LIFE's Vintage Magazine - February 2025

February 2025

Features

20 Decades of Devotion

What makes love endure? Meet couples whose love has lasted decades and another pair who found love later in life.

BY JOEY MECHELLE FARQU É

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Socializing Made Simple

Connecting with others isn’t just fun; it’s good for our health. If you struggle to make new friendships, we’ve got some ideas for you!

BY KAREN SZABO

Winter Weather Energy-Saving Tips From Public Service Company of Oklahoma

If one of the challenges of winter weather includes managing your utility costs, check out these money-saving tips from the experts.

BY MATT RAHN

There’s no place like home! Learn what small additions to your living space can make a big difference to your mood.

BY JULIE WENGER WATSON

Unlock the possibilities for companionship and romance with this guide to help you safely and successfully explore the world of online dating.

BY KATE HOLLOWAY

Eileen Bradshaw

President and CEO

LIFE Senior Services, LIFE PACE, Vintage Housing

eileen.bradshaw@LIFEseniorservices.org

Letter From Eileen

Dear Vintage Reader,

Happy Valentine’s Day! I know the celebration has its detractors, but I still love Valentine’s Day whether it is a Hallmark holiday or not. My love of Valentine’s Day goes back to childhood. Times were much simpler back then and things like homeroom parties were highly anticipated. The ritual of decorating the white paper sacks started two weeks before the big day. We were allotted about 15 minutes each day to beautify our bags, resulting in glitter, glue, marker, and crayon creations of spectacularly unrecognizable — but romantic — forms.

(918) 664-9000 LIFEseniorservices.org

Decorating the bags was simple compared to selecting the actual paper Valentines to be shared with classmates. I specifically recall my fourth-grade Valentine’s party prep. Madly enamored with a classmate named Chris (last name withheld in case he is a Vintage reader), listening to a Donny Osmond album on repeat, I agonized over which design to tuck into his bag. The one featuring barbells and a mustached strong man image, proclaiming “I cannot ‘weight’ much longer: be my Valentine?” Or the more subtle, sophisticated one, featuring a heart wearing a cape, with the tagline, “I think you are super!” I apparently chose the wrong one for my beloved, as he gave a girl named Tina a Valentine featuring a cute puppy with a TOOTSIE POP GLUED ONTO THE CARD. Oh, the heartbreak!

I did not allow myself to become hardened and bitter, despite my fourth-grade disappointment. Since that ill-fated party, I have enjoyed helping my children with their holiday parties. My father hand-delivered a greeting card to me every year until he died. My sweet husband has never abandoned observing the day, though I am sure it gets more difficult to be creative this long into our marriage.

The world needs more love — I think we can all agree on that, so a day devoted to celebrating its mere existence has got to be positive. Share the love this Valentine’s Day, whether it is love for a spouse, your children or grandchildren, your sister, your friends, your pet, or all of the above. Share those thoughtful messages — we all need to hear them. If you are using a written Valentine to express your devotion, for goodness sake, attach a Tootsie Pop!

With love from me and my fellow Vintage Valentines,

Vol. 39, No. 8

EILEEN BRADSHAW

President & CEO of LIFE Senior Services, LIFE PACE & Vintage Housing

DEE DUREN

Managing Editor dduren@LIFEseniorservices.org

BERNIE DORNBLASER

Advertising Director bdornblaser@LIFEseniorservices.org

LEAH WEIGLE Graphic Designer

JULIE ALEXANDER

Assistant Editor

jalexander@LIFEseniorservices.org

CAROL CARTER

Copy Editor

KELLY KIRCHHOFF

Communications Director

STAN DIACON

Community Distribution

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Good to Know /

By Julie Alexander, Assistant Editor

I Can’t Workshops

Think you can’t do something? Think again. The Center for Creativity is holding “I Can’t” workshops beginning in February. Learn to sculpt, paint, tell a story, dance, and more at the Thomas K. McKeon Center for Creativity, 910 S. Boston Ave. These workshops are free and all supplies are provided. Sponsored by Tulsa Community College, participants can choose to attend the classes in person or watch online. Step outside your comfort zone and try something new. Two different classes are held each Saturday from 10 to 10:45 a.m. and 11 to 11:45 a.m. Partner groups like Living Arts, Philbrook Museum, and WaterWorks Art Center teach the classes. For a complete schedule of what’s available and to register, visit tulsacc.edu/ about-tcc/events. For more information, email cindy.barton@tulsacc.edu.

I Can’t Workshops

Thomas K. McKeon Center for Creativity 910 S. Boston Ave., Tulsa Tulsacc.edu/about-tcc/events

Senior Tax Freeze Deadline Near

If you are a homeowner over the age of 65, you may qualify for a tax freeze on the value of your home. Seniors who want to apply for the program must do so before March 15. To participate, the homeowner must be head of household, and gross household income must not exceed the county limit ($86,600 in Tulsa County). The senior freeze does not block property tax increases but rather locks in the value of your home, which is one factor used to determine property taxes. Apply in person at the Tulsa County Assessor’s office at 218 W. 6th St., fifth floor, or download the form from the website and mail it back by the deadline. Visit the assessor’s office website for more information or to download the form.

Senior Tax Freeze

Through March 15

218 W. 6th St., Tulsa (918) 596-5100 assessor.tulsacounty.org/exemption/ seniorfreeze

Friday Night Opry Band

If you’re ready for fun on a Friday night, head out to St. Mark’s United Methodist Church for toe-tapping tunes with the Friday Night Opry Band. From rock and roll to country and gospel, the Friday Night Opry Band has entertained folks for years. Band co-leaders Darline Hart and Bob Plumlee along with Doug Simpson, Saylor Ross, and Chuck Norman, offer up a selection of country tunes the first and second Fridays of the month, ’50s rock and roll the third Friday, and a mix of country and gospel on the fourth Friday. The band hosts guest players Jerry Smoot and Randy Bailey, Kirwin Scott, and John Buffington. Every fourth Friday of the month the group holds a potluck dinner for a donation, and the concert is $7.

Friday Night Opry Band at St. Mark’s United Methodist Church

6:45 p.m. • Friday nights 10513 E. Admiral Pl., Tulsa

Heritage and History Festival

The Black Wall Street Market and The Terence Crutcher Foundation are holding the 12th Annual Black Wall Street Heritage and History Festival on February 1. The event will be take place at the Historic Big 10 Ballroom, 1624 E. Apache St., and will honor the role Black mothers have played in shaping communities and Black history. Events include a soul food showdown, live music, food trucks, vendors, dancing, drumming, prizes, and more. Dr. Art S. Williams is the guest speaker. Proceeds from the event will help fund the Community Pride School children’s garden to encourage children to grow their own food. Tickets are $10 at the door or available by calling (918) 770-6020.

Black Wall Street Heritage and History Festival

Saturday, February 1

11 a.m. – 6 p.m.

Historic Big 10 Ballroom 1624 E. Apache St., Tulsa

Neil McDowell (left) and Gary Hutchins enjoy an evening of live music with the Friday Night Opry Band at St. Mark's United Methodist Church.

Photo courtesy of Friday Night Opry

LIFElong Learning & Activities /

By Carrie Clevenger, Senior Center Director

LIFE EDU

LIFE Senior Services Community Education

All classes are at Legacy Plaza East Conference Center, 5330 E. 31st St. in Tulsa, unless otherwise noted.

Community Education

Our Wondrous Heart

Tuesday, February 18 • 10 – 11 a.m.

Dr. Ken Piper will be back with us to talk about how the heart functions and what we can do to keep it healthy. We’ll also discuss problems of the heart that are most common as we age. Bring your questions and concerns about heart attacks, atrial fibrillation, and heart failure. Register now!

Basics of Medicare

Wednesday, February 19 • 10 a.m. – 12 p.m.

This class is designed specifically for those newly eligible or soon-to-be eligible for Medicare. We will cover the basics of Medicare and what you need to know to make an informed decision about your coverage options. Reservations are required and can be made by calling LIFE’s Medicare Assistance Program at (918) 664-9000, ext. 1189.

Explore the World of Online Dating with Rita Brumm

Friday, February 21 • 2 – 3 p.m.

LIFE’s Active Senior Center at Roma Berry 4821 S. 72nd E. Ave., Tulsa

OR

Explore the World of Online Dating with Joey Mechelle Farqué

Tuesday, February 25 • 2 – 3 p.m.

Legacy Plaza East Conference Center 5330 E. 31st St., Tulsa

Join us for a fun and informative seminar about online dating. Learn to create genuine profiles, navigate dos and don’ts, and spot red flags. Whether you are looking for friendship or romance, don’t miss this opportunity to unlock the exciting possibilities of the digital dating world! Stay after the February 21 seminar for a free Mocktail Mixer, or stay after the February 25 seminar and have free headshots taken for your profile. Registration is required.

Heartfelt Connections

Celebrate Friendship and Community at LIFE’s Active Senior Center

February is often called the month of love. It’s a time when we’re surrounded by images of happy couples, red hearts, and mountains of chocolates. For many, Valentine’s Day is a cherished tradition celebrating romantic love. But what about those who are single? Is there space for them in this season of love? Let’s rethink how we approach these celebrations, shall we?

Loneliness and isolation are significant challenges, especially for seniors, and being surrounded by symbols of romance can amplify feelings of exclusion. But this year, let’s expand the idea of love beyond romantic relationships. At LIFE’s Active Senior Center, love takes on many forms — through shared experiences, meaningful connections, and the joy of community.

Every day, members come together to play cards, enjoy pickleball, line dance, and engage in activities that foster relationships. With a full calendar of events, there’s truly something

for everyone. Many members have shared how these connections have led to deep, lifechanging friendships — some even describe them as lifesaving. That, in itself, is worth celebrating!

With such a diverse group of individuals, each bringing unique interests and life experiences, the opportunities to form lasting, fulfilling relationships are endless. These friendships can reignite a passion for life and redefine what love looks like during this stage of life. As social beings, we all need community whether it’s a large, vibrant group or an intimate circle of close friends. Whatever your preference, participating in activities at the Active Senior Center at Roma Berry can help you build those connections, find companionship, and perhaps even discover romance.

So, this February, let’s celebrate love in all its forms — friendship, community, and the bonds that make life richer and more meaningful.

Become a Volunteer Get Involved Volunteer for LIFE /

Tulsa International Airport

Become an Airport Ambassador and assist passengers and airport visitors as they travel to their next destination. Ambassadors are stationed at information desks in each baggage claim area and at the security checkpoint. Some Ambassadors roam the terminal helping passengers. They answer questions from people flying in and out of our airport from all over the world. There are over 130 Airport Ambassadors and opportunities to form friendships with fellow volunteers. Most shifts are four hours long. Uniforms are provided along with coffee and snacks while on duty. Parking is free while on and off duty. Communication and appreciation events are held throughout the year.

Emergency Infant Services (EIS)

EIS’s mission is to meet the basic needs of infants and children, through age 5, whose families are in crisis. Every family receives immediate help because a child in need cannot wait. EIS would love additional help in their clothing boutique area, playroom, and/ or as a family interviewer. You may also hold a baby or read to a toddler. EIS has additional warehouse volunteer opportunities like stocking shelves with diapers, wipes, and formula. Volunteers also can choose to sort non-monetary donations such as clothing and baby items. There is always plenty to do, and EIS would love your help!

Give 5

LIFE’s Give 5 program is enrolling participants for 2025 sessions. If you are interested in learning more about volunteer opportunities in Tulsa, consider signing up for Give 5. Each Give 5 cohort meets from 8:30 a.m. to 4 p.m. every Wednesday for five weeks. Participants enjoy engaging presentations from nonprofits and groups that are doing great things in our community with the help of volunteers. Participants then board LIFE’s bus to visit nonprofits and have a behind-the-scenes look at what volunteering with them is like. To enroll for the next session or a future session, visit lifeseniorservices.org/give5.

By Danielle Hill, Senior Volunteer Manager

Volunteering From the Heart Offering Support Where It Matters Most

While the act of volunteering calls upon those with caring hearts and a service-oriented mindset, some volunteer opportunities require a higher investment of the heart and emotions. As we enter the month known for hearts, commitment, and selflessness, let’s talk about three especially caring volunteer opportunities.

