Today's Woman November 2018

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holiday GIFT GUIDE

NOVEMBER 2018

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contents NOVEMBER 2018

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spotlight 20 FOOD

An autumn cocktail

22 SURVIVAL SKILLS Creating an overnight experience

24 WHAT WORKS

Hand-drawn historic artwork

26 TURNING POINT

“Am I being the woman I want to be?”

28 PASSIONS

What I would tell myself 10 years ago

features 28 JUST ASK JOYCE

48 LUNCH + FUN

30 LIVING BEAUTIFULLY

52 CELEBRATIONS

The old flame or Mr. Adorable?

Bringing the natural world inside

32 TRAVEL

If you want to spend New Year’s Eve in New York City

32 I AM GRATEFUL

Have lunch and follow up with local shopping Teresa and David Becker

54 LOVE ABOUT

Her crazy Zen life (style)

54 EAT THIS WAY What she’s eating

56 WORK WARDROBE

Journal entry by Bob Mueller

Her work wardrobe: professional-meetsgirly

Read full stories online at TodaysWomanNow.com Search with the person’s name in the story.

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6 Behind the Scenes of Your Holiday Glam

Local beauty experts provide tips on preparing for any holiday party.

33 Caregiver Guide

Information on caregiving plus showcasing local senior communities.

58 26 Gifts

We hit the streets to find great gifts at local shops.

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NOV. 2018 | VOL. 28 | NO. 12

PUBLISHER Cathy S. Zion publisher@todaysmedianow.com EDITOR-IN-CHIEF Anita Oldham editor@todaysmedianow.com EDITOR Tiffany White tiffany@todaysmedianow.com CONTRIBUTING EDITORS Lucy M. Pritchett

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Our Wish

e often start off overwhelmed as soon as we hit November — feeling that we have to accomplish something magical in the next 60 days. Relax.

We’ve got your back with gift suggestions (pg.58), sparkling ways to celebrate the season, and as always, positive stories of inspiring local women.

FOR YOU

WE ARE HERE TO FURTHER ENCOURAGE YOU WITH A FEW OF OUR SIMPLE WISHES FOR YOU AND YOURS: • A kind word about your hair.

• A song helps you remember what is important or reminds you of someone special.

• A party outfit you put on at the last minute looks great and feels fantastic.

• A good laugh with friends.

• Your favorite holiday movie shows up on Netflix.

• A “coincidence” helps you believe Someone is looking out for you.

• A book, a sentence, a poem, or an email nudges you into positive action...

• ...And, you have the energy to take that positive action.

• A holiday shopping excursion that is fun and not exhausting and results in ticking many items off your gift list.

• A few minutes of quiet to refresh your spirit.

• A taste of something memorably delicious.

— Anita Oldham

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ON THE COVER:

Kaiti Venable, stylist with NOVA Salon, shares her tips for achieving stunning hair and makeup for any holiday party. Read more about her and our other style experts featured on page 6.

Photo Melissa Donald Styling Aubrey Hillis

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BE HI N D THE SCENES

Holiday Glam

OF YO U R

Who better than beauty stylists to give us the inside scoop to holiday party preparation?

These beauty experts provide tips on preparing for any holiday party — whether you are attending a Thanksgiving get-together or watching the ball drop on New Year’s Eve.

By Tiffany White Styling Aubrey Hillis Photos Melissa Donald

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YOURSELF

THE NIGHT BEFORE “Prep your skin. Moisturize the night before and utilize the colors of the season and environment around you. For a work party, I definitely do a face mask the night before and drink plenty of water.”

— Sydnie Johnson BEFORE YOU GO “Add a pop of color whether it’s lips, nails, or even eye shadow. Red lips are my go-to, especially during the holidays. Glo suede matte crayon in Crimson is my favorite red lip color.” — Kaiti Venable MAKE IT LAST “I think false lashes always make makeup pop, and I use lip liner to enhance my lipstick or lipgloss.

Use setting spray after the makeup has been applied to keep the look longer.”

— Latasha Booker-White MAKE IT LAST “Spray your face with setting spray, and set your makeup with powder to avoid creasing under eyes.”

— Amber May STOP THE FRIZZ “Using a curling wand keeps your hair curly all day. For shiny hair, I use a little Aveda Brilliant Emollient Finishing gloss on my curls to help keep them less frizzy and more shiny.” — Amber May CREATE DRAMATIC EYES “Add a touch of highlights to the inner most area by the nose to open up the eye.”

— Denise Cardwell

LATASHA BOOKER-WHITE, OWNER, TASHA’S HEAD TO TOE HAIR AND NAIL SALON, IS WEARING: Coat, $81; blouse, $55; gloves, $18, all available at Colonial Designs. Jeans, $45, J.Nicole; shoes, $90, Aldo; bracelet, $32, Magnolia and Fig.

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stir up some spirits Try this official gin cocktail for the Breeder’s Cup.

MONEY RIDER 2 parts Hendrick’s Gin 1 part fresh lime juice .5 parts raspberry syrup Topped with Q Ginger Beer Build all of ingredients in highball glass over cubed ice.

Churn and serve.

DENISE CARDWELL, OWNER, IMAGE WORKS STUDIO, IS WEARING: Dress, $210, The Polka Dotted Pineapple; fascinator, $239, Bluegrass Belle; shoes, $90, Aldo; bracelet, $32, Magnolia and Fig

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Thanksgiving etiquette tips for a guest

EASY-OPEN HOSTESS GIFTS Send a handwritten thank-you note after the party. If you wish to bring something to the party, it should be easy to open, assemble, and use immediately.

BE CONSCIENTIOUS If asked to bring a dish to the party, keep it low maintenance for the host’s sake. Avoid something you may need to cook ahead of time in their oven. It is tough for a host to navigate oven time, etc.

AMBER MAY, STYLIST/FLOOR MANAGER, STRANDZ SALON AND THREADZ BOUTIQUE, IS WEARING: Dress, $43; necklace, $12.50, both available at Market 502.

Boots, $45; earrings, $28; clutch, $39, Apricot Lane.

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etiquette tips for a guest

INVITATIONS 101 Put the who, what, when, when, and attire the invitation to identify a start and end time, and the type of party you are hosting so the guest can plan around meals.

BE A GRACIOUS HOST Greet people at the door and make them feel comfortable by letting them know where to hang their coats, make a drink, where the buffet is, etc. Introducing people to others when they may be new in town shows great etiquette and hospitality.

SYDNIE JOHNSON, COLOR SPECIALIST, Z SALON & SPA, IS WEARING: Shirt, $60; necklace, $48, both available at Magnolia and Fig. Pants, $35, Market 502; shoes, $39, Charlotte Russe.

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Office Party etiquette tips for a guest

RSVP WITHIN 24 HOURS Responding promptly to an invitation is respectful to the hostess and takes a burden off your shoulders.

KAITI VENABLE, STYLIST, NOVA SALON, IS WEARING: Blouse, $57; skirt, $59; bracelet, $39, all available at Colonial Designs.

Shoes, $90, Aldo; earrings, $52, Magnolia and Fig.

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Office Party etiquette tips for a guest

AVOID DRIVE-BYS Plan to stay at least one hour at each event you attend.

SYDNIE JOHNSON IS WEARING: Sweater, $60; purse, $42; gloves, $18, all available at Colonial Designs. Pants, $60; necklace, $48; earrings, $40; bracelet, $32, all available at Magnolia and Fig. Shoes, J.Nicole, $40; hat, $46, The Polka Dotted Pineapple.

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Christmas etiquette tips for a guest

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For the holidays you want to keep it simple.

Don’t make something too complicated, and keep your opening cocktails light so your guests don’t over-imbibe early in the evening.

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— Lynn House, national brand educator with Heaven Hill Distilleries

stir up some spirits

THE POINSETTIA 1 ounce Pama Liqueur 3.5 ounces of sparkling wine Add three pomegranate seeds into the champagne glass for garnish — Recipe provided by Lynn House, national brand educator with Heaven Hill Distilleries

KAITI VENABLE IS WEARING: Sweater, $58; bracelet, $32, both available at Magnolia and Fig. Skirt, $22, Amazon; shoes, $40, J.Nicole; earrings, $20, Colonial Designs.

