WFS Winter 2012 Magazine

Friends

Fall/Winter 2011-12

Wilmington Friends School

Homecoming 2011 Dedication of Tattersall Field Honored Alumni – Peter Duus ’51 Joseph Ayers ’89 Daniel Pfeiffer ’94

Mandarin Program and QUEST Big Ideas Speakers

Friends

Wilmington Friends School Fall 2011/Winter 2012

From the Head of School

1

For Alumni & Friends 2 Homecoming 2011 Including Tattersall Field Dedication Class Reunion Photos

15

More News & Events from Fall 2011

19

Mandarin at Friends and 2011 QUEST Speakers Gish Jen & Grace Lin

22

Class Notes

26

In Memory

31

In Closing

On the front cover and this page: photos from Homecoming and the QUEST Big Ideas Speaker Series 2011

Fall 2011/Winter 2012 • Friends magazine

inside back cover

BOARD OF TRUSTEES Chair Vice Chair Treasurer Secretary Andrew Aerenson ’81 Christopher F. Buccini ’90 Denise Chapman Thomas M. Connelly Curtis Clapham Doneene Damon Meg Gehret Erskine ’83 Brett D. Fallon Reginald D. Flowers ’90

David W. Singleton Susan Kelley Daniel Klein Russ Endo Ellen L. Gay Scott W. Gates ’80 J. Harry Hammond Deborah Murray-Sheppard Darcy Rademaker Laura K. Reilly Jocelyn Sutton Stewart ’82 Harvey Zendt

Alumni Association Board Liaison

Christopher W. Lee ’82

Home & School Association Board Liaison

Jane Hollingsworth

ADMINISTRATION Head of School Associate Head of School, Head of Middle School Assistant to the Head of School Assistant Head for Academics Assistant Head for Finance & Operations Head of Lower School Head of Upper School Director of Admissions and Financial Aid Director of Communications Director of Development

Mission Statement Wilmington Friends, a Quaker school with high standards for academic achievement, challenges students to seek truth, to value justice and peace, and to act as creative, independent thinkers with a conscious responsibility to the good of all.

4

ALUMNI BOARD 2011-2012 Donald Altmaier ‘51 Stuart A. Atkins ‘76 Melissa F. Billitto ‘87 Nicole J. Caddell ‘03 Carolyn Gates Connors ‘81 Kimberley Massih Dolan ‘89 Kristin M. Dugan ‘03 Tim E. Gibbs ‘76 Amy Curran Harper ‘94

Bryan Garman William Neff Marilyn Maguire Peter Wenigmann William Baczkowski Annette Hearing Rebecca Zug Kathleen Hopkins Tracey Quillen Carney ’80 Judy Aliquo Raven Harris ‘06 Scott Jarrell ‘95 Josh Klein ‘98 Chris Lee ‘82 Sarah Lester ‘04 Donald C. Morton, Jr. ‘94 Tom Scott ‘70 Amanda Corby Soto ‘00

Professional photography by Billy Michels ’89 and Elisa Komins Morris Design/layout by Jacquelyn Quinn Dickey With thanks to the alumni, students, faculty, families, trustees, and staff of Wilmington Friends School for their contributions to the community effort of Friends magazine. Please send any comments or corrections to info@wilmingtonfriends.org.

FROM THE HEAD OF SCHOOL Dear Friends, At the 50th reunion luncheon in October, Jamie O’Connor Bolane ’61 shared reflections that her classmates had written about Friends School. One member of the class said that in developing the practice of listening and reflection at Friends, he had also learned “not to remain silent” when it was important to speak. Homecoming 2011 provided meaningful opportunities to celebrate Friends alumni – and one legendary coach – who have let their lives speak with purpose and consequence.

Distinguished Alumnus Peter Duus ’51 recognized, as a just post-World War II high-school student, that Americans did not know enough about the driving forces in Japanese history; and he went on to become this country’s leading authority on the subject. When Service Award recipient Joseph Ayers ’89, a surgeon, and his wife Sally, a nurse anesthetist, felt ready for “some youthful worldly adventure,” they decided to volunteer for nine months at a hospital in Uganda. When asked what inspired his career in public service, Young Alumnus of the Year Dan Pfeiffer ’94, the White House Director of Communications, said he had learned at Friends School that, “a small number of people can make big changes in the world.”

These three graduates, and the many more they represent, have built lives around meeting points where their own passions and talents could advance the common good. They listened to discern a need; they reflected on how they could respond; and they did not remain silent. We thank them for representing our mission so well in the world, and for bringing the inspiration of their example back to Alapocas.

With Ira Ellis ’52 at the 1748 Society/True Blue Luncheon, and below, with fans at the tough-conditions football game

To say that Coach Bob “T” Tattersall has not remained silent in his 44 years of coaching Friends football would be the far side of an understatement. Speaking at the Homecoming week reception in honor of Coach T, Rob Buccini ’86 said, “To this day, I stand at attention when I hear him raise his voice.” But it is, of course, the depth much more than the volume of the message that echoes for T’s players. Rob voiced a sentiment shared by many when he said, “aside from my parents, no person has had a greater influence in my life than Coach T.” You can read about the impressive career statistics, but we dedicated Tattersall Field on Homecoming Saturday for far more important reasons than numbers. Bob has made a difference in so many people’s lives, teaching lessons that last about responsibility, integrity, commitment, and loyalty.

Thanks to all of you who let your lives speak to the mission of Friends School. Because you do, a Homecoming with possibly the worst weather on record was one of the best in spirit. And more important, the spirit of our school – where high expectations and values are mutually reinforcing, and where education is personal – is renewed with each gathering of friends.

With best wishes,

Bryan Garman Fall Fall2011/Winter 2011/Winter2012 2012• •Friends Friendsmagazine magazine

1

for Alumni&Friends

From the Alumni Association President

2011-2012 Alumni Board

Dear Friends, I would like to begin this letter by thanking those of you who braved the rain, sleet, and snow to attend the Homecoming events on Saturday, October 29! The weather was a bit of a wrinkle in our Homecoming plans, but we still had a big, enthusiastic crowd.

Homecoming is always a great time to come back to WFS. This year was especially wonKristin at the 50th + derful because there were so Reunion Luncheon in many things going on, includOctober 2011 ing an inaugural Homecoming event (more below). Whether it has been 50 years or just one year since you have come back to Friends, there are always new things to see.

In addition to the familiar and always enjoyable – sports, Alumni Awards, and reunions – this year we also highlighted the artistic side of our alumni. The school hosted the first Alumni Art Show, featuring work by graduates celebrating reunions. It was nice to see artwork from alumni of different ages, working in different media, and with different styles. We have a very talented group, and I even heard some people asking if pieces were available for purchase!

If you know of any alumni who would be willing to share some of their artwork in their future reunion years, please let us know.

Among the other new things to see at Friends this fall: The school now has a Mandarin program, in addition to the French and Spanish programs that have been around for years. As Friends is becoming increasingly internationally focused, Mandarin was a logical addition. Another change this year was the installation of solar panels, which will offset about 16% of the school’s annual electricity use.

As the school is evolving, so is the Alumni Association and how we communicate with, and involve, our members. A social media presence is becoming increasingly important, so please join/follow us on Facebook (Wilmington Friends School), LinkedIn (Wilmington Friends School), and Twitter (@WilmFriends).

If you would like to become an Alumni Board member or have any recommendations, please do not hesitate to contact us.

Thank you again for another great Homecoming, and have a wonderful 2012!

Sincerely,

Kristin Dugan ’03 2

Fall 2011/Winter 2012 • Friends magazine

Front row: Kristin M. Dugan ’03, Melissa Fagan Billitto ’87, Don “Chick” Altmaier ’51, Amy Curran Harper ’94, Kim Massih Dolan ’89. Back row: Tim Gibbs ’76, Chris Lee ’82, Tom Scott ’70. Not pictured: Andy Atkins ’76, Nicole Caddell ’03, Carolyn Gates Connors ’81, Raven Harris ’06, Scott Jarrell ’95, Josh Klein ’98, Sarah Lester ’04, Donnie Morton ’94, Amanda Corby Soto ’00.

Elder and Child Program, Fall 2011 Friends alumni and parents of alumni continue to contribute to the school’s inter-generational programs, including the Elder and Child partnership with first graders. Pictured with their first grade buddies are parent of alumni Joyce Lamb and Ben Osbun ’66.

for Alumni&Friends

Coming Soon: New Alumni Directory (the printed kind)

Corrections to the Annual Fund Report

Familiar Friend in a New Role

Starting in January 2012, Wilmington Friends will be working with a company called PCI (Publishing Concepts, Inc.) to create an up-to-date directory of our alumni. This printed directory will provide an additional resource to help alumni stay in touch.

PCI, which handles a lot of directory projects, will work with us—and with you—to ensure that our information is as accurate as possible.

Class of 1952

Stacy Gatti, who had been the part-time Special Events Coordinator in the Alumni Development Office, is now with us full-time and with added responsibilities. Hers will be the friendly face you see upon entering the Jones House. Stacy and her husband Pete are the parents of three Friends students: Meryl ’15, Will ’17, and Tess ’23.

This kind of project is not unusual, of course, for independent schools and colleges. PCI is a well-respected company, and we appreciate your taking about five minutes to respond when you are contacted. You should receive a postcard and email soon, requesting updated information. Do not feel obligated to purchase the printed directory, but please do help us by updating your information for our records.

Thank you! If you have any questions about the directory, please visit www.wilmingtonfriends.org/alumni-printed-directory; or contact Paige Meginley Winburn, Director of Alumni Relations, at pwinburn@wilmingtonfriends.org or 302.576.2981.

Although listed correctly in the general information, class participation was listed incorrectly with the list of donors. Participation was listed as 96%, when of course, it should have been – doesn’t get any better – 100%. Thank you, Class of ’52.

1962

Jay Dalgliesh’62 was inadvertently left off the class list of Annual Fund donors. Thanks for your support, Jay, with apologies for the error.

The Alumni Development and Communications office staffs thank Stacy’s predecessor, the wonderful Trish Kocher, who is now the administrative assistant in the Office of Admissions and Financial Aid.

Fall 2011/Winter 2012 • Friends magazine

3

HOMECOMING 2011 SPIRIT WEEK

THURSDAY, OCTOBER 27

Homecoming events begin (for students) with Spirit Week. In a new activity this year, each lower school student wrote, and sometimes drew, on a paper “brick” an ending to the sentence, “We love WFS because….” The paper bricks were then posted in the lower school lobby. A few of the things our lower schoolers love about Friends:

True Blue/ 1748 Society Luncheon

“singing with the big kids” “the trees” “Meeting for Worship” “playing with the guinea pigs” “I feel safe.”

“There are fun ways to learn.”

“Everyone is like family.”

“We have great teachers.”

“WFS Rocks!”

More than 120 guests attended the True Blue/1748 Society Luncheon on Homecoming Thursday. As they enjoyed a delicious lunch catered by Toscana and the company of student ambassadors at each table, guests were entertained by the upper school’s Jazz Band and Chamber Singers.

First graders also visited, and recited a poem in Spanish about butterflies and then gave each person at the lunch a hand-colored paper butterfly. Fourth graders visited, too, without ever leaving the lower school campus, using the computer program Skype, and sang “This Pretty Planet.”

True Blue donors have supported Friends School consistently for the past 10 or more years. Members of the 1748 Society have included Friends in their estate plans.

Thank you!

4

Fall2011/Winter 2011/Winter2012 2012••Friends Friendsmagazine magazine Fall

Below: An ensemble from the upper school Jazz Band; longtime school trustee Howard Starkweather ’44; Sara Hodge Geuder ‘55

“T Fund” Donor Reception More than 130 alumni football players, parents of alumni and current players, coaches, and other friends attended the Thursday evening reception in honor of Coach Bob “T” Tattersall (having been encouraged to wear Friends football gear). More than 200 donors have contributed to the “T Fund,” an effort chaired by football alumnus, current parent and Friends trustee Andy Aerenson ’81 that has raised almost $700,000. The T Fund supported renovations to the football/ girls’ soccer field and facilities, and also established an endowment in Coach T’s name to support financial aid at Friends.

Tattersall Field was formally dedicated on Homecoming Saturday, October 29 (see page 12).

Above: Phoebe Baker ‘62, Walter ‘62 and Jeannette Smith; opposite page: Madge Ellis ’56 with Jazz Band member and student ambassador Richard Monari ’12; Terry and Trudy Hatter, with longtime faculty member Bill Neff in the background

This year, Coach T completed his 44th season as head coach of the Friends football team. He has 262 career wins (so far), the second most in Delaware high school football history, and has led his teams to one state championship (1984), a 37-game win streak from 1972 to 1976, a total of 21 conference championships, and six undefeated regular seasons.

Coach T has received numerous honors including being named the DSBA (Delaware Sportswriters and Broadcasters Association) Coach of the Year in 2003 and DIFCA (Delaware Interscholastic Football Coaches Association) Coach of the Year in 1973.

