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Christmas Memories Happy holidays, everyone! This issue will be coming out right before Thanksgiving, and then we have the crazy race to the big day—Christmas! I remember one Christmas a long, long time ago, when I was a very little girl. First grade, as I recall. I went to Holy Cross Catholic School, and I was in Sister Mary Justin’s class. My classmates and I had rehearsed for what seemed like months for our big number in the Christmas singing pageant. The first graders were given the task of learning “The Christmas Song” (you may know it as “Chestnuts Roasting on an Open Fire”). What an undertaking for all of us…particularly for Sister Mary Justin! This was the first time I had appeared onstage, and I was chosen by Sister Mary Justin for a “special part.” When my classmates sang the line “and folks dressed up like Eskimos,” I had to step out, away from the chorus, all decked out in a big fur coat that was 10 sizes too big for me. I cannot convey how absolutely terrified I was. I didn’t have any lines to speak; I didn’t have to dance; I simply had to step away from the rest of the chorus and stand ALL BY MYSELF in a spotlight. I couldn’t even sleep the night before…but I did it! All the parents applauded, I survived, and our class stole the show. It seems funny now, but it was traumatic back then. My best guess is that we all have one of those “scary” Christmas memories from when we were kids. For some, it was our first meeting with that terrifying man they call Santa Claus. Sometimes, when parents take their young toddler to sit on Santa’s lap, the little one FREAKS! Now, Mom and Dad have been in line for some time, so they don’t give up—they are going to get that photo, come hell or high water. How could a little one NOT get nightmares? For others, it may have been the terror that we were on the “naughty list” and were going to end up with coal in our stockings. As Christmas loomed closer and closer, the threats from Mom and Dad came more frequently. Most likely, this was because they were exhausted and were trying to find a way to keep the “brood” in line. With all of this childhood trauma, it’s amazing that we celebrate the holiday at all! This year, enjoy the experience. Reminisce with friends, family, and kids about your own childhood memories, traumatic or otherwise. Happy holidays to all!
Points of Interest Saturday, November 24th, is Small Business Saturday. We encourage all of you to support our merchants and keep Lincoln growing strong. Check out the holiday specials that many of our Women’s Edition advertisers have this month! Learn about the delightful flowers and home decor at L. Marie’s Floral Boutique in our Out and About article on page 24. Find the store’s ad on page 7. There’s a holiday event coming up at Meadowlane Shopping Center, and the family at Franklin’s Treasures and Treats is happy to be a part of it! See the details on page 31. Nebraska Mental Health Centers have many locations and services to offer! Find their ad on page 31, and read more about them in our Healthy Living article on page 28. Lincoln Comfort Center has great deals on mattresses this month. See the inside back cover for details. Women’s Edition welcomes Johnson Hardware Company to the magazine. Flip to page 19 to learn about the best place to choose the perfect hardware for your project. Want to look your best this holiday season? See Lois at Lois Beauty Lounge and Lash Bar. Check out the specials in their ad on page 14. Oops! Last month, we miscaptioned a photo in the Pharmacy Solutions article. The photo, labeled as owner Lyndell White, was actually of pharmacist Jeanne Greisen.
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Inside This Edition 2 Publisher’s Notes
26 Fresh Concept The holidays! It’s the time for being with family and friends, for baking and decorating, for gift-giving and traveling and... depression?
6 Fashion Worthy Before holiday life gets too crazy, let’s look at the up and coming holiday fashion trends so we’ll have something special to wear this season!
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9 Zodiac Forecast
30 The Market Place
10 Weekend Gourmet
32 Income Outcome
12 Business Style
33 Kids Comments
14 A Woman’s Work
34 Cuddly Critters
16 Interiors By Design
35 The Good Life
22 Good Looks
36 Positive Perspective
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24 Out and About
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Razzle Dazzle Holiday Dressing Look and Feel Your Holiday Best By Holly Bell
Here they come…the candles, baking aromas, sparkle and glitter, beautiful music, frosted windows, and roaring fires. It is time to think about the most wonderful time of the year—the holiday season! During this time, we are often so busy taking care of everyone and everything that we forget to think about our own needs. It’s easy to get carried away with cooking, decorating, and gift-buying. Before holiday life gets too crazy, let’s look at the up and coming holiday fashion trends so we’ll have something special to wear this season! It’s best to head into holiday clothes shopping with a plan. You will probably need at least one or two dressy-casual looks and a couple of dressier looks for your holiday get-togethers. I love this year’s trends of glitter, velvet, winter white, and bright holiday red. Black and white is a classic combination you can turn to all year, and it’s especially chic for the holidays. A popular runway item has been the tuxedo look for women. Sleek and chic, the tuxedo can be made very feminine by switching out the top worn under the jacket. Instead of a button-down shirt, try a top embellished with sequins or lace to add a little dazzle. You could also jazz up a plainer blouse with a fabulous statement necklace. The beauty of the tuxedo look is the same as that of the little black dress—it will add versatility to your wardrobe by mixing and matching with just about everything you own. Kick your little black dress into high gear by adding a tuxedo-inspired jacket. Bring some sparkle to a black outfit with accessories designed to catch the light, such as glitterembellished shoes or a sequined scarf. For those of us who want to stand out and make an entrance that other guests will remember, fashionistas are talking about winter white this year. Seeing all-white attire in the winter is a little bit of a shock, and who doesn’t like to take advantage of a little shock value? Picture yourself in a flowing white dress in a sea of black. You will definitely turn heads this way! Be careful not to get too lacy with a white dress—you don’t want to end up looking bridal. When wearing head-to-toe winter white, it’s better to stick with solid woven fabrics that have some weight and body. Beware white knits, which are flattering on almost no one. Even all white in a wool pant and fluffy sweater would be elegant and chic and is a nice change of pace from all the dark tones that are so popular in winter. Top off your white outfit with silvery jewelry and a silver clutch bag, and be prepared for compliments! Many of us lead a more casual lifestyle, but that doesn’t mean we can’t still be glamorous for the holidays! An easy way to go from everyday to holiday is adding some red. Start by pulling out the red in your closet,
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whether it’s a red plaid shirt, a red sweater, or a red scarf. Even red gloves or shoes can add a bit of holiday cheer to your outfit. Not a cherry-red person? Burgundy works, too. A great combo is red and black. This bright, bold contrast looks put together, even if you’re just doing black jeans and a red blouse. For a bold and fun holiday look that says, “Let’s party!” you can’t go wrong with a red dress. Red on red is simply luscious, but it does take a brave person who doesn’t mind being the center of attention. There is something about red that is enormously flattering. It creates a beautiful blush on the face. Blouses are back in full force this year, with a focus on sleeves: big, puffed, billowy, ruffled, trumpet, cut-out, or embellished sleeves. This has been a big year for decorative sleeves, and designers are still coming up with new and unique sleeves for 2019. To maximize your shopping budget, you should always take a look at your closet before you head to the store. Pull out the red, black, and white pieces and find some creative ways to put them together. Then go out and find the new pieces you need to add holiday cheer to your wardrobe for the entire season. Let’s enjoy the wonderful world around us as we welcome the holiday season. Don’t forget to take a moment to relax and enjoy this time instead of just rushing about until you’re exhausted. Take some time to make yourself feel special. We know we feel our best when we look our best. Happy holidays! Editor’s Note: Holly has been in the fashion industry for over 30 years as a buyer, boutique store owner, visual merchandiser, and fashion show producer. She is currently the owner of a modeling agency. Holly regularly appears on local TV doing fashion segments. WE
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Happy birthday, Sagittarius! Your family affairs and personal happiness are important this month. Any career or professional ambitions can simmer on the back burner—the only exception is involvement in professional holiday cheer! This season is one of the brightest of the year for you, allowing you to feel selfconfident and energetic. Seek out what makes you happy and indulge yourself in dreams! Capricorn (Dec 23–Jan 19) The planet Venus is influencing you, and your magnetism will be endless.You attract others effortlessly, which will make the holiday season very enjoyable and entertaining!
