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Medical  opinion  is  moving  away  from  taking  things  too  gently,  says  Rondebosch  physio  Gerald  Muller.  â€˜In  the  past,  CFS  patients  were  excluded  from  activity  or  put  on  bedrest  if  they  weren’t  coping.  But  WO`ZPV[OLYHW` OHZ L]VS]LK ZV T\JO [OH[ ^L JHU UV^ Ă„UK [OL Âş^LHR SPURZÂť of  muscle  chains  in  the  body.  We  treat  these  so  that  the  body  functions  LɈLJ[P]LS` HZ H ^OVSL HUK KVLZUÂť[ [PYL Âť .LYHSK VM[LU ^VYRZ VU [OL IVK`ÂťZ ‘core’,  now  considered  to  be  everything  from  the  neck  to  the  knee.  â€˜For  someone  with  CFS,  a  strong  core  is  really  important  so  they  don’t  waste  valuable  energy  holding  up  their  head  or  their  body,’  he  says.  â€˜That’s  why  they  have  to  strengthen  their  muscles  even  when  they  feel  tired.’ Â

Exercise  gives  you  energy But  are  Gerald’s  convictions  based  merely  on  a  few  happy  case  histories?  No,  he’s  completely  on  the  right  track,  says  Susan  Maillard,  specialist  physiotherapist  at  London’s  world-renowned  Great  Ormond  Street  Hospital.  â€˜The  traditional,  slowly-slowly  approach  of  rest  for  people  with  CFS  can  take  forever,  with  no  positive  outcome.  Exercise  and  sport  give  you  more  energy,  not  less.   CFS  patients  need  to  push  through  their  fatigue  since  muscle  strength  gives  you  energy.’  Rest  can  actually  be  bad  for  you,  she  says.  â€˜Excessive  rest  actually  increases  fatigue,  and  the  latest  research  shows  that  excessive  sleep  is  detrimental,  too.  People  shouldn’t  sleep  more  than  8  hours  per  night.’ These  exercises  initially  need  to  be  done  under  the  strict  guidance  of  a  physiotherapist  who  understands  CFS,  and  paced  according  to  the  PUKP]PK\HS 6UJL H[ H JLY[HPU Z[HNL VM YLJV]LY` WH[PLU[Z HYL NP]LU Ă„]L or  10-minute  routines  to  incorporate  into  a  normal  day.  Gerald  says,  â€˜I  ZLL *-: WH[PLU[Z YLHSPZPUN MVY [OL Ă„YZ[ [PTL [OH[ [OL` HYL PU JVU[YVS VM their  condition,  and  it’s  not  in  charge  of  them.  It’s  wonderful  to  empower  them.’

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Jane Wyngaard and her husband Seb made room at their wedding for some of Cape Town’s less fortunate people hortly before my wedding day, I started to think

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was not the obvious one. Rather, it was [OH[ T` ÄHUJt :LIHZ[PHU HUK 0 OHK encouraged our friends to invite an extra guest if they wanted to. The idea was that this guest be someone less fortunate than themselves – maybe the person who cleaned their house, or someone who had been coming to their house for years to ask for clothing, or the guy they took leftovers to under the bridge. Our hope was to give these people a party, but more importantly to give our friends a chance to hang out with their acquaintances, and grow relationships in a relaxed context they might not often have.

suggests: ‘When you have a party, invite the poor, the disabled, the lame and the blind.’ I started thinking about it in the context of our wedding. Neither of us is that keen on being the centre of attention (though you can’t really get away from that at your wedding!) But with this, maybe we could make the party into something cooler that might have more meaning – and be loads more fun. Some of our friends declined to invite an extra person because they were worried it would create dependence. Others thought it was very patronising. I really understand that, and worried about it myself. But we felt led to be doing this, and just had to trust our extra guests wouldn’t feel that way. Luckily, some of our friends loved the idea and jumped right in!

