August 2023

Award Winning Academy of Theatre Arts

2023/2024 ATA Theatre Season

• Nationally Award Winning Academy of Theatre Arts and The ATA Performing Arts Center is the only year-round full time theatre venue in Western New York created and designed solely for the development and training of children and young adults in the genres of acting, vocal performance and musical theatre dance. Dedicated to enriching young lives dramatically, ATA provides an extensive year-long venue, as well as our extremely popular summer camp program, for anyone between the ages of 3 and 18 who has an interest and passion for theatre arts.

• Not only does our Award Winning program excel in theatrical training, but with a generation now losing those communication skills needed to succeed in life, ATA uses theatre as a platform to teach and promote excellence in public speaking, self esteem, confidence and personal skills.

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One of the highlights of every kid’s school day is LUNCH! Make it more fun… and increase the likelihood that they’ll really eat what you’ve packed for them by getting them a cool (in some cases, literally!) lunch tote. You might even like one of these for yourself!

COLORFUL SOFT LUNCH BAG

This insulated soft bag comes in 30 different patterns. It can hold a good-sized container (not provided) with plenty of room for snacks, utensils, and juice boxes. It has an inner pouch for holding napkins or an ice pack. An inexpensive option at $12.59, it’s perfect for your preschooler or elementary grade kiddo. (by FlowFly, on Amazon)

L.L. BEAN LUNCH BOX

Receiving 4.5 stars out of 1,205 reviews, this soft sided, insulated, BPA-free lunch box comes in 20 patterns, that even grownups would like! We were sold when we read a review that said, “Love it. Bought other cheap ones before and they were tossed out after a couple of months. This product lasted despite 1st grader putting it through torturous conditions.” ($19.95, llbean.com) Larger options are also available on the site.

PACKIT FREEZABLE LUNCH BOX

Freezable non-toxic gel is built permanently into the walls of each bag to keep food and drinks chilled for hours. Collapse and freeze the entire bag overnight. Has an exterior zip pocket and a buckle that allows the bag to be attached to a backpack or sports bag. Rated 4.7 out of 3,891 reviews. ($27.82, Amazon) Different variations found through the PackIt Store link in the Amazon listing.

UNDER ARMOUR BACKPACK & LUNCH BOX

For the middle or high schooler who’s outgrown the cutesy stuff, the UA Hustle Sport Backpack ($45), which comes in a variety of color combinations, as well as a matching UA Scrimmage 3 Lunch Box ($30) might be just the ticket to make them feel awesome for the entire school year.

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What’s New... IN THE KIDBIZ

WHEN IS A CHILD READY TO WALK TO SCHOOL ALONE?

Children usually aren’t ready to start walking to school without an adult until about fifth grade, or around age 10. Younger children are more impulsive and less cautious around traffic, and they often don’t fully understand other potential dangers they could come across.

By walking with your children to and from school, you can help them learn the neighborhood, teach them about traffic signs, street signs and directions, and model correct behaviors when crossing streets. It’s also a great opportunity for some chat time!

Tips for walking with your young child to and from school:

When crossing streets, hold your child’s hand and always observe the traffic safety laws.

Observe all traffic signals and let the school crossing guard help you. Be sure to look all ways before crossing the street, and continue to watch for vehicles. Remind children drivers may not always see them. Invite families in your neighborhood to walk children to school together as a group.

For older students walking to school without an adult:

Make sure they stick to a safe route to school, one with well-trained adult crossing guards at every intersection.

If they need to cross any streets on the way to school, practice safe street crossing with them before the start of school. Teach your child to cross at designated intersections. Most pedestrian deaths happen midblock, not at intersections.

Ideally, they should walk together with at least one neighbor child or older sibling.

Make sure they know how to say “no” if someone they don’t know offers a ride, and that they yell and run for help if needed.

Explain that it is not safe to use a cell phone or text while walking. It distracts and makes them less aware of traffic.

If your child has limited mobility or other disabilities, give them extra time to learn safe pedestrian skills. Choose brightly colored backpacks, jackets and other accessories, ideally with reflective materials for days when it begins to get dark earlier. Research shows that the hours of 6pm to 9pm are the riskiest times of day for child pedestrians.

A Project A Day Keeps the Boredom at Bay: Ideas for Summer Fun

— by Christina Katz

Camp, road trips, and family visits do a great job of keeping everyone engaged throughout summer. But what about those days at the end of summer when you’re running out of ideas and nothing is planned? Every parent wants to enjoy kicking back when school is out, but too much lollygagging can lead to listlessness, and even squabbling.

Staying engaged this summer does not have to mean over-spending. Galvanize attention by keeping a fun list of summer projects that can be done with scant money and planning. Many of these projects encourage upcycling household items or picking up a few inexpensive items up at the dollar store or resale market.

Consider any projects that may interest your children, and print out instructions you find online. Then pull all your projects into a folder, make a list of supplies, and pick them up to have on hand. Once the first chorus of “I’m bored” begins, you’ll be ready to dive into plenty of hands-on summer fun ideas.

1. Make a beanbag toss ladder game for playing after dinner.

2. Have your kids done any summer reading? Purchase some age-appropriate books in stores or online; or borrow from your local library.

3. Grab binoculars, a guidebook, and a notepad and take a bird watch walk.

4. Bake homemade granola for energizing yet economical breakfasts.

5. Create an ultimate croquet game with obstacles impeding each wicket.

6. Make a bug, worm, and caterpillar circus for the day, and then let them all go.

7. Make sock puppets and construct a theater for performing with them.

8. Blow bubbles with kitchen items and homemade bubble formula.

9. Create bedroom window banners with craft supplies you have on hand.

10. Pack a picnic, a blanket, and some outdoor toys to take to a new park.

11. Purchase a bag of birdseed to make fresh bird treats to hang in your backyard.

12. Pull some ho-hum wooden furniture outside and give it a colorful makeover.

13. Host a neighborhood bad minton competition.

14.Mix up a batch of strawberry shortcake biscuits and serve with homemade whipped cream.

15. Put a hinged box in a cool place and make a worm box.

16. Give outdoor mani-pedis on lawn chairs in the yard while listening to summery tunes.

17. Start a homemade instrument band.

18. Paint colorful garden rocks and encircle the house with them.

19. Create grab-and-go tote bags with engaging activities for each family member.

20. Gather items that signify your era and bury them in a time capsule.

21. Export table, chairs, and china to host an outdoor tea party.

22. Add water to dirt piles and see who can get the muddiest puddle jumping.

23. After you get dirty, wash the cars, the dogs, and yourself.

24. Melt old crayons into rainbow crayons using muffin tins.

25. Make a watch-me-grow-up slideshow and send it to faraway relatives.

26. Gather seashells from old beach trips and embellish thrift store frames and mirrors.

27. Make enough desserts one morning to last a full week.

28. Research totem animals and paint faces and bodies to match.

29. Plan, price and construct a tree house or outdoor fort.

30. Have pets pose for photos you can use to paint watercolor portraits.

31. Construct a composter for turning grass, leaves, kitchen scraps, and twigs into potent fertilizer.

32. Have a paper airplane making and flying competition.

33. Camp out overnight in the yard. (Don’t forget bug repellent!).

34. Recycle whimsical items into a fairy garden in a shady spot.

35. Make homemade ice cream in a creative way.

36. Spray a glow-in-the-dark maze onto the lawn for evening fun.

37. Put on an outdoor play — original or adapted.

38. When a rainstorm is forecasted, don old bathing suits and swim goggles for a squirt gun fight with washable paints.

39. Pack up juice boxes and snacks for a long, leisurely bike ride.

40. Make a simple a lemonade stand with tables, signs, and everything for sale made from scratch.

41. Spend the day learning to juggle.

42. Lay on blankets in the yard and read books of poetry from the library out loud.

43. Make muffins or coffee cake with fresh blueberries and share some with an elderly neighbor.

44.Fill the wading pool, make fresh fruit slushies, and have a tropical beach party.

45. Wile away the day making models from kits on a porch or patio.

46.Plan a hydrated hike destination you can reach from home, then rest, then back.

47. Have a good, old-fashioned water balloon fight with the whole family.

48. Gather up white clothing and shoes, then tie-die them or decorate them with Sharpies.

49. Come up with a fantastic family vacation, then start a vision board you can add to over time.

50.

Research, practice

and put on a magic show complete with hats and capes.

51. Build a little library by the curb and put your old books in it, so neighbors can trade you for theirs.

52.Decorate bikes by day for a sunset bike parade.

53.Make found-object wind chimes to hang by front and back doors.

54. Grab a couple ladders, pool noodles, and folding lawn chairs and construct an over-under obstacle course.

55. Pick up a putter, sink some plastic cups, and turn your yard into a mini golf course.

56. Lay on blankets by day and study the constellations you will watch for by night.

57. Make masks, scrubs, and lotions and have a botanical spa afternoon.

58. Make homemade pizzas from scratch with your fresh veggies and herbs.

59. Make origami with waterproof paper and hang them from tree branches in the yard.

60. Practice colorful cookie, cake, or cupcake decorating.

61. Design and make kites for fall winds.

62.Make your yard into an impromptu water park using all the water toys you have on hand.

63. Make mosaic stepping stones customized to each family member.

64. Brainstorm holiday teacher and coach gift ideas, then make non-perishable items.

65. Share what you appreciated about summer vacation with your family over freshly made pie.

Author, journalist, and writing coach Christina Katz remembers summer as a time when lazy days inspired imagination, creativity, and bliss, in the days long before cell phones.

Blast Boredom Away!

for kids

— by Rebecca Hastings

There’s something captivating and exciting about watching a rocket fly high into the sky, especially if you’re the one who launched it. Loved by kids and adults alike, rockets are a fun way to get outside and play with science. Whether you build it from scratch or simply assemble and launch, seeing how high your rocket can go and where it will end up is always an adventure.

We’ve rounded up some of our favorite rockets of all different sizes to get you and your kids outside to enjoy the fun.

For BIG Family Fun:

Ginormous Water Powered Rocket

(Amazon, $69.89)

At over 7 feet tall, this rocket lives up to its name! Simply start by inflating the rocket and securing the base. Once everything is set up, fill the water reservoir and use the pressure to launch. This big rocket is easy to keep your eye on, even as it flies up to one hundred fifty feet in the air. The best part? Doing it again and again.

Crafts Meet Science:

4M Water Rocket Kit

(by Toysmith, Amazon, $21.99)

Kids ages 8 and up will love putting this rocket together and watching it soar. Pair a handful of simple pieces (included) with a bicycle or ball air pump to create and launch this rocket. Using a combination of water and air pressure, the rocket goes up to 90 feet in the air. This kit is perfect for budding engineers.

Fun for Everyone:

Rocket Balloons

(by Impresa, Amazon, $12.99)

Pump up the 40-inch balloons and watch them fly into the sky with this kit. With 100 balloons that can be reused, everyone can get in on the fun. The brightcolored balloons all take on a life of their own when released as they whistle into the sky. Plus, they make funny whistling noises kids will love. Recommended for ages 8 and up, but can be used with younger kids with adult supervision.

For Younger Kids:

Stomp Rocket Original Glow Rocket Launcher

(by D&L Company, Amazon, $13.64)

This junior stomp rocket is perfect for kids 3 and up. Simply load one of the foam rockets on the launcher and stomp on the powerful launch pad with two feet. The powerful stomp uses air pressure to send the rocket high in the sky. For added fun, they glow in the dark so you can blast off under the stars. The set comes with four rockets to keep kids having fun, no batteries needed.

