Uniquely You! Indy September 2024 Digital Issue

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PHOTO BY LAUREN LEWIS WITH THE HEART NARRATIVE

ABA & COMPREHENSIVE SERVICES

BehaviorWorks ABA (317) 731-7777 behaviorworksaba.com

K1ds Count Therapy (317) 520-4748

Mindful and Modern ABA Therapies (317) 827-7777

ABA / RESIDENTIAL & COMMUNITY SUPPORT Tangram www.TheTangramWay.org

ABA SERVICES

Piece by Piece Autism Center (765) 481-2261

The Umbrella Center (463) 701-0909

ABA SERVICES - IN HOME B Above Services (317) 773-0500 www.baboveservices.org

Blue Balloon ABA (317) 650-1109 www.blueballoonaba.com

ABA/COMPREHENSIVE SERVICES

The Hope Source (317) 578-0410

Autism Diagnostic Services

ABA In-Clinic Therapy ABA In-School Waiver Behavior Support

ADULT INDEPENDENCE

Janus Developmental Services, Inc. (317) 773-8781 www.janus-inc.org/

ATTORNEY-WILLS/TRUSTS/ ESTATE PLANNING

Law Office of Elizabeth A. Homes LLC (317) 660-5004

Stinson Law Firm (317) 622-8181 www.stinsonlawfirm.com

BEHAVIOR MANAGEMENT

Supportive Behavior Services (765) 337-1895 www.supportivebehaviorservices.com

CASE MANAGEMENT

Connections Case Management (317) 440-0637

CLEANING: RESIDENTIAL & COMMERCIAL

The Dust Devils (317) 709-6120

COMMUNITY SUPPORT

Achieve Community Services (317) 918-0337 acssupports.com/

AID of Indiana (765) 273-3999 aidofindiana.com/

Carters Play Place (317) 836-5510

cartersplayplace.com

LEL Home Services (317) 387-1443

lelhomeservices.com

Muscular Dystrophy

Family Foundation (317) 615-9140 www.mdff.org

Noble (317) 375-2700

Phoenix Community Services LLC (765) 622-7808 www.Phoenixcommser.com

The Arc of Hancock County (317) 462-3727 www.thearcofhancockcounty.com

FINANCIAL

WestPoint Financial Group

Gordon Homes (317) 567-2005

HOME CARE

Amiable Home Care Inc. (317) 802-1746

HOME CARE & TRANSPORTATION

ABC Community Services LLC (317) 516-1178 www.abccommunityservices.com

HOME HEALTH SERVICES

Tendercare Home Health Services (317) 251-0700 www.tchhs.net/

HOME MODIFICATIONS / SPECIALTY EQUIPMENT

Specialized Home Care Services (888) 506-4182 www.specialized4u.com/

ICE CREAM

Howdy Homemade Ice Cream (317) 397-0008 www.howdyindy.com

INSURANCE

State Farm John Cole (317) 430-1958

Thomas Insurance Agency (756) 561-5138

KID’S SENSORY GYM

Rock the Spectrum (317) 764-6607 werockthespectrumcarmel.com/

MEDICAL EQUIPMENT & PHARMACY

George’s Pharmacy & Medical Equipment (855) 600-6251 www.georgespharmacy.com

MUSIC THERAPY

Dynamic Music Therapy (317) 829-6654

NEUROFEEDBACK THERAPY

Indy Neurofeedback (317) 888-8500

SCHOOL

Dynamic Minds Academy (317) 578-0410

Midwest Academy (317) 843-9500

SUPPORT SERVICES

Easterseals Crossroads (317) 466-1000

Joseph Maley Foundation (317) 432-6657 www.josephmaley.org

My Quillo (317) 626-4387 myquillo.com/

WAIVER PROVIDER & EMPLOYMENT

Putnam County

Comprehensive Services (765) 653-9763 www.pccsinc.org

Meet the Uniquely You! Team

STAFF WRITERS

PHOTOGRAPHERS

Isaac Roman Writer and Photographer
Katie Mendez Photography
Heather Gregg — Photographer, 21 Vines Photography
Jane Gailey
Dorie Zipperle
Charles Spray MS, LMHC
Tanya Sood
Paul Hathcoat
Lindsey Watson Susan Graham
Shelley Harkness — Scheduling Assistant N2 Publishing
Christina McGairk Editor and Writer
Dr. Darolyn “Lyn” Jones Content Coordinator and Writer
Angela Arlington — Community Engagement Coordinator, Writer and Contributor
Maria Smietana Editor-in-Chief
Christia Woodford — Publishing Assistant and Local Events
Jamie Olsen Publisher and Area Director

ISSUE PREVIEW

Pages 16-18 Featured Family: Meet the Trobaugh Family

Page 19 Save the Date: Miles Ahead Fundracing!

Pages 20-21 Sponsor Spotlight: Muscular Dystrophy Family Foundation (MDFF)

Page 24 What’s Happening at Janus, Inc.! Volunteering at Janus

Pages 26-27 Nonprofit Spotlight: Indiana Checkers Blind Hockey

Pages 28-30 Meet the Vescelus Family

Pages 32-33 Single Mommas Seen: Brand New: Starting Over Again

Pages 34-35 Pastor’s Corner: A Legacy of Service: Pioneering Christian Disability Ministries in the United States

Page 36 Sensory Blurb! Adaptive Feeding Items

Pages 38-41 Local Events

What’s Happening at Janus, Inc.?! Volunteering at Janus
Nonprofit Spotlight
Meet the Vescelus Family
Sponsor Spotlight
Featured Family: Meet theTrobaugh Family
Single Momas Seen: Brand New: Starting Over Again

Heather Schillinger is the Northern Indiana Regional Director for Supportive Behavior Services. In addition to her director role, she continues to serve as a behavior consultant throughout Fort Wayne and surrounding areas, sits on the Indiana Behavior Association (IBA) Human Rights Committee, and is a member of Greater Fort Wayne’s Leadership Program, 42nd cohort.

