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November 2010 articles

arthritis Supplement

My True Love Gave To Me…

By Anita Oldham

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On Our Cover

Living With Arthritis

By Tiffany White

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Power I am Today’s Woman Because…

Jane Bowling’s favorite four-legged gift. page 32

By Lucy Pritchett Arthritis supplement 2010

Biz View: Denise

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Jerome

By Cheryl Stuck

We Are Thankful For

By Jennifer Thompson

18 Things

By Anita Oldham

Her View: The Savvy Side of Louisville

By Cathy Zion

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STYLE

Gifting Gurus

By Tiffany White and Anita Oldham

Bring in the Warm

By Wendy Anguiano

Catch Sight of the Beautiful

By Barbara MacDonald

It’s the Thought that Counts

By Marie Bradby

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WELLNESS Monthly Muffin: A

Great Gift Muffin

By Melissa Donald

Healthy Woman: Jennifer

Fabel

By Cheryl Stuck

Healthy Woman: Kelly

Bratcher

By Cheryl Stuck

Living Well: ‘Tis

a Gift To Be Simple

By Bob Mueller

Maybe You Should Be Checked for Thyroid Disease By matthew Lockman

She’s Fighting Alzheimer’s

By Tiffany White

A Warm Gift of Memories

By Kathy Sena

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CONNECTIONS 7 Things Not to Miss This Month

By Gioia Patton and Maggie Nelson

An Arts Insider Must-See:

Kathy Mattea: In Touch with Myself

By Gioia Patton

Dating Dilemmas: Fighting Fair

By Caitlyn Gaynor

An Arts Insider Must-See: Sara

Bareilles: I Do It for Me and You

By Gioia Patton

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Just Ask Joyce

By Joyce Oglesby

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My True Love Gave To Me...

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ell, my husband is a little eccentric in his gift giving. He works hard to surprise me. There was the loose tea-ofthe-month club and teapot that he ordered for me, which I enjoyed, though I wasn’t much of a tea drinker before that. One year there was the djembe drum (complete with instructional video) and he still has high hopes that I will learn how to create music on it. Another time I received a GPS for a hiker (which I wasn’t) that I have lent to several friends. My favorite has to be the year he decided to write a note to me for each of the 12 days leading up to Christmas.

Although he sometimes does get me something, I do enjoy his surprises.

I’m glad he takes the risk of giving me something more imaginative that I might love and is rarely practical.

May you both give and receive a gift that surprises this season.

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elissa Liptrap, owner of The Makery, believes the best type of gift to give someone is the kind you make yourself. “One of my best friends wanted a red scarf, and red scarves are kind of harder to find for me, so I decided to knit one…

I spent a couple of weeks on that scarf and it came out crooked with missed stitches, but he absolutely loved it and wore it for years.”

Melissa says she loves to receive gifts that remind her of the person who gave her the gift, because the experience feels more personal.

She applies the same philosophy in her store where she sells a variety of items from independent artists, designers, crafters, and makers. Find out more about the types of gifts she and other retailers like to give and receive on page 30.

— Tiffany White Photo by James Moses, Styling by Wendy Anguiano, Makeup by Holly Oyler.

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I Am Today’s Woman Because…

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Jo Anne Fischer, 61 Garden manager at Yew Dell Botanical Gardens, Crestwood Neighborhood: Highlands Household: Shared custody of Boone, female chocolate lab Her garden: “It is a jewel box.

There is no grass and every surface — including the walls — is covered with plants and flowers.”

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n ower Mother Nature holds all the cards. The plants are my bosses. When I show them that I care, they thrive. In return they empower me with their immediate feedback and response to my intent. It is a symbiotic relationship.

On Style... I have a functional style. No

extraneous stuff. I created my garden uniform: L.L. Bean blue jeans, a yellow or blue cotton polo shirt with the Yew Dell logo, Vasque Gore-tex leather boots, and a baseball cap.

I carry Felco pruners and a soil knife. And I coat myself with Bullfrog sunblock. I need to be comfortable and safe.

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For me, a huge component is exercise. I stopped going somewhere to work out and now incorporate exercise into everything I do. Gardening improves flexibility, strength, and balance.

Every day, I am clipping, lifting, and pulling.

I have a vegetable garden and I shop the outside aisles at the grocery and the farmers’ markets.

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Some people just go through the motions.

I am trying to live my life with a purpose and a passion.

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n onnections One of the strongest connections I have is with my volunteers. We work side by side in the gardens and become friends. That bond is formed through our shared interest and doing something together.

What’s behind the uniform…

There is a certain lifestyle — the private school-débutante-country club-Indian Hills/ Cherokee Gardens-Mercedes one — that I have experienced which would surprise most people when they see me covered in mud and sunscreen.

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ish ist A trip to England for the Chelsea Flower Show and to visit the estate gardens there. Also, I would love to have the time to take a bonsai class. It is a type of meditative gardening. You work with the same plant for years....sometimes generations.

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A Powerful WOman At Work

Denise Jerome Age: 46 Title: managing member of The Catering Company Family: husband, Robert Jerome; children: Lauren Jerome Brown, 23, Kalye Jerome, 20, Dani Jerome, 9 Website: www.GreatFoodWine.com

photos: Melissa Donald

Although Denise Jerome owns the third largest catering company in Louisville, according to Business First lists, she still cooks for herself.

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Denise’s business, The Catering Company, opened March 1, 2000, and serves corporate as well as private parties, events, and weddings. She has about 15 regular staff members and 85 wait staff. And her three daughters are actively involved in the business. Sometimes even nine-year-old Dani will slap on an apron and help with box lunches.

But on Thanksgiving Day, the family goes to Denise’s mother’s house for dinner.

“She won’t give it up and she won’t even alternate with me — and I’m okay with that.”

The Catering Company does a lot of cooking for others up until Thanksgiving and on the weekend after, but Denise said they won’t book anything on Thanksgiving Day. “If there was something that had to be done, I would come in and do it myself.

I don’t have my employees come in on that day. It’s their day with their families.”

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food. When my husband and I go out, we like to try different places to get new ideas.”

HER JOB

“My main focus is to grow and develop the company. I sell the larger events that come in or work with my marketing manager. I do anything that’s related to multiple-year contracts or certification. I do the accounting for the business, hiring, and firing. I direct the marketing manager and the operations manager.”

BEST PART OF HER JOB

“I get to reinvent it every day. It’s never the same thing twice. The best part is that it’s something that I’ve grown from infancy to maturity.

And seeing the change in it is a huge satisfaction.”

HER CHALLENGE

“This field is very demanding, and it’s not an eight-to-five job. It’s an after-hours and weekend job.

The biggest challenge is getting employees on the same page and working together. Employees all have gifts and talents, and it takes a lot of work to make sure they’re all working at the best capacity and producing the best product for you.”

MOST PROUD OF

“When we started 10 years ago, we truly struggled the first five years, and when we got it going great, a lot of laws changed and our competitors changed, and we had to totally rebuild and start over our business. I’m proud that we’re very close to digging ourselves out of that hole, and I’m proud that we didn’t lay down and die. We rose out of the ashes, and my kids and my husband were very involved with that. It has been a huge learning tool for them as well. You fight for what you want in life. You don’t just give up.”

Her Path FIRST JOB “I was a cashier in a grocery store.”

HER ORIGINAL PLAN “I went to college and was in pre-med for a while and decided I didn’t want those hours. I ended up with biology and chemistry degrees. I’m a biochemist by trade.”

CAREER CHANGE “We moved out of state, and I managed some labs in New Orleans…where we got more into the food and cooking thing. They’re known for food and seasonings and flavors, and we kind of changed the way we cooked.

“When we moved back here, I managed a lab for a while, then went to work for a waste management firm in sales. Later I went into sales for an environmental consulting firm.

“My husband and I had always wanted to open our own business. He had experience in management and operations and had a store background, so we opened a retail specialty store. It had a deli, and we did specialty salads and dishes, and the deli turned into a monster, and catering springboarded out of the deli. If you had told me 10 years ago that I’d be the third largest caterer in Louisville, I’d have said you’re nuts.”

TURNING POINT “About five years ago, we hit a wall and knew we had to make some hard core adjustments if we were going to make this a success. We had to suck it up and hire a marketing manager. You can only do so much yourself. I was spreading myself too thin.

“I had to bring the right help in to grow the business. We had to buckle down on expenses and weed stuff out and focus on growing the net profit and eliminating debt. We had to make some personnel changes.”

NOW “We’ve gained more ground in the last two years. We’re ready to make the next big jump.

“I feel like I’ve had more balance this year than the last 10 years. My husband and I are trying to find a hobby to do together.”

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For… Four women who are changing the world (or at least Louisville) for the better

by JENNIFER THOMPSON Photos by melissa Donald

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hanksgiving brings romanticized images of pilgrims on children’s school projects, banners, mantelpieces, and even seasonal flatware. Regardless of the accuracy of these portrayals of the first Thanksgiving, we do know that America’s first settlers required a great deal of endurance and virtue to establish their towns and lay the foundation for a great nation.

Four particular virtues that have endured thousands of years of different cultures, sovereignties, and religions are fortitude, temperance, justice, and prudence. While we may no longer use those words every day — or any day, for that matter — there are four women in Louisville who live their lives in the spirit of America’s first settlers as they work tirelessly each day to make the world around them a better place. Christian philosopher St. Augustine serves as our translator as we see how these modern women are breathing new life into these ancient virtues right here in Louisville. t o d a y ’ s

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“Fortitude is love readily bearing all things for the sake of the loved object.”

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or Margaret Demaree, “bearing all things” has meant immersing herself in the lives of Louisville’s youth for the last 28 years. After years of mentoring students and even paying out of her own pocket for them to take the ACT, Demaree’s fortitude finally manifested itself in her non-profit organization, 1+1=U. “‘1+1=U’ means you (the student) plus me (the mentor) still equals you,” Demaree says.

“I’ve had kids tear up when they hear that because it’s never been about them. It’s always been about a parent being absent or a family member with financial or legal trouble or taking care of a younger sibling.”

1+1=U’s goal is to help youth develop goals and then spur them toward the next step, whether it be college, vocational school, or military academy because, according to Demaree “the only way out of your situation is education.”

Even after teaching and coaching cheerleading all day at Central High School, Demaree always keeps her cell phone on in case one of her students runs into trouble or needs a place to stay that night.

“My word is all I have, and I have to let the kids develop that trust,” Demaree says. “If that means getting up in the middle of the night to help someone, buying them clothes because their mom put them out, or finding a sponsor to help get them through college, I’ll do it, or if I can’t do it, I’ll find someone who can.”

Through 1+1=U, Demaree has given hundreds of students who “never had college in their vocabulary” the opportunity to take part in college expositions, ACT workshops, how to finance college 101 classes, and college visits across the state and beyond.

“If they don’t get an education and a good job, who’s going to pay into my social security?” Demaree laughs. “They’re my future. My passion is helping kids, and when I see kids succeed, that gives me the fuel and the fire to keep going.”

Visit 1+1=U’s website at www.1plus1equalsu.com

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“Temperance is love giving itself entirely to that which is loved.”

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oni Watkins has indeed given herself entirely to her beloved Portland neighborhood since coming on staff with Portland Promise Center in 1999.

“We believed if you’re going to minister to a neighborhood, you need to live in the neighborhood,” Watkins says. “Their problems become your problems.”

Portland is a neighborhood struggling with generational welfare dependency, transient residents, and undirected youth. According to Watkins, Portland Promise exists “to raise up kids who love their community and become leaders here and to give people a sense of pride and dignity for themselves as they understand they all have gifts to give.”

As director of operations, Watkins considers nothing is beyond her range of duties, whether it’s leading Bible study, organizing volunteers, making contacts for their ongoing warehouse refurbishment, or even fixing toilets. Just don’t ask her to pick out new paint colors for the office. “I stay out of that stuff,” she laughs.

Watkins was also instrumental in saving one family’s house from going into foreclosure. After Portland Promise bought the house, they allowed the family to continue living there and pay reduced rent as they worked toward buying the mortgage back from the Promise Center. In the meantime, Watkins has overseen donations of material and labor to restore the house back to a healthy state.

“I can’t wait to get the house back to the family,” Watkins says.

“They raised their kids there. We’re not their landlords. That’s not why we’re here.”

Although Watkins believes strongly in being immersed in the community, that has not stopped her and the Promise Center from bringing powerful messages into the community as they put on programs like the Touched Twice Clinic, neighborhood block parties, music and art classes for kids, and camps and sports leagues for youth.

“We’re working together to show that good values are worth striving for,” Watkins says.

“We are a group of committed individuals — and not just the staff — who want to build relationships and demonstrate that there’s a better way to live life — one that’s more fulfilling and independent.”

Portland Promise Center’s website is at www.portlandpromise.org

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“Justice is love serving only the loved object and therefore leading rightly.”

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Scott is the coordinator of Kentucky Jobs with Justice, an organization that brings together community leaders, faith leaders, businesspeople, and students, to promote workers’ rights wherever they are needed.

“We’re here to bring together groups that wouldn’t otherwise be brought together,” Scott says.

Scott says that even though people recognize injustice when they see it, they are often too intimidated to do anything about it, because they don’t understand government agencies or are afraid of backlash from employers.

“There are so many people who feel like they don’t have a voice,” she says, “but we’re willing to put ourselves out there and be vulnerable for them.”

Scott says that her job reflects her personality as she comes into contact with a broad range of people and experiences a new adventure every day.

“I could get a call one night and be at a rally at 7 a.m. the next day,” she says. “I lived with my great uncle growing up. He was part of the working class, and in a way I get to carry on his legacy.”

Scott also sees herself in the people she is advocating for. A few years ago she was involved in a movement to have more women’s restrooms put in a regional factory. Hundreds of women were given one 15-minute break to use the restroom, but the only facilities provided to them were a couple of poorly constructed stalls. Scott recalls women telling stories of standing in line with their pants around their ankles just to save time and hopefully have a chance to use the restroom without being penalized for coming back late from break.

“If they could stand there vulnerable and exposed like that for the sake of their families, the least I can do is help them,” Scott says.

Scott is also looking beyond her work now into the future. In addition to teaching a class at Bellarmine and running for District 1 school board, she also brings her own children along to rallies and meetings.

