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CONTRIBUTING WRITERS
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As we enter the autumn season, I
Laura Mitchell
am excited about our focus – not
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Club Z!
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Estates Revisited
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Jennifer Prince
just for this issue but also for
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our magazine as a whole. We are
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striving to inspire women in
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In our summer issue, our author for Finding Fertility was Stephanie Specht of Carilion Clinic, not Peggy Karpenske, RN.
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Our Onetober focus this year
The Art Box
is domestic violence, so join us
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If you want to share what inspires
in donning the color purple all
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awareness and help those who are in devastating situations. So, throw on a scarf, grab a pumpkin flavored something or other (yes, I did go there!), and join us for our fall issue. Enjoy!
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inside this issue DI-WHY NOT? pg 4
OUR 3RD BIRTHDAY pg 27
ENDING THE VIOLENCE pg 6 INSPIRING WOMEN pg 28 awareness for a cause ladies who motivate FALL INTO A SUCCESSFUL SCHOOL YEAR pg 12
THEMED GATHERINGS pg 32 ideas for get togethers
FLOURISH pg 14 getting back to normal
MY OMBRE LIFE pg 34
A SIMPLE CIDER BAR pg 17 entertain with fall flavors
FLOURISH pg 36 considering cosmetic surgery
OFF THE BEATEN PATH pg 38 URBANE FOLKLORE pg 40 PET PONDERINGS pg 42 WOMEN OF A CERTAIN AGE pg 44 AMOUR BEBE pg 46 SNAP HAPPY pg 48
PLACES, PLEASE! pg 20 CALENDARS pg 23
Photo by Kristin Dunker Photography
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DI-Why Not?
WOOD SLICE COASTERS One of fall’s pleasures is cozy time spent with a warm drink - either on the porch, by the fire, or on the sofa. No matter what your beverage choice, these coasters will protect your furniture and add a bit of fall flair to your decor. Supplies
Instructions 1. Purchase wood slices from a craft store or cut your own from a tree branch and sand if needed. 2. Select desired fall images and save to a Word document. The images shown are from www.thegraphicsfairy.com. 3. Cut a sheet of wax paper slightly larger than a sheet of printer paper. Put the waxed paper on top of the printer paper, fold the excess wax paper over the edges of the printer paper, and tape in place on the back. This step is necessary
Wood slices - cut your own or purchase from a craft shop Computer, printer, and paper Wax paper
to prevent the wax paper from jamming the printer. Print images onto the wax paper, being careful not to touch them as the ink will easily smear. 4. Cut images out, being careful not to touch the ink. Place the image ink side down on the wood slice and rub with a credit card to transfer the image to the wood. 5. Seal wood slices with acrylic spray sealer to protect the images. 6. Place coasters on your table to enjoy this fall.
Other Ideas • Drill a hole in the top of a wood slice,
Clear tape
and use it as a gift bag decoration.
Credit card Clear acrylic wood sealer Paula Skulina is a teacher by day and in her free time enjoys biking, decorating and cooking. Visit her DIY filled blog at www.virginiasweetpea.com.
• Display a coaster as part of a fall vignette on a table or a mantel. • Entertain children by having them count the rings to see how old the tree was when it was cut down. Photos by Paula Skulina
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ENDING THE VIOLENCE Autumn’s arrival brings cooler
ending when it comes to the topic
through events such as CenterFest
temperatures, which causes us to
of domestic violence. Daily living it,
and by specially designated purple
retreat indoors. Evenings spent on
there is no liberation or option to turn
law enforcement cars, they are raising
the deck are traded for cozy nights
away. And it’s time for that to stop.
awareness by being proactive.
taking in a movie or binge-watching
October is a fitting time to bring light
The Director of BDVS, L. Leanne
our favorite Netflix series. No matter
to this topic as the National Coalition
Dudley, MSW has worked at the
the genre of choice – comedy, drama
Against Domestic Violence in 1981
agency for over 14 years. After serving
or documentary – the scenarios
designated October as a month of
as a relief worker at the shelter, she
presented on the screen often remain
unity. Taking cues from the military’s
decided to invest in their programs
in our minds. We chuckle days later
Purple Heart honoring those who
full time. “My mother worked for
when recalling a funny sequence,
were wounded while serving, the color
Bedford Department of Social Services
or we are haunted by lingering
purple was chosen to be a symbol of
for the majority of my life, so it felt
uneasiness after seeing portrayed
peace, courage, survival, honor and
like a natural progression for me to be
moments of peril.
dedication to ending the violence.
involved with a human service agency.
Movies such as Sleeping with the
There are many local agencies
I was offered the position of Shelter
Enemy, Enough and The Burning Bed
dedicated to that symbolism, one
Manager and over the years worked
are of the latter type. If you are
of those being Bedford Domestic
my way up until I became the Director
unfamiliar with these films, they
Violence Services (BDVS). Spreading
almost five years ago.”
cover the topic of domestic violence -
the word about their programs
Having years of experience and
a subject that offers a feeling of relief for the viewer once the movie finally
NEED HELP? We urge you to call one of these free, confidential 24-hour
ends and we can turn away from the
hotlines below. If you have questions or find yourself in immediate need, there
graphic images. The lead actresses in
are trained people in place to help, and you can remain anonymous if you wish.
those films – Julia Roberts, Jennifer Lopez and Farrah Fawcett – heard
· National Hotline – (800) 799-7233, www.thehotline.org
the word “cut” and were able to stop
· Bedford – BDVS (540) 587-0970, www.co.bedford.va.us
acting and return to a safe, secure
· Lynchburg – YWCA (888) 528-1041 www.ywca.org/centralvirginia
environment.
· Roanoke – TAP (540) 580-0775, www.tapintohope.org
Unfortunately, for many area women
· Roanoke – Turning Point (540) 345-0400, www.salvationarmyroanokeva.org
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a heart for helping local victims,
L: When they feel they can. It is easy
Leanne answered our questions about
for me to say from my safe office that
domestic violence, steps to take and
victims should contact my agency
how to help others in need.
immediately, but that is not always
J: What is the definition of domestic
an option. I would want a woman in
violence?
this situation to know that there are
L: Domestic violence is an intentional pattern of abusive behaviors used by one individual to exert power and control over another individual in the context of an intimate relationship. J: Why is this an issue that victims tend to cover up and/or not seek help with? L: This is a very scary and embarrassing situation. Domestic violence tends to not occur on the first date; it happens slowly over time. While we as a society have come a long way in the movement to bring the cause into the light and provide safeguards for those affected, it is still underreported. This goes back to the victims knowing their batterer far better than any of us. What my staff and I know are the dynamics and probabilities of what a batterer may do, but our clients are the experts on their family. J: When should a victim seek help?
agencies out there that will support them and not tell them what they need to do but rather provide them with education and options. When they call a hotline, they do not need to provide any identifiable information. They can call to talk about what is going on and create a support system for them so they can take that next step. A lot of the women are not sure if what they are experiencing is domestic violence. We take that moment to engage with the caller and gather more information about their situation. There may not be any physical violence yet, but there may be other things such as verbal or economic abuse.
If you have a friend you know or suspect needs help, here are tips on how you can help. · Let your friend know that you are there to help (and possibly that you suspect she is in a difficult situation). · Allow your friend to talk when she is ready.
J: After a victim contacts the hotline,
· Listen.
what is the next step?
· Be familiar with local resources
L: It is up to them where we go from there. We are about
that can be helpful. · Show kindness and support.