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New Year’s Eve etiquette tips for a guest

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If there is a planned activity, such as board games, guests should participate.

Refusing to participate makes everyone feel

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uncomfortable.

— Peggy Noe Stevens, Peggy Noe Stevens Associates and Sallie Plass, Etiquette Enrichment

DON’T BE A BARTENDER Tim Laird, chief entertaining officer with Brown Forman, suggests that a hostess make drinks by the pitcher or in a punch bowl to avoid the inconvenience of making individual drinks.

AMBER MAY IS WEARING: Dress, $135, All Is Fair in Love and Fashion; shoes, $29, J. Nicole; necklace, $45; earrings, $40, both available at Magnolia and Fig.

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etiquette tips for a guest

MINGLE WITH CONFIDENCE • Small talk breaks the ice, but be well-informed.

• Focus on the other person.

• Think before you speak.

• Avoid controversial issues.

• Always close a conversation before walking away.

stir up some spirits

NOT-SO-SILENT PUNCH Bottle of pomegranate juice ½ to 1750-ml bottle of bourbon 1 bottle of champagne Mix together and serve.

— Recipe provided by the Bourbon Women Association

LATASHA BOOKER-WHITE IS WEARING: Dress, $90, All Is Fair in Love and Fashion; shoes, $89, Macy’s; bracelet, $39, Colonial Designs; earrings, $52, Magnolia and Fig.

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An Autumn Cocktail Story and photo by Paige Rhodes

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elebrate autumn with this tart and sweet bourbon cocktail. Since cranberries and oranges are basically the fruits of the season, this refreshing cocktail celebrates autumn and Thanksgiving. Not to mention, the flavor of bourbon pairs perfectly with the slightly tart and sweet simple syrup.

SEARCH: Cranberry Orange Smash

Cranberry Orange Smash Prep Time: 5 mins Cook Time: 5 mins Yields: 1 cocktail Ingredients For the Simple Syrup 3/4 cup frozen or fresh cranberries 1/2 cup water 1/2 cup granulated sugar 2 sprigs of thyme 1 cinnamon stick For the Cocktail 1/2 oz freshly squeezed orange juice 1 tbsp cranberry pulp from simple syrup 2 oz bourbon 1 cup of ice 3/4 oz cranberry thyme simple syrup 1-ounce orange sparkling water Instructions For the Simple Syrup Combine all of the ingredients in a small saucepan over medium heat. Simmer until the sugar is dissolved and the cranberries have burst (about 5 minutes). Strain out the cranberries, thyme, and cinnamon stick and set aside to cool.

For the Cocktail In a shaker, combine the orange juice and 1 tbsp of pulp from the strained cranberries. Muddle until pulverized. Add bourbon, ice, and simple syrup and shake vigorously for 10 seconds.

Pour full contents into a glass and top with 1-ounce of orange sparkling water. Stir and garnish with an orange wedge, thyme, and cinnamon stick.

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Creating an Overnight Experience

By Holly Hinson Photos Melissa Donald

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issy Hillock, Ph.D., a former cognitive and development psychologist, couldn’t stop thinking about opening a bed and breakfast.

As things at her day job began to change, she started seeing her friends and neighbors opening businesses in her home neighborhood, Norton Commons. One sleepless night, Missy drafted a business plan for a bed and breakfast. That same week, she took the idea to her family and the Norton Commons office. Everyone loved the plan.

In December 2015, Missy and her husband John saw their dream come to fruition when they opened their bourbon-themed bed and breakfast — Chateau Bourbon.

Chateau Bourbon’s three-course breakfast starts with signature homemade granola with “drunken” or bourbon-soaked cherries, and might include chicken and waffles with a bourbon maple syrup and a bourbon coffee cake for dessert.

The inn features four bedrooms cleverly decorated in a farmhouse chic décor with dashes of bourbon furnishings — like a headboard made from the wood of bourbon barrels or a dining room buffet adorned with bottles of bourbon — that manage to be casual and upscale at the same time. Missy calls it “French cottage meets Kentucky estate home.”

Missy says many guests sit on the front porch, and Norton Commons neighbors walking by strike up conversations with the visitors. “The neighborhood is doing its part to keep the Southern hospitality alive by taking an interest in people,” she says.

“When people come here, they are looking for more than a bed to sleep in,” Missy says. “The first innkeeper conference I attended reminded me that the one thing you have at your place that nobody else has is you. It starts with the host. You have to exude what you want the experience to be.”

Missy’s Bourbon Tomato Jam | Chateau Bourbon B&B (Makes 1 cup of jam)

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Try this for your party!

Delicious on cheese biscuits or crackers, atop scrambled eggs or grilled meats, or simply eaten with a spoon!

Ingredients 1 lb roma tomatoes, diced ½ cup sugar 5 Tbsp apple cider vinegar ½ Tbsp red pepper flakes (more or less to taste) 1 large clove of garlic, minced ¼ cup diced sweet onion A pinch of cumin ½ tsp kosher salt 3 Tbsp bourbon

Directions Mix all ingredients except for the bourbon in a saucepan.

Bring to a boil over medium heat while stirring.

Once the mix has come to a boil, increase the heat to medium-high to keep it at a boil.

Stir and gently crush tomatoes with a wooden spoon as they soften. After about 5 minutes, add the bourbon and mix through.

Continue to cook until the liquid has become syrupy and thick (usually another 10-20 minutes).

The end product will resemble preserves.

Serve immediately or cool and store in fridge.

Keeps 1-2 weeks in a sealed container.

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HAND-DRAWN HISTORIC ARTWORK

By Lucy M. Pritchett Photos Patti Hartog

l “It’s not about the illustration only, but how the illustration can enhance the shape of the piece,” Maizie Clarke says. Her latest collection, inspired by the Far East, features blue elephants and pagodas. An earlier collection sports horses with colorful horse blankets, just right for those with equine sensibilities.

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ith a degree in interior design and a master’s in exhibition design, one would think that Maizie Clarke worked “big.” But this 32-year-old illustrator prefers to work “small.”

Originally from Vienna (Virginia, not Austria), Maizie settled in Louisville in 2014. She opened her own studio in 2016 decorating high-end ceramic products and tea towels with her own illustrations.

For the wholesale division of her business, she attends the yearly Museum Store Association Show (who knew there was such a thing?), and her pieces are featured in museum gift shops and the Library of Congress.

“I do all of my illustrations by hand,” Maizie says. “I use the tools I started using in college — old-school drafting tools, a T-square, a triangle, a compass. I use an illustration block of 300 lb. cold-press watercolor paper and Micron ink pens. I sketch out my design in pencil, ink it in with the Micron pen, and then paint it with watercolor. I use the Winsor & Newton professional line of paints.”

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SEARCH: Maizie Clarke

WHAT WORKS FOR MAIZIE Dagne Dover tote “With this bag I can work from anywhere. It holds my laptop and my Moleskine soft cover notebook where I do all my planning and designing. I recommend it to everyone. I use it every day.”

QIAYA LED Ring Light “I use this for lighting and photographing my work and making process videos for Instagram (@maizieclarke). It gives a bright white light that is adjustable and dimmable.”

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HER TURNING POINT

“Am I being the woman I want to be?”

By Lucy M. Pritchett Photo Patti Hartog

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even years ago, when Laura Wagner was coming up on her 40th year, she admitted her life was “fine.”

But, she says, “I started to ask myself, ‘Am I being the woman I want to be in my life?’”

Her answer was no.

“An accumulation of things had happened,” Laura says. “I had gone through four miscarriages in two years, I had returned to school and gotten my therapy license. I was a highfunctioning, high-achieving woman, but I was exhausted with the triumphs and the tragedies in my life. I was not as healthy as I could be, and I was carrying 35 extra pounds.”

