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Volume 2 Issue 6

YAADI CULTURE, FIMI STYLE MAGAZINE SPECIAL ISSUE Fathers Need Love Too

Jamaican ‘Waifi’ (Wifey), Do Not Mistake for Wife Investigating the Paternal Matrix

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Fathers‎need‎love‎too

Jamaican ‘Waifi’ (Wifey), Do Not Mistake for Wife

5 Investigating‎the‎Paternal‎Matrix Investigating‎the‎Paternal‎Matrix‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ 12 Doctaz Advice

Jamaican Superstitions

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“From a Bird’s view “ Fathers Need Love Too

Deidre D. Douglas

“The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.” mother.”‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ ‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ Theodore‎Hesburgh What‎kind‎of‎a‎man‎is‎a‎father,‎do‎we‎really‎know?‎How‎many‎of‎us‎have‎ever‎ stopped‎to‎truly‎investigate‎what‎qualities‎in‎a‎man‎that‎qualifies‎him‎to‎be‎the‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ paternal‎genetic‎contributor‎to‎prospective‎generations?‎Maybe‎a‎few,‎maybe‎more‎ than‎I‎may‎realize,‎I‎hope‎the‎latter‎is‎true.‎For‎many‎years‎I‎was‎never‎bothered‎by‎ the‎fact‎that‎Mother‟s‎Day‎is‎as‎commercialized‎as‎Christmas‎and‎Valentine‟s‎Day,‎ even‎though‎I‎could‎never‎actually‎quite‎remember‎or‎identify‎which‎Sunday‎in‎June‎ is‎Father‟s‎Day.‎That‎being‎the‎case‎is‎rather‎sad,‎noting‎that‎my‎birthday‎is‎in‎this‎ lovely‎month‎and‎I‎have‎an‎unassumingly‎lovely‎father.‎Let‟s‎not‎make‎bird‎feed‎ about‎this‎matter,‎as‎the‎issue‎with‎carrying‎on‎the‎ trend‎of‎treating,‎and‎mistreating‎the‎fathers‎of‎our‎ society‎collectively‎like‎scums,‎does‎not‎set‎the‎kind‎ What‎are‎the‎roles‎of‎a‎father?‎What‎did‎we‎ want‎from‎the‎men‎in‎our‎lives‎that‎mothers‎ may‎have‎given‎us,‎may‎have‎tried‎to‎provide‎ us‎with,‎or‎may‎have‎informed‎us‎that‎we‎ would‎not‎be‎getting‎because‎he‎who‎was‎to‎provide‎such‎did‎not‎exist?‎ What‎makes‎a‎man‎a‎father,‎rather‎than‎a‎contributor‎or‎a‎donator?‎We‎are‎ humans,‎mammals‎and‎thus‎we‎cannot‎expect‎to‎get‎away‎with‎living‎like‎ dumb‎animals.‎

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YAADI CULTURE, FIMI STYLE MAGAZINE Ole Time People did say…by Georgette McGlashen

Jamaican‎„Waifi‟‎(Wifey),‎Do‎ Not‎Mistake‎for‎Wife

ontrary‎to‎the‎sound,‎the‎word‎waifi‟‎(wifey)‎is‎not‎an‎ affectionate‎term‎for‎the‎word‎wife,‎in‎the‎way‎that‎ „hosi‟‎(husy)‎is‎used.‎In‎‎Jamaican‎and‎dancehall‎culture‎ the‎term‎wifey‎is‎a‎popular‎term‎to‎mean‎the‎main‎‎identifiable‎‎female‎ partner‎(woman)‎selected‎by‎the‎male‎(man);‎versus‎other‎women‎that‎he‎may‎engage‎ in‎a‎known‎intimate‎relationship.‎This‎/‎These‎other‎woman‎/‎women‎are‎usually‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ referred‎to‎as‎the‎„Mieti‟‎(Matey)‎ referred‎to‎as‎the‎„Mieti‟‎(Matey)‎––‎the‎woman‎on‎the‎side.‎The‎term‎wifey‎is‎therefore‎ not‎to‎be‎mistaken‎for‎the‎word‎wife.‎However‎it‎is‎fair‎to‎say‎that‎wifey‎is‎derive‎from‎ wife.‎

According to‎the‎‎Miriam‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ Webster‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎

Facts you should know :

