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HEALTH

NUTRITION & WHAT IT MEANS DURING ILLNESS

INSPIRATION STORIES OF HOPE

PSYCHOLOGY

ACCEPTING YOURSELF POST CANCER

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12 BEAUTY Eyetality Face yoga Beauty essentials Brush hygiene 20 RELATIONSHIPS Getting attached To post or not to post 25 CAREERS Job hunting 101 27 MONEY The up side of down 29 PSYCHOLOGY Psychological effects of breast cancer Accepting yourself post cancer 37 INSPIRATION Stories of hope 39 LETS TALK Saying ‘I do’ in lockdown

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your style

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your family 33 HEALTH Nutrition and what it means during illness The ABCs of oncology 41 PARENTING Stuttering in kids 43 KIDS CORNER Fight world hunger 44 NALIBALI STORY 46 FOOD Easy lunchboxes ideas Succulent salads 52 HOME DIY maintenance ideas Summer-proof your home 56 MOTORING The do’s and don’ts of buying a second hand car

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advice LINEN

THE OPEN-BACK DRESS TEXT SKYE LAVIS

Backless dresses are one of the most captivating dress trends of the season, perhaps it’s because they’re so subtle yet striking in their simplicity. Whether you opt for delicately tied straps or backs that are wide open, you can pretty much guarantee a winning outfit with this one.

Add a voluminous wide/puff sleeve and you’ve found yourself the perfect date-night dress.

From the bedroom to the wardrobe. This year is all about easy, breezy linen fabrics. This linen dress is universally flattering and the ultimate definition of sophistication and comfort.

It’s lightweight and breathable which makes it perfect for a spring picnic with the family or just a day out with good friends.

SHERBET HUES Nothing gets us as excited as exploring the colours of the season, and this year is no different. For their spring-summer colections, major fashion brands have chosen to go with a sherbet colourway theme.

From dusty pinks to pistachio greens, the softer hues seek to stimulate the feeling of comfort, calm and relaxation.

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LACE UPS With their signature interlaced straps varying from barely-there to maximalist-like styles, lace up sandals are evidently the shoe of the season. Lace ups are extremely versatile and they instantly upgrade your ensemble. For a smart daytime look, add a pair of bermuda shorts and a chic blouse. For cocktails with the girls, add a flirty linen dress or a silky slip dress and you’re sure to have all eyes on you! ■

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LOUNGEWEAR Not your average PJs and not quite athleisure, loungewear is the cosier sister-category that brings together nightwear and luxury. TEXT SKYE LAVIS Restoring comfort With most people increasingly seeking products that facilitate calm, loungewear has become an essential part of the work-from-home regime.

Comfort is the backbone of the trend with natural skin-friendly fabrics that are soft, breathable, and lightweight.

Smooth, stretchy, cool-touch yarns are a favourite in this department.

Function over fashion In a nutshell, loungewear is casual clothes suitable for lying around at home that you could dress up and go into public with. That means no more uncomfortable elastic waistbands and underwire but rather soft, easy garments to slip on and off. The trend focuses on effortless dressing and one-piece garments such as roomy jumpsuits and breezy rompers.

Luxury minimalism The emphasis here is on quality and luxury. Silk and satin, high-stretch ribbed knits and plush velvets are the preferred materials in this trend.

Key items include athleisure staples like joggers remade in silk, sweater dresses, cashmere sets and tops that play with sculptural volume, like big sleeves and cinched waists.

For pulling off pyjama dressing in daylight without looking like a fashion victim, try these 4 trends:

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1. Short sleeved sweatsuits Warmer weather is upon us and since a lot of us are still working from home, we’d like to continue to live in our sweatpants. It’s hot outside, and we want cozy clothes we aren’t going to be super sweaty in.

Solution? Simply replace your sweat pants with a shorter version of the french terry drawstring set. Adding a pair of sneakers will take you from the bed to the mall in no time.

2. The silk slip The minimalist and uncomplicated nature of a slip dress! The slip is slinky, silky and easy on the skin. It’s almost as if you’re barely wearing anything, yet looks incredibly chic and stylish. Whether it’s used as a nightie or sultry date night outfit, this piece drapes over the body perfectly and is super easy to style with sneakers, slide sandals or heels.

3. Light and breezy rompers The romper is also a one-item outfit solution and an absolute must have at that! You can find plenty in the sleepwear section because they are super comfortable, lightweight and are available in a variety of cute prints and fabrics. So cute in fact, that you could run a quick errand or two, and no one would know.

4. Oversized tee dress

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Some days all you want to do is put on a roomy, oversize T-shirt and call it a day - especially throughout this WFH period. They’re inherently comfortable, cool and versatile depending on your mood. Dress them up with some over-the-knee boots and a wide belt for some structure, or dress them down with sneakers or lace-up flats. It’s a look either way! ■

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EYETALITY We all have those mornings when we wake up, stagger to the bathroom and stare into the mirror at some tired, puffy eyes. Whether it’s simply from ageing, stress, genetics or sleepless nights (this one’s for you mums!), different factors can affect the youthful glow of our eyes. Here are some tips to help with dark circles, puffiness, dryness and wrinkles. TEXT SKYE LAVIS

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HYPOALLERGIC CONCEALERS: Concealers are typically used under the eyes to mask dark rings but can cause dryness to this sensitive eye area. Opt for a hypoallergenic concealer that is not so harsh on the skin. Another tip is to properly remove the concealer before you go to bed. Switch to a mild, soapfree facial cleanser and massage in gentle strokes. Rinse with lukewarm water instead of hot.

HYALURONIC ACID: The skin under your eyes is ultra thin and needs to be kept hydrated.

Eye creams that include hyaluronic acid is a great way to hydrate and brighten up this region, helping to mask any darkness.

TURMERIC: This spice is excellent for brightening complexions, evening out skin tone and reducing inflammation. A turmeric eye mask is filled with anti-inflammatory and antioxidant properties and is super easy to make at home. All you need to do is mix 1 tablespoon of turmeric with 1 tablespoon of milk in a small bowl and apply to undereyes using a cotton ball. Leave on for 15 minutes and then carefully rinse off.

PUFFINESS COOL AS A CUCUMBER: Puffiness can be a result of excess fluid caused by water retention, allergies or swelling due to skin irritation. Cucumbers have been used for years as a home remedy for puffy eyes because of their detoxifying and diuretic properties.

They contain vitamin C and antioxidants that can help soothe and support the skin. Plus, since they’re stored in the refrigerator, the cooling action can help decrease swelling and tighten skin for a little bit of relief. Place a cool cucumber slice on each of your closed lids, and take a rest for 15–30 minutes.

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WRINKLES TEA BAGS: Green and black teas contain caffeine, which tightens skin and prevents the excessive accumulation of fat in cells.

Caffeine also stimulates blood circulation and antioxidants that protect skin from the effects of aging. For this remedy, place two tea bags in a cup of hot water.

Remove tea bags from the cup and allow them to cool to room temperature. Place them on your closed eyes for 15–30 minutes.

Doing this once or twice a week can help tighten the skin under the eyes, as well as provide soothing benefits.

DRYNESS ALOE VERA GEL: It’s not just for burns! Aloe contains tonnes of antioxidants and has numerous antibacterial, antifungal, antiviral, and other healing properties. A little gel can help soothe tired eyes by moisturizing the skin and providing relief.

VITAMIN C: Dermatologists love vitamin C, and for a good reason. The little antioxidant softens rough patches, shields your skin from damage and fades scars. Vitamin C stimulates collagen production and helps prevent fine lines whilst smoothing the existing ones you may already have.

SUNSCREEN: Since the skin around the eye is extremely thin (up to 1/10 thinner than skin found elsewhere), UV rays can penetrate the area very easily, destroying collagen and causing wrinkling. Avoid sun exposure as best you can by adding a SPF 30+ sunscreen to your daily skin routine. ■

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FACE YOGA How to get a more youthful and radiant complexion by exercising your facial muscles.

TEXT SKYE LAVIS We love seeing new trends in anti-aging treatments, and the creativity behind these practices really shows how far we will go to hold onto our youthful look for as long as possible. The newest trend on the block being Face Yoga!

Founder Fumiko Takatsu, explains that our faces are just like the rest of our bodies; composed of muscle. When we work that muscle, we will have more definition and lifting! By practicing the below series of facial exercises you can learn to tone your facial muscles, increase circulation and blood flow, and ultimately tighten your skin.

SURPRISE ME Used to: Smooth your forehead.

How it works: Widen your eyes, trying to expose as much of the white

in your eye as you can. Hold that until your eyes start to water. By holding this expression, you’re exercising the muscles around your eyes and your forehead, erasing the negative effects of frowning by doing the opposite action.

GET CHEEKY Used to: Firm your cheeks.

