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RAINBOW PAPER TUBE BATS

These bats are not only decorative but when the ends of the tubes are folded in, they can hold small treats! You’ll need paper cardstock or construction paper in assorted colors, empty paper tubes (from toilet paper, plastic wrap, aluminum foil, etc.), googly eyes (candy eyes were used here), plus glue, tape, and scissors. The tubes are cut to size, then colored paper is wrapped around them. Bat wings are applied last. See all the “how-to’s” at hellowonderful.co/post/rainbow-paper-tube-bats-halloween-craft-for-kids/

EASY SPIDER HALLOWEEN TREAT BOWL

Cheryl is a mom of 3 boys and she came up with this treat bowl idea that would be a great addition to parties for any age group! Black plastic bowls, black bendy straws, googly eyes (1/2 inch or larger), hot glue gun, and scissors are needed. The trickiest part is cutting off the non-bendy ends of the straws at the proper angle so that when hot glued to the bowl they allow the “spider” to stand properly. Lots of photos are available to help in the tutorial at thatswhatchesaid.net/easy-spiderhalloween-treat-bowl/

HALLOWEEN PAPER CHAINS

These adorable creatures can be used as a decoration or as a countdown chain to the holiday itself. Common supplies such as construction paper cut into 2-inch wide by 8.5-inch long strips, googly eyes, black markers, glue, tape, and scissors, and a little imagination are all you need! Consult the full tutorial to see how to give the pumpkin its stem, the monster his “Frankenstein fringe,” and the cat its ears and whiskers at artsymomma.com/paper-chain-halloween-decoration.html

EASY PAPER GHOSTS

If you’re looking for something to contribute to a classroom party, these simple ghosts are made from white paper and black and white paper straws. Pencils with a Halloween design could always be substituted if you can’t find the straws. The website offers a printable ghost pattern download for $2, but you can always draw your own eyes, or add googly eyes with glue. Check out the details at iheartcraftythings.com/ easy-paper-ghost-craft.html

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INFLUENCE OF DISNEY PRINCESSES

Children have loved Disney princesses since “Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs” premiered in theaters in 1937. While this adoration continues to grow in terms of princess movie ratings, some parents may wonder what effects these idealized images of young women might have on how their children feel about and express themselves.

According to new research from the University of California, Davis, a favorite princess improved — but did not harm — young children’s confidence in their own bodies and the diversity of the ways in which they chose to play.

The paper, “Ariel, Aurora, or Anna? Disney Princess Body Size as a Predictor of Body Esteem and Gendered Play in Early Childhood,” was published online in the journal Psychology of Popular Media.

Researchers categorized Disney princesses, who have become more ethnically diverse and nonwhite over time, into three body categories — thin, average, and above average/ heavy. For example, Moana from the 2016 film by the same name, was coded as having an average body size. Princess Jasmine, from the 1992 film “Aladdin” was coded as being thin.

The study focused primarily on how the body type of a favorite Disney princess affects children’s body esteem, meaning how confident they feel about their own bodies, and their masculine or feminine play. These two criteria — body esteem and gendered play — are parents’ most-cited concerns about Disney princesses.

Whether a princess was average or thin made a big difference in how the children who loved them felt about their own bodies and the way they chose to play. Children whose favorite princesses had an average body — such as Moana — had higher body esteem a year later. These children were also more open to exploring play that was both stereotypically masculine and feminine, and this was true for both boys and girls, researchers said.

No one would argue with the fact that Halloween is an exciting time for kids! Add some special touches with these creative craft ideas!

Do your kids race around the house in costumes all year long? There are so many fun ways to celebrate the whimsy of Halloween. Create new traditions with one of these faBOOlous events that anyone can pull together.

Trunk-or-Treat

A trunk-or-treat transforms an empty parking lot into a Halloween celebration filled with decorated vehicles and a fun opportunity to trick-or-treat at a safe venue (often a school or church community).

Here’s how to do it:

1) Reserve a parking lot in advance-consider asking a local church or school.

2) Secure participants who are willing to decorate car trunks or truck beds in a festive theme (popular kids’ films, movies, or games).

3) Ask participants to bring candy to distribute to kids.

Some participants may add a free carnival game to their trunk (or parking space) for kids to enjoy. Now all you have to do is advertise — social media is a great way to get the word out!

Super-size it with lots of decorated trunks, free food, live music, photo booth and inflatables, carnival games, haunted library, cakewalk, and food trucks.

Gross Science Play Date

Homemade slime is all the rage. If you’ve had kids over to play, chances are you’ve tried your hand at making the ooey-gooey stuff. A “weird science” play date where kids make gross concoctions is sure to impress. Our family used a gross science kit to make “veins,” “snot,” and “earwax.” Most items needed are included in a kit, so there’s no need to drive all over town for ingredients. It was easy and the kids were awed and delightfully disgusted. Gross science kits can be found at local toy stores, big box stores, or on- line. End

this play date with “dirt” pudding cups topped with crushed chocolate cookies and gummy worms.

Pumpkin Carving Party

After friends invited us to a pumpkin carving party, my kids were hooked on trying new wild and wacky jack-olantern designs each year. Provide an alternative to carving for young children. Paint, stickers, and glitter help little ones get into the spirit and allow parents to relax and enjoy the party.

Gather Tools

Ask each family to bring their own pumpkins. Have a few pumpkin carving kits on hand for guests to use. They include tools and patterns to help get everyone started. Download additional patterns online for extra inspiration.

Dry erase markers allow for mistakes as guests trace or freehand jack-olantern faces. Sharpie markers also work (but don’t wipe off).

Make Yummy Treats

What’s movie night without great snacks? Take a hint from Laurie and Nancy from the blog Two Sisters Crafting. Their irresistible candy corn popcorn contains marshmallow topping, M&Ms, and candy corn. Get the how-to instructions at www.twosisterscrafting. com/fall-candy-corn-popcorn.

Let the kids concoct their own combinations with a festive popcorn bar. Kids decorate cups with Halloween stickers, and fill with popcorn and candy toppings.

Pipe icing onto madeleine cookies to create cute mummies.

With all these great ideas, all you have to do now is press play and relax with friends. This no-fuss gathering is a tradition to relish.

Cover tables with butcher paper or plastic. Provide garbage cans and extra trash bags.

If you plan to roast pumpkin seeds, place large bowls on each table where guests can put seeds.

Carve & Display

Tricks of the Trade

Be sure to have adults help and supervise kids with all sharp tools.

Cut around the stem at a slight angle to make a “hat” for the jack-o-lantern that won’t fall in. Add an extra hole at the top to act as a “chimney” for the candle inside or use a battery-powered candle for safety.

To preserve a jack-o-lantern, rub the inside and cut edges with petroleum jelly. Wrap in a plastic bag and store in the fridge until ready to use.

Halloween Movie Night

Nothing sets the tone of Halloween like a spooky (or not-so-spooky) movie night!

Choose a Movie

Younger kids love It’s the Great Pumpkin Charlie Brown, Monsters Inc., old Scooby Doo episodes, and Hotel Transylvania.

For teens and tweens consider The Nightmare Before Christmas, ET, or The Addams Family.

Provide Atmosphere

Gather cozy pillows and blankets for kids to sprawl out. Add twinkle lights.

Cherie Gough is a freelance writer whose family dreams of Halloween costumes all year long.

“Nothing sets the tone of Halloween like a spooky (or not-sospooky) movie night!”

Fun Neighborhood Halloween Contests

From Ghostly Goodies to Petrifying Pumpkins

Are you looking for some fun new ways to celebrate Halloween with your kids this year? How about a neighborhood contest? Costume contests are just one of the many options to get everyone in the spirit. So read on to see if one of these wicked ideas grabs you.

Craziest Costume – Pass out fliers inviting all the neighborhood kids to meet at your house an hour before trick-or-treating begins. Give everyone a name tag when they arrive. Then each child and adult can fill out a voting slip. Include best costume, scariest, funniest, most creative, and more. Hand out a special prize to the winners of each category. And don’t forget a small consolation prize for all children who participate.

Most Ghoulish Yard – Invite everyone in the neighborhood to join in a decorating contest. You could have a few categories, such as scariest, cutest, silliest, and best overall. Set a decorating deadline for October 21st. Provide delivery instructions on the flier so every house in the neighborhood can vote for the addresses they like best. Also, mention that neighbors should view all the homes after October 21st and deliver their votes to you by a specified date. Ask some of the participating neighbors to help you make up fun “Scariest

House” and other signs. Then post them in the yards of the winning homes.

Funniest Carved Pumpkin –

Ask the neighborhood to join you in a carved pumpkin contest. You can schedule a date and time when everyone will meet with their pumpkins at your home or a neighborhood park. Suggest everyone who participates pitch in $2 per pumpkin for a jackpot.

pating house to set up a Halloween kids game in their front yard. Participating homes can give out small prizes such as stickers or treats to each kid who plays their game. Kids can wander the neighborhood playing the games for the afternoon. When they’re done, have each child fill out a ballot for the most fun Halloween game. Then post a chilling homemade sign in the yard of the winner.

Scariest Scarecrow – Ask your neighbors to participate in the scariest scarecrow contest. To keep the scarecrows safe until voting, set a specific day when the scarecrows should be displayed in everyone’s yards. Have everyone in the neighborhood, whether they participate by making a scarecrow or not, hand-deliver their vote to you by the end of the day that the scarecrows are set out. Then deliver a fun Halloweenish homemade yard sign to the winning home.

Each participating family should be instructed to bring a Halloween themed food or dessert.

To keep it fair, allow only one pumpkin per child. Prepare numbered cards in advance so each pumpkin will have its own number. Then have everyone fill out a voting slip. The carver of the winning pumpkin gets the jackpot. You could also pass out small goody bags for all the kids who participate.

Most Fun Halloween Game

– Hand out fliers to everyone in the neighborhood or on your street to hold a Halloween game day. Ask each partici-

Creepiest Food – Hold a simple neighborhood potluck Halloween party. Each participating family should be instructed to bring a Halloween themed food or dessert. Place a numbered card next to each dish. Then have everyone fill out a ballot for the cutest, grossest, funniest, and scariest food. Once the winners are announced, take photos of the families next to their creepy food. Then everyone can dig in and eat the yummy dishes and treats.

Kimberly Blaker is a mother of two and grandmother. She is also a published author, award-winning research writer, professional freelance writer, and former columnist. Her articles, editorials, and content have appeared in more than 300 magazines, newspapers, and websites.

— by Kimberly Blaker

Great Halloween Apps

There are few holidays that kids look forward to with more anticipation than Halloween. After all, what’s more fun than carving pumpkins, wearing costumes, and going trick-or-treating with your friends? Here are some great Halloween apps for the whole family. The best part is that they’re all free, so make sure to download an app — or three!

Carve-a-Pumpkin

(Apple App Store)

Halloween wouldn’t be the same without pumpkin carving. How about carving virtual pumpkins to see who can create the silliest or scariest Jacko-lantern? Step one: download Carve-aPumpkin. You can choose pumpkins of different shapes and sizes, and then create your own designs or select from a host of decorating options that include eyes, noses, and mouths. You can even decorate your pumpkins with stickers. The best part is that you won’t cut yourselves, there’s no mess to clean up, and you can experiment with different designs until you find the one that’s just right.

Make A Zombie 2

(Apple App Store)

While you’re at it, why not make a scary zombie or two? With Make A Zombie 2 you can create lots of blood-curdling zombies by combining different heads, hair styles, eyes, mouths, bodies, legs, and clothes. When you’re done, have the kids share their creations with other family members and friends for some spooky fun. They can also print them out and bring them to

school to share with classmates, or have them copied onto t-shirts or hoodies.

Monsterfy

(Apple App Store; Google Play)

Another fun activity is to change your own face into a frightening creature like a ghost, ghoul, vampire or werewolf. Monsterfy lets you swap your face with all kinds of ghastly monsters and then brings you to life with some crazy animations. You can growl, howl, snap, and snarl, and flick your fangs while sharing images and videos with family and friends.

Halloween Games for Kids

(Apple App Store)

Dressing up like scary monsters may be a bit much for the youngest members of the family but that doesn’t mean that they should be left out of all the fun.

Halloween Games for Kids has lots of Halloweenthemed games that toddlers will enjoy that include

matching funny pumpkins, tracing letters that are accompanied by Halloweenrelated images, and spelling a variety of Halloween-themed words. The app also has a coloring book that younger ones can enjoy.

WordSearch

Halloween

(Apple App Store)

For the older kids, WordSearch

Halloween is a great choice for some brainteasing fun. Have the kids download the app, select the same word searches, and then see who can find the most words in the shortest amount of time. Do it once the kids are home from trick-ortreating and can’t wait to get comfy on the couch and devour their candy. The app has word puzzles at different levels of difficulty, accompanied by a scare soundtrack to make the mood sufficiently spooky.

Tanni Haas, Ph.D. is a Professor in the Department of Communication Arts, Sciences, and Disorders at The City University of New York – Brooklyn College.

— by Tanni Haas, Ph.D.

Halloween is a favorite holiday for most kids, but as they hit middle school, they are often told they are too old for trick or treating. Unfortunately, bored teens tend to look for mischief on Halloween night. To keep teens entertained and out of trouble, why not throw a party?

I know what you thinking — “How am I going to come up with activities that are not lame and that will keep everyone amused?” Simple! Include these seven teen-approved Halloween themed games that will challenge, gross-out, and provide hours of fun and laughter. But beware, if the kids have too much fun at your party, they will want you to host again next year!

Don’t Drop the Pumpkin

This is an outside game for sure! Purchase a few pie pumpkins and set up the players in two lines facing each other while standing on a hard surface like a driveway. On go, the players pass the pumpkin back and forth across to the other team, trying not to drop the pumpkin. If it drops (even if it doesn’t break), the catcher is out. If it breaks, the thrower is out. Continue back and forth, and move a step back when you get to the end of the row until there is only one player left.

Worm Letters

Depending on the level of grossness you want, this game can be played with real worms or cooked squid ink spaghetti. Players will try to shape the worms in the form of their initials in a minute or less. Other alternatives include tracing a printed cursive word like Boo or Bat, the date (i.e., 10/31/23) or shapes for their pumpkin faces.

Candy Corn Slide

Tape different sized plastic or paper cups to the end of a long table or countertop. You can use a variety of cup size openings like a champagne flute and a 32oz. cup for an extra challenge. Players stand at the end and try to slide the candy corn pieces into the cups. Give the play-

— by Pam Molnar

Seven Wickedly Fun Halloween Games for Teens or Tweens

ers a limited time or number of candy corn pieces to have enough prizes to go around. Give dollar store prizes or dollar bills for each candy corn that makes it in.

What Is It?

For this game, the host will blend several different fruits or vegetables (each separately). Make it a little more challenging by using something other than what you might find in a smoothie like cucumbers, butternut squash, or kiwi. Place each blended item in a cup with a different number on it. Give everyone a sheet to write what they think is in the cup which they can do by smell or taste. The winner has the most correct answers.

Don’t Get Ghosted

For this game, best played outside, you will need a couple of bags of large marshmallows, black T-shirts, and a zippered bag filled with flour. Players split into teams and grab a couple of marshmallows that have been dipped in flour. Line up like dodgeball, with teams about 12 feet apart. On go, players try to “ghost” their friends by throwing the marshmallows and leaving flour residue on their shirts. If you have been hit, you are out. The last player standing is the winner.

Pumpkin Head

Grab a shower cap, a can of shaving cream, and a container of cheese balls. Players put the shower cap on their head and their partner covers it with shaving cream. On go, the partner tries to place cheese balls (using their non-dominant hand only) on their friend’s head. Set the timer for one minute and the person with the most cheeseballs wins. This is a great photo opportunity!

Sweep It Up!

This game will make sure the teens clean the floor the right way! Measure out 2 equal cups of uncooked rice. (Weigh on a scale for most accuracy). Two teams will line up at the starting line with a broom. The host will pour a cup of rice in front of the broom and players need to sweep the rice back and forth between point A and point B. When all players have finished sweeping, have them pour the rice back in the cup and weigh the contents. The team with the most rice is the winner.

Pam Molnar is an avid party planner and mom of three. All of their parties include good food, lots of laughter and of course, games! Follow her other party ideas on Etsy at Pam’s Party Printables.

Teen Party Food

Tired of pizza?

Try these dinner options for teen parties.

Hot dogs on a stick

Leave the mess outside and let the kids roast their hotdogs over the fire pit.

Taco Bar

Make your own tacos with meat, shells and all the fixings.

Spaghetti & Meatballs

Whether they like red sauce or plain with butter, pasta is always a hit!

Comfort Food

Fried or baked chicken, mac and cheese and baked beans.

