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CITY GUIDE
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298 MARRIAGE LICENSES AND WEDDING ANNOUNCEMENTS
284 COURT OF LOVE
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97 REAL WEDDINGS 97
MAGGIE + CHASE August 31, Kansas City, MO
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HANA + DYLAN May 25, Wichita, KS
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ANUHYA + TYLER 0ctober 20, Independence, MO
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ERICA + JONATHAN September 22, Wichita, KS
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CARMA + TRE September 7, Wakeeney, KS
MIKENNA + CHRIS September 29, Joplin, MO
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SAM + WALDO July 6, Highlandville, MO
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THINGS WE’RE LOVING IN 2020
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SHADES FOR EVERY SEASON
THE YEAR’S FRESHEST VENUES We introduce you to some of the hottest new venue options.
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WHAT MARRIAGE LOOKS LIKE IN 2020 This year kicks off a new decade. Here’s a peek at modern love.
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PERSONALITY-PACKED EATS Use your menu to channel the details of your relationship.
Upgrade your celebration with these fresh color palettes.
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BOUQUETS YOU’LL LOVE No matter your style or location, there’s a bundle of blooms for you.
From upcycling to self-serve sips, our favorite trends and ideas.
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OWN THE SPOTLIGHT Our psych-backed advice will banish wedding day anxiety.
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YOU ASKED, WE ANSWERED Editor Louis Baragona answers top wedding planning questions.
223 MOVING PICTURES
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Everything you need to know before you book a videographer.
229 HOW TO PULL OFF ALL THOSE OTHER PARTIES Foolproof party planning and etiquette tips.
FA S H I O N + B E AU T Y
235 HONEYMOONS OFF THE INSTA- GRID
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FLIGHTS OF FANCY Let your style soar with gorgeous engagement rings and bands.
Escape to one of these dreamy, lesser-known locales.
24 5 EDITOR TEST DRIVE A firsthand look at the hottest prewedding beauty treatments.
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How to find the right attire to complement your style and venue.
259 MAID OF STYLE The bridesmaid trends you need to know, plus how to pull them off.
267 VEILS, UNVEILED All the prettiest styles, from the traditional to the new and trendy. Your guide to looking fabulous in time for your celebration.
277 GOING BESPOKE Rae Tutera of Bindle & Keep shares all the details on custom suiting.
282 THE SCIENCE OF MEDITATION How the Headspace app can help you keep calm and plan on.
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284 COURT OF LOVE Break the fashion rules with fun details and unexpected silhouettes.
RINGS: JOHNNY MILLER; FLOWERS: SARAH ANNE WARD
274 BRIDAL BEAUTY COUNTDOWN
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FOOTWEAR FETISH The best part about short dresses? The statement shoe moments, of course. We had upward of 50 stunning pairs on set.
SIP, SIP, HOORAY Our models had a blast shaking up several bottles of bubbly—and letting the corks fly—on the steps of city hall.
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Riverbend Chapel is nestled on the Missouri River bluffs in a picturesque setting for your outdoor or indoor wedding. There are 7 beautifully landscaped acres, including a vineyard, a historic Victorian home, a long lantern-lit aisle leading to the gazebo and deck overlooking the river, a stone and wood chapel with cathedral ceilings and large windows, as well as a banquet hall with a cherry dance floor, stone bar, and seating for up to 300 guests. Riverbend Chapel is an all-inclusive venue with indoor and outdoor decorations, bridal suite, white linen table service with neutral chair bows, full waitstaff that plates and serves dinner prepared by our in-house chef, wedding officiants and marriage counseling if desired, and wedding coordinators to help you have a stressfree and enjoyable wedding day. You are invited to tour our venue and see the endless possibilities offered here at Riverbend Chapel.
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THE LITTLE THEATRE is an intimate room of stunning elegance, with a gleaming marble façade, balconies, stage and jeweled art deco light fixtures. The balcony overlooks the main floor on five sides. Lighted alcoves provide a sheltered setting for beverage ser vice. With theater seating for up to 400 people and banquet seating for 225—with balcony alcove seating adding up to 36 people—it creates an exquisite setting for your unforgettable day.
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The Lodge of Four Seasons is the most elegant destination wedding location at The Lake of the Ozarks, offering beautiful scenery, accommodations, fine dining cuisine, and memories that will make you smile in the years to come. With over 50 years of experience with weddings and receptions, The Lodge of Four Seasons is the perfect destination for celebrating your love!
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The perfect location to fulfill your dreams...
We LOVED getting married at Executive Hills Polo Club and working with Trisha and her staff. When we arrived there to tour, we were floored at how beautiful the venue was. We loved being able to have the ceremony and reception in the same place. It was also AMAZING to have everything included in that one fee. Trisha has an amazing list of things that she includes in the price, and loves to reuse and reduce waste! She is also a warm positive spirit who just was wonderful to interact with and be around. We are so happy we chose to have our special day there! -Bride review on TheKnot.com
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EH Polo Club offers the perfect balance of Midwest charm and modern luxury. This 7,000-square-foot mansion will make your affair an event to remember. Residing in the northland of Kansas City, Missouri and surrounded by 15 acres of scenic land, this ideal location includes a twoacre pond, waterfront gazebo, registered helipad, regulation crocket field and many other unique characteristics.
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WE ’RE IN THIS T O G E T H E R
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CELEBRATING LOVE FOR ALL It’s hard to believe the legalization of samesex marriage passed just five years ago. To think the inability to marry whom you wanted existed so recently in this country is staggering. And while there’s still much to be done to create equality for all, we wanted to take the opportunity to celebrate the anniversary of such a historic moment. Turn to p. 294 to read the touching stories of two couples married the same year as the monumental decision, and what it means to them.
KRISTEN MAXWELL COOPER Editor in Chief @kristenmax kristen@theknot.com
CAKE FOR ONE
Let’s just say sharing food isn’t my strong suit. This individual confection is just one of the fun ideas in the issue. (p. 129)
BAND TOGETHER FANCY FOOTWORK
I loved this bride’s genius solution to include her crowd-shy rescue dogs in the wedding. (p. 74)
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From rainbow stones to mixed metals, wedding bands are more unique than ever and we’re so here for them. (p. 241)
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As we go to press, an unprecedented pandemic is impacting our country in ways we’ve never experienced before. Schools and stores are closed and working from home has become the new normal. Another reality? Canceled weddings. My deepest hope is that by the time this issue hits stands our world is seemingly back to normal, but I know the repercussions of this will be felt for months. So while we all work to rebuild our way of life, we want you to know that The Knot is here for you via social (@theknot), online (TheKnot.com) and in these pages. Whether you’re forced to reschedule your wedding day or simply feel behind on planning due to weeks of social distancing, we’re here for you. We created the content of these pages before the global pandemic and we’ll be here when the dust settles, too. We’re all in this together.
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YO U ’ R E E N G A G E D ! Here are the big to-dos from “yes” to “I do.” Turn the page for more, including the 411 on our tools and how to get your personalized checklist.
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Meet with your officiant to discuss the details and attend prewedding counseling, if required.
Plan your rehearsal dinner, after-party and morning-after brunch.
Have final attire fittings and arrange for dress and/or suit pickup.
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Head to TheKnot.com to start a wish list and site. Share the link so guests are in on the details, like room blocks.
Select invites, thank-you notes and other stationery. If you place one order, you may snag a discount.
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FIND YOUR WEDDING We know—you’re probably wondering where you should even start (totally normal, btw). First, download our app and take our Style Quiz. It’s a fun way to help zero in on your vibe, (think: industrial with bohemian details). We’ll generate your very own Wedding Vision (more on that on the next page). EDITOR TIP Think about what you love as a couple—are you
homebodies or always looking for an excuse to dress up and hit the dance floor? Your wedding should be a true reflection of who you are, so let your personalities lead your style.
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KEEP Not sure what to do when? Look no further than our totally customizable checklist. If you’re asking your future brother-in-law to officiate, you can cross “find an officiant” off your to-do list. Want to add extra entertainment? No problem. Bonus: Our budgeter will help you track your overall spending. EDITOR TIP Psst, it’s okay to go out of order or to not tick off
every to-do. Really. It’s also totally okay to ask for assistance from your crew or your wedding VIPs—they want to help!
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Organizing all those details and a checklist? There’s an app for that. The Knot Wedding Planner pulls together your vision, pros and guests to put planning in the palm of your hand.
PLANNING WITH We’re here for you, every step of the way. Now, let’s get you married.
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SHARE THE LOVE
GET READING
PICK YOUR PAPER
DO SOME SHOPPING
We love a good meet-cute. Share your proposal story with us at HowTheyAsked.com
We’ve got 10-plus titles full of advice, inspo and DIY crafts to bring your day to life. TheKnot.com/books
Customize everything from save-the-dates to invites for your wedding at Elli.com.
Find personalized décor, favors and wedding party gifts at TheKnotShop.com
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COMPILE YOUR After sharing your info (budget, location, guest count) we’ll help you assemble your squad with recommended vendors. And if you want to keep scrolling, we’ve got tons of award-winning pros (right where you are), plus reviews, on The Knot Marketplace. EDITOR TIP If you have your heart set on a master chef, a true
DISCOVER WHAT YOU LOVE You’ll start by swiping right on images you love—these will be added to your final board (you can always add more). There’s also room to add personalized, must-haves (think: taco truck, dog-friendly venue or room for a sangeet).
floral wizard or an epic cover band, book those pros first. Many in-demand vendors get scooped up early, especially in high season. Don’t panic: If your first choice is already booked, ask them for a recommendation. Chances are they have an industry BFF who can also help bring your vision to life.
DEFINE YOUR STYLE No couple is just one set style—instead, you’ll get a series of words that describe your vibe. Bonus: You can use this lingo when talking with your pros.
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REGISTRY
MANAGE YOUR People will want to shower you with gifts from “we’re engaged” to your wedding day, so a registry is a must-have. Build yours on The Knot Registry and add items from anywhere you shop with our universal registry tool. That means you don’t have to choose between bespoke Etsy finds and smart home tech from Amazon. Plus, your guests get a one-stop shopping experience—a win-win.
SHARE YOUR IDEAS When you’re ready, send your inspo-packed vision board to your fam and the people bringing your day to life. Your series of images will help convey your idea of what a “romantic garden party” really looks like.
EDITOR TIP The Knot Registry also lets you ask for cash
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PERFECT YOUR COLOR PALETTE We’ll even suggest colors that match your wedding style. Not quite right? Change them up as you plan.
GET PERSONAL RECOMMENDATIONS
GUESTS
THINK OF YOUR A wedding website is clutch—for your guests and you. Fill your site with need-to-know info, like hotels and registries, then share it with your guest list. Your friends and family will be in the know, and you won’t be fielding “directions please” emails hours before you say “I do.” You can even stay on top of RSVPs with our handy built-in reply tool.
We’ll take your quiz answers and match you with vendors based on your location, style and budget—starting with your venue.
SAY “I DO” WITH EASE We’ll send you helpful reminders along the way and create a day-of timeline to ensure smooth sailing.
EDITOR TIP Choose from free designs (coordinate
SHARE PHOTOS
MAKE IT LAST
Prompt guests to download The Guest app, and their photos and videos will be shared in real time, no hashtag necessary!
Keep the flame alive while planning and beyond with Lasting. Download the app for on-the-go relationship counseling. GetLasting.com
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Take our Style Quiz in the app and we’ll help you create your very own Wedding Vision board. Use it to plan your #bestdayever.
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Though SAVING GRACE OCCASIONS and AN AFFAIR TO REMEMBER STL welcomed guests to the ANGAD ARTS HOTEL for The Knot + WeddingWire party in Downtown St. Louis, the event’s décor took them back to Marie Antoinette’s Versailles. Pampering was the name of the game, from relaxation-ready massages to an impressive sweet spread—cotton candy included.
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We used the dessert station not only as a place for people to indulge their cravings, but also as décor, with an array of tiered cakes on white, pink, silver and gold trays. The real Marie Antoinette may never have said, ‘let them eat cake,’ but we sure did. -Grace Freeman, Saving Grace Occasions
THE TEAM VENUE Angad Arts Hotel EVENT PLANNING + DESIGN Saving Grace Occasions FLORAL, DESIGN, SPECIALTY LINENS + DÉCOR An Affair to Remember SPECIALTY RENTALS Exclusive Events, Inc. PHOTOGRAPHY Emily Broadbent Photography VIDEOGRAPHY Chosen Photography DJ CJ’s Disc Jockey Service PHOTO BOOTH Fête Booth BACKDROP Eye Candy Rentals STATIONERY Simply Torn Art + Design CALLIGRAPHER Ever After & More Calligraphy BEAUTY Savanah Summer Luxury Hair + Makeup DIVAS Hamburger Mary’s DESSERTS BIJOUX Handcrafted Chocolates; Cake House Design; Cravings Gourmet; La Pâtisserie Chouquette; Sweet Elizabeth’s Bake Shop
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Have the wedding of your dreams at the Kansas City Marriott Downtown. Our elegant wedding venues and creative culinary menus are perfect for your rehearsal dinner, ceremony, reception or wedding brunch. When it come to the details, our experienced Certified Wedding Planners handle them so you don’t have to. You can relax and enjoy the wedding you have dreamed of!
Our Experience Guarantees Your Experience To get started, contact us at weddings@kcmarriott.com or 816.855.4401
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Ceremonies on the deck with a stunning backdrop overlooking the vineyards make the perfect place to say I do. Receptions take place in our tasting room that holds 170 guests with French doors that expand seating to 100 more. We finish the evening with the stars dancing the night away!
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ADVICE
Q+A
ASK THE KNOT SQUAD You’ve got questions, we’ve got answers. We tapped our team—and one of our go-to industry pros—to solve some of your most of-the-moment planning asks. OUR TAKE I really want a modern, fun invitation suite, but my fiancé is feeling something a bit more classic with calligraphy. Any design tips for picking invites that suit both of our styles? SARAH EVANS
Private vows allow you to express yourselves without an audience.
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My partner and I are both major introverts— we don’t do PDA and hate being the center of attention—so a traditional ceremony seems really scary to us. Are there ways for us to rethink the structure to fit our personalities?
PRO TAKE
JOVE MEYER
Owner Jove Meyer Events Jove is an NYC-based event designer known for throwing celebrations that take personalization to new heights.
Your wedding ceremony should be true to both of you—that includes reflecting your style, love story and personalities. If you’re both introverts, you could consider a city hall ceremony. This allows you to bring a few friends, keeping things intimate and casual. But, if you go with a city hall wedding, a majority of your loved ones will miss out on your public commitment. As an alternative, rethink the day in a way that pulls the attention away from you. Maybe you could skip walking down a traditional aisle and instead hang out with your guests preceremony. Think: no processing, just getting married where you are, on your terms. You could also walk down the aisle with your partner or ask guests to process to you instead, meeting you, your partner and the officiant at the altar. Starting the ceremony together might make you more comfortable. In the end, the goal of the wedding ceremony is to make your commitment of love in front of those you care about most. This can really take place in whatever form feels most authentic to your relationship.
Marriage is all about collaboration and figuring out how to blend two individual styles. Here’s the good news: When it comes to stationery design, seemingly opposing tastes can actually complement each other nicely and really represent you as a couple. If your fiancé is nonnegotiable on calligraphy, try pairing hand lettering with clean, modern typefaces for a combo that won’t feel too stuffy. Give your suite an energetic vibe by experimenting with color and avoiding any fussy details that might not feel true to your combined style. Letting the script shine as the focal point can feel clean and bold but simple and timeless at the same time. Win, win! We’re trying to settle on a first dance song, but the classics feel too serious. Where can we find a first dance jam to start the party? S H A R LY N P I E R R E Assistant Editor, Research
Check out different radio stations or comb through Spotify, but keep this in mind: As you’re researching, don’t be afraid to explore different genres you might not always find yourself listening to. Try pop, hip-hop or even Afrobeats. If nothing makes you want to strut and shake something, enlist the help of your wedding party and ask for song recs or even a playlist—they’ll know what feels most like you both.
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THE RHAPSODY WEDDING AND RECEPTION HALL
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SILVER OAKS CHATEAU
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BEST OF WEDDINGS 2020 Check out this year’s list of the top-rated vendors in Missouri and Kansas as chosen by couples like you. TheKnot.com/bow
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THE OLDE WICKS FACTORY
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officiants + premarital counseling CHAPLAIN JOHN POTTER PASTOR TIMMY GIBSON
gown cleaning + preservation JOSSIE PRINSLOO ALTERATIONS
wine, champagne + liquor 3 BLONDES AND A MARTINI EMBRACE THE GRAPE BEVERAGE CATERING TOP SHELF BARTENDING
ST. LOUIS
wedding venues THE CARAMEL ROOM
CaramelRoom.com “The place is beautiful, the staff top in customer service and knowledge, the food delicious—guests said ‘best wedding food ever!’”
THE FRANKLIN ROOM
TheFranklinRoom.net “Everything from the food, the service and the venue charm was absolutely wonderful.”
NEO ON LOCUST
NEOSTL.com “We LOVED our experience at NEO! It is a gorgeous venue, and everyone is incredibly responsive and helpful. I could not have asked for more. I’d give six stars if I could!”
THE OLDE WICKS FACTORY
rehearsal dinners + bridal showers
OldeWicksFactory.com “It was nice to be able to have our entire event at one location! The bridal suites are a major plus! Our day turned out to be everything we had imagined!”
DRIFTWOOD CERAMICS
SILVER OAKS CHATEAU
party rentals + service staff BRIGHTSTAR EVENTS SCRIPT YOUR EVENT
honeymoon + travel ALPACA YOUR BAGS TRAVEL BLISSFUL HONEYMOONS & DESTINATION WEDDINGS LOVE TO TRAVEL TRAVEL CONCEPTS
SilverOaksChateau.com “Having my wedding at Silver Oaks Chateau was everything I’ve ever dreamed of! The venue is stunning and the staff is exceptional!”
SUNSET BLUFFS
SunsetBluffs.com “Sunset Bluffs = heaven on earth. Bottom line: A wedding at Sunset Bluffs is not ‘just a wedding’—it’s an incredible experience unlike anything else.” 612NORTH EVENT SPACE + CATERING
AMERISTAR CASINO THE BARN AT LONE EAGLE LANDING BARNETT ON WASHINGTON BIG CEDAR BOGEY HILLS COUNTRY CLUB BOONE MONUMENT VILLAGE CHAUMETTE VINEYARDS & WINERY CHESHIRE THE CHRISTY COLUMBIA COUNTRY CLUB THE CORONADO DANCE PIZAZZ EMERSON FIELDS FOREST PARK GOLF COURSE GENESIS BANQUET CENTER & CATERING GREENE GABLES INN HAUE VALLEY HILTON ST. LOUIS AT THE BALLPARK HOLIDAY INN SOUTH COUNTY CENTER LITTLE PINEY LIUNA EVENT CENTER THE MCPHERSON WEDDING VENUE MOUNT PLEASANT ESTATES NOBOLEIS VINEYARDS WEDDING PALLADIUM SAINT LOUIS PATTY LONG CATERING SHERATONS AT WESTPORT ST. LOUIS UNION STATION HOTEL TAPAWINGO NATIONAL GOLF CLUB - BANQUET CENTER TRIGG BANQUET CENTER WILD CARROT WILLOW
photographers TOWER STUDIOS
TowerVideoPhoto.com “Tower Studios went above and beyond to capture all of the details on our wedding day. The team was so nice to work with and was extremely accommodating.” A SWEET FOCUS ABBIE TAKES PICTURES AMANDA TINDALL PHOTOGRAPHY, LLC AMBER GREEN PHOTOGRAPHY AMBER KOELLING PHOTOGRAPHY AMY ELIZABETH PHOTOGRAPHY ANDREW JOSEPH PHOTOGRAPHY ANNE CANON PHOTOGRAPHY AURORA PHOTOGRAPHY AND DESIGN BRI WHITMAN PHOTO & FILM BRITTANY LYNN IMAGERY LLC CARLEIGH MICHELLE PHOTOGRAPHY CHRISTOPHER-MICHELLE PHOTOGRAPHY & FILM
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videographers TOWER STUDIOS
TowerVideoPhoto.com “My guests are still asking how I was able to show such a sentimental, emotional, same-day video. It was the talk of the wedding!” DANA LYNN PHOTOGRAPHY, VIDEO & PHOTO BOOTH EPIC | PHOTOS + FILMS THE FILM PERSPECTIVE KINETIC VISUALS LWFILMS METROSPECT MEDIA LLC MILLENNIUM PRODUCTIONS
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hair, makeup + wellness ASHLEY BOREN MAKEUP & HAIR BEAUTY BY JILLIAN BELLADONA SALON & SPA BELLEZA BRIDAL AND HAIR SALON BRIDES BY BRADY EMILY MILLER MAKEUP & HAIR LLC EMRITA’S HAIR AND MAKEUP EYE DO STL FLAWLESS MAKEUP + HAIR HANNAH CHANGE BEAUTY KAMCO BEAUTY KELSEA’S KREATIONS LALO SALON LITTLE BLUE PIN BRIDAL HAIR AND MAKEUP LOOKS BY LISA THE MAKEUP DOCTOR MAKE-UP N MORE
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NEOSTL.com
THE CARAMEL ROOM
CaramelRoom.com
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caterers 23 CITY BLOCKS CATERING 23CityBlocks.com “Our tasting was incredible and the culinary team was great to work with. All of our guests RAVED about the food we had!” CATERING ST. LOUIS EVENTS CES AND JUDY’S CATERING RUSSO’S CATERING SALT & SMOKE CATERING SEED SPROUT SPOON THE SOCIAL AFFAIR
wedding cakes + desserts
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CAKE HOUSE DESIGN THE CAKERY BAKERY CELEBRATING LIFE CAKE BOUTIQUE DE LA CRÈME CREATIVE STUDIO MADE. BY LIA SARAH’S CAKE SHOP STACY’S CONFECTIONERY STATIONS WEDDING WONDERLAND
bands CHARLES GLENN GROUP DANCE FLOOR RIOT DIAMOND EMPIRE BAND DUELING PIANOS FELIX AND FINGERS FATPOCKET GRIFFIN AND THE GARGOYLES THE LUSTRELIGHTS MIRAGE ENTERTAINMENT THE PATRICK LENTZ BAND & KC FLO SPECTRUM BAND
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ensembles + soloists ANGELA MARIE ROCCHIO, SOPRANO AND MUSIC COORDINATOR BAX ILLUSTRATION THE ROSEWOOD ENSEMBLE WEDDING MUSIC BY DAVE BECHERER
dance lessons CONVERGENCE DANCE & BODY CENTER DANCE PIZAZZ
wedding florists 100 WEST FLORAL DESIGN ALWAYS IN BLOOM AN AFFAIR TO REMEMBER BELLI FIORI BLOOMIN’ BUCKETS BOTANICALS DESIGN STUDIO CITY HOUSE COUNTRY MOUSE FAITH’S FLORALS FLOWERS & WEEDS GOFF & DITTMAN FLORISTS PETAL PUSHERS STL ROSES & MINT ROUGE EVENTS AND DESIGN SCHNUCKS FLORIST & GIFTS THE SECRET GARDENERS SISTERS FLORAL DESIGN STUDIO SNAPDRAGON STUDIO SOULARD FLORIST WALTER KNOLL FLORIST WILDFLOWERS
officiants + premarital counseling LIFE’S CELEBRATIONS MOONSTONE: MEANINGFUL MARRIAGE CEREMONIES ST. LOUIS CEREMONIES WONDER WEDDINGS
invitations EVER AFTER & MORE CALLIGRAPHY ON THREE DESIGNS
SIMPLY TORN ART & DESIGN UNIQUE MOMENTS BY MID-WEST MARKETING
transportation + valet BEST TRANSPORTATION JED TRANSPORTATION STL PARTY BUS
party rentals + service staff WEDPETS
honeymoon + travel ROMANCE TRAVEL GROUP TRIPGUY
THE OZARKS
wedding venues BIG CEDAR DOGWOOD CANYON NATURE PRESERVE FAULKNER LAKE ORCHARD WEDDING AND EVENT CENTER, LLC GREYSTONE MILL WEDDINGS AND GATHERINGS NOTUS FARMHOUSE SASSAFRAS SPRINGS VINEYARD THE SILOS SUMMIT HILL GARDENS EVENTS CENTER SYCAMORE CREEK FAMILY RANCH
wedding planners
LBT PHOTOGRAPHY LIGHTER FOCUS PHOTOGRAPHY MADISON DIANE PHOTOGRAPHY NEGATIVE IMAGE PHOTOGRAPHY O’BRYAN PHOTOGRAPHY SWJONES PHOTO TIM TOMS PHOTOGRAPHY
videographers BLU COUTURE WEDDING FILMS NU ELEMENTS MEDIA PRETTY FILMS TOAST WEDDING FILMS VALCINEMA WEDDINGS | PHOTO + VIDEO
bridal salons NORMANS BRIDAL SHE SAID YES UNVEILED BRIDAL COLLECTION
hair, makeup + wellness LA BEAUTÉ
caterers VIBRANT OCCASIONS CATERING
djs ARKANSAS’ BEST DJ SERVICE BROCK ENTERTAINMENT ELEVATE ENTERTAINMENT LIVE EVENTS MISSOURI LLC
honeymoon + travel BEACH BUM VACATIONS
MOST JOYFUL DAY MRS. OLIVER’S WEDDINGS & EVENT PLANNING
photographers AWAKENING PHOTOGRAPHY BACKROAD PHOTOGRAPHY BENFIELD PHOTOGRAPHY BLKPHOTOGRAPHY CHELSEA DUFF PHOTOGRAPHY CHURCH STREET PHOTOGRAPHY CORRIE CHILDERS WEDDINGS THE DOGWOOD COLLECTIVE GARETH PATTERSON PHOTOS THE GROTHEERS HEARTS ON FIRE JESSICA YAHN PHOTOGRAPHY JOE AND A CAMERA THE JOHNSONS PHOTO JORDAN PHOTOGRAPHS
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PA R T YG O E R S
Where to stay, eat and play for a prewedding bash for the books.
