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YOUR TEEN’S FIRST CAR

Birds and bees pretty please!

tHE eMOTIONAL sIDE OF INFERTILITY

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YOUR FAMILY z from the editor June/July 2015 Vol. 19, No. 3 Publisher The Village Family Service Center Gary Wolsky Tammy Noteboom Editor-in-Chief Kelly Lynch Graphic Design & Layout Jared Zimney Advertising Sales Manager Joy Ryan Calendar Editor Shayna Hendricksen Copy Editor Shayna Hendricksen The Village Family Service Center Board of Directors Carrie Bjorge, Steve Connelly, David Dougherty, Richard Duysen, Al Erickson, Judy Green, Dr. Richard Hanson, Tammy Hauck, Richard Henderson, Dr. Karen Mellum, Tom Nelson, Jim Newhouse, Dr. Joy Query, John Wagner, Becky Walen

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Does this early morning scenario sound familiar? It’s 20 below zero and pitch black outside. You can hear the furnace kick in about every 15 minutes trying to keep the “castle” warm. Your alarm clock has gone off twice now and you’ve labored to reach out from beneath the cozy covers to hit the snooze button once again. All this delay is sure to make your morning crazy-busy as you scramble and rush around to get everything done before you need to be on your way. My own mornings look very much like this, except I hit the snooze button half a dozen times and am incredibly thankful I live just a mile from work! Now, imagine for a moment you got out of bed an hour before you really need to; you leisurely go about your a.m. routine, stresslessly accomplishing all the tasks that require your early morning attention. How does that sound? Easing into your day at a comfortable pace is the premise for the article, “Creating a Lovely Morning.” This is the perfect time of year to incorporate a “lovely morning” into your daily routine. Summer mornings are often drenched in sunlight, which makes it infinitely easier to get out of bed and design your new start to each day. Author Leo Babauta reminds us that creating a morning like this requires a conscious effort. Couple the sunshine with some extra time, add in a few mindfully chosen tasks—along with something you eagerly look forward to doing—and you’ve created not just a lovely morning, but a powerfully positive start to your day. Beginning each day with optimism is a good reminder for everyone. But staying positive every day when life takes a significant, unexpected detour takes fortitude and effort. Maintaining a positive outlook is often an incredible challenge for couples struggling with infertility. Our feature article discusses those challenges and takes a look at the emotional side of infertility. Writer Kerry Petsinger shares her experiences and those of other local families. She helps us move beyond the statistics that, in themselves, are astounding—1 in 8 couples have trouble getting pregnant or sustaining a pregnancy—to understand how to support those around us dealing with infertility. Thanks for reading,

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About the Cover Photo Milo (18 months) and Harper (1 month) Photography by Rachel Nowak

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6 Creating a Lovely Morning

Start your day off right by allowing enough time each morning to ease into the day. z money

14 Vroom! Vroom! Helping Teens Get Their Own Set of Wheels

A first car is a big deal. Learn ways to make the process less painful for you and your teen.

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20 The Emotional Side of Infertility Explore the emotional experience for couples dealing with infertility and ways you can be supportive. z parenting

38 Birds and Bees, Pretty Please! An Age-By-Age Guide to “The Talk”

It’s a difficult conversation, but these tips will help you get the discussion started, regardless of your child’s age.

z consumer

40 Prenuptial Agreements: They’re Just for Rich People, Right? Consider the legal ramifications when combining two lives, two incomes, and two families.

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Creating a Lovely Morning By Leo Babauta

Keep things simple.

hen I wake in the morning, my mind slowly gathers, and I begin to move, the early morning light just One of my early mistakes was trying to fit too much starting to seep in. into the mornings—I wanted to meditate and work out and I have a glass of water, start the coffee, then meditate. read and write and journal, and it turns out I couldn’t do all Then I enjoy the coffee, a good book, and the quiet, before those things. It felt too rigid, too packed. What’s helped me the dust and din and steam of the day begins. Then I write. is having a couple of things I do early on, but not having a This is my Lovely Morning, lot on my morning agenda so I and I get an inordinate amount “When you arise in the morning, can have space and flexibility. of pleasure from it. makes the time much more It wasn’t always this way: think of what a precious privilege it That peaceful and enjoyable. So the I used to wake later, rush is to be alive—to breathe, to think, meditation and reading and through a grumpy routine writing are the only things I do before diving into email to enjoy, to love.” almost every morning, but I let and work and errands and myself be flexible with those, —Marcus Aurelius meetings. It was frenetic and too. dreadful, but that was my life, and I didn’t think it would change. I was wrong. I’ve changed my mornings for the better with a few simple ideas I’ll share here.

Wake a little earlier.

If your mornings are rushed, the simple solution is to get up a bit earlier. This means going to bed a bit earlier, too. Do it gradually, just 10 minutes earlier a week and you’ll barely notice the change. 6

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Have something to look forward to.

Don’t pack your mornings full of things you need to do…but do have something you can’t wait to get up and do. For me, that’s reading and writing. For others, morning yoga or painting or reading the paper with coffee might be better. Don’t just have things you think you should do but don’t really want to do.

Practice mindfulness.

I like to start with meditation (though I do miss some days) because it sets the tone for my morning—one of mindfulness. I then drink my coffee and write and do everything else with a more mindful attitude, noticing when I start to rush and feel stressed, noticing small things that I might miss if I were distracted.

Don’t dive into email or little things.

Consider this early morning time your sacred space— don’t fill it with junk. Junk includes TV, news, email, social media, apps, etc. Instead, put meaningful things in this sacred space, things you won’t have time for later. You can always dive into email after an hour (or more) of lovely morning peace.

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Enjoy the spaces, and pace yourself.

This time isn’t just something you fill with things to do…it’s open space. That means the space itself is something to be treasured, not just what you put in it. For example, if you do yoga and read, the morning isn’t just valuable because of the yoga and reading—the space around those two things is also wonderful. The time you’re putting your yoga mat away, getting a cup of coffee, walking to where your book is, sitting and staring at the morning light…these little spaces are just as amazing as anything else. Pace yourself so you’re not rushing from one thing to the next, but enjoying the spaces. A Lovely Morning isn’t something that just falls into your lap—it’s created consciously. You don’t have to implement all these ideas at once, but try one or two out and see if your mornings improve. I think you’ll enjoy them as much as I do. “Waking up this morning, I smile. Twenty-four brand new hours are before me. I vow to live fully in each moment…” —Thich Nhat Hanh Leo Babauta is a writer, runner, and father of six. To read more of his work, visit www.zenhabits.net.

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What’s in a Name?

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By Gary Wolsky, President/CEO The Village Family Service Center Someone recently asked me where we came up with our name, “The Village Family Service Center.” That question prompted me to write this message to tell you about our name and take a comprehensive look at what The Village

does. As you might expect over 124 years of history, our name has evolved. We were originally known as the North Dakota Children’s Home Society, a reflection of the orphan trains of that era that moved tens of thousands of orphans from the East Coast across the country. Later, we became Children’s Village, and as we began to wind down our primary focus as an orphanage in 1969, we eventually became The Village Family Service Center. What we do actually gets a bit complex, but it all centers, either directly or indirectly, around kids and families. That’s important to know because any “business” has a responsibility to be clear about what it does. In our case, it’s extremely important because so much of what we do is reliant on the goodwill and the generosity of the communities we serve. The graph below shows our 12 major program components—of the tens of thousands of people who come to our door over a course of a year, these are the programs they are most often seeking. I also included a list of the additional services that sort of “fly

VILLAGE FAMILY SERVICE CENTER 2015 BUDGETED EXPENSES BY PROGRAM 21%

MN Behavioral Health Services

14%

The Village Business Institute

13%

ND Family Based Services

12%

Nokomis

10%

Family Group/Team Decision Making

First Step Recovery

ND Regional Counseling Services

Financial Resource Center

Adoption

Big Brothers Big Sisters

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under the radar,” so you can see the wide range of services we provide to children and families throughout the region. Adoption is the only Village program that traces its roots back to our beginnings in 1891, and continues to be a service we provide today with a great deal of pride and success. All of our other services have emerged as the community has expressed a need for a particular approach to a problem. The most important thing for you to know is The Village is here for you. Every one of these programs exists to provide individuals, families, and businesses with the help they need when they need it, so you don’t have to go it alone. A final note of thanks. None of the work we do at The Village happens without the financial support of a lot of people. We have prided ourselves over many decades at literally being “owned” by the community. While so many nonprofits over the last 30 to 40 years have become reliant and dependent on tax-based income, we’ve remained very clear that our owners are the people we serve and not the state and federal government. We are owned by the communities we serve—and for that we are very grateful. The opinions expressed in this column are strictly those of The Village Family Service Center CEO. They do not necessarily reflect the views of the organization, staff, or boards of directors.

Additional Village Services

Adult Substance Abuse Treatment Anger Management Chemical Dependency Evaluations Child Parent Psychotherapy Critical Incident Stress Management and Debriefing Debt Management Program Early Childhood Mental Health Educational and Therapeutic Groups Employee Assistance Program Executive Coaching Family and Workplace Mediation Homebuyer Education Human Resource Consultation Parent Child Interaction Therapy Pre-Marital Financial Counseling Reverse Mortgage Counseling Sexual Abuse Treatment Program Supervised Parenting and Child Exchange Program Tenant Education Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Workplace Training

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Tammy “Mrs. Doubtfire”

“Strange Magic”

PG World-class animation and outstanding visual effects set the scene for this fairy tale musical loosely based on Shakespeare’s “A Midsummer Night’s Dream.” Marianne’s wedding day is doomed when she catches her betrothed kissing another fairy! She vows to never love again. The colorful cast of elves, fairies, goblins, and imps creates a memorable adventure as they battle for possession of a powerful love potion. The mix of classic and contemporary songs will entertain all ages. Kristen Chenoweth, Evan Rachel Wood, Alan Cumming, and Maya Rudolph are all part of the voice cast.

PG-13 Available on DVD What’s a dedicated, loving father—who happens to be a struggling actor— supposed to do when his former wife goes to court to restrict his visitation rights? He disguises himself © Twentieth Century Fox as a grandmotherly, Scottish nanny and applies for a housekeeping job with his own family; neither his wife nor his children recognize him. Robin Williams stars in this hilarious and heartwarming story, along with Sally Fields, Pierce Brosnan, and Harvey Fierstein. It’s perfect for a rainy summer day or a family movie night.

“The Emperor’s New Groove”

G On Netflix Instant Stream The self-absorbed ruler, Kuzco, is inadvertently turned into a llama when his advisor, Yzma, (seeking the power of the throne for herself) poisons him with the wrong concoction. He is tossed out into the jungle where a kind© Walt Disney Pictures hearted peasant named Pacha rescues him. Danger, adventure, comedy, and fun ensue as Kuzco and Pacha try to make their way back to the castle and undo the potion, before Yzma can stop them. Voices include David Spade, Eartha Kitt, John Goodman, and Patrick Warburton.

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“Inside Out”

PG In Theaters June 19 Disney and Pixar team up to show us what our emotions could look like in “Inside Out.” Riley’s life gets turned upside down when her family moves from the Midwest to San Francisco. Her emotions—delightful characters named Joy, Fear, Anger, Disgust, and Sadness—live in Headquarters which is really inside Riley’s mind. The emotions help Riley learn to adjust to a new city, a new house, and a new school. This funloving family comedy is voiced by Amy Poehler, Mindy Kaling, Bill Hader, and Diane Lane.

Baby & Preschool “Vegetables in Underwear” by Jared Chapman A bunch of friendly vegetables wear colorful underwear of all varieties—big, small, clean, dirty, serious, and funny—demonstrating for young ones the silliness and necessity of this item of clothing. The unexpectedness of vegetables in their unmentionables is enough to draw giggles, but the pride with which the “big kid” attire is flaunted in front of the baby carrots in diapers will tickle readers of all ages. With rhyming text that begs to be chanted aloud and art that looks good enough to eat, this vibrant story will encourage preschoolers to celebrate having left those diapers behind! Ages 9 to 12 “The Crossover” by Kwame Alexander “With a bolt of lightning on my kicks…The court is SIZZLING. My sweat is DRIZZLING. Stop all that quivering. Cuz tonight I’m delivering,” announces dread-locked, 12-yearold Josh Bell. He and his twin brother, Jordan, are awesome on the court. But Josh has more than basketball in his blood. He’s got mad beats, too, that tell his family’s story in verse, in this fast and furious middlegrade novel of family and brotherhood. “The Crossover” is a 2015 Newbery Medal winner and 2015 Coretta Scott King Honor Award winner. Adults “Finders Keepers: A Novel” by Stephen King A masterful, intensely suspenseful novel about a reader whose obsession with a reclusive writer goes way too far. It is a book about the power of storytelling, starring the same trio of unlikely and winning heroes King introduced in “Mr. Mercedes.” Not since “Misery” has King played with the notion of a reader whose obsession with a writer gets dangerous. “Finders Keepers” is spectacular, heartpounding suspense, but it is also King writing about how literature shapes a life—for good, for bad, forever.