Initially, Laura thought that maybe if she lost the weight she would be happier. “I hired a weight-loss coach.

She helped me look at how much my body had been through due to the losses, the grief, the depression.

“The coach told me that any sort of transformation was an inside-out job. I worked on my mindset in terms of what I thought was possible for myself — not only for my body but for my life.”

Her examination revealed that not only did she want to lose weight, she wanted to have her own business. She acknowledged her desire to travel sooner rather than later. As a mom, she looked at how she wanted to raise her two children and what kind of lifestyle she wanted for the family.

“Everything that changed came as a result of simple and significant steps.

Things I did every single day. I started keeping a food journal. It became a compassionate awareness of what I ate, what time I ate, and why I ate. Was it out of boredom or habit? Was I upset about something?

“I looked at how I moved my body and sought out what I could do that felt like love and was interesting and pleasurable and would not be so hard on my body. I started Zumba classes. I was the woman in the back of the room stumbling over the steps, but you know, I had the time of my life. Two years later I became a Zumba teacher.”

Laura took a hard look at what she loved to do in order to create a worklife.

“I love to write (check out her blog at

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SEARCH: Laura Wagner

laura-wagner.com). I'm a therapist, life coach, and a fitness coach. I knew I would have to strike out on my own and put it all together.”

Now, she shares her experiences with other women searching for what could become their own turning points.

“Although I do face-to-face, oneon-one counseling and coaching, I also have dinners at my house. I hire a chef, and 10 women or so come from all over the country to connect and explore. It's kind of a coaching workshop in disguise.

I wanted to create a comfortable and

beautiful space for women to gather and work on personal development.”

She encourages women to get outside whatever box they are in.

“I tell them that someday is not a day of the week. Do things with intention.

Instead of sliding into life, start deciding.

Our job is to learn and grow and to remain curious and interested in life.

I have seen how the Law of Attraction works in my life and in the lives of the women I work with. I am really just helping women excavate. I am a catalyst.”

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SEARCH: Lauren Hendricks

What I Would Tell Myself 10 Years Ago

By Bella Portaro Photo Patti Hartog

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auren Hendricks’ passion to live a life of depth with intention has catapulted her into having a lasting effect upon the city of Louisville.

She started small 12 years ago as one of the founders of the Forecastle Foundation.

Today, Lauren is board chair and part owner of A + H Marketing.

She reminds herself to follow her intuition and stand with companies that have a local and honest mentality that matches her belief to be who you say you are, both personally and professionally.

“If I could give myself advice about passion 10 years ago, I’d tell myself to stay true to my beliefs and know that I’m making a difference.”

m Lauren Hendricks loves Butchertown and the murals that go with it.

JUST ASK JOYCE:

THE OLD FLAME OR MR. ADORABLE?

Struggling with a relationship issue?

Write Joyce Oglesby, Family Life FIX-IT Pro at justaskjoyce@gmail.com, and find a solution for life.

You can watch “The Just Ask Joyce Show” on TV or go to justaskjoyce.com.

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Being torn between two lovers could leave your heart in pieces for the next one. It is truly time for you to take a break. I did not say “break up.” You have something special with “Mr. Adorable,” and I encourage you to not break his heart until you figure out where yours is.

Here are some things to consider in your quiet time: Take a walk...down memory lane. It’s clear you will conjure up some really bad memories with the good that keep you shackled to your old flame who cheated on you. Focus on them all — the good, the bad, and the ugly.

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Get mad again. Have you truly regained the trust you once had in your old flame? Allow yourself to get angry about the way he ended the relationship before (when he cheated). If it feels close to the way it did when you first learned the news, chances are that mountain is too high to climb.

When there is conflict between the head and the heart, there is usually good reason for it.

Don’t ignore warning signs. It could be time to let old love die and concentrate completely on what seems to have helped you find your truest self. Read more at TodaysWomanNow.com

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BRINGING THE NATURAL WORLD INSIDE

By Megan M. Seckman Photos Melissa Donald

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s a teenager, Bridget Davis used to make and sell dried flower wreaths, and by her early 20s, she helped a friend open up a flower cart in Oregon. “I have been slinging flowers for 25 years,” says Bridget, owner of Mahonia, a home store and floral design studio in Nulu. From a rustic wooden table in her studio, Bridget and her design team arrange bouquets and essentially work to curate the natural world. Three massive watercolor cacti paintings adorn the studio walls, spilling vibrant purple hues onto the neutral tones of the room.

“These paintings say everything about us: the use of vibrant tones, the bloom of watercolor, and the fact that they are cactus. They are part of who we are,” Bridget says.

Mahonia has been part of Louisville’s downtown landscape for two years now.

In those two years, the shop has worked to educate residents on the power of plants. Bridget says it’s not your average flower shop—Mahonia is more like the Humane Society of plants. “We offer our customers a way to garden anywhere

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they are by listening to their needs, educating them, and matching plants to the right owner. We help people see plants as living, breathing [creatures], and we are happy to hold your hand along the way,” Bridget says.

Mahonia features an array of beautiful terrariums, single potted succulents starting at $3, and vibrant displays of cut flowers. “We try to provide beauty that people can take home. I’ve always been a nester and believe the home is about creating a beautiful environment. ”Mahonia also sells single stems to make buying flowers accessible to a variety of budgets.

Although Bridget has had little time to do her own gardening since opening Mahonia, she says her personal favorites are dahlias, ranunculus, and, of course, the mahonia plant. Her store’s namesake was inspired by a native Oregonian grape that she often incorporated into her landscape work there before relocating to Louisville. She loved the plant for its ability to bloom in all seasons and for the contrast between its delicate, beautiful blue berry and its tough, hardy stem.

HERE ARE SOME OF BRIDGET’S SUGGESTIONS FOR GIVING THE GIFT OF NATURE : • Terrariums (starting at $20) • Fresh hand-tied bouquet (starting at $25) or vase arrangement (starting at $75) • Succulent planter (starting at $50) • I n the Company of Women (book, $35) • Amethyst or other mineral ($15-125)

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If You Want to Spend New Year’s Eve in New York City

By Megan M. Seckman Photos submitted

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or years, Darla Baldridge, a single mother and real estate agent, has taken her children on one vacation every year. No matter what her financial circumstances — sometimes feast, sometimes famine — she always found a way to plan something to remember the year by. Last year, she wanted to share her favorite city, New York, with her boys (George, 14, and John, 16). She began booking her trip months in advance to save money in this pricy city.

In August 2017 she found a great deal on the boutique hotel Avalon, located in Midtown Manhattan, just minutes from the action of Times Square. She booked it through Expedia for $1,500 for five days — a bargain for NYC on NYE. Darla certainly made a memory for herself and the boys last year. They walked the Brooklyn Bridge and Central Park, saw a Broadway show, went to the top of the Rock at Rockefeller Center, visited the site of the 9/11 Memorial, toured the country’s most famous art museum and The Museum of Natural History, went to New Year’s mass at St. Patrick’s Cathedral, and sipped incredibly overpriced gourmet hot chocolate from the top of Grand Central Station.

After spending several days walking the city before the New Year, Darla and the boys grew weary of the cold and crowds that plagued the city. They decided together, still clad in the coats and layers, that the day before New Year’s Eve in Times Square was good enough. “We realized after a couple of days that we wouldn’t make it to New Year’s Eve in Times Square; it was just too cold and too crowded.”

Would she have done anything differently about this trip? Heck yes. She’d go in the summer. For next time, Darla would love to explore more of Central Park in the summer months and return for a tour of NBC studios, and of course, a taping of Saturday Night Live.

SEARCH: Darla Baldridge

Darla’s Advice for New York CIty Travel • Try flights through Newark airport and travel to the city inexpensively. From the airport, Darla took a car service that was quick and direct for $100, and on the way back, a scenic train from Grand Central Station for $39.

• Research free things to do in the city: Central Park tours, museums like the MET and Natural History Museum, which take donations instead of a flat fee, etc.

