WFS Summer 2011 Magazine by Wilmington Friends School

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Summer 2011

Commencement & The Class of 2011 A Century of Service Richard Bernard Rick Grier-Reynolds Terry Maguire

Malone Foundation Gift to Financial Aid Endowment

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Wilmington Friends School Summer 2011

Mission Statement Wilmington Friends, a Quaker school with high standards for academic achievement, challenges students to seek truth, to value justice and peace, and to act as creative, independent thinkers with a conscious responsibility to the good of all. On the front cover, graduates Gabbi Harris and John Fairchild; and this page, graduate Hannah Epstein Professional photography by Billy Michels ’89, Elisa Komins Morris, and Bill Lindsey Design/layout by Jacquelyn Quinn Dickey With thanks to the alumni, students, faculty, families, trustees, and staff of Wilmington Friends School for their contributions to the community effort of Friends magazine. Please send any comments or corrections to info@wilmingtonfriends.org.

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From the Head of School

For Alumni & Friends

Homecoming 2011

Transitions: Annual Fund & The Board

“T Fund” Update & Thanks

The “Tough Mudder” & 1748 Hats

Commencement & The Class of 2011

A Century of Service: Richard Bernard Rick Grier-Reynolds Terry Maguire

2011 Auction for Friends

The Malone Foundation Gift & Endowment

Spring Highlights

Class Notes & Faculty News Includes Interview with Annette Hearing, New Head of Lower School

In Memory

In Closing: Encore

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BOARD OF TRUSTEES Chair Vice Chair Treasurer Secretary Andrew Aerenson ’81 Christopher F. Buccini ’90 Denise Chapman Thomas M. Connelly Curtis Clapham Doneene Damon Meg Gehret Erskine ’83 Brett D. Fallon Reginald D. Flowers ’90

David W. Singleton Susan Kelley Daniel Klein Russ Endo Ellen L. Gay Scott W. Gates ’80 J. Harry Hammond Deborah Murray-Sheppard Darcy Rademaker Laura K. Reilly Jocelyn Sutton Stewart ’82 Harvey Zendt

Alumni Association Board Liaison

Christopher W. Lee ’82

Home & School Association Board Liaison

Jane Hollingsworth

ADMINISTRATION Head of School Associate Head of School, Head of Middle School Assistant to the Head of School Assistant Head for Academics Assistant Head for Finance & Operations Head of Lower School Head of Upper School Director of Admissions And Financial Aid Director of Communications Director of Development ALUMNI BOARD 2010-2011 Kristin Dugan ’03, President Don Altmaier ’51 Andy Atkins ’76 Melissa Fagan Billitto ’87 Nicole Caddell ’03 Carolyn Gates Connors ’81 Kim Massih Dolan ’89 Meg Gehret Erskine ’83 Tim Gibbs ’76

Bryan Garman William Neff Marilyn Maguire Peter Wenigmann William Baczkowski Annette Hearing Rebecca Zug Kathleen Hopkins Tracey Quillen Carney ’80 Judy Aliquo Raven Harris ’06 Scott Jarrell ’95 Josh Klein ’98 Chris Lee ’82 Sarah Lester ’04 Carol Bancroft Morley ’68 Donnie Morton ’94 Richie Rockwell ’02 Tom Scott ’70 Amanda Corby Soto ’00

FROM THE HEAD OF SCHOOL Dear Friends, With the end of the 2010-2011 academic year, we have been reminded with particular poignancy of the deeper meanings of excellence in education. That reminder has been perhaps most evident in the retirement of three legendary teachers—Richard Bernard, Rick GrierReynolds, and Terry Maguire—who have served Friends School for a combined 99 years. At a time when fashion in education has threatened to reduce the measure of excellence to scores on standardized tests, Richard, Terry, and Rick provide an inspiration, as moral and academic leaders who have lived the role of teacher in its broadest sense. Great teachers teach students, much more than subjects; and they convey passion for lifelong learning. Great teachers know that the best learning takes place in community, and they immerse themselves in the life of their school. They understand the importance of relationships, and their deep sense of humanity is at the core of their pedagogy. Great teachers reflect on their craft and demonstrate an ability to change. That ability gives them longevity; but so, too, does their humility. At its deepest level, teaching is about fostering independence, about opening a space for students to ask questions, about a willingness to allow them to teach you. These traits are not discussed in many books about education, but together, Terry, Rick, and Richard could write chapters. And indeed, with their teaching colleagues at Friends, they have written chapters, expressed in the lives of generations of students, so well represented by our commencement speaker Brian Curtis Mand ’90, and in the achievements and promise of our most recent graduates, the Class of 2011. If I had to name a defining characteristic of this class, I would say it is their love for what they do and their joy in doing it together— in academics and global learning, in service, in the arts, and in athletics. They have been inspired to work and play with passion, to value partnerships and what is good for the community as a whole. Like so many Friends alumni before them, their lives are, and will be, an expression of excellence in education (and of the best kind of partnership between families and schools). In measuring excellence, there are certainly many occasions when internal satisfaction should, and must, be enough. But it is nice, from time to time, when someone else recognizes it, too. This spring, our faculty received an extraordinary validation of their exceptional work, when Friends School was selected to receive $2 million in endowment funding for financial aid from the Malone Family Foundation. Friends is the first and only Delaware school chosen for the Malone scholarships, a recognition of the very best kind—one that allows us to do more, that expands our capacity to give students an opportunity to work with teachers—like Rick, Terry, and Richard—whose lives speak to the most meaningful measures of excellence. Thank you to the entire Friends community, with best wishes for summer, as we look forward to many more extraordinary years to come. With best wishes,

Bryan Garman with happy graduates Parthena Moisiadis and Dan Carbone

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From the Alumni Association President

Alumni Families

Dear Friends, I want to start off by congratulating and welcoming our 68 new alumni—the Class of 2011! If there is anything that your fellow Friends alumni can help you with, please let us know. We also look forward to hearing from you about how you are doing, so please do not hesitate to contact us by emailing alumni@ wilmingtonfriends.org.

Kristin Dugan ’03 With the end of the 20102011 school year, the Friends community said goodbye to three amazing teachers (Richard Bernard, Rick Grier-Reynolds, and Terry Maguire) who had taught for a combined 99 years. Like hundreds of other WFS alumni, I had each of these men as teachers. I cannot imagine my experience at Friends without them, and I know we all have stories and memories of them and other faculty and staff. I recently saw some of my teachers from lower and middle school, and it was so nice to reconnect with them. It is interesting to think back now to those years and to realize how much my teachers influenced who I am today. Through their talent and dedication, along with all of the intangible skills of true mentors, Friends teachers have motivated many of us to achieve great things. The Alumni Board is currently accepting nominations for our Alumni Awards (Distinguished Alumnus/a, Outstanding Service Alumnus/a, and Young Alumnus/a) for 2012. If you know of someone you feel is deserving of one of these awards, please let us know. Summer always seems to go by quickly. Fall will be here before we know it, and that means Homecoming! Homecoming will be October 27-29, 2011, and I hope to see you at our events. Please be sure to join us at the Alumni Reunion & Awards Reception on Friday, October 28th. It is a really nice gathering on campus to kick off Homecoming/Reunion Weekend, and provides a great opportunity to catch up with fellow alumni and with past and present faculty and staff. There are, of course, other events that weekend and throughout the fall, so check the calendar for Homecoming (page 5) and on the Friends website www.wilmingtonfriends.org for details through the year. Enjoy the rest of summer, and we’ll see you in the fall. Best wishes,

Kristin Dugan ’03

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The Class of 2011 includes nine children of alumni: Jordan Beard – Lea Spruance Beard ’80 Mira Bragg – Elizabeth Krewson Bragg ’82 and Shokie Bragg ’79

Mira Bragg ’11 with parents Shokie Bragg ’79 and Elizabeth Krewson Bragg ’82 and sisters Ellen and Lily

Wesley Carr – Nancy Magness Carr ‘79

Brian Hoscheit – Diana Hutz Hosheit ’83

Matt Davis – Susan Tattersall Davis ’84 and Bob Davis ’83

Luke Raber – Lisa Townsend Raber ’77

Julia Horwitz – Rich Horwitz ’75

Lindsay Reese – Joe Geoghegan – Scott Reese ’74 David Geoghegan ’75

Alumni with children newly enrolled for 2011-12: Kimberley Massih Dolan ’89 Julie Boswell McCulloch ’89 Aundrea Almond ’90 Ed Dealy ’91 Sarah Schenck Maheshwari ’91 Rob Tattersall ’91 Matthew Terrell ’91 Matt Davis ’11 with parents Bob Davis ’83 and Susan Tattersall Davis ’84 and brothers Jeff ’13, Will ’20, and Scott ’15

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2011 ALUMNI AWARDS ANNOUNCED Each year, the Wilmington Friends School Alumni Association presents awards for outstanding achievements and service. As representatives of all Friends alumni, our honorees exemplify the best qualities of a Friends School graduate, including integrity, a commitment to serve others, and an active value of social justice.

The Alumni Board is very pleased to announce the 2011 winners of the Alumni Awards:

Past Award Recipients Pictured are our 2010 award receipients: Omar Khan ’90, Bonnie Wilson Crosby ’79, and Tom Stephenson ’60.

Distinguished Alumnus: Peter Duus ’51 leading historian of modern Japan Service Award: Joe Ayers ’89 volunteer and US Navy surgeon Young Alumnus: Dan Pfeiffer ’94 White House Communications Director All Alumni are invited to celebrate at the Alumni Reunion and Awards Reception on Friday, October 28, 6:00-8:00pm in the Middle/Upper School Library. Please join us! Please consider nominating a fellow alumnus/a for recognition. Submit your nomination to the Alumni Office by emailing alumni@wilmingtonfriends.org or by calling 302.576.2981. Thank you!

Honorees from the previous 10 years: 2009: John Urice ’64, Pam Perkins Young ’64, Brian Curtis Mand ’90 2008: Fran Biondi ’83 2007: Alisa Lippincott Morkides ’75 2006: John Salzberg ’54 2005: Rob Buccini ’86, Chris Buccini ’90 2004: Matt Meyer ’90 2003: The Nix Family 2002: Thom H. Marston ’75 2001: Rob R. Hoopes ’57 2000: Andrew “Rudy” Rudawsky ’80

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AFG Annual Report • 2010-2011 Accreditation for Growth As part of the school’s most recent re-accreditation, Wilmington Friends has chosen to implement the Middle States Association of Colleges and Schools’ model called Accreditation for Growth (AFG). Where the basic accreditation process confirms that a school meets standards in established categories, AFG challenges us to identify areas where we want to improve (beyond any prescribed standards), to set goals in those areas, and to implement means of assessing our progress. Our implementation plan also specifies that we report on that progress each year to the school’s constituencies. The two areas of our program we chose for focus in the current AFG cycle are foreign language and service.

Foreign Language Objective In foreign language, our AFG focus is on improving students’ oral and aural language skills and deepening their understanding of various cultures in which the target languages are spoken. In working toward that goal, the Foreign Language Department reviewed and strengthened its methods and materials by studying other, model programs; by having experts come to Friends to evaluate our curriculum and observe our program; and through targeted professional development. The department developed its own assessment, which reflects the overall goals and philosophy of our global curriculum, for measuring progress in cultural understanding. That assessment is administered in grades four and seven and in upper school to students studying at Level 3 of French and Spanish. To measure progress in communication skills, the department chose externally developed assessments, the Student Oral Proficiency Assessment (SOPA) and Simulated Oral Proficiency Interviews (SOPI). Students in fifth and eighth grade are tested using SOPA, and students at Level 3 in upper school are tested using SOPI. In cultural understanding, students at the assessed grade levels have made consistent progress each year since 2008, in some cases already exceeding the goals we hoped to reach by 2015. There is always some year-to-year variation, so the department will continue to work to secure and build upon that success. Cultural study, of course, is not limited to foreign language classes, and we are continuing to expand interdisciplinary connections in global education. (Interdisciplinary connections will be a key focus in the development of our new Mandarin program.) Essential leadership in interdisciplinary global education comes from the QUEST Center, and we are working to strengthen that leadership structure with a part-time QUEST Director beginning next year. In the communication skills aspect of the foreign language objective, students in eighth grade and Level 3 classes have made steady progress, again in some cases already reaching or exceeding our 2015 goals. Progress toward the goal for fifth grade had been mixed; students were making steady progress in the acquisition of vocabulary, but the assessment we were administering emphasized conversation and sentence production (which might actually be more appropriate for immersion 4

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programs). We took several steps to strengthen the lower school Spanish program. Among those steps, we worked with consultants from the University of Delaware to refine the lower school Spanish curriculum and make adjustments to teaching style; and we adopted a new seven-day schedule, which allowed for more Spanish instructional time, especially in grades 3-5 (on average, 24 minutes more minutes per week, compared to last year). We saw a marked improvement in 2010-11 in the demonstration of communication skills at the fifth grade level.

Service Objective In our second area of focus for AFG, we established goals for student participation in service, both school-related and outside of school, and also developed an “Appreciation of Service” survey. Such surveys are never objective measures, but they have proven helpful in working to align the development of leadership skills with the curriculum and participation in service activities—a reflection not only of what students do but also of what they think it means. We administer the survey, and calculate averages based on school-service activities and students’ self-reported outside of school activities, in grades five, eight, and twelve. Also as part of the AFG process, the upper school service program has been enhanced over the past three years to emphasize preparation and reflection. The service project is now introduced through the Quakerism curriculum. Students do a reflective presentation of learning at the conclusion of their service work, with an assessment based on eight desired learning outcomes. Those outcomes and the practice of showing evidence for having met them come directly from the IB CAS (Community, Action, Service) requirement. As longtime service coordinator Richard Bernard observed, “In many ways, a synergistic relationship has developed between AFG, IB, and the WFS service requirement. No longer do US students approach their service as merely volunteering somewhere for fifty hours. Students reflect more deeply on the effect of their service and the learning they take away from the experience.” Not just in upper school but at all grade levels, teachers have focused on the development of service programs, including a continuing shift toward service learning with connections to the academic program. As is reflected in the IB practices, research suggests that the service-learning approach helps to deepen students’ sense of civic responsibility while supporting academic achievement and the development of interpersonal skills. As with global education, key structural leadership has been provided in service programs through the QUEST Center, including the addition of events like the Martin Luther King Jr. Morning of Service. About 250 members of the school community participated in our first MLK service day in 2010, and an estimated 330 participated in 2011. Results of the service assessments have been dramatic, even allowing for year-to-year variations. In most cases, students’ engagement in and appreciation for service have already— and by a good bit—exceeded the goals we set for 2015.

Contact Information Peter Wenigmann Assistant Head of School for Academics 302.576.2905 or pwenigmann@wilmingtonfriends.org

HOMECOMING 2011 Friends gear will be on sale Homecoming Saturday, or you can get something in advance at www.wilmingtonfriends.org; click on “Friends Shop” on the top, blue menu bar.

Thursday, October 27 11:30am: True Blue/1748 Society Luncheon Middle/Upper School Library 6:00pm: T Fund Donors Cocktail Reception Middle/Upper School Library

Friday, October 28 11:30am: 4:00pm: 5:00pm: 6:00pm: 6:30pm:

50th Reunion Luncheon DuPont Country Club JV Soccer vs. St. Andrew’s JV Volleyball vs. Tatnall Alumni Reunion and Awards Reception Middle/Upper School Library (Please see page 3.)

V Volleyball vs. St. Andrew’s

Saturday, October 29 8:30am: Smith McMillan 5K Run/Walk start on School Road 10:00am: Meeting for Worship Middle/Upper School Meeting Room 10:30am: V Field Hockey vs. St. Andrew’s 10:30am: Alumni Art Show and Coffee Gallery (upper campus) 11:30am: Dedication of Tattersall Field 11:30am Lunch -1:30pm: Homecoming Tent 12:00: JV Field Hockey vs. St. Andrew’s 12:00: V Soccer vs. St. Andrew’s 2:30pm: V Football vs. St. Andrew’s Evening: Class Reunions for years ending in 1 and 6 * The 2011 Cross Country DISC championship meet is scheduled for Tuesday, October 25; if the team is able to add an additional Homecoming event, it will be announced. For more information about Homecoming events, please contact Special Events Coordinator Stacy Gatti, 302.576.2032, sgatti@wilmingtonfriends.org. For information about Reunions, please contact Director of Alumni Relations Paige Winburn, 302.576.2981, or pwinburn@wilmingtonfriends.org.

Homecoming Service Project Saturday, October 29 8:00am-2:00pm For the third year, under the auspices of the QUEST Center at Friends, we will have an allcommunity service project on Homecoming Saturday. We will be collecting items to donate to The Ministry of Caring, an ecumenical non-profit and great service partner of Friends School. We ask each Friends family—alumni and current families, faculty and staff—to bring one item to Homecoming, please, to help us fill a truck with donations for our neighbors in need. Preferred donations include: Non-perishable foods Personal hygiene and baby-care products

Above: The 2010 Homecoming Service Project truck

Winter outerwear (new or gently used) Blankets and towels (new or gently used)

Please take your donations to the truck in the middle/upper school parking lot, any time from 8:00am to 2:00pm on Saturday, October 29. And thank you for helping us to keep the school’s mission of service a central part of our celebration. For more information about the Homecoming Service Project, please contact Peter Wenigmann, 302.576.2905, pwenigmann@wilmingtonfriends.org. Summer Summer 2011 2011 •• Friends Friends magazine magazine

Honoring Great Teachers Through Gifts to the Annual Fund One way to thank Terry, Rick, and Richard—or any Friends teachers, past or present, who have made a difference in your life or in the lives of your children or grandchildren—is to make a special gift in their honor to the Annual Fund. Annual Fund directly supports the work of teachers in the classroom, and your gifts make a difference to them as they make a difference in the lives of Friends students. Make a gift online at www.wilmington friends.org; click on “Give to Friends.”

