Life
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celebrate no matter what
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contents OCTOBER 2018
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spotlight 16 7 THINGS
7 things she can’t live without
18 PASSIONS
She loves telling the sports story
18 R EADING, WATCHING LISTENING TO
What’s Sarah Gorman reading, watching, listening to
20 WHAT WORKS
46 features
20 LOVE ABOUT
A stylish startover
22 SURVIVAL SKILLS Connecting mothers-to-be
24 TURNING POINT
She’s not afraid to try
34 HOME
6 Life 101
42 TRAVEL
32 A Special Cancer Supplement
Inside the homes of those living beautifully Travel Scotland: a family adventure guide
46 WORK WARDROBE Fashion model turned financial adviser
26 LUNCH + FUN
Have lunch and follow up with local shopping
48 FOOD
28 26 THINGS
Adding “Zhuzh” to spaces
A leftover treat
Happenings, news and tidbits that caught Today’s Woman’s eye this month
Get your hands dirty
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33 Showing the Real Faces of Cancer
Heidi Fuller provides women with cancer with love, support — and new hair.
36 Right-Hand Woman Who’s behind every great leader?
Read full stories online at TodaysWomanNow.com Search with the person’s name in the story.
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DO YOU NEED SOME GLAM? LIFE
OCTOBER 2018 | VOL. 28 | NO. 11
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t’s a perfect day to do something different. Here are a few attitude/ life swaps we can learn from the women in this issue. PUNCH BACK. WhenLocal you TV are hit journalist
mother of two, hard, don’t cower. Ourand cover woman Shannon Cogan, Heidi Fuller was hit by makes cancer and a daily transformation decided to hit back by starting a to be business to help othersTV-glam (pageread 33).— even if she comes from a
crazy day of playing YOUR SURROUNDINGS INFLUENCE ball in the backyard. YOU: MAKE THEM PRETTY. Look around.
Do you have too much stuff? Do you need to change or upgrade something? Life 101 (page 6) offers expertise on ways to make your life more beautiful.
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This is one of the things that works for Erica Wilhelmi. See more on page 20.
“MY LIFE HAS A SUPERB CAST, oday’s Woman is always about being I CAN’T your best selfBUT — your most relaxed self, your most confident self, your most healthy self. FIGURE Sometimes that takes OUT a daring jump into a new lifestyle or a brave step into a new career. We know it THE PLOT.” is always more about what is inside your
Get inspired
BE SOMEONE’S RIGHT-HAND to try something WOMAN. Whether it be business or new
personal, we all to need to have someone pamper yourself alongside us, and we need to have or to make you feel someone else’s back. Turn to page 36 like a better to read about right-hand women.you.
MAKE A TRAVEL PLAN. Every month
we meet someone who talks about her recent travels and how travel helps expand her mind. This month, we In this issue we confront a different meet a family and a 20-something comfort zone — it is about taking who each took separate trips to a step into the world of beauty Scotland, and they give you a good treatments. Whether it becomes a start on making your own itinerary. regular maintenance routine you do LOOK or FOR THE GOOD. If wea can for yourself a one-time treat, little spend a few minutes dayfeel looking glamour can change how a you and for something for which be grateful, think about yourself. Be ato Glam Girl mind than outside your head, but at the ASHLEIGH BRILLIANT will most likely find a reason to and we yourself at the same time. same time, we know that sometimes you celebrate. If you need inspiration, see should take a minute for yourself. — Anita Oldham the cancer supplement, after page 32.
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ON THE COVER:
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— Anita Oldham
Laura Patterson is making waves with a swimsuit line any woman can wear. Find more about how she’s doing it on page 6.
Heidi Fuller, owner of Awakenings Boutique, Photo: Sunni Wiggintondances across our cover — a perfect depiction of how she dances into the lives of women who are suddenly facing a cancer diagnosis. Read more about her on page 33. Photo: Melissa Donald Styling: Aubrey Hillis Hair: Wig, Awakenings Boutique Makeup: Cassie Young
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LIFE 101:
GET YOUR HANDS DIRTY Learn how to do the basic things. By Rachel Reynolds Photos Melissa Donald
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HOW TO SET UP A BAR
We live in Kentucky, so bourbon is a must-have as are vodka and tequila, says Skye Squires, designer with Barry Wooley Designs. In addition to the hard stuff, she also recommends a red and a white wine. Soda and tonic water are also pretty standard, but it’s always nice to include a juice, preferably fresh, and ginger beer, she says. For the Old Fashioned, Manhattan and martini drinkers, you’ll need bitters as well as sweet and dry vermouth. And if you’re hosting a brunch, be sure to have Bloody Mary mix and orange juice on hand, maybe even champagne. As for glassware? “Keep it simple! Red and white wine glasses as well as stemless wine glasses get used the most in our household,” Squires says. “Highball glasses, rocks glasses, pint glasses, and copper mugs, which are great for decor as well, should round out the basic bar setup.” Squires is also a big proponent of having fun with garnishes. “I personally believe drink garnishes take your drink from good to ‘give me another!’” she says. “Lemons, limes, oranges, cherries, olives, strawberries, jalapenos, mint, celery and bacon — yes, bacon! Sugar and salt are also a must.” If you want, add a small collection of specialty liqueurs. “Kahula and Baileys make for delicious coffee drinks during cold seasons,” Squires says. “I like to keep Grand Marnier and Limoncello for great after dinner sipping.”
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k For basic bar utensils, Skye Squires recommends a cocktail shaker, bar spoon, and a strainer. “But the two I could not live without would be my electric wine opener and muddler,” Squires says. “We muddle lots of fresh ingredients from our garden to enhance summer cocktails!”
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HOW TO SET A TABLE
Hostesses and hosts are becoming more eclectic these days in their choices of dish wear and table decorations. They’re throwing stuffy rules out the window. “I think there are far fewer rules these days,” says Anne Luvisi, manager of Dolfinger’s. “People have so much more imagination now. People aren’t afraid to use their creativity.” Luvisi says that plates and stem wear do not have to match, and a person can add a dash of fun by using a different colored salad plate. For something original and if you have enough dishes, each place setting can be a different pattern. You can skip cups and saucers unless someone makes a special request because people rarely have coffee after dinner anymore. To dress up a table with little expense, purchase whimsical napkin rings, colorful
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chargers, and themed cloth napkins. “You don’t even have to use a tablecloth,” she says. “Those chargers are fabulous.” Luvisi recommends that centerpieces should either have a low profile or if tall, the lower half should be narrow so that guests can see each other across the table. If the centerpiece is large, it should be removed before eating. Luvisi prefers cloth napkins, though for a potluck, barbeque, or backyard picnic, colorful paper napkins may be a good choice. A simple monogrammed cloth napkin can really step up a table. Keep table décor simple and avoid scented candles or heavily fragranced flowers at mealtime. “You should never do scented candles on the table because it will just fight with your food,” Luvisi says. “Pink lilies are not a good choice. They’re so heavily scented.”
m When setting the table, forks are always on the left, and knives and spoons are on the right. For multi-course meals requiring several pieces of flatware, always work your way from the outside in toward the plate. The butter knife is placed on the bread plate which is placed at the top of the fork. For more formal dinners, each place setting should include a water, red wine, and white wine glass.
