PERSONAL SAFETY 3RD GRADE - SAFE VS. UNSAFE TOUCHES POWER POINT

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I have a really important question for you. Who is in charge of your body? (pause for answers) You are in charge of your body and you can say when you don’t like something. And no one is allowed to touch you on the private parts of your body or in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable or afraid. Today we are going to talk about safety rules for keeping our bodies safe.

What does the word “Safe” mean to you?

I bet you you already know a lot of safety rules. Let’s talk about some of the safety rules that you may already know. Fire, Seatbelts, crossing the street etc. Have you ever had a fire in your school? Why do you have fire drills? Its better to be safe than sorry. Just because we learn a safety rule does not mean its going to happen to you. We learn a safety rule just incase. That’s why today, we are going to talk about safety rules about our bodies.

Again,who do our bodies belong to? Our bodies have zones. Some zones are public and some are private. “Public zones” mean they are okay for everyone to see. Our face, our hands, our arms, our legs, and our feet are all public. (in some cultures, a woman does not show her face, but in our culture we do.) Other zones are private. Our “private zones” are the parts we cover with our bathing suit . At NOVA we say our private zones are the parts of our bodies that are covered when we wear a bathing suit. These private zones are off limits and nobody should ever ask to touch them or see them. We call that an unsafe touch . When might we need help with our private zones? (Ask students for responses)

There are only two reasons why someone may need to help us with the private parts of our bodies. 1-to stay clean, 2-to stay healthy. Click. Ask “How many of you used to be a baby?” “when you were an itty bitty baby that couldn’t walk or talk, could you change your own diaper or give yourself a bath? No, you needed help from a grown up. If a baby doesn’t have their diaper changed they could get really sore and stinky!” “Now that you are getting older you need less and help with getting dressed and keeping clean. Sometimes even older kids and grown ups still need help with that. And that's ok, to have their trusted grown up helping them with that. “ Tell a story of someone in a cast that needed help with this and ask the kids, is that a safe reason? “Yes’” Ask the students “how many of you have been to a doctor for a check up? Sometimes when we go to the dr, the dr needs to check the private parts of our bodies to make sure we are staying healthy. And that's ok, because the dr is only checking to keep us healthy and we have our trusted adult with us.”

I have a very important question. If a grown up or an older boy or girl breaks the safety rule and touches a child on the private parts of their body for no good reason, whose fault would it be? (Wait for responses.)

I hope you remember this the rest of your lives and that you teach this to your children and grand children. If a grown up or older boy or girl touches a child on the private parts of his/her body… It is NEVER the child’s fault. (have the children repeat “it’s never the child’s fault” along with you.)

Who would try to touch a child on his/her private parts for no good reason?(Ask students for responses) It could be a stranger. A stranger must ask an adult for help. No stranger should ever ask a child for help. They need to ask another adult. Not a child! It could be someone old, or young, a man or a woman. Some you know or don’t know or someone you do know and even love. Most people are good and would never touch a child on the private parts of their body for no good reason… but remember in the beginning we talked about our just incase safety rules? We are learning these safety rules just incase, so we would know what to do.

If someone would ever try to touch a child on the private parts of their body for no good reason, or ask them to touch them on their private parts, there is something the child can do! Say “NO!” Practice this with a serious face and an important voice. Next is GO. Ask, where do you feel safe? Where would you go? The next step and most important step is to TELL. Who would you tell?

Ask the kids who their trusted adults are, who could they talk to if they had a problem? A home? And at school? Sometimes it is hard for adults to understand when someone has touched a child on their private parts for no good reason. Ask “what could you do if you told someone and they didn’t believe you or didn’t understand? “Keep telling someone until someone helps you. You have the right to be believed. It’s never too late to talk to a trusted grown up about an unsafe touch, no matter how long ago it happened… days, weeks or even years!”

WE SHOULD NEVER KEEP TOUCHING SECRETS. Sometimes when a grown up gives an unsafe touch they try to trick the child and say “don’t tell anyone this is our little secret” Why do you think the grown up would say that? Pause for answers… That’s right they don't want to get in trouble. Explain the difference between happy surprise and a secret.

