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POLYGAMY The reasons , effects and how to handle problems polygamy
goal getters Meet chasemates academy founder
fashion and style
hair care
beautiful homes
Whats trending in the fashion industry
Rice water : good for your haircare
cabin houses and lounges
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EDITORIAL
Vicious Collections Magazine Publisher Vicious Collections Marketing Tafadzwa Mufunda Design & Layout Lewis Nyamakosi Contributors Patience Mwakurudza Wellington Mupinha Brendon Ndlovu Joana Makore Photography Nyasha Kandengwa Ray Makuyana Vicious Collections Directors Pindurai Mwakurudza Latoyah Kirk Subscriptions +263 773 490 797 Email viciouscollections94@gmail. com Website www.viciouscollections.co.zw Note While every effort has been made to ensure the accuracy of its content, neither editor nor publisher can be held responsible for any omissions or errors or for any misfortune,injury or damages which may arise there-from. All Rights reserved.Copyright 2020 Vicious Collections Magazine. No part of this magazine may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means electric or mechanical, including photocoping or recording.
Editors Note Rai si ng a t e e n ag e g i rl i s n o t an e as y thi n g to do nowadays, e s p e c i ally fo r s i n g le mo the rs li ke m e wh o h a s t o p lay bo t h f a the r an d mo t he r ro l e . . . . . The ‘now’ generation of teens are totally different from the ones of our times and back, technology has taken over our little ones and they tend to obey and respect what they hear and watch on social media.
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Some of these teens are anti-social, lazy, rude and disrespectful. They spent most of their times on social media (Facebook,WhatsApp, Instagram etc) posting selfies etc
Welcome to our 2nd issue WOMEN Magazine. A number of you requested for more content and adverts from the previous Magazine. We have added more content and many adverts in this Magazine as per your request.
I encourage mothers of today to be alert and observe their teens behaviour always.In this Issue I have included this hot topic “Why Moms & Teen Daughters Fight” Ladies make use of some tips and ideas on how to handle your teen daughters. Greetings fans,friends,family, business partners and subscribers.
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MAGAZINE 5 OUR BRAND AMBASSADOR : LILIAN MADYARA Fashion Entrepreneur (Stylist, wardrobe organizer & fashion creative), TV Presenter ,Fashion Blogger ,Sunglass Designer ,Events Creative Actress ; strategists ,Red Carpet Correspondent
9 Haircare
Rice water for amaizing hair growth
12 Why moms and teen daughters fight 18 FASHION & STYLES
Trending braiding styles LESY’s closet
21 real life stories Polygamy
31 BEAUTIFUL HOMES
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35 weddings ; couple of the month 39 women in charity 42 goal getters 48 woman’S HEALTH 54 ENTERTAINMENT 60 madzimai corner 65 adverts
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Brand Ambassador Full name : Lillian Madyara Blog name: Hollywood Lee Brand Name : HL Eyewear Skill : *Fashion Entrepreneur (Stylist, wardrobe organizer & fashion creative) *TV Presenter *Fashion Blogger *Sunglass Designer *Events Creative *Actress ; *strategists *Red Carpet Correspondent Social media Username : HollywoodLee Facebook : Lee Madyara/Hollywood Lee Instagram : hollywoodlee1_ Twitter : @HollywoodLee_ You Tube : HollywoodLee Zim
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BIOGRAPHY: LILIAN MADYARA
Background I was born in a family of 4 boys and I’m the only girl so I was a Tom boy most of my teenage life
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then I started liking girls fashion I would overdress for church & my friends would ask me why I looked so Hollywood & boom đ&#x;’Ľ The nickname HollywoodLee was born. That’s when I started Fashion blogging & named my blog Hollywood Lee. Designing sunglasses : Ev-
sunglasses were important but sometimes I couldn’t find designs l liked then I decided to design my own designs & that’s how HL Eyewear was birthed
erytime I would wear something fancy I would always wear sunglasses & my Dad would always tell me how
we are making more & more deliveries.
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It has been difficult trying to sell the sunglasses without a store but I thank God the number of people purchasing the sunglasses is growing &
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Online advertising has played a big role in brand awareness I won the Best Zim Fashion Blogger 2016 at the Style Oracle Wards I’m a red carpet correspondent Have done a lot of work with the ZIMA awards, NAMA awards & Zim Hip Hop Awards in also judging best dressed for awards too I’m part of the Zim Fashion Police and I now host a Fashion Talk Show on You Tube Titled HIGH FASHION. *What core values define Lee* My belief in God nothing goes for me without that being first I am family oriented, nothing means more to me than family I’m a go getter I believe anything can be achieved so what I decide to go for I am determined to get.
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HAIR CARE
Rice Water for Amazing hair Growth! Rice is more than just food as it can have several other advantages ie rice water for hair care. Well yes it’s so true,rice water is used for fast hair growth and most Asian women already made the sensible choice of switching to rice water for hair care along time ago.
Below are benefits of using rice water
4)Rice Water Add Strength to Your Hair
1)_Rice water for Hair Growth_ Rice water reduces surface friction and increases hair elasticity which stops hair breakage and hair fall
2)Rice water for Hair Split Ends and Frizzy Hair Rice water has high protein content which keep the split ends away. You can get this by soaking it on the split ends.
Roots.Rice water is rich with amino acids. It will add shine to hair because it works on leaving it silky smooth . It also contains vitamin B1 ,which helps reverse hair loss by relieving stress and gives your hair strength and bounce.
Benefits of using rice water
5)Rice Water for Hair Damage Protection
3)Rice Water For Hair Shine and Volume
Surface friction can be minimised if you choose to use fermented rice water shampoo. It helps with the elasticity of his. This asked de-tangling and brushing hair easier.
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down the pH levels of the rice water according to your hair.The fermantation process could help in enhancing the rice water effects on your hair.
6)Rice water for Dandruff Itchy dandruff would be taken away because of ongoing use of fermented rice water.
(A)Fermented rice
7(Rice water for Hair And Head Lice
The procedure is quick and simple. However you have to use the right ingredients and accurate measurements.