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HOW TO WRITE A THANK YOU NOTE
“Writing a thank you note causes you to be more intentional about maintaining relationships,” says Sallie Plass, whose company Etiquette Enrichment teaches manners and social etiquette not only to adolescents but also to business professionals. Plass lays out some courteous “Do’s”: “Write thank you notes for job interviews — unless a decision is to be made quickly, then send a quick email followed by a thank you note,” she says. “Also send thank you notes for meal invitations. Try to write the note within 24 hours while the gift or event is fresh on your mind. At least write it within about two weeks. The exception is for wedding gifts. You have up to three months after returning from the honeymoon right after the wedding.” Plass says the key to writing a meaningful thank you note is to be specific. For example, mention how much you appreciated a particular conversation about mentorship over lunch. If a gift, then tell the person how you will use the gift, what you like about it or how much it meant to you. Do this for cash or online gifts as well. Email can count if you are familiar with the giver or if it confirms your encounter. Email is never appropriate for formal thank yous such as a wedding, shower, birthday, Christmas, or sentimental gift.
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“Writing a thank you note causes you to be more intentional about maintaining relationships.”
HOW TO CARE FOR CLOTHING
HOW TO CARE FOR CAR TIRES
“Tires are what keep you and your vehicle connected to the road, so make sure that you’re keeping an eye on their health,” says Lynda Lambert, media spokesperson and safety analyst for AAA East Central. “One of the more obvious ways to know when it’s time for new tires is tread depth,” Lambert says. “Checking tire tread depth is easier than it sounds, and anyone with a quarter and two extra minutes can check theirs. Take a quarter, turn it upside down, and place it inbetween the tread on your tire. If you can see the top of Washington’s head, it’s time to start shopping for tires. Don’t put this important maintenance procedure off, because as tire tread gets lower you could be putting you and your family in danger — especially in rainstorms.” Correct tire pressure is also a maintenance must. “Checking tire pressure is not only easy and quick, but necessary to ensure a longer life for your tires,” Lambert says. “Go to the nearest auto parts shop and purchase a tire pressure gauge. When you’re checking your tires, you can find the recommended PSI [pounds per square inch] in your owner’s manual or on the inside of the driver’s door.”
“The first thing you have to do is read the care label,” says Tina Bini, manager of Newport Cleaners. “It will tell you what to do, or at least it will tell you what not to do.” Generally clothes fall into two categories — those that can be washed in a traditional washing machine and those that must be dry cleaned. Occasionally there are delicate things that must be washed by hand such as intimate apparel and lace. Bini says it’s often OK to dry clean items that labels say can be washed at home, but it’s never OK to wash at home items that labels say must be dry cleaned. Bini also offers these additional tips that help with presentation and preservation of clothes. “Make sure your hangers are long enough so that the shoulders don’t begin to droop,” Bini says, adding that a hanger should span the width of a garment’s shoulders from seam to seam. Particularly with jackets, invest in highergrade wooden or sturdy hangers to preserve the garment’s shape. To keep button-up collars crisp and sharp, Bini says she inserts plastic butterfly collar stays. If a garment gets something spilled on it, make note of whether it’s ketchup, wine, mustard, or something else. “It’s much easier to get the stain removed if we know what it is,” Bini says. Some stains are water based and some are oil based.
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I love scented rose water just sprinkled on the pillows,” Donna Osif says.
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To start, thread count in sheets is not important. “Somebody somewhere along the line came up with this marketing idea that the higher the thread count the better the sheets,” says Donna Osif, owner of Bedded Bliss. “Really the only way to know if sheets are well made is to know the quality of the cotton. The better the cotton and the mill, the better the sheets.” Osif says the best cotton in the world comes from Egypt. The highest end of Egyptian cotton is called “giza.” A giza sheet set — fitted, flat and two pillow cases — can cost $2,000. “Cotton out of Israel, Turkey, and India is also beautiful,” says Osif, adding that shoppers looking for quality cotton sheets should disregard advertising and ask a trusted shop owner or knowledgeable fabric person for recommendations. She cautions that some manufacturers coat the cotton with a finish so that it feels soft when touched in stores, but the coating washes off when laundered. There’s also a new up-and-comer in sheets.“A lot of people are starting to buy the bamboo,” Osif says. When choosing a color for bedding, she suggests something neutral. “Robin’s egg and a sea-hazy blue have become the new neutral like the whites, creams, and grays,” she says. Osif adds that some navy blue and charcoal colors also work well. Dust ruffles are optional though the frilly ones from the past are out. “Today they are tailored and made in panels that use upholstery pins to secure them to the box springs,” she says. “If you have a beautiful wooden bed, you may like the clean lines and skip the panels.” Selecting a blanket depends on the season and where you set your home’s thermostat. For a top layer, coverlets are all the rage. “A textured matelasse or stonewashed linen is beautiful,” Osif says. Sleeping pillows are not tucked in but sit atop the coverlet behind pillows with shams. And what about all those decorator pillows to add color? “It’s a personal preference,” she says. “We just see people trying to simplify now, and one big fun pillow is the way to do it.” PAGE 12 >>
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HOW TO REFINISH OR PAINT FURNITURE
Want to add some color and pizazz to that old dresser or buffet? Jodie Greer, owner of Consignments Plus, says it’s a cinch. “The current trend in refinishing furniture is definitely painting with chalk paint,” Greer says. “The benefit with this paint is that there is no priming the furniture or sanding. It is a calcium-based paint that will adhere to any surface with little or no preparation.” Whether to paint a piece of furniture or to sand and refinish it with clear varnish is really a personal choice. Greer recommends considering a varnish if the wood is pristine and beautiful. When there are chips and scratches, paint is a good option. “If you found it by the side of the road, then go for it!” she says about painting. Chalk paint dries in about 20 minutes and a project can be easily finished in a day. “There are many different methods of painting a piece of furniture,” Greer says.
