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Monthly Voice of Choices Magazine Publisher: Kathy ‘Whyte Wynde’ Lowden VoiceOfChoicesNews@yahoo.com 206-715-2824 9011 Corbin Dr #B Everett, WA 98204 www.VoiceOfChoices.com Whether you define ‘spirit’ as enthusiasm or spirituality, Voice of Choices supports you in exploring the many options for creating and enjoying your life! We feature articles on alternative healing, personal development, spirituality and a wide range of topics focused on spirited living. Giving voice to the myriad of choices available in each moment, information is not intended for diagnosis, treatment, or prescription regarding disease, illness or injury. We recommend you see a licensed health practitioner if you have concerns about your health. Voice of Choices is not responsible for any situations arising from participation in or application of anything written or advertised in this publication. We welcome your contribution of articles and artwork, to be published on approval as space permits. Articles do not necessarily represent the views of the publisher. Subscriptions to are $30.00 per year 12 issues U.S. - Inquire for International rates) We accept MC/ Visa, Paypal and Personal Checks. Thank you for all your good work. Blessings in all your choices. Nam Myoho Renge Kyo
4 Be the Love You Are Kathy ‘Whyte Wynde’ Lowden 5 Listen to the Wisdom of Your Heart Stewart Pearce 6 I LOVE ME - Choosing to Heal Kasara D’Elene 7 Forgiveness - Learn from a Peacemaker Rajkhet Dirzhud-Rashid 7 From a Space of Love Julie Hutslar 8 Open Heart? Meet in the Middle Dena Marie 9 Sweet Dreams! Bless Your Bedroom Tess Whitehurst 10 January Astrological Influences Carol Barbeau 11 Creating Space - Sensitive Choices to Empower Intimacy Dr. Judith Orloff, MD 12 Be the Miracle - Message From Mother Mary Raven Many Voices 13 Rock Talk - Smithsonite Cecilia Ray 15 Pranic Healing - Life Force Energy for all Your Relationships Master Stephen Co
Be the Love You Are
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What stands out most, is the underlying constant thread tying ‘reality’ to the individual’s interpretation of it. I remember one of my high school English teacher’s illustration of this basic truth. No two people will ever ‘see’, ‘hear’ or experience the same situation in exactly the same way. Her point was supported by an assignment in describing a situation and discovering that each observer had their own way of interpreting the same events.
Be the Love You Are
This month’s articles are filled with opportunities to explore and maybe even experiment with ‘Being’ Love. While there are many who may desire to convince you life’s best can only be experienced while in a relationship; that we are ‘social’ creatures and our highest lessons are through interacting with others, please consider that you are always in relationship - and the most important one is with yourself.
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Welcome! What a beautiful time to ‘Be the love you are’. Never has it been as important as it is now to embrace the concept of unconditional love. Sometimes we may confuse ourselves with our thinking and believe that we must be in relationship to ‘Be’ love. The truth may be very different than what we believe. I’ve been watching a lot of videos online which speak of ‘reality’. Describing quantum physics in ways that allow even my always expanding scientifically ‘gifted’ brain to understand life... on an atomic level. The more I watch (and read) the more I am coming to understand just how unique each person’s reality is. Truly there are no absolutes in this world we live in. Our personal perception as we observe events and the world around us infulences what we believe we are ‘seeing’ and makes that perception ‘real’ and ‘true’ whether it matches up with anyone else’s perception or not. I post many of the links to these videos on the Voice of Choices Magazine Facebook page where you are welcome to explore the wisdom they offer.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with. ~Wayne W. Dyer When we can begin each day with unconditional love for ourselves, replacing self-judgment, blame and shame with the knowing that we are indeed always ‘enough’ - the world begins to mold itself to our beliefs. When we see ourselves and others with eyes that accept the inherent humanness which is our perfection, we can consider embracing experiences as the illusions they are. Many great speakers and philosophers have addressed the subject of ‘love’. It’s easy to find quote after quote that describes heartfelt emotion when we are passionately engaged in relationship. What about when we are just as passionately involved in deeply caring for ourselves? There have been many great spiritual masters delivering the universal truth that Love is the underlying foundation of life. Could it be that only our own perception stands in the way of manifesting the heartfelt peace (and love) which passeth all understanding? Could it be that our choice to hang on to memories which no longer serve us and seem to imply we are less than the best we can be are the main roadblock to our own happiness? I remember years ago when I was given a greeting card with the message ‘Follow your heart - It will always lead you to the truth’. At the time I was very much ‘stuck’ in my head. Conflicting thoughts created a very real to me illusion of confusion, my friend had hoped I could find solace by listening to the wisdom of my feelings. More recently, I was asked “How would your story change if you believed this to be a totally supportive universe, dedicated to assisting you in finding, creating and celebrating your own highest and greatest good?” Could you begin to bless everyone and everything knowing that even the most difficult was a gift with that supportive goal at its center? Could you imagine offering forgiveness to yourself for the part you played to assist others on their path.... even when you witnessed the pain your own actions may have caused? Yes, we are each responsible for our own emotions - and yet, as we interact with those around us is it not our responsibility to do so with a gentle respect for them? Be the Love You Are. What we see outside of us is only a tiny fraction of the infinite energy field available and waiting for us to ‘tune in’. As we define our world view with love by first acknowledging that we ARE love guess what we find? As we open to empowering ourselves as the Divine Expression of Spirit we are - our experience s begin to reflect that perfection.... within our own hearts and in the faces and actions of those around us. Blsssngs - Nam Myoho Renge Kyo and Mahalo.
