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BLACK GLUE KITE ART PROJECT This project, courtesy of “I Heart Crafty Things,” is a great way to get ready for spring and add some brightly colored décor to a door, window, or the wall of a ik d’s room. The tricki s to squeeze a generous amount of blacka crylic paint (about 1 Tablespoon) into a bottle of Elmer’s School Glue. Use a wooden sk e wer or the end of a paintbrush to stir and mixunt il the glue is black .

Draw your ik te (or purchase a template on the site) and outline it with the blackgl ue on mix e d media paper, letting it dry overnight. Then, color in the design — watercolor brush pens were suggested on the site. This technique can be adapted for other shapes, holidays, and designs. Checkout the tutorial at https:// iheartcraftythings.com/black - glue-k i te-art-project.html.

DIY PAPER KITE Heidi, over at Happiness is Homemade, is the mother of three sons, ages 7-12 , a nd she shares the directions for mak i ng a large ik te from a 36 - inch wide sheet of butcher or craft paper (which can be purchased on Amazon), two wooden dowels, acrylic paints, twine, tape, ribbon, and fabric scraps for the i te’s tail. She’s included a very detailed tutorial, complete k with many photos at: https://www.happinessishomemade.net/ i ds-craft-diy-paper-k k i te/

MAKE A WINDSOCK KITE Britton and Janine, over at True Aim, created these simple i tes that are perfect for preschoolers. You’ll need tissue k paper, pipe cleaners or wire, tape or glue, and string, plus a long stickt o tie the ik te to. Fold 1 sheet of tissue paper in half and place the wire or pipecleaner on the short end of the tissue paper. Fold the end of the tissue paper over the wire and secure with tape or glue. Bring the ends of the wire together and twist to mak e the windsock ’ s cylinder shape. Cut the ends of the windsock so that it has “tails” of WLVVXH SDSHU WKDW ÀDS LQ WKH ZLQG )RU DOO WKH LQVWUXFWLRQV visit: https://www.trueaimeducation.com/homemadewindsock - kites-for-ki ds/

A GARBAGE BAG KITE Instructables is a site that lets you ex pl ore, document, and share your creations. This seemed like the easiest of all ik tes to mak e . All you need are a plastic trash bag, string, two stick s (or dowels, twigs, or wooden barbecue sk e wers), and some ribbon. You can cut down the WUDVK EDJ WR ¿W WKH VL]H RI \RXU VWLFNV :KLOH WKHLU NLWH is white, you could have your ik ds use colored permanent inkS harpies to decorate their creation. Checkout the detailed instructions with photos at: https://www. instructables.com/id/A-Garbage-Bag-Kite/

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4) Get ready for sunbathing season.

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1) Get ready to grill.

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2) Do the spring cleaning early.

Teach ik ds how to deep clean the bathrooms and k i tchen or use all the attachments on the vacuum. Clean out the fridge and self-clean the oven. On days that aren’t too cold, open the windows and air out the house. Hate scrubbing walls and the baseboards? This is a good time to enlist the entire family and nkoc k it out in a day. Organize all the closets, pantry and laundry room — projects you won’t have time for once the pool opens and the park beck ons . Have a contest to see who has the most organized closet or room.

3) Pack away winter gear.

If you can get away with wearing light jack e ts, wash all the heavy winter coats, replace any buttons, and hang up coats at the back of the closet so they are ready to go nex t winter. Do the same with winter clothes and gear, but reserve a few items in case the weather tak e s a dip. Tak e outgrown items to a donation center or consignment store. Tak e an inventory of what your k i ds need for spring and shop early.

5) Be bike ready.

Replace any brok e n parts, pump up low tires, adjust seat heights, get helmets ready, and don’t forget to mak e sure ik ds haven’t outgrown bik e s. If you realize a bik e needs to be replaced, you’ll have time to do consumer and safety research and get the best bargain.

6) Have a foot spa party!

Get all those sun-loving “soles” sandal ready. Buy or mak e your own IRRW VFUXEV 6RDN \RXU IHHW DQG WKHQ ¿OH massage, and use foot lotion on them.

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7) Plan and design a garden.

Discuss what plants you want to put in your family garden. Let ik ds design and sk e tch the layout. Shop online for the best deals on tools, gloves, planters, and seeds. Check out your planting zone and start your seedlings indoors so they will be ready to go when outdoor planting season arrives.

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9) Do an indoor home improvement project.

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10) Plan a summer vacation.