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“You can paint with a sponge brush, giving the piece a very smooth silky finish, or you can dilute the paint and give it the water color effect. You can also apply the paint with a very heavy application to give the piece a more textured look.” Greer says the essentials needed to start a painting project are a nice brush such as Purdy brand, which costs about $10. You might want a damp rag in case of spills, but she says a drop cloth is unnecessary because there is not much drippage with this paint. “The most important ‘do’ of painting a piece of furniture is making sure the piece is very clean of any dust, dirt, or polish before starting,” she says. “The most important ‘don’t’ is don’t be afraid to paint! You can always paint over it if you don’t like it.”
m The most popular colors these days are cream, grays and navy blues. Greer says she sees lots of customers re-purposing dressers into sideboards. The pieces of furniture that no one seems to want are big, heavy china cabinets, though by removing and discarding the top, a person can make a buffet out of the bottom, she says.
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7 Things She Can’t Live Without By Emily Gahafer Photo Sunni Wigginton
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enelope Peavler is a Kentucky girl through and through. She is an eighth generation Kentuckian born and raised in Frankfort, Kentucky. She is currently the president and CEO of the Frazier History Museum, where she was hired to implement a project dedicated to showcasing Kentucky’s heritage. In August 2018, the Frazier Museum launched its Kentucky Bourbon Trail Welcome Center & Spirit of Kentucky Exhibit. “The Frazier Museum is now the official start of the Kentucky Bourbon Trail,” Penelope says. “We have built a new Kentucky Bourbon Trail welcome center and concierge service to help people plan their day on the trail.” Penelope began her career in project management as an intern in the management training program at Walt Disney World. From there, she was recruited to work for Ed Hart in helping launch Kentucky Kingdom amusement park. In addition, she worked for the Speed Art Museum in the late ’90s, where she helped implement the 20-year master plan, which ultimately led to the renovated facility it is today. The seven things Penelope can’t live without reflect the work she has done throughout her career, the people she cares about most, and her passion for the great state of Kentucky.
1. MY WRANGLERS “When I came to Louisville to work for Ed Hart on the Kentucky Kingdom project, he called me the velociraptor, and that’s kind of a nickname that stuck with me. I need a great team to help me keep moving, and I think velociraptors are dinosaurs that are singularly focused, and will stop at nothing to have success at their task, and that’s why I need my wranglers.”
2. THE ST. MATTHEWS FARMERS MARKET “It’s an integral part of who I am. I’m there every Saturday. I volunteer and do all of the communications for the market. It’s my sense of community, it’s my downtime. I see so many people that I know. I love market season!”
3. GREENERY AND SUNLIGHT “There’s something about gardens and nature that provide light to the soul, and I think when you’re a garden person you have to have light, so getting outside for me is all about getting out and walking in the sunlight. That has to be a part of my week.”
4. TALK TO TEXT Because of Penelope’s busy schedule, she utilizes the talk-to-text feature on her phone and iPad on a regular basis to take notes and send messages to her team.
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5. MY MOTHER’S BENEDICTINE
7. ORIGINAL ART
“I love eating, I love good food, and my mother makes the world’s best Benedictine. It’s a staple of any Kentucky party or hospitality gathering, and it’s always on my table.”
About 10 years ago, Penelope decided to sell any art in her home that was not original and began only purchasing from local galleries and artists. Penelope extends her love for the arts into the community as the co-chair of Imagine 2020, a five-year plan for how the arts can help move our community forward.
6. WALT DISNEY WORLD Every year Penelope takes a trip back to where it all began. She developed a deep love and respect for Disney after receiving her Mouster’s Degree in Theme Park Management and to this day, a visit to Disney never disappoints.
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SHE LOVES TELLING THE SPORTS STORY
What’s Sarah Gorman Reading, Watching, Listening To
By Bella Portaro Kueber Photo Melissa Donald
By Keri Foy Photo by Patti Hartog SEARCH: Sarah Gorham
You might think her nose would be in a book most hours of the day, but this author and publisher surprisingly admits she has little time for books in her free time. In 1994, Sarah Gorham founded a local independent publishing company, Sarabande Books, with her husband, Jeffrey Skinner. She serves as Sarabande’s president and editor-in-chief and is also an author herself — with four books of poetry and two collections of essays published. If reading and editing is her full-time job, what media consumes her off hours? LISTENING TO? Podcasts: “Podcasts are something I can do while I’m doing something else,” Sarah says. Her go-tos include The New Yorker’s Fiction Podcast and The Writer’s Voice.
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hitney Harding ascribes to one motto: when in doubt, know that you will find a way. Her passion for sports started as a child, and she was a gymnast and dancer until age 8. When Whitney had to make the decision to focus on one or the other, she chose gymnastics. She received a full scholarship to attend North Carolina State University, but she had to retire after a year due to a back injury. Whitney went on to receive her undergraduate degree from Southern Methodist University in Dallas and her master's degree from Northwestern University in journalism. Now, Whitney is a news and sports reporter for WHAS11. Before moving to Louisville in 2014, Whitney was the sports director at KOSA-TV in Midland/Odessa, Texas.
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Why does she love covering sports? “There’s always a narrative that is much like any other story we’re intrigued by — the underdog, the hero, and the character no one likes,” Whitney says. “What’s not to love about college athletics?” What would she tell her younger self? “It’s all going to be OK,” Whitney says. “I struggled with my weight when I was younger because I was a gymnast and there were expectations of how I should look. I wasn’t the smartest in the class because I was training 30 to 40 hours a week. I just wish I could tell the young me that you’re going to get to where you need go and it will be OK. You will find a way.”
Music: Classical music reigned over the sound waves in Sarah’s childhood home. But when Sarah met Jeffrey, her husband, he introduced her to nightclub singers such as Glenn Miller, Frank Sinatra, and Dean Martin. “I got hooked by that stuff,” Sarah says. When it comes to current music, Sarah likes Phosphorescent and a band her daughter, Bonnie introduced — Of Monsters and Men. “I have eclectic tastes in music,” Sarah says. READING? Research: When Sarah does have time to read, she’s researching material that influences her essays. She’s currently working on a project called Funeral Playlists — selecting 12 to 15 songs she wants played at her funeral. Books: She is reading books authored by C.S. Lewis, Emanuel Swedenborg, and William James. “They trigger ideas about the afterlife. I’m reading to support that and give me ideas,” Sarah says.
