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CELEBRATIONS p.20 Finding a New Rhythm p.22 INTRO p.4
Living Life Her Way p.6 25 THINGS p.12
A COOKIE YOU CAN’T RESIST p.28 Follow the Possibilities p.22 You Might Want This Bag p.30
Dressed Up in Joy p.30 YOU CAN TAKE THE PAIN AWAY p. 33
She Escaped the Sex Industry p.36 WHAT TO WEAR TO YOUR NEXT JOB INTERVIEW p.38 Breast Cancer Supplement after p. 32
What She’s Listening To p.24
Guess Where She’s Working? p.26 JUST ASK JOYCE p.26 She Won’t Slow Down p.26
She’s Making Plans for the Future p.38 YOUR NEW FRIENDSHIP AWAITS p.40
BEST BODIES p.46 Have a Modern and Moody Halloween Party p.48 At their wedding, Ruth Powderly and Scott Rotterman had a signature cocktail — the Lou — named after their dog. See page 20. PHOTO: Megan Jordan Photography
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he people we get to meet and feature in Today’s Woman are so fabulous. Meet Deena Kleehamer who, 30 years ago on Halloween, opened the door to the scary monster of breast cancer. After moving past her treatment, she started and led support groups to help countless of other women. She didn’t just think, “I am over that…” She continues to sparkle in her many pink outfits and shines a bright light on breast cancer awareness. All of the breast cancer survivors featured lend inspiration to us through their new-found appreciation for life.
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In this issue, you will also meet women who make you consider your life choices. Should you change something big, learn something new, or maybe even hit the road in a new little camper?
Deena Kleehamer was diagnosed with breast cancer 30 years ago and encourages others to stay positive.
Local TV journalist and mother of two, Shannon Cogan, makes a daily transformation to be TV-glam read — even if she comes from a crazy day of playing ball in the backyard.
Get inspired to try something new to pamper yourself or to make you feel like a better you.
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In this issue we confront a different comfort zone — it is about taking a step into the world of beauty treatments. Whether it becomes a regular maintenance routine you do for yourself or a one-time treat, a little glamour can change how you feel and is always more about what is inside your about yourself. Be a Glam Girl Makeup Caleb Yeske,think CKY Hair mind than outside your head, but at the Donald and yourself at the same time. same time, we know that sometimes Photo you Melissa should take a minute for yourself. — Anita Oldham
ON THE COVER: Laura Patterson is making waves with a swimsuit line any woman can wear. Find more about how she’s doing it on page 6. ON THE COVER: Allison Whitehouse is planting seeds of beauty Photo: Sunni within the cityWigginton and watching them grow as part of her involvement with the Waterfront Botanical Gardens. Read more about her blossoming projects on page 22. Photo Sunni Wigginton
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Ready to live an unconventional life? These two women are finding ways to mix their passions with their livelihood. Every day might be different than the other — and they are loving it! Photo Melissa Donald
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Lindsey Rutherford
Lindsey Rutherford goes from dancing to horse riding and has recently started roping cattle. She says we need to be willing to put ourselves out there and try new things.
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She rides her horses or her four wheeler, or she boats or camps in her favorite spots in southern Indiana. She also tends to the miniature animals on her farm — Half Pint Hooves farm — where she raises donkeys, cows, and horses for use in live nativity scenes and unicorn birthday parties. “I’m pretty much outdoors all the time, from sunup to sundown,” says Lindsey, 33, who grew up with ballroom dancing parents but also had a love for horses and the outdoors. “I watched that movie My Friend Flicka all the time. It had a horse in it, and that’s all I cared about. “I’m not into tent camping. I’m into camper camping. I want a bed, and I need a sink and a shower. We have a big group of friends, and we all camp together. We sit around the bonfire and drink and socialize. We try to relax and have a good time. I
am surrounded with people who love to be outdoors.” Lindsey is a modern-day cowgirl, and she’s even taking lessons to learn to rope cattle in hopes of showing her skills in a rodeo one day. “I have an excellent teacher (Colt Becht of Becht Performance Horses), and I have a good time with that,” she says. “When I went to my first roping lessons, I was swinging the rope, and Colt didn’t know me well yet. He said, ‘Are you a good dancer?’ I said,’ Yeah, why?’ ‘Well, you have a lot of hip action for roping that cow. Can you tone that down a bit?’ ” Roping cows is such a switch for
a girl who danced from age 3 to 14, competing with her father, Dan Rutherford, owner of seven Fred Astaire Dance Studios in Kentucky, Indiana, and Illinois. Her father and stepmother Nicole Carroll are U.S. and world champions in American Rhythm. “I was following in my dad’s and Nicole’s footsteps,” Lindsey says. About seven years ago, she and her professional dancing partner, Jonah Schneider, were offered an audition with the TV show Dancing with the Stars. “We decided not to do it. We had a great career at home. We had built up our student base and didn’t
want to leave all that. It takes a while to build clientele and get momentum going.” In July, she headed out to the Bellagio in Las Vegas to compete with a student in the Fred Astaire World Championships. “We do American Smooth. I teach smooth, rhythm, latin, and standard — all four major styles.” What advice does she have for women who want a more active lifestyle? “Don’t be afraid to try things,” Lindsey says. “I see people who have wanted to be a dancer and they have been afraid to start, to even walk in
the door. They have avoided it their whole life. Now they are 50, 60, 70 years old and say, ‘I don’t know why I waited so long.’ “People think we will be judging them or making fun of them. That’s not why we are here. “You have to just get out there and do things, whatever you want. That’s the biggest thing in life — to enjoy yourself. You just don’t know what will happen. You might as well do it while you can.” PHOTO ABOVE: Lindsey doesn’t usually wear her dance outfit at the farm, but this photo shows her range of skills — including her camper life. TODAY’S WOMAN / OCT 2017
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ARRIE COOKE KETTERMAN MAY BE LIVING IN THE WRONG DECADE. OR EVEN THE WRONG CENTURY. OR MAYBE, SHE’S HERE TO REMIND US THAT ALL THINGS MODERN AREN’T ALL THINGS BEAUTIFUL. How many of us have dreamed of owning a new home? Filled with new furniture, new appliances, and the trendiest of decor? Guilty. But Carrie has quite a different take on creating a beautiful home, and for that matter, a beautiful life. And it starts with “I thrifted that.” Carrie, an old soul who loves anything with a past, nonchalantly uttered the aforementioned phrase when dishing about decorating her
“TAKE THE TIME TO ENJOY THE LITTLE THINGS LIKE A CUP OF TEA.” Carrie Cooke Ketterman shops vintage stores and thrift shops to fill her historic home, which houses the Old Capital Tea Room. AT RIGHT: In her camper, Carrie has all of the comforts of home. She documents her camper travels on Instagram @the.not.so.little.camper.
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100-year-old historic home in Corydon, Indiana. The home is colonial but decorated in the Victorian-style era. She shops vintage stores and thrift shops such as Crescent Hill Trading Company and Crazy Daisy to not only fill her home with fanning couches and prints, but also enough mismatched tea sets to create her and her husband, Jeff's, happy accident — a tea room. “I love anything and everything vintage. I
have whimsical china and love to host themed tea parties,” says Carrie, who is particularly interested in anything that dates from the 1890s through the 1950s. “Last year, when Corydon hosted its bicentennial celebration, we opened up our living room as a tea room on Mother’s Day.” The Old Capitol Tea Room, now open monthly and for private parties, is just one of many endeavors the couple is exploring. The tea room is the perfect venue to display Carrie's playful tastes and her love of theatre. Often hosting themed teas such as the Haunted Mansion and Downton Abbey, the couple, both actors with the Mind’s Eye Theatre Company, have ready access to costumes that put most typical theme parties to shame. The outlet the tea room provides lets Carrie combine many of her passions, including vintage finds and history. “I’m drawn to things of the past — a more simple time,” Carrie says. “Take time to enjoy the little things like a cup of tea.” For Carrie, living a beautiful life isn’t about answering every single email and keeping up with everything on social media. “Stop for a minute, unplug, and enjoy a cup of tea and a book,” Carrie says. She recommends brewing a seasonal tea, such as creme brulee black tea with fresh honey, and then using the three minutes it takes to steep to slow down and be present. Something she finds easier to do when surrounded by things of yesterdays gone.
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25 THINGS (Why 25? Because we are 25 years old!)
Happenings, news, and tidbits that caught Today’s Woman’s eye this month By Anita Oldham
PINK WOMAN!
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Posterized at Oxmoor Center
Come see the Pink Woman Runway Show at Oxmoor Center on Oct. 19 — get inspired by both the breast cancer survivors and the fashion.
