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ave you carved your pumpkin yet? My family looks forward to October and this messy tradition every year. Pumpkin everything appears in the stores and coffee shops before summer is even over, but we don’t want to start too early designing a perfectly creepy jacko-lantern. Wilmington weather causes droopy pumpkins far too soon. If you want the pumpkin fun to last beyond the carving, there are some great ideas on pg. 29! This October, Wilmington Parent is dedicating an entire section of the magazine to women and their unique health concerns. The Women’s Health section begins on pg. 10 with an important article concerning the most cutting edge breast cancer screening tests available. Other articles in this section address embarrassing bladder issues, menstrual cramps, and local resources available for women to get more information about their health concerns. Missing summer vacations already? Local mom and writer, Brandy Metzger, refuses to let fall be a time for staying home. She’s been on another exciting trip, and on pg. 30, she shares with us her romantic getaway at the beautiful Grove Park Inn in Asheville. If you’re planning a trip to the mountains to see the colorful leaves, this is definitely the place to stay! We have a special Halloween Happenings section in our calendar this month. Once you get your princesses, pirates, and little witches all dressed up for a night on the town, take along the calendar so you don’t miss any of the Halloween fun!

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Fire Prevention Week Fire prevention should be on everyone’s minds all year, but during the week of October 5-11, let’s all revisit some important tips. The Wilmington Fire Department offers the following tips for protecting your home and family from fire: • Stay in the kitchen while you are frying, grilling, or broiling food. If you leave the kitchen even for a short period of time, turn off the stove. • Keep anything that can burn at least three feet away from heating equipment, like the furnace, fireplace, wood stove or portable space heater. • Have a 3-foot “kid-free zone” around open fires and space heaters. • Replace or repair damaged or loose electrical cords. • If you smoke, smoke outside. • Use deep, wide ashtrays on a sturdy table. • Blow out all candles when you leave the room or go to bed. Avoid the use of candles in the bedroom and other areas where people may fall asleep. The following tips will help keep your family safe if there is a fire in your home: • Install smoke alarms inside each bedroom, outside each sleeping area, and on every level of the home (including the basement). • Interconnect all smoke alarms in the home so when one sounds, they all sound. • Test smoke alarms at least monthly and replace all smoke alarms when they are 10 years old or sooner if they do not respond when tested. • Make sure everyone in your home knows how to respond if the smoke alarm sounds. • Pull together everyone in your household and make a plan. Walk through your home and inspect all possible ways out. Households with children should consider drawing a floor plan of your home, marking two ways out of each room, including windows and doors. • If you are building or remodeling your home, consider installing home fire sprinklers.

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Rockets to the Rescue On October 8th, youth in New Hanover County 4-H will design and build an aerodynamic craft designed to deliver a payload of food to natural disaster victims as part of 4-H National Youth Science Day (4-H NYSD), the world’s largest, youth-led science experiment. The activity, called Rockets to the Rescue, was designed by University of Arizona Cooperative Extension and selected as the winning experiment for the seventh annual 4-H NYSD. Youth all over the nation, and some globally, will also conduct the same experiment at hundreds of local events taking place in all 50 states. New Hanover County 4-H youth will conduct the Rockets to the Rescue experiment at the New Hanover County Main Library and will respond to a fictional scenario: A natural disaster has left people without food on a remote, isolated Pacific island, and the youth have been asked to build a rocket that can be launched from the mainland, travel over the ocean and deliver high-energy food to the population. The experiment combines two 4-H issue areas—science and food security—and incorporates aerospace engineering concepts to help youth design a rocket out of everyday materials, including recyclable twoliter bottles, cotton balls, pipe cleaners, rubber bands and a protractor. This free local event will be held at the Main Library in downtown Wilmington from 4:00-6:00pm for youth in 4th grade and up. Learn more about 4-H at www.4-H.org, find us on Facebook at www.facebook. com/newhanvercounty4h and on Twitter at https://twitter.com/4H.

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| By Carolyn Jabs

The Best Bullying Prevention

ullying is a word that has almost lost its meaning because it’s been used so often and under so many circumstances. That’s especially true online where cyberbullying is used to describe almost any interaction that makes adults uncomfortable from flaming, gossip and pranks to impersonation, slander and threats. In her new book, It’s Complicated, Hannah Boyd points out that “the language of bullying often presumes that there’s a perpetrator and a victim. By focusing on blaming the perpetrator and protecting the victim, well-intended adults often fail to recognize the complexity of most conflicts.” She suggests that parents avoid using the term “bullying” unless behavior meets three criteria identified by Swedish psychology Dan Olweus:

Aggression -- What’s the intent? Is the perpetrator trying to hurt or intimidate someone? Sometimes behavior that looks like bullying is actually a misguided attempt at humor or a response to stress. Repetition -- What’s the frequency? Even the nicest people hurt others on occasion because they are oblivious or under stress. Bullying involves repeating a behavior even after the perpetrator understands that it’s painful or damaging to another person.

Imbalance -- Who has the power? Young people themselves often describe conflict between peers as drama rather than bullying. They seem to understand that bullying involves disproportionate power—a stronger person picks on a weaker one precisely because he or she cannot fight back effectively. Research confirms that children are 63% more likely to be bullied if they have disabilities or perceived differences (such as being gay or overweight). In situations that meet these three criteria, adults must intervene because bullying has lasting consequences for everyone involved. Research shows that children who are bullied tend to be lonely, anxious and depressed. Children who become bullies are also likely to have underlying social and emotional problems that interfere with healthy relationships. Even children who witness aggression are vulnerable to emotional distress and anxiety. Of course, Boyd acknowledges that online interactions that fall short of bullying can still be hurtful. Girls are more likely to participate in and be wounded by gossip and rumors especially about looks and sexual behavior. Boys are more likely to participate in pranking—practical jokes that aren’t really funny—and punking, which consists of insults and intimidation. All of this happens offline, too, but online abuse has several unique features. Some people find it easier to be cruel when they don’t have to deal with consequences directly. Also, online humiliation can be deeper because there are so many witnesses and more long lasting effects because it’s difficult to eradicate cyber slurs. Online, the child who is behaving poorly may feel there is no risk of punishment, and the child who is tormented may feel there is no escape. Parents are the ones who have to consistently reinforce two messages: 1) Cruel behavior is always unacceptable. 2) In difficult circumstances, healthy

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people stay focused on what they can control. Boyd recommends Social Emotional Learning as one of the best ways to protect a child from being bullied or becoming a bully. Kids who develop these five capacities are less likely to take out their feelings on others and less likely to become targets.

Self Awareness. Help your children recognize and reflect on their own feelings. Just knowing that he or she feels angry or sad, frustrated or vulnerable gives a child more options. Self Management. Children aren’t born with self-control. They need help in learning to how to insert thought between feeling and action. Children who can’t manage their impulses are more likely to lash out in response to provocation or stress. A child who is able to calm himself and think through a problem is less likely to say or do cruel things and less likely to trigger hostility in others. Social Awareness. Teaching kids to be tolerant is one of the best ways to prevent aggression. From an early age, encourage your children to be respectful, tolerant and even curious about people who are different in appearance, abilities, point of view or cultural background.

Relationship Skills. Research suggests that children are less likely to be unkind to others when they have high quality friendships. Some kids make friends easily but others need coaching. For good advice about helping kids develop strong friendships, see the article at Parenting Science (www.parentingscience.com/kids-make-friends.html).

Decision Making. If a child is miserable because of what others are doing, the most empowering thing a parent can do is help her refocus on what she can do. Although retaliating in kind is tempting, it’s rarely the most effective strategy. Instead, help your child think through different ways of responding to aggression. Sometimes the best option is to redirect attention to what’s positive—the many “likes” instead of the one snarky comment. In other cases, it may make sense to limit contact with people who behave poorly by using the controls available in most social networks or by switching to a network like WeHeartIt where users collect and share things that inspire them without getting comments from other people. (Other good suggestions are available at endcyberbullying. squarespace.com/what-to-do-if-youre-a-victim). Important as it is to talk about these ideas, children benefit more when parents embody them. When parents cultivate their own social and emotional skills, home becomes a sanctuary. Then, if your kids encounter aggression and cruelty online or anywhere else, they’ll know they can turn to you for compassion, insight, respect, strength, and strategy. v Carolyn Jabs, M.A., raised three computer savvy kids including one with special needs. She has been writing Growing Up Online for ten years and is working on a book about constructive responses to conflict. Visit www.growing-uponline.com to read other columns.

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What a dream looks like

The story behind Wylde Scott... Like the great Peter Pan, Brad Scheel realized he had no intention of growing up. It took some time to consider, and even more to sink in, but in the end he had no choice in the matter. Brad has been asked many times who Wylde Scott is. A figment of his imagination, yes, but imagination as real as flesh and bone. He is the best of his childhood dreams; Willy Wonka and Charlie Bucket rolled into one. The daring and the brave, the innocent and the kind. He is the protector of all that is imagined. Brad is a storyteller, but Wylde Scott is his dream brought to life.

The story behind The Possible Police… Not long ago, as Brad’s third literary agent in twenty years was shopping his first children’s novel, he began to hear the familiar rings of all the naysayers. What struck him the most was that he was speaking with people who were publishing for children, and there was this incredible resistance to anything imaginative or different. “You can’t do that.” Seemed to be their favorite comment. The Possible Police became the book that he had to start with. Brad called his friend and fellow visionary, Michael Jefferson, “I know exactly what we are going to do!”

Introducing... Brad and Michael are incredibly proud and excited to introduce both The Possible Police and Wylde Scott to the world. The Possible Police is the first in a long line of books and stories that will take children into a world of unlimited imagination right here, in Wilmington North Carolina.