Discuss places the family would lik e to go. Tak e this time to do research on accommodations, attractions and costs. Present different options in a family meeting and discuss the pros and cons of different locales. As a family, ¿QG ZD\V WR VDYH IRU \RXU WULS +DYLQJ a goal and a destination to look forward to can help chase rainy days away. Once you have decided where to go, put a picture of your destination on the fridge and start a savings jar — everyone can contribute spare change. See how much is collected before vacation and put it toward meals out while traveling. Start a countdown calendar of the days until vacation begins.

Now that you’re prepared, celebrate. Spring is on the way!

Janeen Lewis is a freelance writer with a degree in journalism from Eastern Kentucky University and a Master’s Degree in Education from the University of Kentucky.

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hh, Spring! That wonderful time of year between the Spring Equinox (March 19) and Summer Solstice (June 02) when everything LV ZDUPHU FRORUIXO DQG QHZ DJDLQ :LWK :LQWHU QRZ EHKLQG XV LW¶V WLPH WR FHOHbrate. Check out our 12 fun ideas to welcome spring and get this party started.

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1) Frog Flop – You will need two green bean bags for each team and one bean bag of any other color for the game. You can sew on eyes or decorate with a marke r to make them look like a frog and to differentiate for each WHDP 7KH ¿UVW WHDP WRVVHV out the colored bean bag. The object of the game is to get your team’s green bean bags as close to the colored bean bag as possible. One point is given for the closest frog. Game continues to 15poi nts.

2) Make your own spring bingo – This is both an activity and a game. Players are given blank bingo cards (check Etsy or mak e your own) and spring stick e rs.

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Instead, they wear it on their forehead, held in place with the headband, with the word facing out. Players ask and answer yes and no questions to guess what word is on their card.

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3) Crystal Rainbows – You will need glass jars, multicolor pipe cleaners, Borax , hot water, and dowel URGV :UDS WKH WRS SDUW RI VHYHUDO SLSH cleaners around a dowel rod that will lay ÀDW DFURVV WKH RSHQLQJ RI WKH MDU 0L[ tablespoons of Borax in a cup of boiling water. Pour mix t ure into jars and insert pipe cleaners into jar. Crystals will start forming overnight. Remove when covered in crystals and let dry.

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needed for the project. Have someone lead the group by showing everyone a step by step process to create a spring painting. Not sure how to do it? Check out YouTube for suggestions and a step by step guide.

Crafts

1) It’s For The Birds – 2ULHQWDO 7UDGLQJ RIIHUV XQ¿QLVKHG ELUGhouses and birdfeeders on their website.

Gather decorating options such as paint, glitter, jewels, ribbons, and whatever other items you think will attract the birds. Let dry and hang from a tree near the window.

2) Make A Kite – A windy spring day is a wonderful time to mak e ak i te. You can use craft store dowel rods or collect small branches that have fallen from trees for the cross bars. For the sail of the ik te, try newspaper, wrapping paper, or plastic garbage bags. Using a plain craft paper allows for decorating with a personal touch. Attach string to the front of the ik te and tak e it for a ride.

3) Make Fairy Houses or Castles – Collect empty paper towel rolls for the base. Fashion a pointed roof with construction paper, pine cones or twigs, and decorate the cardboard roll with mark e rs, colored tissue paper, wallpaper samples, or felt. You can also cut out a door or windows. Create a village by securing to a poster board and add roads, greenery, and a small brook made from foil or watercolor paint.

4) Welcome Spring Door Hanging – For this craft, your only limit is your imagination. Use a base such as wood, felt, straw hat, a wreath or even an old umbrella. $GG FUDIW PRVV ULEERQV DUWL¿FLDO ÀRZHUV \DUQ SDLQW EXUODS etc.

Personalize it with a saying, monogram or your favorite spring animal.

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reaching sex ua l abstinence to youth was popular for a number of decades, but research repeatedly found that such educational messages fell short in their intended goals. Simply telling youth not to have sex failed to delay the initiation of sex , prevent pregnancies, or stop the spread of sex ua lly-transmitted diseases.

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2) Engage with your doctor or other health care professional and build a trusting relationship.

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Humana recently surveyed 2,000 people aged 60 and over, and found that 87 percent of seniors who identify themselves as “most optimistic” reported their health as good to excellent. This is compared to 44 percent for those who said they’re “least optimistic.”