Heather earned a bachelor’s degree in psychology with a concentration in addiction from Trine University. She went on to Purdue University Global to earn a master’s degree in psychology with a concentration in general psychology and was inducted into the International Honor Society in Psychology.

Heather first began working within the mental health field and later transitioned into working with individuals with developmental and intellectual disabilities. She then found her happy place upon becoming a behavior consultant. Heather believes that “having the ability to hear individuals as they need to be heard is a key factor in good consultation and positive change.”

Myishea Richmond is the Southern Indiana Regional Director for Supportive Behavior Services. She earned her master’s degree in clinical psychology from Cardinal Stritch University. Her prior professional work experience includes being dean of students for a K-8 program, therapist at a day treatment facility, school-based therapist, and a DCS case manager. Myishea also served as the founding president of the Indiana Behavior Association for nearly two years, where she will continue to serve as a voting member.

Myishea relocated from Wisconsin to Indiana in 2013 to start a school based therapeutic program. She believes helping others is not only a gift but a calling, specially building relationships and advocating for those we are all fortunate enough to serve.

She loves spending time with her 3 children and 2 granddaughters when she is not out supporting her individuals and clinicians. Myishea loves all things sports related and enjoys serving as the director of basketball operations for a minor league professional team, The Indiana Lyons!

317-977-2375

317-676-4222

800-609-8448

877-241-8144

800-545-7763

800-545-7763

800-622-4968

888-673-0002

800-403-0864

317-232-7800

317-925-7617

877-511-1144

317-466-1000

Arc of Indiana www.arcind.org

Autism Community Connection www.autismcc-in.org

Autism Society of Indiana

Blind and Visually Impaired Services (BVIS) Bureau of Developmental Disabilities Services (BDDS)

Bureau of Rehabilitation Services (BRS) Deaf and Hard of Hearing Services (DHHS) DHHSHelp@fssa/in.gov

Disability Determination Bureau Division of Aging (IDA) Division of Family Resources (DFR) Division of Mental Health and Addiction Down Syndrome Indiana Early Childhood and Out of School Learning (OECOSL) Easterseals Crossroads www.easterseals.com/

IMPORTANT NUMBERS

911

800-545-7763

317-232-0570

844-323-4636

317-233-4454

317-232-7770

812-855-6508

317-233-1325

844-446-7452

855-641-8382

800-332-4433

800-457-4584

317-232-7770 988

800-772-1213

800-772-1213

877-851-4106

317-871-4032

800-545-7763

Emergency First Steps

Indiana Department of Education: Office of Special Education – www.doe.in.gov/specialed

Indiana Family to Family - www.inf2f.org

Indiana Family and Social Services Administration (FSSA) – www.in.gov/fssa/index.htm

Indiana Governor’s Council for People with Disabilities (GPCPD)

Indiana Resource Center for Autism

Indiana State Department of Health

Indiana Statewide Independent Living Council (INSILC)

Indiana Works

INSOURCE – http://insource.org/

Medicaid Disability

Medicaid Waivers

National Alliance on Mental Illness

Social Security Administration (SSA)

Social Security Disability Insurance (SSDI)

Special Education Questions

United Cerebral Palsy Association of Greater Indiana Vocational Rehabilitation Services (VR)

248-882-8448

NOTE:

UNIQUE

SOPHIA TROBAUGH

Photo by Lauren Lewis with The Heart Narrative

Allison Vita-Trobaugh and husband Brandon Trobaugh are the proud parents of three girls: Sophia, 12, Scarlett, 9, and Sadie, 5. Sophia is unique in the Trobaugh family because Sophia has cerebral palsy. The Trobaughs are lifelong Sheridan, Indiana residents and love their small town.

A unique family fact--Allison and Brandon met in the second grade at Sheridan Elementary School, and the childhood sweethearts have been together ever since, building a family where all their children feel included. Allison and Brandon had Sophia at age

18. They’ve seen each other through the best and worst times and continue to grow a strong family unit. Sophia is in the Life Skills program at Sheridan Community Schools. Inspired by how wonderful the special education program has been to Sophia, Allison wanted to pay it forward, so she took a position as a paraprofessional in the early childhood special education program at Sophia’s school. It allows her to help other students and families while also keeping a close eye on her daughter. Sophia participates in speech therapy, behavior therapy, physical

therapy, and aqua therapy. Allison is very proud that that Sophia has graduated from occupational therapy. The Trobaughs have a 7-year-old dog named Riley, after Riley Hospital for Children — the hospital that gave Sophia her life. Born prematurely at 23 weeks, she was a fighter from day one. Allison and Brandon have seen Sophia through multiple medical challenges, including brain surgeries and episodes of cardiac arrest, but she never gave up on life. Sophia just keeps fighting, surviving, and thriving. And because Sophia never gives up, neither does her family.

Photo by Lauren Lewis with The Heart Narrative

In spite of Sophia’s challenges, the Trobaughs try to live much like any other family. They love to take family walks around their town, visit the Indianapolis Zoo and Children’s Museum in downtown Indianapolis, go bowling, spend time at the pool in summer and pick apples in the fall. In December, they cut down a Christmas tree together.