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clients to take whatever steps would
emails, phones and other devices.
BEDFORD DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SERVICES is available to help answer questions and also aid victims if and when they are ready and at the comfort level of the client. Here are their statistics from the 2014-2015 fiscal year.
be best to maintain their safety. Each
J: What happens to the attacker, and what
person has their own special and
options are there to keep a victim safe?
· hotline calls – 5120 answered
Orders, entering a shelter, counseling
· walk-in center – assisted 276 clients
and/or relocation]. We want to help
· emergency shelter – provided 754 nights of emergency shelter
not create additional stress.
· court hearings – attended 332 hearings
resources are available for her? L: Our agency offers emergency
· victims – 90% female, 10% male
court date for a Permanent Protective
shelter for up to three months, where
Order, where both the victim and
· provided aid to more than 100 children
there is no financial cost associated
batterer are present at court. This
with being in the shelter. We will talk
order can be as long as two years.
with her about what she would like to
There are also batterer intervention
see happen. If she needs to relocate,
groups that batterers could be
Domestic violence isn’t just
then my agency pays for a bus or
ordered to attend.
physical abuse. It can take on
train ticket.
many other forms.
If there is anything else that the
· verbal abuse
individual needs, we will look for
· financial abuse
resources to cover the cost. If the lady
· sexual abuse
would like to stay in the area, she
· economic abuse · use of coercion and threats · intimidation
unique needs, and it is the job of my staff and myself to help that person down whichever direction they choose to take [obtaining Protective
individuals and be a support system,
J: If a woman has to leave, what
can work with the Shelter Manager on creating a resume and looking for gainful employment.
L: This depends on the situation. If law enforcement was contacted, the batterer could be arrested. If not, the victim still has the option of going to the magistrate’s office and obtaining the charges on her own. There is the option of going to court to request a Preliminary Protective Order, which if granted will last 15 days. Then there will be another
J: How is success measured? L: Success is very individualized. Each person gets to decide what they feel is successful for them and their family. For one person it may be leaving the relationship, establishing independence and locating selfsufficient housing. For another it may
When a woman decides to leave that
be staying with their partner after
can be the most dangerous time for
· minimizing
the batterer completed a batterers’
her. So we safety plan with her and
intervention program.
· denying
talk about modifying her schedule,
· blaming
changing routines and passwords to
· isolation
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recidivism rate. People think that it is
potential to be murdered. Knowing
a pattern for victims, and that is not
that, I attempt to do all that I can
UPCOMING FUNDRAISERS
necessarily true.
to ensure that I have provided all
FOR BEDFORD DOMESTIC
J: I know this is a difficult question, but
the information and referrals and
VIOLENCE SERVICES
have you seen unsuccessful cases?
thought the case through every
L: Unfortunately, we have had
scenario that I could.
· On September 7 local clergy will play against area first
homicides in Bedford that were a
I like to think that one day my job
responders for a benefit
direct result of domestic violence. In
will no longer be needed, but it is a
softball game.
some of the cases, it was out of the
beautiful idea that will not come to
blue and none of us saw it coming.
fruition.
There was one client that had filed
J: What about recovery and
features music, food, and both
charges, obtained a Protective Order
the future?
a live and silent auction.
and even moved out of the locality.
L: It is important to know is that it
So, on paper, she “did everything she
is absolutely possible to recover and
should have”, but that still did not
become stronger. When a person
stop her batterer from killing her.
is in an abusive relationship that
I try and look at each case and give it
seems like such a foreign concept,
the respect it deserves, which means
but it is possible.
that each lady I work with has the
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FALL INTO A SUCCESSFUL STUDY SCHOOL YEAR: 5 HABITS Now that summer has come to an end, it is time to start preparing for another school year. Many of the study and organizational skills that will help your child become more academically successful are not learned or taught in the classroom. So how can you help your child improve his or her study skills? Here are the top five study tips to help your children find success this school year, no matter what their age, and for years to come!
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TIP 1
the classroom and at home. When Find an ideal location.
planning a homework schedule, keep
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A critical component of successful
your child’s developmental level and
studying is creating an ideal,
attention span in mind. Older
distraction-free working space for
students can generally remain
your child. Be sure there is adequate
focused on a task for longer periods
lighting and an organized, accessible
of time, but younger students may
2. GOOGLE
supply of necessary items, such as
struggle to stay focused for 20
3. CALENDAR SUNRISE
writing instruments and paper.
minutes. Allow your child to take
4. UPTO
If space is limited and you don’t
breaks as needed, or plan breaks as
have room for a desk, try storing all
rewards for finishing sections of
necessary books and materials in a
work.
decorative storage crate. Keep the crate tucked away until homework time, which ensures your supplies are
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1. CAL
5. WAVE to be patient enough to spend 45 minutes on a question you could
Get organized. Find
have answered in 5 minutes. Parents
a place to display a monthly family
can definitely help with tasks like
always at the ready and allows you to
calendar. Post upcoming academic
calling out spelling words or checking
set up a study space anywhere in the
events such as tests and project due
a troublesome math problem, but
house.
dates. Use highlighters or colored
if your child can easily handle the
markers to represent different
assignment or question, unnecessary
categories of events and/or for
support may inadvertently rob your
Balancing homework, extracurricular
different children in the household.
young learner of the opportunity
activities, and family life can
Students are never too young to learn
to learn from the process. Also,
sometimes seem harder than herding
how to start keeping their own daily
encourage your child to go above and
cats, as the saying goes! As difficult as
agenda or planner. For older students
beyond the minimum requirements
setting a consistent schedule may be,
with smartphones, there are several
of assignments and projects. One of
it can pay dividends for your child’s
free calendar apps with user-friendly
the most common misconceptions
productivity and the family’s sanity.
features.
about doing schoolwork is that
TIP 2
Consistency is key.
Establishing a predictable schedule for everyday activities like homework, dinner, and baths makes it much
you simply need to complete the
TIP 4
Discover your child’s
learning style. The most common
assignment; when in reality, you need to do much more to learn and retain the information you’re reviewing.
easier for your children to plan their
three learning styles are: visual,
days and meet expectations in both
auditory and kinesthetic (tactile).
Learning proper study habits will
Most of us favor one major learning
minimize homework wars, enable
style, and discovering your children’s
your child to achieve more academic
learning styles can help you to help
success, and help to build life-long
them find study methods that work
learning skills. We wish you a fun,
VISUAL - draw pictures, make charts
to their strengths . There is a wealth
education-filled school year!
and diagrams, re-read material, make
of information on the Internet to
flash cards, color code notes
help assess your children’s learning
AUDITORY - record your notes and
styles along with suggestions for
listen to them, practice out loud by
working within their styles to help
having a partner ask questions and
them learn and study. Also, take a
recite spelling words, turn memory
peek at our sidebar for ideas.
STUDY HINTS FOR THE LEARNING STYLES
work into songs or poems to sing or recite
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KINESTHETIC/TACTILE - incorporate
the work. This one is often easier
hands-on activities, games, and
said than done. It can be difficult
movement into learning
sometimes to watch your child
As a Lynchburg native, Jennifer Whitt has been a teacher and tutor for over 15 years and is the Area Director/Owner of Club Z! Lynchburg.