Build Your Rockets:

Estes Tandem-X Launch Set (by Estes, Amazon, $53.03)

This detailed set is great for kids ages 10 and up looking to build their own rockets. With a beginner and intermediate rocket included, kids put the rockets together, set up, and launch each rocket. This detailed kit requires additional launch supplies, but it is a great hobby craft.

Fly High:

NASA Air Rocket Launcher Kit (by Discover with Dr. Cool, Amazon, $99.99)

This kit features three rockets that launch up to 250 feet using air pressure from a standard bicycle pump. With fun features like a NASA Learning Guide and a wireless remote for launch complete with an audible countdown, kids will feel like they are ready for NASA after launching this rocket. Kids under 14 need adult supervision.

Launch From All Angles:

National Geographic Air Rocket Toy

(by National Geographic, Amazon, $24.99)

A fun take on the traditional stomp rocket, this kit from National Geographic lets kids choose what angle to launch the multicolored rockets, allowing them to explore more scientific concepts. Plus, the rockets have LED lights to turn on or off, allowing you to light up the night sky. Fun for ages 6 and up.

Rechargeable Fun:

National Geographic Rocket Launcher for Kids (by National Geographic, Amazon, $29.50)

Unlike other rockets, this electric rocket gives kids ages 8 and up the chance to choose how long they want the rocket to fly with the push of a button. Kids will love watching it soar up to 200 feet as the propellor spins. When it’s time to come down, the blades release, and the rocket floats back to the ground. Each charge of the battery provides up to 20 launches.

LEARNING DOESN’T STOP WITH THE LAUNCH

Space is an exciting idea to explore, especially for kids. “Many children are fascinated by the vastness of the universe, and introducing conversations about things like the planets and solar system will engage and nurture their inquisitive minds.” (https:// www.good2knownetwork.org)

Space is the perfect thing to explore if we want to raise creative, problem-solving kids. Beyond imagination, learning about space promotes literacy and math concepts. Rockets and space are a great way to incorporate more STEM (science, technology, engineering, and math) learning for kids of all ages. Providing fun activities like launching rockets can help kids develop an interest in these areas. This is especially helpful for young girls, as there is a vast gender gap between women and men in STEM careers.

By making STEM learning fun, you can encourage your kids to develop more interest in these types of thinking while also opening doors for imagination and creativity. Space study, through rockets, facts, and activities, encourages kids to think in new ways today and in the future.

OUT OF THIS WORLD BOOKS ABOUT ROCKETS & SPACE

Incorporate great books to further encourage STEM learning and imagination for your kids. Whether it’s with a book of facts, stickers, or a fictional story, these books can ignite a spark that inspires your child.

Activity Books

• National Geographic Kids Super Space Sticker Activity Book – A great interactive book for kids ages 4-8 (younger kids may need help.) Full of stickers, mazes, games, and coloring pages to teach kids all about space.

• Space Coloring and Activity Book – Combine a love for space with critical thinking, reading, math, problem-solving, and more in this activity book for kids ages 3-10. Full of facts, games, and activities, this book will take kids through the solar system.

Fact-Filled Reads

• National Geographic Little Kids First Big Book of Space – Great nonfiction book for ages 3- 6 to learn space facts with amazing photos.

• Spaceships and Rockets – Learn all about the parts of a rocket and the history of rockets and space travel in this book perfect for ages 5-7.

• Space Exploration for Kids – Full of information about what it’s like for an astronaut to be on a rocket and in space. Great for ages 5 and up.

Fun Stories to Explore

• Mousetronaut – Have fun on this adventure with a little mouse with big dreams of being an astronaut. For ages 3-8.

• Pete the Cat: Out of This World – Head to space camp with Pete the Cat as he learns all about what it takes to blast off. For ages 3-8.

• Space Case – The first book in a series, this story is about the first kid to live on the moon. Full of adventure, this series is perfect for ages 9-12.

Rebecca Hastings is a former elementary teacher who traded the classroom for writing when she stayed home with her three children. Passionate about authenticity, faith, and family, you can find her at RebeccaHastings.net and on Amazon. In real life, she can often be found typing words, driving her kids places, or wherever there is chocolate.

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Easy Ways to Incorporate Art into Your Child’s Life

Iwatched my daughter more than the display. We were there to look at the art installation, and to see the famous paintings of van Gogh come to life in new ways. But I was captivated by her. She looked at the colors, the shapes, the images, pointing out details I hadn’t seen before. She was connecting with art painted over one hundred years ago.

In our busy world with increasing academic and athletic standards for our children, the arts tend to get pushed aside. But research shows that the arts help kids with everything from reasoning and development to self-expression and confidence. This includes more than just the visual arts. Exposure to music and performing art produces the same benefits and provides opportunities for your child to grow and learn.

Knowing the benefits and understanding how to incorporate the arts into our already busy lives are two different things. Here are easy ways you can make art part of your child’s experience.

Let Them See Art

Perhaps the most obvious way to encounter art is by seeing art, and it is still important. This can look like going to a museum, but it’s also about being observant of the world around you.

Visit museums: Even at young ages, children can learn to appreciate art in a museum. Try keeping visits shorter for little ones. You can even keep them

in a stroller in many museums. This allows you to expose them to art as well as teach them how to behave in a museum. For older kids, try to find museums that spark their interest. Maybe modern art or a photography exhibit provides more connection. Formerly known as the Albright-Knox Art Gallery, the re-imagined Buffalo AKG Art Museum reopened at the end of June and should be a priority to visit in the near future. Check out their website at https://buffaloakg.org to find event listings especially for children, as well as instructions for art activities that can be done at home.

See performances: Go to live concerts and shows. Casual outdoor venues are great with little kids so they have space to move around and even dance if appropriate. For inexpensive options great for kids try local high school theater productions and library events.

Listen to music: Music provides entertainment, learning, and connection for kids as young as babies. Exposing them to different types of music helps them with language skills, provides comfort, gives physical outlet, and more. From lullabies to rock music, and classical to top hits, listening to different types of music is a great way to teach kids to appreciate the arts.

Let Them Experience Art

Sometimes there are opportunities for art to be more interactive. This

is great for children as they are given the freedom to explore art in new ways. Having the chance to touch a sculpture, taste a beautiful cupcake, or sing along to a song invites your child to become part of the art, looking at it from a different perspective.

Visit an interactive exhibit: Many cities provide opportunities to interact with art in ways we never have before. Things like Van Gogh: The Immersive Experience, which came to Buffalo in December 2020, make classical art come to life, even putting your child in the middle of the art as they see it projected all around them. This encourages people to explore a type of art they may not have explored before.

Go outside: Look for outdoor art exhibits that allow you to see the art and even touch it in many cases. Taking a tour of the graffiti in a city or the famous murals painted outside invite a less restrictive experience for kids. Sometimes you even find unique exhibits such as Hogpen Hill Farms (www.edwardtufte. com) which invites you to walk around, through and under large-scale sculptures. Experiences like this inspire kids and foster creativity.

Let Them Create Art

Creating art comes in so many forms, but often we limit our ideas to things like painting and playing music. Give your child the chance to explore

creating all types of art. Drawing, PlayDoh, nail art, puppet shows, fashion, singing, knitting, dancing, acting, sidewalk chalk, and color mixing. All of these are ways to create art. And the possibilities are endless.

Make supplies available: Have a variety of art supplies available for your children to explore. As they do, give them times that are purposeful and structured to make something specific, as well as other times that give them the freedom to imagine and create. Some good supplies to start with are paper in various sizes, crayons, markers, colored pencils, paint, yarn, glue, music, chalk, clay, Play-Doh, dress-up clothes, and various things like buttons and ribbons.

Sign up for art classes: Consider what art classes are available in your area. Whether it’s a painting class, music lessons, cooking class, dance class, or a local play, there are a variety of options for kids to try. Giving them a chance to explore and try new things allows them to learn what they enjoy.

Encourage creative expression: Perhaps the most important part is your encouragement. When you talk about the arts as well as encourage your child’s creative endeavors, you show them that art is an important part of life and who they are.

As you look to incorporate more art into your child’s life, give them opportunities to see, experience, and create. This will help not only their learning and development but also give them an appreciation for the arts as they grow.

Kindness Matters: Teaching Kids How to Be Kind

Istill remember the shock on the teacher’s face. I was sitting in a chair too small for me, but just right for my third grader. The teacher was busy telling me about my child’s grades and goals when I stopped her and asked if my child was kind. She raised her eyebrows and shook her head slightly trying to make sense of the abrupt shift I’d just made in the conversation.

“I know that grades are important,” I told her. “I used to be a teacher. But I can see the grades. I watch how he does his homework and where he struggles. Grades matter, but it’s more important to me that my son is a kind person who contributes to society.”

This wasn’t some attempt to hear how wonderful my son was. This was my attempt to focus on what was most important to me. I knew that a dusty report card line item of “Plays well with others” which had been on the report cards since I was a kid, didn’t tell the whole story. I wanted to make sure my son was exhibiting kindness in the class-

room. And that he was on the receiving end sometimes, too.

It’s been years since that conversation, but it still stands out in my mind. If we want our kids to be kind, we need to focus on kindness.

A study from the Making Caring Common project at Harvard reported that 80% of kids in the study said their parents were focused on the child’s achievement and happiness over how they cared for others.

We may know that we want our kids to be kind, but that’s not the message they’re getting. If we truly want kind kids, we need to be intentional about teaching them to be kind.

Here are 5 simple ways you can teach your kids that kindness matters:

1) Model Kindness

Kids are sponges. They seem to observe and take in everything they see, the good and the bad. If you want your

kids to be kind, you need to remember that your kids are watching you. They see how you treat the cashier at the store. They notice how you respond to someone on the phone when things don’t go your way. They see how you treat your family and strangers. Consider what you are modeling for them.

Be intentional about modeling kindness. It provides a foundation for building a lifestyle of kindness in your family.

2) Use Words

Kindness is exhibited in the things we do and say. But sometimes it’s hard to know what to say. Kids, in particular, need help to build a vocabulary of kindness. You can start by teaching your kids how to compliment people. Show them how to observe others and offer compliments that make the person feel seen and

cared for. “You’re really good at making cookies!” or “Wow! Your smile brightened my day!” are simple examples of things we can say that make a difference.

3) Teach Manners

Manners are often one of the first ways kids learn kindness. With simple phrases like please, thank you, I’m sorry, and I forgive you, they can show respect to others. Even teaching kids to look people in the eye to say “Hello” and “Goodbye” is an important kindness life skill.

4) Encourage Kind Behavior

When you see kind behavior, say something. Tell your child how proud you are that they were kind to the librarian or that you liked how they made sure to stop playing and say hello to Grandma when she came over. By recognizing kind behavior, you are teaching your child that kindness has value.

Be cautious, however, about going

Positive Things to Say to Your Child

You are helpful. You were right. I know you did your best. I’m grateful for you. You have great ideas.

I love being your mom. I believe in you. You are important. You make me proud. You are loved. I believe you. You are worth it.

overboard with praise. Kind, respectful behavior should be the norm. Identify examples of kindness and move on. Don’t be tempted to have a celebration every time your child remembers to say please. It’s all about teaching them to become kind people for a lifetime.

5) Explore Empathy

As we grow, we can learn to go deeper with our kind words. Learning how to handle hard situations and offer empathy gives kids the chance to take kindness to the next level.

Being kind to people on a surface level can be easy. Teach kids the value of showing kindness to someone who is struggling or a person who is in a different situation than they are. For example, encouraging your child to play with a new student at recess is great. Help them understand how others are feeling and offer kindness in those situations.

