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Intro/On the Cover

Whatâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Happening on TodaysFamilyNow.com

Beautiful Baby Contest Entries

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Family Wellness: Is It Time to Say Goodbye to Your Pediatrician?

In Our Family: Maintaining Family Connections Across the World and at Home

Parenting Dilemmas: What Would You Do? Technology By Barb Hartman

By Carrie Vittitoe

DIY: Confetti Glasses By Miranda Popp

Are You an Angel or Devil Parent? By Stacy Westray Tackett

Things to Do

Teen Talk: How to Communicate in a Texting World

Before We Go

By Kim Seidel

By Tiffany White

on the cover She Loves Her Bath Lilly Ann Flynn, age 9 months, loves taking baths, to the point that she protests loudly when the bath is over. Lilly’s parents, Jill and Tim Flynn, have been acquiring parenting skills since their son Isaac, almost 3, was born. Their parenting methods might vary a little from first to second child — they say with their first child the activities were more directed than they are with their second. We asked Jill what she thought they were doing right as parents. “I’m not for sure that I am doing anything right as a parent!” says Jill. “I always second guess myself, but I would say that Isaac has a love for literature [they have been reading books since he was born], and we are trying to instill that in Lilly as well. The other thing is making the Lord part of our everyday life. Although we don’t have big theological discussions with our children, I try to talk about the things that God does for us and how blessed we are. I want Isaac and Lilly to grow up knowing that Jesus loves them and that they are very blessed to have what they have. I really want them to have grateful hearts.”

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“” Family is the nest in which the soul is born, nurtured, and released into life. — Thomas Moore

f I could create such a nest — a safe haven for us all, a light-filled, sacred place in which we might celebrate life’s small, authentic joys — that I knew, would be accomplishment enough. These words held out an invitation to go in search of something more, for myself and my family: a richer menu of sensory experiences, a more deliberate shape of our days, a more conscious appreciation for the moment at hand, and a deeper respect for the inner life. If I took the time to notice things along the way, to really settle into my own life without rushing ahead, it might be easier to weather the inevitable changes and challenges that came my way. And if we could find our own rhythm as a family, and follow it, we might discover just what is essential and meaningful in our lives.

— Written in Mitten Strings for God by Katrina Kenison Tim, Jill, Isaac and lilly Flynn of jeffersonville, ind. Photo: emily Burke, emily kay studio, emilykaystudio.com

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Parenting Dilemmas

Parental Panel

What Would You Do? Y

our second-grader tells you that she’s been giving the snack s out of her lunch to a k id on the bus for months — she started doing it because she felt sorr y for the k id, but now the k id seems to expect it. She isn’t sure how to stop it and is ask ing for your advice. What do you do? I would be direct with my child and say that although it’s nice to share every once in a while, it’s not okay to continue this sharing because it has turned into something more serious than just sharing. I would emphasize to my child that you have to stand up for yourself and not let another child try to make you do things that you don’t want to do. — Erin Nevitt

This would be a perfect opportunity to utilize the school counselor for they are equipped with plenty of “social stories” and role-playing tools that can help a child fully understand a situation. We’ve had a lot of good experiences with school administrators and counselors in dealing with situations like this. — John G. Warren I would speak to the school. I need to be sure this child doesn’t have a health condition, such as food allergy or diabetes that could be negatively impacted by whatever I have sent. If the student comes from a home with little resources, I would send double (healthy) snacks. If the student comes from a home with resources, I would only send double snacks sometimes and instruct my child to only provide snacks if she has two, because, “Mommy said I can’t give this out.” It’s a nice lesson on sharing. — Beth Keeney

Barb Hartman Mother of 12-year-old girl, and two boys, ages 9 and 7

Beth Keeney Mother of two girls, ages 5, 1

our 11th grader has an essay on Moby Dick due for English class tomorrow. Not only hasn’t he written it, he hasn’t finished reading the book . This essay is worth about 1/4 of his semester grade, and this teacher automatically k nock s off a letter grade for each day it’s late. What do you do? Nothing. If he hasn’t learned by 11th grade to be responsible for his actions, or lack of actions, he needs to suffer the backlash. — Barb Hartman

our fourth grader is learning to do division in an entirely different way from the way you learned it. When she needs help, she goes on YouTube. You offer to help; she says you don’t do it the right way. What do you do? You can’t teach your child the way you did it because the teacher is the one working with her every day. You need to step back and let your child figure it out. If YouTube has a video showing him how it works, let her do it. If she can’t figure it out, make her take the first steps towards working with her teacher to get help. But don’t talk for her. She needs to be comfortable conversing with adults in her life. — Barb Hartman Kentucky now has a new standard called “The Common Core.” This new standard is much tougher than what we had as kids, and with Kahn Academy and Youtube at their disposal we need to keep in constant contact with their teachers to ensure they are really learning to the new Kentucky “Common Core” Standards. — John G. Warren

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t’s a rainy Saturday and you’ve got stuff to do. A k id shows up on your doorstep, and though you recognize him, you don’t really k now him, and you don’t k now his parents at all. He ask s to come in and play with your k id. What do you do?