Richard Bernard, Rick Grier-Reynolds, and Terry Maguire As we make the transition from the 2010-11 Annual Fund to our 2011-12 campaign, we honor another transition: the retirements of Richard Bernard, Rick Grier-Reynolds, and Terry Maguire (see pages 16-18). Together, Richard, Terry, and Rick have dedicated 99 years to serving Friends School and to inspiring students in ways that last a lifetime.

If you have any questions, or if you would like to share your memories of great Friends teachers, please contact Dina Handwerk, Director of Annual Fund, at 302.576.2976 or dhandwerk@ wilmingtonfriends.org. Thank you to Terry, Richard, and Rick—and to all of you who support the Annual Fund and the great work of great teachers.

Board of Trustees The Friends School community joins in thanking two Trustees who retired from the Board at the end of the 2010-11 school year: Freeman Miller, who served from 1997-2006 and was generous to serve again from 2008-2011; and Paula Swain, who has served as the Home & School Association liaison to the Board for the past three years. Paula and Bill Swain’s younger daughter, Jessica, is a member of the Class of 2011; daughter Emily graduated from Friends in 2006.

Newly appointed to the Board for 2011-12: Jane Hollingsworth will be the new Home & School Association Board liaison. Jane and her husband Peter ’77 are the parents of two current Friends students, Jack ’13 and Jeff ’15. Jane served as co-president of Home & School in 2009-10 and as president emeritus this past year. Her other day job is working as a physical therapist, and she is also a longtime field hockey official. Harvey Zendt was raised a Quaker, and currently assists with the oversight of the Appoquinimink Meeting. He worked for 35 years in education, including service as the first head of St. Anne’s Episcopal School in Middletown, and was very involved with the Quaker Weekend Workcamp program. For the last three years, Harvey has worked with The Hiroshima Peace Foundation and Mayors For Peace. He also teaches two days a week at Urban Promise School in Wilmington.

Jessica Swain ’11 with parents Bill and Paula; many thanks to Paula for her service to the Board of Trustees. 6

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T Fund

In Honor of Coach Bob “T” Tattersall Because of the extraordinary early support and great interest in honoring Coach T, we are pleased to report that we have raised enough funds to move forward with renovations to the football and girls’ soccer field this summer. Additional contributions are going toward the Coach Tattersall Endowment Fund, which will support financial aid at Friends. When we first approached Coach T about how best to honor him, he immediately identified funding financial aid as the most meaningful possible tribute. We still need your support! Please join your fellow football families, fans, and friends; contribute today by mailing a donation or by giving online: www.wilmington friends.org/givetofriends and select the “T Fund” option. All donors will be invited to a party to honor Coach T on October 27, 2011. T Fund Giving Circles are listed below. All gifts can be made over a period of three years, with credit cards accepted, and monthly, quarterly, or annual installment options available.

Conference Champs: $100,000+ Touchdown Club: $50,000-99,999 Go Blue: $25,000-49,999 Varsity: $10,000-24,999 Fan Club: $5,000-9,999 Young Alumni Fan Clubs: • 2001-2005: $1,000+ • 2006-2010: $300+ Wilmington Friends School federal tax ID# 51-0064310 If you have any questions about the T Fund or other endowment funds at Friends, please contact: Director of Development Judy Aliquo, 302.576.2980 or jaliquo@wilmingtonfriends.org. Thank you!

With thanks for the early and generous support of the following donors (as of June 6, 2011):

T Fund Giving Circles Conference Champs The Buccini Family, Rob ’86 and Chris ’90 Touchdown Club Marci Aerenson and Andrew Aerenson ’81 The Magness Family Go Blue Lisa, Eric, Sam ’11 and Max ’13 Davis Pam and Jake Gehret ’77 The Kempner Family Varsity Steven ’83 and Emily Cohen The Dalton Family Bobby DeWees ’06 Anne Dippel and Thomas Dippel ’89 Rob ’86 and Amanda Friz The Golding Family The Hamiltons, Worth ’12, Elizabeth ’16 Anne Brooking and William Harman ’69 Christine Hidell and Timothy B. Hidell ’71 Susan and Bernard Kelley Nyla and Sami Khan Carrie and Mike ’96 Lamb Julie Neff and Braden Neff ’00 Raymond Osbun ’71 Peter F. Townsend ’75 Susanne and Gregory Williams Diana Dickson-Witmer MD and Dennis R. Witmer MD Fan Club Phyllis and Norman Aerenson Jane Atkins and Stuart Atkins ’76

The Bancroft Family The Connolly Family Meg Gehret Erskine ’83 and Hal Erskine Lyn Fink and Daniel Fink ’83 David ’80 and Jennifer Glick Jamie McDermott ’83 Bill and Mary Ellen McEnroe Ellen and Leon Mintz in memory of Philip Mintz ’84 Lisa Pearce and Mark Pearce ’84 The Ratchford Family Melissa Sanders and Scott Sanders ’77 J. Clarke ’74 and April D. Sanders Mae Scott and Gary Scott ’82 P. Thomas Takacs ’80 Young Alumni Fan Club Haley Cashman ’09 Elissa Cashman ’07 Samuel R. Davis ’11 Francis R. Iacobucci, III ’04 Fazeel Khan ’05 Brett McCone ’12 Andrew McEnroe ’04 Donors Judy and James Aliquo Tina and Bill Baczkowski Andrew Baczkowski ’07 James Baczkowski ’09 Tuna and Bruce Benge Stephanie Bonnes ’04 Barbara and Raymond C. Butterworth Patricia Murdock and Allan Cairncross Tracey Quillen-Carney ’80 and John Carney Marybeth Cashman and Christopher Cashman ’78 Linda Cashman ’81 Jeffrey Chambers ’80 Holly and Richard Chappell

John Chappell ’09 C. Michael Coleman ’88 Mark ’83 and Tina and Brendan ’13 and Drew ’15 Conner John E. Curran, Jr. ’86 Dahvia and Andrew Dalton ’97 Susie Tattersall Davis ’84 and Bob Davis ’83 Kathy Dent and Peter Dent ’81 Alexandra Donaghy and Stephen Bruce Donaghy ’81 Nancy Donaghy and Thomas G. Donaghy ’86 Alice Donaghy and Robert Donaghy ’45 Charles Donaghy ’95 Rob Donaghy III ’92 Debbie Ellis and Thomas Ellis ’71 Karen Ballotta and Bryan Garman Susan Geoghegan and David Geoghegan ’75 Annamarie Medeiros and Stanley Glowiak Patricia Weisman and John Golin ’69 Sarah and Edward Gordon William Goulding and Roberta Galati Will Graves ’10 Rick Grier-Reynolds Mimi Harlan and W. Scott Harlan ’80 Jed Hatfield ’82 Margaret Hill and Arthur Hill ’51 Jake Hoffman ’02 Jeffrey Hughes ’79 Michelle Mergler and George Hughes-Strange ’01 Abby Hughes-Strange ’04 Meg Adams Hunter ’74 and Scott Hunter

Debra Hutz and R. Eric Hutz ’81 Jamie Jenney ’94 Matthew Johnson ’04 Saundra Ross Johnson W. Rufus Jones ’52 Karen Kenworthy and Thomas Kenworthy ’66 Thomas Kuon ’91 Mary Jane Laberee Lang ’81 and Thomas S. Lang ’81 Matthew Lang ’08 Deborah and Richard Layton Paige-Ann Linton and David Linton ’78 Michael Long ’96 Mali and Majid Mansoory Lynne and Thomas McCone Julie Tattersall McGinnis ’82 The McMillan and Procaccini Family Hunter McMillan ’04 Carol Palmiotto and David Fisher Jennifer Pardee and Michael Pardee ’78 Lear and Gary Pfeiffer Marcia Stirling Quillen ’56 and Bill Quillen ’52 Lisa Leana and Thomas M. Raiber ’86 Tim, Sherry and Doug Read C. Scott Reese ’74 Kathlyn and Todd Rowen Barbara Scarborough Kathleen and William Schell Bob, Sue and Dave Scofield Dianne Tattersall Shannon Tattersall and Robert C. Tattersall, Jr. ’91 Kerry Taylor and William F Taylor, Jr. ’83 Lisa Olsen and Roy Henry Wilkinson ’70 Paige and Chris Winburn Flo Wright and David Wright ’80

Thank you to our May 3, 2011 “T Fund Connect-a-thon” volunteers. This group of folks, along with staff from the Alumni/Development Office, phoned, texted, emailed, wrote (the old fashioned way), and used Facebook to contact friends about the T Fund. Some volunteers were at school; others were in Alabama, Washington DC, New York, Massachusetts, and Ohio. Thanks to the good work of our volunteers, we contacted more than 320 “T fans” in one evening, and those contacts have led to more than $33,000 in contributions to date… and the gifts keep coming in! Many thanks to: Andy Aerenson ’81, trustee and parent Rob Buccini ’86 Chris Cashman ’78, parent of alumni Chip Connolly ’79, parent and parent of alumna Eileen Dalton, parent of alumni Lisa Davis, current and Class of 2011 parent John Hamilton, parent Melinda Hamilton, parent Susan Kelley, parent, parent of alumnus, and trustee Artie Kempner, current and Class of 2011 parent Fazeel Khan ’05 Andy McEnroe ’04 Raymond Osbun ’71 Clarke Sanders ’74

Andy Aerenson ’81 (top) and Artie Kempner working the phones at the May 3rd T Fund Connect-a-thon

T Fund Celebrations during Homecoming October 27 – 29, 2011 Cocktail Reception at 6:00pm For all T Fund donors Friday, October 27 Middle/Upper School Library Tattersall Field Dedication at 11:30 on Homecoming Saturday, October 29

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The Tough Mudder Take a bunch of second grade Wilmington Friends dads. Add a healthy dose of seriously mucky mud. Throw in some barbed wire and a 25-foot drop into really cold water, two or three 15-foot-high walls to scale, some heavy logs to carry, and a few electrical wires to avoid. And put them all on an 11-mile course that winds up and down Bear Creek Mountain in Allentown, PA. Mix it all together, and you’ve got one “Tough Mudder.” On April 9, 2011, ten Friends dads rallied for the race they’d been anticipating and preparing for all winter: the Tough Mudder, a “challenge, not a race,” as the toughmudder. com site asserts. They’d trained, emailed each other progress reports, run together on weekends.

1748 Baseball Hats…. The Story Continues Our spring Friends magazine article about the 1748 baseball hat elicited a few passionate responses. We received a letter from Rufus Jones ’52 who said: “I love your Friends magazine. I read it cover to cover. I want a 1748 cap. Here’s a check for ‘T’ field or whatever—just send me a cap! Please.” And Kathleen Martin, the WFS Director of College Guidance, emailed us a photo in her Friends gear so that she too could receive a hat. Kathleen shared her family’s Friends story:

Friends dads at the Tough Mudder: Chris Winburn, Rich Carroccia, David Baldwin, Michael Ianni, Daryl Flaherty, Karl Agne, a friend, Tim Terranova, Chris Buccini ’90, and David Ross (not pictured: Neil Hockstein) At the end of Tough Mudder Saturday, every dad had finished with a grateful grin on his face, and the spouses had enjoyed the morning…perhaps even more.

“In the early 90s, as a young college admissions officer, I visited Wilmington Friends School. I remember thinking, ‘If I ever have children, I hope that they attend an amazing school like this!’ Fast-forward 20 years as my family conducted a search for a wonderful school for our daughters to attend (and a place for me to work). This picture [above] is of me with our girls (Cassidy ’15 and Delaney ’18) at our first WFS Homecoming in 2007, where everyone automatically felt like family.” We couldn’t resist sending hats to a few members of the Class of 1952, who gathered at Fred Pardee’s home in Florida for dinner on March 22, 2011. This tight-knit class will celebrate its 60th Reunion in 2012 with quite a feather in their 1748 caps: they consistently have 100% participation in the Annual Fund. Thank you to the Class of 1952!

This group of 20 parents didn’t know each other when their children started at Friends. But they had come together quickly as a team. Chris Buccini ’90 described it this way: “The strength of WFS, to me, has always been its community. I remember as a child that the parents of my friends from Friends School became my parents’ closest friends. As I looked at the nine other dads who I competed with in the Tough Mudder, I couldn’t help but feel like the cycle was starting all over. To have ten dads working together as a team to complete an 11-mile obstacle course up and down Bear Mountain—I realized that we would be talking about this day for decades. Perhaps the best part of the day was that we were all there together with one common bond: the love of our Wilmington Friends children!”

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Remember: just send us a photo of yourself in your Friends gear, and we’ll happily add to your collection by sending you a 1748 baseball hat. Let’s keep the story going!

From the Class of 1952, left to right: Lew Doughton, Bill Lynam, John Nice, Bill Quillen, and Fred Pardee

THE CLASS OF 2011

Front row: Katrina Sotiropoulos, Samantha Perillo, Alyn O’Brien, Jordan Beard, Gabrielle Harris, Julia Horwitz, Amanda Gill, Blaine Kebede, Jessica Swain, Sarah Galinat, Megan Galardi, Olivia Veale Second row: Sabrina Lessner, Lindsay Reese, Anna Melnick, Caroline Scott, Hannah Day, Katrina Siegfried, Erin Conces, Sandra LoFaro, Danielle Delpeche, Parthena Moisiadis, Kaitalyn Grover Third row: Hannah Epstein, Mira Bragg, Devan Schowe, Alexa Pierce-Matlack, Elaina Hanzel, Annalise Sheslow, Ellen Rodowsky, Cynthia Tanzer, Emma Pohl, Keya Joshi, Sara Coughlin, Mara Freilich, Leah Rizzo, Katherine Beckwith Fourth row: Jessica Venetianer, Louise Connelly, Rebecca Hodge, Julianna Ly, Niki Wenigmann, Rebecca Caspar-Johnson Fifth row: Kristian Cilento, Javier Horstmann, Colin Ebert, Charles Wood, Joseph Geoghegan, Samuel Davis, Richard Serra, Austin Schoenkopf, Brian Hoscheit, Matthew Kempner, Matthew Skibicki Top row: Joshua Zimmerman, Glenn Felder, Kieran Smith, Kevin Anglim, Luke Raber, Brett Fallon, Calynd Johnson, Louis Belson, Jermaine Young, Wesley Carr, Matthew Davis, John Fairchild, Daniel Carbone, Michael Leff

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EIGHT RULES OF PIZZA Brian Curtis Mand ’90 Brian Curtis Mand is a New York Times bestselling author, a former television reporter and host, a national radio contributor, and a consultant. He is the author or co-author of five books: A Team to Believe In (with Tom Coughlin), Go Long! (with Jerry Rice), a New York Times bestseller, How Good Do You Want To Be? (with Nick Saban), Every Week A Season and The Men of March. As mentioned in his remarks, Brian will publish another book this August, a collection of letters to commemorate the 10th anniversary of the 9/11 attacks. Brian was the lead college football and basketball reporter for CBS College Sports, and a contributor to CBS News’ The Early Show. Prior to his work at CBS, Brian was a Los Angeles-based sports reporter and broadcaster for Fox Sports Net and was nominated for two local Emmy Awards. Brian has appeared on hundreds of radio and television stations, and his work has been covered by, among others, USA Today, The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal and The Los Angeles Times. Brian holds a Master’s Degree with Honors in Sports Management from Ohio University and a Bachelor’s Degree with Honors in Government from the University of Virginia. Brian was Friends School’s 2009 Young Alumnus of the Year. He and his wife, Tamara, have two daughters, Emily and Daryn. Reluctantly edited-for-space version of Brian’s remarks at Commencement 2011 ….[I]nstead of delivering some sage, high-brow advice today, I want to deliver you something much more important: pizza....[A]s a big fan of pizza and as a former deliverer of it, I have come to appreciate just how much pizza is like life. It can teach us about economics, about families, about diversity. Maybe it’s a stretch, but honestly, I don’t care, I am the speaker today. Here then, are just some of my Rules of Pizza, gleaned from years of consumption and delivery.