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Bicycle  fan  Craig  Stewart  with  his  children  Zachary,  Vivian  and  Eliza

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bloody  noses We  drive  people  home  on  occasion,  but  mostly  we  reunite  friends  who’ve  got  lost,  help  those  being  sick  or  just  provide  company  when  fresh  air  is  needed.  Giving  lifts  to  barely-conscious  people  can  be  tricky:  one  girl  could  only  mumble  â€˜Just  go  straight’,  as  we  drove  for  more  than  half  HU OV\Y :OL KPK Ă„UHSS` NP]L \Z H OV\ZL U\TILY ZV ^L

‘Bushy’  Ash RLW[ [Y`PUN KPɈLYLU[ YVHKZ \U[PS OLY YLTV[L Ă„UHSS` VWLULK H garage  door! We  also  distribute  water  or  hot  chocolate  from  our  makeshift  â€˜Hydration  Station’,  creating  the  rather  unusual  sight  of  students  crowding  around  a  barrel  of  water  late  at  night! We’re  re-launching  Red  Frogs  at  Plett  Rage  2012,  and  we  hear  there’s  a  big  demand  at  other  universities  too,  so  we’re  currently  doing  the  paperwork  to  allow  us  to  seek  sponsorship  from  businesses.  For  UCT’s  â€˜O  Week’,  we  were  fortunate  to  have  Engen  Vineyard  Convenience  Centre,  Kauai,  Market  Toyota,  Redfern  Stickers  and  Woolworths  all  coming  on  board.

pancakes  frustrate  me Our  biggest  frustration  at  the  moment  is  getting  a  pancake  stall  up  and  running,  ideally  on  a  hang-out  corner  outside  the  clubs.  The  crazy  thing  is  that  we  can’t  get  a  permit  to  give  food  away  â€“  the  law  only  deals  with  â€˜trading’,  which  is  not  what  we’re  doing!  Pancakes  can  soak  up  quite  a  lot  of  HSJVOVS ZV ^LÂťYL Ă„NO[PUN V\Y ^H` [OYV\NO [OL YLK [HWL HUK trying  to  make  it  happen. I’m  actually  a  children’s  church  worker  by  day,  and  some  nights  I  wonder  what  I’m  doing.  But  I  keep  on  going.  I  just  love  it  when  I  see  clubbers  realising  people  actually  care  about  them.’

Check  out  or  ºSPRLÂť  Red  Frogs  on  facebook  at  â€˜Red  Frogs  Cape  Town’.  If  you  fancy  helping  Red  Frogs  in  any  way,  mail  Bushy  on:  \UP]LYZP[PLZ'YLKMYVNZ JVT H\ Sorry,  you  have  to  be  18  or  over  to  help  with  the  Thursday  night  shift!

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y school counsellor told me I had the wrong temperament to be a midwife, but my parents said, ‘Do what’s in your heart’. I studied nursing at UCT, and worked at Groote Schuur Hospital, then in Britain. In 0 Z[HY[LK T` V^U TPK^PMLY` WYHJ[PJL assisting women with both home and hospital births. It’s a real high to be involved in a birth. I still ÄUK P[ H ^VUKLY HUK OH]L [V J\KKSL [OL IHI` afterwards! The only low is having to put your life on hold. I worked for 12 years in independent practice, then realised I had to have a change. I had done some voluntary work in Benin for an organisation called Mercy Ships, and had heard about a maternity unit being started in :PLYYH 3LVUL ([[HJOLK [V P[ ^HZ H ÄZ[\SH OVZpital. Fistula is a birth injury that occurs when women have no access to good maternity care. They become incontinent after giving birth, leak urine, sometimes faeces too, and smell terrible. They’re rejected by their families – often for 30 or 40 years. I thought, ‘Where on earth is Sierra Leone?’ but at the same time I felt very excited. It had to be right, a kind of calling, because I also had great peace about it – and quite frankly only a fool would feel that!

dinner dance The work in Sierra Leone was not a salaried position and I was provided for in the most amazing way through the generosity of many people. We had a fundraising dinner dance at Kirstenbosch Gardens, and other friends and acquaintances sponsored me month by month. One friend was so wonderful, she