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Book Reviews Courtesy Barnes & Noble, Fargo

Ages 4 to 8 “I Wish You More” by Amy Krouse Rosenthal & Tom Lichtenheld In this magical picture book, the author and illustrator team who gave us “Little Pea” and “Exclamation Mark” return with a heartening array of upbeat thoughts for others. Readers of any age who value friendship, laughter, and sharing will rejoice in this book’s bounty of good will.

Teenagers “And We Stay” by Jenny Hubbard Tragedy, healing, hope, friendship—this coming-of-age novel has all of the components to be a really good summer read. After Emily Beam’s boyfriend commits suicide, she is sent to a boarding school in Amherst, Massachusetts, where two quirky fellow students and the spirit of Emily Dickinson offer helping hands. But it is up to Emily Beam to heal her own damaged self, to find the good behind the bad, hope inside the despair, and springtime under the snow.

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Don’t Bug Me By Lara Krupicka

I remember the afternoon when one of our girls, a toddler at the time, brought me a treasure from our yard, clutched in her chubby hand. Holding her fist up to my face, she opened it to reveal a balled-up, roly-poly bug. Instinctively I shrieked and knocked it from her hand. She looked up at me, her eyes wide in shock. Then she let out a long howl. I had rejected her gift. I felt like a more miserable creature than the one I’d discarded, even as the shivers continued to tickle at my neck. I can’t stand bugs. When our third daughter was born, I was secretly relieved to have escaped the job of mothering boys. I reasoned as the mom of three girls I would not have to dodge requests for lizards, snakes, and other creepy-crawlies. I imagined all the times I wouldn’t have to feign interest in some icky creature just to be supportive. Then my husband stepped in. He asked me to stifle my instinct to scream, cringe, or otherwise react negatively toward bugs. He was determined, girls or not, that his children would not inherit my squeamishness around creepy-crawlies. Instead, he encouraged them to get up close, touch, and enjoy little creatures of every kind. And he insisted during the early years that I hide my creeped-out reactions. If I wanted my girls to avoid being trapped by the fears that sent me scrambling at the sight of a tiny spider, I had to face those fears. I had to at least pretend to embrace the wonder of insects. Since then, I’ve learned to nod appreciatively (from a safe distance) at night crawlers dubbed as pets and carted around in bike baskets. I’ve housed and fed caterpillars, dumping their droppings and watching them go through various stages until they became butterflies. And I’ve even gone so far as to allow amphibians to live in our house—a pair of dwarf frogs that, thankfully, never leave their aquarium habitat. 12

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My days of masking my fear (or accidentally not) are gone now that my girls are safely beyond catching it. At this point, they are well aware of my dislike for everything insect or lizardlike. For them it’s become a source of amusement. I regularly find revolting plastic specimens hidden under my pillow, to which I respond with mock cries of horror. In return, I’m rewarded with a chorus of muffled giggles. I’m also rewarded with the knowledge there’s always someone on hand willing to flatten the all-too-real spider crawling on my counter or eager to scoot an errant junebug out the back door. My bug-loving children double as my best defenders against close encounters of the insect kind—an unexpected payoff for those years of horribly faked interest.

Illustration by Trygve Olson

Like many other aspects of parenting, it hasn’t been easy, this journey toward raising girls who love what I can’t stand. But there is a satisfaction in knowing I played a role in creating room for them to learn that love. And there’s an even greater satisfaction in finding success in my efforts. After all, what parent doesn’t want to give their child a better life than they had? Even if it’s as simple as giving them a life free from a fear of bugs. Lara Krupicka is a freelance writer whose three daughters also find bats and snakes fascinating.

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A Noble Quest By J. Shane Mercer

An open letter to a friend and soon-to-be father… Dear Jared, We’ve become pretty good friends over the past year and a half working together at The Village. We’re kind of kindred souls in a way—two peas in a pod. We both have creative minds with a bit of a snarl when it comes to what’s true and what’s not. We also have a soft spot for narrative, for stories that give us a peek into what it means to be human. Granted, you’re a “Star Wars” guy and I’m a “Star Trek” guy (only the original series…I don’t mess with that “Next Generation” stuff, as you know), but we both like the whole questing thing. Which brings me to another way in which we’re about to be similar. You’re about to be a dad. And if I may be so bold, I think that, as a father of three, I might be able to offer some helpful perspective. You, my friend, are about to embark on the great quest of fatherhood. And I say that only half tonguein-cheek. What you’re about to do is really, really important. You (and your wife) will be in possession of a human life that you are charged with guiding into adulthood in good physical, moral, emotional, and spiritual health. Quite honestly, it can be scary. But what quest isn’t? Among the essential and necessary elements of a quest are danger and difficulty. There’s really no story if there’s no problem. Who wants to hear the tale of the noble warrior who rides over in relative safety to pick up the beautiful princess for a date at a nice, upscale eatery? No, she has to be locked in a tower and guarded by a dragon or something. And so it is with fatherhood. There needs to be hardship with the potential of great reward if it’s going to be a respectable quest. And, albeit dressed in the clothes of late-night feedings, kissed boo-boos, and the disposal of various bodily fluids, being a dad means you’re shaping a human life. It is a privilege, a gift. In C.S. Lewis’ “The Lion, The Witch, and the Wardrobe,” Mr. and Mrs. Beaver talk to young Lucy and Susan about Aslan, the great lion king of the story. Susan says, “I’d thought he was a man. Is he quite safe? I shall feel rather nervous about meeting a lion.” “That you will, dearie, and make no mistake,” says Mrs. Beaver, “if there’s anyone who can appear before Aslan without their knees knocking, they’re either braver than most or else just silly.” Lucy says, “Then he isn’t safe?” Mr. Beaver replies “Safe?...Who said anything about being safe? ‘Course he isn’t safe. But he’s good.” Being a dad isn’t always safe. As Lewis writes in “The Four Loves,” “To love is to be vulnerable.” Nor is it always easy, nor even fun (although sometimes it is each of these things in spades). But it is meaningful; it is profound; it is good. And, if you’re paying attention, it will teach you a great deal. Fatherhood has this wonderful way of taking our boyish selfishness by the throat and demanding that it become manhood, that we deny our wants and even our needs for someone else. It is a painfully beautiful phenomenon.

Illustration by Trygve Olson

Of course, the other side of this questing coin is true, too. While there are struggles and difficulties, the quest also leads the quester to great joy and camaraderie, as well as the sense of satisfaction that comes in doing great things. I sometimes find myself with my children and realize—even as I experience it— I’m in the midst of making a memory, I’m holding something golden right in my hand, and I breathe it in. As I look back on my first decade as a father, I suspect I’ve wasted a lot of joy because I felt frustrated at this or that. Don’t do that. Recognize that the difficulty is part of what makes it a great and noble deed. And inhale the happily-ever-after moments along the way as deeply as you can. So, my fellow knight and Jedi and Federation crew member, welcome to the quest. Make no mistake, there will be dragons and Stormtroopers and Klingons along the way. But that’s all just part of doing something epic. J. Shane Mercer is the digital marketing specialist at The Village Family Service Center. He and his wife, Amy, live in Fargo with their three children, Ariana (10), Talia (10), and Will (6). Soon-to-be father Jared Zimney is the graphic designer for The Village Family Magazine. June/July 2015

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Vroom! Vroom!

Helping Teens Get Their Own Set of Wheels

veryone remembers their first car. Whether it was a hand-me-down beater or a shiny, new thing, those first teenage adventures behind the wheel of your very own car were a very big deal. Finally… you were alone, wind in your hair, music pumping, on the road to anywhere. Perhaps you saved your fast-food paychecks and birthday card cash for a few years before scraping together a decent down payment on a used truck. Or your parents gifted you the 90,000-mile family station wagon (remember those?). If you were extremely lucky,

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By Patricia Carlson

you woke up on high school graduation day to find a completely paid for, fresh-off-the-lot hatchback that already had custom vanity plates. No matter how you got your first vehicle, it was memorable. For John Larson, a parts inventory analyst for Butler Machinery in Fargo, his 1979 two-door Dodge Magnum is still a source of pride. “It was my brother’s car. I had it for five years. I did blow up the engine once, so I learned that that cost a lot of money,” says Larson. “But I did learn how to maintain it myself and how that pays off in the longevity of owning a car.”

Owning a Car in Today’s World.

Even though costs have increased and technology has improved, the basics of car ownership have stayed roughly the same for the past few decades. You need a hefty chunk of change to buy a car. It needs gas to run. Insurance and registration are a must. It’s unlawful to operate a motor vehicle without a license, and the car needs to be maintained. However, there are factors creating new challenges for both parents and teens. The expectation by teens that they will get a car when they earn their license is a hurdle for many families, and distracted driving is a huge worry with the prevalence of smartphones, Bluetooth, GPS units, and DVD players already installed in vehicles. Vehicles are only as safe as the people driving them and teens, unfortunately, continue to have a dangerous track record. Statistics from AAA and the Insurance Institute for Highway Safety indicate: • Motor vehicle crashes are the leading cause of death among 15- to 20-year olds. • Per licensed driver, teens are two to three times more likely to be involved in a crash than adult drivers. • When driving with a friend, the crash risk for novice drivers increases 30 percent. Helping your teen get his or her own set of wheels is a huge accomplishment—for both of you. Here’s what you need to know before you start hitting the dealerships.

Rite or Privilege?

You may think your teen has a full grasp on this concept, but without an open and honest conversation about it, you may be in for a battle once he or she finally does earn a license. It starts with a talk with your parenting partner—are you both in agreement on how car ownership and/or driving with your teen should be handled? If you’re not on the same page from the outset, do not proceed with purchasing your teen a vehicle just yet. If you are a united front, however, sit down and have a discussion with your teen about money, expectations, rules, safety, and any other parameters you feel need to be covered before he or she gets a license. Be clear about how you view car ownership. In most families, having a car once you can drive is not a birthright simply because it’s too darn expensive. A 2011 study by Nationwide Mutual Insurance Company found that households dole out roughly $3,100 annually to allow their teens to drive. Experts, however, warn that parents and kids alike may feel held hostage to peer pressure to get that first car. An article on DailyFinance.com says parents may be tempted to buy their teen a better car than Mom or Dad drives because of what the Joneses down the street bought their rookie driver. Although it may feel awkward and hurt your pride a little to explain to your teen you can’t afford to buy them a nice, new car, it’s crucial your teen understands money and cars don’t appear by magic. They both take a lot of work to obtain. Use this car purchase conversation as a teachable moment and always keep your word.

Set the Tone.

Having a car will undoubtedly give your teen a great sense of freedom, and you may feel a certain amount of dread knowing you can’t control what happens once they put that key in the ignition. Parents, especially those helping their teen foot the bill to pay for the car and its upkeep, have a right to establish rules of the road and should make their expectations transparent. AAA recommends creating a written driving contract parents and children both sign that outlines such things as: • Who will pay for gas, insurance, and maintenance • How many people are allowed in the vehicle at any one time • Under what circumstances the car will be taken away (poor grades, ticket, accident) • Where their phone should be stored while driving • What time curfew is • If there are any restrictions on driving during inclement weather or at night The idea here is to establish boundaries and build trust between you and your child so when they say they’re ready to operate a motor vehicle without a contract, you have more to go on than just their word—you have their actions.

It’s Gonna Cost You.