Lice can be handled and taken care of before it invades the whole head. Rice water can also be used as moisturizer and ointment for the cool-down inflamed skin. It leaves the skin radiant,smooth and soft.
Ingredients for fermented rice water for hair care 1 cup organic rice(any type of rice) 2 cups of warm water 1 chamomile tea (for blonde hair) 1 shikakai tea(for dark hair)
There are two ways to use rice water A)Plain rice water
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soak. 3)Strain the water and put the rice in a clean bowel. Let it sit in a room temperature for 24 to 48 hours until it ferments.
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How to use plain rice water for Hair Care
Fermantation period depends on how warm the room is. When the room is warmer it will be quicker.
1)wash hair with shampoo. 2)Rinse thoroughly with water from the tap.
4)You may add Castile soap, chamomile or shakakai tea ,
3)Pour rice onto their hair. 4) Massage the rice water into the hair and scalp.
alovera, drops of lavender for better aroma and enhanced benefit.
5) Leave on for upto 20 minutes.
How to apply fermented rice water shampoo.
6)Rinse hair thoroughly using warm water from the tap.
After fully saturating the hair,apply shampoo to hands and rub it gently from scalp to ends of hair. Allow it to sit for 5 minutes then throughly rinse. To obtain better results apply it once a week. You will see visible results after 3 to 4 weeks and a blower dryer may no longer be required while this is on use. Instead leave the hair to dry the natural way.
B) How to make plain rice water 1)Take half cup of uncooked rice. 2)Rinse thoroughly. 3) Place rice in a bowl with 2-3 cups of water. 4) Leave to soak for 30minutes. 5)Strain the rice into a clean bowl.
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mother often sees her daughter as huge extension of herself, while the teen is trying to develop her own independence and individuality. She wants to protect her daughter from making the same mistakes she made. She wants to give her daughter opportunities she never had.
Why is my daughter so mean to me Your daughter may be venting her frustrations in a way that feels safe ,she is counting on your unconditional love to allow her to act this way without taking responsibility for her behaviour. When your daughter behaves disrespectfully towards you,it can take a toll on your emotional health. As hard as it it, it’s important to gain some perspective and take action. Evaluate the situation from neutral point of view. As a parent ,you need to step back to gauge the difference between typical adolescent behaviour and something more serious. You can also monitor your own behaviour and parenting style to strive for the best possible outcome for your daughter, your relationship and your sanity.
Teens are going through physical, intellectual and emotional changes 1)A teen can be unaware of how their behaviour affects others. 2) A teen may see a parent as a safe person to vent frustrations to. 3)A teen may indulge in disrespectful or rebellious behaviour to feel more in control of her life and relationships. Many parents are desperate to cut through the behaviour patterns and angry emotion to reach teens. The biggest challenge is to see the situation objectively.
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Women May 2020 Ten goals to strive for when raising a teen daughter. 1) Learn to ignore the eye roll. 2) Don’t confuse sexy with sexual. 3)Go beyond the beds and the bees. 4) Tolerate ther self-adoption. 5)Use caution when discussing their friends. 6)Call out bad behaviour. 7)Be the grown-up 8) Let them learn from small failures. 9)Help your daughter become critical 10) Own up to your own bad behaviour
your daughter toward respectful behaviour. If your teen’s behaviour is widely off the mark of what other adolescents exhibit in areas like academics, friendships and self-care, reach out to a school counselor or a therapist.
Focus On Behaviours not On The Cause Of Behaviours
(1) Learn to observe the eyeroll
While reflecting on your relationship may give you some insight into *why* your daughter behaves disrespectfully toward you, it may help to focus instead on the target behaviours that you want.
Eye roll is the basic girl response, which can make any parent’s blood boil. They all do it! Don’t give them the power by overreacting to this almost instinctual teenage tic. Shake it off, but feel free to bring it up later when things have calmed down:
Here is Why:
Your daughter may not know she acts the way she does. Teens experience many physical and emotional changes, and they often can’t see their own noses.
“When your roll your eyes at me, it makes it difficult to have a mature conversation with you”, you might say. Try to focus on the fact that eye rolls are a sign that your daughter is beginning to judge and think for herself. It’s annoying, but it’s also developmentally appropriate, and she’ll eventually grow out of it.
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(2)Don’t confuse sexy with sexual
(3)Go beyond the birds and the bees Because talking about sex is awkward, parents tend to get “the talk” out of the way and hope for the best. But that doesn’t cut it. Our daughters deserve more dialogue before finding themselves in situations where they’re being pushed into sexual behaviour. For example,what should they do or say if kissing turns into unwanted touching? Too many girls go along with sexual advances that make them feel ashamed or distressed. As parents we need to demystify the pressures that they’ll inevitably face.
Some teenage girls prefere to wear skimpy outfits; depending on the occasion.Please note that in some cases when they put on very short shorts or revealing tops, they aren’t trying to invite the male gaze instead, they’re trying on what they believe is more womanly appearance.
(4)Tolerate their self adoption Teens are egomaniacs. It’s developmentally normal for them to focus on their problems and their desires. Don’t expect them to notice that you might be having a hard day,or that their request for expensive shoes is unreasonable. This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t discuss empathy or frugality, but don’t be surprised at how selfish they can be. Remind yourself that it’s normal and temporary.
Parents have decided what they are comfortable with,but it’s useful to remember that dressing sexy is not about wanting sex. It is necessary to discuss societical message inherent in by their self-presentation, but not in the heat of the moment. Choose a calm connected moment to explain that dressing like girls they see on social media or some celebrities shouldn’t be aquated with adulthood.
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(5)Use Caution when discussing their friends two of you are more likely to forge a plan when this happens again. You don’t want your daughter regretting coming to you, shut down or shut you out completely.