I don’t let my kids play with just anybody. I know every child my child plays with, and try to know the parents before getting them together. If a child that I did not know and my child barely knew showed up on my doorstep, I would tell the child to get on home and maybe if we met the parents some time, they could get together then. Since it’s raining, I “might” offer to take him home. — Erin Nevitt The more the merrier! I like having the house kids in the neighborhood flock to. My parents always did, and it made for a happy and active home. Depending on the age, however, I would confirm the child’s parent(s) knew where they were. — Beth Keeney

Veda Pendleton McClain Mother of 5 children, ages 32, 30, 28, 26, 18

Erin Nevitt Mother of 9-year-old girl and 1-year-old boy

John G. Warren Father of three girls, ages 11, 9, 5

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Parenting Dilemmas

What Would You Do? A

parent volunteer for your third grader ’s class gives you the creeps. You’ve just found out that your k id is in her small group reading circle that meets outside the classroom each week . What do you do?

I would most likely go to my child’s teacher and explain that I have a funny, off kilter, gut feeling about this parent that just rubs me the wrong way. If they are meeting outside the classroom, I would ask that my child be placed in a different reading group. I look out for my own, no matter if it might be viewed negatively by others. — Erin Nevitt In order to address my concerns, I would seek permission from the principal and the teacher to come and observe the small reading group. I would pay attention with an open mind, take notes, and ask questions after the observation is

our ninth grader ’s ar t project comes in 2nd in a school competition. Ever yone says your k id’s piece should have won. People are saying she won because the other k id’s mother is the president of the PTA and has the principal on a shor t chain. What do you do? completed. In the process of observing, I would question myself as to what gives me the creeps about this person. If I observe inappropriate behaviors, I would address them immediately to the classroom teacher and the principal and ask that my child be re-assigned to another reading group. — Veda Pendleton McClain I would never allow my child to be alone with an adult who gave me the creeps. I would discuss my concerns with the school and would firmly explain my expectations. I never ignore the little voice sending alarm bells off in my head. — Beth Keeney

our 8th-grader ’s coach won’t let her play in the games ver y much because she’s not ver y good. Recently when you came early to pick her up from practice you think you heard the coach yell “ Whassa matter, you got grass for brains? ” to her. What do you do?

Unless our child was on the Romanian Gymnastic Team, I would have a real problem with any coach that would not let all kids on a team play. We try to be really careful, for sports can be a doubleedged sword when building esteem. If our child doesn’t understand what makes a winner then we have the wrong coach. — John G. Warren No matter what the situation, no coach has the right to speak to my child using such demeaning language. I would immediately approach the coach (that same day) and ask for an explanation of those comments. I would share with the coach that more professional language is expected of her/him as a leader and role model for the students and that those comments amount to a form of bullying called taunting. As for my child, I would tell her how special she is and have a candid discussion about her feelings about the sport as well as the coach. I would encourage her to complete this season of playing the sport, but to think seriously about her participation in the next year. — Veda Pendleton McClain, Ph.D.

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They’re my friends! What else are they going to say? I’m going to hug my kid, tell her I’m proud of her. Make sure not to talk smack about the other kid’s project or mother because that is bad form and move on. There will be venues in life where you are judged on merit alone but just as many where “who you know” can be a bonus. There will be more appropriate times to discuss this fact with my daughter that don’t involve her forming negative opinions about this child or her mother. — Barb Hartman Understanding the politics of the relationship between the president of the PTA and the principal, I would ask the principal for documentation as to how the projects were scored. As for my child, we would have a discussion about politics and the unfairness that life sometimes throws our way and plan for the next year’s competition. — Veda Pendleton McClain, Ph.D. Really, it doesn’t matter if my kid should’ve won. Absent blatant scheming, I would simply congratulate my child for completing such a fantastic project. Sometimes in life we draw the short stick. That’s just life. I am a firm believer that not winning can teach you just as much, if not more, than winning. — Beth Keeney

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our sixth-grader is falling behind in math. He says the teacher doesn’t like him. The teacher tells you that he’s hit his max potential in the subject. What do you do? I would schedule an appointment with the teacher and ask her what information she is basing her statement on. I would ask for her support in making him successful and not placing limitations on him. I would talk to my son and tell him that the only way his achievements can be maximized is by the amount of effort he puts forth. If I am convinced he is trying his hardest and he is still struggling, it is time to get additional help. Taking him out of the class — unless I feel that the teacher is incompetent — is not an option. He needs to learn to stand up to these challenges and work to succeed. His opinion of himself needs to be the one that counts, not mine or the teacher’s. — Barb Hartman If my child had been doing well in math and then all of a sudden started falling behind, I would have to step in and have a conference with the teacher, and perhaps take it further to a conference with the principal. Sometimes, especially at the middle school level, we just don’t get enough of the whole scenario from our kids and we have to involve others at the school to find out more. If I sensed that the teacher really did not like my child and was just not challenging her, I would request for a different atmosphere for my child, to see if she has in fact hit her potential or if she just needs a different teaching style. — Erin Nevitt