Regardless if you buy new or used, owning a car takes some serious Benjamins. Let’s tackle a basic car-buying rule first. If you (and by you, we mean parent or child or a combined income between the two) can’t afford to put down at least 20 percent on the car, do not buy it, advises the website Teens Guide to Money (www. teensguidetomoney.com). In the long term, you’ll likely end up owing more on it than it’s worth. Additionally, if you can’t pay off the car in 48 months, don’t move on it! That may take the air out of the tires of those of you holding on to hope for a new vehicle, but it’s the truth. Remember, buying the car is just the beginning of a lengthy expense sheet. Once you think you know your initial overhead, factor in things like gas, insurance, and maintenance. Larson, who has remained a loyal car enthusiast and expert since his teenage years, says parents and teens have lots of things to consider in creating an overall budget. “Try to calculate out how many miles you’re going to drive it, how long you’re going to keep the car, and who else may be using it,” says Larson. Consider the not-toodistant future and think about whether your teen will take the car away to college or if it will stay with the family. Having some idea of what you’ll spend on gas is helpful for a first-time car owner. Once you’ve figured out about how many miles you’ll travel in a year, Larson suggests you take the car’s gas mileage and the current average cost of gas to estimate your gas costs per year. Insurance is another expense, and insuring a first-time driver isn’t cheap. A 2014 report conducted for the website InsuranceQuotes.com shows that adding a teen driver to a married couple’s auto insurance policy boosts rates by an average of 79 percent. In fact, Minnesota is among the 10 costliest states for families with teenage drivers with June/July 2015

average premiums increasing a whopping 97 percent. Some insurance companies provide discounts for things like making good grades, being accident-free, and taking a defensive driving course to help ease the burden of adding a new teen driver. Each insurance provider is different, so do your due diligence when you collect quotes. There are many ways families can divide automobile costs. Here are a few examples: • Parents pay for everything but have stipulations on grades, extracurricular participation, helping with family transportation needs, and errands. • Parents pay for the vehicle, but the teen is responsible for everything else. • Parents and teen split the cost 50-50 for everything related to the vehicle. • Teen pays for the vehicle, but parents take care of the rest. • Teen pays for everything.

Safety and Reliability.

Aside from money, a vehicle’s safety and reliability will be the most important factors in helping your teen choose a car. While they may be attracted to aesthetics like color, style, and size, it’s up to you to steer them toward a vehicle with features that can help prevent crashes, minimize injuries, and maintain its ability to stay on the road for years to come. Simply telling your teen you don’t want them to drive anything too “flashy” won’t do. Teens crave information and usually want to know the “why” factor when their options are being limited. Don’t be afraid to conduct research with them and teach them about the features that will help keep them safe behind the wheel. To research safety and crash-test information, DailyFinance.com recommends starting with the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration and the Insurance Institute for Highway Safety. Then you can turn to Consumer Reports and J.D. Power and Associates

for reliability ratings. Before purchasing a used vehicle, make sure to get a free vehicle history report from CARFAX.com. Experts agree the ideal first-time car for rookie drivers is a late-model sedan (nothing too powerful like a sports car, or too top-heavy like an SUV) with modern safety features like: • Antilock braking system, or ABS, to help drivers maintain stability and steering control during hard braking. • Daytime running lights to increase visibility. • Electronic stability control, or ESC, to give the driver more control on slick roads or at high speeds. • Airbags, preferably front and sideimpact. • Adjustable/lockable head restraints to provide head and neck protection during a crash and to maximize protection against whiplash. Finally, AAA cautions that before you sign off on any purchase (yours or your teen’s), make sure to investigate any warranties offered with the car and if you’re allowed to have a pre-purchase inspection conducted by a reputable third-party. A certified mechanic you trust should be able to tell you if the vehicle you’re considering is roadworthy, physically sound, and has operational safety features. Helping teens achieve their dream of car ownership is not easy. You may experience limited financing, unfortunate accidents, faulty machinery, or troublesome behavior. But the lessons they will learn about money and responsibility will likely serve them long after they’ve entered the “real world.” And you know they’ll never forget their first car. Formerly from Fargo-Moorhead, freelance writer Patricia Carlson writes about baby boomers, parenting, and healthy lifestyles for magazines across the country. Check out her work at www. patriciacarlsonfreelance.com.

Safety Check Where to Look For Vehicle Safety Ratings • The Insurance Institute for Highway Safety www.iihs.org • Safercar Sponsored by National Highway Traffic Safety Administration www.safercar.gov/ Safety+Ratings • CARFAX www.carfax.com • Consumer Reports www.consumerreports. org/cro/index.htm • Motor Trend www.motortrend. com/new_cars/safety_ ratings/#__federated=1 • Kelley Blue Book www.kbb.com • J.D. Power and Associates www.autos.jdpower.com

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Gifts anyone can make.

What if we told you there’s a simple way for you to light the way for generations of children and families, even if you don’t have “a lot of money?” You can: • Help secure the future of The Village Family Service Center by making a gift that costs you nothing during your lifetime. • Make The Village a beneficiary on your retirement plan, so you can give your heirs a less-taxed asset. • Make a gift that will pay you income for life. • Make The Village a beneficiary on a life insurance policy you no longer need. • Donate appreciated stocks, bonds or mutual funds and save on your taxes.

Designating The Village Family Service Center in your will, making a gift from a retirement plan, giving a gift of life insurance, or gifting real estate or personal property are just a few of the ways you can help The Village light the way for children and families far into the future—and not affect your current lifestyle and your families security. Most of our gift plans also return benefits to you and your loved ones—and they are easier to arrange than people realize.

Want to find out more? Visit TheVillageFamily.PlannedGiving.org. Browse our interactive website, and download complimentary brochures including “8 Essential Questions About Your Will” and “Will You Avoid the IRA Tax Trap?”

A little planning goes a long way toward giving families hope for the future. For more information, contact Janet Zinke, Development Officer, The Village Family Service Center • 1201 25th St. S., Fargo, ND 58103 701-451-5036 • TheVillageFamily.org

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do I do when my adult child is addicted/ Q:What alcoholic and the rest of us are falling apart?

Parental bonds of loving, protecting, and providing for our children run deep; even when our offspring are adults. But what if your adult child is addicted or drinking too much? What’s a parent to do? It’s easy for others to say, “Don’t enable,” but that might seem like you would be throwing your child “under the bus.” Deciding to no longer give your child money is fraught with all they might lose. Deciding to feed them, however, is nurturing and can provide the opportunity to spend time with your son/daughter. Figuring out how to hate the disease, yet love your child, is not easy. Families Anonymous and Lost and Found Ministry can help. Call 218-287-2089 or info@lostandfoundministry.org. You’re not alone. Lost and Found Ministry 111 7th St. S., Moorhead 218-287-2089 www.LostAndFoundMinistry.org

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Why do some people go to outpatient care and others need to do residential care?

There are multiple factors that go into the recommendations between outpatient and residential care. These include, but are not limited to, if the person has a safe place to live, ability to commute if they live in a rural area, past treatment experiences, ability to abstain in their home environment, the individual’s opinion of the matter, and risks of withdrawal. Every person’s situation is staffed with a multidisciplinary team of professionals (nurses, case managers, family counselors, and other addiction counselors) to help interpret these circumstances; though only a Licensed Addiction Counselor is qualified to come to a conclusion of the recommendations. ShareHouse has online resources at www. ShareHouse.org. Click on the “Ask A Counselor” link or you can call ShareHouse at 701-282-6561.

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is the difference between hospice care and Q:What palliative care?

The distinction between palliative care and hospice care can be confusing when deciding the best course of action when you or a loved one faces a serious illness. Both types of care focus on comfort and symptom management. Palliative care is appropriate for any patient, regardless of prognosis. Palliative care focuses on symptom management while a patient pursues aggressive care. Hospice care provides comfort and symptom management for those who have a life-limiting illness and a prognosis of six months or less. With hospice, the focus of care shifts from aggressive, curative treatments, to comfort care. Hospice services are provided wherever the individual calls home, and also provides grief support for family members. Palliative care and hospice care are valid treatment options, and should be carefully considered alongside an individual’s personal wishes. Hospice of the Red River Valley (800) 237-4629 www.HRRV.org

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It’s normal for parents to worry about the decisions that their teens are making, especially when these decisions could impact their health and future. Keep in mind that discussions about relationships and sexuality can be uncomfortable at first, but they get easier over time. Start the dialogue by asking where he met her, what they have in common, what they enjoy doing together, etc. Be sure to listen attentively when he responds. Although your teenager is not an adult, he’s also not a child anymore. He has developed some of his own attitudes and beliefs. Try to acknowledge and understand his feelings while also expressing your expectations for him. Reach One Teach One North Dakota 624 Main Ave., Suite 9, Fargo 701-526-0725 www.PPMNS.org/ReachOneTeachOneND

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sell it in the grocery store, Q:Ifit they must be safe, right?

Well, not necessarily, and especially not for people in recovery. Many medications purchased “over the counter (OTC)” can be dangerous for people in recovery. So what can you do? 1. Partner with your health care provider. Tell them you are in recovery so they can make recommendations and write prescriptions that protect you. 2. Be curious! Read the labels and always choose alcohol-free products. Ask the pharmacist for help. 3. If you have to be on a narcotic pain reliever, use it exactly as prescribed. Enlist someone you trust to “manage the meds,” and switch to something nonhabit forming as soon as possible. Contact First Step Recovery for more information or to learn more about our adult substance abuse treatment services. First Step Recovery 3201 Fiechtner Drive, Fargo 701-293-3384 www.FirstStep-Recovery.com

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By Kerry Petsinger

I buried my face in my hands and wept.

Another year had gone by and still no baby. After two rounds of in vitro fertilization, three cycles of Clomid, and five years of trying for a baby, all I had to show for my efforts were an aching heart and a stack of medical bills. “What are we going to do?” I asked my husband, who looked as lost as I felt. “We need to take another break from trying,” he said. “This is consuming our lives.” It was hard to not let it consume my life. The reminders of our childless marriage were seemingly endless, even during those times when we weren’t trying to conceive. Almost weekly, yet another friend would joyfully announce her pregnancy. Just walking by the baby aisle at Target would bring me to tears. And many weeks I refused to go to church;

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services at the very family-friendly church we had joined, with the wonderful children’s ministry program and the happy kids giggling in the pews, were now too painful for me to attend. The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, the American Society for Reproductive Medicine (ASRM), and the World Health Organization all recognize infertility as a disease. It affects 10 to 15 percent of couples, which makes it “one of the most common diseases for people between the ages of 20 and 45,” according to the ASRM. Causes and treatments vary extensively, but one thing is certain: There is an emotional side of infertility. Heather Bjur, a licensed marriage and family therapist at Valley Christian Counseling Center in Fargo, had her own journey with infertility and now counsels people with the diagnosis. She discusses the challenges infertile women face. “Their bodies, which were designed to create and grow life, are, for whatever reason, not able to take on or complete this fundamental part of womanhood. The feelings of betrayal by their own bodies can be surprisingly overwhelming. Many report feeling incomplete,” says Bjur. Like any disease, it is impossible to fully understand the emotional side unless you have experienced it firsthand. For this article, I interviewed dozens of local people who have been diagnosed and are dealing with infertility. Their experiences indicate the emotional trauma can be life-changing. Hopefully, through increased awareness of the struggles of infertile people, family members and friends will be able to offer helpful support.

than the other; one may be struggling emotionally and the other is doing OK.” For some patients, being diagnosed with infertility feels like being strapped into the seat of a giant rollercoaster and they can’t get off. The highs are extremely high; each new treatment option offers hope, and while waiting for pregnancy test results, the optimistic patients daydream about the babies they long for. The lows are heartbreaking and can occur without warning. A negative pregnancy test month after month, a friend’s pregnancy announcement, and relatives joking, “When will you have kids? It’s about time!” can lead to extreme sadness. Infertility is an unpredictable ride and, Lee explains, the fluctuation of hormones during infertility treatments can cause patients’ feelings to change frequently. A person who openly discusses the journey one week may choose to keep his or her feelings private the next week and become frustrated with questions from others. This can be confusing for everyone, which is why Lee advises family and friends to show support by saying, “I’ll be here for you for whatever you need, but you have to let me know what you need.” This rollercoaster of emotions prompts many of Bjur’s clients to tell her they feel “crazy.” Bjur says, “The emotional ups and downs, stress on the marriage, stress on the job from having to take leave for the many medical appointments, the family who is asking for grandchildren, and the strain on the couple’s intimate life are all enough to make a person feel like they’re losing their mind.” Bjur works with infertility clients on normalizing their experiences—helping them see their experiences as “normal” for people in their situation.

The American Society for Reproductive Medicine defines infertility as “the inability to conceive after 12 months of unprotected intercourse.” For women age 35 and older, the timeline decreases to just six months.