(6)Call out behaviour Teenage girls can be rude, obnoxious, and cruel. They know how to say things that hurt and push your buttons. Instead of getting into an argument or allowing your daughter to escalate the situation, just say, “You aren’t allowed to speak to me like that. Let’s talk about this another time’. Or consider a small punishment e.g taking their phone for a day if they misbehave. It’s important for them to learn that bad behaviour has ramifications. It’s even more important for you to stay calm and remember that your teen is a sea of raging hormones. Don’t hold it against them or give them the silent treatment. Negotiation and conversation are always better than scare tactics, hysteria and ultimatums.
During the teen years, girls shift their focus from family to their tribe of friends - and this tribe might be doing things you don’t approve of. However, as tempting as it is to say something negative about a girl who is being mean to your daughter or pressuring her to engage in negative behaviours, use caution. If she shares this with you, try not to overreact or disparage the friend. Take a breath, and be happy that she’s opening up to you. Discuss the problem calmly to assess its severity. Is your daughter unloading, or is she asking for your assistance? If you withhold judgement and criticism, the
(7)Be the grown-up Being a teenager is confusing and demanding, and presents a minefield of tricky decisions. Your daughter will seem very mature
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When they know our rules - even when they break them - they feel safe. Make them feel safe by being consistent and compassionate, authoritative not authoritarian. Parents who buy their kids beer or lie for them might feel cool in the moment, but they are undermining their role as parents. Teens, like all children, need to be parented.
(9)Help your daughter become critical Social media, television, and magazines are selling our daughters a distorted view of women. Take time to help your daughter think critically about the unrealistic images they’re presented of models and movie stars. Teach her about all the effort that goes into making a women in the media look perfect, such as airbrushing and plastic surgery. In fact point out to her that they’re industries that actually benefit from teenagers that feels they are less attractive.. A healthy dose of critical thinking will go far toward preserving her selfworth and promoting confidence in who she is, not who she thinks she should be.
(8)Let them learn from small failures
It’s no fun to watch any child struggle, but often parents are even more protective of their daughters. But a big part of building a sense of self-worth and resiliency is the ability to bounce back from a setback. Don’t bail your daughter out of a science project she procrastinated about or write a note to her teacher if she didn’t do her homework. Allow your daughter to learn from the difficult situation and realize that the world doesn’t come to an end if she screws up. Facing consequences and overcoming challenges is part of becoming a resilient adult. *Too many teens lack the fortitude to make it in college* because of parental intervation. Be there for support,but don’t rescue from important small failures. www.viciouscollections.co.zw
(10)Own up to your own bad behaviour Only a saint can parent a teen without having a few moments she is ashamed of. If you have resorted to shouting, shaming or throwing your power around, you’re not alone. But you need to acknowledge your bad behaviour and move forward. Take ownership by apologizing. An apology will go far in terms of role modelling and building connection. Show your daughter that being an adult doesn’t mean being perfect, but it does mean admitting to your mistakes and making amends.
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HAIRSTYLES: trending Braiding styles
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REAL STORY: Polygamy
own understanding, it is not very clear on the issue of polygamy, it depends on the beliefs or norms and values of a particular church. I will begin by telling you my own experience in a polygamous relationship or what I would have wanted to call “marriage�. This experience is a journey I would not wish even on my worst enemy. It was torturous, exhausting and draining. The pain and suffering were unimaginable, to make matters worse, the person who had dragged me into the situation callously seemed to care less and oblivious to my pain. I think at one time they became selfish and self-centred. As long as they were happy, it was good.
Introduction In a normal polygamy, group marriage or plural marriage setup, the women are not supposed to be rivals, but rather sisters, however, in most cases today, starting polygamy is declaring a war that will go on for generations. In our African culture, way back it was believed that a man in possession of a good fortune should have many wives to spend the fortune with. Depending on how it is handled, polygamy can be complicated, stressful or manageable. It comes with a lot of emotional roller coasting and tears. For some it can also be joyous, especially those from cultures that acknowledge polygamy or religion that acknowledge it. Polygamy then becomes a way of building one happy family. The key is how it starts or how it is initiated, who has done it and why they have done it. It also takes a lot of transparency and respect from all the parties involved and a lot of tol-
My Story
I was married for about 13 years, which ended in a divorce, because apparently my husband went behind my back and customarily married a woman from his workplace, and
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they bore 3 children without my knowledge. My marriage was never rosy, there was too much fighting, obviously because of the fact that just barely a month into our marriage,
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Women May 2020 I had to start dealing with my ex-husband’s countless girlfriends calling to abuse me verbally and some were even claiming that he was not sending any child support. For the long 13 years that we were married to say we stayed in the same house for more than 3 weeks would be a lie, my husband preferred to work in Harare, whilst he sent me to stay in our home in Bulawayo. I was barely 21 years of age then, with 2 little children both under 3 years of age to take a care, a home to run and my own job. I was very immature and naïve; I made my own fair share of mistakes in as far as mismanagement of the home and finances was concerned. I will not use immaturity as an excuse, maybe it was, but my finances were a mess. Later on, that is the excuse I gave my husband for abusing me and never taking care of his children. The first 8 years of my marriage, I didn’t even know how much my ex-husband earned or exactly where he stayed. After having 4 children, I called it quits when I discovered that he had 3 children with a woman I knew well and who knew our problems in and out. I decided I had had enough and could not handle it anymore because looking at it now, the last 4 years I stayed at my home, I was all alone, the marriage was long over, but it was perfect in the face of people because I was very good at hiding pain and covering up for him.
Then came Mr Polygamy, whom in my eyes I saw as “my saviour”, the one who understood my situation because just after telling him my story, he became too understanding and he took the position of that perfect gentleman who would never hurt a fly. In some ways he was, but one, in no time we had moved in together although he stayed overseas and would only come to see me once in 3 months. This was good enough for me because in my entire life, I have never stayed with a man on day to day basis. He narrated his story of his supposedly “ex-wife”, when one day I saw messages in his mobile phone.
He managed somehow, I always ask myself how, to convince me that they had separated after she made some mistakes that were unforgivable, I was happy I had finally found someone who was or had kind of sailed in the same bought as me. One day, the woman texted me, introduced herself and claimed that she was his wife, before I could even text back, he had called told me to ignore her and tell her off and he convinced me that they were no longer together. He kept on feeding me with information that made me want to save him from this woman, at any given chance I would attack the poor woman with words and tell her off.