We would think the teacher has hit his max potential, not our child, if such statements were relayed to us. A teacher should supply additional material and support for any student who is struggling. — John G. Warren No one has the right to make such statements about my child’s ability to perform in the classroom in any subject, and I would ask the teacher to refrain from making such comments with regard to my child’s performance. I would remind the teacher of the Professional Code of Ethics for teachers with regard to making such comments to a student. I would also have a conversation with my child about what he perceives are his struggles in mathematics and would work together on finding a plausible solution to filling his achievement gaps in mathematics. I would also make sure that he understands his potential in learning anything, even mathematics. — Veda Pendleton McClain, Ph.D. today’s FAMILY

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TE C H N O LO G Y Can’t ignore it. Technology drives me batty. But adolescent social lives revolve around it.

By Barb Hartman

ecently I learned some valuable lessons regarding the management of my tween’s access to and use of her iPod Touch and various online accounts she had been allowed to open. I thought I had been proactive in limiting their number and maintaining regular visits to each forum to monitor. That was not enough and an adolescent drama made its way into our home, aided by text, chat, and posts.

I learned two very important lessons: • There are age limits in social forums for a reason. • Google really can answer just about any question. On the night in question I needed to access the text messages my daughter had sent, both that evening and in the days prior. She uses a program called TextFree for the majority of her “talking.” She maintained that once she deleted them from her Touch, they were gone forever, not stored like email. I began my quest for knowledge by Googling, “can you retrieve old TextFree messages.” Like I had to ask! All I had to do was to go to the Pinger website, the telecom company that offers the TextFree product. Once there I simply had to click on TextFree Web and then enter my daughter’s user name and password. The result? The last 72 hours of text messages in their entirety. You can run but you can’t hide! We waded through the mess, were able to verify that my daughter is as decent as we hoped, and went to bed after having shut down some of the accounts I had mistakenly allowed my daughter to have. The next day, I decided to make use of my new tool and I signed on to her text account while working on the

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computer. I could watch her conversation in progress. An invasion of privacy you say! A learning tool I say. The lessons of the night were gone and she was back on the road to trouble. Again I stepped in. I said she was decent, not perfect. Technology can be a part of our kids’ lives, but it has to be managed, and we have to be vigilant. You must keep your nose poked in their business because their world now is a “public domain.” Barb Hartman lives in Crestwood — and on the cutting edge of the technological and parental frontiers — with her husband Rob and their kids Maeve (11), Liam (9), and Sean (7). She is a frequent contributor to Today’s Family magazine.

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Q& A

Your Parenting

What Would You Do Differently? If i could do it again…

I would have tried cloth diapers for savings and environmental reasons. — Stephanie White I would trust her with more responsibilities earlier (beginning around age 8 or 9) and empathize rather than rescue when things don't go well, allowing her to learn through natural consequences. — Lynn Willing

I would have encouraged some independence sooner. — LaDonna Kennedy

I would let them wear their nice clothes. They outgrow them so fast, most of the time before a special occasion can justify it. — Beth Keeney

Not allow technology to get such a foothold so early in my kids' lives. — Barb Hartman

I would watch my tone with my daughter especially as she matures toward preadolescence. — Erin Nevitt

What Would You Do Again? I would do this the same… I have apologized when I am wrong. I think it is so important for my son to know that I am human and we all make mistakes. — LaDonna Kennedy

I congratulate myself and my husband on instilling a moral compass into our children, even if it's not always set on the path we hope it is. — Erin Nevitt We encouraged our daughters to become artists and musicians in high school. Competitive sports took priority at their school, but they followed their dreams. We were proud to be among the few “non-sporting” families! — Mary Ellen Bianco today’s FAMILY

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Are

You an ANGEL OR DEVIL PARENT? By Stacy Westray Tackett

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to th • L istens spond ing re n e h ?’ when w ou doing at were y h a teacher t ‘w u s o sk b •A pla ins a m o c d il h n the c st situatio e or a n u nju acher in th te e ticizes th ri c r e v e •N a ri ng intment ch ild’s he p an appo u ts se r o ails, istration — • Calls, em cher — not admin a ing of the with the te plete u ndersta nd m to ga in co fore acti ng be d ha rd situation spect, a n onest y, re nd attaches h ts c e p x a •E the ch ild work from es to a ny th ing less s c n e a nd k e e p consequ eerleader h c s l’ o o h • Is the sc upbeat att itude , a positive

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How Would YOU React in These Situations?