Soup, Salad & Breadsticks

Great make ahead meal that is perfect for a fall evening!

Pizza Fondue

Warm pizza sauce in a pot and use pepperoni sticks, mozzarella cheese cubes and bread for dippers

Sliders

Pulled pork, chicken or mini burgers. Serve with a side of coleslaw or fruit salad.

Sub Sandwiches & Chips

Order from your favorite deli or make your own, this quick meal is a crowd pleaser!

Baked Potato Bar

Serve bakers with sour cream, cheese, bacon, broccoli or chili. Yum!

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— by Dr. Donna Phillips

The month of October is all about transformation. The green trees of summer transform into the bright colors of autumn. Leaves begin to fall from the trees and blanket the ground, transforming the forest floor, fields, yards, and walkways. Days begin to shorten and night comes earlier. Everything is beginning to transform for the winter to come.

There is a magic about October, especially its last day, when we transform into ghouls, ghosts, and characters, imaginary and real. Children and adults love the freedom this allows to have one more energetic fling before all becomes quiet. Halloween is a celebration for everyone.

Books are always a fun way to get ready for a celebration! Here are some books that will make your holiday spooktacular!

For the little ones just starting out on their first trick-or-treating foray, You’re My Little Baby Boo (Silver Dolphin Books, San Diego, 2023, $9.99), written and illustrated by Natalie Marshall, is a reassuring way to begin. This sturdy board book will get plenty of use as we explore the autumn night with the baby character and a loving parent. Ghosts, owls, pump-

kins, candy corn, and the moon calm with gentle rhyme and inviting colors to help us slip into dreamland.

Peekaboo Pumpkin (Candlewick Press, Somerville, 2023, $9.99), written by Camilla Reid and illustrated by Andela P. Arrhenius, invites little hands to slide and pull tabs to reveal characters, objects, and picture details as they explore Halloween scenes. Get to know Halloween characters and their antics with this fun board book.

While many celebrate Halloween, there are others who celebrate Dia de los Meurtos. Celebrate the Day of the Dead (Crown Books for Young Readers, New York, 2023, $9.99), written by Diane de Anda and colorfully illustrated by Gloria Felix, is a celebration of the remembrance of loved ones who have passed. It is done with much color, decorations, dressing up, face paint, dancing, parades, and food. In this colorful board book, we learn about the traditions one family keeps as they prepare and celebrate this series of days. Music, dancing, eating and family time are all important parts of the special time of year. The glossary of terms at the end of the book makes this book not only entertaining but informative as well.

Young readers will have fun with See the Ghost: Three Stories About Things You Cannot See (Candlewick Press, Somerville, 2023, $9.99), written by David LaRochelle and illustrated

by Mike Wohnoutka. Each story is told with simple text with humor added using speech bubbles. “See the Ghost,” “See the Wind,” and “See the Tree,” are charming and easy for young readers to understand and enjoy the humor. Each story is perfect for these beginning readers.

For readers who are bit more advanced, Crimson Twill: Witch in the Country (Candlewick Press, Somerville, 2023, $15.99), written by Kallie George and illustrated by Birgitta Sif, will certainly entertain and engage them. With great plans and expectations, Crimson is looking forward to the holiday gettogether with her friends. But nothing goes as planned and she is in for one giant surprise! This is a fun book to read alone as well as to read together! This is the second book in the Crimson Twill series. The first, Crimson Twill: Witch in the City, explains that Crimson lives in the country and loves polka dots and puppies instead of pointy shoes and black dresses. She even wears a big bow on her hat — which is crimson, just like her name. But, for the

very first time, Crimson will be riding on her mother’s broom all the way to “New Wart City” to go shopping at Broomingdale’s! The huge department store has everything a witch could itch for. For Crimson, each floor (hats! cats! brooms!) is a new adventure.

Any one of these books would be a great way to get you in the mood for planning your Halloween costumes, parties, and festivities. Use them as inspiration and entertainment,

keeping in mind the season of transformation that we will be experiencing and the majestic beauty of autumn.

Dr. Donna Phillips is an associate professor in the College of Education at Niagara University where her specialty is literacy and children’s literature. She lives on Grand Island, NY and is the mother of two adult children and the grandmother of one

by Rebecca Hastings

Things to Do with Your Family This Fall

There’s something special about fall. Kids are getting back into school routines. The air is cooler but not too cold to be outside. And the scenery can be stunning. Spending time with the family is a great way to enjoy the season. Here are 12 ideas to get you started:

1) Go Apple Picking

Head to a local orchard to pick apples together. You can enjoy the fresh air and the beautiful fall sights. Don’t forget to pick apples for snacking and to use in your favorite fall recipes. Many orchards in the area offer apple picking, apple cider demonstrations and tasting, and other family-friendly activities.

2) Visit a Pumpkin Patch

Get a head start on fall decorating and head to a pumpkin patch. Let each family member choose a pumpkin to decorate or carve. And don’t forget to roast the pumpkin seeds for a healthy snack! You can also explore local pumpkin patches and farms where kids can pick their pumpkins, take hayrides, navigate corn mazes, and enjoy other fun fall activities.

3) Take a Nature Hike

It’s fun and relaxing to take a leisurely hike through a forest or nature trail to appreciate the changing colors

of the leaves. Bring along a field guide to identify different types of trees and leaves. Places like Tifft Nature Preserve offer walking trails, birdwatching, and seasonal events that allow families to enjoy the beauty of fall foliage and wildlife.

4) Discover Fall Festivals & Events

Keep an eye out for fall festivals and fairs happening in the area. These events often feature live entertainment, food vendors, crafts, and activities for kids. Canalside, located along Buffalo’s waterfront, often hosts family-friendly events during the fall, such as outdoor movie nights, pumpkin carving, and seasonal celebrations.

5) Get Crafty

Try your hand at some fall-themed crafts. Leaf art is an easy way to create something. Simply collect colorful fall leaves and use them to create leaf rubbings, collages, or even pressed leaf art. Making wreaths, decorating mason jars with fall leaves and candles, or creating hand-painted pumpkins are all fun ways to get crafty.

6) Have a Picnic

You may not think of having a picnic in the colder weather, but fall is a perfect time to head outside with your

favorite treats. Pack a cozy picnic with warm drinks and comfort foods to enjoy outdoors amid the crisp autumn air.

7) Get Baking

There is nothing better than the smell of fall baking. The warm aroma of apples, cinnamon, nutmeg, and other spices is perfect for cooler fall days. Spend a day in the kitchen baking fall treats like apple pie, pumpkin bread, or cinnamon rolls. Get the whole family involved by giving everyone jobs like measuring, stirring, and, of course, tasting!

8) Hit the Road

Fall offers colorful displays like no other season. Head out for a scenic drive through countryside roads or down into the Southern Tier to admire the fall foliage. You can even have family scavenger hunts looking for fun fall things like different colored leaves, birds, and pumpkins.

9) Host a Bonfire

Invite some friends to gather around a bonfire in your backyard or at a park, and enjoy roasting marshmallows for s’mores. Now that it gets dark earlier, you can tell stories and gaze at the night sky without keeping kids up too late. And don’t forget cozy blankets. Be sure to take all safety precautions to keep little ones away from the blaze.

10) Try a Corn Maze

You can challenge your family’s navigation skills by exploring a corn maze. It’s a fun and interactive way to spend time together. Corn mazes range from simple paths for little ones to intricate mazes for older kids. Sometimes you can even find night mazes to visit if you’re feeling really brave.

11) Have a Party

Get people together to have some fun. You can host a small harvest party at home with autumn-themed games, activities, and treats. Another fun idea is to set up an outdoor movie screening in your backyard. You can enjoy classic fall movies while bundled up with blankets and pillows.

12) Go Sightseeing

Fall is a fun time to sightsee and visit places. The Buffalo Zoo is open year-round and offers special events during the fall, including Boo at the Zoo, where kids can trick-or-treat and enjoy Halloween-themed activities. The Botanical Gardens offer a beautiful indoor oasis for families to explore if the outdoors is too chilly.

Remember, the most important thing is spending quality time together and creating lasting memories. Choose activities that match your family’s interests and preferences, and don’t forget to capture the moments with photos!

Rebecca Hastings is a former elementary teacher who traded the classroom for writing when she stayed home with her three children. Passionate about authenticity, faith, and family, you can find her at RebeccaHastings.net and on Amazon. In real life, she can often be found typing words, driving her kids places, or wherever there is chocolate.

Ithink there’s still glitter on my floor. From 5 years ago. No matter what I do, the glitter gets in every crevice. Arts and crafts have a way of sticking around, and while I want to encourage creativity in my kids, I hate cleaning up the aftermath.

Yes, we can make them clean up. I know. But seriously, do they ever really clean it all up? There will be things for you to pick up. Scissor scraps to put away. Paint cups to clean out. Drying artwork left all over every surface of your kitchen that you need to find a place for, preferably before dinner.

If you’re going to be the one picking up from the latest craft session, here are 13 crafts that will make your job easier and allow your little artist to be creative. All are available on Amazon. They offer less mess which means less cleanup for you. And your kids still get to be creative!

13 Crafts for Little Artists that Aren’t a Pain to Clean Up

— by Rebecca Hastings

reveal amazing colors. Reveal as much or as little as you want. This favorite comes with 16 boards, 2 stylus tools, and 3 frames. Kids love the rainbow and metallic backgrounds.

Boogie Board

A small notebook-sized LCD drawing panel, the Boogie Board Jot is perfect for drawing anywhere, even in the car. No mess and endless possibility. Kids love the erase button and the ability to start fresh. Great for keeping in your purse for kids to play with on the go.

Made By Me Build and Paint Your Own Wooden Cars

and paints provided. This one is great for keeping boys busy and giving them a chance to create.

Fashion Angels I Love Fashion Sketch Portfolio

Kids design outfits and unique looks on the doll-like outlines provided. Tons of great activity books with stencils

Melissa & Doug Deluxe Combo Scratch Art Craft Set

I love this. Still. And kids are drawn to it. Scratch through the black surface to

This one does involve paint, but it’s all pretty self-contained. Spread a piece of newspaper and grab a cup of water. Kids put together small wooden cars and then decorate them using the stickers

for those who love to create fun fashion looks. Makeup, fashion, and even home decorating books give kids great ways to draw and imagine as they get older.

Melissa & Doug Paint with Water

Sometimes the little ones just want to paint. A great compromise that just involves water! Watch images and colors appear magically as your little artist swipes a wet brush across a page!

Easy Playhouse Barn

Cardboard box play is taken to the next level, kids can easily construct a house and then decorate it with crayons. Toddlers love this and it keeps them busy for hours!

Crayola Color Wonder Magic Light Brush

Half the fun of this amazing toy is the magic! Kids use a special brush to paint on their paper. It lights up with each color they pick and they create a masterpiece. Plus, it doesn’t leave marks on hands, tables or clothes!

You can link them together, twist them, and create without making a mess to clean up. Another great toy for the traveling creative!

Sidewalk Chalk

Let nature take care of the cleanup! Kids love the ability to leave their mark and draw outdoors. A bucket of sidewalk chalk fits the bill, and all you have to do is wash your hands when it’s done!

LovesTown Lacing Beads

Fun and great for fine motor development, lacing beads gives

Rainbow Wikki Stix

These bendy, twisty sticks quickly become a favorite of kids and adults.

kids the chance to string chunky beads in different shapes and colors to create one-of-a-kind masterpieces. While there are a lot of pieces, this one is easy to clean up with its own carrying bag!

Alex Toys Little Hands Mosaics

Using the color-coded stickers, kids place them on the template and create a beautiful picture. These are great for

hanging up when they’re complete! Also offers fantastic color and shape matching and fine motor development.

Crayola ModelMagic

Softer and airier than the traditional Play-Doh, Model Magic is a great way to let kids mold and shape with less mess! It also air-dries solid, giving little artists the chance to create forever masterpieces!

Crayola Bathtub

Finger Paint Soap

When you can’t avoid the mess, at least make it in the easiest place to clean up!

Finger paints specifically designed for the tub give kids the chance to make a mess. And cleaning up when they’re done is contained and fun.

Rebecca Hastings is a former elementary teacher who traded the classroom for writing when she stayed home with her three children. Passionate about authenticity, faith, and family, you can find her at RebeccaHastings.net and on Amazon. In real life, she can often be found typing words, driving her kids places, or wherever there is chocolate.

Ithought it was an ordinary Tuesday. A day full of hope and promise for fun and learning. A normal day — until I looked at the clock.

One minute the clock is kindly telling us we have plenty of time to get our people ready and out the door for a new day. Suddenly, it changes, almost screaming at us, “Hurry, hurry, hurry. We’re all going to be late!”

There is a missing shoe and cereal spilled on the floor. A stuck backpack zipper and a forgotten math test. I didn’t even hear myself until I was at least 6 words into a rant about us always being late and we can’t keep doing this and where in the world was that missing shoe?

We did what we always do. We let the dog clean up the cereal, I insisted (rather forcefully) on my youngest switching to a different pair of shoes, and I started spouting out math facts as I worked on the zipper.

We were getting it done. But none of us were happy. And this was not the way I wanted to send everyone off on their day.

Have you had mornings like this?

A BAD MORNING DOES NOT MEAN A BAD DAY!

Here are 8 ways to turn things around.

Ways to Turn a Bad Morning Around

#1: Exhale

Seriously. It helps. Let out all that you’re holding on to and breathe. It sounds so simple but research shows that breathing can change your state of mind, and perhaps that’s the best chance to turn things around.

#2: Pick One Thing

Many of us wear our multitasking crowns with pride, after all, we are parents and there is so much to get done. Multitasking is often counterintuitive, making us less productive because we are unable to organize information well, plus it increases the stress hormone in the body.

When things are going bad, the one thing we don’t need is stress. So, pick one thing you can do. Address the broken zipper. And then move on to the next. Find a shoe solution.

Picking one thing at a time and serially working through your micro-emergency list will help you get more done with less stress for everyone involved.

#3: Verbalize

Being honest goes a long way, especially with kids. They know you’re upset just by a look or the sound of your voice. It is okay to tell them the morning isn’t going well. It’s good for them to see that we can identify things that aren’t ideal.

Saying something like, “Boy, this morning is not going the way I hoped it would. Could we turn it around together?” shows your child that you recognize how things are and that you need their help to make it better. Let them be an active participant in turning things around. You’re giving them useful skills for later in life.

And while you are at it, get them in the habit of prioritizing and serializing the task list instead of frantically trying to do 5 things at a time. Think aloud. “Alright, let’s see how we can go about this. First the broken zipper. Then the shoe. And on the way to school, we can look at math facts.”

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Take thirty seconds and have everyone freeze.

— by Rebecca Hastings

Clarence Chiropractic

David Lewis ~ Dr. Emily Patrick Dr. John Rockas General

Family Practice

FOUR SEASONS

CHILDCARE

Acting: ZPAC PERFORMING

ARTS CENTER, LLC

See Listing Under “Dance Instruction”.

Addiction Treatment & Mental Health Services:

BRYLIN BEHAVIORAL HEALTH SYSTEM

1263 Delaware Ave., Buffalo, NY 14209 716-886-8200

www.brylin.com

Compassionate, crisis mental health care for all ages. With HELP, There’s HOPEsm.

ENDEAVOR HEALTH SERVICES

1526 Walden Ave., Suite 400 Cheektowaga, NY 14225

716-895-6701

www.ehsny.org

Endeavor Health Services provides outpatient mental health and substance use treatment services.

SPECTRUM HEALTH & HUMAN SERVICES

227 Thorn Ave., Orchard Park, NY 14127 716-539-5500

www.shswny.org

Helping families throughout WNY with mental health & addiction needs.

Breastfeeding:

THE CARE CONNECTION

1360 N. Forest Rd, Suite 111, Williamsville, NY 14221

716-725-6370

www.careconnectiononline.com

New Boutique! Insurance covered items, breast pumps & supplies, lactation support, classes, mom & baby items, nursing bras & tanks.

Butcher Shop:

FEDERAL MEATS

With 9 WNY Locations to Serve You

716-633-1390

E-mail: info@federalmeats.com

www.federalmeats.com

WNY’s trusted source for the freshest products available. Knowledgeable service since 1930. FIND US ON INSTAGRAM

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Spezio’S Dance DynamicS

Instilling

Spezio’s Dance Dynamics, Amherst’s premier dance training center, has been educating young artists from beginner to pre-professional since 1993, while enhancing each dancer’s creativity, physical fitness and passion for the art of dance.

Director and Owner Michelle Spezio holds extensive teaching background in all genres and aspects of training enhances opportunities for all students whether they intend to pursue a

career in the arts or are dancing for enjoyment. The professional staff of degreed teachers is dedicated to providing students a well-rounded dance education to all. SDD offers a professional studio with 4 class rooms, many amenities and versatile subjects of study as well as high level ballet training for dancers to discover their personal talents.