Kathy ‘Whyte Wynde’ Lowden
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Stewart Pearce
Much before the astronomical cycle of the past 5,125 years, human beings used a form of language completely unlike the present. This language was of the heart. As ancient as the rocks and wind, this mode of communication created a fusion between mind and body, a coherence of both right and left brain hemispheres, and a knowledge of thought and feeling as one. The transmission centre was the secret chamber of the heart known as the Shante Ishta, the single eye of the heart. Indigenous peoples, such as the Mayan, the Aztec and the Kogi still believe the secret chamber of the heart to be the core of all that is sacred about life. Indeed, it is recorded in the book of Genesis, that in ancient times all people of the Earth knew one language, until humanity defied God by building the great Tower of Babel – ‘making their names to be scored upon heaven’. God’s infinite wisdom responded by dispersing all nations, by separating all people in order to confound their intention. From thence the soul became individualized, and egoist tendencies inflated the notion of separation from the Source. The life of heart-felt communion became isolated in each person, until this time.
The Secret Chamber Of The Heart The secret chamber of the human heart is where the individual soul attunes to the collective, universal heartbeat, that unites us all through a vast field of intention — that of consciousness. When we choose to love from our heart we enter into a chamber of creation where all things meet in genesis, the legendary ‘gene of Isis’, for it is from the Great Mother Isis, the formative energy of the primordial silence, that all life originally arose. And so the truth of creation unfolded and still unfolds. There is an ancient legend of the magical Isis, who was the Goddess of Fertility in the myths of ancient Egypt. Isis was the daughter of Geb, the God of the Earth, and Nut, the Goddess of the overarching sky. Isis, story suggests that her husband, Osiris, had been cruelly killed by the jealous Set, and his dismembered body parts, thirteen in all, had been strewn about the Earth. However, Isis found and brought together twelve of the parts, excepting Osiris’s penis; this she fashioned anew from gold, and sang a song of such exquisite beauty that Osiris was resurrected from death, and became the Lord of the Afterlife. If we can follow the example of Isis, taking her song of creation and once more singing our own song, speaking the language of our hearts from the secret chamber of the heart, we may truly become a vessel for the embodiment of love. Then ingratitude, judgment, ha-
tred, lack of compassion, or refusing to forgive cease to exist - for to be anything other than love is to be without soul.
The Power Of The Heart Science reveals that a human fetus’s heart begins beating before the brain is formed. This ‘auto-rhythm’ suggests the heart to have a self-initiated beat, which precedes conscious thought, dispelling the illusion of the brain’s intellectual function as the foremost principle in the creation of human life the heart’s beating is the elixir that enervates human consciousness. The heart has its own independent nervous system with 40,000 neurons, as many as are found in the sub-cortex of the brain. Scientific experimentation at the Fels Institute for Cancer Research and Molecular Biology in Philadelphia discovered that when the brain sends orders to the heart, the heart doesn’t obey. Instead, the heart appears to be sending messages back to the brain, and the brain not only understands it obeys. It must be our utmost conviction to allow the power of our hearts to manage our thoughts and feelings, to live to the heartbeat of emotional truth. As we consciously move to the beat of this drum, transformation reveals a bridge between linear thinking and intuitive sensing. This landscape alone provides us with both a greater perception, and a way of creating solutions to face future complexity with greater ease. We must stop the frenzy of our stress-filled living, fulfilling functions that simply create disease. We must stop the actions that lead to the closing of the heart, and the explosions of the heart in the form of cardiac arrest. Stewart Pearce author of “The Heart’s Note: Sounding Love in Your Life from the Heart’s Secret Chamber’ , is a world renowned Master of Voice and master teacher. His book reveals new information about the secret heart chamber where many of our true desires reside. Pearce teaches how to tune into our universal heartbeat and create the life we really want. For more information go to www. findhornpress.com
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I Love ME Choosing to
If you are working with yourself, you must stop saying things that are hurting you. This is not productive, and if the critic inside of you cannot be quiet, then you will need to change what he/she is saying so that it becomes useful for you instead of detrimental.