A Rollercoaster of Emotions

Erin Lee, nurse practitioner at Sanford Reproductive Medicine in Fargo, works with a variety of patients dealing with infertility. She describes the emotional side of the diagnosis, saying, “It can be so different for everybody— how they cope and how it feels to them. Even one partner can have completely different feelings

Many Losses

Those dealing with infertility face an array of losses that contribute to their complicated emotional state. Foremost is the loss of the experience of carrying and giving birth to a baby. One woman described her anger and June/July 2015

disappointment, saying, “I was irate at my body; it wouldn’t do something so primal, no matter how hard I tried.” The loss of passing on your unique genetic traits to future generations can be difficult for some. According to German psychoanalyst Erik Erikson’s theory of psychosocial development, people pass through a series of eight interrelated stages throughout their lifespan. One stage involves creating and nurturing something that will last beyond one’s lifetime. Having children typically satisfies this life phase, and infertility requires a person to fulfill this stage through other means. Loss of self-esteem frequently occurs with infertility. The constant trying and failing to become pregnant often leads to diminished confidence. And some of the medications used to treat fertility problems have psychological side effects, compounding the feelings of decreased self-worth.

Relationships often suffer under the stress of infertility; it wreaks havoc on marriages, friendships, and other relationships. Even the strongest of marriages can be shaken. Medical appointments are taxing, waiting for test results is frightening, and partners may handle the stress differently. Having contradictory views on what medical interventions to try and when to stop treatment can create marital tension. Partners may have conflicting thoughts about utilizing other options to build a family or remain childless. My personal journey with infertility strained my marriage for years. Since I was the one physically dealing with the pregnancy losses, I felt I was letting my spouse down and at times didn’t think my marriage would survive. This feeling, I discovered, is very common among women who suffer from infertility. Bjur recognized the isolation and describes how she felt disconnected from

others during her journey with infertility. “My own words were that I couldn’t be part of the ‘club’ that everyone else seemed to be joining. Looking in from the outside is a horribly lonely place to be.” Infertility can lead to an enormous loss of control. When your attempts at having children are unsuccessful and life does not go as envisioned, it can be difficult to redefine your goals and feel in control. One woman I spoke with said, “My entire life I had planned to go to college, start my career, get married, and then have kids. When that did not go as planned, I felt like my life was in a holding pattern and I was stuck.”

The Unique Grief of Infertility

The many losses of infertility contribute to the unique grief associated with being infertile. Generally, when faced with the death of a loved one,

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If you are struggling with the emotional side of infertility, find a local counselor to help. Erin Lee at Sanford Reproductive Medicine in Fargo also directs patients to the website of RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association, www.resolve.org. there is a single episode of shock with a period of very raw, intense grief that gradually diminishes. You may grieve the person’s death for decades, but the initial gut-wrenching, crude pain is gone. Grieving during infertility is different. You may have many episodes of acute, sharp pain. Infertility elicits a grief cycle that compounds with every negative pregnancy test or pregnancy loss. “The grief is traumatizing to the point that many women struggle with depression and anxiety, anger and disappointment with themselves and with God. In addition to the monthly reminder of the infertility, some of the medical procedures involved can be painful, invasive, and embarrassing,” says Bjur. “People often say things like, ‘I never dreamed I’d have to endure x, y, or z, just to have a baby.’” Andrea Hanson, a Hawley, Minn., mother with a history of infertility, says, “Even though my infertility was temporary, it had an intensity that affected me emotionally, mentally, and even physically. It’s like I felt like there was something wrong with me, but I just couldn’t figure out how to fix it. I think people should know that infertility can hit to the very core of a woman’s purpose here on Earth.” Men are also affected emotionally by infertility. Lee says men may not talk about the difficulties of infertility as much as women do, but infertility can be an emotional struggle for them. Drew and Meagan Barker of Detroit Lakes, Minn., doctored

for infertility before becoming parents to two children. Drew was surprised at how prevalent infertility is. “It is way more common than I ever realized. When you go through it, you don’t realize how many people around you are probably going through the exact same thing.” The emotional upheaval was difficult. “I always found it a challenge to deal with my wife’s feelings during the rollercoaster. Every time we were told to take a pregnancy test and have the result always be negative was hard. Sure it was hard on me, but much worse on my wife, dealing with the tears. It was a monthly high of trying to find out if you were pregnant, and then the instant low of a negative test,” says Drew. My husband, Brett Petsinger, explains how he felt at times: “As a guy, I wanted to fix the problem, and when I couldn’t, I felt helpless. Not only was I grieving myself, but I was trying to be strong and console my hurting wife.”

How You Can Help

Since you likely know someone struggling with infertility, what can you do to help? The dozens of local people I interviewed said the most helpful things people have done for them include listening, telling them “I’m here for you,” and avoiding judgment. “Care. Be there. So often women, especially, feel left out of social circles because all their friends are having babies, so make a pointed effort to include friends who don’t have children,” says Bjur. “Women who are having

trouble getting pregnant or staying pregnant feel very NOT normal, so help them to do life as normally as you know how.” Finding contentment along this journey can take years, and many people who have suffered from infertility say it was the most traumatizing event of their lives and it forever changed them. However, countless patients on the path of infertility find happy, fulfilling endings. Some eventually carry babies to full term. Others build their families through adoption or surrogacy, and a number of patients discover peace and joy remaining childless. My own journey included seven pregnancy losses, but my tears of sadness became tears of joy as Brett and I welcomed boygirl twins into our lives in 2012, via a gestational carrier. Shortly afterward, I became pregnant and, in 2014, our second daughter was born. As your loved one weathers the storm of infertility, though there is nothing you can do to completely take the pain away, be mindful of the intense emotions he or she may be feeling and offer a listening ear. Bjur’s expert advice? “These people need support and tenderness, understanding and grace. Treat them gently.” Kerry Petsinger is a doctor of physical therapy in Detroit Lakes, Minn. She lives with her husband, Brett, and three young children, and on most days can be found exploring the Fargo area with family and friends.

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Calendar of Events

To include your event in our family-friendly calendar, email shendricksen@TheVillageFamily.org. Deadline for the August/September calendar is July 3, 2015. Although we strive to be as accurate as possible, please call ahead to verify information, registration requirements, or event fees. Due to limited space, we are unable to include all submissions.

JUNE 2015 EVENTS 6.1 Monday • Swing into Summer Safety & Fun. 5-7 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-356-7656 6.2 Tuesday • FirstChoice Clinic Golf FORE Life Event. Call Mona at 701-237-5902 for more info. Rose Creek Golf Course, 1500 Rose Creek Pkwy. E., Fargo • Party in the Park. 5:30-8 p.m., Trollwood Park, 3664 Elm St. N., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • Adopt-A-Pet Adoption Days. Meet animals available for adoption. 6-8 p.m., Petco, 1126 43rd St. SW, Fargo, www.adoptapetfm.org • FM RedHawks vs. Wichita Wingnuts. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com • “Some Enchanted Evening.” PG-rated musical presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Hansen Theatre, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/tickets

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6.3 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • Happy Harry’s Ribfest. Food, music, entertainment for the whole family. 11 a.m.-11 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, www.fargodome.com • FM RedHawks vs. Wichita Wingnuts. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com • “Some Enchanted Evening.” PG-rated musical presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Hansen Theatre, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/tickets 6.4 Thursday • Community Play Day. 9-11 a.m. & 1-3 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • Happy Harry’s Ribfest. Food, music, entertainment for the whole family. 11 a.m.-11 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, www.fargodome.com • Park It! Create arts and crafts. 1-4 p.m., Village West Park, 4415 9th Ave. Circle S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • American Heart Association Lakes Area Heart Walk. Registration at 5 p.m., walk begins at 6 p.m., The Pavilion, 1361 Washington Ave., Detroit Lakes, MN, 605-787-8808 or www.lakesareaheartwalk.org • FM RedHawks vs. Wichita Wingnuts. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com • “Some Enchanted Evening.” PG-rated musical presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Hansen Theatre, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/tickets 6.5 Friday • Happy Harry’s Ribfest. Food, music, entertainment for the whole family. 11 a.m.-11 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, www.fargodome.com • FM RedHawks vs. Laredo Lemurs. Fireworks game. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com • “Some Enchanted Evening.” PG-rated musical presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Hansen Theatre, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/tickets • Medora Musical 50th Anniversary Season Opening Night. 7:30 p.m. (MDT), Burning Hills Amphitheatre, 3422 Chateau Rd., Medora, ND, www.medora.com or 800-MEDORA-1 (See ad pg. 28) 6.6 Saturday • FM Mounted Posse Horse Show. 8 a.m., Horse Arena, RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 W. Main Ave., West Fargo, 701-200-6799 or www.redrivervalleyfair.com

•B uffalo River 5K/10K Trail Run. 8 a.m., visit www.mnstate.edu/trailrun for details and registration •S hare A Story. Special guest Buddy the Dinosaur, free books, music, performances. 9:30 a.m.-3:30 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com •H appy Harry’s Ribfest. Food, music, entertainment for the whole family. 11 a.m.-11 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, www.fargodome.com •C hildren’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com •4 Luv of Dog Rescue Meet the Dogs. Visit dogs available for adoption. 1-3 p.m., PetSmart, 1630 13th Ave. E., West Fargo, www.4luvofdog.org •F M RedHawks vs. Laredo Lemurs. 6 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com 6.7 Sunday •N D Quarter Horse Association Horse Show. 8 a.m., Horse Arena, RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 W. Main Ave., West Fargo, 701-280-0814 or www.ndqha.com •F M RedHawks vs. Laredo Lemurs. 1 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com •C lassical Music Festival. 1-6 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com 6.8 Monday •T rout Fest. Youth ages 15 and under. Registration at 5:30-6:15 p.m., derby at 6:15-7:45 p.m., Woodhaven North Park, 4406 44th Ave. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com 6.9 Tuesday •P arty in the Park. 5:30-8 p.m., Centennial Park, 4101 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com •M oorhead RiverArts. Concert by 8th Hour, petting zoo. 5:30-8 p.m., Memorial Park, 210 8th St. N., Moorhead, 218-2995340 or www.moorheadparks.com (See ad pg. 27) • “ The 25th Annual Putnam County Spelling Bee.” PG-rated musical presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/ tickets

6.13 American Diabetes Assocaiation Tour de Cure Bike Ride 6.10 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • “The 25th Annual Putnam County Spelling Bee.” PG-rated musical presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/ tickets 6.11 Thursday • Park It! Create arts and crafts. 1-4 p.m., Bennett Park, 1900 58th Ave. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • Music Montage. Evening of music in open mic format. 6-8 p.m., Great Northern Park, 425 N. Broadway, Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • “The 25th Annual Putnam County Spelling Bee.” PG-rated musical presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/tickets 6.12 Friday • “The 25th Annual Putnam County Spelling Bee.” PG-rated musical presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/tickets • UV Splash Color Dash. Family-friendly 5K. Packet pick-up at 7 p.m., dash starts at 9:30 p.m., RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 W. Main Ave., West Fargo, www.thecolordash5k.com

face painting, vendor booths. Register at www.diabetes.org/ndtour. Trollwood Park, 3664 Elm St. N., Fargo • Spare Key Bounce & Not Break 5K. Inflatable obstacle course for all ages. Registration at 8 a.m., race starts at 9 a.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, www.downtownfargo.com • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com

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6.13 Saturday • American Diabetes Association Tour de Cure Bike Ride. Inflatable games,

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6.14 Sunday • Ascension Evangelical Lutheran Church 50th Anniversary Celebration. All are welcome. 9 a.m. service, 2820 12th Ave. S., Moorhead; 11:30 a.m. meal and special presentation, Dilworth Community Center, 709 1st Ave. NW, Dilworth, www.ascensionmoorhead.org or www.facebook.com/ AscensionMoorhead • Sports Car Club of America Auto Test Course. 9 a.m., Midway, RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 W. Main Ave., West Fargo, 701-202-5576 or www.redrivervalleyfair.com • Streets Alive! Noon-5 p.m., event map and details at www.fmstreetsalive.org • BBQ Picnic for Kids, Teens & Adults with Alopecia. Bring a side dish, drinks, and your family. Burgers will be provided. RSVP to Pam at 517-896-3731 or eventsandinfo@gmail.com. 1 p.m., Gooseberry Park small pavilion, 100 22nd Ave. S., Moorhead 6.15 Monday • FM RedHawks vs. Sioux Falls Canaries. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com 6.16 Tuesday • Western Round Up. Music, carriage rides, petting zoo, roping demos. 5:30-7:30 p.m., Rendezvous Park, 1055 32nd Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org • Party in the Park. 5:30-8 p.m., Osgood School Park, 5400 44th Ave. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com