“Dancer’s TurnOut Better,” that’s what we believe. Research shows that students who study dance are disciplined, goal oriented and selfmotivated. Dancers are expressive in their communication of emotions, likely to excel, creative, imaginative and able to critically analyze and problem solve. Educating dancers to use these life skills in pursuing goals, overcoming obstacles and staying physi-

cally fit throughout their lives is our goal.

Dance Dynamics Students have won significant awards for proper training/choreography all through the USA. Dancers have attended many prestigious summer intensives and awarded scholarships. SDD is committed to helping every dancer experience the joy of dance! Spezio’s Dance Dynamics is a proud member of Dance Master’s of America, International Dance Entrepreneurs Association, NDEO, Award winning faculty and director, and has had the pleasure of training so many talented dancers. SDD dancers are going places!

1639 N. French Road, Amherst, NY 716-688-9590

www.speziosdancedynamics.com

Dr.

Childcare:

(Also See PRESCHOOLS/MONTESSORI)

FOUR SEASONS

CHILD CARE & PRESCHOOL

1639 North French Rd., Getzville, NY 14068 885 Sweet Home Rd., Amherst, NY 14226 716-568-1140

www.fourseasonsfamily.com

Programs for infants, toddlers, 2 & 3 year olds, 4 year old Pre-K and Summer Camp.

Childcare Resources:

COMMUNITY CHILD CARE CLEARINGHOUSE OF NIAGARA

1521 Main St., Niagara Falls, NY 14305 716-285-8572 or 1-800-701-4KID

Email: CCRRNiagara@niagaracap.org

www.childcareofniagara.com

The Niagara County Child Care Resource and Referral Program. “An Informational Source.”

Chiropractic:

CLARENCE CHIROPRACTIC

4440 Shimerville Rd., Clarence, NY 14031 716-633-2036

JCC EARLY CHILDHOOD CENTER

2640 North Forest Rd., Getzville, NY 14068 716-688-4033

787 Delaware Ave., Buffalo, NY 14209 716-886-3145

www.jccbuffalo.org

Infants to pre-K, full & part-time options available Mon.-Fri., 7:30am-6:00pm. Values-based & developmentally appropriate curriculum including learning to swim. FIND US ON FACEBOOK

www.MainChiropractor.com

General Family Practice. Also specializing in Pregnancy, Children, and Athletic Injuries.

MUNROE CHIROPRACTIC, P.C. 6035 Main St., Williamsville, NY 14221 716-632-4476

www.munroechiropractic.com

Dedicated to you 7 days a week with Experience, Quality, and Compassion.

The SummiT CenTer

The Summit Center provides educational, behavioral health, adult & community programs & services to children and adults with developmental, social and behavioral challenges. We accomplish this goal by using evidencebased practices and carefully monitoring progress.

Summit employs more than 500 staff members including special education teachers, behavior specialists, speech pathologists, occupational and physical therapists, psychologists, and respite providers. Most professional staff have Master’s degrees and many members of Summit’s leadership team have Doctoral

Offering Programs & Services for Children with Autism degrees and advanced training in Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA). These professionals work closely with parents to help your child achieve the highest level of independence.

Following are the various programs we offer for your child and family:

• Evaluations

• Early Autism Program

• Adult Programs

• Summit Academy

• Respite Programs

• Parent Training Programs

• Behavioral Pediatrics Clinic

To find out more about how Summit may be able to help your child, please call us at 629-3400 or visit our website at www. TheSummitCenter.org.

150 Stahl Road Getzville, NY 14068 716-629-3400

www.TheSummitCenter.org

Consignment Shops & Sales:

KID TO KID

1060 Niagara Falls Blvd., Tonawanda, NY 14150 • 716-831-8300

www.kidtokid.com/tonawanda

980 Union Rd., #42A, Southgate Plaza, West Seneca, NY 14224 • 716-675-0483

www.kidtokid.com/westseneca

Best kids’ resale. Clothing, baby gear, toys, furniture, maternity. Open 7 days.

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Counseling/Mental Health Services:

BARRY J. CHAPMAN, LCSW-R

4800 N. French Rd. East Amherst, NY 14051

716-400-8939

E-mail: bchapman@ auduboncounseling.com

www.auduboncounseling.com

Healing from within. Adolescent therapy, anxiety/depression, addiction and family dynamics.

Dance Instruction:

CENTER STAGE DANCE STUDIO

4837 Union Rd.

Cheektowaga, NY 14225

716-634-3395

www.CSDS.dance

Encouragement and positive reinforcement through dance to reach one’s personal best. FIND US ON FACEBOOK

DAVID DEMARIE DANCE

10151 Main St., Clarence, NY 14031 716-510-2531

www.daviddemarie.com

Instilling a great love of dance, while inspiring self-confidence and discipline. Ages 2 & up.

ELITE DANCE COMPANY

5360 Genesee St. Bowmansville, NY 14026

716-288-7868

www.EliteDanceWNY.com

Where every dancer counts so that each dancer can reach their fullest potential.

UBMD FaMily MeDicine

Primary care providers for all ages

When looking for a health care provider, there are many qualities to consider. At UBMD Family Medicine, we work to ensure that your health care needs are met in all of the ways that matter to you most.

Comprehensive Care for All Ages. We’re with you through every life stage and milestone. Our practice cares for all ages – from pediatrics to geriatrics. Your entire household can be cared for by the same provider. We see patients for wellness, sick visits and physicals, but also for other concerns that may come up, such as behavioral health and addictions. Our providers are uniquely equipped to provide continuity of care for a wide range of health concerns, ensuring that your family’s needs are always met and tailored specifically to you.

Quality Care. As faculty members at the University at Buffalo, our doctors are also teaching the future generation of family medicine physicians and conducting research to find answers to today’s top medical concerns. This means that your physician is always up-to-date on the latest medical innovations and advancements that may affect your wellness.

Patient-Centered Care. With us, you and your family come first. We are committed to a team approach centered around you, including coordinating with any other providers or specialists

you may see. For new concerns requiring specialist care that may come up, we have trusted partners in our UBMD Physicians’ Group of doctors. With over 550 physicians around Western New York, UBMD, together with your family doctor, can meet all of your health care needs.

Accessibility With locations in Amherst, Buffalo and Tonawanda, we care for you where it best fits your life. We also offer same-day or next-day sick visits for existing patients when the unexpected comes up.

Amherst: 716.688.9641 Buffalo: 716.550.8361

Tonawanda: 716.835.9800

www.ubfammed.com

EUGENIA’S DANCE STUDIO

730 Orchard Park Rd.

West Seneca, NY 14224

716-675-3128

www.eugeniasdancestudio.com

Outstanding classes from Mommy & Me to Award-Winning Advanced Classes.

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SPEZIO’S DANCE DYNAMICS

1639 N. French Rd., • Suite 300 Getzville, NY 14068

716-688-9590

www.speziosdancedynamics.com

Offering quality classical dance instruction for all ages and levels since 1993. See Our Advertiser Spotlight.

ZPAC PERFORMING

ARTS CENTER, LLC

Southgate Plaza - 954A Union Rd., Ste 3

West Seneca, NY 14224

716-608-1010

www.zpac.biz

A unique performing arts center with every style of dancing, singing, acting and creating the arts with playwriting, choreography and directing. Ages 1 to adult.

FIND US ON FACEBOOK

Dentists (Pediatric):

MAUREEN J. CASEY, DDS

4017 Legion Dr., Hamburg, NY 14075

716-648-4035

www.drmcaseypediatricdds.com

Pediatric Dentistry. Dental Care for Infants, Children, and Young Adults.

Educational Services: HOMESCHOOL HIVES

E-mail: team@launchpad23.org

www.launchpad23.org/homeschool

A virtual homeschool co-op with units, guest speakers, challenges and student clubs.

THE SUMMIT CENTER

150 Stahl Rd., Getzville, NY 14068 General Information: 716-629-3400

www.thesummitcenter.org

Developmental evaluations, therapeutic and clinical services, family support services, behavioral health services, respite, & school programs for children from birth to adult.

FIND US ON FACEBOOK

See Our Advertiser Spotlight.

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Rolly Pollies

WNY’s Largest Locally and Family Owned Children’s Gym!

bouncehouses, and more, Rolly Pollies creates healthy habits that last a lifetime.

Gym Classes

Rolly Pollies’ unique motor-skill development curriculum allows children to learn through play. Class Schedules include evening, daytime and weekend classes. Families are encouraged to have fun together with equipment built for everyone! A full session of classes gives children the opportunity to develop gross motor skills, learn socialization skills, take directions from “Roll Models”, and see the same friends each week.

NEW Programs!

Open Play

Check our website to register online for Open Play.

Use Your Health Insurance Wellness Cards

Raising heathly children is Rolly Pollies mission! Because of this, most health insurances will help pay for your Rolly Pollies classes and camps.

Thank You for Playing Local!

Since 2005, Rolly Pollies has been a locally owned and family operated business built specifically for WNY’s families. Rolly Pollies mission to “develop children physically, intellectually and socially in order to build the selfesteem and confidence needed for a healthy and successful life” drives Rolly Pollies to help families experience play with a purpose, and create meaningful memories to thousands of WNY families. With trampolines, foam pits,

Rolly Pollies is growing again! Recently added programs are sure to delight families for years to come. Music, Montessori, and WNY’s only sensoryplay programs, “Messy Baby” and Mess Makers” have been created to further Rolly Pollies mission.

Party With Us!

Rolly Pollies offers WNYs best birthday parties, hosting only one party at a time: yours! Visit our website to find available dates and times.

9630 Transit Road East Amherst, NY 14051 716-689-6151

4058 North Buffalo Road Orchard Park, NY 14127

716-662-7424

1669 Hertel Ave. Buffalo, NY 14216 716-833-3318

www.RPWNY.com

Three great locations: Paid Advertisement

Come Have FUN With Us This FALL!

9270 LAPP ROAD • CLARENCE CENTER, NY 14032

Hayrides • U-pick Pumpkins

Corn Maze • Donuts, Cider, Fruit Pies

Homegrown Seasonal Produce Group & School Tour Opportunities

Lasting Memories & Traditions 716-741-4239

We Can Help!

Family Caregivers:

PATHWAYS FOR CAREGIVERS

8038 Old Lakeshore Road

Angola, NY 14006

716-549-6307 ext. 203

www.cradlebeach.org/pathways

No-cost social day respite and community of support for caregivers and their aging loved ones.

See Our Advertiser Spotlight

Family Medicine:

UBMD FAMILY MEDICINE

Amherst: 850 Hopkins Road, Williamsville, NY 14221

716-688-9641

Buffalo (Conventus): 1001 Main St., 4th Floor, Buffalo, NY 14203

716-550-8361

Tonawanda: 2465 Sheridan Drive, Tonawanda, NY 14150 716-835-9800

www.ubfammed.com

Accepting new patients at all locations!

See Our Advertiser Spotlight. Farms & Farm Markets:

GREG’S U-PICK FARM MARKET

9270 Lapp Rd., Clarence Center, NY 14032 716-741-4239

www.gregsupick.com

U-Pick farm market and CSA. Produce, baked goods, animal barn and more.

Fencing Instruction:

FENCING CENTER OF BUFFALO

485 Cayuga Rd., Cheektowaga, NY 14225 716-553-3448

www.fencingbuffalo.com

Learn to fence. Instruction in classical fencing. Kids, teens, adults. Equipment provided.

Gymnastics:

BUFFALO TURNERS

3200 Elmwood Ave., Kenmore, NY 14217 716-877-2700

www.buffaloturnersgymnastics.com

Gymnastics instruction for girls and boys, 3 - 18 years.

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CHILDREN IN ACTION

75 Mid County Dr., Orchard Park, NY 14127 716-662-6886

Email: ciagym@aol.com

www.childreninactiongym.com

Gymnastics, Boys & Girls 12 months and up. Parent-Tot, Preschool Program, Tumbling, Birthday Parties, Field Trips, Playgroups. FIND US ON FACEBOOK

pathwayS for CaregiverS

A collaboration between Cradle Beach, Harmonia Collaborative Care, Lisa Rood Consultant and Exhale, The Family Caregiver Initiative

Collaborative Care and Lisa Rood, a Senior Program Consultant, have collaborated to offer monthly, four-hour, respite sessions that will allow family caregivers to remain at Cradle Beach’s relaxing campus situated on 66-acres of lakefront property or to leave campus for time to themselves.

visit www.CradleBeach.org/pathways. Pathways for Caregivers is an Exhale Family Caregiver Initiative. Exhale is funded by the Ralph C. Wilson, Jr. Foundation, Health Foundation for Western & Central New York, Ann Arbor Area Community Foundation, and managed by The Philanthropic Initiative.

In 2020, the National Alliance for Caregiving and AARP reported nearly one in five Americans identify as an unpaid caregiver to a loved one. 21% reported their own health as fair or poor, a decrease from merely five years earlier.

In response to a growing need for caregiver support, Pathways for Caregivers was founded. It is the first resource of its kind in Western New York to focus on caregiver needs and respite, while simultaneously creating a safe space for aging loved ones to receive programming. Cradle Beach, Inc., Harmonia

Pathways for Caregivers offers family caregivers a break from the daily tasks of caring for their aging loved ones. During each respite, a one-hour support group facilitated by Harmonia Collaborative Care, a licensed mental health provider, will be offered to family caregivers as an opportunity to connect with others. The program aims to give caregivers peace of mind and rejuvenation.

Pathways for Caregivers is offered at no cost. Families interested in participating may call 716-549-6307 ext. 203 or

Lisa Rood Consultant

8038 Old Lakeshore Road Angola, NY 14006

716-549-6307

Extension 203

www.CradleBeach.org/pathways

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GYMNASTICS UNLIMITED

70 Weiss Ave.

Orchard Park/West Seneca, NY 14224

716-677-0338

www.gymnastics-unlimited.net

Infant-18 yrs., Tramp/Tumble, Learning in Motion, Open Time. FIND US ON FACEBOOK

ROLLY POLLIES

9630 Transit Road, Suite 100 East Amherst, NY 14051

716-689-6151

4058 N. Buffalo Rd.

Orchard Park, NY 14127

716-662-7424

1669 Hertel Ave., Buffalo, NY 14216

716-833-3318

www.RPWNY.com

Children’s gym classes, camps, birthday parties, open play & more for ages 4 months - 9 years old!

See Our Advertiser Spotlight.

Hair Salons (Children’s):

SHEAR MADNESS

3316 Sheridan Dr., Amherst, NY 14226

716-248-1455

3467 Amelia Dr., Orchard Park, NY 14127

716-322-5332

100 Marketplace Dr., Henrietta, NY 14623

585-491-6555

www.shearmadnesskids.com

Specializing in haircuts for kids, ear piercing, birthday parties and our unique toy store.

Health Care & Wellness:

DENT PEDIATRIC NEUROLOGY

3980 Sheridan Drive

Buffalo, NY 14226

200 Sterling Drive

Orchard Park, NY 14127

716-250-2000

www.dentinstitute.com

DENT cares for neurologic patients newborn to adult.

Pottery Painting and Glass Fusing

Follow us on Facebook & Instagram

Open for walk-ins 7 Days a week, Birthday Parties, and Ladies Nights.

138 Grey Street, East Aurora, NY 716-655-4456

www.designingdish.com

GREAT LAKES

MEDICAL IMAGING

111 N. Maplemere Rd., Suite 120 Williamsville, NY 14221

716-836-4646

www.GLMI.com

Open MRI, Low Dose CT, 3D Mammography, Bone Density, Nuclear Medicine, PET/CT, Ultrasound and Interventional Radiology.

Home Help Services: CHRISTIAN HOME COMPANIONS

788 Birchwood Dr., Lockport, NY 14094

716-439-8100

Email: ChristianHomeCompanions@gmail.com

www.christianhomecompanions.com In Home Help from the HEART.

Indoor Recreation: URBAN AIR ADVENTURE PARK, BUFFALO

May

www.enchantingbirthdays.com godmother@enchantingbirthdays.com

facebook.com/enchantingbirthdays

716-725-3578

enchantingbirthdaysofwny

1 Walden Galleria Dr., Buffalo, NY 14225 716-568-7083

www.urbanairbuffalo.com

The ultimate indoor adventure park and a destination for family fun.

Martial Arts:

PRESCOTT’S MARTIAL ARTS

ACADEMY

1321 Erie Ave., North Tonawanda, NY 14120

716-695-3552

www.prescottsmartialarts.com

Get off the couch, center yourself, get into shape.