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Adding “Zhuzh” to Spaces By Lucy M. Pritchett Photo Patti Hartog
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n her own Louisville home, interior decorator Erika Wilhelmi combines soft neutrals with colorful art and accessories. She’s drawn to patterns and textures in the cooler shades of blues and greens. Mixing modern — a tripod floor lamp — and classic pieces — a small pedestal dining table — gives her living space coziness. Erika, who has worked with owner Liz Toombs of Lexington-based PDR Interiors since 2015, credits her bachelor's degree from the University of Kentucky in merchandising, apparel, and textiles as a great help. “What I learned in the textile lab comes into play big time when it comes to choosing fabrics for different applications.” As interior decorators, she and Liz help clients choose paint, furniture, flooring, rugs, lighting fixtures, and window treatments. “We add the pretty stuff,” Erika says. The firm has found its niche in the campus sorority world. “Sometimes we work with the sorority’s main office that refers us to a
Erika often is working on 16 different projects all at different stages. She values her furniture and room planner. In it she hand-draws the dimensions of the room with windows, doors, and fireplaces noted. “We put it all together and make the space plan, then offer the client two or three options, although sometimes there may be only one way that furniture can be arranged in the space.”
chapter house ready for an update. Sometimes a house will have a certain amount of money budgeted to make a space more interesting or attractive and we are asked to ‘zhuzh’ it up. We also work with new builds. Sometimes we do an entire house makeover,” Erika says. Erika says they allow a
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two- to three-day window to be on-site. Every single thing has to happen in that time, from arranging the furniture to hanging art and placing accessories. Everything ordered comes on the same day so she has to plan ahead for a sofa that's going to take eight weeks to deliver and time it with art that will take
maybe one week to deliver. She shops for her own home at Home Goods, Pier One, and Wayfair. She says, “You can be inspired by high-end places and then find something that fits your budget. It’s not always about what you spend, but what you’re drawn to. Especially art — it’s so personal.”
A Stylish Startover Story and photo by Miranda Popp
She’s a “boy mom” through and through. Growing up with brothers and then raising three sons as a stay-at-home mom, Mandy Vine mastered that “mom on the go” lifestyle. However, once she and her husband, Andy, became empty-nesters, her direction took a turn toward something brand new. Mandy immersed herself in the beauty industry and into a new career at the age of 52. As the owner/operating partner of Drybar Louisville, Mandy’s style embodies that of a true on-the-go professional in the beauty industry, but remains both low-maintenance and simple. Mandy’s go-to work outfit: anything denim. It goes with black and white, and it leans toward a clean, simple look. And shoes? Go with comfort. Mandy loves a wedge or platform shoe, and although she loves trends, she always goes with comfort first. SEARCH: Mandy Vine
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l Mandy started a new career at 52.
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CONNECTING MOTHERS-TO-BE By Holly Hinson Photo by Patti Hartog
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r. Carol Brees has been hooked on helping women deliver healthy babies since day one. In fact, her very first night as a medical student, she delivered three babies. “I went home on such a high that night,” she says. Early in her career, Carol practiced family medicine overseas, but in between trips, she completed her residency in Obstetrics/Gynecology at University of Louisville Hospital, where she now has been practicing for more than a decade.
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HELPING THE VULNERABLE In 1987, Carol and her husband, a Presbyterian pastor, moved to Pakistan and practiced for 16 years at a hospital there. After establishing a Top 5 Tips for a nursing school, training Successful midwives, and performing Pregnancy about 8,000 deliveries a year, Carol and her 1 Get healthy before husband returned to the pregnancy. Many women come United States in 2008. in with medical problems and One thing Carol says think pregnancy is no big deal, she brought back was the and it might not be if they ability to hear different didn’t have medical problems. points of view. “It’s about Optimize your health before understanding we don’t pregnancy. always have to do things 2 Know how you relax. the same way.” Pregnancy and everything after It was that openwill give you a lot to be anxious mindedness about about, from the process of cultural diversity that the pregnancy to labor and inspired Carol to begin delivery to taking care of your Centering Pregnancy — child. Knowing you have good a program that brings mechanisms for coping and together women of similar relaxing is important. gestational stages for twohour group appointments, 3 Don’t forget about water. providing a pregnancy Hydration is key. check-up, education, and 4 Have your support system support. in place. “I started looking at this because some of our 5 Educate yourself about refugee populations at pregnancy and your body. University of Louisville Hospital are used to a group society and a group way of doing things, and I thought this might be a way to improve their compliance with prenatal care,” Carol says.
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Dr. Carol Brees tries to create a friendly, relaxed environment at the Centering Pregnancy program, a group for pregnant women to encourage prenatal care.
CENTERING PREGNANCY OFFERS CONVENIENCE Benefits to Centering Pregnancy are numerous, but convenience is certainly key, Carol says. Rather than having to come to your prenatal visit and wait sometimes two hours in a room by yourself to see your doctor, and then also carve out a night of the week to come to prenatal classes, it’s all done together, Carol says. “It’s nice. At the sessions, I’ve had some of the women come in and say, ‘I was texting with another member of the group.’” Carol’s practice is the only one in Louisville currently offering the Centering Pregnancy program, with a new class beginning about every other month. There is no additional fee for the sessions since they are actual prenatal appointments. “It’s an immense privilege to be able to take care of women in the time their families are expanding and they are learning to be new moms.”
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She’s Not Afraid to Try By Lucy M. Pritchett Photo by Patti Hartog
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Coby Watier is a volunteer firefighter in Southern Indiana and also started a business this year on health information.
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LUNCH + FUN
HAVE LUNCH AND FOLLOW UP WITH LOCAL SHOPPING By Brittani Dick Photos by Melissa Donald
The Lunch Crave Cafe
2250 Frankfort Avenue Louisville, KY Monday-Friday 11am-8pm Saturday 11:30 am- 4pm Sunday Closed
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rave Cafe is nearing 12 years of being in business, and rightfully so — its menu is absolutely mouth-watering. Located in the heart of Frankfort Avenue shops and restaurants, Crave offers a wide selection of wraps, salads, sandwiches, and a soup menu that changes daily. One of the favorite menu items is The Big Dirty — a grilled pretzel roll topped with au jus roast beef, smoked turkey, honey ham, havarti cheese, shredded cabbage, tomato, and “dirty rice.” The cafe’s chicken salads are also a huge hit, with three variations to choose from — Cashew Chicken Salad, Granny Ruth’s Chicken Salad (with green olives, pecans, chopped egg, and celery), and Sweetie Pie Chicken Salad (with red grapes, candied pecans, and celery). You won’t want to skip my personal favorite — The Nest‚ a delicious dill egg salad piled high on top of hearty bread. Grab a delicious lunch and enjoy it in the cozy dining area looking out onto Frankfort Avenue. The food is delightful, and so is the service.
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26 THINGS (Why 26? Because we are 26 years old!)
Happenings, news, and tidbits that caught Today’s Woman’s eye this month By Anita Oldham
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1. Gray is a popular china color, and blues have come back in the last two seasons as well, says Anne Luvisi, manager of Dolfinger’s. This is a mix-and-match table setting combination. Each week Dolfinger’s offers “Tabletop Tuesday” — featuring a different decorated tablescape — on its social media. (See page 8.)
