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‫‪SHORT & SWEET‬‬

‫يا شمس‬

‫اهال ً و وداعا‬ ‫ً‬

‫مس�ة تخترص حضورنا ليس فقط ف ي� الدنيا انما ف ي�‬ ‫انها ي‬ ‫ف‬ ‫ش‬ ‫حياة الب� اجمع‪ ..‬اول كلمة نتعلمها ي� صغرنا هي‬ ‫من هنا بدأت افهم رس العالقات االجتماعية‪«bye»!! ..‬‬ ‫ال احد يدوم انت فقط تدوم لنفسك‪ ..‬كل انسان يدخل‬ ‫حياتك لديه رسالة معينة كندما تنتهي هذه الرسالة‬ ‫س�حل لنستقبل اخر و هكذا دواليك‪..‬فوجودنا اليوم �ف‬ ‫ي‬ ‫ي‬ ‫ن‬ ‫حياة احدهم ال يع� ابدا اننا سنبقى اىل االبد الننا ان‬ ‫لم نرحل ف� نصف يالطريق ستكون لنا النهاية المحتمة �ف‬ ‫ي‬ ‫ي‬ ‫الرحيل‪ ..‬لم تأت اىل الدنيا سوى لنعاود الرحيل اىل دنيا‬ ‫السالم‬ ‫بالمخترص حياتنا عىل االرض عبارة عن استقبل ‪..‬‬ ‫ودع!!‬ ‫ن‬ ‫المع� التقليدي للكلمة‬ ‫عبارة «وداع» اليوم تتخطى‬ ‫ن‬ ‫يع� الموت ‪..‬‬ ‫الذي ي‬ ‫ف ي� ًكل مرة نبتعد فيها عن صديق‪ ،‬عندما يخرج احدهم‬ ‫من حياتنا‪ ،‬عندما يبتعد من كان سبب سعادتنا وعندما‬ ‫يخرج من كان امال لحياتنا‪ ،‬عندما يسافر احد منا ‪ ..‬اذا‬ ‫نحن نودع ف ي� جميع الحاالت‪ ..‬ففي كل مرة نخرص فيها‬ ‫احد نكون قد خرسنا قطعة من قلبنا وكالعادة نبقى‬ ‫اهالً‪ ases‬بانتظار اللقاء لنعاود القول من جديد‬

‫بقلم ماري‪-‬ميشال اسحق‬

‫‪Lorem ipsum dolor sit amet, an primis‬‬ ‫‪quodsi nam. Oratio appellantur ea per,‬‬ ‫‪vim ex ponderum insolens, an duo natum‬‬ ‫‪placerat senserit. Illum decore vim ex, vel te‬‬ ‫‪purto nusquam. Erant assentior persequeris‬‬ ‫‪et mel, id pri commodo tincidunt, eos‬‬ ‫‪novum oratio detraxit ex. Omnis dictas‬‬ ‫‪imperdiet ex vis.‬‬

‫ما كنت الرحل لوال ترصفات البعض و حب‬ ‫الخداع‪ ..‬الشمس لم تخن يوما عشاقها شت�ق ف ي�‬ ‫ض‬ ‫ت�ء‬ ‫كل يوم دون ملل او تعب‪ ..‬ترسل االمل و ي‬ ‫الدنيا ال تحجب نورها عن احد بحجة الزعل او ما‬ ‫ن ن‬ ‫فق�‬ ‫غ� او ي‬ ‫شابه هي وفية لخالقها‪ ..‬ال تفرق يب� ي‬ ‫عدو او صديق‬ ‫رئيس او مرؤوس ٍ‬ ‫محام او شيطان ٍ‬ ‫بل شت�ق بسحر اناقتها ورونق جمالها كاشفة مزاياها‬ ‫للدنيا اجمع‪ ..‬ماذا لو تمتع ش‬ ‫الب� بمثل هذه الصفة‬ ‫عىل المدى البعيد ‪ ..‬اصبح الوفاء قلة واالخالص‬ ‫شبه مستحيل‪.‬‬ ‫شكرا يا شمس النك وفية والن وفائك ال مثيل له‪..‬‬ ‫عجباً امر ش‬ ‫الب� لو يفكرون قليال ً فيما يملكون من‬ ‫نعم و صفات تغنيهم عن كنوز الدنيا‪..‬‬

‫بقلم ماري‪-‬ميشال اسحق‬

‫‪INTEREST‬‬

‫وإن كان هكذا الحال‬ ‫»ريتو عمرو ما يكون«‬

‫سف�تنا إىل النجوم حملت‬ ‫تم� غ ّنت سيدة الصباح هدأت النفس ورقصت الروح وطاب السمع‪ .‬أسطورة العرب غ ّنت لبنان والقدس والشام‪ .‬ي‬ ‫أ‬ ‫الحب‪ ،‬إىل العتب‪ ،‬إىل الوجع‪ ،‬إىل السالم‪ ،‬إىل الطبيعة‪ ،‬إىل‬ ‫الحب‪ .‬أنشدت قيثارة السماء الخالق‪ .‬إىل ّ‬ ‫بنغمها الحالم صوت الوطان وصوت ّ‬ ‫ف‬ ‫ف‬ ‫و�‬ ‫لبنان‪ ،‬أهدت يف�وز صوتها‪ .‬ك ّلما غ ّنت‪ ،‬أو أنشدت أو رتلت‪ ،‬كان الكالم عذب حلو ٌ‬ ‫متقن كان اللحن مبتكر منوط إيقاع ي� صخبه سالسة ي‬ ‫هدوئه سالم وطمأنينة‬ ‫موكأن أغنية يف�وز «مش كاين هيك تكون» من كلمات‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫ن‬ ‫بتببدل الزمان‪،‬‬ ‫استشعرت‬ ‫الرحبا�‬ ‫زياد‬ ‫وألحان‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫ي‬ ‫أ‬ ‫صحت صفة‬ ‫وتغ� إ‬ ‫النسان‪ ،‬وتشقلب الحوال‪ .‬وإن ّ‬ ‫يّ‬ ‫أ‬ ‫غنية بالمقارنة مع أرشيف‬ ‫السهل الممتنع عىل هذه ال ّ‬ ‫أ‬ ‫يصح مقارنتها‬ ‫بنانية فال ّ‬ ‫غنية ال ّل ّ‬ ‫يف�وز وأرشيف أكابر ال ّ‬ ‫أ‬ ‫ف‬ ‫خ�ة‪.‬‬ ‫ببعض أغنيات السهل الممتنع ي� السنوات ال ي‬ ‫تبدلت هي أيضاً‬ ‫والحجة‪« :‬مش هيك عم‬ ‫أغنيات ّ‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫بص�؟‬ ‫ي‬ ‫أ‬ ‫المرة خطا‬ ‫يس�‬ ‫ي‬ ‫عادة ما ي‬ ‫التغي� نحو الفضل وهذه ّ‬ ‫الحب‬ ‫وتغي ي� مفهوم ّ‬ ‫خطواته نحو تفكك العائلة ّ‬ ‫وتغليب المصلحة الفرديّة عىل المصلحة العامة‬ ‫والوطن‪ ،‬وتصغ� النسان عىل حساب أ‬ ‫الموال‬ ‫ي إ‬ ‫أ‬ ‫والمتاجرة بالكرامات‪ ،‬ونسيان الخالق ووالمبادئ‬ ‫والقيم والصفات الحسنة الحميدة‪ ،‬وانغالق عىل‬ ‫ف‬ ‫والنفتاح‬ ‫الذات ي� زمن العولمة إ‬ ‫يا ضيعان حب بوسع الكون‪ ،‬مجنون جنون الهوا‪«،‬‬ ‫تغ� شخصه‬ ‫ياضيعانن شو ما صار لكن راحوا»‪ .‬ي ّ‬ ‫تغ� الزمان فما عاد شل�ء قيمة‪ .‬ح�ت‬ ‫حبه‪ .‬ي ّ‬ ‫فتبدل ّ‬ ‫ي‬ ‫ف‬ ‫ض‬ ‫الما� كريمة ي� زيتونها‪،‬‬ ‫الطبيعة ماعادت كزمانها‬ ‫ي‬ ‫حلوة ف ي� ليمونها‪ ،‬دواء ف ي� ينسونها‪ .‬البيت ما عاد‬ ‫القرباء أ‬ ‫فسيحاً يملؤه أ‬ ‫والحباء الذين غابوا يوماً‬ ‫بعد يوم‪ .‬أغنية «مش كاين هيك تكون» تلجأ إىل‬ ‫الحوال أ‬ ‫التكرار تأكيداً عىل تبدل أ‬ ‫والشخاص والزمان‬ ‫والطبيعة‪ .‬عرصيّة ف ي� طابعها‪ ،‬إيقاعها رسيع‪ ،‬لكن‪،‬‬ ‫جلية لرؤية‬ ‫ورغم ِخفّة الكالم فهي تحمل رسالة ّ‬ ‫مستقبلية‪ .‬ما فات قد فات ولن يعود‪ ،‬وإن كان هكذا‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫الحال «ريتو عمرو ما يكون‬

‫بقلم مريم حرب‬

INTEREST

SMILING LAUGHING AND

‫ وصفحتنا لصارت‬..‫نب�جع ألحال الحلوين‬ ‫واجب‬ ‫ وبتغزل او بعاتب‬...‫قل� بْ ُخط دواوين‬ ‫من ب ي‬ ‫ وحسون ِبيقرا‬...‫الغزل ِك َّلو بيات بيات‬ ‫الكلمات‬ ‫بالمرا ِتب‬ َ ‫ ِوب ْن َج ِّدد‬...‫الل فات‬ ‫ِبن ْتذَ كر منها ي‬ ‫ عيلة حلوة صارت‬...‫ما ف ي� فرق وال ف ي� لون‬ ‫هون‬ ‫ ْويَ ْل فيها كلو كاتب‬....‫ألحال مجلة بالكون‬ ‫ انشاهلل دوم وعىل‬...‫وبالنهاية ّبدي قول‬ ‫طول‬ ‫ صاينها ْو َع َّنا‬....‫بْ ِيبقى الدكتور المسؤل‬ ‫نايب‬ ِ ‫ ابنة جنوبكم الحبيب‬:‫بقلم‬

‫ ي ن‬.‫صباح ع‬ �‫شاه‬

When life gives you lemons, smile because there is no sense in lamenting fate. Adopting a positive attitude is the best possible weapon to face the stress and pressures of life. It will help dispel all those negative vibes and set you in a better state of mind.

A smile makes you less stressed, live longer, be healthier and just have an all-around better attitude about life. It also affects others.

People will respond to your smile making you more likable. It allows you to connect and form bonds easier. You can never know just which opportunity your smile and air of positivity will reap.

Sometimes, life will bring you down low and steal your smile; so how can you get it back? You can start by smiling and laughing even when you don’t feel like it.