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Flourish Some scars take longer to heal than
and realizing a self-esteem boost.
others. After a lengthy battle with
Breast cancer doesn’t just attack cells;
breast cancer, many women are left
it penetrates at an emotional level,
with the emotional aftermath of
particularly when a mastectomy
a mastectomy. The hardest parts
– on one or both sides – is part of
– the initial shock, surgery, and
the treatment plan. Many women
chemotherapy – are over, but the
face great anxiety at the prospect
physical and emotional healing
of losing a breast, and exploring
takes time.
options and recent developments in
Memories are never erased, but breast
breast reconstruction can help allay
reconstruction surgery at least allows
that anxiety.
Photo by Bella Muse Photography
a woman to look in the mirror each day without a glaring reminder of the painful ordeal. Most of the time the biggest part of the reconstruction can be done at the time of mastectomy— neatly sidestepping months of living without a breast.
SHE’S A SURVIVOR! KATY CARROLL MONCUS WAS DIAGNOSED WITH BREAST CANCER IN JULY OF 2009.
Ka t y t he S urviv or
THEN 29, SHE WAS A NONSMOKING TRIATHLETE WITH NO HISTORY OF CANCER IN HER FAMILY. KATY HAS BEEN CANCER FREE FOR SIX YEARS, AND SHE AND HER HUSBAND, ROLLINS, HAVE TWO DAUGHTERS.
According to national statistics, half of women who undergo a full
An excellent surgeon’s number one
trends show a 2.5 to 24 percent
mastectomy never see a breast
priority is a safe procedure that
infection rate despite best practices.
reconstruction surgeon. Some women
allows a woman to put a painful
Infection is the leading cause of
are not candidates for the procedure,
experience behind her. Patients want
failed reconstruction surgery, dealing
but many can benefit from the surgery,
an opportunity to move past breast
another blow to an emotionally
moving toward a sense of normalcy
cancer, rather than reliving a difficult
drained cancer survivor at an already
time when stepping out of the
vulnerable time. Women facing an
shower each day.
infection after surgery are fearful of
Equally important, women want
starting over with reconstruction,
assurance of a safe and effective
afraid of going through another
procedure. Over the last year, our
procedure with added cost and
surgery team has pioneered safe
recovery time.
“no-touch” breast reconstruction
No-touch surgical techniques,
techniques, which have radically
developed in the 1890s, are widely
reduced infection rates. National
used when implanting orthopedic,
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urologic and plastic surgical
zero over a one year period.
life constantly reminded of a
prosthetic devices, but they have
The new techniques only add
difficult fight with cancer. Breast
not previously been used in breast
five to ten minutes to each breast
reconstruction surgery isn’t for
reconstruction. The no-touch
surgery and give women a safer
every woman, but for many, the
techniques involve using sterile
reconstruction. There is no cosmetic
safest procedure allows them to get
transparent drapes, a self-retaining
price to pay either—the techniques
back something lost, increase their
retractor, and small hooks to limit the
apply equally to reconstruction
self-esteem and put cancer in the
exposed skin during the procedure.
following nipple-sparing
rearview mirror.
When applied to breast reconstruction
mastectomies, the gold standard for
surgery, these techniques have shown
cosmetic breast reconstruction.
promise in dramatically reducing
A mastectomy is not just a major
infection rates. In our recent series,
life event but also a substantial
no-touch techniques reduced
emotional loss. Losing a breast
infection-related reconstructive
is easily compared to losing a
failure rates from twelve percent to
limb. Many survivors go through
Henry B. Wilson, MD, FACS, is a surgeon at Centra Medical Group Plastic Surgery Center in Lynchburg. For more information, visit CentraMedicalGroup. com/PlasticSurgery or call 434.200.4350.
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Clutch Goes Culinary
A SIMPLE CIDER BAR
Fall is in the air, and that brings cravings for hearty, warm beverages. While some pay homage to everything pumpkin spice, another classic favorite is apple cider. With its combination of sweet and spiced flavors, a mug of this treat ranks up there with other cherished comfort foods. When it comes to entertaining guests, a hot cider bar with a mix of add-ins is a special treat. Our cider recipe serves well as a stand alone beverage and as a base for add-ins and an extra bit of fun!
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MULLED APPLE CIDER Ingredients • 2 quarts apple juice (unsweetened) • 1/2 c brown sugar • 3 cinnamon sticks (3”-5” in length) • 1 t whole allspice • 1 t whole cloves • 1/4 t salt • dash nutmeg • sliced apple (optional)
Method 1. In a large pot combine juice, sugar, allspice, cloves, salt, nutmeg, and cinnamon, and bring to a boil. 2. Cover, turn to low, and allow to simmer for 20 minutes. 3. Strain to remove the spices (or allow them to float, just be careful when drinking). 4. Garnish mugs with an apple slice, or float an apple slice in the mug. 5. Sit back, sip and enjoy!
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Heading out to the orchard is always fun! Check out our list for where to find (and pick) apples locally. • Carter Mountain Orchard - Charlottesville
• Morris Orchard - Monroe
• Dickie Brothers Orchard - Roseland
• Mountain Cove Orchard - Afton
• Gross Orchards - Bedford
• Seaman’s Orchard - Roseland
• Johnson’s Orchard - Bedford
• Silver Creek Orchard - Tyro
Cider Bar Add-in Options • toffee candies • caramels • butterscotch candies • cinnamon sticks • maple bourbon
Photography, Styling and Add-in Options by Kristin Dunker Photography
Although she is married to an avid coffee drinker, Jennifer Prince’s fall choice is sweet, mulled cider.
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PLACES, PLEASE! Kathy Clay shines bright If you’ve been to a production at Endstation Theatre Company, the Academy of Fine Arts, Wolfbane Productions, or Heritage High School, chances are you’ve seen a show that has Kathy Clay’s fingerprints on it. From performing as Big Edie in Wolfbane Productions’ Grey Gardens, to choreographing Chicago at the Academy of Fine Arts, to directing See How They Run at Heritage High School, or playing Louise Seger in Endstation Theatre Company’s sold-out run of Always … Patsy Cline, Clay has starred in, choreographed, and directed some 15 live theatre productions all over Lynchburg. But unlike many in the theatre arts community who have called Lynchburg home for decades, Clay and her husband Dr. Lucius Clay, only relocated to Lynchburg in 2006. Clay grew up in Tenafly, New Jersey, just over the river from the Big Apple. She was raised on Broadway shows, ballet performances, and visits to museums in Manhattan. To her,
Photo by LaShonda Delivuk
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world class culture was just a a part
Virginia? “It’s a beautiful part of
experience in Lynchburg is hard to
of life: “As a little kid I was spoiled
the world. And I had a real crush on
determine. “Wolfbane’s Grey Gardens
in thinking that you should always
southern writers,” Clay explained.
will always be a standout for me. I
expect excellence in performing
During the summer Clay returned to
also loved directing Guys & Dolls and
arts.” Clay remembers a specific
New Jersey and commuted into New
directing/choreographing Legally
performance she attended in middle
York daily to work as the librarian
Blonde: The Musical at the Academy of
school put on by high school students
archivist for the famed Actors Studio.
Fine Arts. Working with Endstation
in which she realized she wanted to
The Actors Studio was founded by
Theatre Company four summers
take part in the collaborative arts.
Elia Kazan, Cheryl Crawford, and
in a row was amazing.