It’s time to intervene when:

Important things to remember:

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being successful. Your child is acting in a way that he/she normally would not act over a period of a week or more. Your child suddenly resists going to school. Your child consistently exhibits signs of discouragement, sadness, unhappiness, low self-esteem, and anxiety. You need more information or clarification. You need more communication for peace of mind.

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time with a teacher or any school official to become a personal attack. Don’t enable the child’s negative behavior. Make your efforts at intervention constructive, not a griping session. Every situation is different and every child is different. There is not a one-solutionfits-all with kid issues. Always talk to your children about consequences and repercussions of their actions.

Michael had been acting silly in his 3rd grade

classroom since the beginning of the year. His teacher was a young and fun first-year teacher. She believed in giving many warnings and finding alternative ways to redirect the kids. She had grown tired of Michael’s repeated disruptions and inappropriate comments during instruction. She called his parents and explained the situation. Michael’s dad set up a meeting with the teacher, Michael, and himself. During this meeting, Dad listened carefully to the teacher lay out her expectations for Michael and he reinforced his support for her and let his son know that. Dad and his son later wrote a thank you note to the teacher for her patience and understanding and enclosed a signed contract which outlined consequences for Michael at home if his classroom behavior did not immediately improve. By including the child in the meeting, this parent showed his child that he totally supported the teacher. And regardless of the parent’s feelings about the teacher, he respected her authority as a classroom teacher and he let his son know that. I have not seen a quicker turn-around yet for improved behavior. TYPE OF PARENT:

Angel

Gavin, 10, had earned a “free dress” pass at his local Catholic School. Children who earned the pass could use it only on a particular day, which was announced over the intercom several different times. Gavin forgot. He showed up at school, realized that this was the day he could have come in clothing other than his uniform, and tears welled up in his eyes. A teacher suggested that Gavin call his parents to ask if someone could bring him clothing. He responded that his parents would not bring him clothing because it was “his” responsibility to remember. Gavin’s parents were right not to intervene. They’re teaching him to be responsible and their message must be sinking in; he knew the answer before he even asked! Forgetting “free dress” day was a disappointment for Gavin but wouldn’t interfere with academics. TYPE OF PARENT:

Jesse, 8, rides home in a carpool on Wednesdays. She has to work extra hard in school to keep up and stay organized. One Wednesday she left her backpack in the carpool car, and didn’t miss it until later when she attempted to do her homework and check her planner. Her mom decided that it was “her” responsibility to gather her belongings and did not get the backpack. Jesse arrived at school the next morning with no books, planner, pencils, or paper. She was immediately reprimanded, and she couldn’t participate because she did not have her materials. Class time was wasted while Jesse borrowed supplies, she failed an open book quiz, and she received additional reprimands for behavior. It was a lousy day from the start, and there was no chance it would get much better without the proper materials for learning. TYPE OF PARENT:

bal battle using horrific language. The assistant principal was called to the classroom to diffuse the situation. He took the boys to his office, spoke to them each individually, and then had the boys meet with him together. The boys had an in-school consequence for the remainder of that school day which allowed them both time to reflect and cool off. He called both boys’ parents to let them know the language that was used with hopes the parents

Devil

Jim had always been in the higher level math group but was placed in the middle group this year because of his difficulties last year and his test scores. His parents wanted Jim in the high math group, and they were so furious about his placement that they went to the school office to speak to an administrator — without an appointment — when they were notified. Jim was moved back to the high math group, but it was a disaster for him. He became anxious, hated being tutored, gave up, and ended up failing math. It is not a good idea to hastily act without allowing all people involved to have appropriate information, and it is never good to meet when you have not allowed yourself time to calm down and think things through. TYPE OF PARENT:

Larry and Darryl were in a ver-

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he next time you are looking for a fun place to have a private party, look no further than Pinot’s Palette in St. Matthews. Pinot’s Palette offers step-by-step painting classes based on a featured piece. All materials, such as brushes, paints, and canvas, are supplied. An instructor will guide you through each stage of the painting process, so an artistic background is not required to participate and enjoy. A full bar with wine and beer is available at an additional charge. Catering can be arranged through Pinot’s Palette, or you can bring your own food. Once your painting is complete, check out Pinot’s ‘Try Me On’ frame wall, where you can try out different Mother-to-be Mollie Noe paints frame options on your an elephant to hang in the nursery. new masterpiece. This particular private party was a baby shower for Mollie and her husband Anthony Noe. Each of their friends painted an elephant for the new baby’s nursery. What a great gift idea and a great way to get together with friends and celebrate. Congratulations Mollie, Anthony, and Mila Noe! Inquire about public classes, private parties, celebrations, corporate events, and team-building. Also look into larger, one-canvas collaborative pieces as a great corporate team-building adventure. For more information, visit pinotspalette.com/Louisville or contact our office at 291 N. Hubbards Lane, 502-409-4572.

