Volume 6 - Issue 3 May 2010
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hat exactly is Memorial Day? Is it just a holiday where kids maybe get out of school and adults get off from work for a long weekend? I am so saddened that we do not pass on the heritage of so many important holidays and their meaning. In my opinion, it was a big deal…it is a big deal…it should always be a big deal. So many men and women have died for this country and what it stands for and yet we pass right through the holidays that honor those men and women with hardly a thought as to the cost. Have we forgot what a hero is? Is it because there are to few of them today or is it because we have our eyes set on the wrong people? Joseph Campbell said this, “A hero is someone who has given his or her life to something bigger than oneself.” Memorial Day, originally called Decoration Day, is a day of remembrance for those who have died in our nation’s service. Memorial Day was officially proclaimed on 5 May 1868 by General John Logan, national commander of the Grand Army of the Republic, and was first observed on May 30th, 1868, when flowers were placed on the graves of Union and Confederate soldiers at Arlington National Cemetery. The first state to officially recognize the holiday was New York in 1873. By 1890 it was recognized by all of the northern states. The South refused to acknowledge the day, honoring their dead on separate days until after World War I (when the holiday changed from honoring just those who died fighting in the Civil War to honoring Americans who died fighting in any war). It is now celebrated in almost every State on the last Monday in May (passed by Congress) with the National Holiday Act of 1971. Memorial Day should be much more than a long weekend to go on a picnic, go to the beach or plan a shopping trip around some incredible sales. All of those are great but we should stop and remember and most of all give thanks for the United States of America. I agree with what Oliver Wendell Holmes said in his famous 1884 Memorial Day Speech, “So to the indifferent inquirer who asks why Memorial Day is still kept up we may answer, it celebrates and solemnly reaffirms from year to year a national act of enthusiasm and faith. It embodies in the most impressive form our belief that to act with enthusiasm and faith is the condition of acting greatly. To fight out a war, you must believe something and want something with all your might. So must you do to carry anything else to an end worth reaching. More than that, you must be willing to commit yourself to a course, perhaps a long and hard one, without being able to foresee exactly where you will come out. All that is required of you is that you should go somewhither as hard as ever you can. The rest belongs to fate. One may fall-at the beginning of the charge or at the top of the earthworks; but in no other way can he reach the rewards of victory.”
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Message From The Heart..........................................................................................pg 3 Mandy’s Misadventures............................................................................................pg 7 Unlikely Mentors: Reaching Your Full Potential.....................................................pg 8 Mother’s Day: by Teresa Kindred..........................................................................pg 11 Home Seet Home: by Susan Guest.........................................................................pg 12 The Fly Lady...........................................................................................................pg 13 Ask The Coach: What’s The Price?........................................................................pg 14 Kids R Qucik..........................................................................................................pg 15 Nicole Greer: Sophisticated Women Show Up Boldly...........................................pg 17 Women Here & There: by Eddie Mitchell..............................................................pg 19 How To Cater Your Own Party...............................................................................pg 20 Girlfriends In God...................................................................................................pg 22 Truth & Beuty: by Teresa Pope..............................................................................pg 25 The Pickle Jar..........................................................................................................pg 26 The Front Porch......................................................................................................pg 27 The Sophie Shopper................................................................................................pg 28 Mother’s Day Delight.............................................................................................pg 30 Dinner Diva............................................................................................................pg 31 Shutterbuggerz Feature...........................................................................................pg 32
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In 1905, Anna Reeves Jarvis passed away and her daughter, Anna Jarvis, took up her mother’s torch. Anna swore on her mother’s grave site that she would realize her lifelong dream of creating a national day to honor mothers. In 1907, Anna launched her campaign by handing out white carnations to congregants at her mother’s church in Grafton, West Virginia. In 1908, her mother’s church acquiesced to Anna’s request to hold a special Sunday service in honor of mothers - a tradition that spread the very next year to churches in 46 states. In 1909, Anna left her job and dedicated herself to a full-time letter-writing campaign, imploring politicians, clergymen and civic leaders to institute a national day for mothers. In 1912, Jarvis’ efforts met with success: Her home state of West Virginia adopted an official Mother’s Day; two years later, the U.S. Congress passed a Joint Resolution, signed by President Wilson, establishing a national Mother’s Day emphasizing the role of women in their families - and not, like Julia Ward Howe’s campaign, in the public arena. Ever since, Mother’s Day has been celebrated by Americans on the second Sunday in May. Perhaps the country’s greatest proponent of motherhood, Anna Jarvis ironically never had children of her own. Yet that didn’t stop her from making the celebration of Mother’s Day her lifelong mission. In fact, as the holiday took on a life of its own, Jarvis expressed frequent dismay over its growing commercialization. “I wanted it to be a day of sentiment, not profit,” she is quoted as saying.