As part of our Pink Woman breast cancer awareness campaign, seven survivors will be on lifesize posters in Oxmoor Center. Look for them dressed in the latest fall fashions. Photos Melissa Donald
1 Adrian Oldham 2 Brooke Egan 3 Judie Sherman 4 Patsy Dawson
Get your tickets at TodaysWomanNow.com.
5 Linda Black 6 Alana Auslander-Price 7 Lynnette Fulton
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Twisted Pink’s mission is to extend life and improve quality of life for late-stage breast cancer patients and their families by funding metastatic (stage IV) breast cancer research. Survivor Caroline Johnson started this organization after realizing that almost no money was funding this type of research. Twistedpink.org
“Twisted Pink opened in June 2014 and since that date we have been on a mission to fund the very best metastatic breast cancer research,” says Caroline.
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25 THINGS All over town until Nov. 11, you can see photos as part of the The Louisville Photo Biennial. This year it encompasses 60 photographic exhibits at 54 venues. Find out more at louisvillephotobiennial.com.
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Gathering: Linda Bruckheimer’s Kentucky” by Linda Bruckheimer at the Frazier History Museum 12 “Stage D” by Laura Hartford at the Carnegie Center for Art & History, New Albany 13 Untitled from the series “Presenting With the Louisville Story Project: Available Light by Bud Dorsey.”
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16-18 Fun Activities in October World’s Largest Halloween Party At the Louisville Zoo, October 5–8, 12–15, 19–22, & 26–29 for kids 11 and under. Louisvillezoo.org/halloween
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Bowman Field Aviation and Military Heritage Festival
October 14 (9am-5pm) and October 15 (9am-4pm). This event will feature rare vintage aircraft and warplanes and a four-mile run around the airport benefiting Reach for Kids. WEBSITE
Eat Drink & Be Scary
A Halloween party and fundraiser for Huntington’s Disease Society of America, KY Chapter, will be held at the Mercury Ballroom in Louisville on Oct 28, from 8pm -1am. HDSAhalloween.com
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Buy a Scarf
The Hope Scarves signature scarf was designed by Louisville artist Melanie Park. “Melanie wanted to reflect the love and spirit of Hope Scarves,” said Lara MacGregor, founder of Hope Scarves. “Her design was inspired by the colors in our logo and she also wove in the words ‘hope, stories, scarves, and research’ which are the pillars of our mission.” Sales will benefit Hope Scarves and help provide funding for metastatic breast cancer research. hopescarves.org
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Five Ghosts: How to Tame Them
I was scared of the dark as a child. The sense of unknowing that came with a dark room was too much for my little heart. I’d peek in my closet for monsters; look under my bed for ghoulies. I still lay awake sometimes listening for the things that go bump in the night. Only now it isn’t the creatures of a 9 year-old’s active imagination that dart through my subconscious— it’s the real ghosts of living. HEARTACHE. LOSS.
BETRAYAL. FAILURE. DISAPPOINTMENT.
We don’t get to multiple decades of living without acquiring such ghosts. Sometimes they know their place, and so are content to exist as a piece of what made us who we are, but also having been made peace with, so they don’t control us. Other times they rage angry. Taking up conflicted residence in our souls and refusing to be discounted. I don’t profess time or energy for such ghosts as these last ones. Still, they’re insistent. But what I’m learning, albeit slowly, is that it is possible to tame the ghosts so they don’t riot at will.
Here are two things working for me as I wrestle with the ghosts of my first 40 years so that I can live more fully into the next 40:
“We named the scarf in memory of Nancye Belle, who passed away in 2003,” added MacGregor. “Her family commissioned this scarf in her honor, and we are thrilled to see it come to life and help support those like Nancye, who fight cancer every day.”
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Caregiver Advice
If you suddenly find yourself a caregiver for someone in your life, check out Today’s Transitions magazine TodaysTransitionsNow.com.
As part of Today’s Publications, this is a resource that offers lots of tips and articles, inspiration, and locations of all aging communities in the area.
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1. Out those suckers. Ghosts like the dark. They know we’d rather them stay put instead of being on public display in our workplaces and social circles. So shine a little light on ‘em. Call them what they are. No need to overshare here, if it isn’t appropriate to do so. You can name a ghost without giving it a parade. And it might be as simple as saying to a trusted person, “I am rebuilding my life following a bitter divorce, and I need your patience with me while I work through it.” 2. Make friends with them. Or at least call a truce. We all have regrets. Brokenness. Parts of ourselves we wish weren’t so. Not a one of us is perfect. But when we isolate the imperfections as something to be ashamed of as opposed to embracing them as part of—and not the entire!—whole of who we are, they lose their power over us. We are so much more than our missteps, our secrets, our dark memories—and owning who we are as our whole, beautiful selves means letting those ghosts of the past just be. Mostly, the trick is to not let the ghosts of what has been dominate the landscape of what might be. We’re stronger than they are. And so much more is possible beyond them. — Julie E. Richardson
Julie has a new book out
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Professional Connections presents
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Networking and careerbuilding opportunities for women around town
Athena’s Sisters – For Military Women Every 2nd & 4th Mon. • 6-8pm 201 South Peterson Avenue Lindsay Gargotto 502.489.0956 info@athenassisters.us
Legal Assistants of Louisville Every 3rd Tues. • 11:30am Bristol Bar & Grille 614 West Main Street Mary Ruckriegel 502.429.6184 Mruck23@att.net
Southern Indiana Women’s Networking Group Every 3rd Wed. • 11:30am Holiday Inn-Lakeview 505 Marriott Drive, Clarksville info@soindwng.org
WIN- Women in Networking IV Every 3rd Tues. • 11:30am Hurstbourne Country Club 9000 Country Club Lane Gretchen Mahaffey 502.451.0600 gmahaffey@kfg.com
BPW - Business & Professional Women of River City Quarterly • 11:30am Networking Noon Meeting & Program The Bristol - Downtown 614 West Main Street bpwrc.org or bpwreserve@gmail.com
MLWPC - Metropolitan Louisville Women’s Political Caucus Every 4th Mon. • 5:30pm University Club U of L Belknap Campus Virginia Woodward 502.361.4866 mlwpc2011@gmail.com
The Democratic Woman's Club of Jefferson County Third Monday of every month from March thru December at 5:15 All Wool & A Yard Wide Democrat Club, 1328 Hickory St. Lou. KY 40217. Mary Allgeier 502-550-1611 adelineallgeier02@twc.com
WIN - Women in Networking V Every 2nd Thurs. • 11:30am Roosters 10430 Shelbyville Road #7 Kim Hogle kim.hogle@proforma.com
Bridge the Gap Professional Women Every 5th Sun. Heyburn Building 430 W. Muhammad Ali, Suite 24A Hazel Parrish, Chapter President 502.417.2566, hazelp17@gmail.com CBPW - Christian Business & Professional Women 2nd Thurs: May, July, Sept, Nov • 11:30am Hurstbourne Country Club 9000 Hurstbourne Club Lane Sharilyn Unthank 502.297.3508 cbpweast@gmail.com Church Women United Saturday, October 7, 12:00 Hill United Methodist Church, 201 South Peterson Avenue Peggy Arthur 502-551-6670 peggy.arthur@att.net Distinctive Women, Entrepreneurial Women Making a Difference Every 1st Thurs • 6:30-8pm Email for meeting location Deleskia Butler 502.509.5521 distinctivewomen2013@gmail.com EWI - Executive Women International- Kentuckiana Every 3rd Tues. • 5:30pm Contact for information & reservation Christy Smallwood 502.595.7157 • ewikentuckiana.com christy@arkhamexec.com League of Women Voters Every 3rd Mon. • 6pm Lang House, 115 S. Ewing Avenue Pat Murrell 502.895.5218 info@lwvlouisville.org
NAWBO - National Association of Women Business Owners Every 3rd Tues. admin@nawbolouisville.org 502.625.0248 nawbolouisville.org National Association of Women in Construction Every 2nd Mon. • 5:30pm Call for meeting location Patty Stewart 812.288.4208 #121 National Association of Women MBAs - Louisville Chapter Location & event vary. Details on mbawomen.org/chapter/louisvillekentucky *MBA not required for membership National Council of Negro Women, Inc. - Louisville Section Every 4th Thurs. • 6pm Main Library, 301 York Street Cassandra Lasley 502.650.6602 lasley5514@twc.com NEW - Network of Entrepreneurial Women Every 2nd Wed. • 6-8pm Location varies. See nentw.com for details. Network Now Every 2nd Fri. • 11:30am Hurstbourne Country Club 9000 Hurstbourne Club Lane Marie Butler 502.231.1918 Savvy Women in Business Every 1st Wed. • 6:30pm Inverness at Hurstbourne Condos 1200 Club House Drive Brenda Daisey 502.742.4505 bdaisey@cruiseplanners.com