Heal Kasara D’Elene Loving ourselves is not something we are taught to do in this society. We are taught to love others more than ourselves. Women are especially good at taking care of everyone else around them, and suffering the consequences. This can create wounds inside of us along with wounds we already have from childhood, injuries, illness and harsh relationships. I think the saying goes, “no one gets out of life unscathed” and this is so true. People have different avoidance patterns that help them to avoid or displace pain from wounds such as postponing it (for another time), shopping, eating, abusing alcohol/drugs, and overworking. These behaviors help us to avoid the pain that we just cannot handle. Keeping busy taking care of others gives a good excuse for not looking at these wounds. Part of loving ourselves has to do with acknowledging our wounds and doing what we can to repair them for ourselves so they do not keep hurting us. If something happened to us, our bodies (and minds) have memories that work to bring similar situations to us so that we can eventually acknowledge our experiences, process them, and let them go. During this process it is valuable to let go of judgment of ourselves and others. The idea is not to verbally beat ourselves up, or those around us (or those we have pushed away). But rather the idea is to use these experiences as information to grow and improve our lives. This is extremely challenging for most people, because when these feelings start to surface, the little person inside of us is the one that starts to panic and the emotions overtake us and cause us to do things we might not otherwise do. We end up saying things we regret, which only confirms the “badness” we feel we are made of. We are not bad, we are human! To err is human, and to make mistakes, learn and grow is what being human is all about. Working to flush the concept of badness from our being can be challenging because it is often so engrained within us. This is understandable because when we were wounded as children, everything we viewed was from the eyes of a child. Regardless of what really happened, at that time, everything (people, rooms, etc.) seemed bigger and stronger to us. And situations may have appeared scarier than they might have actually been. This doesn’t mean that they weren’t scary but they can be even more devastating when you are child. One example is children often take on adult responsibility and when they can’t follow through (because they don’t have the tools
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yet), then they feel as though they have failed and are bad. Allowing a change of perception can help people to let go of the terrible things that happened in a constructive way. This does not negate how we felt at the time, or even what we are feeling now. It is just a tool to be used when needed. We are grown up now. No one is going to hurt us now (unless we allow them to). But the little people inside us do not realize that unless we let them know. Spending quiet time with all the ages inside of you is important so they know you are listening to them. This can be done in a quiet meditation, in a nice bubble bath, with a large ice cream cone, on a hike in the mountains, or other fun activity where you can let your child inside out to play. Exploring these wounds for ourselves is important work. This is how families are healed and lives improved upon. This work can be done by yourself, with a quality therapist, in a group, or with your best friends. Ground rules are beneficial to allow safety for everyone involved when there is more than one person. One rule might be that nothing can be said to hurt anyone. If you are working with yourself, you must stop saying things that are hurting you. This is not productive, and if the critic inside of you cannot be quiet, then you will need to change what he/she is saying so that it becomes useful for you instead of detrimental. Have a conversation with the critic and explain that negative talk is not improving the situation, and if they want your life to change, then they will need to change how they treat you. Taking care of your wounds is a great way to start loving yourself. You would take care of another person or an animal if they were wounded. Taking care of wounds inside of you is a way to show yourself how much you love yourself and how much you care about your being. This speaks volumes to the various ages inside of you, plus it sets a good example for others within your family as well. If you are constantly beating yourself up over issues, children will copy that behavior and start to do the same. If you are gentle with yourself and nurture yourself, others around you can follow the modeling of this positive behavior. Healing wounds is a not a one-time event, but it is something we work on over a lifetime. It can become habitual, which can only bring you more happiness and love into your life. I wish you much success in healing your wounds, allowing yourself to be loved by yourself which leads to others loving you more as well. You deserve to be loved. Kasara D’Elene owns TruHealth, a health food store in the MiCreek/Bothell area. She has helped empower and educate thousands of people to optimum health. You can reach her at 425-415-8410 www.truhealth.com
Forgiveness
From a Space of
Live and Let Live
Love
Rajkhet Dirzhud-Rashid
Julie Hutslar
Having had my life in this body start in Texas, in a Black family, watching the commercial touting a sale on furniture as a way ‘celebrate’ (I don’t even know if the folks running that ad had anything like celebration in mind) Dr. Martin Luther King’s birthday rather irked me. I also found it an amusing, if disturbing comment on the times we now live in, that such a historical figure, a person who tirelessly worked for peace between races and nations, is now a reason for folks to buy into the over-commercialization of all things this way. But, I’d like to believe most folks think of Dr. King’s message as not just being a one day event, but a beacon and call to live life more peacefully and with more tolerance. Just as February second is not just about a small animal seeing its shadow, but the beginning of a natural cycle that returns us even more light, or, one could say, more enlightenment. Thus do we see the true path, the shining path, I like to say, toward a world in which we have more forgiveness, and less hatred. It is a foreshadowing of Spring to come, in which we see life renewed, refreshed after the harshness of winter. I guess these thoughts are foremost in my mind, lately, after witnessing some truly horrid news out of Arizona and watching ‘the usual suspects’ posture in the usual ways, pointing fingers and blaming. This is not the way to heal wounds, and certainly not a way to celebrate the return of new life, or the now gone birthday of Dr. Martin Luther King, a true peacemaker.
One of the most powerful methods of shifting your reality is to recognize and employ the energy of the heart. As the human physical heart pumps much needed blood and nutrients to the rest of the body, so the energetic heart acts as the main pump for distributing love. As strange as that may seem, it is what everyone who knows you wants from you and you want from others. It is the living nutrient of relationships and also of feeling whole and well. A few ideas for enacting this heart energy: One is to stretch with arms open wide and back bent backwards as if inviting the world in and expanding the heart boundaries. Another is to imagine your child self living in your heart, playing, laughing, spinning and loving.
Only by learning from nature the lessons of live and let live, and the message of Dr. King on how to look beyond one’s skin color, or sexual preference, or any other difference, do we begin to forgive and then, to heal. Broken things can be healed, as earth scarred by winter’s wrath can come alive and bring happiness with flowers and green trees to shade us in summer.
When someone challenges you, be brave enough to let them come into your heart and play too. It truly changes the dynamic of the way you feel about someone. You lose all intimidation of them, you can see them as their child self too and you have a metaphysical experience that offers you a way to perceive them from a space of only love.
My heart goes out to those who were the victims of one misguided man, and my hope is this tragedy gives us all a chance to accept the challenge presented to all of us as the years move toward what I believe to be a huge leap of conciousness for all human beings We have to learn to forgive each other’s transgressions, and forgive our pasts, before we can make progress toward our future. And isn’t this the perfect time to focus on this message, to focus on life that is rich and flourishing, or about to be? I think so. Otherwise we will stay stuck in the winter of darkness and never know the possibility of spring and all the gifts that spring brings with it.. Rajkhet does monthly readings at Venus Moon in Renton the second Saturdays monthly. With over 20 years experience as a psychic and medium, she is available for private readings and parties. You can reach her at: 206-443-3856.
