered only by repeated injury. A prince, whose character is thus marked by every act which may define a tyrant, is unfit to be the ruler of a free people. Nor have we been wanting in attention to our British brethren. We have warned them from time to time of attempts by their legislature to extend an unwarrantable jurisdiction over us. We have reminded them of the circumstances of our emigration and settlement here. We have appealed to their native justice and magnanimity, and we have conjured them by the ties of our common kindred to disavow these usurpations, which, would inevitably interrupt our connections and correspondence. They too have been deaf to the voice of justice and of consanguinity. We must, therefore, acquiesce in the necessity, which denounces our separation, and hold them, as we hold the rest of mankind, enemies in war, in peace friends. We, therefore, the representatives of the United States of America, in General Congress, assembled, appealing to the Supreme Judge of the world for the rectitude of our intentions, do, in the name, and by the authority of the good people of these colonies, solemnly publish and declare, that these united colonies are, and of right ought to be free and independent states; that they are absolved from all allegiance to the British Crown, and that all political connection between them and the state of Great Britain, is and ought to be totally dissolved; and that as free and independent states, they have full power to levy war, conclude peace, contract alliances, establish commerce, and to do all other acts and things which independent states may of right do. And for the support of this declaration, with a firm reliance on the protection of Divine Providence, we mutually pledge to each other our lives, our fortunes and our sacred honor.
Sophisticated Women Take Their Time
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It’s time. Time to capture, control, claim and create spaces of time to carry out your mission and vision. You can win the war with the clock. You can find time to do the things you want. You simply need to look at four things: Capture Time: You need strategies that help you win or gain control over your day. Control Time: You need structure that supports your strategies. Claim Time: You need to use the gift of time wisely & create boundaries to protect your time that will shape your future in order to... Create the personal and business life you want. Harvey MacKay, one of the first professional business coaches and author, stated, “Time is free, but it’s priceless. You can’t own it, but you can use it. You can’t keep it, but you can spend it. Once you’ve lost it you can never get it back.” Time is a limited resource. Period. We wake each day to the precious gift of time. Our effectiveness, contributions, and sense of purpose are all affected by our ability to be in sync with the clock. A monthly practice of awareness around time habits can radically change the quality of your life. Like Harvey said, it is up to you. Use it or lose it. Here are Six Tips to Capture, Control, Claim, and Create time for your self: • Capture Strategy: Start your day with an Intention. An intention is your “light at the end of the tunnel”. When you know what a good day looks like you are more likely to take steps to make it happen. If you want a day of healthy eating, a project off your list or a deeper connection with someone you love. Declare it at the beginning of the day. • Capture Strategy: Build 30-minute free blocks of time into your day. Allowing your self blocks of free time alleviates stress by compensating for the unexpected. People show up late. The traffic may be bad. You might need to take a brisk walk, fill your water bottle, or do some centering (my personal favorites) to re-energize yourself and to show up vibrantly before the next appointment. • Control Structure: Inform the people in your life of your plans, your schedule, and your boundaries for the day. Women have a role they love and cherish…caretaker. We have parents, spouses, significant others, children and co-workers that need our love and care. But remember, you need to take care of you in order to take care of all the others. At the beginning of each day, simply inform and educate everyone in your life about your day. Invite them to support you in your exercise plan, your workload, and your intentions by setting an expectation on the time you have for each of them and when it is available. You’ll be better able to love them fully without any resentment or frustration if you’ve reached your personal goals for the day. • Control Structure: Set a timer. Work with tenacity. You know how a deadline can instantly move us from lethargically working at a task to finding immediate energy and will power to get things done. My coach and spiritual director, Ann Starrette gave me great advice. Set a timer for 30 minutes and resolve to pick up the house, clean out the car, or write. Do something that must be done and within a limited space of time and see just how much you can accomplish. You’ll be surprised how much you, a sophisticated woman can accomplish in 30 minutes flat. This will enable you to know a realistic time frame for your daily activities. Armed with this powerful information, you can control your schedule and increase your productivity.
sophiewomansmagazine.com / July 2010 / pg 17 • Claim: Meet your future-self and introduce her to others. I long to be who I know I am inside. You do too. You know deep inside there is a woman of power, who wants to share her strengths, and be generous with her gifts living that are tucked away on the inside. She speaks to you. She is the voice of your future-self. When she speaks, she makes amazing statements to you all day long. Like…“I could do that.” “I want to learn that.” “Let’s go there.” “Why not me?” But the moment we hear her voice, we squelch it, instead of claiming it. Why not you go there to learn that so you can do it in the future? You have to listen to your future-self. She desires to be all that she can be. Next time she speaks listen, claim the future, and begin to develop it. • Create: Do a new thing. Once you have claimed one of the longings of your future-self, simply begin to do this new thing. Maybe you long to write? Or sing? Or act? If you’ve followed the steps outlined above, you have time. Spend it wisely creating the life or business of your dreams.