• See a show and take the time to find discount tickets.

• Don’t be afraid to walk the city. Darla said she felt safe there because of the sheer number of police.

• During holidays, check out the window displays at Macy’s and SAKS.

I am Grateful There is credible evidence that feeling grateful generates a ripple effect through every area of our lives, potentially satisfying some of our deepest yearnings — our desire for happiness, our pursuit of better relationships, and our ceaseless quest for inner peace, wholeness, and contentment.

Gratitude is more than a tool for self-improvement.

By appreciating the gifts of the moment, gratitude frees us from past regrets and future anxieties.

By cultivating gratefulness, we are freed from envy over what we don’t have or who we are not. It doesn’t make life perfect, but with gratitude comes the realization that right now in this moment, we have enough, we are enough. — Bob Mueller

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Caregiver GUIDE

By Carrie Vittitoe Photos Melissa Donald

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t one time — for aging seniors and their families — moving into a senior living community may have felt like a defeat, like surrendering their freedom. Increasingly, though, senior living communities are the solution for older adults to retain their freedom and continue to live with some independence.

Adults in senior living communities are no longer held down by the hassles of home ownership and maintenance. They have the freedom to take part in a variety of activities and amenities that they enjoy. They expand their network of friends, and frequently their mental and physical health improve when they move from isolation at their homes into communities with others.

Our caregiving section showcases just a few of the local senior communities that offer a wide range of benefits for seniors, as well as access to the quality medical care and safety that is an important consideration.

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The life of a caregiver is bittersweet.

By Rachel Reynolds

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t’s painful because you watch another human being deteriorate before your eyes. It’s sublime because you acutely comprehend the preciousness of each moment and the will of the human spirit to endure. It’s a space where love and resentment can reside together. It’s a place where the clock and time can be both your friend and your enemy.

“Try to enjoy every day with your loved one,” says Katherine Autin, founder of Parkinson’s Partners and herself a caregiver and board-certified patient advocate for her husband, who suffers from the disease. “You’re going to spend doctor time and hospital time, but be sure to spend fun time. Go to the movies and out to dinner together if you can. Take one day at a time.”

Autin has spent 14 years caring for her husband, who was diagnosed with Parkinson’s at age 51. What started as a tremor in his little finger ballooned into multiple symptoms over the years including tightening of his hands, pain in his neck and back, anxiety, lowering of his voice, gastrointestinal problems, and loss of balance.

Autin founded Parkinson’s Partners after finding little information or help in the marketplace for family members and caregivers struggling with the disease. Her organization provides access to information, support group training, and professional board-certified patient advocacy.

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The Whole Brain Fitness lifestyle approach “focuses on seven essential elements that include the right nutrition and physical exercise, mental workouts and lifelong learning, reduced stress, a strong social network, and a sense of purpose.”

— Ted Burfict, executive director at Belmont Village Senior Living St. Matthews If you could pick and choose the amenities and programs in a senior living community, what would you choose?

Centrally located near restaurants and shops for day trips? Care flexibility for when your physical or cognitive needs change? Regular provision of therapeutic programs for staying physically and mentally flexible? Belmont Village Senior Living St. Matthews checks off all of these boxes and is proud to feature the Whole Brain Fitness lifestyle approach, which “focuses on seven essential elements that include the right nutrition and physical exercise, mental workouts and lifelong learning, reduced stress, a strong social network, and a sense of purpose,” says Executive Director Ted Burfict.

What is special about Belmont Village’s personal and memory care services?

Belmont Village allows people to age in place. Our communities are licensed to the highest level of care to offer flexibility for our residents when their needs change. This is especially important for couples whose cognitive or care needs differ. They can continue to live together while still receiving the personalized support each needs.

How does Belmont Village help residents transition to the community?

One of the things we do to better serve our residents and their families is have individual care conferences with families a few weeks after move-in to ensure that we are addressing issues that are important to them and that residents are adjusting well to their new home.

How does Belmont Village innovate care for its residents?

Belmont Village pioneered a program called Circle of Friends to specifically address the needs and abilities of our residents with mild cognitive impairment (MCI) and early stage memory loss.

What makes this program unique is our combination of a wellness model with mental fitness. The innovative approach is based on leading research and an ongoing evaluation program.

What advice can you offer to someone considering a transition to a senior living community?

Finding a place that can serve both current and future needs is key. Some tips to help families find the right fit are to consider a facility’s license, atmosphere, food service, staff training and ratio, contracts and costs, and memory enrichment programs.

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<< PAGE 34 and grief. There is a higher incidence of depression among caregivers than the general population.

“One of the most important points I always try to stress with caregivers is the importance of self-care,” Dr. Faul says.

“Caregivers are many times in a position where they have to let go of their own physical and mental health while caring for a loved one.

There is no time to break away from the 24-hour, dayby-day responsibilities.”

Dr. Faul says research is showing that caregivers many times die before those they take care of, mainly because they did not have time to take care of themselves.

Autin says there were times when she and her husband felt defeated by his chronic illness. She says that it’s important for both people to develop coping methods, together and individually.

“People are emotional when stress is high,” she says. “I would go out in the garage and get in the car, turn on the music, and cry.

I would swing on the swing set in the park and cry.

Swimming, taking a walk, or calling a friend and saying, ‘I need to get out of here. Can you meet me for coffee?,’ can all help.”

Autin and her husband also started attending Rock Steady Boxing classes. The activity, which strengthens his abilities and helps manage symptoms, also provides a stress outlet for her.

“Find a healthy way to expend energy. You’ve got to let it out. If you keep it in, it makes you sick and eventually it will explode,” she says. In October 2017, Autin had a pulmonary embolism that resulted in

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both her and her husband needing care.

Dr. Faul says she has seen caregivers “die inside” because they do not have a way to release their emotions. These emotions are many times a mixture of loss and guilt combined with denial that life will never be the same again, she says.

She recommends caregivers practice mindful meditation at home and encourages them to exercise to lower stress. She suggests a routine that includes at least one half-day a week when someone else provides care and the caregiver has time off to spend with family and friends.

Autin says it’s normal for caregivers to have “this feeling of ‘I want to go away’” and leave all responsibilities behind.

The desire to escape can be powerful when a caregiver is exhausted, frustrated, or despondent. She recalls one period when she and her husband both felt down at the same time. They were trying very hard not to inconvenience or lean on each other too much.

She considered giving up completely at one point because she felt alone with nowhere to turn. But after sharing her feelings of despondency with her husband, she persevered.

“Both people feel like they have to be ‘on’ all the time. Try to keep a positive attitude and not yell even when you’re exhausted.

Humor is key.”

This illustrates the importance of a team of people who can help a caregiver overcome obstacles. Grown children, extended family members, friends, and service providers can all help lighten the load of a caregiver.

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professionals like doctors, medical specialists, and physical therapists as well as friends to take the caregiver out for coffee, cut the grass, do the grocery shopping, or run errands.

“Offer to bring them a meal now and then,” says Autin, suggesting ways to help a caregiver. “Every day having to think about what to cook is a burden.”

Dr. Faul suggests friends check on caregivers regularly and offer to be a listening ear, adding that it’s important not to judge or be too quick to offer advice.

Unconditional acceptance of their feelings is what caregivers need so that they have a safe place to let off steam and talk about what makes them sad or anxious.

Autin also encourages family and friends to sit with a loved one while a caregiver gets her hair done or goes to a movie, or insist on staying with a loved one for the weekend while a caregiver goes on a church retreat or a short, relaxing getaway with friends.

Churches, volunteer organizations, and specialized agencies can provide respite care. Dr. Faul says society at large needs to move toward a holistic and inclusive approach to aging.

“The new model we need is a society that understands aging in place and brings resources to the community rather than centralizing resources in institutions,” she says. “There are a lot of innovative ways to rethink our attitude toward aging.”

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Between Cornell Trace, Springhurst Health & Rehab, and Parr’s at Springhurst, “residents are getting well over 100 years’ worth of expertise.”