Allow your heart energy to expand, breathe deeply and invite love to enter. It is like oxygen to the brain. Julie Hutslar - www.jrhutslar.com
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Dena Marie Are relationships mirrors so that we can see the missing aspects of ourselves? If we don’t like what we see in others, are we the ones that need to make the appropriate changes? On the other hand, are relationships simply tests on being whole people, regardless of the traits of the other person? When we are seeking out the missing parts of ourselves, we often attempt to find them in our relationships. We attract certain people into our lives that mirror back to us the very thing we are searching for. Most couples exhibit opposite characteristics, as if they fit together like pieces of a jigsaw puzzle. However, this complimentary nature of relationships is not always beneficial. Meeting somewhere in the middle will always benefit both individuals and I feel that understanding your differences is the key to reaching balance. Nine years ago, I met a man with whom I would learn the value of our differences and their affect on our relationship. We were drawn together at first because of our complimentary strengths and weaknesses. He was very intellectual, liked to make money and was very responsible. Before he met me, he spent his days keeping his nose to the grindstone. I, on the other hand, was spontaneous, social, care free and spent my free time roller skating, dancing and jumping off the stage at concerts. He was a full blown “head first” Aries fire sign and I was the quintessential freedom-loving air sign of Gemini. I loved his warm embers and he loved my breath of fresh air attitude. You can imagine what kind of combustion we could have if you brought our fire and air elements together without some type of control. Our incredibly different personalities may have been compatible, but it also meant that we were opposites… one always compensating for the other. Now, the words “you complete me” may work in describing relationships in movies, but in our case it was much better to grow together as whole people, rather than try to relate to one another as separate halves of what would otherwise be a complete person. I knew I felt too much and he knew he was too logical. When we would have a heated discussion I would overcompensate for his blocked heart with my overflowing emotions and start to cry. He would shut down his feelings, igniting with anger and over-rationalizing the situation while
I explained with tears running down my face that I was hurt. When we were good, we were great. When we went untamed, we were awful… like an inferno out of control. One day in the middle of an overheated conversation, I stopped and really saw what we were both doing, we were closing our hearts. He shifted to his logical side and I turned to my emotional side. It was if we were both speaking different languages, incomprehensible to one another. I realized that when we closed our hearts we were not able to function as whole people. We were actually half of who we were with an open heart, either all logic and power or all emotion and hurt. In that moment I decided to open my heart and reverse these roles I think he was shocked. I stopped crying, looked at him and spoke calmly and clearly… he didn’t know how to react. He realized that he was no longer dealing with just his “other half”. That day we discovered how valuable an open heart is for not only communicating with the ones you love, but also for getting in touch with all aspects of your personality – becoming a whole person. Over time, he learned to open his own heart, getting in touch with his feelings instead of over-intellectualizing. I practiced talking about what was bothering me at the present moment instead of holding it in and exploding with a deluge of emotion at a later date. We both learned how to put ourselves in the other’s shoes and not to take everything so personally. I needed to get serious and he needed to play more often, and so that is exactly what we did. Over the years, I have come to work a little harder, use my logic instead of my emotions, and keep my feet on the ground. He got in touch with what triggers his anger, gave himself permission to relax and learned to dance spontaneously without me asking. Now he scares me a bit at Christmas parties and I know how he felt when we first met. Seeing relationships as learning experiences is very empowering. If we had not been aware of our energy exchanges and had continued along our previous path, I would have become the prototypical submissive female and he would have increased his domineering male role. We would have been so out of balance that I could have literally called him my “other half”. At present we are whole people and therefore experience more harmony together. After that “over heated” discussion we came up with the following list of rules. Rules of Engagement
Stay in the present moment, resolving the situation at hand. Speak calmly and clearly, and from an open heart. Listen with understanding and empathy, put yourelf in their shoes. Words are very powerful, take time to think before you speak. If you cannot say anything nice, it is best to say nothing at all. It is o.k. to be alone and take the time you need to get centered before further discussion. Remember that this too shall pass and that you love one another. An open heart has taught us that, it takes two to tango. No one said it would be easy but it is well worth it! Dena Marie is the author of the book Our Energy Matters. She offers individual sessions, classes and workshops that are designed to lift your spirits. For upcoming classes and events go to: www.Dena-Marie.com or call Dena Marie @ 425 350-5448
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Blessing Your
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Tess Whitehurst A good night’s sleep is absolutely imperative for our moods, motor skills, reaction time, and thought processes. Not only that, but dreamtime is a bridge to our higher selves, messages, from the divine, creative problem solving, and healing on many levels. So, in the magical home, the bedroom is a place to refresh, revitalize. As if that weren’t enough, the bedroom also has everything to do with romance. When our bedrooms are filled with feelings of passion, receptivity, and love, so are our hearts and our relationships. (Even if you’re not interested in a relationship, romance and receptivity are necessary ingredients for inspiration and joy.) And so sleep and romance, two of the most important of all considerations, must be simultaneously honored when it comes to magical housekeeping in the bedroom. First, let’s talk about the bed. Obviously, it should be very comfortable. A bed with a substantial headboard is best because it helps us to feel safe and protected. Wood is the best material for the headboard because of the light and grounded way it conducts energy. Ideally, the entire bed, but at the very least the mattress and box spring, should be purchased brand-new. Then the mattress should be replaced every four years and after divorces, breakups, and serious or long-term physical or mental illnesses. This is because beds powerfully absorb and hold energy, and it’s important not to sleep on old, worn-out energy patterns, whether they’re our own or someone else’s. We’ll not only sleep better this way, we’ll also avoid living out some sort of condition or situation that isn’t us anymore—or never was us in the first place. If it’s not possible to replace your bed or mattress right away, and you feel you might be sleeping on some old, negative patterns, then you definitely want to perform the following bed-cleansing ritual ASAP.