The Ninety-Nines, Inc. International Assoc of Women Pilots Every 2nd Saturday 11am Various airports around Kentucky and Southern Indiana Erin Thompson 502.428.1713 eblisst@windstream.net Top Ladies of Distinction Inc. Every 2nd Tues. • 6:30pm Hotel Louisville 120 W. Broadway, Suite 930 Mamie L Maxwell 502.767.4180 ms.maxwell@twc.com WAI - Women in Aviation Every 3rd Thurs. • 6pm Hanger 7 2720 Cannons Lane Crystal Korff 502.608.6524 superdpilot@yahoo.com WIN - Women in Networking Every 2nd Wed. • 11:15am Holiday Inn Hurstbourne 1325 S Hurstbourne Parkway Laura Ridge 502.491.7877 lridge@oxmoorcountryclub.com WIN - Women in Networking II Every 3rd Wed. • 11:30am Wildwood Country Club 5000 Bardstown Road Kim Fusting 502.267.7066 kimins@bellsouth.net WIN- Women in Networking III Every 2nd Tues. • 11:30am BJ's (Oxmoor Mall) 7900 Shelbyville Road Sharon Woodward 502.931.8432 skoch@primelending.com
WIN - Women in Networking VI Every 2nd Tuesday • 11:30am Oxmoor Country Club 9000 Limehouse Lane Vicki Stanley 502.533.7356 vickistanley04@aol.com WIN - Women in Networking VII Every 2nd Tuesday • 11:30am Republic Bank’s conference room 13330 Main Street (Middletown) Johanna Wheatley 502.303.3843 jwheatley@republicbank.com Women on the Front Line Every 5th Sat., 4-5:30pm Bridge the Gap Addiction and Mental Health Services 2629 Slevin Street Hazel D. Parrish 502.417.2566 Women’s Business Center of KY
funded in part by a cooperative agreement with the SBA
Every 4th Fri. Roundtable • 8:30am Call for meeting location Phyllis Alcorn, 859.234.0054 x 1033 palcorn@cvky.org
Women’s Council of Realtors Every 3rd Thurs. • 11:30am Big Spring Country Club 5901 Dutchmans Lane Elizabeth Monarch 502.551.1286 Elizabeth@elizabethmonarchgroup.com Women’s Republican Club of Louisville Every 3rd Thurs. • 11:15am University Club 200 E. Brandeis Avenue Marva Rudolph 502.899.1999 or 502.459.4929 marva.rudolph@yahoo.com ZONTA- Advancing The Status of Women Every 1st Thurs. • 6pm Holiday Inn – Louisville Airport 447 Farmington Avenue Joyce Seymour 502.553.9241 jespud@bellsouth.net
Listings are repeated monthly. To list or update your meeting for free, email your meeting date, time, location, contact info and website to Joyce@TodaysPublications.com or call 502.327.8855. Deadline for inclusion in next issue is 10/6.
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uth Powderly, DDS, and Scott Rotterman married last fall on an “absolutely perfect day. After a long nine years (mostly long distance), my husband and I finally tied the knot.”
The couple moved to Louisville from Ohio, “we almost immediately fell in love with the city and could not imagine getting married anywhere else.” Around 250 guests attended the wedding ceremony held at 2pm at Holy Spirit Church, with a 5:30pm cocktail hour followed by reception until 11:30pm at the Gillespie. Her advice to others: “Your wedding should be an extension of you and your relationship. Choose the aspects of the wedding that mean the most to you. Is it the band? Is it flowers? Find those things first and spend a little more in those areas. There are plenty of ways to save in other areas, and you will be happier spending the money on the things that mean more to you. Read more details at TodaysWomanNow.com.
The couple hired a charter bus from Miller Transportation to take everyone involved in the wedding and their dates between the ceremony and reception. “One thing I really wanted was to be able to hang out with all of my friends and family in between the ceremony and reception while taking pictures. Our Catholic ceremony was earlier in the day so there certainly was some time in between.”
“Christi Murphy (Stir Crazy Cakes) allows you to choose from so many flavors. We decided on a simple three-tier cake for us to cut and sheet cakes to pass out. It was so great to be able to choose different flavors so the guests could taste-test.”
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SEARCH: Celebration The reception was held at The Gillespie. “I wanted a Southern Classic theme to my wedding, and The Gillespie fit perfectly.”
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FROM THE STAGE TO THE COURTROOM By Lucy M. Pritchett Photo Patti Hartog
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mily Poe Stumler’s Turning Point came when she put down her fiddle and picked up her law degree. She seemed to be headed toward a career in music. She had started taking violin lessons at age 6. She attended Belmont University in Nashville to pursue her music career. Then, in her senior year, she auditioned to be a fiddle player for Taylor Swift. “No one knew (Taylor) then. She was only 16. I traveled on the bus with Taylor and her mother. We went all over the U.S. and Canada. It was a great experience, but that life is not as glamorous as one might think.” Emily wanted to pursue music as far as it would take her but, she says, she always had it on her radar to go to law school. “I also knew I wanted a husband and children. I toured with Taylor for about two years and eventually left, took the LSAT, and entered law school at University of Tennessee in Knoxville.” Emily worked for a real estate attorney for a couple of years. Now, at age 32, she is chief deputy prosecutor with the office that represents the State of Indiana in all criminal matters in Harrison County. “When I turn around and look back at my life, my path is much clearer now than when I was on it. I can see now how studying music formed my work ethic — continuing to strive to get better was so helpful. You don’t realize in school that it molds you into the person that you are.”
SEARCH: Emily Poe Stumler
Don’t Write Yourself Off
Photo Sunni Wigginton
By Bella Portaro Kueber
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Allison Whitehouse is a 20-something creative who lives in Louisville and holds aspirations of creating a lasting impact as program and development coordinator for the Waterfront Botanical Gardens. “I hold the earth near and dear. It connects everyone, and it’s a beautiful place. The botanical gardens is an up-and-coming project that gives me a lot of satisfaction. I can’t wait to see the this project come to fruition.” What advice would she give to her younger self? “Pay more attention to the things you write off about yourself. Stop talking yourself out of the things you’re unsure you can do — know you can do them and follow the possibilities instead.” SEARCH: Allison Whitehouse
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What’s She Listening To? By Megan Seckman Photos Melissa Donald
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ince the inception of their business Elixir Kombucha in April of last year, Danielle Wood and her husband Corey have followed the same routine. Before “Monday-Brew-Day” begins, Danielle and Corey (bonafide high school sweethearts) meditate and practice yoga together. With their minds and bodies ready to channel peaceful energy into their product, a 2,000-year-old elixir known as kombucha, they set off to their facility in Chef Space, a shared, commercial kitchen in the Russell neighborhood available for rent to food entrepreneurs. While brewing, however, Danielle, 29, has a different ritual: she binge-listens to real crime podcasts (such as My Favorite Murder). “It probably negates all the work I’ve done with meditation, but I love it,” she says with a laugh.
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What else is Danielle listening to:
Kombucha, known as “The Immortal Health Elixir” or “mushroom tea”, is a fermented beverage typically made from sweetened black or green tea. Kombucha’s claims to fame: promoting healthy digestion, detoxification, increased energy, immune system support, and joint health. (Danielle drinks two glasses a day from her home brewed kombucha kegerator and swears by the stuff.)
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But as the couple perfected their recipe over the next two years, they experimented with adding organic fruit juices and herbs to make the batch more palatable. This is the appeal to Elixir Kombucha: it comes in a variety of flavors like pineapple-ginger and blueberry-pomegranate that taste mildly sweet and refreshing, not as bitter or acidic as the raw product.
• Danielle listens to the meditation app called
• On Being with Krista Tippett is also another of
Buddhify that she purchased from iTunes for $5. This app leads practitioners through meditation practices. Danielle’s favorite wellness podcasts. “I like her calm speaking voice as she relates stories about things like how we carry tension in the body and EMDR [a psychotherapy used to reroute fearbased emotions].”
Corey, Danielle, and close friend Ryan Cheong haven’t quit their day jobs and take shifts brewing kombucha and selfpromoting. A year later, the product is now sold in over 30 stores and cafes including Whole Foods and all Rainbow Blossom stores. It was recently picked up by a distributor that is taking the product out of state.
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WORK ABROAD By Megan Seckman
Everyone tells me how to live my life. HOW CAN I TAKE CONTROL? By Joyce Oglesby
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JOYCE: Defy the unnatural.