How it works: Take a deep breath through your mouth, then push the

breath from cheek to cheek and release. This pose strengthens your cheek muscles and prevents them from becoming thinner and looking hollow. This pose’s results are evident in people who play the saxophone, they always have toned, lifted, and plump cheeks.

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CROW, CROW, FLY AWAY Used to: Get rid of crow’s feet.

How it works: Lift and release your lower lid gently without moving any

other facial muscles. Add a little bit of fingertip pressure in the outer crease of the crow’s feet, which in turn creates some pressure for the muscle to work against. Just make sure you don’t drag or pull the skin since that area is very sensitive. You also want to make sure the skin is clean and slightly moisturized so it’s not tight. By exercising the muscles around your eyes, you’re firming the skin to keep it from folding into itself, which creates wrinkles.

PUPPET FACE Used to: Lift nasal labial folds/laugh lines.

How it works: Smile with your teeth showing, then gently press your

fingertips into the creases between your nose and lips. Lift the muscles up and press your fingertips down into the muscles for slight resistance.

One of the best signs of youth are plump, round cheeks, which is why people use injectables to fill the area. Instead, try this exercise, which will strengthen the muscle so that it doesn’t become slack. When your fingertips push into facial muscles, the muscles push back, which is what makes them stronger and fuller.

BABY BIRD Used to: Prevent your chin and neck from sagging.

How it works: Whilst you may always put SPF on your face, your neck may

often get skipped and that’s why the neck is one of the first places to show signs of aging. Press the tip of your tongue to the roof of your mouth, then smile and swallow while pointing your chin at the ceiling. This pose is great at tightening the jaw, since you’re working out your chewing muscle and the platysma, which is the muscle that surrounds your upper chest, collarbone, and neck. This pose may take some practice! ■

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BEAUTY ESSENTIALS FOR WARMER WEATHER Bring on the South African sun! TEXT SKYE LAVIS SUNSCREEN Sunscreen is a non-negotiable item with summer approaching!

It’s 2020 and there is no time to be messing around when it comes to protecting your skin. Choose a SPF 30+ and apply it at least 30 minutes before you step out into the sun so that it has time to soak into your skin and protect you from UV rays.

PROTECTIVE HAIR MASK The strong South African sun can also harm your hair with hot and humid conditions causing your scalp to sweat profusely.

Shampooing daily removes natural oils and can upset your scalp’s natural microbiome (good bacteria). The best way to protect your hair is to use a protective hair mask at least once a week to restore moisture. On a budget? Simply use olive oil or coconut oil from the kitchen.

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FACE SPRITZER Spritzing your face doesn’t only cool the skin and invigorate it, but it has antioxidants that are extremely beneficial for your skin. It gives your skin the extra boost it needs to keep a dewy, healthy appearance whilst also keeping your skin hydrated. A homemade or DIY face spritzer is easy to make and be kept in your handbag for when you need that little boost! Here is an easy Antioxidant Green Tea Toner to try Ingredients: - 2 cups of boiling water - 2 green-tea bags - 2 - 3 drops vitamin E oil (optional) - 2 to 3 drops of your favourite essential oil (optional) - Spray bottle Soak the tea bags in hot water for 60 minutes. Let it chill. Transfer to your spray bottle with vitamin E oil and your favourite essential oil for hydration.

LIP BALM It is extremely common to have chapped, dry lips in the warmer months. This is because the skin on your lips is super thin and delicate, making them even more vulnerable to UV damage. A good lip balm should have a limited set of ingredients and be rich in elements like oils, beeswax, petrolatum or SPF. Make it a point to carry a lip balm in your bag and apply it before you head out.

FACE SCRUB I think we can all agree that sweating + make-up does not work together.

The dirt and grime that starts to build up inevitably blocks pores and causes breakouts. A good face scrub is absolutely essential in removing dead skin cells, leaving you with a fresh, cleansed face. You don’t have to carry this in your handbag but try to use it at least 2-3 times a week. ■

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When was the last time you washed your makeup brushes? If your brushes are currently caked in makeup and you can’t see the original colour of the bristles anymore, it’s probably time you gave them a good clean. TEXT SKYE LAVIS

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It’s important to clean your make-up brushes because layers of oil from your skin, mixed with makeup pigments and dead skin cells, make brushes a breeding ground for bacteria. If you are one of those people that does all the right things and yet can’t understand why you have rashes and spots, take a look at the tools you use to apply your facial products with. Daily grime from our makeup brushes can cause breakouts, congestion and skin irritation. The same goes for your beauty blender, too. Replacing these every three months would be ideal, but a regular deep clean will be sufficient. Follow these easy steps to get your brushes shining again!

1. WASH Hand wash brushes with an anti-bacterial soap or baby shampoo in lukewarm water. (If you don’t have anti-bacterial soap, vinegar is also a great disinfectant). Dip each brush individually under the running water, then into a bowl of gentle shampoo or soap and rub gently with fingers to get a good lather for a few minutes.

2. SWIRL & RINSE Hold brushes under running water, swirling against your hand until the residue/ pigment starts to lather up. It is very important to use a swirling method and not soak the brushes so as not to rot the wood or remove the glue handle.

Squeeze the water out of the brush and repeat the process until the residue returns to clear.

3. DRY After all of the brushes are washed, lay them flat in a neat row in the sunlight. If you stack them on top of each other, they don’t dry properly and may end up smelling damp. If you dry them in an upright position , the water can penetrate the clasp of the brush which will ultimately lead to the loosening of the glue. It’s important to also use natural sunlight and not a hair dryer as the intense heat will damage the fibres. Happy cleaning! ■

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Our ability to connect and build relationships with the people around us is one of the most common emotions that human beings share. However, just because we share this instinct, it doesn’t mean we approach things in exactly the same way. This is where attachment styles come into play. TEXT SKYE LAVIS

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There are three very common types of attachment styles that people may experience when building relationships or when trying to connect to others.

1. SECURE People with a secure attachment style are able to trust others easily and do not second-guess people and their intentions. They are confident in themselves and those around them. These individuals are often seen as resilient and able to take on any adversity in their stride.

2. ANXIOUS People with an anxious attachment style don’t trust people easily. They are always wondering why people might like them and what their intentions are toward them. They have an acute fear of rejection and often don’t feel secure in their relationships. These individuals often look for constant reassurance, attention and affection from their partners. They don’t like to be alone, but on the other hand are always wondering if people close to them have their best intentions at heart.

3. AVOIDANT People who have an avoidant attachment style tend to like being on their own. They don’t like the idea of a relationship or to be relied upon by one person or people.

They usually manage their lives by themselves and don’t ask for help from others. They may be critical of romantic people or think that finding a partner is boring.

HOW DO I KNOW WHAT ATTACHMENT STYLE I AM? It is best to base yourself on a pattern rather than a single relationship. For example, if you felt very anxious in one relationship but not others, it doesn’t mean you have an anxious attachment style – it probably means that there were good reasons for you to feel anxious.

Perhaps you knew that relationship wasn’t good for you.

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Every individual is different and will deal with different situations differently. For example, a securely attached person may like hugs a lot, or an anxious person may be at their peak anxiety when their partner’s attractive ex puts a like on a Facebook post, or an avoidant person may become more distant if they are being asked to go to lots of social events. What’s important is understanding these sensitivities and working together to navigate them. Learning your partner’s attachment style will help you to appreciate what each pother has to offer the relationship. ■ SECURE • Positive view of self • Positive view of others • Interdependent • Likes emotional intimacy • Trusting

ANXIOUS • Negative view of self • Positive view of others

HOW DO OUR ATTACHMENT STYLES IMPACT OUR RELATIONSHIPS? When it comes to relationships, it is important to understand how your style and your partner’s style compliments and interacts with each other. Having different styles does not mean that your relationship is doomed, it simply means that you have to work together to ensure you understand what your different style means for one another.

• Dependent • Fear of losing relationship • Can be aggressive • Can “act out” of fear

AVOIDANT • Positive view of self • Negative view of others • Independent / self-reliant • Dislikes closeness • Puts up walls • Avoids conflict

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TO POST OR

NOT TO POST? Things you shouldn’t be posting about your relationship on social media.

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t what stage does sharing become too much? Yes, you may be in love and want the rest of the world to know, but where do you draw the line at what is appropriate to share and what should be kept between you and your partner only? When people know what is happening in your relationship every step off the way, it may be time to take a step back from sharing so much on social media and rather just enjoy the

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alone time between you and your partner. We take a look at the things you should never post about your relationship on social media.

PERSONAL DETAILS You may think that it is cute that your partner still sleeps with their teddy bear from their childhood, but do they want everyone knowing this fact about their personal life?

The rule of thumb, is to always check with your partner if they are okay

with the personal content you may be posting. If they say no, honour their decision and simply enjoy those sweet details between only the two of you.

UNAPPROVED PHOTOS People are often picky about what they consider “unflattering” when it comes to images of themselves.