Your brain doesn’t register the difference between a genuine and fake smile, so you will end up feeling better regardless. You could surround yourself with amusing books and movies while staying away from grim shows such as the news. Don’t forget to be around those who make you happy

whether friends or family. You need to be around happy, positive, fun-loving and optimistic people to soak up their energy. In fact, you should try to see the upside in any situation and find a reason to be happy. And while you might not be a comedian, try telling jokes anyways. A small joke or funny anecdote livens up a conversation instantly. Being the funny person, not necessarily the clown, will get you ahead in life; it might even earn you that coveted raise.

Remember the old saying: “Laugh and the world laughs with you; weep and you weep alone”. If you want to keep your loved ones close and happy, you had better perk those lips up and smile for all you’re worth.

Written by Dr. Randa Saliba

OPENING

THE

GAME

Life is a stage where we come to perform our roles and then disappear silently to remain but a memory enclosed in the wings of time…

Life is indeed “nothing but a dream within a dream”…

One of the major customary dispute in this life is to be bounded with people who bogus love, friendship and even filial ties.

However, the hardest to live with, is the datum that no matter what those around you fake, you are unable to fit in, unable to adjust to, unable to subsist with…

The solitary reason for this whole conflict is that you can perceive their hypocrisy.

The only agony left is the one your higher emotional intelligence carries. The anguish which kills you from the inside when you wear their mask of ignorance and you smile…

‫لبنان يا قطعة سما‬ ‫هدهدني صوت فريوز‬ ‫استفزتني مواويل صباح‬ ‫ابكاني تغريد وديع‬ -

1 ‫يحدثوك عن وطن‬ ‫أحرفه براويز لوحات‬ ‫حفرتها أزاميل مبدعني‬ ‫لوّنتها أنامل ملهمني‬ ‫استباحوا مقوماته‬ ‫نهبوا خرياته‬ ‫هدموا بنيانه‬ ‫اقتلعوا أثاره‬ 2 ‫يحدثوك عن وطن‬ ‫غنّته حناجر فنانني‬ ‫يا ساكن العالي‬ ‫»و العالي اعتلى «الزبالة‬ ‫حوّلوا مسارحه مواخري ملذات‬ ‫جعلوا جامعاته مرتع جهالة‬ 3

You smile at shrewd people, at those of inferior IQ, at the oblivious, but above all at the backstabbers who pretend to be your closest friends.

And life goes on…

And you do not let them disturb you…

And you do perform their tragi-comedy…

And you do play their game…

‫يحدثوك عن وطن‬ ‫نشرت مطابعه امهات الكتب‬ ‫دوّن أدباؤه مطوالت امللراجع‬ ّ ‫خط شعراؤه عيون الدواوين‬ ‫التهمت طوائفه مفردات التسامح‬ ‫نهش زعماؤه مراقد العنزات‬ ‫»اقتلعوا «سكة الحديد‬ ‫قطارها يسري مستقيما‬

Play-acting to be the one who knows not what they hide behind their pretentious language….

And yet… you become an additional player in their game…

4 ‫لبنان يا اخضر حلو ؟‬ ‫أين الغابات ؟‬ ‫اين االشجار ؟‬

And yet… the singular dissimilarity is that you smile… you see… you distinguish… you win in the game of hypocrisy…

Written by Dr. Chantal Antoun

‫اين االودية ؟‬ ‫اين االنهار ؟‬ ‫شو ع بال الزعما‬ ‫والدهم بيشرتوا طيارات‬ ‫لبنا يا قطعة سما‬

‫ الياس عجاقة‬/‫باريس‬

‫‪INTEREST‬‬ ‫نور املسيح تج ّلى من مزاودنا‬ ‫شُهرا‬ ‫وسيفُ أحمدَ من صحرائنا‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ٌ‬ ‫حَمَل يف‬ ‫وهل سمعت بغاندي‪ ،‬إنه‬ ‫الهند ثار على الضرغام وانتصرا‬ ‫ْ‬ ‫يحفل وهزَّ لهمْ‬ ‫هزّوا الحسامَ فلم‬ ‫غصن السالم فهزَّ البحرَ والجزُرا‬ ‫وغادر السيف يحكي غِمْدَه ف َل ً‬ ‫ال‬ ‫لغصن ُّ‬ ‫يفل الصارمَ الذكرا‬ ‫فاعجبْ‬ ‫ٍ‬

‫يا صاحبَ الحق قد صاحبتَ‬ ‫مقتدِرا فال تخفْ ما صحبتَ الحقَّ‬ ‫مقتدِرا‬

‫نحن قرَّاء مجلتكم الحميمة «يا‬ ‫حلوين» يف موقعها األكرتوني‬ ‫َّ‬ ‫تَذكرْنا الرابطة القلمية التي كان‬ ‫من مؤسسيها شاعران شرقيان‬ ‫كبريان هما جربان خليل جربان‬ ‫وميخائيل نعيمة‪ .‬وقد َّ‬ ‫أثرا كثري ًا‬ ‫يف املجتمع الغربي حتى أن كتاب‬ ‫النبي الذي كتبه جربان باإلنكليزية‬ ‫كان كتاب ًا روحي ًا للغرب املتعطش‬ ‫للروح الشرقية وينابيعها الصافية‬ ‫الرقراقة‬ ‫واليوم نأمل أن تستمر مجلة «يا‬ ‫حلوين» بالصدور لتكمل رسالة‬ ‫الرابطة القلمية‪ ،‬وليعرف الغرب‬ ‫أن شرقنا هو مهد الديانات التي‬ ‫أخرجت البشرية من الظلمات إىل‬ ‫النور‪ .‬تحية من الشرق إىل مجلته‬ ‫الجميلة «يا حلوين» يف الغرب والتي‬ ‫نأمل أن تعاشر تلك األرواح الظامئة‬ ‫إىل النور‬

‫بقلم الشاعر عمر شبلي‬

‫رسالة حب وامتنان إىل‬ ‫مجلة يا حلوين‬ ‫سالم أيها الغالي الدكتور حسن فرحات الحامل‬ ‫مبضع القلم مع مبضع الطبيب لرفع إنسانية اإلنسان‪،‬‬ ‫واستئصال الداء الذي استشرى بالحضارة املقبلة على‬ ‫االنهيار إذا لم تعد لتلك التعاليم الروحية السامية التي‬ ‫ألقاها السيد املسيح على جبل الزيتون لتدل العالم وترشده‬ ‫إىل الينابيع الصافية التي لم نزل ننهل منها‪ ،‬وإىل تعاليم نبي‬ ‫الرحمة محمد بن عبد اهلل التي كان ّ‬ ‫يتلقى وحيها يف «غار‬ ‫حراء» والتي تجسدت بإتمام مكارم األخالق التي بشر بها‬ ‫األنبياء السابقون‪ ،‬وكان هذا النبي الذي وصفه اهلل بقوله‪:‬‬ ‫«وإنك لعلى خلق عظيم» هذا النبي الذي شبَّهَ ما جاء به‬ ‫عال نظيف كان الناس ينظرون إليه بإعجاب‬ ‫األنبياء ببناء ٍ‬ ‫ويتساءلون ملاذا هناك َل ِب ٌ‬ ‫نة ناقصة يف هذا البناء!! ويجيب‬ ‫نبي الرحمة أنا تلك َّ‬ ‫الل ِبنة‪ ،‬وأنا خاتم النبيّني‪ ،‬كم نحن‬ ‫بحاجة ملن يحمل شرقنا بكل ما فيه من حب وثقافة سالم‬ ‫إىل الغرب الذي بدأت مفاصل حضارته تتجمد البتعادها‬ ‫عن روح الشرق تلك الروح التي وصفها الشاعر القروي‬ ‫بقوله‬

‫آ‬ ‫العالم الخر‬ ‫ُ‬

‫نسان وال ُ‬ ‫وينضج‬ ‫‪،‬يك�‬ ‫يعرف شيئاً عن‬ ‫يولد إ‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫ال ُ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫الحياة ب ُ‬ ‫ب‬ ‫تجار‬ ‫د‬ ‫وتزدا‬ ‫والعودة‬ ‫الحياتية ليصبح مرتبطاً بالذّ كريات‪،‬‬ ‫ه‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫َ‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫إىل ض‬ ‫يجد‬ ‫جديد‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫‪.‬البعض ُ‬ ‫الما� لل ّتذكر‪ ،‬وعيش اللّحظة من ٍ‬ ‫ي‬ ‫آ‬ ‫ف‬ ‫فيجد فيها مرار ًة‬ ‫‪،‬أما‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫خر ُ‬ ‫ي� الذّ كريات غبطةً وأمال ً ّ‬ ‫البعض ال ُ‬ ‫أ‬ ‫وخيبةَ‬ ‫عرف عنه‪،‬‬ ‫أمل‪.‬كما ّ‬ ‫أن ال وجود ل ّي ٍ‬ ‫تاريخ يُ ّ‬ ‫بلد بدون ٍ‬ ‫وكذلك ٍ أ‬ ‫ةَ‬ ‫ماض يرتك ُز عىل‬ ‫بدون‬ ‫له‬ ‫ي‬ ‫هو‬ ‫ال‬ ‫نسان‬ ‫ال‬ ‫مع‬ ‫مر‬ ‫ال‬ ‫ِ ٍ‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫إ ِ‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫ت‬ ‫طاقةً‬ ‫الذّ‬ ‫الذّ‬ ‫إيجابيةً ف ي� حيا ِتنا نتسل ُّح‬ ‫كريات‬ ‫تكون‬ ‫كريات‪.‬م�‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫ت‬ ‫تكون الذّ كريات قاسيةً ال تحملُ‬ ‫بها‬ ‫لتكملة معركة الحياة‪ ،‬وم� ُ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫الس‬ ‫واالنعكاس‬ ‫ّلم‬ ‫ظ‬ ‫وال‬ ‫ارة‬ ‫ر‬ ‫الم‬ ‫غ�‬ ‫للمرء‬ ‫ل� عىل حيا ِته؟‬ ‫ي‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ّ بيّ‬