Allison admits that yes, it is hard traveling with a special needs child who uses a walker, but it’s important to the family that they get to the beach every year. It’s their happy place. A wagon helps carry Sophia across the sand, and they bring her walker with them onto the beach so Sophia can still have her legs like everyone else. Her sisters Scarlett and Sadie hold her hands on the walker as the three sisters walk into the ocean together. The Trobaughs make sure that Sophia goes everywhere the family goes and gets to do anything the family does. She is never excluded. And if there is something Sophia wants to try, her parents make it happen. Like many other preteens, she enjoys Chick-Fil-A, Starbucks, nachos, and pizza. She loves music, particularly Taylor Swift, Bruno Mars, and AJR.

The Trobaugh family has found support and community with Embracing Abilities, Case Connections, and Riverview Hospital’s Rehabilitation and Fitness Center. The behavior therapists at Embracing Abilities, Sophia’s case worker at Case Connections, and Riverview’s rehab staff are wonderfully supportive and have become like family to the Trobaughs. Scarlett and Sadie cheer Sophia on every chance they get. The family is involved with A Kid Again, an organization that provides free local events, activities, and adventures for families who have a child facing a life-threatening condition.

Because Sophia embraces life so well and never gives up, she has taught everyone in her family to never give up.

FUNDRACING !

On Saturday, August 31, 2024, get behind the wheel of a state-of-the-art, lithium-ion battery powered Top Kart racing kart and let it rip. In this adrenaline-pumping, time trial event, compete against friends, family and co-workers for top honors while raising funds to help Uniquely You (formerly Special Needs Living) inform more Indianapolis area families about resources to meet their special needs.

Choose from one of four racing sessions throughout the day. Individual registration is $50 with an additional $200 minimum fundraising obligation, or you can just pay $250. A 3-person company racing team can register to compete against other teams for a single, team entry fee of $700. Participation takes about an hour and a half. Follow results in real time on your smart phone, all day long.

It’s a blast! So come on out and put the pedal to the metal, all for a good cause.

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SPONSOR SPOTLIGHT

Muscular Dystrophy Family Foundation

The Muscular Dystrophy Family Foundation uses the power of giving to increase the quality of life and independence of people with muscular dystrophies and empower their families through advocacy, education, and financial assistance.

“We support Hoosier families navigating the hardships that come from living with a form of muscular dystrophy. We do

so through a variety of avenues: direct financial assistance, accessible van assistance, familyspecific events, sharing of resources, and help with navigating waiver through a group of our volunteers,” Executive Director, Hannah Oosterlinck shares.

“We host an annual day at the Indianapolis Zoo, so our families may meet other families, experience the wonders of the zoo, and have quality time together. We host a wonderful holiday party each December, collaborating with the Indianapolis Fire Department to bring joy to our families. It’s a highlight of the year.”

“We have openings on various committees. For us, committees are at the heart of being able to accomplish our events and support our families. Our marketing committee and our events committee can always use fresh perspectives and the collaboration of ideas from others. Helping out at or attending our fundraising events is also another great way to get involved.”

MDFF journeys with families through providing funding for tangible needs that will improve independence and increase quality of life for Indiana

IU Athletes: Jordan Shaw, Tim Doyle (Former MDFF President), Amare Ferrell, and Nic Toomer
Family Zoo Day 2024

TESTIMONIAL:

Providing practical items to help make life easier for individuals who have great mobility hindrances makes a tremendous impact for good in their lives. From recent van recipient Chloe,

residents living with a form of muscular dystrophy. From bathroom remodels to make them accessible, to flooring that allows a wheelchair to move easily in the home, to an accessible van, these are ways that increase the mobility of those who have great need for assistance.

The financial assistance request application is open year-round for individuals to submit a request. The application window for the 2025 Accessible Van Giveaway Program will open on December 1, with the van giveaway committee carefully reviewing and interviewing the applicants, with the official full board vote to occur at the July 2025 board of directors meeting.

To submit a request for financial assistance for other equipment or home modifications, apply anytime by visiting mdff.org. Thank you.

“Having this van for me and my family means freedom. Freedom to feel a little bit more “normal”. In my case, I am getting help through Vocational Rehabilitation to get my van converted for me to be able to drive as a disabled woman. Driving is something I had always dreamed of but genuinely never knew was possible. Actually thanks to Tim (former MDFF President who sadly passed away in January), I learned it was possible. I will be able to take myself to appointments, to school (college), to the grocery store (which weirdly I’m so excited for), and so much more. This van means taking back my life and beginning my future in advocating for others in similar situations.”

The Muscular Dystrophy Family Foundation uses its collective resources to help those with a neuromuscular disease live safer, more independent lives.

Some of what we help fund:

Adaptive Equipment

(e.g., ramps, lifts, wheelchairs, and wheelchair components)

(e.g., bathroom modifications and bathroom equipment)

Transportation

(e.g., van conversion assistance, transfer seats, and vehicle lifts)

(317) 615-9140 • mdff.org

The Bousum Family receiving their accessible van
Feud Fundraiser – fun rivalry bringing people together to support MDFF

Elizabeth A. Homes is a special needs planning and elder law attorney. She has been licensed and practicing law since May of 2014. Her practice at the Law O ce of Elizabeth A. Homes LLC is focused on Special Needs Planning, Guardianships, Elder Law, Estate Planning, and Probate Work. This includes Wills, Powers of Attorney, Advanced Directives, Trusts, Trust Administration, Medicaid Planning, Special Needs Planning, Guardianship, and Probate. She is admitted to practice law in the State of Indiana.

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A Picture is Worth a Thousand Words and Milestones and Favorite Memories

Celebrating life’s milestones and memories in Uniquely You! Magazine is a beautiful opportunity to preserve the essence of special moments through photos. Whether it’s a first step, graduation, vacation, or any cherished occasion. Each photo tells a unique story of joy and achievement. It’s a chance to share these meaningful experiences with others who can appreciate and celebrate each journey.