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Teen Talk How to Communicate in a Texting World By Kim Seidel

s if it wasn’t already difficult enough to talk to teens, social media technology — cell phones with texting, e-mail, My Space, Facebook, Twitter, You Tube and others — have made parent-teen communications even more challenging in the past few years. Following are some great tips to help you find success talking to your children during their teen years, when it’s normal for them to focus more on their friends and less on their family.

Set limits. Teens texting nearly 24/7 is common, and in some cases, “out of control,” says Fran Swift, parent educator. Parents need to set limits on texting and other social media before the teen’s habits become unmanageable. While social networking brings some benefits to teens, such as connecting with friends and raising social awareness, parents can set boundaries without cutting their teen off from the rest of the world. Limits can include no phones after a certain time in the evening (so teens can’t text all night), and no phones during family functions (so teens actually speak with others around them in person.) page 26

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So, parents, how text savvy are you? Teens have many texting codes to keep you out of the loop. do you know the meaning behind the texts on this page? See the answers below: LMFR — Let’s Meet For Real KPC — Keeping Parents Clueless 143 — I Love You MOS — Mom Over Shoulder PIR — Parent In Room

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Eat dinner together. Even with busy schedules, family dinners provide some of the best times to partake in friendly dialogue, says Cindy Ericksen, a licensed marriage and family therapist. “Family dinners help to maintain a sense of support, love and cohesion in a family,” Ericksen says. Teen years can be scary for the child and parents. Eating together — without technology present — can help build stronger bonds and provide opportunities for communication, Ericksen says. “Have a conversation, not an interrogation, at the dinner table,” Swift says. Discuss “light” current events, rather than difficult homework assignments. Take news of the day or hobbies as a springboard for conversation.

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Role model your tech use. “Reserving dinner as a time that even a parent doesn’t talk or text on the phone is as important as not using the cell phone while driving kids in the car, shopping with them, or other activities,” Swift says. “We need to model appropriate behaviors and attentive listening opportunities if we want conversation to happen with our teens.” Use technology to your advantage to bond with your teen. “Texting or e-mailing him a note might be more meaningful and resonate more at that age than direct conversation,” Swift says. If you see that he responded kindly to his sister, recognize that good behavior with a friendly text message or e-mail, Swift says.

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Know when to talk. Studies show that teens are most alert at night. Your teen usually will be most talkative and open with you after the sun sets. Avoid talks with your teen in the early mornings, when she already has a million thoughts running through her head, from what to wear to a test coming up. Another time to keep talks short is when she comes home from school or a social event. “Don’t appear to be too eager, because teens don’t like that,” Swift says. “Don’t push them by asking them too many questions. Give it some time to let the conversation unfold.” Use “action talk.” Simultaneously do an activity with your teen and have a conversation. While driving her in the car, doing dishes, cleaning closets, or doing yard work together, you can talk with your teen where she doesn’t feel so “hemmed in,” Swift says. The point is to engage in a project while conversing, rather than announcing that you’re “going to have a talk,” Swift says. “Parents need to take a more subtle approach.” Watching movies together can open up interesting topics that are less personal but still relevant. Even when your teen views a television show that you dislike, watch it with her. Ask her what she enjoys about the program. Do the same with music. Listen to some songs by various groups that your teen adores. Find out what she loves about the music she downloads to her iPod.

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Listen First Your teen has plans and you immediately say “no.” Then your daughter rolls her eyes at you and sighs loudly. Your skin starts to prickle and your heart beats faster. An argument is coming quickly and you’ve already had a long day. But by listening more and delaying your decisions, you can have a more effective approach to talking with your teen. Listening is an important component of keeping communication lines open, says Cindy Ericksen, a family and marriage therapist. When your teen asks for your permission, don’t jump to “no” too soon. Even though you may not approve of their plans, allow your teen to share her ideas with you. “Just because you’re listening to your teen does not mean that you’re agreeing with her. It will be easier for her to hear ‘no’ for an answer, if she knows you heard her out before you made your decision,” Ericksen says. “Arguments often start because a child feels she’s not being listened to.” Take your time. After listening to a request, a parent doesn’t need to give an answer right away, Ericksen says. If it’s not a last-minute request, tell your teen you need a day or two to think about it, and you will discuss the situation more at that time. Even for those moments when your teen urgently seeks your approval, you can take a pause and take a deep breath before you respond calmly and confidently. “Parents often forget that they’re in charge,” Ericksen says. “They can walk away from arguments and postpone making decisions until they are ready.” Once you have made a decision, it’s important to stick with it, Ericksen says. Be kind but firm about declining your teen’s request. Show your respect and acknowledge her disappointment.