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Beechwood Continuing ation of 14 households and the Care’s Welcome Home initiative establishment of “open dining” at Blocher Homes. The is facility-wide and focused on the enhancing as many aspects as pos- “Households” include a country kitchen, livsible to make ing area and Blocher and dining area Beechwood a replacing the true home for traditional its residents. “institutionThis vision of al” model of eliminating care where the instituyou typically tional environfind long, sterment from the nursing home Asbury Pointe Retirement Community. ile corridors and nursing and its assisted living residence is an effort geared stations. The Welcome Home toward producing positive and initiative empowers residents meaningful impact upon the resi- to make as many choices about dents’ quality of life as well as their how they would like care delivered to them to the extent that health.

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Beechwood Continuing Care is undergone changes to implement this initiative including the cre- a local not-for-profit organization,

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Cheryl Maguire holds a Master of Counseling Psychology degree. She is married and is the mother of twins and a daughter. Her writing has been published in The New York Times, Parents Magazine, Upworthy, Chicken Soup for the Soul: Count Your Blessings and Your Teen Magazine.

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Susan Lojacono lives in Buffalo and is a former member of Western New York Family’s staff. You can read her original article here: https://joom.ag/T57a/p42

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Hospice Buffalo Helped Sooner than I Ever Expected “Hospice is not just for end-of-life – they can actually help when you want to improve someone’s quality of life.” ~ Linda My wonderful dad, Martin, was suffering with COPD and congestive heart failure for years. His biggest problem was breathing.

He was doing okay on oxygen at home, but leaving the house made him anxious. I didn’t like to see him spending his days struggling to breathe.

I heard Hospice Buffalo was “more than end-of-life care” and their focus was to improve “quality” of life. I didn’t think he was at the point where he would pass soon, but I decided to reach out to Hospice. In early 2018, Hospice nurses and doctors began coming to the house to help us care for him. He felt comfort

Our experience with Hospice – from the first call to the very end – was absolutely wonderful. I would tell anyone who has a loved one suffering with a serious illness to call Hospice Buffalo. I wish I had called sooner, but I am very thankful for those four months we had together.

in knowing that they would come to him.

During a visit in April, his nurse immediately knew something was wrong and suggested taking dad to the Mary & Ralph C. Wilson, Jr. Hospice Inpatient Unit. Surrounded by family, he slept steadily in a beautiful room with his favorite music playing in the background. The day came when his doctor explained in caring words that he would not be going home.

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This is the year to celebrate all things Susan B. Anthony and women’s suffrage. It is the 200th anniversary of Anthony’s birth and the centennial of the 19th amendment, often called the “Susan B. Anthony Amendment,” granting women the right to vote.

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in Rochester throughout the year.

A visit to her National Historic Landmark house brings Anthony’s story alive. It was here she lived with her sister Mary from 1866 until her death in 1906. It was also the headquarters of the National AmeriFDQ :RPDQ 6XIIUDJH Association. A true revolutionary, she fought not only for women’s right to vote but their right to an equal education and their right to own property.

“Men, their rights and nothing more: :RPHQ WKHLU ULJKWV DQG nothing less” was the banner of their cause.

“Organize, agitate, educate, must be our war cry…” she wrote in a letter to Women’s Tribune in 1893.

Tour leaders actively involve young visitors in considering the issues that Anthony was championing.

Visitors can see the bathroom with the tub where Anthony bathed in cold water until age 80. She died in her bedroom at age 86 on March 13, 1906.

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There was a blizzard on the day of her funeral and yet more than 10,000 people attended.

A similar number placed “I voted” stickers on her gravestone in the city’s Mt. Hope Cemetery on election day in 2016. That event was observed with a recent Jeopardy question.

The Strong National Museum of Play, upstate New York’s largest yearround cultural attraction, is currently undergoing a $60 million expansion project that will be the centerpiece of the Neighborhood of Play, an urban development that will include a hotel, apartments, retail space, restaurants, outdoor play space, and a nearby café. :KLOH ZRUN LV RQJRLQJ WKH PXVHXP is open and fully accessible. It is easy to spend the entire day here but be sure to plan on at least four hours.

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Evil, experience a classic video game arcade and discover unique artifacts in eGameRevolution and Pinball 3OD\¿HOGV The Wegmans Super Kids Market is a perennial favorite. It is designed to encourage healthy eating habits. In the toddler area, little ones can pick, count, sort and weigh organic veggies, gather eggs, crawl through a raised hoop house and sit under the apple tree. All ages can cruise the aisles with child-sized shopping carts and scan bar-coded products

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During the warmer weather there is a tram and regular giraffe feeding sessions — a must do if it is available during your visit.