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I put Savannah in preschool. I’ll say that it’s because she’s brilliant and I can’t handle the pressure of not corrupting that unbridled genius. I’ll leave out that she was trying to launch herself off the back of our couches and jumping on my stomach while squealing “Squishy, squishy!” She was really about stoked about going to school too. She told me about the teacher she would have, about how much she would learn, and especially about making new friends who would love to play Three Musketeers with her. I did my best to build her up but keep her realistic at the same time (“If your friends want to be Ariel, you let them,” “Not everyone likes Elvis the way you do, so maybe we should leave your Elvis Doll at home,” “Oh, of course you can show your teacher you can draw an O!”), and she really was getting excited. We registered on a Thursday and she was going to have to wait until Monday to start going to class, so we counted down the days together. Two days to go until school, and Savannah came to me, a concerned look screwing up her little lips. “Mama?” she asked, “Are you gonna go to school with me?” I told her that I wouldn’t, and she was a little upset with that, but we talked it through, and she decided that school would be better than sitting at home watching television or having to be quiet during Addison’s nap time. The night before her first day of school, we meticulously picked out her outfit, making sure it coordinated down to her shoes. We gathered her book bag and put the necessary things inside, and then set it all out for her to get the next day. I read her her favorite bed time story, tucked her in with a kiss, and we had one last little squeal of excitement before shutting the door. I felt a little sad, but mostly elated. I hope that doesn’t make me a horrible person, but it’s hard to try and entertain someone who seems to have boundless energy in a very small space and with very few possibilities. I can only have a tea party so many times, and how many times is Ken going to try and give True Love’s Kiss to Teresa before Barbie is through with him? And why is Elvis always smart mouthing me?
So yes, the next morning when I sent her off to school, I felt that tiny twinge of nostalgia, you know the one where you picture her as a newborn, pale and swollen and utterly dependent upon you, which makes you long for those days again. You somehow forget that time when she was a newborn and had shotgun style diarrhea before the diaper was put back on. I also felt that little zing in my step because I was accomplishing something good for her, and good for me. Good for her, because, as fun as I can be, I’ll never be her peer, and that’s a need too. Good for me, because I know she’s learning something valuable that I can’t teach. No, seriously. I can’t seem to teach her much. For example, once I was trying to explain to Savannah why the trees lost their leaves and she sighed and said “No, that’s not why.” I think a lesson in anything more than the ABC’s and 123s (which thankfully I have Elmo and Nick Jr. to reinforce what I’m saying if she disagrees) would end in ripped hair and tears. The morning went by quickly and uneventfully, except for Addison looking confusedly around and saying “Nana?” Yes, I think she was searching for her older sister, so sue me. Soon, it was time to go and pick up my school girl. She climbed in the car and waved goodbye while her teachers told me how wonderful she did and how great she was adjusting. “So,” I said, as we pulled away, “How was it?” No answer. “Did you have fun?” A shrug. “What did you learn?” Nothing. “So, what did you do at school today?” I asked, a little more forceful this time, since she was ignoring me. “I pooped.” Savannah said. Well, better luck next time, I guess.
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Reaching Your Full Potential by Kim Fletcher, Life Coach, Author, Speaker
Creating Extreme Rest “I am never speaking to you again.” “That is ridiculous.” “I hate you.” “You disgust me.” “Don’t send a postcard.” Do you have any idea what I did to ‘deserve’ these comments? I took leave of my day to day life and headed to Maui, Hawaii for an entire month! And I am STILL HERE! In fact, I can hear waves in the background as I forced myself to skip my daily pre-breakfast snorkel excursion to write. I have to admit that the reaction of my friends and associates shocked me. We live in a society that finds it extravagant, extreme, selfish, and unnecessary to carve out significant blocks of time to rest and rejuvenate. Personally, I don’t know how people go on without this type of sabbatical! For those who wonder why Hawaii is a favorite destination, I think it is because native Hawaiians understand the importance of stopping long enough to share and truly enjoy life. They don’t live to work. They work to live. Last month, we discussed several reasons why it is important to fulfill your full potential. This month, I want to share a few briefs thoughts on one key strategy that is required… creating extreme rest. Each and every person needs and deserves significant blocks of time to
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Your life may not be structured to leave your day to day routine for an entire month as I have been blessed to do. My encouragement to you is to begin with the largest block of time you can carve out, put it on your calendar, and keep that appointment with yourself! My first Life Coach challenged me to take a solid week annually, a long weekend quarterly, a full day monthly and a short time daily to be quiet before God, consider the direction of my own life and to plan, envision, dream and stay in touch with all that really matters. As you can see, I took her advice and put an ‘extreme spin’ on it. Drop me a line and let me know how you begin building ‘sabbatical’ into your life and how it makes a difference. I will be in touch as soon as I knock the sand off of my ‘slippers’.