“We have to teach the next generation to get involved early,” Scott says. “I want my kids to be able to say ‘my mom made a difference in those peoples’ lives and I was a part of it.’”

Kentucky’s Jobs with Justice website is www.kyjwj.org

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tacy Funk, chapter president of the National Multiple Sclerosis Society, has a career goal that most of us would never dream of having: for her job to disappear.

“Once we find a cure for multiple sclerosis, my job won’t be needed anymore,” Funk says. “That’s what we’re working toward every day.”

Funk has been working in non-profit since graduating from college and couldn’t imagine doing anything else.

“I was brought up in a family where service was important,” Funk says. “My dad worked in a small pharmacy and was always giving away eyeglasses or selling prescriptions at half-price to help someone out. And my mom was always the first to cook someone a meal or visit someone in the hospital.”

Funk started her career with Big Brothers Big Sisters originally believing she would be a caseworker, but she quickly found her way into marketing and fundraising.

“In my interview, I was sitting in the room with the most important people in the organization, and when they were asked if they wanted coffee, I put in my order, too,” Funk says.

“It was then that my boss knew I’d be able to ask people for money.”

Funk says that working on the administrative side of a non-profit organization makes every day different, whether it’s working on reports, budgets, staffing, and media or cleaning bathrooms and running the vacuum to get ready for an event. “There’s nothing I ask people to do that I wouldn’t do,” Funk says.

Shortly after Funk started working with the MS Society, she spoke to one of the researchers that the chapter had recently awarded a grant to, and after meeting several MS patients, he confided to Funk in an awed voice that “meeting these people made me realize I have a lot of work ahead of me.”

“That was a turning point for me,” Funk says. “I cried a lot when I first got the job. With a disease like this, you talk about things you wouldn’t normally talk about at work.

“Their stories have become our stories.”

Now Funk says she feels lucky to do this work and encourages people to help break down any preconceptions or stigmas attached to MS by getting involved with the local MS Society chapter.

“Call us and give us a try. Everyone handles it their own way, but I really think we have something for everything.”

Visit the Kentucky and Southern Indiana’s National MS Society chapter website at www.nationalMSsociety.org/kyw

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“Prudence is love distinguishing with sagacity between what hinders it and what helps it.”

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Not 100 or Wise?

Maybe you have been missing out on attending a 100 Wise Women event because you didn’t really understand them. Every quarter, you can sign up to be mentored by experienced successful women from the area. The event features a speaker and then discussions at each table led by a woman leader. The next one is November 10 from 8-10 a.m. at the University Club and costs $30. The events are presented by the Leadership Louisville Center and Today’s Woman magazine, www.leadershiplouisville.org

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he Younger Woman’s Club of Louisville recently held their Fall Into Fabulous fashion show where they raise big money for many charitable organizations.

Our stylist Wendy Anguiano (pictured with André Wilson, president of Style Icon) said, “Fall Into Fabulous didn’t disappoint again this year with fashions by local boutiques such as Blink, Clodhoppers, The Dressing Room, and one of my department store favorites: Dillards!” Her pick for best overall fall trend interpretations — Elizabeth’s Timeless Attire.

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* be famous * be healthy * be famous *

The Pilgrims made seven times more graves than huts.

No Americans have been more impoverished than these who, nevertheless, set aside a day of thanksgiving.

We Need YOU!

We are looking for some health advisory members. Today’s Woman wants your help — are you a reader who is tuned into her health? Are you wanting to help others in this community become more healthy and make health-minded decisions? We are looking for members of our Today’s Woman of Wellness, an editorial health advisory group. You don’t have to be professionally trained in health, just willing to share your opinion and answer a survey each month. We will have a special drawing to award one member of our committee as well as all the fame you can stand in the pages of Today’s Woman magazine.

How to get involved?

Tell us five healthy things you do for yourself or your family along with your name, address, phone number, age and email address.

We want to get you started right away, so please send an email to us by November 15 to advisorygroup@todayspublications.com

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Eat for baby’s health

The 2010 Louisville Signature Chefs Auction features a gourmet food sampling feast prepared by Louisville’s most elite chefs and Rock Harper, winner of Hell’s Kitchen, can be found on November 11 at the Marriott Downtown Ballroom. This night benefits the March of Dimes and helps to stop premature birth of babies.

Tickets are $200. Go to www.marchofdimes.com/ kentucky or 502.895.3734

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osparus presents the Candle Glow Gala H (6:30 p.m. — cocktails; 7:30 p.m. — dinner and awards presentation and 8:30 p.m.-midnight —

Glow Lounge, beer, wine, appetizers and dancing), December 4 at the Marriott Downtown Louisville.

This benefits Hosparus’ pediatric program.

Kourageous Kids Dinner & dancing tickets Band: Nervous Melvin and The Mistakes, 6:30 p.m.-midnight – $150 each.

Glow Lounge Tickets – 8:30 p.m.-midnight – $50 each To purchase tickets online, visit www.hosparus.org

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he Brain Injury Alliance of Kentucky (BIAK) will hold its 8th Annual Brain Ball benefit on November 12, 2010, beginning at 6:30 p.m. The GILDED AGE Brain Ball will be held at the Henry Clay Building. Guests of the Brain Ball will be enchanted with a trip back in time to the Gilded Age, reminiscent of the Vanderbilts and Rockefellers.

The program will feature presentation of the Mary Varga award, which honors a brain injury survivor who exemplifies perseverance and courage. Tickets are $175 and include attendance at the Gilded Lounge. Tickets for the Lounge only are $50. Call 502.493.0609.

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estival of Trees and Lights finale is The Snow Ball, 6 p.m. to midnight on November 20 at Marriott Louisville Downtown. This black tie event has become one of the most fashionable holiday parties in Louisville. Black ties for the gentlemen and ball gowns for the ladies. Proceeds benefit Kosair Children’s Hospital through the Children’s Hospital Foundation. For tickets, call 502.629.8060.

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— starting businesses. Here are the winner and finalists for the National Association of Women Business Owners — Louisville’s 2010 Young Entrepreneur Award

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Kelly Mullis, Louisville (Senior, UofL) New Grounds Energy is a distributor of kinetic roadway products that harvest lost kinetic energy from vehicles and turn it into electricity.

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Johanna and Claire Butler, Prospect (Johanna: 9th grader, Assumption High School, Claire, senior at Sacred Heart High School) Sister Services provides pet care, child care, house sitting, and gardening services.

Lauren ”LH” Hannigan, Louisville (Senior, Assumption High School)

OHYEAHLH Productions is a video production company.

Chanda Jacobi, Floyds Knobs (Senior, UofL) Jacobi Oil Service Inc. includes an oil business, two gas stations, and two car washes.

Marylee Kuchta, Taylorsville, KY (Applying for MBA program, UofL) Lefty Raccoon’s Pet Sitting provides pet care services.

Susan Stewart, Louisville (Senior, UofL) Stewart-Hunter Photography specializes in wedding and portrait photography.

Look Better – Two Chances!

y the time you read this, you might have missed our November 2 Tuesday with Today’s Woman. That is too B bad, because it is all about making yourself look just a bit better before you see everyone at Thanksgiving. If you are reading this before November 2, call Today’s Woman at 502.327.8855 to reserve a spot at Physician’s Center for

Beauty’s night of Reinventing Yourself. Either way, you should call to get a spot at our December 7 Tuesday with Today’s Woman event. We are looking for models and cover girls. If you are just interested in looking better in photos, come for that. We will show you how and give you some makeup ideas that will make you proud of your Christmas photos. You can also register online at www.iamtodayswoman.com

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“Madeline exemplifies a person who lives and leads with her heart.

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— Dr. Shirley Willihnganz, Women 4 Women Board Chair and Executive Vice President and Provost of University of Louisville

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was there, were you? A crowd of around 1,100 (mostly) women witnessed Madeline Abramson receive the Heart of the Community Award at the 2010 Women 4 Women Annual Luncheon.

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orce of nature, storyteller, collector, kooky cool, daughter, mom, and grandma. Those are all pretty good titles for Ann Cross, but to know her, well, you just have to meet her — at least that is what her website says. She is the owner of the newly opened The Uncommon Art Shop. She calls it “a quirky gallery, with a focus on Southern artists, features paintings, sculpture, jewelry, textiles and other artworks, all infused with the energy and personality.”

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re you ready to change your life? If so, Today’s Woman wants to help push you toward the goal of living healthy. Nominate yourself for our three-month weight loss challenge to see how much better you can look and feel. The deadline to enter is November 19. Send your personal story (less than 500 words) including your specific goals, age, and current weight to weightloss@todayspublications. com and put “Ready To Change My Life” in the subject line.

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Sessions are: 6:15-7 p.m. on Nov. 10

10:15-11 a.m. on Nov. 13 11:15 a.m.-noon on Dec. 1

All sessions are at the Wellness Center, 750 Cypress Station Drive near the Mall St. Matthews. Cost is $10 for members; $15 for non-members. Call 502.896.3900.

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Big Authors Coming to Town The Jewish Festival of the Book is bringing several interesting speakers to town. You might want to catch these:

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ancy Garfinkel and Andrea Israel will be in Louisville presenting The Recipe Club, a book that has readers around the country forming their own Recipe Clubs.

Garfinkel and Israel will speak at a private home on Sunday, November 7 at 1 p.m.

Tickets are $25.

For the whole schedule, go to www.jewishlouisville.org

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oan and Kevin Salwen were living a “standard American life” — until their 14-year-old daughter convinced them to sell their home, downsize their lifestyle, and give the money to charity. The Power of Half: One Family’s Decision to Stop Talking and Start Giving Back is the story of one family’s life-altering decision and its unexpected results. Kevin Salwen will share his family’s story at the Jewish Community Center on November 15 at 7 p.m. Tickets are $8.

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hree Wishes: A True Story of Good Friends, Crushing Heartbreak, and Astonishing Luck on Our Way to Love and Motherhood follows three friends whose lives are transformed when they decide to make motherhood happen in the most unconventional ways. Carey Goldberg will speak at the Java Brewing Company on November 16 at 7 p.m. Tickets are $15.

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Roast pork loin with bourboninfused “Sinner’s Stuffing” — sounds good, doesn’t it? ou can find out how to make it in the new book, A Feast for the Eyes: Recipes From America’s Grandest Victorian Neighborhood. This is the third cookbook from local author David Dominé. The hardcover book features 130 pages of recipes and historical information from 30 of Old Louisville’s luxurious mansions. ($24.95)

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The 15th annual Festival of Faiths

November 3-9 celebrates Sacred Soil as the Foundation of Life. The Festival lineup includes panels and workshops with notable individuals including Wendell Berry and Josh Viertel, president of Slow Food USA. www.festivaloffaiths.org

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The Savvy Side of Louisville Our northern neighbors pride themselves on being called “The Sunny Side of Louisville.” They have much to brag about, many things which Louisvillians never experience.

And after attending two of the most robust and profitable fund raisers there that I’ve ever seen, I have to join in their chant.

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he first one was held on September 14 at Huber’s Orchard and Winery. The brainchild of salon owner Ann Bennett, this United We Stand Fashion Show and Dancing with the Stars literally kicked off its seventh year with nearly 900 in attendance! Yes, no typo, nearly 900 at Huber’s deep in the knobs of Southern Indiana on a Tuesday night to support Ann, her small committee, and Hosparus.

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well-choreographed style show, and the main event — dancing with the stars competition. Local celebrities paired with dance professionals to thoroughly entertain attendees with their fancy footwork and cunning confidence. Judges presented their colorful critiques of the contestants with no Bruno bashes. No voting by text but rather, by the dollar. The pair attracting the largest bucket of cash was pronounced the winner.

At the end of the evening, over $100,000 was raised to benefit Hosparus. Amazing!!

The other event was held September 25 to benefit the Multiple Sclerosis Association. Jeannie Unruh and her husband, Vic, hosted the Crystal Boots and Silver Spurs gala at their magnificent home in Floyds Knobs overlooking the Ohio River and downtown Louisville skyline. They initially hoped to attract 225 for this first-time event, but they more than doubled that with nearly 500 donned in their finest Western wear to support Jeannie, her organization-driver-daughter Maria, and MS. The evening couldn’t have been more perfect with a slight breeze keeping guests from coming out of their cowboy hats and boots on the 80-degree night. Every detail was attended to from valet parking and security, to a paved surface anchoring the huge outdoor tent and opulent Port-a-Potties. Following the sit-down dinner, MS sufferers shared their stories, including Jeannie. It was a moving tribute.

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At the end of their evening, they raised almost $200,000 for MS…at their first event! WOW! What made these fundraisers so successful in the Southern Indiana area? The passion of the hosts and the people. Both women are personally invested in their causes. Ann’s father received hospice care through Hosparus and when he passed away, she immediately wanted to give back. Jeannie was diagnosed with MS 25 years ago and believes in raising funds to help find a cure for the illness which afflicts so many.

Both events were similar to attending a huge family reunion — everyone seemed to know everyone from their close-knit Sunny-Side “family.” The results of both literally paid off for the benefiting organizations. There are many fundraisers organized by much larger committees in Louisville which would love to boast these results.

There’s still a stigma among too many Louisvillians about crossing that ominous river. Today’s Woman recently hosted an event in Jeffersonville and a reader told me she would have attended if “it hadn’t been in Indiana”…emphasized like it was a bordering country to Romania.

Why is it we electronically connect with people all over the world but find it so difficult to cross the river? For myself, I find the more time I’m in Indiana, the more I’m thinking it should be called “The Savvy Side of Louisville.”

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Kathy Lintner and Meredith Metzmeier Cartwheels Papers & Gifts

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athy Lintner and daughter Meredith Metzmeier love the excitement that comes with the holidays. “We both enjoy the spirit of the season, the shopping, and hustle and bustle, but mostly we value the true reason for the season and the joy we feel as we share this blessed time with our family and friends,” says Kathy.

When shopping for gifts, Kathy and Meredith say they prefer to buy locally and stick to a predetermined budget. Both of them are lastminute shoppers but consider themselves experts at picking out the perfect gift in a short period of time. Gift selecting, like gift giving, should be like our store’s tagline… ”Fun. Seriously!” says Kathy.