We are also celebrating October, November, and December Awareness Months, inviting you to share a photo that captures a special moment related to an Awareness Month. Customize your caption to highlight the moment’s meaning to your family.

Uniquely You! A Picture is Worth a Thousand Words for October, November and December Awareness Months!
Uniquely You!Milestones and Favorite Memories

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INDIANA CHECKERS BLIND HOCKEY

Indiana Checkers Blind Hockey seeks to empower individuals living with blindness or low vision to engage in sports and increase their understanding of hockey. Many in the community are surprised to learn that hockey is accessible for blind and low vision players. Blind hockey is similar to traditional ice hockey with a few modifications. The puck is larger, and made of steel with ball bearings that rattle during play. Additionally, the net is the same width, but one foot shorter in height. Goalies must be blindfolded at higher levels of skill. An electronic whistle is used to signal when shots on goal can be taken. While checking is not allowed, physical contact is permitted. All players must wear standard protective gear. Indiana Blind Hockey was founded in 2018 by Daniel Belding, who played for the US National Blind Hockey team for several years. They are a small team with only a few consistent attendees and are always looking for new members.

Goalie drill during practice.

Practices are held every other week in Greenwood from October to April.

Players ages 5 through adult learn the basics of skating, the rules of ice hockey, and how to shoot the puck on goal. Gear is provided at no cost. All coaches are Safe Sport certified through USA Hockey. Players have the option to travel to regional tournaments during the year and meet other blind hockey players from across the country. All levels of skill are welcomed at tournaments. The team has attended events in St. Louis, Minneapolis, Chicago, Pittsburgh, and Fort Wayne. The next tournament is in Minneapolis in November. Interested individuals are welcome to come watch a practice anytime. Anyone willing to volunteer or provide equipment/monetary donations can email indianablindhockey@gmail.com.

Financial donations assist with new equipment as well as travel assistance for players, and equipment is always needed in order to keep players safe.

Indiana Blind Hockey is a 501c3 nonprofit organization

Team photo from 2023-24 season.
Teaching a new player skating skills.
Teaching a new player to skate using a net for support.
Coach Craig and Jr. Coach Magnus work a drill with goalie Matthias.

VESCELUS family the meet

Matthias’s journey with bilateral retinoblastoma, diagnosed at just three months old, profoundly shaped his family’s life. The diagnosis, resulting from testing after his pediatrician observed an unusual white glow in his eye, led to extensive treatments and the eventual removal of both his eyes before his first birthday. This life-altering event meant Matthias would grow up as a totally blind individual.

Navigating the challenges of blindness has been a journey of resilience and advocacy for Matthias and his family, who live in Noblesville, Indiana. Initially, explaining his condition to others was straightforward—he cannot see— but conveying his independence and capabilities posed a greater challenge.

Despite his visual impairment, Matthias thrives academically in honors classes at Noblesville High School, where he’s been mainstreamed throughout his educational career. His schooling is supported by assistive services from both the district and the Hamilton/ Boone/Madison Special Education Cooperative, primarily utilizing technology to integrate fully into the classroom environment.

Matthias’s pursuits extend far beyond academics. A dedicated athlete, he excels as a goalie with the Indiana Blind Hockey Team, demonstrating skill and determination that have earned

him an invitation to train with the US Blind Hockey team. Beyond sports, he is known for his intelligence, humor, persistence, and kindness—qualities that define him beyond his blindness.

His parents, Katie and Craig, along with Matthias’s older brother Magnus, have been steadfast in supporting his journey. They’ve faced challenges common to families with visually impaired members, particularly the persistence of misconceptions about blindness. Overcoming these hurdles has required patience and education, emphasizing Matthias’s capabilities rather than focusing on limitations.

Reflecting on their experiences, the family cherishes numerous milestones and achievements that once seemed improbable. From attending regular kindergarten to excelling in high school academics and music—Matthias was first chair in his orchestra—each accomplishment reinforces their belief in his limitless potential. His advocacy efforts have also been notable; With St. Baldrick’s Foundation, Matthias has raised thousands of dollars for cancer research and actively engaged with legislators on pediatric cancer legislation, using his voice to make a difference. He and Magnus have also served as speakers for the Joseph Maley Foundation, a disability awareness organization in central Indiana. Magnus and Matthias traveled to schools across the greater Indianapolis area to teach children about living with blindness.

Outside academics and sports, Matthias enjoys diverse activities like jiu jitsu and weather reporting, showcasing his multifaceted interests. As a family, the Vesceluses prioritize balance in their activities, ensuring Matthias experiences a variety of interests while respecting his preferences and capabilities.

Community involvement currently centers around Indiana Blind Hockey, where Matthias and his family contribute their time and energy. They’ve also found support through organizations

1 / Handling beautiful hawks! 2 / Matthias in competition as goalie stopping the puck. 3 / Matthias giving a presentation to kids through Joseph Maley Foundation. 4 / Matthias in competition as goalie. 5 / Matthias serving as first cellist is his orchestra class for ISMAA competition spring 2024. 6 / Getting ready to zipline! 7 / Matthias working with his Orientation and Mobility Instructor to learn to navigate Noblesville High School.

like INSource and the Lions Club, which have aided them in navigating the challenges of raising a visually impaired child. Additionally, summer camps such as Opportunities

Unlimited for the Blind have fostered Matthias’s independence and personal growth.

For newcomers to Noblesville, the family highlights the community’s support for children with visual impairments through its excellent school system. Their experiences underscore the importance of education, advocacy, and community support in enabling individuals like Matthias to thrive despite significant challenges.