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Scenario #1: In the Neighborhood Two friends are finishing up their play date. They are playing outside while waiting for one of the children’s mothers to come pick up. She is in a very big hurry so she asked them to wait outside for her. While they are playing a neighbor pulls up in her car. Mrs. Smith: (Full of smiles) Hi kids! You guys look like you are having so much fun playing outside. You look so happy! You know me… I’m Mrs. Smith your neighbor. I just live down the street. Could you do me a really big favor? I have these heavy groceries in my car and I really hurt my knee. You could really help me by helping me bring them into my house. My knee hurts so badly. You both look so strong and it will really only take a couple of minutes. I just live down the street. You don’t even have to ask your parents because it will be so quick; you’ll hardly be gone. And when you’re done I have some cookies I just bought. You can each have some. Shhh come on just hop in. Now the children are scared and confused so they run inside to tell the child’s mother what just happened. Using the analogy of fishing: Mrs. Smith is trying very hard to lure those children into the car. She is using tricks to get them to go with her to her house. Just like we put a worm (bait) at the end of our hook on our fishing rod to lure the fish. That fish sees the yummy worm and … gobbles it right up! Then the fisherman pulls that fish right in. That is exactly what Mrs. Smith is trying to do!

What are the tricks: Compliments (Happy and Strong), Injured knee, Short time, Cookies, Secret The children really don’t know if Mrs. Smith is trying to trick them for some reason but it is better for them to be safe than sorry. Better to run inside JUST IN CASE

Scenario #2 The Playground Several friends decided to go to the neighborhood playground. As they were playing on the slide they saw a familiar looking man approach. They recognize him as they visit that playground often and he always walks his dog in the park. Today he shows up without his dog and is only holding a leash. He approaches the children. Man: Hey kids! You guys look like you are having so much fun. You look so incredibly happy sliding down that slide and man are you guys going fast! Hey can you do me a favor. You must have seen me here a thousand times before with my dog, Stella. Well she has gone missing. I’m so so sad! I think she may be in the woods here behind this playground. You guys know this park and woods so well so I was hoping you can come and help me. It will only take a minute or two and you don’t even need to check with your parents first because I know she must be so close by. When we’re done I’ll even treat you all to an ice cream. Right down the street there is a Mister Softie. So shhhh come on let’s go before she gets too far away.

Tricks the man uses to try to lure the children to help him look for his dog: COMPLIMENTS (Happy and Fast), Playing upon EMOTIONS as sad, Brings up FAMILIARITY as they have seen him before, FAMILIARITY with park and woods, SECRET Shh don’t need to tell anyone, REWARD: Ice Cream

Scenario #3 The Grocery Store A little girl accompanies her mother to the grocery store. Her mom asks her to help out by going around the store herself to gather some products. This will speed this visit along and they’ll be able to get out of the store a lot faster. As she heads into the cereal aisle, a small older lady approaches her and asks her to help her in the candy aisle. So she follows her down towards the end of that aisle. Woman: Thank you so much for coming with me. You are such a sweet sweet child to help me. I see that you are so tall and look at those nice long arms too. Can you please help me reach that bag of candy on the top shelf. It is my sick daughter’s favorite. She is actually waiting for me in the car right now. She’s just outside those doors right there. (She points to the closest doors to them) She couldn’t come in because she is a little dizzy but I told her I would be right out. But you know what? I can’t just leave the store right now without paying for all of these groceries. Can you please take this one piece of candy to her now (the woman opens a small hole in the bag and retrieves one piece of candy and hands it to the child). It will only take a second. She is right outside these doors. You don’t even need to ask your mother because you’ll be back before you know it. Then when you return I will give a handful of this delicious candy. Shhh Please hurry! Go!

Woman’s Tricks: COMPLIMENTS (Sweet, tall, nice long arms) EMOTIONS sick daughter, REWARD Candy, SECRET shh, will take only a second

Scenario #4 The Email

After school a young boy logged on his computer, he was super excited to see that his coach had sent an email, just to him. The coach said what a talented player he was and with some extra practice he could go pro someday and that he was proud to be his coach. The coach offered to meet at the local park for a special one on one practice; and that he wanted to give him his lucky baseball. The coach told him not to tell anyone else, as they might get jealous and that he should delete the email because his parents may think he’s spending too many hours playing sports.

Coach’s Tricks: COMPLIMENTS (talented, Go Pro) EMOTIONS proud, REWARD Lucky baseball, special one on one practice SECRET shh, delete the email, others may get jealous

Practice Say “NO!” Practice this with a serious face and an important voice. Next is GO. Ask, where do you feel safe? Where would you go? The next step and most important step is to TELL. Who would you tell?

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