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Happy Independence Day!
No longer will I refer to this holiday as the 4th of July, because it denies and distracts from the historical aspect of this day. Blood was spent and great courage was displayed, so that we could be free from a tyrant king. This day deserves to be named, not numbered. Some, who hate Christianity would have Christ taken out of that great day by referring to it as Xmas. There are also those who hate this country and would have Independence Day forgotten and merely numbered as the 4th of July. Let the fireworks remind you of the ramparts as they were lit by the rocket’s red glare to see that our flag was still there…lest we forget Courageous men like Patrick Henry showed great bravery to give us this gift of sovereignty, ready to lay down his life for our Independence he demanded, “Give me liberty or give me death!” Thomas Jefferson, the one credited for drafting the Declaration of Independence said,” Believe me, dear sir: there is not in the British empire a man who more cordially loves a union with Great Britain than I do. But, by the God that made me, I will cease to exist before I yield to a connection on such terms as the British Parliament propose; and in this, I think I speak the sentiments of America.” Do we still feel this way today? Well, chin up, because I think we do. From the original Tea Party in December of 1773 to the Tea Party Movement of 2010 we, the people of this great land, demand our independence. Wooed into “change” during the last elections we are again set to be taxed beyond imagination to pay for the immense debt we now find ourselves floundering in. We have spent the future of our children. If we do not do something to reverse this trend they will no doubt point to this generation with disgust and disdain for robbing them of their future. A good friend sent me this quote after my last article for Sophie. It is such a current and apropos statement that it inspired the article I’m writing to commemorate this great day. “We spend so much time, money and energy trying to give our kids what we didn’t have, that we fail to give them what we do have.” We have been told that the TARP and STIMULUS PLANS were set in place to make things better for our children. Better educational, employment and economical opportunities were the promised result of CHANGE. I don’t argue against the desire to give our children better conditions ,however, I do challenge all Americans to do a gut check. Common sense says that we cannot spend our way out of debt. We the people need to MAN UP and reverse direction. While it’s admirable for us to desire better for our children it is NOT right to spend their freedom to try to get it. We will soon owe all but our sovereignty to China. Our children, America’s future, deserves more. Indeed, the meaning and memory of this day are great and should be taught to our children. What should also be taught is that our system of government is so strong and righteous that it can be changed and manipulated and is resilient enough to mend and be stronger because of it. I believe that the people in office are good people, however misguided and mistaken they may be. Violence is unnecessary for we have a system, given us by our forefathers, that has change for growth’s sake built in. My ire is toward the media, who seeing an opportunity to manipulate the election, so that they could have story after story for four of more years, were willing to sacrifice
and sell us all out. This article is not a political assessment nor an indictment but a warning to us all. The media is not and does not want to be our friend. Their business and success is predicated on juicy news. Politicians corrupted and fallen, and a story of crushing debt that will last decades. Fellow patriots, take the media to task, for if you were noteworthy, they would try to make you newsworthy. Coach
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“But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called Today...” (Hebrews 3:13 NIV)
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My husband, Steve, was pumping gas. It seemed like he was always pumping gas. Living out in the country and driving into town each day required gas, and a lot of it. As he stood holding the nozzle and watching the numbers rapidly roll by higher and higher, he noticed an old 1992 grey Honda Civic pull up to the pump behind him. The car had seen better days: rusted roof, missing hubcaps, faded paint, and dented bumper. Out of the corner of his eye, he observed a young woman who appeared to be in her late 20’s get out of the car. She was dressed in medical scrubs and looked about as tired as her Civic. Methodically, she swiped her card, placed the nozzle in the tank, and squeezed the handle. Within one minute of beginning, she stopped squeezing. She then placed the nozzle back in the pump and began screwing the cap back on her tank. That couldn’t have been more than a couple of gallons, Steve thought. “Is that all the gas you’re getting?” Steve asked. “Yeah, well, you know. Trying to space it out,” she replied. Steve placed his nozzle back on in its holder, walked over to her pump, and swiped his card. “Let’s fill it up today.” “No, no. You can’t do that,” she protested. “I already did,” he smiled. “It’s already done. See. The card’s approved. Fill it up.” “Tears welled up in her eyes. “Thank you,” she said. “Now you have a good day,” he replied. “God bless.” And off he drove. I just love that man. As I thought about Steve’s act of kindness, I was challenged to pay closer attention to those around me throughout my busy days. I was stirred to look for someone who needed a kind word, a bill paid, a burden carried. Throughout Jesus’ thirty-three years he walked this earth, he noticed people who crossed his path during his busy day. He noticed a small man in a tree straining to catch a glimpse as he passed by (Luke 19:1-8). He noticed a woman with a bent-over back sitting in the women’s section of the synagogue straining to hear (Luke 13). He noticed a 38-year-old lame man sitting by a pool (John 5). He noticed a grieving mother mourning the loss of her only son (Luke 7). He noticed the hunger of the crowd after a long day of teaching on the hillside (Mark 6). He noticed ... and he did something about it. It is very easy to go about our busy days with blinders on - focusing on
our own little worlds and ignoring the ministry opportunities surrounding us. But Jesus showed us how to pay attention, lighten a load, bestow a blessing, give a gift, help the hurting, and bind-up the broken. Listen, Jesus was busy! He had a lot to accomplish in 3.5 years of his earthly ministry. But he was never too busy to pay attention to the needs of the people around him. Steve was my hero that day. And I suspect, for one young lady in a beatup, old gray Honda Civic, he was her hero as well.