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y the time this article is published, Sara Pitt, 28, will have lived in four new countries. In June, she learned to buy groceries and squeeze in a morning run in the coastal setting of Split, Croatia. In July, she learned to order food as a temporary resident of Budapest, Hungary. In August, Lisbon, Portugal became home. Sara, who grew up in Louisville, recently embarked on a year working abroad. Through the organization Remote Year, Sara and 50 other professionals will live and work together, each continuing their independent professions and
Your “normal” has apparently been defined for you — incapable. I encourage you to challenge the tendency to surrender to the unnatural state of allowing others to control you. As children, we need constant supervision, but it is not natural for healthy-minded parents to continue to regulate their children’s lives if they truly want to see them flourish. It is just as unnatural for children to desire to continue in that state. Begin the process with your mom and cut the cord. You can do this respectfully and kindly, but firmness will likely be necessary.
meeting their clients’ needs far from the office, as they travel around the world. In 12 months, they will work from 12 countries. When Sara decided to apply to Remote Year, what most appealed to her about this organization was the focus on community. As a remote web developer and a natural introvert who struggles with social anxiety, she found the idea of Remote Year liberating. “I know this is the group of people I’m going to spend a year with. It’s easier to be myself and lay it out there, to embrace being uncomfortable.”
Read more of Joyce’s strategies at TodaysWomanNow.com. Write to her about a relationship issue at justaskjoyce@gmail.com
Keep Moving By Ashli Findley Photo Patti Hartog
For most people, being able to breathe normally is taken for granted. Yet, Pamela “Jill” Whitehouse knows what it feels like to not be able to do so. “I’m very short of breath,” she says. “Lots of coughing, fatigue.” Pamela “Jill” Whitehouse has chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (COPD), which is a group of lung diseases that blocks airflow, making it difficult to breathe. This 64-year-old woman has come to grips with her terminal illness. “There is no cure, but you can take medication to keep it from progressing so far and [to] prolong your life,” Jill says. To those who may also struggle with COPD, her message is “Don’t give up hope. Keep moving. Keep exercising. Don’t give in to it because when you sit down, it will progress much faster.”
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When asked what has kept her going emotionally, she starkly responds, “My God. Absolutely. I talk to God every day, and He’s gonna carry me through whatever it is.” SEARCH: Pamela Whitehouse
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THE PERFECT COOKIE Photo Paige Rhodes
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hocolate chip cookies are perfect for the kiddos, but if you’re treating the adults, white chocolate macadamia nut is the way to go. These are soft, chewy, and slightly crisp to make sure that no cookie goes uneaten. Yield: 16 Cookies Cook Time: 12 mins Ingredients 2 and 1/4 cup all-purpose flour 1 tsp baking soda 1 and 1/2 tsp cornstarch 1/2 tsp salt 3/4 cup unsalted butter, melted 3/4 cup loosely packed light brown sugar 1/2 cup granulated sugar 1 large egg and 1 egg yolk 2 tsp vanilla extract 1 cup white chocolate chips 1/2 cup chopped macadamia nuts Instructions Whisk the flour, baking soda, cornstarch, and salt together in a large bowl. Set aside. In a medium bowl, whisk the melted butter, brown sugar, and granulated sugar together until smooth. Whisk in the egg, egg yolk, and vanilla extract. Pour the wet ingredients into the dry ingredients and mix together with a rubber spatula. Fold in the white chocolate chips and macadamia nuts until evenly distributed. Cover the dough and chill in the refrigerator for at least 3 hours. After it's chilled, remove the dough from the refrigerator and allow to slightly soften 10 minutes. While you wait, preheat oven to 325°F. Line two large baking sheets with parchment paper and set aside. Using a medium cookie scoop (highly recommended), scoop out balls of cookie dough. Place 8 balls of dough onto each cookie sheet. Do not press down, the height of the ball will prevent the cookies from spreading too much. Bake the cookies for 12 minutes. The cookies will look underbaked, but they're not. Allow them to cool on the cookie sheet for 10 minutes before transferring to a wire rack to cool completely.
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She Found the Perfect Bag By Brittani Dick Photos Sunni Wigginton
“I HAD BEEN STRUGGLING TO BALANCE ALL OF MY BAGS WITHOUT FALLING OVER...”
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tephanie Heeb, 29, co-founder and executive director of Executive Concierge, is the epitome of ambition and drive, and her resume absolutely screams girl boss. Stephanie and her company’s main mission is to work with any person, family, or business to assist with alleviating busy time. Running from meeting to meeting in heels is no easy task, especially when trying to balance an oversized purse and a heavy laptop bag. “I had been struggling to balance all of my bags without falling over or knocking someone else over,” she says. Stephanie finally found a solution she adores — a Furivy Unisex Oxford laptop backpack. “This bag allows me to carry everything safely and securely in one bag, which makes it so much easier when I’m on the go.”
Stephanie Heeb found an all-in-one solution to streamline all of the separate bags she carried with her during her busy day.
SHE TRIES TO DRESS HAPPY Story and photo by Miranda Popp
With a voice that’s recognizable for the energy it exudes, Chelsea Thomas is quickly becoming a beloved personality on the airwaves of 99.7 WDJX. As you can see, that bubbly energy is part of her whole look and can be seen in her personal style.
WHAT’S SHE LOVE? On most days, Chelsea’s standard go-to is a pair of white Converse, Vans, or Keds shoes, a bright pink shirt, and a flowy skirt. Her chosen profession allows creativity in her wardrobe. However, she says, “It’s tough when you get up at 4:30 in the morning.” For this reason, on workdays, she lays out her clothes the night before. Chelsea is a romantic at heart, loving pale pink, floral, lace, and things that make her feel happy. “I just want to look happy. Even when I have to go to a funeral, I wear pink because it makes others happy.” Radio Personality Chelsea Thomas likes to dress in cheerful colors.
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Women all over Louisville and Southern Indiana are working to support those who are dealing with a diagnosis of breast cancer. Women who were recently diagnosed and those who are long-time survivors share some thoughts that will help loving those with breast cancer and those fighting it.
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KIMBERLY ZINK
AGE 44 JOB UPS Administrative where I move aircraft parts logistically and coaches middle school girls basketball at Hazelwood (New Albany, Indiana) DIAGNOSIS Stage 3 breast cancer, and positive for BRCA 2 gene, January 2005 (32 years old) TREATMENTS Chemo and mastectomy, then bilateral mastectomy, complete hysterectomy and reconstruction HOW DO YOU COPE WITH STRESS When I would stress over this situation or any other situation I just breathe and exercise if I can. If something is bothering you, talk about it. Don’t hold things in, stress can wreak havoc on your body.
DEENA KLEEHAMER
AGE 68 JOB Takes care of granddaughters and granddogs DIAGNOSIS Stage 1 breast cancer and mastectomy at age 38, “Got a trick instead of a treat on halloween” October 31, 1987 ADVICE TO NEWLY DIAGNOSED WOMEN You have the love of your family and friends but you don’t have to face breast cancer alone. There are so many support groups out there. SUPPORT GROUP She started a breast cancer support group in 1991 at Floyd Memorial Hospital and led it for 14 years. “When you have women in a support group who can understand what you are sitting and going through, it truly makes a difference. I led the support group for 14 years before handing it over to a friend for another 10 years.” ADVICE YOU WOULD GIVE TO PEOPLE WITH LOVED ONES BATTLING BREAST CANCER Don’t be afraid to hold them, they won’t break. They are still the same person they were before they were diagnosed.
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I made beating cancer my job. I finished that job. Now it’s time for me to live. LILLIE PETTIT
AGE 61 JOB Automotive Manufacturing, Mitsuba of Bardstown DIAGNOSIS Triple Negative Invasive Ductal Carcinoma with Lymph Node involvement found at annual mammogram, August 6, 2015 TREATMENTS 23 weeks of Taxol Chemotherapy: once a week for 12 weeks and then every other week for 11 weeks. Followed by a lumpectomy with lymph node removal and 6 weeks of daily radiation. ADVICE YOU WOULD GIVE TO PEOPLE WITH LOVED ONES BATTLING BREAST CANCER Someone dealing with this diagnosis has so many things going through their mind and so many emotions, they won’t remember every detail of what the doctors and nurses are saying. Write it down for them. WHAT ARE CHANGES YOU MADE SO YOU COULD HEAL I read many books. It gave me the knowledge I needed to heal. The book I received from my doctor at Norton Hospital The Breast Cancer Handbook explained every detail of this journey. From diagnosis, treatments, to healthy eating and healing. Joan Lundens book Had I Known, I recommend to everyone. HOW DID YOU COPE WITH STRESS/FEAR Prayer and more prayer.