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Rule 1: Tip the delivery man. When I took my first delivery job at Grotto’s in 1993, I was so proud to pull on my bright red Grotto’s golf shirt, khaki shorts, and red Grotto’s hat. I felt like I was part of something big….Not to mention that I got to impress the ladies by driving the Grotto’s truck....There were frequent deliveries when it was clear to me that the recipients— both young and old—looked down upon me because I was delivering their pizza….. Having been raised properly and having spent 13 years at Friends where respecting others was an essential part of the day, I was taken aback at how others looked upon me not for who I was, but for what I did. Flash forward a few years to 1997, when I arrived in Los Angeles. I held a Bachelor’s degree from the University of Virginia and a Master’s degree from Ohio University, and I had what I assumed was a bright future. But to earn money and to have the flexibility to work in television, I took a delivery job at B.J.’s Pizzeria, just a few blocks from the UCLA campus. I quickly realized that disrespect and snap judgments were not limited to Delaware. The lesson has stuck with me: respect is automatic not selective. It’s who you are not what you do. So the next time someone delivers a pizza to your door, remember to pay him or her respect. They are going places, too. And give them a good tip.

Rule 2: The number of toppings and combinations on a pizza are endless. Don’t ever think that you can’t get the pizza that you want. Joe Geoghegan, can you stand up, please? Take Joe. Joe loves mushrooms, bacon, and ground beef on his pizza. Joe, that’s disgusting. You can sit down now. But Joe loves it, so who I am to judge?...We all like our pizza a different way. We all have distinct interests and passions….Friends has always done a tremendous job embracing diversity—not just in race or ethnicity—but in appearance, interests and desires. Don’t let the world take you away from who you are….Order whatever you want on your pizza, and don’t worry if others think it is disgusting.

Rule 3: The best pizza toppings may just be the ones you have never tried. In January of 1994, with most of my fellow students at the University of Virginia still on winter break, Virginia played Florida State in basketball, and at halftime, I won a free-throw contest. I know that may come as a surprise to my Friends coaches. What did I win? A mobile phone. But not the ones you all have in your pockets. No, this was a large, clunky device that weighed four pounds. Keep in mind that cell phones were not common back in 1994. I didn’t know what to do with this thing. I showed off by making a call or two while walking around campus, but after a few weeks, it was more of a pain than anything useful. Mobile phones are ridiculous, I thought, what a dumb idea, and the phone sat in my room for months. Around that same time, some friends began to talk about a World Wide Web or Internet, so I took a look for myself at a website. What a joke, I thought. Who would want to use this Internet thing? Eighteen years after my bright

revelations, there are now more than five billion mobile phones in use and that Internet thing? You probably have heard of it. Shows you what I know. I didn’t have the vision; I had the fear of the unknown. In 1960, Dominick Pulieri and his sister, Mary Jane Pagliante, sold slices of pizza for 20 cents on the Rehoboth boardwalk at a time and in an area where pizza was not widely consumed. They had a vision of pizza….Now we have Grotto’s. It’s the same principle in choosing toppings on your pizza and trying new things in your life. Try something new. Maybe you’ll like it; maybe you will spit it out. Finding out what you don’t want on your pizza is just as important as finding out what you do. Graduates, go for it. Succeed. Fail. It’s the journey...

Rule 4: But always remember that though toppings may seem tempting, they don’t always make pizza better.

I love plain old cheese pizza. Always have. When I was a teen, my friends would add pepperoni or mushrooms or onions to their slices and, like many youngsters, I succumbed to peer pressure. I figured toppings made it better. But they didn’t for me….I thought that to be successful in this world, to “make it,” I needed to have special toppings. For me, in my journey, that meant money, fame, acclaim, and being recognized for what I was doing rather than for who I was. But I had it wrong the whole time. The truth is that it doesn’t really matter what you do or where you do it or even who knows about it, but rather, at that moment in time, does it make you happy?...Some of the best doctors in America you have never heard of, not because they are any less gifted than a surgeon at a world famous hospital, but because the life that they have chosen is in a small town in Mississippi. The best actors may not be famous in Hollywood; the smartest engineers may not work at NASA; and the best teachers are not necessarily at Harvard or Princeton but may just be at a small community college or—as many of us can

attest—right here in Alapocas. Let’s be brutally honest: most of you likely won’t be curing cancer, running for President or creating the next Google (except for you, Josh Zimmerman). But that is perfectly fine. You don’t need the toppings to be a success. Measure your success by your level of happiness, not by money, power, or praise. Your classmate, John Fairchild, has learned this lesson already. John tells me that Richard Bernard has always stressed that the relationships that you make along the way are more important than what is commonly defined as success. And that’s so true. The toppings that I thought I wanted—that I needed—in life didn’t make me happy. It is the foundation that matters: the crust, the sauce, and the cheese. That’s why for all of you who love plain old cheese pizza, enjoy it, and never worry about what’s not on top.

pizza with my heart pounding. There it was. My first delivery: a large cheese pizza lying face down in the gravel on the concrete….What should I do? Pick off the pebbles and dirt and deliver it? The customer wouldn’t notice, and my new boss at Grotto’s would never know. Or do I go back inside and tell my new boss that I couldn’t even make it 500 yards from the store without messing up? In the end, I did what was right. We cooked another pizza; the delivery was late; and I apologized to the customer. Of course, you will face many more dramatic moments and tough decisions in your life than whether or not to deliver a dirty pizza, but the principle remains the same. An unknown author once wrote that, “A man’s character is revealed when no one is watching.” I urge you to be proud of the choices that you make as you move forward. And remember, you are always watching.

Rule 5: Rule 6: Never deliver a dirty pizza. It’s just not right. Remember, the best pizzas take time to True story. My very first day cook. Be patient. delivering pizza for Grotto’s in the summer of 1993, I got behind the wheel of one of the Grotto pizza oven trucks….I wasn’t more than 500 yards from the store in Fairfax when I heard a buzzing sound….The buzzing sound was an alarm to the driver. I immediately hopped out of the truck in a panic only to find that the pizza I had placed in the oven—was no longer in the oven. I frantically looked all around the street but saw nothing. But then, there, about 200 feet behind the truck, lay a bright red and white pizza box on the ground. I sprinted to the

….I am sure you have all heard the saying, “The best things in life are worth waiting for.” It may be the case, but I propose a slight change. I say, “The best things in life are worth going after.” If you want to make the finest pizza, then plant the tomato seeds; nurture the healthiest cows to produce the milk for the best cheese; grow wheat to turn into the perfect crust. It takes time and hard work, but it is worth it. No matter what you do in your life—whether you are planning to be an oceanographer, a lawyer, a playwright, or a

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a freshly delivered pizza only to find a slice is missing....Though Wilmington Friends is strong in encouraging individualism and uniqueness, never forget that you are part of something bigger than yourselves. Freshman year, Brett Fallon stood up in a Meeting for Worship with your class and noted that you are like a family. Remember that. All of you are a slice of the Class of 2011. And as you venture into the world to make your own slice with the toppings of your choosing, keep in mind that you are always a part of something bigger. landscaper—put in the work to be the absolute best in your eyes, and don’t get frustrated if it takes time to get where you are going. That’s why I smirk when I hear grown-ups say that college is the best four years of your life. No it’s not. The forty years after college are. In talking with some of you over the past few months, I have a clear understanding of just how much pressure others—along with yourselves—have put on you to make the right college decision. But here is the secret most people won’t tell you: Where you go to school this fall pales in comparison to what you do while you are there and what happens next. Don’t worry about where you are going to college; you determine your success, not a name on a sweatshirt….You don’t need to figure it all out now, and maybe not even in the next five to ten years. And, though they will never admit it, some of your parents are still trying to figure things out. We are long removed from the days of one career, one company, and one job. Remember, there is a big difference between a frozen pizza and one straight from a wood-bricked oven. And that difference is time.

Rule 7: A slice of pizza is just that…a slice. Remember, it is part of something bigger. What would a picture of the 2010 Friends football team look like without Sam Davis sitting in the front row? Or Dan Carbone? Or Rick Serra? Or Matt Kempner? What about a photo of just two of the three writers and directors of the [original student] play An Apple a Day, Sara Coughlin, John Fairchild, or Hannah Day? A ballet company photo without Hannah Epstein? A National Merit Scholar photo without Mara Freilich? Or a boys’ basketball team picture without Matt Skibicki or girls’ volleyball without Gabbi Harris, Danielle Delpeche, or Sam Perillo? A picture of Richard Bernard or Coach Tattersall with hair? We would notice something wasn’t exactly right. Imagine opening up Summer 2011 ••Friends magazine 12 Summer 2011 Friends magazine 12 12 Summer 2011 • Friends magazine

Rule 8: Lastly, savor every last bite because you never know when it will be your last. For the past six months, I have been working on a book, The Legacy Letters, which will be released in August, to coincide with the tenth anniversary of the September 11th attacks in 2001. The project is a collection of letters—really, stories—from 100 family members who lost a father, mother, brother, or sister in the September 11th attacks. The overriding lesson that these courageous people unfortunately learned long ago, was to cherish every moment of life and to love the ones around you….Now, I hope that none of you ever have to suffer th[at] way…, only to learn the lesson of just how precious life is. So let me be the one to tell you: Life is precious. Hitting the snooze button on your alarm clock does not actually stop time, so get out of bed and get living! Life is too short not to enjoy it, so do it. Enjoy every bite of that pizza, even the crust because it’s just as good as your first bite. Standing right over there is Peter, a delivery man from Grotto’s here in Wilmington. Inside the pizza box that he is holding are 68 gift cards good for a free Grotto’s pizza for each senior. After graduation, please take one from Peter, and before you bite into that pizza this summer, I ask you to think about just one thing that I said today. Olivia Veale, please stand up. Olivia loves pesto with mozzarella and tomato. Javier Hortsmann likes buffalo chicken. Chad Wood and Josh Zimmerman are pepperoni guys. Glenn Felder likes white pizza. Brian Hoscheit and Alexa Pierce-Matlack admirably eat pineapple and ham. Sandy Lofaro and Anna Melnick and Wesley Carr like cheese. Katie Grover? She doesn’t even like pizza. Brett Fallon: ham, black olives, green peppers, mushrooms, pepperoni and spinach. It doesn’t matter what your preference. Enjoy your pizza. Enjoy your life. And don’t forget to tip the delivery guy.

Final Assembly 2011 1 John Fairchild and Annie Sheslow were chosen by their classmates to speak about and for the Class of 2011 at Final Assembly. Among other insights, they shared an original-lyric duet. (Annie’s ukulele had already gone home by the time we took the photo, but she kindly re-enacted playing it.) 2 The John Marshall Mendinall II, Class of 1939, Memorial Award is given to the graduating senior considered to have done the most for Friends School. This year’s recipient was John Fairchild, pictured with Head of School Bryan Garman and Head of Upper School Rebecca Zug. 3 The Charles W. Bush, Class of 1900, Award honoring juniors who “most clearly demonstrate the school’s ideals of character, scholarship, and service” was presented by Bryan Garman and Rebecca Zug to Keiko Endo and Richard Monari. 4 Four graduating seniors were recognized with the Howard W. Starkweather, Jr., Class of 1944, Community Service Award. Pictured left to right with (newly retired) Upper School Service Program Coordinator Richard Bernard are Mara Freilich, Matt Kempner, Alexa Pierce-Matlack, and Jordan Beard. 5 Meg Gehret Erskine ’83, Friends parent and trustee, presented the award named for her mother, the Amanda Spackman Gehret, Class of 1951, Memorial Mathematics Award, given each year to the upper school student “who manifests outstanding mathematical achievement through development of ability and commitment to the experience of the whole class.” Two students, pictured with Meg, shared the award this year: Josh Zimmerman and Mara Freilich. 6 American Field Service (AFS) students Sutthawe (“Por”) Jitjingjai and Helen Fristch were recognized at Final Assembly, along with their hosts—the Lessner, Magness, and McDonough families. 7 Seniors Olivia Veale and Sarah Galinat presented the Class of 2011 gift to the school, new equipment for the fitness room and a gift to the Annual Fund. 8 Newly minted class agents for the Class of 2011 Samantha Perillo, Javier Horstmann, and Lindsay Reese The Robert P. Hukill, Class of 1939, Science Award recognizes “the spirit of innovation and creativity, particularly in the applied sciences” and is given to a junior who “develops practical solutions to common problems, has the potential for leadership, and has demonstrated knowledge, skills, and excellence in the sciences.”This year’s recipient, Duncan Hobbs, was unable to attend Final Assembly, because he was attending the graduation of his brother, Nathan Hobbs ’06, at Stanford University. In addition to the named awards, students were recognized with “distinctive service awards” for service and leadership that had a positive and lasting impact and reflected the ideals and mission of Friends School.

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Hamilton College - NY Service: Forwood Manor Exploration: Intern with New Castle County Council President

Jordan Beard

Susquehanna University Service: Kent County Community School Exploration: Nutrition/ personal training

Katherine Beckwith

gap year in UK Service: Habitat for Humanity Exploration: Creating and producing a web show

Louis Belson

not yet decided Service: Delaware Children’s Museum Exploration: Learning how to fish

Mira Bragg

Gettysburg College Service: Forgotten Cats Exploration: Dancing

Daniel Carbone

University of Delaware Service: Habitat for Humanity Exploration: TV production

Wesley Carr

University of Delaware Service: American Lung Association Exploration: International business

Rebecca Caspar-Johnson

Wesleyan University Service: Center for Creative Arts Exploration: Friends Council on National Legislation internship in D.C.

Kristian Cilento Gettysburg College Service: Lutheran Community Services Food Distribution Exploration: Special education

Erin Conces

The George Washington University Service: Delaware Center for Contemporary Arts Exploration: Painting and visiting art museums

Louise Connelly Princeton University Service: Brandywine Conservancy Exploration: Catholic Charities volunteer

Sara Coughlin

Hampshire College Service: Shining Stars Adapted Dance Camp Exploration: Teaching and choreographing tap dance

Matthew Davis

Gettysburg College Service: Camp Possibilities Exploration: Coaching Little League baseball

Samuel Davis

Goucher College Service: Food Bank of Delaware Exploration: Learning how to play/history of golf

Hannah Day

Muhlenberg College Service: Immanuel Church, New Orleans trip Exploration: Tap dancing

Danielle Delpeche

Listed by college choice, service project agency, and senior exploration topic. Hannah Epstein

University of Delaware Service: St. Francis Hospital Exploration: Yoga

John Fairchild

Princeton University Service: Nai Disha Learning Centre Exploration: Cultural immersion in Budapest

Brett Fallon

University of Delaware Service: Police Athletic League Exploration: Interning with US Congressman

Glenn Felder

Emory University Service: Forgotten Cats Exploration: Film direction and production

Mara Freilich

Swarthmore College Service: Delaware Art Museum Art Camp Exploration: Writing / illustrating a graphic novel

Brown University Service: Kalmar Nyckel Foundation; The Student Conversation Association Exploration: Sailing on the Kalmar Nyckel

Colin Ebert

Megan Galardi

University of Delaware Service: Food Bank of South Jersey Exploration: Learning how to fish

Bryn Mawr College Service: Ministry of Caring Exploration: Record company intern

Sarah Galinat

Connecticut College Service: Camp Possibilities Exploration: Small business

Joseph Geoghegan

University of Delaware Service: Rodney Street Tennis and Tutoring Association Exploration: Light installation and databases

Amanda Gill

Bryn Mawr College Service: Delaware Nature Society Exploration: Pediatric oncology

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Kaitalyn Grover

University of Delaware Service: Brandywine YMCA Summer Camp Exploration: Creating and producing a web show

Elaina Hanzel

Keya Joshi

Johns Hopkins University Service: A.I. duPont Children’s Hospital Exploration: Indian Dance

Blaine Kebede

Guilford College Service: New Orleans with the Princeton NJ Unitarian Church Youth Exploration: Gardening and camping

The George Washington University Service: Brandywine Village Summer Camp at the Cathedral Church of St. John Exploration: Restaurant business

Gabrielle Harris

Matthew Kempner

Pace University, Pleasantville Campus Service: WFS India Connections Trip Exploration: City living, Washington DC

Rebecca Hodge

Ithaca College Service: Dominican Republic Jolanga Trip Exploration: Technical directing and sports broadcasting

Michael Leff

University of Delaware Service: Forwood Manor Exploration: Working in a bakery

Lafayette College Service: Rodney Street Tennis and Tutoring Association Exploration: Building a guitar/Panamanian cooking

Javier Horstmann

Sabrina Lessner

University of Delaware Service: Guardian Angel Child Care Exploration: Bankruptcy law

Julia Horwitz

Wake Forest University Service: Special Olympics Delaware-Figure Skating Exploration: Lifetime Sports Tennis, Squash, and Golf

Brian Hoscheit

University of Delaware Service: Forwood Manor Exploration: Hiking Appalachian Trail

Calynd Johnson

West Chester University of Pennsylvania Service: Food Bank of Delaware Exploration: Physical training

Washington University in St. Louis Service: Ashland Nature Center Exploration: Volunteering at the Fraim Boys and Girls Club

Sandra LoFaro

University of Delaware Service: Westminister Presbyterian Chruch, Buffalo, NY ENERGY Program Exploration: Internship with US Senator

Julianna Ly

University of Delaware Service: Habitat for Humanity Exploration: Fitness instruction

Anna Melnick

Boston University Service: Kenya AIDS Trip Exploration: Behavioral Health Unit at hospital for children

Parthena Moisiadis

Luke Raber

University of Pittsburgh Service: Brandywine Conservancy Exploration: Dancing

University of Pittsburgh Service: Habitat for Humanity Exploration: Hiking the Appalachian Trail

Alyn O’Brien

Lindsay Reese

Ithaca College Service: Special Olympics Delaware Exploration: Boston exploration

Samantha Perillo Stevenson University Service: Vacation Bible School at Aldersgate Methodist Church Exploration: Wedding planning

Alexa Pierce-Matlack

University of Delaware Service: Girl Scouts of America Exploration: Careers in medicine

Emma Pohl

University of Richmond Service: Christiana Care PT Plus Exploration: Training for college field hockey/ careers in fitness

Washington and Lee University Service: Special Olympics Delaware Exploration: Fitness, yoga, and nutrition

Service: Ronald MacDonald House; New Boulton Center Foal Sitting Exploration: Veterinary science

Caroline Scott

Emory University Service: Ministry of Caring Exploration: Teaching prekindergarten

Richard Serra

University of Delaware Service: Faithful Friends Exploration: Radio DJ

Stevens Institute of Technology Service: Habitat for Humanity Exploration: Learning how to play/history of golf

Ellen Rodowsky

Annalise Sheslow

Leah Rizzo

Colgate University Service: Nai Disha Learning Centre Exploration: Police department/justice system

Austin Schoenkopf Northeastern University Service: Rachel Kohl Community Library Exploration: Photography

Devan Schowe

Franklin and Marshall College

Kenyon College Service: Kutz Home Nursing Exploration: Tap dancing

Kristin Siegfried

University of Delaware Service: A.I. duPont Children’s Hospital Exploration: Peri-operative nursing

Matthew Skibicki Lehigh University Service: Food Bank of Delaware Exploration: Engineering

Kieran Smith

Gettysburg College Service: Camp Possibilities Exploration: Farming

Katrina Sotiropoulos

Syracuse University Service: Camp Possibilities Exploration: Cooking classes

Jessica Swain

Dickinson College Service: Camp Possibilities Exploration: Personal training

Niki Wenigmann

Hamilton College - NY Service: East Side Charter School Summer Intern Exploration: Exploring Boston

Charles Wood

University of Delaware Service: Stonegates Retirement Community Exploration: Learning how to play golf

Jermaine Young, Jr.