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of paper are always appropriate for any age and any occasion. Whether personalized or not, gifts of paper can be given to express the desired sentiment and reflect the personal style of the recipient.”

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“Flowers for my yard that my children and husband bought for me from Paul’s.” (not shown) “I really enjoy giving a beautiful wine glass. The best ones for every occasion are the hand-painted Lolita glasses from Fleur de Lis.”

A gift she’s given:

Meredith is wearing: DKNY dress $175; Dolce Cabo sweater coat, $218; BCBGeneration dark plum suede boot, $139; Givenchy purple earrings, $44. All items available at Dillards, Mall St. Matthews, 502.893.4400.

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Most versatile gift in her store: “Trays. They are not only beautiful accessories for the home, they are also so practical.”

“The most special gifts that I receive are the ‘made with love’ photographs, paintings, and books that my children and grandchildren have given me. They are priceless and not available anywhere else in the world.”

A gift given to her that she doesn’t sell:

A gift she’s given: “I love to give flowers and have found the perfect way to give them. Digs at Home in the Garden has wonderful faux flowers under a cloche that I can give to friends for birthdays, housewarmings, anniversaries, and just to say ‘I’m thinking of you’ and they don’t have to have a green thumb to enjoy them.”

Kathy is wearing: Jessica Howard dress, $99; M. Haskell purple earrings, $15;

M. Haskell purple necklace, $25; Collection 18 scarf, $38; J. Reneé shoes, $89.

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available at Cartwheels Papers & Gifts, 3919 Chenoweth Square, 502.895.1800; ribbon used on gift packages, $6/box of 7 yards in a cutter box; coordinating stickers are $4/set of 8, available at Cartwheels Papers & Gifts; Faux hyacinth under glass cloche, $75 from Digs at Chenoweth Square, 109 Chenoweth Lane, 502.893.3447; Lolita’s handpainted Holiday Baubles’ Wine Glass, $28, from Fleur de Lis, 3913 Chenoweth Square 502.893.5341.

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elissa Liptrap is delighted when she sees the surprised look of someone who has opened a gift from her. “There’s something magical about the holidays.

Surprises and glitter make magic!” Finding the right type of gifts, she says, is all about understanding who you are shopping for. “Some of the people on my list are very practical and some are more fashion over function. I try to keep this in mind when choosing their gifts.” Since she makes most of the gifts she gives, Melissa starts crafting early but says she’s always on the lookout for gifts throughout the year.

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“We sell a really great selection of affordable art prints. They make great gifts since there’s no size-guessing, they are gender neutral, and they can still be really personal.”

of my best friends made a snowglobe out of an old food jar. It was very thoughtful and personal and is one of my most valued treasures.”

A gift she’s given: “I make leaf earrings out of wool and most every gal I know has received these as a gift from me at some point.”

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Gifts shown: “Hello Cat” framed print by Kathleen Lolley,

$35, available at The Makery, 1734 Bonnycastle Avenue, 502.410.2132; deer figurines, $5 or less (found at vintage and “junk” shops or flea markets); handmade snow globe, priceless.

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Chagnon lucite and metal bracelet, $116; leather and crystal bracelet, $49; Victor Escobar earrings, $25; Naot boots, $250. All items available at Sister Dragonfly, 2021 Frankfort Avenue, 502.899.7625.

Gifts shown: Art clock, $21, available at Sister

Dragonfly; Harpo (her dog); shirt (given to her by her husband).

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“The black and tan coon hound named Harpo from the Kentucky Humane Society that I gave to my husband four years ago.”

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Bring in the Warm

By Wendy Anguiano Photos by Melissa Donald

It is time to pull out those cool weather items and switch out your wardrobe for a new season: tweed, wool, fur, suede, and knits.

Layering, fabulous jackets, leg warmers, and boots should become a part of your everyday.

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his season, a fresh new look is emerging that is neither manly nor girly. It is about sensibility, simplicity, and being smart and seductive. Whether you choose an egg-shaped coat with rounded shoulders, sleeves, and hems paired with skinny pants or choose a military style khaki jacket paired with a tunic dress and leg warmers, you will be fashion forward as you step out the door. Leather or suede mixed with a soft flowing frock, over-theknee leg warmers, and a pair of updated work boots makes a statement of confidence and femininity. Knits, too, are back in either the minimalistic cashmere or an oversized sweater.

As you pull those fall/winter items out, let us hope they are in proper condition. If not, be sure to take some time to launder them appropriately. It is always best to do this at the end of the season before tucking them away. Below is a quick checklist for those items you might use: Wool Coats, Fur Coats • • • • • • • •

Wool coats are fine on plastic hangers.

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Gently brush with a soft suede brush.

Hang on plastic or wood hangers.

Blot spills immediately to sop moisture.

Take to a drycleaner two times per year.

Store in a garment bag.

Allow proper space to store (never in a plastic bag).

Do not sit for a prolonged time.

If it gets wet, shake it off and allow it to air dry.

Condition it to replenish essential oils.

Store in a temperature and humidity vault.

Read the label.

Folding sweaters and storing them in an extra container keeps the moths away.

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Other Coats/Jackets, Sweaters • Air it out.

• Apply spray protection, especially for leather.

• Allow them to breathe.

• Remove immediately from plastic drycleaning bag.

• Use mothballs or cedar sachets.

• Hand wash.

• Use padded hangers or fold.

• Fluff cashmere or wool with an infant hairbrush.

• Remove fuzz balls/pills with an electric shaver.

If your sweater has lost its shape or shrunk in the dryer, a little secret to reshape it is to wash it in warm soapy water. Lay it flat and pull it back out to the shape you want and allow it to air dry.

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alph Waldo Emerson once said that though we travel the world over to find the beautiful, we must carry it with us or find it not. He’s right, of course. And this is something I try to do every day. I don’t always succeed, but I do try. However, there is one time of year when it becomes more difficult for me, and I know I am not alone.

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Meaningful gifts don’t need to cost a lot.

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Beautiful Shopping for holiday gifts should be great fun. The people in the mall ads sure seem to be having a wonderful experience.

But when I arrive I’m easily captured by the anxiety of finding the right gift, staying within budget, navigating the crowds, and entering and exiting parking lots without damage to my car or anyone else’s.

We can do things differently any time we choose, so let’s pick now. Let’s commit to finding the joy in this season, to finding gifts for our friends and loved ones that won’t break the bank or create anxiety for ourselves, and spending more time enjoying what’s fun about the holidays.

Put some cinnamon pinecones in your fireplace and get a cozy fire going, sip some hot chocolate or hot toddy, and curl up with a blanket and/or your favorite pet. What follows are some tips and ideas for removing the stress from holiday shopping so that it will be much easier to carry beauty with you everyday.

MAKE IT YOURSELF One way to stay relaxed this holiday season — avoid traffic, crowds, and the insanity of a busy mall or shopping center completely — is to make your gifts at home. And before you say you’re not an artist or creative, bear with me. Years ago when I was leaving a full-time job at Tucson’s visitors bureau, I received many lovely gifts and cards from my wonderful co-workers. One stood out then and now, and it’s still on display in my home. Anne, who managed the visitor center, framed a piece of paper on which she drew a fancy heart with swirls and light beams and wrote a sweet note. “Thanks Barbara for bringing so much love into our lives — you’ve made a lot!” It was presented to me in a colorful paper bag with coordinated tissue and a scented candle. Now six years t o d a y ’ s

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These gold bangles are intertwined and add sparkle to a holiday dress or t-shirt and jeans. I found them for $10 at General Eccentric on Bardstown Road.

later, I cannot tell you anything about that candle, but the framed note touches my heart every time I look at it.

If you absolutely cannot think of anything original to draw or write, Google song lyrics or famous quotes. You could dress it up by gluing the note onto a piece of pretty wrapping paper and using that to make a border. Picture frames can be found at almost any drugstore, arts and crafts store, and there’s usually always a big selection at discount stores such as Tuesday Morning.

SHOP LOCAL, SAVE MONEY Two things on many shoppers’ minds this year are spending less than last year and shopping local. Buying from locallyowned businesses, which usually feature products from local artists, jewelry makers, and producers, are better for the environment because items are traveling fewer miles to get to you. Shopping locally also keeps the money you spend local, and very often means better quality.

Fox Hollow Farms has lovely home­ made soaps for sale in their market along with many other unique gifts. Last time I was in, I picked up some rose petal soap.

It’s delightful. You could easily package a bar of locally-made soap with your framed note. Or a locally-made candle. Fox Hollow Farm Store is in Crestwood, visit www. foxhollow.com or call 502.243.4323.

Greater Louisville Inc., Louisville’s Cham­ber of Commerce, is sponsoring a program to promote local businesses of all kinds with discounted gift cards available online.

TryitLocal.com features a new offering every day and generally there are a limited number of cards. Through the website, you can also access previous offerings to see what might still be available.

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Previous offers have included: a $50 gift card to Vincenzo’s for $30; $50 worth of We Yoga classes for $10; 18 holes at Chariot Run Golf Course for $39, almost half of the regular price of $69; or $20 for an $88 package at Sun Tan City. Heine Brothers Coffee, massages, spa treatments, and music/event tickets have also been offered.

This is also a great way to save some money when entertaining family for the holidays.

Printed inhouse, these fancy Many local attractions also feature discounts at cupcake bands will make TryitLocal.com your next batch look This season as you head out shopping, carry like they came from a the beauty with you and don’t let anything get boutique bakery.

24 bands run $30. in your way. And have some fun!

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Have Fun at Local Benefits An oldie but a goodie: this event has been happening for 21 years — surely you aren’t going to miss it.

Christmas trees and wreaths, children’s activities, entertainment, shopping, and learning about faiths — it’s all part of this year’s Festival of Trees & Lights on November 12-14. This event gets your decorating ideas popping — you see hundreds of trees and wreaths all dressed for Christmas and other holidays events. It only costs $5 for adults and $3 for children to attend the main events.

Or you might choose to see the Dickens Family Night held on Friday, November 12, 6 to 9 p.m. This special night includes fireworks, Dickens-era costumed characters and carolers, the festival’s first appearance of Santa Claus and special free children’s activities. Children are $5; adults, $8; and families of four or more, $25. This event benefits the Kosair Children’s Hospital neonatal intensive care unit (NICU) and is presented by Republic Bank. Call 502.629.KIDS or visit HelpKosairChildrensHospital.com for information.

And, try this new event, Trousseau A GO-GO, held at 21C. It sounds like fun and could get your party planning juices flowing.

This event on November 11 from 7 p.m. until 10 p.m. benefits Blessings in a Backpack. Meet Louisville’s top party experts and nosh on munchies from Proof on Main. Visit the galleries to view gorgeous decorations by Louisville’s finest event designers. Get tips on how to throw parties — big or small.

Items that are up for grabs in the auction: luxurious travel, stunning jewelry, luminous skin and spa packages, a limousine for a night (or day!), iconic photography options, spa membership, and a yummy candy buffet.

You can choose how much you want to spend to get in (and it comes with different benefits): $20-$80. Purchase your ticket at: http://trousseauagogo.eventbrite.com Until next month… Barbara. t o d a y ’ s

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Les Filles Boutique

Two Chicks and Company offers the best selection in fashion and gifts for this Holiday Season. Let us be your one-stop-shopping experience for all your gift-giving: personal, corporate, teacher, office, church, and more!

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Shop Two Chicks and Company for the PERFECT GIFT FOR ANY OCCASION.

Artisan Jewelry • Handbags • Accessories Inspired by art shows across the country, Les Filles exhibits a wide variety of local as well as national artists specializing in women’s accessories.

Some of the local talent include: Cindy Borders, Coquettish Designs, Daisylee, Posh Ponytails, White Tulip, Cherry & Violet, Phyllis Minnery, Silver Dragons, Christina Robinson, and more.

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Style Calendar November 12 & 13

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Fri. & Sat. Two-Day Sale: 50% off all regular priced merchandise.

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Rita Jackson Sculptor Presenting the Holiday Collection at these fine shows:

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Large selection of Christmas items — Unique, personalized, and custom made.

Specializing in Mother’s, Grandmother’s, Children’s, Spirit and Themed jewelry, including a large selection of charms. Offering corporate shopping and fundraisers; party room available for parties for all ages or group.

Free engraving on select items.

A Taste of Kentucky Exclusively at A Taste of Kentucky, Gail Corso’s newest handpainted glasses are the perfect gift this holiday season for your favorite wine lover.

A Santa version is available too.

Downtown in the Aegon Center 400 West Market Facing 4th St. 502.566.4554 Mall St. Matthews by the Women’s Dillard’s 502.895.2733

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A Breath of Serenity Have you ever wanted to experience what it’s like to have a massage that is customized only for you? At A Breath of Serenity, you can experience a Therapeutic Massage, a Personal Yoga Session, or just Relax in a peaceful environment, like no other. Call for your appointment today.

Gift Certificates and Nice Gifts available for the holidays.

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We offer the perfect Louisville themed gifts: coasters, local made products, t-shirts, glassware, home decor, and jewelry.

And there is always something new … you can count on us for the perfect holiday gift.

U of L Central Cardinal Club 2010 Holiday Boutique November 9, 2010 11:00am to 7:30pm

Come enjoy our Holiday Boutique including Lunch with style show, Silent Auction, 26 Vendors, and Dinner at the University Club on U of L Campus.

All proceeds benefit the Cardinal Athletic Fund and U of L Student Athletes.

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Gifts: Shop ‘Til You Find It

It’s The Thought That Counts…kinda

by Marie Bradby/ Photos by Chet White

I have known some good gift givers.

Even when they are in a rush, they can pick the right thing to present to their loved ones. What makes them different?

Could it be that they know the secret?

We tagged along with two Louisville women to see if we could learn something that will make everyone on our list happy.

S Susan nabbed this $10 Two Chicks inspirational “memory box” for a friend going through a tough time. bottom: Susan is looking at one of ChickA-D’s gifts: a bag made entirely out of recycled water bottles. Different sizes, $8-$12.

usan Gilligan says the art of buying gifts is knowing the person you are shopping for and paying attention.

“Being observant when you go into their house ­— how it’s decorated, their favorite colors, the things they wear, and what they enjoy” is important for buying the right gift, says Susan, who designs and sells jewelry.