GO HIGH Splurge for a Happy Half Hour ticket on the High Roller Ferris wheel for open-bar access, so you can sip as you take in views of the Strip.
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Let’s face it—just walking down the Strip in Vegas is one big party. But if you’re looking to dance the day or night away with your crew, the pool parties and nightclubs here are legendary. Join the poolside fun at the Wynn, or check out the OMNIA nightclub once the sun goes down.
FOODIES SHOW TIME
The dining options are truly endless. But take note: You’ll be able to score a res at the Las Vegas outpost of many of the country’s hottest restaurants. Have an Italian feast at Rao’s, or load up on sushi at Nobu. If fun cocktails are more your thing, Velveteen Rabbit, Commonwealth and Frankie’s Tiki Room are all great options.
Catch Cirque du Soleil’s The Beatles LOVE, a trippy band tribute combining music and acrobatics.
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INSTA OP Don’t miss Sin City’s iconic sign. It’s the perfect spot for a group pic with your crew. THINK FAST (FOOD) Mix your own (boozy) soft drinks and grab some tacos at the luxe—yes, luxe—Taco Bell Cantina.
Travel about a half hour from downtown Vegas to see the Seven Magic Mountains.
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SOAK UP SOME SUN Chill out and recover in the lazy river—with a drink in hand, of course—at the Mandalay Bay.
Get your adrenaline pumping as you take the plunge off the Stratosphere hotel with SkyJump. You’ll jump 855 feet above the Strip hooked to a cable that’s attached to a descender machine (think of it like a vertical zip line— yikes!). Or for a more permanent rush, get inked at Downtown Tattoo.
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TRENDING
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SMALL WONDERS
JOEY + SCOTT CINCINNATI
“Our genius designer paid tribute to the thousands of miles we traveled when we were long distance,” Scott says. “The path on the ampersand is the highway we drove to get to each other on I-71 in Ohio.”
GET
Looking for a subtle way to personalize your suite? Try a custom wax seal in a favorite color, a meaningful stamp on the envelope or an illustration on the liner.
creative W I T H Y O U R
Set the tone for your celebration with a suite that’s as one of a kind as your story. Invites are an opportunity to take personalization to the next level, from custom illustrations of your abode to subtle tributes to your journey down the aisle. Ask your designer to create custom art of something special.
HOME SWEET HOME S I LV I A + M A R I O S A N A N TO N I O
“Oddly enough, we found our stationery when we moved into our home,” Silvia says. “I stumbled upon this handdrawn illustration as I was dusting and organizing our cabinets. I got copies printed and held onto them for a long time in the hopes of using them in the future. I never thought that the occasion would be our reception in the front yard of our home—but here we are.”
INCLUSIVE ‘I DOS’ CHRISTINA + JAMES PHILADELPHIA
“I created a version of our invitations in braille for my friends with vision impairment,” Christina says. “Not all people with vision impairments can read braille, so we also made sure the paper was white with a dark font to ensure a high contrast for universal legibility.”
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TRENDING
FURRY FRIENDS
TOP IT OFF
R A C H E L + K E V I N B A LT I M O R E
“It was always important for Kevin and me to include our pups in the ceremony,” Rachel says. “They’re rescues and don’t handle large crowds well, so this was my way of having them with me as I walked down the aisle.”
H AV E
Shoes aren’t the only accessory that can speak to your style. Rocking a suit? Try a custom bow tie or a bolo made from a special stone. If you’re wearing a gown, add extra meaning with jewelry or a veil.
fun W I T H Y O U R
Your wedding day is a chance to channel your personal style from head to toe—literally. These couples kicked their footwear up a notch by running wild with color, illustration and meaning, bringing a new definition to “happy feet.”
SEEING DOUBLE DANI + MIKE BEAVER, PA
GOOD LUCK CHARM RACHEL + FANGZHI CHICAGO
“I originally got these slides during a trip to my husband’s hometown of Yichang, China,” Rachel says. “I thought I’d wear them for our ceremony in China, but decided it would be even more special for them to serve as a nod to my husband’s family as well as a pop of color in our more modern Chicago ceremony.”
Channel your cultural identity with your accessories.
“I absolutely love wearing saddle shoes, and Mike is into the look too,” Dani says. “We wanted to do something a little different, and our wedding had a slight vintage flair, so these seemed like the right fit. We both felt stylish in a quirky, old-school way—not to mention confident and comfortable.”
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STITCHED WITH LOVE
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MELISSA + DANE ALMA, KS
“After Dane’s mom passed away, a dear friend and Sioux elder wrapped and blessed him in a morning star quilt,” Melissa says. “At our ceremony, she blessed us together as a couple in the same piece.”
Embrace your inner green thumb and plant a tree together. Add a sentimental twist to the ritual by using soil from your family homes.
After their ceremony, Melissa and Dane hung their quilt up at home.
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meaning W I T H Y O U R
When it comes to saying “I do,” there are a myriad of ways to seal the deal. Though many couples choose to light candles or pour sand, you can also link your lives together by remixing rituals, whether they’re based in your faith, your family or your favorite midnight snack.
FRESHLY MADE CASSIE + ERIC SAVANNAH, GA
FAMILY TIES A N G E L A + B R I T TA N Y CINCINNATI
“It was important to us to involve our pastor—who has played a huge role in our spirituality—in our ceremony,” Angela says. “We also wanted to honor our diverse faith journeys and those of our guests. A handfasting struck that perfect balance for us.”
“A few days before the wedding in a hungry stupor, we decided to make guacamole in front of everyone to seal the deal,” Cassie says. “Our officiant explained to our guests why chips and guac stood as a strong metaphor for marriage as we delightfully smashed avocados and shared bites.”
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TRENDING DISCO DROPS Earrings, $38, Zaxie.com
BRING THE
drama W I T H
BOLD TIPS
EMERALD + BLUE
Gel Couture nail polish in Caviar Bar, $12, Essie.com
Get glamorous with a daring dose of jewel tones that will make any event feel luxe.
CROWN JEWEL Bobby pin, $82, JenniferBehr.com
DAPPER TOUCH Bow tie, $25, TheTieBar.com
INTO THE DEEP Saturated table number in Tidepool, $30 for 15, Erin Deegan, Minted.com
THE BACKSTORY
Dress in sizes up to 20, $280, TheiaCouture.com
PLUSH PERCH
KEEP CLEAR Clutch, $995, Edie-Parker.com
CANDY CRUSH Coffee crunch extra dark chocolate bar, $10, Compartes.com
SASSY STEPPERS Shoes, $395, LoefflerRandall.com
ARTSY VESSEL Libra blue and white vase, $15, CB2.com
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TRENDING WHAT A DISH
Food52 dinnerware by Jono Pandolfi, from $34 each, Food52.com
MOONSTONED Earrings, $495, KendraScott.com
KEEP IT
chic W I T H
GREIGE REIGE + CREAM STRAPPED IN
Shoes, $100, ChineseLaundry.com
Use tone-on-tone neutrals to lend an effortless and elegant appeal to your stylish celebration. TREASURE TROVE Keaton jewelry box, $40, KateSpade.com
COLD SHOULDER Dress in sizes up to 28, $270, Amsale.com
MODERN MEMO Foil-stamped colorblow wedding invitation, $270 for 100, ArtifactUprising.com
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PEARL POWER SWEET SCENT
Candle in Chandelier, $36, Otherland.com
GLOW UP
Ambient Lighting finishing powder in Diffused Light, $48, Sephora.com
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Clutch, $950, EKRDesigns.com
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Dress up your fur baby in a pictureperfect coordinated bandana.
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luxe W I T H
AMBER + RUST
COLORFUL TOSS Cactus silk pillow in Mustard Yellow, $60, CB2.com
BOW-TIFUL
Barrette, $138, JenniferBehr.com
SHINE ON
Marc Jacobs Beauty See-Quins Glam Glitter liquid eyeshadow in Copperazzi, $26, Sephora.com
Embrace all things fall with an unexpectedly cool palette that brings the warmth. VELVET TOUCH
Dress in sizes up to 24, $295, JennyYoo.com
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Natural shapes save the date, $129 for 100, PaperCulture.com
BUZZY FAVOR
BumbleBerry honey, $20, ShopTerrain.com
FUNKY FRINGE
DAZZLING DANGLERS
Cotton fringe napkins, $22 for 4, Creative Co-op, Amazon.com
Earrings, $150, KennethJayLane.com
FESTIVE FIZZ
TOST beverage, $21 for 3, TOSTBeverages.com
Shoes, $1,245, ManoloBlahnik.com
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FANCY FEET
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The first—and often hardest—decision you’ll make is where to throw down. Here are 10 spots to make that task a bit easier. BY LOUIS BARAGONA
RUSTIC TIMBERS VIOLA, KS
ÇA VA KANSAS CITY, MO
ABE & JAKE’S LANDING LAWRENCE, KS
COST
from $3,000 150 ABOUT Nature takes center stage at the aptly named Rustic Timbers, boasting boardwalk-style bridges, an outdoor fireplace and a ceremony space that allows for vows under the trees.
COST
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from $5,000 25 ABOUT Though this bar sits in a century-old building, the décor will transport guests to the streets of Paris, thanks to the unique tin ceiling and the white marble details.
from $3,100 350 ABOUT Music lovers, listen up: This downtown Lawrence space’s stage is practically begging for a live performance. Get the party started at the on-site pub and jam all night long.
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from $2,000 300 ABOUT Edgy and modern are the name of the game for this new venue, which encourages couples to personalize their day with “unconventional” details. GUEST COUNT
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from $6,800 250 ABOUT Rustic meets modern at The Guild. Exhibit A: The juxtaposition of the hall’s sparkling subway tiles and chandelier with the wood ceilings and raw industrial beams. COST
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WICHITA ART MUSEUM WICHITA, KS
from $5,500 400 ABOUT A colorful chandelier and 150 hand-blown glass art pieces greet guests as they enter the museum, which is full of other Insta-worthy installations. COST
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EIGHTEEN NINETY PLATTE CITY, MO
from $8,000 300 ABOUT Rolling hills and a stunning Victorian home built in 1890 make for a peaceful backdrop at this expansive, estate-like venue. COST
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from $4,250 GUEST COUNT 125 ABOUT Slate allows couples to treat the downtown space, with its open floor plan and floor-to-ceiling windows, as a—you guessed it—blank slate for their day.
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OUR PRO Ann Lewis, baker and creator behind Easy As Pie in Kansas City
DREAM DINNER Ann’s ideal reception would be pie, pie, pie—start to finish— beginning with a galette, moving on to a quiche and then ending with slices of classic pie.
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There are a few desserts that people request time and time again, but number one for us: homemade pop tarts—there’s nothing like a pop tart with a fresh glaze and a real fruit or other filling. Mini-size pop tarts are very popular for weddings. Customers especially love our fresh strawberry pop tart with a honey and pistachio glaze. When it comes to pie, our top-seller is the pear crumb pie, which is also one of the most-ordered items of the Thanksgiving season. A majority of to-be-weds ask for a combination of multiple types and styles of pie.
SOME MIGHT SAY WE’RE IN AN ERA OF SWEET OVER SAVORY—ANY THOUGHTS? Though I think there’s a bit of truth to that, my favorite pies are those that combine a little bit of both salty and sweet (think: pecan or German chocolate). Both have a hint of salt, but also feature sweet, decadent fillings. I also love to make savory galettes, otherwise known as tarts, with vegetables. That said, at the end of the day, I bake pies, so I side with sweet over anything else. Though I have a true sweet tooth, I like to cater to baking desserts that aren’t too cloyingly rich or sweet. Pro tip: Fruit pies can be made without too much sugar!
WHERE CAN COUPLES GATHER A LITTLE DESIGN OR FLAVOR INSPO FOR THEIR DESSERT SPREAD? I encourage couples to get nostalgic and think about the pie flavors they loved growing up, or to go with the flavors that instantly come to mind when thinking of the menu. The main question is, ‘What kind of pie do YOU want to eat on your big day?’ When in doubt, Instagram is full of design inspiration, be it intricate designs or fancy lattice work.
HOW MANY MONTHS IN ADVANCE SHOULD COUPLES BOOK THEIR BAKER? I recommend booking your baker at least six months out just so you can get your date on the calendar. For fall weddings, you should book nine months to a year in advance in order to ensure there aren’t any overlapping events.
One economical way to save is by offering slab pies. They’re very similar to a sheet cake option. Also, miniature-size hand pies or pop tarts are great for anyone on a budget. Not only are they more affordable, but also, people love the idea of handheld items.
WHAT INGREDIENT OR DESSERT OFFERINGS ARE YOU SEEING TRENDING THIS YEAR? Definitely more cream pies, like coconut or chocolate. Doughnuts are very on-trend at the moment, and macarons are a great option. I’ve also seen several dessert bars with an extensive array of options, from cookies and candy to chocolate fondue fountains. More and more, I’m seeing sheet cakes as opposed to traditional tiered cakes.
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Sabina Caldwell and Adriana Englebert, lead and head florist, respectively, at Bittersweet Floral in Lawrence, Kansas
TO P T I P Adriana recommends couples personalize their blooms by thinking with their noses— memory and scent are connected.
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Sabina: Use inspiration photos as a starting point, but be flexible when consulting with your florist about what’s possible. Getting inspiration from Pinterest can be fantastic— it’s a great tool for exploring possibilities and getting to know your taste—but it can be dangerous too. Many of the photos you see aren’t from real weddings, but from shoots, which can be costly and make something seem more attainable than it is. Some flowers might look beautiful in photos, but wouldn’t last all day long in a flower crown or survive the hot sun.
HOW CAN COUPLES SAVE MONEY ON THEIR FLORAL BUDGET? Adriana: Sourcing locally. It’s not just great for the environment, it’s better for budget too. The less distance flowers travel to get to you, the better the quality and value. Luckily, here in Kansas you can easily source locally from spring to fall. Working with the seasons can be a major budget-saver. For example, peonies might be more affordable in May than in the winter, so ask your florist for their suggestions based on seasonal availability. Sabina: Be open to your florist’s ideas. If you’re not tied to specific flower types, being flexible can reduce the price of blooms while keeping your desired look. If one type of flower is ultraimportant to you, consider using it just in your bouquet and not in the centerpieces. Also remember: A large wedding party is fun, but those flowers add up.
WHAT FLOWERS BLOOM IN KANSAS? Sabina: Kansas is known for its sunflowers, which also happens to be our state flower, but there’s so much out there. Native Kansas blooms are beautiful, especially in the summer. Laceflower, columbine, milkweed, baptisia and liatris are some of our most interesting native Kansas options, but you can grow almost anything here in the summertime. Adriana: Local farmers provide us with tulips, hellebores and peonies in the spring. Summer brings lisianthus, tuberose, marigolds and so much more. Dahlias, celosia and sunflowers bloom through the late summer and early fall.
LOOKING AHEAD, WHAT FLORAL TRENDS DO YOU PREDICT FOR NEXT YEAR? Adriana: I believe we’re going to see a lot of dyed and painted flowers. We’ve been seeing a lot of natural tones like nude and beige lately, and I think, in response, couples will get more daring with their palettes. Sabina: I think coastal trends will come our way. And new neutrals like golden yellow, brown and mauve will gain popularity here.
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Want to remember the bouquets and any other flowers? Sabina says to add them to your shot list.
One of Adriana’s top recommendations: Be upfront about your budget needs from the start.
Adriana says couples should avoid super-specific shade ideas—hues differ in every harvest.
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THEIR STORY Maggie Tennal (27 and an interior designer) and Chase Routon (31 and a realtor) didn’t realize that their modern, minimalist wedding vision would require maximal hours of planning, but they were up for the challenge. “Wedding planning felt like my first real design project,” Maggie says. “It was my way of showing what I can create.” The pair took road trips from Houston to Maggie’s hometown of KC for consultations, often cramming décor into their SUV, but there was a bright side: “We had some of our best conversations during those rides,” Maggie says. And now, they’re full-time KC residents. — LO U I S BAR AGO NA
Maggie carried a mix of ranunculus, peonies, roses and lisianthus in shades of sandy beige and soft pink.
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CENTERPIECES Glass vases of bunny tails and pampas grass lined tables. “I knew I wanted all neutrals,” Maggie says. “The centerpieces were so light and airy.” BUBBLY The pair’s celebration had a hidden theme: prosecco. “The Fizzolino truck was one of the first vendors we booked—it was a hit,” Maggie says. “Both my dress and nail color were named Prosecco.” Guests paired their sips with games of cornhole and Connect 4 between the ceremony and reception.
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HEAD TABLE Maggie and Chase marked their spot with a hanging floral installation that included pampas grass and roses repurposed from their ceremony arbor. FRESH BITES At cocktail hour, guests grabbed snacks from an expansive charcuterie spread, following it up with a dinner of Texas and Kansas City barbecue. “The real hit was the four-cheese mac and cheese,” Maggie says. PLACE SETTINGS Gold flatware popped next to clean, white chargers and modern menus.
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CEREMONY & RECEPTION SITE Magnolia Venue & Urban Garden, Kansas City, MO PHOTOGRAPHY Kaley Kocinski/Kaley From Kansas; second shooter: Sara Miller DAY-OF COORDINATOR High Cotton Events FLOWERS The Cottage Rose GOWN Sarah Seven, bride., Kansas City, MO SUIT Jacket & pants: Joseph Abboud, Men’s Wearhouse; shirt: Calvin Klein; tie: ShowMeYourMumu.com; suspenders & pocket square: Men’s Wearhouse WEDDING PARTY ATTIRE Bridesmaids: ShowMeYourMumu.com; groomsmen: Men’s Wearhouse HAIR & MAKEUP Posh KC VEIL Camilla Christine, bride. ENGAGEMENT & WEDDING RINGS RS1 Jewelry STATIONERY Invitations: Minted.com; programs, escort cards & menus: BP Creative Group RENTALS The Cottage Rose; Elite Sounds Entertainment Group; Ultrapom Event Rental CATERING Brancato’s Catering; charcuterie: Velouté CAKE Classic Cakes CAKE TOPPER The Cottage Rose OFFICIANT Jerry Himmelburg MUSIC Elite Sounds Entertainment OTHER ENTERTAINMENT Prosecco truck: Fizzolino LLC; bartending: Top Shelf Bartending TRANSPORTATION Trolley: Custom Limousine Inc.; Rolls-Royce: Pech Limousine GUESTS 175
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THEIR STORY Family came first for Hana Robinson (24 and an interior architect) and Dylan Moore (24 and a pilot) when wedding planning—which is why they chose to get married near their hometown of Newton instead of a beachside locale. That said, the couple still wanted a coastal touch on their day. “Dylan’s wardrobe is almost entirely flight suits and Hawaiian shirts, and when I was younger, I’d dreamed of an under-the-sea-themed wedding with mermaids and seashells,” Hana says. “We wanted to bring that ocean vibe to very landlocked Kansas.” In that spirit, tropical leaves topped the invites and the signage. — LB
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BOUQUETS Hana and her squad, some in shades of seaside blue, carried Hawaiian-inspired tropical blooms, including monstera leaves and bright birds-ofparadise. “I’ve always been inspired by tropical plants and water,” Hana says. TABLE NUMBERS Brass candlesticks, gold geometric vessels and palm leaves accompanied the acrylic panels on the table numbers, mirroring the metallic, monstera-topped copper frame that stood behind Hana and Dylan’s head table.
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RECEPTION Though Hana and Dylan originally planned on a tented outdoor reception, unexpected weather forced them to bring the party indoors. “We had to pull off our vision in an industrial warehouse,” Hana says. Potted plants and other lush greenery brought the pair’s plans to life. CAKE Partygoers followed a dinner of pulled pork, Hawaiian rolls and chicken and pineapple skewers with slices of seafoam-blue cake, as well as coconut cream and Key lime pies.