On a recent weekday visit there were no crowds, but many animals were out enjoying the cold day particularly the snow leopards, gray wolves, and red panda. Silver, the snow leopard cub who was born last year, seemed to enjoy relaxing next to the glass and being close to human visitors, so it was easy to get good close-ups.

The sea lions enjoy interacting with young visitors. The zoo is home to four sea lions, three females and one male. It also boasts a thriving colony of African penguins and is one of the top breeders of African penguins in the country — with more than 100 penguins hatched, most of them have been sent to other zoos and aquariums.

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too outlandish to be true. The team behind Snopes.com has been verifying or debunking hoaxes, rumors, and internet mischief since 1994. Staffers investigate viral stories that spread through websites, emails, and text messages. The team uses a system of ratings to classify the stories based on their research.

There are fourteen ratings ranging from “True,” “False,” “Unproven,” “Misattributed,” and even “Legend.” Along with the rating, readers can see the underlying reasons and any additional information behind the story.

For example, I had recently heard that someone predicted Kobe Bryant’s helicopter tragedy in a tweet from 2012.

Checking Snopes, I was able to verify that this did, in fact, happen. The site not only had a picture of the tweet in question but had also contacted Twitter and the author of the tweet to verify authenticity. Snopes staffers outlined the evidence in a clear, easy to understand format.

The next time someone forwards you a viral email, or you hear a crazy rumor, head over to Snopes.com and click the Hot 50 link at the top. The Hot 50 is a list of trending stories on the web.

TruthorFiction.com and LeadStories. com are similar to Snopes. They tend to cover stories across a wide variety of genres, and both sites use algorithms to push trending stories to the front page.

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Newsguard is an extension or plugin for your favorite web browser designed to help you spot misleading information.

After you install the free software, you will see green, yellow, or red icons next to news-related links on search engines and social media. The rating icons provide you with a rating based on the credibility and transparency of the site.

Newsguard states the “ratings signal if a website follows basic journalistic standards or instead has a hidden agenda or knowingly publishes falsehoods or propaganda.” This handy feature resides inside your browser, so it doesn’t slow your computer down. The icons stand out, making it easy to see which sites are trustworthy and which websites should be skipped altogether.

Newsguard works on thousands of online media outlets. Sites that are not considered a news outlet may not receive a rating. You can use FactMata. com to check any link on the Internet for general integrity.

.LGV 1HHG +HOS 7RR The adults I spoke with about this topic stated that children were much more adept at spotting fake news because they have grown up using technology. This assumption could not be further from the truth. Students are one of the worst groups at detecting fake news.

Recent studies have shown that Middle and High School students struggled to distinguish the difference between real news stories and paid, sponsor branded content.

Google is attempting to educate students with their “Be Internet Awesome” curriculum. The website is intended for children ages eight to twelve. Be Internet Awesome teaches students topics such as cyberbullying, spotting misinformation, and personal privacy using a game-based approach. Schools all over the world have begun using this free resource as one way to teach students better habits online.

You can have your children play for free by searching for “Be Internet Awesome” in any web browser. Older students can visit the News Literacy Project at Newslit.org for content that is better suited for young adults. NewsLit teaches students how to look for slant in stories, identify misinformation, and question the source behind the information they are reading.

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The best way parents can address this is to be aware of misinformation, use trusted sources, and teach children to do the same thing. The website and tools above can help start the conversation.

Mike Daugherty is a husband, father of three young children, author, speaker, Google Innovator, and possible StarEXFNV DGGLFW +H LV D FHUWL¿HG HGXFDtional technology leader who has served in a variety of roles through his eighteen-year career in public education.

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Endless winter can only be healed by one person in Sarah Prineas’ novel Winterling.

Louisa May Alcott’s Little Women is a beloved tale of sisterly love and loyalty that has endured for over 150 years.

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Myths & Truths subject. (https://www.healthychildren. org/English/safety-prevention/immunizations/Pages/Vaccine-Studies-Examine-the-Evidence.aspx). According to Autism Speaks, there is no single cause of autism (https://www.autismspeaks. org/what-causes-autism)

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Although cigarette smoking has declined due to education about the many health risks and more stringent laws regarding usage, hookah smoking is on the rise.