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Have fun together. During the teen years, parents often forget to simply have fun with their child. Enjoy these special years together and make an effort to experience fun together. Discover your son’s or daughter’s interests and spend time with them sharing activities, Ericksen says. Set aside a day or even a half day for family time, Swift says. No texting allowed during this period. “Making a connection with them is what you’re looking for,” she says. 26

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Is It Time to Say Goodbye to Your Pediatrician? Kids outgrow the childish décor on the doctor’s office walls At age 12, my son walked with me into his pediatrician’s office for an appointment, and we both had the same thought:“It’s time to move on.” Having hit puberty on the early side, Matt was now 5’8” and had a deep voice. As much as we loved our pediatrician, it was time to say so long to the Thomas the Tank Engine wooden track in the waiting room. WHAT TO ASK A NEW DOCTOR: • Will you work with my family’s insurance company, HMO, etc? • Do you prefer that a parent be present during examinations? Will my child have a chance to speak privately with you during appointments? What is your policy on patient confidentiality for minors regarding issues like birth control and STDs? (In some KY AND INDIANA? , doctor-patient confidentiality regarding such issues is protected by law.)

• Are you comfortable talking with teens about sexual issues, drug use, eating disorders, etc? And, do you do this as a matter of course? • Do you perform gynecological exams for girls? • How much time do you allow for office visits for teen patients? • What information do you need from my child’s pediatrician? (Generally, you’ll need to request a copy of your child’s medical records, including immunizations, growth chart, X-rays, surgical reports, current medications, etc.) When we left our pediatrician, I called first and then wrote a letter requesting Matt’s medical records and expressing my family’s thanks for all the wonderful years of care our doctor had provided. Was it easy to say goodbye? No. But it helps to look at it like you would a school graduation. Your child is making a normal transition to a new phase in his life. — Kathy Sena

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A Family Exercise Alison and John Cardoza do some fun plank exercises and daughter, Alexa, is surprised by the rewards! Here’s an exercise idea for your family: Have each family member pick an exercise at the beginning of the week and do as many reps as they can. Then train throughout the week with the goal of improving by the weekend. The family member who has the highest percentage increase is rewarded with something small (but motivating). Keep the focus on the fact that everyone is improving. — By Joe Downie, Certified Physical Fitness Instructor

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In Our Family

Maintaining Family Connections Across the World and at Home By Carrie Vittitoe • Photos by Melissa Donald

The Kahloons are a close-knit family who values tradition. Nina and Khalid are spending time with Nina’s parents, their grandson Kaedon, and her husband’s nephew Adil (far right).

Khalid and Nina Kahloon, Ashley (19), Lilah (12), Rehan (8), Rahim (7)

Integrating cultural traditions into daily life is an important way for Nina and Khalid Kahloon to bridge the gap between their home in Louisville and their native homeland of Pakistan. By taking regular trips to Pakistan, the Kahloons have an opportunity to expose their children to their Pakistani heritage, and strengthen the family ties. Their childhoods:

oth Nina and Khalid were born in Pakistan. Nina’s family moved to the United States when she was a young child. Her father was an education professor at the University of Louisville who raised his family in Jeffersontown. Khalid grew up in Pakistan, attending college in Lahore and Islamabad and working as a journalist. In his twenties, he emigrated to the United States, where he attended law school in Michigan. page 32

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So far, and yet so close: Although Khalid and Nina lived thousands of miles apart for much of their young lives, her mother’s village in Pakistan was only a few miles from Qadirabad, which is where Khalid grew up and where his father and one of his brothers still live. The similarity in their families’ backgrounds is a great bond that Khalid and Nina share.

Staying Connected with Pakistan: Khalid and Nina met through her sister at a dinner party in Ohio. They married in Pakistan and have made a point to return there as often as possible. They own a home in Islamabad to maintain a permanent connection, which is very important to Khalid since he has no family living in the United States.

Making the trip: The Kahloons typically visit Pakistan during the winter months, when daytime temperatures are in the 70s and nighttime temperatures are cool enough that there is frost on the ground in the mornings. Nina says, “During the summer, the temperature is usually 110-115 degrees, and there is no consistent electricity.” Nina says that she always imagines the worst before they leave Louisville since there are often bombings and other violence in Pakistan. But she says, “Once we arrive, it feels like life as normal, and the village where Khalid’s father lives is very safe.”

Life as Normal (sorta): When visiting Pakistan, the Kahloons go hiking, shopping, eat meals together, and spend time with Khalid’s family. Khalid is able to show his children where he played as a child and how schooling for him was instruction under trees in the village, not in a brick-and-mortar building. The Kahloon children also get to see how their extended family lives, growing and harvesting their own food and cooking in an outdoor kitchen.

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TOP RIGHT, Khalid joins the cousins as they look at a magazine.