‫نسان دائماً وتجعلُه سعيداً‬ ‫تسيطر الذّ كريات‬ ‫فكر إ‬ ‫ال ِ‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫عىل ِ‬ ‫أ‬ ‫‪.‬يجلس المر ُء أحياناً‬ ‫ُمفعماً‬ ‫مل‬ ‫وال‬ ‫ة‬ ‫ي‬ ‫بالحيو‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫والغبطة ُ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ً‬ ‫نةً‬ ‫ماضيةً‬ ‫بالورود‬ ‫ي‬ ‫مز‬ ‫ه‬ ‫ت‬ ‫حيا‬ ‫جعلت‬ ‫ا‬ ‫أحداث‬ ‫ُّر‬ ‫ك‬ ‫ويتذ‬ ‫ُن‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫َ ّ‬ ‫ويصف ُ‬ ‫أ‬ ‫هل‪،‬‬ ‫واالبتسامات‪ ،‬ي‬ ‫وكث�اً ما ُ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫تكون هذه الذّ كريات تتعل ُّق بال ِ‬ ‫أ‬ ‫أ‬ ‫ّفولة وما‬ ‫نسان‬ ‫وال‬ ‫قارب‪.‬يتذك ُّر إ‬ ‫ال ُ‬ ‫ذكريات الط ِ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫صدقاء وال ِ‬ ‫وتفرح القلب‪.‬وهكذا‬ ‫نعش الذّ اكر َة‬ ‫أمور‬ ‫مضحكة تُ ُ‬ ‫ٍ‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫يُرافقُها من ٍ‬ ‫نسان من هذه الذّ كريات الجميلة طاقةً‬ ‫إيجابيةً ‪،‬‬ ‫يستمد إ‬ ‫ُّ‬ ‫ال ُ‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫والعطاء وال ّتأل ِّق‬ ‫للمثابرة‬ ‫الحياة‬ ‫‪.‬وحب‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫قدر ما ُ‬ ‫قدر ما‬ ‫تحمل الذكريات أحداثاً جميلةً ‪ ،‬عىل ِ‬ ‫عىل ِ‬ ‫ش‬ ‫تحمل أيضاً‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫‪.‬يجد‬ ‫مريرة‬ ‫الب� ُ‬ ‫تنعكس سلباً عىل ِ‬ ‫ذكريات ٍ‬ ‫ٍ‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫حياة ِ‬ ‫ف‬ ‫اليومي ِة‪.‬‬ ‫والهموم‬ ‫الحياة‬ ‫كريات عزا ًء لمشاكل‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫البعض ي� الذّ ِ‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫ت‬ ‫يعيشها ش‬ ‫ً‬ ‫الب�‬ ‫ّ�‬ ‫ل‬ ‫ا‬ ‫الحياة‬ ‫وأعباء‬ ‫أحمال‬ ‫عن‬ ‫ا‬ ‫ّس‬ ‫ف‬ ‫متن‬ ‫فهي‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ِ ي‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫الحزن‬ ‫الكث� من ال ّن ِاس عندما يتغل ُّب عليهم‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫ّكل يوم‪.‬يلجأ ي ُ‬ ‫الخلف‪ ،‬إىل زمن ض‬ ‫الما� وتذكّر أحداثاً‬ ‫إىل‬ ‫العودة‬ ‫واليأس إىل‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ي‬ ‫تلتئم بعد‪.‬والهدف هنا من‬ ‫مؤلمةً ‪ ،‬تركت آثاراً وجروحاً لم ِ‬ ‫الصعداء‪.‬‬ ‫الراحة‬ ‫النفسية وتنفّس ّ‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫التذكّر هو البكاء من أجل ّ‬ ‫تكون هذه الذّ‬ ‫عزيز أو‬ ‫شخص‬ ‫بفقدان‬ ‫ّق‬ ‫ل‬ ‫تتع‬ ‫كريات‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫ي‬ ‫وكث�اً ما ُ‬ ‫ٍ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ٍ‬ ‫أ‬ ‫ف‬ ‫العاطفي ِة‪ ،‬أو‬ ‫العالقة‬ ‫الخذالن ي�‬ ‫حباب بعد‬ ‫ال‬ ‫عن‬ ‫االنفصال‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫النسان معذّ باً‬ ‫‪،‬موجعة‬ ‫قاهرة‬ ‫بأحداث‬ ‫فك�‬ ‫وظالمة جعلت إ‬ ‫ٍ‬ ‫ٍ‬ ‫ٍ‬ ‫ٍ‬ ‫ال ّت ي ِ‬ ‫ومظلوماً ف� حياته ليصل إىل ما هو عليه النآ‬ ‫ي‬ ‫أن الذّ كريات‬ ‫يجا� ف ي�‬ ‫ل� أو إ‬ ‫ونخل ُ​ُص إىل ّ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫بانعكاسها ّ‬ ‫ال ب ي ّ‬ ‫الس ب ي ّ‬ ‫ف‬ ‫ض‬ ‫أوليةٌ‬ ‫نسان‪.‬لكن يجب‬ ‫حياة إ‬ ‫وأساسيةٌ ي� ِ‬ ‫ال ِ‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫حيا ِتنا هي �ور ٌة ّ‬ ‫عىل ِش‬ ‫إيجابي ٍة‪،‬‬ ‫طاقة‬ ‫يحولوا الذّ كريات المؤلمة إىل ٍ‬ ‫الب� أن ّ‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫ت‬ ‫ز‬ ‫أل ّن الحيا َة ديمومةٌ وإستمراريّةٌ ومدرسةٌ نتعل ُّم منها ونس� ُيد‪.‬‬ ‫نحن ش‬ ‫وبعض‬ ‫دروس‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫ي‬ ‫أخ�اً‪،‬عالق ُتنا مع الذّ ِ‬ ‫كريات ُ‬ ‫الب� ٌ‬ ‫الذّ كريات ف‬ ‫جرسها‬ ‫ق‬ ‫د‬ ‫و‬ ‫ة‬ ‫حص‬ ‫د‬ ‫مجر‬ ‫نا‬ ‫ت‬ ‫حيا‬ ‫�‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ّ ّ‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫ي‬

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WHAT MAKES US LONELY AND ISOLATED? Loneliness is a state of mind that creeps up on every one of us every once in a while.

Often, we can tell exactly why we feel so, but other times we just cannot pinpoint the reason. We can be in the middle of our families’ and friends’ circles, yet we feel cut off from everyone around us.

Several other situations may cause us to feel lonely. It could be being a victim of bullying, being shy or socially anxious, being away from home or sudden separation from loved ones and being unemployed. Any situation that would force us to stay home for prolonged periods of time can be harmful. Not only are we deprived of meeting new people, but we also feel as if we don’t have anything interesting to share with those around us. It can get so bad that we feel we are the only ones going through this, and that itself is perhaps the loneliest one can get.

A relationship ending can have devastating effects on us. We could feel as if we are not good enough to deserve to be loved; this can create serious self-esteem issues. Going back and adjusting into single life can be tough, so some of us will choose to be alone. As time goes by, we become lonely and unable to connect with anyone. It’s worse if we live in rural areas where there aren’t many people around to begin with which makes it even tougher.

There are a lot of coping strategies to deal with loneliness and isolation

depending on the causes. Some incidents are normal such as when we move to a new place. However, when we fail to realize what is causing these feelings, we need to start combating them any way we can. The best way is to get busy. Even if we are unemployed, we can always find some activity or another that costs little money to do.

We can even volunteer for a worthy cause. The most important thing to remember is that we are not alone.

Whatever crisis we are going through, others have been there and they survived. And even those who look happy might not have things as ideal as we think. So we need to be confident and attempt to stay surrounded with people we admire. It might be hard to cope with others when we are feeling low, but it’s best to keep the social ties strong.

Meanwhile, we need to work on ourselves. Whatever it is that is bringing us down needs to be faced. If we are facing a problem, we must work hard to solve it instead of just shying away.

We must persevere even when it looks as if we don’t have much chance of overcoming the odds. We can always take up new hobbies and interests to help boost our confidence. Another

important skill we all need to cultivate is enjoying our own company. It will feel weird at the beginning, but after a period of reflection, many of us will discover that we are content being alone. It can be very relaxing to get away from the hustle and bustle of our hectic lives. We should try not to worry about what we cannot change, and focus on those we can. We should only worry if we start to want to be alone all the time for a lengthy period. It could be a sign of depression which will require more aggressive steps. In that case, we should all reach out to those close to us and seek help.

We should all learn to take things in a simple way. Let go of all the negativity people throw at us, especially through social media, and focus on what’s happening now. We are constantly bombarded with negativity from all around, and we need to tune it out. We should all be careful what clubs we join and who we hang around with. With the superficiality of the world we live in, being in the wrong crowd can make us feel so lonely and isolated.