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ROMNEY TAYLOR’S WORLD FIGHTING ARTS

97 North Park Ave. (Corner of Hertel) Buffalo, NY 14216 • 716-446-0447

Email: lisatayloracademy@gmail.com

www.lrtaylorstudio.com

Authentic Isshin Ryu Karate, since 1993. Children, teens, adults. Developmentally appropriate, educational training emphasis.

AcAdemy of TheATre ArTs

Giving Students the Opportunity to Shine

Winner of New York Theatre Guide’s “Best Theatre Program for Young Artists”; Academy of Theatre Arts is the only full-time, year-round theatre venue in Western New York created for the development and training of children and young adults in acting, vocal performance, and musical theatre dance. ATA provides an extensive year-long program for anyone between the ages of 3 and 18 who has an interest and passion for theatre arts. But beyond its excellent theatrical training, ATA uses theatre as a platform to teach and promote excellence in public speaking, self-esteem, confidence, and personal skills.

Each year, the students of ATA perform a major school showcase, which gives them the opportunity to shine on our ATA Theatre stage. ATA creates entertaining, professional shows consisting of smaller student casts and providing each child with more stage time in a much shorter show. In addition to regular classes, ATA offers special audition-only student companies where students get the opportunity to perform in their own musical, attend workshops, work with Broadway performers, and compete in festivals.

In addition to their year-round program, Academy of Theatre Arts offers summer programs to provide students with the opportunity to learn and perform in a full-blown musical in just 1-2 short weeks. While youngest students begin by learning about public speaking and how to feel comfortable on stage, older students learn about all aspects of a theatrical production: what it takes to put on a musical not only on stage but off stage as well.

Modeling:

ZPAC PERFORMING

ARTS CENTER, LLC

See Listing Under “Dance Instruction”.

Museums & Attractions:

AQUARIUM OF NIAGARA

701 Whirlpool St., Niagara Falls, NY 14301

716-285-3575

www.aquariumofniagara.org

Visit WNY’s only aquarium. Sea lions, seals, penguins and more!

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BIRD KINGDOM

5651 River Rd., Niagara Falls, ON L2E 7M7 905-356-8888

www.birdkingdom.ca

Discover the world’s largest indoor free-flying aviary… an adventure for all ages! Open all year.

BUFFALO AKG ART MUSEUM

1285 Elmwood Avenue, Buffalo, NY 14222 716-882-8700

www.buffaloakg.org

A world-class museum of modern and contemporary art.

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THE BUFFALO & ERIE COUNTY

BOTANICAL GARDENS

2655 South Park Ave., Buffalo, NY 14218

716-827-1584

www.buffalogardens.com

A tropical paradise featuring exotic horticulture treasures & so much more!

HERSCHELL CARROUSEL

FACTORY MUSEUM

180 Thompson St., North Tonawanda, NY 14120

716-693-1885

www.carrouselmuseum.org

Fun events and activities for all ages. Once Around Is Never Enough!

NIAGARA

CENTER

5777 Lewiston Rd, Lewiston, NY 14092 716-286-6661

www.NYPA.gov/communities/ visitors-center/niagara-powervista

Powerful fun! Free and fun events, activities and interactive exhibits for all ages. Free group tours, school field trips and community event space. Minutes from the Falls (free seasonal shuttle.)

At Mount St. Mary Academy, we believe in rich traditions. We share your dream of a bright and fulfilling future for our children. And we support your child’s journey toward spiritual, personal, and social growth

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MOUNT ST. MARY

Open House

Sunday, October 15 12 p.m. - 3:30 p.m.

Monday, October 16 5 p.m. - 7 p.m.

Youngstown, NY (716) 745-7611 www.oldfortniagara.org

C hautauqua -L ake e rie r egion

Experience amazing outdoor recreation and unique cultural attractions in Chautauqua County, NY.

Fall Getaways in the Chautauqua-Lake Erie Region

Visit the Chautauqua Lake Erie Region of Western NY this fall to experience favorite seasonal events and activities. Explore the changing leaves along the trails at the Audubon Community Nature Center Hike among the colorful trees in an ancient forest and climb gigantic rock formations at Panama Rocks . Get a spectacular panoramic view of the foliage at Luensman Overview Park and Erlandson Overview Park . Take in the great view of

Lake Erie atop the tower of the Dunkirk Lighthouse .

Get a closer look of the vibrant fall foliage while climbing among the treetops on Peek’n Peak Resort’s Mountain Adventures or on a cruise Chautauqua Lake aboard the Chautauqua Belle , a riverboat-style steamship. Take a horseback ride hosted by Double D.A.B. Riding Stables on brightly colored trails along the Lake Erie escarpment. Relax with a glass of local wine from Lake Erie Wine Country or a craft beverage from a local brewery or distillery.

Fall and Harvest Festivals are held throughout Chautauqua County in September and October. Enjoy live music, craft vendors and favorite fall treats. Visit local farms for pumpkin and apple picking for a day of family fun. No matter where you are or what you do in the Chautauqua Lake Erie Region, you’re sure to fall in love with autumn in Chautauqua County. Check out www.tourchautauqua. com for all your trip planning needs and start planning your fall getaway today!

Chautauqua Main Gate, Route 394, Chautauqua, NY 14722 Phone: 866-908-4569

Website: www.tourchautauqua.com

POWER PROJECT & POWER VISTA VISITORS

Museums & Attractions cont.:

OLD FORT NIAGARA

PO Box 169, Youngstown, NY 14174

716-745-7611

www.oldfortniagara.org

Your gateway to family adventure! Living history programs every day, special events, re-enactments. FIND US ON FACEBOOK

THE WHITWORTH FERGUSON PLANETARIUM

Science and Mathematics Complex, Buffalo State University

www.planetarium.buffalostate.edu

Visit the planetarium for immersive astronomy programs and exciting laser music experiences!

Music Instruction:

716 MUSIC & MORE

716-390-8347

www.716MusicAndMore.com

Family music classes for young children and their parents or caregivers.

Obstetrics & Gynecology: GENERAL PHYSICIAN, PC WOMEN’S HEALTH

Multiple locations - Buffalo, East Amherst, East Aurora, Lockport, Orchard Park, Snyder, Williamsville 716-656-4077

www.gppconline.com/womenshealth

Caring for women of all ages and in all stages of life.

NORTHTOWNS MATERNALFETAL MEDICINE CENTER

1020 Youngs Rd., Suite 110, Williamsville, NY 14221 716-632-8124

www.gppconline.com

Providing access to patient services for high-risk pregnant women and their babies.

This handy resource guide appears twice a year, in WNY Family’s May & October issues. Call 716-8363486 to learn how your business or organization can participate.

OB • GYN ASSOCIATES OF WNY

Multiple locations - West Seneca, Lancaster, Springville 716-675-5222

www.ogawny.com

Offering women a wide array of routine and specialized OB/GYN care.

UBMD OBSTETRICS & GYNECOLOGY

1020 Youngs Rd., Suite 110, Williamsville, NY 14221

716-636-8284

Conventus, 1001 Main St., 4th Floor Buffalo, NY 14203

716-636-8284

www.ubmdobgyn.com

Care for every woman… for every phase of life.

Paint Your Own Pottery: DESIGNING DISH

138 Grey St., East Aurora, NY 14052 716-655-4456

www.designingdish.com

Where everyone is creative. Pottery, glass, pottery to go and much more!! FIND US ON INSTAGRAM FIND US ON FACEBOOK

Parenting Resources: PARENT NETWORK OF WNY

1021 Broadway St., Buffalo, NY 14212 716-332-4170

www.parentnetworkwny.org

Supporting families of individuals with disabilities through educational resources, 1-on-1 support and events.

Party Resources: ENCHANTING BIRTHDAYS OF WNY 716-725-3578

www.enchantingbirthdays.com

Bring your child’s dreams to life with our Princesses and Superheroes.

SHEAR MADNESS

See Listing Under “Hair Salons (Childrens)”

Performing Arts: ACADEMY OF THEATRE ARTS 4231 Transit Rd., Williamsville, NY 14221 716-810-0551

www.academyoftheatrearts.com

Nationally award winning ATAoffering classes in voice, acting, dance AND FILM for ages 4-18!

See Our Advertiser Spotlight.

ZPAC PERFORMING ARTS CENTER, LLC

See Listing Under “Dance Instruction”

Preschools/Montessori:

ELMWOOD FRANKLIN SCHOOL

104 New Amsterdam Ave., Buffalo, NY 14216 • 716-877-5035

www.elmwoodfranklin.org

Independent school serving students

3 years old through eighth grade. Our dedicated teachers deliver a challenging, comprehensive academic program paired with citizenship, character, and creativity. Students are given the opportunity to learn and to lead in a child-centered environment, promoting small class sizes, individual attention, and a wide range of programming.

FOUNDATIONS

6445 West Quaker, Orchard Park, NY 14127 716-667-9377

www.foundationspreschool.net

A private preschool offering an enhanced curriculum with progressive programs for 2-5 year olds.

LEARNING ‘N’ MOTION/ GYMNASTICS UNLIMITED

See Listing Under “Gymnastics”

ORCHARD PARK COOPERATIVE PRESCHOOL

4369 S. Buffalo Street Orchard Park, NY 14127 716-662-6700

opcoop.com

“Learn by doing” cooperative preschool with an emphasis on the whole child.

See Our Advertiser Spotlight.

ROOTS OF THE FUTURE MONTESSORI SCHOOL

8970 Main St., Clarence, NY 14031 716-545-8048

www.rootsofthefuture.com

An education that understands and nurtures your child’s natural curiosity for knowledge.

Schools:

CHARTER SCHOOL FOR APPLIED TECHNOLOGIES

2303 Kenmore Ave., Buffalo, NY 14207 716-710-3068

www.csat-k12.org

Serving grades K-12, open to all residents, no entrance exams.

CHRIST THE KING SCHOOL

2 Lamarck Drive, Snyder, NY 14226

716-839-0473

Email: office@myCTKschool.com

www.myctkschool.com

Offering PreK3 - 8th grade. Small Classes & Strong Academics. FIND US ON FACEBOOK

Schools cont.:

ELMWOOD FRANKLIN SCHOOL

104 New Amsterdam Ave., Buffalo, NY 14216 • 716-877-5035

www.elmwoodfranklin.org

Independent school serving students

3 years old through eighth grade. Our dedicated teachers deliver a challenging, comprehensive academic program paired with citizenship, character, and

creativity. Students are given the opportunity to learn and to lead in a child-centered environment, promoting small class sizes, individual attention, and a wide range of programming.

MOUNT ST. MARY ACADEMY

3756 Delaware Ave., Kenmore, NY 14217 716-877-1358

www.msmacademy.org

Take a private, personal tour of the Mount!

NATIVITY OF MARY SCHOOL

8550 Main St., Williamsville, NY 14221 716-633-7441

www.nativityofmaryschool.org

Educating students age 3 through grade 8.

NATIVITY OF OUR LORD SCHOOL

4414 S. Buffalo St., Orchard Park, NY 14127

716-662-7572

www.nativityschool.net

Nativity: Focused on Educating the Whole Child.

FIND US ON FACEBOOK

ST. BENEDICT SCHOOL

3980 Main St., Amherst, NY 14226

716-835-2518

www.stbenschool.org

High academic achievement in a rich spiritual environment. PK3-8th grade.

Senior Housing:

PEOPLE INC. SENIOR LIVING

716-817-9090

www.people-inc.org

People Inc. operates 19 Senior Living affordable apartment complexes throughout Western New York.

Skating Lessons

(Ice):

CORNERSTONE ICE ARENA

1 Grigg Lewis Way

Lockport, NY 14094

716-438-7698

www.cornerstoneicearena.com

Learn to Skate, camps, birthday parties, lacrosse, private events.

SKATE GREAT

2982 Lakeview Rd., Hamburg, NY 14075

3465 Broadway, Cheektowaga, NY 14227

75 Weiss Rd., West Seneca, NY 14224

41 Riley St., East Aurora, NY 14052

Canalside, 44 Prime St., Buffalo, NY 14202

716-580-3458

Email: sk8gr8info@gmail.com

www.sk8gr8.com

#1 Learn-To-Skate Program in WNY. Over 20 classes per week.

FIND US ON FACEBOOK

Special Needs Services: ASPIRE OF WNY

Serving all of Erie & Chautauqua Counties

716-838-0047

www.aspirewny.org

Aspire of WNY Supports People with Disabilities Live Independent and Fulfilled Lives!

THE CHILDREN’S LEAGUE

393 North St., Springville, NY 14141 716-592-9331

www.tclny.org

Center & community-based educational & therapeutic programming. EI & CPSE Evaluations. Serving children birth-8 years of age.

Orchard Park cOOPerative PreschOOl

High Quality Cooperative Community Education

solving, and social interactions. We focus on a balanced blend of structure and creative learning by incorporating lessons developed through an array of experiences. Because so much of a young child’s knowledge is acquired through exploration and play, our program spotlights interesting activities that promote learning, curiosity, and self-confidence. Our students enter kindergarten with an eagerness to learn as well as a sound understanding of emerging math, reading, and writing skills.

The Orchard Park Cooperative Preschool has been offering high quality education for generations of children in our community for over 70 years.

Parent Volunteering is a cornerstone of the co-op structure. In a co-op setting, parents may choose to be an active part of their child’s learning experience. Join us for a tour, or come visit us at our open house in February. For more information please go to  opcoop.com. We look forward to welcoming you to our co-op family! s PO tlight O n 4369

We offer three different programs for children ages 3 to 5 years.

All of our programs emphasize the importance of learning through imagination, problem-

COMMUNITY SERVICES FOR EVERY1

180 Oak St., Buffalo, NY 14203

716-883-8888

Email: info@csevery1.com

www.csevery1.com

Helping people of all abilities reach their fullest potential.

THE DOWN SYNDROME PARENTS GROUP OF WNY

547 Englewood Ave., Kenmore NY 14223 716-832-9334

www.dspgwny.org

Raising awareness of and enhancing the lives of people with Down syndrome.

PEOPLE INC.

1219 North Forest Rd., Williamsville, NY 14221 716-817-7400

www.people-inc.org

People Inc. is Western New York’s leading non-profit human services agency, providing services to people with special needs, families and older adults to achieve greater degrees of independence and productivity. Services include: Residential, vocational and supported employment, respite, senior services, health care and affordable apartments.

Summer Camp: CRADLE BEACH, INC.

8038 Old Lakeshore Rd., Angola, NY 14006 716-549-6307

www.CradleBeach.org

Cradle Beach Summer Camp is a nurturing, transformative and fun experience in nature.

Tourism/Travel: CHAUTAUQUA COUNTY VISITORS BUREAU

Chautauqua Main Gate, Route 394, Chautauqua, NY 14722 866-908-4569

www.tourchautauqua.com

Experience amazing outdoor recreation and unique cultural attractions in Chautauqua County, NY. See Our Advertiser Spotlight.

Toy Store: CLAYTON’S TOYS

5225 Main St., Williamsville, NY 14221 716-633-1966

1396 Hertel Ave., Buffalo, NY 14216

716-939-3000

www.claytonstoystore.com

One Hundred and seven years of delivering smiles!

FISHER-PRICE® TOY STORE

636 Girard Ave., East Aurora, NY 14052

716-687-3300

www.fisherpricetoystore.com

We carry Fisher-Price® and Mattel ® products. Visit our website for coupons and more.

RAFF AND FRIENDS

4545 Transit Rd., Eastern Hills Mall Williamsville, NY 14221

716-632-4202

www.raffandfriends.com

Toy Store and Playland. Games, puzzles, Playmobil, science, crafts, plush, educational toys.

Tutoring:

CENTER FOR LITERACY AND READING INSTRUCTION (CLaRI)

17 Baldy Hall, University at Buffalo Amherst, NY 14260 • 716-645-2470

www.buffalo.edu/clari

CLaRI provides reading evaluations and individualized one-to-one literacy tutoring.

Vocal: ZPAC PERFORMING ARTS CENTER, LLC

See Listing Under “Dance Instruction”

 Parenting Resources  Parenting Resources  Parenting Resources 

ABUSE/DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

n New York State Office of Children & Family Services

https://ocfs.ny.gov/programs/ prevention

State Hotline: 1-800-342-3720

Report abuse/neglect of children. If you believe a child is in immediate danger, call 911 or your local police department.

n New York State Office for the Prevention of Domestic Violence

https://opdv.ny.gov/survivorsvictims

New York State Domestic & Sexual Violence 24 hour Hotline: 1-800-942-6906

According to Safe Horizon, a New York victims’ services agency, 1 in 4 women will experience domestic violence; more than 3 million children each year witness domestic violence at home; without help, girls who witness domestic violence are more vulnerable to abuse, and boys are more likely to become abusers of their partners and children as adults, continuing a cycle of violence seen in families all too often.

n Haven House Child & Family Services

24-Hour Hotline: 716-884-6000

(for HELP & Shelter)

For over 35 years, Haven House has been working to prevent domestic violence/intimate partner violence and promote peace in the home. Services are based on a continuum of care ranging from a fullyinclusive emergency shelter in a confidential location to long-term transitional housing. The continuum of care includes an extensive counseling and advocacy program for all individuals regardless of gender that includes many satellite locations throughout Erie County.