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“I just came back from Greece and that’s always been my happy place. My family is Greek so I have a lot of roots there. Going there reminds me to live a little more and to pursue things that aren’t classically expected, like work. A lot of self reflection happens when you go out of the country.” — Lea Raptis
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“I’m about to move to Chicago and start graduate school. I’ve been out of school for three years, so it will be a mental change as well as physical. I’ve always lived in Louisville. I’ve had to mentally divorce myself from living here. It was a hard decision, because I have friends and family here. Chicago is so much bigger and there’s so much diversity, and I’m so excited to go and get settled. But I’ll be back because I love Louisville. It’s hard to leave home, but you have to sometimes.” — Camille Lannert
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“We’ve fully opened our new offices into a new house on Shelbyville Road. It’s been a fantastic move because it’s centrally located and the office is cute, so I like our clients to see my home away from home. I’m trying to stay present and enjoy the process.” — Julie Pogue, Julie Pogue Properties
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6. Amanda Blackburn refuses to dwell on her illness. “So many things during this journey can almost be enjoyable, so I did find a lot of silver linings along the way.” Every two weeks, Amanda and her mom would be at the doctor’s office. While the circumstances weren’t ideal, Amanda says she cherishes the opportunity of spending one-on-one time with her mother. 7. For those who have been newly diagnosed, Megan Burnett says it is important to join a support group. “I had never been in a support group of any kind, but I am in one at Gilda’s Club. I have met some of the most interesting, kind, and caring people. They have made my journey easier, and that means a lot to me.” 8. With her second bout of cancer, Karan Kapp wasn’t as distraught about her hair loss. “This time I was better prepared, and it didn’t bother me at all,” she says. “It was actually kind of freeing. I cut my hair off and I would wear a ball cap or even go out bald. Even though people may look at you and stare, you get used to it,” she confesses. 9. There are two very important people who have helped Tiffanie Ballard through her cancer. They are her mother and her 1-year-old daughter. “My mother has helped a lot, but having a child who depends on me has also helped,” she says. “When you have someone or something you have to be strong for, it makes things a lot easier.
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10 11. “I recently went through a stack of cards people sent, which is probably about a foot tall. That helped, plus sending meals and being there for my children, and coming to visit me in the hospital and coming with me to my treatments,” says Sara Lynch. 12. “My aunt has been here through the whole thing,” Leigh Rae Kmiec says. “She took me to every one of my treatments, and she’s here today for my photo shoot.” 13. “I thought, ‘Well, I am not going to lose my hair. I have a lot of hair. I am not that person.’” Martha Redman says. When she saw that her hair was falling out, Martha decided to shave her head. It was one of the toughest decisions she’d make, but Martha’s daughter-in-law Brianna and her mom Sabrina, who is a hair stylist, helped ease her anxiety. 14. Lisa Harris had the opportunity to go to the pathologist to discuss her cancer. “She showed me my cancer on the slides, showed me what normal cells look like, what my particular cancer looks like,” she explains. “When I left, I felt lighter. Why knowing this made me feel better, I have no idea. I just know that it helped. I was no longer afraid of it.” 15. In a show of support, Marijane Beeland’s sister Cathy, cut her hair extremely short and wears a wig every day. “She lives in Massachusetts so it’s not like anyone knows why she all of sudden switched to wigs, but she has been a great support for me,” she says.
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The people behind the photo shoot: Jessica Taylor, owner of That Cute Little Shop, and Designer Gretchen Scott donated dresses and accessories for the women to wear and to keep. Photographer Christine Mueller provided behind-the-scenes photography and makeup for the day, along with Shannon Kessler of Primp Style Lounge. Photographer Hollie Colwick donated her services and studio in LaGrange. Heidi’s father John Herrmann and Louisville Bats Owner Jerry Katzoff sponsored the wigs the women wore.
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Three things Suzanne Cheek has changed. “I’m turning 60 at the end of this year, so I’ve been on a wellness self-improvement plan. I’ve already lost 40 pounds. I spent my 59th year getting healthier for my next chapter. “I have made a spiritual change. I’m saying the rosary so much more often because I know several young people that I can’t help based on my proximity, but I can say prayers for them. These are young people who are not even related to me, but I think prayer gives me a sense of peace. “Ongoing challenges of embracing technology in the workplace is my next hurdle and focus.” — Brigid Morrissey
October 10, 6-9pm: Come and join in on our Pink Woman event with Oxmoor Center to raise money for Twisted Pink. See the ad on page 32 for more information.
25. Other Cancer Fundraisers Watch for American Cancer Society’s Real Men Wear Pink where participants raise awareness and money to fight breast cancer. They each commit to wearing pink throughout October, raising awareness, and raising a minimum of $2,500 Oct 13: Komen Walk for the Cure Oct 27: Making Strides raises money for the American Cancer Society (main.acsevents.org) 26. DOMESTIC VIOLENCE Speak Out Against Domestic Violence Silent Auction and Brunch on October 20 at The University Club. Presented by the Socialite Society to benefit The Center for Women and Families and the Family Children’s Place. Tickets at socialitesociety.com/speakout. Today’s Woman / October 2018
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SHOWING THE REAL FACES OF CANCER By Julie Engelhardt Photo Hollie Colwick
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eidi Fuller is now the picture of health, with a bright smile, a toned, strong body, and boundless energy. This wasn’t the case three years ago. In 2015 at age 37, Heidi found that she had Stage III uterine cancer. Her world was turned on its ear. She was upset, confused, and angry. She had to undergo a radical hysterectomy and chemotherapy treatments. This was all quite a shock to Heidi. She’d been an independent woman, focused on her life, her career, and her family. Although she faced a myriad of circumstances and had questions about what her life would be like, the biggest question on her mind was “Will I lose my hair?” The answer was, “Yes.” Learning that she’d lose her hair was the biggest blow to her psyche. She would no longer have her crowning glory — her beautiful blonde locks. She began looking into purchasing a wig, but her first shopping experience devastated her. She says that instead of feeling any type of compassion from the owners of the store, it was a rather cold and sterile experience. After that, Heidi began to formulate the idea of opening her own boutique. She wanted to give women the love and compassion she had craved during her wig consultation. She wanted her place to be more than just a place where you can buy new hair — she wanted to help women battle what she calls their ‘cancer storms.’ That was the beginning of Awakenings Boutique: Wigs, Healing, Recovery, Gifts. The boutique has been open for more than a year. Not only does it service women with cancer, but also those who have alopecia and those who have experienced depression or anxiety and have literally torn their hair out with their bare hands. Heidi has been there for all of them, shaving their heads as their hair fell out, teaching them how to pick out the right wig, and how to care for it. She’s also lent her shoulders to cry on. She has the empathy because she’s been right where they are. Heidi is aware that women often look online to research wigs and to see what it would be like to wear one. She also knows that the pictures are of beautiful, professional models. “Immediately they think, ‘I won’t be able to do this. I’m not a professional model. I’m going to look sick,’” Heidi says. She began to think about how she could feature real women, women with cancer, in a photo shoot. By picturing them wearing the wigs, it would show other cancer patients what it’s really like. Thus, the Real Faces of Cancer was born. “These are customers I’ve followed through their cancer storms. I wanted women who are currently going through cancer treatment or who have just completed it,” Heidi says. Today’s Woman / October 2018
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Every Sunday morning on WBNA TV21, from 12:30-1:30pm, Kimberly showcases the struggles and talents of contractors, designers, and local celebrity homeowners as they discuss their gorgeous homes on her shows, My Southern Home with Kimberly Greenwell and Renovating Kentuckiana. Born and raised in
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Kimberly uses her two skill-sets, media and building, to showcase her clients’ design and educate viewers on how to use certain products in their homes. “I ask the questions that allow people to tell their stories,” Kimberly says. “My cameraman Kyle is what makes the show beautiful.”