McDaniel College Service: Turner Wes Beacon Program Exploration: Training for college football

Joshua Zimmerman

Carnegie Mellon University Service: Independent Lake Camp Exploration: Software engineering

Cynthia Tanzer

Earlham College Service: Faithful Friends Exploration: Teaching

Olivia Veale

Davidson College Service: Camp Possibilities Exploration: DE Department of Public Safety/Homeland Security

Jessica Venetianer

Pennsylvania State University, University Park Service: Bellevue State Park Exploration: Learning to play the banjo

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Bernard, GrierReynolds & Maguire Retire From Remarks at Final Assembly 2011 By Bryan Garman, Head of School Note: Distinctive Service Awards, presented each year at Final Assembly, honor outstanding, distinctive service given by a student to the school community. They may represent a particular outstanding service, a high quality of service in a number of areas, unusual leadership that affected the school, the demonstration of such spirit that the school has been changed positively as a result of it, and/ or usually a combination of some of the above. As we close the year and pay tribute to the Class of 2011, we also close a chapter—or more precisely three chapters—in Friends School history. After a combined 99 years of service to Friends School, Richard Bernard, Terry Maguire, and Rick Grier-Reynolds will retire. We don’t have time today to list all of their accomplishments and contributions, but I do want to take a moment to offer my own Distinguished Service Awards for these three legends. First, Richard Bernard is honored for being a sage. A former English teacher at A. I. du Pont High School, Richard came to Friends in 1981, and was soon recognized as a font of wisdom for the entire community. His profound courses in Quakerism and religion have enabled students to understand history as well as to explore their own spiritual journeys. In addition, Richard has devoted tremendous thought and energy to developing the upper school service program and, with the implementation of the I.B. program, assumed responsibilities for supervising the Creativity, Action, Service component and for teaching the touchstone course, “Theory of Knowledge.” Richard’s work with the Spiritual Life and Service Committees and with the upper school Business Meeting are especially noteworthy, as are his tenures as scheduler, faculty clerk, and convener of graduation. Richard is a deeply respected, patient, and eminently thoughtful man, 16

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and some of his most profound influence has come in his unofficial role as a counselor—to fellow faculty members and administrators, and of course to students. Second, Terry Maguire is honored for being a scholar and citizen. Terry came to Friends as a seventh grade English teacher in 1980. An extremely accomplished student and teacher of American literature, history, and culture, he ultimately brought an invigorating and interdisciplinary perspective to the eighth grade, where he guided students through an exploration of American identity. Teaching authors that ranged from John Winthrop to Frederick Douglass, Terry raised provocative questions about our history, elicited excellence from his students, and became deeply involved in the broader life of the school. Under his purposeful leadership, the upper school newspaper, The Whittier Miscellany, attained new editorial standards. And in his “spare” time, Terry became the school’s unofficial historian, uncovering important documents dating back to Friends’ founding and serving as a major contributor and research editor to A Gift In Trust: Wilmington Friends School, a book published in observance of our 250th anniversary. It may seem somewhat archaic to do so, but I would describe Terry as a gentleman and a scholar, a man of the highest integrity. Third, Rick Grier-Reynolds is honored for being a peacemaker and visionary. When Rick arrived at Friends School for the first time in 1969, neither he nor the school could have predicted the impact he would have on our students. Rick left for a brief while, but we were fortunate that he found his way back to Wilmington. Charged with bringing a community service program to the upper school, Rick has been integral to creating and implementing additional projects that have come to define Friends. He is the architect of “Peace, Justice, and Social Change,” a

“Together, these three men have had an enormous impact on the school that Wilmington Friends is today....” signature course that alumni invariably identify as one of their most memorable and meaningful Friends experiences. Informed by his own experience as a peacemaker—sabbaticals took Rick to Latin America and Bosnia, where he facilitated negotiations between factions— “the peace course,” as it is affectionately known, enjoys legendary standing among Quaker educators and has become a national model. Given his deep commitment to peace, global understanding, and environmental stewardship, it is not surprising that Rick, who also served as chair of the history and social studies department, enthusiastically embraced the International Baccalaureate Diploma Programme, which he has so successfully implemented and coordinated since its inception at Friends. Rick brings great passion and compassion to everything he does. He is a person of great spiritual significance, and we are fortunate that he has shared his vision and kindness with the school for so long. Together, these three men have had an enormous impact on the school that Wilmington Friends is today; they have epitomized our mission and, quite frankly, it is difficult to imagine the school without them. On behalf of everyone in the school community, I thank you for your unparalleled sense of dedication, purpose, and professionalism. Thank you for teaching our students so thoughtfully and so well. We will carry your wisdom with us for generations, and we are all proud and privileged that our paths have crossed in this special place. Let’s honor these three teachers.

On Richard Bernard

On Terry Maguire

By Connor Juers ’10

By Naomi Nix ’06

This year, Friends loses one of its most iconic teaching figures, Richard Bernard. While I only had two classes with Mr. Bernard, I was in his room at least once a week at lunchtime—for Business Meeting prep and Quaker Life Committee meetings.

If you have ever overheard a conversation among my classmates about Mr. Maguire, it likely included an anecdote about his grammar workbook or perhaps a vaguely recalled fact about the history of the Brandywine River, courtesy of, Desperate River, Quiet Creek. We didn’t always like working through those exercises on punctuation and word use, but behind our nostalgic grumbling is an understanding that Mr. Maguire exhibits all of the qualities you could ask for in a good middle school English teacher.

In my four years at Friends, Richard Bernard led to my being enamored—though that sounds like an un-Quakerly word— with the Quaker faith. He showed me, and my fellow students, how the ideals of simplicity and compassion are relevant in our youthful, modern lives. He also was always quick to lend his advice and support as a personal mentor. The knowledge I gained in Mr. Bernard’s room was often as spiritual as it was factual; it was a sum of life lessons that changed the way I view the world. I believe that long after I have forgotten stoichiometry or the tenants of Mendelian genetics, I will still, in times of stress, be able to grow in silence, to find peace, and to listen for God as Mr. Bernard taught me to do in Meeting for Worship. I am sure that the halls of Friends School will seem oddly quiet in the absence of Richard Bernard’s baritone laugh, which seemed almost omnipresent to me. It seemed that the man was always smiling or laughing as he guided the children of Friends. Yet that same man, who would so enthusiastically blast his classic bellows-horn at a pep rally, was also always ready to be serious in defense of what was right. While always accepting and inviting of all ideas, Mr. Bernard did not hesitate to point out the morally reprehensible. In this way, he served as the school’s moral compass and Quaker backbone for the past 30 years. Imagining Friends without Richard Bernard is like trying to imagine a peanut butter and jelly sandwich without bread (or a Friends football team without Coach T). In my mind, Mr. Bernard is the unifying force that brings all the disparate and wonderful strengths and benefits of a Wilmington Friends School education together. I certainly hope that this jolly, righteous Quaker will make frequent visits back to Friends. We recognize that we are the trustees of his legacy, and so is the school— which must continue to hold close and cherish Mr. Bernard’s wisdom and guidance, to recognize and nurture the inner light in each of its students. On behalf of myself and the countless other students whom he has guided over the past 30 years, I would like to thank Richard Bernard for teaching us, above all else, how to be kind, moral, and compassionate people.

Above: Richard Bernard and his smile, in his early years at Friends and, left, working with new technology and student Kaci Brooks ’12

I think I am most appreciative of the books to which he introduced us. Through literature, he took me to places and time periods I could never visit as a teenage-girl living in Wilmington, Delaware. For 200 pages, I could explore the Jewish faith and the social anxieties of a teenager, as well as the horrors of the Holocaust, in The Diary of Anne Frank. A piece of historical fiction could teach me about the agony of slavery or the hopelessness of the Great Depression. I still remember what it was like to sit in Mr. Maguire’s classroom and have a writer’s words leap from the page and transform into an adventure in my imagination.

Terry in 2010 with visiting alumnae and, above, before the beard went white

Mr. Maguire was no easy tour guide. Instead of letting me ride the high of a good story, he demanded that I search for themes I didn’t think existed and interpret passages I would have rather left alone. He encouraged me to think critically, while at the same time encouraging and even admiring my imagination. After a challenging assignment, it was his approval that was the best reward. Without saying a word, Mr. Maguire would flash a smile (which always seems to stretch from his eyebrows down to his white beard) that said, “job well done.” Whether it was an essay on Of Mice and Men, a project about Thomas Garrett, or poem I had written, Mr. Maguire seemed to find all that was good in my academic pursuits. I don’t know what motivated him to dedicate his life to teaching, but I do know my education was immeasurably better because he was a part of it. Myself included, seven people from my family have graduated from Wilmington Friends School. And in the decades that span our experience at Friends, Mr. Maguire has embodied all that we treasure about our Quaker school “upon the hill.” And though my little sisters will not have the privilege of experiencing Mr. Maguire’s teaching, through me his lessons will not be lost on them. And for that, I am truly grateful. Summer Summer2011 2011• •Friends Friendsmagazine magazine 17

On Rick Grier-Reynolds By Matthew Meyer ’90 About a year ago, I somewhat suddenly found myself in a small room chairing a meeting of US Army officers and diplomatic leaders on an American military installation in a foreign war zone. I do not think this was the career path my parents had envisioned when they decided to send me to Friends for fifth grade. It did not take long for me to realize that that room was probably the greatest forum to apply the lessons I once learned in Mr. Grier-Reynolds’ classroom on 101 School Road. As Mr. Grier-Reynolds retires, we should all take pause to recognize his tremendous contributions to our broader community and our individual lives. The secret weapons of Iraq have been frequently debated and discussed over the past decade. And I certainly had mine too. Mine was called peace, justice, and social change. In the years since I graduated from Friends, I have learned that my education was different. Like other schools, my alma mater aimed to teach me English and math and science. It taught me athletics and teamwork and the arts. But it also taught me peace. Friends taught me peace. And, over four decades, Mr. Grier-Reynolds taught thousands, probably tens of thousands, peace. Here we are, so many of us, both far away and close to home, engaged in foreign wars and in Alapocas, applying those lessons. My friends and colleagues today find a high school education that included academic coursework in conflict resolution, peace-building, and understanding the roots of violence quite foreign. I recall sitting in Mr. Grier-Reynolds’ classroom watching videos to understand the nature of military training, how regular kids are turned into fighting machines. We read articles to contemplate visions of peace. We wrote essays that drew images of a world in peace. We engaged in role play that focused on diffusing intractable conflict. We talked about the tools of social justice. The details I have forgotten. The lessons I am still applying today and will continue to apply tomorrow. There is a little red flag in my brain any time a problem is framed in terms of Us and Them. And too often problems are. Mr. Grier-Reynolds put that flag there. I pay particular attention any time anyone speaks of a human being in terms that denies him his humanity. And very often people do. Mr. Grier-Reynolds brought such language to our attention. Mr. Grier-Reynolds, like Mr. Bernard and Mr. Maguire, dedicated his adult life to the service of kids like me. We did not always do our homework. We were not always cooperative. There were many lessons I did Rick with 2010 Young Alumnus of the Year Omar Khan ‘90 not even understand until years later, and perhaps a few I still do not fully comprehend and, above, a bit earlier in his tenure today. It is difficult to fathom his service in those terms, in terms that exemplify, and exceed, the principles of service that Mr. Grier-Reynolds once taught us. We owe a tremendous debt of gratitude to him and to them. They have served not only students like us but, through us, also the communities in which we live and will live, for generations to come. Over two thousand years ago, the Greek historian Plutarch wrote, “The mind is not a vessel to be filled, but a fire to be ignited.” It is funny to think in terms of retirement. The embers of Mr. GrierReynolds’ labor will burn for generations. In that small room on a military base in northern Iraq were many different voices, voices from across the political spectrum, voices from across the United States. There were voices that spoke to fighting the enemy and voices that could, within minutes, mobilize a battalion of troops to capture and kill. There was also a voice that demanded American resources be leveraged for peace, justice, and social change. That was the voice of Mr. Grier-Reynolds. Summer 2011 Friends magazine 18 Summer2011 2011•••Friends Friendsmagazine magazine 18 Summer

Auction for Friends, April 2011 Thank You! The Auction for Friends “Farmers’ Market” (a combined online, silent, and live auction) raised almost $135,000 to support financial aid at Wilmington Friends—the equivalent of a year’s income from $2.7 million in endowment. What a gift. Thanks to our event chairs, Mati Buccini and Kathleen Ganse, and to their enthusiastic and dedicated committee. Special thanks to Barclays, to Dan Butler and Toscana Catering, and to the Aerenson family and Fairfax Discount Liquors; to our live auction master of ceremonies, Chris Coons; to Chris Verry and the WFS Jazz Band; to Long Life Bags and to Marini Produce. And of course, thank you to all of the businesses and individuals who donated items (like the beautiful Friends quilt, pictured at right, made by Gretchen Gobris); to our generous sponsors; and to everyone who volunteered, attended, and enjoyed this wonderful evening. We’ll see you at the next Auction for Friends, in April 2013.

Auction for Friends Volunteers Event Co-Chairs Mati Buccini Kathleen Ganse Committee Clerks Lori Captain Audy Carroccia Danette Conley Gretchen Gobris Lisa Bariglio-Maas and Sean Maas Julie Boswell McCulloch ’89 Moira Pando Laura Rossi LeeAnn Trudel Committee Lauren Asher Gigi Clark Katy Connolly Amy Crain Heyward Damon Tori Davis-Artis Nancy Denney Lyn Fink Michelle Gardiner Mo Gavin Sarah Gordon Maria Halpern Linda Jaworski Joanne McGeoch Robyn Malone Karen Mannke Angel Moser Elisa Morris Susan Owen Lisa Pearce Nancy Pribble Tara Quinn Maureen Rhodes Debbie Ross Betsy Scott Maggie Swanson Susan Terranova Faculty & Staff Ray Carbone Kelley Cox Taiasha Elmore Susan Morovati Finizio ’87 Stacy Gatti Megan Hegenbarth Sinead Horan Bill Howell

Steve Jennings Stephanie Knudsen Trish Kocher Joe Kruk Debbie McCall Tracy McMillan Gregg Miller Lynne Nathan Mimi Otto Lisa Peyton-McNeill Eric Rizzi Lauryn Satterfield Sarah Stock Patterson Todd Tyler Chris Verry

Auction for Friends Sponsors Platinum AgilityGaurad/Dental Associates of Delaware Delaware Open MRI Dr. Sean Maas, Spinal Pain & Injury Specialist Dynamic Physical Therapy EMG Medical, PA Gold Dentistry for Children Potter Anderson & Corroon LLP Silver Carl Doubet Jewelers Daniel W. Fink DDS Delaware Neurosurgical Group Fairfax Discount Liquors Modern Controls, Inc. Schlosser and Associates Mechanical Contractors The Buccini/ Pollin Group, Inc. ThinkIt Partners WFS Board of Trustees Bronze Jlynne Consulting Group, LLC Pioneer Fence Co., Inc. Reclaimed Roofs, Inc. Sir Speedy Sonitrol Security of Delaware Valley Source Supply Tri-State Carpet Inc.