Gemini (May 21–Jun 20) Career development will be excellent! You are in a social peak and are noticing appreciation from others. Positive energy and action result in stupendous growth.
Aquarius (Jan 20–Feb 18) Professional objectives and worldly desires will be your focus this month. Progress is made through your actions. You may find the answers you seek through your dreams!
Cancer (Jun 21–July 22) Socially, you may be quite active. Your career will be especially hectic, which assists in future endeavors. Remember to make time for you and your loved ones!
Pisces (Feb 19–Mar 20) Financial prosperity will be wonderful this month. In addition, your compatibility with your loved ones will be very high—expect harmonious relationships and gatherings! Celebrate these moments with social activity and cheer.
Leo (July 23–Aug 22) This month will be splendid for love and relationships. There will be abundant amounts of socializing and entertainment.
Aries (Mar 21–April 19) Your emphasis is primarily on career, and you should take action to achieve your goals. You will have enjoyable relations with family members, and your love life could spice up around the workplace! Taurus (Apr 20–May 20) Awareness of health will be helpful during the Mercury retrograde. Strong relationships with family members and colleagues will boost your health. Spiritual techniques such as meditation will also have a positive effect on your well-being!
Virgo (Aug 23–Sep 22) Things may seem stressful due to Mercury’s retrograde. Be mindful of health. Conserve energy and indulge in a spa day to remain physically and mentally fit. Libra (Sep 23–Oct 22) House of family is dominant. During this busy season, be sure to get sufficient amounts of rest. Pamper yourself! Take time for self-indulgences like massage. Scorpio (Oct 23–Nov 21) Emotional happiness and loved ones are front and center this month. Allow your professional ambitions to remain in the background for the time being. Spare some time for humanitarian activities and charitable events this season. WE
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EZ English Toffee Line a jelly roll pan with aluminum foil. Cover the bottom of the pan with graham crackers, using whole crackers or halves to fit. Boil 1 stick of margarine and 1 stick of butter with 1/2 cup of sugar for 2 minutes, stirring often. Pour the butter mixture over the graham crackers. Bake for 10 minutes at 350 degrees. Remove from oven and immediately pour a 12-ounce package of chocolate chips over the top. Spread out the chocolate. Sprinkle with 1 cup of chopped walnuts or pecans. Remove to waxed paper to cool. Cut or break into pieces. Holiday Breakfast Casserole Melt 1 stick of butter in a saucepan. Add 1 cup of brown sugar and 2 Tablespoons of corn syrup. Cook for 4–5 minutes, until the sugar is dissolved. Pour into a 9x13-inch baking dish. Cut up 1 loaf of French or Italian bread and place the pieces into the baking dish. In a separate bowl, mix 10 eggs with 2 cups of milk or Half and Half, 1 teaspoon of vanilla, and 1 Tablespoon of Grand Marnier. Pour over the bread pieces. When ready to bake, sprinkle 1/2 cup of chopped pecans on top. Bake at 350 degrees for 1 hour or until brown and puffy. Sweet and Sour Sausages Cut 1 or 2 pounds of cooked kielbasa or Polish sausage into
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Restoration is where it’s at these days, and for good reason. You work hard and spend good money to surround yourself with high-quality items that you love, and you deserve to have your purchases last for years. (Buying long-lasting items also helps us keep disposables out of the landfill.) The fact is, however, that almost nothing is truly no-maintenance. Everything needs to be refreshed and restored from time to time, from our hair and our fingernails to our lawns and our homes. We need the best of the best to help us preserve and maintain the things that matter. This is where Brandon Weber and his crew at ReFresh Plastic Restoration really shine. Brandon started the business in 1995 after seeing a local need for protective coatings on such things as boats, RV’s, planes, countertops, garage doors, storm doors, fenders, windows, headlights, and mirrors. ReFresh is a specialized restoration and coating service, Brandon says, that “brings the life back to surfaces and preserves those surfaces for years to come.” What can Brandon help you refresh? More than you might think. One commonly overlooked item that is vital to safety here in Nebraska is vehicle headlights. With winter approaching, we’re facing fewer daylight hours as well as increased inclement weather—with that one-two punch, we rely even more on our headlights to get us from shopping to holiday parties to family gatherings safely. On a new car, the newly manufactured plastic that covers the headlights is clean and crisp, offering great protection for the bulbs inside. After a few years, however, the plastic gets dulled by constant exposure to the elements. This means that your headlights don’t shine as brightly as they used to, which means that other drivers can’t see you as well and that you will have a harder time seeing other vehicles, pedestrians, wildlife, debris, and anything else you might encounter on the road. The next time you’re getting in the car, take a look at the headlights. Can you tell whether or not your headlights are too cloudy for you to drive safely? Would you know what to do about it if they weren’t? Let Brandon and his crew come out to check your vehicle; they’ll let you know if your car’s headlights need restoration and recoating. It’s a free estimate, but it can mean all the difference when it comes to your family’s safety. “The headlights on my car were so foggy I couldn’t see through them,” says ReFresh client Stacy. “What a difference! I couldn’t believe those were my old headlights. I can’t say enough good things about these guys. They were super quick and friendly.” It’s not just headlights—imagine how many other surfaces in your home and vehicle could be improved with this technology! If you hate cleaning the windows
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The Most Wonderful Time of the Year Feeling the Holiday Spirit
By Sharon Knierim
Have you noticed how everyone’s personality changes as we approach the biggest holiday of the year? Christmas seems to be a transformative time for even the stingiest of Scrooges. People are more willing to smile and hold doors open for shoppers whose arms are laden with packages or small children. There is a twinkle in everyone’s eyes that we don’t commonly see during the rest of the year. During this special season of giving, we open our hearts to others as we make plans to entertain in our homes, purchase or make special gifts, and go the extra mile to share good tidings. I like it. How about you? Sometimes, I think people must be recalling good memories of bygone Christmases, or maybe they’re just happy about their present situation. Of course, sometimes I feel a small pang of jealousy, thinking that anyone who looks so happy must surely have all their Christmas shopping completed already! We have attempted to duplicate the Christmases of old over the years, but there always seems to be something missing. It must be some of the people who are no longer with us. Just like all of us,
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these folks brought special talents and joy to each gathering, and Christmas was no exception. I like to think of our mother, who was never one who could keep a secret but somehow became very secretive and sly as Christmas approached. One year, she even hid some of our gifts in the bottom of our upright piano! The secret was out when she announced on Christmas morning where she had been hiding those special gifts, so she was never able to hide anything there again. We children knew that because we looked there every year thereafter. Just like now, the days leading up to the big day were filled with anxiety and the thrill of what we might find under the tree on Christmas morning. It truly was the most wonderful time of