A January 2019 Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) report states, “Hookah smoking has increased among young people. Curiosity and susceptibility may be associated with experimentation or established use.”

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Therefore, it’s imperative that parents learn the truth about hookah and start talking to their teens about the dangers.

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“It takes a long time to do studies that accurately quantify health risks, and the hookah phenomenon is relatively \RXQJ LQ WKH :HVWHUQ ZRUOG ´ H[SODLQV Primack. “That being said, we do have data that show that hookah smokers are heavily exposed to hazardous toxins.”

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“Hookah smoking is commonly done in ‘hookah lounges,’ which are often dimly lit and beautifully decorated.”

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“Most hookahs involve the lighting of a piece of charcoal in the hookah bowl,” Primack describes. “Therefore, even if there are no other substances, the user will be exposed to the combustion products of the charcoal, which include carbon monoxide.” He reports that hookah smokers have landed in emergency rooms with carbon monoxide poisoning.

Besides carbon monoxide, the charcoal used to heat the products produces smoke containing metals and cancer-causing chemicals.

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Do not use tobacco products yourself. Kids model their behaviors and lifestyle after their parents.

Create a tobacco-free policy in your household. Make sure that relatives and guests don’t feel free to use tobacco products around your children.

Hookah is not a safe tobacco product. It generates a very large amount of smoke that contains toxic chemicals, just like the smoke from cigarettes and other combusted forms of tobacco.

If you learn that your teen uses tobacco, show that you are disheartened by your teen’s tobacco use. If you have a story about your relatives or friends who suffered or died from tobacco-related diseases, tell him or her this story.

Refer your child to reputable resources which help young people adopt tobacco-free lifestyles. One such program is ASPIRE (A Smoking Prevention Interactive Experience - www.mdanderson.org/aspire. Free apps are available (e.g., the Tobacco Free Teens app developed by experts at MD Anderson).

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even though the rest of us may respect the fact that they are doing the best they can.

You don’t have to fall through the cracks, though, if you take some proactive steps to avoid balance trouble. Here are a few principles you can live by to keep the scales from tipping over when you feel overwhelmed: 1) Listen to your heart, not your neighbor. It is so easy for everyone else to judge what a single parent should or should not be doing, but the bottom line is, each situation is unique. A man simply cannot understand how it feels to be a single mother, just like a Caucasian person cannot truly appreciate the prejudice felt by the black community.

So, be very selective about who you take advice from and judge yourself based on your personal values, not on social stigmas.

2) Don’t fail at short-term goals to achieve long-term dreams. :KHQ making a decision, single parents always have to consider whether or not feeding themselves will take away food from their children, so to speak. For instance, a parent may feel she needs to return to school in order get a better job to pay for her child’s college education. She has to decide whether or not working during the day and going to school at night to improve herself (long-term goal) will detract from the caring and nurturing her children need in the present (short-term goal). This decision will be most likely based on her children’s ages and the amount of time it will take for the goal to be realized.

If the stress of working and going to school makes her a grouchy parent around the kids when she is with them, she may not only fail at the short-term goal, but could curb her self-esteem to the point that even the long-term goal goes unrealized.

If the children are young and only a couple of years are needed, she may be able to aggressively pursue her long-term goal without much consequence to the children’s present welfare. But if the children are teens and she needs four years, she could lose out valuable time with the kids — which might have them engaging in behaviors that are not likely to be conducive to getting into college themselves!

A single mother who has lost her husband to death will not be able to truly appreciate another single mother who has lost her mate to an affair. Nor, can a marULHG IDWKHU XQGHUVWDQG KRZ GLI¿FXOW LW FDQ be for a single dad to be ordered by the court to see his child only on certain days of the week.

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Beware of sheep in wolves’ clothing.

If it sounds and feels too good to be true, it probably is. Don’t make a major life

decision until you have waited at least 48 hours and have talked to a trusted friend or counselor to get advice. Make a pros and cons list to help with decisions and surround yourself with people who encourage you and challenge you in a positive way.

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5) There’s nothing like a plan. Most people I counsel who have found themselves in distressing situations have done so without ever planning for it. They often have lived day-to-day, without much thought about the consequences of their actions. If you don’t know where you are going, you will likely end up in a place you don’t want to be.

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Kathy Lundquist is a Western New York parent whose son, now an adult, was born with severe food allergies. Over the last two decades, she has worked tirelessly, in a variety of capacities, to increase community awareness about food allergies.

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