PERSONAL SAFETY 1ST GRADE – THREE KINDS OF TOUCHES POWER POINT

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Today we are going to talk about some important safety rules. I bet you already know a lot of safety rules! Let’s play a little game… What should you do when you get in the car? (pause for answers) Put on your seat belt! What about when you get on your bike? (Pause for answers) Put on your helmet! Ok, lets try one more… what about when you are about to cross a busy street? (Pause for answers) Look both ways/hold a grown ups hand. So, why do you know so many safety rules? (Better safe than sorry, Just incase) Just because we learn a safety rule, doesn’t mean it’s going to happen to us. We learn lots of safety rules JUST INCASE. Today we are going to learn some just incase rules to keep our bodies safe.

I have a really important question for you. Who does your body belong to? (pause for answers) You are in charge of your body and you can say when you don’t like something. (Tell a story)

There are three kinds of touches we are going to talk about today. The first one is “Safe” touches. Most people are good and would never hurt you. They treat you nicely and only give you touches that make you feel safe, warm and happy. I want everyone to close their eyes… imagine you are curled up on the sofa with your mom or dad or perhaps a favorite grownup. You are watching a movie, under a nice cozy blanket, eating your favorite snack. Your Mom, dad or favorite grown up puts their arm around you an snuggles you. How do you feel? You feel safe, loved, your heart feels good and happy. Now open your eyes. That was an example of a safe touch. Safe touches make us feel safe. Can anyone think of some examples of safe touches? (high 5, fist bump, pat on the back) How do these touches make you feel? (safe, happy, good, special. loved.) That’s why we call them safe touches.

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But there are some people, not very many, who don’t know how to act around children. They may give you touches that are not safe. These touches can make you say “ouch!” An “ouch’ touch is a touch that hurts you on the outside or your body and can hurt on the inside too. Can you think of some ouch touches? (hitting, pinching, biting, kicking, hair pulling) How do these touches make you feel? (scared, sad, bad, hurt, confused, mad) Friends are for caring, never for hurting.

Let’s take a look at this video about ouchtouches.

Some adults or older children can give another kind of touch that is not safe. This touch doesn’t leave you with bruises, scratches or a broken arm, but this touch can hurt your feelings. This kind of touch has to do with the private part of your body. (Click for bathing suit pictures) At NOVA we say the private parts of your body are the parts you cover when you are wearing a bathing suit. Those private parts of your body are off limits. (Next slide talks about the two good reasons)

There are only two good reasons why someone may need to help us with the private parts of our bodies. 1-to stay clean, 2-to stay healthy. Click. Ask “How many of you used to be a baby?” “when you were an itty bitty baby that couldn’t walk or talk, could you change your own diaper or give yourself a bath? No, you needed help from a grown up. If a baby doesn’t have their diaper changed they could get really sore and stinky!” “Now that you are getting older you need less and help with getting dressed and keeping clean. Sometimes even older kids and grown ups still need help with that. And that's ok, to have their trusted grown up helping them with that. “ Tell a story of someone in a cast that needed help with this and ask the kids, is that a safe reason? “Yes’” Ask the students “how many of you have been to a doctor for a check up? Sometimes when we go to the dr, the dr needs to check the private parts of our bodies to make sure we are staying healthy. And that's ok, because the dr is only checking to keep us healthy and we have our trusted adult with us.”

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What if someone touched a child on the private parts of their body for no good reason, how do you think they would feel? (sad, scared, confused, mad) Would you feel safe? No, you might have that uh oh feeling and not be sure what to do. That is why a touch on the private parts of the body is unsafe and called an “uh oh” touch.

If someone touches a child on the private parts of their body for no good reason, whose fault is it? (The person who did it) It is never the child’s fault, even if the person touched them more that once, or if the child didn’t say “NO” or tell an adult. Its the job of grown ups to protect and take care of children, if the give an uh-oh touch they are the ones that are breaking the safety rules, not the child. It’s NEVER the child’s fault.

Who would try to touch a child on his/her private parts for no good reason?(Ask students for responses) It could be a stranger. A stranger must ask an adult for help. No stranger should ever ask a child for help. They need to ask another adult. Not a child! It could be someone old, or young, a man or a woman. Some you know or don’t know or someone you do know and even love. Most people are good and would never touch a child on the private parts of their body for no good reason… but remember in the beginning we talked about our just incase safety rules? We are learning these safety rules just incase, so we would know what to do.

If someone would ever try to touch a child on the private parts of their body for no good reason, or ask them to touch them on their private parts, there is something the child can do! Say “NO!” Practice this with a serious face and an important voice. Next is GO. Ask, where do you feel safe? Where would you go? The next step and most important step is to TELL. Who would you tell?

Ask the students who their trusted adults are, who could they talk to if they had a problem? A home? And at school? Sometimes it is hard for adults to understand when someone has touched a child on their private parts for no good reason. Ask “what could you do if you told someone and they didn’t believe you or didn’t understand? “Keep telling someone until someone helps you. You have the right to be believed. It’s never too late to talk to a trusted grown up about an unsafe touch, no matter how long ago it happened… days, weeks or even years!”

WE SHOULD NEVER KEEP TOUCHING SECRETS. Sometimes when a grown up gives an unsafe touch they try to trick the child and say “don’t tell anyone this is our little secret” Even if the grown up says “shh...don’t tell anyone” You should tell one of your trusted grownups. We never keep touching secrets. Explain the difference between happy surprise and a secret.

Practice NO, GO, TELL

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