Bed Cleansing Ritual Ingredient: 4 white or off-white tealight candles in jars 40 white roses (or at least a dozen) A mister of rose water
• Only display (if you have on photos of your current relatio those people st e). Pictures of other people nship needless to say,aring at you while you’re in are like bed; this is not cond ucive to intimac y. • Hang pictures that are relaxing and romantic. • Go light on th Too many little e decorations, books, and do tling while you’ things can be distracting an o-dads. d unsetre trying to slee p. • Lose the exer romantic, and cise equipment. It’s not rela And if you do,chances are you never use it xing or back to bed the you probably fantasize abouanyway. in this room, ov whole time. If it absolutely t going m er it attractivel y while it’s not ust be in use. • Make sure th at the lighting is pleasing. • Jesus, Buddh please leave th a, and the Virgin Mary are gr other figures anem out of the bedroom. This eat, but and/or solitude d symbols associated with chgoes for as well, such as as a lone wolf. a Christian crostity s or • If you can pu It’s best to lim t your desk somewhere else, it your bedroom do intimacy. activity to rest it. and
In the evening, when the moon is between full and new, move the bed away from the wall and remove all the bedding. Place a candle on the ground at each corner. Be very aware of fire safety. Light each candle and turn out the electric lights. Pull out all the rose petals and spread them on top of the bare mattress. Stand over the bed, place your hands in prayer position, close your eyes, and ask forty angels to powerfully cleanse the energy of your bed and remove all negativity. Visualize the light from the candles expanding until the entire bed is transformed into sparkling golden-white light. Know that this light is burning away and transmuting all old and stagnant energy and replacing it with fresh, new, vibrant energy. Allow the candles to safely burn for at least forty minutes. Then remove the candles and petals, and mist the mattress lightly with the rose water. Bury the petals or scatter them at the base of a tree. Dispose of the candles. Tess Whitehurst is the author of “Magical Housekeeping: Simple Charms and Practical Tips for Creating a Harmonious Home’ (Llewellyn 2010). She’s appeared on the Bravo TV show “Flipping Out.” To read her blog and sign up for her free monthly newsletter, visit www.tesswhitehurst.com.
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increased each month as we move through 2011. With the sun in the sign of Aquarius until the 18th when it enters Pisces we are asked to ponder deeply the meaning of life and create new visions of ourselves and how we connect to others.
Happy February 2011 Happy Birthday Aquarius and Pisces Sun sign people And welcome change as Uranus the planet of change works to help us change as it ends its reign in the sign of Pisces.. February is the 2nd month of a number 4 year making this month an 6 month of love, service and opening to love. February was named from the Latin word Februare, a word that the Latin’s borrowed from the Sabines and it means “To Purify” Self.
On the 18th when the Sun enters the watery and psychic land of Pisces.. the ability to touch, smell, feel and really connect with more than you could dream possible becomes stronger. This energy will work in relationships, business and your inner world and is much more powerful this year than ever before...as the sun (the light and where we are now) joins with Uranus the planet of change on March 19th bringing a place of action within us all. The energy this month seems preparatory energy for the pace to increase and us to recognize we do have options and abilities far beyond what we believed possible. Right now we are feeling that knowing that things are not going to stay the same. The New moon or bringing in time on the 2nd at 14 degrees of Aquarius is about breaking boundaries of what we believed possible and with Chiron ending its reign in Aquarius on that week and Neptune, Mars, Moon, Sun, Ceres all in Aquarius add in the North Node ending its reign in Capricorn (it changes signs March 2nd) Vesta, Pluto, Pallas Athene and Mercury all in Capricorn.
January 20th through February 18th in the American Indian Tradition is called the rest and cleansing moon. It is said that a silver cord that holds our souls to our body in energized during this time. Using silver, water, candles and anything, which aids your own internal perception and will help your emotions to flow properly works well during this time, what can it hurt and most of Old paradigms are falling us surely need more energy don’t we? down in order to create ways
We have a powerful mix of planets which are called outer (transpersonal or beyond the personal and for the good of the all ) signs. to live which are healthier and Colors for February are traditionally Silvers Capricorn is the established rules and orgamore connected to source. and blues for cleansing and clearing nization of our society and Aquarius is the Flowers are Snowdrops and wood anemone: energy to break down what is not working. And the stones held sacred in ancient times (getting the image yet?) Energy to construct As a part of this we must be were the Peridot and coral. And from Ancient and Destruct is here. positive and shift from negative times the Amethyst. This stone assists with now comes your part in this…visions, prayer, thoughts to positive. Thoughts purifying and clearing energy as well as is a meditation dreams, imagination and more wonderful healing stone. Our task right now create most emotions, we can are gaining power and when we envision with the world around us, taxes, cuts to servicbad,,,well, we can draw this to us, so we all control and shift them if we es, major planet shifts and the global economy need to set our sights and our Energy towards choose. shifting is to Generate the power from within what we want to happen. It is now time to and recognize that our response to external donate some REAL time for what you becircumstances is a much more important part lieve in. Instead of fussing because the Govof all this than we may realize. Purification ernment is not doing what we want with our of self, healing of the mind and recognizing money, maybe it is time to donate time into that fear breeds fear and thinking Positive is our task for right now is what it is that you believe in. Aries is coming and that is action, what our duty to the planet and to ourselves.. and as planets are only mes- do you believe in acting for? sengers or energies to bring powers to us, please use this months gifts to reflect, ponder and shift your mind and then watch your life follow Uranus (change) finishing up this month in the water sign of Pisces in whatever way you are concentrating on. We are truly being su- asks us to reach out and make changes with intuition, love