First, Tulsa CASA gives volunteers the ability to step into one of the most important roles of becoming an advocate for a child at a time of extreme vulnerability and need. Each CASA volunteer plays a pivotal role in the life of a child in the foster-care system, ensuring the child knows there is a trustworthy adult who will be there for them, even when everything else is uncertain. Volunteers provide guidance and support and advocate for the child’s best interests while the courts work to place them in a permanent, loving home that is right for them. Along the way, volunteers receive ample support and training.

Second, hospices such as Clarehouse and Porta Caeli House work tirelessly to ensure individuals nearing the end of life and their

family members feel loved and cared for. Hospice volunteers make a powerful difference by spending quality time with guests in their final days, by reading a book to them, sitting with them and keeping them company, brushing their hair, or assisting the care team in other ways. Volunteers also help by cooking meals for guests and keeping the outdoor spaces inviting and beautiful.

Third, Tulsa City-County Library’s adult literacy service offers volunteers the chance to change someone’s life for the better. So many things that people take for granted, like being able to read a bedtime story to a child or a prescription label, are not possible for adults who struggle with reading. Volunteer literacy tutors have the chance to give someone the gift that keeps giving for a lifetime by meeting weekly with an adult student to help them develop the literacy skills that make a full, healthy, and safe life possible. Prior teaching experience is not required to be a volunteer literacy tutor.

Would you like more information about volunteer opportunities?

To volunteer with these programs or to explore other volunteer options, contact Danielle at (918) 938-7635 or dhill@lifeseniorservices.org.

LIFE helps seniors find fulfilling volunteer opportunities throughout Northeastern Oklahoma. Contact LIFE’s Volunteer Department for more information.

Danielle

Hill LIFE Senior Services, Senior Volunteer Manager (918) 938-7635

A volunteer works with an English-language learner at Tulsa City-County Library.

Fabulous Flavors /

What is DASH?

A Heart-Healthy Nutrition Plan for Better Blood Pressure

America celebrates Heart Month each February, encouraging people to focus on their cardiovascular health. The eating plan called DASH (Dietary Approaches to Stop Hypertension) is a flexible and balanced hearthealthy nutrition therapy that can lower blood pressure and provide other health benefits. One focus of the plan is to reduce the amount of sodium in food and drink.

DASH recommends eating the right kind of fats and avoiding the unhealthy ones. Control of hypertension and changes in the types of fats you eat can reduce the chance that you will have a heart attack or stroke.

Where does dietary sodium come from? Salt is the major source. One teaspoon of salt has 2,300 mg of sodium. The limit for sodium for individuals with hypertension should be 1,500 mg – 2,300 mg

per day. Recommendations are to avoid adding salt to food at the table, try to limit its use in cooking, and avoid prepared foods that are high in sodium.

To find out how much sodium is in a food item, read the labels and follow the suggested serving size. Fresh fruits and vegetables and meats that are not smoked or cured will be lower in sodium. If you are purchasing canned food items look for those that are low-sodium or sodium-free.

Restaurant foods can be very high in sodium. Let the server know that you are looking for low-salt or nosalt choices. Some restaurants have special menus or will make food with less salt or no added salt.

Cleaning & Preparing ...

BLUEBERRIES

Blueberries, native to North America, are low in calories and a great source of vitamin C, potassium, and fiber. The fruit can help lower bad cholesterol levels (LDL), improve memory, and assist with hypertension, diabetes, and digestion. Choose plump, firm, dry berries with a dusty blue color and uniform size or buy them frozen. Store fresh berries in the refrigerator for up to two weeks.

Q: How do heart-healthy fats reduce the chance of heart attack or stroke?

A: Avoiding saturated and trans fats helps reduce plaque in blood vessels. Saturated fats are found in fatty meats, butter, whole milk products, and tropical oils like palm and coconut oil. Trans fats are found in hydrogenated oils, fried foods, crackers, and goods made with shortening or margarine. Instead, choose heart-healthy unsaturated fats from oils like olive, soybean, canola, sunflower, flaxseed, and soft margarine. Omega-3 fatty acids in cold-water fish such as salmon, tuna, and sardines are also good for the heart.

Have a burning question about food or nutrition? LIFE’s team of expert dietitians is here to help! Whether you’re looking for meal tips, debunking diet myths, or seeking personalized advice, we’ve got you covered. Get the expert answers you need to fuel your healthiest self! Ask

Your Nutrition Questions Answered!

BELL PEPPERS

Bell peppers help decrease inflammation, reduce disease risk, and improve immune and eye health. Low in calories, bell peppers provide potassium, fiber, and vitamins A and C. Choose firm, brightly colored peppers that are heavy for their size and have tight skin. Refrigerate in a plastic bag for use within five days. Green peppers change color as they ripen and turn yellow, orange, and red.

Blueberry Oatmeal Bars

Recipe courtesy of Well Plated

Ingredients:

• 1 cup rolled oats

• ¾ cup whole wheat flour or all-purpose flour

• ⅓ cup light brown sugar

• ½ teaspoon cinnamon

• ¼ teaspoon salt

• 6 tablespoons unsalted butter, melted

• 2 cups fresh blueberries, or about 10 ounces

• 1 teaspoon cornstarch

• 1 teaspoon freshly squeezed lemon juice

• 1 tablespoon granulated sugar, divided

Instructions:

1. Place a rack in the center of the oven and heat to 375 F. Line an 8x8inch baking pan with parchment paper so that the paper overhangs on two sides like handles.

2. In a medium bowl, combine oats, flour, brown sugar, cinnamon, and salt. Pour in the melted butter and stir until it forms clumps and the dry ingredients are evenly moistened. Set aside ½ cup of the crumble mixture, then press the rest into an even layer in the bottom of the prepared pan. Press in the crust firmly so that it holds together (you can also use the back of a measuring cup).

3. Scatter half of the blueberries over the crust. Sprinkle the cornstarch evenly, then sprinkle the lemon juice and ½ tablespoon granulated sugar. Scatter on the remaining berries, then the remaining ½ tablespoon sugar. Sprinkle the reserved crumbs on top. You will have some fruit showing through.

4. Bake the bars for 30 to 40 minutes, until the fruit is bubbling and the crumb topping looks golden. Place the pan on a wire rack to cool completely (you can speed this process along in the refrigerator).

5. Using the parchment paper handles, lift the bars from the pan. Slice, serve, and enjoy!

Bonus Content

For more recipes, go to our digital edition, found under the resources tab at LIFEseniorservices.org.

Sheet Pan Shrimp Fajitas with Bell Peppers

Recipe courtesy of No. 2 Pencils Recipes

Ingredients:

• 1 ½ pounds large shrimp peeled and deveined

• 1 yellow bell pepper, sliced thin

• 1 red bell pepper, sliced thin

• 1 orange bell pepper, sliced thin

• 1 small red onion, sliced thin (can be substituted with yellow or white onion)

• 1 ½ tablespoons extra virgin olive oil

• 1 teaspoon salt

• ¼ teaspoon ground black pepper

• 2 teaspoons chili powder

• ½ teaspoon garlic powder

• ½ teaspoon onion powder

• ½ teaspoon ground cumin

• ½ teaspoon smoked paprika

• 1 lime

• Fresh cilantro for garnish

• Corn tortillas, warmed

Instructions:

1. Preheat oven to 450 F.

2. In a large bowl, add thinly sliced bell peppers, onions, shrimp, olive oil, and seasonings. Toss to combine.

3. Spray a baking sheet with nonstick cooking spray.

4. Spread shrimp, bell peppers, and onion mixture on the baking sheet.

5. Cook mixture at 450 F for about 8 minutes. Switch the oven to the broil setting and cook for an additional 2 minutes or until the shrimp is cooked thoroughly.

6. Remove from oven and squeeze juice from fresh lime over fajita mixture. Top with fresh cilantro.

7. Serve in warm tortillas.

Health & Fitness

/By Dee Duren, Managing Editor

The Heart of the Matter Monitoring Your

Blood Pressure

Bonus Content

Go to the digital edition of this issue under the Resources tab at LIFEseniorservices.org to watch a video about taking your blood pressure at home.

“Regular monitoring helps detect early signs of complications, ensures medication efficacy, and allows for adjustments based on trends, improving overall cardiovascular and kidney health outcomes.”

– Neil Agrawal, MD, a cardiologist at the Saint Francis Heart and Vascular Institute

The heart is a hard-working muscle. The average human heart beats about 100,000 times each day and more than 2.5 billion times in a 70-year lifetime. Despite the heart’s incredible endurance, it remains vulnerable to the silent threat of high blood pressure.

High blood pressure, or hypertension, often has no noticeable symptoms but can lead to major health problems. Uncontrolled high blood pressure increases the risk of stroke, heart attack, heart failure, peripheral artery disease, atrial fibrillation, and chronic kidney disease, among other conditions.

Similarly, uncontrolled low blood pressure, or hypotension, can cause dizziness, fainting, shock, organ damage, and even increase the risk of dementia. Monitoring blood pressure levels is one of the most important health screenings you can do to safeguard your wellbeing. Understanding the risks underscores the importance of proper monitoring and management.

“Regular monitoring helps detect early signs of complications, ensures medication efficacy, and allows for adjustments based on trends, improving overall cardiovascular and kidney health outcomes,” said Neil Agrawal, MD, a cardiologist at the Saint Francis Heart and Vascular Institute.

Dr. Agrawal offers the following advice for monitoring your blood pressure.

Blood Pressure Categories

HOW OFTEN SHOULD I CHECK MY BLOOD PRESSURE?

There is no universal rule for how often you should check your blood pressure, but here are some general recommendations.

• At Home

Aim to check your BP a few times a week to establish trends. To ensure consistency, measure at the same time of day, such as in the morning or evening.

• Before a Doctor’s Visit

Monitor BP twice daily (morning and evening) for at least one week prior to your appointment. This provides a more accurate picture of your BP trends.

• At the Office

Blood pressure should be checked at every visit with your healthcare provider.

WHAT KIND OF MONITOR SHOULD I USE AT HOME?

• Automatic (Digital) Monitors

Widely recommended for their ease of use and reliable data. Look for arm-cuff devices as they are typically more accurate than wrist monitors.

• Manual Devices

Considered the most accurate but require training and assistance, making them less practical for most patients.

• Wearable or Cuffless Monitors

Emerging technology (e.g., smartwatches) still has variability in accuracy. These are not yet widely used for clinical diagnosis or management.

• Validated Devices

Choose a BP monitor validated by organizations like stridebp.org or validatebp.org.

TIPS FOR ACCURATE HOME BLOOD PRESSURE READINGS

• Preparation

Wait 30 minutes to take BP after smoking, caffeine, eating, taking certain medications, or exercise. Sit in a quiet room for 3 – 5 minutes to relax before taking your reading.

• Proper Positioning

Sit with your back supported, feet flat on the floor, and legs uncrossed. Rest your bare arm on a table at heart level.

• Technique

Take two measurements, one minute apart, and record the average. Avoid talking, moving, or other distractions during the measurement.

• Consistency

Use the same arm each time and measure at the same time of day.

OTHER CONSIDERATIONS

• Watch for Variations

Monitor for wide variations in BP throughout the day. Medications, hydration levels, or dietary choices (e.g. salty meals) can cause fluctuations.

• Stay Hydrated Maintain hydration by drinking at least 64 ounces of water daily, as dehydration can lead to low blood pressure.

• Communicate

Inform your doctor if your BP spikes in the morning or varies significantly with different medication brands or vendors.

Sources: American Heart Association, Centers for Disease Control and Prevention

Caregiver Tool Belt/

By Donna Mancini,

Take time to slow down and reflect on how you can do things differently or healthier this new year.

Self-Care Questions for Caregivers

Take Time to Focus on You!

When a new year arrives, people often talk about New Year’s resolutions. Resolutions may include ways to improve their health, lifestyle changes, goal setting, and relationship building. Come the month of February, however, conversations about resolutions start to dwindle. Busy schedules pull us away from our intentions or we get discouraged and think, “Why bother?” This may be especially true for those who are caregivers. Taking care of someone else while caring for yourself can be challenging.