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of convincing me that those who were ignoring me now were jealousy of me because they were not married and by him marrying me, they would lose some financial benefits that they were getting from him. Well with all that I ignored them as well, life went on.
Poor woman, she didn’t deserve any of what I said, had I known that I had gotten myself from the frying pan right into the fire. I would see some red flags here and there, but somehow, he managed to convince me otherwise, I am so naïve and stupid, well I was. Not anymore. This went on for about 5 years to the extend that this man, just to prove to me that he was sincere and was over the first relationship, he went to my parents with part of his family to pay lobola. He had his allies in the family who helped him convince me that the first wife was no longer part of his life, but they had children together. To my surprise the other half of his family,
Our God never sleeps nor slumbers, one day, by accident, the man had dialled my number in error and left the phone off the hook. He had a conversion with his wife for an hour, he was now telling her or rather convincing her that they had to come down to Zimbabwe to attend a cousin’s wedding and there, he wanted to officialise his relationship with me and introduce me to her. Manipulative as he was, he told her that, because she had made a mistake in the past, she had to accept me and that he loved us both. I listened all that in silence. This was all news and shocking to me.
who were once so close to me cut contacts with me and wanted nothing to do with the lobola saga. Looking back now, I blame them, they should have stood up and spoke to me, made me see reason at least. Going back today, I realise, these were the people who supported a good cause, they were right, but they failed to stand fully by what they
I was hurt, I couldn’t sleep. A lot more I heard from that conversation shocked me. I
believed in because they did not confront me to tell me that they had discovered that the supposedly Mr Polygamy was in actual fact still happily married to his wife and I was the problem. Life. Mr Polygamy now found a way
then told him about the conversation when he was done, he tried hard to deny up to the point that I thought I was crazy in a way. I knew then that this was another one of my many mistakes and misjudgements.
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Women May 2020 Feelings of sorrow, embarrassment, shame and self-hate overwhelmed me. I tried to refuse to go to the wedding, but well, this thing called love or stupidity, I went and there I faced more embarrassment, they family were clear that they wanted me nowhere near, I was in a prison of my own, I shared none of this with my family. Most of us suffer for the sake of status and people pleasing. I wanted to appear married to my family and have that dignity, looking back, I should have shouted and risked the stigma and discrimination because what I went through on my own was too much, if I were not strong, I would have committed suicide. Going back now, I feel so sorry for the first wife, for if I felt like this, how about her, who had been through thick and thin with this husband of her youth, I feel bad that somethings I was mean to her and would talk anyhow. All this I realised too late, but I managed to go back to apologise though, I never got acknowledgement and I was lashed at for that, but at least I understand her pain. Silence is surely golden, I learnt to keep quiet and deal with my pain. I realised that some of the way I acted was actually reacting to my pain and shock, it was a way of trying to handle what had befallen me that I was failing to accept.
This was the beginning of my many problems, after their meeting, the man remain indifferent to my suffering and even though he realised I was emotionally shattered, he carried on with his life as if nothing was wrong, to me, it was more about his ego and happiness. I became a burden to him by my constant weeping and whining, he started verbally abusing me, physically abusing me and neglecting, he would talk to me any-
how, tell me to leave and go, telling me that I found him on his feet and he will remain there, slapping or punching me became his daily routine, I became his punching bag, I was too week emotionally to fight back. I was torn into pieces, but I held on, I lost so much weight and cried day in day out. I developed an ulcer, I would experience palpitations, up to now, I do not know how I pulled through. The man also became confused as he was moved from pillar to post by both of us trying to gain supremacy and also trying to prove to the other who was more influential on the husband. I on the other end harboured a lot of resentment and bitterness. I became a shadow of my own self. I became moody and confrontational, an exact opposite to what I was naturally. I became ir-
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ritable and neglected those who cared for me, I was fighting my own war that nobody understood. I couldn’t face my family to tell them what had befallen me, lest they say I have a spirit of anti-marriage, I waited for events to unfold on their own because in the first instance they never supported me in leaving my first husband even after everything that he had done. They wanted me to endure it, to accept but I couldn’t, little did I know that history would repeat itself, only this time I was the other woman. I was in a dilemma. The children from both sides suffered in silent. My own children saw what was happening, but they had no say as they became “kept children”. I also started living at the mercy of their fights, it would be rosier my side when they fought because that way, I would get attention and I think the reverse is true also. It became payback time as well from the senior wife, the same kind of rude statements that I subjected her to, I also got from her, she was now in control of things and holding the stick, I was at her mercy. I became a victim of lies from the man, because at that time, I was not yet strong enough to walk away, I still loved the man and kept on making excuses for his behaviour and lies. The only good thing is I stayed with my older cousin who was help-
dress or closure. I had to make a decision, to stay or to leave again. The first way to make corrections is by admitting your mistakes and making peace with yourself, I did just that, I got rid of the people pleasing syndrome and picked myself up and dusted. I told myself
ing me with the children, and she became my pillar, she would break down too, but she was my true pillar of strength. My situation was helpless, there seemed to be no recourse, re-
wife has to be consulted and told of the husband’s intentions of marrying another one who they will call “a helper”. So, when approaching her they will tell her that the hus-
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I would not play second fiddle and I could never be an option. I vowed that in whatever decision, I would take in my life, I would take time and never be pressured or pushed into a situation, there is nothing wrong with being a single mother, I tried.