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Mother’s Day by Teresa Kindred Yes, mother’s day comes and goes. But the memories linger and remain... “The woman who creates and sustains a home and under whose hands children grow up to be strong and pure men and women, is a creator second only to God.” —Helen Hunt Jackson Mother’s Day has been difficult for me since my mother died of cancer in 1990. There are many things I miss about her, but what I miss the most is sharing my children with her. Sometimes I get a twinge of sadness because I was never able financially to give her even a tiny fraction of what she gave me. My Mother’s Day gifts to her were usually inexpensive, a pair of new pajamas, a new purse. Then I realize that my love was the only gift she ever really wanted. I was reminded of that yesterday when my seven year old thanked me for his birthday presents. “Mom,” he said, ”do you know which gift I liked best?” I imagined it would be the super-soaker water gun, guaranteed to shoot up to fifty feet, the one he used to squirt his sister, the dog, and me. But that wasn’t what he said. “It’s the love you gave me Mom,” he stated, then ran off to play. I stood frozen with my mouth open and the tears sliding down my face, suddenly feeling very overwhelmed with how wonderful motherhood can be. How I longed to pick up the phone and call the person who was not only my mother, but also my best friend, to tell her that the love she gave me now lives on in her grandchildren. But I couldn’t. Her love for me lives on in other ways too. It visits me in the spring when the flowers she planted a few months before she died bloom. It comes to me from her former students when they write me letters, or take the time to tell me what a wonderful teacher she was. And so each Mother’s Day I have a host of bittersweet memories. I rejoice that in a world of abused and abandoned children, I had a mother who loved me, nurtured me, and taught me right from wrong. And I cry, because I miss her friendship, her strength, her humor, and her love for my children. There is a creed in Robert Fulghum’s wonderful book, All I Really Need To Know I Learned In Kindergarten. It is called the “Storytellers Creed” and I asked the minister to read at Mama’s funeral. It says in part...
...my love was the only gift she ever really wanted.
I believe that imagination is stronger than knowledge. That dreams are more powerful than facts. That hope always triumphs over experience That laughter is the only cure for grief. And I believe that love is stronger than death. —Robert Fulghum Love really is stronger than death because it comes from God, and it is because of God and His sacrifice, that we have hope of life eternal. And then there will be no more goodbyes, because like the old hymn says there will be “no tears in heaven.” © 2001, Teresa Kindred. Used by permission. www.nanahood.com
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Home is where the heart is. Or is it? Most of us spend hours dreaming of ways to improve the function and beauty of our homes. As an interior designer, I obsess over every detail of a client’s living environment. Each project is a chance to address the person’s personality, needs, and objectives, and show off my awesome skills. Two years ago, a friend introduced me to Safe Harbor Rescue Mission--an organization that helps homeless and hurting women. I was astounded by the number of homeless women, men, and children in our area. There are many who sleep in the woods and in tent communities. One such person made his bed outside the side entrance of my church last Sunday. Another was asleep under my husband’s trailer at work early one morning. Volunteering last summer at the day shelter for Safe Harbor was a humbling experience. I met women who were homeless due to both circumstances out of their control and bad decisions. Some had mental issues and could not afford the medicines to stabilize their minds and lives. Some had been isolated from their families. The thing that impressed me most with these ladies, was that we had so much in common. We all had the same need to laugh, love, eat, sleep, and feel loved and sheltered. This really put my life in perspective. Many of us are one catastrophe away from being homeless. As unemployment soars, the number of homeless people will grow. The need for Safe Harbor, Flynn Home, Salvation Army, Soup Kitchen, and the other wonderful non-profit organizations in our area will also increase. There are many ways that we can help: • Volunteering time and money to help these organizations and other worthy causes. • Thinking twice about purchasing cheap, temporary products that we can live without. • When remodeling, plan to donate gently used items to Habitat for Humanity, Goodwill, Salvation Army, or other organizations in the community. • When purchasing new products, buy only what you really need and will love for a long time. • Try to purchase items that are made locally or at least in this country, so that we can keep the number of unemployed to a minimum. Enjoy your home and be surrounded by an environment that nurtures your soul and gives you the best possible life. However, keep in mind that there are those less fortunate who can benefit from even small decisions that you make. We are all in this life together.
