LET'S FIND LOVE... MIND, BODY & SPIRIT
By Jane Marks
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t’s the month of February and time for us to start looking for love! We’ve spent the last year protecting our health and those of our loved ones, so let’s get ready to focus on ourselves. The past year has given us ample time for self-reflection and has taught us many lessons about ourselves: 1. We have learned to stop, pause, and be more mindful. 2. We have become better listeners and communicators. 3. We are clearer about what we want in partnerships. 4. We no longer look for people to fix us, as we’ve had the time to work on ourselves. 5. We accepted our flaws—warts and all. 6. We have prioritized our self-care, making us present and available to connect. 7. We hold ourselves accountable for our choices. 8. We have learned how to apologize and not sweat the small stuff. So, as we begin dating in a post-pandemic world, keep these tips in mind: 1. Make sure you are ready for a relationship, not just an experience. After a year of isolation, be clear with yourself about the type of connection you want. 2. Go out with friends and ask about their experiences. 3. Take baby steps. Take your time, if you prefer, and let potential dates know you want to take things slowly. 4. Build your confidence: hit the gym, feature your best look—fashion, hair, makeup, swag. 5. Use dating apps. 6. On dating apps, always tell three unique things about yourself and highlight the qualities you’re looking for in a potential partner. 7. Still anxious about COVID? Set your own pace and go on virtual dates. 8. Hone your listening skills. We have spent over a year watching and reacting. Potential daters long for someone to listen. Most importantly, maintain a positive attitude! Finding love is a journey, so keep an open mind and have fun along the way.
tallahassee woman | 40 | february • march 2022