Who Should Call? Anyone involved in an intimate partner violence

or family violence situation, including: domestic violence, dating violence, stalking, those in same-sex relationships, those with disabilities, male survivors, senior citizens, and immigrant and refugee victims of domestic violence. Friends, family members, co-workers, neighbors, or professionals with questions about domestic violence operates safe and secure emergency housing in a confidential location for women and their children, single women, and transgendered individuals identifying as female. Shelter supportive services include: Safety Planning, Individual Counseling, Support groups (including Art Empowerment), Advocacy. Referrals can call the hotline for information. Haven House housing assistance, Referrals to transitional housing, Food, Clothing, Crisis Intervention, and Children’s Programs.

n Family Justice Center of Erie County

716-558-SAFE (7233)

www.fjcsafe.org

Offers free services for domestic violence victims and their children through an extensive collaboration with 13 partner agencies, all located at one secured, comfortable location, where victims can get all the services they need to safely escape abuse. Appointments are not necessary but are recommended. All services are available virtually by calling 716-558-7233.

Buffalo

438 Main St., Suite 201, Buffalo

716-558-7233

(Monday-Friday; 8:30am-4pm)

Orchard Park

4383 South Buffalo St., Orchard Park

716-662-0259

(Wed. 8:30am-4pm)

Amherst

330 North Forest Rd., Amherst

716-634-4309

(Thurs.; 8:30am-4pm)

Grand Island Satellite

1801 Grand Island Blvd. Suite 3

Grand Island

716-507-0764

(Tues.; 8:30am-4pm)

ADOPTION

n Adoption Star

131 John Muir Drive

Amherst, NY 14228

716-639-3900

www.adoptionstar.com

Provides thorough and compassionate counseling to pregnant individuals, regardless of location, who are considering their options, including abortion, parenting, and adoption. Allows prospective adoptive parents and expectant parents to explore all the adoption options and to receive the appropriate information and education necessary to access those options. Provides counseling and support to birth parents and prospective adoptive parents.

n Adoption Program

Child & Family Services

330 Delaware Ave. Buffalo, NY 14202

716-842-2750

www.cfsbny.org

Specializes in promoting permanency through adoption for children of all ages in the foster care system. Staff work with children freed for adoption as well as families interested in adopting children. Provides support, training, and case planning services for the child and adoptive family.

 Parenting Resources  Parenting Resources  Parenting Resources 

n Center for Family Development

5820 Main St., Suite 406 Williamsville, NY 14221

716-810-0790

Provides counseling for adoptive and foster families, adopted children, children in foster care (ages birth through adult), and adult adopters. Offers educational workshops for families and support groups; professional training and consultation; court ordered custody evaluations; pre-placement home studies and post-placement supervision. Offers WNY’s only Attachment and Bonding Center. Provides attachment therapy, evaluations, and treatment for children and adolescents using an evidencebased treatment approach.

AFTER SCHOOL CARE

n For a very comprehensive list of more than 100 after school care programs in Erie County visit www.211wny.org and enter “after school” in the search box. Information on programs in Niagara and other counties is also available through this site. If you do not have access to the Internet, call 1-888-696-9211.

Mon-Thurs, 8am-11am. Serving zip code 14204.

n Every Bottom Covered Delavan Grider Community Ctr.

877 Delevan Ave. Buffalo, NY 14215

716-896-7021

Provides up to 50 free diapers and/or 20 pull-ups for each child in eligible families. Diapers available for pickup on a monthly basis.

n The Genesis Center

2161 Seneca Street Buffalo, NY 14210

716-822-1901

www.thegenesiscenter.us Hours by appointment only. Call to schedule. Serving zip code 14210 for parents with an emergency need; no residency requirements for children’s clothing.

n Kenmore Alliance Church

175 Bonnet Ave Tonawanda, NY 14150

www.kenmorealliance.com/ ministries/kac-serves

716-876-5570

Many types of services are offered including emergency essentials for babies.

n Harvest House Baby & Children’s Ministry

Amherst • Cynthia, 716-989-7070; Cindy, 716-835-7504.

East Aurora • Karen, 716-652-0225.

Hamburg/West Seneca • Kimberly, 716-997-4662; Amanda, 716-220-1597

Niagara Falls • Christine, 716-523-1143.

CHILD SUPPORT ASSISTANCE

n Child Support Enforcement (CSE)

Erie Co. Dept. of Social Services

95 Franklin St., Room 230 Buffalo, NY 14202

Helpline: 888-208-4485

Email: cseweberie@dfa.state. ny.us

BABY NEEDS

There are a number of local “Baby Needs” programs that meet the emergency needs of infants and very young children by providing them with a supply of diapers, infant formula, baby food, and baby care products. Limited quantities available; supplies may differ at each location. Get in touch with Baby Needs programs at the following locations which serve specific zip codes:

n Buffalo River Food Pantry

62 Republic Street

Buffalo, NY 14204

www.old1stward.com

716-856-8613

175 Jefferson Avenue Buffalo, NY 14210

716-824-7818 ext. 214

www.harvesthousebuffalo.org

Serving Erie County; by appointment only.

BREASTFEEDING

n La Leche League International www.lllusa.org

La Leche League has several groups meeting in WNY as well as leaders who are available to answer your questions about breastfeeding. If you are unable to find a leader in your area, call 1-877-4-LALECHE (1-877-452-5324).

CSE can help locate the non-custodial parent, help parents establish paternity if either has any doubt about the identity of a child’s biological father, help the custodial parent file a petition in Family Court for an order of support, and enforces a child support order when the non-custodial parent does not pay. The child support enforcement program has legislative authority to collect overdue child support (arrears) and to obtain medical coverage through a variety of administrative procedures. Some administrative procedures can be put into action without going to court.

Noncustodial parents who fail to pay child support can be subject to having the funds automatically deducted from their wages; unemployment payments, federal and/or state tax refunds, and lottery winnings can be intercepted; financial assets, including bank accounts, can be seized. Delinquent noncustodial

 parents can also have their NY State drivers license suspended and can be prevented from obtaining or renewing their passports.

For further information about Child Support Services in New York State visit www.newyorkchildsupport.com.

DIVORCE SUPPORT

n NY State Parent Education & Awareness Program

http://ww2.nycourts.gov/ip/ parent-ed/index.shtml

Launched in 2005, and offered under the auspices of Catholic Charities of Buffalo here in WNY, this program is designed to educate divorcing or separating parents about the impact of their breakup on their children. The primary goal is to teach parents ways they can reduce the stress of family changes and protect their children from the negative effects of ongoing parental conflict in order to foster and promote their children’s healthy adjustment and development. Four topics are addressed in the Parenting & Child Well-Being portion of the curriculum:

1) Creating and Maintaining Supportive Parent-Child Relationships

2) Providing a Stable, Supportive Home Environment

3) Maintaining Healthy Parental Functioning & Psychological WellBeing

4) Protecting Children from Ongoing Conflict Between Parents.

An overview of the Legal Process is also included.

In Erie County, there are “Our Kids: A Parent Education & Awareness Program” class locations in Amherst, Buffalo, and Hamburg; contact Michele Wittman, 716-896-6390 or email michele. wittman@ccwny.org.

In Niagara County, there are class locations in Niagara Falls

and Lockport; contact Michele Wittman, 716-896-6390 or email michele.wittman@ccwny.org.

At the present time, online courses are also being held. If you live in any other county, visit the website for a list of providers.

n New York State Council on Divorce Mediation

https://nysmediate.org/ Divorce mediation is a voluntary, cooperative settlement process in which a neutral professional helps you make practical, informed decisions to resolve your differences. It is used frequently and successfully by separating and divorcing couples who want to plan their futures rationally, in an atmosphere of cooperation and mutual respect. With the guidance of a trained mediator, you work together through a series of orderly steps to create a fair and reasonable agreement. Visit their web site to find accredited mediators in your area, or call 516-227-2595.

DRUG & ALCOHOL ABUSE

n Partnership for DrugFree Kids

Get Help via text, email or by scheduling a call with their trained specialists by visiting www.drugfree.org. Drug use remains a significant problem in the United States, however adolescent drug use is particularly damaging as such use can affect the physical and mental development of younger people and can impact their opportunities later in life. In 2020, 7.58% of 12- to 17-year olds reported using drugs in the last month. 91,799 people died from drug overdoses in 2020, 21,000 more than the previous year, making it a leading cause of injury-related death in the United States. A person is more likely to die from an accidental opioid overdose than from a motor vehicle crash.

This national organization helps parents take effective action before their child’s drug use or drinking reaches a point where treatment is required. Research has shown that substance abuse problems can be reduced by intervening early. Encouraging parents to take immediate action is therefore a main goal of the helpline’s team of parent support specialists who offer expert advice to help parents plan a course of action and can supply a list of local resources or treatment facilities. Their website is an excellent one-stop resource where you can educate yourself about specific drugs, teen behavior, and ways to talk to your kids to prevent abuse from ever happening in the first place.

n

UNDERAGE

DRINKING TIPLINE

1-800-851-1932

Erie County Sheriff’s Office anonymous, confidential, and free hotline. Concerned adults, teachers, students and friends now have a number to call 24 hours a day, to report planned underage drinking parties; underage drinking parties taking place or other activities that may be harmful to the health, safety and welfare of young people.

FOOD ALLERGIC FAMILIES

n Greater Buffalo

Food Allergy Alliance

www.gbfoodallergy.org

The mission of this local support group is to share information, tips, and experiences to ease the challenges of living with food allergies, as well as raise the awareness in the community; meets at the Orchard Park Library, 4570 South Buffalo St., Orchard Park. You can find more details on their website or Facebook page.

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Let our specialists at General Physician, PC, Northowns Maternal-Fetal Medicine Center and OB•GYN Associates of WNY provide expert care for you and your growing family.

• Genetic Evaluation by a Certified Genetic Counselor

• Ultrasound Screening, Including 3D/4D

• Diagnosis & Management of Fetal Anomalies

• Percutaneous Umbilical Blood Sampling

• Fetal Non-Stress Tests

• Adolescent Wellness

• Gynecology

• Infertility

• Nutrition Counseling

• Preconception Counseling

• Lactation Consulting

• Midwifery

• Ultra Chorionic Villus Sampling

• Sexual Wellness Counseling

• Contraceptive Counseling

• Prenatal Screening & Diagnosis

• Management of Multiple Gestation

• Urogynecology

• Surgery

• Amniocentesis

Everything you need provided with compassion & excellence of care.

is one of the most important events in your life.

 LEAD POISONING SERVICES

n Erie County Department of Health LEADSAFE Erie County

503 Kensington Avenue

Buffalo, NY 14124

716-961-6800

Families with young children who want information about lead poisoning prevention can request an assessment of their pre-1978 home. A visual exterior and interior inspection by staff will identify any potential lead hazards and a lead education visit with the family will provide cleaning supplies and strategies for avoiding lead hazards.

“Communities of Concern” have been designated in zip codes 14201, 14207, 14208, 14209, 14210, 14211, 14212, 14213, and 14215.

MISSING PERSONS

n New York State Division of Criminal Justice Missing Persons

Clearinghouse

1-800-346-3543

Call local law enforcement first to report a missing child or adult. Call the hotline for case intake or to provide lead information. Electronically distributes missing child or missing college student alerts statewide and assists in investigation.

NUTRITION ASSISTANCE

n WIC - Women, Infants & Children

https://www.ccwny.org/wic

Women, Infants & Children (WIC) is a federal nutrition program that supports pregnant, postpartum, and breastfeeding women, infants and children up to the age of five to live a healthier life. WIC provides nutrition education and counseling, breastfeeding support, prenatal and postpartum support, referrals and supplemental food vouchers. All of our services are free of charge.

WIC is for all kinds of familiesmarried or single parents, working or not working. Fathers, mothers, grandparents, foster parents or other legal guardians of a child

under five can apply for the child to receive WIC. WIC does not require US citizenship, social security number, green card or legal residency to receive benefits.

Catholic Charities operates the program locally through a variety of locations. To reach any of the sites serving Chautauqua, Erie and Niagara counties, call (716) 2181484

Not all of their locations are open every day, please call for site schedules.

You may be eligible for WIC if you:

• Are pregnant, breastfeeding or post-partum, OR

• Have an infant or child under 5 years old, AND

• Receive SNAP (Food Stamps), Temporary Assistance (TANF) or Medicaid or meet the income guidelines below, AND

• Live in New York State

You can also call NY State’s Growing Up Healthy Hotline toll-free at 1-800-522-5006 for further information about eligibility, etc.

PARENT ORGANIZATIONS

Moms, we know how it is. We manage the house, the schedules, the lunch packing and dinner making. We’re there for homework, the big game, the school play, and we make it happen with a smile. Where’s that little dose of “me” time? Thankfully, there are some helpful organizations in our community just for moms. Whether you’re a new mom or a veteran mom, there’s a special place for you to connect, refresh and relax.

n MOMS Club

www.momsclub.org

The MOMS Club is an international non-profit organization, started by a California mom. Several local chapters have formed which offer monthly meetings with speakers and discussions, park play dates, holiday family parties, outings for mothers and their children, and

MY FAMILY

activity groups like playgroups, arts ‘n crafts, and a monthly MOMS Night Out. They also do community service projects. Find a local chapter through their web site.

n WNY Mothers Of Multiples formerly Mothers of Twins Club of Buffalo

www.wnymultiples.org

This support group for expectant and current mothers of twins (and more!) meets on the 2nd Wednesday of most months at 7pm at Good Shepherd Lutheran Church, 2669 Sheridan Drive, Tonawanda. In addition to their meetings which feature “meet and mingle” sessions, they organize activities such as moms’ nights out, toy/clothing sales, and a great vareity of other mom-oriented and family events. Download membership forms on their website.

POISON EMERGENCY

n Upstate New York Poison Center

24 Hours A Day, 365 Days A Year

1-800-222-1222

https://www.upstate.edu/ poison/ Calls are answered by Specialists in Poison Information (SPIs), registered nurses, and pharmacists trained in toxicology. Specialists provide the most efficient and up-to-date poison information available. Physicians and toxicologists are on-call 24 hours a day for consultation purposes.

SPECIAL NEEDS

For a complete listing of special needs organizations, visit the DD Info Link at https://www.211wny. org/search/ddinfolink/ which provides a multitude of resources related to developmental disabilities. The resources can be broken down by age group, and then by service types, such as daily living, education, in-home services, recreation, respite and more. If you do not have access to the Internet, call 1-888-696-9211 .

n Parent Network of WNY

1021 Broadway

Buffalo, New York 14212

Information & Referral: 716-332-4170

www.parentnetworkwny.org

This community resource provides all the tools necessary for parents and professionals to take an active role in the education of children and young adults with special needs. They offer a wealth of seminars, workshops, information and referral services, a newsletter, family training services, all FREE of charge. If you’ve struggled to find the right services for your child, or are lost in the maze of rules and regulations in the Special Education System, these are the folks who can help.

n Down Syndrome Parents Group of Western New York

716-832-9334

www.dspgwny.org

Provides support to persons with Down Syndrome and their families through information on educational programs and community services. A Parent Support Program connects new parents with volunteers who can share their experiences and provide support. A phone call, hospital or home visit is available upon request by calling Barbara at 716-983-2140. They host activities throughout the year.

n Autism Society of Western New York 716-633-2275

https://autismwny.org/ living-with-autism/ Visit this website for a detailed list

of area support groups in addition to the ones listed below.

n Grand Island Autism Support Group Meets at Realty USA

2139 Grand Island Blvd., Grand Island, NY 14072

Contact: Vienna, 716-430-5118

Email: GrandIslandNYAutismGroup @gmail.com

1973, the Family Help Center has been providing services to families raising children and gives the support you can’t always get from family, neighbors, or even parents. They operate the only 24-hour, 365 day a year family crisis intervention and support service in Erie County, and offer immediate assistance with no application procedures, no eligibility requirements, and no waiting period. They provide in-home support services to all of Erie County, as well as a NY State licensed daycare facility. Their Family Help Center Daycare, at 60 Dingens St., Buffalo, offers full day, before, and after school care, and school-age summer programs.

n Crisis Services

Serving Buffalo & Erie County

n Group for Parents of Children with ASD

Meets monthly, 6:30pm-8:30pm Aspire Building, 7 Community Drive Cheektowaga, NY 14225

Contact: Jana Mertz, 716-323-6435

Email: jmertz@kaleidahealth.org

Ask about their groups for parents of teenagers with ASD or Aspergers.

n Niagara County Group for Parents of Children with ASD

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#4: Apologize

This one feels hard for a lot of us because it means we are human and we are admitting it to our children. I’ll let you in on a secret: They already know.