Written by Dr. Laurence Ajaka

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‫ُ‬ ‫يتخالط البشرُ مع بعضِهم وتنمو العالقاتُ‬ ‫واالرتباطاتُ على أنواعِها فيما بينهم‪.‬تبقى األمورُ‬ ‫ً‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫يحافظ على‬ ‫طبيعيّة يف التّعاطي إذا عرفَ الفردُ كيفَ‬ ‫جوهره‪ ،‬ومميّزاتِ شخصيّتِه وطبعِه‪ ،‬ويبقى محرتم ًا‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫اآلخر أمامَه‪.‬ويصبحُ‬ ‫وجهاتِ النّظر املختلفةِ للشّخص‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫التّحكمَ بحياةِ‬ ‫الجوُّ مشحون ًا بالتّوتر حني يقرّرُ اآلخرُ‬ ‫ً‬ ‫األصل عنهُ‪.‬ما املشاكل ا ّلتي‬ ‫نسخة طبقَ‬ ‫الغري وجعلها‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫َ‬ ‫اإلنسان‪ ،‬وكيف تنعكسُ سلب ًا على حياتِه‬ ‫يُواجهُها‬ ‫اليوميّةِ؟هل سيستطيعُ التّأق ُلم يف ّ‬ ‫ظل هذه األجواء‬ ‫الغامضة؟‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫تنشأ العالقات يف حياةِ اإلنسانِ مع مختلفِ‬ ‫كثري ًا ما‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫وتتطورُ‪ .‬ويصبحُ الفردُ أسري ًا لها‬ ‫البشر‬ ‫األجناس من‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫باألشخاص ا ّلذين تعوَّدَ عليهم‪ ،‬وأصبح ُ‬ ‫يكنُّ‬ ‫ومتع ّلق ًا‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ً‬ ‫محبّة كبري ًة مثل عالقة الصّداقة والحبّ وغريها‪.‬‬ ‫لهم‬ ‫تزدادُ ا ّللقاءات‪ ،‬وتمرّ السنني‪ ،‬وتنطوي الصّفحات‪ ،‬وال‬ ‫ً‬ ‫تبعيّة لآلخر يق ّلدُه يف ّ‬ ‫كل شيء‬ ‫يدري الفرد بأنّه أصبح‬ ‫ويتم ّثل به‪.‬غالب ًا ما نرى األصدقاء يتصرّفون ويرتدون‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫ويفكرون مثل بعضهم‪ ،‬وال يُدركون ماهيّة‬ ‫ويتك ّلمون‬ ‫خطر هذا الواقع ا ّلذي يعيشون فيه‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫اآلخر‬ ‫يتدخّل البعضُ يف حياةِ‬ ‫من ناحيةٍ أخرى‪،‬‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫نفسها‪ .‬وهنا يسيطر‬ ‫القيام باالشيا ِء‬ ‫ويشجّعونه على‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫غريه بإجبارهِ بطريقةٍ غري مباشرةٍ‬ ‫اإلنسان على حياةِ ِ‬ ‫ً‬ ‫نسخة طبق األصل عنه‪.‬ومع الوقت‪ ،‬يُمحي‬ ‫أن يكون‬ ‫َ‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫ويتحكمُ بحياتِه‬ ‫اآلخر ووجودِه‪،‬‬ ‫شخصيّة‬ ‫الصّديق‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫ويمتلكها‪.‬يف هذه األثنا ِء‪ ،‬ال يعي الطرف اآلخر مدى‬ ‫ً‬ ‫الصّديق‬ ‫خطورة الوضع‪ ،‬بل يبقى فرحا أنّه موجودٌ مع‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫املحبِّ ا ّلذي وضعَ ّ‬ ‫كل ثقته به وأمّنّهُ على حياتِه‪،‬‬ ‫ً‬ ‫عينه سرَقَ حريّتَه وجعلهُ سجينا عنده‬ ‫وبالوقتِ ِ‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫تبدأ الصراعاتُ‪ ،‬وتهبُّ الرّياحُ‪ ،‬وتُكشفُ‬ ‫من هنا‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫عميق حني‬ ‫سباتٍ‬ ‫من‬ ‫الفردُ‬ ‫ويستيقِظ‬ ‫الحقائقُ‪،‬‬ ‫ٍ‬ ‫صاحبه ال أكثر وال ّ‬ ‫يكتشفُ أنّه مرآ ٌة تعكسُ ّ‬ ‫أقل‪.‬‬ ‫ظل‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫نفسه‪ ،‬ويح ّل ُل ويستنتجُ َ‬ ‫أن جميعَ‬ ‫ويعودُ الفردُ إىل‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ً‬ ‫ً‬ ‫مطبوعة‬ ‫ورقة‬ ‫واملشاكل سببُها جعل النّفس‬ ‫األخطا ِء‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ومسح من هو فقط‬ ‫الرضائِه‪،‬‬ ‫اآلخر‬ ‫عن‬ ‫األصل‬ ‫طبق‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫خادع‬ ‫مل‬ ‫ا‬ ‫الصّديق‬ ‫حياةِ‬ ‫يف‬ ‫ليبقى‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫إذ ًا‪ ،‬يجبُ معاشر ُة الشّخص املناسب ا ّلذي يحرتمُني‬ ‫وال يطلبُ منّي تقليده وإلغاء شخصيّتي الرضائِه‪ ،‬فمن‬ ‫ً‬ ‫حقيقة يقدّرُ شخصيّتي ونقاط االختالفِ بيننا‪،‬‬ ‫أحبّني‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫التدّخل يف حياتي‬ ‫بدون‬ ‫وسلبيّاتي‬ ‫إيجابيّاتي‬ ‫ويتقبّل‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫الشخصيّةِ‪ ،‬ويكون السّبب يف اقرتايف األخطاء وجعلي‬ ‫األطالل‬ ‫تذوّق الفشل والندم والتّعاسة والبكاء على‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫‪،‬أقول ُ‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫كنْ أنتَ أو أنتِ وال تسمح أن تكون‬ ‫الختام‬ ‫يف‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ً‬ ‫تبعيّة ألحدٍ فقط إلرضائِه‪ ،‬وال تغيّر جوهرَك وتشوّه‬ ‫غريك‪ ،‬بل‬ ‫هويّتك ا ّلتي أعطاكَ ايّاها اهلل لتكون مميّز ًا عن ِ‬ ‫بفرح وثقةٍ وحريّةٍ‪،‬‬ ‫تمسَّكْ بها وتوهّجْ‪ ،‬وعِشْ حياتك‬ ‫ٍ‬ ‫بنفسك ُ‬ ‫كالعصفور ّ‬ ‫ألن الحريّة هي‬ ‫وكنْ حرّ ًا‬ ‫وافتخرْ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫االستقالل والسّجن هو االحتالل‬

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‫الرضية الشاسعة والواسعة ‪،‬والمتمايدة أ‬ ‫أحبا� وأعز ئا� عىل امتداد هذه الكرة أ‬ ‫ئ‬ ‫والمص� ‪ ،‬والهدف ‪ .‬نحن ف ي� زمن نحسد عليه‬ ‫الطراف ‪ ،‬حيث تجمعنا وحدة الموقف‬ ‫ي‬ ‫ي‬ ‫إىل ي‬ ‫ف‬ ‫أك� منه ‪ ،‬تتسع الكل دون استثناء‬ ‫‪ �،‬زمن إ‬ ‫كب� وواسع ولكن قلوبنا ب‬ ‫ال تن�نيت وتطور أساليب االتصال والتواصل وإيصال المعلومة إىل أصحابها حيثما ُوجدوا ‪ ..‬عالم ي‬ ‫ي‬ ‫أ‬ ‫والخالص‬ ‫ما عدا الذين يتبعون أهواءهم وأهواء الشيطان وال يريدون سماع صوت الحق ‪ ،‬والكلمة الطيبة ‪ ،‬والصادقة والمينة ‪ ،‬النابعة من القلب المفعم بالحب إ‬ ‫المنتجب� أ‬ ‫ين‬ ‫الخيار ‪ ،‬وإىل جميع ش‬ ‫ال�فاء‬ ‫ن� الرحمة وأخو عيىس(ع) ابن مريم رسول المحبة وأهل بيته وأصحابه‬ ‫ور ِ‬ ‫هلل ُ‬ ‫سله وأنبيائه أ ‪ ،‬وإىل أخاتم أنبيائه محمد(ص) ب ي‬ ‫ف‬ ‫ش‬ ‫ً‬ ‫ً‬ ‫ومستمدا إال من دماءالشهداء الذين ينالون �ف الشهادة ي� كل يوم عىل امتداد الكرة‬ ‫ف ي� أمة العرب‪ ،‬والمم الخرى ‪ .‬إن أساس محبتنا وقوتها وثباتها ليس نابعا‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫أ‬ ‫أ‬ ‫ال� خلقها هللا لنا جميعا ت‬ ‫ت‬ ‫ش‬ ‫الخ� الذي أُ ِم ْرنا‬ ‫ح� نفعل ي‬ ‫ال ّ‬ ‫رضية من أجل إعالء كلمة الحق ‪ ،‬الكلمة الجامعة والوافدة إىل أكل إنسان �يف يسكن هذه الرض المباركة ي‬ ‫ين‬ ‫شياط� الرض‬ ‫ولك نسعى جاهدين للمحافضة عليها من دنس‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫بفعله ي‬ ‫ال�وع ف� إصالح آ‬ ‫ين‬ ‫وتحص� أنفسنا أوال قبل ش‬ ‫الخرين‬ ‫كب�ة جداً ‪ ،‬تحتاج إىل العمل الدؤوب دون كلل وتعب ودون شك او تشكيك بقدرتنا عىل إصالح‬ ‫إن المسؤولية ي‬ ‫ي‬ ‫يا أيّها ُ‬ ‫لنفسكَ كان ذا التعليم‬ ‫غ� ُه هال ّ ِ‬ ‫الرجل المعل ُِّم ي َ‬ ‫ت‬ ‫عظيم‬ ‫فعلت‬ ‫عار عليكَ إذا‬ ‫مثله‬ ‫وتأ� ُ‬ ‫ال َ‬ ‫َ‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫ٌ‬ ‫تنه عن ُخل ٍُق ي َ‬ ‫العىل آ‬ ‫علينا ان نكون المثل أ‬ ‫«فالخلق‬ ‫مدعو ف ي� مجاله وعمله وأين ما تواجد بغض النظر عن مستواه وتحصيله العلمي و جنسه وعرقه ودينه‪،‬‬ ‫للخرين كل واحد منا‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫ٌّ‬ ‫ُّهم ُ‬ ‫اليمان بهذه النفس أوال ً وما لها علينا من حق الن النفس تخص‬ ‫أنفعهم‬ ‫لعياله» ‪ .‬إن تهذيب النفس وإصالحها ال يكون اال من خالل إ‬ ‫وأحبهم إىل هللا ُ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫كل ْ‬ ‫عيال هللا‪ُّ ،‬‬ ‫أ‬ ‫ش‬ ‫لبد ِنكَ عليك حقا»‪ ،‬انها نفس معنوية يغ� ملموسة ليس باستطاعتنا ان نعيها وان نقيمها بالشكل المناسب لننا ب� لم‬ ‫إن لنفسك عليك حقاً‪ ،‬وإن َ‬ ‫الخالق ال يغ� « ّ‬ ‫نرق بعد إىل مرتبة فوق ش‬ ‫ر� ‪ ،‬وما أوتيتم من العلم إال ّ قليال» صدق هللا العظيم‬ ‫َ‬ ‫الب� «يسألونك عن الروح قل ُ‬ ‫الروح من أمر ب ي‬ ‫ف‬ ‫ن‬ ‫ب� آدم‬ ‫ور َها َوتَق َْو َ‬ ‫لقد تحدث الخالق عنها ي� محكم كتابه الكريم ‪َ »:‬ونَف ٍْس َو َما َس َّو َ‬ ‫اها * َفأَ ْل َه َم َها ف ُ​ُج َ‬ ‫اها ﴾ وهللا ّ‬ ‫كر َم ي‬ ‫آ‬ ‫عض َنا من بعض وان نمد اليد إىل الخرين الذين ال يعرفوننا ولم يطلعوا بعد عىل هدفنا‬ ‫فلنضع يا حلوين جانباً كل ما يفرقنا ويبعدنا ونعمل عىل ما يجمعنا ويقرب بَ َ‬ ‫ف ي� هذه الحياة‪ ،‬بل قد سمعوا ِب َنا من خالل القيل والقال ومن خالل صفحات التواصل االجتماعي والوسائل االخرى ‪ ،‬وال تزال يغ� واضحة للبعض منهم من ان‬ ‫ف‬ ‫ف‬ ‫و� كل قارة ‪ ،‬ان أغلبهم ال نراهم بل يروننا ويرون اعمالنا وأفعالنا وإنهم بانتظار أسلوب الهداية الربانية ومباركة السماء‬ ‫«الحلوين» موجودون ي� كل مدينة وبلد ي‬ ‫ت‬ ‫ن‬ ‫ب� نب� ش‬ ‫البص�ة باهلل وبالقدر‬ ‫الب�‪ .‬الرؤية‬ ‫تس� بخطى ثابتة ورؤية ثاقبة منبثقة من إيمان عميق‪ ،‬إ‬ ‫ي‬ ‫فاليمان ِّ‬ ‫ال� ي‬ ‫يهد ف ُم الفواصل والجدران ي ي‬ ‫لالنضمام إىل هذه القافلة ي‬ ‫ون ‪َ ،‬ما أَنْ َت ِب ِن ْع َم ِة َربِّكَ‬ ‫لك تكتسح الساحات والميادين وسالحها الوحيد القلم ال يغ� ‪ .‬الذي ّ‬ ‫تحدث تعاىل عنه ي� محكم كتابه « ن َوا ْل َقل َِم َو َما يَ ْسط ُ​ُر َ‬ ‫المرسوم لها ي‬ ‫أ‬ ‫ن‬ ‫َ‬ ‫ح� قال «‪ :‬قيدوا العلم بالكتاب «‪ .‬ان هدفنا من انطالق هذا العمل الشاق والمتعب والممتع المتمثل‬ ‫ون « وصدق رسولنا الكريم ي‬ ‫ون ‪َ ،‬و ِإ َّن لَكَ ل ْج ًرا غ ي ْ َ​َ� َم ْم ُن ٍ‬ ‫ِب َم ْج ُن ٍ‬ ‫ال� ن‬ ‫واالنكل�ية ت‬ ‫يز‬ ‫تمثل� وتمثل كل الحلوين عىل اختالف عقائدهم وبالدهم ولغاتهم هو إيصال صوتنا ش‬ ‫ال� ق ي� وثقافتنا إىل‬ ‫العربية‬ ‫باللغة‬ ‫حلوين»‬ ‫«‬ ‫يا‬ ‫مجلة‬ ‫بإنشاء‬ ‫ي‬ ‫ي‬ ‫آ‬ ‫نعرف ونطلع مجتمعاتنا عىل الثقافات الخرين ‪ ،‬خالصة الكالم نأخذ ونعطي لعل وعىس أن تنفع الذكرى « وذك ِّْر فإن الذكرى تنفع»‬ ‫العالم االخر ‪ ،‬ومن اجل ان ٌ‬ ‫َ‬ ‫لنصل إىل مجتمع جامع للكل متعدد اللغات واالعراق ‪ ،‬ولكنه مؤمن بأنسانية االنسان فقط ال يغ� ‪ .‬حيث أشار القران الكريم إىل قوله تعإىل ‪ « :‬يَا أيُّ َها ال َّن ُاس ِإنَّا‬ ‫ف‬ ‫ف‬ ‫ث‬ ‫عل (ع) ‪»:‬‬ ‫َخ َل ْق َناكُم ِّمن َذك ٍَر َوأُ َن� َو َج َع ْل َناك ُْم ُش ُعوبًا َوق َ​َبا ِئ َل ِل َت َع َارفُوا ِإ َّن أَك َْر َمك ُْم ِع َند الل َِّه أَتْقَاك ُْم ِإ َّن الل َ​َّه َع ِل ٌيم َخ ِب ي ٌ�»‪ .‬وأننا اخوة ي� االنسانية كما جاء ي� قول االمام ي‬ ‫ف‬ ‫ف‬ ‫نظ� لك ي� الخلق‬ ‫الناس صنفان‪ ،‬اما اخ لك ي� الدين او ي‬ ‫ص�اً ووعياً ورؤية واضحة ‪ ،‬وبحاجة إىل ث‬ ‫متطوع� ‪ ،‬وإىل ي ن‬ ‫ين‬ ‫مؤمن� بهذه الرسالة‬ ‫اك� من من شخص للقيام بهذا العمل ‪ ،‬وإىل‬ ‫ان انطالق اي عمل من هذا النوع يتطلب ب‬ ‫ال� تهدف إىل صياغة تاريخنا وماضينا ‪ ،‬وتقديمه إىل آ‬ ‫ت‬ ‫الخرين‬ ‫المقدسة ‪ ،‬ي‬ ‫الخر ‪ ..‬ان المجلة تهتم حالياً أ‬ ‫ال�ق عىل تاريخ وثقافة آ‬ ‫بطريقة سلسة وممتعة ومنفتحة ومنقّحة ‪ .‬وأننا سنسعى إىل اطالع شعوبنا ف ي� ش‬ ‫بالدب والشعر والفن ‪ ،‬والصحة‪،‬‬ ‫وجانب للتسلية ‪ ،‬عناوين تقع ف ي� خانة اليف ستايل ‪ ...‬الحقاً مع مرور الوقت وطبعاً بدعم من الكتاب الكرام والشعراء ان ش ئ‬ ‫نن� مجلة « يا حلوين» المختصة بالشعر‬ ‫أ‬ ‫والدب‪ .‬ومجلة يا « حلوين» المختصة ب اليف ستايل ‪ ،‬المدعومة من شباب وشابات يا حلوين‬ ‫كب�ة جداً ولكن االعتماد عىل هللا وأنفسنا سيخف منها ويسهل المهمة طبعاً اذا أخلصنا النية الصادقة ‪ ،‬اننا ال ننطق اال بالحق وال نهدف اال إىل‬ ‫التحديات ستكون ي‬ ‫منارصة الضعيف ‪ ،‬ومساعدة الفقراء من خالل الكلمة الطيبة والصادقة ‪ .‬أكرر ليس هناك ش‬ ‫�ء يعرف بالمستحيل ف ي� عالم الوجود سمح به الخالق ‪ ،‬وباركه ان كان هذا‬ ‫ي‬ ‫المتن�‬ ‫العمل يَ ْصب ف ي� سبيل اعالء صوته وايصال تعاليم كتبه المقدسة والسمحاء ‪ .‬عىل رأي ابو الطيب‬ ‫يب‬ ‫ت‬ ‫تأ� العزائم وتـأتـي عىل قدر الكريم الكرائم‬ ‫عىل قدر أهل العزم ي‬ ‫الصغ� صغارها وتصغر ف� ي ن‬ ‫وتك� ف� ي ن‬ ‫ع� العظيم العظائم‬ ‫ع�‬ ‫ي‬ ‫ي‬ ‫ب ي‬ ‫وفق هللا كل نفس تعي ن‬ ‫مع� النفس وتعي ما هي مهمتها وماهيتها وأين مستقرها وخلودها ‪ .‬ان هللا يقّدر كل نفس تهذب نفسها قبل التحدث وإعطاء دورس ف ي�‬ ‫آ‬ ‫أ‬ ‫التهذيب إىل االنفس االخرى‪ ،‬ويبارك كل نفس تتحىل َ‬ ‫بالخالق قبل إعطاء دورس باالخالق للخرين ‪ ،‬ويحفظ كل نفس مؤمنة به وال تقرب الشيطان الجامع كل‬ ‫ش‬ ‫الصفات يغ� الحميدة‪ .‬سدد هللا خطى كتاب مجلة يا « حلوين» وحفظ هللا قراءها من كل �‬