Nina and Khalid often host family members in their own home, which can make for tight quarters. Nina’s younger sister, her husband, and their two children visited the Kahloons from France at the same time that Khalid’s father and nephew were in from Pakistan. Nina’s parents, who reside in Louisville, stayed with the Kahloons as well to keep Khalid’s father company.

The Joys of Extended Visits: ABOVE, cousins embrace.

Nina’s daughter Ashley (pictured at right) keeps her son Kaedon entertained with a game.

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Though Nina’s parents live in the same city, they often stay with the Kahloons for months at a time, and when Khalid’s father visited he stayed for two months. Nina says this is a tremendous benefit for her children. She explains, “My children are able to see their religion being practiced by their grandparents, and their grandmother cooks Pakistani food for them.” Khalid says when his father visited he brought materials with him to build a cot, so the family worked on this together. Although there is a language barrier between the Kahloon children and their paternal grandfather, Khalid says, “Having my father around gives them an idea of where their father came from.” 4 4 4 todaysfamilynow.com 4 4 4www.facebook.com /todaysfamily 4 4 4 @todaysfamilynow

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exploreCollegiate Summer Explore with us this summer as we dig for fossils, create video games and play our favorite sports! Louisville Collegiate School offers over 100 halfday and full-day summer camps for children ages 3 and up through its exploreCollegiate program. Join us for a summer full of hands-on, fun and engaging activities. Visit loucol.com or email melody.bailey@loucol.com for program descriptions, dates and to register. Camp opens June 3 and closes August 10. (No camps the week of July 4.) Early drop-off and late pick-up available. 2427 Glenmary Avenue Louisville, KY 40204 502.479.0340 loucol.com

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Louisville Ballet School – St. Matthews Let your dreams take center stage! June 17 – July 19 The Louisville Ballet School offers workshops for children just beginning their journey as well as those who have a growing passion for dance. Classes are designed to develop coordination, musicality, and kinetic awareness, as well as instill a love for dance and the arts. Children ages 3 - 8 will discover an exciting mix of dance, visual arts, and storytelling through movement. Students ages 8 - 16 will be immersed in the grand tradition of classical ballet, learning choreography that has been the foundation of our art form for two hundred years. Summer dance programs fill up quickly. Register now to reserve your child’s place in class. Cost: $65 - $95 & $195 - $400 Louisville Ballet School 4121 Shelbyville Road • 502.583.3150, ext. 245 school@louisvilleballet.org louisvilleballet.org/DanceSchool

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YMCA - Camp Piomingo Camp Piomingo’s coed camp for kids ages 6-16 is the summer experience that builds self-esteem, promotes friendship, develops interpersonal and leadership skills, and instills in your child an appreciation of nature … all in a safe, fun and nurturing environment. Living in a rustic setting, campers share unique adventures and have many opportunities to grow on the inside… by being outside. We offer a variety of overnight camps from June 9 - August 2. Our programs help kids develop the skills and relationships they need to be healthy, confident and connected to others. Check out some of the fun like high ropes, zip line, horseback riding, and our new aquatic facility at ymcacamppiomingo.org.and register online to reserve your bunk today! You can also find us on facebook at facebook. com/camppiomingo or speak with us directly at 1-800-411-5822. 800.411.5822 camppiomingo.org • facebook.com/camppiomingo

YMCA of Greater Louisville A world of discovery awaits children at YMCA day camps so give your child the chance to play, to learn and to grow as a person at the Y this summer!

JCC Summer Camp

Mad Science of Kentucky

JCC Summer Camp has something for every child. JCC Summer Camp offers traditional camp for children 20 months through 6th grade with arts ‘n’ crafts, sports, free swim, swim lessons and more! Children 2 years old receive private swim lessons twice a week, children 3 and 4 years old receive group swim lessons three times a week and children in kindergarten through 3rd grade receive group swim lessons daily. Specialty camps are also offered, which include: Football, Soccer, Theatre, Dance, Horseback Riding, Lego, Sailing and more. All specialty camps swim once a day. Also, Middle School students have their own camps, which include: Community Service and Counselor-in-Training program. Beautiful campus with two outdoor pools, baseball and soccer fields, basketball and tennis courts, as well as indoor gymnasiums, auditorium and more! Call for brochure and information.

Are you ready for the most unforgettable summer ever? Mad science is fun, unique, interactive, and affordable. Make indoor lightning. Launch rockets. Explore lasers. Experience the giant vortex generator. Build cool take-homes! Our Mad Scientists are the experts at captivating the children’s attention and awing them with spectacular experiments and demonstrations. We can bring the fun to your camp location or you can come to one of our locations throughout Kentuckiana.