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Malone Family Foundation Gift & WFS Endowment Friends School Recognized in National Scholarship Program for Serving Gifted Students

Wilmington Friends School was selected to receive $2 million in endowment for financial aid through the Malone Scholars Program. Friends is the first and only school in Delaware to be selected. The criteria for selection include the schools’: • “academic caliber; • the quality of their staff; • excellent accommodations for gifted and talented students; • strong AP [IB] and enrichment programs; • attention to the individual student's needs, interests, and talents; • ﬁnancial strength and stability; • a commitment to ﬁnancial aid; • and an economically, culturally, ethnically, and socially diverse population.” The scholarships are designated for students in grades 7-12.

Congratulations to the faculty of Friends School for this national recognition of their extraordinary work. Thank you to the families, alumni, and friends who support Friends School — and thank you to the Malone Family Foundation. 302.576.2930 admissions@wilmingtonfriends.org www.wilmingtonfriends.org

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What does a $2 million endowment mean to WFS?

Tribute/honor endowments have been created:

When fully implemented, the Malone Foundation endowment will generate about $100,000 each year for tuition aid, books, and other school expenses, allowing six students (in grades 7-12) per year to attend WFS.

• The Winifred and Quintin E. Primo, Jr. Endowment Fund – Quintin Primo ’73 created this fund in honor of his parents; the fund supports financial aid for students who begin their WFS careers in the Early Learning Center.

How much is in WFS endowment now? With the Malone gift, the endowment is the largest it has ever been, at press time valued at $21 million. How does that compare to other independent schools? The best way to compare endowments is by looking at the endowment per student. With the addition of the Malone gift, the WFS endowment will now be $19,726 per student compared to a $32,564 average for member schools of NAIS (National Association of Independent Schools). The “best practices” thinking is that endowment should be about 2.5 to 3 times the value of the operating budget. The WFS operating budget is just over $18 million. With an endowment of $21 million, we have room to grow toward a recommended endowment vaue of $45 million to $54 million. How is the endowment designated? 17% Faculty Salaries, Professional Development & Travel 30% Financial Aid 3%

Other: Community Service, Library, Life Ed, Arts, Science

50% Unrestricted Why does WFS need endowment funds? Endowment allows us to control tuition costs, while still meeting our goals of providing excellent and always improving programs, paying faculty competitively, and providing financial aid. Friends is a very old school; why isn’t the endowment larger? Well, we got a late start. Traditionally, in part because of a belief roughly translated as “pay as you go,” Quaker schools invested heavily in facilities, tuition support, and faculty, but not in endowment. Our endowment was only established in the 1970’s, with less than $1 million. How has the WFS endowment grown over the years? The Endowment Committee of the Board of Trustees manages these funds. Our payout is conservative at 5% per year over a 5-year average of the market values at March 31. Although returns have consistently outperformed the benchmarks, the most significant way the endowment has grown is through generous gifts from alumni, parents, parents of alumni, and other friends of the school. Many gifts have been planned gifts. All planned gifts are invested in the endowment unless the donor requests otherwise. Two recent examples of planned gifts: • Dorothy Aspin Baugher ’32 Tuition Aid Fund—A WFS lifer and long-time faculty member, Dorothy left a wonderful bequest to Friends to create this fund. • Genevieve Gore Endowment Fund—Vieve, whose four grandchildren attended Friends, left part of her retirement plan to set up an unrestricted endowment. Several classes have established endowment funds to give back to WFS at reunion time: • Special thanks to the classes of 1946, 1955, 1956, 1957, and 1960.

• Babette Block Rogers Scholarship Fund – As a way to say thank you to their mom for the sacrifices she made to send them to WFS, John Urice ’64 and Stephen Urice ’68 set up this fund. Endowments have been established to honor faculty members: • Lisa Darling Endowment for Friends • Wilmot R. Jones Endowment for Faculty Salaries • Savery Science Fund • Emma Worrell Library Fund • And our newest: Coach Tattersall Endowment for Financial Aid Parents, children, spouses/partners, siblings, and classmates have created a lasting legacy for a loved one by establishing a memorial endowment fund: • Andrew J. Biddle ’90 Financial Aid Fund • Biggs Memorial Library Fund • Edward G. Crum, Jr. ’51 Financial Aid Fund • Gawthrop Memorial Library Fund • Robert P. Hukill ’49 Science Fund • Christopher C. Mellor Scholarship Fund • Philip Mintz ’84 Endowment for Vocal/Choral Arts • Michael Mitchell ’78 Memorial Scholarship Fund • Elizabeth B. Peters Faculty Study Grant • Jonathan Bacon Smith ’83 and Wendy Smith McMillan ’77 Memorial Fund • Robinson and Snodgrass Family Endowment Fund • Thomas B. Taylor ’66 Memorial Fund Donors have provided funding for a particular program or special interest: • Reilly Family Travel Fund —Established by Alice Reilly to provide summer travel abroad opportunities for faculty members. • Ira T. Ellis ’52 Scholarship Fund—Ira contributes to this fund every year, and has a bequest planned to add to its value in the future. How can I establish an endowment fund? An endowment fund can be established in many ways: 1. For a named endowment like those mentioned above, the minimum is $25,000, but it can be funded over a five-year period. 2. You may contribute to any of our established endowment funds, including unrestricted endowment. Like all gifts to the school, these gifts can be in honor or memory of a loved one, faculty member, or classmate. 3. Leaving a planned gift as part of our 1748 Society is an easy way to create an endowment fund. How do I make a planned gift? • You can add WFS as a beneficiary to your will or estate plan, which is easy and costs you nothing during your lifetime. This is the way most planned gifts come to WFS. • You can add WFS as a beneficiary of your retirement plan. • You can add WFS as a beneficiary of a life insurance policy. • You can establish a Charitable Gift Annuity that will pay you income. For more information, visit our website at www.wilmingtonfriends.org/givetofriends and review the information under “planned giving.” Or contact Judy Aliquo, Director of Development at 302.576.2980 or jaliquo@wilmingtonfriends.org.

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Spring ƒ 2011 Performing Arts The upper school spring play, To Kill a Mockingbird, featured show-stopping performances and generated important conversations in and outside of classes (top right and inset). Students from the Early Learning Center through upper school presented wonderful spring concerts. Pictured clockwise from right: Seventh and Eighth Grade Band; first and second graders reaching for their dreams; performers in the less formal, and very enjoyable, upper school “Pops” Concert and in the Fourth and Fifth Grade Band; mischievous monkeys in the pre-kindergarten/kindergarten concert; and the joyful noise of the middle and upper school choirs singing together. In All-State choral recognitions this year, all four upper school students who auditioned for All-State Senior Choir were selected: Jordan Beard ’11, Molly Marcus ’14, Daniel Potter ’12, and Danielle Radacosky-Pentoney ’12. Middle school student Emma Wren was chosen for the All-State Junior Choir. In addition, Daniel Potter was accepted into the ACDA National Men’s Honor Choir; middle school student Alexandra Musi was accepted into the ACDA National Children’s Honors Choir; and Danielle Radacosky-Pentoney was selected for the Sound of America Honors Choir. In All-State instrumental ensembles, Sabrina Lessner ’11 was selected for Senior All-State Band for the fourth year, and this year, was also chosen for Senior All-State Jazz Band and for AllState Orchestra. Chris Getty ’12 was chosen for Senior All-State Band, and Jack Hollingsworth ’13 was selected for All-State Orchestra.

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Visual Arts Culminating events of the year in visual arts included the IB/ Art Major Visual Arts Exhibition and the Lower School Art Expo. Middle school students had a beautiful art classroom, newly renovated for 2010-11, with its own laptop cart, allowing for an expanded curricular emphasis on digital media. And there is still, of course, plenty of hands-to-material work as well.

Above and right: From the IB Art Exhbition, works by Julie Ly ’11, and a tired art student and entertaining wicked witch installation by Hannah Day ‘11

Above, right, far right: Middle school projects, undertaken in the renovated art room, included digital photography, “public messages,” and creations with recycled and recyclable material.

Above, above right, right, far right: From the Lower School Art Expo in May

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Spring Sports Highlights Congratulations to the coaching staff of the Friends boys’ lacrosse team for “sweeping” the Delaware Lacrosse Foundation’s coaching recognitions for 2011: Head Coach Jake Rashkind, Coach of the Year; Ray Carbone, Assistant Coach of the Year; Lee Powers (assistant coach), Person of the Year, for his work as director of programming for LEAPS (Lacrosse Education Attitude Perseverance), a program that takes lacrosse to inner city and disadvantaged youth who otherwise would not have a chance to play.

Girls’ lacrosse finished 6-9, highlighted by dramatic one-goal wins over Tatnall and Brandywine. Six players earned AllConference recognition. Girls’ soccer was 9-4-2, with all losses by 1-2 goals and an average win margin of 4 goals. Sophomore Lindsay Aleman was named to the All-State second team, and senior Jessica Swain was named to the All-State third team. A total of nine Friends players earned All-Conference recognition in soccer.

At the Delaware Lacrosse Federation Dinner in June, Friends coaches and award recipients Lee Powers, Jake Rashkind, and Ray Carbone

Tennis advanced to the state tournament quarterfinals in five brackets. Both the boys’ (6-8 regular season) and the girls’ (8-6 regular season) teams finished in the state top 10. In track and field, five Friends athletes qualified for the state meet; Mira Bragg ’11 had two top-five finishes at states. Parthena Moisiadis ’11 broke three school distance records, including a record previously held by Division I standout Alex Coppadge ’06.

Friends baseball celebrated a winning season, 10-8, sealed with a big 8-0 win vs. Mt. Pleasant in the finale. The baseball team earned six All-Conference recognitions.

Junior John Miraglia on the mound in a big win over previously undefeated Tatnall Boys’ lacrosse finished 12-4, as cochamps of the Independent Conference, and ranked in the state’s top five. Three players earned second team AllState recognition: senior Sam Davis, and sophomores Sam Carney and Max Davis. Eight Friends players were recognized as All-Conference. 24 24

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The annual Athletic Dinner featured presentations by student-athletes, including Sam Davis ’11, who was a threesport captain (football, swimming, lacrosse), and received first team All-Conference honors in all three sports and All-State recognition in football and lacrosse. Sam is one of 11 members of the Class of 2011 with confirmed plans to play varsity sports in college; he will play lacrosse at Goucher.

From top: Girls’ lax celebrates a win over conference rival Tatnall; second row: soccer co-captain Jessica Swain ’11, eighth grader Annie Jaskulski who played first singles for Friends varsity tennis; third row: Mira Bragg ’11 had two top-five finishes in hurdle events at the state championship meet, track team co-captain Logan Joyce ’12; inset: Sam Davis ’11 at the Athletic Dinner; left: The 2011 Independent Conference champion boys’ lacrosse team

Spring ƒ 2011 And More....

John Fairchild ’11 was one of four student winners in the 2011 Common Wealth Awards Essay Writing Contest. John’s essay was about award winner George Will. (Photo courtesy of PNC)

And Still More…. Mara Freilich ’11 was named a National Merit Scholar, and Ben Horstmann ’12 was selected as a National Hispanic Scholar.

Every seventh grader completed a stewardship project outside of school and did a presentation to the class about the service experience.

The Lower School STEM (science, technology, engineering, mathematics) Lab had its official opening, with the “Marshmallow Challenge,” in which students design and build a tower using spaghetti, string, and tape, with a marshmallow on top.

As part of the Peace, Justice, and Social Change course, Friends hosted a Colloquium on Seeking Peace and Reconciliation in Israel and Palestine, with eight guest panelists representing a variety of perspectives.

French V students participated in a Skype discussion with students in Mali, through a program of the Millennium Cities Initiative at Columbia University.

Eighth graders and kindergarten/pre-first students visited the Delaware Children’s Museum together in May. The eighth grade students had designed activities for the Museum’s younger guests as part of a class service project.

Lower school Grandparents and Special Friends Day, as always, drew a big and enthusiastic crowd.

The Middle/Upper School Science Expo featured displays from class work and activities for young visitors. The Lower School Field Day and Family Picnic, a great way to welcome summer.

For the second year, middle school science students raised shad fry in the classroom and released them into the Brandywine River, a project conceived by Louise Connelly ’11 and Parthena Moisiadis ’11 and run by the Brandywine Conservancy.

The Middle School and Elementary Science Olympiad teams earned a total of 11 top-10 medals at their state competitions, including two first place awards. Mara Freilich ’11 was Delaware’s winner in the National Peace Essay Contest, earning a $1000 scholarship and the opportunity to attend a national program this summer. Travis Aerenson ’15 and Jamie MartelliRaben ’14 were among the students selected for the 2011 Governor’s Youth Volunteer Service Award in Human Needs for their work with the Haiti Family Initiative. Friends was the only school in Delaware to advance to the second round of the 2011 Moody’s Mega Math Challenge. Jordan Beard ’11 received the President’s Volunteer Service Award; she had previously received the Governor’s Youth Volunteer Service Award.

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FACULTY NEWS Interview With New Head of Lower School Annette Hearing From July 2008 through June 2011, Annette was Lower School Principal at Westtown School; she had been a classroom teacher for 16 years. Previously, Annette was an attorney. She received a B.A. in Political Science from St. Francis College; a J.D. from Villanova University School of Law, where she was honored with the American Association of Trial Lawyers Award; and an M.A. in Elementary Education from Widener University. Annette participated in the Friends Council on Education’s “Institute for Engaging Leadership,” 2009-2011 cohort. We thank her for participating in this email interview at possibly the worst time of year for a division head, especially during a job transition. What attracted you to Wilmington Friends? The very first attraction to Wilmington Friends was my friendship with Melissa Brown, Associate Director of Admissions. Melissa and I were both part of the latest cohort in the Friends Council on Education Leadership Institute. In early November of this year, we had a session right after the job at Wilmington Friends was posted on the Friends Council website. Melissa encouraged me to explore the position. Once I met Bryan Garman and visited the school to meet with the search committee, I was hooked. I like the vision, which I saw through their eyes and heard through their voices. My dilemma was that I loved my job as Lower School principal at Westtown School on so many levels. When I returned to Wilmington for my two-day visit as a finalist, I had an opportunity to meet with many Lower School faculty members and administrators. I was so impressed with everyone and with their dedication and energy. I found that I continued to think back on the time I’d spent at Wilmington Friends with great fondness, even though it had been such a relatively short visit. I spent a lot of time in the following weeks, as Wilmington Friends was making its own decision, trying to discern my own leading. The rest is obviously history, but my two visiting days near the end of school confirmed my leading that Wilmington Friends School was the right choice for me. I feel sorry to leave colleagues, families, and friends at Westtown, but I am looking forward to new friendships and new working relationships. Those I’ve worked with will always be in my heart and I’m ready to add more children, more teachers, and more parents to my life as an educator. What inspired you to become a teacher/administrator in elementary education? As a child, I always thought that I would grow up to be a teacher. I loved school and wanted to spend my life learning! When I went off to college, I intended to major in elementary education and, on registration day, went over to the table for education majors. I was told that I needed to take a one-credit course in blowing the pitch pipe (probably now called something far more sophisticated and technological). I argued that I didn’t need to waste a full course on something so simple but was told it was a requirement for graduation. In my adolescent wisdom, I changed my major at that very moment to political science and went on to complete degrees in political science and then law and subsequently work as a lawyer for a number of years.

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After my third child was born, I decided to be at home full time with my children and left the practice of law. I loved every moment of being home with my own children, several foster children, and those of friends. Several years later, when my fourth child was entering prekindergarten, I went back to practicing law part time, but realized my heart was really with children and my original vision of teaching. I returned to school for a master’s degree in elementary education and have loved working as a teacher and administrator ever since. What do you see as the most important/most distinguishing features of Quaker education? Without a doubt, it’s the belief that there is that of God in every person. From that central belief comes, of course, a respect for each and every person and a recognition that wisdom comes from everyone, not just from the adults. In a Quaker school, the respect is manifest everywhere—in the ways everyone in the community (adult and child) treats one another. The recognition that wisdom comes from everywhere is very clear any time one sits in Meeting for Worship with children. Meeting for Worship is such an important—actually central—feature of Quaker education. It provides an opportunity for every person to pause and reflect on their own lives and on life around them. There is so little opportunity for that in our very busy world and providing that space and opportunity, as well as modeling the importance of taking time to reflect on our lives, is a real gift of a Quaker education. What’s the best class you ever took and why? When my children were little, I took a pottery course at the local art center. At the time, I was home with young children. It felt like I was working 24/7, but I never had a finished product. When I worked as a lawyer, settling a case or finishing a document that needed to be submitted, I was constantly completing things. I longed for a finished product, and even the grocery shopping seemed not to finish anything. My children were eating the food as I unpacked it or putting on the clothes I’d just finished washing and drying. Little did I know then, when my children were quite young, that there’s never a finished product. I’m not a finished product, so why would they ever be? Anyway, I discovered that making a piece of pottery was a very satisfying thing. I could shape it and then either decide I didn’t like it and smush it up (something one certainly never does with children) or glaze and fire it. Learning to center a chunk of clay on a wheel was much like centering down in Meeting for Worship. It required a certain discipline, but also an ability to let go and just feel what was happening. Once I began to teach, I found that working with a piece of clay on the wheel required a lot of the same skills as good teaching. I needed first to make sure that I was ready to begin; I needed to mentally prepare for the work. I needed to be both strong and gentle. With clay, that meant strong enough to actually use the energy of the spinning wheel to bring the hunk of clay into center and resist the gravitational pull away from center, but I also needed to be gentle in raising the clay up once it was centered, knowing when to slow down or repeat any particular motion. So, too, with teaching as you adjust to the needs of each particular child, with both strength and gentleness. I found that working with clay required patience, both with the clay and with myself, as does teaching children. Finally, I found that clay, like a child, is very forgiving. One can always mush the clay back into a ball and start over, much as you need to be able to do with any teaching when you see that a child is not responding to a particular method. Although I rarely have time to work in my outdoor pottery shed any more, it’s an important part of my home as its presence in my yard reminds me to center on what’s important.