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e have lived our lives not being able to open the door; you know that “can’t have anyone over syndrome” that has paralyzed us. We have other doors that we hide behind. It is perfectionism that keeps us huddled behind them in fear and shame. Remember that the opposite of love is fear. I want for you what I have peace, and this peace came from loving me just the way I am. This means with all my warts and blemishes. Now this process of loving myself didn’t happen over night. Just like your home is not going to get clean in a day. All my life I have been told (by my family) you have such a pretty face, if only you would lose some weight. Those if onlys and buts tend to negate the good that was said: Why couldn’t they just stop with the pretty face. Then at the same time, I was programmed with, “Pretty is as pretty does”: On one hand it is how I act and then almost in the same breath it was putting me down because of my physical appearance. Learning to love myself was the hardest thing I ever did. In my perfectionism, I was self-conscious of the way I looked. So I hid behind baggy clothes (another door) and sweat shirts, and long coats. As a result, I had a new mantra in my life. When I lose weight, I will......! When I lose the baby fat, when I go on a diet, if only I could fit into that dress, this year I am going to lose weight. Let me tell you, I became my own worst nightmare. The negative mindset was causing me to gain even more weight. Not only had I closed the door on my future by hiding behind my insecurities but I had throw away the key thinking I was not worthy to have or do anything because I was embarrassment to my family. I started hiding behind these doors in high school. Guess what friends, I was not heavy in high school. I just was not small like my sisters. My body type was different. My grandmother is 5’ 2” and so are two of my sisters. At the time I didn’t know I was different. I just believed all the lies that were lovingly shoved down my throat. As a result, I started to overeat: Stuffing my feelings of inadequacy by feeding my face. I was finding comfort any way I could. Then I would feel so bad. It was a vicious cycle. Then new years would roll around and I would find myself making that perpetual resolution to get THIN again! Twenty years ago, I started my journey of peace! The first step was getting the audible negative voices away from me. I divorced him. I knew that I was going to die if I allowed myself to be brainwashed by him one more day. I also distanced myself from the rest of the family. That way I only heard the negative voices on the phone when I called my granny or my mother. “Honey are you still big?” was a common question. The change for me was immediate. No I didn’t start to lose weight. I quit beating myself up with diets and torture. The negative self-talk was going away and I was replacing it with loving gestures; bubble baths, meditation, walks in the woods, fishing, and kind words in my head. Whenever I would mentally hear those ugly words, I would replace them. The hardest part to all of this is recognizing that you say them to yourself in the first place. Once that light bulb goes off, you begin to heal. Every thing that has happened to me in my life has made me the person that I am. I am thankful for every single bad thing that has every happened to me. Those things make me stronger and more able to share with you. In my imperfection I can help you become who you are supposed to be. It was only after I personally started to Finally Love Myself (FLY) that I found my voice. Don’t ever forget that the message is not about me, it is about you and helping you to FLY! If I can teach you this one lesson, your home will come together. It is an all inclusive process. The babysteps, shining your sink, getting dressed to shoes, fixing your hair and face, building your routines are all part of FLYing, as well as getting rid of the clutter from your life. Don’t get caught in the revolving door of I’ll do this when. We all have to start someplace. Let go of the negative attitudes and selfdefeating behavior and be nice to you for a change. For more help getting rid of your CHAOS, check out her website and join her free mentoring group at www.FlyLady.net or her book, Sink Reflections published by Bantam and her New York Times Best Selling book, Body Clutter published by Fireside. Copyright 2010 Marla Cilley Used by permission in this publication.