Saying you’re sorry for the way you spoke to them, or the way you tossed all the shoes out of the shoe bin, shows that it’s okay to make mistakes. Plus, it will help you let go of any mistakes and move on. Kids are usually a pretty forgiving bunch.

#5: Stop

Take thirty seconds and have everyone freeze. Stop looking for the shoe. Stop cleaning up the cereal. Stop huffing around the house. We have 86,400 seconds in a day. Surely we can spare 30.

If you feel up for it, do a few deep belly breaths together. Or get everyone to do a 30-second wiggle to shake the harried feeling out. Once they get past the shock of actually stopping the frantic rush to beat the clock and start doing something fun instead, they will likely start giggling. Laughter releases stress and you will all be in better shape to take your morning back.

Anything that will let you create a pause in the frantic downhill slide of the morning and turn it around into a playful happy one again is game.

#6: Be Grateful

It may sound cliché, and it may be the last thing you’d think of doing, but that’s part of why it works. Think of something you are grateful for, right at the moment. Better yet, say it. Out loud. You can shift those feelings of stress and a lack of control just by being grateful.

The easiest one that works every time? “I’m grateful for you.” Not only will it change your mood, but it will change your child’s mood. The day will be looking better already.

Another one I love (because it also lets me expend all that I-MUST-rantnow energy): “Boy, this morning is rough and we’re all being such goofballs. But am I glad I have you goofballs

to share the morning with. What a sad, sad thing it would be to be a goofball and be all alone on top of it all. I do so love my family of goofballs.”

“Goofballs” is what works for my family. Pick anything else that gets the giggles out of your family and go all out with it!

#7: Be Late

Before I say anything else you should know that I hate to be late. I’m the person who considers on-time fifteen minutes early.

But the truth is, it is okay to be a few minutes late now and again.

What’s the worst that can happen?

Your kids will be late to school and perhaps get a tardy slip. Let them. They will learn to make better choices and will be motivated to get out of the house early next time without you having to nag them.

You will be a few minutes late for work. So be it. You will choose to wake up a little earlier tomorrow. Or you will learn to be better organized. Or you may just learn that it isn’t that big a deal to be late once in a while and learn to lighten up.

Either way, everyone is learning something important.

So take a deep breath, and say out loud for the benefit of everyone involved: “Alright, we’re going to be late today. We’ll deal with the consequences, learn from it, and try not to let it happen again in the future, alright?”

#8: Hug

Whatever happened and whatever is to come, hug your kids. Taking a moment to hug your child helps bring stress levels down and lays the foundation for what matters to you. You love your child. Choosing that moment, even in all the busy chaos, reminds you both how important you are to one another.

Making space for these eight tips will turn even the craziest morning

around. But what if you think it’s too late? What if the kids are already on the bus or you’re sitting at your desk wishing things had gone differently? There is still hope.

Here are three bonus tips for when you think it’s too late:

• Head to your child’s school if possible, or call and ask to speak with them. Showing up or calling with an apology and a hug will help both of you have a much better day.

• Set aside time for after school or work to be together. Go for a walk, color, snuggle, and watch a movie. Be sure to say out loud, “I’m sorry we had a rough morning. I wanted to make sure it did not come between us and you still know that I love you no matter what.”

• Spend a few minutes together before bed. If bedtime is usually

rushed, climb in next to them and just be together. It may lay the foundation for a better morning tomorrow.

On average there are 180 days in a school year. Each of your kids will be in school for 12 years. That makes it 2,160 mornings with the potential to be rushed and harried. And I’m not even counting multiple kids, daycare days, summer camps, and whatnot.

So, bad mornings will happen… it’s a given. But you can turn it around for you and your kids to have a better day!

Whatever happened and whatever is to come, hug your kids.

— by Deborah Williams

Oswego and Sackets Harbor Offer A Close-to-Home Adventure

An indoor splash park and a pedestrian-friendly lakeside pier just opened this summer in Oswego, adding to the city’s array of attractions including museums, a fort, historic sites, and a lighthouse. The lake, the Oswego River and canal have been called the fishing capital of the Northeast.

North of the Lake Ontario port is Sackets Harbor and, for a time, this tiny lake port was one of the most celebrated places in the nation. Today the battlefield, well preserved historic buildings, and the nearby Old McDonald’s Farm are the prime attractions.

Together they make an easy fourhour drive from Buffalo and a perfect October weekend visit.

We found an unexpected travel gem on our first stop at the Safe Haven Holocaust Refugee Shelter Museum on the grounds of Oswego’s Fort Ontario. It was a return visit for me, but a guide pointed out the museum’s newest and quite remarkable exhibit donated by a Skaneateles family.

The centerpiece is a simple autograph book owned by Lia Bates when she was a 6th grade student in Amsterdam. Written in Dutch and translated, one entry stands out and took my breath away:

“Dear Lia, Stay forever as a heather flower which grows between moss and herbs. You will always be the sunshine of your environment!

As a souvenir from your school friend, Anne Frank.”

Bates, who died in 2021, would often recount her story of growing up in Amsterdam to area schoolchildren, especially life before and during the Nazi occupation and of her schoolmate Anne Frank.

“I used to play marbles with her on a beautiful long sidewalk in front of the school. She was a live wire, always hopping around, and she always wore dark-colored skirts with suspenders and light-colored blouses.”

Anne and her family went into hiding in 1942. During that period, she wrote what has become one of the most famous books in history: The Diary of Anne Frank. The family was discovered in 1944 and sent to concentration camps and only her father Otto survived.

The rest of the museum tells the remarkable and little-known triumphant story of 982 largely Jewish refugees from 18 countries. They were all Holocaust survivors who arrived in Oswego on August 5, 1944, on train cars from New York after crossing the Atlantic Ocean on a troop transport ship from Naples, Italy.

It is here that the Holocaust first came to America because citizens and the press learned firsthand of the ongoing Nazi atrocities directly from its victims.

The most powerful exhibit is a video with interviews of survivors who began new lives at Fort Ontario. Chiam Fuchs talked about his first impressions: “Here we are free. Here we will be able to work and regain our health and peace of mind. I cannot tell you how much we owe the United States for giving us this home.”

While at the shelter, refugees went to school in the community, participated in scout organizations, learned English

Safe Haven Holocaust Refugee Shelter Museum

and job skills, operated a newspaper and theater group. People got married and children were born. Eleanor Roosevelt visited the shelter and championed the cause of the refugees.

The shelter was closed in February 1946. Despite a widespread campaign to keep them in the U.S., Congress voted to send the refugees back to Europe. Most had no homes to which they could return. President Truman signed an executive order giving them priority permission to remain. About 100 chose to return to Europe.

A display tells of the many accomplishments of the refugees, including a doctor who helped develop the CAT scan and MRI technologies.

The British built the first fortification at Fort Ontario in 1755. The French destroyed it the next year. The second Fort Ontario was built in 1759. It was destroyed by American troops during the American Revolution in 1778. The British rebuilt Fort Ontario for the third time and it wasn’t until 13 years after the end of the Revolution that the British turned the fort over to the United States.

During the War of 1812 the fort was attacked and destroyed by overwhelming British land and naval forces.

The threat of another war with Great Britain and a possible invasion from British-held Canada caused the United States to regarrison the ruined post in 1838.

It has been restored to its 1868-72 appearance. This period is the common age of the fort’s surviving buildings. Room furnishings recreate the lives of officers, enlisted men, and civilians at Fort Ontario during the period between May 1868 and April 1869 when the fort

was garrisoned by Company F, 42nd Infantry Regiment, Veteran Reserve Corps.

Fort Ontario is the only U.S. military site to play a role in every American campaign — from the French and Indian War in the colonial era to current deployments in the Middle East. Famed writer James Fenimore Cooper was stationed at the fort in the early 19th century. He included descriptions of area’s scenic beauty in his books.

The nearby H. Lee White Maritime Museum is one of the highlights of the city’s Historic Maritime District and is a must-see for history and water lovers. The two-story museum building houses a vast collection of more than 4,000 artifacts, photos, artworks, and documents. There’s an original dugout canoe and a bark canoe built by Native Americans as well as the original Fresnel lens from the Oswego Lighthouse. During the summer season there are regular boat tours to the lighthouse.

Two of the largest exhibits are docked outside along the Oswego River. They are the LT-5, Major Elisha K. Henson, a National Historic Landmark, and an Erie Canal boat — the U.S. Derrick Barge No. 8.

Flags of all the allied countries that were part of the D-Day Landing in Normandy, France on June 6, 1944, fly outside the LT-5. This tugboat was built for what is still the largest seaborne invasion in history. As with many important stories, this one has a Buffalo connection.

Tim Woodward, a Navy veteran, and museum guide, seems born for his role guiding us around the boats. We learn that it took 60 days for the tug to cross the Atlantic in preparation for the

invasion. On June 6, the LT-5 sailed for Normandy with two barges. Under fire, the tug ferried supplies to the landing beaches for the next month and in the process shot down a German fighter aircraft. Look for the airplane emblem on the tug marking that achievement.

Following the war, the tug returned to the U.S. and was assigned to the Buffalo District of the U.S. Army Corps of Engineers and served the lower Great Lakes region maintaining harbors and assisted in the St. Lawrence Seaway construction.

The Derrick Barge, also known as DB 8 was built in 1927 and is one of the few surviving floating derricks to have worked on the Erie Canal. It is listed on the National Register of Historic Places.

Nearby is the newest waterfront attraction: the almost $10 million William S. Cahill Pier that opened in August as a community park perfect for shore fishing, enjoying a picnic or sunset. It is next to the city’s marina.

Just a block from the Clarion Hotel is the Children’s Museum of Oswego, designed for younger children where they can shop for food, wash the dishes, change a tire on the speedway, and participate in other interactive activities. Oswego is known for its Lake Effect snow and the two-story cloud climber teaches visitors about local weather. The water table invites children to tow cargo from Port Oswego through the locks or go fishing in the pond. Become a piece of aluminum and travel through the recycling process.

Ever wanted to spend the night in a lighthouse? Driving north of Oswego there’s the Selkirk Lighthouse built in 1838 and currently operated as the

Children’s Museum of Oswego

Sailing in Sackets Harbor

Salmon River Lighthouse & Marina. Now privately owned, there are three bedrooms which can all be booked or separately as one bedroom and kitchen on the first floor and two bedrooms on the second floor. Right outside is some of the country’s top-rated fishing.

Sackets Harbor, about an hour from Oswego, was one of the country’s greatest fortified locations during the War of 1812. With its strategic position, abundant resources and superb natural harbor, Sackets Harbor became the center of military and naval operations for the war’s northern theater. War with Great Britain was officially declared in June 1812.

Following the first battle, the tiny lake port developed into an extensive military complex, ringed by a fortification network manned by thousands of troops. As America’s single largest naval port and shipbuilding effort of the time, hundreds of workmen and sailors constructed the largest American fleet of the war.

The Sackets Harbor Battlefield, a grassy park on Lake Ontario, is now a State Historic Site. Signs impart much of the war lore. In addition, there are guided and self-guided tours and a restored 1850s Navy Yard, Commandant’s House, and Lieutenant’s House. Videos

tell the story of this battlefield. Follow the Sackets Harbor Battlefield History Trail, one of the newest National Recreational Trails.

The Augustus Sacket House is considered the most significant building in the village. It was built by New York City lawyer Augustus Sacket in 1802. During the War of 1812, the Sacket House served as an officers’ headquarters and as a makeshift hospital. It is now a Visitor’s Center. A video provides a good history of the area.

Just a couple miles outside the village is Old McDonald’s Farm Village. Since 1986, the Robbins family has opened their 4,000-acre dairy farm to visitors. They come for the chance to get up close to a Noah’s Ark of animals including horses, ponies, miniature horses, camels, reindeer, pigs, goats, and rabbits.

There’s a Wizard of Oz hayride, pig races and a ride on a trolley. There’s a wonderful ice cream stand across from the gift shop. Popcorn is sold here for feeding the goats. Flowers, corn and other just picked vegetables are for sale.

The place to stay in Oswego is the Clarion Hotel & Suites Waterfront. It is most family friendly for all including the family dog. It is centrally located close to all major attractions. Breakfast

is free. The GS Steamers Bar & Grill overlooking the river features live entertainment.

The hotel is also home to the city’s new Splash Indoor Water Park that includes a bar and refreshment area as well as a room full of video games.

Travel Tip of the Month: For information on Oswego go to visitoswegocounty.com or call 800-248-4386. For Clarion Hotel call 315-343-1600 or visit choicehotels.com. The hotel has packages that include visits to the new Splash Indoor Water Park (www.splashindoorwaterpark.com).

For the Salmon River Lighthouse visit salmonriverlighthousemarina.com or call 315-509-4208.

For Sackets Harbor go to visitsacketsharbor.com or call 315-646-3548.

For Old McDonald’s Farm visit oldmcdonaldhasafarm or call 315-5855737. It closes for the season on Halloween.

Deborah Williams lives in Holland, NY and is a veteran travel writer whose work has appeared in national and international publications. She is the recipient of the Society of American Travel Writers’ Lowell Thomas Gold Travel Writing Award.

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Clarion Hotel & Suites Waterfront

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What Parents Need to Know about Bullying

Parents: This month is National Bullying Prevention Month. This is a campaign that was started in 2006 by PACER’s National Bullying Prevention Center. The idea behind the campaign is to raise awareness about bullying and educate people about ways to prevent bullying.

Your children’s schools may devote some time this month or throughout the school year to one of the many bullying prevention programs. Unfortunately, the success rate of these programs is not outstanding. Overall, it appears that there is only a reduction of 18 to 19 percent in actual bullying in schools that have anti-bullying programs. However, some programs claim as high as a 70 percent reduction in bullying.

On the other hand, there is a study that shows that schools that make peer intervention a large part of their bullying program may actually have an increase in bullying and make worse outcomes for those being bullied. This is because when students step into stop bullying, it may make the victim feel powerless in handling the bullying and make the bullied seem even weaker to the bullier.

The Definition of Bullying

According to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services (2015), bullying is “unwanted, aggressive behavior among school-aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance,” and is repeated over a period of time.

Using power to bully may include physical strength, or by ridiculing others with intent to control or harm them. And as we all know, there is a new form of bullying — cyberbullying. This includes sending, posting, or sharing negative, harmful, false, or mean content about someone else. It can include sharing personal or private information about someone else causing embarrassment or humiliation. Some cyberbullying crosses the line into unlawful or criminal behavior.

Bullying Is Not a New Problem

Bullying has been around for centuries from biblical times to the present, and it is seen in such literature as the Lord of the Flies — which is required reading in many schools. Nevertheless, before the 1980s bullying was not considered a serious problem but often part of the rites of passage for children. However, this changed in the 1990s after a string of massacres in schools and the media focus on relating these events to bullying. And the unfortunate news is that school bullying behaviors seem to be increasing — possibly due to the recent advent of cyberbullying.

Bullying Statistics

Bullying statistics do vary with who is doing the research. Nevertheless, the picture is not pretty about bullying in schools. According to fairly recent statistics from PACER’s National Bullying Center, as many as one in five school

children report being bullied. And of this group, more girls than boys are bullied at school. Worst of all, 41 percent of those who were bullied think it would happen again. It is reassuring to note that 46 percent of those bullied have notified an adult at school about their being bullied.

The statistics about cyberbullying show a high number of students are bullied online. The most likely place is on YouTube, followed by Snapchat, TikTok, and Facebook in that order. According to some bullying statistics, as high as 42 percent of students report being bullied online, and 35 percent say they have been threatened online.

The Legal Responsibility of Schools to Bullying

Due to public awareness of the dangers of bullying, the states have enacted laws about how school districts should address incidents of both bullying and cyberbullying. However, these laws do vary from state to state. The school districts can work with state agencies to ensure that their policies are up-to-date.

Also, school districts are required by law to submit data on bullying to the U.S. Department of Education so it can be included in Civil Rights Data Collection surveys. Besides the legal obligations school districts have in decreasing bullying, failing to do so interferes greatly with student learning.