NH]L TL ZWLJPÄJ º. HUK ;» TVUL` MVY H WPJR me-up at the end of the day! It was pretty humbling to be dependent on people, but I had to think of the end picture: the women I wanted to help. In February 2010, I packed up my 20kg of S\NNHNL HUK ZL[ VɈ 0 KPKU»[ MLLS MLHYM\S H[ HSS 0 OHK ZLLU [OL ÄST Blood Diamond, but when I arrived in Freetown, I thought it looked just like Cape Town with its sea and mountain. I didn’t see the slums at that stage! People from the hospital met me at the airport and were kind and sweet, and even the accommodation, which was above the wards, was better than I had expected.

cellphone distraction The hospital was called the Aberdeen Women’s Centre and was funded by a Scottish philanthropist. The care was totally MYLL MVY HSS WH[PLU[Z 4VZ[ VM [OL ÄZ[\SH patients had laboured without access to care for at least three days, with the baby eventually dying inside them. This situation causes the mother’s tissue to break down, JYLH[PUN [OL ÄZ[\SH 0 OHK UL]LY LUJV\U[LYLK such desperation as in these rejected and damaged women. The main part of my job was to train the 13 Sierra Leonean midwives in the centre’s maternity unit to be competent and compassionate. There aren’t enough doctors in Sierra Leone, so they needed to be able to save the lives of mothers and babies during the birth process. Training them wasn’t without its challenges. There was no culture of urgency in the hospital. A mother could be haemorrhag-

ing so badly that blood was dripping on the ÅVVY H UL^IVYU IHI` JV\SK IL PU ULLK VM resuscitation – and the midwife would stop and answer her cellphone! Sometimes when a life was dependent on minutes, the nurses stopped for a cup of tea! At times I’d end up screaming at them in desperation. Elsewhere in the world you’d have specialists HSS HYV\UK `V\ MVY KPɉJ\S[ IPY[OZ >L KPKU»[ even have a blood bank. I remember sobbing

Sierra Leone has one of the highest mortality rates in the world. According to UNICEF, one in eight women in the country dies of pregnancy-­related complications. A father coming to pick up a mother and new baby from hospital will frequently ask, ‘Is my wife still alive?’

my heart out alone in that hospital courtyard under an African sky because a mother had been haemorrhaging in theatre for eight hours. I called people out of bed to donate blood for her. It was exhausting trying to manage everything and deal with people who had no sense of urgency. It gave me anger issues that I’m still dealing with – anger never used to be my thing!

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But at the end of the day, when the midwives saw me getting involved and dirty alongside them, they started changing. They had never been allowed to ask questions, or to admit they didn’t know how to do something. I said to them, ‘I’m happiest when you say you don’t know how to do something.’ They had also never been shown how to talk gently to a patient and encourage her, rub her back, support her. I felt my job was to love them so they could love the patients.

cleanest hospital Slowly, the lives of the babies and mothers became more important to the midwives. By the time I left, nearly two years after arriving, they were so capable. They were able to do everything except Caesarean sections. We were by miles Sierra Leone’s cleanest and safest hospital to give birth in. While I was there we had 1557 births and only lost two mothers.

ÄUPZOLK ZOL ZH[ \W HUK HZRLK MVY ^H[LY ;OL visiting UK doctor nearly had an apoplectic Ä[ Something else which really encouraged me was quite personal. I remember walking through the hospital and feeling downcast, wondering if God even had his eye on me, or was He too busy doing other miracles? As I walked through the ward, I felt the most revolting cluster of warts on my elbow which had just got worse and worse over the years. 0»K OHK [OLT I\YU[ VɈ I\[ [OL` RLW[ NYV^PUN back, and I hated people seeing them. I said ‘God, what about me? You could sort this out for me!’ I then forgot that I had said that, but two days later I felt my elbow and this mass VM ^HY[Z OHK ÄUHSS` NVUL ;OPZ ^HZ H THZZP]L thing for me.