Come meet Wylde Scott! On October 4th come to Barnes & Noble at 4pm to meet Wylde Scott and enjoy a reading of The Possible Police. Meet the storyteller Wylde Scott, who believes that all children should live in a world of endless possibilities. Kids and parents will enjoy special activities and crafts! Brad Scheel (writer and creator of Wylde Scott) lives in Cary, NC with his wife Maria and has 2 daughters Samantha 13 and Jocelyn 11. v

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Pelvic Robotic Surgery Helps Woman Reclaim Full, Active Life I n addition to working part time as a nurse in the New Hanover Regional Medical Center Neonatal Intensive Care Unit, Alicia Brubeck is an avid gardener and grandmother to four active grandchildren. “I like to stay busy,” she said. When she began to feel discomfort and a sense that something was out of place in

her pelvic region, she went to her regular gynecologist, Pamela R. Novosel, MD, of Glen Meade Center for Women’s Health NHRMC Physician Group, who performed Alicia’s laparoscopic hysterectomy 2 ½ years earlier. Dr. Novosel diagnosed Alicia with pelvic organ prolapse, a condition that occurs

Dr. Novosel recommended that Alicia have surgery and referred her to Timothy L. Chase, MD, FACOG, FPMRS, a partner at Glen Meade, who used the da Vinci Surgical System to lift Alicia’s bladder back into place as well as lift her anterior vaginal wall. “Dr. Chase is truly an expert in what he does,” she said. “He is such a pleasant, nice man with a gentle bedside manner. It was also very comforting to know he has advanced training and certifications in robotic surgery.”

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By Sandra Gordon

yearly mammogram is the gold standard for breast-cancer screening and detection. The National Cancer Institute and the American Cancer Society recommend a mammogram yearly for all women age 40 and older. If you have a family history of breast cancer, your doctor may advise starting mammography before age 40. Mammography is the only test that has been scientifically proven to save lives. Still, it’s not infallible. “In women with very dense breasts, mammography will miss cancer 58 percent of the time,” says Thomas Kolb, M.D., a breast-cancer radiologist and leading ultrasound researcher in New York City. Dense breasts contain more glands, ducts and connective tissue than fat. Breasts tend to be denser during a woman’s reproductive years; density makes it harder to detect suspicious lumps on a mammogram. That’s because glandular tissue appears white on a mammogram, just like a mass can. Fortunately, there are new tools can give a more precise diagnosis, especially if you have dense breasts or you’re at higher risk for breast cancer because of your personal or family health history. Here are two that may give you a clearer picture of your breast health—and could possibly save your life.

Tomosynthesis: The latest in breast cancer detection technology, tomosynthesis is done in addition to a digital mammogram. During tomosynthesis, the breast is compressed, though slightly less so than with a conventional, digital mammogram, and a series of images are obtained from multiple angles. Tomosynthesis takes an arc of pictures through each breast, in 5 millimeter slices, which are then reconstructed into a threedimensional image. It allows radiologists to see through the breast tissue. They can more easily distinguish a true mass from overlapping structures, such as ligaments or glandular tissue. Tomosynthesis can be used for screening and diagnostic mammograms. Pros/Cons: Compared to a digital mammogram, women with dense breasts who undergo tomosynthesis are 40 percent less likely to be called back for additional imaging. Women who undergo tomosynthesis will be

exposed to the same amount of radiation as a traditional, analog (film) mammogram, which is slightly more than today’s digital mammogram. The risk of radiation-induced breast cancer is extremely low, affecting only 0.1 percent of women screened. In comparison, the screening test itself can reduce the risk of dying from breast cancer by about 50 percent. Should You Ask For It? Screening tomosynthesis is in order if you have dense breasts, but no symptoms. It takes a global 3D picture of each breast. If you have a complaint or something is found during a screening mammogram, you’ll go to the diagnostic level, which is a mammogram with tomosynthesis that magnifies and focuses on one particular area of the breast. Because the FDA-approved technology is relatively new, screening tomosynthesis isn’t routinely covered by health insurance. Diagnostic tomosynthesis is typically covered by health insurance with no copay necessary.

Automated Breast Ultrasound: During this test, an automated ultrasound machine, which uses a computer program, takes ultrasound images of breast tissue. The images are recorded and given to a radiologist who can interpret them. Doctors currently use handheld ultrasound devices to hunt for breast tumors in some patients. The labor-intensive process can skip some tumors. Automated breast ultrasound eliminates the need for an ultrasound technologist so there’s less risk of missing a lesion. Pros/Cons: Automated breast ultrasound can help detect breast cancer. Breast cancer detection doubled from 23 to 46 in 6,425 studies using automated breast ultrasound with mammography, resulting in a significant cancer detection improvement. Some insurance providers don’t cover the test yet, so check your policy. Should You Ask For It? Ask for it in addition to a screening mammogram if you have dense breast tissue. If you’re at high risk but you don’t have dense breasts, a mammogram should suffice. Sandra Gordon is an award-winning freelance writer who delivers expert advice and the latest developments in health, nutrition, parenting and consumer issues. v

Do You Have Dense Breasts? Breast density depends in part on hormonal status, which is why premenopausal women are more like to have dense breasts. Genetics also plays a part. If your mom had dense breasts, you’re more likely to have them. But only a mammogram can make that determination. In some states, radiologists are required by law to tell you, in the letter you receive about your mammogram results, whether you have dense breasts. If your state doesn’t require that information, simply ask your doctor if your mammogram results indicate that you have dense breasts.

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SPECIAL SECTION: Women’s Health

Breast Tests that Could Save Your Life

Bladder Matters By Sandra Gordon

hile playing in the park one day with her 2-year-old daughter, Missy Lavender felt the sudden urge to go, as in to the bathroom. “I had just had my favorite beverage in the world, a Diet Mountain Dew,” says the mom of two. With no restroom in sight, Lavender, then 42, quickly packed up her daughter and raced home just in time. Whew! Soon, however, near-accidents became increasingly frequent. “I remember saying to my doctor, ‘I know every toilet between here and Target. This is really starting to ruin my life. I’m afraid to be intimate with my husband.’ It was getting to be a problem,’” Lavender says. “It” was overactive bladder (OAB), the condition in which the bladder--a balloon-shaped organ that stores and releases urine—misfires. The inside story: “Under normal circumstances, when your bladder is full, it sends a signal to your brain that it’s time to go. In that moment, the urethra—the tube that carries urine from the body—relaxes, then the bladder contracts,” says Sara Diaz-Valentin, M.D., a board certified OB/GYN and urogynecologist at Urology of Indiana in Indianapolis. With OAB, however, the bladder gets the signal to contract at an inappropriate time, such as when you’re nowhere near a restroom. You may leak urine, wet your pants completely—or not. There’s a wet and a dry form of OAB. “You can have the urge to go even if your bladder is empty,” Dr. Diaz-Valentin says. It’s estimated that 40 percent of American women live with OAB. You may have the condition if you have to urinate eight or more times a day, urinate two or more times each night, or you feel strong, sudden urges to urinate.

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Get Relief If you think you may have OAB, make a doctor’s appointment, preferably with a specialist. “We encourage women to arm themselves with information, push aside any embarrassment and have a discussion with a urologist or urogynecologist to find the right treatment option for them,” says Lavender, who because of her OAB experience, founded the Women’s Health Foundation (WHF), a non-profit organization dedicated to bringing education, funding and research to the field of women’s pelvic health. Your doctor can properly diagnose OAB and rule out other possible causes of incontinence, such as a urinary tract infection, and likely offer several treatment choices. Kegel exercises. Contracting the muscles of the pelvic floor—can reduce and prevent leakage by strengthening those muscles that surround the urinary tract. Flexing these muscles for 15 to 30 seconds, 30 to 60 times a day can be enough for improvement. Bladder retraining. A type of behavioral therapy, bladder retraining gradually teaches you to hold in urine for longer periods of time to prevent emergencies and leaks. You build bladder control by stretching out the time between trips to the bathroom. Holding it longer strengthens pelvic floor muscles. Collagen therapy. Collagen, a natural tightening agent and protein-based tissue from cows, is injected into the wall of the urethra. Several sessions are usually required. However, collagen can cause an allergic reaction in some women, so you’ll need a skin test before treatment. Medication. A group of drugs called anticholinergics block the nerve signals related to the bladder to help it relax.. Botox. A small amount of Botox (onabotulinumtoxin A) is injected into the bladder to paralyze a portion of it. Botox reduces the urge to go by calming bladder muscles so they contract less often. Although most women tolerate the treatment well, “Botox is a last resort,” says Dr. Diaz-Valentin. v

Resource Listings Glen Meade Center for Women’s Health NHRMC Physician Group Scott Beaver, Practice Manager

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of 18 physicians, 18 mid-level providers and more than 200 employees, OrthoWilmington offers fellowship-trained and board-certified experts in a variety of subspecialties, including spine, sports medicine, hip and knee joint reconstruction and revision, hand and upper extremity, foot and ankle, trauma and physical medicine and rehabilitation. In addition to the full range of specialty orthopaedic care, the group offers AccessOrtho, a walk-in clinic for immediate non-emergency care at the Ashton Drive location, physical therapy services in all markets, and a high-field MRI Imaging Center.

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Quick Fixes for Menstrual Cramps Calendula Oil Rub

Gently rubbing calendula oil, a marigold extract, into your belly can help soothe menstrual cramps within 20 minutes. Calendula is rich in natural muscle-relaxing compounds that absorb readily through skin. Calendula oil can be found in health food stores or online.

Rub Those Feet Use your thumbs to firmly massage your foot arches for at least three minutes. This acupressure technique helps stimulate the release of endorphins, which are powerful painkilling hormones.

Pull an all-nighter If your aches and pains flare up during your premenstrual week, try this: One night each month— just before your PMS normally strikes—shortchange yourself of sleep by going to bed at 9 p.m. and setting the alarm for 1 a.m. so you can get up and watch movies, catch up on emails or read a great book. After one groggy day—and eight hours of catch-up sleep the next night—80 percent of women are completely symptom-free the rest of the month, say researchers at the University of California, San Diego. What gives? Although chronic sleep deprivation is bad news, one welltimed, groggy day revs up your brain’s production of painkilling neurotransmitters.

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Wine Consumption and Women: How Much is too Much?