Dictionary,‎one‎‎definition‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ The‎Jamaican‎giant‎swallowtail‎is‎the‎largest‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ proffered‎for‎the‎term‎wife‎is‎a‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ butterfly‎species‎in‎the‎Americas‎and‎endemic‎to‎the‎ island‎of‎Jamaica.‎Adults‎grow‎up‎to‎three‎inches‎ female‎partner‎‎‎in‎a‎marriage.‎‎ with‎an‎average‎wingspan‎of‎6‎inches,‎and‎they‎are‎ This‎suggests‎a‎legal‎binding‎‎‎‎‎ usually‎dark‎in‎color‎with‎yellow‎and‎blue‎bands‎and‎ contract‎‎recognized‎by‎the‎law‎of‎ spots.‎ Males‎have‎hair‎scales‎on‎their‎hindwings‎ the‎land.‎Marriage‎‎is‎also‎being‎ near‎the‎abdomen.‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ defined‎as‎the‎state‎of‎being‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎Swallowtails‎differ‎from‎all‎ united‎to‎a‎‎person‎of‎the‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎other‎butterflies‎in‎a‎number‎ opposite‎sex‎as‎husband‎or‎wife‎in‎ of‎anatomical‎traits,‎such‎as‎ the‎unique‎organ‎that‎they‎ a‎‎consensual‎and‎‎contractual‎‎‎‎‎‎ posses‎behind‎their‎heads‎as‎ relationship‎‎recognized‎by‎‎law.‎ caterpillars,‎called‎the‎ “osmeterium.”‎ Yaadi Culture, Fimi Styleja

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Investigating the Paternal Matrix By‎Adrian‎St.‎P.‎Duncan

voluminous‎Western‎countries,‎ the‎nuclear‎family,‎in‎which‎both‎

parents‎are‎members‎of‎the‎household,‎is‎believed‎to‎be‎ideal.‎In‎Jamaica‎and‎the‎ wider‎‎Caribbean‎the‎nuclear‎family‎is‎often‎the‎exception‎rather‎than‎the‎rule.‎A‎ large‎‎‎‎‎‎proportion‎of‎families‎in‎the‎region‎still‎consist‎of‎only‎one‎parent,‎usually‎ the‎mother,‎with‎fathers‎adopting‎a‎marginal‎role‎in‎child the‎mother,‎with‎fathers‎adopting‎a‎marginal‎role‎in‎child--care‎and‎nurturance.‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ According‎to‎a‎UNICEF‎publication‎over‎45%‎of‎the‎households‎in‎Jamaica‎are‎‎‎‎ female female--headed.‎Such‎family‎structures‎are‎generally‎accepted‎as‎the‎norm‎in‎the‎‎ Caribbean,‎and‎are‎often‎viewed‎as‎functional‎responses‎to‎the‎problems‎faced‎by‎ people‎living‎in‎the‎region‎and‎particularly,‎Jamaica. Additionally,‎in‎different‎cultural‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ communities‎around‎the‎world,‎researchers‎

Moreover,‎the‎

and‎policymakers‎have‎drawn‎attention‎to‎

father‟s‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎

the‎contributions‎of‎fathers‎to‎the‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ economic‎and‎psychological‎well economic‎and‎psychological‎well--being‎of‎ children‎and‎Jamaica‎is‎no‎exception.‎‎‎‎‎‎ Statistics‎obtained‎from‎a‎variety‎of‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ Caribbean‎societies‎suggested‎that‎high‎ quality‎involvement‎of‎ the‎father‎is‎linked‎to‎ positive‎intellectual‎and‎

investment‎ seems‎to‎improve‎the‎life‎chances‎of‎ children‎later‎on.‎By‎‎‎‎contrast,‎the‎ lack‎of‎the‎father‟s‎‎investment‎and‎ involvement‎can‎have‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ astounding‎negative‎effects‎on‎ children‟s‎childhood‎and‎their‎‎ development.

social‎outcomes‎in‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ children.‎ CONTD ON page 7 @YaadiCulture

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Men are

‎not‎dogs,‎they‎male‎humans‎who‎tend‎to‎accept‎ and‎behave‎how‎they‎are‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ expected‎to,‎so‎the‎first‎call‎of‎action‎is‎to‎expect‎more,‎to‎have‎‎ defined‎expectations‎of‎the‎men‎in‎our‎society,‎to‎have‎‎our‎boys‎ and‎young‎men‎know‎that‎just‎as‎how‎ a‎mother‎is‎‎expected‎to‎‎carry‎out‎ many‎defined‎roles,‎so‎does‎a‎father.‎