— Hope Janssen, marketing director at Springhurst Pines

Like other senior living communities, Springhurst Pines provides independent living, personal care apartments, skilled nursing services, and rehab. What sets it apart, however, is the years of name recognition and experience that its three facilities bring to residents. Between Cornell Trace, Springhurst Health & Rehab, and Parr’s at Springhurst, Marketing Director Hope Janssen says residents are getting well over 100 years’ worth of expertise.

How does Springhurst Pines provide a continuum of care to residents?

Springhurst Pines offers three different living arrangements on one great campus.

Offering this continuum of care helps reduce stress later when and if a resident needs additional services. Our residents

have the convenience of seamlessly transitioning from one level of care to another if needed.

occupational therapy. As of October, we have a respiratory therapist on-site, as well.

What is unique about the pricing system at Parr’s at Springhurst?

Parr’s has an all-inclusive price structure.

We do not have a move-in fee, nor do we require 30 days’ notice, so if a resident needs to move to a different level of care, he or she can quickly do so. Some communities charge extra for medication management or bathing assistance, but we do not.

What does Springhurst Pines try to provide to its residents?

What therapies does Springhurst Health & Rehab offer?

We offer long-term skilled nursing and short-term rehab-to-home care, which includes physical, speech, and

At Springhurst we believe the single most important thing a senior living community can offer their residents is the ability to maintain their dignity and their independence.

What advice would you give to someone considering transitioning to a senior living community?

My advice is to tour and inquire with multiple communities before making a decision. Every community has a personality and offers unique amenities.

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“At Stonecrest, we have a vibrant community that gives residents a safe environment and a purpose.”

— Adam Weir, community relations manager at Stonecrest of Louisville

In the past, moving into a senior living community might have felt like giving up — giving up your house, your way of life, and your friendships. For individuals and couples who choose Stonecrest of Louisville, which offers luxury personal care and memory care apartments, they are only giving up the headaches of home ownership. What they gain is a network of friendly seniors, picturesque surroundings, a restaurant-style menu, and a pet-friendly environment. “At Stonecrest, we have a vibrant community that gives residents a safe environment and a purpose,” says Community Relations Manager Adam Weir.

How does Stonecrest tailor its programming to its residents’ interests and needs?

We have a descriptive move-in binder that explains our community, and we really do our best to get to know new residents. We have monthly meetings with all residents to see if there are things we need to change or help them with. Everything we do at Stonecrest is based on residents’ needs and interests.

We do not force them to fit into a structured routine that doesn’t meet their needs.

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What special amenities and programs should potential residents know about?

We offer fitness programs, including yoga, as well as a life enrichment program called The Good Life. Stonecrest also offers an “anytime menu” to ensure residents can fuel themselves to keep up with the community’s myriad of activities.

How does Stonecrest address its memory care residents’ special needs?

Our staff receives specialized training in our memory care program called The Bridges – Offering a Path of Purpose, and we are in the process of implementing The Best Friends Approach at our community, which uses seven building blocks to help care for individuals with Alzheimer’s and dementia. This approach will enhance our life enrichment programming by increasing residents’ participation in utilizing their minds, bodies, and spirits.

Stonecrest is pet-friendly. How does this benefit residents?

Pets are fantastic and can change someone’s mood and behavior. They are uplifting, so we practice pet therapy in our community because we understand its importance to seniors.

How do you utilize technology to improve care?

We have a state-of- the-art security system, and we use a family app called Sagely that allows family members to stay engaged with the residents’ activities.

What types of activities are on the Stonecrest calendar of events?

We frequently lunch out and take scenic rides, and we also take residents to museums and shows. We have special activities come to us, as well. For example, zoo docents come in to visit with the residents.

Do you have any advice for someone looking to make a transition to a senior living community?

When looking at communities, try to focus on the quality each community offers.

Always put your loved one first, and do what is best for them.

How does someone know when they should consider living in a community like Stonecrest?

If an individual or his or her family members feel the senior needs help managing medication or the daily care routine, or even if the senior feels the need to live in a community setting to benefit from daily social interactions, then Stonecrest would be an appropriate choice for them.

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“We start with a deep-rooted belief that if there is breath in a person’s lungs, his or her life has tremendous value.

We have built a team that aligns on that belief.”

— Cristi Rucker, community relations director at Thrive Memory Care at Beckley Creek

Families who select a memory care community for their loved ones are looking for someplace special; a place that will not only serve their loved ones’ physical needs, but also provide them the respect and dignity they deserve. “We start with a deep-rooted belief that if there is breath in a person’s lungs, his or her life has tremendous value. We have built a team that aligns on that belief,” says Cristi Rucker, Thrive Memory Care’s community relations director.

What is Thrive doing differently from its competitors?

Thrive Memory Care at Beckley Creek was developed with the sole purpose of caring for elders with memory loss, and the layout of our community reflects that. Our community features three neighborhoods that each have their own dining area, kitchen, living room, and sunporch, which enters onto our courtyard. We don’t separate people into different neighborhoods based on their level of care, but on their common interests. This way there is a commonality among neighbors which in turn helps our residents form friendships.

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What do you offer that is state-of-the-art or innovative?

Thrive Senior Living was selected by the National Institute for Dementia Education (NIDE) as a pilot company to launch its training programs. Our team members are all NIDEtrained and certified, which means that our team members are prepared and qualified to interact with your loved one as a unique human being, not a case study.

How does NIDE training help Thrive offer outstanding care?

NIDE’s mission is to enhance the quality of life for people with dementia through education, collaboration, and advocacy. The training program helps our team members learn more about dementia, prepare them for situations they may face, and know how to assist our elders through the disease’s progression.

Through hands-on, classroom, and roleplaying scenarios, our team members know the best way to redirect or care for our elders.

NIDE strikes a balance between knowledge, compassion, and understanding. Families should feel more at peace with their loved ones in our care because our team members have received the latest training and will continue to do so while they work with us.

What does Thrive do to help memory care residents feel more comfortable when they move in?

It all starts prior to an elder joining our community. We host a family orientation meeting where we learn their life story and what makes them tick. This better equips our team to care for a new resident when thy join us. We encourage our elders to bring their own furniture and to decorate their rooms with familiar items. There are memory boxes outside every elder’s room that they can personalize as well.

The more their space is familiar to them, the better they will adjust during the transition from home to our community setting.

How does Thrive support memory care residents’ families?

Our vision is to create awe and admiration amongst all elders, whether their loved one lives with us or not. We offer regular community education programs on a quarterly basis to discuss topics at the forefront of dementia care. In conjunction with the Alzheimer’s Association, we host a monthly caregiver support group that is led

by Dr. Brittney Poppe, a Clinical Geriatric Psychologist.

How does someone know when they should consider a community like yours?

When an elder’s memory is interfering with his or her daily life and ability to live safely, it’s time to start looking for a community.

It is never an easy decision to leave your home, but we hope we are the next best thing and will work with families to make the move a smooth transition.

What do you think is the most important thing people can do to improve their quality of life as they age?

Stay engaged. There needs to be joy in every day, not sitting alone in front of a TV, which is what we see a lot of elders do. Volunteer, have lunch with friends, get involved at a senior center, or connect with a neighbor.

Do you have any other advice for someone looking to make a transition?

There are so many options in Louisville, from the area of town to the level of care offered, so do your homework. Make sure that you are considering the right level of care for your situation, comparing “apples to apples.” Look for a community that has a vibrant, active lifestyle that can keep you engaged. We have a handy comparison guide available to ensure you get the facts you need to make the most informed decision.

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Does your loved one need help?

By Carrie Vittitoe

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etting older has its upsides, including the wisdom gained from life experiences and the freedom from caring so much about what others think. But aging has its downsides, too.

Creaking knees, stiff joints, and forgetfulness can go from mildly annoying to completely debilitating. It is important for older adults and their loved ones to pay attention to mind and body changes to avoid unnecessary pain or loss of function.