Soft, velvety, and a little sweet. A relaxing end to a stressful day. Socially acceptable and a sign of sophistication. A secret obsession that may be a little out of control. Which of these are reasons that you pop the cork every week, every few days, daily? Wine consumption has changed in America, especially among women. It has become a permissible escape, attributed to good health, and carries virtually no stigma. Wine can be easily enjoyed or easily abused. Facts: • Americans are drinking more wine than ever before. In 2010, for the first time, our consumption surpassed that of the French. • Women drink nearly 60 percent of all wine in the U.S. • 2 glasses (not daily) carries the health benefits. Once you reach for the 3rd, long term health risks such as liver disease increase. • Women have a higher proportion of body fat, which can’t absorb alcohol. This results in higher levels of alcohol in the bloodstream. • Hormonal changes associated with the menstrual cycle can increase the absorption of each glass by as much as 20 percent. Signs of Overindulgence: • You notice bad decisions follow your drinking. It’s OK to lower your inhibitions a tad, but some decisions can have life altering consequences. • Weekend binging. Abstaining all week and then making up for it on Friday night with 5 or 6 glasses negates any health benefits and puts you at risk for alcohol poisoning • You lose count. If you meant to only drink 2 glasses and you almost finish a bottle without realizing you’ve refilled, you are on a bad path. Drinking problems are sneaky, keep track of your limits. Responsibilities slide. When drinking is prioritized over your normal day-to-day life, you’re probably in the danger zone. If you think you’ve developed a problem, talk to a loved one about helping you set limits and keep you accountable. Also, talk to a health professional about counseling and support. Sources: www.abc.com; www.wineinstitute.org; www.cdc.gov

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Parabens are one of the top reasons for having increased fat on your chest, legs, and/or triceps. For those with a history of breast cancer Parabens have been linked to the development of breast cancer due to increased estrogen levels. They will decrease the level of testosterone that males produce and accelerate the development of a young female. Parabens are used as preservatives in almost all make-ups, hair products, body washes, lotions, etc... There are companies out there that provide products that are Paraben free, it just takes a bit of searching. When you look at the ingredient labels for your products look for the following forms of parabens. If an ingredient includes the word “paraben”, don’t use it! Common parabens used in cosmetics are: Methylparaben; Ethylparaben; Propylparaben; Butylparaben; Isobutylparaben; Isopropylparaben; Benzylparaben Many baby and children’s products include the use of parabens. Clean out the cabinets and start fresh! Becky Woodske BioSignature Specialist, PICP I & II SHAPE Healthy You Healthy Family (910)789-3792

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Non-Food Uses of Coconut Oil Coconut oil has become the pantry staple of many health conscious homes. It has a unique flavor and contains health benefits that other oils can not claim. What makes this superfood exceptional however, are the other non-food uses. • Leave-In Conditioner – a teeny tiny amount rubbed in the palm of your hands and run through your hair adds softness and shine. A little goes a long way, though – seriously, a teeny tiny bit! • For Babies - Cradle cap and diaper rash. Gently rub on the scalp and use a fine-tooth comb to remove cradle cap. Great for soothing diaper rash and it’s antimicrobial and anti-fungal, so it helps prevent infections. • Toothpaste – Use a one-to-one ratio of coconut oil to baking soda to clean your teeth. • Face Wash – Rub a nickle-sized dollop of coconut oil in between your palms until it’s liquid and rub gently all over your skin like you would face wash. Then place a hot, damp washcloth over your face and let it sit there for about 30 seconds until it cools. Then use the washcloth to gently rub the coconut oil off your face. Instead of stripping your face of it’s natural oils like most face washes do – coconut oil nourishes your skin along with cleaning it!

Best Bones Forever A bone health campaign for girls and their BFFs to “grow strong together and stay strong forever!” Campaign Targets Girls as Bone Health Risks Rise U. S. Department of Health and Human Services sponsors a campaign, called Best Bones Forever!™, designed to improve bone health and decrease the risk of osteoporosis. Osteoporosis is often called a “pediatric disease with geriatric consequences.” Childhood and adolescence are the key windows of opportunity for building strong bones and warding off the disease. In girls, close to 90 percent of bone mass is built by age 18. Girls, in particular, are at greatest risk for bone problems. This campaign empowers girls ages 9 to 14 to build the Best Bones Forever!™ HHS recommends girls look for foods with calcium and vitamin D, which is necessary to help bones absorb calcium. Recommended: Girls over 9 years old consume 1300 mg of calcium per day 60 minutes of physical activity daily, including three days of bone-strengthening activity. This campaign embraces an issue close to every girl’s heart: friendship. Best Bones Forever!™, developed by the HHS’ Office on Women’s Health (OWH),urges girls and their BFFs (best friends forever) to ‘grow strong together, and stay strong forever.’ Physical activity gets a boost among girls whose friends have positive attitudes toward sports. For more information on activities, free stuff, quizzes, recipes, and important facts go to the campaign Web site for girls at www.bestbonesforever.gov or for parents at www.bestbonesforever. gov/parents.

October Races Fall race season is in full swing! Here are some local races that raise money for excellent causes, get you a little dirty, and even send zombies after you! Fun, fitness, and philanthropy are all perfect reasons for you to lace up and get moving! Run for the Ta Tas Oct. 4, Trysports in Mayfaire @ 8am. This is a chaser race, boys chase girls. Women get a 2 minute 30 second head start, then the men start. First participant to cross the finish line gets cash! Son Run 5K Oct. 18, Wrightsville Beach loop @ 8am. 5K and kid’s fun run with awards including cash and Apple Annie’s delicious pies! Step up for Soldiers Muddy Girls Mud Run and Combat Mud Run Oct. 18, National Guard Armory, ILM Airport @ 8am. he 5K course offers just enough of a challenge for the athletic, but is friendly for participants looking to take on a mud run as a new challenge or prepare for those mud runs that have fire and electricity (no shocking here!). Combat Mud Run directly follows the Muddy Girls Run.

Poplar Grove Plantation Zombie 5K Oct. 18, Abbey Nature Preserve, Poplar Grove Plantation. 5K course crawling with zombies trying to take your 3 health flags. Runners who make it to the finish line with at least 1 flag receive tickets to the Halloween Festival. 2014 NC Oyster Festival Road Race Oct. 19, Ocean Isle Beach @ 6am. Open to runners of all levels. The only race that gives out $1700 in prize money! Runners receive dry wick shirts, diecast event medals, and an entry ticket to the award winning NC Oyster Festival held that same weekend. Wilmington Zombie Run Oct. 25, Hugh Mcrae Park @ 4pm. One mile fun run infested with zombies. Supports paws4people. “Survive the course” with flag intact for prizes.

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All Month Long! Cotton Exchange Tours Daily (Year Round). Cotton Exchange, Downtown. Tales of mystery of the Cotton Exchange ghosts. $10/ Adults. $8/Students & Seniors. Free/Under age 12. Visit www.TourOldWilmington.blogspot.com or call 409-4300 for information.

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Horsedrawn Tours 10am – 10pm Daily. Water & Market Streets, downtown. Costumed driver narrates a unique adventure along the riverfront, driven by rescued horses. $12/ Adults. $5/Children under 12. Call 251-8889 with questions. Visit www.horsedrawntours.com for coupon.

1 Wednesday - World Vegetarian Day Poplar Grove Farmer’s Market 8am-1pm Wednesdays, Poplar Grove Plantation. Through November 26. Join us at the beautiful historic Poplar Grove Mansion every Wednesday for the Farmer’s Market. Interact with the people growing, catching, baking and producing your food and other products. This is a great way to connect with the com-

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munity and find one-of-a kind goods including crafts and delicious foods for the whole family! Visit www. poplargrove.org for more information. Storytime at the Library 9:30; 10:00; 10:30am Wednesdays. Northeast & Myrtle Grove Library. Lapsit, Toddler, and Preschool storytimes! Stories, songs, and age appropriate activities for each group. Call 798-6303 with questions. Happy Little Singers 9:45am Wednesdays. Ms. Susan’s Room in The Art Works. Ages 4½ to 8 years. Sing, Dance and Creative Play. $10 per family with one to two children, $5 each additional child. Drop-ins welcome. Call 7778889 for more information. S.T.E.M. Explorations 10am & 3pm, Wednesdays. Children’s Museum. STEM programs explore Science, Technology, Engineering and Mathematics by applying them in fun, hands-on activities. Children will learn about the scientific process while measuring and recording in mathematical terms, developing critical thinking skills in the process. Please pre-register. Visit www. playwilmington.org for more information.

2 Thursday Storytime at the Library 9:30; 10:00; 10:30am Thursdays. Northeast & Myrtle Grove Library. Lapsit, Toddler, and Preschool storytimes! Stories, songs, and age appropriate activities for each group. Call 798-6303 with questions. Happy Little Singers 9:45am Thursdays. Ms. Susan’s Room in The Art Works. Ages 6 months to 6 years. Sing, Dance and Creative Play. $10 per family with one to two children, $5 each additional child. Drop-ins welcome. Call 777-8889 for more information. Baby Music with Catherine 10am. Learning Express, Military Cutoff location. A free demo class for ages birth to 1. For reservations call 509-0153. StoryCOOKS 10am Thursdays. Children’s Museum. Cooking club for preschoolers. Read a story and create a dish inspired by the book. Sponsored by Harris Teeter. Call 254-3534 to pre-register.

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Toddler Music with Catherine 10:45am. Learning Express, Military Cutoff location. A free demo class. Rhythm, rhyme and fun for toddlers ages 1-3 and an adult. For reservations call 509-0153. Child Yoga 3:30pm. Children’s Museum. Child Yoga is a fun, interactive way for children of all ages to get moving! Join us for 30 minutes to: perform animal poses, improve flexibility and coordination, and learn relaxation techniques that will help navigate life’s challenges with a bit more ease. Please pre-register. Visit www. playwilmington.org. for more information. Jump! Move! Learn! 3:30pm, Thursdays. Children’s Museum. Join us in learning how to keep our bodies healthy and happy. Discover new exercises and games while learning all about the human body. Ideal for ages 5-9. Visit www. playwilmington.org for details. Happy Bigger Singers 4pm Thursdays. Ms. Susan’s Room in The Art Works. Ages 4-8 years. Sing, Dance and Creative Play. $10 per family with one to two children, $5 each additional child. Drop-ins welcome. Please text 777-8889 or email info@happylittlesingers.com to register.