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AGE 80 JOB Retired DIAGNOSIS Stage one cancer deep within the breast. June 2004 ADVICE YOU WOULD GIVE TO NEWLY DIAGNOSED WOMEN I advise they rely on their on their faith. My surgeon told me that I did well because of a good attitude. HOW YOU DEALT WITH NEGATIVE THOUGHTS I simply prayed about it, and I had a good friend who had already gone through prostate cancer surgery, and he was able to walk me down the road of positivity to keep my faith stronger. I recommend not holding in your feelings; sharing my own was a relief and lessened the burden of the battle.
“A verse of scripture that helped me: Whatever state I am in I have learned to be content.”
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DEBRA ADAMS
“The lightswitch
to everything I fear switched off when enduring this.”
AGE 46 JOB Instructor for Red Cross DIAGNOSIS DCIS Carcinoma In-situ. I had gone to a general physician. They took blood and happened to do a breast exam, looking at the two lumps I had since I was 12. The results of a biopsy came back positive in February 2016 ADVICE YOU WOULD GIVE TO PEOPLE WITH LOVED ONES BATTLING BREAST CANCER Talk to them and be honest. Don’t run away or be afraid to ask questions. It’s better to go through horrible things with friends, who can laugh with you, take you to dinner, help with chores, or sit and watch TV.
SISTER MARY ‘RITA’ JOSEPH JARRELL,
AGE 73 JOB Chaplain of Hosparus Inpatient Center of Louisville, Norton Pavilion on the weekends — Works with Breast cancer patients DIAGNOSED With stage 2 adenocarcinoma at the age of 37 ADVICE YOU WOULD GIVE TO NEWLY DIAGNOSED WOMEN My mantra comes from the little engine that could: “I know I can.” Get yourself a mantra.
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AGE 52 JOB Auditor for Mountjoy Chilton and Medley DIAGNOSIS Breast Cancer Stage 0 HOW Detected in routine mammogram yearly, May 2017 TREATMENTS Bilateral mastectomy, due to also living with Cystic Fibrosis, I was already on a specialized diet. BEST THING SOMEONE DID FOR ME This is a tie between my neighbor who hired a housekeeper to help me, and my boss who was fantastic about schedule flexibility.
CHANGES YOU MADE Made a big change with holistic health and taking health classes regarding diet, proper food, positive thinking, exercise, and cognitive thinking. How you think about yourself has a direct influence on your immune system. Had a thyroid problem, and started taking vitamins. I am currently on a heavy regimen of vitamins, strict diet, and regulatory exercises.
HOW I DEALT WITH NEGATIVE THOUGHTS I concentrated on the positives of catching the disease early, along with having a great support system and keeping my outlook cancer free. I also have been able to laugh through it all and keep myself lighthearted. I try to stay lighthearted with everything and have humor throughout everything ADVICE YOU WOULD GIVE TO NEWLY DIAGNOSED WOMEN Surround themselves with support groups and know your body.
I always carry the empathy in my heart, and I don’t know how much longer I have, but I am being happy with each day. TODAY’S WOMAN
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TAMELA R. COOKE
AGE 52 JOB Human ResourcesEmployee Relations Specialist, Correct Care Solutions DIAGNOSIS Invasive Ductile Carcinoma Stage 1, January 4, 2016 TREATMENT Lumpectomy and radiation treatment ADVICE Don’t let it define who you are! Of course you have to make lifestyle changes. Live, laugh, and love yourself and the people around you! BEST THING SOMEONE DID FOR ME My daughter wrote me the most endearing note. She is my only child. We both got through this! I will forever keep that note as a reminder, of how strong I can forever be. CHANGES MADE I started eating right. Which in return helped me lose weight, which was great! I began reading up on things that I needed to remove from my daily food intake that may increase the chances of me getting cancer again.
“I pulled up my ‘Pink’ Big girl panties and began to do what I needed to do to fight this.”
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AGE 54 JOB Certified Pharmacy Technician, Kroger in La Grange DIAGNOSIS Stage 2 / Stage 3 Invasive Ductal carcinoma, March 2013 HOW I did a self exam, felt the lump. I was then sent for a mammogram that led to me getting a biopsy. ADVICE YOU WOULD GIVE TO PEOPLE WITH LOVED ONES BATTLING BREAST CANCER Be there for them, even if it is just sending a text message, a card, or a phone call. Sometimes being there is just as simple as listening. I had friends who cooked meals and brought them to me, some friends just came to visit and be there with me. As a patient it was nice to know I wasn’t forgotten when people visited or brought me meals and cards. It’s a big moral booster to find a card someone had sent me. I had to learn to let people do things for me.
HOW DID THIS CHANGE YOU I used to be just fine sitting in the back and not being the center of attention, but after my experience in fighting cancer, I began to find my voice and my courage. I have been able to help five friends with their battle with cancer. It helps knowing someone who has gone through it and come out ok. Cancer isn’t a death sentence, and I realize I am much stronger than I realized by participating in Derby City Dragons. I am getting stronger mentally and physically and facing my fears.
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Support Organizations for Breast Cancer Here are some of the organizations around the area that offer support for those who have been diagnosed with breast cancer.
AMERICAN CANCER SOCIETY cancer.org Facebook.com/American Cancer Society Louisville Twitter: @ACSLouisvilleKY
MICHELLE ANDERSON
AGE 42 JOB Registered Nurse, The Brook Hospital Dupont – Still working through Treatment DIAGNOSIS Stage 2 Breast Cancer and 4 Lymph nodes removed HOW First mammogram, February 22, 2017 TREATMENTS Chemo since May 1, 2017 BEST THING SOMEONE DID FOR YOU Whether it’s going out to eat or taking a walk in the park, it’s when someone comes and helps you take your mind off the battle you’re going through. DEAL WITH NEGATIVE THOUGHTS I have a coloring book with swear words in it that calms me down. COPE WITH STRESS/FEAR Stress and fear come together. Fear of what I would look like after the surgery. Fear of my identity based on the standards placed on women in today’s society. I am choosing to have a hysterectomy to eliminate risks of more cancer.
Purpose We research cancer and its causes to find more answers and better treatments; fight for lifesaving policy changes; provide everything from emotional support to the latest cancer information for those who have been touched by cancer. What to Expect Timely information about diagnosis, treatment and side effects through our website cancer.org or our 1.800 number (1.800.227.2345), which is answered 24/7/365; the Personal Health Manager toolkit, local support and education programs. Special Programs We partner with area hotels to secure free and/or reduced nights’ stay of lodging for those patients traveling into the area for treatment. The Look Good Feel Better program is a workshop for women going through cancer treatment to learn how to handle the physical side effects of treatment. Road to Recovery is a transportation service for patients. Volunteers provide their time and vehicles to deliver patients to treatment throughout Louisville. Reach to Recovery is a mentormentee program pairing patients undergoing cancer treatment with a survivor. How You Can Help
Cancer makes you feel like your entire life has been out of control.
Become a volunteer, make a tax-deductible donation, or participate in a fundraising event to help us save lives.
BAPTIST HEALTH CANCER CARE AT FLOYD 2210 Green Valley Road New Albany, Indiana Facebook.com/
BaptistFloyd Twitter: @BaptistFloyd
What to Expect We provide state-of-the-art services and equipment; a multidisciplinary team approach to coordinate the best available treatment options; information about ongoing cancer clinical trials and new treatment options. Special Programs Free, weekly Pink Ribbon Pilates classes to breast surgery patients. Cancer patients and their caregivers have the opportunity for free massage therapy services at the Center. Baptist Health Cancer Care at Floyd also has a High Risk Breast clinic that councils and provides testing for patients and families to discover their genetic risk for developing certain types of cancers including breast and tips for prevention. Support groups specifically for those battling breast cancer, at risk for developing breast cancer and newly diagnosed. How You Can Help
Donations can be made to the Floyd Memorial Foundation and directed to the Cancer Center at FloydFoundation.org or 812.949.5803.
GILDA’S CLUB LOUISVILLE 633 Baxter Avenue 502.583.0075 Facebook.com/ GildasClubLouisville Twitter: @GildasClubLou IG: gildasclublouisville
Purpose To provide free social and emotional support to men, women, and children in our community living with cancer — any type of cancer. What to Expect Support, both from fellow people living with cancer and from trained staff
(licensed mental health professionals). With a new cancer diagnosis comes an overwhelming amount of information and the necessity of making important treatment decisions. Open to Options is an evidence-based support that helps you think through the important initial conversations you will have with your oncologist and treatment team. First Steps Attend a Welcome 101 meeting held five times a month at various days and times. Then come back for a oneto-one meeting with one of our licensed mental health professionals to create a program of support that best fits your needs.
Special Programs
Provides support for the whole family, not just the person living with cancer. We are the only long-term support for children.