But probably my greatest joy was to see the ÄZ[\SH TV[OLYZ HM[LY Z\YNLY` ^OLU [OL` JV\SK ^HSR ºKY`» MVY [OL ÄYZ[ [PTL ;OL` ^V\SK OH]L a special ceremony, get a new dress, put on jewellery and makeup, sing and tell their life stories. I felt so deeply for them when the surgery didn’t work. I experienced many things in the hospital which I view as miracles. One time, I struggled the whole day to put a drip in a baby which weighed just 1kg. In the afternoon, a group of visitors from America walked in and it just so happened that one was a paediatrician. His wife hadn’t wanted him to come to the centre, but he did – and he was able to put the drip in for me. I said, ‘Tell your wife that you came today for this baby – and for me!’

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to go to when you’re not working. In the rainy season, you do a lot of DVDs! In early 2012, after two years at the Aberdeen Women’s Centre, I felt a call to go to the state hospital in Freetown, the capital of Sierra Leone. The care, the equipment and the state of the place are abysmal. The worst cases go there, and one woman in four dies there. In myself I don’t want to be in that kind of place, but I just feel called. After a few months in Cape Town waiting for the paperwork, I have just arrived at the Princess Christian Maternity Hospital, to work VU H Ä]L TVU[O JVU[YHJ[ ^P[O [OL <UP[LK Nations. I’ll be responsible for 63 midwives and working alongside the matron. My anger will probably get worse – the hospital is 60 years old and they are bound to have entrenched ways of doing things. I am feeling nervous because I’m wondering if I have what it takes to do the job. It also requires adjustment to being away again from all those people I love in Cape Town! But it feels right to be back. I have found a lovely house to stay in with a view over the city, and out to sea.

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I’m also studying for a Masters in midwifery over the internet. I wasn’t very sure how I was going to fund it when I applied, but the college, which is based in Britain, gave me a full scholarship. I was so thrilled – I have never been awarded a scholarship in my life! People have sometimes suggested I become an international midwifery advisor but I want to be careful not to aim for ‘success’ in the world’s terms. If I’m meant to be a midwife at ground level, that’s what I will do. I have an absolute passion for what I do. If I were just starting out in life, I would do it all over again. I want my life to be something that counts. I believe that anyone who keeps an L`L V\[ MVY ZPNUZ MYVT HIV]L ^VU»[ ÄUK P[ OHYK [V ÄUK [OL ^VYR [OL`»YL TLHU[ [V KV »

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‘Believe whatever you like!’

The real question is… who do you want to become? In South Africa, we are fortunate to have role models like Nelson Mandela and Desmond Tutu – who believe that they were created to live for more than themselves, that they cannot be limited by fear, injustice and WYLQ\KPJL [OH[ [OL` JHU THRL H KPɈLYLUJL PU the world, for the world.

value What you believe may help get you through life, but that same belief may cause pain and Z\ɈLYPUN [V THU` (WHY[OLPK PZ H JSHZZPJ example – if you believed a person’s value was determined by the colour of their skin... well, need I say more? I think our belief system is not there just to ‘help us through life’, but to help us live a life that creates a better world.

Patience with others is love. Patience with self is hope. Patience with God is faith, said Adel Bestavros. I follow the life example of someone who commands me to love others as I love myself. This helps me know that if I’m faithful in living by that principle, I won’t be in danger of loving one person (or myself) at the expense of another. I often fail in doing this, but at least I have an L_HTWSL HUK ZVTL[OPUN [V HPT MVY 0[ HɈLJ[Z every area of my life; what I buy, where I shop, how I use money and electricity, care for the environment, drive on the roads, think about my future. Sometimes, loving people causes me pain. That makes it all the more worth it.’