Annette installing a peace pole at Westtown School on Earth Day 2010

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We are grateful for Class Agent Doris Biesterfeld Townshend’s tenacity, as she tracked down classmates this spring for updates. Of the 12 surviving class members, eight shared news with Dorothy, who summarized what she called the “reminiscences of our times at Friends School, by 90-year-old graduates.” From Stephen Roszel: “My favorite memories are of the friends made there. We were like a great big family.” Sarah Eliason Englehard echoed the sentiment: “Friendships were the best part of those years and they have lasted right up to the present.” One of Jack Hoopes’ favorite memories goes back to second grade when Miss Gaines introduced him to music—“To a Wild Rose,” “Frere Jacque,” and “In the Hall of the Mountain King”—on the third floor of the old school at Fourth and West. Jack also recalled the exciting time when he and others played hookie to go down to the railroad station to see Jane Bridgewater off on a trip to Bermuda. Another memory was of Bob Lincoln, daring to climb out of the second story window in Miss Bell’s English class. Her retort, in a stern voice: “We don’t DO that.” One of Doris’s own favorite memories was of Principal Wilmot Jones reading Ferdinand the Bull at morning assembly. The bull didn’t want to fight; he just wanted to smell the flowers thrown into the arena. “The point?” Doris said, “Let’s all take time to stop and smell the flowers.” Mary Louise Shoemaker Lind fondly recalled the highlight of her senior year when she was voted May Queen, complete with court attending her on the lawn in front of the school building.

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Nancy Wells (See Class of 1939.) The Class of 1941 has been gearing up for a strong showing at their 70th Reunion this October. (Sadly, they will be without the primary organizer of events, due to the death in June of Brud Bispham; please see “In Memory.”) Members of the class met on June 28 in the Jones House at Friends—photo to follow in the next magazine issue.

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Alice Ivy (See photo with 1949.)

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1952

Fred Pardee and Bill Quillen (See photo, page 28.)

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Congratulations to Stuart Young, who was named one of two “Wilmingtonians of the Year” in the CityLife Awards in December. Writer Ira Porter of The News Journal wrote that as “former chairman of the board of the Delaware College of Art and Design, [Stuart] was cited for raising money for the arts and his leadership of causes around the city… Stuart was quoted as saying: “I’m a local guy. I live in this city. I love it here.”

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A few members of the Class of 1949 (plus one 1948’er) got together in October 2010 at Pizza by Elizabeths in Wilmington. Pictured are: David Henke, Betty Papastavros, Loretta Setter, Connie Henke, Alice Ivy ’48, and Jean Morris Smith. 1951

Don “Chick” Altmaier and Ann Biggs will be showing some of their paintings at the alumni art show during Homecoming this year. Jay Maston instigated a mini-reunion on his annual baseball spring training trip, and met up with Helen Burr Nulse, who lives in Naples, FL, and Judy and Ed Morrow, who have a seasonal home in Naples.

Debbie Cox Harrington’s memories of Friends School included friendships, still sustained with Sue Merrick, now living at Stonegates in Greenville, and Jane Bridgewater Hews in California. Jane is “on the go” a lot, especially with trips to Connecticut College as an active alumna. She and Bill were planning to take their family to Hawaii this summer. Jane remembered Miss Bell’s English classes with fondness because a love of books and literature was instilled there. Debbie and Joe enjoy their summer house in Rehoboth Beach, where they entertain four grandchildren and four great-grandchildren.

Her recently published book No, Mama, I Didn’t Die: My Life as a Stolen Baby continues to add adventure to Devereaux Rose Bruch’s life. “Just back from London,” she wrote us in May. “The book was well received at the London book fair. A second sister surfaced January 24, 2011 on my father’s side. Now I have two sisters (that’s it!)—one in Memphis, one in Nashville. Have been doing lots of talk radio and T.V. This life is a whirlwind at 73.”

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Marcia Stirling Quillen (See photo, page 28.)

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In the face of cancer, Jay Dalgliesh is living life to its fullest and in January traveled to New Zealand and Tasmania with his wife Betsy and friends. On Jay’s CaringBridge site (http:// www.caringbridge.org/visit/jaydalgliesh), Betsy wrote: “We hiked and laughed and drank fine wine to our hearts’ content. Great therapy… Jay still goes to work daily, and attacks yard chores vigorously on weekends. The therapies he has chosen, after much consideration, are high dose Interleukon-2 and a homeopathic/ nutraceutical protocol.” Please visit the CaringBridge site to add notes to Jay.

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Robert Scott, Jr. (See 1971.)

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Ann Scott Black (See 1971.)

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Thank you, Doris! Nancy Wells ’41 was kind enough to send us an additional update on Doris, who was written up in the East Haven Courier on February 24, 2011, as “Person of the Week.” Nancy wrote: “New Haven friends tell me that Doris is famous there for having ‘really made a difference’ in the community.”

Condolences to Sue Munson Winkemeier, whose husband, Howard “Wink” Winkemeier, passed away on April 18, 2011.

Jay Maston, Helen Burr Nulse, Judy Mayfield Morrow Condolences to Jody Taylor Linton, whose husband T. Jerry Linton died on April 30, 2011. Jerry and Jody are the parents of Jeffry Linton ’77, David Connor-Linton ’78 and Kimberley Linton Coombs ’81.

In December 2010, Judith Starr, the General Counsel of the Pension Benefit Guaranty Corporation issued a statement: “I am pleased to announce that the Office of White House Counsel has requested, and I have agreed, that we lend them our own Jay Resnick for a detail of 180 days. Although being without Jay for 180 days is difficult to face, it is a great opportunity for him and a great bridgebuilding opportunity for PBGC that our Director fully supports.” Jay wrote that he was working hard in his new role, and that it Summer 2011 • Friends magazine

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was, “interesting to be there, and having the West Wing be a place to meet instead of a TV show.”

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where he is thriving. I love knitting, quilting, organic cooking, and reading, among other things. My wings are currently a bit clipped as I await a kidney transplant [for complications] resulting from an autoimmune disease. But, I enjoy a wonderful life and so look forward to the day a kidney is found so that I can be more active with my family and community, along with travel—something we love to do!”

Barbara Murphy logged into our website to send this update: “I was recently honored to be elected President of the American Institute of Professional Geologists (AIPG). I look forward to serving as President-elect in 2011 1977 and then as President in 2012. AIPG, founded Jeffry Linton (See 1951.) in 1963, is the largest association dedicated to promoting geology as a profession and emphasizes competence, integrity, and 1978 & 1979 ethics. It has nearly 6000 members in the David Connor-Linton (See 1951.) US and abroad. AIPG adheres to the principles of professionalism of geological scientists in all branches of the science with members employed in industry, government, and academia. I have been an active member of AIPG in the Arizona Section and at the national level for many years. I am a Senior Geologist with the consulting firm of Clear Creek Associates in the Scottsdale, AZ office. Clear Creek focuses on environmental geology and hydrogeology projects with offices in AZ, CA, and VA. My interest in geology started with Mr. Hill’s earth science class in ninth grade. The graduation ceremony at The Kinkaid School in Houston, Texas on May 20, I still live in Glendale, AZ with 2011, brought together a proud group of WFS parents and grandparents to my husband, Casey. We enjoy celebrate with Ben Pardee, son of Mike Pardee ’78 and grandson of Fred travel, sightseeing, photography, Pardee ’52, and Caitlin Lohrenz, daughter of Carol Quillen ’79 and grandand hiking, and visits to southern daughter of Marcia Stirling Quillen ’56 and Bill Quillen ’52. Left to right in the photo: Mike, Fred, Ben, Caitlin, Bill, Marcia, and Carol (a Kinkaid Trustee). CA to see daughter Kelly, and to Dallas, TX to see daughter Erin, her husband, Todd, and granddaughters, 1981 Emma and Eliza.” The Community News highlighted Andy Aerenson and his son, Travis ’15, in an article Condolences to Thomas Scott and wife Betsy about their service trip to Haiti in August Lord Scott, Robert Scott, Jr. ’63 and Ann 2010. The two participated in a summer camp Scott Black ’65, whose father Robert “Bob” organized by the Haitian Family Initiative Scott died on March 2, 2011. Bob and his for homeless earthquake victims in Jacmel. wife “Muff” have been extremely active in Reporter André Lamar wrote: “Among the the Friends School community. In addition Aerensons’ duties were [playing games] to his children and Muff, Bob’s survivors such as American football and soccer with include grandchildren Clayton Scott ’15 and Haitian children…Travis, added, it ‘was an Alexander Scott ’16. opportunity for kids in a different situation to have a good day…[the trip] was so other-worldly and [was] 1975 made even better because of the The Alumni Office father-son experience.’” Since received a lovely card then, Travis was selected for the from Lisa Layton 2011 Governor’s Youth Volunteer McKeeman, who Service Award in the category of wrote: “In 2000, I Human Needs, along with Jamie moved to Camden, Martelli-Raben ’14 and 13 other Maine, a small midDelaware students. coast town, with my husband Sam and Kimberley Linton Coombs (See son, Colin, now 20. 1951.) We live in a little spot of heaven. Sam has always been a civil 1982 servant, about which On April 12, Communities in I am very proud. Schools of Wilmington—an Colin is a gift of love organization which strives and joy. He attends “to surround students with Dalhousie University a community of support, Lisa Layton McKeeman ’75 with son Colin in Halifax, Canada, empowering them to stay in and husband Sam 28

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Carol Quillen ’79 Named President of Davidson College (Information from the Davidson College press release) On May 26, 2011, the Davidson College Board of Trustees elected Carol Quillen as the 18th president of the College. In making the announcement, Davidson’s Board chair, Mackey McDonald ’68, described Carol: “A brilliant administrator and a talented teacher and scholar, she can articulate not only the value, but also the necessity of a liberal arts education,” adding, “we could not be more enthusiastic about welcoming her to Davidson.” Carol will be the first woman President of Davidson and the first non-graduate appointed to that role since the 1940’s.

“It’s an honor for Rice that one of ours has been chosen to lead a place as respected as Davidson. I’ve worked very closely over the years with Carol Quillen—she’s a strategic thinker and an outstanding collaborator....” Carol has had a long and distinguished career at Rice University in Houston, where she has been on the faculty since 1990 and has served in a number of administrative roles. James W. Crownover, chair of Rice University’s Board of Trustees, said, “It’s an honor for Rice that one of ours has been chosen to lead a place as respected as Davidson. I’ve worked very closely over the years with Carol Quillen—she’s a strategic thinker and an outstanding collaborator. It’s easy to see how smart and inspiring she is; what’s harder to see, but what’s also true, is that she’s very hard-working. She has a commitment to doing things well, and to helping those around her do well, too. She will work hard, and she will succeed for Davidson.” The announcement of Carol’s appointment noted that she “grew up in New Castle, Del., a small town where she says ‘it was second nature to support the community and look out for other people.’” The announcement also noted that Carol had attended Quaker school, from kindergarten through high school. Carol’s daughter, Caitlin, will be a firstyear student at the University of North Carolina next fall.

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New York Regional Reunion On May 12, retiring faculty Richard Bernard, Terry Maguire, and Rick Grier-Reynolds headed to New York City with Director of Development Judy Aliquo, for a Regional Reunion. While waiting for their train, they were approached by Jeff Monhait ‘05 and his dad, Norm Monhait (also a past trustee) who had seen the tribute to the three teachers in that day’s News Journal. It was a fitting way to start the day, which would include lunch and a cocktail reception, visiting with approximately 50 alumni. These Friends faculty members were joined for lunch near Penn Station at Lugo Caffé, by eight alumni who celebrated their shared Friends history and toasted their retiring teachers. Scott Jarrell ’95 then took them on a tour of The High Line and sent them off to enjoy Chelsea Market. In the afternoon, it was off to The Links, where Fran Biondi ’83 generously hosted more than 40 WFS alumni for cocktails, appetizers, and an evening of conversation and reminiscing. Head of School Bryan Garman, Associate Head of School and Head of Middle School Bill Neff, and Director of Alumni Relations Paige Meginley Winburn joined the event as well.

Top: Sohah Iqbal ’94 and Bryan Garman; above: Scott Jarrell ’95, Alan Hoff ’82, Rick Grier-Reynolds, Mike Smith ’97, Will Holloway, ’97, Judy Aliquo, (out of view: Rachel Grier-Reynolds), Richard Bernard, Raven Harris ’06, and Terry Maguire

Top right: Meg Gehret Erskine ’83, Jake Gehret ’77, and David Crosby ’75 Second row, left: Richard Bernard, Jeff Monhait ‘05, Norm Monhait, and Terry Maguire Second row, right: Adam Ellick ’95 and Jennifer DeCastro ‘96 Third row, left: Chip Oat ’70 remembered being taught by (a very young) Rick Grier-Reynolds at Friends, when Rick was right out of college. Third row, right: Kimberly Holton ’84, Bill Neff, Fran Biondi ’83, and Sharon Cohen ‘84 Above: Ashley Baelz ’02, Elana Caplan ’02, Kristin Foss ’04, James Melnick ’05, and Fazeel Khan ‘05

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school and achieve in life”—celebrated Jocelyn Sutton Stewart as one of its 2010/11 Unsung Heroes. Responsible for all community relations for Barclaycard US, Jocelyn was recognized for her development of the bank’s community strategy and her management of Barclays’ volunteer and financial resources; for her community work on the boards of EastSide Charter School, Bright Spot Ventures (a subsidiary of West End Neighborhood House), and Wilmington Friends; and for her involvement with the Delaware Mentoring Council, Judicial Nominating Committee, and Lt. Governor Matt Denn’s Policy Matters Committee.

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Ray Lloyd and his daughter Paige were highlighted in The News Journal in September for their shared success as ball players. Reporter Kevin Tresolini wrote, “Ray Lloyd, the former Wilmington Friends School AllStater, Philadelphia Phillies farmhand and dominant Delaware Semi-Pro League player, is now happy to make room in the local sports spotlight for daughter Paige.” Paige accepted a scholarship to Coastal Carolina for softball and said, “My dad has been amazing… Ever since I can remember, he’s been around baseball, and that’s been such an inspiration to me. I’ve always wanted to be like him and hit the ball like him.” David Venarde kindly followed up from the NY Regional Reunion (at left) with this update: “I’m in my final week [working] at NYU, after almost ten years here. I’ve held a variety of administrative and supervisory roles, in addition to providing direct clinical care to NYU students. I headed up our psychology fellowship program, our substance abuse team, and also served as deputy director. I’m [now] heading into full-time private practice, specializing in individual and couples treatment of adults, including those with substance abuse concerns. It’s exciting to be making the move!”

1984

Some of the most captivating films of recent years have been cast by Paul Schnee. He has worked on movies such as Monster’s Ball, Winter’s Bone, Conviction, Oliver Stone’s World Trade Center, and the recently released Peep World with Michael C. Hall, Sarah Silverman, and Rainn Wilson. An article in The News Journal described Paul’s rise to success, and the few detours along the way. By the early 2000’s, Paul had made his move into casting and said, “It really just clicked for me and seemed to be something I had a knack for and enjoyed—reading lots of scripts and responding to material.” (Expanded from spring 2011)

1991

A bottle-opener shaped like a crying baby. A cheese grater anthropomorphized to an elegantly dressed lady. A kitchen brush that looks like a punk rocker’s mohawk. These quirky images come to life in Christopher

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Raia’s whimsical industrial designs, which have been featured in O Magazine and The News Journal. “The Greens,” as his collection of kitchen tools is called, are made of recycled wood and plastic blend, and Chris’s industrial design firm has made it a business practice to donate 3% of all product royalties to non-profits. Chris said, “At Friends, we were exposed at an early age to the idea of helping others in need. This was certainly made real in the requirement to perform 50 hours of community service before graduating. My Service Project was working at the New Castle County Public Library. If I recall correctly, I stayed on there for a couple months even after graduation…I felt it was time wellspent…I would think my studio’s 3% policy is an extension of what I learned from that experience.” Look for Chris’s industrial designs to appear in our first alumni art show during Homecoming 2011.

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Beginning in June 2011, Jaime Lassman started a new job at his school, as the Director of Technology Integration and Curriculum. Jaime works at The Lexington School in Kentucky. In addition to overseeing the preschool through eighth grade curriculum, he will be working with teachers to design new instruction and incorporate technology into existing units.