3 Friday Art and Craft Friday – Hot Mess Painting 9:45am Fridays. Ms. Susan’s Room in The Art Works, 200 Willard St. Children ages 3+ enjoy a weekly Art/ Craft project. $10 per child. Visit www.ms-susansroom.com for weekly events. RSVP required in advance by texting 910-777-8889 or emailing info@ ms-susans-room.com. Toddler Time 10am, Fridays. Children’s Museum. No registration necessary. Projects and activities for our youngest visitors (ages 4 and under) and their special grownups to work on together. Call 254-3534 or visit www. playwilmington.org for more information.

Art in the Arboretum 10am. Arboretum. The event showcases handcrafted jewelry, glass, textiles, metal work, stepping stones, wood, painting and photography set among six acres of coastal gardens. Also featured are live music, artist demonstrations, children’s art activities and a special art show sponsored by the Ability Garden. Visit www. nhcarboretum.com for details. Music & Movement Storytime 10:30am, Fridays. Main Library. Have fun moving with stories and music! Learn basic musical concepts and enjoy exciting and active stories. No pre-registration or equipment needed. Please wear clothing that is comfortable for active play or dance. Appropriate for ages 5 years and younger. Call 798-6322 for more details. ACS Fall Home Show 11am-8pm. Wilmington Convention Center. Features hundreds of exhibits designed for homeowners in all stages of remodeling, landscaping and decorating. Concessions available. Visit www.acshomeshow.com for more information. Adventures in the Arts 3:30pm, Fridays. Children’s Museum. Please preregister. Bring your child to express their creativity through various forms of art including but not limited to painting, sculpture, music, theater, dance, draw ing, and printing. Visit www.playwilmington.org for details. Rainbow Looming for Rookies 4-5pm. Learning Express, both locations. Stop by and learn how to loom, or help us finish creating our looooooooong chain to send to MaxLove. Call 3133100 for details. Riverfest 2014 6-11pm. Downtown Wilmington. annual street fair in historic downtown Wilmington, NC, and features food, arts and crafts, dance performances, fireworks (Saturday at 9pm), children’s activities, car show, standup paddle (SUP) race, live music, fireworks, Adventure Zone, Kidz Zone, Skateboard Tournament, Wakeboard Competition, Film Festival, Motorcross, and Great Waiters Wine Race. Visit www.wilmingtonriverfest.com for details.

4 Saturday Riverfront Farmer’s Market 8am-1pm, Saturdays. Riverfront Park. Through November 22. A weekly market in the historic downtown river district. The market features local farmers, producers, artists and crafters. Products include fresh fruits and berries, vegetables, plants, herbs, flowers, eggs, cheeses, meats, seafood, honey, baked goods, legumes, pickled items, jams and jellies, wine, art, crafts and more. Call 910-538-6223 for more information. Carolina Beach Farmer’s Market 8am-1pm Saturdays. Carolina Beach Lake Park. Last day of the season! Enjoy the Farmer’s Market on the island! Vendors will feature locally-produced fruits and vegetables, plants, baked goods, dairy products, meats, crafts, wines and more. Each market will feature live entertainment from local musicians and informational opportunities from local non-profit organizations. Free Parking is located at the Lake and on Lake Park Boulevard. Paid parking is also provided in close proximity. Visit www.carolinabeachfarmersmarket.com for more information. Family Fun Day 9am. Brunswick Nature Park. Free event. Join us for a chance to go mountain biking on park trails, kayaking in Town Creek from the launch (9-10:30am), and hiking on trails to view longleaf pine restoration efforts. Call 790-4524 for more information. Riverfest 2014 9am-11pm. Downtown Wilmington. See 10/03. Stop Animation 9:30am, Saturdays. Myrtle Grove Library. Learn how to use ReadyANIMATOR, iStopMotion, and iMovie to create your own movie! Ages 8 & up Limit two children per session. Registration is required. Call 798-6393. Happy Little Singers 9:45am Saturdays. Ms. Susan’s Room in The Art Works. Ages 6 months to 6 years. Sing, Dance and Creative Play. $10 per family with one to two children, $5 each additional child. Drop-ins welcome. Call 777-8889 for more information.

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Art in the Arboretum 10am. Arboretum. See 10/03. 8th Annual Sunset at Sunset 10am-5pm. Sunset Blvd. in front of Ingram Planetarium. Live music, food, vendors, and a Kids Korner. Free admission. Visit www.sunsetatsunset.com for more information. ACS Fall Home Show 10am-8pm. Wilmington Convention Center. See 10/03. 2nd Annual Pleasure Island Day of Hope “Toes in the Sand” 10:30am. Live music and beach walk. Registration begins at 8:30am. Visit www.pleasureislandnc.org for details. Open-Ended Art With Faber Castell 2-4pm. Learning Express, both locations. Ages 6+ can come and paint, play with markers and use your imaginations. Drop in and create (wear an old shirt)! Call 313-3100 for details. Super Saturday Fun Time 3pm Saturdays. TheatreNow. Join DOCK, the dog, and his two-legged friends as they uncover mysteries and discover artifacts (courtesy of Cape Fear Museum). Different adventure each week. Families welcome. $8/ person. Visit www.theatrewilmington.com for tickets.

Character Appearance: Wylde Scott reading The Possible Police 4pm. Barnes & Noble, Mayfaire. What happens when you remove all obstacles to a child’s imagination? Anything is possible! And you will meet storyteller Wylde Scott who believes that all children should live in a world of endless possibilities. Special activities and crafts!

5 Sunday Family Fun Day 9am - 5pm. Airlie Gardens. Visit the parks and Arboretum for a full day of family fun. Contact 798-7700 or visit www.airliegardens.org for more information.

Grooves in the Grove - Doug Irving Quartet 5-7pm. Poplar Grove Plantation. Free. Bring your chairs and blankets for an enjoyable fall evening of music and fun. Visit www.poplargrove.org for more information.

6 Monday Railroad Storytime 10:30am. Wilmington Railroad Museum. Hear stories and enjoy creative activities in the Children’s Hall. $4/Family. Free/Members. Call 763-2634 for more information.

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Art in the Arboretum 10am. Arboretum. See 10/03. Riverfest 2014 10am-5pm. Downtown Wilmington. See 10/03. ACS Fall Home Show 10am-6pm. Wilmington Convention Center. Residents Free Day - Cape Fear Museum 1 – 5pm. Cape Fear Museum. NHC residents are admitted free to the Museum the first Sunday of every month. Call 798-4350 or visit www.capefearmuseum. com for information.

Storytime at the Library 9:30; 10:00; 10:30am Tuesdays. Main Library. Lapsit, Toddler, and Preschool storytimes! Stories, songs, and age appropriate activities for each group. Call 7986303 with questions. Happy Little Singers 9:45am Tuesdays. Ms. Susan’s Room in The Art Works. Ages 6 months to 6 years. Sing, Dance and Creative Play. $10 per family with one to two children, $5 each additional child. Drop-ins welcome. Call 777-8889 for more information.

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French for Tots 10am. Learning Express, Oleander location. Get ready to sing, dance, and speak French with native teacher Miss Marie. A bientot! Ages 6 months-6 years. Call 313-3100 for reservations. Special Storytime: The Book With No Pictures 10am. Barnes & Noble, Mayfaire. Cleverly irreverent and irresistibly silly, The Book with No Pictures is one that kids will beg to hear again and again. Join us for a reading of the book and fun-filled activities! Call 509-1880 for details. Preschool Storytime at the Museum 3pm, Tuesdays. Children’s Museum. This storytime is geared towards preschoolers to introduce simple stories and songs. Ideal for ages 2-4. Visit www. playwilmington.org for details. Kid’s Cooking Club 3:30 - 4:30pm Tuesdays. Children’s Museum. Learn new skills and explore fun seasonal recipes. Then savor the flavor of your hard work. Kids Cooking Club is sponsored by Harris Teeter. Visit www.playwilmington.org for weekly themes and call 254-3534 to pre-register.

8 Wednesday Poplar Grove Farmer’s Market 8am-1pm Wednesdays, Poplar Grove Plantation. Through November 26. Join us at the beautiful historic Poplar Grove Mansion every Wednesday for the Farmer’s Market. Interact with the people growing, catching, baking and producing your food and other products. This is a great way to connect with the community and find one-of-a kind goods including crafts and delicious foods for the whole family! Visit www. poplargrove.org for more information. Baby Dance Boogie 10am. Learning Express, Oleander location. For ages 1-3. Wiggle and dance with Dance With Me Director, Danielle Tisdale. Boogie down and have fun! Reservations required. Call 313-3100 for details. Preschool Dance Mania 10:30am. Learning Express, Oleander location. For ages 3-5. Dance their willies out with Dance With Me Director, Danielle Tisdale. Boogie down and have fun! Reservations required. Call 313-3100 for details. LEGOS in the Library 3:30pm. Myrtle Grove Library. Come, create, play! See if you can meet the challenge of the day - singly or with a friend. Bring your imagination. No fees, but registration is required. Call 798-6303 to reserve a spot. 4-H Youth Science Day 3:45pm. Main Library. An exciting, interactive learning experience that engages thousands of youth across the country in conducting the National Science Experiment. Join us to participate in this year’s National www.wilmingtonparent.com

Science Experiment, Rockets to the Rescue!, as we explore the field of aerospace engineering. In light of the recent natural disasters such as Typhoon Haiyan, youth will design and build an aerodynamic food transportation device that can deliver a payload of nutritious food to disaster victims. FREE, floating event for ages 10 and up.