Let’s Pray
Dear LORD, open my eyes today. Forgive me for being so selfish that I forget to notice the needs all around me. Show me someone that I can help today. Show me how I can be Your hands and feet today. I’m listening. I’m watching. I’m paying attention. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
Now It’s Your Turn
I bet you can guess what I’m going to say now. Apply today’s principle and reach out to help someone in need. It doesn’t have to be big. It could be as simple as opening the door for a mother with a stroller. And when you do, I want to hear about it! You won’t be bragging. Don’t worry about that. You’ll simply be encouraging each one who reads your post to be blessed as I’m sure you will be blessed when you reach beyond your own needs to touch someone else. Let’s chat. Visit www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes
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God speaks to us all day long; we simply need to learn how to grow accustomed to His gentle nudges, His tender tugs, and His still small voice that speaks to our hearts. If you would like to learn more about how to sense God’s presence in your own life, then you’ll want to read Sharon’s book, Becoming a Woman who Listens to God. And don’t forget to check out her latest release, What God Really Thinks about Women: Finding Your Significance through the Women Jesus Encountered. Seeking God? Girlfriends in God P.O. Box 725 Matthews, NC 28106 info@girlfriendsingod.com www.girlfriendsingod.com
Secrets to a Happy Marriage by Amber Benge
Keeping a marriage fun and exciting can be a challenge sometimes. When we first got married, I would gaze over at my groom and think that life was absolutely perfect. But if you have been married for any amount of time, you realize that there are seasons to every marriage. There are times when things are good and the love and romance come easy. Then there are times when it is hard and you just tolerate each other for the sake of the principle of marriage. So what is the secret? I don’t have all the answers, but here a few things I’ve learned in my own marriage. 1. Use the INO principle. INO stands for “It’s Not an Option” and there are a lot of areas of marriage that require INO guidelines. For instance, divorce might cross your mind when things get really, really bad, but it’s not an option. Leaving for the night to “just spend some time apart” might sound like a good solution, but INO. At the end of the day, you have to go home. That’s the way it is for me anyway. Choosing to spend time with someone of the opposite sex (whether it’s for a sexual affair or just for a conversation over coffee on a lunch break) is a big INO. I don’t care what anyone says. No friendship between a guy and a girl is COMPLETELY platonic. Someone is open to more at least on a small level. 2. Make him your first priority. Your spouse should be your best friend. Don’t spend time with your spouse because you feel obligated to. Instead, find ways to genuinely enjoy spending time together. 3. Fight Fair. I have learned this one from pure experience. When we were first married,
sophiewomansmagazine.com / July 2010 / pg 23 we did not fight fair. In fact, we just fought and we often shot to kill. We were really young and very different. We had basically nothing in common except that we loved each other. Our first fights were brutal and our words were sharp and cutting. I used guilt to lay heavy loads on him when I felt that he wasn’t meeting my needs. I grew bitter and resentful of his time spent in school, at church, and even with his parents. I was all about “me, me, and me.” And he wasn’t perfect either. The combination caused some dynamite fights and there was a time when I actually packed up our baby girl and drove away. I thought, “If this is what marriage is, I don’t want anything to do with it.” I dropped the baby off with my mother, and spent hours just driving and crying and praying. I knew that INO was going to eventually take me home that night. But I waited until the late hours of the night when darkness had fallen and I picked up the baby and went back home. I will never forget the look on my husband’s face when I walked through the door. He was sitting in our little living room in the dark, just staring out the window. His face was covered in a mix of hurt, anger, and fear. I knew in that moment something had to change. Thankfully, God changed both of us in the days and weeks that followed that day. Where we once fought with no boundaries, now we have learned that there are some things you just don’t say. Where we once tried to inflict the maximum amount of hurt with our words, we have now learned to disagree without causing permanent scars. 4. Pray Together. If you forget everything else you have read here, please remember this one. This will transform your marriage. Even if it seems uncomfortable at first, make it a habit to pray together every day. It might be in the morning or it might be at night before bed. It might be on your lunch breaks. Make it work according to your schedule, but don’t let a single day go by when you don’t pray together. I have been amazed at how our romance factor went through the roof when we started praying together. As I heard his heart through his prayers, I fell in love with my man all over again.