• Adopt-A-Pet Adoption Days. Meet animals available for adoption. 6-8 p.m., Petco, 1126 43rd St. SW, Fargo, www.adoptapetfm.org • FM RedHawks vs. Sioux Falls Canaries. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com • “The Good Doctor.” PG13-rated comedy presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/tickets 6.17 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • FM RedHawks vs. Sioux Falls Canaries. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com • “The Good Doctor.” PG13-rated comedy presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/tickets 6.18 Thursday • FM RedHawks vs. Sioux Falls Canaries. 12:30 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com • Park It! Create arts and crafts. 1-4 p.m., Brunsdale Park, 1702 27th Ave. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • “The Good Doctor.” PG13-rated comedy presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/tickets

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6.19 Friday • Teddy Bear Parade. Bring a canned food donation and your teddy bear. 10:30 a.m., Dike West parking lot, 310 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • Midwest Kid Fest. 11 a.m.-7 p.m., Island Park, 302 7th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • FM RedHawks vs. Winnipeg Goldeyes. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com • “The Good Doctor.” PG13-rated comedy presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/tickets 6.20 Saturday • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • 4 Luv of Dog Rescue Meet the Dogs. Visit dogs available for adoption. 1-3 p.m., PetSmart, 1630 13th Ave. E., West Fargo, www.4luvofdog.org • FM RedHawks vs. Winnipeg Goldeyes. 6 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com 6.21 Sunday • FM Mounted Posse Horse Show. 8 a.m., Horse Arena, RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 W. Main Ave., West Fargo, 701-200-6799 or www.redrivervalleyfair.com • Father’s Day at the Zoo. Dads receive free admission. 10 a.m.-7 p.m., Red River Zoo, 4255 23rd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-277-9240 or www.redriverzoo.org • FM RedHawks vs. Winnipeg Goldeyes. 1 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com • Fantastic Father’s Day. Free admission for fathers. 1-5 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or www.childrensmuseum-yunker.org • Skateboarding Day. 4 p.m., Dike West Skate Park, 310 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com 6.22 Monday • Pepsi Appreciation Day. Free pool admission all day. Davies Rec Pool, 7150 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or www.fargoparks.com • Movie Night. Dusk, Island Park, 616 1st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or www.fargoparks.com 6.23 Tuesday • Pepsi Appreciation Day. Free pool admission all day. Southwest Rec Pool, 1840 15th Ave. S., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or www.fargoparks.com • Moorhead RiverArts. Concert by Penny & Pals, tae kwon do demonstration, inflatable games. 5:30-8 p.m., Memorial Park, 210 8th St. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5340 or www.moorheadparks.com (See ad above) • “Cats.” PG-rated musical presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Hansen Theatre, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/tickets 6.24 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com

2015

Tuesdays June 9 & June 23 July 7 & July 21 August 4

June 9: Performance by 8th Hour FRE E! & a Petting Zoo June 23: Performance by Penny & Pals, tae kwon do demonstration, & Games Galore July 7: Performance by The Roosters & a Photo Booth July 21: Performance by Front Fenders & Pony Rides August 4: Performance by Slamabama & River Keepers Fishing Clinic Each event features free horse drawn wagon rides, hands on activities, art and craft vendors, food, and much more.

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• “School House Rock Live! Jr.” Presented by FMCT. 2 p.m. & 7:30 p.m., Moorhead High School Auditorium, 2300 4th Ave. S., Moorhead, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org • “SHREK JR.” Presented by West Fargo Summer Arts Intensive Middle School Musical Theatre Camp. 7 p.m., Sheyenne High School, 800 40th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701-499-3228 or www.westfargotheatre.com • “101 Dalmatians KIDS.” Presented by FMCT. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org • “Cats.” PG-rated musical presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Hansen Theatre, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/tickets 6.25 Thursday • Pepsi Appreciation Day. Free pool admission all day. Northside Rec Pool, 801 17th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or www.fargoparks.com • Go Hawaiian for Hospice. Luau lunch with proceeds to benefit Hospice of the Red River Valley. Contact Kristina Holtgard at 701-356-9700 for more info. 11 a.m.-1 p.m., Choice Financial, 4501 23rd Ave. S., Fargo • Park It! Create arts and crafts. 1-4 p.m., Clara Barton, 1451 6th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • “SHREK JR.” Presented by West Fargo Summer Arts Intensive Middle School Musical Theatre Camp. 2 p.m. & 7 p.m., Sheyenne High School, 800 40th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701-499-3228 or www.westfargotheatre.com

June/July 2015

6.25 Thursday (continued) • “School House Rock Live! Jr.” Presented by FMCT. 2 p.m. & 7:30 p.m., Moorhead High School Auditorium, 2300 4th Ave. S., Moorhead, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org • “Jesus Christ Superstar.” Presented by Rural Cass Community Theatre. 7 p.m., Central Cass High School, 802 N. 5th St., Casselton, ND, 701-491-8096 or www.rccct.org • Fargo Rock Concert. 7-9 p.m., location TBA, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com

• FM RedHawks vs. St. Paul Saints. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com • “101 Dalmatians KIDS.” Presented by FMCT. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org • “Cats.” PG-rated musical presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Hansen Theatre, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-4772271 or www.mnstate.edu/tickets

• Boston Concert. 7:30 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701356-7656 or www.scheelsarena.com 6.26 Friday • Scandinavian Hjemkomst & Midwest Viking Festival. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., Hjemkomst Center, 202 1st Ave. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5511 or www. hcscconline.org (See ad pg. 26) • 4 Luv of Dog Rescue Brat Stand Fundraiser. 11 a.m.-6 p.m., Cash Wise Foods, 1401 33rd St. S., Fargo, www.4luvofdog.org • “Jesus Christ Superstar.” Presented by Rural Cass Community Theatre. 7 p.m., Central Cass High School, 802 N. 5th St., Casselton, ND, 701-491-8096 or www.rccct.org • FM RedHawks vs. St. Paul Saints. Fireworks game. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com • “101 Dalmatians KIDS.” Presented by FMCT. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org • “Cats.” PG-rated musical presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Hansen Theatre, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-4772271 or www.mnstate.edu/tickets 6.27 Saturday • Scandinavian Hjemkomst & Midwest Viking Festival. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., Hjemkomst Center, 202 1st Ave. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5511 or www. hcscconline.org (See ad pg. 26) • 4 Luv of Dog Rescue Brat Stand Fundraiser. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., Cash Wise Foods, 1401 33rd St. S., Fargo, www.4luvofdog.org • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • “101 Dalmatians KIDS.” Presented by FMCT. 2 p.m. & 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org • “Cats.” PG-rated musical presented by Straw Hat Players. 2 p.m. & 7:30 p.m., Hansen Theatre, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/ tickets • BMX Jam. All skill levels can participate; helmets required. 3 p.m., Dike West Skate Park, 310 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com

June/July 2015

7.4 Saturday • Happy Birthday, USA! 10 a.m.-5 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-2326102 or www.childrensmuseum-yunker.org • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • Gwen Sebastian LIVE on the Stage of the Medora Musical. 3:30 p.m. (MDT), Burning Hills Amphitheatre, 3422 Chateau Rd., Medora, ND, www.medora.com/CountryConcerts or 800-MEDORA-1 (See ad pg. 28) • 4th of July Summer Bash. Jugglers, storytellers, games, outdoor movie. 6 p.m., Schlossman YMCA, 4243 19th Ave. S., Fargo, 701-281-0126 or www.ymcacassclay.org

6.9, 6.23, 7.7 & 7.21 Moorhead RiverArts • FM RedHawks vs. St. Paul Saints. 6 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com • “Jesus Christ Superstar.” Presented by Rural Cass Community Theatre. 7 p.m., Central Cass High School, 802 N. 5th St., Casselton, ND, 701-491-8096 or www.rccct.org 6.28 Sunday • FM RedHawks vs. St. Paul Saints. 1 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com • “101 Dalmatians KIDS.” Presented by FMCT. 2 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org • “Jesus Christ Superstar.” Presented by Rural Cass Community Theatre. 2 p.m., Central Cass High School, 802 N. 5th St., Casselton, ND, 701-491-8096 or www.rccct.org

7.6 Monday • Pepsi Appreciation Day. Free pool admission all day. Madison Pool & Splash Pad, 1040 29th St. N., Fargo, 701499-6060 or www.fargoparks.com • Waterama. Water games and activities. Noon-3 p.m., Madison Park, 3010 11th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www. fargoparks.com • FM RedHawks vs. Winnipeg Goldeyes. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com 7.7 Tuesday • Pepsi Appreciation Day. Free pool admission all day. Island Park Pool, 616 1st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or www.fargoparks.com

6.30 Tuesday • Party in the Park. 5:30-8 p.m., Roosevelt Park, 1220 9th St. N., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • “Scooter Thomas Makes it to the Top of the World.” Presented by FMCT. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org

JULY 2015 EVENTS 7.1 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • “Scooter Thomas Makes it to the Top of the World.” Presented by FMCT. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org 7.2 Thursday • “Scooter Thomas Makes it to the Top of the World.” Presented by FMCT. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org

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• Party in the Park. 5:30-8 p.m., Village West Park, 4415 9th Ave. Circle S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • Moorhead RiverArts. Concert by The Roosters, photo booth. 5:30-8 p.m., Memorial Park, 210 8th St. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5340 or www.moorheadparks.com (See ad pg. 27) • Adopt-A-Pet Adoption Days. Meet animals available for adoption. 6-8 p.m., Petco, 1126 43rd St. SW, Fargo, www.adoptapetfm.org • FM RedHawks vs. Winnipeg Goldeyes. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com

6.25 Go Hawaiian for Hospice 7.7 Tuesday (continued) • Tie-Dye Tuesday. T-shirts extra or bring your own. 10 a.m.-4 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or www.childrensmuseum-yunker.org • Red River Valley Fair. 11 a.m., RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 W. Main Ave., West Fargo, www.www.redrivervalleyfair.com • Moorhead Farmers’ Market. 3-7 p.m., Moorhead Center Mall parking lot, Center Ave. & 4th St. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5340 or www.moorheadparks.com

Still Need to Register for the 2015-16 School Year? If your child will attend any of the following schools, please register at that school during the following times: Elementary Schools: Centennial, Jefferson, Lewis & Clark, Kennedy, Longfellow, and Washington June 2-25 from 8:00 a.m. – 11:00 a.m. (Except Fridays) Bennett, Centennial, Clara Barton, Jefferson, Lewis & Clark, Kennedy, Longfellow, Madison, Roosevelt, and Washington July 6-24 8:00 a.m. – 11:00 a.m. **Please go to Clara Barton for Hawthorne registration. Please go to Roosevelt for Horace Mann registration**

If your child will attend a school other than the ones listed above, please register at the District Office during the following times: Monday-Thursday, 7:30 a.m. – 4:30 p.m. or Friday, 7:30 a.m. – 11:00 a.m. Your child must be 5 by July 31, 2015 to start kindergarten this fall Middle Schools and High Schools: Secondary schools are open the majority of the summer, please call ahead of your visit to ensure office staff are available. For more information about required registration documents, visit www.fargo.k12.nd.us/registrationforms or call 701.446.1000

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7.8 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • Red River Valley Fair. 11 a.m., RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 W. Main Ave., West Fargo, www.www.redrivervalleyfair.com • FM RedHawks vs. Winnipeg Goldeyes. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com 7.9 Thursday • Community Play Day. 9-11 a.m. & 1-3 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • Red River Valley Fair. 11 a.m., RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 W. Main Ave., West Fargo, www.www.redrivervalleyfair.com • FM RedHawks vs. Winnipeg Goldeyes. 12:30 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com • Big Screen Movie Matinee. 1 p.m., Veterans Memorial Arena, 1201 7th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org • Park It! Create arts and crafts. 1-4 p.m., Elephant Park, 100 19th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 3:30-6:30 p.m., South Elmwood Park parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org • Music Montage. Evening of music in open mic format. 6-8 p.m., Great Northern Park, 425 N. Broadway, Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com 7.10 Friday • Northwest Water Carnival Events. Detroit Lakes, MN, www.dljaycees.com • Red River Valley Fair. 11 a.m., RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 W. Main Ave., West Fargo, www.www.redrivervalleyfair.com • FM RedHawks vs. Ottawa Champions. Fireworks game. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com 7.11 Saturday • Northwest Water Carnival Events. Detroit Lakes, MN, www.dljaycees.com • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • Red River Valley Fair. 11 a.m., RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 W. Main Ave., West Fargo, www.www.redrivervalleyfair.com • 4 Luv of Dog Rescue Meet the Dogs. Visit dogs available for adoption. 1-3 p.m., PetSmart, 1630 13th Ave. E., West Fargo, www.4luvofdog.org