Caregivers often experience waves of positive and negative feelings resulting from things they encountered the previous year and/or the uncertainty of tomorrow’s challenges. Caregivers may not always address their feelings or even know

what they are feeling throughout their day. Some ignore their feelings and tell themselves to “buck up” and “keep going.”

Some may have been taught that expressing feelings is a sign of weakness or taking time to feel is an act of selfishness. After all, the caregiver is not the one that is ill. Can you relate to this? Unfortunately, some of the teachings that caregivers have “inherited” are detrimental to their health.

PAY ATTENTION TO YOU

Throughout this year, strive to be more attentive to your needs and feelings. The caregiver role is often demanding and stressful. The complexities of your loved one’s illness, learning new strategies on how to best care for them, and the ongoing fears

Self-Care Questions

The following questions will help connect you to ways caregivers can empower themselves. Brainstorm ideas with family and friends. Seek guidance from professionals and mentors. Lean on your own intuition and discernment. As you lovingly and compassionately care for your loved one, show that same love and compassion to yourself.

1. PLANNING, GOAL SETTING, AND SELF-CARE

What can I do to keep myself in good health? What can I do physically, spiritually, and mentally that promotes self-care?

2. SELF-AWARENESS, REFLECTION, AND SAFETY

How can I build healthier boundaries in my life and with my loved one and family members? How can I better understand who I am and what I feel? Where is my safe place and who are my safe people? What brings me joy and comfort?

3. SUPPORT AND CONNECTION

Are there any other people I can include on my support plan? Seek out others who can help and plan in advance to ask for assistance.

4. ADVENTURE AND ENGAGEMENT

Is it possible to take my loved one on a trip? What kind of activities can we enjoy together? The answers will depend on your loved one’s capacity.

5. COMMUNITY AND RELATIONSHIP BUILDING

How can I have a stronger connection with my friends and family? Could connecting to a caregiver support group expand my support system? What types of support does my community offer?

of the unknown are a caregiver’s reality. When a family member becomes ill, caregivers work hard to educate themselves about the illness and learn how to engage in difficult conversations. They are constantly seeking ways to provide the best care for their loved one.

Caregivers get pulled in so many directions that is easy for them to lose focus on their sense of self. Take time to slow down and reflect on how you can do things differently or healthier this new year.

Tax Season Help

LIFE Senior Services Can Make Filing Your 2024 Taxes Simple

DID YOU KNOW?

TAX SEASON FACTS FOR 2024

Over 163 million Americans filed a tax return for 2023 — a 9% increase from 2022. Of those filers, 64% received refunds, averaging $3,138 each. Electronic filing was the most popular choice with 93% of returns filed online.

LIFE’S FREE TAX ASSISTANCE PROGRAM

Tax season is here, but filing doesn’t have to be stressful. If you are 60 or older with a total household income of $68,000 or less, LIFE’s Tax Assistance Program (TAP) is here to help. Last year, LIFE’s trusted IRS-certified and trained volunteer tax preparers filed 1,888 tax returns, 1,785 of those filed online. LIFE TAP is proud to offer this free, basic tax preparation service again this year.

SCHEDULE YOUR APPOINTMENT

Appointments will be available at LIFE’s Central office, 5950 E. 31st St. in Tulsa, from February 3 to April 14, Monday through Thursday. You can also schedule an appointment this year at the Roma Berry Center for Seniors, 4821 S. 72nd E. Ave. in Tulsa, on Fridays from February 7 until April 11. Appointments are required, and can be scheduled by calling LIFE at (918) 9387683.

WHAT TO BRING TO YOUR APPOINTMENT:

Bring the following documents to your appointment to make the process go smoothly. And remember, if you are married and filing a joint return, both spouses must be present to sign the required forms.

• Valid photo identification (state issued photo ID, school ID, Military ID, VISA or passport)

• Social Security cards for you, your spouse, and dependents

• An Individual Taxpayer Identification Number (ITIN) assignment letter may be substituted if you do not have a Social Security number

• Printed wage and earning statements (forms W-2, W-2G, 1099-R, 1099-Misc., etc.) from all employers

• Printed pension income, and any IRA Distributions (forms 1099-R; RRB-1099, CSA-1099)

• Social Security Statement (form SSA 1099)

• Interest and dividend statements from banks (form 1099)

• State Tax Refunds (form 1099-G)

• Copy of last year’s federal and state returns

• Proof of bank account routing and account numbers for direct deposit, such as a check

• Health Insurance Exemption Certificate, if received

• Health coverage statements (forms 1095-A, B, and C) or Marketplace Insurance (form 1095-A)

• Tax Payor Personal Identification Number (PIN) given to you by the IRS

LIFE’s Medicare Assistance

Real Savings for You

During Medicare’s Open Enrollment Period, LIFE’S Medicare Assistance Program (MAP) helped more than 1,097 beneficiaries review their 2025 prescription drug plans and Advantage plans. MAP volunteers saved these beneficiaries over $2.5 million.

If you have questions about Medicare or would like to attend one of LIFE’s free seminars, contact us at (918) 938-7683.

Decades of Devotion

The Heart & Soul of Enduring Love

BY JOEY MECHELLE FARQUÉ

Love isn’t bound by age or time, it’s a gift that can be found and nurtured at any stage of life.

They say love makes the world go around, but for couples like Jan and Charles “Bud” Hillhouse and Betty and Bill Barlow, love has been the steady rhythm that anchors their lives. As we enter February, the traditional month of love, these couples remind us that, for some, every season is the season of love. Their stories reflect the beauty of commitment and the joy of building a life together, through decades of change, growth, and milestones.

According to research from AARP, long-term couples often cite shared values, mutual respect, and the ability to adapt as the foundation for their enduring relationships. Jan and Bud and Betty and Bill exemplify this beautifully, demonstrating how love evolves and deepens over time.

From a proposal at Tulsa’s Swan Lake to decades of family-filled celebrations, these couples show that love isn’t just about romantic gestures but also about navigating everyday life together. Learning about their journeys and uncovering the secrets behind their long and happy marriages has been a treat.

Bill and Betty Barlow fell in love at first sight at a McAlester movie theater. They made some of their fondest memories at a Kiowa dance hall and celebrated their 70th anniversary by doing the jitterbug.

THE EARLY YEARS How did you meet?

JAN HILLHOUSE: We met in March 1966 when Bud came back from National Guard summer camp. He was visiting a friend who lived across the hall from me in our apartment building. When I first saw him unloading his car, I thought, “Golly, he’s tall … and so skinny!” We started dating in May and were married by August. My mom said, “This will never work, you’ve only known him for three months!” But here we are 58 years later.

BETTY BARLOW: Bill went to the McAlester movie theater looking for a girl he liked who just happened to be my friend and coworker. Instead, he met me, and it was love at first sight! We danced the nights away at the local dance hall in Kiowa, where we made some of our fondest memories. Even on our 70th anniversary, we celebrated by doing the jitterbug, just like in the 1940s.

THE HEART OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP

What do you admire most about your spouse?

JAN: Bud is a great father, a wonderful husband, and a leader for our family.

These stories show that lasting relationships are built on trust, shared interests, and unwavering commitment.

BUD: Jan is a loving wife, mother, and Nana. She keeps our family grounded and whole.

BETTY: Bill’s work ethic and the way he leads our family with love and strength inspire me.

BILL: Betty’s dedication to taking care of me and our family is something I’ve admired every day of our lives together.

DECADES OF DEVOTION, continued on page 22.

How are you alike, and how are you different?

JAN: We share a deep love for our family — our kids, grandkids, and great-grandkids are the center of our lives. But we’re different in our interests. Bud loves watching baseball and ball games, while I sneak off to watch true crime and Lifetime movies in the other room.

BETTY AND BILL: We’re united by our family values, but our upbringings were very different. Respecting those differences has been key to our relationship.

NAVIGATING LIFE’S CHALLENGES

How have you weathered challenges in your relationship?

BUD: Our faith has been the foundation that’s carried us through every storm. We’ve relied on it many times, and it’s brought us closer together.

BILL: Respect and love have always guided us. We’ve faced ups and downs, but we always come back to those core principles.

Did becoming parents or grandparents change your relationship?

JAN: Becoming parents made our bond stronger. It brought a new depth to our love as we worked together to raise our two children, Matt and Katrina. Now, with seven granddaughters and

six great-grandkids, our lives are filled with milestones: birthdays, graduations, weddings. Recently, we welcomed another great-grandchild, and it’s been such a joy to see our family grow.

BETTY: Parenthood was the best thing we ever did. It gave our lives purpose and meaning. And being grandparents has been even more fun. We get to celebrate so many exciting moments, like first cars and college acceptances, all over again.

CELEBRATING THE JOURNEY

How do you celebrate anniversaries and milestones?

JAN: For our 50th anniversary, we took a cruise with our daughter and her husband — it was their first anniversary, too! Most years, we keep it simple and go out for dinner, but the real joy is having our family around us.

BETTY: Family is at the heart of every celebration. We mark birthdays, graduations, anniversaries, you name it, by gathering everyone together for the day.

Do you have any funny or memorable wedding stories?

JAN: Oh, yes! A friend offered to take our wedding photos as a gift, but every single picture he took cut off Bud’s head because he’s so tall. So, we have hardly any wedding pictures!

BETTY: Our wedding was filled with laughter and dancing. It was a celebration of young love, surrounded by our closest friends.

REFLECTING ON TODAY

What do you treasure most about your partnership today?

JAN: We love doing things together, whether it’s watching our grandkids play sports or cheering on the Cardinals. But what we treasure and love most is the family we’ve built.

BETTY: The family we’ve created is our greatest joy. We’ve built a life filled with love, laughter, and shared memories that we’ll always treasure.

What’s one piece of advice about love or marriage that you’ve shared with your children and grandchildren?

BUD: Trust each other, and trust God. Those are the two most important things for a lasting marriage.

BETTY AND BILL: Always love and respect one another.

Love isn’t bound by age or time, it’s a gift that can be found and nurtured at any stage of life. Whether it’s a decades-long partnership like Jan and Bud’s or Betty and Bill’s, or a new connection waiting just around the corner, love reminds us of life’s joy and endless possibilities. These stories show that lasting relationships are built on trust, shared interests, and unwavering commitment. Seniors searching for love, take heart: there’s always room for more laughter, companionship, and moments that make your heart full. Because no matter where you are in life, love has a way of finding you when you least expect it.

Celebrating 58 Years

Bud and Jan Hillhouse met in March 1966 and were married three months later. The couple now has two children, seven grandchildren, and six great-grandkids.

A Second Chance for Love

How A Storm Brought Two Tulsans Together

“Don’t be afraid to take a chance but be cautious. Meet in public and get to know their family. You might miss out on the biggest blessing of your life if you don’t take a leap.”

-Martha Ann Gossman Hughes

Who knew a simple receipt could hold the start of something so extraordinary?

Martha Ann Gossmann Hughes never imagined that, at 80, she’d find love again. After 32 joyful years with her late husband, her fulfillment now came through her faith and family. Yet, despite a busy life, the evenings were lonely. She never expected love to find her again — especially not in the middle of a summer storm that left much of Tulsa without power.

That stormy Father’s Day morning in June 2023, Martha’s visiting niece insisted on breakfast at Braum’s. Martha reluctantly went out, and while waiting at the busy restaurant, she noticed an older man sitting alone. On a whim, she stopped and said, “Hello. Was that a good breakfast?”

The man, Sidney Hughes Jr., a 90-year-old Air Force veteran and widower, looked up and smiled warmly. Their conversation began with small talk and quickly moved into shared experiences of loss and the faith that carried them through. Sidney had been married for 67 years, the last six spent as his wife’s caregiver before her passing. Martha shared memories of her late husband, with whom she had built a fulfilling life for over 32 years.

Amid their conversation, Sidney looked her in the eye and said, “You are so pretty.” Martha laughed, thinking he must not see well given her (self-proclaimed) disheveled appearance. Yet his words stuck with her, and when he asked for her phone number, she hesitated before writing it down on the back of his breakfast receipt.

AN OLD-FASHIONED COURTSHIP

Sidney wasted no time. By that evening, he was sitting on Martha’s couch, charming her family with sincerity and warmth. Over the next few weeks, their connection deepened. Sidney visited often, and their evenings were filled with laughter, conversations about their lives, and a mutual love for classic country music.