How to handle it/Are men handling it fairly between the women involved? From this experience, my own view on polygamy is, if it should be done or if a man has to do it, let it be done in the proper traditional way. A man has to man up and be in control of his women. A man also has to communicate his true intentions and reassure the wife of continued love and support. The senior
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Women May 2020 band has decided to get her a helper and, in most cases, they should not give any negative reasons for this. This is a negotiation to seek her approval and it should be done carefully and not anger the senior wife. The senior wife can choose to agree or disagree with the idea and normally what she says goes, if she refuses then the husband’s negotiators will have to wait and maybe come another time, meanwhile it will be the husband’s duty to try and convince the wife to accept his plea. Those mediating will continue to do so until they reach common ground with the senior wife. Again, men have a weakness of telling lies and bad-mouthing the senior wife to their girlfriends when they are with them, which makes them big-headed and feel they have the right to look down on the senior wife. This is wrong, the proper way would be for the husband to tell the prospective wife that he still loves and respects his wife and she is coming in as a helper not to take over. If all this is made clear from the beginning, then polygamy becomes manageable with a lot of mutual respect from both parties. Again, the junior wife should know before coming in that she comes a a younger sister to the senior wife as well as a daughter inlaw and she should afford her such respect for them to be able to run the home together. It should also be clear that taken over is out of the question and sometimes the senior wife will appear more equal than the junior. The prospect must know what she is getting herself into, accept it or if doesn’t then she should not attempt to be a second wife. Man have failed to be honest and transparent about their intentions and especially to their www.viciouscollections.co.zw
intended second wives and they start promising them things that are not feasible just to lure them into commitment. In my opinion I think those who want to marry more than one wife should do it the proper way and the traditional way or if they cannot, they must not do it.
Would I encourage other women to be involved? Agreeing to be in a polygamous marriage to
me is the same as agreeing to be an option and the one who goes into it should be prepared to deal with being belittled and disrespected without reacting. It is also subjecting yourself to emotional torture and accepting double standards. I would never encourage women to be involved to marry into a polygamous marriage as this is associated with a lot of stress and it creates hate. This also affects children greatly as they grow up in a discriminatory environment associated with a lot of hate speech and inequality. It can also result in a lot of abuse both to the children and the women as they get vulnerable and exposed to abuse.
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It comes with a lot of emotional tortures and where children are involved it is even more complicated as children are always inclined to their maternal side. Child welfare becomes a great concern in a polygamous marriage because of intra-household conflict. It also places women in unnecessary competition with another wife and lower their self-esteem and the value they put on themselves. Many women endure it, but they are never entirely happy, but because of their personal
circumstances, they just put up with it. Polygamy is unfair and exploitive of woman who are mostly vulnerable. My opinion is, it is not worth it, it is better to start all over, we always find a way of rising again, God makes a way and if we are willing, we will find that way.
Reasons for polygamy
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One way or the other, polygamy is imposed on women, mostly by deceitful males who subject women to emotional violence and belittlement. In most cases it comes as a result of dishonest men and many women do not choose to go into it, but they find themselves in situations that are sometimes not easily reversable and helpless because they love the man or are now dependant on the man and because of poverty they end up just succumbing. However traditionally, it was because it was encourage that if a man cannot have just one wife it was better to bring another home so that the woman can help each other and women then were viewed as some kind of asset where the more wives you had, the more respect you earned in society. It was also for manpower in the fields as having many women meant a big harvest. During those days, women accepted polygamy easily and they would embrace the many women the husband would bring. Some women consent to go in polygamy for the sake of financial security due to economic pressures. In other cultures, like the Zulu, it is still commonly practised, and a man is a man and is mostly defined by the number of wives. Again, desperation push women to go into polygamous marriages, maybe because of age or pressure from the family, they end up settling for anything that comes their way. In some cases, barrenness of a women can cause the man to look for a solution elsewhere to build a family.
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Advice to those who find themselves in polygamy
Failed marriages also lead to polygamous marriages, where a woman seriously wants to build a home and maybe loses her first, she may end up settling for whoever is available to take her in because she believes in and wants commitment. She believes that for a woman to be respected in society, she has to have a home. Some are forced into it by religion and have got no choice, but to accept. Sometimes, however, it can be due to personal preference, where a wife can ask her husband to marry another woman because she
Firstly, inequality in a polygamous marriage will breed violence and war. This also takes away the liberty and security that comes with being in a monogamous marriage. Those who want to be in polygamous marriages or those who find themselves in there, should learn to be patient, tolerant and to accept the situation and be able to handle the idea of sharing. When going into it, you must accept that you are actually accepting some kind of abuse whether it comes emotionally, verbally or physically. The other easier way of handling it would be to maybe to build separate homes for the women, but first introducing them properly then each one runs their own home, but at the same time a lot of wisdom should be applied in fairness. Way back there was a saying that said “women from a polygamous marriage would always dress the same including the colours, that was done by the husband as a way of showing fairness to both women. So, whatever a man does for the first wife, they should also do for the second without showing any favouritism.
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WOMEN IN CHARITY
DAISY FOUNDATION Article by Anesu Chingoka BE KIND... always Part One in our Acts of Kindness
True kindness lies within the act of giving without the expectation of something in
who you are - and who you are should always be kind and loving. My mum, who was known
return. There is something about giving to little children that makes one feel so much warmth and joy. We are living in a challenging world with so many people living each day desperate for food, shelter, clothes and LOVE. So many of us ought to stop for a moment and appreciate all they have and still be able to lend a helping hand to someone in need.
as Daisy Chingoka sadly passed away in May 2015 after a long battle with colo-rectal cancer, lived a life not only filled with kindness but also happiness, hard work and love to everyone she came in contact with. She left a great legacy which I strive to emulate each and everyday and the one of the ways to achieve this was to create a bucket list with charitable acts of kindness. One of the things
My inspiration to help and support children came from my Mum. She always taught me to do things for people not because of who they are or what they do in return, but because of
to do on my bucket list was to change one child’s life every year. After some research and reflecting upon this, I decided to start a small non profitable charity organization known as The Daisy Foundation which would
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An average of 45 children are given presents at the prize giving each year.
Our first project was the Christmas Shoe Box Appeal. This concept has been used in many countries and we found it to be an amazing way to start our acts of kindness as it brought out happiness and joy to many children. We decided to start the Christmas Shoe Box Appeal at a local learning center in Harare known as Mavambo Learning Center.
Once all the items are bought they are packed and wrapped in a shoe box ready to be presented to the children. The beauty about this initiative is so many of these children have never received a gift before so these are life changing moments for them.