The joy of gift-giving is “coming across a good find that you know will excite them,” says Susan, who works for W&M Jewelry, a private line sold in boutiques locally and regionally. “It’s more fun to give it, than to get it.”

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top left: One of Chick A D’s most popular products, these multicolored cowboy boots are always a quick sell-out at $42 a pair. top right: Playthings supplied Susan with a $12.99 fireman’s playset for her threeyear-old who wears his plastic fireman’s hat every day. middle left: Two Chicks keeps the Derby running on their shelves year-round with this $8 horse ornament. middle right: Susan buys each of her five children a Christmas ornament every year. This year it’s these stitched snowmen from Chick A D’s for $4.50 each. bottom: Susan leaves Two Chicks, ahead in her Christmas shopping.

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Married with five children, ranging in age from three to seventeen, she buys year-round ­— whenever she sees something of interest — in order to spread out the cost and to find things that are unique.

“If I’m out and I see something that I would buy as a gift, I don’t wait, I get it... and tuck it away. So I will be buying Christmas presents all year round. It drives my husband crazy sometimes. (But) you don’t know if you will remember where it was, or it might not even still be there (when you go back). So I am always looking. It makes it a little easier.

“Especially for things like hostess gifts at Christmas time. I was in Scout the other day. They had the cutest cheese slicer. It was a little mouse. I like different things that people aren’t already going to have. I look for uniqueness in a gift.

“Sometimes it’s very difficult because you have people who don’t need anything or want anything — like my parents. Their 50th wedding anniversary is in a week. My sister and I said, ‘What do we give them?’ So we are having a big family portrait taken with all the grandkids. When I told my father, he was so excited. I love seeing someone’s face and their reaction.”

For friends going through a difficult time, she buys Tussie Mussies, small bouquets in vases from Nanz and Kraft florist. “For someone who needs a pick-me-up.”

Scout, 742 E. Market Street, 502.584.8989. Specializes in modern, eclectic furnishings, gifts, artwork, jewelry.

Susan loves the mix of items. “I just love that you can go in there, and they have furniture and jewelry — it’s just everything.

You can get something for $5 or $7, or you can buy a couch.” Her hostess friends are getting the mouse cheese slicers for Christmas.

Cost: under $10. “They are the most darling things I’ve ever seen.”

Cartwheels, 3919 Chenoweth Square, 502.895.1800. Unique papers and gifts.

“Just really neat things like these cute porcelain flowers that you can put a tea light in,” says Susan. “I’ve bought quite a few of those. They are under $20. They are just beautiful pieces,” says Susan, who recently went to a fundraiser for the Speed Art Museum where the hostess received four gifts from Cartwheels. Susan also recently purchased a tray printed with a damask design and the receiver’s initial in the center.

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Playthings Toy Shoppe, 4209 Shelbyville Road, 502.895.6152. New and classic toys, games, pretend play, and educational items.

“They have things you wouldn’t find (at) Toys R Us. She’s purchased a magnet board game with monkeys that “the little ones just love.” Playthings was “the first store to carry Banagrams,” a popular, crossword game like Scrabble, but without a board, and comes in a zippered pouch shaped like a banana. “They seem to be on the cutting edge of what’s new and exciting,...(and) get it before anyone else.”

Chick A D’s, 11505 Main Street Middletown, 502.245.9525. Gifts, clothing accessories, shoes, etc.

“They have so many great stocking stuffers,” says Susan. She’s bought jeweled flipflops for her daughter and her daughter’s friends, tote bags, and a key chain with an attached ball of lip gloss. Cost: under $15.

Celebrations, 3632 Brownsboro Rd, 502.894.9590. Cards, stationery, gifts.

“They have everything. The last time I was in there, they had all these little wind-up toys. They had little fish that flop around, dancing people — stocking stuffers for my little one this year. I recently bought a couple of ornaments that are owls. My girlfriend has a daughter that pledged a sorority and the owl is their symbol. So they are going to get those for Christmas.” Cost: $20.

Two Chicks and Company, 12121 Shelbyville Road, 502.254.0400.

Specializes in unique home decor and one-of-a-kind personal accessories.

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annette Burns, 42, who operates an on-line merchandise company, looks

at her calendar to see what birthdays or events are coming up, and goes shopping, sometimes spending a whole day looking for the right gift.

“I love to shop,” says Jannette, who owns mymint-tins.com, which provides personalized party items. “There isn’t a place I haven’t shopped in Louisville. I should be a personal shopper.”

She’ll pick up gifts anywhere, especially if there is a sale. For Christmas, she starts buying items in October, and shops all the way up to December 23, purchasing for family, friends, and business vendors.

A Mother’s Touch, 2312 Shelbyville Road 502.253.9477. Specializes in personalized jewelry, monogrammed handbags, etc.

“I used to work in the corporate world,” says Jannette. “I still have friends from then and I buy for them. They have a huge variety of things (children’s, pets, wedding); I can usually find something there.” She recently purchased a personalized picture frame for a wedding, $25.

Madeleine’s Gifts, 245 S. Hurstbourne Pkwy, 502.425.3310. Specializes in collectibles, art ornaments, Christmas items, home and garden accessories.

“I purchase pet ornaments there,” says Jannette, who raises and shows bulldogs and has a lot friends who have pets. Ornaments: about $15.

A Taste of Kentucky, 11800 Shelbyville Road, 502.244.3355 (and two other locations). Specializes in food, art, and crafts made in Kentucky.

“I purchase gifts that relate to Kentucky for my vendors who are out of state.” She regularly buys the Kentucky Bourbon candle, $14. “It’s got a rich, flavorful smell. If it’s a really big customer, I will spend more.”

Feeder’s Supply, 12314 Shelbyville Road, 502.244.9902 (two other locations). Pet food and supplies.

“I have a lot of pet-loving friends,” she says. Feeder’s Supply has “pet toys, pet books about a specific breed, treats, bedding, and candles that are for pets. If you have a dog, you need a candle in your house, or I do anyway.” When she is asked to donate something for a rescue group or the Humane Society, she will buy several items and make a gift basket.

She also buys a lot of pet greeting cards. “That’s a big thing that I buy there.” Cards: around $2-$3.

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Gifts brings the holidays to the garden with this Christmas windchime; top middle: In this $19.95 centerpiece you can fill with flowers, pebbles, or whatever fits with your decorations; bottom middle:

This beautiful glass butterfly wall-hanger is a steal for any nature lover at $8.99.

Jannette says you can never go wrong with giving a candle as a gift, and A Mother’s Touch carries dozens of scents in all shapes and sizes. t o d a y ’ s

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Reminded of her own show dogs, Jannette couldn’t resist these kissing bulldog salt-and-pepper shakers at Madeleine’s Gifts for $12.95.

top middle: Madeleine’s Gifts carries the holiday shoppers’ mantra on this colorful wall plaque; middle: ceramic dog bowl $26.95 at Madeleine’s Gifts; bottom middle: A Mother’s Touch does custom beading for their jewelry so that each gift is unique for your special someone; bottom: This purse from A Mother’s Touch opens up to double as a food and water bowl for the pet owner on the go.

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Monthly Muffin

RECIPE >>>

A Great Gift Muffin Orange Poppy Seed

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To combat the “weight” during the full holiday frenzy prelude, I have developed a muffin that is quick and easy to make, light in consistency, and a wonderful gift contribution to a holiday brunch or a kind gesture for saying “thanks” for the hospitality.

For this muffin, I chose ingredients that are in season and typically used during this time of year. This is the height of the orange season, and oranges become an important part of our winter diets. People tend to increase their vitamin C t o d a y ’ s

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1 c all purpose white unbleached flour 1 /2 c whole wheat flour 1 /2 c wheat germ 1 /2 tsp salt 1 tsp baking powder 1 tsp baking soda 1 /4 tsp ground cloves 1 /4 tsp nutmeg 1 /3 c poppy seeds 2+ Tbsp orange zest (from 2 medium organic navel oranges) 1 c fresh squeezed orange juice (from the same 2 medium size organic navel oranges) 1 /2 c turbinado sugar 1 /3 c applesauce 1 tsp vanilla 2 eggs, room temperature Preheat oven to 400 degrees. Prepare a 6-cup jumbo muffin tin with Crisco shortening or a non-stick spray.

In a large bowl, whisk together the flours, wheat germ, salt, baking powder, baking soda, cloves, nutmeg, and poppy seeds.

With grater or large zester, grate the peel off both oranges and set aside. Slice both oranges in half and squeeze all the juice from each half (this should equal 1 cup of liquid).

Place the zest and juice in a medium size bowl; add the sugar, applesauce and vanilla and mix well.

Lightly beat in one egg at a time into this mixture.

Make a well in the large bowl with the dry ingredients. Pour in the wet ingredients and blend until just incorporated.

Place the batter in the prepared muffin tray about 2 /3 -full. Bake at 400 degrees for 15-17 minutes. Place a cake tester or toothpick down the middle. If the tester comes out clean Nutritional Information: (without any batter sticking Calories: 284 to the sides), then they are Total Fat: 6 g (with one gram of saturated fat) done. Let muffins sit in Cholesterol: 71mg the tin for a minute before Potassium: 229mg removing. Transfer to a wire Total Carbohydrates: 48g rack and serve warm. Store Fiber: 5g Sugar: 2g in an airtight container.

Protein: 9g Vitamin C: 40%

intake this time of year to protect themselves from the common cold, and this muffin is loaded with vitamin C! I’ve also added ground cloves for a hint of holiday flavor. This muffin is also low in sugar and high in protein and fiber, while maintaining a light and airy consistency.

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by cheryl stuck

HealthyWoman

Dancing the Pounds Away Jennifer Fabel

AGE: 31 • Dispatcher for MetroSafe Communications & Zumba instructor at Fabulous Fabel Fitness

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ennifer Fabel found an exercise that was so much fun, she decided to teach it. In her full-time job, Jennifer keeps track of first responders like police officers, fire department, and EMS personnel. She sends them to the scene and tries to ensure their safety on emergency and non-emergency runs.

The hardest part of this stressful job, Jennifer said, is “when the officer calls and needs help and I’m not able to be there — if they’re chasing somebody or fighting somebody — and making sure that all your officers are safe at the end of the night.”

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Dancing off the stress

“Any job comes with its own stress, and exercise helps a lot. My exercise is Zumba. When I’m doing that, I don’t worry about work.

“Zumba is a Latin dance-based fitness class. It’s a cardio workout, but it’s dancing. You’re moving your hips and your core, and shaking your booty and moving parts of your body so you don’t even realize you’re moving until the next day when you’re sore. It doesn’t feel like being on a treadmill for 30 minutes.

“It’s a lot of fun. It’s like going out dancing with your girlfriends and not having to get ready and put heels on, or makeup, or fixing your hair. You leave the class and feel like you’ve done something because you’re sweaty, and you’ve burned a lot of calories.”

Jennifer credits Zumba as the key to her 65-pound weight loss. She slightly changed her diet, generally watching her flour and sugar intake.

Jennifer trained to become a Zumba instructor and now teaches at least four hour-long classes per week. In addition, she does weight training a couple of times a week for about 30 to 45 minutes.

exercise. She said I had to try Zumba.

So I went with her one day and was absolutely hooked. The next thing I know, I’m going two or three times a week, and the weight’s just falling off of me. ”

“I had gotten to a point that I was unhappy with every aspect of me. I had gained a lot of weight. I’m only fivefoot tall, so you can see every pound.

I have an 11-year-old son and couldn’t play with him in the front yard without being tired.

“I didn’t like me. I didn’t like the way I looked. I wanted to dress up and look nice in the cute clothes. I didn’t want to go out with my friends anymore…it affected every part of my life.

“I think that when you decide to lose weight, it has to be absolutely your time and it has to be your decision, not anybody else’s. You have to do it for you.”

When she started Zumba, Jennifer weighed over 190 pounds. On a recent Saturday night, she was pleased to fit into a size two.

“Now I am so much more confident and it’s not just physically — I feel better in every way because I did this myself. I have much more energy, I can play with my son in the yard.

“My Zumba class keeps me motivated, and being their motivation is what motivates me. Watching everybody do a routine that I’ve choreographed is so much fun and is a good ego boost for me. They’re doing it, they love it, and they’re losing weight and having fun.

That’s the biggest thing for me.”

Jennifer rents space to teach Fabulous Fabel Fitness classes at 360 Dance at Plantside Drive and Blankenbaker. The first class is $5 and individual classes are $8 or packages are discounted. For more information: www.zumbajenn.com t o d a y ’ s

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HealthyWoman

Breathless!

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Kelly had put off going to the doctor until she went to the emergency room for a severe sinus infection. During a routine test, doctors discovered Kelly’s oxygen level was 70 and should have been 100, so they immediately sent her to the intensive care unit.

In August of 2000, Kelly was diagnosed with primary pulmonary hypertension, a disease she had never heard of, which is a type of high blood pressure that affects the arteries in the lungs and the right side of the heart.

Kelly saw a specialist and found out that she was in stage four and that she had only a few days to live because the right side

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“It was all so overwhelming and such a shock. I knew something was going on, but I didn’t think it was that bad. I was in the IC unit making my funeral arrangements. I had my attorney come and make my will — everything just happened so quickly.”

They began intravenous medication, and she immediately lost 60 pounds in order to get on the list for a double lung transplant. The meds kicked in and after a couple of weeks, the doctor sent her home. “I was very fortunate that this worked for me. I continued to improve and stabilized so they took me off the transplant list, and I’ve been maintaining ever since.”

Now, at age 44, Kelly takes a pill as well as intravenous medication that is administered with a pump that she wears strapped to her waist like a fanny pack. “I mix the medicine

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every 24 hours, and it stays on me continuously. I am also on oxygen 24/7.”

She has to be careful of her sodium intake because of edema (like swollen ankles). She also takes a blood thinner, and has to watch out for foods high in vitamin K, like leafy dark green vegetables. “So I can’t eat spinach, my favorite thing in the whole world, and that was probably my hardest thing to give up.”

Her exercise is limited. “At first when I was diagnosed, they said to go home and don’t do anything. No exercise. Now they encourage it, but it’s on an individual basis.”

Kelly wants everyone to know about pulmonary hypertension.

“Ten years ago, they didn’t know a lot about this disease.” She said that at the time of her diagnosis, her cardiologist said he had heard about this disease and would go home and read about it.