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“What’s The Price?” by Jody Williams I am hearing the same thing from almost all of my clients. It is a price driven market place and everyone is just interested in the lowest price. Service, quality, loyalty, none of that matters; it is just who has the lowest price. You may be thinking the same thing if you are involved in selling your product or service. It is true that because of the economy people have become more sensitive to price than in the past, however, with the proper training you can move people past the pricing question. The most effective technique to answer the dreaded price question is to ask them a series of questions. Let’s pretend that we are working at a retail store that sells home goods and a customer asks the price for a pot. It would be easy to say,” $24.95” and if we are the lowest, then we will get the sale. Really, how different can one pot be from another you may ask? However by not asking any questions, we miss an opportunity to have a conversation and learn what the customer really needs. You could ask, “Is this going to be for you or a gift?” “Do you want a pot that has a really fast boiling time or is that something that is not as important?” “How often will you be using this pot?” “Is it important to have an automatic turnoff feature for safety?” “Are you looking for a stove-top or an electric option?” “Is this replacing an old pot and if so what was the brand and features you liked and disliked about the old one?” “Is there a
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as now is not the time to try new recipes. Think about foods that can be stretched to feed a crowd that will be relatively inexpensive per plate. For example, offering guests individual steaks is far more expensive than cooking a roast beef that is sliced and served. Pasta, rice and potato dishes are filling and can be made in quantity. Remember to factor in at least one item that vegetarians can enjoy. Salads and vegetable dishes can serve to supplement meals, but generally are not as well received as other fare. 5. How much food? It takes about 120 servings to feed 100 people. That’s because you want to have extra food on hand for bigger eaters. Those who serve themselves in buffet lines tend to take larger portions than if portions are served by a buffet server. Teenagers (even girls) tend to eat more than adults, too. When serving beef and a second meat, such as chicken or pork, on a buffet, allow for 5 ounces ready-to-eat beef plus 3 ounces ready-to-eat second meat for each person. Therefore, you’ll need roughly 50 pounds of your first meat, and 25 pounds of your second meat to feed 100 people, if you allot extra for big eaters. Plan for 15 to 20 2-liter bottles of soda for beverages or the equivalent in punch or iced tea.
There are many reasons to cater your own event. Perhaps you desire ethnic or regional foods not readily available. Maybe your venue cannot accommodate the number of people you desired. Generally, however, people choose to self-cater to save money. Hiring a caterer may cost in excess of $30 per person. You can typically cut your costs in half by doing it yourself with the right planning.
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Faith In The Storm by Sharon Jaynes
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“’For I know the plans that I have for you,’ declares the LORD, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future’” (Jeremiah 29:11 NIV).
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The most difficult times to continue believing the promises of God are during the storms of life when the waves of emotions are so great they threaten to tip your boat and spill you into an ocean of despair. I have been there, my friend. And I do know it can be the most difficult time to believe the truth and the easiest time to believe the enemy’s lies. Let me share one such storm in my own life. When my husband, Steve, and I decided to have children, we conceived with no problem. Steven Hugh Jaynes, Jr. was born with a shock of thick black hair and long Bambi-like eyelashes that had the nurses measuring for record breaking length. I loved being a mother more than any role I had ever experienced. Never in my life had I ever imagined so much love could be wrapped in such a small package. Steven was about two-years-old when we decided to expand our family once again. “Steven,” we explained, “We are praying that God will give Mommy and Daddy another Jaynes baby so you can have a little brother or sister.” He thought that sounded like a good idea, so he ended our family prayer time each night with the benediction, “And God, please give Mommy and Daddy another Jaynes baby. Amen.” After six months, there was no news of another Jaynes baby. I was perplexed. Then a year passed. I was distraught. Then two years passed. I began sinking in a sea of fear and doubt. All the while, Steven prayed each night, “And God, please give Mommy
and Daddy another Jaynes baby.” My husband and I began traveling down the frustrating road of doctor visits, infertility treatment and timed intimacy (which is anything but intimate). Then I began worrying about how this “unanswered” prayer was going to affect Steven’s faith in God. By age four, we still had no news for Steven. Obviously, it was not the Lord’s plan for us to have another child at this time and I didn’t know how to tell Steven that we didn’t have to pray that prayer every night. I kept hoping that he would just forget about it. But he didn’t forget about it any more than he forgot the “Amen” at the end of a prayer. So I began to pray, Lord please show me how to ease out of this predicament. Show me how to tell Steven that we don’t need to pray for another baby every night. I do not want this seemingly unanswered prayer to damage his faith. We have a miniature table and chairs in the kitchen where Steven and I ate lunch together each day. One day while sharing peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, Steven looked up, and in his sweet little voice said, “Mommy, have you ever thought that maybe God only wants you to have one child?” Shocked, I answered, “Yes, I have thought that maybe that is the case and if it is, I am so thankful because He has given me all I ever hoped for in a child wrapped up in one package, YOU!” Then he turned his little head like a robin and said, “Well, what I think we ought to do is keep praying until you’re too old to have one. Then we’ll know that’s His answer!” What a great idea. I had been worried about Steven’s faith, but all the while, it was my own that was struggling. I was having trouble believing that God loved me when He was withholding what I wanted most...a house full of children. How could He love me and not give me the desire of my heart? I wondered. Maybe He doesn’t love me after all.