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the year. As children, we behaved so well during the month of December that we probably shocked even ourselves. Maybe the angels are whispering in our ears to remind us to be good people and to spread a little kindness to others. There seems to be no such thing as a stranger during the holiday season. People seem truly interested in each other, which feels good. Maybe that is a special gift to us all. If so, we should try to keep that feeling going during the other 11 months of the year. Christmas is what we make it. Some people enjoy going “all out,” decorating everything in sight, while others prefer to remain more low-key. People in each group enjoy the holiday just as much as the others. There doesn’t have to be a huge turkey or goose or ham on the table. There doesn’t need to be a huge crowd to be fed and cared for. We do not need to haul out the good china and wipe down the crystal and iron the good tablecloth. Christmas is about giving, and the best we can give is ourselves. If we don’t care to prepare a huge feast and eat like Rockefellers, we don’t have to do that. Sandwiches or spaghetti on plastic plates can be just fine. Christmas is what we make it. Christmas is what we want it to be. Gifts do not need to be elaborate or outrageously expensive. Do you have a Christmas gift from the past that is special to you? Many keepsakes began their tenure with us as gifts from Santa or someone we love. Mine is a heartshaped charm with the Lord’s Prayer printed on it. Although it is not made of pure gold, it seemed like it when I received it many years ago. It most likely was purchased from a Five and Ten store, but it has become a true treasure over the years. To this day, I sometimes wear it and love it as much as when it was new. Little things mean a lot. When we receive (or give) such a gift, it becomes very special. Whatever your Christmas and holiday plans are this year, let me wish you the best one you have ever had. If you are craving a fancy Christmas, go ahead and do that. If you are hoping instead for a low-key celebration, let that be what your holiday is all about. Christmas is the most wonderful time of the year. There is so much to celebrate and to be happy about. Remember, the most wonderful gift you can possibly offer is the gift of yourself and your time. Merry Christmas to all! WE December 2018
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Interiors by Design
Create a Beautiful, Functional Home Partnering With an Interior Designer
By Robyn V. Powell
Whether you’re building a new home or considering changes to your existing home’s interior, one of the first questions you may have is: Should I hire an interior designer or an interior decorator? The two professions have some overlap, but there are some important differences. Deciding who you should hire depends mainly on the scope of your project. If you need help selecting paint colors or updating furnishings, a decorator is a good choice. If, however, your project requires structural changes such as removing a wall, adding windows and doors, or relocating plumbing or wiring, hiring an interior designer is your best bet. Interior design is a fine balance of art and science. Good designers have studied both disciplines and have a solid understanding of how to put it all together to create spaces that are aesthetically beautiful and functional. With formal training in spatial planning, interior designers have skills that encompass a wide range of expertise, from drawing up floor plans to finishing a space with decorative accents. Their education prepares designers to plan for structural changes and to coordinate with builders and architects. An experienced designer understands what needs to be done when and can anticipate potential obstacles. When you hire an interior designer, you get an immediate plan of action for your space. Designers are trained to manage communication with other professionals and will serve in the
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and will enhance the value of your home. A good designer begins the process by listening—designers need to understand your sense of style and how you want your space to function. Once the concept is created, the designer will prepare a design board to display all your selections using photos and samples. One of the best reasons to work with a designer is the opportunity to visualize the final concept without having to purchase any items. By seeing everything in advance, from room layout to paint color, from furniture to fabrics and accessories, you can get an idea of how the space will really look. This allows you to make changes to the look before making a single purchase. An experienced designer who works in the home improvement industry will have reliable connections to other professionals that you may need on your project, such as plumbers, electricians, or general contractors. Designers have access to a whole world of design products, including fabric and lighting, that are not available to the general public. Access to these resources means your home will have an original and curated appeal that reflects your unique personality and sense of style. An interior designer can bring a new perspective to your space, making it possible to change the way a room looks without having to make major purchases. After looking at what you already have with a fresh set of eyes, designers are expert at incorporating items by making suggestions such as refinishing floors or re-upholstering, rearranging, and repurposing items. Designers can transform your space simply by adding an accent wall or by updating lighting, textiles, or window treatments. A designer will source items within your budget, ensuring that you get the most value for the amount spent, and will place orders and arrange deliveries. Don’t forget holiday decorating! That’s right—an interior designer can expertly take that task off your hands, too. For seasonal holidays or special occasions, an interior designer can create and install show-stopping decorations and table-scapes, taking all the worry and work out of your hands and freeing you to enjoy your time with family and guests. When considering interior designers to hire, ask to see samples of their work and be sure to check their references. Designers who are members of the American Society of Interior Designers (ASID) have met a minimum standard of education and work experience. Sources for this article included: asid.org, dsasociety.org, and cidq.org. WE
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Good Looks
Firm Foundations What’s Supporting Your Wardrobe? By Loretta McCollum
We’ve all heard that you can’t build anything great without a solid foundation. This principle applies to many things—buildings, relationships, and even your wardrobe! Whether you’re wearing something from a favorite designer’s recent collection or your latest thrift store find, it’s hard to look and feel your best if what you’re wearing underneath isn’t comfortable or flattering. The right lingerie not only helps your clothes fit better, it also helps you feel more confident. Well-fitting bras, smoothing body shapers, and silky slips should be essential elements of every woman’s wardrobe. Many of us are going about this all wrong! We spend hours searching for the perfect cocktail dress, but when it comes to selecting what goes underneath, we just grab and go. Admittedly, most of us aren’t comfortable being on display in a crowded department store, waiting for a total stranger to wrap a tape measure around our body parts and shout out our dimensions like a server relaying a food order. You may feel more at ease in a local lingerie shop. This is a more intimate setting, where trained professionals help you select the perfect undergarments for your size and body type. Many of these professionals have attended a “bra school,” complete with written exams and hands-on practice fittings. They go above and beyond cup and band size! A well-trained bra fitter asks about your style preferences and assesses the shape,