‫دكتور حسن فرحات‬

Love IS

ALL THAT MATTERS?

Society has long idolized love as some sacred concept capable of brushing aside all of the life’s hardships. The culture, from books and movies to history and folklore, all identify it as the ultimate goal in one’s life worthy of all pain and struggle. This unrealistic portrayal of love has caused us to overestimate its worth to the point it has negatively affected our relationships.

When we operate under the misconception that “All we need is love”, we are ignoring other core values such as respect, humility, and commitment to our relationship. It makes us lazy because we use that excuse to push all the hard stuff under the rug. However, if we operate under the concept that “Love is not enough”, then we are mature and aware enough to realize that strong healthy relationships require plenty of work. We need to show those in our lives more than love so that we cement these relationships over deeper values.

The real danger lies in that love will create unrealistic expectations. One or both would expect the flame of passion to keep roaring, and this will sabotage everything with meaningless fights and hurtful accusations.

We must bear in mind that love isn’t synonymous to compatibility; we can end up falling in love with someone that is our complete opposite. This will create many problems, but love has never been a logical process; it’s a tumultuous random one. We might end up in abusive relationships with partners that mistreat us and make us feel bad about ourselves. Our partners might be damaged themselves and need to destroy our equilibrium to bring us down into their own blend of chaos. They might not always be destructive just different! They have a completely altered view of life with a distinct set of ambitions and beliefs than us. For example, we might want to have a family and settle down while they want to travel the world and explore without the burden of children and commitments. So we might very well end up with the paradox of being in love with partners that suck the joy

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out of our lives.

When looking for a partner, the mind needs to have its saying. While we all want those that give us butterflies in our stomachs, we also need to look deeper into who they are, their values, how they treat themselves and others, what life goals they have, their view on important issues… If these are too different, we might become involved in a highly dysfunctional relationship.

Love doesn’t solve any problems. At the beginning, when the passion is running high, we might tend to forgive easily and let things slide. But once the haze over our eyes is cleared, we find it hard to deal with problems when there is no stable and practical foundation of respect and understanding. The same passion that made us so forgiving will turn tides and make every little misunderstanding swell into a huge issue.

Some of us believe that love is worth sacrificing everything and everyone for, so we end up compromising ourselves and staying despite being abused. It’s true that love is all about compromise, and compromise usually means sacrificing one thing or another for the sake of maintaining harmony.

It’s actually a very healthy approach.

The danger is when we end up giving up core values such as self-respect and dignity just for the sake of the other people’s happiness. Love is supposed to complement our individuality not erase it. If we ever find ourselves giving up who we are just to keep the relationship going, then it’s best to leave before we become shells of our old selves.

The true test of love is an enduring friendship. No matter how intense the fires of passion are, they will eventually burn down. That is when we will need

the bond of friendship to keep the relationship strong and alive. We must treat our partners as we would our best friends. We must be able to spend time with them, communicate in an open manner and have as much fun and laughs as we would with our friends.

Some might argue that we cannot tolerate the bad behavior we take from our friends from our partners. But then again why do we tolerate much worse abuse from partners and keep trying desperately to hold on to a broken relationship?

In the end, it’s all about what we accept and what we don’t whether from a friend or a partner. We have to choose a standard and demand it be respected.

We will form connections with people who are good for us and those who are bad. We will have healthy relationships and some that are simply toxic. Love is rarely a one-time experience. We can fall in love when we are 8 and again when we are 80. But once we lose a part of our soul and identity, it might take us years and decades to gain it back, if we ever do.

Life would never be quite complete and satisfying without a wild abandoned loving experience. It’s normal that we all aspire for that, but it cannot be the only defining experience in our lives.

Love shouldn’t consume us to the exclusion of everything else. Love might be beautiful and essential, but it never was nor will it ever be enough!

Written by Dr. Laurence Ajaka

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LOVE SHOULDN’T CONSUME US TO THE EXCLUSION OF EVERYTHING ELSE. LOVE MIGHT BE BEAUTIFUL AND ESSENTIAL, BUT IT NEVER WAS NOR WILL IT EVER BE

ENOUGH!