How You Can Help
Donating money, volunteering, referring people to our program, sharing about us with friends and family members.
HOPE SCARVES Facebook.com/ hopescarves Twitter: @hopescarves IG: Hopescarves
Mission Hope Scarves started in 2012 with the mission of sharing scarves, stories and hope with people facing cancer. We have sent over 7,000 scarves to different states and over 16 countries. What to Expect Anyone going through treatment can request a scarf at no cost. Each scarf comes wrapped with instructions on how to wrap the scarf, but also a story of the individual the scarf came from. First Steps A patient can go to hopescarves.org or >>> page 12
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TWISTED PINK Twistedpink.org Facebook.com/twistedpink.org Twitter: @curetwistedpink IG: twistedpinkorg
Purpose To accelerate outcomes of research to reach the patient quicker. Most people have never heard of Metastatic Breast Cancer (MBC). MBC is breast cancer that has spread beyond the breast to other organs. Breast cancer most commonly spreads to the brain, bone, liver or lungs. MBC is stage IV breast cancer and there is no cure. Distinguishing Factor Twisted Pink offers hope to all breast cancer patients with our commitment to fund research and to our continued fight to accelerate the pace of research and collaboration within cancer institutions. Research is 100% of what we do! How You Can Help Twisted Pink is a volunteer-driven organization. We encourage breast cancer survivors to join our movement by becoming an ambassador for the organization.
ROBIN KENNEDY
AGE: 54 JOB: Administrative Coordinator, Metro Government DIAGNOSIS: Breast Cancer Stage 1, May 2012 HOW: Detected in routine mammogram yearly TREATMENTS: Two Lumpectomies in May of 2012 and again in June 2012; July a double mastectomy. Insurance covered it, only on right side. August TRAM Flap Bilateral Reconstruct. BEST THING SOMEONE DID FOR ME: They gave me my space when I needed to accept what I was going through and didn’t overwhelm me with their experiences or traumatic events.
SUPPORT GROUPS: Gilda, Norton’s Pink Pilates exercise class, Kentucky African American Association of Cancer through James Brown. Friends for Hope. BEST THING SHE DID FOR HERSELF: Made myself volunteer with support groups, and I surrounded myself with those who had walked in my shoes where we raised each other up.
UOFL BROWN CANCER CENTER FACEBOOK.COM/UOFLBROWNCANCERCENTER/ TWITTER: @UOFLBCC IG: @UOFLBCC
Purpose To provide the latest type of cancer treatments, state-of-theart multidisciplinary care and, as an academic medical center at the forefront of medical research, access to innovative clinical trials. What to Expect A newly-diagnosed breast cancer patient can expect personalized care from our multidisciplinary breast care team. Our team of academic subspecialists meet weekly to discuss each case before treatment begins. First Steps Call 502.562.4673 to set up an appointment. Next-day appointments may be available to newly-diagnosed patients. Special Programs HER Breast Cancer Program that provides support to young women with breast cancer. Also multiple support groups, art therapy, massage therapy, a program for children, massage, Reiki therapy. How You Can Help Volunteer! To learn more about volunteer opportunities visit uoflhospital.org/volunteerinformation.
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WAYS TO COMBAT CHRONIC PAIN — FROM THE FIGHTERS By Brittani Dick Photos by Aubrey Hillis
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ealing with chronic pain is both physically and emotionally draining, and can seriously hinder your everyday life. Read how these five women fight to cope with chronic pain. Diet and Workouts Kelly Grimes Dettlinger, a 34-yearold mother of two, depends on healthy eating, consistent exercise, and a decent amount of sleep to keep her pain levels at bay. Kelly eats lots of fresh fruits and vegetables, and credits some of her success with healthy meal planning to Blue Apron and Home Chef. Her job requires her to sit at a desk on most days, so she uses an under-desk cycle to keep her body active. She also uses low-impact elliptical workouts and hand weights for at-home training. Kelly uses Epsom salt baths for “bad joint” days, and tries to maintain a positive attitude no matter what chronic pain decides to throw her way. Traditional and Alternative Medicine Courtney Grant, 28, suffers from chronic pain that stems from two main sources — Crohn’s disease, an inflammatory bowel disease, and degenerative disc disease, which involves the degeneration of discs of the vertebrae. Courtney admits that her pain is most effectively controlled by traditional medicines, but alternative treatments help as well. When her busy schedule permits, she attends physical therapy sessions and receives a number of injections including trigger point injections and facet injections. She’s also participated in a radio frequency procedure, which involves heating the nerve to a degree in which it no longer sends or receives pain impulses. Courtney also has a few other tricks to controlling the pain. “I have personally found that stretching and sleeping with my feet elevated are two easy things I can do at home to help alleviate the pain.” Balanced Approach Bonnie Manning, 50, credits adequate amounts of water, fruits, and vegetables for keeping her chronic pain in check. On her “good” days, she incorporates pool exercise. “The water is easier on
Kelly Grimes Dettlinger includes healthy eating as part of her plan to reduce chronic pain.
my muscles,” she says. “But everything must be balanced. If I overdo it, I will end up with a flare.” Bonnie says extended exposure to heat can also cause flare up and fatigue, so she has learned to communicate her needs during family outings when she requires a means of escape. She takes multiple herbal supplements such as planetary myelin sheath support, papaya enzymes, turmeric, evening primrose, magnesium, and vitamin D in liquid plant form.
When the pain is unbearable, traditional medications such as Gabapentin and steroids have proven to pull her out of several flare-ups. Protein drinks, fresh juice, and inspirational literature are also in her arsenal of weapons against chronic pain. “When I am too exhausted to do much, I lie in bed and write on my laptop,” Bonnie states. “Writing is very therapeutic for me and gives me a feeling of accomplishment.” page 34 >>> TODAY’S WOMAN / OCT 2017
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Meditation Holly Pardo, 50, admits that recognizing her triggers for causing a flare has helped her more effectively cope with chronic pain. Her triggers for her interstitial cystitis include citrus fruits, carbonated beverages, spicy foods, stress, and overexposure to heat. “I try to avoid the things I know will cause my pain to increase. Heat and stress are a little more difficult to avoid. I love being outside, working or playing in the yard. I have to be sure to come in for cooling off, and I have to make sure I wear clothes that don’t hold heat,” she says. “For stress, I meditate. It does wonders, and I recommend it for those dealing with chronic pain and those who are not. It is a wonderful tool that allows me to feel centered and positive, and even allows me to feel like I have some control over my body and life.” In addition to meditation, avoiding trigger points, and exercise, Holly also takes daily maintenance medications to cope with chronic pain. Water Therapy Cheryl Suhr, 68, suffers from osteoarthritis, a kind of arthritis that involves the wearing down of the flexible tissue at the ends of bones. Aside from enduring 23 orthopedic surgeries to deal with her chronic pain, Cheryl recommends water therapy, ice, and rest to further cope. “I do water therapy every day,” she says. “I participated in water therapy classes at Baptist Health Milestone Wellness Center to learn what I should do. I’m very fortunate to have an indoor pool at my house, which I keep at 90 degrees. Warm water is good for arthritis. Since my back is my main issue, I also lie down with my legs up when it is at its worst. I read a lot of books on my iPad so I can lie still for longer.”
ABOVE: Holly Pardo has interstitial cystitis and meditates to manage stress. RIGHT: Courtney Grant mixes traditional medicines with alternative treatments to manage Crohn’s disease and degenerative disc disease.
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What the Experts Say Dr. Alan Bee, Doctor of Chiropractic at Active Health — According to Dr. Bee, reducing inflammation plays a huge role in controlling a patient’s chronic pain. “By improving motion in the patient, you increase blood flow and ultimately reduce inflammation,” he says. “The combination of chiropractic manipulative therapy and myofascial release technique (also known as “active release technique”) has been successful in treating and managing chronic pain.” Tonya Phillips, Owner/Instructor at PM Yoga — As a yoga instructor, Tonya leads students dealing with chronic pain on a daily basis. “It’s incredible to see how yoga helps them,” she says. Tonya says consistency is key for all students, but especially those dealing with chronic pain. “Practicing yoga several times a week is crucial. The increased circulation and blood flow alone keeps them active.” She stresses to her students the importance of moving in ways that honor the body, finding the appropriate class, and finding the breath. “The breath is so important,” she says. “It’s the first element of a yoga practice and it trumps all poses. The breath can help ease pain, bring clarity, calm anxiety, and relax the body.”
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I ESCAPED THE SEX INDUSTRY — AFTER 35 YEARS
“I NO LONGER LIVE IN THE DARK. I HAVE A PLACE TO STAY AND THE SUPPORT TO HANDLE ALL THAT COMES.”