As kids grow in kindness, they become people who are more likely to extend compassion toward those who are struggling or even those who are different from them. This helps all of us foster a more accepting, kind world.

Don’t be afraid to be yourself. We all make mistakes, it’s OK. You can say no.

We can try it your way.

I appreciate you. I forgive you.

I know you did your best. I forgive you.

I admire you.

It’s your decision. Don’t give up.

I could never stop loving you. You can try again tomorrow. It’s OK to be scared. Being kind does not make you weak.

You don’t have to do what everyone else is doing. Anything is possible.

You can make a difference. I love how you said that.

I’m listening.

You make my heart full. Not everyone will like you, and that is okay. That’s a great question. I trust you. Never stop trying.

Choosing Childcare

A Special Section Dedicated To Helping Parents Find Quality Care To Fit Their Family’s Unique Needs

Choosing A Childcare Program for Your Child

If you are a first-time parent, choosing the right childcare situation for your child is an extremely important yet daunting task. There are many questions to ask about any child care program, whether centerbased or in a family daycare provider’s home. So, where do you begin?

The most comprehensive information and most thorough list of questions to ask a provider before making your choice can be found at Child Care Aware of America (www.childcareaware.org)

Our local Child Care Resource Network wnychildren.org is also affiliated with this organization and is an excellent place to begin narrowing down your search.

But, what types of questions should you be asking about each child care program? There are many more than we can print here, but you can check out the complete list (if you have an infant or toddler, there is a complete set of questions specific to their care) on the Child Care Aware of America site before taking a tour of any program.

GENERAL QUESTIONS

Is the program licensed? If the program provides transportation, are drivers licensed and insured? Are children properly restrained in safety seats approved for their age and weight?

Are there clear check-in and checkout procedures?

CLASS SIZE

What is the adult to child ratio? What is the class size for your child’s age group?

STAFF QUALIFICATIONS

Does the lead caregiver/teacher have a bachelor’s degree in a child-related field?

Does the director have a bachelor’s degree in a child-related field?

Are the caregivers/teachers and director involved in ongoing training or continuing education programs?

SUPERVISION

Are children supervised at all times, both indoors and outdoors, even when they are sleeping?

Can caregivers be seen by others at all times so that a child is never alone with one caregiver?

Have all caregivers undergone comprehensive background checks?

PROGRAM STRUCTURE

Is there a daily balance of play time, story time, activity time, and nap time? Do children play for a significant part of their day?

Do children get to choose who they want to play with?

CAREGIVER INTERACTION

Are children warmly greeted when they arrive?

Do caregivers talk to children and seem genuinely interested in what the children are doing?

Do caregivers get down on children’s level and speak with them?

Do caregivers play with children to help facilitate learning?

THE ENVIRONMENT

Are there different areas for resting, quiet play, and active play?

Is the atmosphere pleasant?

Is the environment clean?

Are there enough toys and learning materials for the number of children?

Does the program use TV, computers, or other types of technology with the children? If so, how often are these materials used?

Is there a space for outdoor play?

Is the outdoor play area fenced in? Is it clean?

Is the outdoor play area regularly inspected?

Is the equipment the right size and type for the age of children who use it?

Are children taken outside on a regular basis?

Do caregivers actively supervise (play with) children outdoors?

HEALTH & SAFETY

Are the indoor and outdoor environments clear of safety hazards, such as cleaning supplies and tripping hazards?

Does the child care program have records proving that the other children enrolled are up-to-date on all of the required immunizations?

Is handwashing a regular part of the program’s practices for both staff and children, especially before eating and after using the bathroom?

If the program serves food, does it meet nutritional standards?

How are food allergies or dietary restrictions handled?

Have caregivers been trained on CPR and First Aid, and are those certifications current?

Does the program have first aid kits?

Are medications kept out of the reach of children?

Are the caregivers trained on medication administration, and are medications labeled to make sure the right child receives the right amount of medication?

Does the program have a plan in place in case of a disaster, like a fire, tornado, flood, blizzard, earthquake or active shooter?

Does the program have an emergency plan in case a child is injured, sick, or lost?

Does the program have information about whom to contact in an emergency?

— by Deborah Williams

Sylvan Beach: At the Corner of Beach & Canal

Sylvan Beach, on the eastern shore of Oneida Lake in the middle of New York State, has long had a reputation as an idyllic summer vacation spot for the entire family. Now it boasts one of the state’s newest summer resorts — The Cove at Sylvan Beach — with 70 lakeside cottages and condos that come complete with their own pontoon boats for exploring the lake and canal.

The village could be a set of a movie: a perfect mile-long white sand beach, breathtaking sunsets, a fish filled lake, an old-fashioned amusement park, a 136-year-old beachfront chapel, and the bustling Erie Canal.

It was indeed a movie set back in 1968 when a budding young actress strolled along the beach, danced in the water, sat in front of a campfire on the beach, and kissed her co-star in the pews of the historic church.

The actress was Liza Minnelli and the film, released a year later, was The Sterile Cuckoo. Local children took a week off from school to watch the filming. The film made Minnelli a star.

Film director Alan J. Pakula explained to critic Roger Ebert why he chose the resort town for shooting: “Look at this place. We found this whole world here, waiting for a movie to be shot in it.”

Sylvan Beach tourism folks like to say that the village is “at the corner of beach and canal.” It is truly both a canal and a lake village which is a special distinction. If the wind is up on the lake, there is the connecting Erie Canal for boating and fishing.

The village will celebrate its canal heritage with its annual Canal Fest

Weekend Aug. 11-13. There will be water ski demonstrations, a boat parade, live music, craft vendors, outdoor movies, and fireworks.

Measuring approximately 22 miles long by one to five miles wide, Oneida Lake is the largest lake entirely within New York State borders. During the summer, bass, perch, and walleye are quite active. Fish Creek empties into Oneida Lake at Sylvan Beach and serves as the spawning stream for walleye. One of the best places to catch walleye is at the canal’s entry to the lake at Sylvan Beach.

The Sylvan Beach Amusement Park, just steps from the canal and lake, is one of the oldest in the country. Admission is free and it’s fun to just walk over and enjoy a few rides. There are all day unlimited tickets or visitors can buy individual ride tickets. Fans of Crystal Beach Park will feel at home here — the lake, the beach, and the atmosphere conjure up images of the long-closed Canadian park.

Sylvan Beach was known as the Playground of Central New York in the

1940s and 1950s when big named entertainers – including Frank Sinatra, Harry James, Nat “King” Cole, Tommy and Jimmy Dorsey — all played here and found their way to Eddie’s Restaurant where the Stewart family has been serving guests since 1934. Check out the Italian specials, homemade pies, or the “Original Hot Ham Sandwich.”

The Cove at Sylvan Beach was recently named one of the 12 best places to visit in the world by Good Housekeeping Magazine. Operated by the Oneida Nation in partnership with Benchmark Development, it opened last year in the former Mariner’s Landing Marina and mobile home park overlooking Fish Creek. The group also operates nearby Turning Stone Resort Casino as well as The Lake House at Sylvan Beach.

Our three-bedroom waterfront cottage had it all: three bedrooms with five beds in all, two bathrooms, two TVs, fully equipped kitchen, washing machine and dryer, gas grill, fire pit with wood available for cooking your smores, and a covered front porch. There is a large, heated pool, and an innovative children’s play area. There are nightly community events on weekdays during the season including ice cream socials, movie nights, cornhole tournaments, BBQ dinners, and sunset yoga on the beach.

Be sure to check out the Sylvan Beach Supply Co. for groceries and the well-stocked ice cream counter. Sundaes are a specialty of the house. It prides itself on being home to one of the largest candy walls in Upstate New York with more than 2,000 pounds of candy available in 80 different varieties. The store also offers grab-and-go items from Turning Stone restaurants. Take your ice cream treats outside and relax on the deck overlooking the water.

It would be an ideal choice for a multi-generational family vacation or a family reunion. The Cove is not only family-friendly but also dog-friendly and the staff was gracious and accommodating. My Lab Sam needed help getting on board our pontoon boat and Thaddeus, an always helpful staffer, was happy to help.

Best of all for water lovers like us, there was our boat docked in front. The captain of the boat must have a New York State Boating Safety Certificate before taking to the waters. The course can be done online. There is also an array of other boats for rent including kayaks, paddleboats, water bikes, and canoes, as well as ski and fishing boats and fishing gear.

Cruising along the calm Erie Canal and even into the lake was easy but I was worried about the docking part of our water excursion. No need to worry. Just call the Cove harbor and two staffers were waiting for us and under their direction it was the a near perfect docking.

Just two miles from Sylvan Beach is Verona Beach State Park with camping, beaches, swimming, and more fishing. Verona Beach is also home to a lighthouse with a Buffalo connection. In

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1915 a Buffalo company built the three identical Oneida Lake lighthouses.

Each lighthouse is reminiscent of a towering candlestick that is 80 feet high and set upon a square base. The lanterns are made of bronze and all sheet metal is spun copper. The upper platform is ringed by a wrought iron latticed railing and is reached by climbing five stairways within the tower.

Fort Stanwix in nearby Rome had disappeared under the streets until the National Park Service re-erected the fort on its original foundations following plans retrieved from archives in England. This federal bicentennial project is today a free, family-friendly, fun history-filled stop just a half hour drive from Sylvan Beach.

Located on the homelands of the Six Nations Confederacy which include an ancient trail that connected the Atlantic Ocean with Lake Ontario, Stanwix became known as “the fort that never surrendered.” Under the command of Col. Gansevoort, the soldiers and civilians successfully repelled a prolonged siege in August 1777 by British, German, Loyalist, Canadian and American Native American troops.

This success was an important step leading to the dramatic surrender of Gen. John Burgoyne at Saratoga — changing the course of the Revolutionary War in favor of the colonial rebels.

There is a wide range of activities within the fort, including ranger led tours, canon and musket firing demonstrations, Junior Ranger programs, park movies, build a fort, play with historic toys, have your dog become a BARK! Ranger (dogs are welcome here) and even join the Continental Army for a day.

Everyone is invited to dress up like a real colonial person. Learn about the vital role the Oneidas played fighting alongside the colonial troops during the Revolutionary War. You can also add your artwork to the Coloring Wall.

The fort sits within the heart of Rome, also known as the birthplace of the Erie Canal. Construction on the original canal began nearby on July 4, 1817, to replace the trail that Fort Stanwix was

originally built to protect. This canal built from 1817 to 1825, bypassed Oneida Lake since there were no motors and boats were towed by mules or horses, impossible on lakes. However, the lake was linked to the canal by the Oneida River and two Oneida Lake Canals.

Just a half hour drive from Rome is Herkimer, home to Erie Canal Cruises. The cruise operates from Gems Along the Mohawk, a visitors’ center that has it all. It is just off the Herkimer Thruway Exit 30 and includes a gift shop stocked with locally made items from throughout Central New York. It also includes the Waterfront Grill that is open for lunch and dinner, and offers grand views of the canal. Service and food for our pre-cruise lunch was befitting the wonderful scenery

There are also exhibits marking the Erie Canal’s bicentennial. There is a working 1817 stump puller, an ingenious device that pulled tree stumps — vital for the canal’s construction. There are also murals of the three canals: the original canal, the enlarged canal, and today’s canal. The Canal Innovation Exhibit features exhibit items on loan from the Erie Canal Museum in Syracuse including period implements, tools, and canal boat models.