Mavambo Learning Centre is run by the Catholic Redemptorists led by Brother Benjamin Posvo and is situated in Mabvuku. It is a Centre that educates mostly orphaned children. The children are taken at a young age from the community with many of them not able to read and write. This all changes at Mavambo Learning Centre as they are taught basic life skills as well as how to read and write, by teaching them subjects such as English, Mathematics and Shona. As they progress with their education they end up in High School, Colleges and Universities but Mavambo Learning Centre continues in supporting their growth and stages in life.
We have carried out the Christmas Shoe Box Appeal for 4 years now and it is our hope and dream to continue. We owe it to our many friends and colleagues that continue to make this possible and we will be looking for more life changing projects to take part in in the very near future. Look out for our next article on more acts of kindness which we are carrying out. #beinspired Anesu Chingoka The Daisy Foundation
At the end of the year every year, the Learning Center has their Annual Graduation and Prize Giving Ceremony and this is where the Christmas boxes are presented to the children as a way to add some love and light to their Graduation Ceremony and Christmas. We appeal to friends, colleagues and family for Christmas presents for the children in the form of a shoe box filled with goodies such as books, clothes, shoes, sweets, and toiletries. www.viciouscollections.co.zw
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GOAL GETTERS Full name Prisca Sibanda Age:44 Marital Status: widow No of Children: 3 Company Name Ad-hoc Trading Pvt Ltd Organisation Chessmates Academy
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I am a Philanthropist, an enterprising entrepreneur , hardworking, cheerful, confident,God fearing woman, and a mother of 3 beautiful children.
My story
In 2010 I lost my first born to cancer. Jessy was 11 years old when I lost her and during that time I was 4 months pregnant with my second baby. In my life I never thought a child could be diagnosed with Cancer. Jessy used to complain of headaches and when I took her to hospital after some tests, I was told my child had eye cancer and she had a few months to live.
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I was devastated as I was also pregnant, and I used to cry a lot at night when everyone was asleep. I was heart broken but I had to be strong for my little girl. Jessy was admitted to a hospital in Harare and there I saw a number of kids suffering from different types of cancer. It was painful to watch these kids suffering from cancer.The most painful part is these kids had developed a bond and whenever one of them pass on,I could see the pain and sorrow in their eyes and Jessy would say “Mom one day it’s going to be me”. Whenever she said these words I felt like someone was stabbing me right on my heart. I had to be strong for my little girl. Jessy used to write Poems that where displayed on the hospital noticeboard and in newspapers. She was strong and a lot of people visited her. I was literally staying there in the hospital with my pregnancy. Jessy passed on after 9 months when my second born was 4 months old, I was shattered but my late husband comforted me and he was by my side through thick and thin.I later opened my company
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Ad-hoc Trading Pvt Ltd and my husband joined me and together we became prosperous. Just when we thought our life was in order in 2016 I developed fibroids and bled for 3 consecutive months nonstop. I was constantly in pain but my husband was always by my side to take care of me and the kids. I had a successful operation after 3 months and was back at work after 2 months of recovery. In May 2018 my husband was ill and he had stomach pains. I took him to the hospital. That was the first time for him to be hospitalized his whole life. He was diag-
I was devastated, I was broken, my pillar of strength , my life partner who always comforted me when in bad situation was gone. I was shattered and began to take sleeping and depression tablets so I could rest and sleep. I got addicted to them, I couldn’t do anything without the pills. But one day I told myself I had to be strong for my kids, I prayed for strength from the Almighty God and I stopped taking the pills. I started upgrading my company and in 2019 I started a Chessmates Academy for the boys and girls and a number of kids from different schools have enrolled at the Chessmates Academy for Chess lessons. 2019 was my year and in this same year after opening Chessmates Academy I won a second runner up MSMEs Category award . This award opened many doors for me and I thank Almighty God for that.
nosed with kidney disease and he had to go through kidney dialysis. He didn’t recover after the process and he went through pain everyday until he passed on in August 2018. www.viciouscollections.co.zw
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Prisca Sibanda Achievements
Women
Empowerment Question What have you done to empower other women: I)Teach Entrepreneurship to aspiring business women at various workshops. 2) Mentoring Women venturing into from concept development to business implementation.
3)Sharing my story to inspire other women in business on various platforms. Contribution to changed perception of Zimbabwe
Question How have you changed the image of Zimbabwe 1)Your Business Practices 2) Bringing World Class Standards to Zimbabwe Answer 1)Taking Zimbabwe to Global Market and providing business opportunity and partnership with India based CIIHT. 2)Being the first Organisation to be offered a franchise by CIIHT India the marketing of Google Space in Zimbabwe.
MOTIVATION
Question What were your major achievements in Zimbabwe? Answer My major achievements in Zimbabwe is mainly that of creating employment able to grow the company from providing services in Bulawayo to expanding to Midlands and Matabeleland North Provinces. Question What makes you special for Zimbabwe? How have you excelled? How does your leadership differentiate you from your peers?
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Women May 2020 Answer Ian special for Zimbabwe because I create employment for Zimbabweans and I’m a tax payer. I have excelled in diversifying my products to reach larger scale and also engaging into global market where my products are seen locally and internationally . My leadership put me in a class of my own because I do micro management in that I do a hands on approach in my leadership. I don’t lead from the top or from my mouth but I have a ‘everyone must do it’ approach and in that I have risen from being a receptionist and rose through the ranks and started my own Company Ad-hoc Trading with my late husband to be at the position I hold today. My passion for results
and desire to per-
form beyond limitations mould my leadership
SOCIAL RESPONSIBILITY Question Do you promote and take part in social responsibility activities in your Personal Capacity? Answer Yes 1) Donations to schools on price giving days. 2) Donations towards BSPZ awards. 3)Pay school fees for underprivileged children. 4)Run Chess Academy for the benefit of young girls and boys to play Chess
LEADERSHIP Question How have you changed the perception of women in your workplace? How have you shown examplary leadership and vision? How have you shown skill to grow your business? Answers 1)I have changed the perception of women in my workplace by challenging them that if I manage to do it and make it in business they too can do it. www.viciouscollections.co.zw
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To the world the perception has also changed in that having an organization run by a woman shows that women can also do it and thereby should not be marginalized. 2) I have shown exemplary leadership by leading from the front having a hands on approach and sticking to the vision and mission of the organisation. 3) I have shown skill to grow my business by expanding business operation to cover Midlands and Matebeleland North Provinces and also diversifying in the product range and also introducing innovation in business through the use of technology in my business by acquiring franchise with CIIHT India.