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Emperor Nero. Setting aside the biblical evidence, which we don’t need to do because it is a reliable historical record, there is plenty of evidence for the existence of Jesus in non-biblical sources. ;OL ÄYZ[ JLU[\Y` 9VTHU ;HJP[\Z ^OV PZ considered one of the more accurate historians of the ancient world, mentioned Christ ^OV Z\ɈLYLK \UKLY 7VU[P\Z 7PSH[L K\YPUN the reign of Tiberius. Suetonius, chief secretary to Emperor Hadrian, wrote that there was a man named *OYPZ[ ^OV SP]LK K\YPUN [OL ÄYZ[ JLU[\Y` Flavius Josephus, one of the most famous Jewish historians, in his Antiquities refers to James, ‘the brother of Jesus, who was called Christ’. One verse (18:3) in his annals reads, ‘At this time there was a wise man named Jesus. His conduct was good and [he] was known to be virtuous. And many people from among the Jews and the other nations became his disciples. Pilate JVUKLTULK OPT [V IL JY\JPÄLK HUK [V KPL But those who became his disciples did not abandon his discipleship. They reported that he had appeared to them three days HM[LY OPZ JY\JPÄ_PVU HUK [OH[ OL ^HZ HSP]L" accordingly he was perhaps the Messiah, concerning whom the prophets have recounted wonders.’

ethical Pliny the Younger, in Letters ! YLcorded early Christian worship practices including the fact that Christians worshipped Jesus as God and were very ethical, and he includes a reference to the love feast and Lord’s Supper. There is ample evidence from sources other than the Bible, from secular and nonChristian sources, for the fact that Jesus existed and that the biblical narrative is accurate.’

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(! ‘I know how you feel about church! Years of school chapel left me with the impression that church was designed for an audience from the previous century. It was so culturally unfamiliar. I was pleasantly surprised, however, to return recently for a school reunion to ÄUK ZVTL KYHZ[PJ JOHUNLZ OHK [HRLU WSHJL in the chapel services. The Bible message, delivered with enthusiasm and a measure of humour, could actually be applied to my life. The prayers were in a comprehensible form of English, and the singing was even accompanied by a marimba band!

smug While some enjoy tradition in their choice of church, many churches also cater for those seeking a more modern-­day approach. I’d encourage you to visit a few churches, and am FRQ¿GHQW \RX¶OO ¿QG RQH UHOHYDQW WR \RX It’s unfortunate that you’ve experienced some Christians as ‘smug’ (I note with relief that you don’t say all Christians!) This suggests an aloofness, possibly rooted in judgmentalism. Understandably, you don’t want to be like them. While the Bible teaches that judging others is something to be avoided, mistakes are nevertheless made. After all, we are reminded that Christians are far from perfect. At the centre of their faith, though, is the person of Jesus. He didn’t exhibit our human weaknesses and failings and is the one we can aspire to be like. And while he challenged people to lead lives worthy of being called his followers, his attitude was loving, rather than condemning. No-one could call him aloof. In fact, he provoked outrage in religious leaders of the time as he mingled repeatedly with those who weren’t considered ‘religious’.

‘What can God bring to my life?’, you ask. Jesus promised his followers ‘abundant life’, and never to abandon them. So I would encourage you to explore his claims, whether you’re happy with your life or not. I trust that, in time, you‘ll experience that abundance as a reality to which nothing else compares.’ Answer by:

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DV GH¿QHG E\ $QQ &DZRRG D FRXQVHOORU DW *UHHQ¿HOG *LUOVœ 3ULPDU\ 6FKRRO .HQLOZRUWK with  nearly  three  decades  of  parenting  and  counselling  experience  under  her  belt)

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;OL 7YVISLT!  Cell  phones,  TV,  computers,  PlayStations,  facebook  and  anything  else  the  universe  has  created  that  parents  can’t  even  turn  on.  Mother  and  Father  want  to  shield  their  tween  from  the  negative  effects  technol-­ ogy  can  have  on  a  child’s  social  skills,  sleep  patterns,  health,  schoolwork  and  even  (given  the  threat  of  internet  predators),  safety.  To  a  tween,  this  is  inexplicably  lame,  especially  this  last  parental  fear  â€“  who  on  earth  is  going  to  trick  them?