Our boat named Lil’ Diamond was under the command of Capt. Kari as we headed east for our 90-minute cruise through the Mohawk Valley. This is a very rural part of the state and the canal. We spotted a pair of bald eagles and a blue heron.

We passed the Fort Herkimer Church, one of the oldest surviving churches in the state. It is also known as the Reformed Protestant Dutch Church of German Flatts and was built in 1767 and expanded in 1812. The church is open for services four times a year: Easter sunrise, July 4 Celebration, Thanksgiving, and the Sunday before Christmas.

The highlight of the relaxing cruise is surely going through Lock 18 at Jacksonburg, one of the last remaining locks operating with the more than 100-year-old original equipment. As our boat entered the lock, we watched as the gates closed and suddenly the lock house seemed to rise in the air as the lock walls creeped up along the vessel while it was being lowered 20 feet. It is always an amazing experience — the locks and canal totally changed the course of history.

Travel Tip of the Month: For information on Sylvan Beach visit sylvanbeachny. com. For Oneida County visit oneidacountytopurism.com or call 800-426-3132. For the Cove at Sylvan Beach visit covesylvanbeach.com or call 315-356-1840. From now until August 26 there is a minimum one week stay and from Aug. 27-Oct. 1 there is a minimum two-night stay.

For Fort Stanwix visit nps.gov or call 315-338-7730. For Erie Canal Cruises visit eriecanalcruises.com or call 315-717-0350.

Deborah Williams lives in Holland, NY and is a veteran travel writer whose work has appeared in national and international publications. She is the recipient of the Society of American Travel Writers’ Lowell Thomas Gold Travel Writing Award.

RAISING DIGITAL KIDS

— by Mike Daugherty

Must Read Blogs for Busy Moms and Dads

With a new school year right around the corner, navigating the digital parenting landscape can feel like a whirlwind, right? From keeping up with the latest kid’s app to brainstorming backto-school bash ideas, we could all use some quick, easy-to-digest advice.

But who has time to sift through endless blogs and lengthy articles? That’s why I’ve gathered my top seven go-to parenting blogs, perfect for us busy bees. These blogs serve up short, sharp insights perfect for our packed schedules. Whether it’s discipline tips or screen time strategies, I’m sure you’ll find a gem or two in these fantastic resources.

Scary Mommy

Scary Mommy is a popular parenting blog that was founded in 2008. The blog covers a wide range of parenting topics, but it is particularly known for its articles on pregnancy, childbirth, and the challenges of raising young children. Scary Mommy content is honest and relatable, often featuring stories from real mothers about their experiences. The blog’s name is a play on the idea that parenting can be both scary and rewarding, and it reflects the blog’s mission of providing a supportive and inclusive community for parents. The blog has over 10 million followers on social media.

The Parenting Pod

The Parenting Pod is a parenting blog that was founded in 2012. The blog focuses on helping parents raise happy and healthy children. The Parenting Pod offers articles on a variety of topics, including discipline, sleep training, and nutrition. The blog also has a podcast and a newsletter. The podcast features interviews with experts on parenting topics, and the newsletter provides subscribers with updates on the latest parenting news and trends.

The Military Wife and Mom

This blog is run by Lauren, a military wife, and mom who writes about practical parenting advice, DIY crafts for kids, and insights into military family life. While it has a specific focus on military families, many of the insights and advice can be applied to a broad range of parenting situations.

Your Modern Family

The standout aspect of Your Modern Family blog is its author’s vast experience. As a mother of four and a former second-grade teacher turned certified child development therapist, Becky

Manfield delivers comprehensive and current content. She refreshes the blog every other day with new posts, ensuring readers have a continuous supply of engaging material. Her content scope is diverse, encompassing an array of topics from inventive seasonal cooking suggestions and practical tips for home and travel organization, to insightful marriage advice.

Mama Natural

This blog is a great resource for parents who are interested in a more natural or holistic approach to parenting. It provides information on pregnancy, childbirth, baby care, and natural health. The blog also features numerous videos and has an accompanying book on natural childbirth. Additionally, this blog is a treasure trove of tips and advice on organic food options, holistic wellness, and alternative medicine for children. With its commitment to empowering parents through education, it stands as a supportive community for those embarking on a journey towards more holistic parenting.

Fatherly

The majority of parenting blogs are created and maintained by moms. Just from the name alone, you can tell this site is different. Fatherly is a whole website dedicated to teaching men how to be the best dad they can be. Many of the topics covered are similar to the sort of information you’ll find on the other blogs (discipline, screentime, gift ideas, etc). The difference here is that each topic is written from a man’s point of view. For example, a recent piece on Hypnobirthing on Fatherly is titled “Is Hypnobirthing BS?!” instead of something like “The Truth About Hypnobirthing.” One of my favorite features is the GoodFather column. Patrick Coleman answers questions that have been submitted to the website from dads across the country. Think Dear Abby, if Abby had a full, well-manicured beard and wide breadth of knowledge on raising children in the 21st century. Fatherly also includes a free email newsletter that arrives in my inbox every day around 4:30pm. The email contains those bite-sized nuggets of information with links back to the site to take a more in-depth read. Every parent should check out what Fatherly has to offer.

Parenting for a Digital Future

Parenting for a Digital Future, from the London School of Economics and Political Science, offers a research-driven, global perspective on parenting. Authored by doctors and doctoral students, the blog delivers robustly substantiated articles on topics like children’s viewing habits and the media’s role in socially disadvantaged families. While its subjects can be complex, it’s an excellent resource for parents seeking in-depth exploration of pertinent issues.

These websites offer quick ideas or advice that you can read when you have a few precious moments to yourself, like when you’re waiting to pick up your kids from school, soccer practice, or scouts. The websites I shared are meant to spark your interest, not to provide all the answers. Parents who want to dig deeper into a particular topic can do so, but these short, quick tips are a great way to stay informed without having to know all the details. Blogs can provide helpful insights and shared experiences, but every child and parenting situation is unique. It’s always a good idea to combine advice from different sources with your own intuition and understanding of your child’s needs.

Mike Daugherty is a husband, father of three young children, author, speaker, Google Innovator, and possible Starbucks addict. He is a certified educational technology leader who has served in a variety of roles through his twenty-year career in public education. Currently, Mike is the Director of Technology for the Chagrin Falls Exempted Village School district in Northeast Ohio. As an IT director he has developed creative, well thought out solutions that positively impact teaching and learning.

The bridge is made of wood, was constructed sometime before the 1940s, and can probably hold a minivan full of kids and an overconfident father. It’s the oldest suspension bridge in all of Missouri, and I like that kind of gumption.

School is just around the corner, and I don’t want to waste the end of our summer. I don’t want to clean the house, and the crickets will appreciate it if the lawn doesn’t get mowed. But memories, oh, those have to be made and there is no better way to make them by having an accidental August adventure.

These are epic quests that you find on the way to somewhere else. Nestled behind groves of trees and only accessible by dirt roads, these adventures are what makes a family legend. Boldness is required.

There Are Always a Few Bumps in the Road

“Where did you find this place,” Mike asked me. He’s the other dad that I convinced to go on this adventure.

“I’m not really sure,” I said. But I do remember that the bridge is still rated and certified for traffic. I decided not to ask when that information was last updated.

The bridge spans a river in the backwoods. It’s the type of river that you drive over a hundred times without ever knowing the name. Trees act as a fence as you’re shepherded forward. For a moment you think to yourself, “If I fell in here, no one would ever find me.” The smell of deep summer comes off the rushing water below. It’s a mix of old compost and heat that reminded me of sweat and bug bites.

The bridge itself is fifty yards long and just wide enough to fit one minivan. Mike and I waited by the side of the road while we reconsidered our life choices.

“Let’s go!” my daughter yelled.

“Yeah!” Mike’s daughter joined in.

I gotta say, I appreciate the sense of adventure in our kids. Between us, we have six children, and they grew up like this. They know that when we hit the road, we never know exactly where we are going to stop.

Behind us, I heard an engine rev, and a small little Volkswagen Beetle came tearing down the dirt road. He didn’t even slow down. Perhaps his still was done and he had moonshine to collect. Whatever the reason, he floored it. And the bridge… the bridge screamed back at that little Beetle. Have you ever

Daddy Daddy The Track

– by Shannon Carpenter

heard a bridge yell? It sounds like chains rubbing against ropes as wooden planks protest the job they have been given.

Don’t Look Down

With the kids seat-belted, I gave the minivan some gas and off we went. Our tires hit the first two wooden planks and there was no turning back. Mainly because the bridge was too narrow to accomplish such a feat.

them, they like to slap up and down like the bridge itself is giving you applause. And it is loud.

My preteen daughter recorded from the backseat. The kids were laughing and screaming in the same breath. The video is fun, but with the undercurrent of my constant swears, it’s not fit to post online. I have a morality clause in my writing contracts.

“Go, dad! Go!” my son yelled.

Slowly, with thoughts on how long it takes rope to decay, we pushed forward until we came across to the other side. The kids cheered, and I was finally able to take a breath.

I know that this is the memory I’m looking to build. A little bit of excitement that will get embellished by my kids’ years down the road. The story will pass off from yesterday and enter the realm of myth. That legend, those that every family has that they tell around dinner tables, is what I am after. It’s the accidental August adventures that make it all possible.

Editor’s Note: We couldn’t resist asking Shannon, “How does your wife handle these dad “adventures”? She must have nerves of steel (or else you don’t tell her what you’re planning until after it’s over!!!). You can probably guess what his answer was!

At first, the bridge seemed to welcome us. “Come right on,” the bridge seemed to say. “I do this all the time.” Then the boards started coming up. It’s a funny thing with old construction like this. Nails and bolts get loose, and when you drive a ton of metal over

Shannon Carpenter is the father of three and has been a stay-at-home dad since 2008. He’s the author of the book “Stay-at-Home Dad: Your Essential Manual for Being an Awesome FullTime Father.” as well as the co-host of Dadhouse Pod. In addition to his writing on parenting, he is also a humor writer trained through the famous Second City. And we all know that having a sense of humor is essential to surviving parenthood!

Family Movie Options: In Theaters and Streaming Online

Ruby Gillman: Teenage Kraken

When Ruby takes an unexpected dip in the ocean, she learns the truth about herself and her family. She’s a kraken, granddaughter of the Queen of the Krakens, and destined to become a powerful guardian of the sea – if she can avoid monster-hunting sailors and crafty mermaids. This movie provides 90 minutes of decent storytelling, solid animation and good messages about selfacceptance. What it lacks is any sense of magic. Photo ©Universal Pictures

Mission Impossible: Dead Reckoning Part One

Indiana Jones and the Dial of Destiny

The Entity, a military AI program, has gone rogue and is imperiling the world. It can be controlled by a two-part key, so Ethan and his team set out to find both parts Every major power on earth wants to get the key – and so do other bad actors. This film doesn’t measure up to the rest of the franchise, being both incoherent and bloated. The expected action elements are derivative, and the pacing is agonizingly slow. And it’s only Part One Photo ©Paramount

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Indiana Jones and his goddaughter, Helena, are on a quest for Archimedes’ Dial, an ancient artifact reputed to predict astrological events. Also on the hunt is a Nazi scientist named Voller, who intends to retroactively change the outcome of World War II. Harrison Ford may well be getting old, but this film shows that he’s still got enough charisma to helm a major action movie. And this is a good one: despite a clumsy ending, this is a fast-paced action flick with enough nostalgia to please franchise fans. Photo © Walt

Disney Studios Motion Pictures

After spending 12 years tracking down child predators, Tim Ballard is on a mission to save children who are being trafficked. When the government revokes his authorization, he goes solo through Colombia’s rebel-held jungles and criminal underworld. This movie highlights a serious problem and gives a voice to abused children. Unfortunately, it offers simplistic solutions and, despite sensitive filming, feels bordeline exploitative. Photo ©Angel Studios

Ballister Boldheart is ready to become the first commoner to be knighted – until disaster strikes and he flees into the forest. Determined to clear his name and save the kingdom, he joins forces with Nimona, a rage-filled young shapeshifter This is a beautifully animated film with expansive world-building and a deeply layered story. Parents will want to be aware of some fantasy violence and a same-sex kiss when considering it for family viewing Photo ©Netflix

— by Dr. Donna Phillips

EMOTIONS

The Noise Inside Boys: A Story About Big Feelings (Random House, New York, 2023, $18.99), written and illustrated by the award-winning Pete Oswald, is perfect for a trip to the beach with the boys and the antics that take place. Along with these antics come interactions and emotions. This is a wonderful and much needed book, with limited text that allows boys the space

Ahhhhh… Summer! Long hot days. The summer sounds in the still evening. Keeping cool in the pool, in the shade, in front of a fan, or indoors in the air conditioning. Tall cold drinks and short timeouts always help but are a temporary escape. Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) relates summer to the Fire Element. This season is the time for warmth, activity, growth, movement, building relationships, emotions, and joy. (Learn more at https://www.rockvilleacupuncturemd.com/your-health-in-summerthe-five-elementtheory-the-season-ofabundance-and-joy/).