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WEDDING INGREDIENTS CEREMONY & RECEPTION SITE The Hudson, Wichita, KS PHOTOGRAPHY Ashley Burbank and Ashley Knolla/Kay + Bee VIDEOGRAPHY Wild Oak Films MONTH-OF COORDINATOR Danielle Stockemer FLOWERS Moore Flowers GOWN Allure Bridals, The White Dress, Wichita, KS (closed) SUIT USAF mess dress uniform WEDDING PARTY ATTIRE Bridesmaids: Adrianna Papell; Madeline Gardner, Dress Gallery, Wichita, KS; flower girl: BelleAndKai, Etsy.com; groomsmen: Men’s Wearhouse; USAF mess dress uniforms HAIR The Best Little Hair House MAKEUP Emma Elliott; Sophia Miller ENGAGEMENT RING Jared the Galleria of Jewelry WEDDING RINGS Jared the Galleria of Jewelry; enhancer: SillyShiny Diamonds, Etsy.com STATIONERY DIY; printing: FedEx RENTALS Le Luci; Prairie Hill Vineyard; Ray Events CATERING Outlaws BBQ CAKE Patsy Cakes and More DESSERTS The Breadbasket OFFICIANT Pastor Tim Leaf MUSIC Ceremony: Connor Bobb, Chelley Graves, Clara Gruniessan & Justin Terrel; reception: Shey Flowers/Complete Weddings + Events FAVORS Favors & Flowers GUESTS 320 HASHTAG #TheMooreTheMerrier
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THEIR STORY Anuhya Caipa (28 and a physician) and Tyler Young (30 and a medical marketing account director) structured their wedding around three principles: unity, gratitude and wonder. “Those values brought us together,” Tyler says. “We wanted them to resonate with our loved ones throughout the day.” With that in mind, the couple wrote their own ceremony from scratch, fusing together Hindu and Christian traditions, as well as taking part in a modern unity ceremony. “Everything we did was inclusive and meaningful,” Tyler says. — LB
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CENTERPIECES Anuhya and Tyler opted out of flowers for their reception décor. Instead, a mix of greens, including seeded eucalyptus, Italian ruscus and burgundy eucalyptus, dressed tables in tall clear vases. SECOND LOOKS One of the most eye-catching ways the pair twisted tradition was with their attire. For the reception, Anuhya changed into a gold lehenga, Tyler rocked a navy-blue sherwani and they topped their looks with traditional handmade flower garlands.
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SQUAD Though Erica and Jonathan chose to go with tradition for much of their wedding, there was one norm they did break. “The only ‘rule’ we broke was having our bridesmaids wear white,” Erica says. “I just loved the look.”
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THEIR STORY Erica Nguyen (25 and a registered nurse) had a very clear vision for her wedding to Jonathan Nguyen (31 and a real estate investor). “I’d call our style an ‘industrial garden,’ ” Erica says. “I focused heavily on the flowers, which brought our wedding to the next level.” Erica illustrated the invites herself, sketching blooms in Photoshop and ripping the edges of the paper. One thing she didn’t plan on: Jonathan’s groomsmen surprising the newlyweds with their own fireworks show. “It made the night so special,” Erica says. — LB
MAKE TRADITION The couple honored their Vietnamese heritage with a prewedding tea ceremony.
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RECEPTION To bring Erica’s vision of an industrial garden to life, the pair topped tables with white flowers and greenery alongside hanging Edison bulbs, string lights and candles. “There was such a nice glow to the atmosphere,” Erica says. CAKE The pair cut into a gold, black and white dessert made with layers of white, carrot, chocolate and strawberry cake. Just in case guests needed more sweets, the newlyweds also offered scoops from an ice cream truck.
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WEDDING INGREDIENTS CEREMONY SITE St. Paul’s United Methodist Church, Wichita, KS RECEPTION SITE The Hudson, Wichita, KS PHOTOGRAPHY Hana Alsoudi Photography VIDEOGRAPHY Wild Oak Films PLANNER & EVENT DESIGNER Bel Amour Events FLOWERS Moore Flowers GOWN Stella York, Pebbles Bridal, Placentia, CA TUXEDO Suitsupply WEDDING PARTY ATTIRE Bridesmaids: PrettyLittleThing.com; groomsmen: Men’s Wearhouse HAIR Chantha Chin MAKEUP Brittany Nguyen ENGAGEMENT & WEDDING RINGS The True Gem STATIONERY DIY; paper: Michaels; printing: FedEx RENTALS The Hudson CATERING Corporate Caterers CAKE Buckingham Cakes ICE CREAM TRUCK Little Lion Cafe OFFICIANT Pastor Danny Bye MUSIC Pure N.R.G. Productions OTHER ENTERTAINMENT Photo booth: Simple Booth; caricature artist: Beejay Hawn TRANSPORTATION Artistic Limousine HONEYMOON France, Italy & Spain GUESTS 275
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THEIR STORY When it came to Rachel Marshall (27 and an admissions counselor) and Jordan Pederson’s (28 and a talent acquisition manager) wedding color scheme, the pair took a ‘more is more’ approach. “I had a tough time finding the right palette,” Rachel says. “I couldn’t pick just two colors.” The couple decided on a theme all their own, calling it “colorful Kansas City fun.” Their invites popped with brights and, as an added flair, they included a helpful guide with five of their favorite things for guests to do in KC. — LB
RAINBOW BRIGHT Rachel’s ladies rocked different shades of floorlength gowns. “I loved that they all picked different designs,” she says.
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FIRST DANCE Rachel and Jordan made their big debut to the sound of Tony Bennett and Lady Gaga’s “But Beautiful.” “It was playing when Jordan told me he loved me for the first time,” Rachel says. FRESH KICKS For their “something blue,” Rachel and Jordan paired their footwear with navy, local-inspired socks, which read, “KC, I’m so in love.” CAKE Though the couple picked a traditional white wedding cake for dessert, their display cake was anything but, with layers of rainbow watercolor painting and a finishing touch of colorful sprinkles. SEATING CHART DISPLAY Guests found their spots with the help of bright signage— finished with a bright graphic of the KC skyline, of course.
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WEDDING INGREDIENTS CEREMONY & RECEPTION SITE 28 Event Space, Kansas City, MO PHOTOGRAPHY & VIDEOGRAPHY Adri Guyer, Nicole Bissey and Kelsey Cragg/Black Coffee Photo Co. PLANNER Magical Moments Weddings & Events FLOWERS Craig Sole Designs GOWN Bridal Extraordinaire, Shawnee, KS SUIT Men’s Wearhouse; bow tie: CCADesign, Etsy.com; socks: TheSchoolofSock.com WEDDING PARTY ATTIRE Bridesmaids & flower girl: David’s Bridal; groomsmen & ring bearer: Men’s Wearhouse HAIR & MAKEUP Hello Lovely On Location Hair & Makeup VEIL Bridal Extraordinaire ENGAGEMENT & WEDDING RINGS Shane Co. STATIONERY YellowBrick Graphics CATERING Slap’s BBQ CAKE Sweet Soiree CAKE TOPPER ThistleAndLaceShop, Etsy.com OFFICIANT Pastor Matt Shirley/Park City Church MUSIC Ceremony: Lauren & Jonathan Brown; reception: DJ Boogie B/Icon Event Group FAVORS Papa John’s Pizza TRANSPORTATION Party bus: 28 Event Space HONEYMOON Antigua GUESTS 200
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THEIR STORY Carma Wolf (21 and a floor manager and social media coordinator) and Tre Giles (26 and a student engagement coordinator) have a way of mixing new and old. Case in point: their wedding. “I call it modern bohemian—my husband likes to say boho-bougie,” Carma says. The couple spent their seven-month engagement hunting for antique finds, including candlesticks, as well as unique, modern fashion. For the ceremony, Carma and Tre wrote their own vows and took Communion, celebrating afterward with a cookie cake. — LB
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WEDDING INGREDIENTS CEREMONY & RECEPTION SITE Shiloh Winery & Vineyard, Wakeeney, KS PHOTOGRAPHY Ashley Taylor Photography VIDEOGRAPHY August Phlieger FLOWERS Afloral.com; AliExpress.com; Regeena’s Flowers & Events GOWN Grace Loves Lace, Venice, CA SUIT Calvin Klein, Macy’s WEDDING PARTY ATTIRE Bridesmaids: Anthropologie; groomsmen: shirts: ASOS.com; flower girl: Macy’s HAIR Carina Wolf (Carma’s sister) MAKEUP DIY VEIL Grace Loves Lace ENGAGEMENT RING Rogers Jewelers (closed) WEDDING RINGS Carma: Diamond R Jewelry; Tre: Luxury Bands LA STATIONERY Invitations: Gatherie Creative; stamps: Northwest Signs and Awards RENTALS Supply Event Rentals & Planning CATERING Whole Foods CAKE Bakeology by Haley Robben DESSERTS Whole Foods OFFICIANT Jeff Burnett (Tre’s mentor and spiritual father) GAMES Supply Event Rentals & Planning FAVORS The Knot Shop HONEYMOON Costa Rica GUESTS 200
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Infuse your signature cocktail with symbolic ingredients, like Scandinavian lingonberries.
HAPPY HOUR Your cocktail space deserves love too. Here, chic seating and patterned linens set a festive scene.
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Delight guests with a treat that leads them to their seats, like these stunning floral-topped cookies.
S W E E T S E AT Calling all dessert lovers: Play up your sweet tooth with mini cakes at each place. Clockwise from left: Furniture rentals, EventRents.com; linens, LaTavolaLinen.com; paper goods, SweetZionPaperie.com; cookies, SweetFleur.org; florals, PremaStyle.com
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Your invites are the first look guests have into your wedding style, so let them shine. Here, muted tones and classic Swedish florals make for a stylish and thematic suite.
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TO W E R I N G T R E AT Your cake is a great place to lend a cultural touch, like this kransekake, a cookie tower typically stacked atop a champagne bottle for the couple to drink during the reception.
Smilax vine and sweet blue tweedia flowers tie the cake into the bouquet.
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C LO U D O F B U D S Draw the eye up with sprawling florals. This bright arrangement features dahlias, anemones and more.
BLUE BUNDLE This bouquet of blue tweedia boasts a hidden meaning: peace and harmony. Very Scandi, no?
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Carry similar patterns throughout your event (like bitsy blue florals) for a cohesive look.
A retro Airstream trailer adds to the ski town aesthetic—and can double as a photo booth for guests.
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Looking for something totally fresh that will take your celebration to the next level? We’ve got you. Here are our favorite of-the-moment ideas. B Y L A U R E N
Go for the wow! Instead of stretching your décor budget to include all. the. things, narrow in on one or two true heart-stoppers, like hanging florals, a neon installation that doubles as a ceremony altar or unique rentals. Your guests will be sure to remember this standout detail, especially if it’s so “you guys.”
FLORAL REMIX
Unexpected and totally on trend!
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Greenery is still hip, but this year it’s getting a colorful makeover. Spray-painted branches, greens and grasses are adding texture and unnatural color—think: neon, frosted pastels and metallics—to arrangements and bouquets (knuckle posy, anyone?). Dip-dyed petals are also a fun way to add an unexpected dose of color into the mix. Looking for a low cost, big impact floral moment? Two words: color blocking.
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TRENDING COLORS We recommend settling on your vibe first (for help, take our Style Quiz on The Knot Wedding Planner app), and then find a way to add a pop to your party. Lucky for you, color is trending in 2020. Expect to see a lot of neo mint, a.k.a. the new millennial pink; cassis, not quite pink, not quite purple; yellow, a mellow, rich hue with earthy undertones; and faded denim, a blue that’s equally fresh and serene.
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Good lighting gets your details noticed and doubles as décor.
This trend is designed to keep things small—think: 40 people or less. But like any exclusive party, this celebration delivers big. The cost per guest is higher, meaning people are treated to bespoke touches, elaborate meals (read: tasting menu) and tons of personalization.
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SELF-SERVE SIPS We’re not talking a cooler full of cold ones. This wedding trend dresses up the actual serving of a signature sip. An artfully created wall-mounted dispenser, a trickedout bar of pour-over drinks or a slew of specialty garnishes allows guests to create their perfect cocktail. Bonus: You’ll need one less bartender to pull it off.
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EDIBLE BLOOMS Whether frozen in ice cubes, tossed in salads or sprinkled on top of dessert, edible flowers are on point. This pretty #extra is perfect for floral-loving duos and an easy way to elevate virtually anything from infused water to classic vanilla cake. Pair the petals with even more stems for an über-romantic party.
Veils aren’t going anywhere, but tiaras have given way to the latest in hair jewelry— barrettes and combs. These accessories are often adorned in pearls, rhinestones and colorful enamels. They’re great for holding back natural curls or creating a second style for your wedding reception.
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FALL modern moody
Saying “I Do” in autumn is all about embracing the dramatic atmosphere of the season, so concentrate on working with colors that pack on the saturation. Traditional fall shades like inky navy blue and rich burgundy get a very 2020 upgrade with help from of-the-momenthues like coral, mauve and fiery orange. HOW TO USE IT When working with a palette as unexpected as this one, it’s only right to keep the surprises coming. Instead of focusing all the color attention on your tabletops, why not turn to your florals to bring that wow-factor? Painted or dyed botanicals like baby’s breath, feather ferns and dried blooms are a great way to add a dose of unexpected (and other-worldly) color. From there, you can complement the look with a modern mix of signage or paper goods printed on colored paper, a bold menu and seasonal sips.
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WINTER icy pastels
There’s no better way to embrace the snowy nature of (most) winter climates than to add a subtle layer of “frost” over all your favorite pastel shades. Slightly whitewashed hues like pale blue and soft lavender still feel lively while not seeming completely out of place for the season. The best part? This pretty palette helps to keep your celebration from skewing too “holiday,” which can often be a struggle in winter. HOW TO USE IT Good news: You’ll be able to find tons of florals in these shades, even during the depths of winter, so that’s a great jumping off point for your palette. From there, layer on extras like table linens, bridal party attire and more to help set the scene. Just keep in mind: You’ll want any fabrics and or textures to uphold a seasonal feel, so opt for heavier-weight materials like wool and velvet over lighter options like silk. WHY IT WORKS
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SPRING natural retro
This unique combo marries the best of mid-century design with a modern feel totally fit for any of-the-moment celebration. Think of this palette as neutrals-but-better— calming shades like nude and olive green set the foundation for more zesty picks like mustard yellow, coral and soft mint. The end result? A look perfect for a boho, nature-inspired spring soiree. HOW TO USE IT These shades beg to be mixed and matched, so start by decking out your wedding party in looks that range in color, texture and saturation. From there, set the scene at your reception with funky lounge furniture and interesting tablescapes. Don’t shy away from embracing the retro feel of this palette—you’ll be able to find tons of cool couches, chairs and even rugs in shades perfect for your party. Then, bring everything together with an eclectic mix of buds.
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SUMMER posh palm springs
West Coast is the best coast—at least when it comes to summer wedding palettes. For a bright and cheery warm-weather bash, look no further than the citrus-inspired shades of colorful Palm Springs. A range of orange, yellow and fuchsia will practically create the party atmosphere for you—plus they’ll all pop amazingly in your photos. HOW TO USE IT When you’re going this bright with your palette, more is more. Look to create photo-ready installations, like paper lanterns or a standout floral wall that doubles as a photo booth backdrop. You can also have some cheeky fun with oranges in this palette by incorporating the real-deal fruit into your decor. Think: blood oranges slices used as a table runner, clementines in your salad appetizer and even orange-blossom buttercream on your cake.
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The Missouri planner shares what trends are inspiring her, plus her advice for to-be-weds.
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Hannah Schumm is the owner of Weddings by Hannah, a full-service planning company based in Kansas City. She focuses on helping couples achieve their perfect day.
Working with a planner is going to set you up for success from the start, as well as ensure the process is enjoyable. They will help you stay on budget and hire the right team.
I always recommend first spending your money where it lasts: photography. Your pictures are the only tangible thing from your day, so they should be a big priority for you.
For an easy way to incorporate personality, look to branding. I love when couples use a custom monogram or logo that we can use repeatedly throughout the day’s design.
We have so much fun working with couples who aren’t afraid of color. I’m looking forward to continuing the trend of bolder palettes, especially with linens and paper goods.
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THE YEAR’ S FRESHEST VENUES If it feels like everyone you know is getting married in a barn, you’re not alone. According to The Knot 2018 Real Weddings Study, the rustic locale is consistently growing in popularity for couples who are tying the knot. And while we love us a good barn celebration, we’re also excited to introduce you to some of our favorite new kids on the block. Score one of these unique venues and you’ll officially be that ahead-of-the-curve couple.
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ARTIST RETREAT If your dream day includes having your friends and family in one spot for the duration of your wedding weekend, look no further than a nearby artist retreat. It has all the perks you’ve come to know and love from more traditional “summer camp” settings, like accommodations for the majority of your guests, access to the sprawling grounds for the whole weekend, privacy and plenty of space for fun extras like outdoor games or midnight bonfires. However, it swaps the rustic cabins and dirt for more refined buildings and event spaces, with an architectural and artistic edge that will make couples totally swoon.
MAKE IT YOURS Focus on modern details with a bit of a bespoke touch to play into the artistic DNA of the space, like lots of greenery, matte-black accents and even artfully plated food for dinner. If you’re open to it, look into local designers or artists that utilize the space and see if you can incorporate some of their work into the design of your day, like in your stationery suite or signage. Be sure to take advantage of having all your favorite people in one spot with a wedding weekend itinerary that packs in the fun (think: a Friday night barbecue followed by a family field game showdown and brunch on Sunday).
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What’s the driving distance from your ceremony to your reception space? If you’re not providing transportation for your guests, you’ll need to know how long it’ll take them to get from the ceremony to the reception. Ask what the traffic is like around the time of your wedding to ensure your guests won’t get stuck bumper to bumper on a road for an hour. A good general rule of thumb is to keep the ceremony and reception space within 30 minutes of each other—and give guests at least an hour to get between the two. Is the venue near hotels? This could impact your decision to book if guests have to drive a long way to get from their hotel to the venue and back, especially if transportation isn’t provided. Usually, anything over 30 minutes is a big ask.
What kind of services do you offer? You’ll want to know whether the venue has any all-inclusive packages for the site and food, if any rentals or pros are included (some venues may even ask that you hire specific companies), and whether there’s an on-site coordinator. Don’t assume that anything is included.
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How many people does the space accommodate? This directly impacts your guest list and, therefore, your budget. If you love the space but it only fits 75, and your guest list is looking more like 200, you have to decide if the venue or your guest count is more important.
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Does the word rustic give you heart eyes? Well, you’re in luck because there’s a new “it” venue to help you achieve that look. While barns aren’t going out of style anytime soon, to-be-weds wanting a fresh space to bottle up that same casual, outdoorsy feel can look to a ski resort. Nature lovers will go crazy over the built-in décor (hello, snow-covered pines and wood beams!), while the cozy atmosphere (think: stone fireplaces and leather couches to lounge on) makes it the perfect spot to host a fun party for a few hundred of your closest friends and family—you can even plan to hit the fresh powder. MAKE IT YOURS A ski resort is made for a winter wonderland wedding. Channel those snow bunny vibes with décor that brings the cozy thanks to rich colors and luxe textures, like faux fur, wool blankets and more. A snowy scene doesn’t need much to make it stand out, so focus your efforts on adding ambience with candlelight, roaring fires and floral arrangements that bring the outdoors in (like boughs of pine or snowy-white blooms). Vintage ski gear can be a charming (and thematic) addition, so see if you can rent an old-school chair lift to double as a photo booth setting. Finish the night with hot toddies—because duh.
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HISTORIC RUINS The edgy, “forgotten” appeal of a cavernous loft or industrial space appeals to many couples—and for good reason. Not only does it boast tons of character (and probably history), but it acts as a blank slate upon which you can design your dream day. Capture that same appeal by taking the detritus outdoors and booking historic ruins as the setting for your “I dos.” Not only is it a super-unique spot (we can almost guarantee none of your guests have been to a wedding among crumbling buildings before), but it allows you to bring a bit of beauty and life back to a once-forgotten space. Love that. MAKE IT YOURS First things first, friends: We are not suggesting you stumble into any old pile of rubble and say, “Hm, a wedding here, I think.” Safety comes first, so do your due diligence when it comes to selecting the “ruins” that will host your wedding day. Most legit spots will likely be listed with a historical preservation society, so that’s a great place to start. From there, focus on décor that accents, not competes with, the grounds. Sprawling vines and florals, simple neutral colors and lots of glowing candlelight will help lend a romantic, untouched atmosphere.
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FUN PLANS FOR OUT-OF-TOWN GUESTS Treat them to a cooking class Ask your favorite local eatery if they offer cooking classes and enroll your loved ones in some midday culinary fun ahead of your wedding day. Guests of all ages will enjoy getting a taste of the local food scene (and flexing their chef muscles), and a good meal always brings about good conversation, easy mingling and new friendships. Host a bonfire reception Looking for a way to make all your guests feel included on the night of your rehearsal dinner without breaking the bank? Hold a bonfire reception afterward (complete with s’mores, of course) for a sweet end to the night. The casual yet intimate setting will be perfect for catching up before the busyness of the day.
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Arrange a group tour Odds are if guests are traveling for your wedding, they’ll want to see the city while they’re there. Encourage everyone to play tourist by arranging a guided tour, like a coastal boat trip, bike ride or food crawl. A unique experience will have your guests loving your city just as much as you do.
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Opt for a postwedding brunch End a weekend of celebrating on a high note with a farewell brunch. Guests will appreciate getting a hearty meal before they hit the road, and it gives you and your partner a last chance to connect with any friends and family you didn’t get to spend QT with the night before. Keep it casual and flexible to respect travel plans.
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If you want all the timelessness and elegance that comes with a ballroom—without the history of 20 of your closest Facebook friends already getting married there—then look no further than an upscale restaurant. You’ll be able to bottle that same sophisticated feel with a few added perks that are sure to have any couple rushing to sign on the dotted line. Just think of it as a very stylish dinner party with all your favorite people, only you don’t have to do the dishes afterward. If you score a spot big enough, you can host dancing there too—if not, look to a local bar or club for an after-hours get-down.
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MAKE IT YOURS Restaurant décor is often more of-the-moment and updated than the traditional ballroom, so chances are you won’t have to bring in much to make your chosen venue stand out. Keep the big things the same (think: the table and chairs) and add a pop of color with rental linens or bold blooms. When it comes time to eat, you’ll want to make dinner the star of the show. Work with the chef ahead of time to create a custom tasting menu for your guests based off the restaurant’s most popular dishes. You can even consider serving up the food family style so each table gets to sample it all.
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NO MATTER YOUR STYLE OR WHERE YOU’RE TYING THE KNOT, THERE’S A BUNDLE OF BLOOMS PERFECT FOR YOU. B Y A LY S S A LO N G O B U C C O PHOTOGRAPHY BY SARAH ANNE WARD PAPER TYPOGRAPHY BY MAKERIE STUDIO
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Stray from a sweet pink palette and let your bouquet wrap double as your “something blue.”
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For an undone bunch made for a winding vineyard, ask your florist to focus on a loose shape and soft, pastel colors. Here, fluttery pink lisianthus and light purple clematis are paired with roses, white campanulas and sprigs of wispy greenery and vines. BOUQU ET BY P OPPIE S AND P OS IE S , P OPPIE SANDP OS IE S .COM
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Add dimension to a bouquet with sprawling feather ferns and curly garlic scapes.