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9 Thursday Baby Music with Catherine 10am. Learning Express, Oleander location. Gentle music and movement with babies ages newborn to 1 yr and an adult. $10 fee for each class payable at time of reservation. Call 313-3100 to reserve a spot. Toddler Music with Catherine 10:45am. Learning Express, Oleander location. Rhythm, rhyme and fun for toddlers ages 1-3 and an adult. $10 fee for each class payable at time of reservation ($5 if a sibling is enrolled in the Baby Music class that comes just before). Call 313-3100 for reservations. LEGOS in the Library 3:30pm. Main Grove Library. Come, create, play! See if you can meet the challenge of the day - singly or with a friend. Bring your imagination. No fees, but registration is required. Call 798-6303 to reserve a spot.

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Art and Craft Friday – Bubble Wrap Prints 9:45am Fridays. Ms. Susan’s Room in The Art Works, 200 Willard St. Children ages 3+ enjoy a weekly Art/ Craft project. $10 per child. Visit www.ms-susansroom.com for weekly events. RSVP required in advance by texting 910-777-8889 or emailing info@ ms-susans-room.com.

11 Saturday Riverfront Farmer’s Market 8am-1pm, Saturdays. Riverfront Park. Through November 22. A weekly market in the historic downtown river district. The market features local farmers, producers, artists and crafters. Products include fresh fruits and berries, vegetables, plants, herbs, flowers, eggs, cheeses, meats, seafood, honey, baked goods, legumes, pickled items, jams and jellies, wine, art, crafts and more. Call 910-538-6223 for more information. 11th Annual A Day to Remember 8am. Capt’n Bills Backyard Grill. Volleyball tournament starts at 8am. Kid’s Corner, bouncy houses, clowns, mascots, and petting zoo 11am-3pm. Benefits Alzheimer’s NC. Family Science Saturday: Creative Chemistry 10am-1pm. Cape Fear Museum. Investigate the states of matter all around us. Watch your subjects bubble Wilmington Parent | October 2014 | 21

as you conduct experiments with acids, bases, and mixtures. Explore solids, liquids, and gases with gooey, frozen, and sometimes messy experiments! Unravel a colorful mystery with chromatography and make a model atom to take home. Free for members or with admission. Parental participation is required.

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Italian Festival 11am. St. Brendan Catholic Church. Authentic foods, adult’s and chldren’s games and activities, dance music provided by the Class Act Band, and raffles. Call 7548544 for more information. Macbeth: Shakespeare for Kids 11am, Myrtle Grove Library & 2pm, Carolina Beach Library. Treat yourself to a kid-friendly version of William Shakespeare’s Macbeth presented by Bare Bones Performances! Complete with translations and an activity guide, children will follow along and cross out characters to see who is left at the end of the show!

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Fire in the Pines Festival 11am-3pm. Halyburton Park. Celebrate the importance of fire in the longleaf pine ecosystem with games, food, live music, animals, interactive educational activities, hay rides, raffles and face painting. The highlight of the festival is a demonstration controlled burn--weather permitting--to give festival goers the opportunity to see how burns are conducted and learn more about their importance to the ecosystem. Fire equipment will be on display and Smoky Bear is scheduled to be a special guest. Call 341-0075 for details. Play: Puss in Boots 2-3pm. Main Library. Rags-to-Riches of Raleigh, NC will perform “Puss in Boots.” This event is supported by PNC Grow Up Great. Call 798-6303 for more information. Star Wars Reads Day 2-4pm. Learning Express, both locations. Create Straw Shooter Jets from Klutz, (while supplies last) and save 20% all day on all Star Wars books. Call 313-3100 for more information. Star Wars Reads Day: The Adventures of Luke Skywalker, Jedi Knight 4pm. Barnes & Noble, Mayfaire. Join us for Stars Wars Reads Day III - a fun-filled day of giveaways and activities for Star Wars fans of all ages. Costumes encouraged! Call 509-1880 for details.

12 Sunday Grooves in the Grove - Mac & Juice 5-7pm. Poplar Grove Plantation. Free. Bring your chairs and blankets for an enjoyable fall evening of music and fun. Visit www.poplargrove.org for more information.

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Cameron School of Business Columbus Day Tourney 1pm. Cape Fear National Golf Course, Leland. This tournament will benefit students in the Cameron School of Business and more specifically Pi Sigma Epsilon, the largest and most active student organization in the Cameron School of Business. Visit events.myrtlebeachonline.com for ticket information.

14 Tuesday Baby Dance Boogie 10am. Learning Express, Military Cutoff location. For ages 1-3. Wiggle and dance with Dance With Me Director, Danielle Tisdale. Boogie down and have fun! Reservations required. Call 509-0153 for details. Preschool Dance Mania 10:30am. Learning Express, Military Cutoff location. For ages 3-5. Dance their wil22 | October 2014 | Wilmington Parent

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lies out with Dance With Me Director, Danielle Tisdale. Boogie down and have fun! Reservations required. Call 509-0153 for details. LEGOS in the Library 3:30pm. Carolina Beach Library. Come, create, play! See if you can meet the challenge of the day - singly or with a friend. Bring your imagination. No fees, but registration is required. Call 798-6303 to reserve a spot. Preschool Math and Science Program 3:30pm. Myrtle Grove Library. Play, learn, and explore with your child. Math and science concepts will be introduced through interactive story times, hands-on science experiments and exploration stations. For children between the ages of 3-6. Children must be accompanied by an adult. Call 798-6365 for required registration. Scare Squad 6pm. Myrtle Grove Library. Help make props for the Haunted Library. This evening’s event focuses on Creepy Signs. Call 798-6391 for more information. American Girl Event 7pm. Barnes & Noble, Mayfaire. Join us for an American Girl Night talking about Saige! We’ll have fun crafts and activities. All are welcome to join the fun in the Children’s Department. Call 509-1880 for details.

15 Wednesday Poplar Grove Farmer’s Market 8am-1pm Wednesdays, Poplar Grove Plantation. Through November 26. Join us at the beautiful historic Poplar Grove Mansion every Wednesday for the Farmer’s Market. Interact with the people growing, catching, baking and producing your food and other products. This is a great way to connect with the community and find one-of-a kind goods including crafts and delicious foods for the whole family! Visit www.poplargrove.org for more information.

16 Thursday Baby Music with Catherine 10am. Learning Express, Military Cutoff location. Gentle music and movement with babies ages newborn to 1 yr and an adult. $10 fee for each class payable at time of reservation. Call 509-0153 to reserve a spot. Toddler Music with Catherine 10:45am. Learning Express, Military Cutoff location. Rhythm, rhyme and fun for toddlers ages 1-3 and an adult. $10 fee for each class payable at time of reservation ($5 if a sibling is enrolled in the Baby Music class that comes just before). Call 509-0153 for reservations. Nature Journaling 1:30-3pm. Halyburton Park. Join park naturalist in creating your own nature journal. In your nature journal, the outdoors is the stimulus for responsive writing and artwork; however, subject matter also matters. Ages 6-11. Call 341-0075 for details. www.wilmingtonparent.com

Childcare Listing Guide Childcare – Preschools Childcare Network 8 convenient locations in Wilmington, Southport and Leland 866-521-KIDS www.childcarenetwork.com Ages 6-weeks to 12-years The Children’s Schoolhouse Montessori 612 South College Rd. Wilmington, NC 28403 910-799-1531 www.childrensschoolhouse.net Now enrolling students ages 3-5, for 2, 3, or 5 day programs. Jenkins Preschool Academy 7888 Market St. Wilmington, NC 28411 910-367-7210 www.jpawilmington.com Half day programs 9am-12pm, 2 or 3 day classes for 2-3 yr. olds, 5-day programs for 4 y.o. And PreK

Friends School of Wilmington PreK 207 Pine Grove Drive, City of Wilmington, North Carolina 28403 910-791-8221 www.fsow.org A truly unique and desirable educational experience. Montessori teaching principles are used for preschool. Wilmington Christian Academy 1401 North College Road 910-791-4248 www.wilmingtonchristian.com Ages 3 & up, WCA offers a year-round, full-day program including developmental, experiential & academic elements in a secure, faith-based environment.

Drop In Childcare Power of Play Drop-N-Go 6644 Gordon Road Wilmington, NC 28411 910-332-1660 www.powerofplaywilmington.com Open Monday-Saturday during operating hours for potty-trained children ages 4-11.

Simply Play Drop-In Childcare 3818 Oleander Dr. Wilmington, Nc 28403 910-791-0022 www.playsimplyplay.com 12 months-12 years, Monday-Thursday 830am830 pm, Friday-Saturday 830 am-1130pm. Simply Play is an award winning drop-in childcare center created by a Kindergarten teacher to meet the needs of today’s busy families.

Parents Night Out Carolina Gymnastics Academy 3529 Carolina Beach Rd. Wilmingon, NC 28412 910-796-1896 www.carolinagymnasticsacademy.com Friday & Saturday night, 6-10pm, for ages 3 – 10. Power of Play 6644 Gordon Rd. Wilmington, NC 28411 910-332-1660 www.powerofplaywilmington.com Saturday night, 6-10pm, for ages 3-11

The Little Gym of Wilmington 132 Racine Drive, Unit 1, Wilmington, NC 238403 910-799-3771 www.tlgwilmingtonnc.com 3-12 years The Little Gym of Wilmington Parentsʼ Survival Nights lets you enjoy some adult time to see a movie, catch up with friends or enjoy a meal. We schedule Parentsʼ Survival Nights for select Friday and Saturday evenings. Wilmington Parent | October 2014 | 23

Magic Tree House Night 7pm. Barnes & Noble, Mayfaire. All are welcome to come as we have activities related to A Good Night for Ghosts! Call 509-1880 for more information.

17 Friday Tween Scene 5-6:30pm. Learning Express, Military Cutoff location. For Girls ages 8+. Create Washi Tape Stickers from Klutz, Nail Art, Sparkle Tattoos, games, and door prizes. For a reservation call 509-0153. Airlie Gardens Oyster Roast 6-10:30pm. Airlie Gardens. Appetizers, steamed oysters, bbq, fish fry, and dessert. Live entertainment. Visit www.airliegardens.org for ticket information.