;OL 7YVISLT!  Yes,  yes,  we  all  buy  into  the  hope  that  academic  success  will  give  our  child  a  greater  chance  of  succeeding  in  life.  But  little  Johnny  or  Janey  does  not  connect  that  Grade  6  history  test  with  success  in  adult  life  (of  course,  quite  often  they  are  right,  but  don’t  tell  them  that)

;OL 7YVISLT!  Every  parent  wants  their  children  to  speak  nicely  to  the  shopkeeper,  answer  the  phone  politely  and  attend  fam-­ ily  gatherings  with  a  smile  on  their  face.  But  those  hormones  are  working  overtime  in  our  tweens,  urging  them  to  mark  out  their  independence  just  a  little.  Which  is  where  that  eye-­rolling  comes  in

The  Solution:  Acknowledge  that  technology  PZ OLYL [V Z[H` HUK [OH[ ^OPSL P[ WL[YPĂ„LZ `V\ [V imagine  the  terrible  things  that  could  happen  to  your  tween,  you  can’t  wish  it  away.  Instead  of  banning  technology,  teach  your  child  when  and  how  to  use  social  media  appropriately,  and  warn  them  that  just  one  word  or  picture  used  or  sent  unthinkingly  might  haunt  them  forever.  Gathering  up  your  tween’s  cellphone  at  bedtime  stops  under-the-cover  SMSing  into  the  night

The  Solution:  (]VPK PUĂ…H[PUN WV^LY Z[Y\Ngles  by  harassing  or  coercing  your  kids.  It  will  only  cause  them  to  dig  in  their  heels  mulishly  â€Ś  and  drive  you  to  distraction,  since  there  is  precious  little  you  can  consistently  do  to  make  them  complete  their  assignments.  Instead,  outmanoeuvre  them!  Agree  with  them  that  homework  is  their  issue  and  you  won’t  police  them  daily,  but  also  point  out  what  will  happen  if  school  feedback  suggests  they’re  not  working  hard:  it  could  be  bye-bye  to  their  favourite  T V  programme,  fun  outings  or  special  treats.  Be  sure  not  to  fall  for  puppy  eyes  when  it’s  time  to  hold  them  to  their  end  of  the  bargain

The  Solution:  Number  one,  don’t  forget  about  people  who  live  in  glass  houses  â€“  you  have  to  be  a  good  role  model  and  display  good  manners  yourself,  and  that  includes  being  nice  to  your  spouse  or  partner!  Be  very  ZWLJPĂ„J HIV\[ [OL WHY[PJ\SHY Y\SLZ [OH[ \UKLYpin  your  family’s  values,  for  instance,  no  name-calling,  hitting,  talking  behind  people’s  backs,  etc.  Then  introduce  a  system  whereby  the  child  who  chooses  to  break  the  rules  faces  the  consequences,  eg  deduct  an  amount  of  pocket  money  that  you’ve  agreed  beforehand

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469, ;07: Don’t  give  in  to  the  pressure  of  what  other  families  may  be  doing.  :[HUK Ă„YT HUK SL[ `V\Y [^LLU RUV^ [OH[ `V\Y MHTPS` OHZ P[Z V^U unique  needs,  rules  and  boundaries.  Every  family  member  should  [HRL WHY[ PU ZL[[PUN JSLHY MHPY HUK Ă„YT IVYKLYSPULZ [OH[ HYL HNL HWWYVpriate.  Involve  the  children  in  deciding  guidelines  around  the  respect  with  which  all  family  members  should  be  treated,  the  consequence  of  someone  not  doing  their  chores,  etc.  Ensure  your  child  knows  what  the  limitations  are,  as  well  as  what  to  expect  when  they  transgress  the  boundaries.  Empathise  with  their  feelings  when  they  make  mistakes,  but  don’t  budge  in  matters  of  discipline Flexible  boundaries  may  give  children  temporary  feelings  of  victory,  but  eventually  destabilise  them  when  they  realise  their  parents  don’t  adhere  to  any  set  rules.  Rather  than  punish,  which  may  involve  hitting  and  instilling  fear,  a  loving  parent  disciplines  consistently  and  gets  better  results.  For  instance,  issue  a  warning  with  a  time  frame  such  as Â