How Parents Can Handle Bullying

1. Know the signs your child is being bullied or is a bully. (see stopbullying.gov)

2. Be aware that children do not tell parents about bullying or ask for help for many reasons.

3. Be aware of what the bullying policies at your children’s schools are.

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– by Shannon Carpenter

My Life Has Been Consumed by Pumpkin Spice

Idon’t know where pumpkin spice really comes from. How can an orange gourd that is decorated with spooky smiles during Halloween make such an ambrosia for my family? No, I refuse to believe that pumpkin spice comes from pumpkins. It’s simply too powerful.

Both my wife and teenage daughter had a date marked on the calendar. They were like woodland nymphs dancing around a tree as the date got closer. It was the pumpkin spice date, the time when all the coffee shops officially announced the start of fall. Because fall does not start on the winter solstice or by the position of the earth. Fall starts when pumpkin spice comes to coffee shops everywhere. And when that time came to my house, they bumrushed me. Dad was not invited to the Pumpkin Spice Festival of Greatness. My daughter took my wallet, though.

As we bleed into spooky October, the spice has taken over my life. Morning time is for a fresh pick-meup spice for my daughter before she goes to high school. Lunch hours for my wife include a pumpkin spice drink so that she can bring home the bacon. And for evenings? I don’t want to talk about the evenings. I will just sit in my study and whisper, “Nevermore.”

“Why don’t you like pumpkin spice?” my daughter asked me. Her voice was full of concern and judgment. “Is it because you’re bald?” I did not respond. The spice has given her words an underlying taste of bitterness.

“No, honey,” I said. “I’m bald because of you.” It was a great comeback, but like many teenagers on the cusp of adulthood, she doesn’t have time for her dad. Only for her Pumpkin Spice.

My wife and her friends have a text thread going where they discuss pumpkin spice. She denies it, but I can hear the heartbeat of the conversation over and over and over in my head. Late at night, her fingers fly across her phone. What else would she be talking about if

My family does not even realize that it is barbecue season. The time of year when the leaves turn as golden brown as a good brisket and the air smells of slow-cooked ribs. Alone and spiceless, I sometimes walk the neighborhood and breathe in the deep scents of mesquite smoke wafting from other husbands who have been forgotten for the pumpkin.

We do not talk for it is forbidden. Do not disrespect the spice, thus sayeth the family. It will bring a great and terrible calamity to all of the non-believers. I once got out my competition barbecue seasoning and suggested that they try some. My wife and daughter hissed at me. I have not broached the subject since.

This is my life now, and I must accept the annual pilgrimage of my wife and daughter. For Halloween, my daughter will go to some cider pumpkin spice party. My wife and I will walk our youngest around the neighborhood. She has already picked out my costume. I will be a Grande Pumpkin Spice Latte with a shot of vanilla and whipped cream on top. It is as it must be.

There is no fighting the pumpkin spice and what it has done to the women in my life. They are beyond my understanding. I do not know what the future holds for me. Perhaps one day the spice will retreat into the pumpkin from whence it came, but until then, I will hold memories of summer in my heart, in the time before pumpkin spice came into my home, and my Starbucks App wasn’t replenished every two days. Oh, remember me for who I was and not for who I became. And if you hear the whisper of Pumpkin Spice, hide, for it is not a kind spice.

not pumpkin spice? I asked her.

“I’m planning our Halloween with all of our friends,” she said, and the lie came so easily to her lips. No, she is consumed by the spice, as well, and has recently taken out her black Ugg boots. The transformation is almost done. Will I see my wife again? Quote the raven, “Nevermore.”

Shannon Carpenter is the father of three and has been a stay-at-home dad since 2008. He’s the author of the book “Stay-at-Home Dad: Your Essential Manual for Being an Awesome FullTime Father.” as well as the co-host of Dadhouse Pod. In addition to his writing on parenting, he is also a humor writer trained through the famous Second City. And we all know that having a sense of humor is essential to surviving parenthood!

Family Movie Options: In Theaters and Streaming Online

Born with degenerative spinal disease, Rickey Hill was told he would never walk. With the aid of leg braces, he not only learned to walk; he learned to play baseball. But with his medical challenges and an unsupportive father, will he ever be able to play with the pros? This is a predictable underdog sports film, but it carries strong messages about goal-setting, persistence, managing family disagreements, and religious faith. ©Briarcliff Entertainment

He may have been a migrant farm worker in his childhood, but José Hernandez has bigger plans. Qualified as an engineer, he sets his sights on becoming an astronaut. This film hits all the beats of a standard inspirational biopic but adds something more: an exploration of how failure can be a critical part of the path to success. With minimal negative content, it’s a good choice for older kids and teens. Photo ©Amazon MGM Studios

Setting out on adventure, Little Red Riding Hood runs across Cinderella, who hopes to attend the royal ball With the help of ditzy fairies, the two women are properly attired and arrive at the ball, only to be caught up in a murder. As one of the suspects, Little Red Riding Hood needs to solve the crime. This should be a fun, silly movie, but it’s incoherent, narratively irrational, and poorly paced. The story deserves a better film . Photo ©Netflix

When a friend persuades him to come out of retirement to help investigate a psychic, Hercule Poirot does not expect to be involved in another murder –not to mention past deaths. Unlike other Agatha Christie adaptations, this film is not closely tied to a novel It’s also dark, brooding, and filled with anxiety and trauma related to World War II. The characters have depth and the cinematography is visually interesting, but this isn’t family fare. Photo ©20th Century Studios You

Stacy and Lydia have been best friends since childhood and are obsessed with planning their upcoming bat mitzvah parties. But when a boy comes between them, their friendship shatters and Stacy’s vengeful behavior might make reconciliation impossible. Lighthearted and funny, this film also makes relevant points about friendship, loyalty, self-assessment, and maturity. It will be enjoyed by tweens and teens of any faith. Photo ©Netflix

4. Keep the lines of communication open with your children by talking with them every day about their experiences at school.

5. Teach your children from a young age how to be kind to others, to share, and to empathize.

6. Teach them how to handle situations when someone is being mean to them.

7. Stress the importance of letting the school know about incidences of bullying – even anonymously.

8. Be sure to talk to your children about appropriate online and digital behavior before they start interacting with others online.

9. Cyberbullying can largely be eliminated by eliminating social media accounts as well as reporting incidents to the online sites.

10. If bullying persists for your child, either at school or through cyberbullying, contact the appropriate school personnel.

11. If the school cannot resolve a bullying situation, it can be necessary to consult an attorney.

12. In extreme school bullying situations, it can be best to remove children from that school.

Parents should send questions and comments to dearteacher@dearteacher. com, and visit the dearteacher.com website to learn more about helping their children succeed in school.

Benefits of Prescribed ADHD Medications for Children

— by Cheryl Maguire

At first, I was skeptical. Could prescribed medication really help children diagnosed with ADHD? I became convinced the answer is yes after several years of working as a counselor. I witnessed children dramatically improve their functioning in school and social situations after taking medication.

The case of John* is an excellent illustrative example. He requested to discontinue using Adderall at the start of his 5th grade school year. He took Adderall for 3 years and he thought it no longer necessary. Often when kids are doing well, they think they don’t need medication anymore. It is similar to when you take Tylenol for a headache, when you feel better you don’t take it. Kids assume the same for their prescribed medication. Sometimes when this occurs it is helpful to take a medication holiday which means you stop the medication for an agreed upon time frame to see if it is still necessary.

The first month without Adderall, John thought he was doing fine but his mid-term progress report said otherwise. He was receiving a D in math and Cs in the other subjects. His parents wanted him to go back on the medication to see if there was an improvement.

After taking Adderall for a week, John’s mother checked in with his teachers who reported a dramatic improvement in both the quality of his schoolwork and his ability to focus/pay attention during class. They said, “He is a totally different kid. He stopped fidgeting and he was able to focus for extended periods of time. His responses to the question were thoughtful and correct.”

John continued to take the medication for the remainder of the school year and received an A in math class. He received either As or Bs in his other classes which resulted in receiving honor roll. He proudly displayed his certificate in his room.

I worked with many children who experienced similar positive effects of taking medication to help their ADHD.

Improved Grades in School

Most schools require sitting still and paying attention for 6 hours, which is ex-

actly what students with ADHD struggle with. The National Resource on ADHD states that prescribed medication can help attention span, impulsivity, and focus, especially in structured environments. All of these improved behaviors can lead to better grades in school.

A study conducted at the National Institute of Mental Health found students who took medication for ADHD did better in math and reading compared to students with ADHD who did not take medication.

Improved Social Skills

Children with ADHD have difficulty making friends due to the fact they may not pay attention to social cues. Their impulsive behaviors can also be annoying or hurtful to their peers. Sometimes their impulsivity can lead to aggression.

According to a NIMH sponsored study, the Multimodal Treatment of ADHD (MTA) found children who took medication showed more improved social skills and peer relations than children in the in the non-medicated comparison group after 14 months.

Research studies have also examined how ADHD medication can be beneficial in sports settings. A study done at the University of Kentucky found children who took medication for ADHD performed better during baseball games.

One child I worked with thought other kids were making fun of him. When I investigated this situation, I found the children actually wanted to be friends with him. He was misreading the other children’s social cues which caused him to feel both angry and left out. After helping this child develop social skills, he was able to have friendships.

When children take medication, it can help them to both focus on social cues and decrease the impulsivity which could result in better social interaction and developing friendships.

Improved Self-Esteem

Often children with ADHD have poor self-esteem due to the difficulties they experience in school and social situations. By taking medication a child can improve

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both their social skills and school performance which would then in turn would improve their self-esteem. As in the case with John, he proudly displayed his honor roll status in his room.

Medication Isn’t Magic

Medication isn’t a magic pill. I like to use this analogy that medication is like using a shovel. A person can dig a hole with their hands, but if they use a shovel, it will be easier. The shovel is not going to magically dig the hole, the person still needs to physically use the shovel to dig it. Medication can be a tool which helps make it easier for children with ADHD to focus and be less impulsive, but the student still must complete their schoolwork.

Medication can have side effects and is not effective for everyone. There are other ways to treat ADHD such as counseling, behavioral management, and alternative treatments such as acupuncture. Often a combination of counseling and medication can be most effective. Ultimately, the child and parents must make an informed decision about which method will work best for them.

I personally have worked with many students who found medications beneficial. I have also read accounts such as the one by Stephanie Sarkis Ph.D., who believes medication has helped her lead a more productive life.

*name has been changed for privacy

Cheryl Maguire holds a Master of Counseling Psychology degree. She is married and is the mother of twins and a daughter. Her writing has been published in The New York Times, National Geographic, Parents Magazine, AARP, and many other publications.

— by Mike Daugherty

Little Ears, Big Adventures: Discover the World of Kids’ Podcasts

Screens are everywhere these days, and it can be hard for kids to tear themselves away from them. But there’s a new way to entertain and educate kids that’s taking the world by storm: podcasts. Podcasts are like radio shows, but you can listen to them on your computer, phone, or tablet. From cool fairy tale stories to fun science adventures, kids’ podcasts are popping up left and right, and they’re packed with entertaining and educational goodies perfect for curious little minds. It’s like a big, exciting playground for their ears, where they can explore new worlds, learn new things, and just have a great time, all without staring at a screen. Personally, my kids and I have been exploring podcasts while waiting in the drop off line for school or taking longer car rides for fall sports. Here are some of our favorites:

What If World

What If World is a storytelling podcast for kids that explores all sorts of “what if” questions. Each episode

is based on a question submitted by a kid, and Mr. Eric, the host, spins it into a story. The stories are imaginative and engaging, and they help kids to explore their own creativity and curiosity. The show also teaches kids about different cultures and historical periods, and it promotes positive values like friendship, cooperation, and problem-solving.

Wow In the World

Wow in the World is a science podcast for kids hosted by Guy Raz and Mindy Thomas. Each episode explores a different science topic, from the human body to outer space. The show is full of interesting facts, amazing stories, and cool experiments. Wow in the World is a great way for kids to learn about science in a fun and engaging way. The show is sure to spark their curiosity and inspire them to learn more about the world around them. One of our favorite episodes is “The Future of Food.” This episode explores the latest innovations in food technology, and how they could change the way we eat in the future.

The Past & The Curious

The Past & the Curious is a history podcast for kids and families that is hosted by Mick Sullivan. Each episode explores a different historical topic in a fun and engaging way. The show is full of interesting facts, funny stories, and even a few songs. The show is sure to spark their curiosity and inspire them to learn more about the world around them. Mick does a fantastic job at making history both fun and interesting!

Six Minutes

Six Minutes is a mystery podcast for kids and families that is created by GenZ Media. Each episode is six minutes long and follows the story of Holiday, an eleven-year-old girl who is found floating in the icy waters off the coast of Alaska with no memory of who she is or where she came from. As the podcast progresses, Holiday begins to develop incredible abilities, and she soon discovers she’s not alone in the world. The

show is full of suspense, intrigue, and adventure, and it’s sure to keep listeners guessing until the very end. The show is narrated by a cast of talented voice actors, including Sarah Drew, Jason Ritter, and Josh Gad. Six Minutes is a great way for kids to learn about friendship, courage, and self-discovery. My sixth grader LOVES this story!

R.L. Stine Story Club

Do your younger kids like spooky stories? The R.L. Stine Story Club podcast takes short stories that never made it into the Goosebump books and turns them into short, creepy tales. Hosted by Ivy, most of the episodes are less than 15 minutes long and not too scary. Most of the stories center around the consequences of poor choices. These are great for ages 7-9 and short car rides.

Smash Boom Best

Now in its third season, Smash Boom Best seeks to answer some of the most hotly debated topics among children. Which is better: Super Strength or Super Speed? Invisibility or Flying? Unicorns or Dragons? Star Wars or The Avengers? The podcast is hosted by Molly Bloom, the host of the Brains On! podcast, and a rotating cast of debaters. The debaters are all experts in their respective fields, and they bring a lot of passion and knowledge to the show. The show also teaches kids how to defend their own viewpoints. Children can even choose to follow along at home with the free download Smash Boom Best scorecard. This is a one of a kind show that is worth listening to!

But Why? A Podcast for Curious Kids

This podcast answers kids’ questions about the world in a fun and engaging way. Each episode answers a question submitted by a kid, such as “Why

do we have to go to school?” “Why do we have dreams?” or “Why is the sky blue?” Host Guy Raz uses a variety of techniques to answer the questions, including interviews with experts, sound effects, and music. He also gets help from his team of producers, who research the questions and find the best experts to interview. But Why? is a great way for kids to learn about the world around them. It is also a great way to encourage kids to ask questions and to think critically about the world.

In conclusion, podcasts can be a great way for kids to learn and explore new topics. They can also be a fun and engaging way to spend time with family and friends. When choosing podcasts for kids, it is important to consider their interests and age level. There are many great podcasts available for kids of all ages, so there is sure to be something for everyone.

Here are some additional tips for choosing podcasts for kids: Look for podcasts that are ageappropriate. Some podcasts may contain content that is not suitable for younger children.

Consider your child’s interests. There are podcasts on a variety of topics, so find one that your child will be interested in. Listen to the podcast yourself before you let your child listen to it. This will help you make sure that it is appropriate for their age and interests.

Talk to your child about what they are learning from the podcast. This will help them to retain the information and make it more meaningful.

Mike Daugherty is a husband, father of three young children, author, speaker, Google Innovator, and possible Starbucks addict. He is a certified educational technology leader who has served in a variety of roles through his twenty-year career in public education. Currently, Mike is the Director of Technology for the Chagrin Falls Exempted Village School district in Northeast Ohio. As an IT director he has developed creative, well thought out solutions that positively impact teaching and learning.

TWEENS & TEENS

— by Cheryl Maguire

The Four Stages Of Teenage Girls

I’m the lucky mother of not one but two beautiful teenage daughters. When they were younger, they loved to spend time with me going to the grocery store or just being in my general orbit. They always called after me, “Mama, can I come with you?” Then as they grew older, they dropped the “Mama” along with wanting to spend even five seconds anywhere near my general vicinity. They referred to me as “Mmmooooommmmm” only when they wanted something. These different phases are commonly seen in human development, especially in girls. Like the metamorphosis of the caterpillar into a butterfly, there are various stages of the life cycle. Here are the stages of the human teenage girl.

Stage 1: The Teen Commences Stage — Bye, Bye Barbie

The first stage of butterfly development is referred to as “egg” since they are growing inside the egg. For the human teenager, this begins at around age 10 or 11. The mother first observes that all of their princess garb has been donated to Goodwill — even the precious

tiaras. And then these species will start referring to their once beloved Barbie dolls — that they owned enough of to populate an entire city — as toys meant for “babies.”

The most challenging aspect of this phase for the mother is that the daughters no longer want to spend their time grocery shopping or doing any other activities with mom. The mother will discover that their daughter is manifesting unusual behaviors like “rolling their eyes” anytime they interact with them. And their daughter is suddenly using lots of statements like, “Mom you’re so embarrassing” or “I’m bored” and there is frequent use of the word, “No.”