A pout may be the most adorable pose for you, but your partner on the other hand may consider it utterly

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embarrassing. Again, asking before posting will never get you into trouble.

SOPPY STUFF We get it. You love bae. But does the world really want to know your pet names for each other, even if it is bokboks or ubabes? There are things you share with your partner that aren’t meant to be shared with anyone else. So while it might seem special to upload a photo of your man just waking up, you’re actually allowing all these people a glimpse into a private moment. Posting this type of information minimizes the specialness of your relationship and the intimate connection between the two of you.

LOVER'S QUARREL Simply put, when you make your fight public you’re undermining your ability to make up effectively.

Your friends and family will undoubtedly take your side and you’ve also opened the door for people to give their two cents about your relationship. They might not be so happy about your ‘perfect’ beau a week after you called them a ‘horrible narcissist’. Keep that stuff private. Once you make up, you’ll be glad you didn’t go public with your MEAN JOKES Social media and memes are famously bad at transmitting a “tone”. Tone is the only difference between a flirtatious jab among lovers and a cruel jibe at your loved one’s expense.

Without the context that you share as a couple, people aren’t going to see the humour, they’ll just see disrespect.

BRAGGING If your partner can afford diamonds and designer handbags, that’s great.

However, class resentment is real and showing off on social media is not going to do you any favours.

Yes, we all want the world to see our fancy items and be happy for us but not everyone is going to feel that way. It is important to understand that not everyone, including your friends may have the same luxuries you have and that’s okay but just be mindful of their feelings as well.

Flashing your wealth on social media not only attracts negative energy from friends, but also sets you up as a target for scammers that may be on your friends list.

THOSE VAGUE PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE STATUSES Most of us have experienced or may have seen, “I still can’t believe some people can be so selfish” comments flying around social media. As tempting as it may be to tell all your social media friends about your fight with your partner, or even post about your fight through a cryptic message, your friends are bound to read between the lines and only make the situation that much worse with everyone weighing in with their opinions. The issue that occurred between you and your partner needs to be resolved by you and your partner. Not between you, social

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media friends and your partner. Deal with your problems privately and not publicly.

LOOKING FOR VALIDATION Are you happy with your partner? If so, it doesn’t matter how many likes your man crush Monday pic gets.

We’ve grown accustomed to taking our friend’s likes and comments as accurate measures of value.

Eventually you end up in a position where you feel like you have to keep up a facade until people accept or love your relationship. On the other hand, you could end up idealizing social media’s perception of your relationship, and inevitably, you will continuously be trying to live up to this perfect relationship that doesn’t exist.

THE IN-LAWS It doesn’t matter if your nosy mother-in-law isn’t on your friends list. Social media posts are slippery little things. Even when deleted, once it’s out there, it’s out there.

Someone may have a screenshot of it to this day. No privacy setting in the world can prevent your nasty posts from finding the people they’re written about. If that person is your mother-in-law, you’re in for a lifetime of awkward family Christmases.

What's more, posting details of your relationships are a sign of poor personal boundaries. With more potential and current employers monitoring social media, that information tells them that you are willing to post personal information about them as well. Not a good look.

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WHAT HAPPENS BETWEEN THE SHEETS First of all, gross. We’re not saying you shouldn’t engage in a little long-distance flirtation with your significant other. If that’s your thing though, keep it on the texts.

Whatever you do, do not post anything publicly without the full consent of your partner, or you could be putting your relationship in jeopardy. Remember this sensitive and embarrassing information is not just about you. Revealing things about your partner they may not want shared with the public will definitely damage the trust between you.

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SMOOCHING SELFIES If you’re not an actor in the latest rom-com, nobody wants to see you kissing. Trust us, nobody.

Firstly, kissing selfies seem a bit uh, suggestive. How is that going to make your parents feel? Secondly, what are you trying to prove? You won’t gain any points among the lonely hearts in your friend group.

People who are having a hard time finding love just about gag when they see your make out session on their feed. Just don’t do it.

THE INSIDE SCOOP ON YOUR BREAKUP Going through a break up can make you want to do some crazy stuff.

Keep your restraint, and resist airing your dirty laundry on social media.

Once it’s online, sides will be formed and it will get a whole lot nastier. A peaceful break up between you and your partner will definitely aid in the healing of a broken heart. Besides, fighting on social media makes you look petty. We’re in 2020 people! ■

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JOB HUNTING 101

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How to find and secure a job in a time where career prospects are scarce.

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Given the current economic conditions, career opportunities are few and far between and it’s easy to feel despondent when searching for a new job. But don’t give up just yet! Here are some great tips on how to look for a job and prepare for an interview.

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CREATE A GREAT ONLINE PROFILE

Focus your job hunt by searching for jobs that cover your particular skill sets.

- Identify your skills and interests for the type of job you’re looking for. Sign up for an email alert when similar jobs become available.

- Research the organisation’s website to see if they have the type of jobs you want. Find out if the skills and qualifications they need match yours.

- Check out recruitment websites, industry organisation websites, social media, professional and industry journals, attend career expos or promote yourself at networking events.

Key websites to look at: LinkedIn, Careers 24, Career Junction, Indeed, BestJobs.

Professional networking sites like LinkedIn have become extremely popular with employers. Sixty percent of hiring managers say they’re less likely to give you an interview if they can’t find you online. Make yourself visible so employers can verify you.

- Use social media platforms like LinkedIn and Twitter to boost your public profile and highlight your skills. NB! Be extremely careful when sharing insensitive memes or tweets that could get you into hot water.

- Set up a professional website or Facebook page just for job seeking that has links to your CV, a short video bio, examples of your work, and images of hobbies or interests.

UPDATE YOUR CV

If you make it to the interview stage, most employers will have looked you up online. Before you start your job search make sure you have a clean digital footprint.

- Google yourself with a quick name search to find out how you come up online. If you like what’s there then you’re fine. If something you wouldn’t want an employer to see comes up on Google, have it removed or made private. If nothing shows up, raise your profile by tweeting or building a LinkedIn profile.

- Keep your private life private by triple checking your privacy settings and if in doubt, don’t post or ‘like’ controversial/political posts.

With organisations viewing hundreds and thousands of applications, your CV has to stand out and catch the employer’s eye.

Long gone are the days of submitting a boring word document - you need to get creative! There are an abundance of stylish CV templates that are free online. The design is already done for you, you just need to pop in your information.

- Tailor your CV to the jobs you’re applying for so employers can see you’ve got the right skills and experience for the role.

- Include your personal statement – a small paragraph at the top of your CV summarising your skills and strengths.

- Include examples of your achievements, including how your work contributed to successful outcomes.

- Keep it short because employers are busy and are mainly looking for relevant work experience.

- Choose references who can speak well of your achievements.

CLEAN UP YOUR SOCIAL MEDIA

APPLYING FOR JOBS When you apply for a job, include a cover letter and/or an application form if they require one. If you need guidance on writing a good cover letter, there are a multitude of great examples and templates online.

Show you’re enthusiastic about the role by giving examples in the cover letter of how your skills and

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experience match the tasks and requirements listed in the job advert.

Tell the employer why you’d like to work in their company.

PREPARING FOR INTERVIEWS An interview is a chance for an employer to meet you in person, and for you to assess whether you would like to work there. So it’s important to spend time preparing.

- Find out more about the organisation online, it’s products, services and key people.

- Reread the job description to prepare for questions you may be asked.

- Make sure you have questions ready to ask them, and evidence of your achievements.

- Practise your interview by writing out possible questions you’ll be asked.

INTERVIEW DAY Firstly, congratulate yourself when you’re offered an interview. Now it’s up to you to make a great impression and get that job!

- First impressions do count, so make sure you wear something that’s smart, simple and looks professional. NB! Personal hygiene is essential.

- Work out how you’ll get to the interview, and how long it’ll take you to get there so you’re not late.

- Be confident when answering interview questions and speak clearly.

- Keep it positive by not criticising previous employers.

- Be ready to give examples from your previous experience that demonstrate your knowledge and skills. Happy hunting! ■

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THE UP SIDE OF DOWN

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How uncertainty breeds opportunity to make an extra buck. TEXT SKYE LAVIS

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t is true, it’s a time of extraordinary uncertainty, but it is also a time of opportunity - if you have the right mindset. Whilst the world moves on around us, check out these unconventional ways of making some extra cash.

WRITE ONLINE If you’ve always wanted to be a writer, what better time to start than now?

There are a few websites where you can make money by creating high quality, relevant content.

The sites only pay for accepted articles, so make sure that you review their criteria and read through the websites for an idea of their existing

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content and style before you start.

Some websites also prefer to receive pitches before the main article.

To find out more information, check out Listverse or Back2college.

HAVE A CLEAR - OUT If you’re sitting at home all day, you might notice the clutter a lot more than usual. Luckily, there are an abundance of online auction sites and retailers so you can turn your unwanted belongings into cash. If you haven’t used it in years, it may be time to consider selling it. Some sites even offer collection from your door.