‘unless  your  room  is  tidy  by  three  this  afternoon,  you’re  not  going  to  your  friend’s  birthday  party’.  Avoid  nagging  and  constant  reminders,  but  follow  up  on  the  consequence  if  the  activity  is  not  done  in  time.  (UV[OLY Z[YH[LN`! JVUĂ„ZJH[L WLYZVUHS WYVWLY[` Z\JO HZ JLSS WOVULZ P7VKZ VY ^OH[L]LY LSZL PZ VM ]HS\L [V [OL VɈLUKLY MVY H YLHZVUHISL duration  (seizing  a  cell  phone  for  a  year  is  punitive!)  Staying  calm  in  all  this  is  key.  For  this  to  happen,  parents  have  to  learn  [V THUHNL [OLPY YLHJ[PVUZ <ZPUN O\TV\Y [V KPɈ\ZL ]VSH[PSL ZP[\H[PVUZ is  invaluable.  When  things  get  too  intense,  step  back  and  lighten  up.  Laughter,  fun,  dancing  and  music  are  important.  We  should  never  THRL M\U VM V\Y JOPSKYLU I\[ Ă„UKPUN O\TV\Y PU ZP[\H[PVUZ [V KPɈ\ZL WVZZPISL JVUĂ…PJ[ ZP[\H[PVUZ PZ H ]P[HS ZRPSS PU HU` MHTPS`

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‘I  think  it’s  important  to  take  account  of  my  kids’  feelings  when  putting  boundaries  in  place  â€“  the  Bible  says  don’t  exasperate  your  children!  I  also  try  to  help  my  children  choose  friends  from  families  with  similar  value  systems  to  ours’ thislife.org.za    |    issue  6     21

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‘Trust  is  the  most  important  thing’ ;,5+(0 4<:02(=(5/< 0: *,6 6- 63+ 4<;<(3 .36)(3 05+,? ;9(*2,9: HU HZZL[ THUHNLTLU[ I\ZPULZZ IHZLK PU )VZ[VU <:( HUK OHZ ILLU PU ÄUHUJPHS ZLY]PJLZ MVY `LHYZ ;OL ZVU VM H U\YZL HUK H SH^ Z[\KLU[ HJ[P]PZ[ ^OV ^HZ L_WLSSLK MYVT APTIHI^L OL ^HZ IVYU PU 3VUKVU HUK SH[LY TV]LK [V *HWL ;V^U /L PZ THYYPLK [V .HPS H MVYTLY HJJV\U[HU[ ;OL` OH]L Ä]L JOPSKYLU HNLK MYVT [V HUK SP]L ULHY )VZ[VU [OV\NO ^P[O H NYHUKMH[OLY MYVT 3PTWVWV ;LUKHP JVUZPKLYZ :( [V IL OPZ JV\U[Y` VM VYPNPU @6<9 ;67 ;07 -69 4(5(.05. 7,673,&

Eish  â€“  oh  no,  I  still  say  that  even  though  I’m  in  the  States!  I’ve  learnt  that  people  must  understand  you  genuinely  care  about  them  â€“  in  a  YLHS WYHJ[PJHS ZLUZL UV[ PU H ZVWW` ^H` ;OL` ÄUK P[ OHYK [V IL SV`HS to  people  who  won’t  be  loyal  to  them.  I’ve  found  you  need  to  lead  by  example  and  put  your  own  interests  on  the  line  at  times.  If  you’re  honest  about  your  mistakes,  people  begin  to  trust  you,  and  trust  is  the  most  important  thing  in  business.  I  try  my  best  to  be  vulnerable  and  say  when  I  don’t  know  something.   The  less  I  operate  in  secrecy,  the  more  light  enters  my  life