Matthias’s story is a testament to the power of resilience, advocacy, and familial support in overcoming adversity and achieving remarkable milestones. His journey continues to inspire and educate, challenging misconceptions about blindness and demonstrating the boundless potential within every individual.

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Standing outside of Sen. Todd Young’s office to advocate for legislation to support families facing cancer through the Alliance for Childhood Cancer in February 2024.
Matthias and his older brother, Magnus, in Washington DC in February 2024 to talk to members of Congress about pediatric cancer legislation with the Alliance for Childhood Cancer.

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BRAND NEW Starting Over Again

I CAN’T BELIEVE I’m saying this, but this special needs mama is on the dating path again. Last time I decided to dip my little pinky toe into the dating pool, I got scared and quickly retreated back into my butterfly cave. Yet, this time, I’m wading through the sea of love to see what’s out there. But for a special needs mama like myself, dating is a bit trickier. There are so many aspects to consider, fears to confront, and a newfound courage to conjure up during the journey.

STARTING OVER:

Dating as a single mom with a child with exceptional needs isn’t easy. I’ve been upfront and honest with my life, sharing guarded details about my daughter with potential dating prospects. Some were honest about not being able to handle a child with exceptional needs and I appreciate their honesty. Others thought they would be up to the challenge, but found out they were not. However, I met someone who was accepting of TiTi and I and loved her as his own. But due to various factors, our relationship came to an end after six years. It was hard, especially for TiTi. She took it extremely

hard to the point she didn’t eat or hardly slept for almost 2 weeks. Ever since then, I’ve decided not to introduce my daughter to who I’m dating unless I know the relationship is going to be serious. As her parent, I have to protect her at all costs. Honestly, since the break up 4 years ago, I really had no interest in dating again until recently. I missed the warmth of companionship. You know, holding hands, exchanging lingering glances, shared laughter, and all that other gushy stuff. But I must admit dating again is exciting, it’s also intimidating.

FACING MY FEARS:

Along with the dating nervous jitters comes the fears. I always have racing questions in my mind like “will they understand my life?”. Will they take the time to understand my daughter and autism? Will they understand that date nights have to be strategically planned and we can’t just do things on a whim? Basically I need someone who understands that my daughter and I are a package deal. There may be an abundance of challenges, hiccups, but also plenty of joy.

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Photo by Jasmine Carter
Photo by Juan Vargas

THE DATING PROCESS:

THE HEALING PROCESS:

Another thing I had to take into consideration was my heart status. I was single, but was my heart? Since the breakup 4 years ago, at times I wondered if I was still over him. Sometimes my mind would wander back to the good times, temporarily forgetting the turbulent times that led to the breakup. I had to unpack a lot of emotions and deal with them head on. Once I did that, I felt I was ready to move and love again.

FINDING THE TIME:

As most of you know, I’m a busy lady. Between after hour school events, therapy sessions, doctors appointments, church, magazine writing, and autism advocacy, when do I have time to date? The best way for me was to try online dating again. I figured I was already on the computer most of the time anyway, so why not? But fitting time to even search the websites in my already cluttered schedule was hard to do. So I had to make a conscious effort to carve the time in. As for time to actually go out on a date, I had to use my resources. For instance, in my case, asking our PAC provider to watch TiTi for a few hours. Even a virtual date would probably have to be an option. For instance, cooking and eating together virtually. This is what I call outside the box, creative planning.

Finding prospective men to date is just hard. I started my online dating journey a couple of months ago and it’s difficult to tell who was being honest or just a lot of hot air. Also, in the AI era, you don’t know if who you’re looking at is actually the same person behind the screen. Plus, I’ve dated a couple of frogs who were nothing but breath and britches or just passing the time because they were bored. I LITERALLY don’t have time for that!

THE SWEET

CONNECTION:

But then, every once in a while, you meet someone who is actually as sweet as their profile reads. This happened to me recently. Without getting into too many details since it’s still fresh, he’s what I’ve been looking for, so far. Big, tall, and handsome, but most importantly, he loves God, is a gentleman, has drive and ambition, always takes my feelings into consideration, and the list goes on. He hasn’t met TiTi yet due to my choice, but he always asks about her and talks to her briefly while we’re on the phone. I’m not sure where this is going yet, but I am excited to see where this new adventure goes.

What I’ve learned so far through this journey is that I’m not just a special needs Mom. I’m a woman with thoughts, emotions, with an open heart to love again. So single mamas, it’s never too late to love with an open heart again. You will know when it’s the right time and what that looks like for you and your child.

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Photo by Yelena Odintsova

A Legacy of Service: Pioneering Christian Disability Ministries in the United States

Christianity has long held a profound commitment to serving the marginalized, and this extends notably to people with disabilities. Over the centuries, various ministries have emerged, dedicated to embodying Christ’s love by reaching out to this often-overlooked demographic. Here, we briefly explore the oldest and most impactful Christian disability ministries in the United States, shedding light on their vision, their methods, and the transformative power of the Gospel in their outreach efforts, from a Pastor’s perspective.

THE VISION: SERVING THE LEAST OF THESE

The vision for Christian disability ministries is deeply rooted in Scripture. Jesus’ teachings often emphasized compassion and care for the marginalized. In Matthew 25:40, Jesus says, “Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.” This verse has inspired countless ministries to reach out to those with disabilities, recognizing them as valuable members of God’s kingdom deserving of love, respect, and dignity.

PIONEERING

MINISTRIES AND THEIR IMPACT

1. The American Mission to the Deaf (AMTD)

Founded in the early 19th century, the AMTD was one of the first Christian outreach programs specifically for people with disabilities in the United States. At a time when the deaf community was largely isolated and underserved, the

AMTD sought to break down barriers. They established schools for the deaf, offering not just education but also spiritual guidance. The ministry’s founders, driven by a vision of inclusivity, believed that everyone should have the opportunity to hear (or see, through sign language) the Good News of Jesus Christ.