1.‎A‎ 1.‎A‎father father

3.‎A‎ 3.‎A‎father father is‎mature.‎He‎is‎not‎afraid‎to‎

show‎his‎love‎for‎his‎family,‎he‎is‎not‎ is‎a‎leader.‎He‎is‎the‎role‎‎‎model‎and‎guide‎ too‎much‎of‎a‎man‎to‎display‎his‎human‎ for‎all‎his‎children,‎‎‎regardless‎of‎their‎age‎ side,‎and‎he‎is‎the‎first‎source‎of‎manly‎ or‎gender.‎A‎good‎father,‎or‎a‎real‎father,‎‎‎ qualities‎for‎his‎children,‎especially‎his‎ realizes‎that‎it‎is‎not‎the‎educational,‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ son;‎he‎is‎also‎the‎first‎man‎his‎daughter‎ professional‎or‎monetary‎status‎which‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ comes‎in‎contact‎with,‎thus‎he‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ qualifies‎him‎to‎be‎the‎head‎of‎his‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ impresses‎upon‎her,‎the‎qualities‎of‎a‎ children‟s‎lives,‎instead‎it‎his‎‎behavior,‎and‎ man‎she‎will‎either‎love‎or‎‎despise.‎ the‎way‎he‎handles‎his‎‎responsibilities‎and‎ 4.‎A‎ 4.‎A‎father father provides.‎He‎may‎not‎be‎the‎ treats‎his‎family‎that‎harvests‎the‎respect‎of‎ sole‎provider‎of‎his‎household,‎but‎a‎‎‎ his‎family‎and‎the‎love‎of‎his‎children.‎ father‎has‎to‎contribute‎in‎providing‎for‎ 2.‎A‎ 2.‎A‎father father is‎a‎teacher.‎He‎is‎not‎only‎there‎ his‎family.‎A‎father‎is‎however‎more‎ to‎provide‎material‎things‎but‎to‎impart‎ knowledge‎and‎wisdom,‎‎‎‎ however‎he‎can.

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than‎school‎fees‎and‎lunch‎money,‎more‎ than‎groceries‎and‎utility‎bills,‎he‎is‎ more‎than‎giver‎money,‎and‎he‎gives‎ love,‎guidance‎and‎care.‎The‎man‎who‎ offers‎of‎his‎time‎is‎as‎much‎‎important‎ or‎even‎more‎so,‎than‎one‎whom‎offers‎ his‎kind.

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Investigating the Paternal Matrix By‎Adrian‎St.‎P.‎Duncan On‎this‎ upcoming‎Father‟s‎Day,‎numerous‎‎‎Jamaican‎ families‎will‎be‎acknowledging‎the‎role‎of‎ men‎in‎their‎respective‎families.‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ Normally,‎the‎presence‎of‎fathers‎in‎families‎is‎ celebrated,‎whereas‎their‎absence‎is‎regularly‎ criticized.‎In‎a‎local‎tabloid,‎it‎was‎explained‎by‎ Dr.‎Barry‎Davidson‎that‎he‎believes‎the‎legacy‎ of‎enslavement‎of‎Caribbean‎people‎is‎why‎

In addition

many‎"Afro many‎"Afro--Jamaican"‎men‎from‎all‎classes‎of‎

‎to‎this,‎fathers‎may‎be‎around‎

society‎are‎struggling‎to‎be‎good‎fathers‎to‎their‎

children‎but‎remain‎‎‎inaccessible‎

children.‎He‎also‎believes‎that‎many‎Jamaican‎

to‎them‎socially‎and‎intellectually.‎

men,‎regardless‎of‎social‎class,‎were‎not‎taught‎

I‎should‎‎furthermore‎mention‎that‎

or‎properly‎socialized‎to‎be‎good‎dads‎and‎noted‎

the‎presence‎of‎men‎can‎present‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎

that‎while‎the‎problem‎is‎mostly‎visible‎among‎

considerable‎risk‎to‎children‎as‎in‎

the‎poor,‎it‎also‎occurs‎among‎middle‎and‎upper

situations‎where‎harsh‎parenting‎

-class‎Jamaican‎males‎who‎are‎more‎than‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎

is‎employed‎and‎in‎cases‎of‎abuse‎

capable‎of‎providing‎financially‎for‎their‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ children,‎but‎often‎neglect‎

and‎neglect.‎In‎the‎latter,‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ fathers‟‎abusive‎behaviors‎are‎

linked‎to‎childhood‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎

psychopathology.‎Harsh‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ parenting‎can‎have‎dire‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎

consequences‎for‎children‟s‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ social‎‎adjustment‎