An edgy venue calls for a textural, standout arrangement that will hold its own against an industrial backdrop. A monochromatic bundle of protea, anthurium and quince fruit, tied with a chic leather ribbon, is the perfect accompaniment for a decidedly modern fete. BOUQUET BY L’ATELIER ROUG E , L ATELIERROUG E .COM
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Channel the islands with a bright, energetic arrangement. Tropical picks, like ti leaves, pink anthurium and orchids, team with classic favorites ranunculus and garden roses for an accessible combo. Pink, peach, green and orange hues keep the palette playful.
Orchids are sturdy enough to stand up to warmer temps.
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A moody mix of blooms is ideal for a nature-infused celebration. Burgundy peonies, scabiosa and cosmos create a dramatic feel, while jasmine vines, blackberries and roses bring airiness to the composition. Velvet ribbon and hanging amaranthus give a pretty, cascading look. BOUQUET BY TIN CAN S TUDIOS , TINCAN S TU DIOS B K .COM
See if your florist can forage near your venue for local stems to include in your bouquet
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THIS YEAR KICKS OFF A NEW DECADE (CRAZY, RIGHT?) AND AS IT TURNS OUT, MARRIAGE LOOKS PRETTY DIFFERENT THAN IT DID 10 OR 20 YEARS AGO. HERE’S A PEEK AT MODERN LOVE. B Y A LY S S A LO N G O B U C C O
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Adi and Autumn, who met in college, approached the topic of marriage sort of like they approached wedding planning— as a very chill team. “We had been talking about marriage for a while but wanted to be stable in our jobs first,” Autumn says. “One day, about four years into our relationship, we were just sitting on the couch watching TV. I turned to Adi and asked, ‘Are you ready to get married?’ and he was just like, ‘Let’s do it!’ From there, we just set a date and got to planning!”
For Diane and JJ, a recent New Year’s Eve (their 12th celebrating together!) brought more than just a midnight kiss. “We have this tradition of ending the night by swooping up one of the best bottles of liquor at the closest bodega and grabbing a cheap bite,” Diane says. “At 2 a.m., as JJ was biting into his chicken sandwich, I pulled out the lollipop that came free with my sandwich, got down on one knee and popped the question. At the time, I think it was a joke. Now, it’s actually our story.”
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It was important for Malory and Katie to both have a hand in designing their forever jewelry. “We didn’t want anything too flashy,” they say. “We wanted rings that felt like ‘us’ since we would be wearing them every day. Plus, we’re New Yorkers, so they had to be black.” Alongside Brooklyn jeweler Wwake, the pair designed black diamond rings, then took turns proposing on the anniversary of their first date. “It made sense—we do everything together and were too excited not to share in this experience.”
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WE DECIDED TO BUY A HOUSE SOON AFTER GETTING ENGAGED. WE KNEW WE WANTED TO MAKE THE INVESTMENT E A R LY A N D W E R E READY FOR THE R E S P O N S I B I L I T Y.
OUR DECISION TO A B STA I N F RO M SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE WAS INSPIRED BY O U R S P I R I T U A L I T Y. IT ENCOURAGED US TO DEEPEN OUR CONNECTION I N OT H E R WAYS .
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or two women with self-described “strong opinions,” Rachel and Marissa dove head-first into planning their Michigan wedding in a way that represented meaningful parts of both their cultures. The ceremony, which combined both Jewish and Jain traditions (and was led by a Jewish officiant and Indian priest) was preceded by a traditional baraat, which found Rachel parading down the aisle with friends and family to greet Marissa. The duo then signed a handmade ketubah before
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exchanging original vows beneath their colorful chuppah/mandap structure. Their fusion fun continued throughout the reception, where guests snacked on Indian food and were treated to a traditional Indian group dance, as well as the Jewish hora. Ceremony programs walked guests through the cultural traditions.
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CHOOSE A VENUE WITH HISTORY One of the first decisions you’ll make when it comes to planning your wedding is, well, where to have it. And with so many options out there, it might be hard to narrow in on a space that feels like you and supports a cause or outlook you believe in. To start your search, focus on venues with a rich history. This can be anything from a bar with a reputation of supporting the LGBTQ+ community to a town hall rich with meaning from the HARNESS abolitionist movement or THE SOCIAL FOOTPRINT a gallery that supports OF YOUR female artists. Booking a WEDDING (AND venue with this type of THE SPENDING history is a great way to POWER) IN say, “This matters to us.” A WAY T H AT Bonus points if part of WILL MAKE your fee goes toward the YOU PROUD. work they continue to do.
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SUPPORT LOCAL INDUSTRY We’re certainly not the first ones to tell you to shop local—but that doesn’t make the sentiment any less valuable. You’ll be doing a lot of purchasing throughout your wedding planning journey, so look at each box on your to-do list as a chance to speak with your money. When possible, opt to hire or shop within the community where you live or are holding your wedding. Not only will you be supporting local industry in your area, but it’s also a sneaky way to save money. You’ll escape the big-box retailer markup and are more likely to buy in-season, which, in the case of things like food or flowers, can mean big savings.
HIRE A LIKE-MINDED TEAM You and your partner may be committed to doing good throughout your wedding planning process, but it helps if your vendor team has the same outlook as well. More and more, we’re seeing couples compile a team of like-minded individuals whose work they love and whose outlook they
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agree with. Whether that means hiring a culturally diverse team of photographers, stationers, florists and caterers, or knowing that each of your vendors volunteers in their off time for those less fortunate, enlisting a crew of pros with the same “do better” mind-set that you have will make your planning process easier—and may even open your eyes to new opportunities to give back along the way.
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or many, 2020 will be the year of conscious consumerism. “Voting” with your money is a real thing, and more and more people are spending, shopping and hiring in a mindful manner that aligns with their overall belief system. So how can you harness the social footprint of your wedding (and, let’s be honest, all that spending power) in a way that will make you proud decades from now? Read on—we’ve got just the tips.
GIVE BACK POST-“I DO” There are many ways to finish your wedding planning journey with a few simple acts of kindness. Some of our favorites? In lieu of favors, make a donation to a preferred charity or foundation in honor of your guests. Or, enlist a company like Repeat Roses, who will repurpose your day’s blooms into smaller arrangements and redistribute them to local hospitals or retirement communities for a bit of extra cheer. Other easy options, like donating your wedding attire or composting your dinner scraps, can make a big difference in the long run.
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Kerry Sullivan Smith “always felt a stronger connection to the name Kerry than to Allison,” her legal first name. Her parents chose the middle name to honor their ancestors’ roots to County Kerry in Ireland. When she got married to Dennis, Kerry legally dropped Allison, and took her maiden name of Sullivan as her new middle name. The final step: taking on her husband’s last name, Smith. “I see taking Dennis’s last name as the opportunity for us to build our new family together.”
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When Ben Clos and Jared Nyhart talked about what to do with their last names, Ben admits he initially expected Jared to take his name. After all, Ben felt a strong responsibility to “carry on a family name and create a legacy” as the only son. The pair ultimately decided to keep their respective names, but with a caveat: They plan to give their future kids Ben’s surname. “There are lots of things we still do because that’s the way we’ve always done them, but new traditions can be made,” Ben says.
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Jasmine Vasquez and Layne Brace contemplated hyphenating their names when they got married, but found the two just didn’t click when put together. Thus, they merged the two to form a totally new last name, Braquez. “My husband and I come from homes of single moms, so our last names had a lot of significance and worth attached to them,” Jasmine says. “I think our new last name helps both of us keep a sense of where we came from and who we were before marriage.”
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Sarah Zlotnick admits that she was “selfconscious” about her last name growing up, but after losing her father at 25, she wanted to carry on the legacy of the man who raised her. “My sister and I will be the last living people with the Zlotnick last name in our family, so though it’s kind of morbid, it’s important to me to take the Zlotnick name to the grave.” For his part, Zach is in total agreement. “For her to honor her dad in this way is great. I know how much it means to her.”
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t’s no secret that wedding food can sometimes feel a little one-note. But if the two of you are
big foodies and looking to create a memorable meal for yourselves and your guests, “good enough” just isn’t going to cut it. While any meal cooked up by a pro catering team is bound to be delicious, you shouldn’t feel, ahem, married to the traditional (and, typically, expected) steak, fish and chicken way of doing things. Instead, use your wedding day menu as means of illustrating the ins and outs of your truly unique love story, with a meal packed with foods that unite your cultures, harken back to your first date or make you feel like you’re at Grandma’s dinner table.
First up is the fun part—daydreaming! When it comes to the big meal, the possibilities are endless, so cast a wide net when gathering inspiration for your menu. For a personalized dinner, think of ways you can tell your story through food (you can explain the deets on your paper menus!). Are you and your partner from two different cultural backgrounds? Serve up traditional eats from both sides for a fusion menu that will have guests feeling like they just hopped on a plane to a different world. If a love for cooking runs in your family, consider compiling a few signature recipes (like Aunt Mary’s mac and cheese or Mom’s chicken tikka masala) and using those as a jumping off point for the day’s spread—most catering teams are willing to adapt a family recipe if you just ask. Or, design a menu that calls to mind your first date at that holein-the-wall taco joint or a memorable trip you took to Italy for your anniversary. Whatever the inspiration, a meal deeply ingrained in your couple history is sure to be a big hit with the hearts—and the stomachs—of your friends and family.
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FIND THE RIGHT TEAM Once you’ve settled on your perfect menu, it’s time to find your dream team. If you’ve already chosen a venue that has an in-house catering staff, make an appointment to sit down with the team and talk through your vision. Remember, just because what you’re asking for isn’t “typical” of their client offerings, doesn’t mean they can’t make it happen. Just be prepared to compromise if necessary— there’s a chance your unique asks may up the cost per person from what you were originally quoted, or they may only be able to fulfill a few of your culinary wishes. If you’re hosting your day at a
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venue that requires you bring in your own catering team, then you’re in luck— this is going to make it easier for you to handpick the crew that can best execute your menu. Our advice? Let your pro do what they do best. Just because you fall in love with the drool-worthy Instagram feed of a local barbecue team, doesn’t mean they’re the right people to pull off your Italian-meets-Asian menu. When in doubt, hire a team within the culinary culture of your choosing—not only will that guarantee you’ll get delicious eats, but you’ll know that there will be less of a risk for day-of surprises that could derail your whole dinner.
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Traditionally, most wedding meals are served one of three ways—buffet style, where guests get up and serve themselves; family style, where platters of food are placed on each table and passed around like at a dinner party; and plated, where waitstaff will place an individual plate in front of each guest. As you can imagine, all of these options ring in at different price points—but they also boast different vibes too. Once you’ve booked your team and have a general idea of what you’ll be serving, it’s time to think about how you’ll be serving. A casual Tex-Mex menu of tacos, guac and street corn may not necessarily jive with a whiteglove plated dinner, so consider mixing up the service style to better complement the overall feel of your menu. From food stations to a slew of roaming servers, the right combo can take your meal to the next level.
Chances are, you’ve already put a bit of thought into how your reception tables will look—after all, they’ll be the design focal point of your event and are a great way to contribute to the overall energy of your day. If budget allows, think beyond basic linens and white dishware, and explore some truly unique rental options to help your menu come alive. Ask your catering pros to weigh in on what color plates will make your main meal pop, or complement your traditional cultural dinner with accessories suited to that style (think: handmade Moroccan lamps and bespoke napkins to pair with your Middle Eastern menu). One more important thing to note? Specialty plates and utensils! If you’re having an out-ofthe-box meal, chances are your typical place setting won’t suffice. Be sure to rent things like chopsticks, seafood forks, bamboo steamers or whatever else you may need to ensure your dining experience is complete.
At this point, you’ve put a lot of love and care into crafting a menu that feels unique to you and your partner—so you obviously want guests to notice, right? That’s where your paper goods come in. When designing day-of items like your menus or cocktail hour food cards, it’s important to take the time to explain the backstory behind some of your yummy selections. If you’re opting for a seated meal, consider creating a little booklet to walk guests through your love story and what each dish means to you as a couple or to your families’ cultures (this is especially important if the majority of guests will be eating dishes unfamiliar to them). Or, if you’re serving up a lot of family-favorite dishes, include a few of the best recipes in the welcome bags for the weekend so guests can re-create their favorites at home. Whatever you choose, letting guests in on the fun story behind your menu will help tie the whole occasion together seamlessly.
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At one wedding I attended, the couple created a mini booklet to put in our welcome baskets that included info on every guest in attendance. It had pictures of each person or couple, a bio about them, details on their relationship with the couple and some memories or fun facts. I thought it was so unique and super thoughtful, and it was great to flip through it before the wedding to familiarize ourselves with who else would be there.
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At a wedding reception I attended, the couple had a Pittsburgh cookie table. Not only did it look stunning (and taste delicious), but it allowed family, friends and the local community to contribute to the wedding by making batches of treats ahead of time. I had never seen anything like it before, and it was a beautiful way to incorporate loved ones into the day. At the end of the night, we got to box up cookies to take home with us too! — A N D I E JERSEY FUN
I went to a wedding where the couple surprised their guests with a live performance from the cast of the Broadway show Jersey Boys. Everyone was on the dance floor singing along to top-10 hits from the legendary The Four Seasons. It was an unbelievable touch that brought together guests of all ages. — C O L E T T E DANCING QUEEN (AND KING)
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A friend of mine got married a few months ago. Her dad had passed away two years prior, so her husband and his mom decided to join her and her mom for one big parent dance, rather than the traditional separate ones. They did a giant jig to Mamma Mia! and literally everyone there was singing along, laughing and dancing in their seats. It’s such a hard tradition to figure out with a big loss, and they made it so fun. — J E S S SUPPORT SYSTEM
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At one friend’s wedding, they hired a DJ for the reception, plus a stand-alone sax player who played along with all the songs, bopping around the perimeter of the dance floor the whole night. It was unexpected, hilarious and fun—and the only thing the groom felt strongly about having.
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My friend is Indian and her husband is Jewish, and they got married in a Jewish wedding ceremony. They didn’t have a formal wedding party, but they did select several loved ones to recite prayers. I was one of those selected, and it was so special to be included. Guests surrounded them in a circle at the request of their officiant, who wanted to create a sense of community for the couple to rely on. It was such a sweet moment. — M A N A L THE NEW WEDDING MARCH
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to walk down the aisle to. They also had a few friends of theirs sing during the ceremony, and those two elements combined really reflected them as a couple. Oh, and the groom completely lost it when my friend walked down the aisle to his song. Swoon. — A N D R E A
It was on a ribbon, and when her flowers were delivered to the room before the ceremony, her mom gave it to her to wrap around her bouquet. There was seriously not a dry eye in the room—even the florist was tearing up! — S A M A N T H A
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At a friend’s wedding a couple of years ago, there was a particularly special moment when it came time for the fatherdaughter dance. My friend had lost her dad many years before, so she took the
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When my best friend got married, her mom gifted her with a beautiful charm that had a picture of her father on it (he passed away when she was very young).
time to make a small speech in his honor, then explained she would be dancing with the men who have helped her throughout life. She danced with her uncle, her grandfather and, finally, her brother. When he stepped forward to cut in for the last dance, everyone was teary. It was emotional to witness the bond they had, and to feel their love and loss in one moment. — A N D Y LITTLE MONSTERS
A wedding reception in our family started off with a surprise appearance by a fabulous Lady Gaga impersonator. Watching her and five burly, mesh-andleather-clad backup dancers own the dance floor in an upscale ballroom, surrounded by their fairly traditional families (some of whom were probably attending their first same-sex wedding ever) instantly set the tone for the rest of the night. It was a blast! — S H E R R Y STEAMY SIPS
I attended an outdoor wedding in October, and it ended up being freezing that day. They provided hot apple cider for guests while waiting for the ceremony to begin. It was so thoughtful and helped everyone’s hands stay warm. — H A N N A H TRUCKIN’ ALONG
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At a friend’s wedding, the groom rode through his baraat procession on an ice cream truck (traditionally in India, it’s done on a horse or elephant). I thought his twist was really unique and matched the fun of the rest of the day. — M A T T G U E S T S O N PA R A D E
FIXER UPPER
I was at a wedding recently where the groom’s father had passed away a few years before. His dad had enjoyed fixing up vintage cars as a pastime, and the groom had inherited one of them that he hadn’t finished before he died. Little did he know, his mom secretly had it fixed up and parked in the front of the church for when the ceremony ended. The groom was floored when he came out—they drove to their reception in it! – S T E P H
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For her wedding reception exit, my best friend hired an eight-piece brass percussion band to lead guests from the venue to the after-party spot four blocks away. The musicians were instructed to play crowd-pleasing ’90s hits like Boyz II Men’s “Motownphilly” while all us guests trailed behind them. Everyone was too happy and wrapped up in the moment to even notice the freezing temperatures outside (it was the middle of winter!)—we were too busy reliving our glory days together. — E S T H E R
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B A C K YA R D B A S H “I have always wanted an outdoor wedding,” Mikenna says. “I feel like it’s more laid-back, and that’s exactly how Chris and I wanted our day to be.”
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THEIR STORY When Mikenna Green’s (25 and an insurance agent) sister got married a few years back, their mother built a barn on her property to host the festivities. “It just proves how great my mom is at designing and decorating,” Mikenna says. “She really is the mastermind behind it all.” So for Mikenna’s wedding to Chris Green (29 and a planning analyst), much like for her sister’s day, Mom took on the role of planner. The bride modeled her jewel-tone palette around two bridesmaid dresses—a floral print and a green velvet—and the day’s other details evolved from there.
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“I wasn’t sure what I wanted for shoes, but I knew I didn’t want anything ‘normal,’” Mikenna says. “I saw these, and I was sold— they were still white but more my style.” That style vibe echoed the day’s overall vintage-boho look.
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FALL FASHION For their late-September event, Chris dressed in navy with a burgundy suit jacket, while Mikenna rocked a breezy lace and chiffon gown—topped with a floral hair accessory made of dahlias, roses and celosia and, later, a leather jacket. DOWN HOME “It was really special to get married in a place where I have so many memories growing up,” Mikenna says. RECEPTION “I wasn’t allowed into the barn until the day of the wedding,” Mikenna says, “but I trusted my mom and knew it would be perfect.” A rustic table and a combination of upholstered and industrial bistro chairs set the head table apart. Its crowning feature, a floral lighting installation, was made from vintage lamp parts and covered in greenery dotted with red and blush blooms.
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DÉCOR Celebrating outdoors, “lights were a must” for Mikenna, so classic twinkle lights were strung above the dance floor, and a collection of coordinating pendant lights hung in the trees. Mikenna’s mother also sourced the lounge furniture, vintage glassware and old tins for centerpieces. DESSERTS “I wanted a bunch of different cakes with different flavors,” Mikenna says. The delicious display included white, red velvet, chocolate, pumpkin and gluten-free treats.
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CEREMONY & RECEPTION SITE A private residence, Joplin, MO PHOTOGRAPHY Josie England Photography PLANNER Jeanene Eberhart DAY-OF COORDINATOR Morgan Rawlins (friend) EVENT DESIGNER Jeanene Eberhart FLOWERS Elizabeth Mckenzie Florals GOWN KITTYCHEN Couture, Couture Bridal, Rogers, AR SUIT Jacket: Men’s Wearhouse; shirt & pants: Kohl’s; tie: TieObsessed, Etsy.com WEDDING PARTY ATTIRE Bridesmaids: Lulus.com; groomsmen: Kohl’s; Ties.com; flower girl: MillyWeddingShop, Etsy.com HAIR Maggie Henson MAKEUP Juli Jones HEADPIECE Elizabeth Mckenzie Florals ENGAGEMENT & WEDDING RINGS Comeau Jewelry Company STATIONERY Minted.com RENTALS Legacy Events CATERING Palluccas CAKES Xave’s Cakes; pumpkin cake: Chris’s mother OFFICIANT Larry Courtney (family friend & pastor) MUSIC & PHOTO BOOTH All That Music HONEYMOON Dominican Republic GUESTS 200
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THEIR STORY What Samantha (Sam) Nicodemus (23 and an assurance associate) calls her “fiesta garden wedding” to Oswaldo (Waldo) Gomez (23 and a process and design support specialist) all came down to picking the right blooms. “Our palette was bright and colorful,” Sam says. “Most of the day’s décor came from the flowers.” Luckily, she had some floral experience under her belt. “I worked at Zuzu’s Petals for four years, so I teamed with Cindy, the owner, who brought my vision to life,” Sam says. Vibrant peonies, roses, zinnias and pincushions in shades of red, orange and pink brought the party. — LO U I S BAR AGO NA
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STATIONERY Sam set the tone for the day with cheerful stationery, which she designed herself. As with the day of, bright flowers played a starring role in the suite. VASES Another project Sam ran point on: collecting 108 decorative blue and white patterned vases in the months leading up to the wedding. MUSIC A mariachi band welcomed guests to cocktail hour under a bright orange balloon installation, and later kicked off dancing at the reception.
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RECEPTION Ghost chairs and minimal tablescapes allowed partygoers to focus on the garden vibes, heightened by the lush greenery and flowers. “With it being a greenhouse, it felt like you were standing outside,” Sam says. “The glass allowed for a beautiful, natural view.” SQUAD Sam and Waldo went neutral with their wedding party’s attire. While Waldo’s guys rocked shirts and ties, Sam’s gals wore shades of nude. “I gave them a palette, and they found the dresses,” Sam says.
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WEDDING INGREDIENTS CEREMONY & RECEPTION SITE Greenhouse Two Rivers, Highlandville, MO PHOTOGRAPHY Kyndal Hawkins/Inner Images Photography VIDEOGRAPHY Chris Gawat DAY-OF COORDINATOR Jessica Johnson/ Daymaker FLOWERS Zuzu’s Petals & Gifts GOWN Lillian West, My Couture Bridal, Rogers, AR SUIT John’s Suit Shop, Springfield, MO WEDDING PARTY ATTIRE Bridesmaids: David’s Bridal, Lulus.com, Normans Bridal; groomsmen: JCPenney HAIR & MAKEUP DIY VEIL Heirloom ENGAGEMENT & WEDDING RINGS Zales STATIONERY DIY; envelopes: BasicInvite.com RENTALS Southwest Audio-Visual CATERING Simply Delicious Catering CAKE Emilia Hernandes (Waldo’s aunt) OFFICIANT Pastor Jill Michel MUSIC Mariachi band: Mariachi Joya Azteca; DJ: Titus Stevenson TRANSPORTATION Fisk Transportation, LLC HONEYMOON Dominican Republic GUESTS 335 HASHTAG #GoingGomez
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FA M I LY T R E E Déjà’s mother, a woodworker, built the ceremony arch, while her grandmother, a horticulturist, helped guide the day’s flower choices.
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THEIR STORY Déjà Bracey-Howard (28 and a fashion stylist) and Mars Howard (27 and a computer programmer) aren’t the types to let a little rain ruin their parade. With a wedding party of 18 by their sides, the New York residents returned to their home state to exchange vows at Kuhs Estate and Farm, forgetting the foreboding forecast in favor of fun. “We partied until a gust of wind blew through the tent,” Déjà says. That’s when everyone made an early exit to the tune of tornado sirens and a torrential downpour. — LB B
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TABLESCAPES Eucalyptus and white blooms echoed the dried and live greenery hanging from handmade frames above the space. “It felt like having dinner in your backyard garden with family,” Déjà says. COCKTAIL HOUR Before a vegetarian- and vegan-friendly meal, guests snacked on hors d’oeuvres and played lawn games while listening to retro jams. MUSIC The musical variety continued into the reception, where guests grooved as a DJ spun hits from every decade.