Head of School Bryan Garman, said of Coach T’s career statistics, “These are great numbers, but we are here for far more important reasons. We are here because Bob is a great coach, a great teacher, an incredible human being who has made a difference for so many of us. He has built not just a team, but a program that teaches players about responsibility, integrity, commitment, and loyalty. He makes high demands, but he gives his players more than he asks.”

Jake Gehret ’77 and Tom Dippel ’89 sign the commemorative footballs.

Top of page: Parents of alumni Eileen and Bart Dalton with Coach T

Coach T received additional tributes from former players and fellow coaches, from the 1960’s to the present. Rob Buccini ’86, a leader on the 1984 state championship team, introduced Coach T, saying, “I can say with confidence, aside from my parents, no person has had a

Fall Fall 2011/Winter 2011/Winter 2012 2012 •• Friends Friends magazine magazine

5

“T Fund” Reception (cont’d.) greater influence in my life than Coach T. There are many in this room who share that same sentiment. As a teacher, coach, mentor, and friend, his words and his example helped shape our lives. His lessons were many: to be humble, respectful, intense, and disciplined, to compete always and to fear no one.”

Friends parent Artie Kempner is a director for FOX Sports who has worked with many NFL and college coaches and players and who played his own college football at the University of Florida; he and his wife Marcy have had two sons participate in the Friends football program. Artie wrote, “I can say unequivocally that Bob Tattersall is one of the finest football coaches on any level that I have had the privilege to know. I didn’t play for Coach T, but I wish I had.”

Head of School Bryan Garman also thanked Dianne Tattersall, Coach T's wife of 50 years, for her support of the school, and the football program and all of its coaches and players. The Tattersalls' three children attended Friends; their eight grandchildren include seven current students and one graduate of the school.

FRIDAY, OCTOBER 28

Inset: Rob Buccini ’86 at the podium to introduce Coach T; above: Parent of alumni Leon Mintz with Coach T; Margaret and Art ’51 Hill with Dianne Tattersall – Art was a coach, teacher, and administrator at Friends for many years; Ray Osbun ’71 with Dianne; Mike Coleman ’88, an assistant coach in football and basketball at Friends, and Tom Raiber ’86, in front of the T memorabilia display

50th + Reunion Luncheon On Friday, the school hosted the “50th +” Reunion Lunch at the DuPont Country Club. Alumni from 1936, 1941, 1946, 1951, 1956, and 1961 celebrated benchmark reunions (see group photos, pages 15-16), and heard from Head of School Bryan Garman and from two members of the Class of 1961—Fleet Davis and Jamie O’Connor Bolane.

Fleet summarized his message—speaking about teachers, classmates, and coaches—with Quakerly simplicity.

“Friends,” he said, “is about people.”

Beverley Holmes Strodtz ‘61 and Margaret Weber Makar ‘61 50th reunion speakers Fleet Davis ’61 and Jamie O’Connor Bolane ’61

6

Fall Fall2011/Winter 2011/Winter2012 2012••Friends Friendsmagazine magazine

Jamie noted that for the Class of ’61, the early deaths of two classmates had “held close the mirror of mortality. We knew immediately that our own breath and our connectedness were gifts rather than guarantees.” Jamie thanked Fred Freeman and Connie Roberts Amend for their roles in keeping the class in contact with each other, and paid tribute to the diversity of professions and personalities represented at the 50th reunion.

Volleyball Quite a season. In addition to winning its Homecoming match against Tatnall, Friends volleyball’s 14-1 regular season included wins over perennial powerhouses Ursuline, St. Mark’s, and Padua, and a ninth consecutive conference championship (undefeated in the conference).

The Quakers advanced to the semi-finals of the state tournament, and coach Barbara Trinsey was named Delaware’s Coach of the Year.

All-State Volleyball First team: Lauren Kerrigan Second team: Lauren Kelley All-Conference Volleyball First team: Lauren Kelley, Lauren Kerrigan, Erin Skibicki Second team: Susan Kuhn Seniors Lauren Kelley (#9), Erica Brown (with the dig), and Kendall Flanagan (#15)

Toward the end of her remarks, Jamie referenced a poem by John Greenleaf Whittier, who urged that life be “a psalm of gratitude.” “[Whittier] believed,” Jamie said, that “‘Love shall tread out the fire of anger, and in its ashes plant a tree of peace,’ and so it shall.

The circle of our class was broken very early on...Fifty years later we have re-formed our circle…Welcome home, Class of 1961.”

Above: Elaine Davis, Charlie Davis ‘51, Jody Taylor Linton ‘51, Peter Bailey ‘51, Barbara Bailey, Helen Burr Nulse ‘51 Far left: Class of 1956 friends (all parents of alumni, as well) Nancy Spargo Goodrich, Gail Porter Anderson, and Cynthia Pyle Woolley Near left: Dick Heald ’46 and Charles Penniman ’46 Fall 2011/Winter 2012 • Friends magazine

7

Alumni Reunion and Awards Reception Distinguished Alumnus of the Year Peter Duus ’51 From his work as a teaching fellow at Harvard in 1961 through his 2003 retirement from Stanford, Peter Duus has distinguished himself as a leading American historian of modern Japan.

Peter has written what are recognized as the standard university texts in the field.

He earned prestigious research fellowships throughout his graduate and teaching careers, along with the Berkeley Prize, the Hiromi Arisawa Book Prize, and the Akira International Book Award; and he is a Fellow of the American Academy of Arts and Sciences.

Paula Findlen, Chair, Department of History at Stanford, said, “Peter Duus is one of those rare historians who excel at every dimension of this profession.”

Peter traces his professional focus to an interest in Asia piqued by coming into high school just after World War II. Reflecting on his time at Friends and the Class of 1951, he remembered, “You never felt lost…this was a very congenial group of people.” Peter said from his perspective the most important preprofessional skill at Friends was learning how to write well.

Peter graduated from Harvard University, Magna Cum Laude, in 1955. He earned his M.A. in Far Eastern Studies from University of Michigan, and returned to Harvard to earn his Ph.D. in History in 1965. He taught at Washington University (St. Louis), Harvard University, Claremont Graduate School, and Stanford University. He also spent a year as the director of the California State Colleges in the International Division of Waseda University in Tokyo, and was the Governor Burns Visiting Professor of History at the University of Hawaii.

Above, Peter Duus at the podium and, right, with Friends parent Darryl Flaherty, a professor at the University of Delaware who specializes in Japanese history and East Asian studies 8

Fall 2011/Winter 2012 • Friends magazine

All alumni with reunion years, as well as family and friends of this year’s alumni award recipients, were invited to Alumni Reunion and Awards Reception on Friday evening.

Outstanding Service Award Joseph Ayers ’89 Joe Ayers, a surgeon in the U.S. Navy, could not accept his award in person, as he was deployed for a second tour in Afghanistan.

Joe is due to return just in time for the birth of his and his wife Sally’s second child. Their son Henry is almost two. The family plans to settle in Baltimore, where he will begin a two-year vascular surgery fellowship at the University of Maryland.

In 2008-2009, Joe and Sally, a nurse anesthetist, became medical mission volunteers in Uganda. Joe wrote: “We volunteered for nine months through Catholic Medical Mission Board at Kilembe Mines Hospital in Uganda....

The community there in Kilembe is poor, mostly subsistence farmers who speak their local tribal language, Rokonjo. Childhood pneumonia, malnourishment, malaria, and HIV are prevalent in the community, with the HIV rate estimated at 15% of the population.”

After describing the hundreds of surgeries Joe performed at their hospital, the Medical Superintendent and Hospital Administrator wrote this of the man they call “Dr. Joseph”: “…the patients, staff, colleagues here and the community benefited from Dr. Joseph’s voluntary service for humanity. Dr. Joseph has a big heart for the poor people and works extra hours to accomplish whatever may be required to be done. In him there is a man willing to share his life for the needy; this was observed during his term of service and even after. He still has a big heart for Africa. We miss Dr. Joseph and happy are those he is serving now.”

Joe received his B.S. from the University of Pennsylvania, an M.S. in Organic Chemistry from The Ohio State University, and his M.D. from Case Western Reserve University.

Young Alumnus of the Year Daniel Pfeiffer ’94 Dan Pfeiffer ’94 is the White House Director of Communications. He is a son of former longtime Friends teacher Lear Pfeiffer and past school Trustee Gary Pfeiffer, as well as brother of Bob Pfeiffer ’97. Dan’s wife, Sarah Feinberg, is Director of Communications and Business Development for Bloomberg News. Dan was the 2009 Commencement speaker at Friends.

Before graciously accepting his award, Dan shared some insights about his experience at Friends: “I wouldn’t be where I am today without my time at Friends. It inspired me to think about a life of service; we were taught that if you had a life that meant something to other people, it would mean more to you…We always felt so blessed to go to a school like Friends, and we knew we owed something back.” On the influence of the Quaker education, he said he thinks often of the teaching that, “a small number of people can make big changes in the world.”

Before assuming his current duties, Dan served as White House Deputy Communications Director, as Communications Director for the presidential transition team, and as Deputy Communications Director and traveling press secretary for the Obama campaign. During the campaign, Dan orchestrated much of the successful outreach to young voters, using tools of the digital age. Dan has had a busy four years—really a busy 14 years of public service since graduating, Magna Cum Laude, from Georgetown University. He worked briefly in the Clinton Justice Department, and then on several successful campaigns for candidates and ballot initiatives across the country. His impressive list of bosses includes former Vice President Al Gore, and former United States Senators Tom Daschle (D-S.D.), Evan Bayh (D-Ind.), and Tim Johnson (D-S.D.).

Dan Pfeiffer at the podium and with fellow class of 1994 alumnus Donnie Morton, a teacher and coach at Friends

SATURDAY, OCTOBER 29 Cross Country Special thanks to members of the cross country team (not all are pictured) for their enthusiastic participation in the Smith McMillan 5K – the girls even cheered as they ran. Homecoming fell right between cross country’s conference meet and county meet this year, so the team could not add another event. Cross country had a break-out season; the boys’ team finished fourth in the DII state meet, and as high as second in other major events, and the girls finished eighth at states, despite missing their top runner due to injury. And two members of the team brought Friends its first All State honors in the sport.

All-State Cross Country Second team: Cavender Salvadori Third team: Thomas Connelly All-County Cross Country Thomas Connelly Chazz Higginbotham All-Conference Cross Country Liza Hendriks Cavender Salvadori Thomas Connelly Chazz Higginbotham

Meeting for Worship Homecoming Meeting for Worship honors faculty and staff, past and present, with 15 or more years of service to the school. Alumni from reunion classes also have a special invitation to attend Homecoming Meeting.

Service Project From top: Frannie Walker Altmaier ’53, Charlie Davis ’51, Chick Altmaier ’51, and longtime Friends faculty member Bill Neff, who will retire after the 2011-12 school year. (Margaret and Art ’51 Hill are in the background.)

Board of Trustees chair David Singleton, Bryan Garman, Lear and Gary Pfeiffer Current parent Sarah Schenck Maheshwari ’91and Vinay Maheshwari Alumni Board member and Friends parent Tom Scott ’70 with Charlie Tjersland ’51

Once again, we invited all in attendance on Saturday to participate in our school community Homecoming Service Project, with every family asked to contribute one item for our neighbors in need. Our partner in the project is The Ministry of Caring.

Right, Bill Hardy ’86 and Muffy Hardy Timberlake ’91; longtime staff member (retired in December 2011) Dede Wolcott Neff with Nicole Caddell ‘03 Fall2011/Winter 2011/Winter2012 2012••Friends Friendsmagazine magazine Fall

9

The 16th Annual Smith McMillan 5K Run & Walk More than 170 runners and walkers pre-registered for our 2011 Smith McMillan 5K, an alltime record. AND maybe even more impressive, despite what can only be described as dismal weather on Homecoming Saturday, another 50 participants registered the morning of the race – even knowing what it was like outside!

Jon Clifton ’80 provided the professional organization, through Races2Run, and a nicely redesigned Alapocas course. And co-clerks Katy Connolly and Diane Nolen led, as always, an extraordinary committee and group of volunteers.

The Smith McMillan 5K benefits financial aid endowment at Friends.

This year’s event raised about $8,500. Many thanks to all.

Committee and Volunteers Katy Connolly (co-clerk) Diane Nolen (co-clerk) Lisa Townsend Raber ’77 (clerk emeritus) Annette Aerenson Marci Aerenson Lauren Asher Denise Chapman Caroline Connolly ’12 Chip Connolly ’79 Elizabeth Connolly ’10 Gil Connolly ’14 Kate Cowperthwait Adam Cutler Wendy Cutler Dawn Echevarria Liz Fields Mo Gavin Sarah Gordon Amy Curran Harper ’94 Aliceia Higginbotham Jane Hollingsworth Susan Kelley Laura MacKelcan Joe Napoletano Lindsey Nolen Mike Nolen Jennifer O’Brien Tom O’Brien Tara Quinn Jennifer Sullivan

Sponsors Racer Delaware Orthopaedic Specialists Jamie Nicholls & Fran Biondi ’83 50 participants registered the day of the race, despite the weather; and a record 170 participants, of all ages, pre-registered The impressive (and impressively cheerful) group of runners included alumnus and parent Matt O’Brien ’81 (top left) and parent Alison Terrell (left center) in her first ever 5K; extra credit to the fans.