and compersized with Jupiter in the sign of Aries for the first time in 12 years passion and be open as the sun moves to Pisces on the day of the full and opening to our own unique and original creativity is the major moon February 18th, and then Mercury on the 21st and Mars on the lesson of this time. .Uranus moves to Aries next month to remain 22nd we have a rare opportunity this February 2011 to help create and change our old world to create a new world by our dreams, viuntil March 6, 2019 when it will enter Taurus sions, ideas and thoughts. OR contribute to the pain and chaos with Old paradigms are falling down in order to create ways to live which the same … are healthier, more connected to source and as a part of this we must be positive and shift from negative thoughts to positive. Thoughts cre- My intention is that on the full moon on the 18th we will all begin to let go of The past and by then we are all letting go of the negative ate most emotions and we can control And shift them if we choose. and reaching more for the dream and more comfortable with knowAries is the sign of self and this last month carries a softer and more ing Aries energy is coming to show us we can do it ourselves. This gentle energy than you will ever experience in your life again. Yes, full moon with the moon at 29 Leo (heart energy) and the sun at 29 I know this does not feel soft and gentle but the Aries energy coming Aquarius happens 12:36am PST and then the sun moves to Pisces is the time of fire and passion and affirmative action… So, please 4:25pm Pst. And it seems to me the message this time carries to us spend much of this month in purification rituals which are, things all is…. which bring you peace, and a feeling that things will be fine… sun- This is the month to remember that you are here on this planet as sets, friends, laughter, positive approaches to things, opening to learn- a direct response from a need this planet has. Begin now to aning and teaching and being more ready to become who you truly are. swer the need which brought your soul to this planet. We are here and the time is now: get ready for being the most you can be and We are opening hugely with this wonderful planetary energy to more than you ever thought you could be. Namaste Carol Barbeau NEW and exciting times for us all beginning this month with Jupiter's entrance into the first sign of the Zodiac Aries: Followed on the Contact Carol for her free daily astrology online, at http://www.carolbarbeau. 8th of this month by Chiron the wounded healer entering Pisces until com And for lists of cd’s, lectures and classes, or to make an appointment 4/17/2018. So, the passion of energetically healing our wounds is 206 542 7641 carolastro@carolbarbeau.com or carolastro@verizon.net
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Creating Space:
Sensitive Choices to Empower Intimacy Define Your Personal Space Needs
Dr. Judith Orloff, MD Loneliness gets to some more than others. But why it hangs on isn’t always apparent when read by traditional medical eyes. In my psychiatric practice in Los Angeles and in my workshops I’ve been struck by how many sensitive, empathic people who I call “emotional empaths” come to me, lonely, wanting a romantic partner, yet remaining single for years. Or else they’re in relationships but feel constantly fatigued and overwhelmed. The reason isn’t simply that “there aren’t enough emotionally available people ‘out there,’” nor is their burnout “neurotic.” Personally and professionally, I’ve discovered that something more is going on.
Tip 1. What to say to a potential mate As you’re getting to know someone, share that you’re a sensitive person, that you periodically need quiet time. The right partner will be understanding; the wrong person will put you down for being “overly sensitive,” and won’t respect your need. Tip 2. Clarify your preferred sleep style Traditionally, partners sleep in the same bed. However, some empaths never get used to this, no matter how caring a mate. Nothing personal; they just like their own sleep space. Speak up about your preferences. Feeling trapped in bed with someone, not getting a good night’s rest, is torture. Energy fields blend during sleep, which can overstimulate empaths. So, discuss options with your mate. Separate beds. Separate rooms. Sleeping together a few nights a week. Because n o n - empaths may feel lonely sleeping alone, make compromises when possible.
In “Emotional Freedom” I describe emotional empaths as a species unto themselves. Whereas others may thrive on the togetherness of being a couple, for empaths like me, too much togetherness can be difficult, may cause us to bolt. Why? We tend to intuit and absorb our partner’s energy, and become overloaded, anxious, or exhausted when we don’t have time to decompress in our own space. We’re super-responders; our sensory experience of relationship is the equivalent of feeling objects with 50 fingers instead of five. Energetically sensitive people unknowingly avoid romantic partnership because deep down they’re afraid of getting engulfed. Or else, they feel engulfed when coupled, a nerve-wracking, constrictive way to live. If this isn’t understood, empaths can stay perpetually lonely. We want companionship, but, paradoxically, it doesn’t feel safe. One empath patient told me, “It helps explain why at 32 I’ve only had two serious relationships, each lasting less than a year.” Once we empaths learn to set boundaries and negotiate our energetic preferences, intimacy becomes possible.
Tip 3. Negotiate your square footage needs You may be thrilled about your beloved until you live together. Experiment with creative living conditions so your home isn’t a prison. Breathing room is mandatory. Ask yourself, “What space arrangements are optimal?” Having an area to retreat to, even if it’s a closet? A room divider? Separate bathrooms? Separate houses? I prefer having my own bedroom/office to retreat to. I also can see the beauty of separate wings or adjacent houses if affordable. Here’s why: conversations, scents, coughing, movement can feel intrusive. Even if my partner’s vibes are sublime, sometimes I’d rather not sense them even if they’re only hovering near me. I’m not just being finicky; it’s about maintaining well-being if I live with someone.
For emotional empaths to be at ease in a relationship, the traditional paradigm for coupling must be redefined. Most of all, this means asserting your personal space needs -- the physical and time limits you set with someone so you don’t feel they’re on top of you. Empaths can’t fully experience emotional freedom with another until they do this. Your space needs can vary with your situation, upbringing, and culture. My ideal distance to keep in public is at least an arm’s length. In doctors’ waiting rooms I’ll pile my purse and folders on the seats beside me to keep others away.