Try Takealot, Bid or Buy or Facebook Marketplace.

GET CRAFTY WITH DIY PROJECTS Some people have managed to discover new hobbies during lockdown, or have remembered old projects. If you’re into arts and crafts, you could turn that hobby into an additional income. You can make your own jewellery, sew garments, paint portraits or upcycle things around the house such as beautiful terrariums. Not all crafts sell well or will make a profit, so before you get started it’s a good idea to check out what’s already on there, how much it sells for, and compare it to what you’d expect for the time, effort, and costs associated with it.

FAMILY You can also see how much competition there is, and decide how you will make your own crafts stand out. Sites worth having a look at are Etsy or Hello Pretty.

TAKING SURVEYS

Creating a blog that makes money definitely isn’t a short-term fix, but it could provide income over the long-term if you’re dedicated and willing to learn how digital marketing works. Most successful blogs either get the majority of their traffic through organic searches or via social media by building a quality following. If you’re not sure where to start, try some free courses on digital marketing and social media. A few to begin with are Growth Academy, Online Marketing Challenge or Social Media Quickstarter.

ONLINE TUTORING Since schools and colleges have been disrupted during the academic year, there’s been a huge increase in parents looking for tutors for their children. If you have in-depth knowledge around a particular subject, great communication skills,

and feel that you have the right temperament to keep your students engaged and nurture their interest, you can apply to a variety of online tutoring websites that link up tutors with students. Sign up at TurtleJar Tutors to learn more.

TRANSCRIBE AUDIO Quite a popular freelancing job, transcribing is converting videos into text.

The subtitles you see on Facebook videos were written by a transcriber.

The pay can be quite substantial per hour and how quickly you can transcribe will define the pay per hour worked. The increase in online video content has fuelled a demand for transcription services, but speech to text software is also getting better so it can be a tough industry to get into. You may need to write a test to show you are capable. GoTranscript, Rev and Transcribe Me can help you to get started. ■

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If you prefer a lower investment in both time and expense, you can make money by responding to surveys online. You can do so whilst binge-watching your favourite show.

The rewards depend on the website but generally include pre-paid airtime, G-Code online vouchers, or even PayPal. While it is relatively low-effort, you usually need to complete 2-4 surveys until you have accumulated enough points to redeem your rewards. Many surveys pay out around R20 each but there are opportunities to earn up to R150.

Create your MobiWorkX account to see what survey you qualify for and how you can get rewarded.

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DIAGNOSIS:

BREAST CANCER In honour of breast cancer awareness month, we take a look at the psychological effects of being diagnosed and how your mind can help your body. TEXT SKYE LAVIS

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ccording to the National Cancer Institute, 1 in 31 South African women will be diagnosed with breast cancer in their lifetime. Receiving a diagnosis of breast cancer can be one of the most dreadful events a woman can ever experience, and because many of them have no family history of breast cancer or other risk factors, the diagnosis often comes as a devastating surprise.

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Even after the initial shock of the diagnosis has passed, the distress may continue. As women begin what is often a lengthy treatment process, they may find themselves faced with new problems such as personal relationships for instance.

They may face discrimnation from employers or insurance companies.

They may be very worried about their symptoms, treatment, and mortality and all these factors can

contribute to chronic stress, anxiety and depression.

WHAT TO DO AFTER A BREAST CANCER DIAGNOSIS Get educated Knowing basic facts about breast cancer and preparing questions before an appointment is crucial.

Cancer is a mysterious and unknown disease that can be very frightening.

LIFE The more a patient feels self-determined and informed about cancer, the more he/she can move forward with a feeling of some control. A proactive approach may help a patient better anticipate what to expect during treatment and beyond, thus reducing anxiety.

Transparency A common concern many people may have is how to tell their children. It is extremely important to do it in a way appropriate to the age and circumstances of your child. The preparation is really around knowing each child and how they handle difficult information. Share information as you get it and do so in a simple and calm manner.

WHEN YOU SHOULD CONSIDER PSYCHOLOGICAL HELP When negative emotions cause you to stop doing things that are good for you, it’s time to consider psychological help. For example, when the diagnosis leads to more severe problems such as withdrawal from family and friends or engaging in substance abuse as a coping mechanism. Another example is when a patient becomes so disheartened by the diagnosis and refuses to undergo surgery or simply stops radiation or chemotherapy appointments.

emotional and lifestyle changes associated with cancer as well as with medical treatments that can be painful and traumatic. For some women, the focus may be on how to explain their illness to their children or how to deal with a partner’s response.

For others, it may be on how to choose the right hospital or medical treatment. For still others, it may be on how to control stress, anxiety, or depression. By teaching patients problem-solving strategies in a supportive environment, psychologists help women work through their grief, fear, and other emotions.

MIND OVER BODY Can psychological treatment help my body? Absolutely. Psychologists empower women to make more informed choices in the face of conflicting advice and can help them communicate more effectively with their health care providers. Simply put, psychologists help women become more fully engaged in their own treatment. The result is an enhanced understanding of the disease and its treatment and a greater willingness to do what needs to help them get well. ■

Accept help Whether it’s preparing lunch boxes for the week or driving the kids to soccer practice, help from others can lighten your load during a stressful time. A suggestion may be to designate a representative to handle requests, as friends and loved ones afraid of bothering the family may hesitate otherwise. The appointed person can also serve as a spokesperson to share updates from the patient and forward messages from well-wishers.

Listen to your body Rest is a critical part of this process and extremly important for your selfcare. Chemotherapy and radiation can cause fatigue, nausea and pain, among other side effects. Know that your body may have reduced capacity and react accordingly when needed. Reevaluate expectations of physical activity and give yourself permission to change plans.

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PYSCHOLOGICAL TREATMENT Licensed psychologists and other mental health professionals with experience in breast cancer treatment can help a great deal.

Their primary goal is to help women learn how to cope with the physical,

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ACCEPTING YOURSELF TEXT SKYE LAVIS

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ife after cancer can be confusing time for some.

Of course it’s a time filled with relief and hope, but for some it’s also a time filled with worries and concerns about whether the cancer may return.

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Post cancer, one starts to reflect and realise the full extent of the changes that have occurred in their lives due to the impact of cancer and the effects of treatment. These changes do not only affect our physical well-being but there are

psychological effects and social barriers to overcome as well.

Although it may not be easy, here are a few tips to help you adjust to the changes that come with this life threatening illness and the journey of self acceptance post cancer.

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2. Heal your relationship with your body As with any changes that occur in your life that aren’t necessarily related to cancer, it takes time to adjust and to become accustomed to those changes. You may look in the mirror and not recognise the person that is staring back at you. Perhaps there were certain aspects about your physical appearance that you took pride in. Don’t allow your mind to be consumed by the negative.

Rather look in the mirror and focus on the positive aspects and the new aspects of your physical appearance and embrace it.

3. Exercise your body & mind Incorporating a good and healthy lifestyle is not only essential for your physical health but also your emotional and mental health as well.

Eating well will not only help you feel good inside but this will help you regain strength in your recovery process. Exercise is key in supplying your body with all the good endorphins which aid in healing and helps to relieve pain, keeping you feeling positive.

4. Be proud of your scars As difficult as it may be, there will come a time in which you need to accept that this is a different version of yourself - not a completely different person. Herein lies the beauty, that you can still be the best version of yourself, even if it’s a different form. The most important aspect when it comes to accepting yourself post-cancer is recognising that you are a survivor. Wear your scars proudly! ■

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Your family and close friends have probably been a part of your journey from the beginning. From the initial news and shock of the diagnosis, to the countless medical appointments and treatments. They have seen you at your worst and at your best. In this time of post-cancer treatment, their care and support is still essential. Your family and loved ones can provide you with love, warmth and positive energy that will be great for your spirit. If you aren’t already part of a support group for cancer survivors, now would be a great time as ever to join one. Support groups are important because you are surrounded by like-minded people who have shared the same or similar experience. It might be easier to share your stories, be vulnerable and in turn, encourage and be encouraged by those around you.

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NUTRITION AND WHAT IT MEANS DURING ILLNESS

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When you’re being treated for cancer, the last thing you want to think about is sticking to a diet. However, a nutritional foundation is essential in keeping you feeling as strong and healthy as possible while you’re undergoing treatment. TEXT SKYE LAVIS

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hen you’re healthy, eating enough food to get the nutrients and calories you need is not usually a problem. Most nutrition guidelines stress eating lots of vegetables, fruits and whole-grain products as well as cutting down on processed or high fat foods. But when you’re being treated for cancer, these things can be hard to do, especially if you have side effects or just don’t feel well.