Sidney’s determination was clear from the start. “You’re the one for me,” he told her repeatedly. Though Martha initially laughed off his marriage proposals, she couldn’t help but be moved by his persistence.

One pivotal moment came during a lunch date, where Martha asked him two pointed questions: Was he a believer, and did he ever cheat on his wife? Sidney’s heartfelt answers — yes to faith, a vehement no to infidelity — helped solidify her trust.

A LOVE WORTH TAKING A CHANCE ON

By late July, Martha realized she was falling in love. On August 8, 2023, in a simple ceremony at Eastland Assembly Church, the couple exchanged vows and started a new chapter in their lives.

Today, at 82 and 91, Sidney and Martha share a life focused on companionship, mutual respect, and love. Their days start with Martha enjoying her quiet mornings while Sidney sleeps in. “It’s perfect,” Martha said. “I have my time, and we come together for breakfast and the rest of our day.”

For Martha, the greatest reward is no longer feeling lonely. “It’s the little things,” she said. “Having someone hold your hand, share a laugh, or tell you they love you is a blessing I never expected.”

FAITH, FAMILY, AND SECOND CHANCES

“If even one thing that day had been different — a storm that hadn’t come, a niece who didn’t insist on Braum’s, a table that wasn’t near the entrance, we wouldn’t have met,” Martha reflected. “I know the good Lord saw two lonely people and wanted to bring us together.”

Their families, initially cautious, have since embraced the relationship. “Seeing how happy we are made all the difference,” Martha said. The couple has even blended Christmas traditions and enjoys spending time with their grown children and grandchildren, though their focus remains on each other.

Martha’s advice is simple: “Don’t be afraid to take a chance but be cautious. Meet in public and get to know their family. You might miss out on the biggest blessing of your life if you don’t take a leap.”

Sidney often calls her “Darling Martha Ann” or “Wonderful Wife (WW for short),” while she affectionately calls him “Sweetheart Sidney.” Their love is a reminder that even late in life, there’s room for connection, joy, and the possibility of a beautiful second act.

For Martha and Sidney, love isn’t about starting over. It’s about savoring every moment they have left. They know they’ve found something truly special: a love worth waiting for.

Who knew a simple receipt could hold the start of something so extraordinary?

Socializing Simple Made

BY KAREN SZABO

Making new friends as an older adult can feel daunting. Many people struggle to find meaningful connections as they age, especially after a life change like retirement or the loss of a spouse.

As we get older we often find ourselves spending more time alone, but to age well we need to be with other people. Social connections are a must to not only survive — but to thrive; they benefit our physical and mental well-being.

But … where? Gone are the days of meeting new people at work, through our kids’ school activities, or at community events tied to family or married life.

Carrie Clevenger, director of LIFE's Active Senior Center, says that finding friends after 55 is a lot like dating. “Where do you

start? Where do adults hang out?” she asked. The truth is, there are numerous opportunities to connect, learn, and grow — all you have to do is take that first step. LIFE Senior Services’ Active Senior Center at Roma Berry is a vibrant, welcoming space where people of all ages, interests, and personalities can find their community.

“You’ll find your group — or they’ll find you,” Clevenger says. “That first step is, literally, the first step inside our door. It might initially feel uncomfortable, but once you make the move, you’ll be greeted with a friendly face at the front desk, a tour of the center, and a warm welcome from our members. The beauty of older adults is we don’t have the time or energy to be anything but our authentic selves. Everyone is welcoming, so just be yourself.”

The center’s monthly calendar is filled with activities: pickleball, creative writing, classes in yoga and barre, harmonica and guitar, art and textile workshops, as well as assorted games and social clubs to join.

In addition, LIFE has partnered with several community organizations to offer a variety of activities such as the annual Broadwaystyle senior musical theater production in conjunction with the Tulsa Performing Arts Center’s Orbit Arts. These performances are designed for all abilities to ensure that everyone can take part in a fun, inclusive, and creative experience. This year’s performance is “The Music Man.”

Humble Warrior Collective offers restorative yoga classes on Thursday at 5:30 p.m. at LIFE’s Active Senior Center campus. These gentle, accessible classes focus on stress management, boosting mental health, and promoting relaxation, making them ideal for all skill and fitness levels. LIFE is also teaming up with Tulsa Parks & Recreation to host an indoor walking club, perfect for seniors to stay active and socialize.

There’s something for everyone to enjoy. The key, Clevenger says, is simply showing up. “Once people see everything going on, they want to get involved,” she said. “Just walk through the door and go from there.”

LIFE Senior Services also has a volunteer department that works one-on-one with older adults looking for a place to feel at home while contributing to the community. Learn more about volunteering on page 12.

Beyond the Senior Center

While LIFE Senior Services offers a wealth of activities, there are many other ways to socialize and make new friends throughout the Tulsa area.

If you love to read, Magic City Books offers a wonderful opportunity to connect through their book clubs. Located in the store’s cozy Algonquin Room, these groups are a great way to stimulate your brain and make new friends. To join, simply register for one or more sessions on their website, magiccitybooks.com/book-clubs.

If you’re interested in the arts, WaterWorks Art Center offers an array of classes and workshops. Whether you want to paint, make pottery, or pursue other creative endeavors, their classes are an ideal way to meet others while honing your artistic skills. You can learn more at waterworksartcenter.com and enroll online at tulsaparks.recdesk.com or in person at WaterWorks Art Center.

Stay Gold Sessions at Philbrook Museum are a series of courses inspired by art and nature for adults ages 55+. Participants work directly with professional teaching artists to explore the intersection between art and nature while enjoying the kinship of creating art with others. For more information, check out their website at philbrook.org.

For those seeking intellectual stimulation, the Osher Lifelong Learning Institute (OLLI) at Oklahoma State University and the University of Oklahoma provides an exciting variety of non-credit classes in subjects like history, literature, technology, and more. Geared toward adults 50 and up, OLLI offers courses, travel, and social activities to enrich participants’ quality of life. It’s a great environment to learn something new and make new friends. Learn more at education. okstate.edu/outreach/osher-lifelong-learninginstitute and at ou.edu/pacs/olli.

For a more relaxed social atmosphere, consider joining Seniors (50+), a fun-loving group that meets at Golden Corral every Thursday at 11 a.m. to enjoy lunch, a chat, and card games. For more information, call Linda at (918) 955-9180.

Looking for fun from the comfort of your phone? There’s an app for that! MeetUp is a great tool for finding activities and local events from meditation to mahjong to movie screenings and more. Available on Apple or Google Play.

Friendship is Good for You

LIFE Senior Services is developing its very own app, set to launch in 2025, which will let you browse upcoming classes and activities at the senior center with just a tap.

Active Senior Center Director Carrie Clevenger points out the profound impact that social connections have on overall well-being. “According to the Surgeon General, loneliness and isolation are linked to an increased risk of cardiovascular disease, dementia, stroke, depression, and premature death,” she explained. “In fact, the loneliness and isolation are as detrimental as smoking up to 15 cigarettes a day, with risks even greater than those associated with obesity and physical inactivity.”

One of LIFE’s members shared that joining the senior center helped her rediscover meaning and happiness after the death of her husband. “It saved my life,” she said. “I found joy and purpose again.”

Socializing as a senior doesn’t have to be intimidating. With so many programs, classes, and events available in Tulsa, there’s no shortage of ways to connect with others — all you have to do is take that first step. Your next great friendship could be just around the corner.

By Kate Holloway

A Guide to Modern Romance Click, Chat, Spark

If you're looking for that special person, consider the world of online dating. These dos and don'ts will help set you up for success.

Single and ready to mingle? Life happens, and you’re suddenly solo again. Maybe there’s been a divorce, the passing of a longtime spouse, or the end of a close relationship. Even the more mature understand there is much of the future to be shared. At some point, you may be ready to seek a special relationship to begin this new chapter.

But where to start? In retirement, the contact list narrows from what it was on the job. There may or may not be connection opportunities through your church, family, friends, special interest groups, or even neighbors.

And then, ads appear on TV or supportive friends talk about internet dating sites. There are plenty of them out there. If you have a hobby, a sport, or even a hang-up, there’s a site to match your interests.

Dating sites can be a very effective way to meet that special person. Using today’s technology, interested parties fill out a questionnaire, upload a few pictures, and are electronically matched with people around town — or even across the country — with similar life goals, values, and pursuits. Two of my former employers found love again — and in their cases, marriage — and are happily still together today.

Whether looking for a potential mate, companionship, or a friend, approach the search with as much time and research as you would seeking a job. Think about it. Applications (to the website). Correspondence (with potential matches). Interviews (real dates). Like any business, these sites have scammers: people who claim to be looking for love but in reality are looking for methods to get your personal information or even your money.

Here’s a quick round-up of the steps to take to find a mate, running buddy, or friend.

SELECTING THE SITE

Shop around and choose a reputable site that fits your dating goals and interests. Read reviews from their clients and check their Better Business Bureau ratings. With over 2,500 sites available, there’s something for everyone. Check out the lesser-known sites: Purrsonals for cat lovers, Love 4 Dogs for dog lovers, Salad Match for healthy eaters, and even GlutenFree Singles. Heard of Sea Captain Date? Yes, there’s a site for that. Or, how about Farmers Only, or Miss Travel for those needing a travel companion? There are dozens more to be found by searching the internet.

DECIDING TO MEET

Talk online for weeks or months before agreeing to meet. Provide your own transportation to the first meeting at a public coffee house or restaurant. Keep the conversation upbeat and about the two of you, not past relationships. Arrive at least 20 minutes ahead so they don't know what you drive! NEVER leave at the same time they do. Let them go, wait 10 minutes or so before leaving, or have a friend pick you up. Don’t risk being followed. Let someone know the plan and location of your date or even take a friend who will dine in a different part of the meeting place. You can also plan for a friend or family member to send you a “rescue text” to provide an excuse to leave.

If there is a great connection, congratulations! Stay diligent and careful in the early months of the acquaintance. If it appears that this could be Mr. or Ms. Right there are apps to do background checks for a nominal fee. 1 4 5 2 3

YOUR PROFILE

There is no second chance for a first impression. Take the time to write an engaging, comprehensive profile that lets a prospective match know what’s important to you. Review theirs too. Post recent pictures. You don’t want to be a surprise at the first rendezvous. Nothing says “no second date” more than when a potential match can’t recognize you from your profile photos. Or, on the flip side, there may be a great affinity with someone on the site, then on the phone, only to have that verbal chemistry (along with the expectations of his or her appearance) disappear at the first meeting.

THEIR PROFILE

The longer and more specific their profile is, the better. It means they are serious about making a connection. If their idea of a great time is camping, hikes, and river rafting and yours are concerts, museums, and fine dining, this may not be a match. Profiles that are too general and share little information may be red flags. And check for SMILES! If their “snapshot” looks more like a mug shot, move on. I mean, if someone looks angry or depressed in their photo, what are they like in person? I’ve seen it multiple times. If the information isn’t specific enough, ask for more. If their every main “vital statistics” point is “I’ll tell you later,” a response of “See you later” may be in order.

FOLLOW-UP

If it becomes quickly apparent that this date has about as much appeal as a flat tire on a road trip, say goodbye and head for the door. You can also plan for a friend or family member to send you a “rescue text” to provide an excuse to leave.

Online Dating Seminars

Join us for a fun and engaging seminar with Rita Brumm or Joey Farque as we dive into the growing trend of online dating.

Friday, February 21 • 2 – 3 p.m. LIFE’s Active Senior Center at Roma Berry, 4821 S. 72nd E. Ave., Tulsa

Bonus: Enjoy free “mocktails” after the program!

Tuesday, February 25 • 2 – 3 p.m. Legacy Plaza East Conference Center 5330 E. 31st St., Tulsa

Bonus: Free headshots for profile pics!

Learn the ins and outs of online dating, including:

• Crafting a genuine and inviting profile

• Navigating dos and don’ts

• Spotting red flags to stay safe

Whether you’re looking for friendship or romance, these lively presentations will leave you informed, entertained, and confident to explore online dating while staying true to yourself.