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Chaos, Children, and Chores
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Of course we all love our children dearly, but who knew they’d be so messy? When you have children, you can never count on how long your house will actually stay clean after you’ve cleaned it. A day? An hour? Less? Cleaning up after your kids does not have to take on a life of its own. By making a clean and organized home a priority for the entire family and by setting and sticking to household standards, you can avoid feeling more like Maid than Mom. Ages of Your Children Household chores are not just for older children. Children as young as two can learn to be organized. Toddlers can learn to put away their toys, brush the dog, put their dirty clothes in the hamper and help to unload groceries. Older children need regular household chores. Studies have shown that children who have chores at home get better grades, are more social and more confident than children who do not have chores. Children need a certain amount of responsibility and need to learn to be accountable for their actions. Requiring your children to do household chores will help them to be more well rounded (and organized!) as they grow. Older children can make their beds, keep their room organized and clean, dust and vacuum, wash dishes, feed pets, and water plants. Rewarding Efforts Always thank your children when they’ve completed a chore and praise them for doing it and doing it well (when deserved). The traditional chore chart on the fridge is a great parenting tool for positive reinforcement. Reward your children with stickers on the chore chart next to the chore they’ve completed. When they get X number of stickers, they get a reward - a new book or toy, their favorite dinner, a trip to the movies, etc. The chore chart system can be tweaked and customized for your family to suit each child in the house. Your older children may be more apt to take their chores seriously if there are dollar signs involved. Base your children’s allowance on what you can afford, how many chores your children do and how well they do them. For instance, you can pay according to age (so an 8 year old would receive $8 per week). Or come up with a pricing system that works for you. Luckily, my 3 year old is quite happy with stickers, and my 8 year old is thrilled with Yu-Gi-Oh cards. Flexibility – Make it Fun! When it’s possible, allow your child to choose chores that they like to do. Their response will be better because they will enjoy what they’re doing. My three-year old loves to dust. I let her turn
her music up a bit, hand her a damp rag and she goes to town. It’s a different story when it comes time for her to clear the table after dinner though. That’s like pulling teeth - without pain killers! Do your children fight over who does which chores? Rotate chores from week to week so that your child isn’t stuck doing something he/she hates every week. (This week Susie dusts and Johnny takes out the trash. Next week it’s Susie’s turn to take out the trash and Johnny’s turn to dust.) Try not to base household chores on gender. There’s nothing wrong with your son having to wash dishes or do laundry and there’s nothing wrong with your daughter taking out the trash or washing the car. No housework is strictly for girls or strictly for boys. Send your son off to college with the ability to do his own laundry, and your daughter with the confidence that she can haul out a ladder to change a light bulb. If rotating chores doesn’t work to stop bickering, try writing the chores down on little pieces of paper and having your children pick their chores from a hat each week. If your children don’t have chores, it’s not too late to start. Hold a family meeting and explain that you need help to maintain the house and that effective immediately everyone is going to start pitching in. Introduce chore charts and allowance/reward systems and explain to each child which chores they’ll be responsible for, when each chore needs to be completed and if necessary, how to do it. Be sure to have consequences ready for chores that aren’t done and explain them in advance. In our house, if one chore is neglected or refused, it’s a done deal - no allowance, no negotiations. It may take a few weeks to get your family in full swing, but it will come together - I promise. You are Mom, not Maid. You can ask for help and get it! Your children may not thank you for it now, but later on it will pay off for them - and for you! Make housework a part of your children’s routine and make yourself less stressed. Sit down and supervise for awhile …you knew you had kids for a reason.