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CEREMONY & RECEPTION SITE Kuhs Estate and Farm, St. Louis PHOTOGRAPHY Katharine and Michael Forbis/Vein + Vessel VIDEOGRAPHY Films by Juniper PLANNER DIY FLOWERS Flowers to the People GOWNS Ceremony: Willowby by Watters; reception: Lulus.com SUIT Michael Kors; tie: The Tie Bar WEDDING PARTY ATTIRE Bridesmaids: Fame & Partners; ring bearer: Spring Notions; flower girl: Sweet Valentina HAIR & MAKEUP DIY ENGAGEMENT RING Jared the Galleria of Jewelry WEDDING RINGS Bario-Neal Ethical Jewelry; Jared the Galleria of Jewelry STATIONERY Invitations & programs: Papier.com; escort cards: DIY; Hobby Lobby; Michaels; menus: DIY; Kinkos RENTALS Tent Rental CATERING Food: Conway’s Catering; bar: Concetta’s Italian Catering CAKE The Sweet Divine OFFICIANT Pastor Shannon Holt (friend) MUSIC DJ Phillip Berry (friend) HONEYMOON London, France, & Spain GUESTS 180 HASHTAG #DejaAndMarsWedding
S E C O N D LO O K “As a stylist, I enjoy outfit changes,” Déjà says. “I didn’t have to break the bank to have something fresh for the evening.”
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S AV E T H E D AT E S After Steven (left) proposed to Frank, the couple asked their jeweler to stamp their hammered-silver rings with their initials and both the engagement and wedding dates.
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C E L E B RAT IO N S IT E Warm candlelight and red and green floral arrangements added just the right amount of ambience to The Catacombs space at the Boo Cat Club, which the grooms chose for both its layout and architecture.
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THEIR STORY Frank Hopper (27 and a program director) and Steven Shaw (29 and a high school teacher) tapped local designer and friend Simon Lam “to create the entire graphic look” for their wedding—including shaping the pair’s astrological signs into a monogram logo reminiscent of a mountain. The botanical-inspired suite set the tone for a day accented with gold details, red flowers, wintry evergreen and hanging mistletoe (perfectly poised for holiday photo ops). — LB B
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DÉCOR Winter wreaths and garland made for a warm welcome on both the entrance and in the event space. SIGNATURE SIP Before dinner, Frank and Steven offered up a creative Christmas margarita that included a festive splash of cranberry. FRIENDS OF HONOR Instead of live toasts, the couple asked their wedding party to record speeches that another friend then compiled into a reception feature. “The ‘roast’ video was hilarious and worked out perfectly,” the couple says.
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WEDDING INGREDIENTS CEREMONY & RECEPTION SITE Boo Cat Club, St. Louis PHOTOGRAPHY Cassidy Parker Smith VIDEOGRAPHY Complete Weddings + Events PLANNER DIY FLOWERS Flowers & Weeds SUITS Macy’s; ties: The Tie Bar WEDDING PARTY ATTIRE Various HAIR Micah Johnson/Notch ENGAGEMENT RINGS HandmadebySFDesigns, Etsy.com STATIONERY Design: Simon Lam (friend); printing: Swift Print Communications RENTALS Complete Weddings + Events CATERING Sugarfire Smoke House CAKE Hank’s Cheesecakes DESSERTS Piccione Pastry (closed) OFFICIANT Rachel Hatch (friend) MUSIC Complete Weddings + Events PHOTO BOOTH DIY TRANSPORTATION Riding in Style Transportation HONEYMOON Mexico GUESTS 100
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SETTING The courtyard ceremony space was decorated with white leather chairs, lush floral arrangements and a copper huppah.
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THEIR STORY Libby Koerbel (29 and works in marketing) and Ben Weissman (32 and works in equity research) welcomed wedding guests from 19 states and four countries with plenty of homemade goods. “We joked that Ben’s mom should open a bakery— everyone was asking where they could buy more banana and pumpkin bread,” Libby says. The couple personalized their day further with Jewish rituals and an Irish blessing to honor their heritages. “It was a beautiful and emotional experience to have everyone I love and care about in my life looking down the aisle with Ben waiting at the other end,” Libby says. — LB B
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TRAVELING EXHIBIT “My mom put together a cool DIY art installation featuring maps from all the cities and states our guests came from,” Libby says. HEAD TABLE A greenery runner, matte-black plates, gold flatware and a mix of gold-rimmed and amber glassware lent an earthy meets modern style to the reception space. Magnolia leaf place cards, which Libby’s mom finished with calligraphy, completed the tablescapes.
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WEDDING INGREDIENTS CEREMONY & RECEPTION SITE Contemporary Art Museum St. Louis, St. Louis PHOTOGRAPHY Katharine and Michael Forbis/Vein + Vessel PLANNER & EVENT DESIGNER Melody Lowry/ Absolutely IN! Events FLOWERS Snapdragon Studios GOWN Pronovias, New York City TUXEDO Rothmans, New York City WEDDING PARTY ATTIRE Bridesmaids: Birdy Grey; groomsmen: Rothmans HAIR Emily Miller Makeup & Hair LLC; Lisa Sachman MAKEUP Emily Miller Makeup & Hair LLC WEDDING RINGS Brilliantly Engaged STATIONERY Invitations: Minted.com; escort cards & programs: DIY; menus: Seed Sprout Spoon RENTALS An Affair to Remember; The Aries Company CATERING & CAKE Seed Sprout Spoon OFFICIANT Sam Koerbel (Libby’s brother) MUSIC Ceremony string quartet: Eliana Haig; reception: Charles Glenn Group DANCE LESSONS Peter Jones/Ballroom Wedding Dance NYC WELCOME BAGS DIY HONEYMOON New Zealand GUESTS 150 HASHTAG #TwoWeissmen
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The couple’s simple yet elegant palette came through in JP’s olive suit and locally designed floral-print tie, and Michelle’s airy, beaded blush gown.
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VENUE VIBE Greenery and candles topped reception tables. “Our goal was to be in a space that we simply needed to add touches to, not transform,” JP says. In that spirit, Wild Carrot’s decorative walls made for an ideal backdrop.
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THEIR STORY Michelle Niewald (26 and works in marketing) and JP Burcks (27 and a designer) focused their wedding on the things that make them happy, from breezy boho details to their beloved cats. “We live a simple life filled with pretty things that bring us joy,” JP says. A triangular arch marked the carefree ceremony site before guests chowed down on summery barbecue bites and cupcakes. Michelle and JP enjoyed their very own single-tier sweet. “We ate the rest of it as soon as we got home from our honeymoon,” JP says. — LB B
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WEDDING INGREDIENTS CEREMONY & RECEPTION SITE Wild Carrot, St. Louis PHOTOGRAPHY Jacoby Andrick/Jacoby Photo and Design LLC PLANNER DIY; day-of coordinator: Jade Groene FLOWERS Krista Florista GOWN Essense of Australia, White Traditions Bridal House, St. Charles, MO SUIT Suitsupply; tie: Lonesome Traveler WEDDING PARTY ATTIRE Bridesmaid: BHLDN; groomsman: tie: Suitsupply HAIR & MAKEUP DanielleStyle ENGAGEMENT RING Kristin Coffin Jewelry WEDDING RINGS Kristin Coffin Jewelry; Kay Jewelers STATIONERY DIY RENTALS Wild Carrot CATERING Salt & Smoke Catering CAKE & CUPCAKES The Cup OFFICIANT Zach Sullentrup (friend) MUSIC Drace Navarro HONEYMOON Mexico GUESTS 165
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Being the focus of attention doesn’t always come naturally to everyone. If the thought of a few hundred of your closest friends and family watching and celebrating you fills you with the bad kind of butterflies, you’re not alone. Instead of letting social anxiety ruin your wedding day (and let’s be honest, the months leading up to it), tackle it head-on with these easy and actionable tips from psychologists. We’ll promise you this: There’s none of that “picture people in their underwear” advice in here.
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GO EASY ON YOURSELF Your first order of business when it comes to wedding day anxiety? Cut yourself some slack. Whether it’s the first time you’re experiencing this level of social anxiety or it’s a problem you’ve dealt with for years, know that what you’re going through is extremely common. “Anxiety is very prevalent, with 20 percent of the population experiencing it at some time or another,” says Jennifer Shannon, licensed therapist and author of Don’t Feed The Monkey Mind. “Social anxiety and a fear around public speaking is the most common way anxiety manifests itself for most people.” The days and months leading up to your wedding are sure to be packed with a lot of decisionmaking, a lot of commitment and a lot of opinions, so it’s only natural they stir up feelings of anxiety or fear. “Weddings push the anxiety hot buttons of public speaking fears, body image anxiety, performance pressure and more, as well as the fact that you’re making a lifelong commitment,” adds Alice Boyes, PhD, author of The Anxiety Toolkit. “They’re also incredibly expensive, so people want the money spent to be worth it.” Before you do any of the work to get a handle on your social anxiety, it’s important you stop fighting yourself (or worse, punishing yourself) for it. Accept that it’s a natural reaction to this stage in your life, and taking steps to control it will become much easier.
CHECK YOUR EXPECTATIONS It’s unrealistic to think you’ll head into your wedding day without a trace of nerves, especially if you’re someone who’s typically vulnerable. Instead of setting lofty expectations for your day, Shannon suggests anxious to-be-weds should aim to hit the target, not the bull’s-eye. “People with social or performance anxiety have what I call ‘social perfectionism,’ ” Shannon explains. “Instead of holding yourself to unreasonable standards, make a list of realistic, not perfectionist, goals.” Swap the thought that you will need to look completely poised and confident on the day of and not stutter over your vows with the more realistic (and human) goal of showing up and allowing signs of anxiety or nerves to show, and just focus on making eye contact with your loved ones and smiling. By eliminating the expectation that everything (or you) will be perfect from the get-go, you’ll remove a lot of the pressure that could cause you to ruin your own day. “The cost of perfectionism is your wedding will be disappointing on some level, as perfect is impossible,” says Eric Goodman, PhD, a clinical psychologist, anxiety disorder specialist and author of Social Courage: Coping and
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Keep calm and carry on through prewedding chaos with these actionable, stress-relieving tips.
1 Have a tech-free night With emails from vendors, calls from your wedding party and constant Instagram inspiration, escaping the digital stress of wedding planning can seem impossible. Chill out and reconnect with your spouse-to-be by observing at least one tech-free date night a week—no phone, no email and no social media. Trust us, you will both appreciate the extra attention and quality time together a digital detox can grant you.
2 Learn to meditate These days, it seems like everybody’s learning meditation to feel Zen. Get in on the action by setting aside 5 to 10 minutes every morning to quiet your mind and set an intention for your day. Beginners: Get accustomed to the practice by using a guided meditation app (like Buddhify or Headspace) until you’re a relaxation pro.
3 Pamper yourself Instead of splurging on a day at the spa, treat yourself to some at-home pampering. Indulge in a mud mask, light some scented candles (lavender is soothing) and run a bubble bath to take your mind off of the epic to-do list that is planning for a little while. Your body and mind will thank you for the self-care, and you’ll feel refreshed when you inevitably get back to business.
4 Make time to sweat Being active is proven to boost your mood, lower stress levels and help your overall health, so make a point to maintain a consistent workout routine throughout the planning process. You’ll feel powerful and motivated—extra points if you include stress-combating yoga.
5 Get crafty Satisfy your inner artist by immersing yourself in a creative project that has nothing to do with your wedding (that means no DIY party favors allowed!). Put together a relationship scrapbook, paint with watercolors or take a pottery class— anything that helps get your mind off everything wedding-focused. Adult coloring books are another great option that can help you zone out and scribble away the stress.
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Thriving with the Reality of Social Anxiety. “The more you’re willing to allow expectations to fall away and anxiety to be just another guest at your wedding, the less of a threat it has to be. Focus on what you want the day to be about, rather than making it about trying to chase off anxiety.”
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SET YOURSELF UP FOR SUCCESS Half the battle of dealing with anxiety of any kind is setting yourself up for success along the way. One of the best ways to do that is decreasing your stress with a series of mindful exercises in the months leading up to your wedding. “Consider developing a meditation or yoga practice,” suggests Marra G. Ackerman, MD, a clinical assistant professor of psychology. “It doesn’t matter whether it’s a deep-breathing exercise, mantra or progressive muscle relaxation—knowing what works for you and having practiced ahead of time is key.” Boyes agrees, noting that two to three minutes of slow breathing per day can develop the skill into something you’re able to tap into the day of if anxiety starts to bubble up. “Slowing your breathing is the fastest way to slow down your heart rate and control the other body systems involved in an anxiety response,” Boyes says. Another good idea? Tap a friend familiar with your anxiety struggles to be your go-to throughout the wedding. Having at least one person (beyond your spouse) that’s aware of your struggles can give you a reliable support system.
PLAN A RIGHT-FOR-YOU AFFAIR Weddings aren’t one size fits all, and that rule rings even more true when one of the to-be-weds suffers from anxiety. Just
because your parents envision a boisterous affair with 200 guests, doesn’t mean that’s what’s right for you, so decide what will make you both comfortable and plan accordingly. “You, not anxiety, plan your wedding and make all relevant decisions,” Goodman explains. “Devise a wedding that’s based on your and your partner’s core values, like a small, intimate gathering with your closest friends.” That “us first” mentality can extend to lots of decisions throughout the process, like the venue you choose (a private garden is more closed off than the grounds of a hotel, which can have unwanted onlookers) and your pros. “Surround yourselves with a photographer, makeup artist or officiant whose vibe you find calming,” Boyes suggests. You’ll feel good about your picks and take one more step toward managing anxiety from the get-go.
PRACTICE AHEAD OF TIME Experts agree exposure can help improve your anxiety, so do what you can to “call to mind” anxiety-inducing scenarios leading up to your wedding as a way to test your response. “Seek out opportunities to practice being the center of attention, like hosting dinner parties and making the toasts,” Goodman suggests. “By facing your social fears ahead of time, you’ll see that, despite what your anxiety may tell you, nothing catastrophic happens if you’re imperfect socially. Plus, you’ll build up your anxiety-tolerance muscles.” Tackling everything from public speaking and displays of affection to dancing in front of a crowd ahead of time will help those anxiety-ridden elements lose their power ahead of your wedding day, leaving you more calm and relaxed for your moment in the spotlight.
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Okay, we got this, but remember: You can’t please everyone! I know, I know, groundbreaking stuff here, but if there’s ever a day on which this sentiment should be remembered, it’s your wedding day. You and your partner’s style and preferences should reign supreme for your event. Does that mean you need to rule with an iron fist? Um, no. Instead, think of ways you can compromise with your wedding party without abandoning your vision. Try giving your besties a color swatch and a few rules (aka no sparkle), and let them go wild (subject to veto!).
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Nothing awkward here, friend. You’re talking to someone who blacks out every time they’re asked to do simple math, so I get it. Who you tip (and what you tip) depends on the vendor in question. Here’s a quick cheat sheet: Caterers, beauty pros, transportation pros and DJs should all get 15 to 20 percent of the total bill amount for their services. If you’re hiring servers, tip them around $20 each (or more), and same goes for musicians. Some pros don’t expect or require tips at all (floral designers, event planners and photographers, for example). When in doubt, head over to our site—TheKnot.com has your back with an extensive tip list.
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YOU ASKED, ANSWERED! MY PARENTS ARE DIVORCED, AND IT’S NOT EXACTLY AMICABLE. HOW DO I KEEP THEM FROM STRANGLING EACH OTHER AT MY WEDDING?
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I’m sorry you’re in the position of worrying about this. The best thing you can do here is overcommunicate, even when it’s hard. Remind your parents that it’s your day—not theirs—so a peace treaty is necessary. Talk logistics and comfort levels. Can they sit next to each other at the ceremony? What about posing for family photos? Be considerate of their feelings, but not at the expense of your own.
I THINK MY PRO IS GHOSTING ME. WHAT DO I DO? Okay, okay. Before you send off that fiery email, let’s keep one thing in mind: Things happen, and depending on your timeline, your pro might have other clients who are getting married sooner and are getting their attention. If the amount of time is absolutely unreasonable (think: weeks with NO response to emails or calls, but meanwhile they’re still active on Insta), it’s time to check out your contract and begin considering your options. After all, you’re paying your vendors—get your money’s worth.
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MY FAMILY IS UNSUPPORTIVE OF MY PARTNER AND ME. CAN WE PLAN A WEDDING WITHOUT THEM? SHOULD WE EVEN INVITE THEM?
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WE MET ONLINE, BUT OUR FAM DOESN’T KNOW—AND WE’RE NOT SURE IF OUR WEDDING IS THE TIME OR PLACE FOR US TO GET OUTED. WHAT DO WE DO? You legend, you. I think you first need to ask yourself why exactly you wouldn’t want your family to know that you met via swipe, spark, tap, woof or whatever else I may or may not have done to find love on an app. At this point, you’re probably in the clear—you’re about to seal the deal! If you’re really nervous, give anyone toasting you a heads up, but I say you be honest and tell the story of your appily ever after.
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YOU ASKED, ANSWERED! HOW DO I TALK TO MY FIANCÉ ABOUT BUDGET? WE’RE ON TWO DIFFERENT PAGES, AND MONEY DISCUSSIONS ARE SO UNCOMFORTABLE.
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Uh, I get it—thinking about bills makes me want to cry. Budgets are stressful, but money needs to be something you can discuss openly with your partner. Consider this talk a little practice for your financial future. Bring up your wedding spend in a way that doesn’t feel accusatory, set boundaries (no raised voices, no low blows, etc.) and work together to come up with a list of priorities—costs included.
HOW MANY SPEECHES OR TOASTS IS TOO MANY? I’m a sucker for a good toast, but even I can agree there’s such a thing as too many. You don’t want to keep guests from mingling and dancing just to hear the whole wedding party wax poetic about your love. I say you choose a rep from each side (typically an MOH and a best man, but gender is made up, my loves) and allow for parents to toast at their discretion. Somewhere around four to five short (think: around six minutes) toasts feels just fine to me. From there, get the party started.
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You’d be shocked by how many people have this same issue. Writer’s block can be a beast, and some of us just aren’t cut out for public declarations of love. Whatever your reason, you could replace traditional vows by reciting a poem you both love, repeating the lyrics to a song that means a lot to you, or taking part in a personalized unity ceremony. (My fave I’ve seen: a guac-making ceremony. *Drools.*)
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MY ____________ IS CONTROLLING AND WANTS A SAY IN EVERY DECISION. HOW DO I MAKE SURE THIS WEDDING ISN’T THEIR “I DO” TAKE TWO? I’m #TeamCompromise, but to a point. Is this person dictating major choices and expressing disapproval for the details too? Is this turning into a wedding you don’t even recognize? Hard stop. Form a united front with your s/o and talk to this person about the importance of your vision. If they have a financial stake in the game, you might need to make some tough compromises—prioritize accordingly.
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DECIDE YOUR VIBE Just like with photography, there are many different styles, techniques and mediums of videography to consider when selecting the pro or company to hire. You’ll likely want your wedding video style to be in harmony with the style of photography you choose, so keep in mind that a grainy, retro Super 8 film might not be the right match alongside supermodern, artsy photography. Past that, consider what type of films you and your partner typically enjoy. Are you drawn to a more dramatic, cinematic telling of your day, or would you rather it be shot more documentary style? Settling first on a film “tone” will ensure you seek out the right pro to get your desired end result.
DO YOUR RESEARCH You want to make sure you’re choosing from the most seasoned, talented vendors that fall within your budget. Browse online for pros in your area, then narrow it down to your top five contenders. Spend an afternoon researching their past work, watching videos they’ve completed for other couples on sites like Vimeo or Love Stories TV, and reading reviews past clients have left. Once you have one or two clear favorites, reach out and ask a few basic questions, like the packages they offer and how they like to capture their couples’ day. If you find yourself tearing up at a random couple’s wedding video or losing hours binge-watching flicks on a company’s site, you’re probably on the right track to finding your pro.
MAKE SURE THE MIX WORKS Your videographer will be working very closely with your photographer day of (oftentimes capturing the same intimate moments), so it’s important to feel out if the two of them are a
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good fit. Inquire as to whether they’ve worked together before, and if they haven’t, offer to make the introduction so they can get acquainted before your wedding. The photographer and videographer can talk through their typical workflow and how they like to shoot, so you’ll be less likely to get a lot of photographs with a videographer in the background (or vice versa). Another thing to consider? Where you’ll be tying the knot. It’s always beneficial to partner with a pro who has done weddings or events at your location before. That way, they’ll be in the know on the prettiest backdrops, as well as any lighting quirks and potential issues that may arise throughout the day. If they’re new to the space, introduce them to your on-site coordinator or planner so they can walk through the venue before your wedding day. The more in sync everyone is, the smoother the day will go.
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Chances are your videographer offers a variety of packages, ranging from different hourly rates to multiple shooters on the day of. Narrow in on your needs by first deciding how much of your day you want filmed. Do you want someone there catching you and your wedding party getting ready and toasting with mimosas, or do you only feel strongly about capturing footage from the ceremony and reception? Once you have a general timeline nailed down (your pro can help you finesse it a bit more), think about how many eyes you want on your event. One videographer will get the job done, but a team of two can capture the perspective of the main event and the reactions of loved ones, like your partner’s face as you walk down the aisle or your mom’s smile during the father-daughter dance (be sure to inquire about gear too, like microphones, so you don’t miss out on those speeches). Lastly, you should factor in how long of an end product you want. Something short and sweet, like a wedding day highlights reel, uses a lot less footage (and, therefore, requires a lot less time spent filming and editing in postproduction) than a one- to two-hour detailed recap of the day would. Ask your videographer what video length and editing each package includes, and choose which suits your needs best.
Leading up to your wedding day, sit down with your partner and write out a list of 5 to 10 moments that you feel your videographer just has to capture, as well as any surprises you’re planning for guests (they’ll want to have their camera ready when you drop confetti onto the dance floor). If you have large families with a lot of VIPs, you can provide your videographer (as well as your photographer) with a rundown of who’s who at the party. They’ll know to shoot the wedding party getting down on the dance floor, but make sure they take footage of your cousins too.
LOVE THE END RESULT A lot of the magic of wedding videos happens after the event, where they piece together all the best moments from your day and pair them with music or voice-overs. Pros will often shoot with specific shots already in mind, so to ensure you get the product you want, speak up before your event. Not into special effects? Totally fine. Want the video set to your first dance song? See if they can license it ahead of time. Production time can also vary, so work a delivery date into your contract. Lastly, ask in what format you’ll get your video. If receiving a USB or password protecting the video online is important to you, say so.