Reservations Required

To register, go to LIFEseniorservices.org. Click on Resources, then Community Education, or call (918) 664-9000, ext. 1181.

By Matt Rahn

Winter Weather Energy-Saving Tips From Public Service Company of Oklahoma

Prevent your pipes from freezing by running a constant trickle of water

February is here which typically means several more weeks of cold weather in Oklahoma. Among the challenges that winter weather can bring, managing utility bills is a high priority for folks across Green Country.

When temperatures drop you might notice your energy usage is higher. The colder it is outside, the harder a heating system has to work to keep a home warm. With utility bills top of mind for many, Public Service Company of Oklahoma gives the following tips to help its customers save money by making small changes around the house.

SAVE ENERGY, SAVE MONEY

There are several things you can do to maximize your energy use and keep your home warm while lowering your electricity bill. Consider these lowand no-cost energy-saving tips to help keep you financially fit this winter.

Safety First

Beyond energy-saving measures, staying safe and healthy during winter weather always takes priority. Keep these tips in mind when heating your home this winter.

1. Take extreme care when using a space heater

Place it at least three feet away from anything that can burn, including walls, and unplug it before leaving a room. Every year, improper use of space heaters causes house fires.

2. Never use a stove or oven to heat your home

3. If you’re using a fireplace, use a glass or metal fire screen

Be sure it’s large enough to catch sparks or rolling logs.

4. Use generators correctly — never operate one inside your home, including the basement or garage If you use a generator, follow the manufacturer’s operating instructions. Connect appliances directly to the generator’s electric outlets, not to the main electrical panel of your home or business unless you have had an electric load transfer switch installed to isolate your home’s wiring from PSO’s electric system. Otherwise, you jeopardize the safety of utility workers.

5. Guard against carbon monoxide poisoning

Make sure you have smoke and carbon monoxide detectors and that they are working properly with fresh batteries.

6. Prevent your pipes from freezing by running a constant trickle of water Open the kitchen and bathroom cabinets to allow warmer air to circulate around the plumbing.

7. Be aware of downed power lines, which can be hidden by snow, sleet, or ice

For safety’s sake, assume that any downed utility line is energized with a deadly electric current. Stay away from the line and do not touch it with anything. Report it to PSO at (833) 776-6884.

For more tips and tricks to be energy efficient, visit psoklahoma.com/community/caring.

Adjust the temperature

When no one is home or when everyone is asleep, lower the temperature on your thermostat while keeping your home comfortable. Adjusting the temperature by just a couple of degrees can result in significant long-term savings. You can reduce heating costs by 2% to 3% for each degree of adjustment. Changing the temperature from 72 F to 68 F could lower energy costs by up to 10%.

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Replace your air filters to keep your HVAC system and thermostat(s) working well as you heat your home

Dirty air filters can restrict airflow, making your system less effective.

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Seal leaks to stop drafts

No one likes a cold draft on a winter day. Air leaks can cause your home to lose 25% or more of the energy used to heat it. Doors are the number one culprit, so use door seals and door sweeps to stop cold air in its tracks (plus, get instant rebates at powerforwardwithpso.com/rebates). But don’t stop there; check keyholes, ceiling light fixtures, and fireplace mantels to see if you can spot other places where your heat could escape and seal them accordingly.

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Free weatherizing

Homeowners and renters with an annual household income of $65,000 or less in a home less than 2,200 square feet and is at least 10 years old may be eligible for free home upgrades such as attic insulation, air and duct sealing, and more. Visit powerforwardwithpso.com for more information.

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Use your curtains

Open your curtains and blinds during daylight hours to allow the sun to heat your home naturally. Close your curtains and blinds when the sun goes down to act as a barrier and prevent cold chills from cooling your home.

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Adjust the temperature of your water heater

After heating and cooling systems, water heaters are the second-highest source of energy usage in a home. Whether you use it or not, your water heater continually reheats water to a set temperature, 24/7. Lowering the temperature on your water heater by just a few degrees can save you a couple of dollars on your monthly energy bills.

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Have the heating system inspected regularly

An annual tune-up can cut heating costs by up to 5%.

Word Search / Love & Relationships

Complete the grid so each row, column, and 3x3 box contains each digit 1-9 without repeating the number.

Word Clues

Each answer starts with the letter K.

To do this mental word game, read the clues; each one refers to a word starting with the letter K. Answers on page 39.

Device used to open a lock.

A relation.

You can tie a rope into this.

A small fruit with green flesh and slightly hairy skin.

A sharp blade attached to a handle.

A type of brown seaweed.

A tight bend in a hose pipe.

Traditional dress for Japanese ladies.

Another name for a child.

Room where cooking is done.

A bamboozable is a saying/phrase that is made up of a display of words in an interesting way. The goal is to try to figure out the well-known saying, person, place, or thing that each bamboozable is meant to represent. There are six bamboozables below. Answers on page 39.

Estate planning is an act of love that can help your family for a lifetime. It shows the people you care about most that you want to protect them, even when you’re no longer here. By creating a will, trust, and powers of attorney, you’ll save your loved ones from the stress and confusion that often follows when someone dies or becomes incapacitated without a plan.

A well-crafted estate plan provides clarity and security, making difficult times a little easier for those left behind. It also helps prevent disputes, saving time and money by avoiding probate and costly fees. Whether you’re planning for your spouse, children, or grandchildren, updating your estate plan ensures your wishes are known and your family’s future is safeguarded.

While we would love a Valentine from you, we’d prefer to talk about your estate planning needs. Let South Tulsa Law help you create or update your plan, so your legacy is one of love, security, and protection.

Contact us today for a complimentary

Your family will love you for it.

At Home/

By Julie Wenger Watson

Feel-Good Decorating

Create a Home That Boosts Your Mood

Dorothy had it right, “There’s no place like home.” Whether it’s an apartment, condo, house, or mansion, our homes can provide a sense of security, community, belonging, and comfort. Creating a living space that enhances our physical and mental well-being doesn’t require a total remodel or a huge pile of cash. It can be as simple as incorporating more natural materials, or a soothing color palette. When it comes to wellness design, small, meaningful changes can transform your home into your sanctuary.

BIOPHILIC DESIGN

Studies have shown that exposure to nature can reduce stress and improve cognitive function. Biophilic design is a popular approach to creating spaces that connect people with nature to promote well-being and enhance creativity. The term comes from “biophilia,” which means a love of nature or life.

Examples of biophilic design include using natural materials, colors, water, and sunlight, as well as utilizing shapes, forms, and patterns that mimic those found in the natural world.

One of the simplest ways to do this in your own home is by incorporating plants, both inside and out. Not only do they beautify any room of the house, but plants improve indoor air quality. Rubber plants, parlor palms, and Boston ferns are good, low-maintenance choices for your interior spaces.

When it comes to the outdoors, a view of green spaces, particularly in urban areas, can improve mental and emotional health. While having a yard with trees, grass, and wildlife is certainly soothing, a small patio with potted plants and flowers can also do the trick.

Bringing natural elements into your living spaces can reduce stress and improve mental focus.

Photos courtesy of Grant Homes Remodeling of Tulsa

Peter Grant, president of Tulsa’s Grant Homes Remodeling, incorporates many natural elements into his own living space.

“My goal in my own home is to feel peaceful and relaxed,” said Grant. “First, I used deep and rich natural colors because those colors resonate with me personally. I am a nature lover and use lots of glass windows with views to the outdoors, and indoor plants to blur the line between interior and exterior space. I use water features throughout my home.

“Everyone’s home is their temple and most sacred space where they should feel more comfortable and peaceful than any place else,” Grant said.

Tulsa yoga instructor Nicole Peltier also connects with nature in her home through plants and small water features. She loves the peaceful sound the water creates and believes it helps keep the inside air from becoming too dry. Peltier often uses natural items when she decorates, like crystals, gems, and stones from her travels, and even pretty pieces of wood or bird feathers she finds outdoors. She displays the feathers in the kitchen window, in a pretty glass bowl, or with her plants.

MAKE SPACE FOR PEACE

Whether it’s for meditation, mindfulness, or simply a quiet corner to curl up with your favorite book, having a dedicated space for ritual, relaxation, or restoration is a boost to your physical, mental, and emotional health.

For Peltier, whose yoga practice emphasizes spirituality alongside movement, creating a dedicated space in her own home for an “altar” is a way to express that.

“I have a huge altar in my house, and it has lots of beautiful, significant things,” she explained. “That might be a picture of my mom, who just passed, or a little stone from Colombia — something meaningful.”

Maybe an important part of your morning is that first cup of coffee. While perhaps not a “spiritual” experience, brewing that cup is a ritual you look forward to that helps set the tone for your day. Creating a dedicated area that’s both beautiful and functional, even if it’s just a small space carved out of your kitchen, will elevate that daily event.

Think about those activities you do regularly that make you feel grounded, refreshed, or recharged and make a special place just for that.

WELLNESS DECORATING 101

Transformation doesn’t have to happen overnight. Grant offers these tips to get you started, “Color is one of the easiest things to change, and most

people can do this themselves. Use textiles to warm up a space. Placing indirect light in the corner of the room or behind a plant may create ambiance. Install dimmer switches.”

Bringing in more natural light is an easy way to enhance a space. This can be as simple as opening blinds or swapping out heavy drapes for sheer, natural fiber window treatments. Just as color can change the feel of a room, so can scent. Essential oil diffusers with calming aromas like lavender and eucalyptus or uplifting scents like lemon or grapefruit help create a relaxing and moodelevating atmosphere.

As we move into a new year, it’s a good time to assess the space in which you live. Perhaps there

"Everyone’s home is their temple and most sacred space where they should feel more comfortable and peaceful than any place else."

– Peter Grant, Tulsa's Grant Home Remodeling

are some changes, large or small, that you can make to create a home that better supports your mental and physical well-being in 2025.

BY CONNIE CRONLEY

Book Club/

Writer Who Lifted the Sky

It is rare that I read a book that I think is so substantially good, so emotionally moving, so wonderfully written that it (a) takes my breath away, (b) makes my jaw drop, (c) has me gasp in wonder. Sanora Babb’s memoir “An Owl on Every Post” does all of that.

“An Owl on Every Post”

I first heard of Oklahoma-born Babb at the Oklahoma Book Awards ceremony in 2022 where (a) I was a candidate for an award I didn’t get and (b) she was honored posthumously for her life’s work.

Learning about her meant I was a winner after all. She was a woman whose life was as dramatic as a novel, and she was a writer with the worst luck in literary history.

Babb was born in 1907 to a hardscrabble family in Red Rock, a little town in northern Noble County, Oklahoma, and the headquarters of the Otoe-Missouria Tribe. As a young girl, she spent considerable time with the Otoe. Chief Black Hawk was so fond of her that he wanted to buy her. When her parents refused the offer, he gave her a pinto pony instead and nicknamed her Little Cheyenne Who Rides with the Wind.

Her father, a sometimes baker and frequent gambler, moved the family to a dugout in Colorado where they were so poor and the weather so harsh the family nearly starved to death. She learned to read from the newspapers her mother pasted to the dugout’s dirt walls. Back in civilization in the little town of Forgan in Oklahoma's panhandle, she was so bright she

graduated valedictorian of the high school, but officials refused to let her speak at graduation because she was a gambler’s daughter.

Babb began working for newspapers as a teenager and writing became her life: poetry, journalistic essays, and editing. Her background of poverty fostered a passion for social justice. For one period during the Depression, she was homeless and slept on a park bench.

She was a woman who lived fully and adventurously. Writers gravitated to her. Ray Bradbury was a lifelong friend; William Saroyan wanted to marry her. In New York, she had a passionate and dangerous affair with the young Black writer Ralph Ellison at a time when interracial relationships were illegal. In California, she lived daringly with Hollywood filmmaker James Wong Howe years before their interracial marriage could become legal.