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Mary Frances was pulled into the sex and adult entertainment industry when she was only 15 years old.
Debunking Myths About Sex Work MYTH: It’s a choice. “Young girls don’t choose this life. They are usually introduced by a pimp or a perpetrator. The girls are starved for attention and he does nice things, makes them feel special.” MYTH: It’s for extra money. Mary says that maybe one in 100 women are stripping to pay for school, Christmas gifts, or things their kids need. “I’ve never seen anyone thrive from the sex industry. If a pimp
or perp isn’t taking the money from them, it’s squandered away. We don’t make the money that people think. I rarely had enough for food or a taxi.” MYTH: Strippers are beautiful, young, and glamourous. “I’ve worked with women who are nearly 70, and a girl as young as 12. These women tend to have drinking or drug problems, or someone is pounding on them.” A point of pride that Mary mentioned is
that she still has all her teeth; that’s very unusual. MYTH: She can just walk away. “I guess we all tell ourselves we will get out, but you get stuck. It’s a dark secret that you can’t tell anyone. You are numb inside, carrying the shame of what’s become of you. I was once sold to 30 people in one day. You’re no longer the person you once knew and simply can’t see yourself anywhere else.”
hen Mary Frances was 15, her neighbor “Dirty” recruited her into the sex and adult entertainment industry. He bought her ice cream and promised to marry her one day. He did come back but not for marriage. Dirty pulled Mary into the sex trade where she remained for the next 35 years. “It all began with a milkshake,” Mary says. “I was a hungry kid with alcoholic parents. He told me what I wanted to hear, and I followed him.” After surviving decades of abuse and exploitation, Mary escaped the sex trade at the age of 50. Now, seven years later, Mary Frances shares her story in the hopes of shedding light on the growing problem of human trafficking. Mary tried many times to break away. She sought therapy, counseling, education, and even got a “real” job, but each time she went back. “I hated myself and what I was doing. I felt worthless and couldn’t quite function in society with all those secrets. I didn’t feel right anywhere,” Mary says. She vividly remembers when she began to feel hopeful that things could change for her. “I was living in a shack in someone’s back yard. I stayed beyond my shift in the strip club hoping to earn enough money for some food. I was at the end of my rope. But then the ‘church ladies’ came in,” Mary says. These women were volunteers with Scarlet Hope, a ministry in Louisville offering support to women in the adult entertainment industry. For Mary, Scarlet Hope proved to be the answer she was seeking. “I remember asking them for a prayer. They gave me food; they fed all of us. I decided to trust them and trust in Jesus. I found community and fellowship and began to let go of some of the shame I’d felt for so long,” Mary says. In her efforts to raise awareness and help others to escape sex work, Mary works to dispel some of the myths around the adult entertainment industry and human trafficking. She speaks about what a difference it would have made if someone would have stepped forward to protect her when she was a teenager, if someone would have noticed she wasn’t going to school. Mary says, “There are red flags, but someone has to see them and do something. I’d like to do my small part to help by educating the public.”
You can learn more about Mary’s brave story in her book A Harlot’s Cry: One Woman’s Thirty-Five Year Journey through the Sex Industry.
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MATCH YOUR CLOTHES TO YOUR JOB SEARCH
Photo Melissa Donald
HER WORK WARDROBE
By Keri Foy Photo Sunni Wigginton
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olly Blackwell is between jobs. Coming from a sales representative position at a pharmaceutical company, Holly knows how to dress for corporate America. But her job hunt isn’t totally focused on ones that require power suits. Holly is entertaining the thought of taking this time as an opportunity to switch careers toward a more creative role. Basically, she’s open to what’s out there. “I’ve been in sales for so long, I’m not opposed to starting something new,” says Holly, whose previous employer was bought out. While Holly may be open-minded when it comes to her next career move, she sticks to hard and fast standards regarding interview attire and style. “If it’s a pharmaceutical interview, I’ll wear a suit with no embellishments,” Holly says. “A good fabric with great tailoring. I would do pendant earrings and a watch. No necklace.” Holly has good reasons for her nononsense style for this type of interview. She once referred a woman for a pharmaceutical position who didn’t make the cut. One reason was her attire.
It’s not unusual for Holly to buy a piece she loves and have it altered. Her favorite tailor is Cavalier Alterations in Louisville. “[The tailor] is my goto. He makes clothes look like they were meant for me,” Holly says. “It’s worth the money.”
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“[The hiring manager] was offended she wore a light-colored suit,” Holly says. Conservative dress seems to be the pharmaceutical industry preference. Now, if Holly is going for a creative role, a suit isn’t a must. “You have to match what it is that you’re going for,” Holly says. She says she will wear fresh hues, bold prints, classic pieces mixed with the trends, classic black and white, and monochromatic dresses and blouses. “I go for a sleek silhouette,” Holly says.
Whitney Whitehead is purchasing her home through The Fuller Center.
She’s Making Plans for the Future The founders of the homebuilding charity — Millard Fuller and his wife Linda — split with Habitat for Humanity to give birth to The Fuller Center for Housing in 2005. Built on the same philosophy, The Fuller Center offers a grassroots approach to building and renovating homes, extending its services to 16 countries and several pockets of the United States. One of those pockets happens to be Louisville, and one of the people who can speak on the success of the program is Whitney Whitehead. After expressing her concern about her dangerous living quarters to her director, he advised Whitney to fill out an application to purchase a home. “I have been impressed with everyone’s diligence in their involvement to help me move forward with the program. Many times, I’ve asked questions to check on my status, and their patience is remarkable.” — Brigid Morrissey
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N e w Fr i e n d ? By Marie Bradby Photos Melissa Donald
You’ve probably heard the phrase, “Change your friends, change your life.”
We all need to make new friends at certain times in our lives, whether it’s because we’ve moved, gotten a new job, or the kids have spread their wings and flown out of the nest. The one constant that we can rely on in life is change. Just when we think a good day will last forever, everything can flip in an instant: new responsibilities, new surroundings, new family dynamics, new health challenges. Friends are there to pick us up, because as Maya Angelou said, “Nobody, but nobody can make it out here alone.” Here are three women’s tips on making new friends.
When Your Circumstances Change
Livinia Dukes, 48, has sent her child off into the world. She’s at a point in her life when a lot of women are looking for new friends to hang out with now that they aren’t as tied down with childrearing. A nurse and program manager for the Christian Care Communities Adult Day Center, Livinia is one of the lucky ones. She followed her son’s interests and sports throughout his growing years, and made friends with the parents of
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her son’s friends and teammates and has maintained those people as her best friends. “My friendships blossomed through my son,” Livinia says. “He did it all. He played football, basketball, ran track, and so it was kind of like we all started out when they were 7 and 8 years old. I have known most of the parents since our children were elementary kids. We traveled when they had to go to AAU basketball — all over the country — Las Vegas and Florida. That’s how we all became friends. When he was in high school and college, everyone came to our house. “Actually, our friendships have bonded closer as the kids left. We go out and have girls’ night. We go to concerts.” Childhood and other friends are still important to her. “I have a lot of other friends from childhood. The place where I’ve met a lot of my newer friends is through my church, because I work with
the youth. I’ve met some really good women through our women’s ministry and working with the kids. We’ve bonded pretty well. They still have kids in the house, but we go out for lunch and dinner. “My advice to others would be to get involved in an organization or volunteer somewhere. You can develop a lot of friendships through that by having the same interests. “Friendships are very special. You have to nurture them like you do anything else. We get so busy, we don’t check on people. Sometimes people are going through something that you don’t know about. When someone comes across my mind, I call them. A lot of times when that happens something is going on with that person that you didn’t know about.” Livinia offers advice on how to keep a friend: Don’t judge. “A true friend is nonjudgmental, regardless of what’s >>> page 42
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(L-R) Quintessa Starks, Tracey Brundage Williams, Kara Atkins, Marian Cheatman, and Livinia Dukes always make time for a night out together.
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Gina Stipo (L) is in Louisville largely due to friendship and support from Barb and Bill Juckett
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Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.
going on with that person. We’ve all made mistakes and done things we shouldn’t have done. Your job is to encourage that person.” Don’t get caught up in gossip. “When someone brings you mess or trash, you can stop it right there. Tell them, ‘That was your experience with that person, that’s not my experience.’ I tell them I won’t get involved. I’ve been in situations where people have said things that aren’t even true. People make up stuff sometimes. My real friends will say, ‘Don’t bring me that stuff.’” Don’t get involved with naysayers. “We shouldn’t get distracted by negative people. It can flip you into someone else. You cannot worry about what people say, or what they did. Naysayers can stop you from what you need to do. People can dislike you, but it’s not going to harm you. That’s what’s going on in the world. People are getting caught up in what people are saying. That’s why we have all this violence.”