MEMORY ISSUES Forgetting an occasional word or why you walked into a room shouldn’t set off alarms, but forgetting to eat or to take medications should. Sylvia Rhodes, executive director of The Lantern at Morning Pointe, says self-neglectful behaviors, such as not bathing, not paying bills, or forgetting to turn off a gas oven, are cause for worry. “The consistency of a behavior should be the alarm,” she says, as should whether the behavior impacts safety.

If an adult child or friend notices confusion, self-neglect, or safety issues in their loved one, Rhodes recommends they contact their physician who can perform a simple memory test as part of an office visit. Although a diagnosis of cognitive decline can be scary, it is better to begin treatment

sooner rather than later. “There is no such thing as you ‘jumping the gun,’” Rhodes says.

Although there is no cure for dementia, medications have proven helpful, and doing puzzles, reading, and other brainengaging activities are also beneficial. If cognitive decline gets to the point where a memory care unit is needed, the programming in the community is specifically geared to help older adults with their memory issues. At The Lantern at Morning Pointe, for example, families help fill a clear box outside their loved one’s apartment with photos and mementos that help their loved one identify it as their residence. This is one way of cuing the resident but also giving him or her independence within the community.

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“The art of aging is what we have found to be more beneficial than many of the so-called state-of-the-art amenities.”

— Rhonda Harding, director of sales, marketing, and residency development at Treyton Oak Towers

Treyton Oak Towers is situated in downtown Louisville within arm’s reach of cultural events and arts activities, and it aspires to keep its residents actively engaged in what the city has to offer. With gardens and fountains in its courtyard, its campus is also a bit of an oasis within the urban environment. While it offers plenty of amenities to its residents, Rhonda Harding, director of sales, marketing, and residency development at Treyton Oak Towers, says the focus is on quality of living over technological gadgetry.

“The art of aging is what we have found to be more beneficial than many of the so-called state-of-the-art amenities,” she says.

What services does Treyton Oak Towers offer?

We offer mostly independent living with the benefit of having a continuum of care.

What is Treyton Oak Towers doing differently from its competitors?

Our amenities and our activities calendar are second to none, as well as our affiliation with and support of the Louisville arts community.

Are you able to tailor care to individual residents?

We have the ability to tailor a plan for most any care need, especially for couples who are aging at different rates. We have on-site companion service as well as an a la carte menu of services that we can provide each resident, which allows him/ her to maintain independence as long as possible. We also customize each unit to meet the resident’s liking — from something as simple as custom paint to removing walls.

At what point should someone consider transitioning to a community like yours?

It’s best to plan ahead so you’re prepared.

Start researching communities before you have to. Most of our residents will tell you, “I should have done this sooner.”

Start looking as soon as you are ready for a carefree lifestyle full of friendships, social engagement, safety, and security.

You cannot put a price tag on the luxury of aging in place.

What do you think is the most important thing people can do to improve their quality of life as they age?

Socialization.

What steps does someone need to take to become a part of your community?

Come take a tour and join us for lunch. Let us show you what makes us unique.

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<< PAGE 42 If your loved has been diagnosed with dementia recently and is waiting to receive care, Cristi Rucker, community relations director with Thrive Memory Care at Beckley Creek, says there are products available to help you. “Get a fall pendant alert that has a GPS tracking feature. Studies have shown that individuals with memory impairment will wander at some point, so make sure you are equipped ahead of time. Make sure there are systems in place to assist an elder in taking their medications appropriately.

Use notes and reminders to help prompt normal tasks.” She also suggests that caregivers contact the Alzheimer’s Association for support and to become educated about the disease.

Creating a scheduled routine is another way to keep your loved one’s memory on track. “Have them check off the days on a calendar or write things on a calendar daily. Another good thing to do is set a schedule of someone calling or stopping by to check on them,” says Tarina Brown, RN, director of clinical services and marketing with the Barton House.

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It’s not uncommon for older adults to experience bone density loss or reduced flexibility, but it is important to check in with a physician before an individual loses mobility or experiences intense pain. Sometimes stiffness or discomfort will cause people to alter their movements and rely on different muscle groups, which leads to more stiffness and pain. Others will avoid movement completely.

While physical therapy may feel like a hassle, “it helps them to do things safely at home, improve

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functionality and mobility, and regain strength,” says Tameshia Walker, director of nursing at Springhurst Pines. Patients who come to Springhurst Pines and other facilities for short-term physical therapy are often able to return to their former level of functioning. If their former level of functioning is unattainable, patients are taught simple steps that allow them to regain some independence.

Walker says a fear of going to a nursing home may keep an older adult from telling his or her children about a physical movement issue, as will a desire to not be a burden to their families, but a lack of mobility and functioning can have a psychological impact. Chronic pain or not being able to do the activities you enjoy doing can lead to depression.

with mortality. Dr. Casey says there is a biological relationship between heart disease and depression.

“People with depression are more likely to develop certain types of heart conditions. We don’t fully understand the nature of the connection between the two,” he says.

Teresa Vincent, director of Wellness at Symphony at Valley Farms, says depression is often overlooked in older people because a symptom often isn’t sadness. Family members may think a parent’s confusion or fatigue is due to a medical problem or a medication, when it’s not. Dr. Casey says depression in the elderly can manifest as fatigue, nervousness, weight loss, or an inability to focus. He urges family members to “be aware of the possibility

Depression is often overlooked in older people because a symptom often isn’t sadness. Family members may think a parent’s confusion or fatigue is due to a medical problem or a

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medication, when it’s not.

– Teresa Vincent, director of wellness at Symphony at Valley Farms MOOD/DEPRESSION Dr. David Casey, who specializes in geriatric psychiatry at the University of Louisville, says depression among older adults can be recurrent, affecting individuals who had depressive episodes at various points throughout their lives, or new onset.

New onset depression may occur because of family problems, social issues, or medical conditions. For example, a heart attack can cause a person to develop depression, and it’s not just because he or she is faced

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that depression exists if their loved one has a medical condition.”

Depression is not a normal part of aging. “We have long had the idea that depression is normal in older people, but people who are reasonably healthy find their 60s and 70s to be the best times of their lives,” Dr. Casey says.

VISION “Cataracts are, by far, the most common pathology among people age 60 and older,” says Dr. Troy Moats, optometrist and owner of Partners in Eyecare.

While he and other eye specialists used to wait until cataracts were “ripe” before scheduling surgery, there has been a movement toward performing surgery sooner since cataracts can keep people from leading the active lifestyles they want to lead.

Glaucoma and age-related macular degeneration (ARMD) are uncommon but very serious issues.

Glaucoma is typically caused by high intraocular pressure.

“It is a sneaky disease in that the vision loss is so gradual, you may not realize your side vision has been affected,” says Dr. Jessica Finch of John-Kenyon Eye Centers. Daily eye drops or minor surgical procedures can stop its progression.

ARMD affects the part of the retina called the macula and impacts 10 million Americans. “Treatment includes eye vitamins with the AREDS2 formula, eating vegetables like kale and spinach, not smoking, and wearing UV protective eyewear,” she says.

“The common symptoms of deteriorating vision can be easy to miss,” Dr. Finch says. “Struggling to complete daily activities, such as reading a magazine or newspaper, cooking and reading recipes, or viewing the guide on the TV, are all signs of ocular changes.”

Some patients may even have difficulty recognizing faces or judging depth perception, which could lead to a fall.

“The retina is the canary in the mine,” says Dr. Moats and can let doctors know when an older patient has hypertension or diabetes because the blood vessels in the retina change. For this reason, he highly recommends people over age 60 get eye exams a minimum of once every 12 months.

“We see the end of life as a transition into the next life, and our support of that transition is one we carefully plan with elders and family members to provide choices and experiences along the way.”