“Whose Names Are Unknown”

In the mid-1930s, she worked at a tent camp in California for displaced workers, referred to as Okies by the world. She connected with the poor families, kept detailed field notes, and had

a contract with a New York publisher to write a book about them. But then …

Writer John Steinbeck visited the camp and Babb’s boss showed him her field notes. Steinbeck went away to write and publish “The Grapes of Wrath,” stealing her thunder. Her book contract was canceled. How she didn’t grow bitter about that I’ll never understand. Babb’s work was discovered and lauded in the PBS documentary “The Dust Bowl” by Ken Burns and Dayton Duncan. Burns said that Babb’s Dust Bowl novel, eventually published as “Whose Names Are Unknown,” is a literary masterpiece.

“Riding Like the Wind: The Life of Sanora Babb”

“Riding Like the Wind: The Life of Sanora Babb,” a new biography by Iris Jamahl Dunkle, is a well-researched page-turner made better by influence and excerpts from Babb’s own works. And then I read Babb’s memoir of her childhood years in the Colorado dugout, “An Owl on Every Post.” I saw the difference between a good biography that marches in measured stride and a literary memoir that gambols and dances.

In the book’s afterward, Babb writes of the “profound influence” of that period of her life. When she was 7 or 8, she looked over the great distance to the horizon — wondering, dreaming. “I recall thinking: one day I will lift up the sky and go out into the world and wander all over the world.”

Wow. Just, wow.

Sanora Babb

Iris Jamahl Dunkle

Winter Fun!

Tulsa Historical Society & Museum • 2445 S. Peoria Ave., Tulsa All photos courtesy of Tulsa Historical Society & Museum

A boy is seen sledding at Braden Park, circa 1960.

Hinderliter, Midred Pitt, and dog, Rose, pose with a snowman in 1910.

Three nursing students have a snow ball fight. An inscription on the back identifies the women as Louise Madewell, Nancy Valentine Stevens, and Ann Bush.

This Month in History

FEBRUARY 1, 1884

Oxford Dictionary Debuts

Considered the most comprehensive English language dictionary, the first portion of the “Oxford English Dictionary” was published after plans began in 1857. Members of London’s Philological Society decided to create the dictionary to cover all vocabulary from the Anglo-Saxon period to the present, because they believed there was no updated, error-free English dictionaries available. It took another 44 years for the full dictionary to be completed.

FEBRUARY 2, 1897

Black Inventor Patents the First Ice Cream Scoop

While working as a porter at a Pittsburgh drugstore, Alfred Cralle noticed his coworkers struggle to scoop ice cream for customers. Cralle then designed a contraption to easily scoop and distribute ice cream with one hand. The Pittsburgh Press reported that Cralle’s invention could scoop “40 to 50 dishes of ice cream in a minute,” and his invention soon became a staple for serving ice cream.

FEBRUARY 12, 1809

Abraham Lincoln is Born

Now one of the most admired U.S. presidents, Abraham Lincoln was born in Hodgenville, Kentucky. He grew up in a poor family and only attended school for one year but read to improve his mind. He later moved to Illinois and worked many different jobs including postmaster, surveyor, and shopkeeper before entering politics. Lincoln served in the Illinois Legislature and Congress and became an attorney before serving as our 16th president.

FEBRUARY 14, 1990

“Pale Blue Dot” Photo of Earth is Taken

While 3.7 billion miles away from the sun, the Voyager 1 spacecraft captured the iconic photograph of Earth. The furthest image ever captured of our planet, the picture depicts Earth as a tiny speck roughly the size of one pixel. Launched in 1977, Voyager 1 was sent to explore the outer reaches of our solar system and continues to travel interstellar space today.

FEBRUARY 16, 1968

First 911 Call is Placed in the United States

Speaker of the Alabama House of Representatives, Rep. Rankin Fite, placed the first 911 call in Haleyville, Alabama. Now commonly a first course of action in an emergency, the ability to call 911 is a relatively recent concept and was not standard for many years after its adoption by Congress. By 1987, half of the nation was using the system.

FEBRUARY 19, 1807

Aaron Burr Arrested for Alleged Treason

The former vice president had met with U.S. General James Wilkinson, who was an agent for the Spanish, for an unknown purpose. Many speculate they planned to annex Spanish territory in Louisiana and Mexico to establish an independent republic. Wilkinson later accused Burr of treason to try to save himself. Burr was arrested and acquitted because he had not committed an overt act of treason.

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BOOKS

Gammo’s Barbershop Tales

Enjoy fictional short stories by Oklahoma native. Books available at Amazon and original stories free via podcast on Amazon Music, Anchor, Google Podcasts, Riverside and Spotify. www.FaceBook.com/gammo7880/

New Book by Local Author

“Grace Garden: A Harvest of Life Lessons”, by Rod Giles, is one man’s testament to the spiritual significance of nature. These thirteen short lessons with follow-up questions create a journey of faith, growth, and the enduring power of God’s handiwork. Available on Amazon. Order today – it makes a great gift!

CARPET CLEANING

ALL PRO Carpet Cleaning

Senior and caregiver discounts. Carpet, furniture, rug cleaning. Pet odor removed and Teflon protectant available. Emergency water extraction. Residential and commercial services. Professional truck mount steam cleaning. Carpet repairs and restretching. Prompt, professional, quality service at a fair price. Certified, insured. Veteran owned and operated. Call Thomas Fink, owner/technician, for free estimate (918) 636-6303.

CEMETERY LOTS

2 Memorial Park Premium Lots

Located in Memorial Park Cemetery, Park View South, Section 49, Lot 91, Spaces 5 & 6. They are a bargain at $3,500 for the pair. Please contact Robert @ (918) 519-8303 or (918) 260-3070.

Across from the Chapel – Memorial Park

Three plots across from the chapel in Memorial Park Cemetery. Located in section 12 Sunset Garden, lot 221, space 1, 2 & 3. All three lots $4,050. Contact Jeff at (405) 595-6351 for more information. If no answer, please leave name and number.

Floral Haven Memorial Gardens

Four lots in Garden of Everlasting Life. Very easy to locate within the oldest area of Floral Haven. Lot 19B, Spaces 1-4. Will sell in pairs. Valued at $5,995 each and will sell for $2,500 each. Call (918) 260-8632.

Floral Haven/Veterans Field of Honor

Lot 15B, lawn crypt site #3 A/B. Double Depth Lawn Crypt and Bronze Companion Marker. Valued at $24,000 +. Selling price $15,000 (negotiable). Transfer fees (paid by buyer) $175. Call seller directly (918) 829-3068. Leave a message/I will return your call. Nonveterans allowed.

FUNERAL EXPENSES! YIKES! Lot for Sale

Let me help you a bit. One lot, valued at $2,025, for $1,480, plus $45 transfer fee – saving $500. Section 43, Lot 61, Space 4, a quiet lot nestled among

trees. Don’t need to be with family members? This is a good arrangement. Text (918) 995-2015.

Good Location within Memorial Park

Two spaces available in Section 17, Lot 85, Spaces 1 & 2. Good location within Memorial Park. Easy access to driveway. Valued at $2,200 each –asking $1,000 each. Contact Lloyd at (918) 521-9555.

Memorial Park Cemetery

6 plots, just off Memorial in section 6, lot 353. Plots 1,2,3,4,5,6. Will split. $2,000 each. Text (918) 694-9931 or email tresakeys1@gmail.com.

Memorial Park Companion Crypt

Memorial Park - Companion Crypt.

Section 27, Unit 3, Row 23, Companion Crypt A. Current value - $10,925. Asking $9,750. Contact: johnholderman2@ gmail.com.

Memorial Park – 4 Contiguous Plots

Four plots located in Section 15 near Lake of Enchantment. Will only sell as a group. $7,200. Leave message or text (936) 443-2344.

Memorial Park Garden of the Apostles

Four spaces in section 28, lot 111, spaces 1,2,7,8. Bronze only section. Current value $2,150 each. Will sell all four, or in pairs for $1,750 each. Call or text (918) 633-6138 with message ‘Memorial Park Lots’ and a call back number.

Memorial Park, Garden of the Christus

South of the chapel. Section 15, lot 260, plots 4, 5 and 6, in a row. Will sell separately or together. Note: this is a bronze-marker only section. $2,000 each. BTW Bob Wills is buried in this section! Call John (918) 446-1730.

Memorial Park – Oakwood East

Lots available in Oakwood East at Memorial Park. Section 29, Lot 108, Spaces 1,2,3. Trees in area of lots. Bronze or granite marker accepted. Priced to sell at $1,300 each. Call (303) 814-2957 or email steveestel01@earthlink.net.

Memorial Park Plots.

Huge savings!

Selling 4 burial plots at Memorial Park Cemetery in nice location. Will sell in pairs or all four. Spaces 1,2,7,8 in Lot 133 in Section 28. Only $1,250 each. Valued at $2,250 each. Call or text (918) 521-0869.

Perfect Spot in Memorial Park

Two plots available in Memorial Park on 51st Street. Section 8-A and E-5 lots 1-2. Benches, Blue Spruce trees, Pin Oaks and a brook – Picturesque! Discounted at $1,900 each. Call (469) 456-7308.

CLEANING

Live Beautifully! You Deserve It! Here at Moore Cleaning, we want your house to be beautiful. We have over 19 years experience, and references from our loyal customers. Also offering window cleaning and organizing. We customize our cleaning to meet your needs. Safely cleaning with masks and social distancing if preferred. Reasonable rates.Please call today to set up your appointment. Marybelle Moore (918) 671-5065. Marybellemoore111@gmail.com.

New Season Cleaning Service

New Season Cleaning Service offers residential housecleaning weekly or bi-weekly. Reasonable rates for a job well done. Accepting new customers!! Call Todd at (918) 630-0747. Visit www.newseasoncleaningservice.com or email newseasoncleaningservice@ gmail.com.

Window Cleaning. Housecleaning. Window Cleaning – I make your windows shine no matter what condition they are in. Chandeliers, light fixtures and mirrors. House Cleaning – can do on regular basis, move-in or move-out, construction clean, also will do curio/ china cabinets and special projects. Experienced in all areas including detail and organization. Reasonable rates and references. Call (539) 664-1986.

COMPUTER SERVICES

Does Technology Frustrate You? Honest, patient, ethical help with your pc, modem, wifi, cell phone, email, streaming, camera, password recovery, etc. 30+ years of IT experience in Tulsa. Special rates for seniors. References available.Call or text Carmen Armstron. (918) 688-7453.

DAYTIME CARE

Daytime Care For Older Loved Ones

LIFE’s Adult Day Health offers convenient, affordable daytime care at three locations in Tulsa and Broken Arrow. For more information, call LIFE’s Adult Day Health at (918) 664-9000.

DRIVER SAFETY

AARP Smart Driver Course

Take the AARP Smart Driver Course and learn proven safe driving strategies plus possibly get a discount on your car insurance. Courses available in the Tulsa area. (866) 238-8355.aarp. org/drive. Interested in becoming a volunteer instructor? aarp.org/auto/ driver-safety/volunteer.

ESTATE SALES

2MS Estate Sales...Tulsa’s Finest! Downsizing? Estate Liquidation? Let us take the worry away and maximize your return. No out of pocket expense. We specialize in senior transitions, with over 20 years in the senior housing market. My team includes realtors, moving company, senior housing and attorneys if needed. Please contact Michelle Reed (918) 691-5893 or Atulsa@aol.com also Facebook 2MSestatesalestulsa for a free consultation.

CLASSIFIEDS

FINANCIAL INSURANCE

A New Medicare Plan!

Do you know about the new Medicare Supplement Birthday Rule? Each year, starting on your birthday, you have 60 days to shop and enroll into a different Medicare Supplement plan with no medical questions! Find out more by calling MedicarePrepare at (918) 420-9999. Our local agents can answer your questions and may be able to save you money on premiums.

Medicare Assistance Program (MAP) at LIFE Senior Services provides accurate information, counseling and assistance for Medicare beneficiaries, their representatives and persons soon to be eligible for Medicare. Call MAP at LIFE Senior Services (918) 664-9000 or toll-free at (866) 664-9009.

GARDEN/LAWN CARE

AAA Lawns & More

Total tree and lawn care. Leaf removal and snow removal. Specializing in reasonably priced tree removal or trimming any size tree. Fence repair and installation. Insured, honest, experienced and dependable. Veteranowned. We are a small company with personal service. References available. FREE ESTIMATES. Call Larry. (918) 361-1299.