For years, Kimberly worked When we sat down for her way up the television an interview, Kimberly sales and marketing was about to film the ladder until she landed her Nashville edition of her first show in 2015, Your show, the third city in Kentuckiana Home. By the show’s repertoire. this time, she had She tapes for four partnered with weeks straight, the Louisville then launches MY SOUTHERN Home Builders into selling HOME WITH Association KIMBERLY GREENWELL advertisement and had spots before AIRS 12:30-1PM experience the shows air. SUNDAYS ON WBNA TV21. in all facets This leaves little of television: time for Kimberly marketing, to design her sales, reporting, own home — a oneand production. Her bedroom condo that she show, My Southern bought when she was 26. Home with Kimberly “I have a builder-grade Greenwell, followed in condo with white cabinets 2017. “Everything I’ve ever and boring grey tile, but done came together. When not having the overhead we launched My Southern is what allows me to Home, I was the host, pack up my dog Brody producer, and sales manager and cover other people’s — I do it all, and that is why homes. That’s what ‘Living I put my name on it!” Beautifully’ means to me.”
Who’s Behind Every Great Leader? THE WOMAN YOU CAN CALL ON FOR ANYTHING, YOUR GO-TO IN TIMES OF DESPERATION, AND YOUR CALM AMONG THE STORM. WHEN THE GOING GETS TOUGH, YOU WANT A RIGHT-HAND WOMAN ON YOUR SIDE. By Brittani Dick Illustrations by Daniel Kisner
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acquisitions and rebrandings, my role has evolved and grown, but I still work with a few clients that were on the docket the day I started.” What is your motto? “Surround yourself with positive people.” When do your best ideas come to you? “My best ideas come when I’m not focused on the issue at hand. When I go for a run or walk it’s a perfect time to let my mind wander.”
Who are you a right-hand woman to? “Sarah Provancher, president of Crisp Collaborative.”
Where do you find inspiration for ideas? “I’m always looking at my surroundings for creative inspiration, whether it’s an interesting logo or a catchy phrase or headline.”
What makes a good right-hand woman? “A good right-hand woman has abilities and strengths that complement those of the leader and help create a balanced team. Sarah (CEO of Crisp Collaborative) and I are extreme opposites, but we respect each other’s work styles and appreciate each other’s strengths. This helps us combine the big picture and the finer details to create results for our clients.”
Who influences you? “My family. My daughters have unknowingly been a huge influence. In the beginning it was about being a good example for them. As they have grown into teenagers with big ideas and big hearts, I often look at them now and think, ‘Wow, I want to be like her!’ My husband inspires me to achieve big goals. He’s a four-time Ironman, and I’m still in awe of that.”
What makes a good leader? “A good leader knows people are the key to success and brings together a team with the right mix of strengths to achieve a goal.” Advice to other women who want to be in your situation/position? “It may seem simplistic, but find something you enjoy and do your best at it.”
What is your best organizational tool? “Pen and paper. I love lists and checking things off of them. I juggle multiple clients and many different types of projects, and I’m a RIGHT-HAND stickler for deadlines. WOMAN If it’s written down it will get done.”
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What project are you working on now? “The Green Industry & Equipment Expo is an international trade show that I have helped promote since day one of my career. The show
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happens annually in October. Promoting it is a year-round project.” Do you have a mentor? “Polly Moter (previous owner of the company) hired me right out of college. Her commitment to providing the best results for every client and ability to balance work and family were a huge example to me early in my career. We worked together until she retired, and I still sometimes find myself thinking, ‘What would Polly do in this situation?’”
What is the best advice you ever received? “If you’re going to do something, do it right. And, if you don’t get it right the first time, try again.” How do you start your morning? “I usually get up and head to the kitchen. I’ve always tried to make it a priority to be there while my girls are eating breakfast. Sometimes it’s completely silent, but that’s OK. It’s just a few minutes in each other’s presence before we head in separate directions for the day.
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racy Roberts, vice president of human resources at UPS Airlines, is originally from New York. She has a wide range of work responsibilities including talent acquisition, diversity and inclusion, and employee engagement. Tracy loves her job, and particularly enjoys the peopledevelopment part of her role. In her spare time, she enjoys reading, bicycling, being outdoors, and sports — particularly softball, which she has played most of her life. What makes a good right-hand woman? “Whether man or woman, a good righthand is open to learning and aligning efforts with the vision of the leader and the direction of the organization. Although she may have her own objectives, they will support or relate to the overriding objectives of the leader.” Who is your right-hand woman or man? “I depend on several people on my team rather than on one person, but one quality they all have in common is availability. No matter when I reach out, they are all responsive and thorough in their follow-up. Responsiveness and reliability are key qualities of a right-hand along with a spirit of partnership.” What makes a good leader? “A good leader possesses sound analytical skills to understand the lay of the land and makes decisions decisively. While essential, this is not the only important quality. A leader must also have a highdegree of emotional intelligence to ‘meet people where they are.’ In any given circumstance, a good leader should use the right approach to inspiring others to follow his/her direction.”