18 Saturday Riverfront Farmer’s Market 8am-1pm, Saturdays. Riverfront Park. Through November 22. A weekly market in the historic downtown river district. The market features local farmers, producers, artists and crafters. Products include fresh fruits and berries, vegetables, plants, herbs, flowers, eggs, cheeses, meats, seafood, honey, baked goods, legumes, pickled items, jams and jellies, wine, art, crafts and more. Call 910-538-6223 for more information. 34th Annual NC Oyster Festival 9am-6pm. Ocean Isle Beach, between 2nd & 3rd St. Local cuisine, arts and crafts, children’s activities, live music, Oyster Stew Cook-off Contest and the Oyster Shucking Contest. New for 2014 we are adding an Oyster Eating Contest as well as a shag competition. Visit www.brunswickcountychamber.org for more information.

6th Annual Salty Paws Festival 12pm. Carolina Beach Lake Park. A day of furry fun for families and four-legged friends. The event includes arts & crafts, food, music and entertainment plus pet contests, children’s activities, raffles and prizes, and rescue animals for adoption. Visit www.pleasureislandnc.org for details. Kids @ CAM 12-3pm. Cameron Art Museum. Special guests from the AbunDANCE Company will perform hip hop dances inspired by our exhibitions. The dancers will lead fun movement activities in between performances. You can also make art that you can take home! All Ages Welcome. No pre-registration necessary.Parental supervision required at all times. Visit www.cameronartmuseum.org for more information. Kidz Bop Kids 4pm. Greenfield Lake Amphitheater. Dream Big, Sing Loud Tour. Visit www.greenfieldamphitheater.com for ticket and meet and greet information. 4th Annual Yacht Venture 6pm. MarineMax, Wrightsville Beach. The most exciting benefit of the year for the Children’s Museum of Wilmington! Envision a fleet of luxury yachts exceeding 40-feet in length in a stunning waterfront setting at Wrightsville Beach. Explore the yachts. Have cocktails and dinner. Watch the sun set over the marina. Adult-only event. Sponsorships available. Reservations $100 each. Childcare provided by the Museum. Bid for luxury items such as football tickets and jewelry in a silent auction. One raffle winner will be able to choose from three all-inclusive luxury vacation packages! Visit www.playwilmington.org more more information. Science Spooktacular 6-9pm. Cape Fear Museum. Discover the science behind creepy, mysterious, and gross phenomena through exciting hands-on experiments. Uncover the secrets behind magic and haunted house tricks as you make things bubble, smoke, and even disappear. Visit www.capefearmuseum.com for more information.

Kure Beach Variety Show: The Imitations 6-9pm. Kure Beach Ocean Front Park. Bring a chair or blanket and enjoy free concerts by the sea! This week’s concert featuring Beach, Soul and Rock & Roll of The Imitations. Visit www.townofkurebeach.org for a complete summer schedule.

19 Sunday 34th Annual NC Oyster Festival 10am-5pm. Ocean Isle Beach, between 2nd & 3rd st. See 10/18. Grooves in the Grove - Possum Creek Bluegrass Band 5-7pm. Poplar Grove Plantation. Free. Bring your chairs and blankets for an enjoyable fall evening of music and fun. Visit www.poplargrove.org for more information.

20 Monday Railroad Storytime 10:30am. Wilmington Railroad Museum. Hear stories and enjoy creative activities in the Children’s Hall. $4/Family. Free/Members. Call 763-2634 for more information.

21 Tuesday French for Tots 10am. Learning Express, Military Cutoff location. Get ready to sing, dance, and speak French with native teacher Miss Marie. A bientot! Ages 6 months-6 years. Call 509-0153 for reservations. Friends School of Wilmington Open House 12:30-2pm. FSOW, Peiffer Ave campus. Friends School of Wilmington invites you to an Open House. Tour the campuses and grounds, visit classrooms, and meet dedicated faculty, administrators and current parents. Grades 3rd-8th. Visit www.fsow.org for more information.

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Macbeth: Shakespeare for Kids 11am, Northeast Library & 2pm, Main Library. Treat yourself to a kid-friendly version of William Shakespeare’s Macbeth presented by Bare Bones Performances! Complete with translations and an

activity guide, children will follow along and cross out characters to see who is left at the end of the show!

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Special Storytime: No Bullying Month 7pm. Barnes & Noble, Mayfaire. Celebrate friendship and October’s No-Bullying Month with us at this special Storytime! The book features three never-beforepublished Dr. Seuss stories. Call 509-1880 for details.

22 Wednesday Poplar Grove Farmer’s Market 8am-1pm Wednesdays, Poplar Grove Plantation. Through November 26. Join us at the beautiful historic Poplar Grove Mansion every Wednesday for the Farmer’s Market. Interact with the people growing, catching, baking and producing your food and other products. This is a great way to connect with the community and find oneof-a kind goods including crafts and delicious foods for the whole family! Visit www. poplargrove.org for more information. Friends School of Wilmington Open House 10-11:30am. FSOW, Pine Grove Dr. campus. Friends School of Wilmington invites you to an Open House. Tour the campuses and grounds, visit classrooms, and meet dedicated faculty, administrators and current parents. 18 months-2nd grade.. Visit www.fsow.org for more information.

23 Thursday Baby Music with Catherine 10am. Learning Express, Oleander location. Gentle music and movement with babies ages newborn to 1 yr and an adult. $10 fee for each class payable at time of reservation. Call 313-3100 to reserve a spot. Toddler Music with Catherine 10:45am. Learning Express, Oleander location. Rhythm, rhyme and fun for toddlers ages 1-3 and an adult. $10 fee for each class payable at time of reservation ($5 if a sibling is enrolled in the Baby Music class that comes just before) Call 313-3100 for reservations. LEGOS in the Library 3:45pm. Northeast Library. Come, create, play! See if you can meet the challenge of the day - singly or with a friend. Bring your imagination. No fees, but registration is required. Call 798-6303 to reserve a spot.

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24 Friday - United Nations Day Art and Craft Friday – Halloween Crafts/Paper Bag Costumes 9:45am Fridays. Ms. Susan’s Room in The Art Works, 200 Willard St. Children ages 3+ enjoy a weekly Art/Craft project. $10 per child. Visit www.ms-susans-room.com for weekly events. RSVP required in advance by texting 910-777-8889 or emailing info@ms-susans-room.com. Clay Rice Silhouettes 10am-1pm, Learning Express Military Cutoff location & 3-6pm, Oleander location. Classic keepsake silhouettes cut by a renowned Lowcountry silhouette artist and children’s book author. Call 509-0153 or 313-3100 for more information and an appointment. Fourth Friday Gallery Walk 6 – 9pm. Downtown Galleries & Studios. An after-hours celebration of art and culture through a self-guided tour. Free. Visit www.wilmingtondowntown.com or call 343-8997 for map of participants.

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25 Saturday Riverfront Farmer’s Market 8am-1pm, Saturdays. Riverfront Park. Through November 22. A weekly market www.wilmingtonparent.com

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in the historic downtown river district. The market features local farmers, producers, artists and crafters. Products include fresh fruits and berries, vegetables, plants, herbs, flowers, eggs, cheeses, meats, seafood, honey, baked goods, legumes, pickled items, jams and jellies, wine, art, crafts and more. Call 910-5386223 for more information.

historic Poplar Grove Mansion every Wednesday for the Farmer’s Market. Interact with the people growing, catching, baking and producing your food and other products. This is a great way to connect with the community and find one-of-a kind goods including crafts and delicious foods for the whole family! Visit www. poplargrove.org for more information.

Wilmington Symphony Orchestra Concert: Rach Three 8pm. Kenan Auditorium. Wilmington favorite Domonique Launey joins the Wilmington Symphony for the mighty Third Piano Concerto of Rachmaninoff (“Rach Three” as it is known among pianists). Also on the concert is Benjamin Britten’s picturesque “Four Sea Interludes” from Peter Grimes. Visit www.wilmingtonsymphony.org for ticket information.

Elementary Scientists!: Lunar Exploration 3:30-4:30pm. Northeast Library. Each month ages 8 to 12 years will explore science with fun activities and fascinating information! This month we will investigate the science of astronomy by planning our own lunar colony. Please register by calling 798-6373.

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Family Matinee Concert 4pm. Kenan Auditorium. A chance to bring the kids to experience an orchestra concert featuring the Wilmington Symphony Youth Orchestra, conducted by Steven Errante, and the Wilmington Junior Strings, conducted by Jane Tierney. Under 18 admitted free. Call 962-3500 for more information.

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Grooves in the Grove - The Wooden Steel Band 5-7pm. Poplar Grove Plantation. Free. Bring your chairs and blankets for an enjoyable fall evening of music and fun. Visit www.poplargrove.org for more information.

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28 Tuesday Community Career Fair 3-6pm. Holiday Inn. A chance to meet with local recruiters from industries including healthcare, customer service, hospitality, and more; network with other professionals; and win door prizes. Visit www. wilmingtoncareerfair.com for more information.

29 Wednesday Poplar Grove Farmer’s Market 8am-1pm Wednesdays, Poplar Grove Plantation. Through November 26. Join us at the beautiful

30 Thursday Baby Music with Catherine 10am. Learning Express, Military Cutoff location. Gentle music and movement with babies ages newborn to 1 yr and an adult. $10 fee for each class payable at time of reservation. Call 509-0153 to reserve a spot. Toddler Music with Catherine 10:45am. Learning Express, Military Cutoff location. Rhythm, rhyme and fun for toddlers ages 1-3 and an adult. $10 fee for each class payable at time of reservation ($5 if a sibling is enrolled in the Baby Music class that comes just before). Call 509-0153 for reservations. Spooky Critters of the Forest 1:30-3pm. Halyburton Park. Discover the creepy crawlies that lurk in the longleaf during the spookiest time of the year. We will take a hike in the forest to get a closer glimpse, sing songs, and read a story. Later, we will build a spooktacular craft. Ages 6-11, $7. Call 341-0075 for details.