Tip 4. Travel wisely Traveling with someone, you may want to have separate space too. Whether my companion is romantic or not, I’ll always have adjoining rooms with my own bathroom. If sharing a room is the only option, hanging a sheet as a room divider will help. “Out of sight” may make the heart grow fonder.
With friends it’s about half that. With a mate it’s variable. Sometimes it’s rapture being wrapped in his arms; later I may need to be in a room of my own, shut away. One boyfriend who truly grasped the concept got me a “Keep Out” sign for my study door! For me, this was a sign of true love. All of us have an invisible energetic border that sets a comfort level. Identifying and communicating yours will prevent you from being bled dry by others. Then intimacy can flourish, even if you’ve felt suffocated before. Prospective mates or family members may seem like emotional vampires when you don’t know how to broach the issue of personal space. You may need to educate others -make clear that this isn’t about not loving them -- but get the discussion going. Once you can, you’re able to build progressive relationships.
Tip 5. Take regular mini-breaks Empaths require private downtime to regroup. Even a brief escape prevents emotional overload. Retreat for five minutes into the bathroom with the door shut. Take a stroll around the block. Read in a separate room. One patient told her boyfriend, “I need to disappear into a quiet room for ten minutes at a party, even if I’m having fun,” a form of self-care that he supports.
If you’re an empath or if the ordinary expectations of coupledom don’t jibe with you practice the following tips. Define your personal space needs In my medical practice, I’ve seen this creative approach to relationships save marriages and make ongoing intimacies feel safe, even for emotional empaths (of all ages) who’ve been lonely and haven’t had a long-term partner before. Once you’re able to articulate your needs, emotional freedom in your relationships is possible.
Judith Orloff MD is the author of the New York Times bestseller ‘Emotional Freedom’upon which this article is based. She symthesizes traditional medicine with intuition, energy, and spirit. Join her in Seattle at Town Hall March 23 7:30PM for talk and booksigning. Info at www.drjudithorloff.com
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Be The Miracle Message from Mother Mary Raven Many Voices My Dear Children, as be become settled into the New Year and commit to the new diet, promised exercise workout and planned budget we can now embrace the energy of 2011. This year is going to be filled with miracles! We have all heard to be the change we want to see in the world. For many the word change is a struggle and resisting change becomes a pattern. What if we change the word ‘change’ into ‘miracles’? Now energy of change we fought against becomes a welcomed energy of the unexpected into our lives. Miracles happen every day. When a stranger picks up a wallet and returns it to the mother who left it behind at the checkout counter – this is a miracle. A tree that falls onto the hill instead of the house in a bad storm is a miracle. Or even a depressed clerk
at the store who was thinking of ending her life until you came in that day to smile and remind her there’s compassion in this world worth living for. All these are miracles and happen every day around us. Miracles defy the definition you have given them. “A miracle is an unexpected event attributed to divine intervention”. If we see miracles happen every day then this once in a life time event now is commonplace. To understand miracles is to include the part we have over looked – ourselves. We are the messengers of Divine and become a positive conduit of Divine to deliver these miracles onto the planet. We become the change we desire in the world around us. To see miracles is to appreciate how important you are in your community. Your support of a local farmer allows them to continue to grow those peaches you love. The farmer’s fields and land support the animals and trees that live there, and those beings connect to the strength of the whole ecosystem. We are all interconnected. When we give from our heart we change and uplift the whole system. This change, no matter what size, has dramatic effects which we see as miracles. What can I do Mother Mary? Be the Miracle! Do not under estimate your power of love and compassion. Instead of sitting on the side lines of life, be involved. Speak up for the change you desire in your government, schools, neighborhood or family. Speaking your truth is a miracle to those who have prayed for someone to bring a change in thinking. Don’t just see the trash on the ground and wish others would stop, pick up the trash knowing you are changing the whole system with just your one miracle. If today all you can do is share your love with a stranger with a smile, then you have changed the world. Because your smile may have been what that clerk who would have ended their life before receiving the miracle they needed. Such miracles great and small are changing the world into what we have all been dreaming, feeling and knowing. A place where miracles are commonplace, compassion is the ruling law and our community is the loving support that helps us flourish. This is not future, but now my loves. Be Here Be Now Be Love Blessings upon you and all the miracles you will create today. Namaste’ Mother Mary Raven Many Voices ~ Guide to the Spirits channels loving messages from Mother Mary and your Spirit Guides. Visit www.RavenMedium.com for more messages.
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Soft pink, violet or blue-green jelly poured over a rock - that is the look of Smithsonite. It has a tranquil energy and eye-pleasing pastel colors. It does not have the popularity of many other stones because it is generally in specimen form with its lumps and bumps, and hard-to-hold shapes. Much of it is in thin layers making it less available as a tumbled stone. Crystal formations are rare. Smithsonite is found near hydrothermal area, often in relationship to mines such as lead or zinc. Some of the best comes from Colorado and Utah in North America, parts of Europe, and Southwest Africa. The colors of Smithsonite, the stone named after James Smithson, founder of the Smithsonian Institute, are the result of its zinc carbonate being infused with some other minerals. The pink contains manganese, the blue-green has copper, and the violet has cobalt. The stone has a hardness of 4 to 4 ½. The most common form is the incrusted one though it does come in many other forms.
Smithsonite Judy Hall, in her Crystal Bible, refers to this form as looking like “silky bubbles.”
been conflict or judgments and I could feel the energy around these events releasing from my consciousness. It was very healing.