So 10 years after being given days to live, Kelly is surviving.

“Now, we have a lot more treatments available…so if one isn’t doing what it should, we move on to another one.”

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by Bob Mueller

Living Well

‘Tis a Gift To Be Simple

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is a gift to be simple,” sang the Shakers, and the lyric still rings true. Simplicity in its essence neither demands a vow of poverty nor a life of rural homesteading.

It requires neither a log cabin nor a hair shirt. It does require a deliberate ordering of priorities to distinguish between the necessary and the superfluous, the useful and the wasteful, the beautiful and the vulgar.

Sometimes it hits us squarely between the eyes, maybe visiting another culture or simply visiting with someone as close as our own spouse or with a good friend. Our worldview, the glasses through which we see the world, is not the only way to perceive reality. I had such an experience on a recent trip to Scotland that taught me to love simplicity in all things and not to be so driven for success.

To describe simplicity only as an inner reality is to say something false. The inner reality is not a reality until there is an outward expression. To experience the liberating spirit of simplicity will affect how we live. So I suggest the following nine principles for the outward expression of simplicity.

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1) R eject anything that is producing an addiction in you.

If money has a grip on your heart, give some away and feel the inner release. Remember that an addiction, by its very nature, is something that is beyond your control.

2) Learn to enjoy things without owning them. Many things in life can be enjoyed without possessing or controlling them. Share things. Enjoy the beach without feeling you have to buy a piece of it.

3) B uy things for their usefulness rather than their status.

Cars should be bought for their utility, not their prestige.

Consider your clothes. Many people buy clothes because they want to keep up with fashions. Hang the fashions!

4) Develop a deeper appreciation for all creation. Get close to the earth. Walk whenever you can. Listen to the birds.

Enjoy the texture of grass and leaves. Smell the flowers.

Marvel in the rich colors everywhere.

5) Avoid flattery and half-truths. Make honesty and integrity the distinguishing characteristics of your speech.

If you consent to do a task, do it.

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6) Develop a habit of giving things away. If you find that you are becoming attached to some possession, consider giving it to someone who needs it.

7) Refuse to be caught up by the custodians of modern gadgetry. Often children find more joy in playing with old pots and pans than with the latest space set. Look for toys that are educational and durable. Usually gadgets are an unnecessary drain on the energy resources of the world.

The United States has less than six percent of the world’s population, but consumes about thirty-three percent of the world’s energy.

8) L ook with a healthy skepticism at all “buy now, pay later” schemes. They are a trap and only deepen our bondage.

Certainly prudence, as well as simplicity, demands that we use extreme caution before incurring debt.

9) R eject anything that breeds the oppression of others. In a world of limited resources, does our lust for wealth mean the poverty of others? Should we buy products that are made by forcing people into dull assembly-line jobs? Do we enjoy hierarchical relationships in the company or factory that

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keep others under us? Do we oppress our children or spouse because we feel certain tasks are beneath us? Often our oppression is tinged with racism, sexism, and nationalism.

Gratitude is what I would like to feel, more than anything.

How else can you really enjoy your life? To feel gratitude is to look at everything in your life and appreciate it, be aware of it, pay attention to it. Our lifestyle, of course, engenders discontent and resentment. Because more is always better, you can never be satisfied with what you have. Because commercials are constantly showing us ecstatically happy people with lots of stuff, we always feel that we’re just not quite making it. Then, when we see how much money rich people have, we feel envious.

All of these feelings make you discontent with your life, causing you to fail to be grateful for what you do have.

‘Tis the gift to be simple, ‘Tis the gift to be free, ‘Tis the gift to come down where you ought to be, And when we find ourselves in the place just right, ‘Twill be in the valley of love and delight.

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Insomnia, Weight Gain, Hair Loss, Abnormally Tired?

Maybe You Should be Checked for

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Thyroid Disease

By Matthew Lockman

If you are at a loss as to what the purpose of the thyroid gland is, you are not alone. Many of us have either forgotten or are unaware of the importance of this small gland just under the Adam’s apple.

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eana, 35, is a mother of two who works a full-time job and lives in Louisville. She believes she has suffered with hypothyroidism for most of her life, but she never sought medical help until five months after giving birth to her daughter. Deana said, “I felt abnormally tired all of the time. No amount of sleep could cure it. I thought it must be related to the pregnancy, which I had never experienced before, but at five months postpartum I knew something wasn’t right.” After initially losing the extra weight gained during pregnancy, she quickly added about 20 pounds.

That was in 2005, and today, Deana’s thyroid is regulated by medication known as thyroid hormone replacement.

The Thyroid in a Nutshell The thyroid gland is one of the largest endocrine glands in our bodies. It creates hormones, known as triiodothyronine (T3) and thyroxine (T4) that impact every cell within us. These hormones regulate extremely important functions such as metabolism, heart rate, body temperature, and blood pressure, according to Dr. Melissa Humphreys with Iroquois Medical Center. The thyroid can become quite active without the presence of any disorder or abnormality. Puberty, pregnancy, and physiological stress are all common thyroid gland stressors.

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When It Doesn’t Work Properly The two most commonly diagnosed forms of thyroid disease are known as hyperthyroidism and hypothyroidism, Dr. Melissa Humphreys, with Iroquois Medical Center, said. Approximately 5 percent of the adult population is affected by these two forms of thyroid disease. However, this percentage only includes those with clinical hyper and hypothyroidism. Estimates for people suffering with sub-clinical hyper and hypothyroidism, where symptoms are less severe or completely absent, are three to four times as high. Diagnosis is twice as high in women and much more common for both genders over the age of 65.

According to Dr. Humphreys, “Heredity plays a large role in developing either form of thyroid disease. Other medical conditions, such as diabetes or history of head and neck radiation, place an individual at a higher risk.” Dr. Humphreys also believes that regular screening for thyroid disease is necessary for diabetic patients and anyone over the age of 50.

If It Works Too Hard Hyperthyroidism is caused by an overactive thyroid gland.

The gland releases too much T3 and T4, which drastically disrupts normal cell functioning. The increase of these hormones is usually noticed through normal body functions speeding up.

The most common cause of hyperthyroidism is known as Graves disease. Roughly 60-80 percent of hyperthyroid patients suffer from Graves’ disease, which normally causes the thyroid gland to become enlarged (also known as a goiter) along with the usual symptoms of hyperthyroidism.

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more frequent bowel movements, and weight loss despite an increase in appetite. Women with hyperthyroidism often report noticeable menstrual cycle changes, especially a lighter flow and longer time between periods.

Dr. Humphreys has firsthand experience with both hyper and hypothyroidism. According to Dr. Humphreys, her symptoms began to appear about three months postpartum. She says she felt like she was experiencing the worst flu in her life. She had joint pain, night sweats, irritability, and very erratic mood swings. Dr. Humphreys said, “If I thought someone looked at me wrong, or said something wrong, I would break out in tears.”

The most difficult symptom appeared to be an extreme fatigue that she claimed would cause her to fall asleep (even while standing up) unless she remained constantly physically active.

After seeing a nuclear radiologist, she was a given a radioactive iodine treatment. The time it takes for the thyroid gland to regulate properly varies with this particular treatment; it was seven months before Dr. Humphreys began to get lab results in the normal range.

It Doesn’t Work Hard Enough Hypothyroidism, which is what Deana is being treated for, is caused by an underactive thyroid gland. Primary hypothyroidism is caused by a failing thyroid gland, while secondary hypothyroidism is caused by the hypothalamus or the pituitary gland not producing enough of their hormones that ultimately stimulate the thyroid. The final result is a lack of T3 and T4 being released into the body. This often gives the sensation that normal body functions are slowing down.

Dr. Humphreys says that a few of the more common symptoms of hypothyroidism are, “fatigue, weight gain, alopecia (excessive hair loss), dry skin, and cold intolerance.” She also explained that after probing a little deeper with questions, her patients often reported “a history of constipation, memory impairment, decreased libido, menstrual changes, and joint pains.” Other common symptoms include: poor muscle tone, depression, decreased sweating, water retention, and decreased heart rate.

Women with hypothyroidism often report abnormal, heavy menstrual bleeding, while men often report erectile dysfunction.

Finding Treatment Thyroid disease often hides behind symptoms that appear to be the result of other medical conditions. Therefore, the disease can go undiagnosed for a long time. However, if untreated, thyroid disease can cause heart disease, acute psychosis, major reproductive problems, and even coma.

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She’s Fighting Alzheimer’s

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hen Teri Shirk commits to a cause, she dives in headfirst. As president and CEO of the local chapter of the Alzheimer’s Association, Teri is devoted to improving the Teri Shirk, lives of Alzheimer’s patients and their families. “I always say we have a mission without president and CEO of the local chapter end.” Alzheimer’s, says Teri, affects 5 million people nationally and 80,000 in Greater of the Alzheimer’s Kentucky and Southern Indiana. “And that is growing at a rate of about 30 percent every Association 20 years.” The statistics are disheartening, but Teri hasn’t let it derail her efforts toward strengthening the inner core of families affected by the disease. Teri and her team provided n Inspiration: It comes from my sense of training and education to more than 575 family caregivers who learned new skills and fairness. I have always been driven towards better coping techniques and gained valuable insight into the disease. Under her leadership, equality — it pushes me to look for ways to meet the needs of others. the association raised $1.4 million last year. “Ninety-five percent of all dollars that come n Best part of her job: When families in, come from the general public.” She adds, “The generosity of people is really coming are affected by our services and they are out. More and more people are becoming passionate about finding a cure.” thankful. n Defining moment: When I finished my MBA at University of Cincinnati. When I started it, I made a commitment to getting it so that I could be a better nonprofit manager.

At that point, I reaffirmed my commitment to the fact that it is my career. I want to make nonprofits as strong and as sustainable as possible. Finishing that degree and saying that I am going to put this into nonprofit management really defined my career, and I have no desire to do anything else. n Contentment: My family is very important to me, and what I choose to do every day is important to me. I feel like this position has continued to be what I am built for. n In 10 years I hope I’m…Still involved with a good cause. In terms of my family, I hope we are healthy and happy and that my kids have self-determination and independence. n Daydreams about: Travel, anywhere and everywhere. Going out west would be great. n Greatest weakness or vice: Diet Coke.

I am definitely addicted to it. I wake up drinking Diet Coke. n Pet peeve: Not saying what you mean.

I am pretty direct, and I don’t like for people to just say ‘yes.’ I like for them to tell me what they really think. n Makes her laugh: Just about anything… enjoying myself with other people. n Most proud of: My family and how far the Alzheimer’s Association has come in the last three years as far as increased awareness for the association and concern for the disease.

Every year, more and more people are utilizing our services, whether through calling our helpline, visiting our website, or going to our events. n Can’t stand: Apathy, especially regarding quality; if you are going to put your name or the name of the Association on a service, a product, a report, even a note…it needs to reflect our best effort, show respect for the individuals we serve, be consistent, and always reflect our mission. n Can’t get the knack of: Organization.

I try a new tool every six months to stay in order. I love to hire people who are detailedoriented. They keep me in line. n Biggest block to creativity: Anxiety, especially in the environment we are in right now…the economy is tough.

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This Could Be You! Nominate yourself for our Ready To Change Your Life contest.

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re you ready to change your life? If so, Today’s Woman wants to help push you toward the goal of living healthy. Nominate yourself for our three-month weight loss challenge to see how much better you can look and feel. The deadline to enter is November 19. Send your personal story (less than 500 words) including your specific goals, age, and current weight to weightloss@todayspublications.com and put “Ready To Change My Life” in the subject line.

AFTER Teresa Williams lost 32 pounds in 3 months.

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A Warm Gift of Memories

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’m guessing you’ve done what I did. As your children got older, you gave away many of their baby clothes — but you kept the ones that meant the most to you. The ones that spark special memories of a little boy running around the house in Buzz Lightyear jammies or a little girl dancing in her Cinderella Halloween costume.

Or perhaps you have a stack of T-shirts from elementary sports teams, high school clubs, college, or family vacations.

No matter where your memories come from, if they’re made of fabric, they can be turned into a unique quilt. Think of it as a scrapbook page that will decorate your home, keep your family toasty warm, and become a family treasure.

LOTS OF OPTIONS Google “T-shirt quilts” and you’ll find a number of companies that make them, of course. But not everyone does the “baby-clothes” version. In addition to Campus Quilt Co. (www. campusquilt.com), the company that made my family’s quilt, check out The Quilt Loft (www.tshirtquilt.com) and Jelly Bean Quilts (www.jellybeanquilts.com). All feature adorable photos of finished quilts on their websites. (For a quilt for an older child with lots of Scouting badges, check out the Eagle Scout quilt at The Quilt Loft.)

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Feeling crafty? At Ticche & Bea (www.ticcheandbea. com) you can buy a T-shirt memory quilt kit and make it yourself. The $35 kit includes everything needed to make a quilt from baby clothes: alternating squares of fabric, batting, a quilt back, safety pins, straight pins, a cutting template, and very specific directions. (Just add patience and time!)

A close-up view of one square of the quilt.

PRESERVING MEMORIES The folks at Campus Quilt Co. here in Louisville took my son’s special baby and toddler clothes and turned them into the most gorgeous hand-crafted quilt I’ve ever seen. Every item of clothing was pressed and arranged in a cute way on its own square and then carefully stitched down so it will stay put. As I told my husband, it looks as if someone who loves our family (and who is very talented!) made this quilt. It’s a work of art that will last for generations.

Having the quilt makes me realize how important it is to enjoy these treasured memories instead of keeping them in a box. Now I can see and touch, once again, Matt’s first Halloween costume, when he was a 10-month-old little pumpkin; his Spiderman jammies; the “I Love Grandma” sweatshirt that includes Matt’s toddler handprints in fabric paint; his “Woody” Toy Story jammies, and his Superman T-shirt.

What sentimental mom wouldn’t love that? And it’s something I know I’ll eventually pass down to Matt. A true family heirloom.

(Won’t his kids giggle when they see their dad’s toddler-sized Superman shirt one day? I love the thought of that.)