“I remember sitting in my seat and
Robert Lewis in 1947. The roots of the
This summer I choreographed a
thinking I could get up there right
Actors Studio go back to the Group
production of A Funny Thing Happened
now and be better. That’s when I
Theatre (1931-1941) whose work was
on the Way to the Forum in upstate
knew that this was something
inspired by the techniques of the
New York, and I’m slated to direct/
I always wanted to do. Not so
great Russian actor and director
choreograph the musical I’ll Never
much that I wanted to be a star
Konstantin Stanislavski. Clay had
Be Hungry Again! in early 2016 at
on stage - I wanted, with my
numerous opportunities to do scene
Renaissance Theatre. It’s a spoof on
involvement, to make the thing
study with legends like Eli Wallach,
Gone With the Wind, and I cannot wait
better.” Clay began working in
Ellen Burnstyn, Martin Landau, and
to roll up my sleeves on that one! I
professional summer stock theatre
Lee Strasburg.
also adore teaching college and high
at the age of 15.
For years Clay focused on raising her
school students in town. It’s all good.
After a rewarding high school
two children while continuing to
It’s obviously the field I was meant to
experience in an all girls boarding
train in acting, dancing and singing,
be immersed in, and I’m so grateful
school, Clay opted to study at Hollins
and performing professionally
I’ve always got something ‘booked.’ I
University in Roanoke, not far from
every summer. Now that both kids
love being in the audience, too!”
VMI, where her father had studied.
are successfully “launched” adults,
With easy access in New York to
Clay enjoys focusing on performing,
high-caliber acting training, Clay
directing, traveling, and spending
wanted to get a more well-rounded
time with her father who recently
liberal arts education during her
relocated to nearby Westminster
college years. Why study in southwest
Canterbury. Her favorite stage
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AUGUST SUNDAY 16 Civil War Walking Tours 2-3pm Head to the Presbyterian Cemetery in Lynchburg for this tour.
23 Geek Mob 1-9pm Head to Center in the Square for a celebration of all things geeky.
30 Sunday Afternoon at Blue Ridge Vineyard 1-4pm Enjoy music and scenery.
MONDAY 17 Yoga at the Museum 12:30-1:30pm Stretch and bend at the Taubman for a nominal class fee.
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Summer Concert Series 6:30-8pm Hear the McKenzies in the park at the Appomattox Court House.
Joan Jett & the Blackhearts 7:30pm Head to Elmwood Park to hear a live show.
FRIDAY 21 Indians Along the James 3-5pm Enjoy a presentation at the Lynchburg Museum.
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Hump Day Hops 6pm Head to Dr. Pepper Park for craft brews.
Afternoon Arts 4-5pm The Jacksonville Center in Floyd offers art to children.
Museum After Dark 6:30-10:30pm Amazement Square hosts a fun event for adults.
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SATURDAY 22 Equi-Fest 9am-6pm Have a day of family fun at the Sedalia Center.
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Party in Elmwood 5:30-8:30pm Groove to beach music at this Roanoke park.
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Party in the Park 5:30-9pm Music, food and fun abounds at Daleville Town Center.
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Twelve Angry Men 8pm Showtimers in Roanoke presents this drama.
Thomas Jefferson’s Artisan Fair 8am-5pm Support Poplar Forest’s first artisan event.
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Amazing Mile Children’s Run 6-9pm Take the kids to kick off the VA 10 Miler celebration with a race of their own.
Harlem Renaissance Festival 10am-6pm Head to Pierce St. in Lynchburg for this historic district fundraiser.
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SMLWine Festival 11am-5pm Enjoy the festivities at Lakewatch Plantation.
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Country Fair & Gathering 10am-4-m Celebrate rural life at the Sedalia Center.
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Dogtoberfest 10am-4pm Take your pooch and head to this fun day in Roanoke!
RIMBA Lunch Ride 12:30-1:30pm Meet at UnderDog Bikes and head out for a ride.
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The Producers 8pm Enjoy this musical at Renaissance Theatre.
Day at the Point 10am-4pm Experience a free fall festival at Point of Honor.
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Peak Foliage Open House 12-5pm Enjoy samples at Peaks of Otter Winery.
Employment Seminar 8:30am-4pm The Hotel Roanoke hosts this day long session.
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Navy Birthday Celebration 10am-5pm Head to the D-Day Memorial for the Navy’s 240th.
SML Home Tour 1-5pm Visit lovely homes around the lake.
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Hump Day Hops 5:30-9pm Enjoy a brew at Dr. Pepper Park.
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Apple Festival 9am-5pm Head to Drumheller’s Orchard for this annual event.
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Midnight Movie 11:59pm Watch Psycho at Grandin Theatre.
Legends of the Land 6-9pm Learn about enslaved life at Poplar Forest.
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Frankenstein 2:30 & 7:30pm Attic Productions in Fincastle puts on this fun show.
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Vintage Lynchburg Support artisans and see a vintage fashion show.
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Inspiring Women THOSE WHO MOTIVATE US As a former Motivation Monday gal, Jennifer anticipates reading the compelling stories of a new lady each Monday morning.
Friendship is an important part of
her to a photo shoot. “The goal with
life. We sharpen each other to be
these shoots is to show women the
better. No matter where we find
beauty I see when I look at them and
our kindred spirits - school, work,
tell their stories to help motivate
community or family - these are the
other women,” she explained.
ladies who move us.
These sessions produce stunning
We want to highlight a few inspiring
photos, and LaShonda also enjoys
women who come straight out
the time. “It is impactful for me to
of Motivation Monday, a concept
unplug and spend an hour with a
envisioned by LaShonda Delivuk,
woman each Monday morning just
a creative professional and
being creative, getting to know each
entrepreneur (she and her husband
other,” she reminisced, “We all get so
own a local video production
busy sometimes and forget to talk.
company). The tagline of her project
Forget to fellowship.”
is “there’s something inside you that
And that why we will be featuring
motivates us all”.
ladies from Motivation Monday in
“One of my personal struggles has
our upcoming issues. Consider this a
always been self worth. I wasn’t
place of fellowship and introduction
good enough or my story wasn’t
to another woman - living life daily
good enough,” LaShonda confided.
just as you are - someone who can
“Not only are you good enough, but
inspire you!
your story can help motivate others
What emboldens LaShonda? “What
no matter what you do for a living.”
motivates me is feeling like my life
Every Monday, LaShonda chooses
counts. Like the world is a little
a local woman to profile and treats
better because of something I did...
Photo by Josh Delivuk
at the very least, using the gifts God gave me to love on others is a no brainer,” she stated. Want to know more about the ladies of Motivation Monday? Head to www.lashondabrown.com, and also check out her Instagram at @lashondabrown. Feel free to use #gomotivatemonday to introduce yourself or nominate someone. And, as always, use #clutchinspires to show us what moves you.
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VICTORIA BARTHOLOMEW lover of real estate . historic home owner . downtown cheerleader . cat lady . vegan
When it comes to historic real estate, Victoria is Lynchburg’s go-to gal. After all, she resides in a historic district. “By living here I am able to speak personally about my experience in the area and the innumerable positive sides there are to buying into our historic neighborhoods,” she explained. Besides that, Victoria has helped to restore older homes. “I have run wire, cleaned shellac off of woodwork, installed kitchens and tiling, stripped doorknobs and hinges, and done everything in between. So when I say I know old houses, I really know old houses - inside and out,” she declared. Coming from a family of small business owners, it is natural for her to gather inspiration from
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entrepreneurs. Victoria offered, “It takes bravery, skill, time and hard
Victoria also wants to change the
earned money to start your own
once negative perception of the
business, and talking to anyone who
downtown area. “These places
has decided to do so will leave you
have changed, and it is time to get
feeling inspired.”
downtown,” she offered. We agree,
Owning a home is also important to Victoria, and she feels that it is a way to substantially improve your life. “There are few things more satisfying than coming to a place at the end of the day that belongs
REASONS VICTORIA LOVES LIVING IN VA • amazing architecture
and Victoria is making a difference in
• low cost of living
the community and for families... one
• natural landscape
house at a time.