The basic attributes of Smithsonite are im proved personal relationships, pleasant and favorable outcomes, and charm. It also had been associated with the psychic abilities of clairvoyance and clairsentience. Each color has its own special gift as well. The pink releases negativities from the heart. Jack Frasl described this trait as ‘helping an individual to cope with the opinions, power plays, dramas, and egotism of others.” The blue-green adds more emotional healing, and the violet is stronger in clearing negative feelings connected to past events. There also is a yellow known for balancing the solar plexus and a few other colors.
Many of the Smithsonite specimens make great altar pieces, desk displays, or collection additions. Their energy of calmness brings peace to that which is around them. If you are looking for a stone to help bring a peaceful feeling into your life, this one is worth investigating. Cecilia Ray, owner of World of Gaia, a rock business on www.WorldofGaia.net and ebay, reads stone energies. She also owns Mystical Winds, a company coordinating Psychic and Holistic Fairs. 425-239-0565 or www.MysticalWinds.net.
As I held a piece of violet Smithsonite, it seemed to melt into my hand. Like a kitten, it became warm and comforting. My mind began showing me moments where there had
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Watch for More Chinese Astrology by Ko Hashiguci in the March issue 2011
Pranic Healing: Life Force Energy for All Your Relationships Mater Stephen Co All relationships are based on life-force energy. Relationships are built and destroyed by the energies created by our thoughts, emotions and opinions. Positive relationships reflect intimacy in every aspect of togetherness: mental, physical, emotional and spiritual. The energy of a loving couple in an intimate relationship blends in a harmonious way, allowing love and good emotions to flow between them easily and freely. Conversely, when a couple is in a poor relationship, arguing and fighting, the energy fields don’t blend and flow. They actually clash and repel, manifesting as even more painful friction. Pranic Healing’s simple, step-by-step techniques show you how to disintegrate conscious and subconscious negative energies lodged in chakras, meridians and auras. Since Pranic Healing® uses our life-force energy to heal, it can heal relationships as well as bodies. There are many levels of intimacy in relationships: a.Physical or sexual b.Emotional/Astral c.Mental d. Spiritual Often couples fail to understand that intimacy is about more than sex. When intimacy exists only in the physical body, it tends to fade when the physical body changes. The same is true on an emotional level. When emotions change, so does the intimacy. It is the nature of the emotional body to be extremely reactive to the surroundings and situations in a person’s life. That’s why its important to be conscious of the state of our intimacy on all levels and nurture it. When emotions change, so does the intimacy. The heart chakras of two people have to be highly activated and in tune to each other to form a “heart connection”. The energetic method makes loving each other “effortless”. From a spiritual standpoint, its important that the energy fields of two people in a relationship merge together. When we project love, love is projected back to us. We literally manipulate energy to create positive effects and invoke healing. Mentally, the thoughts we project onto others truly have power. Most people don’t even realize that projecting bad thoughts towards someone, even without saying a word, can make that person weaker. On the other hand, thinking thoughts of health and love about the same person can help develop positive traits. We should remember that this is true of the thoughts we think about ourselves, too! The energy field does not care if thoughts are positive or negative — it absorbs whatever is sent. On the mental level, people often put their partner’s faults and weakness under a “microscope” rather than focusing on the positive traits. An easy technique is to mentally enhance the positive qualities your partner has, no matter how small. Silently do an inventory of their positive qualities, mentally praise him/her for them then later physically tell the person how awesome and special they are. Watch them try to live up to your praise!
An effective way to begin creating physical intimacy is to develop a proper physical contact. A good example of this is holding hands. Also, from an emotional standpoint, focusing on another person’s positive qualities builds intimacy. Too often people focus on the negative, ignoring positive traits, even taking them for granted. An easy Pranic Healing® technique is to praise and bless the positive qualities that others have, no matter how small. Take each positive quality and visualize it, affirm it and nurture the other person with it. For example, if your mate has several faults, but is good at keeping a checkbook, compliment that trait. With successful and loving relationships, it is very important to practice the “Meditation On Twin Hearts” (see Your Hands Can Heal You book on mediation Chapter 11). This will help flush out the stress energies that one accumulates from a stressful day. “Meditation on Twin Hearts” also activates the heart chakras that help you become more understanding to your partner. To get the best effect, a couple should practice the Meditation together and activate their Human Heart chakras and Divine Hearts Chakras (Crown) to experience a merging of the aura and chakras. With more practice they can even experience a merging of twin souls! This is not limited to relationships with “significant others.” It applies to friends, relatives and business partners, too. Remember to project love from your heart and crown chakras and you’ll see friendships or business relationships become closer. You can even do this with people who don’t like you and create positive results. As Pranic Healing uses our life-force energy to heal, it can heal relationships as well as bodies. Pranic Healing disintegrates the negative thoughts and emotions of couples. This helps empower individuals to react less to negative energies, while promoting good energy to flow freely between both partners in a relationship. Self Pranic Healing can also be helpful in dealing with self-anger. Eliminating self-anger guards against projecting negative energy on a loved one over problems that actually have nothing to do with them, such as frustration from a hurried workday. To effectively heal your relationships using Pranic Healing®, you need to: -Learn to use the power of your aura and specific chakras to flush out anger, stress and resentment. - Stop repeating the same negative energetic conditions that manifest as repeated failed relationships. - Be guided in a powerful mediation to improve the “Heart Connection”, something many relationships lack. - Practice the techniques so you can be confident in applying them immediately. All Life is Energy and our relationship to Life is through Energy. By learning to consciously direct your own Life Force Energy, you can greatly improve your life experience. Begin today to heal yourself and your loved ones using Life Force Prana. Visit Master Stephen Co’s website www.yourhandscanhealyou.com for more information.
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