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For argument’s sake, we’re going to refer to this next category as a shower, but this can really include any event leading up to the wedding day where one or both sides of your family join together to celebrate your impending nuptials, like a bridal shower, couple’s shower and more. Remember, a wedding (and any related events) are all about what feels right to you and your partner, so if you’re not so thrilled by the idea of a shower, just skip it. If you’re looking to stick with tradition, plan to hold your shower anywhere from one to six months ahead of your wedding. Keep in mind that showers are often coordinated by someone other than the bride or groom (think: your MOH or future mother-in-law), so be sure to tap your party people early on to give them enough time to plan. For a traditional bridal shower, women who are attending the wedding are the ones invited, while a couple’s shower or other celebration usually extends to include anyone on your wedding guest list and can be as big or small of a gathering as you’d like. Another important point: These events are when the majority of the gifting will happen, so stock your registry with plenty of options at least a month or two ahead of your party so guests have a variety of items (and price points) to choose from. Plus, you don’t want Aunt Sally going rogue, do you? We didn’t think so.
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Is there anything more fun leading up to your wedding than a weekend partying with your besties? We think not. A longstanding tradition for both sides of the aisle, bachelor, bachelorette and newly minted bachelorx parties are a chance to let loose, hang with your pals and make some memories. While typically organized by someone in your wedding party, virtually anyone can pull together this party, so feel free to ask your most organized college roommate or Pinterest-savvy cousin to do the honors. Steer clear of celebrating too close to your actual wedding date so you can feel free to let loose and enjoy all the revelry that goes along with this prewedding bash. One thing to remember: Make your party preferences known. While you’re free to have a weekend that’s as low-key or over-the-top as you want, your friends aren’t mind readers, so if there’s something that’s truly off limits, say so. Beyond that, try and choose a location that has a lot to offer no matter what the budget or what your buds are into. Cities like Nashville, Charleston and Portland all have a great mix of the classy, the rowdy and the understated.
The night before your wedding is bound to bring a few jitters, and there’s no better way to distract yourselves than wining and dining alongside your loved ones. Rehearsal dinners have become a pretty standard wedding weekend event, and are traditionally held the evening before the “I dos,” after the couple and their wedding party have walked through the run-of-show for the following day with their officiant. It’s a great opportunity to spend time with your VIP guests in a relaxed environment, so keep the vibe fun, festive and comfortable. No matter who the official “host” is (it can be your or your partners’ parents, you two or even grandparents or godparents—whoever’s up for it), you should aim to book and solidify your rehearsal dinner plans four to six months in advance. As for the guest list, consider including your immediate families, members of your wedding party and their spouses or significant others, the parents of any child attendants and your officiant (they may not come, but it’s a kind gesture to invite them). Looking to see everyone coming to town? Host a traditional dinner, then open up the celebration to anyone already in the area for your wedding with a few hours of welcome drinks or some other night-before festivities (like s’mores and bonfires). While the structure is pretty loose when it comes to a rehearsal dinner (you do you!), there are a few things you may want to include, like passing along any gifts to your wedding attendants and opening up the mic to any toasts or well-wishes that won’t take place during the main event.
Swap stories over waffles with a postwedding brunch—the ideal way to wind down the weekend. Usually held at or nearby whatever hotel you and the majority of your guests stayed at, you can cast a wide net with your invite list, including anyone who spent the night and doesn’t have to sneak out too early the next morning. Don’t feel like you have to send formal invitations for a farewell brunch unless you want to—this info is fine to include on your wedding website, or on the details card within your invitation suite. You just threw a killer party the night before, so don’t overcomplicate this. The only things you need are hearty breakfast eats, lots of coffee and plenty of goodbye hugs.
FIT IN FACE TIME WITH EVERYONE WHO’S IN TOWN FOR YOUR WEDDING WEEKEND BY FOLLOWING UP YOUR INTIMATE REHEARSAL DINNER WITH A FEW HOURS OF WELCOME DRINKS OR ANOTHER FUN FESTIVITY, LIKE S’MORES AROUND A BONFIRE.
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WHERE Paros, part of the Cyclades, is the most popular Greek island group. WHY Greek poet George Seferis once declared Paros the loveliest of all Greek islands. Just a ferry ride from Athens, its gorgeous beaches still feel like a secret compared to neighboring islands Mykonos and Santorini. WHEN TO GO During June and September, the weather is bone dry and beautiful with cool nights and far fewer tourists. With 30-plus beaches to choose from, including gems like Lageri and Filizi, there’s a good chance you’ll be the sole sunbathers. WHERE TO STAY Located on the northeast side of the island fronting Naoussa Bay, Parilio Hotel is nestled between stunning Kolympithres Beach and the idyllic fishing village of Naoussa. The exterior of the 33-suite hotel echoes the island’s ubiquitous blockwhite Cycladic architectural style; interiors are decorated with global finds. If you want extra privacy, the Sun Suite boasts a private pool. From $350; Sun Suite from $725; ParilioHotelParos.com WHAT NOT TO MISS Dinner at Statheros is a must. The simple mezedakia is run by Konstantina Manolaki, daughter of Argiro Barbarigou, the godmother of Greek cuisine. Cabbage dolma and other family recipes feature handmade cheeses, just-caught fish and vegetables from the family farm. StatherosRestaurant.gr
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WHERE The lower half of the Baja peninsula, this off-the-radar paradise is accessed from the San Jose del Cabo International Airport. WHY Cabo’s tourist corridor is lined with flashy resorts and rough surf, while the East Cape is a 75-mile stretch of empty, swimmable beaches and sleepy fishing villages. WHEN TO GO The weather is warm and sunny yearround. Summer is optimal for surfing, and spring and fall are prime times for fishing. The largest ray migration comes through the Sea of Cortez in May and June, and whale watching peaks in winter. WHERE TO STAY Situated on two miles of unspoiled beach, the newly opened Four Seasons Resort Los Cabos at Costa Palmas is the region’s first luxury resort. An oasis of exclusivity, the 141-room property has 18 acres of organic farms, orchards and a private marina. Staff can arrange everything from sunset sails and ATV adventures to waterfall viewings. From $850; FourSeasons.com/loscabos WHAT NOT TO MISS Jacques Cousteau famously called the Sea of Cortez “the aquarium of the world.” Cabo Pulmo Marine Reserve, home to hundreds of species including sea bass, angel fish and giant groupers, is a bucket list destination for snorkel and dive enthusiasts. Diving near a school of silvery horse-eye jacks is an essential photo op. From $229 for a full day of scuba; Cabo-Adventures.com
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WHERE An hour east of the hustle and bustle of Seminyak, remote East Bali remains one of the island’s few untrodden destinations. WHY Lush and peaceful, it’s free of the surfers, selfie sticks and Eat Pray Love crowds that descend on Seminyak, Uluwatu and Ubud. You’ll fall asleep to crashing waves rather than DJ tracks. WHEN TO GO April through September are the sunniest, driest months, with June through August bringing higher prices. Low season, October through April, is monsoon season, but the weather is more windy than wet in this part of the country. WHERE TO STAY Set in a secluded coconut grove on a black-sand beach at the foot of sacred Mount Agung, Alila Manggis is a haven for tranquilityseeking honeymooners. All 55 rooms have ocean views and private terraces overlooking a central pool and a garden overflowing with pink bougainvillea and frangipani. White-sand beaches are a short drive away and remarkably free of visitors. From $127; AlilaHotels.com/manggis WHAT NOT TO MISS Learn about the agricultural practices of Balinese farmers during a cooking class at Alila Manggis. You’ll don boots and a conical hat and help harvest produce in the hotel’s organic garden, then assist the chef in preparing a traditional Balinese lunch. From $70 for a half-day cooking class.
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1 THRICE AS NICE Looking for bling with extra-special meaning? Give a nod to your past, present and future with a threestone sparkler. Engagement ring, price upon request, DeBeers.com 2 HELLO, YELLOW
A canary diamond is an alternative choice but still gives off megawatt shine. Engagement ring, price upon request, Kwiat.com
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Rose gold is trending for two reasons: It works for most skin tones and has a naturally romantic feel. Engagement ring, $12,690 (not including center stone), Tacori.com
5 MODERN ART An east-west design (one where the center stone rests horizontally across your finger) edges up a simple solitaire setting. Engagement ring, $44,370, EvaFehren.com 6 EMERALD CITY
If diamonds aren’t your thing, a dazzling colorful gemstone like this emerald will set you apart from the crowd. Engagement ring, $52,000, UneekJewelry.com
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3 PRETTY + PETITE If daintier settings are your thing, consider a rose cut diamond. They have old-world flair and look gorg at any carat weight. Engagement ring, $2,700, KirkKara.com
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You heard it here first: Retro-chic marquise diamonds are making a serious comeback. Engagement ring, $1,100 (not including center stone), SimonGJewelry.com
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An asscher cut sparkler with a geometric halo has an instant heirloom quality. Engagement ring, $30,000, AshleyZhangJewelry.com
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3 PATTERN PLAY A unique herringbone texture gives an otherwise classic design extra visual interest. Band, $890, BlueNile.com
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It’s all in the details. A raw diamond edge adds supersubtle sparkle.
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Bring on the bling. A band with large and in charge stones is bold enough to stand alone. Band, $17,465, ChristopherDesigns.com
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Alternating marquise, pear and round diamonds give this glitzy style a creative tilt. Band, $13,000, MaterialGood.com
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Intersecting links symbolizing an eternal connection are equal parts modern and sentimental. Band, $1,350, Tiffany.com
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Whether you’re a color fanatic or want to give a nod to Pride, a rainbow eternity band is vibrant fun. Band, $795, AnnaSheffield.com
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A traditional style gets a fashion-forward update with the unexpected combo of white and rose gold. Band, $1,496, SimonGJewelry.com
The trendiest wedding rings are anything but basic.
You don’t need a giant rock to make a statement. While an engagement ring is an undoubtedly special piece of jewelry, a wedding band is equally meaningful to add into the mix or wear alone. The best part? The bands of the moment are all about letting your personal expression fly high with new shapes, color combinations and textures.
RING INSURANCE 101 In the name of love, insure that precious ring. Ask these essential questions before choosing a policy.
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Don’t know the difference between platinum and white gold? No problem! Read up on your options before you select a ring setting.
PLATINUM A rare, natural white metal known for its strength and purity, platinum is usually 95 percent pure. Platinum’s density makes it extremely durable, meaning it will keep your center stone protected and secure. It’s also naturally hypoallergenic, so it won’t irritate sensitive skin. While it is the most expensive of the metals, when platinum scratches, there’s very little metal lost, so your ring will withstand years of wear. Also, since it’s a pure white metal, it won’t cast any tint onto your center stone.
YELLOW GOLD Besides the fact that yellow gold is on trend right now, the pure form of gold has plenty of other appeal too. It’s about as low maintenance as it gets (it’s easier to clean than white or rose gold) and it’s a fairly hypoallergenic metal as well, depending on its karat measurement. Not to mention, it’s typically priced slightly lower than other fine jewelry metals like platinum.
WHITE GOLD Yellow gold is turned into white gold when the surface is plated with rhodium (a white metal). If you want the look of a white metal setting but don’t want to splurge on platinum, white gold is a budget-friendly choice. Though it has a similar resemblance to platinum, it’s more widely available and, therefore, less expensive. If you opt for this metal, keep in mind you may need to have your ring replated in the future. The white rhodium coating may eventually wear away and return the ring to its original yellow color.
EDITOR’S TIP If you fall in love with a ring that isn’t available in your size— say, you’re a woman in love with a men’s band or vice versa—don’t count yourself out. Ask if your jeweler can make your preferred design to fit you. — S H E L L E Y B R O W N senior fashion & beauty editor
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From left: This luxe take on the signet ring is all about maximum sparkle. Ring, $7,700, Ceremony.us. A small diamond set on the inside of the band is a glam substitute for more traditional engravings. Band, $1,995, Forevermark.com
A hidden gem is a great alternative if you aren’t into lots of bling.
RO SE GOLD Made popular in 19th-century Imperial Russia, this pink-tinted metal is gold with an added copper alloy. The more copper alloy in the metal, the deeper the rosy tones will be. One of rose gold’s most attractive qualities is its underlying meaning. While white gold represents friendship and yellow gold means fidelity, rose gold symbolizes love.
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A S A B E A U T Y E D I T O R A T T H E K N O T, I'll try anything once. Sometimes this is a super perk (hello, fancy facials). Sometimes it’s risky, like the time I went in for trendy highlights and came out a peroxide blonde. For better or for worse, I’ve tested (almost) every buzzy beauty option out there. Here’s the scoop on some of the most popular prewedding treatments, so you can decide what to splurge on—and what to skip.
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W H A T I T I S If you have naturally thin or uneven brows or were an over-plucker like so many of us in the early aughts, this corrective brow treatment could be for you. A more sophisticated take on permanent makeup, microblading is a form of tattooing where hairlike strokes are drawn onto the brow area to resemble the look of your existing brow hairs. The result is a series of naturallooking, fine tattoo “hairs” that will last one to three years. E D I T O R ’ S N O T E S If there’s one big takeaway here, it’s that timing is especially important. Microblading is a process, not a quick fix. I recommend scheduling your first appointment at least 12 weeks before your wedding date. After my initial microblading appointment at Better Brows & Beauty (BetterBrowsNYC.com) in New York City, I had to keep my brows totally dry for a full week while scabs formed—no easy feat if you’re into consistent exercise or showers. Once my scabs fell off, it took another couple of weeks before I could go in for touch ups to perfect the look. While it was a time commitment, it was also a game changer. I've shaved minutes off my morning makeup routine and I never worry about smudging or sweating off my brows anymore. I also feel comfortable without makeup because my face is more symmetrical now—no more cringing at glaring bald patches whenever I catch myself in the mirror.
LASH LIFT W H A T I T I S Swap falsies, extensions and even mascara for this quick curling and darkening treatment that amplifies what you’ve already got. Your lashes are wrapped around small silicone rods and secured with a medical-safe glue, then permed
with a curling solution and tinted (usually with a vegetable dye). It takes around 40 minutes, and the results last up to 12 weeks or the amount of time it takes for a new set of lashes to grow in. E D I T O R ’ S N O T E S Think of this as a substitute for a kick-ass mascara. It dramatically boosts what’s already there but won’t weigh down your lashes or come unglued, as can be the case with falsies and extensions. It also addresses a variety of lash woes (think: straight lashes, lashes that grow downward instead of upward or unruly lashes that stick out in different directions). My lash lift at Glo Skin & Laser in New York City (GloSpaNY.com) only took half an hour, and my annoyingly thick but straight lashes looked amazing for weeks—like, people on the street commenting on how good they looked, good. You should schedule your lash lift a week or so before your wedding in case you have a reaction to the lash dye or curling solution. I had to give up my favorite oil-based cleanser afterward (oil-based products reverse the effects of the treatment) but it was a small price to pay for gorgeous lashes I couldn’t cry or rub off.
LYMPHATIC DRAINAGE FACIAL W H A T I T I S If you’ve been hitting the wine or salty snacks to combat wedding planning stress, you could find yourself dealing with a puffy face all of the contouring in the world can’t fix. Enter: your new BFF, the lymphatic drainage facial. A jade roller on steroids, this combination of various massage techniques (including gua sha, acupressure points, and manual lymphatic drainage massage) reduces inflammation by draining excess water and toxins trapped beneath the skin. The result? A contoured face and jawline, lifted and toned cheekbones and a brighter and clearer complexion overall. E D I T O R ’ S N O T E S Extra-dirty martinis are my guilty pleasure, so I’m no stranger to facial puffiness. I booked a lymphatic drainage facial with celebrity facialist Cecilia Wong (CeciliaWongSkincare .com) right around the holidays, when the martinis were flowing and the bloat was real. While part of the treatment was slightly uncomfortable (the massage portion of the facial requires pretty firm pressure to work), my face was noticeably firmer afterwards, especially around my jawline and cheekbones. If you can swing it, book a series of six treatments leading up to your wedding to look your most contoured. Schedule your last one a week or so before your day for a taut complexion that’s extra camera-ready.
W H A T I T I S Microneedling (also called collagen induction therapy if you're fancy) involves a mechanized device that repeatedly punctures the skin with tiny, sterile needles. The treatment creates microscopic "damage" in the skin, which activates your body's wound-healing processes and revs up collagen production. Without getting too technical, an increase in healthy skin cells and collagen can reduce fine lines, scars and hyperpigmentation. E D I T O R ’ S N O T E S I didn’t know exactly what to expect from my microneedling session at Better Brows & Beauty, but it was surprisingly painless. Since I was numbed beforehand, the process felt like using a gritty face scrub. However, there's no
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sugarcoating it: Immediately after microneedling, I looked rough. My face was blotchy, bright red and swollen. (You know that scene in Sex and the City where Samantha shows up to Carrie's book party looking like beef carpaccio? It was kind of like that.) Despite the initial shock of how I looked after, there was virtually no downtime—I even wore makeup the next day without any residual irritation. My skin started to peel about four days after my appointment, but was back to normal within a week. In the weeks following my microneedling treatment, there was a remarkable improvement in my skin. The treatment faded the hyperpigmentation on my top lip, my overall complexion was smoother and my pores even seemed smaller. Coworkers commented I look "refreshed" and a friend even asked what I'd done to amp up my skincare routine. Bottom line: Whether you want to correct severe skin issues in the months leading up to your wedding or just boost your glow with a one-and-done approach, this is one Instagram trend worth investing in.
W H A T I T I S There’s no shortage of peels out there, but the SkinCeuticals Smart TCA System (SkinCeuticals.com) is especially potent. Applied in layers, this higher concentration of glycolic acid and trichloroacetic acid deeply penetrates the skin in just 30 minutes, stimulating collagen and solving a myriad of skin issues like fine lines, acne, discoloration and scarring. E D I T O R ’ S N O T E S I’ve done tons of at-home peels but the SkinCeuticals Smart TCA System was the real deal. After the first layer of chemicals was applied, I could only feel a slight tingling, but once the second and then third layer kicked in, the stinging was squirming-in-my-chair levels of intense. Afterwards, my skin was bright red and felt hot to the touch. In the week that followed, my entire face peeled off in large sheets (lovely visual, I know). While you can wear makeup immediately after, I decided to forgo the cover-up and let my skin slough off without any poreclogging interference. Within 10 days, all the dead skin peeled off to reveal a much dewier complexion, but I was disappointed to discover my sun spots and fine lines remained intact. My results weren’t as dramatic as I expected, so if you’re looking to totally overhaul your skin, plan to get a few peels in the months leading up to your day. Give yourself at least two weeks between treatments to bounce back, especially if you have sensitive skin.
BOTULINUM TOXIN W H A T I T I S Commonly referred to as Botox (Botox is actually a brand name of one of the most popular versions of botulinum toxin), this injectable also goes by the name Dysport and Xeomin. When used for antiaging purposes, it smooths out wrinkles caused by the repetitive activity of the facial muscles. Once injected into the face, it blocks the transmission of nerve signals, causing the facial muscles at the injection site to relax. E D I T O R ’ S N O T E S While it’s easy to find injectables these days, it’s still important to go to an experienced professional (plastic surgeons and dermatologists tend to be best) who can inject you safely. I did my research and went to celebrity dermatologist Lisa Airan in New York City (DrLisaAiran.com). I was a little
nervous about sticking needles in my face, but she worked as quickly and as painlessly as possible while injecting my forehead and crow’s feet, which helped to put my mind at ease. Botox takes about three days to kick in, and I didn’t feel the full effects for about a week. After that, I noticed I had less movement in my forehead, my fine lines had disappeared and my brows even appeared slightly lifted. I looked, in a word, younger. The results lasted for three months. If you go under the needle before your “I dos,” make sure you still have some movement in your face— otherwise, you could end up looking emotionless in photos.
DERMAL FILLER W H A T I T I S Similar to botulinum toxin, dermal fillers go by many names. Some popular ones are: Restylane, Juvéderm and Sculptra. And while this trendy procedure may conjure images of pouty-lipped Instagram celebrities, it can also help stave off the aging process—for a little while. Once injected into the face, filler (hyaluronic acid is the most popular kind) sits under the skin, plumping up hollow areas and smoothing wrinkles. E D I T O R ’ S N O T E S This is not for the faint of heart, but it sure is effective. While luscious lips have never been on my wish list, the areas under my eyes have always been hollow, making me look permanently tired. The big downside to this particular issue is that no eye cream can fix it, so I took the plunge and got my under eyes injected with filler by Dr. Konstantin Vasyukevich, a plastic surgeon in New York City (FacialArtistryMD.com). It was pretty painful (the skin around your eyes is very sensitive) and I was bruised and swollen at the injection sites for a week. But after the swelling went down, my results were nothing short of amazing. I looked instantly well-rested. The only drawback? Filler lasts for just six months, so the gorgeous effects were only temporary. Pro tip: Get filler around four months before your day so you won’t look less refreshed at your prewedding events.
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SO, YOU BOOKED THE VENUE AND FIGURED OUT THE GENERAL VIBE OF YOUR WEDDING— CONGRATS! NOW IT ’S TIME TO FIND THE RIGHT OUTFITS. BY SHELLEY BROWN
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SUIT A light gray, light blue or khaki suit with a patterned bow tie and complementary pocket square is equal parts preppy and laid-back. If you’re going for a slightly edgier feel, consider ditching the jacket altogether for a vest or a pair of printed suspenders.
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DRESS Keep it chic with a short dress and let your accessories do the talking. After all, a flirty hemline is the perfect opportunity to show off killer shoes. If heels aren’t your thing, opt for glitzy flats or sneakers. Another thought: Add a fun hair barrette or birdcage veil to the mix.
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If you’ve been dreaming of a courthouse ceremony, backyard celebration or even an intimate dinner party, this is the dress code for you. While casual dress usually means anything goes, you’ll want to look put together in your photos. To pull this off, a dress, separates or suit with a relaxed vibe—and extras with lots of personality—are key.
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DRESS Dramatic silhouettes, elaborate trains and thicker fabrics like satin and taffeta tend to look—and feel—too heavy for a beachy affair. Looser silhouettes, shorter hemlines and breezier fabrics like chiffon, lace and jersey won’t look out of place or weigh you down.
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Similar to beach chic, this loose set of rules is all about attire that works with your naturally gorgeous surroundings. A light gray or earth-toned suit or a romantic lace dress are made for a relaxed celebration at a farm, barn or vineyard. Swap stilettos for block heels or wedges, or go for more casual lace-ups or sneakers with sturdy soles that can stand up to any uneven terrain. If you’re game to really play up the rustic feel, consider adding botanicalinspired accessories.
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Whether you’re jetting off to an exotic island destination or staying domestic at your local seaside venue, you’re all about making it official with your toes in the sand. And while beach-chic attire isn’t about wearing anything too over the top, it is about dressing to impress. Unstructured silhouettes, lightweight fabrics and nautical or tropical-themed accessories are essential when it comes to pulling off beachy wedding style. Where footwear is concerned, go for shoes you don’t mind getting wet—or just go barefoot.
SUIT A laid-back location calls for lightweight duds that won’t look too stuffy. Feeling bold? Mix up a light-colored ensemble with a floral jacket lining, vest or socks. Or, keep it easy with a printed bow tie and pocket square. DRESS A simple—but still stunning—lace dress with flutter sleeves won’t look out of place at a chill venue, but also doesn’t skimp on the romance. Give this effortless look a little something extra with statement earrings or hairpins.