Summer is synonymous with heat. Heat with the heart. The heart with emotions. Cool the body, cool the heart, calm the emotions, settle the mind. As we look for ways to cool off and ways to keep calm, books are always a good choice. Here are some that speak to the many possibilities of summer!

BODY

There is no better way to cool the body than to take a walk in the woods. The benefits of this are evidenced in the Japanese practice and science of Shining-Roku or Forest Bathing. It goes far beyond just the body and impacts the heart, emotions, and mind. If you are looking for a book to inspire such a walk and celebrate the summer season, Garden Walk (Gibbs Smith, Layton, 2023,

$16.99) is written and sketched by Virginia Brimhall Snow with “paints, pencils, and pixels.” As we walk through the world of growing things, we experience the sights and imagine the sounds, smells, textures, and even the tastes of the woods, fields, and garden. Just looking at this book will drop your blood pressure and cool you off.

HEART

Your heart is… finish the sentence. Your One and Only Heart (Dial Books, New York, 2023, $18.99), written by Rajani LaRocca, MD and illustrated by Laruen Paige Conrad, gives us ways to complete the thought through poetry and science. This unique combination will inspire and inform. The heart is singular and cooperative, simple yet complex, energetic and relaxed, constant yet changeable, electric and muscular, hidden and noticeable, selfish and selfless. How can that be? This book does an amazing job explaining it so even a young child can understand it. Notes at the end of the book provide more scientific explanations of these characteristics.

and freedom to explore and express their emotions, and encourages readers to create their own story to go along with the illustrations. As his father guides him through the frustrations of the day and the emotions they create, this young boy learns how to deal with them and express them in constructive positive ways. Through his father’s wise words he comes to the understanding that:

Your feelings are yours — each one is ok.

What you’re feeling today may soon go away. Listen to your emotions — learn how to name them.

Then you’ll know better how to explain them.

MIND

So many are struggling with mental wellness, especially our children. Where To Start: A Survival Guide to Depression and Other Mental Health Challenges (Rocky Pond Books, New York 2023, $19.99), from Mental Health America and illustrated by Gemma Correll, is not just another self-help book for

teens and tweens. Its positive approach to the issues they face begins with an encouraging invitation on how to use the book. Subsequent chapters address “Am I Okay?, “Talking about Mental Health,” “Getting Professional Help,” and “DIY Mental Health.” Written with subheadings, cartoons, lists, and thought bubbles, this inviting book will help to develop confidence, curiosity, and conversation about these important issues and encourage children and adults to address them with compassion. Resources and plans of action make this book a reassuring way to help calm the mind and create the atmosphere to promote healing.

Let the heat of the month of August remind you to take care of yourself and store up that extra summer heat for the cooler months to come. A little attention now will reap great rewards in the future. And why not do it while the sun shines!

Dr. Donna Phillips is an associate professor in the College of Education at Niagara University where her specialty is literacy and children’s literature. She lives on Grand Island, NY and is the mother of two adult children and the grandmother of one.

KEEP CALM and Read on

– by Peggy Gisler and Marge Eberts

How to Prepare for Your Children to Have a Great Return to School

Parents: Summer has wound down, and now it’s Back-toSchool time. Preparing for the first days of the new year will yield benefits to both you and your children. Start working on this at least a couple of weeks before school resumes, whether your children are just starting school, going to a new school, or returning to the same school.

Tips to Reduce Anxiety

It’s perfectly normal for both children and parents to experience some anxiety before the start of a new or first school year. After all, what the new year will be like is unknown unless you have a crystal ball. Don’t borrow trouble by anticipating what could go wrong. And be sure not to voice your concerns to your children which could add to any anxiety that they may have. Instead, discuss any worries you may have with other adults. You certainly can talk to your children about what excites them and what worries them about the new year while expressing empathy and encouragement.

All children are likely to have some anxiety about facing new teachers and classmates. The best antidote to this is preparation, which will make the first days of school much easier. Here are some things that you need do:

1. Make sure that your children are familiar with the environ-

ment of any new school whether they are entering preschool, elementary, or middle school. Quite often it is possible for children to visit schools and see where their classrooms, library, gym, or lockers will be. This is most important for young children. However, just a drive by the school or walk around the outside of the building can be reassuring for older children.

2. Perhaps, the easiest way to reduce any anxiety your children may have about returning or entering school is to help them reconnect with friends. Having a buddy to talk over the upcoming year and even possibly going to school together the first day can be extremely helpful.

3. Make sure plans are in place for how your children will get to school and where they will be after school, and that your children know what these plans are. Also, have contingency plans if afterschool plans cannot be followed on a given day.

Preparation Is the Key

Preparing your children for the new school year is essential — not optional. It will let them be relaxed and confident

during the first days of the new school year. You have relieved most sources of anxiety, so now it is time to handle the nitty-gritty of school preparation.

1. This is a more than obvious step to a smooth start to the school year. Do your children need new backpacks? If the school has sent a list of supplies, get them. Do your children have all the items like pencils, rulers, pens, paper, and folders that will be needed for homework assignments?

2. Do new shoes, or clothes, or athletic equipment, or music equipment need to be purchased or rented?

Establish a School Routine

Aah, those lazy days of summer are about to disappear. No more staying up late or getting up late. No more hours and hours on electronic devices playing games or seeing what friends are doing on Instagram. The transition to school should not be abrupt. The school routine should be eased into at least several days before the start of the new year. Routines should include:

1. While your children will not be enthusiastic about going on the school waking up or sleeping schedule a few days before school starts, it will pay dividends in making their first days at school easier.

2. Do a dry run for getting to the school whether they will walk, take the bus, or you will drive them to school.

Checklist of Other Things to Do

1. Review how the children will handle homework — times, places, and rules. (A contract can help.)

2. Establish the number of activities your children will pursue. Have a realistic cap on the number.

Helping all parents make their children’s educational experience as successful as possible

3. Establish a routine that gets the children out the door promptly and without too many reminders.

4. Discuss with the school nurse or administration any medical conditions or allergies that they should know about.

5. Read the school handbook if you have been given one so you are aware of attendance, dress, COVID, and behavior policies.

6. Think long and hard about the need to establish any rules about the time spent on electronic devices.

7. Discuss with the children whether they will be buying or taking lunch.

8. The older your children are, the more they should be involved in establishing the routines that work for them.

One Caution

Here’s one more thing to think about. If you plan to put cute pictures of your children’s first day at school on social media, be sure to limit the information: no full names, school or teacher names, or pictures that include your address. Remember, there is no limit to the number of people that will see your postings.

Parents should send questions and comments to dearteacher@dearteacher.com, and visit the dearteacher.com website to learn more about helping their children succeed in school.

The long summer days of sunshine, pool time, travel, and enjoying a leisurely schedule are coming to a close as a new school year quickly approaches. Some kids enjoy all of the excitement and promise of a new school year, but others may find the thought of waking up early, completing nightly homework, and the stress that goes along with maintaining good grades something to dread rather than look forward to. Parents can help get kids excited for the new school year so they don’t lose their motivation before the school year even starts.

Set A Good Example

For busy parents, it can be easy to get down about the thought of getting up early, packing lunches, helping with homework, shopping for school supplies, and prodding the kids out the door every morning. Our kids feed off of our attitude and if we are dreading the backto-school routine, chances are they will too. On the other hand, if a parent focuses on the positives of a new school year, such as having a fresh start with a new teacher, making new friends, and the fun of being challenged and learning new things, our kids will feed off of this excitement and will also start to look forward to a new school year.

Use What They Love

A great way to motivate a child is to use something they are already looking forward to. If you have a social child, then remind them they will have daily time with friends.

How to Motivate Kids for School

— by Sarah Lyons

If they love sports, remind them they will have the opportunity to participate in P.E. class, play at recess, or participate in school sports.

If they have a favorite subject, focus on the opportunity to learn more throughout the school year. Encourage your child to get involved in clubs and activities that include things that they love and are interested in.

For some kids, buying a new backpack and school supplies will be a great motivator for them.

Consider what will motivate your child and focus on the positive aspects that are related to school and what your child loves about it.

Be Realistic

One way to motivate your kids is to be honest with them about the importance of a good education. School is necessary and important for your child to build their skills in reading, math, science, and understand the world around them. It’s also important to do well in school if they would like to continue on to college.

For younger kids, college may seem like the distant future. Parents can explain that they use reading and math skills every day. The teamwork and social skills they learn in school will also help them learn to work with others in sports and play.

— by Sarah Lyons

Create Healthy Habits

Encourage your child to get a good night’s rest, eat a healthy breakfast, and focus on good study habits. An afterschool routine to complete homework and chores will help your child adjust to the back-to-school routine. Set aside time for free time as well. Host a playdate, have a movie night, go to the park, and schedule time for fun and relaxation so kids don’t get too bored with their routine.

Share Your Expectations

It’s important to let your child know you have high expectations for the upcoming school year. Work with your child to set goals for success and reward them for meeting their goals. Some kids may need an academic goal, while others need goals such as no tardies for the quarter or turning all assignments in on time.

It may help to communicate with your child’s teacher to come up with some beneficial goals for your child. Rewards could include a special outing as a family, going out for ice cream, picking out a special toy, or extra screen time. As your family kicks off a new school year, try to stay positive and use things that already motivate your child to get them excited about the new school year ahead.

Sarah Lyons is a freelance writer and mom of six kids including triplets. She enjoys reading, writing, and spending time outdoors with her family.

As fall activities amp up, don’t scramble to put dinner on the table. Want to spend more time eating healthy meals together and less time at the drive-thru? Spend some time planning, prepping, and thinking outside the (prepackaged) box to reimagine family dinners. I spoke with a meal-planning blogger, a professional organizer and some busy local moms to get tips that eliminate the stress of dinnertime.

PLAN

Spend a few minutes mapping out the week’s meals. Blogger Jane Maynard shares weekly meal plans on This Week for Dinner (www.thisweekfordinner. com) “Life is so much better when you spend 10 minutes planning out the dinner menu for the week and throwing together a grocery list based on that plan.” Maynard says. “It saves time, money and angst.”