Through their efforts, the AMTD reached thousands who were previously excluded from mainstream religious and educational settings. The ministry not only provided practical skills but also fostered a sense of community and belonging among the deaf. They exemplified Isaiah 35:5-6, which foretells the opening of the eyes of the blind and the ears of the deaf being unstopped.

2. Joni and Friends

Joni Eareckson Tada, a quadriplegic since a diving accident at the age of 17, founded Joni and Friends in 1979. Her ministry has become a beacon of hope and advocacy for people with disabilities around the globe. Joni’s vision was to provide practical assistance, emotional support, and spiritual encouragement to individuals and families affected by disability.

Joni and Friends organizes Family Retreats, providing respite and renewal to families dealing with disability. They also run the Wheels for the World program, which refurbishes and distributes wheelchairs to those in need

around the world, accompanied by the message of the Gospel. This ministry underscores the truth of Philippians 4:13, “I can do all this through him who gives me strength,” as it empowers individuals with disabilities to live fulfilling lives.

3. Christian Blind Mission (CBM) USA

Although CBM originated in Germany in 1908, its influence in the United States has been profound. CBM USA works to prevent and cure blindness and other disabilities in the most disadvantaged communities. Inspired by Jesus’ numerous healings of the blind (e.g., Mark 10:46-52), CBM USA partners with local communities to provide medical care, rehabilitation, and education to those in need.

Their outreach has transformed lives, allowing individuals to regain sight and independence. By integrating medical missions with evangelism, CBM USA ensures that physical healing goes hand-in-hand with spiritual renewal. They truly embody 1 Peter 4:10, “Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms.”

THE TRANSFORMATIVE POWER OF THE GOSPEL

These ministries, among others, have not only addressed the physical and emotional needs of individuals with disabilities but have also highlighted the inclusive and transformative power of the Gospel. By seeing and serving those whom society often overlooks, they reflect the heart of Christ’s ministry on Earth.

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The outreach to people with disabilities demonstrates that the Gospel is for everyone, breaking down societal barriers and fostering a community of love and acceptance. As Galatians 3:28 reminds us, “There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.”

ENCOURAGEMENT FOR TODAY

We are all called to follow in the footsteps of these pioneering ministries, reaching out to those in need and offering the hope and love of Christ. The story of these ministries serves as a powerful reminder that our faith is not just about belief but about action—serving people of all abilities in tangible and meaningful ways. Let us be inspired to engage in acts of service, living out our faith through compassionate outreach and embodying the inclusive love of Jesus in our own communities. Blessings be to you all!

Do you have a thought, idea or information that you would like to see in this section in an upcoming issue? Email Paul Hathcoat at phathcoat@wrcc.org.

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Local Events

Note: Don’t forget to apply for the Access Pass! The Access Pass Program allows families that meet the specific requirements listed below to visit The Children’s Museum of Indianapolis and all participating locations for $2 per family member per visit for up to two adults and all dependent youths living in the household. You qualify if you receive:

• Hoosier Healthwise Insurance (Indiana’s health care program for low-income families, pregnant women and children)

• SNAP (Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program)

• TANF (Temporary Assistance for Needy Families)

• Apply here: https://www.childrensmuseum.org/ visit/hours/access-pass.

MUSEUMS

The Children’s Museum of Indianapolis Museum My Way, An adaptive museum experience Oct. 9, Dec. 10, 4:00 pm-7:00 pm Capacity limited. Registration required.

This special event is an opportunity for visitors with disabilities and/or sensory sensitivities to experience the museum in a new way. Families and groups of all abilities are welcome to play and learn together! Sensory modifications to the museum environment include:

• Limited capacity.

• Quiet area with sensory items.

• Some music is turned down or off.

• Edited lighting effects in some areas Members: Free, Nonmembers: $6 per person/Access Pass: $2 per person. For tickets:. https://www.childrens museum.org/visit/calendar/event/464

First Thursday Night- First Thursday every month

Sept. 5, 4:00 pm

On the first Thursday of every month, we open our doors from 4–8 p.m. for just $6 admission per person! Why should you visit?

Admission is just $6 per person for the entire museum. That’s a savings of more than 75% per ticket!

It’s the ONLY time the museum is open to the public in the evening, so it’s a perfect after-hours night for your family. It’s not as crowded as you might think! We have limited capacity on First Thursday Nights. Parking is always free! Our Food Court is open, so you can grab a quick and easy dinner for the whole family. Low cost. Low crowds. Late night play! https://www.childrensmuseum.org/ visit/calendar/event/273

Various Events

Sept.1-Sept 30, Opens at 10 AM

3000 N. Meridian St., Indianapolis, IN 46208, 317-334-4000

https://www.childrensmuseum.org

Conner Prairie Indiana’s Living History Museum

Jupiter Flights Balloon Festival Sept.6-8

Make your fall glow with over 40 hot air balloons in the sky

Get updates about the festival by texting GLOW to 317-779-3330

For ticket prices and information

https://www.connerprairie.org/ conner-prairie-balloon-festival/

Sensory-Friendly Hours

The second Sunday of every month, from 10 AM to noon, are sensoryfriendly hours at Conner Prairie! Enjoy a calm environment

Check-in with Guest Relations, stating that you are here for sensoryfriendly hours. You will get free admission and may stay as long as you wish.