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who‎should‎be‎important‎partners‎are‎too‎ often‎absent‎from‎the‎‎parenting‎process.‎ This‎situation‎demands‎that‎we‎pay‎particular‎attention‎to‎the‎‎ issue‎of‎the‎psychology‎of‎the‎Jamaican‎male,‎Davidson‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ explained‎this‎while‎‎recently‎addressing‎the‎theme,‎Effective‎ Parenting:‎Empowering‎for‎Life‎at‎Northern‎Caribbean‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ University's‎(NCU)‎4th‎Biennial‎Conference‎of‎the‎College‎of‎Humanities,‎Behavioral‎ and‎Social‎Sciences‎in‎Mandeville.‎He‎further‎lamented‎that‎the‎big‎challenge‎is‎to‎ bring‎about‎self bring‎about‎self--awareness‎on‎the‎part‎of‎our‎Jamaican‎males.‎Self awareness‎on‎the‎part‎of‎our‎Jamaican‎males.‎Self--awareness‎demands‎ that‎we‎first‎understand‎the‎history‎of‎the‎Jamaican‎male‎and‎what‎is‎expected‎of‎them.‎ For‎some‎it‎is‎too‎painful‎to‎deal‎with,‎for‎others‎it‎is‎used‎as‎an‎excuse‎for‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ irresponsibility.‎In‎slavery,‎men‎were‎only‎to‎be‎breeders‎ and‎not‎fathers.‎For‎at‎least‎179‎years,‎from‎British‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ conquest‎to‎emancipation,‎the‎male‎slaves‎were‎robbed‎ of‎ their‎birthright‎of‎learning‎to‎be‎suitable‎fathers‎and‎‎‎‎ providers.‎They‎could‎not‎as‎easily‎pass‎on‎virtues‎and‎ facts‎of‎fatherhood‎to‎their‎sons‎by‎‎example‎or‎oral‎‎‎‎ tradition.‎Family‎psychology‎informs‎us‎that‎the‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ problems‎from‎parents‎to‎children‎pass‎several‎‎generations."‎I‎t‎cannot‎be‎denied‎that‎ the‎breakdown‎of‎Jamaican‎parenting‎has‎‎contributed‎to‎the‎kind‎of‎angry,‎violent‎and‎ deviant‎behavior‎that‎exists‎and‎is‎still‎‎‎lingering‎in‎our‎society‎today.‎There‎exists‎ countless‎broken‎homes,‎stressed‎mothers‎and‎absent,‎broke‎ and‎sometimes‎drunken‎‎‎fathers.‎This‎revolving‎door‎of‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ reckless‎‎behavior‎and‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ irresponsibility‎has‎become‎the‎‎‎‎ norm‎which‎is‎terrifying‎and‎in‎the‎ midst‎of‎it‎all,‎it‎has‎our‎‎children‎ alone‎and‎frightened‎while‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ living‎in‎a‎kind‎of‎emotional‎vacuum,‎struggling..

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5.‎A‎ 5.‎A‎father father appreciates‎his‎family‎and‎shows‎this‎appreciation.‎He‎has‎‎‎‎‎ emotional‎intelligence‎and‎tries‎to‎understand‎the‎needs‎of‎himself‎and‎every‎ member‎of‎his‎family.‎He‎notices‎the‎‎differences‎in‎each‎‎member‎and‎tries‎to‎treat‎ each‎person‎‎likewise. 6.‎A‎ 6.‎A‎father father is‎human.‎He‎is‎entitled‎to‎make‎mistakes,‎just‎as‎he‎is‎entitled‎to‎any‎ other‎action.‎It‎however‎takes‎a‎man,‎a‎real‎father‎to‎realize‎when‎he‎has‎blundered‎ and‎does‎what‎he‎must‎to‎remedy‎his‎ slipups.‎ What‎kind‎of‎fathers‎do‎we‎want‎for‎our‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ children?‎What‎kind‎of‎fathers‎do‎we‎want‎our‎ young‎men‎to‎be‎in‎the‎near‎future?‎Maybe‎some‎ version‎of,‎with‎the‎criteria‎listed‎above.‎Maybe‎ one‎has‎in‎their‎mind‎another‎version,‎but‎to‎ each,‎his‎own.‎Let‎us‎however‎ensure‎we‎are‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ intuitive‎and‎reflective‎of‎what‎we‎want‎for‎our‎ children‎and‎our‎nation‎of‎tomorrow.‎Ian‎Morgan‎ Cron,‎author‎and‎inspirer‎once‎said,‎“A‎boy‎needs‎a‎father‎to‎show‎him‎how‎to‎be‎in‎the‎ world.‎He‎needs‎to‎be‎given‎swagger,‎taught‎how‎to‎read‎a‎map‎so‎that‎he‎can‎recognize‎ the‎ roads‎that‎lead‎to‎life‎and‎the‎paths‎that‎lead‎to‎death,‎how‎to‎know‎what‎love‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ requires,‎and‎where‎to‎find‎steel‎in‎the‎heart‎when‎life‎makes‎demands‎on‎us‎ Good that‎are‎greater‎than‎we‎think‎we‎can‎ Dad, endure.”‎