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SUIT Breathable fabrics like linen and cotton are a must. A darker suit could feel too formal, but the same cut in khaki or light blue is a great option for casual surroundings. Depending on how lowkey your wedding is, you may even want to lose the jacket and roll up your sleeves.
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The easiest way to get your point across is to include a dress code at the bottom of the invite or on a separate reception card. Your invitation design will also clue guests in. A traditional invite with letterpress and calligraphy will hint to the formal nature of the event, whereas one with a playful font and bright colors speaks to a more casual vibe.
SUIT A tux or black suit is too fancy, while a khaki or light blue one is too relaxed for this (kind of) formal vibe. What’s a to-be-wed to do? Enter: the navy, bright blue or gray suit. A step above their more casual counterparts, sharply tailored formalwear in these trendy hues is versatile and just polished enough.
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One of the most misinterpreted dress codes, semiformal attire is basically an outfit that’s dressier than what you’d wear to the office but not as much as an evening gown or formal suit. (Easy, right?) There are lots of ways to riff on this, but we love the idea of fitted silhouettes—whether a slimcut suit or fit-and-flare dress—plus bold accents.
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DRESS Heavily embellished or voluminous numbers are better suited for ultra-glam nuptials. A fit-and-flare or column dress with impeccable tailoring works for a variety of locales and wedding themes—and is easy to dress up or down, depending on how you accessorize it.
If your dress code is on the more obscure side (say, beach or rustic), your wedding website is the perfect opportunity to explain what you mean. If you’re feeling really extra, you can even link to Pinterest boards with outfit inspo.
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FORMAL DRESS A sleek evening gown in a high-shine fabric is made for a swanky venue. A satin, mermaidstyle look is dressed up but still more subtle than a full-blown ball gown. Want to create an unexpected contrast? Opt for one with a cowl back, oversize bow or one-shoulder neckline. SUIT A classic black tuxedo might feel too traditional. Instead, pair a charcoal, midnightblue or hunter-green suit (darker hues are more formal than lighter ones) with a sharp dress shirt and standout pieces like a statement tie, pocket square, socks or cuff links.
Also known as black tie optional, we like to think of this dress code as fancy but with a little less pomp and circumstance. Whether you’re saying “I do” in a cool museum, on a rooftop or in an art gallery off the beaten path, this kind of affair is definitely sophisticated—minus some of the strict rules of a blacktie event. When it comes to your look, opt for a wardrobe that’s as put together—and also cutting edge—as your celebration. Structured outfits (think: a streamlined evening gown or a welltailored dark suit) plus polished accessories are easy fashion wins.
Pretty much as buttoned up as it gets (with the exception of über-formal white tie, which is essentially a thing of the past outside of royal and state balls), a black-tie wedding is synonymous with pulling out all of the stops. So, you locked in a grand location, hired the 24-piece band, splurged on over-the-top centerpieces and asked your guests to wear their finest—all that’s left to do is make sure you and your SO show up looking appropriately snazzy. For the luxe event you’re planning, only a tuxedo or formal gown and opulent accessories will do.
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DRESS Make the most of your moment in the spotlight with a dramatic dress. We love a classic ball gown with illusion lace sleeves à la Kate Middleton, or a more fashion-forward style with cascading ruffles, 3-D florals or feathers. SUIT Though you’d certainly look dapper in any suit, a traditional tux will guarantee you’ll dress the part for your formal affair. To keep it modern, forgo contrasting studs, dated cummerbunds and shiny vests, and instead consider a jacket with sleek, satin notch lapels and a self-tie bow tie. DEVON JARVIS
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MAID OF STYLE BEFORE YOU ROUND UP YOUR BESTIES AND HIT THE STORES, BRUSH UP ON THE DRESS TRENDS YOU NEED TO KNOW—PLUS HOW TO PULL THEM OFF IRL . BY SHELLEY BROWN
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Move over, millennial pink: A new hue is all the rage where wedding party dressing is concerned. Pastel shades of purple such as lilac, lavender and periwinkle are popping up in almost every bridesmaid dress collection. Due to its associations with nature, pastel purple works especially well for rustic or garden weddings. When it comes to accessorizing this dreamy shade, you can’t go wrong with cool metallics like champagne and silver, or complementary neutral hues like light gray and beige. From left: David’s Bridal, Theia, Amsale
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If you’re in the market for an ultra-modern look, take a cue from the red carpet set and opt for a chic halter neckline. This mix of a conservative collar plus bare shoulders and arms instantly works for any outdoor spring or summer affair. But don’t think this style is just for warmer months; you can also pair it with a wrap once the temperature drops. Pro tip: This silhouette is an excellent choice for your friends with larger chests. It draws the eye upward and provides more support than strapless or V-necklines. From left: Birdy Grey, Jenny Yoo, Monique Lhuillier
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ICYMI: The ’90s are back and better than ever. Cowl necklines (an unstructured style that drapes below the collarbone) are making a return in full force, appearing in both bridesmaid and wedding dress trends. This sultry silhouette goes hand in hand with another ’90s and early aughts favorite, the slip dress. You’ll love this look if you’re envisioning a chic, minimalistic aesthetic for your wedding party, or if you want your friends to wear lightweight, effortless dresses. From left: Amsale, BHLDN, The Dessy Group
NEED SOMETHING FOR A BRIDESMAN? If your wedding party includes a male bestie, these accessories will give his look some extra personality. B O L D B O U TO N N I E R E Have your guy wear a floral boutonniere in your signature color, or go for a themed lapel pin. PRINTED SHIRT Patterned shirts will make even the most basic suit feel fashionforward. You can’t go wrong with gingham, stripes or even understated polka dots. S TAT E M E N T S O C K S Novelty socks (think: anchors for a beach wedding or florals for a garden party) are a fun way to keep your guy’s look on theme.
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Sequins and beading aren’t the only ways to get glam. Opt for luxe fabrics like satin with a natural sheen for the same effect as glitzy details. Highshine fabrics will catch the light no matter what shade you choose, but soft colors like blush and nude are great for daytime nuptials, while darker hues like navy and emerald green work for an for evening affair. If you’ve heard satin can be clingy or unflattering, don’t write it off yet. Modern silhouettes like flowy A-line styles and new stretch satin blends make this fabric more forgiving than ever before. From left: Amsale, David’s Bridal, Allure Bridals
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Dresses with sleeves have been hot for a while, but we love this romantic twist on an established trend for a few reasons: It adds flair to simpler silhouettes, it offers extra coverage if your girls don’t want to show their upper arms and it’s a perfect option if you’re looking for more modest wedding party looks. Flutter sleeves are made to move, so if you choose this style, stick to dresses in lightweight fabrics like chiffon or silk with minimal embellishments that won’t weigh them down. From left: Watters, Jenny Yoo, Theia
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Outfitting a wedding party with a variety of body types? Meet your new best friend. Made famous in the ’70s by designer Diane von Furstenberg, the wrap dress is iconic for its ability to look amazing on almost every body. A cinched tie waist coupled with an A-line skirt creates an hourglass shape. Paired with a V-neckline, this flattering silhouette also elongates the body. Opt for shorter styles for a more low-key vibe, or go formal with dramatic floorlength numbers. From left: Wtoo by Watters, BHLDN, Show Me Your Mumu
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unveiled DISCOVER THE PRETTIEST STYLES, FROM THE MORE TRADITIONAL TO THE N E W A N D T R E N DY.
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Veils are an easy way to express yourself. But with so many options to choose from, how do you know which one’s right for you? We broke down all the different styles, including the latest trends, with tips on how to wear them so you can uncover (sorry, we had to!) the perfect veil for your wedding look.
A birdcage veil gives off serious retro-glam vibes
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Birdcage
Also known as a cage, this shorter style covers and frames just your face for a more minimalist statement. Most often it’s made out of wide net or sheer tulle—something you’ll easily be able to see through—and finished with whimsical accents like feathers, flowers or pearls. The trick to pulling off this less traditional look is to let the edge of the veil fall just below the nose. P A I R I T W I T H Cage veils were the height of fashion in the ’40s and ’50s, so that makes them the perfect match for retro-inspired dresses like swingy, tea-length gowns, structured sheaths and slinky, old-Hollywood-inspired slip dresses. They’re also a fun way to add a touch of vintage glam to a suit or jumpsuit.
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Finger tip
One of the most popular lengths (even Kate Middleton sidestepped royal tradition and chose this shorter option), this veil falls below the hips and extends to—you guessed it—the fingertips. Secure this style, which is usually made up of several layers of tulle or netting, at the crown of your head, slightly behind it or, if your hair is up, just above your updo. P A I R I T W I T H This versatile veil is beautiful with a wide range of dresses, but it looks particularly pretty with ball gowns and, since it puts the focus on the torso, dresses with more elaborate bodices. You may also want to consider pairing it with a cathedral- or chapel-length veil—that way you can remove the longer one for the reception and leave the shorter top layer in place.
Juliet Cap
Inspired by the fashion of the 16th century, this unique veil is making a comeback thanks to its pretty, old-world feel. This über-romantic style is typically made of sheer tulle or tulle with a lace-embellished edge. There are two ways to work it: You can either take a lace-trimmed veil and wear it as a cap, with the sides pinned back behind each ear, or attach a veil of your choosing to a separate cap. P A I R I T W I T H It’s perfect for a lacy gown with a vintageinspired feel or a simple slip dress with lace details. Add fresh blooms behind one ear for an extrasweet effect.
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Elbow
Slightly shorter than fingertip, this veil extends 25 inches in length to the bride’s elbows. The more manageable length tends to be more versatile. It’s a nice complement to a simple silhouette, but it also won’t overpower a more showstopping gown. P A I R I T W I T H One of the best things about this veil is you can pair it with just about any style. The elbow length is also perfect for brides who want the look of a longer veil but have a gown with details on the lower half (like intricate buttons, lace appliqués or ruffles) they don’t want to cover up.
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Mantilla
A chapel veil works best with a dress with a train
This Spanish-style veil almost always comes in either all lace or in tulle that features a wide, intricate lace edge. It should be positioned two inches from your hairline so its circular shape gracefully drapes down and frames your face on either side. For the traditional look, attach it with an ornamental comb (also called a peineta), or edge it up with a fresh flower crown or crystal tiara. P A I R I T W I T H Allow the dramatic lace to take center stage and pair this romantic veil with sleek silhouettes that won’t compete with its shape. Skip the heavy embellishments as well and opt for a gown with small touches of matching lace instead.
Flyaway
A wispy, multilayered style that just brushes the shoulders, it’s considered less formal than other options. As the name suggests, the tulle used in this kind of veil usually has a stiffer quality that causes it to “fly away” from the to-be-wed, adding poufy volume to the top of the head. P A I R I T W I T H Due to its short and sweet feel, a flyaway veil works well with shorter, more casual dresses. If your gown is heavily embellished or has a sexy, plunging back, this simple style is also the perfect way to wear a veil without obscuring the details you love.
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Typically 90-inches long, this is a formal veil that extends to the floor, falling two-and-a-half yards from the headpiece. It should sweep the floor, extending slightly past your gown. P A I R I T W I T H This simple style is often worn in combination with a sweep train (a veil that just brushes the floor) and blusher for extra oomph. It works with most dress silhouettes and styles but is particularly stunning when layered over a flowy or multilayered gown with a train. If you’re forgoing a train, a chapel veil can add drama without the weight or the hassle—no bustle required.
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WHETHER YOUR HAIR WILL BE DOWN AND FLOWING OR IN A FORMAL UPDO, YOU WANT A FINAL DETAIL TO TIE YOUR WHOLE LOOK TOGETHER. IF A VEIL ISN’T FOR YOU, THERE ARE PLENTY OF OTHER OPTIONS, FROM JEWELED HEADBANDS AND TIARAS TO A BOHEMIAN FLORAL WREATH OR FLIRTY FASCINATOR.
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Also sometimes called a ballet veil, this style falls between the knee and the ankle and is usually double layered and worn with a blusher. These veils exude elegance and formality and, because they don’t touch the floor, they’re short enough for a bride to comfortably walk and even dance in—hence the name. P A I R I T W I T H This style pairs well with formal floor-length gowns, like A-line and mermaid silhouettes, and dresses without trains.
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Blusher
A blusher actually refers to the short, single layer of tulle, lace or netting that’s worn over the face and then flipped over the head or removed after you walk down the aisle. It comes in chin, shoulder or fingertip length and can be added to a variety of veil styles. But a blusher can also stand on its own. Choose one layer, or if that’s too simple, try a double-tiered style where you have two layers of tulle: one layer pulled over the face and the other draped behind your head. Whichever length or however many layers you choose, the veil should be fastened to the crown of your head. P A I R I T W I T H A universal style, the blusher works with almost any type of gown. Wearing just the short layer gives off a chic, sophisticated air that lends itself to more fashion-forward dresses.
Channel your inner royal with this dramatic option
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Looking to make an entrance? This is the style for you. The mother of all veils, the cathedral is also the most formal. Sometimes referred to as the “royal veil”—it’s the veil of choice for countless members of the British royal family, including Diana and Meghan Markle—this style typically falls about three-and-a-half yards from the headpiece and is often worn in combination with a blusher and a gown with a long train. It’s an especially great option if your ceremony venue has a long aisle to walk down. P A I R I T W I T H The sweeping cathedral can hold its own next to even the most overthe-top ball gown. As a rule of thumb, the veil should extend past the train, so if you choose a cathedral veil, opt for a cathedralor semi-cathedral-length train.
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Renee Clements owns Magnolias Bridal Boutique, a salon in Cape Girardeau, MO. It carries a variety of designers such as Kenneth Winston and Blush by Hayley Paige.
Your dress style can help guide your veil choice but it shouldn’t be the only factor. For example, a dramatic cathedral veil or short blusher can work with a variety of dress designs.
Consider the length of your gown if you’re opting for a longer veil. For example, a cathedral veil should be a couple of inches longer than your train so it doesn’t compete with it.
If you’re looking to make a statement, a fashionforward veil is a great option. You could go for ornate lace details, heavy beading or even color—it’s a totally personal choice.
Bring your veil (or a photo of it) to your hair trial to make sure it works with your wedding ‘do. Especially if you’re wearing your hair down, you want to make sure your veil is secure.
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OUNTDOWN There’s so much to do to plan your wedding— who’s got time to think of beauty? We do! Here’s your guide to looking fabulous in time for your day.
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The average engagement is just over a year. That gives you plenty of time to look like the best version of yourself before you walk down the aisle. Whether you’ve got major plans (adding six inches to your mane and overhauling your entire skin care regimen) or you just want to get your nails in shape and achieve an overall glow, it can be done— even while juggling all your other wedding to-dos. Follow our foolproof timeline to keep your beauty routine on track in the weeks and months leading up to your wedding.
5-6 MONTHS BEFORE
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Begin a stress-relief regimen. Reserve at least one night a week for some nonwedding fun or quiet time to regroup.
Want to grow out your hair or try a new color or cut? Talk to your stylist and start experimenting now.
Get serious about skin care: Begin a good cleansing and moisturizing program, and consider consulting a dermatologist or making appointments for monthly facials. TRY TH I S Goat Milk moisturizing cream, $50 for 1 oz., KateSomerville.com
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3-4 MONTHS BEFORE If you don’t plan on using your regular hairstylist, schedule trials with potential candidates. Take pictures of hairstyles you like, as well as pictures of your veil or headpiece (if you have them). If you have your heart set on an updo, discuss with your stylist how long it will take to grow out your hair so it’s the right length for your desired look.
What you put in your body shows up on your face. Examine your eating habits, but don’t crash diet. Instead, stick to specific goals, like incorporating more whole grains and fruits and veggies into every meal.
Have consultations with potential makeup artists. Take pictures, then analyze them. Do your favorite features stand out? Do you still look like you?
Decide on a hair and makeup team and book them for your wedding date. Set up a day-of wedding schedule for yourself and your attendants.
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1-2 MONTHS BEFORE See your hairstylist for a trial run of potential ’dos. Don’t be afraid to speak up. Be vocal (but polite) about any tweaks you’d like to make.
Considering a faux glow? Now’s the time to test self-tanners or a spray tan. Think about the neckline of your dress, and whether you have tan lines to cover. TRY TH I S James Read Fool Proof bronzing mousse, $23, BlueMercury.com
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Studies show exercise can reduce stress. Jump-start your fitness routine with a trainer or consider yoga; the postures build lean muscle and are great tension relievers. You’ll feel better overall—no matter what challenges wedding planning throws your way.
Try to avoid overindulging in the bubbly at prewedding parties—too much alcohol can lead to dehydration and disrupted sleep.
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Get a final facial. Don’t do this any closer to your wedding date— give your skin time to bounce back from any irritation.
Splurge on a spa treatment like a massage, full-body scrub or some infrared sauna time. You deserve it.
Get a bikini wax and a final eyebrow shaping. Resist the temptation to try a new, fancy place and go to your regular waxer.
Confirm your wedding day beauty appointments. If you’re getting ready in a wedding suite, start figuring out the logistics for you and your attendants.
Exfoliate and moisturize your whole body. And, if you haven’t tried detoxifying dry brushing before, there’s no time like the present.
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Meet with your makeup artist for a trial run. Take note of the lipstick and concealer your artist uses and buy them for touchups. If you’re not hiring a pro, get a makeup tutorial at a department store and purchase the products you need so you have time to practice.
Remember to eat right. Load up on fruits and veggies, and nix the salt and junk. Drink lots of water to help keep your skin clear and glowing.
TRY TH I S Tender Flesh blush in Bloom, $26, FleshBeauty.com
Have your eyebrows professionally shaped, if you haven’t already. Your brows frame your face, and a little grooming goes a long way.
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Use an at-home face mask or get a facial. If you need extractions, make sure you do them 15 days before your wedding so your skin has time to settle down. TRY TH I S Supermud clearing mask, $59 for 1.7 oz., GlamGlow.com
Drink lots of water. Have we made ourselves perfectly clear?
Pack a day-of beauty kit with must-haves like lipstick, concealer, blotting papers, Q-tips, setting spray, tweezers, tissues, Advil, deodorant and Band-Aids. TRY TH I S Urban Decay All Nighter setting spray, $15 for 1 oz., Ulta.com; Ultra Precision slant tweezer $35, Tweezerman.com
Gently exfoliate your skin (with products you’ve tried before) to amp up your wedding day glow.
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ON YOUR WEDDING DAY Wash and style your hair for the rehearsal dinner—if you’re having one—and make sure to go superlight on conditioner so your locks don’t feel greasy the morning of.
Remember to fuel up with a healthy, protein-rich breakfast. It will keep you energized for the long day ahead.
2 WEEKS BEFORE
Get your hair and makeup done. Wear a robe or button-down shirt (one that matches the color of your gown, if possible, to get the right makeup color application) that can be easily removed.
Get your final haircut or trim. If you dye your hair, get a touch-up. No experimenting here—just stick to the look you love.
Cut down on beverages that stain teeth, like tea and coffee, and try a whitening toothpaste. You may also want to consider a bleaching treatment by a dentist, or use an over-thecounter whitening system.
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TRY TH I S The Body Exfoliator, $30, Necessaire.com
Have a professional pedicure and manicure. Pay close attention to your mani—you want to be #ringselfie ready.
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hat differentiates Bindle & Keep from other suiting companies or tailors? Bindle & Keep is by appointment
only, and we schedule two-hour windows for first fittings. This allows us to really get to know our clients before we measure them. We give our clients the time and space to express what they think will make them feel empowered. We’re also a body-positive company—without exception. We hope that doesn’t differentiate us, but we know that it’s not uncommon for tailors to have certain practices that make clients feel uncomfortable. For instance, some tailors charge based on how many yards of fabric they need in order to make a garment. Due to this, we’ve had clients who come in expecting us to charge them more for their suits because of their size; but that’s not something we do here. We understand OUR EXPERT that people have different bodies and different Rae Angelo Tutera is experiences in their bodies, but we don’t charge an LGBTQ+ advocate them differently for it. and partner at Bindle & Keep, a bespoke suiting company based out of Brooklyn, New York.
masculinizing or even neutralizing, we can do that. conditioned to think of suiting (like most things) We find our clients generally haven’t experienced in a binary way, so when clients come to us, they @raeangelotutera a garment that has an awareness of their body often still think of suiting in terms of ‘men’s’ (or and their presentation, and it can be comforting masculine) and ‘women’s’ (or feminine) suits. when they begin to understand that they control how their suit Because of this, the first step in our process is to basically will look and feel; it can actually help counteract some of the reprogram our clients’ way of thinking so we can retire the harm that’s been done to folks through our heteronormative myth that there are only two kinds of suits. culture and its corresponding retail spaces.
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How can the suiting process be different for someone who isn’t cisgender? It’s common for trans folks to have less experience
with suiting than cis folks. Retail spaces in general don’t make people of trans experience feel comfortable or welcome; it’s hard to trust the suits will do our bodies and genders justice— and worse, it’s hard to trust salespeople. We try to make our clients feel as comfortable and welcome as possible, and we make sure they know they can trust us with their bodies and their stories. There are a lot of things that can be done to help trans folks feel more at ease when they arrive for their first fitting. Many of our clients include their pronouns in their emails when they’re scheduling their fittings, so we make sure we use them. We are also mindful while measuring people’s bodies. Being measured is not the most comfortable thing for anyone—cis or trans—but we narrate what we’re doing, explain why we’re doing it, and make sure we’re both sensitive and efficient. We’ve also learned how to take measurements that make our garments perform the way our clients want them to, so if we have a client who says they want their suit to be feminizing or
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Similar to wedding dress shopping, the custom suiting process comes with its own unique timeline. Here’s what to expect.
How far in advance should to-be-weds start shopping for a custom suit? We encourage clients to come to us about four
months before their wedding. After your first fitting, we’ll place your order. About 10 to 11 weeks later, we’ll invite you back for a second fitting, where you’ll try on your suit for the first time. More often than not, there are alterations required to get the perfect fit, which can add approximately a week or two to the whole process. Any tips on how to keep the process as stress-free as possible?
Folks need to be patient in order to have a bespoke suit made, given the turnaround is 10 to 11 weeks. That said, we suggest that you don’t schedule your first fitting too far in advance of your wedding date. Sometimes when clients come in, say, a year in advance of their day, they end up being worried that their body or their taste will change in the time that elapses between their first fitting and their wedding. It’s important to give yourself enough time to have your suit made and altered before you get married—but not too much time.
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What are some common misconceptions about the bespoke suiting process? We’ve all been
3 - 4 M O N T H S O U T Make initial appointment for measurements. Be prepared to talk about what you want your suit or tux to look like.
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WHEN YOU GET SOMETHING BESP OKE , YOU BUILD A R E L AT I O N S H I P W I T H A TA I LO R . T H E L I F E T I M E O F T H E S U I T. What can people expect to spend on a bespoke suit? Keep in mind that a bespoke garment is an investment: Our first tier is $895 for a custom suit, and ordering a vest adds an additional $298 to the total. Sometimes clients also don’t realize that getting a custom suit can make the imperfections in their offthe-rack dress shirts more obvious—for instance, when a jacket fits impeccably, it will make a collar look even looser than usual, or shirt sleeves look even longer than before. Typically, a custom shirt adds at least $155 to the total. That said, we don’t charge for alterations. Wedding dresses are notorious for having expensive alteration processes, so most folks expect to navigate the same thing with custom suits.