• FM RedHawks vs. Ottawa Champions. 6 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com 7.12 Sunday • Northwest Water Carnival Events. Detroit Lakes, MN, www.dljaycees.com • Red River Valley Fair. 11 a.m., RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 W. Main Ave., West Fargo, www.www.redrivervalleyfair.com • Streets Alive! Noon-5 p.m., event map and details at www.fmstreetsalive.org • FM RedHawks vs. Ottawa Champions. 1 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com 7.13 Monday • Northwest Water Carnival Events. Detroit Lakes, MN, www.dljaycees.com • Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 3:30-6:30 p.m., South Elmwood Park parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org 7.14 Tuesday • Northwest Water Carnival Events. Detroit Lakes, MN, www.dljaycees.com • Tie-Dye Tuesday. T-shirts extra or bring your own. 10 a.m.-4 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or www.childrensmuseum-yunker.org • Moorhead Farmers’ Market. 3-7 p.m., Moorhead Center Mall parking lot, Center Ave. & 4th St. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5340 or www.moorheadparks.com • Party in the Park. 5:30-8 p.m., Unicorn Park, 1603 3rd Ave. N., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com 7.15 Wednesday • Northwest Water Carnival Events. Detroit Lakes, MN, www.dljaycees.com • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • Hawaiian Beach Blast. Music, games, activities. 5:30-7:30 p.m., Rendezvous Park, 1055 32nd Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org 6.6 Share A Story

• “Footloose.” Presented by Gooseberry Park Players. 7:30 p.m., Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218477-2271 or www.gooseberryparkplayers.org • “Mary Poppins.” Presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m., Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S., Moorhead, 218-477-6500 or www.trollwood.org 7.16 Thursday • Northwest Water Carnival Events. Detroit Lakes, MN, www.dljaycees.com • Fargo Street Fair. 10 a.m.-9 p.m., www.downtownfargo.com • Park It! Create arts and crafts. 1-4 p.m., Centennial Park, 4101 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • Pollinator Party & Pie Project Fargo. 1-5 p.m., Plains Art Museum, 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-551-6100 or www.plainsart.org • Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 3:30-6:30 p.m., South Elmwood Park parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org • “Footloose.” Presented by Gooseberry Park Players. 7:30 p.m., Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.gooseberryparkplayers.org • “Mary Poppins.” Presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m., Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S., Moorhead, 218-477-6500 or www.trollwood.org • Movie Night. Bring a chair or blanket. Dusk, Woodlawn Park, 400 Woodlawn Dr., Moorhead, 218-299-5340 or www.moorheadparks.com

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7.17 Friday • Northwest Water Carnival Events. Detroit Lakes, MN, www.dljaycees.com • Fargo Street Fair. 10 a.m.-9 p.m., www.downtownfargo.com • “Footloose.” Presented by Gooseberry Park Players. 7:30 p.m., Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.gooseberryparkplayers.org • “Mary Poppins.” Presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30

p.m., Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S., Moorhead, 218-477-6500 or www.trollwood.org 7.18 Saturday • Northwest Water Carnival Events. Detroit Lakes, MN, www.dljaycees.com • Fargo Street Fair. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., www.downtownfargo.com • Dr. Doolittle Day. Kids who bring a stuffed animal will receive free admission. 10 a.m.-7 p.m., Red River Zoo, 4255 23rd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-

277-9240 or www.redriverzoo.org • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • “Footloose.” Presented by Gooseberry Park Players. 7:30 p.m., Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.gooseberryparkplayers.org • “Mary Poppins.” Presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m., Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S., Moorhead, 218-4776500 or www.trollwood.org 7.19 Sunday • Northwest Water Carnival Events. Detroit Lakes, MN, www.dljaycees.com • German Folk Festival. 11 a.m.-5 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • “Footloose.” Presented by Gooseberry Park Players. 1 p.m., Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.gooseberryparkplayers.org

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7.20 Monday • Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 3:30-6:30 p.m., South Elmwood Park parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org • Movie Night. Dusk, Island Park, 616 1st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or www.fargoparks.com 7.21 Tuesday • Tie-Dye Tuesday. T-shirts extra or bring your own. 10 a.m.-4 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or www.childrensmuseum-yunker.org • Moorhead Farmers’ Market. 3-7 p.m., Moorhead Center Mall parking lot, Center Ave. & 4th St. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5340 or www.moorheadparks.com • Party in the Park. 5:30-8 p.m., Rabanus, 4315 18th Ave. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • Moorhead RiverArts. Concert by the Front Fenders, pony rides. 5:30-8 p.m., Memorial Park, 210 8th St. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5340 or www. moorheadparks.com (See ad pg. 27) • Adopt-A-Pet Adoption Days. Meet animals available for adoption. 6-8 p.m., Petco, 1126 43rd St. SW, Fargo, www.adoptapetfm.org

7.22 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • Concerts in the Park. Music by Heavy is the Head, face painting, bouncy castle. 7-8:30 p.m., Island Park, 302 7th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • “Mary Poppins.” Presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m., Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S., Moorhead, 218-477-6500 or www.trollwood.org 7.23 Thursday • Park It! Create arts and crafts. 1-4 p.m., Roosevelt Park, 1220 9th St. N., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • Summer Splash. Water games, diving contest, inflatable water slides. 2-4 p.m., Moorhead Municipal Pool, 800 19th St. S., Moorhead, 218-299-5340 or www.moorheadparks.com • Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 3:30-6:30 p.m., South Elmwood Park parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org • Fargo Rock Concert. 7-9 p.m., location TBA, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • “Mary Poppins.” Presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m., Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S., Moorhead, 218-477-6500 or www.trollwood.org 7.24 Friday • “Rapunzel.” Presented by Missoula Children’s Theatre. 2 p.m. & 4:30 p.m., Cheney Middle School, 825 17th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org

• “Mary Poppins.” Presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m., Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S., Moorhead, 218-477-6500 or www.trollwood.org 7.25 Saturday • Fargo AirSho. 11 a.m., Hector International Airport, 2801 32nd Ave. N., Fargo, www.fargoairsho.com (See ad pg. 36) • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • 4 Luv of Dog Rescue Meet the Dogs. Visit dogs available for adoption. 1-3 p.m., PetSmart, 1630 13th Ave. E., West Fargo, www.4luvofdog.org • “Mary Poppins.” Presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m., Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S., Moorhead, 218-477-6500 or www.trollwood.org 7.26 Sunday • Fargo AirSho. 11 a.m., Hector International Airport, 2801 32nd Ave. N., Fargo, www.fargoairsho.com (See ad pg. 36) 7.27 Monday • Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 3:30-6:30 p.m., South Elmwood Park parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org 7.28 Tuesday • Tie-Dye Tuesday. T-shirts extra or bring your own. 10 a.m.-4 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or www.childrensmuseum-yunker.org

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7.28 Tuesday (continued) • Moorhead Farmers’ Market. 3-7 p.m., Moorhead Center Mall parking lot, Center Ave. & 4th St. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5340 or www.moorheadparks.com • Party in the Park. 5:30-8 p.m., Bennett Park, 1900 58th Ave. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • 25th Annual Paws Walk. Registration at 6 p.m., walk begins at 7 p.m., Lindenwood Park, 1905 Roger Maris Dr., Fargo, 701-239-0077 or www.homewardonline.org • Scavenger Hunt Adventure. Camera needed. 6-8:30 p.m., Veterans Memorial Arena, 1201 7th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org 7.29 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • Fargo Public Library Annual Kids’ & Teen Talent Show. Register at www.fargolibrary.org or 701-241-1495. 6:30 p.m., 2nd Screen Stage, Fargo Theatre, 314 Broadway N., Fargo • FM RedHawks vs. Grand Prairie Airhogs. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com • Concerts in the Park. Music by October Road, face painting, bouncy castle. 7-8:30 p.m., Island Park, 302 7th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • “Mary Poppins.” Presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m., Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S., Moorhead, 218-477-6500 or www.trollwood.org

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7.30 Thursday • Park It! Create arts and crafts. 1-4 p.m., Jefferson West Park, 1904 4th Ave. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 3:30-6:30 p.m., South Elmwood Park parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org • FM RedHawks vs. Grand Prairie Airhogs. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com • “Mary Poppins.” Presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m., Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S., Moorhead, 218-477-6500 or www.trollwood.org 7.31 Friday • Kat Perkins LIVE on the Stage of the Medora Musical. With Fargo singer/songwriter Izzy Marcil. 3:30 p.m. (MDT), Burning Hills Amphitheatre, 3422 Chateau Rd., Medora, ND, www.medora.com/Kat or 800-MEDORA-1 (See ad pg. 28) • FM RedHawks vs. Grand Prairie Airhogs. Fireworks game. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com • “Mary Poppins.” Presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m., Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S., Moorhead, 218-477-6500 or www.trollwood.org

PUBLIC LIBRARIES

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Call or visit the library for details. Pre-registration may be required. Fargo Public Main Library 102 3rd St. N., Fargo, 701-241-1472 or www.fargolibrary.org • Every Hero Has a Story! Summer Reading Program. Begins June 1 (See ad pg. 29) • Unmask! Teen Summer Reading Program. Begins June 1 • Chess Club. Open to players of all ages and abilities. Thursdays, 5:30-8:30 p.m. • Real Life Super Hero Technology Workshop. Grades PreK-3. June 3, 11 a.m. • Science of Super Heroes. Registration required. June 4, grades 1-3 at 11 a.m., grades 4-6 at 2 p.m. • Baby Rhyme Time. Lapsit storytime for babies (birth-18 mos). June 4 & 18, July 2 & 16, 6:30 p.m. • Flag Day Concert by the 188th Army Brass Band Quintet. All ages welcome. June 13, 2 p.m.

• Art with an Expert! Storytime and art project for ages 2-6 yrs. Registration required. June 23, noon • Storytime & Craft: Find the Hero in All of Us. Grades PreK-3. June 30, 2 p.m. • Mayhem Masquerade. Dressing like your favorite villain is encouraged. July 11, 2 p.m. • Navy Week Concert by the Navy Band Brass Quintet. All ages welcome. July 21, 6:30 p.m. • Clara Barton: Patriot Angel. July 30, children’s event at 2 p.m., adults/families at 6:30 p.m.

Northport Branch 2714 N. Broadway, Fargo, 701-476-4026 or www.fargolibrary.org •E very Hero Has a Story! Summer Reading Program. Begins June 1 (See ad pg. 29) •U nmask! Teen Summer Reading Program. Begins June 1 •F riday Movie. Fridays (except July 3), 1 p.m. •C rafts for Teens. Registration required. June 4, 11, 18, 25, July 9, 16, 23, 2 p.m.

• Police Dog Visit with Officer George. For kids of all ages. June 17, 2 p.m. • Art with an Expert! Storytime and art project for ages 2-6 yrs. Registration required. June 23, 11 a.m. • Storytime & Craft: Find the Hero in All of Us. Grades PreK-3. June 30, 11 a.m. • Navy Week Concert by the Navy Band Brass Quintet. All ages welcome. July 22, 1 p.m.