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— Oprah Winfrey
When You’re a Newcomer
You might think you are going to Chef Gina Stipo’s At the Italian Table restaurant on Frankfort Avenue just for the down-home Italian food. But chances are that by the end of the meal — served community-style at two tables of 10 with just one reservationsonly nightly seating, — you will have made new friends. “I let everybody know ahead of time what is going to happen, and I give them an aperitivo to relax them,” says
Gina, 59, an Italian-American who has lived and worked in Italy and is a newcomer to Louisville. “Often it’s a couple here, a couple there, and I put them together at a table. They have a wonderful time having dinner together. We are in the kitchen, listening to people talk who didn’t even know each other two hours ago. They are saying, ‘When can we get together again?’ They are making friends at the table. “I have a knack for making people feel like we have been friends for a long time.” After living in Siena for 13 years, where she had a cooking school and led culinary tours for international clientele, Gina moved back to America four years ago. Three years ago, she settled in Louisville, which she first visited in 2009 to do a fundraising dinner for the Italian Cultural Institute of Louisville and fell in love with the city. She found herself having to make new friends but didn’t realize it would happen the instant she entered Bluegrass country. >>> page 44
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LaPrecious Brewer (center) found new friendships with co-workers after starting a new job.
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“Bill and Barb Juckett brought me to Louisville in 2009,” Gina says. “They were heading up a fundraising dinner for the Italian Cultural Institute. I flew from Italy to Cincinnati, rented a car and met them at the Pewee Valley Starbucks off I-71. We were just talking like we had known each other forever. We sat on their back deck until 2am drinking wine.” A native of metropolitan Washington, D.C., Gina still does her culinary tours of Italy. In mid June, she flew to Italy to meet a group for a one-week tour in Piedmont and another group for a week in Siena. Once an assistant asked how she handled meeting up with strangers for tours. “I overcame that by pretending I am their friend,” she says. “I assume they have the same level of discomfort that I have. I present it like we have been friends for a long time. That makes them more comfortable.” For one night, she will invite all her Italian friends along for dinner with the tour group. “I have very good friends in Italy,” Gina says. “They are all Skyping me and sending me messages: ‘How can we get together?’ So, the second night we are in the villa, I’m cooking dinner and have invited my good friends. It’s a way to see my friends because otherwise, I won’t have time for them.”
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The secret to making new friends in a new place? “Don’t be afraid to go out and meet people. It’s a matter of putting yourself out there. Sometimes that’s hard. Just remember a lot of people have a hard time putting themselves out there. “Friends are just people you can trust. They are there for you. If you are in a bad mood, they will cut you some slack.”
When Starting a New Career
Even before LaPrecious Brewer started her new job as a communications and marketing coordinator with the Masonic Homes of Kentucky, she knew she needed to make new friends. Life was hectic. She was finishing her bachelor’s degree at the University of Louisville and working as a communications intern. “My friendships died off around my junior year,” says LaPrecious, 25, a former Miss Black Kentucky. “They were not bad people, but I was just going in a different direction in life. Some people only see where they are in life. I was never that person. I worked myself a lot and didn’t have time to hang out. There are things that you have to mature on.” With the Masonic Homes celebrating its 150th anniversary, LaPrecious has been working steadily. “We are having events like crazy, so there’s no time for
me to get out and do much, even with friendships I was able to hold onto.” A lot of her new friendships have been with co-workers. “I have such a great family where I work, and I have learned to adjust with friends as coworkers. It’s helped me grow as a person. “I was scared at first being the youngest in the corporate office and the first African-American. But everyone embraced me. As you have projects, you become closer to your team.” Several marketing team members helped her celebrate her birthday. Before you build new friendships, you have to know yourself, La Precious says. “That way you are presenting the real person to them.” But be selective. “You don’t want random people eating up your energy.” Then you have to work hard to maintain friendships. “Be open to new experiences, new people.” She consciously makes time for her non-work friends. “I can hang out and do fun things, but it has to be planned a week or so in advance. We all have busy schedules with events or family responsibilities; our time is not as open as it used to be. It’s not as frequent. It’s not about the quantity, but about the quality of time you spend. It’s fun catching up, cheering them on from afar, seeing how everyone’s grown, the accomplishments they have made.”
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DEBRA LYNN LIVELY
AGE 62 JOB Technology Manager for Humana WORKOUT SPOT Outfit Louisville, Humana Fitness Center, Blairâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Ballroom HER PASSION During my late teens and early twenties, I developed an eating disorder. I gained lots of weight and started looking for ways to get help and started exercise classes. I found that working out helped to control my appetite and thereby my weight and to top it off, I felt much better after exercising. It was a win/win on so many levels. Exercise has helped and continues to help improve the quality of my life over the years. BIG WIN Twice this year, I bicycled 62 miles, which is the longest distance I have ever cycled. Once was during the Horsey Hundred cycling event in Lexington, Kentucky and the second time was on a cycling event in New Mexico which I did with my son, Richard. BEST WORKOUT I strength train, ride a bicycle, do yoga and dance. They all bring wonderful gifts to our bodies, but strength training is essential to building and retaining muscle as we age. Strength training gives me the confidence to meet the demands of work and family.
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THROW A MODERN By Lauren Dahl and Paige Rhodes
A
crisp evening Halloween party is the perfect occasion for a dark and moody color palette. Playful ghoulish details like spiders, webs, and fog will set the Halloween tone. Modern white dishes and an un-cluttered table helps bring the glam. Tonight is the night to embrace the black lipstick, eccentric attire, and indulge in all things Halloween.
Sleepy Hollow Cocktail Ingredients
1 1/2 parts vodka 1 part blue curacao 1 part sweet and sour mix 1 part grenadine 1 part cran-grape juice 1 chunk of dry ice*
Instructions
Combine vodka, blue curacao, sweet and sour mix, grenadine, and cran-grape juice in a cocktail shaker filled with ice. Shake until combined. Place 1 small chunk dry ice into the bottom of your glass of choice. Pour the cocktail mix over the very small piece of dry ice and fill almost to the top, leaving room for the ‘fog’ to roll out of your drink. Add a few ice cubes, if desired. NOTE: DO NOT ingest the dry ice cubes. Wait until they have dissolved COMPLETELY before drinking. Use caution and proper handling of dry ice. *Dry ice is for special effect only. It can easily be omitted if you desire.
Chocolate Caramel Corn Cupcakes Ingredients
For the cupcakes 3/4 cup all-purpose flour 1/2 cup unsweetened cocoa powder 3/4 tsp baking powder 1/2 tsp baking soda 1/4 tsp salt 2 large eggs, at room temperature 1/2 cup granulated sugar 1/2 cup packed light brown sugar 1/3 cup vegetable oil 2 tsps pure vanilla extract 1/2 cup buttermilk, at room temperature For the frosting 1 cup unsalted butter, softened to room temperature 3 and 1/2 cups confectioners' sugar 1/2 cup unsweetened cocoa powder 3 tbsps heavy cream or milk 1/4 tsp salt 2 tsps vanilla extract Black sprinkles (optional) Orange food coloring ¼ cup store-bought caramel sauce 1 bag store-bought caramel corn
Instructions
Preheat the oven to 350°F. Line a 12-cup muffin pan with cupcake liners. Set aside.
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& MOODY HALLOWEEN PARTY Whisk the flour, cocoa powder, baking powder, baking soda, and salt together in a large bowl until thoroughly combined. Set aside. In a medium bowl, whisk the eggs, granulated sugar, brown sugar, oil, and vanilla together until completely smooth. Pour half of the wet ingredients into the dry ingredients. Then add half of the buttermilk. Gently whisk for a few seconds. Repeat with the remaining wet ingredients and buttermilk. Stir until just combined; do not overmix. Pour or spoon the batter into the liners, filling halfway. Bake for 18-21 minutes, or until a toothpick inserted in the center comes out clean. Allow to cool completely before frosting.
Chocolate Caramel Corn Cupcakes
To make the frosting, fit a stand mixer with a paddle attachment and beat the butter on medium speed until creamy, about 2 minutes. Add confectioners' sugar, cocoa powder, heavy cream, salt, and vanilla extract with the mixer running on low. Increase to high speed and beat for 3 full minutes. You can add up to 1/2 cup more confectioners' sugar if frosting is too thin or another tablespoon of cream if the frosting is too thick. Pipe or spread the frosting onto cooled chocolate cupcakes. Top with black sprinkles, if desired. Add a few drops of orange food coloring to caramel sauce and drizzle over frosted cupcakes. Add a small handful of caramel corn to each cupcake, pushing the popcorn into the buttercream slightly. Serve immediately.