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A favorite song Steven used to sing when he was four-years-old had these words: “My God is so big, so strong, and so mighty. There’s nothing my God cannot do. The mountains are His. The valleys are His. The stars are His handiwork too. My God is so big, so strong, and so mighty. There’s nothing my God cannot do.” Steven didn’t know how old too old was, (Sarah in the Bible was 90), but he did know God. He knew God could do anything. If His answer was “no” he didn’t have a problem with that. I told him “no” many times and he understood that “no” did not mean “I don’t love you.” “No” just meant “no,” because I am your parent and I know what’s best for you. The Lord taught me a great lesson through my four-year-old son. I saw through his childlike faith, an example of the attitude of trust that I should have toward my Heavenly Father who loves me and knows what’s best for me. And though the storm had subsided for just a while, a tidal wave hit a few years later. Join me tomorrow for the rest of the story.
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Dear Heavenly Father who always knows what is best for me, today I give You my hopes and my dreams. If the answer is “no,” I understand that You know what is best for me and honestly, I don’t have a clue. Thank You for both Your provision and Your protection. In Jesus’ Name, Amen
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Question: I have a lot of discoloration in my face. I have freckles, and some brown spots that aren’t freckles and I have a lot of redness to my skin, especially around the corners of my nose and on my cheeks. What causes this and what kind of facial or cream can I use to get rid of all these spots? Answer: I am sorry to say that a facial will not make those spots go away. There are a few bleaching creams that will “fade” the spots, but will not make them go away completely. And you will have to use the cream a couple of times per day and for several months before you see results. The bleaching creams will do nothing for the redness in your skin; in fact they could make it a little worse. My suggestion would be to get an IPL laser treatment. IPL stands for Intense Pulsed Light. You may also hear it referred to as Photorejuvenation or Photo Facial. IPL is used to treat sun damaged skin, just as you have described... conditions such as rosacea, broken vessels, freckles and age spots. Age spots are those horrible brown spots that your grandmother called “liverspots”. They are simple sun damaged skin that has hyper-pigmented. IPL works by targeting the melanin in age spots and freckles, and the hemoglobin in the vessels or the ink in a tattoo. It literally heats the target area until it is destroyed and will then be absorbed back into the skin tissues. It will only target the discolorations in the skin and leave the surrounding skin unharmed. The IPL laser is completely safe and is only slightly uncomfortable. IPL should not be performed on actively tanning skin, and is Not recommend for darker skin types such as African Americans, Asians and Latinos. The cost of the treatment will depend on how many areas of the face you would like to treat. In my opinion, the results are well worth the cost, and the results are almost instantaneous. After the treatment, you may feel as if you have a slight sunburn. After about 2 days the spots will darken and then in about 1-2 weeks they are gone, leaving no evidence behind, that they were ever there. You will be surprised at how young and fresh you skin will look, without “all those spots”. I do caution, however, do choose a skilled professional to perform your laser treatment. It should only be done in a doctor’s office by a trained technician. Lasers can cause permanent scarring if not done correctly. An esthetician can perform some types of laser treatments, but a doctor MUST be on site. Since I work in a spa and not a physicians office, I do not perform laser treatments of any kind. As I stated earlier, there are many skilled technicians in our area. I would suggest going in for a consultation first, to interview your laser technician, to help you decide where you want to go to get “unspoted”.
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The pickle jar as far back as I can remember sat on the floor beside the dresser in my parents’ bedroom. When he got ready for bed, Dad would empty his pockets and toss his coins into the jar. As a small boy, I was always fascinated at the sounds he coins made as they were dropped into the jar. They landed with a merry jingle when the jar was almost empty. Then the tones gradually muted to a dull thud as the jar was filled. I used to squat on the floor in front of the jar to admire the copper and silver circles that glinted like a pirate’s treassure when the sun poured through the bedroom window. When the jar was filled, Dad would sit at the kitchen table and roll the coins before taking them tothe bank. Taking the coins to the bank was always a big production. Stacked neatly in a small cardboard box, the coins were placed between Dad and me on the seat of his old truck. Each and every time, as we drove to the bank, Dad would look at me hopefully. ‘Those coins are going to keep you out of the textile mill, son. You’re going to do better than me. This old mill town’s not going to hold you back.’ Also, each and every time, as he slid the box of rolled coins across the counter at the bank toward the cashier, he would grin proudly. ‘These are for my son’s college fund. He’ll never work at the mill all his life like me.’ We would always celebrate each deposit by stopping for an ice cream cone. I always got chocolate. Dad always got vanilla. When the clerk at the ice cream parlor handed Dad his change, he would show me the few coins nestled in his palm. ‘When we get home, we’ll start filling the jar again.’ He always let me drop the first coins into the empty jar. As they rattled around with a brief, happy jingle, we grinned at each other.. ‘You’ll get to college on pennies, nickels, dimes and quarters,’ he said. ‘But you’ll get there; I’ll see to that.’ No matter how rough things got at home, Dad continued to doggedly drop his coins into the jar. Even the summer when Dad got laid off from the mill,and Mama had to serve dried beans several times a week, not a single dime was taken from the jar. To the contrary, as Dad looked across the table at me, pouring catsup over my beans to make them more palatable, he became more determined than ever to make a way out for me ‘When you finish college, Son,’ he told me, his eyes glistening, ‘You’ll never have to eat beans again - unless you want to.’ The years passed, and I finished college and took a job in another town. Once, while visiting my parents, I used the phone in their bedroom, and noticed that the pickle jar was gone. It had served its purpose and had been removed. A lump rose in my throat as I stared at the spot beside the dresser where the jar had always stood. My dad was a man of few words: he never lectured me on the values of determination, perseverance, and faith. The pickle jar had taught me all these virtues far more eloquently than the most flowery of words could have done. When I married, I told my wife Susan about the significant part the lowly pickle jar had played in my life as a boy. In my mind, it defined, more than anything else, how much my dad had loved me. The first Christmas after our daughter Jessica was born, we spent the holiday with my parents. After dinner, Mom and Dad sat next to each other on the sofa, taking turns cuddling their first grandchild. Jessica began to whimper softly, and Susan took her from Dad’s arms. ‘She probably needs to be changed,’ she said, carrying the baby into my parents’ bedroom to diaper her. When Susan came back into the living room, there was a strange mist in her eyes. She handed Jessica back to Dad before taking my hand and leading me into the room. ‘Look,’ she said softly, her eyes directing me to a spot on the floor beside the dresser. To my amazement, there, as if it had never been removed, stood the old pickle jar, the bottom already covered with coins. I walked over to the pickle jar, dug down into my pocket, and pulled out a fistful of coins. With a gamut of emotions choking me, I dropped the coins into the jar. I ooked up and saw that Dad, carrying Jessica, had slipped quietly into the room. Our eyes locked, and I knew he was feeling the same emotions I felt. Neither one of us could speak.
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Mom, I loved you yesterday, I love you tomorrow and everyday. You were there for me my first day of school, to hold my hand and give me courage to go. You listened to me when I needed to talk; you talked to me when I needed to listen. You let me grow and learn from my own mistakes. You never left my side when I was feeling down; I knew you would be there to pick me up. I wish there was a way I could repay all the things you have done for me, but there’s nothing great enough to repay the greatest mother of all.
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Frozen Raspberry Layer Cake
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he Mother’s Day brunch is arranged, the cards and flowers are picked out — now it’s time to make a show-stopping dessert that will truly make her day. And it’s easier than you might think. When looking for the perfect way to treat mom on Mother’s Day, try a simple search on Bing.com. Bing makes it easy to find recipes by meals, convenience, or even ingredients to find just the right recipe — like cheesecake, pie or blackberry cobbler — to truly delight the special mom in your life. Show your mom just how much she means to you by making her something special and giving her a Mother’s Day she won’t forget. Here are three delicious ideas.
Frozen Raspberry Layer Cake
From Country Living Prep Time: 20 minutes (not counting freezing times) Total Freezing Time: 4 hours+ Servings: 8 to 10 2 10 3/4-ounce frozen pound cakes, crusts removed, sliced into 1/4-inch-thick slices 3 cups vanilla ice cream, slightly softened 4 cups raspberry sorbet, slightly softened 1 pint fresh raspberries, rinsed and picked over 3 tablespoons Chambord, or other raspberry-flavored liqueur Prepare the pan: Trace and cut out a 9-inch circle from parchment paper and fit it into the bottom of a 9-inch springform pan. Cut out a 3- by 27-inch strip of parchment and fit around inside of pan. Tape to secure parchment paper and set aside. Assemble the cake: Cover bottom of pan with a single layer of pound cake slices and spread ice cream evenly over cake. Freeze until ice cream hardens — about 25 minutes. Spread 2 cups sorbet over ice cream, followed by another layer of pound cake slices. Return cake to freezer for 10 minutes. Combine raspberries and Chambord together in small bowl. Remove cake pan from freezer and place berries evenly over cake. Top with a final layer of pound cake and remaining sorbet. Wrap tightly with plastic wrap and freeze until firm — at least 4 hours.