CHANGING EATING HABITS Good nutrition is especially important if you have cancer because both the illness and the treatment can change the way you eat. Cancer affects the way your body tolerates certain foods and uses nutrients. For example, you might need to change your diet to help build up your strength in order to withstand the effects of chemotherapy. This may mean eating things that aren’t normally recommended when you are in good health. For instance, you might need high-fat, high-calorie foods to keep up your weight, or thick, cool foods like ice cream or milk shakes because sores in your mouth and throat are making it hard to eat anything. The type of cancer, your treatment, and any side effects you have must be considered when trying to figure out the best ways to get the nutrition your body needs.

NUTRITION NEEDS The nutrition needs of people with cancer vary from person to person.

Your Doctors will help you identify your nutrition goals and plan ways to help you meet them. Essentially this plan will help to: - Keep up your strength and energy.

- Maintain your weight and your body’s store of nutrients.

- Better tolerate treatment-related side effects.

- Lower your risk of infection.

- Heal and recover faster.

A DIET TO HELP YOU FIGHT Eating well means eating a variety of foods to get the nutrients your body needs to fight cancer. These nutrients include proteins, fats, carbohydrates, water, vitamins and minerals.

Proteins: We need protein for growth, to repair body tissue, and to keep our immune systems healthy. When your body doesn’t get enough protein, it might break down muscle for the fuel it needs. This makes it take longer to recover from illness and can lower resistance to infection. People with cancer often need more protein than usual. After surgery, chemotherapy or radiation therapy, extra protein is usually needed to heal tissues and help fight infection. Good sources of protein include fish, poultry, lean red meat, eggs, low-fat dairy products, nuts and nut butters, dried beans, peas and lentils and soy foods.

Fats and oils: Fats and oils serve as a rich source of energy for the body. The body breaks down fats and uses them to store energy, insulate body tissues and transport some types of vitamins through the blood. Stick to healthy fats such as avocados, nuts and olive oils.

Carbohydrates: Carbohydrates are the body’s major source of energy. Carbohydrates give the body the fuel it needs for physical activity and proper organ function.

The best sources of carbohydrates are fruits, vegetables and whole grains which supply needed vitamins and minerals to the body’s cells. Other sources of carbohydrates include bread, potatoes, rice and pasta which supply energy, but provide very little in the way of vitamins, minerals or phytonutrients.

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Water: Water and liquids or fluids are vital to health as all body cells need water to function. If you don’t take in enough fluids or if you lose fluids through vomiting or diarrhea, you can become dehydrated. If this happens, the fluids and minerals that help keep your body working can become dangerously out of balance. You get water from the foods you eat, but a person should also drink about eight glasses of liquid each day to be sure that all the body cells get the fluid they need. You may need extra fluids if you’re vomiting or just not eating much. Keep in mind that all liquids including soups, milk and even ice cream count toward your fluid goals.

Vitamins and minerals: Your body needs vitamins and minerals to help it function properly and use the energy in the food you’ve just eaten. Most are found naturally in foods, but they are also sold as pill and liquid supplements. If you eat a balanced diet with enough calories and protein you will usually get plenty of vitamins and minerals. But it can be hard to eat a balanced diet when you’re being treated for cancer, especially if you have treatment side effects. If you do have side effects, your doctor or dietitian may suggest a daily multivitamin and mineral supplement. If your food intake has been limited because of the effects of treatment, be sure to tell your doctor. ■

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THE ABC’S OF

ONCOLOGY The beginner’s guide to becoming more fluent in understanding cancer terms.

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hen my mother was diagnosed with Stage IV liver, lung and colon cancer many years ago, our family was dragged into a world that spoke a different language. A language that we didn’t understand, nor want to have to learn. As an adolescent girl in highschool, I remember being overwhelmed by the many healthcare

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professionals and the unknown code in which they communicated.

Nowadays we have information at our fingertips so we can better prepare ourselves with a basic understanding of cancer terminology.

By becoming familiar with oncology terms, we are more confident to ask questions and hold detailed discussions with our doctors and nurses.

Here are the basics you need to know:

BIOPSY If you’ve been diagnosed, you know that you are met with a multitude of healthcare professionals. The doctor normally recommends a biopsy when an initial test suggests an area of tissue in the body isn’t normal.

Doctors may call an area of abnormal tissue a lesion, a tumor or a mass. The surgeon then removes a sample of tissue (a biopsy) from your body.

LIFE This biopsy is sent to a laboratory and studied under a microscope, by a pathologist (a specialist doctor who examines tissues and fluids and assists the healthcare team in making a diagnosis).

MITOSIS Under a microscope, our tissues are made up of a collection of cells.

During mitosis, a cell makes an exact copy of itself and splits into two new cells. Each cell contains an exact copy of the original cell, and this is how our body facilitates growth and repair.

THE FORMATION OF CANCER When a pathologist receives a biopsy, the cells are usually easily identifiable. For example, breast cells taken from a breast biopsy. Sometimes a pathologist may be presented with a tissue sample made up of cells that look extremely abnormal. These are cells that haven’t made good copies of themselves. For reasons unknown, these badly copied cells have managed to escape the safety checks during mitosis, and as a result, have managed to create even more badly copied cells. This abnormal and uncontrolled growth can lead to the formation of a cancerous tumour.

TYPE OF CANCER The type of cancer will be named after the tissue in which it first originated. In some rare cases, the pathologist is unable to identify the origin and then a diagnosis of a carcinoma is made.

THE GRADE The pathologist will grade the tissue sample according to the degree that the tissue has become abnormal. If the abnormal cells haven’t been copied too badly, the tumour is referred to as being welldifferentiated or Grade 1. If the cells

are moderately-differentiated, Grade 2. If the abnormal cells aren’t easily recognised, it’s referred to as being poorly-differentiated or Grade 3.

When there is little resemblance to the original tissue, it is deemed as Grade 4. High-grade tumours tend to grow more rapidly and spread more easily than low-grade tumours.

THE STAGES Next is to check how far the disease has progressed or how far the cancer has spread in the patient’s body. Stage 0 is for abnormal cells that haven’t spread and are not considered cancerous. Stage 1 through to Stage 3 are for cancers that haven’t spread beyond the original tumour site or have only spread to nearby tissue.

Stage 4 is when cancer has spread to distant areas of the body. The higher the stage number, the larger the tumour and the more it has spread.

A TUMOUR A tumour develops when cells reproduce too quickly. Tumours can vary in size from a tiny nodule to a large mass, depending on the type, and they can appear almost anywhere on the body. There are three main types of tumour: Benign: These are not cancerous.

They either cannot spread or grow, or they do so very slowly. If a doctor removes them, they generally do not return.

Premalignant: In these tumours, the cells are not yet cancerous, but they have the potential to become malignant.

Malignant: Malignant tumours are cancerous. The cells can grow and spread to other parts of the body.

It is not always clear how a tumour will act in the future. Some benign tumours can become premalignant and then malignant. For this reason, it is best to monitor any growth.

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PROGNOSIS Once a diagnosis is made, the patient is usually referred to an oncologist (a doctor who has further specialised in the diagnosis and treatment of cancer). He or she will use the information gathered, including the tumour grade and stage, as well as other factors, such as your age and general well-being to determine a prognosis. The prognosis is the likely outcome or course of a disease which includes the chance of recovery or recurrence.

CHEMOTHERAPY Chemotherapy is a drug treatment that uses powerful chemicals to kill fast-growing cells in your body. There are many different chemotherapy drugs available and a variety of ways in which to administer it, but the most common is by inserting a tube with a needle into a vein in your arm or into a device in a vein in your chest.

RADIATION Radiation therapy is also a type of cancer treatment that uses beams of intense energy to kill cancer cells.

Radiation therapy most often uses X-rays, an external-beam radiation from a machine outside the body.

Each session is quick and painless, lasting about 15 minutes. ■

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STORIES OF HOPE AS TOLD BY CANCER SURVIVORS

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Naniki Seboni shares her story of overcoming a malignant melanoma at 25

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t was a lapse in judgment that had me believe that skin cancer was a disease exclusive to people with lighter skin tones. Never had I heard of a darker skin toned person getting skin cancer. For the better part of my childhood, I had the understanding that I had sensitive skin, though the cause of that sensitivity was unbeknownst to my parents and I. However, when I was outdoors playing, that sensitivity would rear it’s ugly head. As a kid in school I played a great deal of sports, from soccer to netball, swimming to athletics and more. My school bag was always full of water bottles, a cap, a bottle of sunblock and of course my boring books.

My friends never understood why I carried sunblock. They jokingly said I just wanted to stay light skinned, but it was really because I burnt so quickly, 15 minutes was more than enough sun exposure for me! My skin and the sun had and still have a lovehate relationship. I made an effort to protect myself, but every so often I would get sunburnt. I wish someone had explained to me then that if you experience 4+ serve sunburns in childhood, you run the risk of getting skin cancer as an adult. I would’ve gone for check-ups back then, if I’d known. Come 2015, two weeks before my 25th birthday, I was diagnosed with Stage III malignant melanoma.