Campus Quilt Co. prices run from $129 for a nine-square lap quilt (the squares on these quilts are big — 15 inches) to $419 for a 49-square king-size quilt. These are the prices if the quilt is made from just T-shirts. There are additional charges for doing special detailed work with baby clothes, adding strips of extra fabric between the squares, etc. Call 502.968.2850 and tell them what you have in mind, and they can give you all the details regarding cost.

I was a little worried about packing up these precious baby clothes and sending them. But the company took great care to make sure my items were transported safely. They sent a kit that explains everything, and they included a large, heavyduty mailing bag and a pre-addressed label for shipping. Then they emailed me when they received my package. They kept me informed of the progress on my quilt, and they got in touch with a tracking number when they shipped the quilt back to me. They understand how important these memories are, and they make sure customers are informed at every step of the process. t o d a y ’ s

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Shower a New Mom With This Thoughtful Quilt

“When a friend was pregnant with her first child, I asked the extended family and her close friends to send me a 9x9-inch square of fabric that represented their hobby, something that represented them in some other way, or something they wanted to teach the child one day,” says Candace Jones of Irving, Texas.

“We had fabric from a grandma’s apron, an uncle cut up one of his lucky flannel fishing shirts, and an older cousin sent a T-shirt from his college alma mater, hoping to recruit early,” says Jones.

“Another family member cut some fabric from the great grandmother’s sewing fabrics that had been stored in an attic. Since the great grandmother had recently passed, it was especially poignant for the new mom,” she adds.

“And a close friend sent fabric from one of her son’s onesies and added a poem about looking forward to having a new lifelong friend, written in fabric paint across it. The quilt was adorable, and we gave it to the mom-to-be at the shower with a little write-up of who sent what and why.”

WHAT WILL YOU USE FOR YOUR QUILT? Don’t have enough of your baby’s clothes for a quilt? Want to do something different? Here are some other ideas for choosing items for a great quilt: x T-shirts from your family’s travels. x Squares made from your young swimmer’s beach towels. (Use your quilt to stay warm at those early morning swim meets.) x Baby clothing from different generations. Did your mom save some of your own baby clothes?

Combine them with your child’s for a true keepsake. x Fabric from your wedding dress and a bridesmaid’s dress. x Fabric squares in your child’s high school colors, mixed with squares featuring school T-shirts from sports teams or school clubs.

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x High school or college sweatshirts from different family members. x Costumes from school plays. x Halloween costumes.

The list is endless... And if you’re a new parent and you’re just beginning to save special items like the receiving blanket your baby wore in the hospital, the little soft cap the nurses placed on her head, and those oh-so-tiny socks, you’re in luck. You can plan ahead and save those items until you have just the right collection to make a quilt you’ll treasure. It will warm your heart as well as your bed. Just ask Superman’s mom.

— Freelance writer Kathy Sena is mom to 14-year old Matt.

She still has lots of baby treasures squirreled away in the family cedar chest, including the well-loved “Mr. Bear.”

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The Kentucky Museum of Art and Craft and Kosair Children’s Hospital have teamed up to present more than 75 artistic expressions created by the children, families, and staff at Kosair. This exhibit explores how creating art helps heal children in the medical setting.

When  Now through December 3 Where  Kentucky Museum of Art tickets  Free/children, seniors, and members; $6/general Contact  502.589.0102

Featuring the work of artists from as far away as Ireland and Sweden, this exhibit includes painting, ceramic sculpture, film, video, photography, and mixed media works. The exhibit will also offer a free screening of The Real Dirt of Farmer John at the Henry Clay on November 7 at 8:30pm.

When  Now through December 31 Where  Kentucky Museum of Art and Craft Contact  502.589.0102

Pony Express, Revisited

Nevermore: An Evening with Poe

Travel back in time to witness one of America’s most famous historical events. Through this amazing series of photographs, see how life was during the westward expansion and learn about the urgency of communication.

When  Now through December 31 Where  Frazier International History Museum tickets  $9/adults; $4/children 17 and under; 4 and under free Contact  502.753.5663

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Rooted in Place Exhibit

Whether you loved his poetry or shuddered at his grisly stories, Edgar Allan Poe is one of America’s greatest writers. For one night, witness live performances of Poe’s best-known works. If you’ve ever wanted to get inside his head, now is your chance!

When  November 2 @ 7:30pm Where  Frazier International History Museum tickets  $15 Contact  502.753.5663

Play Your Cards Right

Traditional online dating is so last year. Cheek’d is the new way to go. Kentucky native and founder Lori Cheek provides members with a deck of 50 black cards with fun, flirtatious messages written on them for the shy to give to their intended. On each card is a unique code that is linked to your private profile on cheekd.com, where your perfect stranger can learn more about you and send you a message. Launched in New York City in May, Cheek’d is making its way to Louisville.

Sometimes it’s just better to let the cards do all the talking.

What led to this idea? “Three years ago, I was at a restaurant with a male friend, and he wrote on his business card ‘want to have dinner with me?’ and gave it to a girl. I thought it was a cute idea, but she had all of his business information on it. I thought there should be a way to just hand a card to someone without giving away any personal information.”

The Judds: The Last Encore

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’d crawl out of a sickbed or postpone my vacation to attend the Louisville tour date of the legendary mother and daughter Ashland, Kentucky natives, who last did a national tour together 10 years ago in what was then their Power to Change: Farewell Tour. Although over the years I’ve heard Wynonna in concert multiple times, attending a Judds concert had always been on my entertainment “bucket list,” and I thought it was an opportunity lost until the announcement of their Last Encore 18-city national tour. One of the most successful country music duos of all time, between the years 1983-2000 The Judds released six studio albums, amassed five Grammy awards, and eight Country Music Association Awards, and charted 25 singles on the country music charts, 14 of which landed at #1. In September of this year, The Judds released the upbeat and catchy single I Will Stand By You. When  December 3 @ 8pm Where  KFC Yum! Center tickets  $60-$81.

Also ‘The VIP Package’ available Contact  Ticketmaster outlets.

— Gioia Patton

Have you ever done regular online dating? “I was in an awful relationship five years ago, and my friends kept telling me to get on Match.com. It was a nightmare. I realized that my clients could see my profile online, so they knew I was trying to find a date online. New York is like Taylorsville to me now.

I can’t step outside without seeing someone I know. I was out somewhere and someone winked at me, and that was really weird.”

Why is Cheek’d better than regular online dating?

“You don’t know what you’re getting into with regular online dating. With Cheek’d, you’ve seen who they are. You know if they’re bald; you know if they’re fat. It’s like you’re going grocery shopping. You’re shopping for everybody, and you can find someone anywhere. You can get your card sent to you in Taylorsville, KY, and give it to someone in Lebanon, KY, and all of your personal information will remain private until you’re ready to give out a card.”

— Maggie Nelson

You can purchase the cards online at www.cheekd.com or at the 21C Hotel Gift Shop.

If you would like to include your event in our upcoming issue, send it to Calendar@iamtodayswoman.com. Please include a hi-res jpeg image (photo should be 300 dpi at 4x6 size). We must receive your information at least 6 weeks in advance. No phone calls, please.

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Teen Challenge/Priscilla’s Place Banquet and Silent Auction

Priscilla’s Place is a residential program for women with substance addictions, behavioral issues, and/or relationship issues. Sheila Raye Charles, daughter of Ray Charles, and Dawne Gee will be guests at this event.

When  November 4 @ 6pm Where  The Olmstead tickets  $30 Contact  502.561.2131 or 502.533.5504

2010 Mockingbird Gardens Holiday Boutique

Custom wreaths, gourmet food, W&M Custom Jewelry, whimsical gifts, holiday accessories, cards, toys, and more. A portion of the proceeds will benefit Kosair Children’s Hospital.

When  November 5 @ 4-8pm and November 6 @ 10am-4pm Where  299 Mockingbird Gardens Drive Contact  502.494.0391

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let out a back-to-back “Yippee!” after reading that not only was this electrifying Latin and ballroom dance spectacular coming to Louisville, but amongst the cast were some of my favorite Top 10 finalists of the FOX-TV dance competition So You Think You Can Dance including Anya, Pasha, Janette from season 5 (Janette’s standout number from her season being a breathtakingly sexy tango), and Ashleigh and Ryan Di Lello from season 6. The Di Lellos not only were the first married couple to make the show, but both husband and wife made it all the way to their season’s finale.

November 2-7 various performances Where  Kentucky Center $22.50-$66.50 Contact  www.kentuckycenter.org or in person at the box office 502.584.7777.

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Out of the Darkness Community Walk

This charity 5K scenic walk through Louisville’s Waterfront Park will benefit the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. The proceeds will help fund education, research, prevention, and awareness for those affected by suicide.

When  November 6 @ 10am Where  Waterfront Park registration  www.outofthedarkness.org

Flags4Vets Cave Hill Cemetery Two-Mile

Enjoy the beautiful scenery of Cave Hill Cemetery and honor our fallen veterans. Bring your family and friends to place flags on over 6,000 veterans’ graves.

When  November 6 @ 10 am Where  Breckenridge School, 1351 Payne Street Contact  502.243.8981 registration  www.TheUSflag.com

Louisville Artisans Guild Holiday Showcase 2010

This showcase features artists from Louisville and Southern Indiana offering their painting, pottery, jewelry, glass, textiles, and other art for sale. Raffle benefits the Nelle Peterson Memorial Art Scholarship.

When  November 6-7 @ 10am-4pm Where  The American Legion Post, 2919 Bardstown Road tickets  Admission is free Contact  502.452.1670

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An Arts Insider Must-See

By Gioia Patton

Kathy Mattea:

In Touch with Myself

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made this record from a completely different kind of motivation as my other albums,” reveals Kathy Mattea, referring to her latest CD, 2008’s COAL (Captain Potato records), which was Grammy nominated in the traditional folk category.

“The Sago Mine disaster in Sago, West Virginia, had happened (January 2006), and I was feeling a lot of grief, bursting into tears in the middle of the day,” she continues, speaking by phone from her Nashville home. “I was also riveted to the news reports about the disaster, even though I didn’t know any of the victims,” adds the West Virginia native, although it should be noted that Mattea’s maternal and paternal grandfathers were miners, and her parents had grown up in coal camps. Mattea’s father was saved from a life working the mines by an uncle who paid his way through college.

“Nobody in my immediate family was mining coal when Sago occurred,” she continues, “so I was just a little bit surprised by how easily I was feeling the pain. But a friend of mine reminded me that this is what music is good for. Music is good for helping the process of grief and for putting into words what (we) don’t understand. So I thought I should make a record just to get this (pain) out of my system,” she explains.

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For me, I have to stay engaged, or I’m soooo bored when I’m singing that it turns the thing I love into the thing I can’t stand!

— singer/songwriter Kathy Mattea

the song,” muses the Grammy-winning artist, twice named Female Vocalist of the Year by the Country Music Association, whose hits over the years include: 18 Wheels and A Dozen Roses and Where’ve You Been?

“I got brought up (in the music industry) that way,” she explains, “often told by songwriter/producer Allen Reynolds, ‘It’s the song, pal…it’s the song! Don’t let (them) ever tell you anything different. If you don’t have the song, you don’t really have anything worth spending any time with.’”

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As to how Mattea balances a sense of pride about her career (which includes 15 Top-10 hits), with a healthy dose of humility for her creative gifts, the platinum-selling artist explains: “For me, it’s about takin’ responsibility. (You) take responsibility for your gift. And that means not playin’ small about them and not playin’ big about them, but knowing what you do well and what you can’t do well. There’s some music that I just can’t do,” she admits. “So I want to try to work within my strengths and take responsibility for (in concert) stewarding the songs, stewarding the band, and stewarding the experience the audience has,” she says. “And at the same time I also remember that every person in the room contributes to the experience that we all have. Although I’m in the center of that, I think of myself as more the facilitator of something, as opposed to (actually) doin’ something.”

By way of example to her ‘facilitator’ remark Mattea recalls a particular concert.

“I’d been singing 18 Wheels and A Dozen Roses for a long time by that point, so the band could just check out and play the song in their sleep if they wanted to, because it’s simple and it is what it is. But just as we were about to perform that song, I remember thinkin’ to myself, ‘This can be hell on earth or it can be heaven on earth. The only thing is what I bring to it.’ So I decided I was going to try to stay absolutely present every single time I sang that

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song. And I knew I’d do that for the one person in the room who might be having his or her one and only chance to hear 18 Wheels sung live and by the voice he or she heard on the radio.”

Singing one’s hit songs throughout the entirety of a concert career is only a different experience each time “if you pay attention!” Mattea declares. “That’s the thing. And once I started bringin’ a different awareness to that my band started playin’ 18 Wheels differently. Everything changed. Although I had never said a word…it was as though everybody had stepped up a notch.”

As to her career today, versus the 1980s and 90s when Mattea was recording one hit record after another, she muses: “I guess the best way I can articulate what my experience is that I’m makin’ the music I love, it challenges me, I play with great musicians, I have as much roadwork as I can handle, and (fans) are findin’ me. So I think if I lodge a complaint (laughs), it’s like made up!

I’m lovin’ my life, and I’m findin’ my way. I knew when I started in the industry that there would be a beginning, a middle, and an end to my commercial career. I knew that there is a season to everything. But that doesn’t define me as an artist,” she concludes.

“And so I get to define that…if I stay in touch with myself.”

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Derby Dinner Playhouse n a remote island in a rustic cottage, six people have come together for a Halloween weekend of fun to play a murder mystery game. The cast of characters is portrayed by six of my all-time favorite DDP performers: Tina Jo Wallace, Janet Essenpreis, J.R. Stuart, Melissa Combs, David Myers, and Cary Wiger. That fact alone is reason enough to put this production on my ‘Must-See’ list.

When  running through November 14, various performances Where  Derby Dinner Playhouse, Clarksville, Ind. tickets  $34-$43 *Seniors receive $3 off regular ticket prices on Friday and Sunday evenings only Contact  812.288.8281 or www.derbydinner.com

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Read It

Saving Kentucky: Greening the Bluegrass is a new book by Sally Campbell that will hit in stores in November. The book shows the natural beauty of Kentucky and includes interviews with fellow Kentuckians who are working hard to preserve historic landmarks. A portion of the proceeds will go to Kentuckians for the Commonwealth, a non-profit organization that is striving to stop mountaintop removal in Eastern Kentucky.