31 Friday - Halloween Art and Craft Friday – Fall Tree Crafts 9:45am Fridays. Ms. Susan’s Room in The Art Works, 200 Willard St. Children ages 3+ enjoy a weekly Art/ Craft project. $10 per child. Visit www.ms-susansroom.com for weekly events. RSVP required in advance by texting 910-777-8889 or emailing info@ ms-susans-room.com.

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Halloween Happenings

Poplar Grove Halloween Festival Oct.17, 18, 19, 24, 25, 26. Poplar Grove Plantation. Dare to walk through the Haunted Mansion, ride the Haunted Wagon through the deep dark forest, or for the little ones enjoy the Goblins and Games Fun House in the barn. Parental discretion is advised. Live music, food, inflatables, petting zoo, and tons of fun! Visit www.poplargrove.org for times and schedules. Trick-or-Treat Under the Sea Oct 23, 24, 29, & 30. Fort Fisher Aquarium, 5-8:30pm. A family-friendly event featuring indoor trick-ortreating, storytelling, a magic show, spooky Scuba divers, face painting, and haunted gardens. Children 16 and under must be accompanied by an adult. Call 458-8257 for details. Annual Halloween Costume Contest Oct. 24, Learning Express, both locations, 10am-4pm. Wear your costume to either store. $25 gift card prizes awarded in each store for Best Family Theme, Best Handmade Costume, Best Baby Costume, and Halloweeniest Costume. Call 509-0153 for details.

Halloween Festival & Haunted Trail Tour Oct. 25, Fort Fisher Recreation Area. Scary programs, games, Trick-or-Treat candy, and more. The guided hike is for visitors brave enough to come up-close-and-personal with spooky legends of the past along a secluded maritime forest trail (parental discretion advised). Call 458-5798 for details. Halloween Storytime Oct. 25, Barnes & Noble, Mayfaire, 4pm. Fans of the ‘Click, Clack, Moo: Cows That Type’ series will love this new title destined to be a Halloween classic - Click, Clack, Boo!: A Tricky Treat. Join us for this Halloween Storytime with fun-filled giveaways and activities. Trick or treat? Call 509-1880 for details. Haunted Library Oct. 25, Main Library, 6-9pm. 3rd Annual Spooky Storytelling Festival for Children! This special after-hours event is fun for the whole family. Spooky activities, performances, and a haunted house. FREE admission! Be sure to wear your costume! Batty Battleship’s Halloween Bash Oct. 28, Battleship NC, 5:30pm. A chance for parents to bring their wee ghosts and goblins trick-or-treating on the mighty vessel. The event includes games, bounce house, temporary tattoos, caricatures, and storytelling. Children are encouraged to wear their Halloween costumes. Kids under 3 admitted free. Spooky Night at the Museum Oct. 30, Museum of Coastal Carolina, 5:30-7:30pm. Featuring Balloon Man and Snakes Alive. Admission $6 per person, 2 and under free. Visit museumplanetarium.org for details.

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Magic Without Meltdowns

Top Tips For Trick-Or-Treating Parents By Christina Katz

listers abound, sugar levels soar, dehydration ensues, and next thing you know, what started as a fun, festive night feels more like a ghoulish nightmare.

The uncomfortable truth is that Halloween costumes are often flimsy and lack the insulation needed to stave off a brisk autumn chill. Kids’ candy bags can quickly become over-stuffed to the point of creating a cascade of candy-and tears-as the evening wears on. Before you turn into a witch or a warlock, parents, remember, the key to enjoying All Hallows’ Eve is as simple as rallying the troops in advance, going over your expectations, and getting prepared for anything that might go amiss. Here are some tips from a mom who has literally been around the block a few times:

Split into age groups. Have one parent take one age group and the other parent take the other age group. Tweens like to run in packs and they move fast, so wear sneakers and layers you can lose, if you plan on keeping up with them. Toddlers and preschoolers may dawdle or tire quickly, so choose the more patient parent to accompany them. Or consider taking two shifts, one earlier in the evening for younger kids and another later in the evening for older kids, trading off who stays home to hand out candy. Wear a backpack. Maybe it seems extreme to gear up as though you are going for an overnight hike just to walk a few blocks around the neighborhood. But once you grab everything you need for a pleasant evening, you will be amazed by how much stuff you have to tote. And don’t be surprised if your kids shed pieces of their costumes as the excitement heats up. A shoulder bag may feel fine for the first fifteen minutes of the night, but after two-hours, you will likely wish you had brought the backpack. 28 | October 2014 | Wilmington Parent

Eat a high-protein dinner. ‘Tis the season for over-indulging in sugar, which means it’s more important than any other time of year to emphasize three healthy high-protein meals a day. Be sure to give your kids limits on how much sugar they may consume between meals. Take their candy away and mete it out yourself if they don’t comply with your limits or can’t seem to wean themselves off the sugar roller coaster.

Practice their refrains. Commit to making the night pleasant for all. “Trick-or-treat!” and “Thank you!” are the only things young children need to be able to say their first couple of years out. But encourage older children to be more cordial especially to the older folks in the ‘hood, who will likely opt out altogether if they are offended by enough poorly behaved kids. How about making a chorus of “Happy Halloween!” or “Have a great night!” mandatory before the kids run off to the next house?

Be prepared. Whatever treat bags they carry, stuff a few extra bags in your backpack in case you need replacements. Also carry band-aids for blisters, water for hydration, and of course, don’t forget the camera.

Aim for the middle. If you are driving to another neighborhood to walk with a friend or friends, consider parking your vehicle in the middle of the neighborhood instead of on the edge or back at the friend’s house. This way, if you need to make an early exit for any reason, you’ll be that much closer to your escape car. Happy Halloween! v Christina Katz’ favorite Halloween costume was the Tin Man from the Wizard of Oz. She is proud to share that she made the costume herself. Her latest book is The Art of Making Time for Yourself, A Collection of Advice for Moms.

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More Than A Gourd

Pumpkin Activities and Games By Danielle Villegas

ctober is a time filled with pumpkins! Besides carving crazy designs and waiting for them to rot, why not use these autumn gourds for activities and learning opportunities? Math, art, science, and games are just a few of the out of the ordinary ideas below for all ages to enjoy.

Pumpkin Bowling Take this pumpkin bowling game outside, just in case the pumpkin doesn’t survive. Use a nice round pie pumpkin and cut off the stem. Then bore three bowling-ball-type holes with an apple corer. Using toilet paper rolls decorated at ghosts add a extra halloween touch to this game, and the toilet paper rolls go flying fantastically when hit!

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Rotting Pumpkin Science This experiment is disgusting, as only the best type of science is, but the pumpkin is going to rot anyways so why not learn something from the process. Go ahead and carve your pumpkin as usual. After Halloween, find a place to keep your pumpkin and allow it to naturally rot. Have your children make a science journal and record their daily findings of fuzzy black mold, mushy places, bugs, and any other observations. “He’s rotten & smells like a dirt pile. His face is all gooey. You can see where I stuck my finger in. Look at all the pumpkin juice! The back is falling & tipping over. His color is black & orange.” Be sure to include drawings!

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Don’t throw out the seeds! Even if you don’t want to roast and eat them, there are other uses for the pumpkin seeds. Counting Seeds: guess how many seeds there are and then count them. Print off some 100 charts and place one seed on each number while saying each number. Seed Crafts: Seeds can be painted and glued to paper to create patterns and designs. Pumpkin Seed Necklace: Paint the seeds different colors then use a needle and thread to poke holes in the seeds and make a colorful necklace. v

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Relaxation and Pampering at The Grove Park Inn An Ideal Getaway for You and Your Spouse By Brandy Metzger

s a young girl growing up in NC, I visited the Asheville area many times and was always amazed at the beauty of the Biltmore House and the surrounding mountain views. However, there was one grand structure that I always marveled at as I passed by that I never had the opportunity to visit…the Grove Park Inn. So, this summer when my husband and I decided to embark on a romantic getaway, we chose the Grove Park Inn as our destination. It is situated in an idyllic location in NC and offers a variety of amenities, activities and restaurants.

Warm Welcome Upon arrival at the Grove Park Inn, my husband and I were overwhelmed by the beauty of the historic building that stood before us. It is a massive structure made of the most beautiful stone that somehow seems so warm and inviting. Not only did the hotel make us feel welcome, but also the hotel staff. The valets and bellhops took care of our car and luggage while we headed to the check-in area. The front desk clerk was very friendly and had us checked-in within minutes. Before heading to our room, which was located in a newer wing, we spent a bit of time wandering around the lobby to admire its many unique features. The inviting feel of the exterior is matched by the warmth and charm of the interior lobby. There are two grand fireplaces made of stone at each end of the room and between those are a mixture of comfortable seating and tables perfect for socializing. The lobby also houses a bar, a piano for live entertainment and enormous windows that overlook the beauty of the Blue Ridge Mountains.

Accommodations and Amenities Although our room was not in the historic building, it was attractive

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and well-equipped with all the conveniences expected from a fine resort. The best part of the room, located in the Sammons wing, was the view. It was wonderful to wake up each morning to a spectacular view of the mountains. We spent our two days enjoying the amenities on site at the Grove Park Inn which include golf, tennis, racquetball, hiking, swimming and a nicely outfitted fitness center. With such active days, we decided to wind down with a trip to the spa one evening. The Spa on site is the most amazing facility of its kind that I have ever visited. The 43,000-square-foot spa feels like an underground grotto and features rock walls, arches, tunnels and 20 water features. There are 10 pools of varying temperature which are mineral-based and chlorine-free. I loved the mood created by underwater speakers in some pools. I could have stayed there for hours! In addition to all the activities, there are several incredible dining options available on site. Casual dining is available poolside at the Cabana Grill or after a spa treatment at the Spa Café. There are also a variety of casual to fine dining restaurants available. We enjoyed Edison’s wonderful selection of craft beers and pub fare. We also enjoyed a fine dining experience at Sunset Terrace where we watched the sun sink below the mountain peaks as we ate dinner. Overall, the experience at the Grove Park Inn was phenomenal. The historic building is like a living museum and the additional buildings add the conveniences and amenities that one seeks when staying in a firstclass resort. It is the perfect location to relax and feel just as pampered as the distinguished guests that have walked the halls for over 100 years. v Mother and freelance writer, Brandy Metzger has also been an educator for 16 years.