Regardless of one’s level in a company, Advice to other women who want to be it’s important to strive to be an essential in your situation/position? right-hand to those one supports.” “Put a priority on getting to know as When do your best ideas come to you? many people as you can — your peers, “The wee small hours of the your team, support staff and the morning when the earth is still boss. Learn what they do in RIGHT-HAND really quiet.” their role and how well they WOMAN do it. Don’t be afraid to Where do you find uncover areas of support inspiration for ideas? they would appreciate from “Everywhere — previous you. You will gain insight experiences, recent into the context in which experiences, conversations and your decisions will take place, exchanges I’ve had with others, and and in many ways, it will drive how you my mistakes.” approach making them.” Who influences you? Who are you a right-hand woman to? “Anyone doing something honorably. “Currently, I report directly to Brendan I’m influenced when I see someone Canavan, president of UPS Airlines. giving it their all.”
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Who would you would love to meet? “Jesus would be at the top of my list, but also Derek Jeter. I am a huge Yankees fan and admire what he has done in his career.” What do you know now? “I’m certain of how important it is to be one’s authentic self, in every setting and in every way.” What project are you working on now? “At work, one of my chief priorities is growing and strengthening our diversity and inclusion in the workforce.” How do you start your morning? “I get up a little before 5:30, walk the dogs, come back and get my day grounded spiritually through prayer. I spend a few minutes doing something for me, then head on to work.”
“I’m influenced when I see someone giving it their all.”
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What project are you working on now? “This past summer has been filled with self-improvement areas, which have been long neglected. I’ve overcome the fear of horseback riding thanks to lessons from a gentle coach and an even gentler horse. I’ve traveled with RIGHT-HAND my husband on his business WOMAN What do you know now? trips and had the blessing “It’s OK not to be the of watching him do his very smartest person in the important work so, so well. I’ve room, and asking questions reconnected with lifelong friends is always a good idea...if you and also family — deep connections need answers.” that should never be neglected because What are you most proud of? they are such an integral part of you. “Building exceptional teams, having I’ve been very involved in the life of our leaders trust me with big projects/ church, Christ Church United Methodist budgets/teams, giving back every step Church from children’s ministry to of the way.” finance to care ministries. What a rich
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and rewarding part of life that should have been there all along. And, oh yes… my house is very, very clean!” What is the best advice you’ve received? “From my father: ‘The breaks will come, but you have to be ready for them when they do!’ And also from my father: ‘Remember the needs of others; that is true for all those whose lives you are privileged to be part of....it’s not just about you!’” How do you start your morning? “The morning is time for two very important parts of my day: first, quiet reflection....with my coffee and sometimes a book of quotes, prayers, etc. Second, a heart-pounding workout. Getting the body and mind ready for the day is essential for me.”
“Asking questions is always a good idea.”
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TRAVEL SCOTLAND: A FAMILY ADVENTURE GUIDE By Megan M. Seckman Photos by Will Seckman
(L-R) Billy Seckman, Katrina Morris, Mike Popham, Leila Davis, Tody Barnett, Nadine Seckman, and Megan Seckman.
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cotland: the land of bagpipes, bloodstained castles, and breathtaking vistas. A lush, seafaring land laden with lochs, waterfalls, 790 islands, and landscapes emboldened by majestic, emerald green mountains. You could spend months touring this region, along with its many islands that stretch as far north as Norway. Here is what our clan of eight set managed to see in a week:
fabulous seafood, and many vacation rentals. We rented a house that slept 10 for $1,300 for eight days.
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LOCH NESS, URQUHART CASTLE, CULLODEN, AND INVERNESS Scotland is home to 31,460 lochs, which are quintessential Highlands and an excellent reminder of the purpose of all that rain. The township surrounding the famous Loch Ness is hokey, complete with a museum dedicated to the legendary sea creature, but the nearby Urquhart Castle stole my heart.
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top, we didn’t. I am a nature girl and this was the most beautiful terrain I’ve seen in my life. At the base of the mountain is a wonderful watering hole, Ben Nevis Inn and Bunkhouse, with communal seating, fresh food, and ample black beer to refuel after the grueling hike.
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HOME BASE AND STOP #1: Fort William is a seatown on Loch Linnea and sits at the foot of Ben Nevis, the highest peak in the UK. The township is home to Inverlochy Castle, a ruin from the 13th century, as well as a whisky distillery, several quaint shops,
experience. Ben Nevis rises 4,413 feet into the clouds. Round-trip, the hike takes seven hours (four hours up, three down), covering 10.5 strenuous miles. While I’d love to say we made it to the
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Carmen Schreiber at Isle of Skye.
The Adult Urban Guide to Scotland Scotland has called Carmen Schreiber, 24, since she was a wee bairn. That’s the Scottish slang for baby, but Carmen already knows that. “I could talk Scotland for hours. I’m taken by the bagpipes, the culture, the clans, and history of the Highlands. I usually get on people’s nerves about it, but it is where I belong,” Carmen says. Carmen first visited the country as an undergrad studying abroad at the University of Stirling in central Scotland. The month abroad confirmed her suspicions that Scotland was, indeed, her special place — especially Glasgow, the city that stole her heart. So, after completing her undergrad in psychology, she applied to the University of Glasgow (established in 1451 and resembling something out of Harry Potter) and was accepted into a Masters of Management and Human Resources program there.
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EILEAN DONAN CASTLE AND THE ISLE OF SKYE This was a doozy of a day (about six to seven hours of driving). If I had it to do over again, I would have stayed a night on Skye to take in more of the terrain. We stopped at the Eilean Donan Castle, the only functional castle we viewed during our stay. Another stop was in the fishing village of Portree
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“Glasgow is the perfect city,” Carmen says and beams while patting her heart. “The people are hilarious — you can’t go to sleep without hearing drunk Scots singing American ’80s songs and playing practical jokes on each other. There is live music every night, sing-alongs, the smell of fish and chips wafting through the air…” she trails off. “Just sitting on the drunk-proof subway that continuously circles the city in a loop, listening to the dialect of the passengers, well, it’s the coolest place in the world.” Here are Carmen’s Top Five Things to Do in Scotland:
1 Rabbie’s Three-Day Tour of the Isle of Skye: “It is something out of a fairy tale,” Carmen says. Highlights include the Fairy Pools and Glen, Neist Point Lighthouse, and of course, the Highland cattle.
(Gaelic for King’s Port), the Isle’s largest town, which consists of quaint boutiques, a cathedral, and several restaurants. I highly recommend The Cuchulain as it was easily our favorite meal of the trip: fresh salmon, hake, langoustines, oysters, and fish and chips as big as your forearm. Overall, the food in Scotland far exceeded my expectations — it is way more than haggis and blood pudding.
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2 The Fringe Festival in Edinburgh (August):
A month-long festival featuring over 53,000 performances in 300 venues including comedy, dance, cabaret, music, and theater.