— Mary Haynes, CEO and president at Nazareth Home

Nazareth Home Clifton

With two campuses, Nazareth Home offers a variety of services, including rehabilitation therapy, restorative nursing care for chronic conditions, palliative care, and memory support. Its sponsorship by the Sisters of Charity means it is focused not only on the physical care it gives residents, but on their spiritual health as well. “We are Catholic in our faith traditions yet we nurture all faiths and ways of the spirit,” says CEO and President Mary Haynes. “We see the end of life as a transition into the next life, and our support of that transition is one we carefully plan with elders and family members to provide choices and experiences along the way.”

How does Nazareth Home differentiate itself?

We think our greatest strength is in our ability to listen and form positive

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relationships with elders and family members; our team is intentional in making positive experiences within the first few days. Our “Peace of Mind” strategy of getting to know new residents builds a great platform for good things to happen following the stress of a move-in.

What are some unique forms of care you offer residents?

We use True Doors, a company out of the Netherlands, to help us tailor-make the doors to each elder’s room be a match to their door at home or any other door that has significance in their life. The True Doors decals have transformed the move-in experience for elders. We have used iPads for many years as a means of communication and interest. Currently, we have a project with a company called It’s Never 2 Late that uses tablets as a means of transport into all sorts of

content. For example, a resident can go to the museum on their tablet. We also use a number of local artists for writing workshops and storytelling. We were the first Kentucky provider to use the Music and Memory® program.

What is the benefit of having two campuses?

Our campuses are similar in philosophy and clinical pathways, especially in recovery care. The Clifton Campus is nestled in a great neighborhood community where folks like the opportunity to walk to Frankfort Avenue for entertainment, shopping, or dining.

Both of our campuses have a friendly neighborhood feel; our goal is to have an environment where life, learning, and work take place.

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“We value every resident as our own family, and our staff has many years of experience caring for people with a variety of diagnoses.”

— Mary Jo Coker, licensed administrator and CEO at The Altenheim The Altenheim is a senior living What about specific care?

Our nursing care is community offering services individualized. We care for ranging from independent early dementia residents, those living, secured memory with feeding tubes, wounds or care, assisted living, licensed advanced memory care issues. personal care with rehabilitation We offer rehabilitation services and short-term stays. “We across all levels of care. value every resident as our own family, and our staff has years How do you customize of experience caring for people activities? with a variety of diagnoses,” Our programming meets each says Licensed Administrator and resident’s individual needs.

CEO Mary Jo Coker.

We schedule small and large group programs as well as How does The Altenheim individual visits along with set itself apart? many community outings.

One thing that stands out to me Volunteers assist with walks is the staff, from management on our beautiful grounds, a to direct care staff to genealogy club, playing the housekeeping and dietary flute on the weekends or a large staff. They are the backbone of musical event during the week. our organization. We are also As residents’ needs change so a small facility with only 50 does our programming. residents.

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“We want to give caregivers the power to make informed decisions...”

— Cathy Zion, publisher of Today’s Transitions Becoming a new caregiver can be overwhelming when you don’t know where to go for help. Today’s Transitions, a magazine for seniors and caregivers, provides articles and resources for people seeking a new living and healthcare situation for themselves or their loved one.

“We want to give caregivers the power to make informed decisions about the care of their loved one and understand the care communities and long-term care options that are available,” says Cathy Zion, publisher of Today’s Transitions.

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Where do I find the magazine?

You can pick up the magazine at all Kroger locations or view it online at TodaysTranstionsNow.com.

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How do I use the magazine?

The magazine includes eight healthcare directories with more than 300 comprehensive listings from Louisville and Southern Indiana.

“The depth of information we provide in these listings gives readers the opportunity to consider all their regional options and find the right type of living or care situation,” Cathy says.

The directory section also includes a map and chart that gives readers the convenience of viewing long-term care communities by location.

The magazine also provides helpful and fun lifestyle stories about people in this area.

“We are the least restrictive, safe environment available.”

— Patty Harper, executive director at Magnolia Springs Louisville It’s not just safety that families want for their loved ones in a senior community. They want their parents or grandparents to retain independence, friendships, and a sense of purpose. Magnolia Springs strives to offer assistance with all activities of daily living in both its assisted living and memory care units, always with an eye on the dignity of its residents. “We are the least restrictive, safe environment available,” says Executive Director Patty Harper.

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What is something innovative that Magnolia Springs is doing?

As our resident population has changed over the years, we have had to adapt to meet their needs and interests.

Our activities department

offers computer support and classes about social media so that our residents can take full advantage of current technological trends. We also offer classes for safe online shopping and assistance with iPhones.

How do you help residents retain their independence?

Our residents can continue their hobbies and other interests when they come here. We encourage them to bring in their friends to share in these hobbies. Currently, we have a number of bridge groups, as well as physician’s groups, Bible study groups, and homemaker groups. We encourage our residents to invite their friends and families for meals in our restaurantstyle dining room.

“We take a genuine interest not only in the resident’s life but the family’s lives as well.”

— Amy Clark, executive director at Barton House Whether the diagnosis is Alzheimer’s disease, vascular dementia, or another kind of cognitive impairment, it can feel overwhelming. Barton House, a licensed personal care home with a specialty in memory care, serves individuals who are living with such a diagnosis and supports their families in the process.

“We take a genuine interest not only in the resident’s life but the family’s lives as well,” says Executive Director Amy Clark.

6830 Overlook Dr | Louisville, KY

502.423.7177 | bartonlouisville.com

CaregiverGUIDE

What is an innovative service that you offer residents?

Barton House is a secured, home-like environment that operates to serve the needs of individuals who are challenged with memory impairments.

Everything in our home — the

colors of the walls, the five meals we serve each day, the seven-days-a-week activity schedule — is all related to reducing the progression of the disease while increasing the quality of life of our residents.

What are some common signs of memory issues?

Some of these signs include increased confusion, not paying household bills, difficulty completing routine tasks, and impaired judgment when making decisions.

How can someone help a loved one make the transition to memory care?

Be proactive and know your options. Always ask questions and pop in for tours unexpectedly.

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LUNCH + FUN

HAVE LUNCH AND FOLLOW UP WITH LOCAL SHOPPING

By Brittani Dick Photos Melissa Donald

The Lunch Havana Rumba and Tapas Bar 2210 Bardstown Road and 12003 Shelbyville Road Louisville, KY Monday-Thursday 11:30am-9:30pm Friday 11:30am-10pm Saturday 12pm-10pm Sunday 12pm-8:30pm

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or delicious Cuban cuisine, swing

by Havana Rumba and Tapas Bar on Bardstown Road.

Havana Rumba prides itself on creating culinary masterpieces from scratch, using only the freshest ingredients available.

My personal recommendation? The Vegetarian Press Sandwich, featuring tomatoes, lettuce, onions, grilled zucchini, squash, roasted peppers, pickles, Swiss cheese, Dijon mustard, and a special aioli sauce served on hot pressed Cuban bread.

And can one stop by Havana Rumba without indulging in one of its famous Swirl Margaritas? Enjoy, sisters. They are divine.

m Vegetarian dressed sandwich with sweet potato fries. Swirl margarita and sampler plate in background.

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LUNCH + FUN The Fun B CHIC Consignment & Boutique 1235 Bardstown Road Louisville, KY Monday Closed Tuesday-Thursday 10am-6pm Friday 10am-7pm Saturday 10am-6pm Sunday 2-6pm

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After your scrumptious lunch at Havana Rumba, travel to B CHIC Consignment & Boutique — a darling consignment shop that offers only the best in women’s, men’s, and children’s clothing, along with furniture, jewelry, and household items.

The shop is quaint, cozy, and bursting at the seams with quality hand-me-down treasures ready for a second home — like a green, authentic Tory Burch handbag that looked brand new. I couldn’t believe the discounted price! Whether you’re shopping for yourself or searching for a gift for someone special, I’m certain you’ll find it at B CHIC and at a fraction of the original cost to boot.

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n January of 2016, Teresa Summers and David Becker celebrated their union with an elegant, intimate winter wedding ceremony for 50 guests. Teresa shared some of her favorite details of the day, as well has her best advice for future brides.