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firmness, depth, and tissue placement of your breasts. You may learn about styles that you hadn’t considered before. Even when you’re armed with your correct sizes, there are some basics to remember while you’re shopping. Bra straps shouldn’t slip, breast tissue shouldn’t overflow the cup, and the band should stay parallel all the way around the body. Band size is measured just under the bust, and cup size is measured at the fullest part of the breast, while you’re standing with your arms at your sides. If the band rides up in the back, it’s too large. If the shoulder straps fall or the cups pucker, the cup is too big. A well-fitting bra should feel like two hands are holding up your breasts comfortably. Ill-fitting bras can cause neck pain, back pain, and poor posture. Since you have more than one type of top, you’ll need more than one type of bra. A good t-shirt bra and a sports bra are essential for everyday wear. A bra with convertible straps is very useful,
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as it can be worn as a cross-back, halter, one-shoulder, or strapless bra, as well as in the basic style. Body shapers eliminate panty lines and unsightly bulges. These aren’t your grandma’s girdles, ladies! There are sleek styles for every look. Biker shorts have a full panty and legs to just above the knee, for a firm bottom and a shapely waist. A body brief resembles a one-piece swimsuit, with a built-in bra and tummy control. Control briefs feature a tummy panel; they go well with shorter skirts and flat-front pants. High-waisted briefs eliminate a line at the waist. A waist cincher is a modern-day corset that creates a classic hour-glass figure. Some camisoles have built-in bras for a flawless appearance under form-fitting tops. Once regarded as a necessity, the slip fell out of favor over the years. It appears to be making a comeback, though not always as an undergarment. Many celebrities have been photographed wearing the “slip dress,” a throwback to the glamour of the 1950s. Think Elizabeth Taylor in “Cat on a Hot Tin Roof” (or, for our younger readers, Scarlett Johansson reprising that role on Broadway in 2013). Slips definitely serve a purpose! If you’re outside wearing a sheer skirt, you don’t want to show off your underwear. In addition to providing modesty, slips help smooth lines of clingy fabric and protect skin from scratchy, unlined fabric. Many full slips have built-in bras, eliminating the need for separate pieces. Give it a try, ladies. After all, who among us wouldn’t like to picture herself as Elizabeth Taylor or Scarlett Johansson? Last, but not least, there’s hosiery. Those with darker skin tones can more often get away with bare legs, but those of us who need sunglasses to deflect the glare from our pasty legs can find a solution with hosiery. We can thank Kate Middleton for bringing pantyhose back. The Duchess wears hose that match her skin tone and make her legs look beautifully airbrushed. Hosiery can add color, but it also minimizes skin flaws and shapes the legs. Control-top hose flatten the tummy, and colorful tights provide warmth in cooler climates. Patterns and textures add sass and flair. When you’re selecting the perfect outfit, don’t forget to build from a solid foundation. Remember: Sexy isn’t a shape; it’s an attitude! Sources for this article included: herroom.com, puddinglingerie.com, and parfaitlingerie.com. WE
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Out and About
L. Marie’s Floral Boutique A Destination for Flowers and Unique Finds
By Sarah Brown
Most of us love the sight and smell of fresh flowers. Scientific research has shown that flowers can boost mood, increase happiness, decrease feelings of stress and anxiety, and increase productivity. They also carry their own language, serving as visual representations of personal sentiments such as love, sympathy, and respect. Jeanne Gade knows flowers are important. As the owner of L. Marie’s Floral Boutique in the Shoppes at Piedmont, she puts her talent and creativity into crafting arrangements that make a lasting impression for any occasion. “I’m a strong advocate of feeling good,” she says, “and the feeling when you get or give flowers is irreplaceable.” Jeanne makes sure that good vibes can always be found inside her boutique by complementing the floral side of the business with unique, original gifts and one-of-a-kind home accents and furniture items. Owning a floral business and boutique is Jeanne’s dream, and she couldn’t be happier about it. The shop is named after her grandmother. “I used to go over to her house when I was a kid and arrange all of her silk flowers,” Jeanne recalls. She spent years in a corporate
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job until a mass layoff at the company where she worked. “I just decided that I wanted to do something that made me truly happy… and made others happy, too. Flowers make me happy! Being creative, designing, and problem-solving is just how my mind works.” Even though the business was established less than a year ago, it has quickly gained a reputation with everyone from local shoppers to other businesses. “This is my forever flower shop,” shares customer Rebecca. “No one
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Jeanne strikes up a conversation with everyone who comes does more original arrangements than Jeanne.” L. Marie’s is the into the store. “I try to build a rapport with my customers,” she featured floral artwork at the Piedmont Bistro and was recently says. “They know my name and my story, and I pride myself commissioned by Black Hills Energy to provide the centerpieces for on knowing them.” When planning an event or an individual a large company dinner event. Talent Plus chose Jeanne to design design, Jeanne really listens to her customers, so she can the two decorated trees they sponsored at Starry Nights for the completely understand their tastes and vision. Once a price People’s City Mission in November. point is established, Jeanne and the customer work together to L. Marie’s is getting noticed because of its quality and because decide what the custom designs will look it is unlike any other store, with its like by referencing L. Marie’s portfolio of combination of unique floral design and previous work or by going with something gifts from local artists. Jeanne is constantly “I just decided that I wanted totally original. “I do it all,” says Jeanne. pushing the boundaries of what can be used “I design, I deliver, I set it up.” Having in designs and how they are presented. to do something that made Jeanne handle the whole process from start Shapes, textures, and colors are original, me truly happy…and made to finish is valuable because customers on-trend, and unexpected, while still having can feel confident that their vision will universal appeal and reasonable prices. others happy, too. Flowers be carried out exactly as planned. “My “People who stop in always comment about make me happy! Being creative, number-one priority is to make sure how reasonable my prices are,” Jeanne my customers are getting the absolute states. Her ingenuity is part of what helps designing, and problem-solving best customer service possible,” Jeanne her keep prices so low. “I’m into upcycling concludes. “Any way I can do that—I will and recycling, so I use things like cigar boxes is just how my mind works.” do it.” or old tins for containers,” she shares. For a sneak peek at L. Marie’s designs, The home décor and furniture items merchandise, and specials, you can visit the Facebook page (L. for sale in the boutique add to the visual appeal of the store and Marie’s Floral Boutique LLC), but an in-person visit to the shop offer shoppers the opportunity to purchase something that is truly is a must. The Shoppes at Piedmont are located at 1265 South special. Door hangings, painted porch signs, and wine bags have Cotner Boulevard, and L.Marie’s is in Suite 28. Call 531-500wide appeal. The candles that Jeanne stocks in the boutique have 5758 to talk to Jeanne about making your next floral arrangement become so popular that they sell out as quickly as Jeanne can get or event more beautiful and unique with an original design or shipments in. What keeps customer Alicia coming back to the gift from L. Marie’s Floral Boutique. The shop is open Tuesday store? “Beautiful floral arrangements and great home décor items,” through Saturday. WE she says, “all reasonably priced and sold with a smile.”