10 Fall Fall2011/Winter 2011/Winter2012 2012••Friends Friendsmagazine magazine

Strider Brandywine Recovery, Inc. Connolly Bove Lodge & Hutz LLP The Connolly Family Morris James LLP Schlosser & Associates Mechanical Contractors, Inc. W.L. Gore & Associates, Inc. Pacesetter The Aerenson Family Jon Clifton ’80 The Cowperthwait Family Delaware Dentistry, Dr. Dan Fink ’83 First American Title Insurance~ National Commercial Services Hayman Creative, Inc. The Kelley Family PANTANO Real Estate PNC Bank RoadID

Contributors Annette Aerenson Marci Aerenson Candies for All Occasions Currie Hair Skin Nails The Cutler Family The Gatti Family The Hollingsworth Family McKenzie Brew House The Nolen Family The O’Brien Family The Raber Family South Moon Under Toscana Trail Creek Outfitters

Alumni Art Show A new (thankfully, indoor) addition to Saturday’s events was the first Alumni Art Show, featuring work by alumni celebrating reunions in 2011. Many of our alumni artists were on hand for the coffee reception in the school gallery.

The alumni office conducted interviews with the artists, excerpted below; to read the full interviews, please visit http:// www.wilmingtonfriends.org/ alumni-art-show.

If you might be interested in participating in the Alumni Art Show during your next reunion year, please contact us: alumni@ wilmingtonfriends.org.

Donald “Chick” W. Altmaier ’51 Painting Do you remember taking art classes at Friends? If so, who was your favorite art teacher and why? …[I]n 10th grade, a new art teacher, Mrs. Forer, encouraged me to do what I wanted, including painting in oils. I was offered, through [WFS alumnus and prominent local artist] John McCoy, the opportunity to study oil painting under Carolyn Wyeth, his sisterin-law and daughter of N.C. Wyeth. Miss Forer encouraged me to do this and later bought me, out of her own pocket, brushes to pursue this. Through my father, a classmate, Ann Biggs, was offered the same opportunity and we were the first teenagers Carolyn Wyeth took on as students. At this point, Friends became very supportive and allowed Ann and me to leave school every Wednesday after lunch to be able to study with Carolyn during the week. We also worked with her every Saturday morning all school-year long.

What advice do you have for current students who are artists?

My advice to students, and this applies to whatever the student’s interest might be, is to pursue your deep down desire. A little bit like the inward Quaker spirit, do what’s in your heart, and you’ll be right.

Ann Attwood Biggs ’51 Botanical Illustrations When did you realize that you could identify yourself as an artist?

Always.

What inspires you today for your artwork?

Painting botanical illustrations at Longwood and at home.

Jamie O’Connor Bolane ‘61 Digital art Did you pursue art in college?

Yes, I hold a BFA in textile design and interior design from Syracuse University.

What inspires you today for your artwork?

A small stream bordered our property when I was growing up. I spent much of my free time there. My interpretations of the nature of water evolved from that early fascination.

Flowing waters are a major inspiration for me today. I am also intrigued by the way in which light flows onto and through form and endeavor to express that in my art.

Chris Raia ’91 Industrial Design When did you realize that you could identify yourself as an artist?

In upper school, WFS offered a portfoliobuilding class called Art Major specifically for application to art and design schools. I hope that class is still there in some form [note: it is], as it was the best ticket one could ask for in starting a design career.

What inspires you today for your artwork?

The need. If ever there's a hole in the world somewhere, I try to fill it.

What advice do you have for current students who are artists?

The biggest trap I see is that young artists and designers take criticism personally. At first, I did. For some reason, art and design work is always closer to the heart than that of most other professions. So, realize that the critique

is part of the design process, not a personal attack, and that only through good discussion and criticism can come a successful expression of an idea.

Sean Snyder ’91 Photography Did you pursue art in college?

No, I was a chemical engineer.

What inspires you today for your artwork?

I’m inspired when I see something amazing in nature and I think I might be able to capture it.

Andy Wyeth ’66 Painting What is your first memory of creating art?

Drawing on white sheets of typewriter paper when I was about 3 or 4 years old at a little table at home.

When did you realize that you could identify yourself as an artist?

There was no one moment. I was making little animated movies from the age of 15 when I was also focusing on painting and drawing. I was very much into building animation devices—19th century toys that revolved and gave an animation effect, including the zoetrope, which I would bring into art class at Friends and run on the foot-powered potters wheel. Actually, I remember our art teacher Mr. Dahl took a dim view of using the potter’s wheel for that purpose.

What inspires you today for your artwork?

I am still painting, drawing. I have discovered for all the years as an artist, I don’t find subjects, they find me—they jump out at me. Recently, I’ve been very interested in old industrial sites from 19th and 18th century in New England.

Fall 2011/Winter 2011/Winter 2012 2012 •• Friends Friends magazine magazine 11 Fall

Tattersall Field Dedication The storm couldn’t keep the fans away from seeing the Tattersall grandchildren unveil the new sign on Tattersall Field. Facing the sea of umbrellas, Coach T offered to give a 30-minute or 30-second version of his speech, opting for the latter – mostly so that his 2011 team, in the front row for the occasion, “could go inside and get ready to play.”

The Tattersall family under the tent included wife of 50 years, Dianne, daughters Julie ’82 and Susan ’84, and son Rob ’91 (who played for his dad); Susan’s husband Bob ’83 (who also played for T), Rob’s wife Shannon, and the eight Tattersall grandchildren – Matt ’11, Jeff ’13, Ellie ’14, Scott ’15, Caroline ’17, Will ’20, Robert ’23, and Ryan ’25.

Matt, Jeff, and Scott have played football at Friends, coached by their grandfather.

Families and Friends Indoor activities included a delicious hot lunch in the Homecoming Tent, with food by Toscana, and a jumping (and dancing, and eating, and shopping, and more) good time in the West Gym. In addition to the D.J., moon bounce, inflatable hoop, temporary tattoos, folks in the gym also enjoyed the Great American Bake Sale, this year’s lower school Homecoming service fair. Proceeds from the sale were matched by a corporate sponsor to support programs that help fight childhood hunger.

12 Fall Fall2011/Winter 2011/Winter2012 2012••Friends Friendsmagazine magazine

Football – Broadcast Live!

The Band

In the first official game on Tattersall Field (and the only sport that was actually able to play on Saturday), the boys got muddy, facing not just rain but wind, sleet, and snow. It was messy…but fun in that “good story” kind of way. Extra credit to all of the fans, especially those without a blood relative on the field.

All-Conference Football

The game and the field dedication were also simulcast, thanks to Andy McEnroe ’04 and First Team Broadcasting, with expert commentary by Andy and fellow Friends football alum Francis Iacobucci ’04. The broadcast was accessed by 72 viewers across the country, as well as fans in Australia, Greece, and Belgium.

(An archived version can be viewed via http://www.firstteambroadcasting.com/ organizations/wilmington-friends-school/.)

In addition, thanks to our Technology Department, Gregg Miller and Todd Tyler, the broadcast was projected onto a wall in the gym, for those unable or wisely unwilling to go out in the storm.

Honorable mention: Sam Carney (QB) Luke Magness (FB) Michael Armstrong (WR) Patrick Schlecker (OT) Worth Hamilton (OG) Bill Gordon (DL) Ben Hanson (DE) Luke Magness (LB) Jeff Davis (DB)

First team: Ben Hanson (TE) Patrick Schlecker (LB) Sam Carney (K/P)

The legend continues to grow – the fourth-eighth grade Homecoming Halftime Band, directed by Christopher Verry. They didn’t lose a beat indoors; in fact, the sound of some 170 musicians got even bigger. This year’s performance ended with a group dance by lower school students—and really cool adults, like Early Learning Center teacher Christine Farley—to the tune of “Thriller.”

The Quakers fought back from a 0-14 halftime deficit but fell just short 12-14. It wasn’t the only heartbreaker for the 2011 team, which lost three conference games by a total of five points. But there were great wins, too, including over bigger opponents Mt. Pleasant, Seaford, and New Hope-Solebury High in Pennsylvania. Coach T ended his 44th season with 262 career wins.

Coaches Artie Kempner, T, and Dick Kittle A great game, despite very tough conditions

Fall 2011/Winter 2012 • Friends magazine

13

MONDAY, OCTOBER 31 With the weather much improved on Monday, the field hockey and soccer teams were able to play their rescheduled Homecoming games, both with St. Andrew’s.

Field Hockey Field hockey won its game by an impressive 3-0 score. In fact, the young Quakers – led by Coach Anne Brooking and the only senior, captain Flavia Lopes – posted wins vs. every conference opponent in the 2011 season, including a season finale 1-0 victory over Tower Hill, and earned a spot in the state tournament.

All-State Field Hockey Elena Veale- 2nd team Flavia Lopes Honorable Mention All-Conference Field Hockey First team: Flavia Lopes (#23 pictured) Emily Horwitz (goalkeeper pictured) Sophie Mester Elena Veale Second team: Meredith Erskine Lucy Yeatman Shannon Skibicki

Soccer Soccer played the Saints tough on Homecoming Monday, but fell short 1-3. Soccer highlights for 2011 included a lateseason win over Tower Hill, a win over Westtown, and some impressive non-conference wins as well, including vs. William Penn, Wilmington Christian, and A.I. du Pont. Congratulations to Coach Rick Sheppard and the team.

All-State Soccer Third team: Jamie Harper All-Conference Soccer First team: Jamie Harper Second team: Gustav Hagman Michael Galardi Bobby Broderick Honorable mention: Alex Balis (#7 pictured) Julian deOliveira (#10 pictured)

14 Fall Fall 2011/Winter 2012••Friends Friends magazine 2011/Winter magazine Summer 2011 • 2012 Friends magazine

Homecoming Volunteers

(For Smith McMillan volunteers, see page 10.)

Don Altmaier ’51 Nancy Arnosti Jolly Bailey Karen Ballotta Lori Barbanel Theresa Beach Olga Beskrone Melissa Fagan Billitto ’87 Irene Blumberg Cyndi Brooks Kathy Brown Bradey Bulk Nicole Caddell ’03 Tina Conner Carolyn Gates Connors ’81 Annie Coons Chloe deOliveira Nancy Denney Kim Massih Dolan ’89 Kristin Dugan ’03 Dagmar Krewson Dunn ’84 Charlotte Evans Kim Facciolo Kaitlyn Fitzpatrick Kathleen Ganse Stephanie Gates Gretchin Gobris Beth Greenstein Sue Harron Patty Irwin Linda Jaworski Vivek Jha Susan Kelley Katy Kenney Stephanie Knudsen Wendy Lapham Robin Lebauer Chris Lee ’82 Sarah Lester ’04

Olivia Latney ’12 Terry Maguire Robyn Malone Kim Mooney-Doyle Elisa Morris Liz Muir Marion Newbold ’78 Jennifer O’Brien Susan Owen Moira Pando Daniel Potter ’12 Kristin Ramos Stephanie Ramsey Sherry Read Rodi Family Kim Rogal Debbie Ross Jane Schindewolf David Schlecker Jennie and Frank Sorbello Tara Strouss Maggie Swanson Karen Taormina Shannon Tattersall Susan Terranova Kim Thomas Lisa Tyler Annie Williams Special Thanks

To Special Events Coordinator Stacy Gatti and to the Grounds and Building Services staffs – literally, the calm before, amid, and after the storm of Homecoming. And thank you to all members of the faculty and staff who gave so generously of their time and talents in support of Homecoming events.

CLASS REUNIONS 2011 1936:

Mary Clark Keyser ’36

1941: Chuck Shoemaker, Nancy Wells, Betsy Callahan Carter, and Tom Marshall attended Friday’s lunch at the DuPont Country Club. On Saturday, for their 70th Reunion event at Stonegates, they were joined by Betty Valentine Daudt, Charlotte Bispham (representing longtime class agent Brud Bispham who passed away over the summer), Harriett Kimmell, and Tom’s wife Ruth

1946: Seated: Betty Rheuby Gillespie, Charlie Biggs, Herbert Lubs, Nancy Chapman Berl; and standing: Charles “Cholly” Penniman, Ted Phillips, Dick Heald

1951:

Front row (seated): Mary Beth Rickards Baisden, Biddy Miller Jenkins (on arm rest), Art Littman, Alice Pillsbury, John Gehret, Chick Altmaier (on arm rest), Allan R. Plumley Jr.; middle row: Peter Bailey, Jody Taylor Linton, Helen Burr Nulse, Ann Atwood Biggs; and back row: Betsy Cranston Baxter, Inge Scherb Lehmann, Robert Landon, Charlie Davis, Peter Duus, Jane Marsh Diekmann, Jay Maston, Charlie Tjersland, Art Hill. Missing (attended 60th but not the luncheon): Judy Mayfield Morrow and Ed Morrow

Fall2011/Winter 2011/Winter2012 2012••Friends Friendsmagazine magazine 15 Fall

CLASS REUNIONS 2011

1956:

Meryl Richardon Nolan, Cynthia Pyle Woolley, Ernst (Hasty) Habicht, Gail Porter Anderson, Jane Wier Apple, Madge Ellis.