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Question: My lips stay dry and chapped and when I apply lip color it runs into the lines above my lip. How can I stop the runs and how can I treat my dry, chapped lips? Answer: If your lips have been dry and chapped for a long time, I would suggest you see a dermatologist to determine the reason. There are many causes such as a Vitamin B-12 deficiency, over exfoliating, over use of lip products such as chap-stick, lipstick and lip moisturizers. However, if your lips are only dry and chapped occasionally the following are a few tips that should help. First, do not use lip gloss. The gloss will, as you say, run into your lines, and the oils from the gloss are to heavy to allow moisture in, therefore it will keep your lips dry. To treat your lips, you need to “lightly” exfoliate your lips approximately twice per week. You can do this by, wetting your finger, dip it into sugar and lightly buff your lips until they feel free of dead
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Did any of you see all the motorcycles we had in our area this past month? I was blown away with the large number of them. We had a group called the International Retreads hold their annual meeting in Catawba County. This group travels all over the world and the amazing thing is most of them are over 60 years old and retired. The varieties of bikes that they came in on were just as amazing to me. There were all different manufactures, colors, styles and number of wheels. I have decided I might need to get one of the three-wheeled variety for me. But should it be one with two wheels in the back or two in the front? I had the privilege to speak to this group and we had the best time. I wanted to know if the ladies that were there drove their own bike in or rode with their husbands. Do you “drive” a bike or do you “ride” a bike? If I am going to think about owning one, I guess I need to learn those kinds of things. Just as many of them had their own bike as the ones that rode with their husbands. That would be another issue with me. I would have to be the driver if my husband and I were to ride together. Would that make him a “Biker Hunk”? One thing I told them was that when I was asked to speak I did not have any idea what to speak on. Usually, I know a little something about the group I am to address. Since these people come from all over and I didn’t know any of them…what would be my topic? The first thing I thought of was our differences. They rode bikes and I drive a “grandmother car”. They spoke funny and I talk “southern”. We are all different in the way we look, dress, think, etc., etc. You get the idea? Then it struck me that even with all the differences, we are all a lot alike. One thing I am so very sure of is that we all like to laugh. You know all the sentiments about laughter and how good it is for you and we all know those to be true but do we really ever stop to think about how good laughter feels? Normally, I am a very happy person and I think I laugh a lot. People tell me all the time that I always have a smile. That is because I have a lot to smile about. No, my life is not perfect and I have as many problems as most of you do. I could dwell on the problems but I prefer to dwell on the good things of life. My husband is a good thing. We are opposites in a lot of ways but we compliment each other. It almost always seems to work out that if he is somewhat down or aggravated over something, then I am the one that can offer the encouragement. When I am the one that needs to be lifted up, he is right there. Funny how that works… I can’t explain it, but it does. Besides all that, we are just naturally funny creatures. Just sit in a mall and watch the crowd. You will find something to laugh about. Can you pull one of those cute little side carts on a three wheeled motorcycle? My husband would look really cute in that….I mean he would look real “hunky” in that! Of course, my bike would have to be pink!
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Often thought of as a side dish, salads can make tasty, energizing meals. Added bonus: they’re quick and easy. We have all heard the horror stories of 1500 calorie salads! You need to be cautious about the toppings, but aside from that, you can let your imagination run wild. Remember that there are many types of lettuce, not just boring non-nutrient-rich Iceberg. Try adding green leaf or red leaf lettuce, radicchio, spinach, Romaine, curly endive and more. Try various combinations. The more different varieties you use the more nutritious your salad becomes. Throw in sprouts, unlimited veggies, a bit of fruit too! Sprinkling on a topping of nuts (just a bit) will make your salad a truly divine meal. Try to buy only organic, locally grown produce. This will go far in helping your salad taste delicious and up your nutritional quotient. Did you know that you can create dressings from veggies and fresh fruit? You can make a wonderful “French” dressing by mixing together little pureed avocado, balsamic vinegar, spicy hot chili sauce, and a little honey for sweetener. Experiment with different flavors. You might surprise yourself! Flavored vinegars, extra virgin olive oils, spices and some imagination, and you can do away with store bought unhealthy processed dressings. To add a little extra protein punch, add in some grilled marinated chicken breasts, fish or leftover steak. There you have it, a salad fit for a meal. It’s a perfectly acceptable plan to serve this kind of salad meal to company too. The best part, it’s easy and you can still enjoy your guests.
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Dinner Salad Toss the following ingredients: -6 cups mixed salad greens (make sure some of it is spinach) -1 cup carrots, chopped -2 tablespoon red onion, chopped -1 Gala apple, cored, and cut into 1/4- inch cubes -2 tomatoes, diced -1 tablespoon almond slivers -1 roasted or grilled chicken breast, cut in strips Dressing: Mix together -1/2 tablespoon honey -1 tablespoon balsamic vinegar -1 squirt hot chili sauce (like Tabasco) -2 tablespoons extra virgin olive oil
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