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Let‎us‎love‎each‎other,‎take‎care‎of‎ our‎children‎and‎do‎our‎very‎best‎in‎ playing‎a‎role‎in‎‎shaping‎the‎future‎we‎ wish‎to‎live‎to‎‎witness,‎we‎hope‎to‎be‎here‎to‎‎‎‎ enjoy.‎Until‎next‎time,‎God‎bless.

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YAADI CULTURE, FIMI STYLE MAGAZINE Ole Time People did say…by Georgette McGlashen wife‎legal‎rights‎to‎identify‎ This gives the‎herself‎as‎wife‎to‎the‎man,‎and‎

to‎publicly‎lay‎claims‎to‎the‎man‎as‎her‎own‎husband‎ –‎in‎which‎case‎the‎man‎cannot‎deny.‎With‎the‎wifey‎it‎ is‎not‎so.‎The‎law‎of‎the‎land‎does‎not‎recognize‎the‎ wifey‎as‎the‎man‟s‎‎‎‎legal‎spouse,‎whether‎the‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ relationship‎is‎consensual‎or‎not.‎

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the‎marked‎differences‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ between‎the‎wife‎and‎wifey‎ at‎times‎appear‎debatable.‎ For‎example,‎the‎wife‎usually‎shares‎the‎same‎living‎‎ home‎with‎the‎husband‎and‎uses‎the‎same‎postal‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ address.‎This‎may‎or‎may‎not‎be‎the‎reality‎with‎the‎ wifey.‎The‎wifey‎often‎times‎enjoys‎a‎visiting‎relationship,‎with‎either‎the‎ man‎visiting‎her‎home‎or‎she‎visits‎his.‎It‎is‎important‎to‎note‎that‎even‎ though‎a‎man‎may‎live‎with‎a‎‎woman‎and‎child‎(ren)‎this‎does‎not‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ necessarily‎give‎her‎wifey‎status.‎Another‎point‎to‎make‎is‎that‎while‎the‎wife‎ is‎usually‎known‎to‎the‎in is‎usually‎known‎to‎the‎in--laws‎and‎may‎even‎have‎a‎communicative‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ relationship,‎the‎wifey‎may‎not‎ even‎know‎the‎family‎and‎may‎not‎ be‎known‎by‎the‎family.‎The‎wifey‎ is‎however,‎known‎by‎the‎friends‎ of‎the‎man‎and‎may‎even‎know‎the‎ man‟s‎close‎friends.‎

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What exactly is it? Bipolar‎disorder‎is‎a‎mental‎illness‎that‎is‎ characterized‎by‎extreme‎mood‎swings,‎that‎ Bipolar Disorder Bipolar‎disorder,‎also‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ can‎be‎dangerous.‎A‎person‎suffering‎from‎ bipolar‎disorder‎will‎experience‎episodes‎of‎ referred‎to‎as‎manic‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ abnormally‎elevated‎mood,‎clinically‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ depression,‎is‎a‎mood‎disorder,‎ referred‎to‎as‎mania.‎They‎are‎also‎likely‎to‎ characterized‎by‎extreme‎ experience‎depressive‎episodes.‎These‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ episodes‎may‎take‎place‎separately,‎or‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ changes‎in‎mood,‎behavior‎and‎ together,‎in‎a‎mixed‎episode‎where‎both‎ thinking.‎It‎consists‎of‎one‎or‎ emotions‎are‎experienced‎together.‎Bipolar‎ more‎manic‎‎episodes,‎with‎or‎ disorder‎is‎also‎known‎as‎manic‎depression‎ without‎one‎or‎more‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ or‎manic‎depressive‎disorder.‎Very‎often,‎the‎ depressive‎episodes.‎ disorder‎is‎seen‎to‎develop‎during‎the‎late‎ teen‎or‎early‎adult‎years,‎with‎about‎half‎of‎ all‎cases‎occurring‎before‎the‎age‎of‎25.‎