Start by creating two or three weekly dinner menus of meals your family will actually eat, then rotate to prevent boredom. Find a free printable on Pinterest to organize recipes and grocery lists. “I have a few favorite go-to meals that are great because they are nutritious, relatively easy to make, and I know my kids will eat them,” says Maynard. “That’s the holy grail right there!” Find recipes and meal plans on her blog.

ORGANIZE

Use a grocery shopping system so you always have what you need. Whether it’s a list on the fridge, notes on your phone, or an app such as “Out of Milk” where family members add to an ongoing shopping list from their phones, pick a system that works for your family to avoid multiple trips to the store.

STOCK THE PANTRY

Professional organizers often favor minimalism in the kitchen. Since nothing derails cooking more than a messy kitchen, stick to staples you use regularly rather than a tightly stuffed pantry.

To make cooking more inviting, cut down on the number of single-use gadgets, collector plastic cups, coffee mugs and other items that make keeping the kitchen clean a challenge.

EAT MORE WHOLE FOODS

Subscribe to a Community Supported Agriculture (CSA) box.

Filled with locally grown, seasonal produce, CSA boxes allow the opportunity for the whole family to try new healthy

— by Cherie Gough

Weeknight Dinner Tips for Busy Families

food. Every week is a surprise and sometimes an adventure. Learn more at https:// caff.org/csa/

PREP

Taking time on Sunday to tackle preliminary chopping and cooking saves precious time during the week. Prepare as many meal elements as possible in advance. Get kids involved washing and chopping fruit, vegetables and herbs. Roast veggies. Make sides such as rice or quinoa. Make and freeze sauces in advance. Buy frozen fruits and vegetables to make cooking a cinch.

UTILIZE KITCHEN TOOLS Freezer

If spaghetti and meatballs are a family favorite, make a double batch of meatballs and sauce: freeze half for the following week

Slow Cooker

During busy nights filled with practices, a slow cooker is a super helpful tool. It’s quick to put ingredients in and try different combinations. The aroma of a fully prepared dinner when we get home is terrific! Go to This Week for Dinner for Jane Maynard’s tried-and-true slow cooker recipes for Carnitas Tacos and Korean Beef BBQ.

Grill

Grill extra meat and veggies on the weekend. Toss on salads, stir-fry, sides or sandwiches during the week.

USE YOUR NOODLE

Ease into the week by designating Monday as “Pasta Night.” Use prepared meatballs or precooked sausage for a quick, easy meal.

RETHINK DINNER

If a traditional family meal around the table is an ideal that seems out of reach, reimagine how dinner works best for your family. Bring a cooler to the park when picking kids up from practice. A picnic dinner after soccer could be a new tradition.

Kids love breakfast for dinner. An egg scramble, hearty oatmeal, or yogurt parfaits come together in minutes and are healthy options.

Put cut vegetables, fruit, and sandwich fixings on the table and fuel your crew with a healthy make-your-own salad and sandwich night.

TAKE BABY STEPS

If you want healthy dinners, make them a priority, but don’t beat yourself up when life happens. Increase the number of times your family eats together by a day or two, be realistic, and choose strategies that work.

Cherie Gough is a former English teacher, journalist, and college admissions writing coach. She also enjoys writing about food!

— by Kimberly Blaker

Teaching Kids Household Responsibility for Future Success

for a particular task or not, always praise the efforts. This helps to reinforce the intrinsic value of completing a task.

When selecting prizes, choose something your child wouldn’t receive otherwise. If you go to the park several times a week, an extra trip to the park won’t seem much of a reward. But if you usually go only once a week, an additional visit will be more enticing.

For toddlers and preschoolers, immediate rewards are essential. Offer to go to the ice cream store or park, play a favorite game together, invite a friend over, or a fun sticker or favorite treat.

previous items, your elementary age child can:

• Fix own breakfast

• Prepare microwave foods

• Help pack lunches

• Clear off the dinner table

• Load the dishwasher

• Wash windows

• Clean bathroom sinks

• Fold laundry

• Run own bath or shower

• Feed and walk pets

• Vacuum the car

• Take out trash cans

According to H. Stephen Glenn and Jane Nelsen in Raising Self-Reliant Children in a Self-Indulgent World, “A belief in one’s personal capabilities is an essential building block for successful adulthood.” The best way for kids to achieve this sense of capability is to be assigned household responsibilities. Offering such opportunities makes kids feel essential to the family unit. It teaches them the necessary skills, acceptance of responsibility, and self-discipline. Ultimately, it builds their self-esteem and increases their chances for a successful, fulfilling life.

Reward

Whether to compensate and reward kids for their work is a difficult question. Conflicting opinions are held by child specialists, which doesn’t help. But one thing is sure. Experiencing selfsatisfaction from work is essential. So, your best bet is to take a middle-of-theroad approach. Assign your kids some responsibilities without reward, such as cleaning their rooms and taking care of personal belongings. This can provide self-satisfaction.

But also offer an allowance or rewards for additional tasks. Kids learn valuable lessons from earning, as well. They learn to budget and handle money and come to understand hard work pays off, just as it does in the adult world. Whether your child receives a reward

Elementary kids can save for bigger rewards. Use a chart and offer prizes for accumulated stars. But don’t make your child wait more than a week or so for an award. Otherwise, the reward will lose its motivational value.

Older kids can accumulate points for more extended periods and begin to look toward long-term rewards. Teens might want to collect points for several weeks to earn a concert ticket, amusement park trip, new outfit, or special privileges like staying out later or additional phone time.

Age-Appropriate Chores

Toddlers and preschoolers are more capable than we realize. In these early years, children should take on household tasks. But their attention span is short at this age. So, keep chores brief when assigning them to little ones unless the chores are especially fun. With some adult assistance, your preschooler can:

• Frost cupcakes

• Set the table

• Dry dishes

• Empty wastebaskets

• Dust

• Sort out dirty clothes

• Pick up toys

• Stack books

• Water flowers

Elementary age kids are more coordinated and capable of performing better quality work. In addition to the

Kids in middle school and beyond can learn nearly any task. During the teen years, introduce new tasks periodically so your adolescent can master all skills. Your teen can:

• Clean tubs and toilets

• Organize the garage, basement, and closets

• Set up a garage sale

• Clean the kitchen, refrigerator, and oven

• Fix dinner

• Make a grocery list

• Grocery shop

• Do laundry and ironing

• Mow the lawn

It’s Never Too Late

If your child is beyond preschool or elementary age, and you haven’t offered many household responsibilities in the past, don’t despair. While it’s better to start when kids are young, it may be more difficult, but it’s not too late. Make a plan today to set your child or adolescent on a path toward self-reliance. You’ll both be glad you did as you watch your child reap the benefits of growing into an independent, successful young adult.

Kimberly Blaker is a published author, award-winning research writer, professional freelance writer, and former columnist. Her articles, editorials, and content have appeared in more than 300 magazines, newspapers, and websites

The Life-Changing Magic of Purging Toys

Until recently, I was convinced my life would be better if only we had more space. Until we got a bigger house or remodeled, I thought a special organizing system for our burgeoning collection of toys and books would do the trick. I lived in constant fear of a painful LEGO-meets-foot disaster. I felt suffocated by the sea of toys covering every surface of our house.

And then I purged.

Our lives changed for the better, overnight. It turned out, we didn’t need more space, more labels, or more baskets. My kids certainly didn’t need more “friendly reminders” to pick up toys. What we actually needed was less. Here’s why:

IT’S SIMPLE

Before The Great Purge, I had this awesome idea. I would rotate the toys every few months. I put a huge bin of toys on a shelf with ex tra diapers and good intentions. But organization is not my forté. Our plants are chronically thirsty and my car typically gets an oil change a thousand miles too late. Not surprisingly, I never got around to rotating the toys. I just couldn’t muster the energy to get the bin down, empty it, and fill it back up with different toys, all under the watchful eye of my opinionated three-year-old. But, collecting the books I was tired of reading and gathering the annoying, batteryoperated toys (you know the type) and dropping them in a garbage bag instead of the toy basket? That was easy.

IT’S ENERGIZING

Once I got the urge to purge, I couldn’t stop. I began to look at every-

— by Pam Moore

thing in my house with a fresh perspective. Instead of asking myself, “Where should I put this?” I asked myself “Do I really need it?” If the answer was no, into the bag it went. Along with the kids’ toys and books, I got rid of clothes I didn’t love but was saving for just in case, socks without mates, half a dozen books I’d been meaning to read, a stack of expired coupons, and jewelry I’d forgotten I owned. Without the burden of extra stuff in my house, I literally felt lighter.

IT’S AN OPPORTUNITY FOR LEARNING

spicy adult vitamin). So, I told the truth. I explained to my daughter that she and her baby sister are lucky to have lots of books and toys, but some kids don’t have any, so we need to share. I braced myself for tears and screams. They never came. Instead, my daughter nodded and helped me add toys to the give-away bag.

EVERYONE IS HAPPIER

With less stuff, there is less mess. Less mess means I am not perpetually an inch away from tripping over a rogue block or a Frozen doll. While being asked to put her toys away used to elicit tears and cries of “It’s just too much!” from my three-yearold, now she generally cleans up with minimal pushback. On the nights when the tidying falls to me, I get it done in under five minutes. Meanwhile, my kids don’t seem to miss any of their old toys. If anything, they have more space to create forts out of blankets and end tables.

My three-year-old learned it’s important to share. I learned she’s happy to share, if I give her the chance. Initially, I worried about how she would feel about letting go of her things. I thought about restricting my adventures in purging to after bedtime, but her bedroom is where most of her toys are, so that was not an option. I considered lying, but I feel it’s important to be honest with my kids (although I maintain it’s not hurting anyone if they think my chocolate is a

Having less means less to put away, less to think about, and less chaos. Less time spent dealing with stuff leaves more time for the stuff that matters. I only wish I’d purged sooner.

Pam Moore is an award-winning freelance writer, intuitive eating coach, and host of the Real Fit podcast. This article was originally published on BonBon Break.

SINGLE PARENTING

— by Meagan Ruffing

When Being a Single Parent is Hard

Ithink I’ve pretty much gotten the hang of being a single mom. Everyone knows their schedules and expectations in this home and for the most part, we’re all doing well. However, there are still times in my life when I stop what I’m doing and say, “Wow. This is a lot of work and I need help.” Those moments haven’t lessened over the years; I’ve just learned how to 100% feel them. Sometimes, the only relief I can get is to have a good cry. As a mental health therapist, I know the importance of recognizing these feelings and allowing myself to sit in them but not stay in them. Here’s how I do that.

1) When I’m feeling really overwhelmed and

don’t know what “to do” item to get done next, I make a bulleted list of things that need to be done. I either add these to the notes section of my phone or I hand write them on a notepad. Sometimes the act of seeing what I must do for the day decreases my anxiety and helps me prioritize things. It is also a huge sense of accomplishment as I check things off my list throughout the day.

2) When I feel jealousy creeping in after scrolling

though social media and seeing all my friends posting pictures in their twoparent households, I take a deep breath and put my phone down. This doesn’t happen often because I am genuinely happy for my friends and their families

but sometimes, I yearn for that same thing again. I recognize that it’s okay that I feel that desire and I acknowledge it. I might go for a run to clear my head, or I’ll go to my default activity which is cleaning. Cleaning always makes me feel better.

3) If I’m feeling lonely from having to do all the things a two-parent household does, I will either call my mom and cry, or I will sign up for a yoga class and practice mindfulness. I have learned not to shy away from the loneliness of single parenting but rather, to lean into it and be thankful that I am wiling and able to provide for my family in the ways that I do.