3600 Dutchmans Lane, Louisville, KY 40205 502.459.0660 • jcclouisvillecamp.org

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Jefferson Memorial Forest

The Parklands of Floyds Fork

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1310 S. Beckley Station Rd. • 502-584-0350 outdoorclassroom@21cparks.org • TheParklands.org

LearningRx • 423-3713 • learningrx.com

By combining scientific study, experiments, and exploration with traditional summer camp fun, your child will have an educational adventure to remember for a lifetime. Log on to our website to check out our camp schedule and topics. Two brand new camps will be introduced this summer. We offer a shuttle service from Joe Creason Park (across from the Louisville Zoo) to the Forest. Each session lasts one week and has a different topic. Our camps run from June 17th to June 28, and July 8 to August 9. Our camps are for ages 7 to12. Two age-specific camp weeks are offered for ages 5 to 6 and ages 13 to 15. Sign up early as space is limited. Each camp teams two highly trained staff with each group of 10 campers for safety and personal attention. To register, go to our website or call/email to request a registration packet be mailed to you. Jefferson Memorial Forest 11311 Mitchell Hill Road Fairdale, KY 40118 Welcome Center: 502-368-5404 ext.0 website: memorialforest.com E-mail: forest@louisvilleky.gov

Visit us at www.kentucky.madscience.org or call 502-749-4217 today!

No one creates a camp experience like the Y where activities include swimming, arts and crafts, sports, field trips, reading, healthy snacks and more. Campers have fun while making new friends, building self-confidence and becoming more self-reliant. Choose from over 40 locations in Jefferson, Bullitt, and Oldham counties. Visit us at ymcalouisville.org for more details and to register, or call 502.587.9622. At the Y, we make sure that all children have the opportunity to learn, grow and thrive; ask us about our affordable program rates for everyone. 502.587.9622 • ymcalouisville.org In Southern Indiana, visit ymcasi.org

Various locations throughout Kentuckiana 502-749-4217

New, full-day science & natural history camps for children in grades 1-5. Enriching, discovery-based field experiences allow campers to touch, see & learn about the world around them. Activities occur in stateof-the-art classrooms at the PNC Achievement Center for Education and Interpretation, as well as outdoors in Beckley Creek Park. APRIL 1-5: Eco Trekkers. Discover wildlife, woods & Floyds Fork creek. JUNE 10-14: Dig It. Investigate plant life cycles, pollination & gardening. Wild Music. Explore nature’s music & animal communication. JUNE 17-21: Mission: Survival. Learn basic survival skills, wildlife tracking & navigation. Soar! Explore the aerodynamics of birds, bees & seeds. JULY 8-12: Art in the Park. Paint fish, press leaves & make recycled paper. Nature’s Engineers. Nature’s engineering & design–from tree branches to spider webs. JULY 15-19: Camp Creek. Discover fish, insects & aquatic wildlife in the stream. Micro Worlds. Investigate nature’s tiniest species & organisms. Camps begin at $185/week. Space is limited. Visit TheParklands.org for details.

Summer eDuCaTION Looking for a boost in brain power over the summer? Check out LearningRx brain training. We’re helping kids and adults in Louisville get smarter by utilizing intense brain exercises. The LearningRx approach to cognitive training is based on the results of neurocognitive research performed over the last decade. Today we know that our brains have the lifelong ability to adapt and build. The brain is always finding new and better ways to reorganize neural pathways and even build brand new ones. Mental abilities are never “set in stone.” Because the brain is always adapting and building, the ability to think, remember and learn is never static—LearningRx can “upgrade” your brain! Training sessions are delivered during one-onone sessions with a personal trainer. Results include better focus, improved memory, faster processing, and improved reading and fluency. Call 423-3713 or visit learningrx.com to learn more about brain training and how it can help you or your child. You can also check out success stories at learningrxvideo.com.

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Photo by melissa donald

GO... on Spring Break!

TR AV ELING FAMILY

Sharon and Guy Howell; kids Emily, 12; Grace, 9 LIVE IN Sellersburg, Ind.

Sharon Howell and her husband Guy refer to themselves as “thrifty vacationers” who don’t believe in spending excessively on accommodations for the family. Staying at cheaper hotels, says Sharon, enables them to spend more money at an amusement park, museum, or on other activities they enjoy. Fashion they’re pack ing

“My husband and I pack a couple of pairs of shorts, pants, a light jacket, long- and short-sleeve shirts. My oldest child likes comfortable nylon shorts.”

Destination they’re loving

The family will often spend weekends at local state parks. “We go to Spring Mills State Park in Mitchell, Ind. We take a short hike or go to their lodge which has board games, ping pong, an indoor/outdoor pool, and pioneer village.” The village features weaving, candle, and pottery demonstrations. “The price is reasonable for accommodations, and you can camp out if you can’t afford to stay at a hotel.”

Fun items the k ids are using

“They take their DVD player, movies, an Ipod for music, and books to read.”

Before we go

“I ask everyone what favorite thing they want to do on this trip so that we could create better memories.”

From left, Emily and Grace Howell are well-equipped for spring break traveling.

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