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Fresh Concept
How Happy Are Your Holidays? Understanding Holiday Depression By Kylie Gumpert
The holidays—they’re the most wonderful time of the year! It’s the time for being with family and friends, for baking and decorating, for gift-giving and traveling and...depression? It can be very true. Many people find the holiday season uplifting and an important way to connect with others. However, some people also report feelings of stress, anxiety, sadness, and loneliness that correlate strongly with the winter holidays. Feelings like these are normal for people to experience occasionally, especially during periods of high stress (sounds like the holidays to me!). However, the National Alliance on Mental Illness notes that these feelings need to be acknowledged and managed. Why do so many people experience these feelings during a time of year that is meant to be happy, fun, and meaningful? Many things contribute to holiday depression, including setting your expectations too high (for yourself or for others), not giving yourself enough time to get things done, spending too much money on gifts or parties, being around people whose behavior causes you stress, eating or drinking too much, not sleeping enough, or missing someone you’ve lost. According to the American Psychological Association (APA), the strong focus on materialism during the holiday season also often contributes to feelings of dissatisfaction and depression, especially for people whose financial resources are limited. Someone who is experiencing holiday depression might report feelings of worthlessness, hopelessness, persistent sadness, decreased energy, difficulty concentrating, insomnia or oversleeping, low appetite or overeating, or loss of interest in activities, according to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America. The APA warns that if someone continues to experience these feelings past the holiday season or if the feelings intensify and begin to interfere with everyday life, what started as holiday-related depression may have developed into a more serious depressive condition that requires help from a mental health professional. There are several things you can do to lessen stress or negative feelings brought on by the holiday season. Simply acknowledging your feelings and reaching out if you feel sad or isolated during the holidays are the first things the Mayo Clinic recommends for preventing and minimizing depression symptoms. Recognizing that it’s okay to feel sad and that no one is happy all the time can help you realize that what you are feeling is normal and can prevent you from focusing too intensely on those emotions. Other coping mechanisms include being realistic about expectations, accepting change, setting aside differences, budgeting, planning, saying “no,” maintaining healthy habits and routines, setting aside time for yourself, volunteering, and, of course, reaching out to a mental health professional for assistance. Being realistic includes recognizing and accepting
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that nothing is perfect and that no one—including you!— should expect you to be perfect. If the holidays just feel like one long and arduous to-do list, take a step back. Assess what you can delegate to others and what may not really need to get done at all. Accepting change can be difficult around the holidays, especially if a long-standing tradition doesn’t work as well now that everyone has young children or can’t make it into town. It’s important to have traditions, but that doesn’t mean they should be set in stone. Be flexible and willing to let plans change as lives change. Setting aside differences is often easier said than done, especially when you are around people you may have quarreled with in the past (or in the present, for that matter). Long-term relationships like family often bring drama. It’s important to recognize when a situation needs to be addressed and when it’s best to just let someone be. It’s easy to overspend during the holidays, when everyone seems to be splurging on food and gifts. Take some time early on to figure out how much you can comfortably spend, which can also help you plan what gifts or items you’ll need to purchase. If the focus on materialism is wearing you down, consider doing a family gift exchange, donating to a charity, or making homemade gifts. Don’t forget that the best thing about the holidays can be just spending time with the people you love—not coincidentally, this can also help combat depression. Planning is key to feeling like you’re in control of yourself. Set aside time to plan what events you’re attending or hosting, what gifts or supplies you need to purchase, and what travel plans to make before everything gets started and you’re in over your head. Taking the time to think things through and make a list can decrease stress and help you feel like you’re more in control…because you are! Saying “no” makes some of us very uncomfortable— so uncomfortable, in fact, that we’d rather suffer through
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a task than express our true feelings. If you’ve managed the family holiday party for several years now, but you’re finding it takes too much of a toll, you have every right to ask for help or to request that someone else take responsibility. You don’t have to accept every invitation. If you know an event will be stressful or too tiring, don’t be afraid to gracefully tell people, “Sorry, but I can’t.” With all the delicious treats and changes in routine, it’s easy to abandon our exercise regimens and healthy eating around the holidays, but taking good care of ourselves is a great way to battle anxiety, depression, and stress. This isn’t to say that you can’t indulge, but it’s important not to use the holidays as an ongoing excuse to eat and drink too much and sleep and exercise too little. If you don’t make time for yourself during the holidays, you aren’t going to get it. Create a space to do something that is enjoyable and relaxing for you—and then take that time to do it. Your to-do list will be there when you’re done, and you’ll be able to accomplish more and feel better about it if you’ve taken some time to unwind. Volunteering is a great way to battle anxiety and depression at any time of year, but it feels especially rewarding during the holiday season. Plan a time for your family to volunteer with a local non-profit organization. Getting out of your head and recognizing what other people are going through can help you reflect on how grateful you are for your own life and the people you share it with. Connecting with others and helping them in their time of need is an incredibly meaningful experience that can bring your loved ones closer and help everyone focus on what’s most important: being together. Many people who experience some level of holiday depression come out of it on their own as the season passes. For others,