4) When I get angry about being a single parent (because yes, I do), I just acknowledge that there are some things, many things, be-

yond my control. I use that anger to fuel my next best thing. It might be me deciding to make a big feast for me and my kids that night and just enjoying each other’s company or it might be me planning a small trip for the four of us to take. I recognize the feeling of anger, own it, and use it to help me move forward.

5) At times I can feel jaded with all that has happened from the fall of my marriage, but when my mind starts thinking in that way and the words coming out of my mouth become a reflection of what’s in my heart, I know it’s time to change things around. I take my negative thoughts and break them down into smaller thoughts. For example, when I tell myself that I will never trust another partner again, I break that big thought down and work on a healthier thought of, “I may have come from something I could not trust but not everyone is the same. I now know what I want and don’t want. I know what I will tolerate and won’t tolerate” and that to me, is powerful knowledge. It’s also called growth and healing.

of myself for where my kids and I are at. We have all worked hard to get to where we are emotionally, and I recognize that daily. When I’m feeling proud, I use that extra boost of energy and confidence to pour it into someone else. It might be another single mom who I know is struggling that day or it might be a friend who has poured into me from times past, whom I want to thank.

7) When I’m tired, I mean physically and mentally exhausted, I take a break. I put comfortable clothes on, light a candle, and play music to help me relax. Sometimes I order takeout and put a movie on. Whatever is happening, I know that my mind and body are telling me to slow down and recharge. I have learned that it is so important to listen to these cues because there is no other adult in my home who is looking out for me. It’s just me.

No matter what your situation as a single parent might look like, you can use these ideas to help you get back into a rhythm when things feel hard. Don’t forget to “reward” yourself throughout the days, weeks, months, and years that you’re walking through this. Recognizing where you were and where you are now is something worth celebrating.

Meagan Ruffing is a parenting journalist, mental health therapist, and single mom who tries to do her best each day. She doesn’t always get things right but continually strives to do better.

6) Most of the time, I just feel extremely proud

Anxiety Disorders in Children

— by Katy M. Clark

My daughter was nine years old when she had her first panic attack. She was trembling, out of breath, and her heart pounded. These symptoms persisted for almost ten minutes and nothing I said or did could help her calm down. Because her symptoms occurred before her performance in a class play, though, I dismissed it as stage fright.

When she suffered the same symptoms a short time later, this time before a party at her school, I realized something was wrong. Especially when she told me what triggered her intense physical symptoms — she could not stop worrying that something bad would happen to me as I drove to her school.

Having some anxiety is a normal part of life for most kids. After all, what child doesn’t feel anxious before taking a test? Or making a presentation in front of the class? And what about trying out for the team?

Some children, though, feel worry or fear constantly. According to the Mayo Clinic, anxiety disorders involve “intense, excessive and persistent worry and fear about everyday situations.” Further, such feelings of anxiety and panic “interfere with daily activities, are difficult to control, are out of proportion to the actual danger and can last a long time.”

The CDC reports that 9.4% of children aged 3-17 were diagnosed with anxiety in 2016-2019. That’s 5.8 million

kids. And since the COVID-19 pandemic, the number of kids with an anxiety disorder will undoubtedly increase.

After visiting the pediatrician, my daughter was diagnosed with Generalized Anxiety Disorder. Now she sees a therapist and takes medication to treat her anxiety. Through her experience, I have learned so much about anxiety disorders in children. I’m sharing what I’ve learned below in hopes of helping other parents and caregivers.

Types of Anxiety Disorders in Children

There are several types of anxiety disorders, related to what the worries or fears are about, or how children handle them. According to WebMD, the most common anxiety disorders in kids include the following:

• Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) is constant worrying about a lot of different things out of proportion to the actual circumstance.

• Panic disorders are characterized by sudden, intense fear that leaves a child feeling physically overwhelmed and out of control, even when there is no danger.

• Separation anxiety is the fear that something bad will happen

to a parent or loved one when the child is separated from them. Some separation anxiety is a normal developmental phase for babies and toddlers, but not necessarily for older children.

• Social anxiety is extreme anxiety and fear of being embarrassed in social situations, like talking with classmates or answering a question in class. It is more than simple shyness.

Symptoms

According to the CDC and WebMD, the most typical symptoms of anxiety disorders in children include:

• Showing anxiety or expressing worry or fear on most days, for weeks a time

• Trouble sleeping which may manifest in your child seeming sleepy or tired during the day

• Difficulty concentrating or thinking about a problem over and over again

• Unusually irritable and angry

• Headaches

• Stomachaches

• Avoiding school or friends because worries are overwhelming

• Trouble calming down after leaving a parent or loved one, or extreme homesickness

How to Help

The CDC recommends talking to your healthcare provider as a first step. This is what we did in my daughter’s case when we visited her pediatrician. A primary care doctor or mental health specialist can evaluate your child and ensure that your child’s symptoms are caused by anxiety and not another condition, such as trauma.

Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and medication are the most accepted treatments to help children overcome an anxiety disorder according to the Anxiety Disorders Association of America.

CBT teaches your child skills and tools to help them feel less anxious and fearful. Through CBT, for instance, my daughter learned to utilize tools like a “worry box.” She’d write down her worry on a piece of paper, then stuff the paper in a box. It was a tangible way to release her fear.

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What Do Your Teens Want?

Parents of teens often acknowledge they’re navigating uncharted territory and are open to advice from those who’ve gone before. Teens are going through tremendous emotional, physical, and social changes while their parents may also be facing a series of firsts: aging, end of reproductive cycles, and mid-life crisis issues. The transitions faced by both teens and their parents can make for some challenging times at home.

Teens need room to grow and change. While they’ll resist “micro-managing,” they may be prone to taking risks that require intervention for their own safety. They want to stand on their own two feet and push parents further away as they turn to peers for advice. They may become resistant to family rules that used to be accepted, and they can seem sullen and uncooperative. In short, parents look at their beloved child and barely recognize the sweet little person they were just a short while ago.

On the other hand, teens are vibrant and have energy to burn. They can be very idealistic and full of plans to make the world a better place. They become passionate about causes and are very loyal to friends. They are in the process of developing the person they’ll eventually become as an adult and may explore many creative outlets in that effort.

Teen-age years are dynamic times filled with joys and struggles. Parents have the responsibility to nurture them through these times. So… what do teens really want?

To Belong

Although friends, teachers, and mentors will play a large role in your teen’s life, your family will always be their primary place of belonging. Home is where they’re nurtured and loved and where they return after venturing out in the world. Home should always be a welcoming place.

Building and maintaining a positive bond with teens is the goal. And though discipline will need to be part of family life, as much as possible make encouragement, positive words, and camaraderie be the norm. Spend time together. Family meals, game nights, and weekend outings may not come as often as they did before teen years, but they should still happen. Including teen friends in family events makes it more fun for all.

Teens need to know that they always have a place of belonging in the family.

To Be Heard

Teens are either holed up in their bedroom or away with friends. So when are parents supposed to listen to them? It’s a challenge, for sure. But teens have strong feelings about the issues of the day and they have a need to share their thoughts. Some parents plan times when the family focuses on a topic of the day to process together. Such events give room for all family members to voice their thoughts.

Teens are trying out new ideas as they encounter them. They may take a stance in opposition to the ways you’ve taught them at home as an exercise in exploration. Parents who listen rather than correct or become angry will model a healthy way to encounter opposing views.

Teens also need a safe place to ask questions troubling them or talk about behaviors amongst their friends that concern them. Today’s world requires that teens make important decisions about alcohol, drugs, and sexual behaviors at an early age. These topics may be hard to discuss openly, but your teens need support as they face them.

Teens need to know their family will listen.

To Be Safe

Parents of teens need to be aware of the world their teens are living in daily. Where do they go and what are they doing? Who do they spend their time with and are they in safe spaces? Parents need to be willing to step in and “rescue” their kids if they find themselves in an unsafe situation. A code word decided upon by the entire family is one way to stay safe. A text of that one word means, “Come get me.”

Teen years require clear boundaries set by you, their parents. Reasonable expectations mean your teen can comply and there may be room for flexibility when they behave responsibly. Consequences should be both fair and immediate. Rules are meant to keep your child safe and discipline is about teaching appropriate ways of living.

Keeping lines of communication open is a challenge in teen years, but can go a long way in keeping your teen safe. Engaging in casual talks about how life is going in general can open up deeper levels of communication when important topics need to be addressed.

Teens want to feel safe.

To Be Loved Unconditionally

While teens need privacy and want to be with their friends more than at home, they still need to feel loved by family members. Anything parents can do to demonstrate that unconditional love is a plus. Some teens welcome hugs while others prefer a less “fluffy” pat on the back or high five.

Although much of parenting is reminding kids to do their chores or homework, strive to make your interactions positive every time you can. We adults like to hear positive words and affirmations, and so do teens.

It’s important to show appreciation for your teen’s efforts and not only for their accomplishments. Trying a new sport or joining the drama club may not produce stellar performances, but will be character-building. Look for ways to praise genuine effort.

When a teen makes a mistake or breaks rules, there is opportunity to show real love. Consequences meted out fairly, coupled with assurances of love and support, can turn a bad situation into a learning opportunity.

Say the words. Tell your teen you love them often.

Teens need to know they’re loved.

Jan Pierce, M.Ed. is a retired teacher and author. She writes about a wide variety of topics related to parenting, grandparenting, and education.

Prescription medication may also help. Parents should work closely with a health care provider to manage the use of medication and monitor your child’s response.

As well, WebMD advocates that parents should let their children know they are available to listen whenever their children are ready to talk. Many kids with anxiety believe their parents won’t understand and thus try to hide their fears. That’s why being ready to listen is so important.

My daughter also joined an anxiety disorder support group at her school, allowing her to connect with peers who understand what she’s going through. As well, I have found support in talking to other parents of children with anxiety disorders. So many have been supportive and understanding, making me feel less alone.

Anxiety is a treatable, manageable condition. As parents, we can help kids with anxiety disorders receive the tools, support and love they need to live their healthiest lives possible.

Katy M. Clark is a writer and mom of two who celebrates her imperfections on her blog Experienced Bad Mom. She’s an award-winning writer whose work has appeared on Scary Mommy, Today’s Parent, and Your Teen for Parents. Her articles have appeared in Pregnancy, Atlanta Parent, and many more publications.

Is it time to say goodbye to my pet?

Is hemp good for hounds?

Why won’t my pet behave?

Answers to these and more are at Mini-Vet School this fall.

Lectures from top veterinary professionals (two each evening) Thursdays, 7-9 pm. October

5, 12, 19, 26 and November 2, at Daemen University, 4380 Main St, Amherst. $25 individual dates or $70 for all ten lectures. Student/ Senior discounts available.

To register, scan the QR code, or visit nfvs.square.site.

Questions? Email info@ nfveterinarysociety.org or call (716) 572-5910.

Your veterinarian. Your other family doctor.

NFVeterinarySociety.org

— Courtesy of the Niagara Frontier Veterinary Society

Attend Mini-Vet School

Is it time to say goodbye to my pet? Is hemp good for hounds? There’s a place to get answers to these questions.

From cats and dogs to fish and rabbits, companion animals are part of more than half of the households in Western New York. These pets are the focus of this year’s Mini-Vet School along with a look at other animals, including exotics and horses. Presented by the Niagara Frontier Veterinary Society and hosted by Daemen University (4380 Main Street, Amherst, NY), the program runs on Thursday evenings October 5, 12, 19, 26 and November 2 from 7-9 pm at Daemen’s Schenck Hall.