“It’s really not about the food, flowers or cake.

It’s truly about the marriage that comes after the ceremony and what you will pour into your marriage for the next 80 years!”

Advice to Others: “Relax and enjoy the day. Don’t sweat the small stuff and let your coordinator do her job.”

Best Money Saving Tip: “We chose an all-inclusive venue, just for the fact we didn’t have to do the leg work.”

Location of Ceremony and Reception: The Pepin Mansion, New Albany, Indiana “The mansion is an elegant and intimate venue, beautiful inside with tall, beautifully painted ceilings. I loved that we could converse with our guests at the reception. No one had to leave to be transported anywhere else. The mansion was stunning, and my husband and I were so happy with a one-stop event location.”

Planner: Melinda Leach “We met Melinda the day we planned and booked our venue. She was sweet, kind, and made me feel welcome, at ease, and very comfortable.”

Invitations: I didn’t see any reason to spend a lot of money on invitations. We went to Hobby Lobby and found something very simple and elegant.

SEARCH: Celebrations

How cute are Jacque O’Rourke and Goofy (from 2008)?

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WE’RE CELEBRATING PET LOVE Do you and your pet look alike or do you have an exotic pet? If so, we want to feature both of you in our upcoming pet photo shoot for 2019.

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Photos James Byrd

CELEBRATIONS

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Her Crazy Zen Life(Style) Story and photo by Miranda Popp

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rittany Swan calls her style “Athleisure meets Boho-Chic,” and it’s quite possibly the perfect style definition for mother of three and yoga instructor at Bend & Zen Hot Yoga.

Brittany’s go-to outfits usually include leggings, a jean jacket or komono, and Birkenstocks, along with a simple pair of stud earrings, a Stella and Dot arrow necklace, and mala beads by Sarah Belle.

Going from a hot yoga room to running errands or attending a meeting can be tough, so to keep her hair looking fantastic all day, Brittany uses all Eufora products. Her go-to trio is Fresh Effect Dry Shampoo, Full Effect Texturizing Spray, and Beautifying Serum.

When this yogi’s day has everything from school activities to teaching yoga in a 100-degree hot room, she has to be prepared for anything. Her secret is carrying a backpack. In her stylish leather backpack from Madewell is usually a sports bra and layering pieces so that she can adapt to any situation that’s thrown her way during the day, as well as shoes, gummy snacks, and anything else an on-the-go, working mom might need. “It’s an extension of my body,” Brittany says.

You can catch up with Brittany each week on her podcast, Crazy Zen Life, available on iTunes and Soundcloud.

BRITTANY’S TOP 5 BEAUTY PRODUCTS: • Beauty Counter Tinted Moisturizer • Beauty Counter Concealer • Natura Culina Botanical Facial Mist — Brittany sprays this on her face several times a day to prevent blackheads since she’s frequently going in and out of the hot yoga studio.

• Natura Culina Facial Rose’berry Antioxidant Face Mask — Brittany uses this fives times a week.

• Beauty Counter Facial Balm

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WHAT SHE’S EATING

By Ashli Findley Photo Patti Hartog

Sandy Chatelain manages her cholesterol through diet and exercise. k This artist and teacher tries to bring art to her eating.

Breakfast: smoothie with fruit (mango, pineapple, or orange pulp), flaxseed that has been ground for higher nutritional benefit, cold water, ice, and sometimes a plant-based protein powder.

Lunch: light, grazing lunch Dinner: A big salad and a smaller portion of soup or main course. “I make some really good soups,” Sandy says. “Everybody loves my bean dishes and my bean soups. White beans — I’ll make that into a soup or just have it plain.

I eat a lot of black beans. Split pea soup. Red Rice. Gumbos of all kinds.”

SEARCH: Sandy Chatelain

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SPLURGE One thing she won’t give up anytime soon: bourbon. “I’m a Kentucky girl, I love my bourbon,” she says.

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By Marie Bradby Photos Sunni Wigginton

Satonia Bell lives by the saying: Dress for the job that you want.

“I want my clothes to say I’m confident and professional,” says Satonia, 25, who is an account receivables specialist in the accounting department of FireKing Security Group — a broad-based security company that provides equipment and services to protect assets in retail, commercial, and home office environments — in New Albany, Indiana.

For her work wardrobe, “I tend to keep my outfits professional, but still fashion forward. I dress professional-meets-girly cute. I will not leave the house without earrings. It makes you look so bare. I layer up my rings. I am huge on purses. I coordinate them with my outfits. I think it makes you look more put together.”

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Satonia has three go-to outfits: 1: A black, knee-length pencil skirt with a flowing, long-sleeved, purple blouse that has cutout shoulders. “That’s one of my outfits that stays true to who I am. It’s girly, cute, fashionable, and professional at the same time.”

2: A floral print peplum top with straightlegged black pants and black heels. “I think it makes you think spring and summer. It brings more color to your personality.”

3: Blue jeans dressed up with a flowing black blouse with a rose print. “I layer it with a cream-colored tank underneath, cream-colored shoes, and a necklace and bracelet.”

“IF YOU ARE PLANNING ON MOVING UP, YOU WANT PEOPLE TO KNOW THAT YOU CARE ABOUT YOURSELF AND ABOUT HOW OTHERS PERCEIVE YOU.”

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26 GIFTS (Why 26? Because we are 26 years old!)

Gifts that caught Today’s Woman’s eye this month

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1 BAMBOO (PAKKA) UTENSILS $5.99-$9.99; Cooking at the Cottage 2-3 LEATHER TRAY $36, GLOBE PAPERWEIGHT $17; Secret Garden 4-6 RABBIT PITCHER $16, FOX VASE $48, SALT AND PEPPER GRINDERS $58; Secret Garden 7 WRAP BRACELETS $59; Secret Garden 8 LAMPS WITH LEAF SHADE $187-$398; Secret Garden For a complete listing of places, see page 64.

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A gift card to create something.

10-13 9 A GIFT CARD FOR FURNITURE PAINTING OR SIGN PAINTING WORKSHOPS $varies; Gather 10-13 LEATHER WALLET $58, COBALT AND PEARL NECKLACE $225, METAL BRACELET $98, WOODEN EARRINGS $16; Clay and Cotton 14 LOUISVILLE-RELATED BOOKS $varies; Carmichaelâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Bookstore

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18 COOKING RELATED GIFTS AND BOOKS;

$7.99-up; Carmichael’s Bookstore

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16 KITCHEN PAPER DISPENSERS $12.99-$19.99;

19 SING-ALONG WIRELESS MICROPHONE

17 MASON JAR MUDDLER

20 NODPOD WEIGHTED BLANKET FOR YOUR EYES

Cooking at the Cottage $50; Clay and Cotton

$49.95; Paper Source

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21 STRAW HAT BIKE HELMET $179; Bike Pretty

22 APRONS $20-$24, KITCHEN BOA $19.99; Cooking at the Cottage

23 COOKING CLASSES — FROM DEMOS TO TRAINING TO A DATE NIGHT

$varies; Cooking at the Cottage

24-25 STRESS RELIEVERS, GIANT STRESS BALL $15.95, BUDDHA BOARD MINI $14.95; Paper Source

26 VIBRATING FITNESS BALL $129; Anytime Fitness

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24-25 w he re we s hoppe d : ANYTIME FITNESS 3684 US-150, Floyds Knobs, IN BIKE PRETTY Bikepretty.com CARMICHAEL’S BOOKSTORE 1295 Bardstown Rd and 2720 Frankfort Ave, Louisville CLAY AND COTTON 1341 Bardstown Rd, Louisville COOKING AT THE COTTAGE 3739 Lexington Rd, Louisville GATHER 11601 Main St, Middletown NODPOD nodpod.com RAINBOW BLOSSOM three locations, rainbowblossom.com SECRET GARDEN 12621 Shelbyville Rd, Louisville PAPER SOURCE 3727 Lexington Rd, Louisville

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