Treatment Medications,‎in‎form‎of‎mood‎stabilizers,‎have‎shown‎positive‎effects‎on‎the‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ patients‎of‎bipolar‎II‎disorder.‎Non patients‎of‎bipolar‎II‎disorder.‎Non--medication‎therapies,‎like‎interpersonal‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ therapy,‎cognitive therapy,‎cognitive--behavioral‎therapy,‎light‎therapy‎and‎family behavioral‎therapy,‎light‎therapy‎and‎family--focused‎therapy,‎are‎ also‎used‎by‎doctors‎in‎order‎to‎cure‎the‎disease.‎These‎therapies‎help‎one‎to‎cope‎ up‎with‎the‎illness‎through‎different‎methods.‎For‎a‎person‎ suffering‎from‎this‎disorder,‎it‎is‎important‎that‎their‎family‎ and‎friends‎provide‎support‎and‎help,‎for‎his‎full‎recovery.‎ They‎help‎in‎providing‎an‎emotional‎support‎to‎patients‎ which‎is‎very‎necessary,‎and‎can‎lead‎to‎a‎quick‎recovery. @YaadiCulture

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Bipolar Disorder Self Self--Test There‎are‎many‎self There‎are‎many‎self--test‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ questionnaires‎on‎the‎Internet,‎ which‎can‎help‎you‎assess‎your‎ condition.‎The‎most‎common‎‎‎‎ format‎allows‎you‎to‎answer‎a‎‎‎ series‎of‎multiple‎choice‎questions,‎and‎then‎gives‎you‎an‎answer‎based‎on‎ your‎score.‎For‎most‎tests,‎the‎higher‎the‎score,‎the‎more‎likely‎you‎are‎to‎have‎ a‎disorder‎in‎the‎bipolar‎spectrum.‎Some‎examples‎of‎the‎kinds‎of‎questions‎ included‎in‎the‎bipolar‎disorder‎self‎test‎are: Sometimes‎I‎speak‎very‎rapidly‎or‎turn‎much‎more‎talkative‎than‎usual. I‎have‎experienced‎instances‎where‎I‎feel‎both‎high‎(elated)‎and‎low‎ (depressed)‎at‎the‎same‎time.  There‎have‎been‎times‎when‎I‎was‎very‎active‎or‎did‎much‎more‎than‎usual.  There‎are‎times‎when‎there‎is‎a‎marked‎difference‎in‎the‎quantity‎or‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ quality‎of‎my‎work.  Sometimes‎I‎am‎extremely‎optimistic‎and‎at‎other‎equally‎pessimistic. If‎bipolar‎disorder‎goes‎undiagnosed‎and‎untreated‎over‎a‎long‎period‎of‎time,‎ it‎can‎severely‎affect‎a‎persons‎life.‎It‎can‎even‎turn‎fatal,‎for‎the‎suicide‎rate‎ among‎those‎with‎bipolar‎disorder‎is‎high.‎It‎is‎a‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ long long--term‎illness‎that‎needs‎to‎be‎carefully‎managed.‎ Fortunately,‎a‎bipolar‎disorder‎self Fortunately,‎a‎bipolar‎disorder‎self--test‎can‎help‎one‎ diagnose‎this‎disorder‎in‎time‎to‎provide‎adequate‎ treatment‎and‎care,‎with‎which‎a‎person‎can‎enjoy‎a‎ productive,‎happy‎life.‎  