My melanoma was found on the lateral side of my left leg, and what I thought was a beauty spot or mole, had ultimately grown four times

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the size and had an irregular shape.

The mere sight of it made me uneasy.

Two years earlier, I hit it against the coffee table and the searing pain crippled me for over 15 minutes. The blood on the carpet was outstanding for such a small mole! I screamed, yelled and cried in pain. Annoyed by the shame and pain the black mole brought me, I thought I could use a razor and cut the mole off. Ever heard of bad ideas? Well that was one of my worst bad ideas. After my selfsurgery, the mole doubled in size and looked like a huge fly on my leg!

A regular hospital check-up two years on, turned my life upside-down, with my melanoma diagnosis. My immediate thoughts were death.

I was alone in the room with two doctors. I was making jokes, only because it was my best coping mechanism in the moment. I was extremely unnerved. What in the world did it mean to have skin cancer? I was facing my own mortality at such a young age. I thought that was it, I had to write a Will and I would be laid to rest one three years after my father’s passing. My mother would be left alone.

To be honest, I can’t recall what my doctors said to me. My mind had checked out. I walked outside and called my partner. As soon as he arrived, I lost it. I curled up in a ball in the backseat of the car and cried my heart out. I couldn’t even drive myself home. So I left my car at the hospital.

I had never been so frightened in my life. It turns out my doctors had said they could operate and remove the cancer. In the beginning I went in religiously for my check-ups; determined to get rid of the cancer. But my rational self, was overwhelmed by my overly dramatic self, which resulted in me boycotting my remaining follow-ups. I was too scared. I woke up, got dressed, hit the highway and halfway there I would turn and go home. I was afraid of the unknown.

The doctors clearly said they could help me, but at that point all I could think of was the absolute worst. I found support and encouragement from the members of CANSA’s Champions of Hope Facebook Group for cancer Survivors & Caregivers,

LIFE and I set a new appointment for the following Monday. Right there, on the spot, I was to be admitted. It happened so quickly and I was so overwhelmed that I left, and returned on Tuesday for admission. On Wednesday I underwent a surgical removal of the cancer by Friday I discharged myself. I didn’t want to be in hospital for one more second! My battle with cancer was more psychological than it was physical. Stigmas and mis information clouded my mind and held me back from beating

cancer with one clean swoop. Once I was brave enough to stare cancer in the face, I took it down in less than seven days. I thank my doctors at the Steve Biko Academic Hospital for acting so promptly and I don’t know where I would be right now if it wasn’t for my support system. The continuous support I’ve received from CANSA and Lucy Balona (Head of Marketing & Communication CANSA) in particular, is a pivotal part of my victorious cancer journey.

Looking back, my journey was a great

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lesson in the importance of factual information circulating, which is why it has been my esteemed honour and privilege to work as a cancer awareness advocate and facilitator, educating people about cancer risk factors, but more importantly, showing people that there is life after cancer and hope springs eternal.

Today I am wiser and more responsible for my actions, and I say it with conviction that I AM A CANCER SURVIVOR!

Myra America shares her story of overcoming breast cancer at 62

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y story is all too familiar to the countless women who have faced a breast cancer diagnosis. It took two mammograms and several blood tests before doctors finally confirmed that the 'stretchy' feeling I felt across my breast was cancer.

I first felt that something was wrong in 2014 but only in 2015 did I decide to get it checked out. I went to a day hospital and got referred to Groote Schuur Hospital for a mammogram.

The results came back negative – I did not have cancer. Doctors did another blood test and a biopsy in June, and they too came back negative. But I wasn’t happy, the stretchy feeling was still bugging me. Four days later, I went for more tests and finally, the mammogram and blood tests picked up cancer cells in my left breast. I was told that I had Stage II breast cancer and that my left breast would need to be removed by the following Monday.

I had the mastectomy that week and was prescribed Tamoxifen, a drug used to treat certain types of breast cancer in both women and men. I take the tablet every night and will do so for the next five years. I felt a little depressed about it because when I told everyone about it, they would ask why I never told them sooner. But I had little time between finding out that I had cancer and the operation.

their breasts, or anything irregular for that matter, to get tested. Even if you feel a lump and think it’s nothing, get it examined anyway.

Not everyone may have the patience to sit at the hospital all day but that one day could save your life. You may feel scared to go, but you shouldn’t.

Cancer is just a name, it is not a death penalty. It comes with some changes, but ultimately it makes you slow down in life and appreciate your health. You realise how much support you truly have and how your family is brought together. ■

Everyone was shocked and cried more than I did. Dedicating one month a year to cancer awareness is not enough time to reach all those who need to learn about the disease.

Those caring for cancer patients also need to consider that those with the illness are on a journey and not all of them will deal with it in the same way. Some people will heal quickly and others won’t, but it is an emotional journey and people need support. I now volunteer at CANSA and visit cancer patients in their homes to offer support. I explain to them that I also had cancer and that they are not alone on this road. I urge anyone who detects a problem with

Get in touch with Cancer Association of South Africa (CANSA) Email: info@cansa.org.za Help Desk: 0800 22 66 22 (toll free) WhatsApp: 072 197 9305 (English and Afrikaans) WhatsApp: 071 867 3530 (isiXhosa, isiZulu, siSwati, Sesotho and Setswana ) Follow on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn

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DURING LOCKDOWN How to plan a bold, yet intimate wedding day.

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..es, we have officially reached Alert Level 1 and things are returning back to normal, but Covid-19 is only one of the reasons small weddings are the way of the future, there are plenty of other positives to consider.

BUDGET When it comes to your wedding budget, figure out how much you have to spend in total, and where funding will come from (i.e savings, family, etc). Once you understand your finances, you are able to plan accordingly. A smaller wedding simply means being able to cover a little more per head to go all out with your celebrations.

THE GUEST LIST Possibly the most important part of wedding planning is who to invite.

With an intimate wedding, this means your nearest and dearest.

As a couple, agree on a number that you feel comfortable with and work towards this. Typically, a small wedding lends itself to about 50 people – that’s 25 people on each side. Whatever number you agree on, consistency on both sides will avoid difficulty. Finally, give some thought as to how you will manage friends and family not invited.

Sticking to immediate families on both sides and both of your closest friends will help relieve the pressure.

LOCATION One of the key considerations of a small wedding, is ensuring that the wedding venue complements the size of your party. Too big and it may look like some people didn’t turn up – too small and it could look like you’ve skimped on costs.

The key is researching venues online and then in person in advance, to ensure they work for your party size. Think of where will you say your vows and where your reception will be. There are plenty of creative options for intimate venues and less guests mean less restrictions for you to choose from. This is where you’ll be spending the bulk of your day, so think about it carefully.

THE GUEST EXPERIENCE The guest experience is often richer with smaller parties, as the couple is able to spend more time with everyone. However, because there’s more focus on guests, it also means that their experience needs to be high on the agenda too. Think about how the day will unfold, and all the little touches that can be added to make it feel exclusive and special.

This may be hiring a a private chef, an open bar or a tasting menu of some sort. At larger weddings, these special touches may not be possible.

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ACCOMMODATION Small wedding parties have the added option of whisking guests away across the country or to exclusive venues. Fewer guests can allow the entire party to stay on-site, depending on the wedding venue chosen. This can be a great benefit in keeping your big day feeling exciting and memorable, for a special select few.

MAKE YOUR OWN RULES Finally, one of the best benefits of small weddings is the option to break away from ‘unnecessary’ traditions and do things your way.

It wouldn’t look out of place to have one or no bridesmaids, or to forgo a large group of groomsmen. The beauty of an intimate wedding means that anything goes. ■

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STUTTERING IN KIDS Should you be concerned? TEXT SKYE LAVIS

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tuttering or stammering is a speech disorder that can affect a child’s flow of speech. A child who stutters repeats or prolongs sounds, syllables or words. Stuttering is not an underlying disease but can be passed down from parent to child or may even result due to nervousness.

Fortunately, approximately 75% of children who show signs of this type of speech behaviour will eventually recover.

TYPE OF STUTTERING Developmental stuttering: This is the most common type of stuttering in children and usually occurs between the ages of 2 and 5. This specific type of stuttering occurs as children begin to develop their speech and language abilities.

Neurogenic stuttering: This type of stuttering may occur after a stroke or brain injury. It happens when there are signal problems between the brain and nerves and muscles involved in speech.

Psychogenic stuttering: This type is not a common type of stuttering and usually only develops after experiencing an emotional trauma.

the mouth is open to speak, but nothing is said.

- Easily out of breath or nervous when talking.

- Increased stuttering when tired, excited or under stress.

TREATMENT Treatment will depend on your child’s symptoms, age, general health and severity of their condition. There is however no cure. Early treatment can prevent stuttering from continuing into adulthood and different techniques can be taught by a speech-language pathologist to help your child slow down and breathe while speaking.