Strawberry Shortcake Cupcakes
Strawberry Shortcake Cupcakes
From Redbook Prep Time: 25 minutes Cook Time: 24 minutes Servings: 12 1 1/3 cups all-purpose flour 1/2 teaspoon baking powder 1/2 teaspoon baking soda 1/4 teaspoon salt 1/2 cup unsalted butter, softened 2/3 cup granulated sugar 2 large eggs 1 1/2 teaspoons vanilla extract 2/3 cup sour cream Topping 1 quart strawberries, hulled, thickly sliced 1/3 cup granulated sugar 1 tablespoon lemon juice 1 1/2 cups cold heavy cream 3 tablespoons confectioners’ sugar 1 tablespoon vanilla extract Heat oven to 350° F. Line 12 standard muffin cups with paper liners.
In medium bowl, whisk flour, baking powder, baking soda, and salt. In large bowl with mixer on medium, beat butter and sugar until light and creamy. Beat in eggs, 1 at a time, then vanilla. With mixer on low, alternately beat in flour mixture and sour cream until combined. Continue to beat on medium until batter is thick and smooth. Spoon batter into a zip-top bag. Snip a 1/2-inch corner from bag and fill liners slightly less than two-thirds full. Bake 24 to 26 minutes, or until lightly golden and a pick inserted in the center of a cupcake comes out clean. Cool in pan on a wire rack 5 minutes; remove cupcakes from pan and cool completely. Toss strawberries several times in a bowl with sugar and lemon juice until very syrupy. In large bowl, beat cream, confectioners’ sugar, and vanilla until soft peaks form. Use a skewer to poke several holes into top of each cupcake. Spoon some syrup from bowl over top, allowing it to absorb into cupcakes. Top with sliced berries and a dollop of cream. Arrange a few sliced berries in cream and drizzle with remaining strawberry syrup.
Upside-Down Honey Cheesecakes
Upside-Down Honey Cheesecakes
From Bon Appétit Prep Time: 25 minutes Cook Time: 35 minutes Chilling Time: 1 hour + Servings: 12 1 cup sugar 1/3 cup honey 1/4 cup (1/2 stick) unsalted butter 1/3 cup water 3 8-ounce packages cream cheese, room temperature 2/3 cup (packed) golden brown sugar 1 cup sour cream 2 teaspoons fresh lemon juice 2 teaspoons vanilla extract 4 large eggs, room temperature Assorted fresh berries (for garnish) Preheat oven to 300°F. Butter twelve 3/4-cup ramekins or custard cups. Place 1 cup sugar, honey, and butter in heavy medium saucepan. Stir over medium heat until butter melts and mixture is blended. Increase heat to medium-high and bring to boil. Whisk until mixture darkens slightly and candy thermometer registers 300°F, about 5 minutes. Remove from heat; add 1/3 cup water (mixture will bubble vigorously); whisk to blend. Divide topping among ramekins (about 2 tablespoonfuls for each). Divide ramekins between 2 roasting pans and chill while preparing filling. Using on/off turns, blend cream cheese and brown sugar in processor, scraping bowl occasionally. Add sour cream, lemon juice, and vanilla; process until smooth. Add eggs 1 at a time, processing just to blend between additions. Divide filling among ramekins. Add enough hot water to pans to come halfway up sides of ramekins. Bake cheesecakes until set, about 35 minutes. Remove from roasting pans and chill until firm, about 1 hour. DO AHEAD: Can be made 2 days ahead. Cover and keep chilled. Run thin knife around sides of ramekins. Invert onto plates, scooping any remaining topping from ramekins over cheesecakes. Garnish with berries.
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By Leanne Ely CNC
If you’re looking for a way to bulk up your diet without bulking up your backside, the answer is fiber. It makes all the difference and will keep your body regular (if you know what I mean) and will fill you up so eating less is easier. Here’s how you do it: Let’s start with breakfast. Look for cereals with 10 grams or more of fiber ? it’ll be listed under nutritional facts. Measure out a cup of cereal, throw on a splash of nonfat or low-fat milk, add some fresh or frozen berries and you’re fibered up and ready to start your day. For lunch, a nice lentil soup is off the hook, full of fiber. It’s delicious and just one cup will fill you up (and give you 15 grams of fiber)! Not only are lentils full of fiber, but also studies have shown that they help prevent heart disease. So grab that ladle and slurp your soup! At the dinner table, remember to eat your veggies, the best source of fiber on your plate. Good fibrous vegetables you should try to incorporate include: avocado, broccoli, Brussels sprouts, greens (kale, collards, etc.), peppers and sweet potatoes. Just a half cup of artichoke hearts have 5 grams of fiber. I’m especially fond of marinated artichoke hearts (I buy them frozen and make my own with extra virgin olive oil and balsamic vinegar) in my salad.
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