Professional Achievements Question What are your professional achievements? Answer Training on sales technical, installation and backup services with. •Kyocera •Toshiba •HP •Nashua.
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WOMEN HEALTH Full name: Abigail Jemedze Occupation Gynecologist Professional Qualifications 1)Bachelor of Science Degree (UZ) 2) Bachelor of Medicine and Surgery(UZ) 3) Masters of Medicine Degree (Specialising in obstetrics and gynecology) 4)Masters in Business Administration (UZ) I am a wife and a mother of 3, 2 girls and a boy. I am lately a grandmother. I did Bachelor of Science degree, bachelor of medicine and surgery, masters of medicine degree specializing in obstetrics and gynaecology and lastly masters in business administration. All at University of Zimbabwe between 1995 to 2016. I have always wanted to become a doctor however the dream would not have materialized without my husband’s support who at a greater part of our lives had to play both the mother and father role. Currently iam fully in private practice in Harare CBD practicing as a Gynaecologist and Obstetrician. I am however doing public health social responsibility by doing regular radio program at Star FM on Thursdays titled The Nest with Tariro (Mai Juda).
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gist must have some of the following traits in significantly greater amounts; sociability, a fondness for demanding and difficult work, agreeableness, conscientiousness, extraversion, openness, persistence, cooperativeness, and being reward-dependent. The work is highly unpredictable and sometimes very demanding. What are the advantages and disadvantages of becoming a gynaecologist? Being a gynaecologist has the advantage of subspecializing into many areas if one wishes. As a general gynaecologist you have an opportunity to be both a physician and a surgeon all at once.
Article by Abigail Jemedze
What is a gynaecologist? Gynaecologists are doctors who specialize in women’s health, with a focus on the female reproductive system. What does a gynaecologist do? They deal with a wide range of issues, including obstetrics, or pregnancy and childbirth, menstruation and fertility issues, sexually transmitted infections (STIs), hormone disorders, and others. What is the work place of a gynaecologist like? Obstetricians and Gynaecologists usually work in public hospitals, clinics and other medical facilities. Many of them also set up their own private practices.it has a receiving area, waiting area, a procedure room to measure blood pressure, temperature, weight, height and any other procedure that might need to be done. There is a consultation room where the doctor sees individual patients in private. What kind of personality should a gynaecologist have? A person who desires to become a gynaecolowww.viciouscollections.co.zw
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Question and Answer seg-
What is the appropriate age of getting pregnant? Women are most fertile and have the best chance of getting pregnant in their 20s. This is the time when you have the highest number of good quality eggs available and your pregnancy risks are lowest, however age is not the only determinant for getting pregnant. Ability to care for the baby is a very strong determinant.
SUBFERTILITY/ INFERTILITY This is one of the commonest reasons, why couples visit a gynaecologist. By definition subfertility is failure by a couple having regular intercourse for a period of 12 months. 85% of couples will conceive in the first year and half of the remainder will conceive by 24 months. trouble conceiving may be due to problems with male or female infertility, or a combination of both. In some cases, the cause is unknown. Male and female factors each account for approximately 35% of cases. Often, there is more than one factor, with male and female factors
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nosis.
remaining 10% of cases, the aetiology is un-
Fallopian tube blockage
known.30% of couples failing to conceive the
Fallopian tube blockage prevents the egg from
reason is unknown. Subfertility can be divided
meeting the sperm. It can be caused by: Endo-
into primary or secondary. Primary subfertility
metriosis which is the presence of endometrial
is when a couple has never had children whilst
tissue outside the uterus causing pelvic swelling
secondary subfertility is a couple who have
and chronic pelvic pain.
children and then fail to have more when they Pelvic inflammatory disease (PID) which
want.
might be a result of untreated sexually transmit-
Causes of subfertility
ted diseases like chlamydia or gonorrhoea.
Many couples trying to conceive get stressed and upset about how hard it can be to get preg-
Scar tissue from a previous surgery, such as a
nant. The stress will lead to further delay in
surgery for a ruptured ectopic pregnancy.
getting pregnant. The most common causes of female infertility
Problems with the uterus or cervix
include problems with ovulation, damage to
The uterus, also called the womb, is where
fallopian tubes or uterus, or problems with the
your baby grows. Abnormalities or defects in
cervix. Age can contribute to infertility because
the uterus can interfere with your ability to get
as a woman ages, her fertility naturally tends to
pregnant. This can include congenital uterine
decrease.
conditions, which are present at birth, or an issue that develops later like fibroids.
Ovulation problems Ovulation issues may be caused by polycystic
Some uterine conditions include:
ovary syndrome, or This is a hormonal imbalance that can interfere with normal ovulation. Weight gain due to insulin resistance.
Septate uterus in which a band of tissue divides
Primary ovarian insufficiency (also known
the uterus into two sections
as premature ovarian failure, or POI) can also
Bicornuate uterus, in which the uterus has two
cause ovulation problems. POI is when your
cavities instead of one, resembling the shape of
ovaries stop working properly before age 40,
a heart
affecting your release of eggs and chances of pregnancy.
Double uterus, in which the uterus has two
Hyperprolactinemia is where you have too
small cavities, each with its own opening
much prolactin, the hormone that stimulates
Fibroids, which are abnormal growths inside or
breast milk, and that may also interfere with
on the uterus.
ovulation. Thyroid issues—like too much thyroid hormone (hyperthyroidism) or too little (hypothyroidism)—can affect your menstrual cycle, too.