Dr. James Carlson Library 2801 32nd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-476-4040 or www.fargolibrary.org • Every Hero Has a Story! Summer Reading Program. Begins June 1 (See ad pg. 29) • Unmask! Teen Summer Reading Program. Begins June 1 • Friday Movie. Fridays (except July 3), 1 p.m. • Super Hero Training Academy Kickoff. All ages. June 1, 10 a.m.-noon • Tea Time Book Club. June 1 & July 6, 6:30 p.m. • Crafts for Teens. Registration required. June 2, 9, 17, 23, July 7, 14, 22, 2 p.m. • Real Life Super Hero Technology Workshop. Grades PreK-3. June 3, 6:30 p.m. • Baby Rhyme Time. Lapsit storytime for babies (birth-18 mos). June 4 & 18, July 2 & 16, 10 a.m. • A Visit from the Red River Zoo. For kids of all ages. June 15, 6:30 p.m. • Search & Rescue Dogs. For kids of all ages. June 16, 11 a.m. • Police Dog Visit with Officer George. For kids of all ages. June 17, 11 a.m. • Our Own Fire Department. For kids of all ages. June 22, 11 a.m. • Art with an Expert! Storytime and art project for ages 2-6 yrs. Registration required. June 24, 6:30 p.m. • FM Ambulance Heroes. For schoolaged kids. June 29, 11 a.m. • Teen Movie: “The Hobbit: The Battle of Five Armies.” June 30, 2 p.m. • Storytime & Craft: Find the Hero in All of Us. Grades PreK-3. July 1, 11 a.m. • Paul Bunyan: Loggin’, Legends & Lore. July 16, 4 p.m. • Navy Week Concert by the Navy Band Brass Quintet. All ages welcome. July 21, 1 p.m.

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West Fargo Public Library 109 3rd St. E., West Fargo, 701-433-5460 or www.westfargolibrary.org • Every Hero Has a Story! Summer Reading Program. Registration open May 30-July 24 • Heroic Crafts! Registration required. Mondays, grades K-5 at 1:30-2:30 p.m., grades 5-8 at 3:30-4:30 p.m. • Children’s Simply Stories. Tuesdays, 10:15 a.m. • Children’s Storytime & Craft. For preschoolers and their caretakers. Tuesdays, 1:30-2 p.m. • Friday Morning Movies. Fridays, 10:30 a.m. • Read to a Therapy Dog. Call to sign up • Model Railroad Trains Demonstration. June 3 & 4, noon-9 p.m.; June 5, 10 a.m.-3 p.m. • Kids’ Garden Club. Registration required. June 10 & 24, July 8 & 22, 10:15 a.m. • Red River Valley Drawn to History. Presented by Steve Stark. All ages. June 11, 7 p.m. • New Release Movie. June 13, 2 p.m. • Afternoon Movie Showing. Open to all interested teens and adults. June 16, 1 p.m. • Hero Training! Superhero training academy. Registration required. June 18, 3 p.m. • Heroic Science! Presented by the Concordia Science Academy. Registration required. June 25, 3 p.m. • National Heroes! Make cards to thank veterans and those currently serving in the armed forces. All ages welcome. July 2, 3-4 p.m. • Legos & Board Games. Open to all ages. July 11, 1-3 p.m. • Magician Jeff Quinn. July 17, 2 p.m. • Heroic Dogs! Presentation on service dogs. July 23, 3 p.m. Moorhead Public Library 118 5th St. S., Moorhead, 218-233-7594 or www.larl.org • Open Computer Practice. Mondays, 2 p.m. • Storytime Plus. Stories, songs, poems, craft. Tuesdays, 6:30 p.m. • Baby Bounce. For infants-preschoolers and their caregivers. Thursdays, 10:15 a.m. • Origami Club. All ages and abilities welcome. June 1 & July 6, 6:30 p.m. • Classics Book Club. June 16 & July 21, 7 p.m. • Yarn Circle. Bring your knitting, crocheting, or needlework projects. Open to all ages and experience levels. June 25 & July 23, 6:30 p.m. • Lego Club. All ages and abilities welcome. June 11 & July 9, 6-8 p.m.; June 27 & July 25, 2-4 p.m.

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June/July 2015

Summer Reading Program Events • Drawing Party. June 3, 2 p.m. • MSUM’s Poco Fuego Steel Drum Quintet. June 10, 10 a.m. • Pet Show. June 17, 2 p.m. • Gooseberry Park Players. June 24, 2 p.m. • Christina Chen-Beyers. July 1, 2 p.m. • Zumba for Kids. July 8, 2 p.m. • FM Ballet. July 15, 2 p.m. • Kindermusik with Chacie. July 22, 2 p.m. • InspireLabs. July 29, 2 p.m.

CLASSES

Call for information. Pre-registration may be required. Essentia Health OB Education 3000 32nd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-364-8100 or www.essentiahealth.org • Basic Training for New Dads • Breastfeeding Class • Car Seat Safety • Lamaze • Mom’s Helpers • Tender Transitions Fargo Park District 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • Accelerated Artists • Artmania • Arts Sampler • Create & Explore • Penny & Pals Workshop FM Ambulance 701-364-1750 or www.fmambulance.com/education • BLAST Babysitting Course • CPR/AED & First Aid Fraser, Ltd. 2902 S. University Dr., Fargo, 701-232-3301 or www.fraserltd.org • Adult CPR/First Aid • Infant/Child CPR/First Aid Moorhead Parks & Recreation 218-299-5340 or www.moorheadparks.com Music-n-Play www.music-n-play.com • Sing-n-Sprout Parent/Child Music & Movement Class Parenting Resource Center 701-241-5700 or www.ag.ndsu.edu/ casscountyextension/home-and-family • Parents Forever Plains Art Museum 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-551-6100 or www.plainsart.org • Youth Art Experiences Red River Zoo 4255 23rd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-277-9240 or www.redriverzoo.org • Junior Zookeeper Leadership Program • Youth Camps Sanford Health Community Education 701-234-5570, 877-234-4240 or www.sanfordhealth.org

7.23 Summer Splash • Baby Signs • Baby’s First Ride • Better Choices, Better Health • Birth Basics • Birthing with Confidence • Breastfeeding Beginnings • Caring for Your Newborn • C.A.R.S. (Children & Restraint Systems) • Family & Friends CPR • Infant Massage • Labor Skills • Our Family is Having a Baby • Safe & Sound – Preparing Your Home for Baby Sky Zone Trampoline Park 940 40th St. S., Fargo, 701-478-8484 or www.skyzone.com/fargo • SkyCamp TNT Kid’s Fitness & Gymnastics 2800 Main Ave., Fargo, 701-365-8868 or www.tntkidsfitness.org • No Bummer Summer Weekly Camps U of M Extension 218-236-2001 or www.extension.umn. edu/ParentsForever • Parents Forever The Village Financial Resource Center 701-235-3328 or www.HelpWithMoney.org • Homebuyer Education • Tenant Education Trollwood Performing Arts School 801 50th Ave. SW, Moorhead, 218-477-6500 or www.trollwood.org • ArtSpark • Totally Trollwood Academy • Trollwood Academy

YMCA 701-293-9622, 701-281-0126 or www.ymcacassclay.org • Youth Camps & Summer Programs

MUSEUMS & EXHIBITS Call for additional information.

Cass County Historical Museum 1351 W. Main Ave., West Fargo, 701-282-2822 or www.bonanzaville.com The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or www.childrensmuseum-yunker.org Fargo Air Museum 1609 19th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-293-8043 or www.fargoairmuseum.org Historical & Cultural Society of Clay County Hjemkomst Center, 202 1st Ave. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5511 or www.hcscconline.org • FMVA BIG Art Show. Ends June 2 • Coming of Age: The 1968 Generation. Ends June 21 • Doing Our Part: Clay County in WWII Plains Art Museum 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-551-6100 or www.plainsart.org • Lauren Rose Kinney: Much of a Muchness. Ends June 13 • Julia Buffalohead: Coyote Dreams • Bakken Boom! Artists Respond to the North Dakota Oil Rush The Rourke Art Museum 521 Main Ave., Moorhead, 218-236-8861 or www.therourke.org

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YOUR FAMILY z parenting

Birds and Bees, Pretty Please!

An Age-By-Age Guide to “The Talk” —By Malia Jacobson—

If the thought of talking about sex with your kids makes you sweat bullets, you’re not alone. More than half of parents haven’t discussed sex with their preteen, according to research from the Kaiser Family Foundation. But, experts say, it’s not something you should skip. “If parents begin having age-appropriate, positive conversations with their child about sex and sexuality at a young age, they will create an atmosphere of open communication where their child can come to them with questions or concerns as they arise,” says Kathy M. Smith, Prevention/Education Director for Rape and Abuse Crisis Center in Fargo. Communication is key and parents’ opinions and advice have more impact than they realize, says Molly Secor-Turner, assistant professor at NDSU School of Nursing. “Parents are often named as the biggest influence on teens’ decisions about sex. Teens who report talking with their parents about sex are also more likely to delay sex, have fewer sexual partners, and to use contraceptives when they do have sex,” says Secor-Turner. Here’s how to approach the topic with your children, from preschool through the teen years.

0-6 Years: The basics

Though toddlers and preschoolers are too young for clinical descriptions or copious details, it’s never too early to begin preparing for a healthy understanding of sex. “Children this age are often curious about the differences between boys and girls. It’s helpful for parents to talk to their child about the differences,” says Smith. Beginning in toddlerhood, all children should learn the names of their body parts, including their genitals. “Many parents think it is ‘cute’ to have slang words for body parts, but it is so critical for the child’s safety that they use the correct terms,” says Mandy Bernardy, child and family therapist at The Village Family Service Center in Moorhead. 38

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“This allows for them to have a firm understanding of what teachers, grandparents, or daycare providers are talking about, and they can verbalize more effectively if there ever is any inappropriate touching occurring.” Children may begin to ask questions about where babies come from around age 5 or 6. This doesn’t need to be an anxiety-filled discussion; keep answers simple and straightforward, without going into too many specifics. There’s plenty of time for that later.

7-12 Years: Personality pointers

The best way to talk about sex depends on your child’s personality: Some kids are full of questions, while others specialize in squirming and eyerolling when parents go anywhere near the topic. Sean Brotherson, professor of human development and family science at NDSU, believes these are critical years for parents to pursue open, frequent communication with their children. “Put time into the relationship with kids at this age so you are ready and available to answer any questions a child might ask,” says Brotherson. Smith tells parents to talk with children as they ask questions instead of waiting for one big “talk” with them about sex and sexuality. “Children ages 7 to 12 are able to understand the basics of intercourse and, at this age, it’s also important to talk to them about the changes that occur [in their bodies] during puberty,” says Smith. Look for teachable moments. “Our society is full of messages about sex and sexuality on TV, in magazines, newspapers, etc.,” says Secor-Turner, “so using those instances to spark conversations can be more comfortable for kids, yet still allow you to convey valuable information and answer questions.” By age 12, children should know facts about conception, pregnancy, and birth; that sex is part of loving adult relationships and feels good; puberty-

related body changes; how to handle increasing feelings of attraction; the meaning of slang words and jokes; and their family’s social and moral values regarding sexual expression.

13-18 Years: Open platform

Sex is very much on the minds of most teens, says Susan Kuczmarski, author of “The Sacred Flight of the Teenager: A Parent’s Guide to Stepping Back and Letting Go.” Unfortunately, few adults initiate conversations about sex with their teens, but they should, says Kuczmarski. “The most important thing you can do is talk. This establishes openness between you and your teen on sex-related issues. You want your teen to feel comfortable coming to you to talk later, and the best way to ensure this future dialogue is to initiate it early yourself.” Can’t muster enough cool to bring it up? That’s OK, says Kuczmarski. “If you’re not comfortable talking about sex, fake it. Comfort will grow with frequency.”

The conversation at this age, according to Brotherson, needs to focus on relationships. “Guide your children to understand that sex occurs in the context of relationships and values, and encourage them to think about those things as part of the sexual experience. Help teens develop safe, caring relationships with others as a context for sex. No conversation on sex is more useful to teenagers than a dialogue about not just the “what” of sex, but more importantly, the values and choices that will inform their decisions about when, where, why, and with whom they choose to pursue a sexual relationship.” Conversations about sex, dating, love, desire, and even passion are best discussed casually and often. All of our experts agree, if you start talking to your children about sex at an early age, you’ll be more comfortable with the topic as they enter their teen years. However, if you didn’t get around to discussing it when they were young, Kuczmarski says, “There is no time like right now. So just start.” Malia Jacobson is a freelance writer and mother of three. She lives in the Pacific Northwest.