Various events

Sept.1-Sept. 30, 10:00 am- 10:00 pm 13400 Allisonville Road, Fishers, IN 46038

Phone: 317-776-6000 or 800-966-1836

https://www.connerprairie.org/events/list

Indiana State Museum

Sensory Friendly Afternoon

Sept. 15, 3:00 pm- 5:00 pm

650 W. Washington St., Indianapolis, IN 46204

Experience the Indiana State Museum in a sensory-friendly way! Each month, we’ll lower the lights and reduce distractions to give children and adults with sensory processing differences a chance to enjoy an interactive learning experience in a comfortable and accepting environment. Social narratives will be available at the ticket counter and sensory–based activities will be spaced throughout the museum. Plus, check out a Sensory Bag to make your experience even more enjoyable. Check calendar for dates https://www. indianamuseum.org/calendar/

Various events

Sept.1-Sept. 30 check website for events and times.

https://www.indianamuseum.org/ calendar/

SPORTS

Indianapolis Colts

Sept. 8- Houston Texans, Sept. 22Chicago Bears, Sept. 29Pittsburgh Steelers

Lucas Oil Stadium, 500 S Capitol Ave, Indianapolis, IN 46225

https://www.colts.com/

Indy Eleven

Sept. 14, 28

IU Michael A. Carroll Track & Soccer

Stadium, 1001 W New York St. Indianapolis, IN 46202

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Indianapolis Indians

Sept. 1, 10, 11,12,13, 14,15

Victory Field, 501 W Maryland St, Indianapolis, IN 46225

https://www.milb.com/indianapolis/ schedule/2024-03

FAMILY FUN

Autism Community Connection

Trivia Night

Sept. 14, Doors open at 6:00 pm

Moose Lodge 2079813 W. Smith Valley Rd., Greenwood, IN 46142

Trivia Night is great night of fun playing trivia with friends, having a delicious meal, vying for special raffle baskets, and raising money to support those affected by autism in the community! Trivia Night will have special games throughout the night like Heads and Tails, Wine Grab & Go, and more. All reservations include dinner and dessert. Table for 8 guests is $400. Individual guest tickets is $50. All guests must be over 21 years old to attend. To register: https://autismcc -in.org/trivia-night/

Indianapolis Zoo ZOOBOO

Sept. 25- Oct. 31, 2:00 pm- 7:00 pm

Is regular October too humdrum, but haunted houses too creepy-crawly?

Come to the Zoo for Halloween activities, amazing animals and pumpkins galore! ZooBoo is a fun family experience for itty-bitty ghouls and goblins as well as the bigger kids. October weather means active animals, colorful foliage and a new season to explore. Combine that with engaging, hands-free activities, spooktacular costumes and trick-or-treating, and you’ve got an unforgettable family tradition. Woo-hoo! For tickets and to see all events scheduled visit: https://www. indianapoliszoo.com/zoo-events/zooboo/

Various events scheduled daily

Sept. 1- Sept. 30, 9:00 am- 4:00 pm 1200 West Washington St. Indianapolis, IN 46222 https://www.indianapoliszoo.com/

The Studio Movie Grill

3535 W. 86th St., Indianapolis, IN 46268 317-315-8113

Sensory-friendly screenings of movies! Check the website for movies and times. https://www.studiomoviegrill.com/ movie/special-needs-screenings

THE ARTS

Adaptive Dance

Sept. 5, 5:00 pm- 6:00 pm Every first Thursday through May 2025 the Arc of Hancock County, 8535 N Clearview Dr, McCordsville, IN 46055

We are proud to announce that we received a mini-grant from the Community Foundation of Hancock County to turn our Adaptive Dance (Body Rock) classes from March and April into a regular monthly program. These classes will be held at Hancock Wellness Center - McCordsville in the Community Room every first Thursday of the month from August 2024 through May 2025 from 5:00-6:00pm. This class is free, but you must be registered. Parents of participants under 18 years old must be present. We cannot wait to see you there! Please use the link to register: https:// arcofhcadaptivedance.eventbrite.com

Beef and Boards

Million Dollar Quartet

August 29- Oct. 6 9301 Michigan Rd, Indianapolis, IN 46268 https://beefandboards.com/Online/ default.asp

Jubilate Choir

Butler University, Lilly Hall, Room 133 Wednesdays, 6:45-7:30 PM

The Jubilate Choir is for singers with special needs in grades 3-9. Singers with varying abilities meet each week to grow musically. This tuition-free choir focuses on proper singing techniques, music theory and sight-reading, partsinging, and social skills involved in being a member of a musical ensemble. Though Jubilate has, at its core, the same goals as other choirs in the Indianapolis Children’s Choir (ICC), singers in Jubilate engage in additional activities like visual and tactile

experiences that are catered specifically to the current members of the choir.

Director: Lauren Southard

For more information, contact Lauren Southard at 317-940-8065 or lsouthar@icchoir.org. https://icchoir.org/ special-needs/

Gigi’s Playhouse

Various classes during the week. 5909 E. 86th St., Indianapolis, IN 46250 317-288-8235 indy@gigisplayhouse.org https:// gigisplayhouse.org/indianapolis/ sfcalendar/

EVENTS

The 26th Annual DSANI Buddy Walk

Sept. 7, 9:00 am- 10:00 am Parkview Field, 1301 Ewing St, Ft. Wayne, Indiana 46802

The Arc Advocacy Network, a program of the Arc of Indiana, will have information about Medicaid Waivers, Vocational Rehabilitation Services, guardianship and alternatives, Special Needs Trusts, the Erskine Green Training Institute, and a variety of other topics available for families and self-advocates.

The Buddy Walk is an acceptance event, celebrating our loved ones with Down syndrome! It is also DSANI’s largest fundraiser of the year – the one that sustains us from year to year. We receive no federal, state or local funding and are, instead, totally privately funded.