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November 15, 2014, 10am-3pm The Schwartz Center, CFCC 601 N. Front Street Downtown Wilmington

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When Family Dinner Doesn’t Work:

More Ways to Connect with Your Kids By Alyssa Chirco

s parents, we have been hearing for years about the many benefits of family dinner. Research shows that children who routinely enjoy meals with their parents have lower rates of substance abuse and depression, a stronger sense of belonging and even a better vocabulary. Unfortunately, non-traditional work schedules, extra-curricular activities and other necessary obligations make routine family dinners all but impossible for some of us to achieve. If you find yourself struggling to fit family dinners into your nightly schedule, remember that opportunities to establish meaningful connections with your kids exist throughout the course of the day, not just in the evening – and certainly not just at the dinner table. There are plenty of alternative ways for families to connect and spend time together on a regular basis. Here are some ideas that may work for you.

Family Breakfast Is your entire family at home in the morning? Instead of grabbing Pop Tarts on the go, get up a bit earlier and sit down at the breakfast table together before everyone heads out for the day. Keep in mind that family breakfast does not need to be elaborate or time-consuming. Set up a cereal bar with several dry cereal options and plenty of fresh fruit or search for overnight slow cooker recipes that require minimal effort on busy mornings.

Family Dessert Even if you find yourself reheating dinner when Dad gets home late or eating fast food in the car before soccer practice, the whole family can still indulge in a sweet treat together before everyone turns in for the night. Bake a batch of homemade cookies or buy a container of the family’s favorite ice cream, then gather around the table at 8 or 9 p.m. (depending on your children’s ages and bedtimes, of course) and take turns talking about the highlights of the day.

Family Car Trips Instead of feeling like a taxi service while you chauffeur your children from dance classes to piano lessons, use the opportunity to start a real conversation. Turn off smartphones and gaming devices and break the ice by playing a fun game like Twenty Questions. When the game ends, ask your kids which topics they would like to discuss. Their answers may surprise you.

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Family Meetings When held regularly, family meetings have the power to resolve conflicts, build family unity and foster a sense of autonomy by engaging children of all ages in the family’s decision-making process. Plan for all members of the family to meet at least twice a month to share accomplishments, discuss upcoming plans and brainstorm solutions to problems or concerns within the family.

A Family Journal When you keep a family journal, every person in the family has a designated place to write notes for other family members to read at their convenience. To get started, purchase a basic notebook and encourage everyone to share and read at regular intervals. You can also keep your family’s journal online. For example, a family journal is included when you create a free account with family organization website www.Cozi.com.

Family FaceTime Applications like FaceTime and Skype – which allow for face-to-face video calls -- are wonderful inventions for parents who travel, work late or do not live in the same home as their kids. They are also a valuable tool for parents of teenagers, since touching base with tech-savvy teens often requires meeting them where they are at – which these days is almost always on a smartphone.

Sunday Supper Even if there is only one day of the week that works for everyone, add family dinner to the calendar and honor the commitment. Many families find that cooking a special ‘Sunday Supper’ or splurging on Sunday Brunch at a favorite restaurant is a nice way to bring the whole family together on a day that is typically less busy than the rest. Your family may never manage to dine together every evening, but you can still keep the spirit of family dinner alive -- and reap its many benefits -- by finding multiple ways to build strong and loving connections with your kids. v Alyssa Chirco is a freelance journalist and mother of two from St. Louis, Missouri. Although she can rarely get her whole family together at the dinner table, she serves family breakfast (even if it’s just cold cereal) every morning.

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School’s Out! New Hanover County: Traditional Schools: 10/31 - Half Day for Students Year Round Schools: 10/1-17 - Intersession

CFCI Superheroes The Cape Fear Center for Inquiry Middle Grades had a pep rally to get the students pumped up for the year! Middle Grades teachers dressed in student designed superhero costumes and competed in games. Congratulations 7th grade for winning the games!

CFCI Charter School: 10/30- Half Day for Students 10/31 - No School, Teacher Workday

Cape Fear Academy Students Receive Honors at State Journalism Competition

WEC: 10/10 - No School, Teacher Workday Brunswick:

At the North Carolina Scholastic Media Association’s Summer Institute, held June 16-19 at the UNC-CH School of Journalism and Mass Communication, two Cape Fear Academy publications were recognized.

Traditional Schools: 10/6 - No School, Teacher Workday Brunswick Early College: 10/17 - No School, Teacher Workday 10/20 - No School, Teacher Workday Pender: Traditional Schools: 10/29 - Half Day for Students Penderlea: 10/1-10 - Intersession 10/29- Half Day for Students Pender Early College: 10/3 - No School, Teacher Workday 10/29 - Half Day for Students Visit www.nhcs.net, www.co.brunswick.k12.nc.us or www.pendercountyschools.net for more information.

Shoreline, the yearbook, earned All North Carolina status, and also received awards in the following categories: Coverage (1st Place), Theme (1st Place), Copy (2nd place), Photography (3rd place) and Advertising (3rd place). The Hurricane, Cape Fear Academy’s Upper School Newspaper, earned an Honor Designation, as well awards in Photography (1st place), Graphics (Honorable Mention) and Advertising (Honorable Mention). In individual competition, the following students received recognition for their work on the 2014 Shoreline: Julia Andrews and Mackenzie Dalton, 1st place in Theme Spread Design; Kate Brennan, 2nd place, Sports Copy; and Alex Koch, 3rd place, Sports Copy. Rising senior Julia Andrews was also named as student president of NCSMA. The president presides at the opening and closing sessions of the Institute, works closely with the director during the year, and serves on the Institute Planning Committee. She will lead all student activities at the 2015 Institute.

Six NHCS Students Named Semifinalists in the 2015 National Merit® Scholarship Program Six New Hanover County Schools (NHCS) students were among the 16,000 semifinalist announced by the National Merit Scholarship Corporation in the 60th annual National Merit® Scholarship Program. These academically talented high school seniors have an opportunity to continue in the competition for some 7,600 National Merit Scholarships worth about $33 million that will be offered next spring. To be considered for a Merit Scholarship® award, semifinalists must fulfill several requirements to advance to the finalist level of the competition. To become a finalist, the semifinalist and his or her high school must submit a detailed scholarship application, in which they provide information about the semifinalist’s academic record, participation in school and community activities, demonstrated leadership abilities, employment, and honors and awards received. NHCS National Merit Scholarship Semifinalists: Hoggard High School Luke D. Guo Ryan J. Spurney Torrance Yang

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Taming Butterflies

Help Kids Calm Public Speaking Jitters By Christa Melnyk Hines

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peak up! I can’t hear you!” boomed my 7th grade life science teacher from the back of the room. To this day, I vividly recall how the words I practiced at home stubbornly clung to the back of my throat and only agreed to tumble out in mutters. Standing frozen in front of my staring peers, I wanted to dissolve into the floor. Seventy-five percent of people suffer from public speaking anxiety, leading to sleepless nights before presentations and missed opportunities in attempts to avoid public speaking situations. While organizations like Toastmasters help adults conquer their fears, you can help your youngster as early as the preschool years nurture the confidence to express herself without fear.

Flutters of fear. Why is public speaking scary? “It’s a fear of failure,” says Sarah L. Cook, co-author of The Parents’ Guide to Raising CEO Kids. “It’s a fear of public rejection. Are people going to laugh at me? Are they going to boo me? Are they going to ignore me?” As peers become more important, fear of the spotlight can grow. Public speaking anxiety can cramp a child’s self-esteem and confidence. Physical signs of limelight-related stress include uncontrollable shaking, hyperventilating, sweating, flushed face, and even short-term memory loss.

Spread steady wings. Children who learn to communicate effectively, exude confidence and are more likely to enjoy positive relationships and take on leadership roles. And, in today’s high-tech environment, kids will need to hone communication skills across mediums. “Things are changing in our educational paradigm where it’s not just go to school and get a job,” Cook says. “Kids need to have some entrepreneurial skills to even land a job. They need to be able to engage with people confidently. Public speaking allows them to show that confidence.”

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Turn tummy-tumbling jitters into engaging energy. Use technology. A child’s first and friendliest audiences include her family and friends. Inviting her to talk on the phone or the webcam to relatives can ease even a shy child’s initial communication inhibitions. Also use your video camera and ask your kids questions. This strategy helps kids get comfortable in front of a camera. Open the floor at mealtime. Suggest each member of your family take turns reciting a joke, story, prayer or poem during dinner. Listen carefully to your kids and acknowledge their efforts. When a young child feels listened to, his confidence in expressing himself blossoms. Encourage show-and-tell. Most kids love to take something meaningful to them and share it with their friends. Show-and-tell is an excellent introduction to public speaking in a friendly group setting. Seek out organized opportunities. Depending on his interests, enroll your child in activities like drama, scouting, science fairs or 4-H. These activities offer leadership roles in a supportive environment that require participants to get in front of an audience. Practice, practice, practice. Preparation and practice is necessary to succeed. By writing out what they’d like to say ahead of time and creating visual aids, kids can learn to organize their thoughts. Encourage your kids to practice their presentations ahead of time, whether in front of a mirror, the family or a video camera.

A true phobia? Nervousness before a presentation is normal, but if your child is paralyzed with fear, skipping classes and avoiding extracurricular activities that require public speaking, consult with a child psychologist. Cognitive behavioral techniques like challenging negative thinking, breathing and relaxation exercises, and supportive coaching can help. With practice, freelance journalist Christa Melnyk Hines eventually overcame her public speaking anxieties. She is the author of “Happy, Healthy & Hyperconnected: Raise a Thoughtful Communicator in a Digital World.”

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