Seated: Marcia Stirling Quillen, Nancy Spargo Goodridge

1961:

Front row: Richard Hill, Connie Roberts Amend, Margaret Weber Makar, John Dallas, Jamie O’Connor Bolane, Beverly Holmes Strodtz, Daniel Statnikov; and back row left to right: Stephen Burnett, John Jackson, William Ryan, Alfred Freeman, Fleet Davis, and Curtis Holmes Not pictured (attended evening reunion): Fred Glasser, Kathryn French Sampson, Richard Garwood, Eileen Stroud Clark, John Haedrich, Patricia Markle Dresden and Nina Vosters Moyer

1971:

Raymond Osbun, Donald Isken, Dolly Bochenek Wolf, John Kramer, Nancy Applegate Valiante, Barbara Baganz Simpson, David Stratton, Tim Hidell, Tom Ellis, Marie Haugh Osbun, Walter Hrab, Margaret Mullin MacKelcan

Fall2011/Winter 2011/Winter 2012••Friends Friendsmagazine magazine 16 Fall Summer 2011 • Friends magazine 16 2012

1976:

First row (floor): Kay Hewlett Ambrose, Diana Millick Hodgson, Christina Papastavros Fay, Conny Johann Mincks, Becky Alderfer, Sandra Scholl Donahue; middle row (sitting): Dan Fleming, Carol Dumont Kerby, Vikki Takacs Packin, Dru Reed Mogge, Tom Moore, Judith Gelb; and back rows (standing): John Kurth, Christina Veith, Nels Pederson, Mary Anne Magness LeRoy, Jill Paul Deardorff, Chan Shellenberger, Andy Atkins, Lisa Letang, Tim Gibbs, Richard Laird, Biddy Hukill Schreppler, Tom George, Randy Ploener, David Adler, Lee Garrett, and Mike Melloy; not pictured: Andy Bodenstab, Barbara Burr Leonard, Todd Whitaker

1981:

Front row: Carolyn Gates Connors, Sue Ann Rosenthal Leone, Susan Goodridge Augustoni, Martha Lemons Sherrill, Sally Lynch Poulsen, Sally Kinsey Kauffman, Mary Jane Laberee Lang; second row: Doug Paul, Andy Aerenson, Michele Redfearn-Wenzel, Linda Cashman, Caren Spiegel Barnet, Terry Romanoli, Alison Egan Thompson, Ned Bancroft, Tom Lang, Adam Balick; back row: Matt O’Brien, Todd Anderson, Beth Mintz Beckett, and Bob Boone

1986:

Front row: Susan Holmes Huebsch, Laura Sloane, Jody Gibson, Beth Melloy Butler, Stu Abelson; second row: Susan Harper Shahidi, Bill Hardy, Stu Gittelman, Tom Raiber, Melanie Clouser, Jon Layton, Oliver Yeh; and back row: Rob Friz, John Peters, Tom Donaghy, Rob Buccini, Stephen Woodacre, Liz Kline Anglada

Fall2011/Winter 2011/Winter 2012 Friends magazine Fall Summer2012 2011•••Friends Friendsmagazine magazine 17

CLASS REUNIONS 2011

1991:

Front row: Muffy Hardy Timberlake, Tirrikah Burse Molina, Kendra Eyster Woolley, Sarah Schenck Maheshwari, Ashley Cattermole Gillerlain; second row of seated women: Talley Trench Hahn, Kenon Mitchell, Jeannette Craig Niehoff, Alston Cox, Cammie Phalan; in the middle: Tom Kuon, EJ Dealy, Erin Young Atwater, Jason Mahoney; and starting on the far left and coming all the way around right: Herb Matter, Melissa Chambers Riggs, Sean Snyder, Matt Terrell, Fred Huntley, Sean Healy, Rob Tattersall, Josh Alison, Craig Wight, William Masten, Rick Harper, Tim Bulous, and Dave Harper

1996:

Front row: Meghan Rice Jodz, Erin Bushnell; second row: Ashley Rush, Nicole Stevenson Black, Catherine Weidwald Stenta, Jarrett Rademaker, Randy Nurse, Meg Ting Ryan, Katie Measley Van Druff, Kristen Facciolo; and third Row: Shawn Breck, Mike Lamb, Eric Zumsteg, Stephanie Hlywak, and Andrew Clemmer

2011:

Dan Carbone, Anna Melnick, Matt Kempner, and Leah Rizzo all joined us, despite the weather, for their first Homecoming as alumni.

18 Fall Fall 2011/Winter 2012••Friends Friends magazine Summer 2011 magazine 2011/Winter 2012 magazine Summer 2011 •• Friends Friends magazine

Fall

More News & Events from

In addition to Homecoming and fall sports (pages 4-14), the upper school musical (inside back cover), among the many events at Friends so far this year, in words and pictures, and sometimes both…

Summer

September • As always, the annual fifth grade trip to the Chesapeake Bay combined studies with community building for the class and an experience away from home and campus.

2011

(and a little summer)

This summer, 27 Friends students were awarded the International Baccalaureate Diploma. In addition, students earned a total of 107 IB certificates for work in individual IB courses. The following members of the class of 2011 earned IB Diplomas: Kevin Anglim, Hamilton College; Rebecca Caspar-Johnson, Wesleyan University; Louise Connelly, Princeton University; Sara Coughlin, Hampshire College; Danielle Delpeche, Swarthmore College; John Fairchild, Princeton University; Glenn Felder, Emory University; Mara Freilich, Brown University; Amanda Gill, Bryn Mawr College; Kaitalyn Grover, University of Delaware; Rebecca Hodge, University of Delaware; Julia Horwitz, Wake Forest University; Keya Joshi, Johns Hopkins University; Michael Leff, Lafayette College; Sabrina Lessner, Washington Upper School French trip, summer 2011 University in St. Louis; Julianna Ly, University of Delaware; Anna Melnick, Boston University; Luke Raber, University of Pittsburgh; Lindsay Reese, Washington and Lee University; Ellen Rodowsky, Colgate University; Caroline Scott, Emory University; Annalise Sheslow, Kenyon College; Matthew Skibicki, Lehigh University; Kieran Smith, Gettysburg College; Katrina Sotiropoulos, Syracuse University; Niki Wenigmann, Hamilton College; and Joshua Zimmerman, Carnegie Mellon University.

• During two weeks early in the fall, Friends hosted three Lunch & Learn programs, organized through the QUEST Center. The first guest was Matt Southworth, Foreign Policy Program Analyst for the Friends Committee for National Legislation and a former Army Intelligence analyst who served The 2011 Language Department trip to France started with five days in Carcassonne, in Iraq. Southworth visited in recogniwhere the group did service projects, and continued with travel to Provence and Paris. tion of the International Day of Peace.

The second Lunch & Learn featured a trio of musician-veterans who served in Afghanistan; they shared their talents, as well as insights about the complexities of war and its toll on all who serve. The third program featured poet, professor, and Friends graduate Robert Pfeiffer ’97.

His first book of poetry, Bend, Break, was published in early 2011. Bob read from his book and answered student questions about his experiences and the artistic process.

• Ten Friends seniors have been recognized in this year’s National Merit Scholarship program. Katy Barrett and Sara Woodward were recognized as Semi-Finalists, and the following students received Letters of Commendation: Rachel Abrams, Keiko Endo, Chris Getty, Duncan Hobbs, Kristine Iannelli, Matt Lankiewicz, Richard Monari, and Daniel Potter. Of the 1.5 million students nationally who take the qualifying test, about 50,000 receive recognition in the program; fewer than one third of those (about 16,000) qualify as Semi-Finalists.

Fifth grade Chesapeake trip Fall 2011/Winter 2012 • Friends magazine

19

Fall

2011

October

November-early December

• Lower school celebrated green initiatives at Friends with a visit from the Compass Green Project, a greenhouse in a truck that runs on recycled vegetable oil, and the dedication of the school’s new 860 solar panels – an idea originally proposed by four students who are now sophomores.

• Judah Dadone ’03 led a Lunch & Learn for music fans.

Judah fronts the band Freelance Whales, which released its debut album, Weathervanes, in 2010, and has enjoyed great success touring.

Above: students visit the Compass Green Project truck, a mobile greenhouse that runs on recycled vegetable oil; right: sophomores Kevin Roux, Gil Connolly, Roth Johnson, and Ryan Dubowy, who presented the original proposal for solar panels at Friends Judah Dadone ‘03 and Friends fans • In an October Lunch & Learn (Plus), Sarah Lee Guthrie and Johnny Irion performed for the lower and middle school, and led an upper school Lunch & Learn discussion. Guthrie comes from a famous family of musicians, including her father Arlo and late grandfather Woody.

• Holocaust survivor and parent of three Friends graduates Dorothy Finger spoke with seventh grade students. She talked about the obligation she feels to share her story, and said, “I tell you, and then you share the obligation to tell the world.”

Sarah Lee Guthrie (daughter of Arlo, granddaughter of Woody) and Johnny Irion visited in October.

• On October 22, a team of upper school students competed in the Bioethics Bowl, an academic competition co-sponsored by the University of Pennsylvania Center for Bioethics and Moorestown Friends School. Friends was the only Delaware school represented.

20

Fall Fall2011/Winter 2011/Winter2012 2012••Friends Friendsmagazine magazine

Holocaust survivor Dorothy Finger spoke about her experiences living in three ghettos, a labor camp, and for a year outdoors in a forest.

And just a couple more....

Andy Wyeth ’66 with visual arts department chair Teal Rickerman • Andy Wyeth ’66 generously shared his time with Friends students for two days in November (see page 26 for more), working with classes and leading a Lunch & Learn.

Among the thematic units in the lower school STEM Lab this fall, with teacher Tim Dalby, were a study of ramps and variables that affect speed and trajectory, and a study of butterflies using the SMART Table.

Students also studied butterflies in Spanish class, and the SMART Table lessons (the table talks) were developed in both English and Spanish.

• Friends sent two delegations, a total of 20 students, to the annual Model Organization of the American States conference in Washington.

• Six Friends students attended this year’s Student Diversity Leadership Conference, sponsored by the National Association of Independent Schools – four attending for the entire conference, and two more participating in a panel discussing Bennett Singer’s documentary, Brother Outsider. The documentary, which chronicles the life of civil rights activist Bayard Rustin, was screened at Friends in January 2011.

• IB Group IV science classes started work on this year’s interdisciplinary research project. A total of 72 juniors and seniors, all students in IB science courses, are involved, working in teams of six to create Science Olympiad events regarding biofuels.

• Senior Daniel Potter and freshman Kerry Shay were chosen for the All State Senior Mixed Choir, and sophomore Molly Marcus was chosen for All State Senior Women’s Choir.

Eighth grader Caroline Wren was selected for Junior All State Chorus. In addition, three Friends students were selected for the American Choral Directors Association (ACDA) Honors Choirs: freshman Brooke Winfield and sixth graders Mary Agne and Kayla Sorbello.

• Eleven Friends football players were recognized as Academic All State by the Delaware Interscholastic Football Coaches Association (DIFCA). DIFCA awards this honor to football players who earn a varsity letter and maintain a GPA of 3.75 or higher. The 2011 Academic All State players from Friends are seniors Michael Armstrong, Brett McCone, Doug Read, Patrick Schlecker, and Josh Schwartz; juniors Bowman Benge and Sam Carney; sophomores Bill Gordon and Jack Kempner; and freshmen Jimmy Carney and Spencer Hall.

• The Friends parent community provides the food and serves a meal at Emmanuel Dining Room – formerly every other month. In response to the deep and persistent community need and with the leadership of Home & School Service Coordinator Karen Taormina, the parent community doubled that commitment beginning in December 2011. In addition, Home & School sponsored a food drive during early December, with all donations going to the Food Bank of Delaware.

In addition to the renovations to the football/girls soccer field, the tennis courts at Friends also were renovated this fall – all ready for spring!

Fall2011/Winter 2011/Winter2012 2012••Friends Friendsmagazine magazine 21 Fall

Mandarin at Friends

M Based on a report to the Board of Trustees prepared by Mandarin teachers Yue Wang and Xiaohong Xu

Week, middle school and upper school Mandarin students and professional artists from China will present a “gala” performance.