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‫يا عنرت مني عنرتك؟‬ ‫عنرتت وما حدا ردني!‬ ‫متحج َرة رجعية‪ ،‬تستضعف المرأة‪ ،‬تهينها‪ ،‬تذلها‪ ،‬تع ّنفها ‪ ،‬تستكردها‪ ،‬تقتلها‬ ‫الجاهلية‪ .‬عقلية رجال‬ ‫الجاهلية إنّما هذا عقل‬ ‫لسنا ف ي� عرص‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫القوان� ت‬ ‫ن‬ ‫ين‬ ‫س�دع كل من نزع عنه صفة‬ ‫النسان وال‬ ‫وتتغ�‬ ‫العالن العالمي لحقوق إ‬ ‫بالرجولية‪ .‬المرأة سلعة شت�ى وتباع بمفهوم بعض الرجال‪ .‬ال إ‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫نسانية‬ ‫إ‬ ‫‪.‬ال ّ‬ ‫وإخضاع‬ ‫َع ِّرف المواثيق‬ ‫الدولية َ‬ ‫معنوي يقوم به طرف بهدف استغالل ْ‬ ‫العنف أنه كل اعتداء جسدي أو ْ‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫آ‬ ‫الخر ف� إطارعالقة يغ� متكاف َئة اقتصاديّاً واجتماعياً وسياسياً مما يتسبب ض‬ ‫نفسية أو‬ ‫أو‬ ‫ة‬ ‫ي‬ ‫جسد‬ ‫ار‬ ‫بأ�‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫ي‬ ‫�ض‬ ‫وال ْع ِتداء‬ ‫والش ْت َم وال ب وال َق ْتل ِإ‬ ‫معنويّة أو ماديّة أو إنتقاصاً من كرامته إ‬ ‫الس َّب َ‬ ‫ال ّ‬ ‫نسانية‪ .‬والعنف يشمل َ‬ ‫الطفال أيضاً‪ ،‬ما يشكل تهديداً لسالمة أ‬ ‫العن ُف ال يدمر المرأة نفسياَ وجسدياَ فحسب بل أ‬ ‫الُرسة فالوطن‬ ‫ُْ‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫َُ ّ َ‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫ن‬ ‫ن‬ ‫ّبنا� ولم يتمكن من استئصاله ت‬ ‫ح� مع حمالت التوعية‬ ‫العنف ّ‬ ‫يعا� منه المجتمع الل ي‬ ‫ضد المرأة ورم مزمن ي‬ ‫المعنية منارصة للحقوقها‬ ‫الجمعيات‬ ‫وتحرك‬ ‫ات‬ ‫والتظاهر‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫ال�بية عىل العنف ال ّتولد إال ّ العنف‪ ،‬ت‬ ‫ت‬ ‫إن تجذّ ر عادات تبيح وتحلل الهيمنة الذكوريّة‪ ،‬وانتشار أفكار‬ ‫ح� ّ‬ ‫أ‬ ‫القتصاديّة كلّها أسباب يُ ب َ َّ�ر فيها‬ ‫بالضافة إىل العباء والمشاكل إ‬ ‫تعيب المرأة يوم تدافع عن نفسها‪ ،‬إ‬ ‫ح�ام أ‬ ‫ف‬ ‫ال ت‬ ‫والخالق وغياب قانون رادع‬ ‫العنف ضد المرأة ي� ظل إنعدام إ‬ ‫أ‬ ‫ف‬ ‫ّ ش‬ ‫ياس ّية‪ .‬ليس هذا فحسب إذ هناك‬ ‫عملية‬ ‫إصالحية‪ ،‬يكمن ي� توفْر إ‬ ‫الس ِ‬ ‫الرادة ِ‬ ‫ساس أمام ّ‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫أي ّ‬ ‫إن ال�ط ال ي‬ ‫ف‬ ‫وتوعية الجيل الصاعد ي� المدارس والجامعات‪ ...‬وتوسيع‬ ‫جملة من الحلول ‪ -‬كتعزيز ثَقافَة ُحقوق المرأة‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫المد�‪ ،‬وتعديل قانون أ‬ ‫ن‬ ‫الحوال الشخصية وإنشاء محكمة تع�ن‬ ‫ين‬ ‫القوان� المد ِن ّية والقَضاء‬ ‫الحية‬ ‫َص ّ‬ ‫ّ ِ‬ ‫ي‬ ‫أ‬ ‫أ‬ ‫معاي� واضحة للعنف الرسي تُ َع َم ْم عىل وزارة الصحة‬ ‫ال‬ ‫داخل‬ ‫ف‬ ‫ن‬ ‫الع‬ ‫بقضايا‬ ‫رسة‪ ،‬إ‬ ‫بالضافة إىل َو ْضع ي‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ْ‬ ‫َ‬ ‫أ‬ ‫أ‬ ‫ال� ي ن‬ ‫والطباء ش‬ ‫والقضاء‬ ‫العدلية‬ ‫المختصة‪ ،‬وتدريب وتأهيل القوى الظابطة‬ ‫جهزة‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫عي� وكافَة المحاكم وال َ‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫أ‬ ‫ال� ي ن‬ ‫ين‬ ‫أن ما يلزمنا هو العمل عىل‬ ‫والمحامي� والطباء ش َ‬ ‫الع ْن ِف وضحاياه ‪ -‬إال ّ ّ‬ ‫عي� عىل ك َْي ِف ّية التعامل مع ُ‬ ‫‪.‬تطبيقها برسعة وبجديّة‬ ‫ات هن ت‬ ‫ات هن ت‬ ‫عام من‬ ‫عام‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫لن التعنيف‪ٌ .‬‬ ‫وبش� الطرق‪ .‬ي‬ ‫ي‬ ‫قتلن ت ّ‬ ‫ونصف ٍ‬ ‫اللوا� ّ‬ ‫تحم َ‬ ‫وكث� ٌ ّ‬ ‫اللوا� َ‬ ‫كث� ٌ َّ‬ ‫ي‬ ‫ي‬ ‫أن يول َ​َد القانون المنتظر‪ ،‬وإذا به يستوجب التعديل‬ ‫النيابية‬ ‫المخاض داخل اللجنة‬ ‫ّبنانية قبل ْ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫الفرعية الل ّ‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫أ‬ ‫رسة‬ ‫النساء‬ ‫«حماية‬ ‫الرسميةُ قانون‬ ‫لنواقصه وشوائبه‪ .‬فبتاريخ ‪ 2015/5/15‬نَ ش� ْت الجريدة‬ ‫وسائر أفر ِاد ال ِ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫أ‬ ‫من العنف أ‬ ‫ف‬ ‫الحماية‪ ،‬بل أرفقَها بأفراد الرسة‪ ،‬قانون ال‬ ‫يخص المرأة ي�‬ ‫الرسي» يحمل رقم ‪.293‬‬ ‫ٌ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ِْ‬ ‫قانون لم ّ‬ ‫إن َخرق بنداً من بنوده‬ ‫يعرضه للمالحقَة والتوقيف ْ‬ ‫‪.‬يَسجن ُ‬ ‫الم َع ِّن ُف إنّما ّ‬ ‫ال� تحمي المرأة أ‬ ‫ت‬ ‫والوالد داخل نز‬ ‫مبلغ‬ ‫الم�ل‪ ،‬وتبعد ُ‬ ‫وأية بنود هي ي‬ ‫الم َع ِّن ْف عنهم وتلزمه ّأوال ً تسليف ٍ‬ ‫ين‬ ‫الشخصية‬ ‫ممتلكات المرأة‬ ‫وثانياً تسليم‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫لتأم� المرصوف ّ‬ ‫«الت�ددي بلّغي عن أي إهمال بحقك ف� الحماية من العنف أ‬ ‫أيّتها المرأة المع ّنفة ت‬ ‫ئ‬ ‫المتلك ف ي�‬ ‫الرسي» أل ّن‬ ‫ي‬ ‫أ‬ ‫أ‬ ‫ت‬ ‫ال� تُ َج ّرمه‪ .‬نعم قانون الحماية من العنف الرسي وضع‬ ‫أداء ّ‬ ‫مهمته من قوى المن سيحاسب َوف َْق المادة ي‬ ‫قوى أ‬ ‫الداخل أمام مسؤولياتها وواجباتها‪ ،‬نعم الدولة ت�ض ب بيد من حديد وتحاسب‪ ،‬والقضاء‬ ‫من‬ ‫ال‬ ‫ي‬ ‫الضاءة‬ ‫إن من خالل إ‬ ‫عالم ومواقع التواصل إ‬ ‫قانون ما أبرص النور لوال الدور الذي لعبه إ‬ ‫ال ُ‬ ‫الجتماعي‪ْ ،‬‬ ‫توعية‬ ‫عىل‬ ‫الحرص‬ ‫خالل‬ ‫من‬ ‫ن‬ ‫وإ‬ ‫‪،‬‬ ‫بحقوقهن‬ ‫والمطالبة‬ ‫نسوتهن‬ ‫ووحشية بعض الرجال تجاه‬ ‫عىل بربريّة‬ ‫َّ‬ ‫َّ‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫المجتمع من هذه آ‬ ‫الفة ت‬ ‫ال� تنهشه‬ ‫ي‬ ‫أ‬ ‫أ‬ ‫ف‬ ‫ن‬ ‫ش‬ ‫عنوان� الصحف وافتتاحيات ن�ات الخبار ي� الشهر القليلة الماضية‬ ‫لم يعد العنف ضد المرأة يتصدر‬ ‫ي‬ ‫ربّما أل ّن الموضوع لم يعد حديث الساعة لك ّنه حتماً ليس خوفاً من العقاب والدليل قضية رىل يعقوب‬

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NOKIA

TECHNOLOGY

Nokia: “we didn’t do anything wrong, but somehow, we lost”. A potential come back after two decades.

HMD is supported by a gathering of global private-value benefactors through an asset called Smart Connect, and in addition by HMD’s administration group. The endeavor will be controlled by Arto Nummela, a previous Nokia supervisor and current leader of Microsoft’s Mobile Devices business for Asia, Middle East and Africa and its element telephone business.

Florian Seiche, likewise a previous Nokia official and current Microsoft director, will be president at HMD. The endeavor will make cell phones running Android, furthermore arranges tablets and less expensive, alleged component telephones. FIH Mobile, a portion of Foxconn Technology Group, will fabricate the devices.

We all know that Nokia was a leading company in the mobile industry. For many years Nokia was building the most prestigious phones ever.

Unfortunately, the company missed out on learning and changing. Thus they lost an opportunity on hand to make it big. One of my teachers at school use to say: “He who does not advance receded”.

This was the case of Nokia. Nowadays, technology improvement was way faster than Nokia’s. Since then, Nokia started sinking in the mobile industry to a point where it lost all chances of surviving.

In April 2014, Microsoft acquired Nokia Devices and Services Business for the improvement and innovation on mobile-first, cloud-first world, as stated by Satya Nadella CEO of Microsoft.

According to the information handed to NPU, the Nokia C1 may come in two different size variants which will broadly share a spec sheet, but will have different camera tech, RAM, and onboard storage. The display size is quoted at either 5.5in or 5in both with Full HD resolution. The 5in model will have 2GB of RAM with 32GB of storage space and an 8MP camera, while the larger 5.5in has 3GB RAM, a 13MP camera and 64GB onboard storage. Both will feature 5MP front-facing secondary cameras. As for the software, it’s going to be Android-based, although we’d expect it won’t get away clean and will likely have Nokia UI stuff put on top. There’s also going to be Windows 10 variants in select markets, allegedly.