Helpful Resources for Adults, Children, and Teens Books for Adults

“ Talk to Me First: Everything You Need to Know to Become Your Kids’ ‘Go-To’ Person about Sex” by Deborah Roffman “For Goodness Sex: Changing the Way We Talk to Teens About Sexuality, Values, and Health” by Al Vernacchio “Why Do They Act That Way? A Survival Guide to the Adolescent Brain for You and Your Teen” by David Walsh, PhD

Books for Children

Ages 3 to 8: “It’s NOT the Stork!” by Robie Harris “What’s the Big Secret?: Talking about Sex with Girls and Boys” by Laurie Krasny Brown and Marc Brown “It’s MY Body: A Book to Teach Young Children How to Resist Uncomfortable Touch” by Lory Britain “The Bare Naked Book” by Kathy Stinson Ages 7 to 10: “It’s So Amazing” by Robie Harris Ages 10 and up: “It’s Perfectly Normal” by Robie Harris “What’s Happening to Me? (Boys Edition)” by Alex Firth “What’s Happening to Me? (Girls Edition)” by Susan Meredith Ages 12 and up: “Changing Bodies, Changing Lives: A Book for Teens on Sex and Relationships” by Ruth Bell Resource list courtesy of Katie Christensen, Community Education Programs Manager, Reach One Teach One North Dakota

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renuptial agreements have an image problem. We think they’re unromantic and, on that score, it’s hard to argue. However, other perceptions are not as accurate. Take these, for example: “A prenuptial agreement gets couples off to a rocky, unhealthy start.” “Prenuptial agreements usually involve one party taking advantage of the other. Prenups are almost always unfair.” “Such agreements usually involve deception and hidden assets.” “Only rich people want or need prenuptial agreements.” These are misleading observations. To understand, meet some people who should consider having a prenuptial agreement…and why:

3. People With Kids. Along those same lines, maybe this is your second marriage, and you have children from your first. Whether or not you’re “rich,” you probably want your kids to end up with whatever it is you’ve accumulated. Without an agreement in place, if you divorce your second spouse, those assets might well end up going to him or her. Then, in time, your assets will make their way to your new spouse’s children, not yours. Even if your second spouse has no desire to claim any portion of your premarital estate, your kids might still suspect it. Resentments might brew and fester. A prenuptial agreement might help keep family peace.

1. People Who Like to Control Their Own Affairs.

4. People Who Earn More Than Their Partner

You know the statistic, don’t you? Approximately half of all marriages end in divorce. That means, when a couple marries, the odds of their marriage surviving are the same as a coin flip. Most soon-to-marry couples might think not having a prenuptial agreement means there is no plan in place should they divorce. Not true. There is a plan in place. Unfortunately, it’s the state’s plan, based on the state’s sense of what is fair. As it turns out, in North Dakota, hardly anyone thinks the state’s approach makes sense. For example, in North Dakota, the estate that you inherited—or might someday inherit—is at risk of being distributed to your spouse (even if they are an ex-spouse).

5. People Who Earn Less Than Their Partner.

2. People Who Might Inherit Well. I’ll say it again. Though you may not have much now, maybe you stand to someday inherit a decent estate from your parents or other family members. Look out! Without a prenuptial agreement in place, that inheritance could be divided in your divorce. Unlike other states, North Dakota doesn’t protect inheritances and doesn’t require divorce courts to award those assets to the inheriting spouse. Minnesota does protect such assets, but not with 100 percent certainty. Is your son or daughter getting married soon? Do you want to make certain their partner doesn’t end up with all, or part of, the estate you leave behind? Then talk to them about the need for a prenuptial agreement.

Maybe you aren’t rich just yet. But it’s possible you have worked hard to be rich someday. If you are about to acquire a degree, or make a deal, or buy the next big thing, maybe you’d like to keep the fruits of your own labors should your marriage fail.

Do you intend to be a stay-at-home parent? Well, if your marriage fails in middle age, your partner will have spent all those years climbing corporate rungs and reaching upper income levels. In the meantime, you may

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have little more than an entry-level earning capacity. All those years you spend at home frees your spouse to increase his or her earning capacity. If the marital partnership ends, should only one partner end up with 100 percent of that “asset”? If so, your partner’s postdivorce net income will continue its upward arc. Yours may flat-line…or worse. A prenuptial agreement can provide essential protection.

6. People Who Own a Business. Without a prenuptial agreement, not only will your spouse likely be awarded half of what your income brought to the marital estate, but half of your ownership interest in the business, too (or its value). For example, do you make your living from the farm land and implements you own? Do you make money from any kind of self-employment assets? Well, if you divorce, you may need to “buy” those assets again. This time, though, your payments will be to your ex.

7. People Whose Partners Have Debts. Does your fiancé have student loans? High credit card balances? Outstanding 401K loans? Medical debts? Well, beware! In the event of a divorce, you might end up being responsible for those liabilities, too, in one way or another. A prenuptial agreement can help.

8. People Who Want Protection From Their Partner’s Unhealthy Behaviors. A surprising number of marriages fail due to mental health issues, often related to compulsive or addictive behaviors. Addictions can cost tens of thousands— for the habit itself, treatments, attorney’s fees, lost wages, criminal fines, and fees. A prenuptial agreement can keep your money safe if your partner engages in such unhealthy behaviors.

9. People Who Like to Go Into Things With Their Head Up. You have never entered into a relationship as important as this one. Shouldn’t it be preceded with some conversation—even agreement— about financial goals, obligations, and expectations? Will all of your income, and his, be deposited in one account? Or will you keep your respective earnings in separate accounts? Will your income be devoted to payment of household expenses, while hers is saved and invested? Do you have the same standard of living expectations? Have you talked about your monthly budget? Do you have net worth goals? Savings goals? Charitable giving desires? Does your partner share them? Even though having the “prenup talk” might be hard, it might well be one of the wisest, healthiest conversations you ever have.

10. People With Heirlooms. A prenuptial agreement invariably lists treasured assets and assures they remain with the person who brought them into the marriage. Make sure Grandma’s treasures, Mom’s jewelry, and Dad’s shotgun all stay with you.

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Divorces can be more expensive than you’d imagine. In this region, a middleclass couple’s divorce often involves $5,000 to $15,000 in fees, even when the case settles. If the couple can’t reach an agreement, and they press on to trial, those fees can exceed $50,000— sometimes for each spouse. Even their divorce lawyers often shake their heads, incredulously, at the parties’ stubborn folly. Well, here’s a secret. Cases whose outcomes are predictable do not go to trial! After all, who would spend tens of thousands of dollars to find out how a judge will divide their estate when they already know the answer? In other words, prenuptial agreements can go a long way to making divorce more peaceful, more predictable, and more affordable.

12. Rich People. OK, OK. Yes. If you are wealthier than your partner, you should definitely have a prenuptial agreement. You like your money and other assets, don’t you? You want to keep them, right? Enough said.

What Can’t a Prenuptial Agreement Do? Prenuptial agreements anticipate, essentially, two concerns: (1) How to contend with financial issues as part of a divorce; and (2) How to distribute assets in the event of a spouse’s death. There are, however, issues that are beyond the influence of a prenuptial agreement, things it cannot do. For example, spouses-to-be cannot pre-decide who will take custody of children in the event of divorce. Likewise, they can’t decide the shape, scope, and conditions of the other’s visitation. The Court retains authority to make final decisions about such matters, and a marrying couple cannot, by agreement, remove it. Likewise, a couple can’t use their prenuptial agreement to establish child support amounts in advance or to waive that obligation entirely. Our law requires child support to be set according to specific guidelines and to change to specific amounts when the parties’ income changes. Parties cannot agree to terms different than the state’s.

Basic Requirements So, how do you craft an enforceable prenuptial agreement? What must be done so it will survive a challenge when the time comes?

Here are the basic requirements: 1. The agreement must be in writing, appropriately signed by both parties. 2. The parties must enter the agreement voluntarily. For example, the agreement should be signed well before the wedding to avoid the appearance of a coerced last-minute signing (leveraged by the possible embarrassment of a cancelled ceremony). 3. The agreement cannot be “unconscionable” (lawyer lingo for really, really unfair). 4. The parties must make full disclosure of their assets, debts, and income. 5. The parties should be represented and advised by separate lawyers. 6. The parties should then follow the terms of their agreement during their marriage. For example, if the agreement says they’ll deposit their income in separate accounts, describes bill-paying methods, and investment or saving approaches, the parties should follow their agreement. Again, this is pretty important stuff— too important to leave to a one-size-fitsall online form, or to any old lawyer. You want your agreement to contend properly with your circumstances. That means working with a qualified family law attorney, familiar with divorce and estate-planning considerations. Congratulations and best wishes for a long and happy marriage! But consider a prenuptial agreement…just in case. Mike Gjesdahl is the owner of Gjesdahl Law, P.C., a seven-lawyer Fargo firm, devoted exclusively to serving families.

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Having a fun and safe summer with your kids

When summer arrives, so do more opportunities for outdoor fun. From swimming at the lake to rollerblading around the neighborhood, you and your children have endless options for activity. And to make sure your family is safe while you’re out there embracing the sun, Sanford Children’s Elizabeth Oestreich, the Child Injury Prevention coordinator at Safe Kids Fargo/Moorhead and the Sanford Safety Shoppe, has some easy-to-follow safety tips for all your summer fun. Swimming • Active supervision: Always know where your children are when you are near open water. Give them your undivided attention. • Education: Enroll your kids in swimming lessons when they are ready. • Know the area: If you are at a lake or river, be sure you are in a designated swimming area. Currents can easily change the bottom of the river. So where the water was only a few feet deep yesterday, could be over your child’s head the next. • Buddy system: Never let your children swim alone. Make sure there is always someone in the water with them. • Learn CPR: If the worst should happen, be prepared by taking a CPR course. Playgrounds • Active supervision: You might be tempted to sit on the bench, but playing with your kids is the best way to make sure they are safe. • Good manners: Teach your kids good playground etiquette. Accidents can quickly happen if children begin pushing or don’t wait for their turn. • Appropriately dressed: Make sure kids aren’t wearing anything that could catch on the equipment like necklaces, hood strings or backpacks. And while you might be tempted to leave their helmets on in case they fall, the chinstraps pose

a serious choking hazard. • No food allowed: Kids should not have gum or candy while playing. • Check the area: Since playgrounds are public areas, it might be a good idea to do a quick check of the area for broken glass or anything else that might be a danger. Wheeled Sports • Helmets: Whether they are on bikes or rollerblades, kids should always have a proper fitting helmet. And be a role model by wearing your helmet whenever you join them. • Safety equipment: When your children are learning to ride, fit them with the proper knee and elbow pads to decrease those cuts and bruises. • Be bright: Have your children wear bright colored or reflective clothing while they are out so drivers can easily see them. • Crossing the street: Instruct your children to get off their bikes, look both ways and walk their bikes across the street at a crosswalk. • Eye contact: Drivers aren’t always paying attention to their

surroundings, so teach your children to make eye contact with drivers so they know it is safe to cross. If you have any questions about summer safety or would like more information, call (701) 234-7233 or visit the Sanford Safety Shoppe at 601 39th St. N., in Fargo Tuesday 11 a.m. to 7 p.m. or Thursday 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. The Perfect Fit Choosing the right helmet for your child • Eyes: It should sit about one to two fingers above the eyebrows. When it’s on, look up. You should see the bottom rim of the helmet. • Ears: The straps should be snug but comfortable. They should form a “V” under the ears when buckled. • Mouth: Open your mouth as wide as you can. The helmet should hug your head. The Sanford Safety Shoppe offers a wide selection of sizes of bike helmets for only $10. Plus, they can fit it for you for free.

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glass etching

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The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. —Eleanor Roosevelt.

Never follow anyone else’s path, unless you’re in the woods and you’re lost and you see a path and by all means you should follow that. —Ellen Degeneres

It is only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on Earth and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it were the only one we had.

It wasn’t until quite late in life that I discovered how easy it is to say, “I don't know.” —W. Somerset Maugham

Life affords no greater responsibility, no greater privilege, than the raising of the next generation. —C. Everett Koop, M.D.

Life seems to be divided into two periods: in the first we indulge, in the second we preach.

—Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

—Will Durant

You grow up the day you have your first real laugh—at yourself. —Ethel Barrymore

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Let’s play! Playground Safety Nothing is more exciting to a kid than a great playground, however, it’s important to remember these safety tips: • Check playgrounds for age-appropriate equipment. • Check for playground hazards before use. • Actively supervise children. • Do not play on non-impact absorbing surfaces like concrete or grass. • Remember the “1 foot per year rule”. For example, a 3-year-old shouldn’t be on equipment higher than 3 feet off the ground. • Before using any playground equipment, remove: – Bike helmets – Necklaces – Clothing with hoods or drawstrings 032002-00056 4/15

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