Affordable Leaf & Limb Removal

Affordable leaf and limb removal. Light hauling. Veteran Owned. Senior Discount. Reasonable rates. Call (918) 697-4321.

Garden Services

Flowerbed Design. Garden Installation – specializing in Butterfly & Earthkind gardens. Schedule garden maintenance. Weeding, mulching, annual color, Spring & Fall cleanup, hedge & shrub trimming, tree trimming, tree removal, stone pathways. Call Charles (918) 636-0298.

Kimble Davis Tree Service

Specializing in large tree removal and trimming. We also perform preventative tree maintenance and trimming for the health of all your trees. Please call for free estimate. (55’ bucket truck, chipper truck, crane). Call Kimble (918) 853-5383.

Mower Repair / Maintenance

All brands – Riders, ZTRs, Walk-behinds, UTVs / ATVs.

Top Quality work, ASE certified Mechanic. Pick-up and delivery available. Tulsa and surrounding counties. Maintenance specials include pick-up and delivery 10 a.m. to 7 p.m. Call Scott (918) 519-3869.

New Season Lawn & Tree

Fall clean-up available. Mowing, trimming, leaf removal, hedge trimming, flower beds. Small tree trimming. We offer weekly, bi-weekly & year-round services. Best rates, senior discounts. Free Estimates. Accepting new customers!! Call Todd (918) 639-2262. Email info@newseasonlawnandtree.com, and check us out at www.newseasonlawnandtree.com.

CLASSIFIEDS

New Season Tree Masters

Specializing in tree removal and stump grinding. Tree trimming service available. Certified arborist on staff. Serving all of metro Tulsa with over 20 years’ experience. Fully insured. Free estimates. Contact us at info@newseasontreemasters.com or call Todd at (918) 934-4868. www.newseasontreemasters.com.

HOME REPAIR/REMODELING

Allen’s Handyman Services of Tulsa

“Your Home Improvement and Repair Specialist.” 23 years serving Tulsa seniors. “One call can do it all.” 10% senior discount. Insured. All work guaranteed in writing. No pay until job is completed. Plumbing, drain cleaning, grab bars, electrical, carpentry, painting, seamless guttering installation/repair/ cleaning. Dryer vent cleaning. Roof, tile and drywall repair. Wood siding/ trim replacement. Deck repair, power washing, staining. Tree trimming. No job too small. Minimum charge for service. For free estimate, call Allen at (918) 630-0394.

Big C’s Plumbing Services

Your one-stop-plumbing shop! Call us and I guarantee you will never have to call another plumbing company. Licensed, bonded and insured for your protection...Call (918) 855-9216, tell us you saw us in the Vintage Newsmagazine and receive an automatic 10% discount. Call us now.

Bumgartner Plumbing

Licensed, with over 40 years of experience. Rates are low and based on the job, not the hour. No service call fee or travel time charge. Senior and caregiver discount. Plumbing service and repair our specialty. Honest, professional service you can count on. Lic. #82750. (918) 355-4747.

Doc J’s Heat and Air LLC

Upfront flat-rate pricing, expert techs who repair all HVAC brands, and install only dependable, quality equipment. Senior discounts! Call Doc J’s Heat & Air Tulsa at (918) 921-4240 today! www.docjsheatandair.com “Your Comfort is Our Business” Doc J.

DRYWALL & PAINTING

New to the Tulsa area! I specialize in drywall repairs, wood repairs, matching textures, painting interior/exterior. Insured and free estimates. Help us grow in the Tulsa community or in your community!! Call John at (918) 600-9129.

Eternal Way Construction

We can take your dreams and make them a reality. From foundation repair to roofing and EVERYTHING in between, we do remodeling, roofing, flooring, tile, carpet, drywall, painting, foundation repair, plumbing, electrical, and much more. Multiple crews for timely job starts. See our work on Facebook and Eternalwayconstruction.com. Wallace (918) 819-7719.

In a Jam? Services

Around the home repairs or replacements, inside and out. Fence

Repair/Replacement, Power Washing, Gutter Cleanout, Garage/Attic Cleanout, Haul-off, Leaf/Snow Removal, Staining/Painting, Drywall Patching/ Replacement, Tile/Flooring, Deck Repair, and much more! No job is too small. Have any questions, please give me a call. Joe Moody (918) 740-7209 INAJAMSERVICES77@gmail.com.

JC Restores, LLC

Christ centered remodeling and construction service. We do everything from full home renovations to new construction. All flooring (tile, carpet, wood, etc), fence/deck, bathroom and kitchen, drywall, paint, landscaping, wheelchair ramps. Whatever you need we will take care of it. Including prayer! Call for free estimate (918) 509-5407.

KMS Heating & Cooling

Locally owned since 1979, KMS is proud to be your new HVAC provider! Your comfort is our top priority, and our team of experienced technicians and staff are dedicated to providing you with prompt, reliable, and personalized service for all your residential and commercial HVAC needs. (918) 834-7000. www.kmshvac.com.

Same Day Services

Light Hauling /Light Moving – help you rearrange room furniture, lawns-grass mowing/small paint jobs/cleanup/ fence repair/light construction/sheet rock tile repair – We are honest and dependable. References. Call (918) 313-5230.

Scrap Metal Haul Off

Free haul off/pick up of appliances such as washers, dryers, refrigerators, air conditioners, hot water tanks and any scrap metal. Call John at (918) 313-4405.

Thackeray & Sons

Painting and Repair

Call today for your free estimate! I’ve been making homes beautiful for over 30 years. Home repairs of all types. References available. Ask me about my “lifetime warranty” paint special. Mention this ad for a 10% discount! Call (918) 946-1209.

LEGAL

75 Years Experience in Oklahoma Courts

Frasier Law Firm is a full-service Tulsa firm with decades of experience in all Oklahoma courts. We handle all matters, including probate, wills and trusts, personal injury and negligence cases. We have estate planning specialists. Reach us at (918) 584-4724 or frasier@tulsa.com.

Full Service Estate Planning Law Firm

Trusts, Wills, Gift and Tax Planning, Powers of Attorneys and more! With offices in Sand Springs and Tulsa. Discount to Veterans and Retired Teachers. Willing to meet you in your place for no extra charge! Call Penni of the Skillern Law Firm at (918) 805-2511. www.skillernlaw.com.

Protect Your Family. Preserve Your Legacy. Whether you are planning your estate

or need help with special needs trusts, South Tulsa Law will represent you effectively and compassionately. We work in all areas of estate planning, probate, trusts and trust litigation, and special needs trusts. Call (918) 512-1800 or visit www.southtulsalaw.com.

MOVERS

BISON MOVING TULSA

Family-owned local moving company, experienced with senior relocations. Packing, labor-only or full-service available, customized to your needs and budget. Competitive pricing; discounts available for veterans and first responders. Call us at (918) 800-4267 or visit our website at www.bisonmoving.com.

Tulsa Movers

Pianos, Office, Home. Load or Unload

Rental Trucks. Low Rates. Free Estimates. 10% discount off every move! Dependable Movers! Call (918) 836-3225

NOTARY

Notary Services Available

24/7 Notary available. Never closed. Will come to your home. Will go to hospitals, nursing homes, private homes as needed. Call Joanne at (918) 282-8230.

PERSONAL ASSISTANCE

AFFORDABLE ORGANIZING

Too busy to stay organized? Overwhelmed? Return harmony to your home and life. We help with: Downsizing, relocating (pack & unpack), setting up home offices. Organizing one room or an entire house. Monthly maintenance. Disperse unwanted possessions. Seasonal transitioning. Call Pat at Organize to Harmonize: (918) 200-5991.

Home Health Services

Tulsa’s Affordable Home Care offers compassionate, quality home care services to individuals. We provide the following services: personal care, bathing and dressing, companionship, exercise, grocery shopping, laundry, light housekeeping, medication reminders, meal planning and preparation, oral and personal hygiene, respite care for family caregivers. Please call (918) 622-7820 and schedule a free consultation!!!

Ms. PAC Ma’am - SENIOR RELOCATION SPECIALIST

Need help packing or organizing? I can pack boxes for moving, downsizing, or decluttering. I can help organize rooms, closets, attics, or garages providing you more space. Flexible hours - day or evening. Decades of experience. Boxes/bags provided upon request. References available. $25/hr - 2 hr minimum. Take that first step. Let’s talk. Call Jacki (918) 922-9558

WARSHAW GROUP, LLC

We are primarily focused on a new service: ‘helping in organizing to put your affairs in order.’ We aren’t lawyers, estate planners, nor financial advisors. Rather, we will guide you in organizing a prepared list of things to do, based on

our research. Contact Bobbi Warshaw, (918) 852-5302 or email bobbi.warshaw@att.net.

PERSONAL SAFETY

Safety Grab Bar Supply and Installation

Including handicap accessories for Residential, Commercial, Decorative, Indoor/Outdoor, Stairways, Bathrooms, and more. Secure your space, whether existing, remodeling or new construction, we handle it all. Call before you fall! Free Estimates. Licensed & Insured with over 20 years experience. Grab Bars of Tulsa, (918) 619-7324.

PERSONAL SERVICES

Affordable Hairstyling In-Home or My Shop

With 37 years’ experience, I can help with all of your hairstyling needs. Men’s and women’s haircuts, specializing in seniors. I will come to your home or you can come to my shop. In-shop special: haircut $7 for first time customers only and perms for $50. Available Tuesday – Saturday. A Mane Event hairstyling, located near 11th and Yale at 937 South Canton. Call Mary Wilkinson \at (918) 834-2686.

Extensive Senior Help

Senior Shenanigans. Your Girl Friday, 7 days a week. Rides, appointments, happenings, playmates, shopping, chores, errands. You name it. Flexible/ Affordable/ Reliable. I am passionate for seniors. Misti Jo (918) 994-2420 or (817) 559-3688.

Salon Retro

Hair care for men and women, specializing in senior clients. First time customers receive one of the following $17. Haircut style not included, or perm and one cut $52. Long hair special wrap extra style not included. Manicures $15, pedicures $25. Experienced hairdressers and nail tech. In shop services only. Come and see us at Midtown at Highland Plaza, 5661 East 41 Street (corner of 41st and Hudson). (918) 742-3440.

PET CARE

Dog Walker

The Woof Pack Tulsa: Dependable dog walking services for your four-legged family in Tulsa. Helping you take care of your furry friends when you’re out! We offer dog walking and pet pop-ins. Insured. Call or text us at (918) 770-6699. Visit our website at www.thewoofpacktulsa.com.

Home Veterinary Care

Experience Tulsa’s most convenient veterinary service in the comfort of your own home. Our goal is to develop a personal relationship with each of our clients and patients. Contact us today to schedule your house call appointment. Call (918) 892-9382 or email DrFielstra@gmail.com or visit us at www.homevetcaretulsa.com.

REALTOR/REAL ESTATE

Mature Transitions of Tulsa

Certified housing professional (CSHP), Senior Home Coach helping Seniors age in the right place. I educate, empower, and

equip seniors and/or their adult children to provide a one source solution for their Transitions fears. When it no longer becomes safe to live at home, I help find the right place, downsize, declutter, pack move, resettle, do the estate sale/ liquidation and sell the family home. Call (918) 6051480 today for your FREE consultation. Overjoyed NOT Overwhelmed!!!

SOCIAL

Seniors (50+)

We are a fun-loving group of seniors over 50. We meet every Thursday, 11:00 a.m. – 3:30 p.m. at the Golden Corral, 8144 East 21st Street. We eat at 11:00, have a short meeting and then play cards. Join us for great fun and fellowship. Questions, call Linda at (918) 955-9180.

TAXES

Does Tax Time Stress You?

Let me prepare them for you! I’ve offered tax preparation services to individuals and businesses for 43 years and I love relieving people of their “tax time” stress. Come and get professional service with a personal touch. By appointment only. Call CJ’s at (918) 664-8990. (48th and Sheridan area). Senior Discounts.

TRANSPORTATION

My Driver Transportation Service

Let me do the driving. To and from work, airport, shopping, errands, post office, appointments. Also, LIFT VAN transportation available. Able to assist getting to and from bed. Senior sitting. Also, small breed dog boarding. 20 years experience. CLEET certified and licensed. References. Member, Better Business Bureau. (918) 491-9929.