Nokia has learned from its mistakes and is preparing for a huge come back to the hand held devices industry. As it was mentioned by Steve Ballmer (former Microsoft CEO) the only way to be able to do a device that connects all platforms together is to use the Android operating system.

And here we go, Nokia has announced in May 2016 a comeback to the market with Android operating system. The Finnish company said it will license its brand to a Helsinki-based company run by former Nokia managers who aim to bring new mobile phones and tablets to the market.

Will Nokia make a good comeback into the mobile industry and take its place back? Will HMD be able to penetrate the market? Will Apple and Samsung be affected by this new potential competitor?

By Edy El Hourany

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HEALTH

MEDICINE ISN’T ABOUT GIVING MEDICATION

“He has to listen to me this time. He just has to!” These were the words my friend said as we stood in the waiting room of yet another doctor he wanted to consult. A former athlete, he had suffered many injuries to his joints and knees that ended his career prematurely. The last five years have been a nightmare of agonizing in waiting rooms only to have all his pain and fear dismissed once he got to the examination room.

My friend is hardly an exception. There are few of us that haven’t been affected by the cavalier approach medical personnel adopt when we have the misfortune of needing medical attention. In hospitals, patients aren’t even admitted unless they have some form of insurance. The news is littered with stories of people young and old that died within the vicinity of hospitals because they were unable to come up with the admission fees.

These fees tend to be amount to several times the average wage earned per month, so many of the poorest individuals are left with no help.

And even when admittance is granted into this exclusive, exalted and members-only club, the care provided leaves a lot to be desired. It’s understood that doctors and nurses are busy, and most probably frustrated with demanding patients that complain every five minutes, but they seem to have lost almost all sympathy for their patients.

The doctor would spend less than five minutes with a patient which might be enough to diagnose but not to reassure. Nurses are notoriously slow to respond. They have to be summoned many times before they actually show up. The listen with the air of someone jaded and either give a curt answer or simply say they have to refer to the physician.

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If you are lucky, you get a complex medical explanation of what ails you that you have no way of understanding unless you are part of the medical field.

Private practices are hardly better. The fees are pretty high to begin with, but one would expect better treatment after paying so much. Patients are expected to wait for hours for a consultation that lasts about ten minutes if so. The physicians might paint a social smile and appear to listen, but it’s always with that calculating gleam in their eyes.

It makes you feel as if they are sorting through how much profit they can make by just running quickly through their patients. After one or two minutes, you are interrupted and asked to do tests or given a hasty diagnosis. If you are lucky, you get a complex medical explanation of what ails you that you have no way of understanding unless you are part of the medical field. You are politely, but firmly, ushered outside and asked to pay the astronomical bill. You leave feeling disheartened instead of being hopeful that you have been properly take care of.

My friend has suffered for years because no doctor took the time to listen to him. For years, he has been told he needs supplements and physiotherapy while he, a former distance runner, has reached the point he can barely walk for five minutes. How many others have probably died because the doctor was too busy amassing their fees? Medicine isn’t about giving medication; it’s listening to the patients, quelling their fears and giving them the hope and peace essential to combat the most trivial and terminal of illnesses.

Written by Dr. Toufic Ajaka

INTEREST

A GAP IS THERE REALLY

OF

S N O I T A GENER

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Between the old generation that hoards plenty of opinions that do not confound or appeal to the younger generation that adopts advancement by default without looking to the former generation’s experiences. And occasionally it goes beyond that to the point of belittling those experiences. So while the parents believe they are always right taking pride in their history, experience, and their children being too young to keep up with them, the sons and daughters believe they are deprived of free speech and being able to go through experiences on their own terms. There is a sense of extremity in both cases where both parties only listen to themselves. In my opinion, both parties are wrong, and that’s one of the main reasons that made this gap.

The gap of generation is the time interval that modern urban life created. It could be different from the lives of our fathers and forefathers, but it doesn’t have to be the chasm of dispute or an abyss of conflict. It always happens the old ones forget they were once young, and few of the young have the insight to know they will one day be old. As we all know, today’s generation grew up in a vast social, media and cultural openness that allowed it to view the world in a very different perspective from that of the older one. This made them reject all that is hereditary and traditional; something to be expected under such circumstances.

Is there really a gap between parents and their children?

What is the intellectual distance that separates the parents from their children?

What we don’t deny is the physical, materialistic and emotional proximity that exists between the two, but we often find intellectual alienation. It’s also true that we often feel the destructive clash upon collision whenever there is a serious discussion or a rational dialogue full of advice and instructions.

Every time span has its own criteria, and each generation has its own aspiration and ambitions. These are the factors that created the gap between generations. These result from the shifts in the environment, are not climatic and external factors only, but also from the advanced sciences and techniques. We cannot pitch modern thinking outside these borders disregarding the causes. The resulting crisis is the superficial scientific thinking that is a far cry from the fixtures of righteousness and values.

The crisis between generations of different ages has existed throughout time, and that crisis could be encompassed. The biggest dilemma is that the sons accuse the parents of retardation and conservatism while the parents themselves accuse the sons of shameless imitation, superficiality and apathy. And so we ended up with this odd equation; both are right and the other is the wrong side. Both parents and sons live on the same ground of reality, but sadly they are separated by vast fissures in thinking, disposition and many others such as lack of understanding, fast tempers, and weird ideas. Failing to contain in the beginning and not compromising are all basics for this problem that is called the gap or intellectual chasm. Imported marvels often influence the sons and they go with it living it out. Sadly the parents often take a negative stance. The problem is that we censure and condemn without looking for solutions, and this is where the clash between generations occurs. One censures and orders while another complains; doesn’t want to hear, is dissatisfied and in an eternal insubordination in an infinite intellectual idleness.

The reason, first and last, is not containing matters. This happens through sensible minds that commit their efforts to understand and interact with the older generation with ease and gentility. The fathers need to contain the sons; an emotion endeavor first and foremost.

That’s what will attract the son to debate and keep him attached to home respecting everyone there. It’s where love, tenderness, and friendship exist. It’s not shameful for a father to take his intellectual level down a few pegs to his son’s in order to understand with respect and harmony being sure to follow. Fathers should also be aware of the fast-paced changes that they gain from an ever-shifting environment and the destructive incoming culture to help guide their sons in the path of righteousness away from the outer world.

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Closeness, compliance and peaceful coexistence between generations only come from astute minds. What if we, as fathers, contained that gap with positive interaction coupled with some ingenious methods? It’s as if we belong to ancient times, but how can we not expect our children to be influenced by the breakneck advancement, electronic race of the digital world of satellites and the obscene openness when we ourselves have fallen prey to? Our children receive very dangerous information every hour while we stand aside in awe unable to process what’s happening in a state of disbelief. But it’s the truth, and nothing stands in the way of the truth.

Parenting should be done earnestly, and each educational aspect must be addressed. We shouldn’t be making any transgressions in front of them in the form of incorrect actions (that concede with their misguided notions) that sometimes disrupt proper parenting. In other situations, they see us denying them and contradicting ourselves. It’s natural for them to accuse us of being dishonest and therein lays the catastrophe. So before we point fingers, we as educators, must assess ourselves and modify our behaviors. Because it’s shameful to: • Command but never do.

• Raise others when we lack breeding.

• Advise while rejecting words of advice.

• Putting fixtures and moralities for them when we have already lost them before and put them behind.

Society is undergoing radical changes in politics, economics, and social structure. Perhaps the most vulnerable to these changes are the youth, that age group that stretches from the age of 15 to 22 years. Educators and psychologists argue about defining the length and characteristics of this stage, but it’s the one that witnesses fundamental shifts and changes in interests, social behavior and a yearning for independence and individuality. Perhaps this is what causes the contrast between him and the surrounding environment. He wants to break free of the clutches of school and family that have bound him for so long. He also desires to choose his own social circle where he accommodates and blends in to be able to make his own decisions and realize himself. This is the generation most involved in the age of globalization with all its issues and problems. Let’s not forget that globalization is a universal project for the future as its founders and advocates aspire to. So the new generation is the pioneer in dealing with globalization and its tools. The computer, the Internet and the vast network of data is easily accessible for the youth while the older generation views it as an unfathomable dilemma. The lifestyles ranging from food, drinks, and cultural norms are primarily directed to the youths because they are better able to respond and accept any foreign concepts especially when projected in a dazzling way using techniques that strike a chord with them.

In light of these social changes that affect the parenting methods and sons, education is no longer uniform in the family unit. It changes the balance of raising children amidst variable cultural, geographical and economic circumstances.

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Ignorance of fathers regarding proper parenting techniques: It’s the common denominator for this failure. I have observed that some parents are concerned about enhancing the quality of their performance at work, so they attend conferences, seminars, and cycles. At the same time, they are not participating in any that would qualify them for their parenting job. Neither do they read any parenting books to help them in their mission especially when the sons are teenagers. One of the leading reasons for parenting failure is that they never prepared a clear and consented plan between both parents to raise and guide their children. They become frustrated with them because they never planned the results they got and were shocked with a reality they never prepared for.

Being inflexible with sons: This technique is sadly lacking in many of the foundations of parenting. There is no dialogue or consultation. There is only a policy of domination and control which creates a dysfunction in the son’s personality in childhood because his personality has been deformed. This happens even with little things such as the parents buying toys the child doesn’t like and forcing him to play their way instead of his.

The son isn’t raised to be self-sufficient and independent when his parents don’t allow him to think. And even if he does think, the father would force his opinion. They are not aware that the teenager would flunk just to spite his father and mother who forced him to study something he doesn’t like. Each teenager has his own way to get back. This method doesn’t work as stated by many psychoanalysts who never doubt the parents’ desire to see their children even more successful than them. The problem lays in the “how” which is very critical.

Parents make their own plans and reject their children’s plans at a point in time when the teenager must think and make their own plans with the guidance of the father and mother. Let them think and discuss all the dangers of each option. And should he insist on a decision, even after the risks have been highlighted, let him take the responsibility.

Plenty of families have failed relationships with their children because they don’t dialogue in any disputed matter. The dictatorship and inflexibility of the father, as they see it, only gives birth to a mutilated human being and a weak girl. The only concern this boy or girl will have is to get rid of this reality. We can see examples where girls will marry a man who is unsuitable for her simply to get from under her father’s finger.

Cruelty and domineering attitude in dealing with children: There is an unfortunate approach adopted by some parents where they treat their children abominably and call them names and nicknames they hate. Some even make fun of them in front of other families or guests. Unintentional slips are unacceptable in such cases making the children eager to avoid such situations by simply avoiding the father. Such a method is a big hindrance in understanding and realizing the children’s need for love, respect and admiration while also provoking hatred for fathers and encouraging disobedience.

Parents who prefer shouting orders will naturally collide with their children’s resistance that will retaliate to all that pressure, threats and severe restrictions with counter behaviors such as lying, deceit and occasional bouts of anger morphing into public hatred of the parent.