Abnormal sperm production or function can
Hyperprolactinemia and thyroid conditions can
cause subfertility. This can be caused by a num-
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Sexually transmitted infections like gonorrhoea, chlamydia and HIV. Other infections include mumps. Male medical condition like diabetes, cancer and cancer treatment. Enlarged veins in the testes, called varicocele. Some genetic defects may also affect sperm production extra genetic material.
ductive organs • blood tests to measure hormone levels related to ovulation • tests to evaluate the condition of the fallopian tubes and uterus • ovarian reserve testing to check the quality and quantity of eggs Tests for men may include: • semen analysis • blood tests to determine hormone levels, including testosterone • imaging tests, such as a testicular ultrasound scan • genetic testing to check for genetic defects that can affect fertility • testicular biopsy to identify abnormalities
Problems with the delivery of sperm can make it difficult to conceive. This can be caused by a number of things, including: damage or injury to the testes, premature ejaculation or other problems of sperm motility. Who is at risk of subfertility Many of the risk factors are the same for male and female subfertility. These include: • being a female over the age of 35 • being a male over the age of 40 • being overweight or underweight • smoking tobacco or marijuana • excessive use of alcohol • excessive physical or emotional stress • exposure to radiation • certain medications • exposure to environmental toxins, such as lead and pesticide
How can one improve chances for conception? Here are some lifestyle changes and tips that can increase your chances of conceiving naturally: • Avoid smoking, which can affect male and female fertility. • Stop drinking alcohol. • Maintain a healthy weight, as being underweight or overweight can affect fertility. • Use ovulation predictor kits to figure
what to expect when you visit a gynaecologist with subfertility.
out the best time during your cycle to have intercourse. • Avoid excessive heat, such as saunas, which can affect sperm production and motility. • Speak to a doctor about your medications, as some are known to affect fertility.
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elanda Bepura a.k.a Mel-B-Mel Huchi was born on the 17th of January 1993 in a small farming town called Karoi, in Northern Zimbabwe. A female budding reggae singer and songwriter who enjoys fashion and designing in her spare time. Mel started singing from a tender age, going through the ranks dating back to school choirs, jazz bands and gospel groups between years 2009 – 2014 Born in a Christian family to a father who is a pastor, Mel was raised on much more church music than any other and she natures her gift of writing meaningful messages; a gift she derived from listening to gospel music. Apart from gospel music Mel also grew on a lot of reggae from Bob Marley and Lucky Dube, soul and country from Michael Bolton and Dolly Parton which were her father’s favourites. She discovered her song writing ability in high school when she wrote two songs that made it on the Howard High School 2009 DVD album and since then she has been writing songs. From being a singer in church to being a jazz singer, Mel became a solo artist in the year 2014 and has many singles to her name. The now reggae singer is proud to be her own writer as she aims to be an inspiration to every ear that listens to her music which she describes as her expression of that which cannot be said i.e. own life experiences and thoughts similar to yours. She is inspired by female reggae musician Etana and aims to rise in music and make the best of her abilities as an Artiste. Over the years she has managed to gain much experience from working with seasoned musicians in the Zimbabwe industry. From being one of the lead singers in gospel groups such as Zimpraise Choir, Extreme Afriq and Sweet Inspiration to becoming a backing vocalist for artists such as Kudzai Sevenzo and Rockford Josphat aka Roki among many others, she has also collaborated with other artists such as Jah Prayzah, Guspy Warrior and Shinsoman. Mel has recorded with producers such as Mac Dee (Eternity), DJ Tamuka, Jamaican Kemson Fenton a.k.a Macgyver, Rodney. Follow this strong virtuous African woman on a wonderful music journey as she tells a story through reggae music.
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MELHUCHI display Ornaments designs
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Women May 2020
Madzimai Corner
NO UNDER 18
the breasts of ladies out there. DADDY
Lets AVOID FAMILY PORNOGRAPHY!!!! MUMMY Please Stop sitting as if you are in the labour room; Opening your legs for your son to see your inner tight & pants. DADDY Please Don’t wear ordinary boxers at home that you sit down, Open your legs and your ‘torch light & batteries’ are dangling and your daughter is seeing it. There are things you should not wear beyond your bedroom, just for your spouse eyes only. Don’t say because you want to enjoy your freedom in your house. It is not your house alone, it’s a family house/ home. You are putting your children into sexual bondage through these acts. i know you may not understand it but pls be guided. MUMMY Wearing ordinary bra around the house in the presence of your sons is dangerous.
Wearing ordinary Boxers around your house in the presence of your daughters is dangerous too. Not that your daughters will lust after you but it makes them to actually see how the real thing is. DEAR parents Let’s stop being ‘PORNOGRAPHY materials to our children. Raising sexually pure children begins from our homes. As parents, it is still your responsibility to build virtue into your family. If your Children are not properly groomed, they may never get to the top in life, even if you the parents are at the top of your respective careers. MANNERS take you to where your education can’t irrespective of your status , money or “who you know”. PLEASE MUMS & DADS, take note of what you just read now. Don’t make mistakes that will bring you pains and sorrow in the future. Remember a child’s mind is like a video camera, it records everything as it sees or hear it. #STAY HOME & SAFE#
No, they won’t lust after you or rape u, No But you might be increasing their curiosity to see
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PET HAVEN Pets Article Episode 1
Why we should have pets at home.
Pets especially dogs and cats can reduce stress, anxiety and depression,ease loneliness, encourage exercise and playfulness, and even improve your cardiovascular health. Caring for an animal can help children grow up more secure and active. Pets also provide valuable companionship for older adults. Perhaps most importantly,though,a pet can add real joy and unconditional love to your life.
How to take care of your pets. *Feed your pet with good and high quality foods *Take them for a walk everyday for at least half an hour. *Provide them with a good and comfortable shelter with warm blankets. *Keep a clean and hygienic environment for them. *�Visit Vet on a weekly/monthly basis *Engage and do not leave them alone for a longtime *Provide them with the needed vaccination on time.
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