Stage 2: The Silent Stage — What?

The second stage of butterfly development is the “larva or caterpillar” when they are ferociously eating everything in sight. The teenage girl development is the opposite —they remain out of sight and cease all forms of communication with the mother with the exception of the word “No.”

The use of eye-rolling increases significantly along with feelings of bore-

dom and the number of times they are embarrassed by their mother. This phase is also marked by the use of noise-canceling headphones so that all forms of the mother’s voice are totally terminated or silenced. Often the mother will try to speak to the teenage girl only to receive a lack of any response since they can’t hear anything.

On rare occasions, the mother might hear an annoyed utterance of the word, “What?!” when the mother is literally standing in front of them waving her hands and shouting, “How was school today?”

Stage 3:

The Anger Stage — The Villain Emerges

The third stage of the butterfly life cycle is the “pupa or chrysalis,” when metamorphosis of the caterpillar to the butterfly begins. For the teenage girl, this is when she transitions from the princess into the villain. All of that silence in stage two has been brewing like a simmering volcano that is ready to erupt. Any attempt at communication is met with resistance and anger with phrases

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SINGLE PARENTING

— by Meagan Ruffing

The Month of October for a Single Mom

3) Crockpot meals become my new best friend during the month of October. I throw some things together in the morning before work so that when I come home, the house smells amazing. The kids love the home-cooked smell in the fall and get excited about what’s for dinner. Crockpot meals are also an easy way for my kids to help out. They think it’s neat to see ingredients go in the pot one way and come out another way. As a single mom, I need things to be easy and crockpot meals make that happen.

4) I stock up on candy for the big night and hide it from my kids. I grab a fun Halloween bowl and gear up for the trick-or-treaters. Since my son won’t be going out this year, he’ll be the one at home passing out candy.

Halloween and Christmas tie for my kids’ favorite holidays. I think it’s because they get a plethora of candy for one and gifts for the other. Because this is one of their favorite holidays, I get really excited for this time of year. There’s something about the smell of fall in the air and crackling leaves that makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside. I look forward to creating a season of warmth in my home for my kids to relax in and Halloween falls right into that.

As my kids have gotten older, I have tried to match their age-interests when it comes to what they want to wear for costumes. This will also be the first year my almost 15-year-old son doesn’t want to trick-or-treat. (Insert tears here!)

To try and keep everyone happy, I rec-

ognize that they’re telling me what they want to do for Halloween and what they hope the night will be like. This helps me avoid any last-minute costume mishaps and unnecessary meltdowns. I keep these 8 things in mind when preparing for the big night.

1) I make sure my kids have everything they need for their costumes and I let them do a “test run” to make sure everything fits right, feels right, and looks good. Ideally, this is done several nights before Halloween so you have plenty of time to pick up any last minute items.

2) I buy mums for my front stoop and the front of my garage to decorate the house. The kids always tell me they love seeing the fall colors when they walk home after school.

5) The dollar store has some cute decorations for the kids’ rooms that I let them pick out each year. It doesn’t cost much, and they get excited about putting decals on their windows and cobwebs on their doors. It’s always fun for me to see their individual personalities come out when they’re decorating for Halloween.

6) You can’t forget about the BIG night itself. My kids are dressed and ready to go by the time I walk through the door at 5pm. Since trick-or-treating seems to start earlier and earlier every year, I don’t mind heading out shortly after I get home but I like to get the kids a snack and go through our plan of attack before hitting the streets. There are always a few neighborhoods my kids ask to drive to because they “give out the best candy,” so I do my best to accommodate everyone’s wishes. I also have a tween at home so I have a feeling most of our night will be figuring out how to meet up with all her friends.

7) Probably my favorite part about October, is making the house feel warm and cozy. I do this by adding new throw pillows to the couch, lighting fall-scented candles, and adding a few pumpkins around the fireplace. I do my best to make the house feel very peaceful

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like, “Mom, I don’t need your advice!” or “Stop asking me how my day at school was!” or “You are so embarrassing!” The eye-rolling is so frequent that the mother wonders if this is some sort of medical condition, since it’s not physically possible to willingly roll your eyes that much. Plus, there is a hint of disgust mixed with anger that protrudes from the end of the eye-roll.

Stage 4: The Adult Stage — The Teenage Girl Transformed

The fourth and final stage of the butterfly metamorphosis is the “adult butterfly,” when the butterfly materializes from the chrysalis — with their colorful wings fluttering all around. In this stage, the teenage girl finally removes her noise-canceling headphones from

her ears and articulates full sentences without a hint of anger. The eye-rolling has diminished significantly — almost to extinction. The teenage girl willingly wants to spend time with the mother and even accompanies her to the grocery store — a full circle of the life cycle. Some have even observed them wearing a tiara, but you have to watch unnoticed from afar.

Even though the first three stages can be tough on the mother, stage four is worth the wait. Some might even refer to the daughter as a social butterfly.

Cheryl Maguire holds a Master of Counseling Psychology degree. She is married and is the mother of twins and a daughter. Her writing has been published in The New York Times, National Geographic, Washington Post, Parents Magazine, AARP, Healthline, Your Teen Magazine and many other publications.

Galor Gifts

for my kids especially since they have to bounce back and forth between two homes.

8) This is about the time of year I can leave the windows up and my screen door open to enjoy the cool breeze each day and night. There’s nothing better than curling up on the couch to a good movie and feeling the fresh air throughout the house. It sets the mood for a very peaceful atmosphere.

See how many of these things you can incorporate into your October this year. I bet you’ll find yourself feeling more relaxed and grateful for the current season you’re in.

Meagan Ruffing is a parenting journalist and mental health therapist living in northwest Arkansas. She’s already counting the days for when she gets to go trick-or-treating with her kids.

— Courtesy of the Niagara Frontier Veterinary Society

Happy Halloween with Pets

Halloween is a candy-filled, costume-donning, exciting time for families everywhere, but maybe not so much for your pet. Here are a few Halloween tips to keep the holiday happy.

CANDY

Candy is for humans, NOT pets. Chocolate goodies especially can wreak havoc on pet tummies. Most pet parents are well educated on chocolate hazards for dogs. The ingredient theobromine can cause vomiting, diarrhea, rapid breathing, and even death. The darker the chocolate, the more theobromine. Milk chocolate can also cause illness.

Some candies may contain an artificial sweetener called Xylitol. Xylitol is poisonous to pets, and can cause a drop in your dog’s blood sugar, creating loss of coordination, seizures and even liver failure.

Candy wrappers and lollipop sticks can be hazardous if swallowed so be sure to put them in the trash immediately.

LIGHTING

Halloween pumpkins with burning candles should not be in an area where your dog or cat may knock them over.

Just your quick trip to the door greeting trick-or-treaters may be enough time for a pet to get close enough to get burned or tip the pumpkin over, starting a fire you may not notice immediately. Keep in mind that dogs enjoy eating pumpkin which can be tempting.

Glow sticks are an excellent way to light up your children on a dark Halloween evening. While the chemicals inside the glow stick are non-toxic, if your pet chomps down on one the awful taste may cause excessive drooling, pawing at the face and mouth, and sometimes vomiting. If your pet consumes a glowstick, give them plenty of water and a small meal to rid them of the taste and call your veterinarian.

DECORATIONS

Halloween decorations are cute and fun, even the real ones such as pumpkins and corn. All decorations need to be out of reach from your pet. Light strings and streamers are tempting for cats. Pumpkin and corn can become moldy causing gastrointestinal issues or cause blockages that need expensive emergency surgery.

ESCAPE ARTISTS

Be aware that a pet owner can lose their fur babies with the chaos brought on with Halloween. When answering the door for visitors, make sure that your pet doesn’t suddenly head for the great outdoors. Should they bolt, be sure that your pet’s ID tag is current and collar secure. Pets with identification are much more likely to be returned to their owners. Talk to your vet about microchipping your pet.

It’s best to keep your pet in a separate room, away from the door, when trick-or-treaters arrive. Strange people in even stranger clothes can frighten pets.

COSTUMES

While fun for people, many pets don’t enjoy getting dressed up for Halloween. If you costume your pet, safety is a must. Be sure that the costume

doesn’t interfere with the pet’s ability to breathe, see, hear, move, or bark. If costuming your pet, make sure to look for one (besides being adorable) that fits them correctly.

Taking a few moments to prepare your pets for Halloween will keep them safe and happy.

The Niagara Frontier Veterinary Society is comprised of more than 75 small animal hospitals and more than 225 practitioners in Erie and Niagara Counties. It exists to advance public awareness and understanding of appropriate and compassionate pet health care, veterinary services and the veterinary profession. www.NFveterinarysociety.org

Pumpkin bread pudding has all the flavors of the fall season: pumpkin, molasses (or maple), pie spices — Yum! We’ve adapted these recipes to be allergy friendly, lower in fat and tasty. Cream was replaced with milk (dairy or vegan). Most bread puddings contain eggs, ours uses none. Easy, tasty, lower in calories — and kids LOVE to tear the bread up for this recipe!

A few tips:

• Any bread will do – crusty breads like French and Italian add more texture. For added fiber, use whole grain breads. Whatever bread is safe for your family’s allergies or gluten intolerance.

• 1 average slice of bread yields about 3/4 – 1 cup of bread cubes. For the recipe below, if using regular sliced bread, you’ll need about 10-12 slices.

• Use stale or day-old, hard bread. This helps keep a texture, otherwise the dish will be mushy.

• To make “stale” bread – if you have fresh bread and want to make it stale, cube and leave out for a few hours, or lightly toast cubes in a 200° oven for about 5 minutes to dry out. Let

cool before using. For most packaged (processed) breads, you’ll need to do this – they often mold before they get dry.

• For a deeper molasses flavor, use dark brown sugar, or replace 1/4 cup of brown sugar with 1/4 cup molasses.

• Maple lovers can add 3/4 cup real maple syrup in place of 1 cup brown sugar. Reduce other liquid (milk or milk replacement) by 1/4 cup.

• If you don’t have pumpkin spice, make your own blend. For 1 teaspoon of pumpkin spice combine 1/2 teaspoon cinnamon + 1/4 teaspoon ginger + 1/8 teaspoon nutmeg + 1/8 teaspoon allspice (or cloves.)

• For a more even distribution of spices, stir them into milk before adding pumpkin.

• If not allergic to eggs or keeping vegan, replace the cornstarch and 1/4 cup milk with 2 beaten eggs.

• Make the day before and reheat. To reheat bread pudding: cover and bake at 300° for 15 minutes. Or cover and microwave for about a minute until warm.

PUMPKIN BREAD PUDDING

Free of: DAIRY, EGGS, SOY, PEANUTS, TREE NUTS, FISH, SHELLFISH, WHEAT, GLUTEN, VEGAN

Yield: 12 servings

Prep Time: 5 minutes

Standing Time: 15 minutes

Cook Time: 35-45 minutes

2 1/4 cups milk* (dairy, soy, rice, other)

2 cups canned pumpkin (not pumpkin pie mix)

1 1/4 cups brown sugar

3 Tablespoons melted dairy/soy free

margarine

2 Tablespoons cornstarch or tapioca (to thicken)

1 Tablespoon pumpkin pie spice

1 Tablespoon vanilla

EASY CARAMEL SAUCE

Free of: DAIRY, EGGS, SOY, PEANUTS, TREE NUTS, FISH, SHELLFISH, WHEAT, GLUTEN, VEGAN

Yield: 12 servings

Prep Time: 5 minutes

Cook Time: 6-8 minutes

1 1/2 cups dark brown sugar

1/2 cup (1 stick) dairy/soy free margarine

1/2 cup milk (dairy, soy, rice, other)

Pinch of salt (optional)

1/4 teaspoon salt (optional)

1 loaf stale bread – about 10 cups –cut into 1” cubes

Optional: 1/2–1 cup raisins, currants, dried or fresh cranberries

Preheat oven to 350°. Lightly grease a 13x9-inch baking pan. In a large bowl, mix all ingredients except the bread. If adding raisins or cranberries, stir into the liquid mixture. Toss in bread cubes, making sure they are all moistened. Pour into greased pan. Let stand for 15 minutes. Bake for about 35-45 minutes, until a toothpick inserted into the center comes out clean. Let cool about 10 minutes. Serve warm or room temperature, top with powdered sugar, whipped topping, ice cream (dairy, soy, rice), or caramel sauce (recipe below).

In a medium pan over medium heat, combine brown sugar and margarine. Stir continually until margarine is melted and sugar is dissolved. Add milk, stirring continually until it reaches a full rolling boil, and sauce is clear, about 3 more minutes. Remove from heat, stir in pinch of salt. Sauce thickens as it cools. Refrigerate leftovers, use within a week.

If you have any questions about our column, e-mail Kathy at allergy@roadrunner.com. For further information about food allergies, contact FARE at www.foodallergy. org, or call 1-800-929-4040.

Kathy Lundquist is a Western New York parent whose son, now an adult, was born with severe food allergies. Over the last two decades, she has worked tirelessly, in a variety of capacities, to increase community awareness about food allergies.

THE KIDDIE GOUR ME T

— by Barbara Blackburn

Searching for a family restaurant new to us, we found the Wayside, serving breakfast, lunch, and dinner. The Kids’ Menu, for guests 12 and under, is a cute coloring page. It’s Mickey and Minnie aboard a ship with a happy face sail! Adults are presented with a little entertainment via the table games. Kids’ highchairs are stacked in the corner.

The $5.99 kids’ entrees include a small beverage and cookie. The kid-friendly deal offers Kid’s pancakes, spaghetti, macaroni and cheese, chicken fingers and fries, hot dog and fries, cheeseburger and fries, grilled cheese and fries, and turkey sandwich and fries. I’d give the service that night a 6 out of 5 spoons!

Wayside Family Restaurant

2301 South Park Avenue Buffalo, NY 14220 716-826-2279

~ SPOONS ~ FOOD 4/5 SERVICE 5/5 FAMILY FRIENDLY 5/5

able. The Godfather Sandwich ($10.99) almost caught my order. That’s a Reuben with Beef (not corned). Also, Den’s Homemade Meatloaf ($7.99) tempted my taste buds with culinary memories of the past.

Whether at home or in the car on a road trip, Would You Rather? questions can strike up some fun conversations .

Our Tuesday specials included Stuffed Pepper Dinner ($15.99) and my choice, Pot Roast Dinner ($14.99). Although I always savor the little potatoes, I enjoyed the mashed ones and the carrots with deliciously bountiful gravy.

Dad went to the always Featured Dinners, choosing Fried Chicken (4 pieces) with honey dipped breading ($12.99). I couldn’t resist depriving him of some of the delicious breading. Although he ordered fries, our compatible server brought more mashed potatoes. Choosing soup over salad (since I chose the chef salad), both he and I were overjoyed with the day’s rendition of Cheeseburger Mac Soup, a credit to the chef, without an overload of salt. The accompanying bread and butter joyfully added to both the soup and salad. Ordering oil and vinegar as my dressing choice was a successful partnering with the flavorful croutons.

We debated before ordering which of the regular items or specials avail-

A Greek connection shows up in the Wayside Souvlaki, a house special for $14.99, with chicken or beef served over rice pilaf. Beef or chicken souvlaki shows up again ($9.99) in a pita with home fries or Greek Salad. At Breakfast Special time, the Souvlaki Breakfast comes with two eggs, home fries and toast ($11.99). Den’s Special Omelette ($10.99) is a creation of Dennis Spinelli, featuring tomatoes, mushrooms, onions, green peppers, cheese and spinach sauce. Yes, Dennis and Clare can be credited with fine food for the family. Alas, I should have ordered dessert when I ordered the main course. The custard pie was all gone; nevertheless, my sunny yellow Lemon Meringue Pie ($4.25) was enclosed in a superior crust and topped with a very successful meringue. Other contenders for dessert were cheesecake and topping ($5.79), rice pudding ($2.29) and red velvet cake ($4.29).

As I said, Dennis and Clare Spinelli can take a bow for fine food for the family in South Buffalo.

Barbara Blackburn has been happily writing The Kiddie Gourmet for over 35 years. She has two adult children and four grandchildren. She is a home instructor and community education cooking instructor for Williamsville Central Schools and is the 2023 recipient of Buffalo State Alumni Association Senior Service Award.

Here are some QUESTIONS

you can ask your child!

Would you rather eat donuts or candy every day?

Would you rather create a famous piece of art or invent a famous invention?

Would you rather travel by bus or by bicycle?

Would you rather be a superhero or an astronaut?

Would you rather be a doctor for people or a veterinarian?