PREMIUM SENIOR TRANSPORT NOW AVAILABLE

Entrusted Transport provides non-emergency medical & senior transportation services throughout Oklahoma. Our drivers are courteous & highly professional. We assist riders all the way to check-in at your appointment OR to home, just like family would! Wheelchair vehicles available. Call (918) 290-3400, Schedule rides any date & time. EntrustedTransport.com.

VOLUNTEER

JUST DO IT!

If you’ve been looking for a way you can make a difference, consider joining the Millennium Hospice team as a volunteer. Caregiver relief is so important during this difficult time.Volunteers provide that by sitting with patients for an hour or so. Training is provided. (918) 493-6555.

Volunteer for LIFE

Discover the variety of volunteer opportunities that LIFE Senior Services has to offer. Whether you want to volunteer within the organization or with one of our local non-profit or public agencies, we can find the best fit for you. (918) 664-9000.

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For the blueberries

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• Pinch of salt

Healthy Blueberry Crisp

Courtesy of Healthy Foodie Girl

For the oat topping

• ⅓ cup quick oats

• 1 teaspoon flour

• 1 teaspoon sweetener of choice

• Pinch of cinnamon

• Pinch of salt

• 1 tablespoon melted light butter

Instructions:

1. Add the blueberries, sweetener, cornstarch, lemon juice, vanilla extract, and pinch of salt to a bowl. Mix together. Pour the blueberry mixture into a small, oven-safe baking dish that measures about 6 –8 inches, and make sure it has room on top because the mixture will bubble when cooking.

2. In another bowl, mix the quick oats, flour, sweetener, cinnamon, and salt. Once mixed, add the melted butter to the bowl and combine thoroughly. Then add the oat mixture on top of the blueberries in the baking dish.

3. Bake the blueberry crisp at 375 F for 25 – 30 minutes. Once done, carefully remove it from the oven and let it cool before eating.

Fabulous Flavors

Ingredients:

• 1 clove garlic

• 1 yellow onion

• 2 bell peppers

• 1 tablespoon olive oil

• ½-pound ground turkey

• 1 15-ounce can diced tomatoes

• 1 cup white rice, uncooked

• 1 teaspoon dried basil

One Pot Unstuffed Bell Peppers

Recipe courtesy of Budget Bytes

Makes 6 servings, 1 ⅓ cups per serving

• 1 teaspoon dried oregano

• ¼ teaspoon ground black pepper

• 1 ½ cups chicken broth

• 1 8-ounce can tomato sauce

• 1 teaspoon Worcestershire sauce

• 1 cup shredded mozzarella

• 1 tablespoon chopped parsley for optional garnish

Instructions:

1. Add olive oil and ground turkey into a deep skillet. Cook over medium heat until fully browned.

2. Mince the garlic and dice the onion and bell peppers. Add onion, bell peppers, garlic, basil, oregano, and pepper into the skillet. Continue to cook and stir until the onions are soft.

3. Add diced tomatoes (with juices), uncooked rice, and broth. Stir to combine.

4. Place a lid on the skillet and turn the heat up to medium-high. Allow the broth to come to a full boil. Once boiling, turn the heat down to low and let it continue to simmer for 15 minutes. While the pot is simmering, combine the tomato sauce and Worcestershire sauce.

5. After 15 minutes, turn the heat off and let it rest with the lid still in place for another five minutes.

6. Remove the lid and fluff the mixture with a fork, gently folding the ingredients back together (the peppers and tomatoes may float to the top while simmering).

7. Pour the prepared tomato sauce on top and sprinkle with shredded mozzarella and chopped parsley.

Getting Started on DASH

It’s easy to adopt the DASH eating plan. Even small changes made gradually lead to significant benefits. Follow these steps to begin a healthy lifestyle for a lifetime.

1 Assess where you are now.

The DASH eating plan requires no special foods and has no hard-to-follow recipes. One way to begin is by using the free, interactive, online Body Weight Planner (niddk.nih.gov/bwp) to find out how many calories you need per day to maintain or reach your goal weight. Then fill in the What’s on Your Plate? worksheet for a few days and see how your current food habits compare with the DASH plan. This will help you see what changes you need to make.

2 Discuss medication with your doctor.

If you take medication to control high blood pressure or cholesterol, you should not stop using it. Follow the DASH eating plan and talk with your doctor about your medication treatment as part of an overall plan for wellness.

3 Make DASH a part of your healthy life.

The DASH eating plan along with other lifestyle changes can help you control your blood pressure and lower blood cholesterol. Important lifestyle recommendations include: achieve and maintain a healthy weight, get regular physical activity, and, if you drink alcohol, do so in moderation (up to one drink per day for women and up to two drinks per day for men).

4 DASH is for everyone in the family.

Start with the meal plans in A Week With the DASH Eating Plan if you want to follow the menus similar to those used in the DASH trial— then make up your own using your favorite foods. In fact, your entire family can eat meals using the DASH eating plan because it can be adapted to meet varied nutritional needs, food preferences, and dietary requirements.

5 Don’t worry.

Remember that on some days the foods you eat may add up to more than the recommended servings from one food group and less from another. Or, you may have too much sodium on a particular day. Just try your best to keep the average of several days close to the DASH eating plan and the sodium level recommended for you.

Tips on What to Eat vs. Limit

DASH (Dietary Approaches to Stop Hypertension) is a flexible and balanced eating plan that helps create a hearthealthy eating style for life. It does not require any special foods and provides daily and weekly nutritional goals. The DASH eating plan supports overall heart health and helps lower high blood pressure and LDL “bad” cholesterol.

This plan recommends:

Eating vegetables, fruits, and whole grains

Eating foods rich in potassium, calcium, magnesium, fiber, and protein

Choosing low-or reducedsodium, or no-salt-added versions of foods

Including fat-free or low-fat dairy products, fish, poultry, beans, nuts, and vegetable oils

Limiting foods that are high in saturated fat, such as fatty meats, full-fat dairy products, and tropical oils such as coconut, palm kernel, and palm oils

Limiting sugar-sweetened beverages and sweets

Consejos sobre qué comer y qué limitar

DASH (Enfoques dietéticos para detener la hipertensión) es un plan de alimentación flexible y equilibrado que ayuda a crear un estilo de alimentación cardiosaludable para toda la vida. No requiere ningún alimento especial y proporciona objetivos nutricionales diarios y semanales. El plan de alimentación DASH favorece la salud general del corazón y ayuda a reducir la hipertensión y el colesterol LDL “malo”.

Coma esto

Vegetales

Frutas

Granos integrales

1%

Lácteos sin grasa o bajos en grasa

Pescado

Limite esto

Carnes grasas

Lácteos enteros

Bebidas azucaradas

Aves

Frijoles

Frutos secos y semillas

Aceites vegetales

Dulces

Ingesta de sodio

Este plan recomienda:

Comer vegetales, frutas y granos integrales

Consumir alimentos ricos en potasio, calcio, magnesio, fibra y proteínas

Elegir alimentos bajos en sodio, reducidos en sodio o sin sal agregada

Incluir productos lácteos sin grasa o bajos en grasa, pescado, aves, frijoles, frutos secos y aceites vegetales

Limitar el consumo de alimentos ricos en grasas saturadas, como las carnes grasas, los productos lácteos enteros y los aceites tropicales, como aceite de coco, aceite de nuez de palma y aceite de palma

Limitar las bebidas azucaradas y los dulces

Busque recetas, herramientas y recursos en nhlbi.nih.gov/DASH (en ingles)

Why the DASH Eating Plan Works

Scientific studies show that following DASH and eating less sodium can help you lower your blood pressure and LDL cholesterol.

What you choose to eat affects your chances of developing hypertension, otherwise known as high blood pressure. Blood pressure can be unhealthy even if it stays only slightly above the optimal level of less than 120/80 mmHg. The more your blood pressure rises above normal, the greater the health risk.

Scientists supported by the National Heart, Lung, and Blood Institute (NHLBI) have conducted multiple scientific trials since the Dietary Approaches to Stop Hypertension or DASH eating plan was developed more than 20 years ago. Their findings showed that blood pressures were reduced with an eating plan that emphasizes vegetables, fruits, and whole grains and includes fish, poultry, beans, nuts, and healthy oils. It limits foods that are high in saturated fat, such as fatty meats, full-fat dairy products, and tropical oils such as coconut, palm kernel, and palm oils. It is also lower in sodium compared to the typical American diet and reduces sugar-sweetened beverages and sweets.

The DASH eating plan follows heart healthy guidelines to limit saturated fat and trans fat. It focuses on eating more foods rich in nutrients that can help lower blood pressure— mainly minerals (like potassium, calcium, and magnesium), protein, and fiber. It includes nutrient-rich foods so that it also meets other nutrient requirements as recommended by the National Academies of Sciences, Engineering, and Medicine.

DAILY NUTRIENT LEVELS OF THE ORIGINAL DASH EATING PLAN

* Lower sodium to 1,500 mg for further reduction in blood pressure, if needed.

The Science Behind the DASH Eating Plan

The importance of eating more vegetables, fruits, whole grains along with low-fat dairy, poultry, fish, beans, and nuts has been proven in multiple research trials. The combination of the DASH eating plan and reduced sodium creates the biggest benefit, lowering blood pressure significantly.

STUDY 1 Original DASH eating plan

The first DASH trial involved 459 adults with systolic blood pressures of less than 160 mmHg and diastolic pressures of 80–95 mmHg. About 27 percent of the participants had high blood pressure. About 50 percent were women and 60 percent were African Americans. It compared three eating plans: one that included foods similar to what many Americans regularly eat; one that included foods similar to what many Americans regularly eat plus more fruits and vegetables; and the DASH eating plan. All three plans included about 3,000 milligrams of sodium daily. None of the plans were vegetarian or used specialty foods.

Results were dramatic. Participants who followed either the plan that included more fruits and vegetables or the DASH eating plan had reduced blood pressure. But the DASH eating plan had the greatest effect, especially for those with high blood pressure. Furthermore, the blood pressure reductions came fast within 2 weeks of starting the plan.

STUDY 2 Varied sodium levels

The second DASH trial looked at the effect on blood pressure of a reduced dietary sodium intake as participants followed either the DASH eating plan or an eating plan typical of what

many Americans consume. This trial involved 412 participants. Participants were randomly assigned to one of the two eating plans and then followed for a month at each of the three sodium levels. The three sodium levels were: a higher intake of about 3,300 milligrams per day (the level consumed by many Americans), an intermediate intake of about 2,300 milligrams per day, and a lower intake of about 1,500 milligrams per day.

Results showed that reducing dietary sodium lowered blood pressure for both eating plans. At each sodium level, blood pressure was lower on DASH than on the typical American eating plan. The greatest blood pressure reductions were for DASH at the sodium intake of 1,500 milligrams per day. Those with high blood pressure saw the greatest reductions.

STUDY 3 Higher protein or healthy fats

As the science around DASH evolves over time, the overall benefits to heart health continue to be evaluated. The OmniHeart (Optimal Macronutrient Intake Trial for Heart Health) trial studied the effect of replacing some daily carbohydrates— or carbs— with either protein (about half from plant sources) or unsaturated fat. This trial included 164 adults who had systolic

blood pressure readings of 120 to 159 mmHg. The trial compared three dietary patterns, each containing 2,300 mg of sodium per day— the original DASH plan, substituting 10 percent of daily carbs with protein, and substituting 10 percent of total daily carbs with unsaturated fat.

OmniHeart found that participants who followed either variation of DASH, partially substituting carbs with protein (about half from plant sources) or unsaturated fat, had greater reductions in blood pressure and improvements in blood lipid levels than those who followed the original DASH eating plan.

Success with DASH

DASH along with other lifestyle changes can help you prevent and control high blood pressure. In fact, if your blood pressure is not too high, you may be able to control it entirely by changing your eating habits, losing weight if you are overweight, getting regular physical activity, and cutting down on alcohol. DASH also has other benefits, such as lowering LDL (“bad”) cholesterol, and replacing some carbs with protein or unsaturated fat can have an even greater effect. Along with lowering blood pressure, lower cholesterol can reduce your risk for heart disease.