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The

‎most‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ significant‎

difference‎between‎the‎wife‎and‎wifey‎is‎the‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ inheritance‎of‎possessions‎after‎the‎end‎of‎the‎relationship.‎This‎can‎occur‎by‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ separation‎or‎at‎the‎death‎of‎the‎man.‎While‎the‎wife‎is‎‎automatically‎and‎legally‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ recognized‎as‎the‎‎immediate‎next‎of‎kin,‎the‎wifey,‎even‎if‎it‎was‎a‎common‎law‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ union,‎may‎have‎to‎‎contend‎with‎relatives‎of‎the‎man‎to‎obtain‎possessions‎she‎thinks‎ is‎rightfully‎hers.‎

he‎wife‎/‎wifey he‎wife‎/‎wifey‎‎dichotomy‎can‎be‎seen‎as‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ normalized‎in‎Jamaican‎and‎‎dancehall‎culture.‎ Many‎Jamaicans‎traditionalist‎who‎uphold‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎

marriage‎as‎a‎traditional‎value‎may‎scourge‎at‎the‎idea‎of‎ the‎wifey.‎However‎there‎is‎still‎a‎large‎group‎of‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ Jamaicans‎who‎through‎their‎actions‎embraced‎the‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ persona‎of‎the‎wifey,‎who‎amongst‎many‎female‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ contenders‎has‎managed‎to‎secure‎the‎male‎trophy,‎the‎ man.‎

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Investigating the Paternal Matrix CONTD FROM PG 8

By‎Adrian‎St.‎P.‎Duncan

The Impact of Fathers on Psychological Well Well--Being and Social Behavior Children‎who‎from‎birth‎have‎an‎involved‎father‎are‎more‎likely‎to‎be‎‎emotionally‎ secure,‎be‎confident‎in‎exploring‎their‎surroundings,‎and,‎as‎they‎grow‎‎older,‎have‎better‎ social‎connections‎and‎interactions‎with‎peers.‎These‎children‎are‎also‎less‎likely‎to‎get‎in‎ trouble‎at‎home,‎school,‎or‎in‎the‎neighborhood. Infants‎who‎receive‎high‎‎levels‎of‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ affection‎from‎their‎fathers‎(e.g.,‎babies‎whose‎fathers‎respond‎quickly‎to‎their‎cries‎and‎ who‎play‎together)‎are‎more‎securely‎attached;‎that‎is,‎they‎can‎explore‎their‎environment‎ comfortably‎when‎a‎parent‎is‎nearby‎and‎can‎readily‎accept‎comfort‎from‎their‎parent‎after‎ a‎brief‎separation.‎A‎number‎of‎studies‎suggest‎they‎also‎are‎more‎‎sociable‎and‎popular‎ with‎other‎children‎throughout‎early‎childhood.‎ The‎way‎fathers‎play‎with‎their‎children‎also‎has‎a‎significant‎impact‎on‎a‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ child's‎emotional‎and‎social‎development.‎Fathers‎spend‎a‎much‎higher‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ percentage‎of‎their‎one percentage‎of‎their‎one--on on--one‎interaction‎with‎infants‎and‎preschoolers‎in‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ stimulating,‎playful‎activity‎than‎do‎mothers.‎From‎these‎interactions,‎children‎learn‎how‎to‎ regulate‎their‎feelings‎and‎‎behavior.‎Rough regulate‎their‎feelings‎and‎‎behavior.‎Rough--housing‎with‎dad,‎for‎example,‎can‎teach‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ children‎how‎to‎deal‎with‎‎aggressive‎impulses‎and‎physical‎contact‎without‎ losing‎control‎of‎their‎emotions.‎‎Generally‎speaking,‎fathers‎also‎tend‎to‎ promote‎sovereignty‎and‎an‎orientation‎to‎the‎outside‎world.‎ Fathers‎often‎push‎achievement‎while‎mothers‎stress‎‎nurturing,‎both‎of‎which‎are‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ important‎to‎healthy‎‎development.‎As‎a‎result,‎children‎who‎grow‎up‎with‎‎‎involved‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ fathers‎are‎more‎comfortable‎exploring‎the‎world‎around‎them‎and‎more‎likely‎to‎exhibit‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ self self--control‎and‎‎pro control‎and‎‎pro--social‎behavior.‎Essentially,‎what‎I‎am‎saying‎is‎“di‎man‎dem‎fi‎be‎a‎real‎ man‎and‎stand‎up‎to‎dem‎responsibilities‎and‎cut‎out‎the‎worthless‎man‎“livity”.‎ Contd on next page

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BE SENSIBLE

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Pay ATTENTION while DRIVING Did‎you‎know‎that‎your‎brain‎can‎miss‎seeing‎up‎to‎ 50% of your driving environment‎when‎you are‎ are‎talking talking on your cell phone behind‎the‎wheel? What‎you‎miss‎could‎be‎very‎important.

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There could be no YCFSM, without YOU. Wishing you a birthday as wonderful as you are.