The 2011 QUEST Big Ideas Speaker Series celebrated the role of literature in promoting cultural understanding, in conjunction with Friends School’s introduction of a Mandarin language and Chinese culture program. In the inaugural year of the program, 17 middle school students and 15 upper school students are enrolled in Mandarin language courses at Friends, “exceeding our expectations,” Head of School Bryan Garman said, for first-year participation.

Travel-Study

On Campus

Mandarin teachers Yue Wang and Xiaohong Xu

The courses began with practice in pronunciation and the writing of characters, and have progressed to vocabulary related to day-to-day topics. In addition to language study, aspects of Chinese geography, customs, and culture are also part of the classes. There are also theme-based group projects in each course.

In middle school, as described by teacher Yue Wang, there is a cultural lesson for each language topic – for example, as students learn numbers in Mandarin, they also learn about the cultural definition of lucky vs. unlucky numbers and how to use a Chinese abacus. While learning a basic interrogative like “how old are you?”, students learn about the lunar calendar and how birthdays are celebrated in China. The group project in sixth grade focuses on Chinese folk arts – how to make knots, shadow puppets, and kites, as well as paper cutting and folding.

The seventh graders are studying traditional Chinese holidays including the Spring Festival, Lantern Festival, Duanwu Festival, the Night of Sevens, and the Moon Festival. As the program expands to eighth grade next year, that group will focus on Chinese architecture, city planning, and gardens.

22

Working with the Confucius Institute at the University of Delaware, the school is in the process of planning a summer trip for upper and middle school Mandarin students – and perhaps for students interested in taking Mandarin next year. The partnership with the Confucius Institute offers the dual benefit of a proven, engaging program and a one-time opportunity for greatly reduced costs. During the trip, students will visit local Chinese schools and view natural and historic sites in Beijing, Shanghai (or Xi’an), and Xiamen.

The purpose of the trip would be to develop both the students’ understanding of Chinese culture and their sense of responsibility as global citizens, with direct interaction with local residents as an emphasis. As an example, students would visit the courtyard in Beijing, one type of Chinese residential housing; they would study the architecture, interview people living there about Beijing’s history and social relationships among generations, and draw family members’ portraits. Middle school students would write about their observations and experiences and read their journals during evening circle times, and upper school students would design their own projects around themes like environmental issues, customs and traditions, and social relationships.

In addition to the planned school trip, several upper school students have applied for scholarships offered by U.S. Department of State to study Mandarin for six to eight weeks in China during the summer of 2012. The scholarships are awarded on a competitive, merit basis. Those accepted will have an opportunity for both intensive, formal language study and further informal practice and cultural immersion.

Upper school Mandarin students, including both of this year’s American Field Service (AFS) students, are already starting to use their skills in conversations. Teacher Xiaohong Xu gave the example that after attending the performance of the upper school fall musical, Annie, students engaged in an animated discussion, asking and answering questions in Mandarin such as, “Is Annie American?”, “Who are her parents?”, “Does Annie have a family name?”, “What kind of job does Mr. Warbucks have?”, and “What was the name of the US president at that time?” Upper school students’ cultural study has included learning about Chinese tea customs. Group projects include a Chinese cooking contest and student-produced newsletters.

Still to Come

Early in January 2012, the teachers plan to launch a 10-week, after-school Mandarin enrichment program for kindergartenfifth grade students. Students will participate in interactive, hands-on activities such as Chinese paper cutting; making hand fans, lanterns, and Peking opera masks; Chinese story-telling and role-playing; playing Diu Shou Juan (the Chinese version of Duck Duck Goose); and singing Chinese songs. Then in February, students at all grade levels will engage in a week of programs featuring various cultural workshops and performances to celebrate the Chinese New Year. During the Chinese Culture

Upper school Mandarin teacher Xiaohong Xu holds a Bachelor’s degree from Shanghai International Studies University in Foreign Language and Literature (English), a Master’s in Education from Temple University, and is currently enrolled at Middlebury College in the summer Master’s program in Teaching Chinese as a Foreign Language. Previously, she was the founder of the Mandarin program at Pomfret School, a boarding school in Connecticut. Middle school Mandarin teacher Yue Wang is a graduate of Emory University, where she majored in Chinese Language and Literature and economics. Yue previously taught Mandarin to middle school at Eastminster School in Conyers, Georgia.

Fall 2011/Winter 2012 • Friends magazine

Friends expects to offer seven Mandarin classes in the 2012-13 school year – one at each of the three middle school grade levels and, in the upper school, Mandarin I for ninth and 10th graders, Mandarin I for 11th and 12th graders, Mandarin II, and an Independent Study of Chinese Literature II (for a student who is a native speaker of Chinese). Going forward, a significant focus will be on the development of IB Higher and Standard Level Mandarin courses for juniors and seniors.

The Teachers

Gish Jen

By Brandon Woods QUEST Director and Upper School English Teacher

Above & below: Gish Jen was a guest teacher in a senior IB English class.

Ms. Jen brought her trademark humor, perspicacity, and wit to all of her interactions at Friends.

On October 18, 2011, the QUEST Big Ideas Speaker Series welcomed famed Chinese-American author Gish Jen to the Friends community. Ms. Jen’s work has appeared in several major magazines including The New Yorker, The Atlantic Monthly, and The New Republic. AddiQUEST Director Brandon Woods and Gish Jen tionally, she has received grants from the Guggenheim Foundation as well as the National Endowment for the Arts. From her short story collection, Who’s Irish, to her most recent novel, World and Town, Ms. Jen uses humor and piercing cultural insights to explore the meaning of American identity. Through her incisive cultural explorations, Ms. Jen allows us to critically analyze and expand our notion of what it means to be an American.

Ms. Jen brought her trademark humor, perspicacity, and wit to all of her interactions at Friends. First, she was the special guest teacher for Jake Rashkind’s 12th grade International Baccalaureate English class. In preparation for her visit, the students read the titular story of her 2000 collection, Who’s Irish? The story, told from the perspective of a first generation Chinese-American grandmother, centers on the generational conflict between a mother and her daughter who the mother fears is losing connection to her Chinese heritage. The students were particularly intrigued by Ms. Jen’s decision to have her narrator use dialect (“broken English”). Ms. Jen stated that the grandmother’s broken English lends the story an air of authenticity. Additionally, the students were excited to hear from Ms. Jen about the process of developing the story. Ms. Jen shared that her process includes keeping index cards with ideas about potential stories, and she declared that some of her stories often stem from these cards. After discussing the intricacies of literary techniques such as diction and narrative voice, the conversation shifted to questions about Ms. Jen’s work habits. Some students were stunned to hear that Ms. Jen worked eight to ten hour days like any other person with a career. It appeared that she dashed their visions of authors waiting around until inspired by their muses.

The impassioned conversation continued during the dinner to honor past and present faculty facilitators of the SEED (Seeking Educational Equity and Diversity) program at Friends – Karen Horikawa, Scott Rhodewalt, and Loraine Snead as well as our new Mandarin teachers, Yue Wang and Xiaohong Xu. The free-ranging conversation covered everything from Amy Chua’s controversial book, Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, to comparisons between the American and Chinese college processes.

The night culminated with a lively reading that was open to the community. Ms. Jen shared three passages from her latest novel, World and Town. The book centers on the relationship between a bi-racial woman who has just lost her husband and her best friend to cancer and a Cambodian family who have also moved to the picturesque New England town of Riverlake. The passages that Ms. Jen read highlighted the crosscultural exchanges that enriched and clarified each character’s self-understanding. The reading elicited numerous questions from the spellbound audience. Ms. Jen’s reading was so moving that attendees lined up afterwards ostensibly to purchase her latest book. Yet, even more, everyone wanted to continue the conversation that Ms. Jen’s reading had sparked.

Gish Jen’s public evening reading closed her visit to Friends.

The impact of the visit could be felt in the comments students made after Ms. Jen spoke in their classes, as well as in the conversations between members of the community familiar with her work. Friends was truly enriched by Ms. Jen’s presence.

Fall 2011/Winter 2012 • Friends magazine 23

Grace Lin

By Tracey Quillen Carney ’80 Director of Communications This year’s QUEST Big Ideas Speaker Series was expanded to include a speaker for lower school students, award-winning children’s author-illustrator Grace Lin. After attending the Rhode Island School of Design, Lin quickly found success with her first book, The Ugly Vegetables, which among other honors was named an American Booksellers Association “Pick of the List” and a Growing Good Kids Book Award “Classic.” Lin has published more than a dozen books since, including early reader Ling & Ting, a Theodor Geisel (a.k.a. Dr. Seuss) Honor book in 2011, and the novels The Year of the Dog, The Year of the Rat, and Where the Mountain Meets the Moon, a 2010 Newbery Honor book. Lin has been honored by the Boston Public Library with the Literary Lights for Children Award and was an Astrid Lindgren Memorial Award nominee.

Using one of her books appropriate to the age of each audience, she talked about the process of writing, illustrating, and publishing a book....

During her October 3, 2011 visit to Friends, Grace Lin tailored presentations for groups from prekindergarten to fourth-sixth grade. Using one of her books appropriate to the age of each audience, she talked about the process of writing, illustrating, and publishing a book (and assigned student volunteers roles for different people involved in that process), and how her work draws from her own biography and from aspects of Chinese cultural traditions. She also led each group in a drawing exercise, sharing some simple illustration tips that helped students produce pictures of which they were visibly proud—often to their own surprise.

In her session with third graders, Lin talked about The Year of the Dog and The Year of the Rat, and how the novels related to her childhood during those two years of the Chinese Zodiac calendar. She asked the students about their birth years, which turned out to be the Year of the Sheep and the Year of the Horse, and then told them a traditional version of how animals became associated with the calendar. She said that the 12 animals of the Zodiac were the animals that appeared before the Buddha, or the Jade Emperor depending on the version of the legend, after racing there in response to an invitation; the order of their arrival set the cycle of years in the calendar. Lin explained how each animal negotiated the journey according to its personality. For example, she said that the dragon was compassionate and generous, stopping along the way to help others—qualities that help explain why the dragon, a monster in some other cultures’ traditional stories, is such a favorable figure in China.

Lin then noted that the current year was the Year of the Rabbit, and led the students in drawing a rabbit holding a wish or lucky object. She suggested that the rabbits hold a vase, a symbol for peace because in Chinese the words for vase and peace are homonyms. She wished the students a lucky year, and then exchanged thanks and goodbyes in Mandarin. Students left eagerly showing each other and their teachers their drawings and their Grace Lin books, signed by the author.

Grace Lin’s visit generated great enthusiasm among her lower school fans.

24 Fall 2011/Winter 2012 • Friends magazine

Grace Lin spoke to groups of PK-6th grade students about creating books and how her own experiences and Chinese cultural traditions influence her work.

Fall 2011/Winter 2012 • Friends magazine

25

CLASS NOTES 1951

Over the summer, Jo (Joanne) Kuhn shared with us the impact Friends had on her professional life: “My education at Friends School was the start of my professional career, since in the opportunities for sports for girls, Friends School was way ahead of its time and provided me with the interest and excitement that led to a successful career in university athletics.” Jo retired from Texas Women’s University after more than 30 years as an athletic administrator (including Athletic Director), coach, and faculty member.

1956

Nancy Spargo Goodridge wrote that she had a great visit with Judy Blake Schmacher and her husband John at their home in Chatham, MA: “Turned out it was Judy’s birthday. She is well and really missed making the trip to Wilmington for the reunion…John said that they will be back for the 60th!”

Judy Blake Schmacher and Nancy Spargo Goodridge 1961

This past summer, Fred Freeman not only helped organize his class’s 50th Reunion, he also welcomed his and wife Rosalind’s first grandchild. Samuel James Anderson was born 7/13/2011 in Charlotte, NC.

affectionately called from 10th grade on, always brought smiles to our faces. In the words of a song popular when we attended Friends, ’To know, know, know her is to love, love love her …’”

Walter Smith (See 1966.)

1966

Carol and Ben Osbun relayed this reunion update: “Some members of the Class of 1966 shared a most enjoyable evening reminiscing around the dinner table. Classmates who joined us were Richard (and wife Barbara) Cooch, Roger (and wife Trish) Brown, and Peter Letang.”

On November 15 and 16, 2011, Andy Wyeth generously shared time with us at Friends for two days of class visits in upper and lower school. During a Lunch & Learn in the QUEST Center, he offered a visual quiz, using four illustrations by his grandfather, N.C. Wyeth. Earlier in the fall, Andy and his cousin Walter Smith ’62 presented an intimate view of their family’s background at the Washington County Museum of Fine Arts in Hagerstown, MD. Kate S. Alexander reported in The Herald Mail that, “The public got a rare glimpse into one of America’s prominent art families Sunday at the Washington County Museum of Fine Arts…Walter P. Smith and A.N. ‘Andy’ Wyeth talked about their artistic family, read from a book by patriarch Newell Convers ‘N.C.’ Wyeth and played footage from family films made in the 1920s, as well as an old family audio recording.”