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How can those with a smaller budget minimize the cost of going custom? A contemporary look for weddings is to wear
a beautiful jacket with more neutral pants. If to-be-weds operating on a budget happen to own a pair of black or navy dress pants they love, they can then have a jacket custom made (starting at $596). Another contemporary look, especially now that so many people are having weddings set in the country, is to skip the jacket altogether and just wear a beautiful custom vest (ours start at $298). For folks who find that they have fairly good luck with offthe-rack suits, alterations are the key to making the garments look really polished. For example, you can get a suit on ASOS for about $200, and they have plus-size fits too. When you may not live near a store you feel comfortable browsing in, consider ordering suits in several sizes and trying them on in the privacy of your own home. If you don’t have a tailor, ask a friend—it’s likely they know someone they trust. What’s the best way to navigate physical changes (top surgery, weight loss or hormone replacement therapy) when choosing wedding attire? I can speak from personal experience here—
I was measured for my first suit before I had top surgery. What I learned from being measured with a binder before top surgery is that I actually got the same measurement pre-op wearing a binder as I did post-op. Therefore, compressing the chest can be helpful for taking measurements when someone is pre-op. Even though I felt like the measurements would change dramatically after top surgery, they didn’t.
1 M O N T H O U T Second fitting. Try on your suit or tux and discuss any additional alterations with your tailor.
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When folks go on hormone replacement therapy, or gain or lose a significant amount of weight, it’s hard to anticipate exactly how their bodies will change, and exactly how their experiences in their bodies will change. We remind clients that we can only measure the body they have. That said, we understand that bodies shift—it’s part of being human— and we’ve learned how to anticipate shifts. We’ve learned a lot about how to construct our garments to make them as adaptable as possible, and our seamstress is extraordinarily talented when it comes to doing alterations. In terms of weight gain or loss, we can usually only work within a 15-pound margin. We suggest that to-be-weds get their wedding attire as close to their wedding as possible, that way their garments will be aligned with their bodies. What are the pros of going bespoke versus buying off the rack? Are there any pros specifically for trans or nonbinary folks?
Some people do have good luck with off-the-rack suiting, but many find themselves feeling limited—or worse, unseen by the options they come across in the retail landscape. Generally speaking, off-the-rack men’s suiting is hypermasculine and off-the-rack women’s suiting is hyper-feminine. Even if folks shopping in that landscape do feel like these suiting options make sense for their genders, it’s rare that they actually fit. We have no control over how narrow or wide the shoulders of off-the-rack suits are. If the shoulders are too narrow, the wearer feels trapped; if the shoulders are too broad, the wearer’s shoulders end up looking sloped because there’s nothing to hold up the edges of the jacket. When you get something bespoke, you build a relationship with your tailor. Whenever your body or your tastes shift, you can reach out to us to let us know. We alter our suits for the lifetime of the suit. Therefore, a bespoke suit often has a longer lifetime than an off-the-rack suit. What are some ways to personalize a suit or tux? Our clients design their whole suit, from macro-decisions, like the fabric it’s made from, to micro-decisions, like the color of the piping that separates the lining from the fabric of the jacket. We also offer monograms on custom shirts, and something sweet that people do is get their wedding date embroidered on their cuffs. Some folks will opt for a traditional tux, but will mix it up with bright colors (rather than classic black or blue) or will add a velvet jacket. A lot of clients bring in fabric from a family member’s wedding dress or a loved one’s handkerchief and ask that we sew it into their jacket as a tribute—that’s my favorite way to add a personal touch.
1 W E E K O U T Your new look is complete!
Take it home and make sure you have all your accessories ready for your day.
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THE SCIENCE OF M E D I TAT I O N Wedding planning stressing you out? The app Headspace can help you keep calm and plan on. BY IVY JACOBSON
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QUALITY SLEEP It’s one thing to get enough sleep— but do you wake up actually feeling rested? In stressful times, even if you hit the sheets for eight hours, the mind can stay active, so you could still wake up tired. Meditation can help you get to sleep faster—even if you wake in the middle of the night—letting you start the next day feeling totally refreshed.
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help you be less reactive. Studies show using Headspace can reduce stress in 10 days and curb negative feelings by 31 percent.
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health. Meditating gives you more clarity, allowing you to step away from old patterns and pick healthier options. Meditation also helps with heart health and can decrease your blood pressure.
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BETTER PRODUCTIVITY You’re wedding planning, aka doing all the things. By training your mind to be less distracted and more present, you can focus on one task at a time and do it better and more efficiently—win-win.
LESS STRESS
HEALTHIER CHOICES
Of course your cousin RSVP’d with a plusone. In times of conflict, meditation can
The busier our minds, the more stressed we are, and the less we prioritize physical
IMPROVED MOOD Our moods change daily. We can either let ourselves get dialed in to the highs and lows or create space for them to come and go, knowing they’ll pass. Having that perspective will give you freedom and a sense of contentment with how the mind is now—even when the wrong-colored linens arrive.
GET STARTED
BEGIN SLOWLY
FIND TIME
PICK A PLACE
FOCUS ON BREATH
Download the Headspace app for free from the app store and start with the unlimiteduse Basics pack (also free!) or other paid subscription options.
Like training for a marathon, start with an easy run. Don’t go into meditation with too many expectations— there’s a reason it’s called a “practice.”
Carve out 5 to 10 minutes (put it in your calendar if need be). View it as a break or treat—this is a time in your day when you can focus on you.
Scope out a spot where you won’t be interrupted. You can even meditate in your car before work, or during your commute on a train or bus.
When you get distracted (which will definitely happen and is completely normal), bring your attention back to your breathing and zero in on that.
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n a busy world where everyone wants immediate results from everything they invest time in, you may be questioning whether or not meditation can actually relieve your planning-induced anxiety. But Headspace, a guided meditation app, offers clinically validated research and studies on the mindfulness meditation field. “If you meditate, things will still go wrong in life. But would you rather respond in a place of calm or with a quick, angry reaction?” says cofounder Andy Puddicombe. Here, he shares five science-backed benefits.
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MARRIAGE EQUALITY BY THE NUMBERS
EQUAL
Five years after the US Supreme Court’s monumental decision to make marriage equality the law of the land, two of our real couples look back. BY LOUIS BARAGONA
2001 The year The Netherlands became the first country to legalize same-sex marriage
JOHN CHENG + PAUL CRAYTHORNE
2004
SEPTEMBER 17 | NEW YORK + ATLANTA “By the time marriage equality passed, we were already well into our wedding planning,” John says. “We deliberately chose to get married in New York City—not only because we both love it, but also because gay marriage was legal in New York state and we live in the South. Once marriage equality passed nationwide, our preparations took on a much more celebratory feel. We had that giddy sense of anticipation that you get between Thanksgiving and Christmas or on the day before you start vacation. Our wedding went from a necessary expense in order to get the protections afforded to legal marriage to the happy expense of a destination wedding.”
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The evolution of marriage eqality.
“The day of the Supreme Court’s decision, we were so happy and overwhelmed with joy—though we were already married in our eyes, it was still emotional,” Nichole says. “I remember Kelli couldn’t wait to get to the DMV to finally change her last name on her driver’s license—and we celebrated by doing exactly that. Though the decision didn’t change or affect our relationship directly, it was an amazing feeling to finally be recognized as equals. We’re just happy and proud to have been alive to witness marriage equality nationwide, and since then, we’ve seen same-sex couples gain more acceptance in society. We even notice more and more same-sex couples represented on TV.”
The number of cohabitating American LGBTQ+ couples who married post ruling in 2015
10 MILLION The number of tweets in response to the decision, including the #LoveWins
LOUD AND PROUD Express your pride with these ceremony ideas.
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TA K E N OT E
SHOUT OUT
MAKE IT MEANINGFUL
Mix up your processional—ask guests to walk to you.
Define any LGBTQ+ terms in your ceremony programs.
Recognize your community with queeraffirmative vows.
Choose a reading or music by a LGBTQ+ activist.
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LAUMEIER SCULPTURE PARK / 12580 Rott Road Saint Louis, Missouri 63127 / 314.615.5278 www.laumeier.org Katherine Bish Photography
Donald Judd, Untitled, 1984; Photo by Virginia Harold Photography.
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“Having a Cinco de Mayo wedding gave us all the more reason to incorporate traditions from my MexicanAmerican heritage in a meaningful way,” Clarissa says. Their lazo, a cord that represents a couple’s lifetime commitment to one another, has been in her family for more than 42 years.
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CHANNING + BOBBY WASHINGTON, DC
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Put simply, a unity ritual is meant to visually represent two people linking their lives together. Although many couples choose to light a candle, given that firelight symbolizes hope, divinity and even the idea of igniting an “eternal flame,” you can mark the moment however you’d like. Whether you script something original or call on a custom from your family tree is up to you—just be sure it’s personal.
“We are both creative types that enjoy making things with our hands for a living,” Stephanie says. “We wanted to incorporate both wood and metal together as a gesture uniting our love, creative passions and lives. To make our wedding bands, we casted sterling silver directly into a prepared wooden mold.”
“We jumped the broom, an AfricanAmerican tradition that dates back to the time when slaves weren’t legally allowed to marry and relied on alternative rituals to seal their unions,” Devon says. “We also incorporated two readings by the Lebanese-American poet Khalil Gibran and Toni Morrison.”
KANHA + JILSON C E N T E R P O R T, N Y
MORE WAYS TO SEAL THE DEAL P U T D O W N R O OT S Plant a tree using soil from your childhood homes.
MIX IT UP Celebrate your shared love of Mexican cuisine by whipping up a batch of guacamole.
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STEPHANIE + CHRIS BLACK MOUNTAIN, NC
Combine several shades of sand in a vase to represent your lives blending together.
“After we exchanged vows, we had a knot tying ritual to honor my Cambodian heritage,” Kanha says. “Guests individually approached us and tied a red string around our wrists as a way to offer their best wishes for our marriage. During the blessings, we clasped a sword, which Jilson was carrying as part of his traditional Cambodian attire. In my culture, it symbolizes protection.”
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“We did the ‘Tasting of Four Elements’ adapted from the Yoruba tradition,” Channing says. “Vinegar, lemon, cayenne pepper and honey are traditional choices representing the bitter, sour, hot and sweet parts of life and a new marriage.”
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make it legal Missouri & Kansas Marriage License Requirements GUIDELINES FOR OBTAINING A MARRIAGE LICENSE In the Greater Kansas City area, the legal age for marriage is 18 years old. Couples ages 15–17 must have parental consent. (Note: In Illinois, no one under 16 can be married.) In general, there are no blood tests or health requirements to obtain a legal license. In Missouri and Illinois, both parties must be present to apply for a license, and in Missouri you must provide a SSN and photo ID. In Kansas, either the bride or groom can apply; however, both the bride and groom must sign the form they take home. There is a three-day waiting period to obtain the license in Kansas. The license is then valid for just 30 days in Missouri and for six months in Kansas. There is a one-day waiting period in Illinois, and the license is valid for 60 days. The fee is around $50 in Missouri, $85 in Kansas and roughly $30 in Illinois. Check with your county for types of acceptable payment. All offices are open Monday through Friday. Please call ahead to get all the details. WHERE TO APPLY MISSOURI
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Recorder of Deeds 940 Boonville Ave. Springfield, MO 65802 (417) 868-4068 8 a.m.–4:30 p.m.
Recorder of Deeds 41 S. Central Ave., 4th Fl. Clayton, MO 63105 (314) 615-7180 8 a.m.–5 p.m., M, W, F; 8 a.m.–6 p.m., T, Th.
Clerk of the District Court 601 S. 3rd St., Ste. 3051 Leavenworth, KS 66048 (913) 684-0707 8 a.m.–5 p.m.
District Court 710 N. 7th St. Kansas City, KS 66101 (913) 573-2834 8 a.m.–4:30 p.m.
County Clerk 157 N. Main St., Ste. 109 Edwardsville, IL 62025 (618) 692-6290 8:30 a.m.–4:30 p.m.
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District Court 120 S. Pearl St. Paola, KS 66071 (913) 294-3326 8 a.m.–4 p.m.
County Clerk’s Office 200 S. 9th St., Rm. 101 Springfield, IL 62701 (217) 753-6700 8:30 a.m.–5 p.m.
Boone County Recorder of Deeds 801 E. Walnut, Rm. 132 Columbia, MO 65201 (573) 886-4350 8 a.m.–5 p.m.
Cass County Recorder of Deeds 102 E. Wall St. Harrisonville, MO 64701 (816) 380-8123 8 a.m.–4 p.m.
Clay County Recorder of Deeds 1 Courthouse Sq. Liberty, MO 64068 (816) 407-3560 8 a.m.–4:30 p.m.
Clinton County
Recorder of Deeds 415 E. 12th St., Rm. 104 Kansas City, MO 64106 (816) 881-1577 8 a.m.–5 p.m.
Lafayette County County Recorder 1001 Main St., Rm. 207 Lexington, MO 64067 (660) 259-6178 8:30 a.m.–4:30 p.m.
Platte County Recorder’s Office 415 3rd St., Ste. 70 Platte City, MO 64079 (816) 858-3326 8 a.m.–4 p.m.
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Douglas County Clerk of District Court 111 E. 11th St. Lawrence, KS 66044 (785) 832-5227 1 p.m.–4 p.m.
Jefferson County District Court 310 Jefferson St. Oskaloosa, KS 66066 (785) 863-2461 8 a.m.–4 p.m.
Johnson County District Court 100 N. Kansas Ave., Fl. 2 Olathe, KS 66061 (913) 715-3428 8 a.m.–5 p.m.
Effingham County
Sedgwick County District Court 525 N. Main St., Fl. 9 Wichita, KS 67203 (316) 660-5900 8 a.m.–4 p.m.
Shawnee County Clerk of District Court 200 SE 7th St., Rm. 209 Topeka, KS 66603 (785) 233-8200 8 a.m.–4 p.m.
County Clerk 101 N. 4th St. Effingham, IL 62401 (217) 342-6535 8 a.m.–4 p.m.
St. Clair County
Jackson County Clerk Office 1001 Walnut St., Fl. 1 Murphysboro, IL 62966 (618) 687-7360 8 a.m.–4 p.m.
Jefferson County County Clerk & Recorder 100 S. 10th St., Rm. 105 Mt. Vernon, IL 62864 (618) 244-8020 8 a.m.–5 p.m.
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make it known Publications GUIDELINES FOR ANNOUNCING YOUR WEDDING IN THE LOCAL PAPERS Photographs may be submitted to accompany the announcement; however, instant photos or color copies are not acceptable. In some instances, photographs may be returned if a self-addressed stamped envelope is included with the announcement. Call to get all of the details before submitting.
Kansas GUIDELINES/ RESTRICTIONS
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Lawrence Journal-World
(785) 832-7151 PO Box 888 Lawrence, KS 66044
Submit info at noon on the Wednesday prior to the desired Saturday publication.
Form: Yes; available online.
Announcements are free for Lawrence residents.
Topeka Capital-Journal
(785) 295-1297 Attn: Celebrations 616 SE Jefferson Topeka, KS 66607
Deadline for submission is 10 days prior to the desired Sunday publication.
Form: Yes
A 1-column announcement costs $2.65 per line, plus $45.08 for a photo; a 2-column announcement is $5.30 per line, plus $90.16 for a photo. $10 online charge.
Wichita Eagle
(316) 268-6667 Attn: Celebrations 825 E. Douglas Wichita, KS 67202
Submit info at least one week prior to the desired publication date.
Form: Optional
Announcements cost 55 cents per word ($45 minimum); photo is $15.75 to $141.75, depending on size of photo.
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make it known Publications CONT. Missouri GUIDELINES/ RESTRICTIONS
FEE
Must submit info two weeks prior to the desired publication date.
Form: No
There is no charge for this service.
(816) 254-8600 410 S. Liberty Independence, MO 64050
Announcements published on Saturdays on a firstcome, first-served basis.
Form: Yes; prefer online submission at Examiner.net
$24.95 for an online announcement.
The Independent
(816) 471-2800 4233 Roanoke Rd., Ste. 100 Kansas City, MO 64111
Submissions should be made within three months of the wedding.
Form: Yes Photos should present the bride and groom in formal attire.
Fees range from $100 to $300.
Kansas City Star
(816) 234-4390 Attn: Celebrations 1729 Grand Blvd. Kansas City, MO 64108
Deadline for submissions is three weeks prior to the desired Sunday publication.
Form: Yes
Basic announcements (no photo) are free; package fees range from $79 to $899.
Springfield News-Leader
(417) 837-1990 Attn: Celebrations Dept. 651 N. Boonville Ave. Springfield, MO 65806
Must be received within 30 days of the event and are not guaranteed a publication date. Deadline for paid submissions is noon on the Monday prior to the desired Sunday publication date.
Form: Yes
Prices start at $99 for 50 words and one photo.
St. Louis Post-Dispatch
(314) 340-8549 Attn: Classified Dept. 900 N. Tucker Blvd. St. Louis, MO 63101
Submit info two weeks prior to the desired Saturday publication date. Preferred publication date is subject to space availability and is not guaranteed.
Form: Yes
Announcements 1 column wide with a photo: $140; announcements 2 columns wide with a photo: $330 to $440, depending on photo size.
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Belleville News-Democrat
(618) 239-2611 Attn: Darla Reynolds 120 S. Illinois St. Belleville, IL 62220
Announcements published within two Sundays of submission.
Form: Optional
Fees range from $55 (2 columns x 2 1/2 inches) to $135 (2 columns x 10 inches).
Effingham Daily News
(217) 347-7151 x134 PO Box 370 Effingham, IL 62401
Announcements published on a spaceavailable basis.
Form: Optional; available online at EffinghamDailyNews.com
There is no charge for this service.
Mount Vernon Register-News
(618) 242-0113 Attn: Tessa Collie 911 Broadway Mt. Vernon, IL 62864
Announcements published on a spaceavailable basis.
Form: Yes
The photo fee is $10 for blackand-white and $30 for color.
The Southern Illinoisan
(618) 529-5454 x5172 Attn: Lifestyles PO Box 2108 Carbondale, IL 62902
Announcements published Sundays on a spaceavailable basis. Info must be received within six months of the wedding, two weeks prior to publication.
Form: Yes; available online. Photos returned with SASE.
The fee is $20 or $30, depending on length.
State JournalRegister
(217) 788-1330 Attn: Weddings 1 Coppley Plz. Springfield, IL 62701
Submit info on Wednesday, one week prior to desired Sunday publication. Announcements published on a space-available basis.
Form: No
Fees vary by word count and photo.
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RESOURCE INDEX 23 City Blocks Catering
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Emily Hart Bridal
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612North Event Space + Catering
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Events by Elle
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Above & Beyond Catering
139
Executive Hills Polo Club
36
Allegro Entertainment
185
Favazza’s on the Hill & Rose of the Hill
77
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Feasts of Fancy
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An Affair To Remember
281
The Florentine
255
Arthur Murray Dance Studio
173
Forest Park Golf Course
207
The Barn at Lone Eagle Landing
191
Four Seasons Hotel St. Louis
233
Barnett on Washington
25
The Franklin Room
50
Bear Creek Golf Club
213
The Gallery
96
Beau Vaughn Photography
95
Genesis Catering & Banquet Center
240
The Biergarten
178
Grand Events Tent & Event
283
Big Cedar Lodge
28
Grand Hall on Chouteau
237
Bogey Hills Country Club
215
The Guild
121
Brancato’s Catering
177
Hilton President Kansas City
101
The Bride & The Bauer
116
Hilton St. Louis at the Ballpark
219
The Brownstone Wedding & Event Venue
136
Hilton St. Louis Frontenac
203
BUDS
283
The Historic Post Office
86
Butler’s Pantry
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Hotel Saint Louis
198
Cable Event Center
113
Hy-Vee
34
The Cakery Bakery & Cake Studio
222
Hyatt Regency St. Louis At The Arch
261
The Caramel Room
47
Innsbrook
263
Cardinals Special Events
225
The Journey Home
115
Casa Loma Ballroom
227
Kansas City Convention Center
22
Catering St. Louis
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KAF Kranzberg Events
78
Ces & Judy’s Catering
17
Kuhs Estate and Farm
210
Championship Catering
73
La Perla
197
Chandler Hill Vineyards
56
Laumeier Sculpture Park
295
The Cheshire
221
The Legacy at Green Hills
107
Clayton Plaza Hotel
279
Lemp Mansion Restaurant & Inn
239
Crestview Dairy Events
165
The Lodge of Four Seasons
33
Defiance Ridge Vineyards
68
Lone Summit Ranch
141
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St. Louis Carousel
247
Lumen Private Event Space
49
St. Louis Union Station Hotel
231
The Magic House
299
The Stanley
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Magnolia Venue & Urban Garden
109
Stifel Theatre
40
Main Street Abbey
42
Stone House of St. Charles
4
The Malthouse Cellar
237
Sugaree Baking Co.
91
Marriott Kansas City Airport
175
Sunflower Hill Farm
195
Marriott Kansas City Country Club Plaza
175
Sunset Bluffs Venue
269
Marriott Kansas City Downtown
55
Sunset Country Club
201
Marriott St. Louis West
250
The Terrace On Grand
125
Mary Ann’s Tea Room
257
Thompson Barn
150
Missouri Athletic Club
61
Tiffany Greens Golf Club
149
Moulin Events and Meetings
237
Tower Grove Park
301
NEO on Locust
1
Tower Studios
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New Town at St. Charles
249
Truvalence Creations
26
Noboleis Vineyards
20
Union Horse Distilling Co.
7
The Old Post Office
301
Uptown Theater
14
The Olde Wicks Factory
183
The Venue at Maison du Lac
39
Patty Long Catering
52
The Venue in Leawood
145
Pennway Place at Studio Dan Meiners
81
Venues at 061
177
Pinstripes
173
Villa Antonio Winery
273
Renaissance Wine Garden
299
The Vineyard at Riverbend Chapel
18
The Rhapsody
12
Visions Reception Hall
147
Rumley Tractor
169
Water’s Edge Banquet Center
271
Russo’s Catering
9
Weinhardt Party Rentals
83
Sara Reed Studios
119
The Westin St. Louis
189
Saving Grace Occasions
192
Whitmoor Country Club
265
Schnucks Florist & Gifts
258
Wichita Art Museum
162
Serendipity Farm & Vine
103
Wild Carrot
253
Shaw Nature Reserve
75
Willow
30
Silver Oaks Chateau
58
Windows On Washington®
11
Sophia M. Sachs Butterfly House
75
YellowBrick Graphics
88
303
Lost Hill Lake Events
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Alicia has always loved the work of designer Alexander Girard, so when she found this pair, Prissy and Goofy, she knew they’d fit right atop her and Benjamin’s cake. “They feel just like us, from the middle part to the glasses,” she says.
Our cake really showed our shared love of mid-century modern design while representing the tone we wanted to carry throughout the day: Keep things formal but fun. We wanted to buy things for our wedding that we’d actually keep and use, so our toppers are on display in our home alongside our other décor.”
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