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Jamaican super stitions

Dillon Thomas BY

Superstition is an irrational belief that future events can be foretold by specific unrelated prior events. These beliefs are mostly applied in practices related to prophecy, luck, love, spiritual beings and other special events in a person’s life. It is not based on knowledge or reason but mostly based on irrational fear and credulous belief. Superstition can also be associated with witch craft, astrology and psychic phenomena’s. A‎pregnant‎woman‎should‎not‎sew‎during‎her‎pregnancy.‎She‎should‎

never‎use‎a‎needle‎or‎a‎thread.‎It‎was‎believed‎that‎the‎baby‎would‎be‎ sewn‎or‎tied‎up‎in‎the‎umbilical‎cord.‎

It‎is‎believed‎that‎when‎you‎open‎an‎umbrella‎inside‎ your‎house‎you‎would‎not‎get‎‎married

If‎you‎marry‎on‎a‎Saturday‎it‎is‎believed‎that‎your‎‎husband‎ would‎die.‎It‎is‎also‎believed‎that‎a‎husband‎and‎wife‎would‎ quarrel‎to‎their‎deaths‎if‎they‎marry‎on‎a‎Monday.‎It‎is‎also‎bad‎ luck‎to‎marry‎on‎your‎birthday.‎

4 When‎a‎pregnant‎mother‎climbs‎over‎a‎ fence,‎it‎was‎believed‎that‎her‎child‎would‎ become‎a‎thief.‎

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Congratulations to our very own: Georgette McGlashen

A‎romantic‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ journey‎begins‎ with‎marriage.‎ May‎God‎pour‎ all‎his‎warmth‎ and‎care‎on‎your‎ lovely‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ journey‎ahead.‎

The‎sacred‎day‎of‎bond‎is‎upon‎you.‎ Congratulations‎on‎your‎wedding.‎ May‎you‎have‎a‎very‎happy‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ married‎life.‎ Yaadi Culture, Fimi Styleja

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Fun Things To Do in the Summer Before‎your‎family‎has‎a‎chance‎to‎say,‎"I'm‎boooored!"‎you‎ can‎be‎ready‎with‎this‎list‎of‎great‎ideas.‎So,‎slather‎on‎the‎ sun‎block,‎grab‎your‎shades,‎and‎live‎it‎up‎this‎Summer!‎

Form‎a‎yoga‎

Yoga's‎good‎for‎more‎ than‎boosting‎your‎ body,‎mind,‎and‎spirit:‎ It‎can‎help‎your‎child‎in‎certain‎sticky‎ situations,‎too.‎Some‎kid situations,‎too.‎Some‎kid--friendly‎ moves,‎courtesy‎of‎Marcie‎Wallace,‎a‎ senior‎yoga‎instructor‎at‎Lotus‎Yoga.‎

Learn a new hobby hobby‎‎

Is‎there‎something‎you've‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ always‎wanted‎to‎learn,‎but‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ didn't‎think‎you‎could?‎Now's‎ the‎time! ‎ Learn‎to‎play‎a‎musical‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ instrument.  Take‎up‎singing.  Learn‎to‎dance.‎  Develop‎your‎artistic‎skills.‎  Photography.  Write‎stories,‎ poems,‎plays,‎or‎ jokes. 

Let Them Read Graphic Novels‎

To‎make‎sure‎your‎comic To‎make‎sure‎your‎comic--book‎or‎ graphic graphic--novel‎fan's‎fives‎are‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ age age--okay: Check‎out‎the‎library.‎Most‎file‎ graphic‎novels‎by‎age,‎so‎you‎can‎get‎an‎ idea‎of‎which‎titles‎and‎series‎are‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ appropriate.  Look‎for‎publishers'‎kid‎imprints,‎ like‎DC‎Kids‎and‎Marvel‎Adventures.  If‎your‎tween‎reads‎Japanese‎comics‎ (manga),‎scan‎the‎covers.‎They‎often‎ feature‎icons‎from‎the‎publisher's‎rating‎ system,‎like‎Viz‎Media's 

4 Try cooking cooking‎‎ If‎you‎don't‎know‎how‎to‎ cook‎or‎you‎don't‎know‎much‎ about‎food,‎now‎you‎can‎ learn!‎Ask‎your‎parents‎for‎ fun‎recipes,‎or‎ look‎online‎for‎ things‎you‎can‎ cook‎without‎a‎ stove‎or‎oven.

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