• delicious local food
BEST ADVICE EVER GIVEN TO HER
• compassionate nature of the residents
Don’t be afraid to ask; the worst they can do is say no.
• proximity to metropolitan areas
(furry and otherwise), the things you
WHY SHE LOVES BEING A REAL
• room for originality and creativity
like, painted the colors you want -
ESTATE AGENT
all the while being part of a greater
I love being able to show what a
community. On top of all that, you
seriously great place Lynchburg is to
are building equity. It’s a win-win
live, work and have a darn good time.
to you, filled with the ones you love
situation,” she advised.
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JENNIFER KENNEDY
proud momma . lover of all things local . adventure advocate . forever fan of the underdog If you frequent the Lynchburg Community Market, chances are that among the bustling, exciting atmosphere, you have encountered Jennifer. As the Market Manager,
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her correspondence signs off as “Locally Yours”, which shows where her heart lies. “I live in a community that allows me to feel a sense of place as it continues to evolve and grow into its own greatness,” Jennifer reflected, “Every day, I have a million more reasons to be happy, grateful, and proud. I am surrounded by love. I work with phenomenal folks. I am witness to creation and creativity in every capacity.” Through the market, Jennifer presents farmers, crafters and eateries to the community, and she wouldn’t have it any other way. “I have a job that allows me to shed light on amazing individuals who work hard to make something from nothing. I am fortunate enough to live in a community that allows me to engage in movements driven by talented people,” she stated. Personally, Jennifer is moved by the simpler things - such as a good
daily basis provide influence. “I find inspiration in anything that reinforces a sentiment of hope and possibility and perseverance and the attainability of our very best life,” she added, “I am inspired by people who put in hard work with a heart of gold.” When it comes to community, Jennifer has proven that she has her own heart of gold.
WHAT MOTIVATES JENNIFER • making an impact and a difference • seeing deserving people realize their dreams • challenge, risk, adversity, failure we all learn from these • making her family and loved ones proud
meal, vibrant flowers or a unique
WHY SHE LOVES VA
conversation. People influence her,
Beauty is absolutely everywhere. In
including her parents and son. “I am
our landscapes, in our seasons, in our
LIFE LESSON
inspired by my son as he grows into a
wildlife, in our food, in our strong
Surround yourself with a handful of
good human with the great guidance
communal spirit, in our people.
incredible women who get you and
of many and also on his own accord.
FASHION LOVE
have got your back always. They will
I have a deep affinity for dresses
grow with you and save you a million
with pockets. Pretty, comfortable,
times over.
He is wise beyond his years and fiercely loyal, with a determination that is steadfast,” Jennifer offered. Those who surround her on a
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THEMED GATHERINGS Friends often enjoy casual, spur-of-the-moment get togethers, yet there is also something spectacular about picking a theme and planning a party. Fall is a season of gatherings, so as the weather turns cool and we settle in, why not invite a few of your favorite ladies over to reconnect for a fun spin on a ladies night in? PINTEREST PARTY How many of us have pinned way more things than we could ever try? Guilty? This party is the perfect excuse to finally test out some of those pins. Either pick a craft to all try together, or have each lady bring supplies for one project she has pinned. Best case scenario: you have great holiday gifts made up. Worst case: you walk away with a great “Pinterest fail� story. For snacks, have each guest make and bring a recipe they have pinned.
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TEA SWAP
BACK TO SCHOOL
This spin on the traditional tea
Have you and your friends all been
party is fun and can be as formal
talking about learning a certain skill?
or as casual as you like. Have each
Maybe it’s knitting, bread baking, or
lady bring a box of her favorite
making your own cleaning supplies.
individually wrapped tea bags, so she
Ask around and find someone you
can give one tea bag to each guest.
know who is willing to come over
Have plenty of hot water and cups
and demonstrate. Make sure you get
on hand so ladies can try teas while
a supply list from your instructor
they gather and visit. Be sure to have
and distribute it beforehand so your
each guest share which tea bag she
guests can come prepared.
brought as she hands them out. For added fun you could also include a
FAVORITE THINGS PARTY Instruct each guest to choose her favorite thing that costs less than $5.00 and bring five of that item to the party. For example, one of your friends may bring five tubes of her favorite lip balm and another may opt for five of her favorite pen or favorite scented
teacup exchange.
SIMPLE ROASTED PUMPKIN SEEDS
CARD ADDRESSING PARTY
Ingredients
Get a jump start on the holidays, and
• seeds from one large pumpkin
make a tedious task more enjoyable.
• 2 T olive oil
Put on some festive music, set up
• salt
a hot chocolate bar, and have some friends over to address their own envelopes. It may feel like you are rushing things, but when the holiday chaos sets in, you will be glad you have all your holiday cards addressed ahead of time.
candle. As each guest arrives, she writes her name on five slips of paper.
PUMPKIN PARTY
• fresh ground pepper Method • preheat oven to 375 degrees F • rinse and dry seeds • add all ingredients to a small bowl and mix gently to coat the seeds • evenly distribute coated seeds on a cookie sheet in a single layer
Collect the slips in a bowl, and when
Making a mess is always more fun
everyone has had a chance to visit,
with friends around. Have everyone
• bake until the seeds are crisp (approximately 7 minutes)
the fun begins! Pick one friend to
bring a pumpkin, and decorate them
• enjoy!
start. She’ll explain what her favorite
together. Go old school and carve
thing is and why she loves it so much.
them, or try something new and paint,
Then she picks five names from the
tape, or glitter your gourds. Vote on
bowl, and hands out her treasured
best, scariest, worst (ha!) and funniest,
items. Continue until everyone has
and then gather the leftover seeds and
shared, and by the end of the night,
toast them while everyone is there.
Joy Niehaus is a freelance writer and free time creative. She enjoys reading, baking, and spending time with her husband and daughters.
everyone will have five fun new products to take home. CARAMEL APPLE BAR Have a memorable time by setting up a DIY caramel apple bar. Assign apples, sticks, caramel (and chocolate) for melting and dipping, as well as various toppings to each guest. Make sure you have lots of wax paper and string so guests can wrap up their creations to take home and enjoy later.
COOK OFF Nothing says fall like a great big bowl of soup. Invite friends over, and have each family bring a pot of their favorite soup and plenty of copies of the recipe. Keep things simple (and less likely to spill) by serving the soup in styrofoam cups. Have plenty of napkins on hand and add a little friendly competition by giving a prize to the favorite soup of the night. 33
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FASHIONABLE INSTAGRAM One of the reasons I’m always excited for fall is fashion. With new seasons come new trends, and some of the biggest trends of the year happen in the fall. While I love to shop, I love to save as well, so before I totally rework my closet, I try to get inspiration from all sorts of outlets: blogs, magazines, newsletters, and (my favorite) Instagram. This fun, cool, social media tool lets me stalk some very fashionable people (some celebs, some just like you and me). Instagram provides me with a first look at new trends and how they’re incorporated into everyday wear. If you haven’t been sucked into the Instagram craze, you’re missing out. Instagram is a popular social network app used by millions around the globe to instantly share photos and videos. Many have taken Instagram to another level, using it to brand and market themselves. Others simply love to share their lives (and their outfits). So, for the trendsetting readers who love fashion, here are a couple of accounts I follow for style inspiration.