What kind of people did you interview for this book? “Over the past eight years, I have traveled all over Kentucky, from tiny Princeton in way western Kentucky to the Appalachian Mountains in the east. The stories in this book are just a few of the many thousand out there. Most of the people I interviewed are farmers or certainly closely related to the land. All are preservationists. All are regular citizens, but they are heroes as well. The heritage that they are working to preserve is not just theirs but ours and that of our children and grandchildren.”

Why is it so important to preserve our historical landmarks?

“I think that saving historic buildings gives the community a sense of place and perspective. We understand that 200 years ago, bricks to build the home would have been fired on the place, timber for its floors cut from the surrounding forest. We know what they had to eat because we know what was raised there on that farm. Today my grandchildren can visit and understand what life was like 200 years ago, and they are comfortable there as their children will be some day. That’s why it’s important.”

What do you want people to take away from this? “I hope that these stories will inspire others to do something as well — to save the place that is their home.”

— Maggie Nelson

Cirque Mechanics: Boom Town

What do you get when you cross old time mechanics, acrobats, and spectacular theatrics? You get Boom Town! Travel back to the year 1865 in the mining town Rosebud and witness the hilarity and excitement of old Western escapades.

When  November 12 @ 8pm Where  Kentucky Center for the Arts, Whitney Hall tickets  $28-$45 Contact  502.562.0100

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Brain Ball

Be the belle of the ball (or in this case, the “brain” of the ball). The Brain Injury Alliance of Kentucky (BIAK) is holding their 8th annual Brain Ball. To honor Veteran’s Day on November 11, all proceeds of the Brain Ball will benefit the BIAK Military Traumatic Brain Injury program.

When  November 12 @ 6:30pm Where  Henry Clay Building tickets  $175 Contact  502.493.0609

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By Caitlin Gaynor

Fighting Fair

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ights with boyfriends are brutal. No one likes to fight, but honestly, sometimes fights help you learn more about each other and can become a good thing. The important thing to remember in fights is how to fight fair. Sometimes it is hard to block out your inner voice telling you to call him every bad name under the sun. Here are a few fighting fair tips that I’ve gathered from some guy and gal pals.

1. Recognize when you are wrong and admit it. This may be one of the hardest things to do in any relationship. Sometimes one person is at fault and sometimes both are at fault. You won’t get anywhere by arguing about who is right and who is wrong.

2. Communicate. This is probably one of the most annoying and cliché pieces of relationship advice, but it really works! One of my friends completely shuts down and blocks her boyfriend out when she is mad. Unfortunately he can’t read her mind, and they can’t move forward unless she explains how she feels. Sometimes it’s easier to write an email than to take time to think about how you’re feeling and what you need to say.

3. Talk it out until you both can move on. There is nothing worse than bringing up past issues to hurt someone during a fight. It’s important that you both talk about and settle the issue, then promise to put it to rest FOR GOOD! 4. Realize what you both need to work on and make the effort. Couples who argue about the same issues all the time have this problem. If you both want to be mature and make positive steps in your relationship, you will work on each of your individual issues.

5. Discover the root of the problem. Are you fighting about things that are real issues that you can get past, or are you just picking at each other because there is some deeper issue? My friend gets annoyed when her guy always puts his guy friends first over her, but she discovered that the deeper issue is that she feels she isn’t important to him. Sometimes talking to girlfriends can help you realize what you are really angry about.

6. Be realistic about the situation. If you and your man are fighting 24/7, maybe you just aren’t cut out for each other. In a relationship, there are bound to be arguments and disagreements, but they shouldn’t be happening all the time. Ask yourself if you are really happy. It’s not realistic to think that if you are constantly at each other’s throats (especially if it’s a new relationship) that it will change. Fights should be constructive and help you to grow stronger, not to stress you out.

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ased on the now-classic 1983 motion picture A Christmas Story and on the late Jean Shepherd’s book In God We Trust, All Others Pay Cash, young Ralphie Parker, his fervent pleas for a ‘Red Ryder BB gun for Christmas!’ and a humorous cast of characters return after a sold-out first season run last year. Among the cast is Atherton High School and Centre College graduate Jessica Wortham, who debuted at ATL in the 1999-2000 season production of Dracula. Wortham’s second ATL role was in the 2008-09 season production of Crime and Punishment.

When  November 9-28 various performances. *Audio described performance: November 21 @ 2:30pm. Sign-interpreted performance: November 23 @ 7:30pm Where  Actors Theatre tickets  $20 and up Contact  502.584.1205 or www.actorstheatre.org

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“Lights Up” Tree Lighting Ceremony at The Summit

American Printing House for the Blind Family Day Open House

Toy Story Presents “Toys from the Movies”

Light Up Louisville

It’s that time of year again! Bring your family and friends to celebrate the beginning of the holiday season. Watch live a musical performance, get your Christmas shopping finished early, and stick around for the fireworks.

When  November 19, all day Where  The Summit tickets  Free

Take a walk down memory lane during this exhibit featuring toys and conceptual artwork used in everything from Star Wars to Cinderella. This is the first-ever exhibition authorized by Disney.

When  November 20 through March 27 Where  Frazier International History Museum Contact  502.753.5663

Mini Coiled Baskets Workshop

Learn how to use a traditional basketry coiling technique to create a 3-4 inch basket, perfect for storing small items or just admiring.

When  November 20 @ 11am-2pm Where  Kentucky Museum of Art & Craft tickets  $43/members; $48/non-members Contact  502.589.0102 or julieyoder@ kentuckyarts.org

Buy Nothing Day Coat Exchange

AdBusters began the concept of Buy Nothing Day 10 years ago to encourage more conscious thinking on Black Friday. To bring our community together, donate a coat to those in need.

When  November 26 @ 10am Where  The Green Building, 732 East Market Street Contact  401.952.6566 or brokerssupplies@aol.com

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The APH offers interactive exhibits where visitors can write their names in Braille, see Helen Keller’s Bible, and learn how a puppy becomes a dog guide. Refreshments will include Braille fortune cookies — and a key so visitors can decipher what they say!

When  November 27 @ 10am-3pm Where  1839 Frankfort Avenue Contact  502.895.2405 or aph.org One of Louisville’s greatest traditions is back for the 28th year. Watch our city transform with light shows, fireworks, and music. Over 75,000 residents are expected to attend this year, so don’t miss the opportunity to find the perfect seat.

When  November 28 @ 3pm Where  Jefferson Square Park admission  Free

Peterson-Dumesnil Candlelight Tour

There will be six charming homes for you to view.

Each home is unique and holds a surprise. Also, take a chance at winning some great prizes from their themed raffles with values beginning at $150.

Tickets for the raffles are $5.

When  December 4 @ 4-8pm Where  PetersonDumesnil House, 301 S. Peterson tickets  $10/advance; $15/day of event Contact  502.640.2456

A Family Christmas at St. Mary’s Catholic Church

Listen to beautiful holiday music sung by the Louisville Chorus.

When  December 4 @ 7:30pm Where  415 E. 8th Street, New Albany tickets  $6/students; $15/seniors; $18/general Contact  502.968.6300

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young newlywed couple who has just moved into a tiny sixth floor walkup brownstone in Greenwich Village is the launching point for this charming romantic comedy by the legendary playwright Neil Simon.

Robert Redford starred as newlywed Paul Bratter in both the original 1963 Broadway production and the subsequent 1967 film (Jane Fonda playing Corie Bratter in the film version). Cast in the role of Victor Velasco is V. Craig Heidenreich, who for 10 seasons was a member of ATL’s (then) resident company and who was last at ATL in the 2008-09 season production of Pride and Prejudice.

When  November 16-December 18 various performances. *Audiodescribed performance: November 28 @ 2:30pm. Sign-interpreted performance: November 30 @ 7:30pm Where  Actors Theatre tickets  $20 and up Contact  502.584.1205 or www.actorstheatre.org — Gioia Patton t o d a y ’ s

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Sara Bareilles:

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Some of the fter reading over the lyrics to Sara Bareilles’ sophomore most favorite moments of CD, Kaleidoscope Heart (Epic records), I was convinced my life have that her words could stand alone sans music, and would have happened while I was on stage. been as successful if released as a book of poems instead.

So that is a As to her songwriting process, Bareilles, who was speaking special, special by phone, remarks: “Although it varies to a certain degree, place.

— Sara Bareilles it’s mostly the music that comes first and then it’s like filling in the blanks with the words. The really special songs for me are the ones that kind of come spontaneously…the song feeling autobiographical writer. I feel like, the more authentic I can like it’s writing itself,” she explains. “The songs Love Song be, the better. I think that’s the big part of the puzzle piece of (Grammy-nominated off her Little Voice debut CD), King of why (people) are connecting to my music. There’s not a lot of Anything, and Uncharted (the latter two facade there. It’s very honest and very personal, and we off Kaleidoscope Heart) were that way. all go through those same experiences,” Bareilles says.

When f November 6 @8pm Where f The Brown Theatre And it feels like I’ve kind of tapped into “And it makes me feel less alone if I share it in songs… tickets f $27.50-$32.50 something that is bigger than you are and and hopefully the songs make my fans feel less alone too.”  Contact 502.584.7777, or in person at the Kentucky you’re just the vessel in some way,” muses Center box office, or the singer/songwriter/musician. www.kentuckycenter.org Gioia Patton is an arts & entertainment celebrity profiler.

So popular is the 30-year-old Bareilles’ pop-rock music at the moment that two of her songs were recently featured on two vastly different primetime television series: the whimsical upbeat King of Anything on Medium, and the romantic ballad Breathe Again on Vampire Diaries.

The Eureka, California native, who attended the University of California in Los Angeles (UCLA), where she was a member of the co-ed a cappella group Awaken A Cappella, claims that performing on stage is: “A very safe place for me. I think, growing up, performing was always natural to my family,” she adds, although her father was an insurance adjuster, and her mother worked in a funeral home. “We’re all very melodramatic (laughs) and singing as a family at family functions was always what we did. So performing was always second nature, and also very cathartic for me,” she explains.

Are Bareilles’ fans right or wrong in assuming that her love songs are taken directly from her life?

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By Joyce Oglesby

“How do I tell my husband to seek help buying my Christmas gift this year? He loves to buy me gifts. Unfortunately, he has terrible taste. His choice of clothing ends up hanging in my closet. He spends a lot on the jewelry he buys; it simply isn’t my taste. It is wasteful of our money, but it also hurts his feelings that I don’t wear them. I don’t want to crush his ego, but this has to stop.”

Joyce: Star light, star bright… Sounds like a wish list is in the making!

Help him out. His heart sees 20/20; his eyes just need adjusting. It’s none too early or too late to make him a wish list, but your sweetheart obviously needs details. Not only do you need to give him some hints about what it is you would like, but literally “draw” him a picture. Here are a couple suggestions.

• Make a wish-list date. Suggest for the two of you to spend the day shopping the malls or plazas of your choice. Take a camera or your cell phone and take pictures of the items of your individual interests. Be sure to document the store, the price, and specific color and size.

• Next, spend a day on the Internet. It’s a great resource for

browsing items and stumbling upon some real bargains. Make sure you bookmark your favorite links for ease of going back to the item. Be sure to log the item number, again designating size, color, and all pertinent information.

• Cut out pictures from catalogs, print images from the Internet, or sketch a drawing of your wish-list item. Then, pin these to a bulletin board, magnetize them to the refrigerator, tape them to an obvious place around his computer workplace, or make sticky notes for his mirror.

Talk with him. You might be surprised to find he would rather you exchange the gift for something more suitable to your taste.

Likewise, it could be rewarding for you to take him with you for the exchange. He has a sweet heart. He should “get the picture.”

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“I want a break for Christmas. I don’t want to go to her mother’s this year. We have two kids and it has become a hassle dragging them over 400 miles to Grandma’s. It’s been a tradition to share Christmas morning there, but we are the only ones in the family who live out of state. I’ve suggested for the past two years staying home. In order to keep peace, I give in and pack it up again. It’s hard fighting two women — my wife and her mother.”

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Joyce: Put back on your boxing gloves; you’re not down for the count!

There’s no place like home for the holidays has more significance than a catchy Christmas tune. Children deserve to wake up on Christmas morning around the tree in the comfort of home. Those are the makings of terrific memories. I’m an out-ofstate grandmother and would love to see my Georgia grands at Christmas. But having been an out-of-state mother first, I know the benefits of staying home for this glorious season.

Highways are packed, making travel more stressful, exhausting, and risky. Gas prices have a tendency to escalate during holidays and vacation time. In today’s economic downturn, watching the budget is a great reason to stay home.

You could always invite everyone to your house. Just understand that you bring the chaos to you. So if you’re in the mood for a quieter Christmas, an invitation of this nature might backfire.

(You might find, however, it’s a longer distance from Grandma’s to your house than from your house to Grandma’s!)

Remember: you do have equal say in this matter. You ARE married. It is reasonable for the two of you to swap out years and stay home one year and go to Grandma’s the next. Discuss your heart’s desire with your wife. Let her know you’ll call her mother. You be the bad guy and take the fall. Christmas will come and go, your kids will have a wonderful time, and I believe your wife will enjoy the peaceful Christmas as well.

A smart son-in-law you would be to Skype or video phone the grandparents and the grandparents. Duke this one out, Buddy.

I’m in your corner!

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After Her Story: Jan Day reached her biggest milestone when she lost 40 pounds and received the Lifestyle Change Award from the American Heart Association. To celebrate her accomplishments, friend Deanna Hall and other co-workers at Jewish Hospital nominated her for a makeover. “She has helped everyone around her to also become more health conscience,” says Deanna.

Her Hair: For more shine and depth, Jessie Starks, hairstylist at Images Salon (2501 Grinstead Drive 502.456.9997), applied a light glosser to Jan’s hair. “The glosser is a demi-permanent hair color that makes the grays look like a light blonde,” she says. She added layers and softened the edges to create an updated, textured look. Next, Jessie used Kevin Murphy Volumnizing Thermal Protectant ($27) and Sebastian Microweb Fiber ($23) which is a texturizer. The texturizer, says Jessie, gives the hair a piecey look and holds the style. If you have short, fine, and wavy hair like Jan’s, Jessie suggests using a product on the hair while it’s wet to make styling easier.