Registration and activities begin at 9 am; opening ceremonies follow at 9:50 am, followed by a 1.2 mile walk through downtown Fort Wayne. Once teams return to Parkview Field, there will be an epic dance party for all to enjoy!

You don’t want to miss this joy-filled, uplifting event! https://www.dsani.org/ events/2024/9/14/the-26th-annualdsani-buddy-walk

My Autism Ally Autism

Acceptance Walk

Sept. 8, 12:00 pm- 3:00 pm free Allen County Fairgrounds, 2726 Carroll Road, Ft. Wayne, IN 46818

Create a team and join us RAIN OR SHINE on Sunday, September 8, 2024 at the Allen County Fairgrounds 2726 Carroll Road, Fort Wayne, IN 46748 from noon-

3:30pm. It’s an afternoon of activities and resources for the whole family- including supports for those of all ages on the autism spectrum. It’s free to park and attend so come out for the fun foodindo, or vendor fair,crafts,games,music play, pony rides,petting zoo,sensory exploration, cosplay- princess and superheroestouch a truck – including first responder vehicles

This year’s unity walk will start at 3pm. The event will end after the walk is completed.

For more information and to register: https://www.myautismally.org/autismacceptance-walk

Union Jr/Sr High School Career Transition Fair

Sept. 12, 1:00 pm- 4:00 pm

Union Jr/Sr High School8707 W US Hwy 36, Modoc, IN 47358

The Arc Advocacy Network, a program of the Arc of Indiana, will have information about Medicaid Waivers, Vocational Rehabilitation Services, guardianship and alternatives, Special Needs Trusts, the Erskine Green Training Institute, and a variety of other topics available for families and selfadvocates. https://www.usc.k12.in.us/ jrsrhighschool_home.aspx

Ask The Arc Webinars

Sept. 12, 6:00 pm- 7:00 pm

Ask The Arc webinars provide information and discussion on timely topics relevant to people with intellectual and developmental disabilities, their families, and their support systems. Webinars take place on the 2nd Thursday of the month at 6:00 p.m. EST. Past webinars are recorded and posted on our YouTube channel and on The Arc of Indiana Academy.

Registration is for the complete webinar series. You can pick and choose which ones you want to attend without having to register each time. Click here to register https://www. arcind.org/event/ask-the-arcwebinars-2/2024-06-13/

Ausome Fall Fest

Sept. 14, 11:00 am- 2:00 pm

Piney Acre Farm, 1115 E 1000 N, Fortville, Indiana 46040

Autism Society of Indiana, Down Syndrome Indiana and Ausome Indy present Ausome Fall Fest. Animals to Feed- Pumpkin Decorating- Gem Mining- Food- Vendor & Provider Tables- Hay Rides, Music Therapy Sessions- Bounce Platforms. RSVP: www.bit.ly/ausomefallfest

Starke County Special Education Resource Fair

Sept. 18, 1:00 pm-6:00 pm

Knox High School, 1 Redskin Trail, Knox, Indiana 46534,

The goal of the Resource Fair is to provide students with disabilities and their families with information on educational and job-related services and programs that are available to assist them in planning for the future. Resource Fair will be open to the area schools and their families. https:// hs.knox.k12.in.us/

Indiana Walk to Defeat ALS

Sept. 21, Check-in at 8:00 am/ Walk starts at 10:00 am Celebration Park State Fair Grounds, 202 E. 38TH ST. Indianapolis, IN 46205

The annual 2024 Walk to Defeat ALS Indiana will take place on September 21, 2024 at Celebration Park. This event is the #1 way to unite and fundraise for those living with ALS. Each year, fundraising through the Walk drives bold and urgent innovation as we march together toward a cure for ALS. To register: https://www.indianastatefair. com/events/2024/indiana-walk-todefeat-als22

Heart to Heart Virtual Conference

Sept. 26Our annual conference is an opportunity for families and professionals to learn and connect in support of children and youth who require additional health and education support. This conference is free thanks to the generosity of Heart to Heart sponsors. Visit this site regularly for updates, to view the agenda and more! If you have questions or want to learn more about the event or ways to get involved, contact our team.

Registration is open! https://www.inf2f. org/heart-to-heart-conference.html

Central Indiana Disability Resource Fair

Sept. 28, 1:00 am- 2:00 pmIvy Tech Community College Indianapolis, 2820 N Meridian St,Indianapolis, IN 46208

The Arc Advocacy Network, a program of the Arc of Indiana, will have information about Medicaid Waivers, Vocational Rehabilitation Services, guardianship and alternatives, Special Needs Trusts, the Erskine Green Training Institute, and a variety of other topics available for families and self-advocates.

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SibShops

Sept. 28, 5:30 pm- 8:00

Shirley Brothers Irving Hill Chapel, 5377 East Washington Street, Indianapolis, IN 46219

Sibshops® is a fun-filled event geared toward specific needs of siblings with a brother/sister with special health and developmental needs.Siblings have the

opportunity to meet other siblings in a relaxed, recreational setting. There is an opportunity to discuss common joys and concerns with others. Siblings have the opportunity to learn about disabilities and the implications for the future growth and challenges AGES: 6 to 13 year-olds and 14 to 18 year-olds. Youth will be placed in an age-appropriate group for a portion of the workshop. To register: https://www. creativepathwaysindy.org/sibshops/

Neurofeedback is a non-drug, non-invasive solution to symptoms related to brainwave dysregulation. It's natural and offers a fix to the problem, not just a bandage that masks the symptoms.

"We followed the same path most of the other autism parents do with GFCF, DAN Dr., supplements, HBOT. What really made a difference in our son’s attention span, executive processing skills, and anger management was neurofeedback through INDY Neurofeedback."

~Maria S. (parent)

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