night.  I’ve  taught  my  kids  poker  and  my  twins  are  often  the  champs.  The  twins,  our  youngest  children,  are  adopted.  We  had  initially  wanted  to  adopt  a  white  child  for  racial  reconciliation  purposes,  but  given  the  Aids  pandemic  we  decided  to  change  this  and  adopt  a  black  child.   One  day,  Gail  burst  out  crying  while  watching  a  TV  programme  about  Nkosi  Johnson,  the  adopted  boy  who  died  of  AIDS.  We  realised  we  JV\SK JY` VY ^L JV\SK KV ZVTL[OPUN HIV\[ [OL V]LYÃ…V^PUN VYWOHUHNLZ in  South  Africa,  so  we  adopted  our  â€˜twin’  boys  from  an  orphanage  run  I` V\Y JO\YJO 6\Y [^PUZ JHTL MYVT KPɈLYLU[ WHYLU[Z I\[ ^LYL IVYU VU the  same  day

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business  in  SA  in  the  early  2000s,  being  out  of  balance  was  the  story  of  my  life.  The  industry  was  strewn  with  the  corpses  of  black  empowerment  businesses  which  had  gone  belly-up,  and  people  expected  me  to  fail,  too.  This  drove  me  to  give  everything  I  had  to  disprove  the  stigma  and  succeed.   I  would  get  home  very  late  and  leave  home  very  early  the  next  day.  Gail  and  I  had  a  series  of  very  real  conversations  about  what  family  life  is  meant  to  be,  and  instituted  â€˜date  night’  every  Tuesday  night,  which  we’ve  maintained  to  this  very  day.  Friends  try  to  hijack  it  and  we  have  to  say  no! 0 \ZLK [V MLLS N\PS[` HIV\[ SLH]PUN [OL VɉJL VJJHZPVUHSS` MVY [OL N`T so  I  had  to  make  it  part  of  my  life’s  infrastructure  â€“  now  I  go  every  KH` [V THRL P[ [OL UVYT 0 ÄUK JVVRPUN [OLYHWL\[PJ HUK SV]L THRPUN H good  potjie,  in  fact  I  brought  a  number  3  pot  over  and  introduced  my  American  friends  to  potjiekos!  Here  in  Boston,  Friday  night  is  family Â

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‘I  USED  TO  FEEL GUILTY’

Gut-feel  combined  with  extensive  qualitative  analysis.  The  third  leg  is  a  hidden  leg  but  the  most  important:  I  pray,  often  that  distractions  such  as  over-exuberance  or  doubt  and  other  negative  emotions  won’t  cloud  the  issue

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‘Bounce  your  ideas  off  a  good  listener’

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People  follow  vision,  and  leaders  who  inspire  them  and  take  time  out  to  understand,  encourage  and  equip  them.  I  subscribe  to  the  John  Maxwell  philosophy  of  leadership  over  management:  leaders  get  people  to  â€˜want  to’  do  what  is  needed  because  they’re  committed  to  the  vision I  also  try  to  understand  each  team  member’s  weak  points  and  the  challenges  they  face.  I  encourage  communication,  and  make  a  JVUZJPV\Z LɈVY[ [V WYHPZL ILMVYL 0 JVYYLJ[ Outside  etv,  I’m  involved  in  an  exciting  new  youth  magazine:  4Change  Mag.  It’s  a  magazine  for  youth  and  by  youth,  and  none  of  my  team  members  have  print  media  experience.  This  kind  of  thing  can  make  people  afraid  to  take  risks  but  we’ve  come  to  understand  the  educational  value  of  â€˜noble  failure’,  and  that  a  leader  must  allow  many  mistakes  to  be  made  to  develop  a  system  that  works.  We  don’t  tolerate  critical  failure  (making  the  same  mistake  over  and  over)  but  we  celebrate  the  learning  process,  because  we  know  that  it’s  not  what  we  achieve  by  it  but  what  we  become  through  it Â

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Ever  hung  around  people  who  worry  and  stress  all  the  time?  Aren’t  they  the  most  irritating  people?  I  don’t  want  to  be  that  person  any  more.  I  used  to  be  the  biggest  stress-pot,  fret-

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and  two  teens  has  helped  me  to  balance  my  day,   and  dog-walking  or  jogging  with  friends  ensures  I  leave  the  premises  daily! Â

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