1967

Fred ‘61 and Rosalind Freeman’s daughter Michelle Freeman Anderson and husband, Tom Anderson, with baby Samuel 1962

Rich Weigel sent us a note in remembrance of Vicky Poole Giveler (please see “In Memory” for more information): “Members of the Class of 1962 were shocked and saddened by the sudden death of Vicky Poole Givler on July 14, only two weeks after being diagnosed with leukemia. Vicky, or Wilma, as she was

26

Fall 2011/Winter 2012 • Friends magazine

Charles Booth’s first novel, Olive Park, was published in September.

A mystery thriller set in California, it received enthusiastic reviews on Amazon & Kindle (4.8 stars) and Nook (5 stars). Charles noted, “…part of the dedication to the book is to Ambrose Short, former Friends English teacher and tremendous influence on myself as well as many others in our generation.” Look for his second novel, Singer Not the Song, due out in early 2012.

Jay Resnick’s six-month detail with the Office of White House Counsel ended over the summer.

During his time in D.C., he investigated the backgrounds of the President’s nominees for appointed positions.

1968 The Story of the Hat continues…

Marilyn (Mitzi) Hess Olivere ’68 thought of Friends this summer when she and her husband traveled to Norway. In response to our request for stories and photos of our alumni in Friends gear, she kindly shared this great picture from her trip (along with the story below). As a thank you, we’ve sent Mitzi a 1748 baseball hat, and hope it will generate more stories soon.

Don’t forget: you too can participate in the Story of the Hat. Send us a photo of you in your Friends gear along with your story, and we’ll be happy to send you a 1748 baseball hat. Thanks, Mitzi!

From Mitzi…

“Many people from Phoenix, Arizona escape the 120 degrees in the summer by going to San Diego, but my husband Bob and I decided to go for a real change of scene: we took a cruise up the coast of Norway to within 600 miles of the North Pole. This photo is taken at Magdalena Bay. Everyone is bundled up except me. I used my Friends School spirit to keep me warm, albeit briefly. The shirt (and the taking of the photo) generated a lot of interest, so perhaps Friends School will get applications from across the sea.

“We were able to view a lot of wildlife, including a polar bear, which thankfully kept its distance.

Shortly after our trip, a group of English students was attacked by a polar bear in the same area. Sled dogs, reindeer, and sea birds were abundant. We saw so many whales we actually lost count.

“The night we left Magdalena Bay, we were awakened by loud thumps, so we joined our fellow passengers on deck. The ship was negotiating through an ice field! Fortunately (or unfortunately!) we were able to see everything clearly since we were in 24/7 hours of sunlight. The guest lecturer on the cruise helpfully reminded us that only the top 10% of the icebergs were visible. We were all glad we had participated in the lifeboat drill earlier in the cruise, especially at the next port of call when we were able to see the dents in the hull.

“Thrilling as it was to proudly wear my Friends School shirt, I was even more thrilled that Bob had arranged for us to renew our wedding vows above the Arctic Circle!”

Mitzi Hess Olivere ‘68 cruising the coast of Norway with Quaker pride

Class notes

1969

Jill Doane Pryor ’69 and Peter D. Isakoff ’69 were married on October 16, 2011. Witnesses for the couple included Peter’s father, Dr. Sheldon Isakoff, and Mindy Winslow Harris ’69. The Jill Doane Pryor ‘69 and couple’s four children, Peter D. Isakoff ‘69 at their Parker and Tyler wedding in October 2011 Johnson and Emma and Nick Isakoff, attended the ceremony, along with a small gathering of family and friends. A reception was held at the Bethesda Country Club in Maryland. Peter is a Senior Litigation Partner in the Washington, D.C. office of Weil, Gotshal & Manges LLP. Jill is a retired writer and former social worker. The couple resides in Potomac, MD.

1971

Barbara Ann Baganz Simpson sent us this summary after the 40th Reunion: “The WFS Class of 1971 (40th Reunion) had a wonderful weekend in October 2011, enjoying all the different events and reconnecting with many of our wonderful old friends. We dearly missed those who had other commitments for that scheduled weekend and could not attend our festivities. We missed you all BIG TIME! Unfortunately, an unusual snow event ‘fell’ upon us on Saturday. It certainly did not dampen the energy and spirit of being in the presence of old buddies (Friends). Personally, the time at Wilmington Friends School was such an important part of my life that when I returned to this incredible campus I felt such a peaceful and caring connection with others.

My thirteen years (kindergarten through twelfth grade for me) were so significant in my life that I could easily reconnect with many old classmates. I was back in my youth with old friends. There is an understanding and connection from my formative years that allows me to settle back into the comforting feeling that goes beyond whatever experiences I may have had since graduating from WFS. At the reunion on Saturday, I had the pleasure of connecting with numerous classmates including two old friends, Holly Strahan and Claudia Bourdet (our class AFS student from France), after the scheduled Meeting for Worship. We had a wonderful time reminiscing! We shared many memorable experiences as we walked around WFS campus. Certainly many rooms and alcoves had changed, but we could remember events about students and teachers. In the Meeting for Worship and our Saturday evening gathering, Raymond Osbun thankfully recognized and reminded us of the numerous (and far too many) classmates that have now passed away. I am certainly thankful for our many old Friends still here. I feel sadness that six friends and classmates (Anna Worth, Nancy Pieper, Steven Smith, Alan Brooks, John Fairchild, and Jeffrey Grossman) are no longer here with us. Their presence is greatly missed. I have many warm and wonderful memories about them.”

1974

Richard Kretz was among the first invited to exhibit his work along with two other acclaimed photographers, Bill Harris and Roddy Addington, at the new Charles Harris Library Gallery in Wise, VA. The exhibit ran from August 15-September 22.

1976

Class Agent Andy Atkins sent us this summary of the 1976 reunion: “We had record turnout for our 35th Reunion! Of the 33 returnees, Lisa Letang made the trip all the way from Seattle, John Kurth from San Antonio, Christina Papastavros Fay from New Orleans, and Chan Shellenberger from Maine. We started our festivities at Buckley’s that Friday night and had our dinner at Fieldstone Golf Club Saturday (highly recommend this club for any future reunions!). Quite a few empty nesters among the group as we caught up on what our children and even grandchildren were up to. Truly wonderful that Christina Veith came to our reunion! We all miss Chuck very much and we know that hearing how well their children are doing would make Chuck so proud. Special thanks to Lee Garrett, Class of ’77 and honorary Class of ’76 alum, for hosting the after-party that went on into the wee hours of the morning.

All in all, it was a truly amazing weekend.

Wish we could do this every year!”

1981

Ned Bancroft and his son Nick recently traveled to Mali to build a school in the village of Bafaga. Ned wrote, “My company, Aladdin Capital Mgt LLC, sponsored the school and we built it thru an NGO called BuildOn, which has constructed 170 schools in Mali. Part of the covenant with the village was that 50% of students would be girls - a big deal in heavily Muslim Mali. It was an amazing experience and I was grateful to share it with my son. His growing up in Greenwich, CT is very similar to the way I grew up in Wilmington, and I thought it would be important for him to see another part of the world­—I was very proud of the way he handled all the hardships and used his French skills to make contacts with all the villagers.

The school [was due to be completed] in August 2011 and its three classrooms will accommodate 125 students.”

Ned Bancroft and his son Nick volunteered to build a school in Mali.

1983

In November 2011, political watchdog Melanie Sloan presented “Scandalous Politicians” as part of the University of Delaware’s National Agenda speaker series.

1985

Andy Seehusen headed to Bejiing in August 2011 to teach. He will be coordinating his school’s IB program and teaching IB Economics.

1986

John Curran is Professor and Director of Graduate Studies of English at Marquette University. His wife, Carolyn Massie Curran, and two children, Ella (13) and Cal (10) welcomed his mother, Barbara, recently, when she moved to Milwaukee to be near them, after his father John Sr., passed away in September 2010. And—much influenced

by Coach T—John assistant coaches on Cal’s football team (offensive line).

Tom Raiber reflected on his experience at Friends: “My sense of loyalty is what I am most proud of having gained from my time at WFS. The school was very good, having stuck by me during those turbulent teenage years and I feel, as a result, I have been able to share similar qualities with others: a kind of ‘pay it forward’…I graduated from the University of Delaware with a degree in History and then finished a two-year program at Delaware Tech with a degree in HVAC Engineering Design in 1993. After working for several years outside my field, I started my career with Seiberlich Trane and began a five-year apprenticeship program to become a Journeyman HVAC mechanic. At this time, I am working for ID Griffith at the Delaware City Refinery as a member of Local 74. I just celebrated 10 years in the local. My home is in Hockessin, where I reside with my girlfriend of four years (Lisa Leana), seven cats, and three dogs (one is a foster).”

1987

Greg Mand sent this happy message in November 2011: “With amazing joy and incredible love, on November 15, 2011 at 6:07 pm PST Rebecca Hankin and I welcomed into the world our daughter Alana Bloom Mand.

She has already stolen our hearts and we are Greg Mand and his wife Rebecca welcomed Alana grateful to so many Bloom Mand in November of our friends and 2011. family for all of your love and support.

Both Mom and Alana are doing great.”

Elizabeth McClemens Reifke visited the Wilmington area in July and early August.

Elizabeth has been putting her language and computer skills to use as a translator/writer/ consultant in Germany since her marriage to Fall 2011/Winter 2012 • Friends magazine

27

Class notes

Elizabeth McClemens Riefke’s boys Justus and Jonas enjoyed an American summer trip to Bethany Beach while visiting from Germany.

Sebastian Riefke. Their sons Justus and Jonas were enrolled in WFS summer camp this past summer, in part to boost English language skills. Elizabeth wrote of their experience: “My boys loved the camp and we intend to send them again next summer for two weeks.

Jonas could really perfect his English by spending lots of time with American kids, and of course this makes me very happy!”

Muffy Hardy 1993 Timberlake shared this update: “I am living in Columbia, MD with my husband of 10 years and our 18-month old daughter Pem. We started our own business, The ASBC, seven years ago. It is a national membership organization for government Pigeon Pollard Graham contractors to assist brought twin daughters with networking, teaming and education Georgia and Weiler to a field hockey game this fall to (www.theasbc.org).”

cheer on the Quakers.

1994

Molly Mahoney Reese caught up with Amy Curran Harper and Rick Harper ’91 at the home field hockey game vs. Tower Hill (which WFS won!) this fall. Both alumnae are expecting babies this winter.

Brian Mand’s most recent book The Legacy Letters—a collection of letters from relatives of victims—was published to commemorate the 10th anniversary of 9/11/01. The collection was highlighted in the News Journal

by Gary Soulsman who wrote, “As time went on, [Brian] still felt personally removed while wondering about the families of the almost 3,000 people who died in New York, Washington, and Shanksville, Pa…So with the help of Tuesday’s Children, which will receive proceeds from the book, he asked the families of victims what they would write to their loved one if they could express their hopes and what had happened in their lives.”

Rick and Amy Curran Harper with Molly Mahoney Reese and members of the next generation 1996

Nicole Stevenson Black and Trip Black (Tower Hill ’95) welcomed their second son, Griffin Alexander, on May 25, 2011. Griffin shares his birthday with his fabulous aunt, Rebecca Stevenson ’03. Nicole wrote: “Griffin made a super speedy entrance at his planned home water birth, intense but AWESOME! Big brother Tucker cannot wait for his not so little (9lbs 2oz, 21.5in at birth) brother to get mobile for proper roughhousing. ‘Gentle love’ is heard often in our house these days!”

1991

Rick Harper (See 1994.)

Matt Terrell wrote after the class reunion: “It is remarkable to me that despite the impressive careers of our classmates ranging from teachers, entrepreneurs, doctors, designers, social workers, scientists, artists, attorneys, and architects; the only boasting was how proud alumni felt introducing their spouses/partners and sharing pictures of their children. The values and principles of the WFS experience are well represented by our class of 1991.”

Nicole Stevenson Black ’96 and sons Tucker and baby Griffin with Aunt Rebecca Stevenson ’03 (holding Griffin) Kristen Facciolo Welch (See 1998.)

28

Fall 2011/Winter 2012 • Friends magazine

Drew Dalton had a busy few months in late spring 2011: he and wife Dahvia welcomed their son Beckett James Dalton, born April 3, and Drew graduated from Villanova Law School in May. In September, Friends was honored to have Beckett James Dalton, born Bob Pfeiffer read to Dahvia and Drew Dalton from his book of on April 3, 2011. poetry, Bend, Break, as part of the Lunch & Learn series in the QUEST Center. We were lucky not only to hear him share his poetry with us, but also that he managed to squeeze in his trip before he became a first-time dad. Baby daughter Layla Belle Pfeiffer was born in October.

Conor Welch (See 1998.)