@alyssaneilson
@hannahcrosskey
@targetdoesitagain
Alyssa Neilson is a sporty, chic chick. She’s
Hannah Cox is a total fashionista. Her
Ok, first of all, who doesn’t love Target? That
a New Yorker who works in the marketing
Insta-feed will have you wishing you could
store gets my bank account into trouble
business. She loves sports, details (sneakers,
get your hands on all of her looks, which
every single shopping trip. This account
watches, jerseys, jackets), and has an eye for
actually isn’t a problem. Hannah shares and
specifically posts the newest additions to the
vintage finds. If you’re anything like me -
tags where each detail of her look is from,
racks and shelves at Target. I mean, the girls
and by that I mean a lover of incorporating
and most accessories are super affordable,
behind this account actually post pictures
sporty wear into your look - Alyssa is the girl
coming from H&M, Zara, Asos, and several
from inside of the fitting room with all of the
to keep an eye on.
online boutiques.
details (prices, sizes, etc.) conveniently laid out for you. How genius is that?
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@miraduma
@monicarosestyle
@xammasi
Miroslava Duma previously worked at
Stylist, designer, and mother of two,
I’m not too sure what Anna Maria does,
Harper’s Bazaar Russia. She’s a freelance
Monica Rose is THAT girl. She styles
but she looks perfect doing it. Everything
writer, style icon, and my favorite girl in
some of the hottest stars (Kendall Jenner
screams perfection about this beauty -
the fashion world. Mira posts from all the
being her main focus at the moment)
from her glam makeup, to her hair, to her
fashion hot spots, like front row at Chanel
and posts their fab looks. You’ll also get
wardrobe. Anna Maria is so classic and
runway shows and behind-the-scenes at
to see her adorable kids, #AlaiaRose
simple, yet super trendy. Her choice of
Stella McCartney shoots. This busy girl
and #SalvadorLukas, who are mini
colors in her closet are easy to follow: lots of
loves to share her world travels, where you
fashionistas themselves (perfect for
safe colors like nude, white, black, and olive
get to peep all of the eclectic outfits she
keeping your kids on trend as well).
green. While this might seem boring, this
puts together.
color palette is reusable, easy to style, and perfect for every season.
Now, grab your phone, get on @inspovoguee
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Flourish
considering cosmetic surgery
Like any elective surgery, the decision to undergo cosmetic surgery is deeply personal. This is true whether you are considering a procedure with a surgeon or a minimally invasive non-surgical procedure with an aesthetician. If you are considering it, the most important decision is choosing your provider. Consult with surgeons or aestheticians and find one whom you trust and are comfortable with. Experienced, board-certified providers will educate you about your options and work with you to determine the best approach for you. “Do your homework,” says Kurtis E. Moyer, M.D., Chief of Plastic and Reconstructive Surgery at Carilion Clinic Cosmetic Center. “Certification of your specialist matters.” Together with your provider, consider carefully your health, your lifestyle,
Photo by Visions by Bella Muse Photography
and most importantly, your goals. A
diagnosed or undiagnosed)?
Smoking, drinking alcohol, exercise,
good candidate for cosmetic surgery
Disclose even seemingly minor
and diet can all affect your physical
is in good health, has healthy habits,
conditions, such as a well-managed
appearance as well as your healing
and has reasonable expectations
thyroid disorder, as well as every
and recovery from surgery. Discuss
about the results.
medication and dietary supplement
your lifestyle honestly with your
that you take. Don’t forget vitamins!
provider so he or she can give you the
These may not affect the decision
best guidance.
YOUR HEALTH Before you opt for elective surgery, consider your overall physical and mental health. Write down everything you can think of
to have surgery, but some otherwise harmless supplements can affect
YOUR GOALS
bleeding, and your provider may have
Aside from choosing an experienced,
you stop taking them for a while.
board-certified surgeon, this
regarding your health to discuss
is perhaps the most important
with your provider. Do you have any
YOUR LIFESTYLE
consideration of all. Your provider
chronic illnesses, such as diabetes
Cosmetic surgeons often recommend
will want to discuss this aspect of the
or heart disease? Do you suffer
lifestyle changes to potential patients
decision with you, so consider these
from depression or anxiety (either
before recommending surgery.
questions before scheduling your consultation:
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· What do you want to change about your appearance? · Why do you want to change it? · Are you motivated by your own expectations, or somebody else’s? · How long have you been considering making this change? · Do you understand the risks and limitations of the procedure?
NON-SURGICAL OPTIONS Many of the 15 million cosmetic procedures performed in the United States in 2014 were non-surgical procedures. Non-surgical procedures are minimally invasive and tend to result in the subtle aesthetic changes many clients seek. According to Gina Hunt, Carilion Clinic Cosmetic Center’s Master Aesthetician, non-surgical cosmetic procedures are about getting you back to “looking and feeling like you. True wellness of healthy skin reveals your inner beauty and confidence.”
· What do you expect to change after the procedure? Once you have done your homework
The most common non-surgical procedures in 2014 were:
and decide that cosmetic surgery is
1.
right for you, be sure to call on your
2. DERMAL (SOFT TISSUE) FILLERS
BOTOX® INJECTIONS
family and friends for support. Elective
3.
CHEMICAL PEELS
cosmetic surgery carries the same
4.
LASER HAIR REMOVAL
risks as any other surgery, and rest and
5.
MICRODERMABRASION
Other options include laser rejuvenation, vascular and pigmented lesion removal, and dermaplaning. As with surgical procedures, it is important to choose a provider you are comfortable with and who has the training and experience to help you make the best choices for your body.
relaxation are necessary as you recover. Relying on your support network will allow you to focus on healing.
Laura Mitchell writes about health and lifestyle topics for Carilion Clinic’s Marketing, Research & Communications group. She spends her weekends hiking familiar trails and searching out new ones.
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Off the Beaten Path getting away from it all
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Getting away from it all doesn’t
BEGIN BY MAKING AN
eyes and observe the wonder of
always have to be a physical trip
APPOINTMENT WITH YOURSELF.
things that you would otherwise
to a planned destination. In fact,
Set aside at least 15 minutes in your
overlook. Meditate, pray, read, draw.
developing the habit of a daily mental
day to get off of YOUR beaten path.
Do whatever is peaceful and serene
break can be far more advantageous in
Schedule it into your day planner, add
to you personally.
the long run than an annual vacation!
it to your “to-do” list, set the alarm
As you begin to make time for this
It occurred to me on a backpacking
on your phone, or whatever works
respite in your schedule each day,
trip in Colorado that people have
best for you. And don’t break that
you will find the benefits of this
become so focused on getting things
appointment! Don’t fool yourself into
brief renewal will far exceed your
done that we have neglected to make
thinking you don’t have the time for a
expectations. Those around you
time each day just to be. On a brisk
bit of sanity in your day.
will also reap the benefits as you
morning in the Rockies, it is easy to
UNPLUG, DISCONNECT, AND
intentionally take time out from the
breathe in deeply and let one’s mind
MOMENTARILY REMOVE YOURSELF
stress in your day and allow yourself
wander without any specific intent.
FROM YOUR BUSYNESS. This is
a few moments of private peace.