however, it develops into something more. If you are struggling to feel hopeful or your stress is debilitating, it’s always okay to reach out to a mental health professional or hotline to ask questions and figure out if some type of treatment may help you feel better. For people who are already diagnosed with depression or an anxiety disorder, the holidays are often an even more difficult time. Through psychotherapy, or talk therapy, a psychologist can offer strategies to help you set realistic goals, change unhealthy behaviors, and address emotional issues. Medication may help some patients with severe or long-lasting cases of holiday depression. To obtain a prescription, you’ll need to meet with a psychiatrist to discuss your symptoms and determine a treatment plan. Seasonal affective disorder (SAD) can also be a problem during the holiday season. This disorder comes and goes with the seasons, typically starting in the late fall and going away during the spring or summer. It is thought to be brought on by the relative lack of light when the days are short. Light therapy is often used to treat seasonal affective disorder. During light therapy, the patient sits for up to an hour each day in front of a light box that emits fluorescent light. This is thought to improve the patient’s mood by supplementing the sunshine lost during the winter months. The holidays are always going to be a busy, lively, and somewhat stressful time in our lives—and that’s okay! Be sure to take care of yourself this season. Watch for signs that you are feeling hopeless or overwhelmed, and don’t be afraid to ask for help. Happy holidays! Sources for this article included: mayoclinic.org, mhawisconsin.org, apa.org, ucdmc.ucdavis.edu, dana.org, nimh.nih.gov, nami.org, and adaa.org. WE
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Healthy Living
Nebraska Mental Health Centers An Open Door to Quality Mental Health Care By Janet L. Schmidt
Many people fight against the social stigma associated with mental illness. Whether they struggle with depression or anxiety or behavioral disorders, it can be difficult for those with mental health issues to initiate treatment. It can also be challenging to keep the struggle with a mental health issue contained so that it does not affect employment or relationships with others. The professionals at Nebraska Mental Health Centers (NMHC) work to educate the public about the stigma that exists around those struggling with a mental illness. Many people—even well-meaning people—feel a certain prejudice toward people who have mental health problems. In some cases, this prejudice leads to active discrimination. It can also manifest as self-stigma, when the person with the mental illness internalizes this prejudice, potentially leading to feelings of shame and less successful treatment outcomes. NMHC is a family-owned and family-operated group of mental health clinics that are open to everyone, with offices in Lincoln, Beatrice, and Fremont. NMHC offers individual, marital, family, and group therapy. NMHC offers a wide range of mental health care services, including counseling, family interventions/assessments, domestic violence intervention, psycho-legal services, and services for seniors. They are happy to coordinate patient care with physicians, caregivers, and family members. Jill Zlomke McPherson is part owner and CEO of NMHC. Jill has a master’s degree in educational psychology and community counseling from the University of Nebraska–Lincoln. She is also a licensed independent mental health practitioner (LIMHP). She is qualified to diagnose and treat people with major mental health disorders. She is the executive director of NMHC; she oversees day-to-day operations and supervises provisionally-licensed providers. Lee Zlomke, PhD, serves as the clinical director of NMHC and is the founder and CEO of Pediatric Psychology Associates, a private psychology practice based in Beatrice. He is a licensed psychologist and a diplomate in child psychological specialties. This designation of clinical child psychology is one of several psychological specialties that focus on children’s formative years. Clinical psychologists typically receive more training in providing long-term mental health therapy than do school psychologists. All of the clinicians at NMHC locations provides treatment and evaluation services for children, adolescents, adults, and seniors. The NMHC staff is described as close-knit group. The clinicians collaborate well and are very passionate about their work. The staff philosophy regarding their work with clients is to meet the clients where they are, to develop a good rapport with each client, to advocate for the client when necessary, to keep communication open, and to tailor any interventions to each client’s needs. Jill and Dr. Zlomke are excited about the many positive
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Jill Zlomke McPherson, things in the works at NMHC. They are making their part owner and CEO presence known in the Lincoln community by building relationships, developing partnerships, and holding educational events. At NMHC, clients from all walks of life can receive the psychological services they need. Individual counseling is available to treat such issues as depression and anxiety disorders, chronic pain, ADHD, sleep disorders, and more. Child and adolescent assessments can determine how children interact within the family system. Assessments can help with improving parenting skills, building positive family relationships, and intervening with problems displayed by children. The staff at NMHC also conduct other types of assessments on people of all ages, including academic, social, intellection, psychological, forensic, and medical psychology evaluations. They assist with psycho-legal issues by providing assessments related to competency, parental fitness, insanity defense, and sex offense–specific treatment. NMHC also provides neuropsychological evaluation and consultative services for people with an acquired or congenital brain injury. Because of the size of their agency, Jill notes, they can more easily identify community mental health needs and develop recommendations to meet those needs. Community support is often developed through educational events. NMHC clinicians work in the public schools to provide counseling, behavioral education, and free evaluations and assessments. NMHC has partnered in Lincoln with the School Community Intervention and Prevention (SCIP) program to provide suicide awareness education and to take part in the annual Hop, SCIP, Jump, and RUN event. Seniors often need psychological services that are specific to the challenges of aging. NMHC services for seniors include counseling, consultation with home caregivers and long-term care facility staff, home visits, functional behavior treatments, and psychological and neuropsychological evaluations, including dementia staging and differential diagnosis of brain diseases. The Nebraska Mental Health Center in Lincoln is located at 4545 South 86th Street. The Fremont clinic is located at 2951 North Clarkson Street. The Beatrice clinic has just moved to their new location at 110 North 9th Street. To make an inquiry or schedule an appointment at any of the clinics, call 402-483-6990 or (toll-free) 888-210-8064. WE
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Remember To Say “Thank You” Count Your Blessings
By Janet Van deWalle
“The world is so dreadfully managed, one hardly knows to whom to complain.” —Ronald Firbanh Some people are undaunted by that concept and simply resolve it by complaining to everyone—and about everything. All of us have had an experience of dealing with someone who we describe as “having gotten up on the wrong side of the bed.” However, recently, I have had several encounters with a person who seems to have gotten up on the wrong side of life! My goodness, he puts every other complainer to shame. I thought it might be a blessing for all of us who had to be involved with this person. He seemed completely unable to see how much he had to be grateful for, to appreciate, to enjoy. He didn’t really have anything substantial to offer with his whining. His life sounded pretty average, which in this country is way above average.
“Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.” —M. Kathleen Casey So, this poor fellow lives in his illusion of misery while all the time surrounded by abundance of opportunity. His life could be a joyous adventure rather than a miserable existence. He sees the worst in every situation and person. He sees a problem in every opportunity. “We can only be said to be alive in those moments when our hearts are conscious of our treasures.” —Thornton Wilder That’s the secret to enjoying life—appreciate what you have in the moment. Who has time to complain? With all the countless things you have in your life to be thankful for, when do you have time to complain?
“If you break your neck, If you have nothing to eat, if your house is on fire, then you got a problem. Everything else is inconvenience.” —Robert Fulghum
“God gave you a gift of 86,400 seconds today. Have you used one to say ‘thank you?’” —William A. Ward
I think of him as…clueless. He couldn’t appreciate a single blessing in his experience, though he was surrounded by countless blessings.
This poor fellow is missing out on the best part of life—all of it! With a little gratitude, a little appreciation, a little “thank you,” all kinds of good things would be set into motion. WE
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My Christmas List What Santa Can’t Bring, I’ll Find for Myself In my opinion, “What do you want for Christmas?” is one of the most difficult questions to answer. Generally, if I want something, I get it for myself. In the past, I’ve suggested specific gifts, like a particular CD or a special book. I received neither. I’ve suggested spending time together, which worked well—we manage gatherings, large and small, a few times a year. This year, I’m taking a different approach. This year, I want to obtain some things for myself that surely won’t fit in Santa’s bag. I want to be resilient when faced with adversity…like my friend Ann. We’ve been friends for several years, but she just told me her story in the past few months. She’s had a challenging life. She came through everything from losing parents and raising her siblings to surviving an abusive spouse. She suffered severe injuries in an accident and has returned to nearly 100 percent health. I want to see the positive things in life rather than focusing on the negative…an attitude modeled by my mother. Mom grew up during the Great Depression. She and her siblings worked hard to help keep their family afloat. When asked how they managed, she’d simply reply, “It’s what everyone had to do.” She was widowed and raised three teenagers alone. “I don’t remember any of you being a problem,” she’d recall. “I just remember the good things.” Even as her eyesight faded and her hearing diminished, she remained positive. When asked to do something…go on a trip or take in some special family event…she was always game. “I
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don’t want to become a rusty gate,” she commented on her 100th birthday. I wish to manage my time better…like my friend Jacquie. If you want something done, she is the one to ask. “I like keeping busy,” she says. “It keeps me out of trouble.” Jacquie volunteers her time. She takes part in geriatric studies, maintaining that her “work” helps others. When asked how she spent her weekend, she’ll often reply, “Oh, I really didn’t do much…” and then give a modest list of the tasks she accomplished, the errands she ran, and the events she attended. My daughter is also organized, managing a full-time job while raising two teenage boys as a single mom. In her home office, she has a calendar and a white board to keep track of everything for everyone. They’re inspiring. My own attempt at this level of organization currently consists of sticky notes. With these models to follow and support from friends, I hope to attain a modicum of success. I know that everything is temporary…this, too, shall pass. I remind myself that there’s a positive side to everything, and I look for that silver lining. I look at my new calendar and review the list of things I need to accomplish. Santa, please bring more sticky notes. Editor’s Note: Marge has three children, two grandchildren, and numerous nieces and nephews. She holds advanced degrees in education. Her life’s mission is to teach everyone that kids are people, too. WE
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Holiday Safety for Pets Keep Your Pets Happy and Healthy By Brie Christensen
Holidays are a time for relaxing and rejoicing in all of life’s greatest blessings. The last thing that should be in the back of any pet owner’s mind is the possibility of a pet emergency. Ensuring pet safety should be a top priority while selecting the perfect gift for your pet and making sure that your furry friends feel at ease and are out of danger during holiday celebrations. Keeping pets safe means keeping certain foods out of reach. Chocolate, garlic, grapes and raisins, onions, and many varieties of nuts are just some of the delicious foods that we like to enjoy during the holiday season but that have the potential to harm our furry friends. Make sure that open containers of these treats are placed on higher tables or buffets that curious noses can’t reach. Potentially poisonous plants, like mistletoe, balsam, pine, and cedar should also be kept out of pets’ reach. Candles and potpourri are off limits, too. We all love the festivity brought on by fanciful holiday decorations, but this is also an area that needs to be well-monitored. Like us, pets are easily intrigued by lights, trees, ornaments, and tinsel. A holiday tree, laden with twinkling lights and ornaments, can prove irresistible to a climbing cat. To avoid falls, consider tethering your tree to the ceiling or crown molding. This is easy to do with invisible wire that won’t disrupt the look of your decorations. If you’re hosting a holiday party, you have to be considerate of both your guests and your pets! It’s important to let visitors know ahead of time if animals will be around—they may have allergies or other health concerns. If your pets tend to get very excited when guests arrive, it may be better to keep them in an area away from the door. This will also help keep your pets from slipping out the open door. On the other hand, some animals can become extremely anxious when unfamiliar people come around for the holidays, and large crowds may cause stress that leads to negative behavior. The American Veterinary Medical Foundation (AMVF) reminds us that pets should always have access to a safe, quiet place to rest when visitors are present. As the giving season quickly approaches, some people might also consider giving an animal as a gift. Tread carefully! You should never give an animal as a gift without first discussing it with the recipient. Some people, though animal lovers, might not be ready to take on the commitment of welcoming an animal into their home. They may also be living with someone who has animal allergies. If you decide together that it’s a good time to add an animal to the family, check local animal shelters and rescue organizations for adoption options. Spoiling furry friends is something that many pet owners like to do during the holidays. However,
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before purchasing a new toy or treat for your pet, it’s crucial to once again ensure safety. The Humane Society recommends checking with your pet’s veterinarian before purchasing edible treats to make sure you’re making an appropriate choice for your pet’s diet. If you’d prefer to give your dog a more active gift, consider rubber toys or tennis balls to chase. Be sure that all the parts on a toy are secure and will withstand active chewing without becoming a choking hazard. Stuffed toys are another option. As with rubber toys, make sure all parts are securely fastened. Toys should always be checked periodically to make sure they’re still in good repair. Cats are infamous for their love of cardboard boxes and empty paper bags. If you want to aim a little higher with a holiday gift, consider that cats generally enjoy interactive play with their owners. A feathered toy on the end of a long string would probably be well received. You could also consider a laser pointer, so your cat can chase that little dot of light all over the house. Distraction toys, which can be filled with treats, are fun for cats and dogs alike. The treats inside provide motivation to keep playing. These types of toys can keep pets engaged for a long time...say, the duration of a holiday party at your home? Like most of us, pets are happiest when they feel safe and well-loved. Ultimately, the best gifts that pet owners can supply to their animals are love and protection. This holiday season, keep your pets safe and happy by planning ahead and making your holiday home a safe home for everyone who enters it. Sources for this article included: avma.org, csucvmbs.colostate.edu, aaha.org, and humanesociety.org. WE
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Family Playtime Let’s Get Serious About Having Fun!