Mini-Vet School is designed for animal lovers, pet owners, and those curious about a career in veterinary medicine. Animals have a documented beneficial effect on our physical and psychological well-being. Educating ourselves on animal health can help ensure that our beloved companion pets and wild animals receive the best care possible.

The two lectures each evening, given by some of the most accomplished and dynamic veterinarians in Western New York and beyond, cover causes and treatments of conditions that affect pets and their owners. They will also discuss some of the latest advances in veterinary training and care. Each lecture is essentially a crash course in a subject covered in vet school. Graduates will receive a certificate and a better understanding of animal health.

Registration is required. Full program registration is $70 per person. Reduced rates for students and seniors $50. Individual dates are $25 each. To register visit https://nfvs.square.site.

For questions, email info@nfveterinarysociety.org or call 716-572-5910.

Registration is limited to 250 people. Some classes are interactive so smartphones/tablets are suggested.

Topics/Speakers

October 5

In one end and out the other

An incredible digestive journey –Wm. James Brown DVM

Is it time to say goodbye?

End of life issues –Reed Stevens DVM

October 12

Tall tails & tales | Zoo tails

Alice Crosby-Rohauer

Help! I found an injured animal Wildlife rehabilitation and education –Marianne Hites

October 19

Timing is everything | Canine reproduction – Amanda Donovan DVM

Minding your manners | Pet behavior & training – Rebecca Gerevics DVM

October 26

Hemp and Hound | The benefits of CBD rich hemp in pets –Joe Wakshlag DVM

Pesky Parasites | Not pet friendly –Dwight Bowman DVM

November 2

Who is behind those closed doors? The people taking care of your pet –Stephanie West DVM

Is it in your pet’s head? | Pet neurology & brain disorders –Arielle Herberger DVM

Sponsors include: Daemen University, SPCA Serving Erie County, Final Gift, IDEXX Laboratories, Merck Animal Health, Zoetis, Hill’s Science Diet, Purina Pro Plan Veterinary Diets, Elanco, WNY Academy of Veterinary Medicine, Pine Pharmacy. A portion of the proceeds from the Mini-Vet School benefit the Pet Emergency Fund.

The Niagara Frontier Veterinary Society is a 501(c)3 organization comprised of more than 75 small animal hospitals and more than 225 practitioners in Erie and Niagara Counties. It exists to advance public awareness and understanding of appropriate and compassionate pet health care, veterinary services and the veterinary profession.

ChoicesWellness

Erie County Restarts Specialized Resource & Referral Service for Children from Birth to 21 Years

Children and Youth with Special Health Care Needs (CYSHCN) program to improve care coordination for families with children in Erie County

After a decade-long hiatus, the Erie County Department of Health has reintroduced the Children and Youth with Special Health Care Needs (CYSHCN) program within the Office of Health Equity. This free resource and referral program will improve care coordination for infants, children and youth from birth to 21 years old who have a serious or chronic medical, physical, behavioral, emotional or developmental condition.

“There is no ‘one-size-fits-all’ solution for the complex issues that some children in Erie County face,” said Commissioner of Health Dr. Gale Burstein. “This program is prepared to advocate with health care providers and school districts in ways that build a network of supports around a child and their family.”

“The acronym (pronounced “shin”) can be tough to remember, but the idea behind this program is very straightforward,” Dr. Burstein explained. “We know there are children and families who benefit from assistance in accessing medical, social, educational, recreational and mental health resources. This program is a connecting force – supporting and advocating for children, youth and

their families, while linking them with services that can improve their quality of life, and physical and mental health.”

A diagnosis is not required in order to participate in the CYSHCN program. “That is an important feature of CYSHCN,” Dr. Burstein continued. Parents and caregivers may notice changes at any stage of a child’s physical and social development that could raise questions and concerns. “We have a list of eligible conditions and circumstances, but our criteria for inclusion is much more expansive,” she offered.

CYSHCN will connect families with community resources, including:

• Medical referrals, providers and specialists; medical supplies and equipment; medical appointment scheduling and transportation

• Mental and behavioral health resources

• Health insurance

• Education resources – GED, tutoring, college planning

• Employment resources – vocational counseling, working papers, career planning and interview skills

• Translation and interpretation services

• Transition to adult services (medical, education, housing, medical providers)

• Play/support groups

People eligible to participate include parents, caregivers, friends and family members of infants, children and youth; school personnel; and, medical professionals. Youth ages 18-21 years are also able to participate on their own. Once enrolled, CYSHCN will follow up regularly with parents, caregivers or older youth, continuing to offer resources and encouragement.

To apply or learn more, visit erie. gov/cyshcn, call (716) 858-1920 or email healthequity@erie.gov. Anyone with questions about their child’s eligibility is encouraged to call.

Blueberries have long been one of my favorite foods, well before learning they were good for me. They are so versatile — you can eat them raw, toss them in cereal, stir them into muffins, bake them in pies, mash them into sauces, add them to pancakes, the list goes on and on. The three most common recipes we’ve seen for blueberries are pie, muffins, and pancakes. Following are a few other tasty, easy recipes your family is sure to enjoy.

A few tips:

• Blueberries are an excellent source of antioxidants, heart healthy, and in the elite group called “super foods.”

• Wild blueberries are healthier and tastier than the large “cultivated” blueberries so common today. If you cannot easily locate fresh wild blueberries, look in the freezer section for Wyman’s brand.

• Choose blueberries that are deep blue, with smooth skin (no wrinkles), not overripe or green. Turn the container over to examine and be sure there is no mold either.

• Refrigerate and serve within a week.

• Blueberries freeze well, and can last for a year if properly packaged.

• When adding to baked goods, do not thaw frozen blueberries, unless you are using them for pancakes.

• To keep muffin/cake/bread mix from turning too blue, lightly coat blueberries with flour or cornstarch before mixing into the batter.

BLUEBERRY ICE

Free of: DAIRY, EGGS, SOY, PEANUTS, TREE NUTS, FISH, SHELLFISH, WHEAT, GLUTEN, VEGAN

Yield: 4 servings

Prep Time: 5 minutes

Cook Time: 0 minutes

2 cups frozen blueberries

1/2 cup sugar

4 tablespoons fresh lemon juice

1/2 cup water

Process in a food processor or blender until pureed. Serve immediately or place in freezer, covered. To serve, thaw (20-30 minutes) and stir to desired consistency. Serve in hollowed out oranges or small dessert bowls.

BLUEBERRY SALSA

Free of: DAIRY, EGGS, SOY, PEANUTS, TREE NUTS, FISH, SHELLFISH, WHEAT, GLUTEN, VEGAN

Yield: 6-8 servings

Prep Time: 5 minutes

Cook Time: 0 minutes

2 cups blueberries

1/2 medium onion, diced

QUICK BLUEBERRY CRUNCH

Free of: DAIRY, EGGS, SOY, PEANUTS, TREE NUTS, FISH, SHELLFISH, WHEAT*, GLUTEN, VEGAN

Yield: 8 servings

Prep Time: 5 minutes

CookTime: 45 minutes

4 cups fresh blueberries

1 cup brown sugar

3/4 cup flour* (can be wheat/gluten free)

3/4 cup oatmeal (not instant)

1/2 cup dairy/soy free margarine, melted Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Place blueberries in a 2 quart baking dish; spread out evenly. Combine remaining ingredients and sprinkle over blueberries. Bake for 45 minutes.

If you have any questions about our column, e-mail Kathy at allergy@roadrunner.com. For further information about food allergies, contact FARE www. foodallergy.org, or call 1-800-929-4040.

1 medium red, orange or yellow pepper, diced

3 tablespoons chopped parsley or cilantro

1/4 cup lime or lemon juice

1 teaspoon salt

Combine all ingredients, folding in blueberries last. Refrigerate 1 hour or more to blend flavors. Serve with corn chips or use as a relish with meat and poultry dishes. Optionally, add chopped, seeded jalapenño pepper.

Kathy Lundquist is a Western New York parent whose son, now an adult, was born with severe food allergies. Over the last two decades, she has worked tirelessly, in a variety of capacities, to increase community awareness about food allergies.

THE KIDDIE GOUR ME T

— by Barbara Blackburn

The popular Acropolis Restaurant once located on Elmwood, established in 1982, has moved to Williamsville, taking its notable Greek cuisine and a kids’ menu with it. We visited it for lunch and “Music on Main,” a Thursday summertime event.

Acropolis Opa

the fresh herbed chicken ($14.00), along with the celery, carrots, and blue cheese.

5429 Main Street Williamsville, NY 14221

716-276-3074

acropolisopa.com

Kids can order breakfast or lunch for $8.49, without a drink. Lunch choices include Avocado Salad with Chicken; Grilled Cheese, with French Fries; Cheeseburger, with Fries; and Chicken Fingers with Fries. Breakfast choices include Mickey Mouse Pancake, with Chocolate Chips and whip cream; Scrambled Eggs, with bacon or sausage; or French Toast. To add a Fresh Fruit Cup, it’s $4.00. The Huge BLT, loaded with bacon, lettuce, tomato, avocado, and mayo ($14.00) was a challenge to maneuver but very big on flavor. Dad gave it a good rating.

The Falafel Burger and the Vegetarian Burger have much in common. My Falafel Burger ($12.00) presented itself as a crispy patty topped with roasted red pepper hummus and feta, lettuce, tomato, red onion, and tzatziki, on a brioche roll. The roll was a bit soggy but very flavorful from the tasty sauce of Greek yogurt, cucumber, dill, garlic, and lemon.

Don’t ignore the appetizers. The Opa! Fries, sprinkled with Pauly Spice, sea salt, and pepper, offered generous bits of feta and little hints of oregano ($8.00). The Saganaki ($15.00) a.k.a. fried cheese, took us back to Greece, where it was flamed tableside, and the brandy was more pronounced. The staff is considering taking the flambe route in the future. Along with other Greek appetizers, Acropolis serves the usual choice of chicken fingers but with their special preparation, hand tossed with Panko for

Other noteworthy items in my list of favorites featured in Greek restaurants included Mousaka, Pastitsio, and Gemista. The meat, however, is ground beef and not lamb. However, lamb lovers will find Roasted Lamb Shank ($28.00) and Lamb Chop Souvlaki Dinner ($28.00): four lamb chops, romaine, feta, tomatoes, cucumbers, red onion, olives, pepperoncinis, tzatziki, and pita. That sounds very promising.

Keeping up with the latest craze, Grain Bowls, Acropolis has them, including a Tuna Poke Bowl ($16.00) and a Spicy Quinoa Bowl ($10.00).

Some of the other categories of Greek and American selections include salad and signature wraps. The wraps accommodate those who favor plant-based protein. A healthy choice salad is the Santorini Salad ($11.00), as delicious as it sounds — romaine, spring mix, feta, tomatoes, cucumbers, chick peas, sunflower seeds, dried cranberries, and house-made lemon vinaigrette with pita.

Rice Pudding and Baklava will greet you for dessert. Those are always good endings. Nevertheless, I’m always searching for that custard filled filo pastry, such as we savored at the Williamsville Farmers Market, at the Greek stand.

Housed in what was once a Starbucks and then Newbury Salads on Main Street in the village, this Greek restaurant, serving up Opa food for years, earns a shared name as a famous Greek tourist attraction. You’ll probably find something to inspire you to exclaim “Opa!”

Barb has been happily writing The Kiddie Gourmet for over 35 years. She has two adult children and four grandchildren and is a home instructor and community education cooking instructor for the Williamsville Central Schools.

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