How freeing it was to be away from all
your time in the day to relax and
By allowing your brain the space
of life’s demands and to just watch as
let your mind wander. It may seem
to work in a more creative way, you
an elk traversed by our tent without
uncomfortable at first, but stick with
will discover more clarity, patience
giving us a second glance or thought.
it ... the pay-off is big! Developing
and energy to work with people and
The exciting news is this: you don’t
the ability to steer your mind away
everyday issues in your life.
have to plan a trip to any far off place
from all of your tasks for a short time
in order to experience peacefulness!
is not only extremely healthy, but
You can begin cultivating the “off the
it is also quite liberating. Develop
beaten path” mentality right from
the habit of reflecting more deeply
your own home.
during this time. Really open your
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Urbane Folklore
GET AWAY IN STYLE My favorite time of year is here again! I love pretty much everything about fall, and I look forward to it year round. My husband and I love to get away in the fall and retreat to a cabin in the mountains. Not much is better than cozying up with a cup of hot tea or cocoa with the people I love, my pup, Fiver, and a beautiful mountain setting. FASHION
CULTURE
MUSIC
Fall is the perfect time for layering
One of the best parts about getting
A mountain getaway wouldn’t be
since the days may be warm, but the
away is experiencing local culture
complete without wonderful tunes
nights can get a bit chilly. My favorite
wherever you go, and the Internet is
filling the air. My mountain getaway
layering combo is a pair of jeans, a
a wonderful resource for information
favorites include:
cami, a loose-fitting long sleeve top, a
about your travel destination. I
1. “Fleet Foxes” by Fleet Foxes
sweater or light jacket, and a poncho
always research online before we head
to top it all off. Don’t forget a cute hat
out of town to see where the locals
and a great pair of boots. This way
go. We normally just like to stay in
you stay nice and warm, but if you get
on getaways, but it’s wonderful to
too hot, just strip away a layer. When
see if there are restaurants we should
layering, always make sure each layer
experience, shops to peruse, hiking
looks like a complete outfit. Start
trails to explore, or anything else that
building your look from the base and
we’d be sad if we missed.
you’ll be golden!
A great way to find out what to do in
6. “Black Bear” by Andrew Belle
Don’t forget to pack some comfy, warm
an area is to check out hashtags on
7. “I Never Learn” by Lykke Li
pajamas or your favorite sweatshirt and
Instagram. Search the name of the
8. “Rituals” by Other Lives
slippers. Some cabins and getaways can
area you’re visiting, and you should
be drafty at night, so make sure you
find local accounts loaded with the
bring lots to keep you warm.
information you will need.
2. “Cease to Begin” by Band of Horses 3. “July” by Marissa Nadler 4. “American IV: The Man Comes Around” by Johnny Cash 5. “Now That I’ve Found You” by Alison Krauss
9. “Illinois” by Sufjan Stevens 10. “Life of Leisure” by Washed Out
If Instagram isn’t your thing, just go and explore! The adventure is all part of the allure, in my opinion. Step out of the routine and go on a new escapade. You’re sure to make wonderful memories. So pack your bags in style and head out for a weekend to enjoy time with your loved ones! 40
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Pet Ponderings
4 PREVENTATIVE MEASURES Hypertension, heart disease and cancer have all been labeled as “silent killers” in human medicine. These diseases have vague symptoms that can go undiagnosed for years. The difficulty in veterinary medicine is more diseases can be “silent killers” because animals cannot communicate what they are feeling. Animals may naturally mask illness and pain, which makes it difficult to know when there is a problem, yet there are four measures that can help ensure the health of your pet.
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KNOW WHAT IS NORMAL FOR
KEEP CURRENT WITH ROUTINE
YOUR PET. Notice their routine
BLOOD WORK AND DIAGNOSTICS.
habits for eating, drinking, breathing,
Although lab work is an added
using the bathroom, sleeping,
expense, it can save money in the
activity and grooming. Learn to
long run by catching disease or
pick up on changes to these habits
discrepancies early. Scheduling
PETS AGE FASTER THAN PEOPLE
as well as changes in interactions,
diagnostics depends of the age of
Dogs and cats age faster than
temperament, vocalization, or weight.
your pet and what problems they are
people, and major health
Subtle changes in any of these may be
experiencing.
changes can occur in a short
the first and only sign of a problem.
If the blood work is normal, you will
amount of time. Regular pet
If you sense a problem, keep a log
be equipped with peace of mind.
preventive healthcare exams are
book or write on a calendar to help
More importantly, this gives your
necessary to help your pet live a
remember dates and frequencies of
veterinarian baseline values for
longer, healthier and happier life.
important events or changes in your
future comparison. Think of your pet
pet. This time frame may help your
as a puzzle. The physical exam is one
veterinarian in determining a cause
piece. As other diagnostics and tests
or the severity of an issue. Also keep a
are run, more pieces of your pet’s
list of your pet’s medications handy.
health are put together and can aid
SCHEDULE A YEARLY PHYSICAL EXAM WITH A VETERINARIAN.
in determining the cause of your pet’s illness.
Scheduling an appointment to
PLAN FINANCIALLY. Most
discuss your pet’s health, history
veterinary offices require payment at
and environment is paramount.
the time of service. When emergencies
Veterinarians are trained to ask
and unexpected illness happen, your
specific questions and obtain valuable
financial options may include personal
information by actually examining
savings, a credit card set aside for
your pet. One small discrepancy seen
emergencies, a health credit card such
or felt on a physical exam may reveal
as care credit, or pet insurance. A
underlying illness. You will not get
variety of options can be discussed for
the same results from a phone call,
treatments when allowable.
internet research, or conversations
Do not be afraid to discuss
with friends who have pets. There is
which option is best for you and
no substitute for a physical exam.
to communicate any financial
Prepare for your appointment by
constraints you may have. Ultimately,
writing down any questions you
veterinarians offer services and
have. Items that should be addressed
experience to help ensure your pet
include vaccinations, parasite control,
lives a long and healthy life.
dental health, behavior, exercise, weight assessment, and nutrition. Local veterinarian Shella Baker also enjoys beekeeping, crafting, gardening and spending time with her family.
CATS Actual Age
Age in Human Years
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15
15 24 28 32 36 40 44 52 56 60 64 68 72 76 80
DOGS Actual Age
Age in Human Years
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15
15 24 28 32 42 47 51 56 60 65 69 74 78 83 87
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Women of a Certain Age the sandwich generation As we approach middle age, we begin to hit our stride as our kids become less dependent on us. We can start to think about taking up a new hobby, traveling, or finishing that book series we’ve put off for the last few years. But increasingly, our generation is getting hit from both sides:
Many more children are coming back
some of those costs as a way to help
home to live after graduating from
out their parents.
college. According to Pew Research
Smaller family sizes over the years
Center, nearly half of middle-age
also increases the burden on fewer
adults provided some financial
surviving children. Distance between
support to a grown child in the last
We are becoming part of the sandwich
families around the country can take
year; 27% provided primary support.
generation – sandwiched between the
its toll, but there are many resources
On the other hand, 21% of these
needs of our children and the needs
available to help with caring
middle-aged adults provided financial
of our parents. The term “sandwich
for parents.
support to an aging parent. About 15%
generation” came into use around
provided financial support to both an
1981 and was added to the dictionary
aging parent and a child.
children who still need our financial support - sometimes into adulthood - and aging parents who need us to help emotionally, physically, and oftentimes, financially.
in 2006. It has now generally come to mean anyone between 40 and 60 with children (or grandchildren) who depend on them financially but who also must help their own parents with medications, doctor visits, shopping, cooking, cleaning, and sometimes legal or financial issues.