1998

Former White House special assistant to the President, Louisa Terrell, was hired in September by Facebook as the new Director of Public Policy. In a press release about Louisa’s hire and that of a new Director of Privacy, Facebook stated: “It’s imperative that we scale our policy team so that we have the resources in place to demonstrate to policymakers that we are industry leaders in privacy, data security, and safety.”

1990

1997

Erin Lynne Facciolo and Brandon Wehler were married on October 10, 2010 (we’re catching up) at the John J. Audubon Center in Audubon, PA. WFS alumni and former faculty/staff in attendance were mother of the bride Cynthia Facciolo, Nancy Richards, Kristen Chandler Fedrick ’98, Kyle Zechman McKean ’98, Conor Welch ’97, and matron of honor Kristen Facciolo Welch ’96. The couple enjoyed a two-week honeymoon in Central and Southern Italy where they traveled by car to sightsee and visit family. Erin is in her 10th year teaching in a Montessori School and serving the as the school’s Director of Education. Together, with Erin’s stepson “Little b,” the couple lives by the Patuxent River in Great Mills, MD. And they welcomed baby girl, Ginger Lotus, on September 7, 2011. They are anticipating a move back to the Wilmington area in the next year or so.

(See photos on page 29.)

1999

Jennifer Flayhart Keller is working with Malaria No More as a Program Associate in Chad, Central Africa, and shared some of her experience with us: “I am working on Public Service Announcements and messaging focused on Malaria awareness. I was able to see Bill Gates briefly last month, in Chad, when he came to advocate for an increase in Polio vaccination campaigns. Last year, Chad had the most cases of Polio in the world. Next week, I am going to NYC for Malaria No More’s yearly retreat and benefit.

At the benefit, Sunday night, Laura Bush will be honored for her work with Malaria No More… Things are very exciting right now and working for Malaria No More is amazing.”

Class notes

Erin Lynne Facciolo ‘98 and Brandon Wehler at their wedding in October 2010, with strong representation of the Wilmington Friends community Erin, Brandon, stepson “Little b,” and baby Ginger on a hike

2001

Jaclyn Mraz graduated from the University of San Diego Law School in May. She has moved to Denver and was planning to take the Colorado Bar Exam.

of natural surfaces such as the sound and feel of footsteps on snow.” Coincidentally, another Friends connection exists with Alibaba— James Hopkins ’05 works for the company in China.

The Mraz family celebrated Jacklyn’s graduation from law school: Kate ‘16, Dorothy Connolly Mraz ‘74, Jaclyn ‘01, Fred Mraz, Lauren ‘02, and Kristen ‘05.

Sarah Titone shared that she is enjoying her job in Solano Beach, CA: “I’m currently working for a private performance studio in Carslbad as a fitness coach. The studio is called Ezia Human Performance, and we work with everyone from professional athletes to the everyday novices who love to work hard and train like the pros.”

Faye Paul married Arthur Lipovetsky on August 6, 2011 in Chicago, and wrote to us in September: “After the wedding we went to Los Angeles for about six weeks to help out a friend who was making a movie there. Most recently we were in Hawaii for our official honeymoon. Now we’re back in Chicago and getting ready to go back to work. I graduated in June from law school and took the Illinois bar in Chicago, and on Monday I’ll start working in the litigation group for a Chicago law firm called Barack, Ferrazzano, Kirschbaum & Nagelberg…In 2013 I’ll be returning to Delaware for a year to clerk with Judge Thomas Ambro on the Third Circuit Court of Appeals (the year prior I will be clerking for a district judge here in Chicago, Judge Edmond Chang).” (See photo next page.)

Rebecca Stevenson (See 1996.)

2004

Matthew Ross Johnson was accepted to the London School of Economics, working toward a Master’s in Business, Finance, and Economics. His plan is to continue to work toward a Ph.D. in international economics. He studied Central American Economics in Costa Rica during the spring 2011, with a complete immersion in Spanish.

2002

Mindy Kittle and Bryan Keane were married on May 29, 2011 in Columbus, OH. Members of the wedding party included Jenny Kittle Trainor ’02, Jon Kittle ’04, and Lauren Mraz ’02 (and, of course, longtime WFS teacher and proud dad Dick Kittle). Mindy and Bryan met while playing lacrosse at Ohio State. They live in Columbus; Mindy is a CPA with Nationwide.

Mathew Levin is a second year Ph.D. student in Applied Economics at Northeastern University in Boston. When we heard from him, he was doing an internship with Matthew Johnson’s mom, and former Friends trustee Sandy Ross Johnson, Executive Director of the Camden Redevelopment Agency in New Jersey. Matthew Levin was researching the revenue generation of solar panel fields as a potential source of income for Camden.

In June, Lauren Mraz ’02 received her Master’s in Business Administration from the University of California, Irvine. She is working for a medical device company in Irvine. (Also see photo, 2001.)

In June, PC Magazine reported on the top inventions nominated by internet dynamo Alibaba: “Alibaba.com has inaugurated a new way to highlight unique patent trends around the world called the Quarterly Inventors Index, which will spotlight ten inventions among the tens of thousands that receive patents each quarter.” This “celebration of innovation” listed Daniel Joseph’s invention of “Walk Like an Eskimo” as one of their top 10 winners. “Walk Like an Eskimo” is described as “A flooring system that simulates features

2003

Mindy Kittle ’02 was married on May 29, 2011 to Bryan Keane.

Elyse Sahadevan wrote to us: “I have recently moved back to the Wilmington area and will be teaching art at Highlands Elementary starting this fall [2011]. I was working at the DCCA this summer in their summer arts program and was excited when I found out I had five different students who went to Friends. Of course after finding that out I had to ask them who their teachers were! I was informed that they had Teal [Rickerman]

Fall 2011/Winter 2012 • Friends magazine

29

Class notes

students an unexpected window on what it was like to live—and to sing—in a concentration camp.”

2008

Amy Tryon shared her deep connection with her college and New Orleans: “As far as Tulane goes, I love it! I am majoring in Sociology, with minors in Psychology and Business. New Orleans has definitely become my home away from home, and I missed it terribly while studying abroad last semester in London.

The city has so much to offer from culture to service to fantastic Many Friends alumni were in attendance at Fay Paul’s ’03 wedding last food and music. I have really August to Arthur Lipovetsky. Shown left to right: Dillon Paul ’00, Daniel LoFaro ’02, Jessica Cowperthwait ’03, Mary Ting ’03, Caeli Rubens ’03, Colleen appreciated the opportunity to learn from the unique culture of Schell ’03, Josephine Kurtz ’03, Jacqueline Mellow ’03, and Nihad Heto ’01 the city as well as experience firsthand its efforts toward rebuilding. I could go for art and that they were dying to have Mr. on and on about how much I love it.”

[Brian] Fahey for fifth grade. I think I blew their minds when I told them they were both my teachers too when I was at the lower 2009 school!”

Billy Broderick visited China for about three weeks last year, working at an IT company and also spending a fair amount of time as 2005 a tourist. He wrote: “If everything goes as James Hopkins (See 2002.) planned, I should be back in Beijing next summer for two months to continue studying Kristen Mraz ’05 lives in San Francisco and Chinese, which I’m very excited about.” works for Google. (Also see photo, 2001.)

2007

Congratulations to Kelsey Burston who served, to great acclaim, as Stage Director for this year’s upper school fall musical, a wonderfully entertaining production of Annie—with a really big cast to manage, too; thanks, Kelsey. (See “In Closing” for a few photos from the show.)

Jane Monari graduated from the Juilliard School at Lincoln Center on May 20, 2011. She was one of only Jane Monari is headed to four graduates to be graduate school in vocal awarded Scholastic performance at the Royal Distinction, an Academy of Music in honors program for London. exceptional performers, for her work on Olivier Messiaen’s “Harawi.” Jane was a Morse Fellow and a recipient of the Dora L. Foster Scholarship, the P.J. Hoyland Memorial Scholarship, and the Juilliard Alumni Scholarship. She will be attending graduate school for vocal performance at the Royal Academy of Music in London.

A recent Beloit College magazine highlighted Laura Rocek (Beloit ’11) and her grandparents in a piece called “Songs of Survival.”

Katherine Leveling wrote, “Jan and Eva Rocek, through the connection of their granddaughter, Laura Rocek, offered Beloit

30

Fall 2011/Winter 2012 • Friends magazine

2011

Gettysburg is going well for Mira Bragg who shared some insights with us: “The classes are difficult, but the people are friendly, and track and field just started preseason which is uplifting….college is a time to grow into an adult and make good decisions since it will impact the future. Within the first week, I was given a quote that’s helped me a lot so far:

Class of 2011 Parent Social Parents of the Class of 2011 held their own reunion in late September, a social hosted

by Lois and Brian Galinat.

More than 40 parents of last year’s graduates attended the event.

‘Doing your best at this moment puts you in the best place for the next moment’ (Oprah Winfrey).”

Brett Fallon let us know he was working hard at the University of Delaware, and that Wesley Carr is his roommate.

Sabrina Lessner wrote to us from Washington University in St. Louis: “I am having a great time at Wash U. The campus is beautiful, the food is delicious, and all the people I’ve met are extremely friendly. I’ve gotten involved in many clubs: the pops orchestra, pep band, swing dance, Challah for Hunger (we make challah on Thursday nights and sell it in the student center the next day, and the profits go to charity), Freecycle/The Trading Post (which is like the free version of eBay, but within Wash U), and Stressbusters (a student group that gives free back rubs to people at different events throughout the year).”

Samantha Perillo totaled a school volleyball record 46 digs for Stevenson University in October.

Katrina Sotiropoulos reported from her first semester in college: “I’m loving Syracuse, especially since it’s snowed everywhere BUT here.” (Not for long.)

Chad Wood is studying political science at the University of Delaware and was planning to try out for the club baseball team.

We learned via Director of College Guidance Kathleen Martin that Josh Zimmerman was offered a highly competitive internship at Yelp, Inc., a company led by several stars in the Internet world. Its social networking, user review, and local search web site, yelp.com, has more than 50 million monthly unique visitors.

Left: Tim Caspar and Cheryl and Dennis Hodge Below, left: Andrea Rocanelli and Lois Galinat Below: Brian Galinat and Richard Leff

IN MEMORY 1938

Otto Miller, a resident of Tuscon, AZ, passed away on June 26, 2011 at age 93. Mr. Miller was formerly of Wilmington, DE, where he was a registered architect. He was preceded in death by his beloved wife, Rita, and is survived by his brother-in-law, Eugene Coulbourn; a niece and two nephews.

1939

Mary Lou Shoemaker Turner Lind died September 14, 2011 at age 89. Mary Lou was born in Kennett Square, PA, and lived most of her life in Lake Oswego, OR. Her many interests included international student exchange programs, puppetry, acupuncture, and tennis.

Mary Lou loved people and music. She is survived by her children Nancy, Jill, Jane and Steve, their children; and her brother Charles “Chuck” Shoemaker ‘41 and his wife, Joann Brosius Shoemaker ‘44. Mary Lou was considered a mom to others as well; she had many, many friends locally and around the world.

She was preceded in death by her husbands, Bill Turner and George Lind.

1940

Alexander Tait, an original and longtime resident of Fairfax in North Wilmington, died on August 8, 2011 at age 88. Alex received his Bachelor’s Degree and Law Degree from the University of Virginia. He proudly served in the United States Navy during World War II, commanding a mine sweeper and crash boat. Based in NYC, Alex’s responsibilities were patrolling the East Coast searching for enemy mines; he also saw action in the Phillipines, serving under Admiral Halsey. Alex then worked in banking and in his wife’s family’s business, Delkote. His main career was at Wilmington Trust as the Branch Manager at the Greenville and Concord Pike branches, retiring as a Vice-President in 1988. After his retirement, he and his wife, Mary, enjoyed traveling, especially cruises and trips to Europe. True to his Scottish heritage, Alex was an excellent golfer. Alex’s longtime sweetheart and wife of 62 years, Mary Small Tait, died in 2009. He was also predeceased by his sister, Carolyn Tait Kingston ‘39. Alex attended his 60th WFS class reunion in 2010 and was featured on the cover of Friends magazine that fall.

1942

Gertrude Moore Dathe passed away on July 30, 2011, three days short of her 88th birthday. Trudy is survived by her sister Esther Moore Power ‘42.

1942

Molly Finn White passed away on July 20, 2011 in La Jolla, CA, at age 86. Molly attended Hollis College, then returned to teach art classes at Friends from 1946-1948 before attending graduate school. She later taught at the University of Maryland and the Navajo Community College in New Mexico. Molly was recently remembered in Friends magazine

by Claire Showell Murray ’50, as one of her

favorite Friends School teachers. Claire went on to pursue art as a career. Molly is survived by a son, two daughters, and several grandchildren. She was predeceased by her brother, William Howell Finn ’41 and her sister, Lucy Finn McNeal ’47.