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Beth Werkstell became engaged to Christian Brucculeri in October 2010. Beth and Christian currently live in New York City where Beth is a unit head at the Mayor’s Office of Management and Budget. She is responsible for managing the budget for the New York City Parks Department. Christian is a digital media consultant and MBA candidate at the New York University Stern School of Business. Beth and Christian are planning a January 2012 wedding in New York. Drew Dalton and wife Dahvia welcomed their first child on April 3—Beckett James Dalton, 8 pounds, 3 ounces, 21 inches. Proud grandmother Eileen Dalton reported, “Everybody happy and healthy.”

From Chris Raia’s design collection Congratulations to Sean Snyder who is engaged to Michelle Condon. They met through classmate Tim Boulos and his wife Helen. Sean’s photography will also be included in our first alumni art show during Homecoming 2011.

At Alumni Lacrosse Day (see page 32), Deane ’07, Kyle ’04, and Cary ’01 Mellor

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In the last 10 years Joshua Galperin has migrated from Delaware (college) to Vermont (law school), from Vermont to Connecticut (graduate school), from Connecticut back to Vermont (work) and is now in Knoxville, TN, where he is working as a policy analyst and research attorney with the Southern Alliance for Clean Energy. In 2009, the Vermont General Assembly, where Josh was then working, overrode a veto from the

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Governor and enacted a first-in-the-nation marriage equality law. Moved by the action, Josh proposed to his then girlfriend Sara Kuebbing. Knowing of their impending move to somewhat less progressive Tennessee, the two were married two weeks later in Vermont and in October 2010 they celebrated again in Rehoboth Beach. Judd Thornton and Drew Milford were groomsmen. From 2005-2009, Ed Simon worked on Capitol Hill for two Members of Congress, Ileana Ros-Lehtinen and Deborah Pryce. He is finishing up law school in December and will be taking the bar exam then.

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Raven Harris is working at Columbia University as a Research Assistant in a Neurobiology lab for two years before applying to MD/PhD programs. She graduated from Haverford College last year with a BS in Biology and received the Irving Finger Prize in Biology for outstanding growth and accomplishment within the major.

2007

Brooke Sheppard graduated from American University on May 8, 2011, cum laude, with a BS in Accounting and International Finance. She was named MVP of the AU women’s soccer team and was also named to the Patriot League All-Academic Team for 2010. She received her second consecutive All-Patriot League Second Team selection in the fall after recording a team-best nine points on three goals and three assists from the midfield. All of her goals this season were game-winners, and two came in sudden victory double overtime. Brooke played in every game during her four years at AU, which set a new program record for most career appearances. She had 11 career assists, seventh-most in program history, and seven goals, including five game-winners, for a total of 25 points. Last season, Brooke recorded a team-best of six assists, second most in the Patriot League.

2008

Congratulations to Reity O’Brien, a junior at the University of Delaware, who received the $10,000 William P. Frank Scholarship at the annual Gridiron Awards Dinner in May 2011.

Correction In our spring magazine, we reversed the names (and jersey numbers) of Neil Vosters ’69 (#16) and Robb Sultzer ’69 (#79) in the photo at left. Coach Tattersall, of course, noticed the error, and we thank him for the correction—and sorry to Neil and Robb.

FACULTY NEWS Brian Fahey & The Newbery Committee Fifth grade teacher Brian Fahey was chosen to serve on the 2011 Newbery Medal Selection Committee, a group of 15 educators—mostly librarians— from around the country. The Newbery Medal was named for 18th century British bookseller John Newbery, and is awarded annually by the Association for Library Service to Children, a division of the American Library Association, to the author of the most distinguished contribution to American literature for children.

Brian Fahey with some of his fifth grade students—and some of their favorite books What I love best about children’s literature is that quality of transporting the reader. In the very best books we become momentarily lost....

When I was in fifth grade a trip to the school library was always a treat. I loved the quiet space and the freedom to roam in search of something good to read. On one such trip our perfect librarian, Mrs. Fox, gave my class a presentation on the Newbery Award. She told us about the history of the award and mentioned some of the books that had that shiny gold sticker on their cover. She gave an enthusiastic review of that year’s winner, Mrs. Frisby and the Rats of NIMH. The moment that she finished her presentation I raced to the shelf to snatch the book, but it had been signed out already. Mrs. Fox told me that Jack Jackson, a sixth grader, had signed it out and that he would have it for two weeks, unless he finished it early and returned it. For two weeks I walked past Jack’s house on the way to school and looked at the windows on the second floor, hoping that he had lain in bed the night before and finished the last pages of Mrs. Frisby. Jack made me wait the whole two weeks. As soon as I began the book I forgot about the suffering of having to wait so long. I became swept up in the plight of Mrs. Frisby, the widowed mouse whose son is ill and won’t survive the move to their summer home, and I learned to trust Nicodemus, the highly capable rat who agrees to help her. I entered a different world and forgot about my own. What I love best about children’s literature is that quality of transporting the reader. In the very best books we become momentarily lost, and when we are finished reading we come back feeling different, or feeling changed. Thousands of us went to the county fair and felt changed by Charlotte A. Cavatica, whose bravery and loyalty saved Wilbur, the runt of the litter. Charlotte’s Web transported us to that barnyard in Maine, but it also took us inside our own hearts; we learned from a wise, brave, and loyal spider how to love one another. Through literature, children and teachers get to ask the big questions. This spring my class asked if evolution was still going on, or if humans have reached their ultimate form. At different times during this year books have caused us to wonder about time travel and the theory of relativity, the existence and purpose of angels, and the meaning of home and family. This year’s Newbery Award winner, Moon Over Manifest, asked us to consider this: Who would dream that one could love without being crushed under the weight of it?

It was a yearlong thrill to be on the Newbery Award committee. Day after day boxes of books thumped outside my front door, and the possibility that this year’s winner could be inside this box never failed to excite me. All of us on the committee read hundreds of books and exchanged as many emails about what we were reading and about the joys and frustrations of looking for “the most distinguished contribution to children’s literature.” I read constantly. When I went on vacation for two weeks last summer I took one suitcase that held only books. When our committee met in January to name the winner of the Newbery Award, and the Newbery Honor books, I was proud that we had made our own contribution to children’s literature by recommending books that will continue to take readers on extraordinary journeys and encourage them to ask the big questions.

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Alumni Lacrosse Game Day • Saturday, June 4, 2011 It all started with a conversation between Coach Jake Rashkind and Jeff Palmer ’04 before the 2010 Homecoming Smith McMillan 5K. Their enthusiasm for a first ever alumni lacrosse game spread quickly to the Alumni Office and to Jeff’s classmate, Sarah Lester ’04, and to the girls’ team and its coach Pigeon Pollard Graham ’93. By the time the actual games rolled around, the planning team had rallied—mostly via Facebook— more than 45 alumni players and another 50+ spectators. With perfect weather, the games between alumni and current Friends players Cat Weidwald Stenta ’96 were close (and and her son, our youngest injury free), and fan of the day the alumni teams won! On the sidelines of the men’s team, we overheard some current players marvel at the…ahem…longevity of the alumni skills, with this observation: “We’re getting pushed around by a bunch of old guys.” While many alumni players were heard to say, “What?! It’s only been five minutes? Are you sure that clock’s right?” A running clock was implemented as soon as the alumni got the lead.

Women’s Alumni Game: Front row: Vicqui Yu ’08, Megan Venetianer ’08, Martha Poorman Tschantz ’85, Meg Gehret Erskine ’83, Lindsay Richards Abel ’93, Akemi Moriouchi (Friends associate teacher and assistant coach), Kristin Lang ’10, Leah Rizzo ’11 Back row, Left to Right: Kate Mraz ’16, Jaclyn Mraz ’01, Sarah Lester ’04, Michelle Burke Kelly ’90, Catherine Weidwald Stenta ’96, Grace Heck ’06, Katie Hunt ’06, Lindsay Reese ‘11, Julie Ly ‘11, Alyn O’Brien ‘11, Perrin Downing ’09, Carrie Hopkins ‘08, Pigeon Pollard Graham ’93, Marion Rothbart Newbold ’78 (not pictured: Julie Tattersall McGinnis ’82)

The women players summed up the friendly spirit of competition at the end of their game with cheers. The alumni yelled out, “Thank you officials; thank you, babies; who you callin’ grandma now?” And the current players responded, “We let you win, grandmas!”

Bill ‘09 and John ‘05 Goswell

SAVE THE DATE!

Ready to join in the fun? Save the date for Saturday, June 2, 2012, for the next Alumni Lacrosse Game Day & Picnic. Interested in having your spring sport participate? We can help. Email alumni@wilmingtonfriends.org

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Organizers: Jeffrey Palmer ’04, Varsity boys’ coach Jake Rashkind, Varsity girls’ coach Pigeon Pollard Graham ’93, and Sarah Lester ’04 were instrumental in organizing the event. Special thanks also to Pliny Reynolds ’97 and Carrie Hopkins ‘08.

Men’s Alumni Game: Front row, left to right: David Gobris ’14, Michael Armstrong ’12, Sumner Crosby ’12, Coach Lou Salvadori, Coach Lee Powers, Head Coach Jake Rashkind, Chris Thompson ’04, Kyle Mellor ’04, Austin Brown ’00, Gabe Aliquo ’07, Will Graves ’10, Steve Wilkinson ’90, Eric Detwiler ’10, Pliny Reynolds’97, Wil Davis ‘98 Back row, left to right: Max Davis ’13, Colin Ebert ’11, Sam Davis ’11, Kieran Smith ’11, Sam Carney ’13, Conner Armstrong ’14, Rick Serra ’11, Chris Palmer ’13, Ben Hanson ’13, Sean Kirkpatrick ’13, Brett Tracy ’13, Dan Carbone ’11, John Goswell ’05, Jeff Palmer ’04, Mike Wilbur ’74, Coach Rick Grier-Reynolds, Bobby DeWees ’08, Mat Levin ’04, Reed Salmons ’10, parent Greg Rodowsky, Eric Kelley ’10, Gabe Humphreys ’98, Hunter Witmer ’10, Ernest Higginbotham ’10, Bill Goswell ’09, Drew Malinsky ’10, Deane Mellor ’07, EJ Amobi ’99, Bryan Radacosty-Pentoney ’09 (not pictured: Cary Mellor ’01)

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FACULTY NEWS New Athletic Director Mark Burke Mark Burke has been appointed as the new Athletic Director at Friends School, effective July 1, 2011. Mark served for five years, 2004-2009, as Athletic Director at Chestnut Hill Academy (CHA), a K-12 independent school in Philadelphia. Previously, he had been an assistant basketball coach, with additional administrative responsibilities, for eight years at Millersville University. At CHA, Mark supervised a staff of more than 90 coaches and teachers, led internal and external communication efforts regarding athletics, reported sports information, and managed the athletics facilities. Mark also coached basketball at CHA for one season, during a search for a long-term coach; and he taught physical education at both the elementary and high-school levels. In addition, Mark has more than 25 years of experience in sports camps and community coaching, including eight years as a head coach in the Sonny Hill Basketball League, a renowned AAU program in Philadelphia.

Where Are They Now? The Class of 2010 As is our recent tradition, we contacted members of the Class of 2010—and even some of their parents!—to find out how they are doing, one year after their graduation from Friends. Troy Beneck was finishing his freshman year at the University of Delaware and has had great success on the Blue Hens’ tennis team. In April, he received the Alexander J. Taylor UD Alumni Association Team Most Valuable Player Award, and he was also the Colonial Athletic Association Singles Player of the Week. He made Third Team for the Colonial Athletic Association in both singles and doubles. Also attending the University of Delaware, Mark Campanella is in the Alfred Lerner College of Business and Economics. He is a member of the virtual stock exchange club and entrepreneurship club. Mark shared a “small world” moment with us: “During spring break, I ran into Adrian Lo at BWI airport! We passed each other as we were walking around trying to find our gates. He was heading back to school in Massachusetts and I was heading to Mississippi to visit a friend.”

After his wife was offered a temporary work assignment overseas, Mark and his family relocated to Basel, Switzerland, where they lived from 2009 to spring 2011. In addition to valuing the cultural experience for their family, Mark noted that the move was “energizing” in the opportunity to observe the European passion for and approach to youth sports. Mark was a captain and four-year letter winner in basketball at Moravian College in Bethlehem, PA, where he majored in Sociology. He remains Moravian’s career and single-season leader in three-point percentage and also the career leader in assists. Mark earned a Master’s in Education from Millersville in Sports Management. Associate Head of School Bill Neff, who led the Athletic Director search process, said, “We had a phenomenal field of candidates for the position, and we also had a great group of parents, coaches, faculty and staff involved on search committees. Mark emerged from that strong field and that thorough process not just as a consensus choice, but as one we recommended with great confidence and enthusiasm.”

Mark Campanella—and since he’s in Friends gear, we’ll send him a 1748 baseball hat (see page 8). Thanks, Mark! Cindi Cozza emailed us this update on daughter Caitlin Foley: “She absolutely loves Bryn Mawr College and is thinking about declaring a double major in Psychology and English at this point in her liberal arts program. This summer, she is working as a hostess at Styer’s Garden Cafe in Chadds Ford, PA. Her class in Russian Literature piqued a real interest in that area of the world so she will also be traveling with her dad this summer to the Netherlands, Germany, Norway, Denmark, Sweden, Estonia, and Russia.” Sam Finkelman was in Spain with Scott Shlossman last fall, working on organic farms and traveling throughout Europe. Sam’s mom, Pamela, reported that, “It was a life-changing experience.” He just finished his first semester

at Middlebury College in Vermont, and loves it there. After successfully surviving her first true Maine winter this year, Allie Frosina reported: “It has been a great year. Hope more ‘Friends’ will make it up to Bowdoin in the future.” Allie enjoyed becoming a Polar Bear (the mascot) at Bowdoin College and representing the First State as the only student from Delaware in her freshman class. She has remained very involved in dance and, based on the encouragement of the dance faculty at Bowdoin, will spend her summer abroad dancing at The Place: The London Contemporary Dance School. Ernest Higginbotham played both football and lacrosse his freshman year at Williams College, and also participated in the Black Student Union. He shared some thoughts about his time at Friends: “I was a student at WFS for 14 years, and I believe that all of those years combined were very helpful in my success here at Williams. As I spend more time here, I keep discovering ways that my education at WFS was very helpful. WFS helped me foster a way of thinking that is very sought after at this level. From what I understand, I find it much easier than many of my peers to think critically about a variety of topics in both the sciences and literature. The teachers at WFS along with the IB program really force students to think this way. Also, I have found that the WFS education is one that provides prowess in multiple subject areas. It is clear that after attending WFS as well as being an IB diploma candidate, I have had at least minimal experience in many different subjects so that with each new course I take here I am not completely in the dark. I truly believe that the WFS education is not only unique, but also uniquely valuable. And this has become extremely clear over my first semester at Williams College.” Connor Juers is finishing up his first year as a Neuroscience major in the Honors Program at the University of Delaware, and he shared the following thoughts: “Although my classes have been challenging so far, especially Intro to Neuroscience, I have felt very well prepared by my IB education at Wilmington Friends. In particular I feel that my writing skills are far ahead of many of my peers and that WFS had helped me to master the art of essay writing. Also I have found that the analytical skills I learned in TOK (Theory of Knowledge class) have helped me both in my Late Medieval Philosophy class as well as helping my friends in their writing seminars. So far this year, I have been a member of the club rugby team as well as a floor senator for the complex student government. I am hoping to get involved in research this semester and have been talking Summer 2011 • Friends magazine

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The Class of 2010 to a number of professors. Overall I think the one quality WFS instilled in me, which I am finding most helpful in my college experience, has been intellectual inquisitiveness. Friends gave me the drive to go out and discover, to pursue all that interests me. In this way college for me so far has been a journey of intellectual and personal discovery.” Priya Kumar is studying Chemical and Biomolecular engineering at the University of Pennsylvania. Priya wrote: “Wilmington Friends School gave me the skills I needed to excel in college. Academically, I knew how to manage my time and how to study effectively. In addition, WFS taught me how to be independent...Specifically, a WFS education prepared me for my writing seminar. Although I am an engineer, all undergraduates have a writing requirement. In my writing seminar, I felt that it was easy to write a research paper. Similarly, the IB program prepared me for writing lab reports. In chemistry, I had no problem succeeding on my lab reports, whereas some of my classmates struggled. In school, I am involved in Relay for Life, Advancing Women in Engineering, and American Institute of Chemical Engineers. At WFS, I was able to dabble in everything. I was part of so many different clubs and committees. Being able to do this made me realize what I want to do in terms of a major. In addition, it gave me an idea of what type of electives I want to eventually take. For example, I really enjoyed participating in MOAS. As a result, I think I want to take an international relations course at some point. In addition, my IB extended essay included lab work and because I enjoyed it, I am currently seeking a summer internship in a lab.”

distractions. I’ve had great experiences such as praying at the Western Wall (called the Kotel) of the Temple Mount as well as doing beatbox street performances to raise money for charity (and everything in between). Certainly a memorable and valuable gap-year experience.” Josh heads to the University of Maryland in the fall to study aerospace engineering. Adrian Lo (See Mark Campanella.) Drew Malinsky has had a great first year at the University of Miami, his mom reported to us. He has met interesting and talented new friends from all over the world, had a great deal of playing time on the club lacrosse team, and attended his first international music festival. Drew is in the business school, where his favorite class this year was Business Law. Rebecca Marcus recently returned to Wilmington after spending an adventurous gap year abroad. This past fall, she spent three months in Central America traveling, taking Spanish classes, doing home-stays, and volunteering. After the holidays, she spent three months in New Zealand doing an internship with a book publishing company. Rebecca shared her perspective on the gap year: “I’ve had a great year, and I’m glad that I decided to take a break. I feel rejuvenated and ready for college.” She will start at Kenyon College in August.