There is no right way or wrong way to handle being caught between the financial needs of your children and
As each generation lives longer,
the financial needs of your parents.
more middle-aged parents still have
Every situation is unique, but it
living parents of their own. We may
helps if you have a family conference
be living longer, but not necessarily
with your family (husband, kids)
healthier. Health-care costs can take
and your parents to discuss what
a hit on anyone’s income, especially
works for everyone. You may need to
older folks on a fixed income. The
have “the talk” with both children
caretaker/child may end up bearing
and parents, to let them know you can only offer a limited amount of
To find programs to help with caring for aging adults, contact your local
support each month.
Area Agency on Aging. You can also find resources in your community
There are a number of options to
through the commonwealth of Virginia by calling 2-1-1 or sending an email
help with your parents. In addition to
to 211info@councilofcommunityservices.org. Under the National Family
in-home help, there are companion
Caregiver Support Program, established in 2000, states receive monies to
services, respite services, and
help consolidate information helpful to families with aging parents.
personal care services. There are an
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increasing number of adult day-care
precious family time. For generations,
centers that cater to adults who can’t
it was common practice to have three
be left alone during the day. They
or more generations under one roof.
offer meals and programs to keep your
Be sure to take care of your own
loved ones occupied and in a safe and
expenses. You will need money to live
caring environment during the day.
on when you get to be your parents’
If finances allow, there are many
ages, so be sure to pay into retirement
senior living centers that cater to
plans throughout your life.
everyone from independent adults
And remember to take care of
to memory care (Alzheimer’s and
yourself: take the time to eat well,
dementia) patients, to patients with
read a book, take a bath, meditate, or
intense nursing needs, all under one
whatever it is that helps you relax.
roof. There are activities and field
Caregiver stress leads to burn-out,
trips for the active seniors, but also
which can take its toll on your health,
around-the-clock nursing care for
your marriage, and your relationships
those who need it.
with your children and your parents.
Moving your parents in with you
Don’t be afraid to ask for help from
might make your living arrangements
family and friends.
a bit cramped, but you would save the expense of paying for two households Photo by Red Chestnut Photography
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AMOUR BEBE 5 THINGS MOTHERHOOD TAUGHT ME I always knew I wanted to be a mom. What I didn’t know was just how truly wonderful and tiring and exhausting it would be. I also didn’t realize that my children would teach me so many things about myself and the world around me.
Swings can make everything better. Let’s face it – sometimes we just have an “off” day. You sleep through the alarm, the kids are whiny, the cat food gets spilled all over the kitchen floor, and you discover you’re out of coffee – all before 8 a.m. Sometimes, you just need to hit the reset button and start over. For me, that often means getting everyone outside for sunshine and fresh air. We often head to a local park because playgrounds can be the perfect distraction from everything else. There’s nothing better than the expression on my daughter’s face when she sits in a swing. It’s pure joy as she is pushed higher and higher against the blue sky, wind blowing through her wispy, strawberry-blonde hair. Sometimes I hop on a swing beside her and am reminded why she likes swinging so much. It’s just fun. In those moments life becomes instantly better.
Kimberly Feldkamp is a working mom who loves her crazy-busy life. Her enjoys sending snail mail, laughter and sunshine.
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YOU CAN SURVIVE ON JUST A FEW HOURS OF SLEEP - NIGHT AFTER NIGHT AFTER NIGHT.
then into months, then into years.
the floor and build with blocks than
My oldest will be four this month.
it is to clean it.
Four. I can hardly believe that he’s
Somehow, some way, no matter
now a little boy – a little person –
THE HEART HAS A CAPACITY TO LOVE.
how tired, being a mom gives you
and no longer this teeny, tiny baby
I thought I knew what love was,
a super power: functioning on very
who constantly needs me. My son is
and then I had a baby. Then I had
little sleep. In the beginning, when I
independent and sweet and sensitive
another one, and I discovered my
was nursing every couple of hours, I
and a thinker – he’s always got so
capacity to love just expanded. I’ll
almost didn’t know when night ended
much on his mind, and it’s wonderful
never forget the moment I met each
and day began. With the first baby,
to watch him express himself.
of my children for the first time.
Just the other morning he walked
That instant when I fell completely
I could fall back to sleep after that 5 a.m. feeding or nap when he did.
into the kitchen and I swore he had
head-over-heels in love with this
When my daughter came along, I
grown noticeably taller overnight.
tiny little person that I helped
also had a toddler; my days began
When I told him this, he immediately
create. I remember looking at each
after that early morning feeding.
smiled at the news he was growing.
of them and feeling so much love,
Those first couple of weeks I remember
Inside, I felt a little sad because this
so much happiness – it was almost
walking around in a haze. And in our
growing up stuff is all happening
overwhelming. I would do anything
house, the sleepless nights didn’t end
too fast. I try to
to protect them and keep them safe.
with the newborn stage. My daughter
remind myself of
is just learning to sleep consistently
this fact in those
through the night. I keep telling myself
moments when
–and my husband – this is a phase that
I feel stressed
will pass. I mean, it has to, right?
or impatient or
In addition to my daughter’s
tired. They won’t
abnormal sleeping habits, there are
be little forever.
also the milestones that throw off
They won’t
sleep – learning to crawl, learning to
always want to be held or rocked to
grabs my leg and squeezes so tight, or
walk, learning to pee on the potty.
sleep or run and leap into my arms
on one of the days I’m lucky enough
There are the nights when there’s
when I walk in the door. I’m savoring
to pick up my son from preschool and
a bad dream or scary storms or a
these moments because time is flying.
his face lights up when he runs to me.
REALLY, REALLY DON’T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF.
It always gets me the most at night,
There are so many days where I feel
sleeping. The house is cool and
I’ve failed because I haven’t done
quiet and I stand by their beds, just
many of the things I wanted to do.
watching the rise and fall of their
My to-do list is barely completed.
chests, the way their long eyelashes
to go to work. But in those moments,
Another day has passed and I haven’t
rest on their checks or how those
I’m not thinking about how tired I
made progress in my daughter’s baby
little hands hold onto their stuffed
am. I’m worried about making the
book. Instead of mopping the kitchen
animals. They are so peaceful and so
tears stop or chasing the bad dreams
floor or reading a few chapters in a
perfect, and I’m so overcome with
away or curing the illness. Because in
book, I indulge in mindless reality TV.
gratitude that they are mine ... that
the end, if the kids are okay, I am, too.
Sometimes I’m afraid to invite the
God blessed me to be their mommy.
TIME FLIES.
neighbors in because I’m embarrassed
I know there are many more things
by the state of my hardwood floors,
I’m going to learn on this journey
usually in need of mopping. But in
through parenthood. There will be
the grand scheme of things, this is
long days and trying times, but I also
all such small stuff and it’s not really
realize there will be much love and
worth the energy to worry about.
joy. I’m excited to see what’s in store.
random request for a drink of water. Then there are the nights when the kids are sick and I’m doing a load of laundry at 2 a.m. (and again at 4 a.m.), and then the alarm is going off at 6:45. Those are the days that are extra tough to get up and get ready
There’s an expression that I never really understood until now: “The days are long but the years are short.” And oh how true that is! When you’re a mom, you become instantly aware of how fast the days turn into weeks,
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There will be long days and trying times, but I also realize there will be much love and joy.
I still feel overwhelming rushes of love for them randomly throughout the day - when I’m cooking dinner and my daughter
when I check on them as they’re
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