Her MAKEUP: Jessie shaped her eyebrows and applied a pale pink eyeshadow; then lined her eyes with a darker shade of pink to add a little drama. She finished it off with a sheer lip gloss and a pale pink blush.

Nominate Someone for a Makeover!

Do you know someone who is in dire need of a makeover? Each month, we are on the prowl for good candidates to highlight, and we would love to hear from you! Send a brief note about why your friend deserves a makeover and a photo of her to tiffany@todayspublications.com

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Living With Arthritis

~ PHOTOS BY MELISSA DONALD In the grand scheme of things, most people look at magine having a pebble in your shoe that arthritis like a pebble — pretty harmless and easy to you can’t get out. At first it’s only mildly ignore. But those who live with arthritis each day tell story of how their pebbles have slowly worn at their annoying and maybe a little painful when the the bodies and in turn affected every area of their lives. Meet three women who have walked with their pebbles for pebble juts into your arch or your heel the years and learned to cope with their physical pain in parts wrong way. After a while, the pebble starts of life that most of us take for granted. to force you to walk on the side of your foot, Coping at Work We’ve all had days (some of us more than others) which puts more pressure on your ankle. when it’s hard to make ourselves go to work even if none of our joints are swollen. But according to teacher Lisa And since your joints and muscles are all so Fahringer, taking a sick day might actually be worse for arthritis patients who aren’t feeling well. intimately connected, your feet and your know if I sit at home and stew in the pain, it’ll ankles start to share that pain with your shins, just “Imake things worse,” Lisa says. “I just try to distract then your knees, and then even your hips so myself from the pain and take things an hour or even ten minutes at a time.” that you don’t even want to walk if you don’t Sales director Cheryl Suhr agrees that it’s best to keep moving. “If I sit at my desk too long, my joints hurt when absolutely have to. Pretty soon your whole I stand,” she says.

Cheryl finds that lying flat on her back with her knees body aches because of a small pebble that pointed up helps with her joint pain, but since lying down should be so easy to ignore but has come to at work isn’t appropriate, she escapes home on her lunch hour to give herself the freedom to take on whatever dictate your body’s every move. position is most comfortable.

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SoCial life Even spending time with friends can be a challenge when suffering from arthritis pain. Hospital secretary Jan Young says, “People think, ‘Oh, you have a few aches and pains,’ but it’s so much more than that.”

Lisa elaborates: “You can’t really plan anything for certain because you don’t know when your joints are going to be too painful or swollen to go out. My friends still don’t understand sometimes why I have to cancel at the last minute.”

“I try to do more ‘observation’ activities now,” Cheryl says. “I go to more plays and restaurants rather than pushing myself to do more active things.”

Lisa says that she pushes herself to stay connected with friends even if she is in pain because maintaining a support system is essential for days when she really can’t leave the house. “In a weird way, this disease has pushed me to make friends and consider peoples’ character in a whole new way,” Lisa says. “I seek out positive people who I know will be there on the days I’m struggling.”

Seeking Sleep name: Cheryl Suhr age: 62 type of arthritis: Osteoarthritis How long you’ve had it: since early adulthood Medication: Acetaminophen, Nabumetone, Topical analgesics, Glucosamine & Chondroitin, Corticosteroid injections Surgeries: 12 Main coping mechanisms: warm water swimming, massage therapy

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“The pain does wake me up at night,” Jan says, “but I make myself rest.” If pain medication doesn’t help, Jan recommends simple remedies like rubbing the painful spot, changing positions, and lying on your side with a pillow between your knees to relieve pressure from the joints.

Cheryl sleeps on a Tempur-Pedic mattress to help her pain because it conforms to her shape and weight so there is less tossing and turning at night.

“When you’re at rest, the painful spots stand out all the more because you don’t have anything else on your mind,” Cheryl says.

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Cheryl also uses ointment that tingles the skin so as to draw attention away from arthritis pain. She further distracts herself by reading and has found that using her new Nook eBook reader makes it easier for her to lie in different positions because she can prop it up for easy reading without having to hold the spine of a book open.

Traveling anyway Cheryl has found that planning trips has become more complicated since being diagnosed with arthritis. Cheryl used to take frequent ski trips with her husband, but surgeries and the heightened risk of injury have ended her skiing days.

“It’s hard going to the slopes now because I’d rather focus on things I can do,” Cheryl says. “Instead of spending the money to go and be frustrated because I can’t join in, I treat myself to massages and facials instead.”

If they do go on a trip, Jan and Lisa both agree on the need to plan for several stops while driving, having extra seat padding, and keeping ice and medicine handy.

When it comes to long walks, the women recommend flat shoes with supportive arches and stretchable fabric in case of swelling. “Giving up my heels was one of the hardest things I had to do,” Lisa says with a laugh. Lisa traded in her heels for Easy Spirit brand shoes for a marriage of fashion and functionality.

name: Jan Young age: 57 Type of arthritis: Osteoarthritis how long you’ve had it: 15 years medication: Plaquenil (for sickness stemming from arthritis) surgeries: 2 main coping mechanisms: diet, exercise, ice

why They exercise Jan lives by a quote that her doctor shared with her: “For every pound you lose, it relieves three pounds of pressure from your joints.”

Jan says that losing over 25 pounds in the last couple years “has made a tremendous difference.” By simple diet and moderate exercise, Jan keeps her weight down to help ease some of the pain.

Part of Cheryl’s diet includes berries and salmon, which she believes act as an anti-inflammatory to keep her swelling down.

Cheryl also exercises daily in warm water.

“There are also active things I like to do that don’t really help,” Cheryl laughs. She still enjoys working in her garden, but to keep herself from pushing herself too far, she sets small goals ahead of time, such as filling one garbage can with weeds, so she is not tempted to overtax her body.

“You can only do what you can do,” Jan says. “I push myself as much as I can, but I have to listen to my body because if I do too much, I pay for it every time.”

emoTional coping Even as these women learn to cope with the physical challenges of arthritis each day, there are few comforts for losing the ability to do activities they once loved.

“There’s a lot of crying,” Lisa admits. “The frustration is sometimes overwhelming.”

“It can be depressing at times,” Jan says. “You can’t do the things you used to do or things other people do or even things you love to do.”

Despite this, all three women name: Lisa Fahringer told me the same thing: “It could be age: 31 so much worse,” Jan says, echoing Type of arthritis: Rheumatoid verbatim what Cheryl and Lisa had said arthritis to me as well. “I count my blessings how long you’ve had it: since I and focus on the things I can do.” was a teenager “Arthritis is life-altering but not medication: Methotrexate, life-ending,” Lisa says. “When I was Prednisone, Folic Acid, Flexirole, first diagnosed, the disease controlled Voltaren Gel what I did and how I felt, but I’ve surgeries: none learned to say, ‘Yes, I’m in pain, but I main coping mechanisms: can find the positive in this situation mental relaxation techniques, and move forward with my day.’” keep myself moving

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f you love the feel of a good first-thing-inthe-morning stretch, consider the pleasures and benefits of a whole series of stretches added to your daily routine.

You may not have realized that the casual morning stretching that feels so good is actually good for your joints, but doctors and physical therapists have long recommended regular stretching routines to help people with arthritis maintain a good range of motion. When range of motion is lessened by tightening soft tissue surrounding the joint, it can hinder your ability to accomplish day-to-day activities, such as tying your shoes or brushing your hair. The effects of this loss can be devastating to your self-esteem and independence.

But you can improve your range of motion and take back your life by finding time each day to stretch. Stretching is a simple and effective way to keep joints and muscles flexible. A regular stretching routine helps ward off the inevitable joint tightness associated with some forms of arthritis. It’s also valuable for releasing muscle tension and reducing your overall stress level.

A good stretching regimen can make a difference in how well you perform everyday activities.

USE IT OR LOSE IT Although doctors only recently started touting the benefits of aerobic exercise and strength training for people with arthritis, they have always recommended range-of-motion exercises. But exercising with arthritis is not a one-size-fits-all activity. While stretching can help joints and muscles move with ease, it isn’t always for everybody. Those in the extreme chronic phase of arthritis, characterized by significant joint deterioration, may find little benefit from stretching. And those in the acute phase of the condition will need to wait until the inflammation subsides before starting a stretching routine. But if you’re not experiencing either of these phases, you more than likely will benefit from regular stretching.

As always, before you begin any exercise program, you should check with your doctor or physical therapist to determine which stretches are best for you. Seek guidance on the frequency and intensity recommended. Make sure you understand exactly how to do the stretch, how long to hold each one, how many repetitions you should do and how frequently you should do the series.

Because stretching exercises require no special equipment — and no cash outlay — you can begin any time and easily fit the exercises into your schedule. Some people like to stretch as soon as they get up to help get them going in the morning. Others prefer an afternoon stretch to release tension and stress from a long work day. Still others wait until just before bedtime in the hopes of getting a more restful sleep.

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described below, and see how they feel to you.

Remember, the goal is to gently move and stretch different muscle groups. Everyone, with or without arthritis, has a different “normal” range of motion. It’s important to maintain good posture while you’re stretching even if it means you can’t do the whole stretch. Remember to do only what you feel comfortable doing. If any of the stretches are painful, don’t do them. It’s possible to overstretch. If you’re experiencing laxity in any of your joints, don’t stretch them.

Exercising just two or three times a week can produce positive results, but many people find that doing a simple stretching routine every day helps them better manage daily tasks.

A physical therapist can help you develop other exercises that address your particular needs, but here we’ve provided some basic stretches to get you going.

GETTING STARTED Stretching can be done on its own or as a warm-up for more intense exercise. If your joints are particularly stiff, warm them for a few minutes with a heating pad or take a warm shower before exercising. Start by doing each stretch one to five times, depending on your comfort level. You should expect to feel some resistance, but not pain.

Hold each stretch for 10 to 20 seconds, then relax. Take a short rest between each set of stretches, then repeat the stretch. Slow down or add stretches, depending on how you feel. Remember, breathing is important whenever you exercise.

Concentrate on taking deep, regular breaths while stretching.

When you inhale, imagine the cleansing oxygen circulating through the muscle group you’re stretching and cooling your inflamed joints. When you exhale, imagine you are expelling inflammation, pain, and tension from your body.

THE HEAD-TO-TOE STRETCH This full-body stretch is a good place to begin because it uses every joint and muscle from your toes to the tips of your fingers.

Lie face up on the floor or bed with your arms and legs together.

Extend your arms and legs as far as you can in either direction, with your toes pointed and your palms facing the ceiling. Tilt your pelvis so your lower back is touching the floor and tuck in your chin. This will gently extend the curve of your back.

Take several deep breaths. Imagine someone is gently pulling your body in opposite directions, and feel your joints loosen. Hold for 10 to 20 seconds, then relax. Repeat five times. VARIATIOn: Stand on tiptoe and reach with your arms for the ceiling.

CAuTIOnS: It’s important to keep your lower back flat on the floor during this stretch to prevent injury. Be careful to bend your knees and slowly roll to one side when getting up. use extra caution with this exercise if you have ankylosing spondylitis, osteoporosis, or any other disease affecting the spine.

CALF STRETCH You probably use your calf muscles more than you realize.

Whenever you walk, climb stairs, reach for something on a high shelf, or get out of bed, you depend on these muscles to hold you up. Regular stretching of these muscles keeps them flexible and helps you maintain your balance and sure-footedness. Face a wall (about two to three feet away) with your toes pointed inward november

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slightly and place your palms against the wall. Keeping your knees straight and your feet flat, lean forward onto your hands without bending at the waist. Feel your calf muscles pull and extend. Hold this position for 10 seconds, then gently push away from the wall.

Repeat. VaRiation: if your hands or wrists are sore, lean your forearms, instead of your hands, against the wall.

TRUNK TWIST this stretch will loosen tight back muscles and improve your flexibility and balance.

Fold your arms in front of your body, forearm to forearm.

Gently twist your body at the waist, so you are looking over your right shoulder. Hold this position for 3 seconds. Return to your original position, then twist in the opposite direction, looking over your left shoulder. again, hold this position for 3 seconds. Return to the original position and repeat the entire sequence.

VaRiations: You can do this stretch while standing up or sitting on a bed or a chair.

Cautions: While this is a good stretch for the back and spine, it may not be suitable if you have chronic back pain or osteoporosis.

UPPER BODY STRETCH this stretch eases tension as it helps you to hold your shoulders square and to improve your posture. stand with your back straight and your feet together. With both hands, grasp the opposite ends of a bath towel and hold the towel behind your head. Hold for 10 seconds. Feel your chest muscles, shoulders and upper arms stretch and expand. Relax, then repeat.

VaRiation: if you can’t hold the towel behind your head, hold it in front of you or behind your bottom and move the towel from side to side.

Cautions: Don’t do this stretch if you experience shoulder pain due to arthritis.

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FOOT STRETCHES Your feet have a tough job. they are often crammed into illfitting shoes yet still carry you everywhere you want to go. taking the time to stretch these hard-working and often-forgotten joints and muscles feels better than you know. sit in a comfortable chair with your right foot off the floor.

Point your toes as far as you can without pain, feeling the stretch along the top of your foot. slowly turn your foot to point your toes inward, stretching the muscles along the outside of your foot. next, flex your foot, moving your toes back toward your shin, feeling the stretch in the sole of your foot. Finally, turn your foot outward, stretching the inside muscles. Repeat these moves using your left foot.

Cautions:Don’t point your toes too intensely and do this exercise slowly to avoid cramping. if you cramp easily, don’t do this exercise.

LOWER BACK STRETCH When your lower back muscles hurt, the pain can make it hard to get out of bed — much less tackle daily tasks. this stretch will unkink these critical muscles. sit on a stool or a chair with a high seat. Gently drop your chest to your lap, letting your arms and head dangle toward the floor.

Hold this position for 10 to 20 seconds. sit up slowly, then repeat.

VaRiation: Kneel on a padded surface and place your hands on the floor. straighten your elbows without locking them and keep your back straight. slowly arch your back and hold for 10 to 20 seconds. or, lie on a bed with your arms by your sides and your legs together. slowly bring your knees to your chest. Hold for 10 to 20 seconds. slowly return your legs to the bed, then repeat.

Cautions: Don’t do this exercise if you’re experiencing low back pain that increases when you stretch.

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