Kristin Lang is double majoring in Psychology and Business at Rebecca Marcus in a weaving class in San Pedro, Guatemala Muhlenberg College in Allentown, PA, where she made dean’s list for the Gabriela Mejia emailed from Drexel Unifirst semester. She is also playing field hockey versity: “ I’m…in the 5 year co-op College and volunteering with Casa Guadalupe, an of Nursing and I am loving it! I have never outreach program that offers mentoring and been this busy in my entire life, and although tutoring to kids in Allentown. I miss the freedom of the afternoon ‘frees’ at Friends, I realized that this free time was more Josh Leviton wrote from Israel about his gap beneficial than I thought. If I needed to do year: “Right now I’m finishing up the last something, I would, and that has really helped month of a gap year program called a yeshiva with time management at Drexel. There is a (a.k.a. a seminary/religious school) in the quarter system here, four terms of ten weeks, Israeli town of Beit Shemesh, near Jerusalem. so classes move really fast and somehow I I’ve been delving into 3000-year-old Jewish have found time to join the women’s club history, texts and traditions that maintain the lacrosse team and I have joined SNAP religion and have had a chance to immerse (Student Nurses Association of Pennsylvamyself in Israeli culture and society. Regardnia). Sometimes I hated going to Meeting for less of the fact that I get no college credits for Worship (I can finally admit I did skip one the year, it’s been one of the most (if not THE time and hid outside...I hope I can’t still get most) important years of my life, as I’ve been able to examine and change myself as a person in trouble for that!), but now if I even can get 45 minutes of silence to myself, I do try in an environment free of many 21st Century and reflect. A large part of nursing—we are 34

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told—is reflection, and I miss but still live all of the Quaker values I was taught in my seven years at Friends School. I take an average of 17 credits and we max out at 20 credits so I couldn’t add a language class, but I still have fond memories of IB HL Spanish 5 with Mrs. Knight, such as chip and salsa parties, Jesse Paul in general, and music video time. I love being in college and can’t believe my first year is over in June, but the thought of knowing a year ago I was still part of the Friends community comforts me and makes me feel not as old.” Kelsey Mellow finished her first year at the University of Delaware on the Dean’s List and is tracking into “Material Culture Preservation,” which is a precursor to “Art Restoration and Conservation Studies.” She has enjoyed the diverse student body at UD. On the horizon for next year is Organic Chemistry. Greg Miraglia completed his first year at Haverford College, with a pre-med program, and is back home for the summer, working at Diablo Burrito in Trolley Square with his brother John ’12. Greg is also playing American Legion baseball.

Jesse Paul Jesse Paul is attending Colorado College, studying Creative Writing and Journalism and playing club baseball. He is also a member of a band called “The Drunk Molly Experience,” and is skiing/hiking/backpacking as much as he can. This summer, Jesse is volunteering at the Parismina Turtle Project in Costa Rica with WFS student Patrick Schlecker ’12. We learned that Marcelle Rice has had a very successful first year at Pratt Institute, completing her Art Foundation Year and is looking forward to beginning her major in Industrial Design in the fall. She will be working with Habitat for Humanity in Wilmington in June before leaving for an Industrial Design Summer Program in Milan, Italy.

Class notes

Sam Rudin is very happy at Emory University and looking forward to his sophomore year. He has pledged to ZBT, for which he is the class rep for the Class of 2014. He has also made the Dean’s list. Reed Salmons was just inducted into the Alpha Lambda Delta honor society at Dickinson College, after a successful freshman year. A member of the varsity lacrosse team, Reed and his team finished the season with the best record in school history at 17-2. They earned Dickinson’s first automatic bid to the NCAA tournament by winning the Centennial Conference, among the toughest in Division III lacrosse. The Devils were unbeaten in the Centennial Conference and unbeaten at home in 2011. Darrell Seeney sent news from the University of North Dakota: “Everything is going well on my end…After attending the University of North Dakota for a semester and a half, I have really seen how well a Friends education will prepare you for your future. The first thing I realized was a huge help was effective time management. At WFS I was in school all day, followed by two-hour sport practices, chores at home, and homework with other extracurricular activities sprinkled in. With an open college schedule taking 16 credits, working 2 jobs, joining a host of clubs and committees and joining a fraternity (Pi Kappa Alpha: Zeta Rho chapter) was not just a way for me to stay busy; it was core to a value I credit WFS for instilling in me—getting involved with the community. Another area where I really feel that I excelled was the ambition to take leadership. Not only did I get myself involved with Hall Government, I took the position of Conduct Council chair representing my hall on the area residence hall conduct board where I also hold the position of Vice President. I was also elected Secretary of Pi Kappa Alpha, a voting member of the fraternity’s executive board. Lastly, I have met a lot of people and really slid into life here at UND. As I write this, I am on spring break in Rapid City, SD with one of my best friends here. After my experience in SYA I learned to appreciate culture different from mine, and I had no idea how different Midwestern culture would be. Just like in Rennes, France, I have established a home away from home, making friends all over with backgrounds and experiences much different from mine; building an even greater appreciation for diversity than before.” Bryce Sheppard is at the University of Delaware, majoring in Biomedical Engineering. He played club soccer, went to the National Club Championships in Arizona in November, and was the team’s high scorer. Bryce is working this summer at Bethany Blues in Bethany Beach. Wendy Shlossman kindly sent news about Scott Shlossman’s year: “Scott is doing well at Washington University in St. Louis. He loves it there. Academically he did very well and he’s made many friends (surprise, surprise!). He will be applying to the Business School there

next year…Scott went to Spain last August through November with a program called WOOF (Worldwide Organization of Organic Farmers). He lived and volunteered on three different farms in three different areas of southern Spain. He practiced the Spanish that he learned at Friends, and he learned so much while living and working in Spain. He still keeps in touch with some of the people he met there. He also traveled to Italy, where he met up with some friends from Washington University. He spent some time between farms #2 and #3 traveling throughout France with his sister, Debra ’05 and his high school buddy, Sam Finkelman.” Sarah Tufano completed her freshman year at Duke University, which included a variety of courses spanning the arts and sciences. Sarah is a member of the Duke marching band and enjoyed the excitement of many football and basketball games. She is spending part of her summer in Honduras and Ecuador participating in two separate Duke-sponsored service projects. Abby Walter wrote: “I’m in my second semester at Yale right now. I’m still undeclared for my major, but I’m guessing it will be either English or History at this point. I feel that WFS prepared me very well for college—the IB curriculum was rigorous, especially taking four higher levels, and I felt like I was given all of the necessary skills for a broad range of subjects (analytical essay writing, logical reasoning in math, learning the scientific method). Most of all, though, more than any specific academic skills, I think WFS taught me time management. By allowing me to participate in many activities in high school, I learned how to balance everything and budget my time, which has been crucial at college. Also, having gone to WFS where we had small class sizes, it gives me more confidence in seminarsize courses here to speak up, because I was already used to small classroom settings. The same goes for getting to know professors—it was helpful having come from WFS where we get to know our teachers really well, to get to know professors here. Currently, I’m on Yale’s Varsity Mock Trial team (an activity I did at WFS); we won first place in our regional tournament. I am a Yale Student Ambassador for the Admissions Office, meaning I go to different high schools to talk with juniors and seniors. I’m also very involved in different service groups, a value WFS definitely helped instill in me, and I play intramural sports.” Hunter Witmer had a successful year at Haverford College, including playing varsity lacrosse. He is planning to major in Biology and continue with the lacrosse program. Hunter has secured an INBRE (IDeA Network of Biomedical Research Excellence) grant to work with Dr. Bruce Boman in the area of translational research and cancer genetics. This summer fellowship will be in the lab in the new pavilion of the Helen F. Graham Cancer Center at Christiana Care.

FACULTY NEWS Margaret Anne Butterfield Upper school performing arts teacher Margaret Anne Butterfield was a featured soloist in the Princeton Singers’ “Night at the Opera” in early May 2011. Margaret Anne, past president and current vice president of the Delaware Chapter of the American Choral Directors Association, is also a regularly featured soloist in the Mastersingers of Wilmington and other choral groups based at First & Central Presbyterian Church. A review of the “Soprano Princeton perMargaret Anne formance said, Butterfield was “Soprano Margaret Anne Buta clear stand terfield was a out, singing clear stand out, Mozart, as well singing Mozart, as Gilbert & as well as Gilbert & Sullivan. In Sullivan....Ms. the renowned Butterfield had Countess aria the operatic ‘Dove sono’ from style well in Mozart’s Marriage of Figaro, hand, with a Ms. Butterfield clear and light had the operatic style well in hand, voice ....” with a clear and light voice which carried well into the space of the church. Ms. Butterfield maintained a smooth tempo for the aria, easily dipping into her lower register and taking a delicate approach in the aria’s recapitulation. “Ms. Butterfield returned to the stage later in the concert to sing Mabel’s aria ‘Poor Wandering One’ from The Pirates of Penzance. This aria was tailor made for Ms. Butterfield, with its opportunity for nimble and sparkly singing and humorous characterization.”

Margaret Anne Butterfield, appropriately dressed for a “Night at the Opera,” with Princeton Singers conductor Steven Sametz

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IN MEMORY 1935

Leroy “Roy” Kiley McCune died on March 9, 2011 at Stonegates Retirement Community at age 93. In addition to being an alumnus, Roy was the parent of two alumni and served on the school’s Board of Trustees. He received a Bachelor’s degree in Chemical Engineering from Princeton University in 1940 and began his career with DuPont de Nemours & Co. He left DuPont for active duty in the U.S. Navy in 1941, serving principally as the radar and communications officer aboard the USS Suwannee, one of four sister ship escort aircraft carriers that provided air support for amphibious landings during the Allied invasion of North Africa at Casablanca in 1942 and for U.S. Marine and Army landings in the Pacific Theater. During the battle of Leyte Gulf, the Suwannee was struck by a kamikaze and Lt. McCune was injured. The Suwannee and its crew were awarded the Presidential Unit Citation. Lt. McCune also earned recognition for his naval service in major World War II theaters and was awarded the Purple Heart and American Defense medals. After his military service, Mr. McCune returned to Princeton University and completed his Ph.D. in Chemical Engineering in 1950 and rejoined the DuPont Company. For the next 30 years, he held a succession of management positions within the company’s textile fibers department. He retired in 1980. Mr. McCune was a member of the Wilmington Country Club, a warden at Immanuel Episcopal Church, a member of the American Institute of Chemical Engineers, a member of the Society of Sigma Xia, and served on the board at Stonegates. Roy was predeceased by his wife Jeannette Byram McCune and his brother John McCune ’40. He is survived his children, Karen McCune Fleming ’63, Michael Scott McCune ’70, and Kenneth Byram McCune. He is also survived by two stepchildren, 13 grandchildren, three great-grandchildren, a brother, David McCune, and his longtime and dearest friend, Sally V. Hawkins.

1941

Edward “Brud” Koons Bispham III, 87, of Rockland, DE died peacefully on June 5, 2011, while traveling with his wife to Bucharest, Romania. Brud, as he was known to everyone at Friends, attended Rutgers Preparatory School and graduated from Cornell University, class of ’48. He served in the US Army and participated in the Battle of the Bulge in World War II. He started his career with the DuPont Company in Martinsville, VA and retired in Wilmington in 1987; he thoroughly enjoyed 25 years of life after DuPont. Brud was the longest serving member of the Friends of Old Drawyers Church in Odessa, DE and a longtime member of Westminster Presbyterian Church. He was a proud member of the Society of Colonial Wars and the Recess Club. It was his pleasure to serve the Goodstay Gardens in Wilmington. He loved the history of the places to which he traveled. Brud was a kind and gentle man, and he will be sorely missed. He will certainly be missed at Friends School, where he was an active and enthusi-

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astic alumnus, most recently working to plan the 70th reunion for his class. He is survived by Charlotte, his loving wife of 59 years; his sister, Barbara Paschal of Wilmington; three sons, Harrison Bispham III ’70, David (wife Bigi), and Eddie; one daughter, Bunny (husband Benjamin); and six grandchildren.

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John Darby Cullen died on March 19, 2011 in Naples, FL. He attended Wilmington Friends School and Phillips Andover Academy before enrolling at Leigh University. John’s education at Leigh was interrupted in 1943 when he enlisted in the U.S. Army Air Corps and served for three years until he was honorably discharged in 1946 as a lieutenant. In 1950, he received his Master’s degree in Chemical Engineering from Virginia Tech University. John worked for the DuPont Company in Wilmington, Parkersburg, WV, Orange, TX and Victoria, TX. He became Chief Engineer of the Engineering Department in 1978 and subsequently became a Senior Vice President in charge of engineering and information systems departments. John retired in 1986 after serving 36 years with DuPont. John was a member of Westminster Presbyterian Church, the DuPont County Club, the Kennett Square Country Club, the Rotary Club, and the University Club of Wilmington. He has also served on the Board of Trustees for the Wilmington Medical Center and Leigh University. John is survived by his wife, three sons, three stepchildren, and six grandchildren.

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John “Jack” A. Popejoy, longtime radio news reporter and anchor, died of cancer on February 5, 2011 at age 63 in Sherman Oaks, CA. For the last two years, Jack co-anchored the morning news on KNX; before that, he had worked at sister station KFWB for two decades. Jack is remembered by colleagues for his breadth of knowledge on many subjects. He reported on events like the Columbia shuttle disaster, the 9/11 attacks, and significant earthquakes throughout California. He was one of the creators of the annual Great California ShakeOut, a statewide program on quake awareness and preparedness, and was a valued crisis communications trainer. After graduation from Friends School, where he was the winner of the Bush Award, Jack was an astronomy major at Amherst College, then moved to Southern California in the early 1970’s. He wrote jingles for commercials, which led to jobs as a DJ, announcer, then program director. He also created KFWB’s first website and remained the webmaster for a decade. He continued to work on-air until late January, two weeks before his death. A multiple-award winner for broadcast excellence, Jack was recognized in 1998 as Journalist of the Year by the Society of Professional Journalists. He won 27 “Golden Mikes” from the Radio Television News Association of Southern California, including a best newscast award this year for Best News Broadcast. He won eight Press Club Awards. He was also a regional semi-finalist in NASA’s Journalist-in-

Space competition, which was canceled in the wake of the Challenger disaster. An avid world traveler, Jack was proud that he had visited all seven continents. He leaves no immediate survivors.

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Kenneth R. Weller of St. Davids, PA died of cancer on May 8, 2011 at age 63. Dr. Weller was born in Newport, RI, and grew up in West Chester. He earned a bachelor’s degree from Pennsylvania State University in 1970 and a medical degree from Hahnemann University in 1975. He interned at Pennsylvania Hospital and completed a residency in psychiatry at the Institute of Pennsylvania Hospital, now Kirkbride Center. Dr. Weller maintained a practice in Bryn Mawr and was a consulting psychiatrist at the Hospital of the University of Pennsylvania; the Children’s Home in Mount Holly; the Community Alternatives group home and shelter in Cherry Hill; Brookfield Academy in Cherry Hill, for children with behavioral and personality disorders; and Kirkbride Center in Philadelphia, a treatment facility for chemical dependencies and psychiatric disorders. He was an avid tennis player, enjoyed skiing in Utah, and loved all aspects of nature. Dr. Weller was a beloved husband, father, and brother.

Former Faculty

Elizabeth “Betts” Tapley Worth, a teacher at Friends from 1943-1945, died on January 12, 2011 at age 90. Betts was the widow of alumnus Edward H. Worth ’34, who died in 2007, and mother of three alumni, Joan Davidson Worth ’63, Edward Worth III ’66 and Bruce Worth ’69. In addition to her children, Betts is survived by five grandchildren and eight greatgrandchildren.

Past Trustee

Stephen Clark, a former member of the WFS Board of Trustees, died on May 31, 2011 at age 97. He was born in Street, Somerset, England of “Quaker stock,” American on his mother’s side and English on his father’s. He was raised in England and educated at Bootham Friends School in York, and later at Swarthmore College and King’s College, Cambridge. From 1937-1941, he was employed by Joseph Bancroft & Sons of Wilmington, a family business on his mother’s side. From 1941-1975, he was employed by C. & J. Clark, Ltd., the family shoe business in Street. In 1938, he was elected a trustee of Woodlawn Trustees Inc., founded by his grandfather, William Poole Bancroft, for the preservation of open space for public enjoyment in Wilmington and vicinity, as well as the provision of affordable rental housing. Stephen Clark was passionately committed to his grandfather’s vision and served as President of Woodlawn Trustees from 1976–1988. Stephen Clark had many interests, including horse-riding, art, family history, planting of trees, and the protection of ancient buildings. He is survived by his wife, four children, 11 grandchildren, and five great-grandchildren.

IN CLOSING

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