By Holly Tierney-Bedord
All too often, busy families spend their rare moments of downtime mindlessly watching television instead of enjoying each other’s company. Days slip by, and we forget how important it is to play. If you want to create some family fun, try introducing some of these healthy, educational activities that will get everyone in your family engaged and excited. Exploring a corn maze, visiting a zoo, camping, or hiking are all great memory-makers. What better way to bond as a family than getting out in nature, breathing the fresh air, and getting stress-relieving, corestrengthening exercise? If there’s snow on the ground, you can’t beat sledding for a whole-family activity. Old-fashioned games like tag, hide-and-seek, and duck-duck-goose never go out of style. If you think your kids aren’t interested in games like these, try joining in. It may surprise you to discover that your kids do want to play these games…once the grownups are involved. A favorite activity of young children is creating and playing in “small worlds” like child-sized kitchens, forts, or treehouses. Children’s museums excel at creating these kinds of imagination-sparking environments, but these kid-centric worlds come in many forms that can be played at home, too. From building a Lego skyline to nurturing stuffed animals to writing and acting in a play, kids love to create new worlds that are easier to navigate than the real world. This kind of play is a powerful creative and problemsolving tool. According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, playtime buffers toxic stress, builds child-parent relationships, and improves executive functioning. Kids who pretend-play may find it easier to solve problems, even into adulthood. Inevitably, children get labeled as sporty, artsy, musical, and so forth. Don’t let labels dictate what activities you introduce to your kids. Let them try activities that don’t necessarily fit with their supposed skill sets. Don’t put pressure on them or cast judgment. Kids who seem shy are often great at activities where they can prepare what to say in advance, like debate, acting, or singing. Poor spellers can be great writers. Teach your children to enjoy the process as much as the outcome. That attitude should extend to you, too! Don’t be afraid to set an example and do something that you don’t excel at, just for the fun of it. So what if you and your family visit an escape room and can’t find your way out? So what if you only make it halfway up the climbing wall at the gym? Let go of the notion that experiences have to turn out a certain way for them to be worthwhile. There are plenty of times in life when it’s imperative to succeed, but there are also plenty of times when it doesn’t matter. Making your family a judgmentfree fun zone helps children build trust in their parents’
love for them. It shows them that they have your support, even if they don’t succeed. While most people know and accept that young children benefit from playing and spending quality time with their families, a 2012 Penn State study confirmed that this sort of bonding is just as important for teens. This study found that teens who spent more time with their fathers with others present had better social skills and that teens who spent more time alone with their fathers had higher self-esteem than teens who did not get as much one-on-one time with their dads. In other words, this quality time isn’t just about making memories—it improves self-confidence and social interaction. Does connecting with your teen sound impossible? Don’t worry; there are as many ways to connect with teens as there are teenagers. Take a road trip. Join a trivia league. Restore a car. Visit a museum or go to a concert. Go ice skating or to an arcade. Try flower arranging, pottery, or painting. Have some ideas in your back pocket, but let your teen make suggestions, too! You may be surprised by how much your teenagers have been wanting to share their interests with you. Don’t feel you have to leave the house or spend money to have family fun. Playing board games, cooking, or even working on home projects together are just a few of the endless ways to connect. Don’t underestimate the power of sharing, listening, and eye contact. The sooner you bring this kind of behavior into your family, the more readily your kids will accept it and enjoy it, but it’s never too late to start. Kids want to know you care. They want to have fun, to enjoy the carefree moments in life, and to know and be known by their families. Show your kids your fun side! Make some memories and try something new—together, as a family. Sources for this article included: aap.org, news.psu.edu, health.harvard.edu, and edweek.org. WE December 2018
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Positive Perspective
Go After What You Want… Or Something Better
I have a great affirmation that I use continually. It is helpful in every situation where I am attempting to achieve an outcome. You see, I don’t think we always know in the present exactly what might be best for ourselves in the future—exactly what outcome would best benefit our lives. Therefore, I like to leave a little room for improvement over my imagination and allow the universe to add more to my goals than I might have anticipated. Therefore, my affirmation goes: I want this or something better. It’s really rather simple. I want this (my expected outcome) or something better. That something better is often a surprise; some thing I hadn’t thought about. It’s always something better. At first, the outcome may seem to be an inconvenience. If I cannot deal with that, then it probably won’t ever become some thing I like. However, if I deal with it in a positive way, I will turn it into something wonderful.
By Janet Van deWalle
“You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing It to master you.” —Brian Tracy Always have control of your attitude and the way you choose to view things, and you will always be the master of your experience. You will always create in your experience exactly what you want… or something better. “Before success in any man’s life, he is sure to meet with much temporary defeat and, perhaps, some failure. When defeat overtakes a man, the easiest and most logical thing to do is to quit. That is exactly what the majority of men do.” —Napoleon Hill
“An inconvenience is only an adventure wrongly considered; an adventure is an inconvenience rightly considered.” —Gilbert Keith Chesterton
Always have control of your attitude, and never quit. Always go for what you believe you want, or something better! Align your energy on every level and go after what you want…or something better.
I always want to look for the next adventure, that is what makes life so thrilling and fun. In order to have a positive experience when things turn out differently than I had imagined, I need the proper attitude about what I will experience.
“Just as your car runs more smoothly and requires less en ergy to go faster and farther when the wheels are In perfect alignment, you perform better when your thoughts, feelings, emotions, goals, and values are in balance.” —Brian Tracy
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