TIPS FOR PARENTS Reduce communication stress: There are different techniques to put less pressure on a child in a speaking situation. Rephrasing questions as comments is one effective approach.

For example, ‘You played today at school. It must have been fun!’

Instead of ‘What did you do at

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Talk about it: When children are aware of their stuttering, it is best to be open and talk about it in a positive way. Let them know it is okay to have ‘bumpy speech’ and that you’ll work on it together.

Practice patience: Give children time to finish what they are saying. Don’t rush or interrupt them. Don’t tell them to think about what they want to say.

Phrases such as those are generally not helpful to children who stutter.

Model good speech habits: Parents can model speech habits such as slowing down their own speed when they talk, putting in more pauses between sentences, and speaking in a relaxed manner.

Seek professional advice: There are many ways to find a speech-language pathologist, your child’s pediatrician can provide a recommendation. Parents also have the option to seek out a private speech-language pathologist should you get concerned. ■

SYMPTOMS Each child is different but symptoms to watch for include: - Prolonging of repeating sounds, syllables or words.

- Using interjections such as “um” or “like”.

- Stopped or blocked speech where

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In honour of World Food Day - 16 October, here are 5 easy ways to help combat hunger, malnutrition and food insecurity.

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1. DONATE FOOD Individuals and businesses can help their local communities by donating food to food banks and community organizations.

2. VOLUNTEER TIME Food programs rely heavily on volunteers so giving time to a good cause is a great way to help support food security.

3. WASTE LESS Only buying what is needed, eating leftovers or giving to those less fortunate instead of throwing food in the garbage are great ways to reduce food waste.

4. CREATE AWARENESS Spreading the word can start with something as simple as talking to friends and family about the zero hunger goal.

5. GIVE MONEY Money is probably the most efficient way to help fight hunger globally.

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NOMSA’S SHOPPING LIST

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omsa was watching her big sister, Mandisa, make a necklace.

Their mother called from the kitchen, “Mandisa, please go to the shop for me. Here is the shopping list.” Mandisa read the shopping list, “Bread, margarine, peanut butter, apricot jam, flour, eggs, sugar, milk, tea and salt. I’ll need two bags for all this.” Nomsa hopped up and down. “Can I come

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too? Please can I come?” She had some money saved. She loved the big round orange sweets at the shop.

“Do you have to?” Mandisa sighed.

She was twelve and Nomsa was six and sometimes she got tired of her little sister tagging along behind her. “You’ll have to help me carry the shopping then.” “I will, I will!” promised Nomsa. “Read the list again, I want to hear what we have to get.”

“Bread, margarine, peanut butter, apricot jam, flour, eggs, sugar, milk, tea and salt,” read Mandisa as Nomsa counted the items on her fingers. Ten items, one for each finger. Nomsa could not read yet, but she was good at remembering things. The sisters went out into the street. The wind was blowing!

It flapped their clothes and it sent the litter in the street racing and tumbling around their feet.

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As they passed the hair salon in Mrs Ngubane’s garage they saw Fezeka and Phumla having their hair braided. Mrs Ngubane was very clever at braiding. Fezeka and Phumla were Mandisa’s best friends.

“Yoh, you look good!” Mandisa said when she went into the hair salon to look at the new style in braiding.

It was very smart. “You’re wearing a new shirt,” Mandisa said to Fezeka.

She bent over and felt the material between her fingers. “Where did you find this?” Nomsa sighed. She wanted to get to the shop quickly.

But all Mandisa thought about these days was clothes and hair and shoes.

“I love your new necklace, Phumla!” said Mandisa bending over to touch her friend’s new necklace. Then, ohoh! The wind snatched the shopping list out of Mandisa’s hand! It flew away over the wall, then over the roof next door. It was gone, gone, gone! Absolutely and completely gone! “Now I’m in trouble,” said Mandisa as she put her hand over her mouth. “I’ll have to go home and ask Mama for a new list and she’ll be cross!”

“You don’t have to! I can remember the shopping list,” said Nomsa hopping up and down. “I can remember everything.” She held up her hands and counted the items on her ten fingers. Each finger was something from the shopping list.

“Bread, margarine, peanut butter, apricot jam, flour, eggs, sugar, milk, tea and salt!” she said. Mandisa looked surprised. “Well done, Sisi!

I’m glad you came with me. Let’s get to the shop quickly and buy those things. Otherwise Mama is going to be cross.”When they got to Mambhele Cash Store, Mandisa asked for all the things that Nomsa had remembered on her ten fingers and she put the things in the shopping bags. Nomsa stared at the big bottle of orange sweets and the bottle of jelly babies near the till. She took her money out and gave it to Mandisa. She pointed at the sweets she wanted and Mandisa bought them. Mandisa added a red lollipop as well. “That’s for saving me from getting into trouble,” said Mandisa.

“I know you like red lollipops.”

They each carried a shopping bag home and Nomsa sucked her red lollipop. At home, they unpacked the shopping bags on the kitchen table and Mandisa asked, “Mama, can I make pancakes for supper tonight?”

She knew Nomsa loved pancakes.

“Yes,” said their mother. “I have a lot of school work to mark this afternoon. It would really help me if you made supper.” Together Nomsa and Mandisa mixed flour, eggs, milk, sugar and a little salt for pancakes.

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an hour. Then they made pancakes and pancakes and more pancakes.

The kitchen smelt so good!

When Papa came home, he went straight to the kitchen. “My nose is telling me that we are having pancakes for supper! And I see that my two daughters are the cooks.

What are you going to put inside them?” he asked. “There’s some mince left over from yesterday. We can use that,” said Mandisa.

“And there’s also apricot jam. Apricot jam is my favourite in the whole world!” said Nomsa hopping up and down. “Mine too,” said Papa and he laughed. When Mama came into the kitchen, she clapped her hands.

“Well done, my daughters!” she said.

The pancakes were delicious. “I can remember the ingredients for the recipe,” Nomsa said. She held up her hand and counted them on her five fingers, “Flour, eggs, milk, sugar and a little salt!” Her father laughed and patted her shoulder. “My clever little girl!” he said. “Maybe I should use my fingers to remember things too!” ■

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HEALTHY LUNCHBOX IDEAS Get creative with 5 fresh meals your kids will happily eat. TEXT SKYE LAVIS

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rying to find a healthy and balanced lunch that your kids actually like can get a bit monotonous but don’t stress, help is here! Follow these tips and try out a few of these light and fresh lunchboxes to bring a little fun back to lunchtime.

1. Deli box Filled with lunch meat, cheese, celery, fruit snacks, crackers and a fruit salad. Simply cut out your deli meat and cheese with a small flower cookie cutter to create a fun, spring-has-sprung feel.

2. PB&J with a twist For this lunch, there is a peanut butter and jam sandwich, a breakfast bar, cucumber slices and oranges topped with a raspberry. Use a flower cookie cutter to cut out the sandwich. Next, remove a small section of bread from the top of the sandwich and add sprinkles.

3. Salad for stars When you think of Spring, the first thing you think of is butterflies. This spring salad has been topped with cheese butterflies and is completed with a packet yogurt, cereal snacks and a hard boiled egg.

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4. Wrapped in love Peanut butter and banana wrap: topped up with fruit cups, yogurt and some crunchy corn bites.

5. Sunny sandwich Sun-shaped sandwich, surrounded by pretzels and yogurt covered raisins. Other compartments feature some carrots, cucumber and some fresh

TIPS 1. Pack lunch in a cooler bag to keep food fresh and safe.

2. Try to pack food items that have different colours and shapes to make lunch fun and appealing.

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SALADS Impress your guests with these mouth-watering spring salads.

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1. STRAWBERRY QUINOA SALAD Served with cucumbers, parsley and almonds, this is a high-protein vegetarian option that is filling and nutritious. Add feta, goat cheese or avocado for extra richness.

2. WARM POTATO SALAD WITH MUSTARD SEED DRESSING Served with gherkins, anise seeds and fresh baby rocket to add brightness and zest. This is a light and healthy way to serve up your favourite spring root vegetable.

3. PASTA SALAD WITH MUSHROOM & LEMON PARSLEY DRESSING. Served at room temperature or chilled to serve later, this zesty flavourful dressing is refreshing, bright and compliments spring veggies very well. This salad whips up quickly and easily, perfect for your next braai!

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4. CARROT QUINOA SALAD Served with almonds and raw apple cider vinaigrette, this is a delicious vegan salad option. Even after a few days in the fridge, it retains it’s great crunchy texture, making it an ideal candidate for preparing ahead of time. Add avocado or chickpeas for extra heartiness.

5. ASPARAGUS SALAD Served with couscous, roasted asparagus, kalamata olives, pine nuts, feta, lemon zest and mint with a lemon dressing. This salad can be served warm, as a tasty side dish to fish, poultry or beef – or served chilled, as a vibrant and hearty spring salad. Don’t like couscous? Substitute with quinoa or wild rice.