3 Hang out with local Glaswegians in Glasgow: To get a real feel for life in Glasgow, Carmen recommends pub hopping on Sauchiehall Street, watching a Ranger/Celtics game with the locals, and viewing a bagpipe championship or the Glasgow Highland Games. 4 The Jacobite Train and Alnwick Castle: For Harry Potter fans, both Carmen and Megan recommend these site. The train is literally The Hogwarts Express, and the Alnwick Castle is where Harry Potter’s flying lessons were filmed. 5 Visit a distillery: Try Scottish Whiskey at one of the many distilleries the country has to offer: Talisker, Auchentoshan, Oban, or Glenmorangie.
STOP #5: GLENCOE
STOP #6: MAILAG
This region is hikers-haven and the film location for Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban. The tiny backpacking town is home to several hostels and The Clachaig Inn, a lovely hotel, restaurant, and pub — The Boots Bar — that distills its own whisky.
Mailag is a charming little town on the western coast. It is the west coast’s main fishing port and the terminus of the iconic West Highland Railway Line. There is also a port of ferries that can take you to several Highland Isles, including the Isle of Skye. There is a lovely bakery and an abundance of fresh sea air to drink in Mailag while waiting on your ferry or train.
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FASHION MODEL TURNED FINANCIAL ADVISER By Marie Bradby Photos by Sunni Wigginton
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hen Seema Sheth was modeling clothes in Los Angeles a decade ago, she was a tall, willowy young woman whose income was either boom or bust. One month she would have no money, then the next month she would get a “bucketful.” Because it was very hard to live with such an erratic money flow, she went to a financial adviser and asked for help in managing her money and investing it to smooth things out. “I was uncomfortable with finance,” says Seema, 31. “I had great parents, but they didn’t really teach me to manage my own money. I knew I should spend less than I earned, but when I got my first apartment, I didn’t know how much I could afford for rent.” Her search led to discovering her passion for finance. “I met with a couple of different financial advisers. I asked them, ‘What can I do with this money, how do I budget it?’” She didn’t like their responses. “They told me to invest it, but I wasn’t given the opportunity to be educated. I was talked down to instead of them explaining to me how to budget my money and what investing was all about.” Seema took that experience and decided to go back to school and get an MBA in finance and entrepreneurship from the University of California, Irvine. Now a financial representative with Northwestern Mutual, Seema runs an all-female practice with three other women in Louisville. “Women talk about money differently,” she says. “Women often aren’t educated about how money works. Women delay in coming to speak to a financial planner. Women want to seek advice after they get it all figured out. They just want the advisor to fine-tune the plan. But realistically, we are the ones to write the plan to get those things taken care of. While Seema has clients all over the country, she meets regularly with her
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Seema Sheth’s Tips for Working a Work Wardrobe
Don’t be trendy. Coco Chanel said, “Fashion changes, but style endures.” Steer clear of things that are hot for the moment so you won’t have to revamp your look all the time. Also, super trendy and professional rarely mix. Simplify. Select bottoms, tops, and dresses in rich, neutral colors — black, white, navy, and camel. This will help you look instantly classy, and just about everything will go with everything else. Have fewer clothes. It seems counterintuitive, but you’ll have a more focused style and look better when selecting from a smaller wardrobe. Be professional. I try not to wear anything too tight, short, bulky, or revealing. Pick style icons who have your body type and copy them. I look at Janelle Monae, vintage Audrey Hepburn, (strangely) current Jane Fonda, and the character Olivia Pope from Scandal (not Kerry Washington in real life). I pin their looks to a page on Pinterest, and then seek those items when I shop. Shop for staples first, then have fun with accessories. This is just smarter shopping. Also, don’t buy it unless you know what it’ll go with. Make outfits when you buy, don’t just pick random pieces. Shop for better clothes off-season. I avoid buying too many items from bargain-priced stores because they don’t launder well or retain their shape. Instead, I shop off-season for higherquality pieces. You may have to wait a bit before you can wear your new clothes, but it’s a good way to get great quality at a discount. Louisville clients, and her appearance is very important to her. When she first started her career in finance, she used to try to wear three-piece suits like the men in her field. “It didn’t look good on a fivefoot-eight brown woman. We live in a world where, as a woman of color, you have to prove that you are as qualified as you say you are. So maintaining an immaculate appearance is important. I also want my clothes to say I am an individual and have a sense of style, and that I have my stuff together, so you can put your faith in me.”
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“A lot of people don’t want to invest their money because they are afraid they will lose it all. As women, we are only making 79 cents for every dollar men make, so we have to invest to meet our long-term goals,” says Seema Sheth, financial adviser.
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A Leftover Treat
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KITCHEN SINK BLONDIES MOST POPULAR Story and Photos by Paige Rhodes
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HALLOWEEN CANDIES IN THE U.S.
1 REESE’S PEANUT BUTTER CUPS 2 SNICKERS 3 TWIX 4 KIT KAT 5 M&MS 6 NERDS 7 BUTTERFINGER 8 SOUR PATCH KIDS 9 SKITTLES 10 HERSHEY BAR — Candystore.com
hat do you do when you have a ton of leftover candy after Halloween? Other than sneaking a piece or two in your lunch every day, you can use them to make a batch of Kitchen Sink Blondies.
This recipe is the perfect way to get rid of the leftover chocolate that may have gotten picked over by the persnickety ghosts and goblins of Halloween night. Of course, you can make these any time of the year, but if you do decide to make them this season, they’re made particularly ghoulish with the addition of candy eyes. Now, open up those fun-size M&M’s and get to baking!
Kitchen Sink Blondies are a tasty treat made from the candy trick-or-treaters left in your bowl.
Kitchen Sink Blondies Prep Time: 10 mins Cook Time: 22 mins Yields: 12 squares
Ingredients 1 stick unsalted butter, melted and cooled to room temperature 1 large egg 1 cup light brown sugar, packed 1 tablespoon vanilla extract 1 cup all-purpose flour 15 chocolate sandwich cookies, chopped into quarters 1/4 cup M&M’s or various chopped chocolates Candy eyes to decorate, if desired
Instructions Preheat oven to 350ºF. Line an 8x8-inch baking pan with aluminum foil or parchment paper and spray with cooking spray. Whisk together the melted butter, egg, brown sugar, and vanilla, and whisk until smooth. Add the flour and stir until just combined, and then gently stir in the chocolate sandwich cookies. Spread the batter into the prepared pan, smoothing the top slightly. Evenly sprinkle the M&M’s over the top, lightly pressing them down with your finger or a spatula. Bake for about 20 to 22 minutes, until the top is no longer wet looking. Allow the blondies to cool in pan for at least 30 minutes before slicing and serving.
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