Love Living Life… Today and Every Day

What Love Is

As I have said for years to audiences large and small, and my clients, “You can live life, or you can love living life, the choice is yours.” But you would have to know the difference between just living, loving your life, loving yourself, and loving others. The word “love” has so many definitions in the English language. It can stand for the erotic type of love that so many seek. It can also stand for the supportive kind of love in a strong friendship. It could be a brotherly or parental type of love or the love we have for pets, oranges, board games, or other things. So, we really use this word to mean too many things for any of us to have the same, simple definition of it. When it comes to love in a relationship, those choosing to love each other have to settle on what love means to each of them and how it both looks and feels before committing to loving each other. Dr. Gary Chapman covers this well in his books on the 5 Love Languages.

For the sake of this discussion, when we talk about loving yourself and loving your life, we’ll call love that intense feeling of deep affection you experience while taking pleasure in something you enjoy doing. Loving yourself and loving your life feels like being in a passionate relationship with yourself—it’s being in that zone.

Having that authentic love in the moment for what it is, while it is, doing what you love doing, can even make your skin tingle! Zing! Others would say it’s that mindful, calm, and peaceful satisfaction that comes from being and doing exactly what makes you, you. It’s choosing your moments and your memories deliberately and intentionally to create what you want with those you choose to share your time with. It’s truly being high on life. That’s passion. That’s love. It’s you, connected with you, connected with your divine energetic center—not dependent on other people’s opinions—just you being you. When you’re doing that, that’s a feeling. It’s also a place. It’s an action. But when you’re there, even if it’s just for a short moment, when you’re there, you’re in love. That is what love feels like. That’s what love looks like. That’s what love is.

But so many times we’re focused on serving, satisfying, fixing, changing, solving, or doing… doing… doing… Not being. You’ve heard the phrase, “We are not human doings, we are human beings.” Love comes from being;

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