6. SPRING PEA PASTA Served with truffle oil, lemon and mint. Can be served warm as a starter or chilled as a salad. Feta can be added for extra richness, although it’s not needed. Toss in a little baby spinach or rocket if you like. The truffle oil is absolutely worth the splurge and makes this dish special. Together with the fresh peas, lemon and mint, this spring recipe is one of our all-time favourite combinations. ■

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MAINTENANCE IDEAS Now that the weather is warming up, it’s time to do those DIY projects you’ve been putting off all year! Use these simple and effective tricks to help you save costs around your home. TEXT SKYE LAVIS

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taying on top of your home maintenance can go a long way toward keeping your home in good shape, and it can help you avoid even more complex and costly repairs later on. No need to spend money on a contractor when you can complete these easy projects yourself.

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1. CLEAN YOUR GUTTERS This may not be the first thing that comes to mind when you think of fun DIY ideas, but it’s important to clean your gutters twice a year. Get up on a ladder and remove debris from your gutters by hand. Use a hose and a plumber’s snake to flush debris from downspouts.

2. FIX YOUR LEAKY TAPS It’s not hard to fix a leaky tap.

Usually, it’s just a matter of replacing the rubber washer inside the faucet handle. Turn off the water supply to the tap, remove the leaky handle, and replace the washer.

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3. NO MORE FLUSHING MONEY DOWN THE DRAIN A leaking toilet can cause your water bill to spike. Find out if your toilet is leaking from the tank to the bowl by putting some food colouring in the tank and coming back in an hour or so to see if the colour is leaching out into the bowl. If water is leaking from the tank to the bowl, you should replace the flapper inside the tank. If the toilet is leaking around the base, however, you’ll need to replace the toilet.

5. TEST YOUR REFRIGERATOR DOOR SEALS The seals around your refrigerator doors are responsible for keeping the inside of your refrigerator cold.

When they fail, your refrigerator becomes less efficient and can even have a shorter lifespan. To test the door seals, close your refrigerator door on a piece of paper. If you can’t pull it out of the closed door, your seals are good. If not, you might want to replace your refrigerator door seals.

4. CHECK YOUR WASHING MACHINE HOSES Faulty washing machine supply and drain hoses are a leading cause of water damage. Replace them immediately if you see signs of leaking, damage or rust around the metal ends of the lines. Replace them every three years otherwise.

6. VACUUM YOUR REFRIGERATOR CONDENSER COILS Once a year, you should pull your refrigerator away from the wall and vacuum the dust off the condenser coils with a vacuum hose. This helps your refrigerator continue to work efficiently and extends its life.

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7. CAULK YOUR WINDOWS Every spring/summer, you should inspect the outside of your windows and replace any missing caulk.

Remove any cracked, dry or otherwise damaged caulk with a sharp knife and replace it with a fresh bead. This prevents drafts, helping to keep your energy costs low and your home comfortable. ■

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Spruce up your home and get ready for the summer season with these quick fixes!

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1. GIVE YOUR WEBER A DEEP CLEAN Give your weber a good clean before you begin braaiing regularly again.

Soak your grill in boiling water and add a bit of dishwashing liquid to loosen up the grime. When the water is cool enough for you to touch, use a cleaning sponge, scourer, braai brush, or crumpled up aluminium foil and rub the grill for a thorough clean. Bring on Shisa nyama!

2. TIDY UP YOUR GARDEN Clean up your yard by trimming branches, mowing the lawn, degunking the bird bath etc. Spring/ summer is prime time for pruning to keep your trees and shrubs healthy and attractive. If you live in a flat, the same applies. Make sure all your house plants are neat, watered and kept.Need a boost? Plant some seeds or store-bought blooms in pots inside and out or in flower beds for an instant makeover. If you love fresh veggies, fruits and herbs, consider sowing some in planter boxes in your garden. Check what plants thrive in the season and you’ll be eating your very own homegrown summer salads.

3. WASH OUTDOOR UPHOLSTERY Most outdoor fabrics are safe to throw in a warm wash so start with any outdoor cushions. Air-dry, then put the cover back on the insert while it’s still slightly damp to keep it smooth. If the fabric isn’t removable, clean it using a soft scrub brush, dish detergent, and warm water.

4. CLEAN YOUR PATIO FURNITURE Patio furniture is another one of those things that gets hit hard over the winter. Waterblast your set or use one of the spray on solutions, otherwise wipe it down with some cleaners made for outdoor furniture.

Once you have your table and chairs sparkling clean again, bring out your newly washed chair cushions and outdoor throw pillows to really punch up the colour and comfort!

5. BOOST YOUR AIRCON Need a little boost of cold air in your home? Turn your ceiling fan counterclockwise to push cool air down to the floor. This will reduce the use of the AC in your home and help you with your summer savings.

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6. SWITCH TO LIGHTER BEDDING Similar to your clothing, summer is also the time to switch to lighter bedding. Ditch the flannel sheets, thick duvets and wool blankets and opt for breezier cotton. Keep a light throw nearby in case the nights still get chilly! You can even totally switch up the look of your bedroom by trading out decorative pillows or changing up the colour of your bedding.

7. CLEAN THE WINDOWS Cleaning the windows is one of the best feelings when you want your house to feel clean and fresh. This is a great time to clean all of your windows inside and out; with a little bit of effort they will be gleaming in no time. While you’re at it, throw open your windows and air out your house. Nothing is as wonderful as breathing in the fresh air and having it permeate your home. ■

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DO YOUR HOMEWORK BEFORE HAND Thanks to the internet, searching for cars and dealerships has never been easier. Simply punch in the name of a car or dealership and watch as thousands of results pop up.

While learning about the dealership is important, your first step is to look at the different types of used cars out there, since that will influence the dealership you buy from. Is there

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Or are you simply looking for a car that has a reliable reputation? Keep in mind that some cars cost more than others to maintain. Many new cars come with a maintenance or service plan to keep you covered for a period of time or distance, but second-hand cars nearing the end of their service plans could be costly in the long run.

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DO STICK TO YOUR BUDGET Whether you are buying a used car because you don’t have the money for a new one, or you have more than enough money to buy the entire car lot, it doesn’t matter. You need to set aside a certain amount of money you are willing to spend on a vehicle, and then stick to it. That way, you aren’t tempted to ‘trade-up’ to a more flashy looking car that’s three or four grand over what you were initially willing to spend. This will have further implications down the line.

DO A BACKROUND CHECK If you’re buying a second-hand car, the first test-drive is not only for your evaluation, but it also offers you a chance to write down the Vehicle Identification Number, or VIN, so that you can run a vehicle history report. For a fee you can also get a verification report on whether the vehicle’s been reported as stolen, been in a major accident, had the odometer turned back, and other aspects that are handy to know.

DO A THOROUGH INSPECTION It’s of monumental importance to thoroughly inspect a used vehicle before you even think about buying it. Yes, it looks nice online, but it’s still imperative that you check and then double check the vehicle for any problems. Even the technicians who inspected it could have missed something. Pay close attention during the test drive, take your time and ask about any strange noises, feelings, or smells the car creates

while driving down the road.

Review the vehicle’s safety features, such as airbags, and active-safety electronics such as ABS brakes and stability control.

DO ASK QUESTIONS Make sure to ask any questions that pop into your head. For example, asking about common replacement items such as brake discs and pads.

It might be just within your price range now, but you might find that its first visit to the workshop breaks the bank. Whatever you ask, make sure you receive an answer that satisfies you.

DON’T BUY THE FIRST CAR YOU SEE What you don’t want to do in 2020 is show up to a dealership and buy the first car you see without looking at the other cars they have on their lot. Most dealerships have their inventory up on their website. That way consumers can look at what they have to offer before making the drive over. Perhaps that model you so desperately wanted is all but forgotten when you see another that ends up being a better overall investment. If you don’t look, you’ll never find the best deal. On top of that, carefully considering your options prevents you from making any rash decisions. Showing up to a dealership and telling them you want to buy a used car today (even though you might just be looking) is a good way to get yourself locked into buying something you will end up regretting a day or two later.

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DON’T BLINDLY BUY A VEHICLE Don’t ever, under any circumstances, buy a vehicle without at least giving it a test drive. If you don’t know what to look for, bring a friend along who does, or take it to a mechanic. If the dealer is hesitant to let you have a mechanic look at it, then walk away.

DON’T JUST BE SATISFIED WITH WHAT’S PRESENTED If you aren’t asking questions, especially when buying a used vehicle then you’re playing with fire.

Don’t simply stand there and agree to everything you hear. Not because the dealership is trying to trick you, but because the more information you have about the vehicle and carbuying process, the more prepared and confident you’ll be when it comes time to close the deal. ■

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“Often pain makes you feel you are weaker than you are. You are stronger than your pain. Imagine that this too, shall pass. Tap into that feeling of surviving.�

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