1943

Joan Larson Elliott of Front Royal, VA, died on November 3, 2011 at age 85. Mrs. Elliott attended George School and received a bachelor’s degree from Radcliff College. She was a long-time employee of the Royal Oak Bookshop in Front Royal as a researcher and buyer of second-hand books. For many years she enjoyed volunteering for Samuel’s Library. She was an avid reader and pursued a wide range of interests through books and magazines, including mysteries, politics, foreign affairs, archeology, science, and nature. Mrs. Elliott was an American Kennel Club judge and dog breeder. She bred and showed Dalmatians, Irish Terriers, and Bouvier des Flandres. She had a lifelong love of animals and took in every stray cat and dog that had the good fortune of wandering into her yard. Mrs. Elliott is survived by her beloved foster daughter and constant companion for many years, Susan MacIntyre; her loving niece, Joan Becker; and her children, Geoffrey, Michael, Eric and Leslie Doane; and six grandchildren. She was preceded in death by her son, Stephen Doane, and her sister, Elizabeth Larson Becker ’42.

1944

Henriette Esther Miller Wright, of Wilmington, passed away Saturday July 23, 2011 at age 84. Henri graduated from the University of Delaware with a B.S. in Home Economics, then taught at Bayard Junior High School. She was the Alumnae Secretary at the University of Delaware for three years, and the Assistant Executive Secretary of the Engineering Department Employees’ Activities Association of the DuPont Company for almost ten years. She married Robert M. Wright Jr. and had two daughters. Henri was an active member of Concordia Lutheran Church and was involved in her children’s schools, Timberlane Pool, and the DuPont Country Club Associate Women’s 18-hole Golf Group serving as chair, treasurer, Cup Team Chair twice, and lead volunteer at the McDonald’s LPGA Championships. She organized the first Human Resources Alumni Association House tour and chaired the Wilmington Flower Market Clothes Horse Committee. Henri served on the Alumni Board and was her class representative for both Wilmington Friends School and the University of Delaware, and served on the Friends School Board of Trustees. Throughout her life, Henri was privileged to be a worker in God’s Vineyard and was blessed with a sense of humor. Henri was predeceased by her husband, Robert Wright and is survived by her two daughters, Adeline Alice Wright and Alyce Anne Wright ’83.

1947

Henry Neal “Hank” Marsh died Sunday, September 11, 2011 at Kendal at Granville, OH at age 82. Hank graduated from Massachusetts Institute of Technology with an undergraduate degree in Chemical Engineering and a Master’s degree in Chemical Engineering Practice. A 28-year employee of Owens Corning Technical Center, he worked in the areas of insulation, chemical operations, plastics and concrete. Hank was a member of the American Institute of Chemical Engineers and the American Concrete Institute, developing methods of concrete reinforcement. He worked with the American Society of Mechanical Engineers in the development of plastic vessels for chemical service and safety. During the Korean War, Hank served in the Ordinance Division of the U.S. Army at Frankfort Arsenal in Philadelphia. Hank was a 55-year resident of Granville, OH where he was a member of First Presbyterian Church, the Granville Rotary Club, the Licking Land Trust, and Director of the Granville Township Sanitary District since 1971, known by so many as “The Mosquito Man” of Granville.

Hank was a longtime member of the Spring Valley Tennis Club and a founding member of the Spring Valley Platform Tennis Club. Hank enjoyed watching sports, and playing tennis, golf, and bridge. He was a passionate and excellent woodworker, always at the ready with just the right tool or device to prevent or fix any predicament. He took special joy in the fact he had “lived in the country” all his life.

He was a very intelligent man who enjoyed reading, learning, and sharing his knowledge as well as his fondness for irony with others.

Hank is preceded in death by his loving wife of 19 years, Barbara Bostian Marsh, wife Mary Jane Marsh, and stepson Russell Bostian. Surviving are his four daughters, Kennan, Sarah, Mary and Emily; stepchildren, Holly, Bradley, Mary and Carey; 18 grandchildren; seven great-grandchildren; two sisters, Eleanor Marsh Hillers ’50 and Jane Marsh Dieckmann ’51; and the mother of his children, Carolyn Lindsay.

1950

Caroline Penniman Wohlforth, a community leader for more than 45 years, died at home in Anchorage, AK, on April 18, 2011 at age 78. Wohlforth received her Bachelor’s degree in English from Smith College and a Master’s degree from New York University.

She married Eric Wohlforth in 1957 and moved with their two sons from New York City to Anchorage in 1966. Wohlforth was a pioneer of alternative education in Anchorage, a founder of schools and community organizations, and a leader in her church for decades. She served on the Anchorage School Board from 1975 to 1979, two of those years as president. In recent months, she had been honored as a YWCA Woman of Achievement, had been inducted in the Alaska Women’s Hall of Fame, and was the first recipient, with Marilyn Conaway, of the Annual WohlforthConaway Vision of Education Award, given

by Steller Secondary School, which she was instrumental in founding. Wohlforth was the Fall 2011/Winter 2012 • Friends magazine

31

IN MEMORY

daughter of a noted Episcopal theologian, the Rev. Dr. Charles F. Penniman. Caroline remained deeply involved in the Episcopal church throughout her life, including serving as a board member, writer and editor for the Educational Center, of Charlotte, NC, and St. Louis, MO, which continues to carry on her father’s teachings. Friends recalled Wohlforth’s warm and inclusive personality, and her humility, as key to her ability to solve problems in groups. Former Gov. Tony Knowles recently credited Wohlforth with ending strife between the municipality and the school district in the 1970’s with her skill of calmly bringing people together. Wohlforth leaves her husband, Eric; two sons Evans and Charles; six grandchildren; and her brother, Reverend Charles F. Penniman, Jr. ’46 of Philadelphia.

1952

Gerhart Brunar’s wife, Hedwig, wrote from Wien, Austria to let the Class of ’52 know of Gerhart’s death on November 25, 2009. Bill Quillen ’52, whose family hosted Gerhart as an AFS student at Friends, shared some memories. “Gerhart lived with the Quillen family during our 11th grade year. It was a different time (1951-52) for comparing Europe with the United States. The effects of World War II, the Marshall Plan, the Cold War, aid to Greece and Turkey, the Korean War, the return home of IKE were all very much on the front burner. The United States experienced unparalleled prosperity. For the Quillen family, even with the horrors of Korea, Fords were selling again, and I recall positive post-World War II changes in our dinner menu. It was to this exciting environment that Gerhart, a refugee from both Nazi and Soviet occupations, came; he really knew the effects of war.

Without trying, he taught me just how trivial the homefront inconveniences we had suffered during the War were. Gerhart embraced and influenced his host society in many ways. He almost alone started soccer at Friends; Bill Lynam recently said ‘Gerhart was the team, the rest of us (Walt, Tom, Barry, Ira, Larry and Bill) just filled the other positions.’ Gerhart learned to drive and got his license in Delaware. He dated in the manner of American youth of the 1950’s; he was a presence at the Junior Prom and he did well at schoolwork.

He even did some kicking in football games.

He just seemed to breathe in America and lived a very American life. I saw him just once after 1952, in New York, for dinner, with Marcia [Stirling Quillen ’56], sometime in the 1960’s, and he seemed well and happy. I think we’re lucky in one respect, for us Gerhart will always be young. Our very best to his wife Hedwig and her family.”

1955

Thomas Spackman of West Chester, PA, died at home on September 20, 2011 at age 74. He graduated from the University of Delaware College of Agriculture and Natural Resources, where he developed a keen appreciation of the land and an interest in preserving open space. Thomas was intensely interested in local history and enjoyed showing visitors

32

Fall 2011/Winter 2012 • Friends magazine

Brandywine Battlefield sites on Thornbury Farm, the family farm where he grew up and which he worked hard to preserve. He served as a supervisor in Thornbury Township and was active in township government for many years, acting as magistrate and as police commissioner. Thomas was a realtor and founder of Spackman Associates, Ltd. He was an active member of the Church of the Loving Shepherd and numerous civic and charitable organizations, serving for many years as a Republican Committeeman and holding membership in The West Chester Rotary Club, Chamber of Commerce and West Chester Lodge #322 F. & A.M., County, State and National Associations of Realtors, Chester County Historical Society and Chester County Art Alliance. He served on the Board of the Chester County S.P.C.A., and was a founding member of Planned Parenthood—West Chester. Thomas joined the Army in 1963 and later served in the Reserves. He is survived by his two children, Randell Herbert Spackman and Dr. Erica Spackman; and four granddaughters. He is also survived by a sister, Kathryn Spackman Andersen, and was predeceased by a sister, Amanda Spackman Gehret ’51. Also surviving are former spouses, Susan Spackman and Sandra Betner, and numerous nieces and nephews, including Meg Gehret Erskine ’83, Ann Gehret McKinney ’83, Kathryn Gehret Walsh ’75, and Jake Gehret ’77 and their families.

1958

Lawrence Pennington ’58 of Holicong, PA, passed away on July 19, 2011 at age 71.

Larry attended Vanderbilt University and graduated from Rider College. After leaving Vanderbilt, he enlisted in the Army in the Intelligence Corps. In the early to mid 1960’s, he was stationed in Korea and then Vietnam for a year each. In the latter, he earned a Bronze Star. After discharge, he worked with the FBI in the criminal investigation division.

A career change put him in the field of maintenance. He was manager of that department for a facility for Developmentally Handicapped Adults. He also loved his part time job working in a hardware store and interacting with all the customers. He lived all of his adult life in Bucks County, PA. He is survived by sons Michael Pennington and Christopher Pennington; sister Mary Ann Pennington Verneuil ’60; brother Martin Pennington ’67; and numerous nieces and nephews.

1962

Victoria Lee Poole Givler, died July 14, 2011.

Vicky was raised in Wilmington and lived for 15 years in Northampton, MA, before moving to Albuquerque, NM, in 1989. Vicky was a graduate of San Jose State College with a Bachelor’s Degree in Occupational Therapy, which was her profession for 45 years. Vicky was a co-founder of the GivMohr Sling Corporation, which manufactures a unique arm sling for stroke victims. She is survived by her husband of 45 years, Tom Givler; her children, Katherine, John, Michael, and Robert; six grandchildren; a sister, Patricia Poole Benzien ’59; and many other family and friends.

1975

Thomas Smith III, of Wilmington, died suddenly in Las Vegas, NV, on September 20, 2011 at age 54. Tom graduated from Gettysburg College. He was employed at Harry’s Savoy Grill. He was an avid bowler and a member of The Delaware Bowling Hall of Fame. Tom is survived by his partner, Debbie Heath, and her children Michael and Nicole; daughter Aimie Schneider; granddaughter Teagan Marie Schneider; sister Deborah Smith Flayhart ’70; nephew Thomas Flayhart and nieces Catherine Collins and Jennifer Flayhart Keller ’99. Tom’s grandfather and his grandfather’s siblings, Frank Bechtel, Class of 1913, Dorothea Bechtel Marshall, Class of 1910 and John Bechtel, Class of 1916, were also Friends alumni.

1979

Thomas A. Lee, age 50, of Wilmington, died November 1, 2011. Tommy earned his B.A. from Widener University. He had a distinguished sales career at DuPont-Merck Pharmaceuticals, Brooks Armored Car, and A.T. Systems, Inc. He was an avid fan of the Grateful Dead and NASCAR. Tommy was preceded in death by his mother Joanne Lee. He is survived by his sons Ryan and Brandon; sister Cindi Lee Johnson; brothers Chris Lee ’82 (WFS Trustee) and his wife Betsy, and Bill and his wife Kendra; his girlfriend Annie Tavoni; his father C. William Lee and his wife Linda; and nieces and nephews, Molly Johnson, Delaney Lee ’14, Christopher Lee ’17, Bill Ryan, Michael Lee and Jeffrey Lee.

1994

Kimberly Ann Cresswell (formerly Goodman) of Greenville, DE, passed away suddenly on October 26, 2011 at age 35. Kim is survived by her beloved mother, Barbara Cresswell and her beloved brother, Chip Cresswell. Kim was a graduate of the University of Delaware and Villanova University School of Law. Kim’s smile lit up every room she entered. Her kindness and loving ways touched everyone she ever met. She will be missed dearly by her family and friends. Kim is also survived by her father, Dr. Ronald Goodman, and her sister, Kristen Goodman Dopf.

IN CLOSING

2011 Upper School Fall Musical, Annie, directed by Kelsey Burston ‘07; Margaret Anne Butterfield, Musical Director Fall 2011/Winter 2012 • Friends magazine

Non-Profit Org.

101 School Road Wilmington, DE 19803 www.wilmingtonfriends.org

U.S. Postage PAID Permit No. 1249 Wilmington, DE

ADDRESS SERVICE REQUESTED

2012 Events March 1 Seattle Regional Reunion May 11 Grandparents and Special Friends Day at Lower School June 2 Second Annual Alumni Lacrosse Game and Picnic June 11 Commencement Mary Clark Keyser ’36, marking the 75th reunion year for her class, with with Alumni Board member/ Friends parent Tom Scott ‘70 and Head of School Bryan Garman Fall 2011/Winter 2012 • Friends magazine