We have witnessed escalations where sons might hurt or even kill the parents. Cruelty can happen from parents or by their consent if the wielder of pain is the stepmother as we have seen in many stories published lately. The victims were innocent children in need of affection and love that renowned psychoanalyst Dr. Maisara Taher talked about.

Constant scolding and criticism: Some parents resort to scolding; criticism and making the children feel as if they are a financial burden. This will ruin the relationship between the two especially that most of the youth complain from what they perceive as restrictions on behavior like having a curfew and not being able to stay out with their friends. While parents are correct in having such rules, but perhaps the persuasive techniques used to convince them of the importance of such rules isn’t getting through. The children won’t be convinced unless parents stay away from scolding and sometimes hitting; something I know from many of my students.

It’s very difficult to build the relationship on a ground of ever-increasing mutual abuse. There could be circumstances that point out for the children weak spots in their parent’s armor. This individual failure for one parent could mean the entire family’s failure. The affected child also won’t be able to be a good role model of proper parenting for his future children.

Negligence and apathy: Some parents don’t care much about their children. Some don’t even know what grade they are in. We have many examples that have been discussed in newspapers that schools suffer from. Even with the parents being capable in their careers, they don’t reach the same excellence in parenting. This leads them to fail in providing their children’s needs in terms of companionship and friendship along with being aware of their issues and aspirations.

The worst version of those parents dumps the responsibility on the driver and maid. This is one of the most challenging issues that society has been suffering from lately where we have a generation raised primarily by drivers and maids.

Gap between generations: This gap naturally creates dysfunction in the relationship between parents and children. This term points to the great difference between the older generation that are part of the social scene and the younger generation that will take its place. These differences worldwide are all about the perspective regarding the world, the meaning of life, morals, values, different types of knowledge and behavioral standards.

INTEREST

We live in the era of globalization and the age of fascinating advancement in what is known as the data and technology revolution that upheaved all the aspects of life even to the point of slowly changing how we think and daily routines.

The variety of social constructs (clubs, computer centers, nightclubs) added wealth to the sources, quality and quality of cultural influences which adds more burden to the educator keeping an eye on his son’s behavior. Some new schools of thought (satanic worship, Baha’i Faith, terrorism, globalization…) are unknown to some parents which make them more afraid of the situation getting out of control. This could make them obstruct the good under the guise of “It’s better to be safe than sorry” which will only widen the gap.

The advancement of knowledge contributed to this aspect affecting the sons that have the tools the parents lack and leading to an intellectual and cultural gap. Because of satellite, media, easy communication (car, plane, ship) all over the world, computers, mobile phones… the youth has experiences and rich knowledge that could be unavailable for parents. This level of technology and luxury inspires passion among the youth and reservation or awe for the older generation who could hesitate in accepting it out of fear of the consequences. An example is the Internet and its unrestricted sites.

Influence of the media: The media with all its types and branches is a method to communicate and stay in touch. For that reason, it’s at the heart of every society or community. In that capacity, it’s one of the most influential tools for the children and competes with parents and school in the educational capacity. These techniques have had the attention and scrutiny of all the society. They became, especially television networks and what they broadcast, an adversary to parents in the parenting process whether positive or negative. What we are concerned about is the negative influences that add more weight on the parents. It has become a real threat to the cultural identity because it affects religion, creeds, morals, languages and authentic norms by what it broadcasts in the form of immoral shows. It encourages violence and aggression that leaves a bad effect on the sons’ behavior, habits, social relationships, outer appearance and even consumer habits all which undermines the role of the parents while adding to the burden.

How can parents succeed in understanding their sons’ needs to help improve their nation?

Some educators think that what we need in all societies is: • Stressing the importance of parents’ responsibility and projecting love, security, dialogue, and building trust.

• Putting together directional programs for parents when dealing with their sons where the real work inside the family focuses on minimizing and avoiding inappropriate behavior and lessening the gap between the two.

• Reminding parents of the importance of enrolling in educational and psychological seminars that aid them in proper parenting. We notice that some of the mothers in our society care for these seminars. We also need plenty of consulting centers to offer their services to those about to marry or to parents ignorant about proper parenting.

• Working hard so that parents can show their children they are capable of change and presenting the right model.

Mixing youth and experience can be very fruitful. Older parents no doubt have a distinctive presence thanks to their experiences which the youth can invest in modern perspectives. The chasm happens when each side insists it’s the best making blending impossible. This gap is a very tricky subject, but it’s also a neutral topic that can be harnessed for good. If the family of mother, father, sons and daughters all work together, the results will be peace and harmony. I am positive that there will be no progress unless the wisdom and experience of our elders marry with the capabilities and energy of our young. Our motto for judging that gap should be what is accomplished regardless of age.

Written by Dr. Laurence Ajaka

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The media with all its types and branches is a method to communicate and stay in touch. For that reason, it’s at the heart of every society or community. In that capacity, it’s one of the most influential tools for the children and competes with parents and school in the educational capacity.

These techniques have had the attention and scrutiny of all the society.

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DEVELOPMENT

E M TI R O F

H T OW

GR

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Personal growth and discovery are the purposes of life; it’s why we have been put here on earth. We must be brave enough to pave our own paths without the limitations that families and personal fears can impose on us. There are some major pitfalls we all suffer from when we try to break out of the molds created for us.

We need to start taking our instincts more seriously. They are what kept our ancestors alive for hundreds if not thousands of years before the comforts of the modern world.

It’s that weird feeling we have at the pit of our stomachs that tells us something is wrong or right, and it matters a lot. We need to start trusting it even if it sounds illogical.

If our gut feeling tells us we need to change our entire lives or there is a dream we must pursue, we should consider listening to it.

And if tells us to avoid an advantageous situation, we should also listen even if it doesn’t make perfect sense.

Another classic mistake we make is not allowing ourselves space to grow. It’s essential that we all have time to work on ourselves no matter what our ages. It’s could be challenging especially that the modern world is so demanding, so we had better start being a bit selfish in demanding we have our own personal time and space.

In the long run, it’s not a selfish choice because it allows us to be better people; a fact that will reflect positively on everyone in our lives. We cannot give others what we don’t have, so we need to nurture better qualities such as compassion, patience and generosity. Such core values need some alone time to grow. These and others will actually give us a boost in life; we will be able to face life with more enthusiasm and zeal.

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Comparing our journey with that of others’ is a huge mistake. What it does is make us feel insecure and disheartened. We think we are not good enough to reach the heights they did. That is a dangerous train of thoughts because it could shut down all our efforts even before they started. There are some facts to keep in mind. For one thing, we are not all destined to have the same future; what work for others might not be what’s right for us. Everyone will reach a certain goal at their own paces; just because whoever took a certain amount of year to achieve that doesn’t mean you have to as well. They might have sacrificed growth in another area to get where they are, and others are well ahead in that perspective.

Always beware of those who will try to drag you down to their level. Most people are jealous of success and would love to see others fail. They will feed us with doubts and prey on our insecurities. Learn to turn a blind eye and ear to those malicious words and stay on track.

Written by Dr. Zeina Zeidan Maalouli

We need to start trusting it even if it sounds illogical. If our gut feeling tells us we need to change our entire lives or there is a dream we must pursue, we should consider listening to it.

FAMILY ALWAYS

COMES FIRST

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Family occupies an essential role in our lives. We are united by the blood that courses through our veins, the closeness that makes us sacrifice our lives for each other and loyalty of those who will love us no matter what we do.

Families always come first. Some of us have sadly underestimated the importance of having close family ties. Families are the primary source of all our habits and beliefs. They give us the blueprint of how to lead a decent life. Despite the inevitable generation clash, parents are often the closest people to us.

They understand us more than anyone else and give the best advice because they want what’s best for us therefore they tend to be brutally honest and unbiased. But because they love us so much, they will

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also be waiting with open arms whenever something upsets us. Families will criticize our every fault in one breath only to smoother us with hugs and kisses in another.

us grounded. We might become important people with many people reporting to us, but in our mothers’ kitchen, we would still get slapped if we try to steal something before dinner.

We might think that we hate being around a noisy and nosy bunch, but we would miss it after being away for only a few days. There is so much energy and life in the vibrant dynamic of different generations all interacting together. They would transform any house or building into a loving home.

Families are an indispensable part of who we are. They define us in many ways and help us grow and evolve. We should all embrace our crazy families and be proud of every eccentric tidbit.

Written by Dr. Randa Saliba Chidiac

While we might resent the constant interference of our families, we secretly enjoy it. There is so much comfort knowing there are people out there who are constantly thinking and worrying about you.

It makes life seem less lonely and it helps keep

There is so much energy and life in the vibrant dynamic of different generations all interacting together.

‫ليل وليىل‬ ‫ي‬

‫ُ‬ ‫با�‬ ‫نأت‬ ‫ليل وليىل أتقنا َد ْو َريـْهما ليىل ْ‬ ‫والليل يقرع ب ي‬ ‫ي‬ ‫ما ُ‬ ‫بجواب‬ ‫وسألت عنها لم يجـ ُ ْد‬ ‫عاتبتـ ُ ُه‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫ليل كلما ْ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫بال ي‬ ‫وأظل منتظراً‬ ‫ُّ‬ ‫بسحاب‬ ‫والبدر غطـّى وج َه ُه‬ ‫عذاب ِك ْليهما‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫َ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫عرفت ما ب ي�‬ ‫خطرت بأرجاء البقاع غزالةٌ يا َ‬ ‫ْ‬ ‫شبه ليىل لو ِ‬ ‫ف‬ ‫ُّ‬ ‫يباب‬ ‫يرش‬ ‫فأحس ُه مطراً ُّ‬ ‫َ‬ ‫ينهل صوتـ ُ ِك ي� دمي ُّ‬ ‫الخصب فوق أ ِ‬ ‫حباب‬ ‫لست هناك‪ِ ،‬‬ ‫أنت‪ِ ،‬‬ ‫ها ِ‬ ‫إنك هاهنا تلغي المسافةَ لهفةُ أ ال ِ‬ ‫حقاب‬ ‫والعمر ٌ‬ ‫إيماض ْ‬ ‫ولكن بالهوى تربو دقائقه عىل ال ِ‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫ٌ‬ ‫عباب‬ ‫تضيع‬ ‫رغم البحار فلن‬ ‫َ‬ ‫سواحل شوق السفينة فوق كل ِ‬ ‫يصد ُه عن ي ن‬ ‫حجاب‬ ‫أي‬ ‫الحب مثل‬ ‫أع� ّ‬ ‫الوحي ليس ُّ‬ ‫العشاق ُّ‬ ‫ُّ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ت‬ ‫ن‬ ‫بخوا�‬ ‫عهد َ‬ ‫ال� من ِ‬ ‫عتـَّقـ ْ ِت ي� بجر ِار خمر ِ‬ ‫آدم لم ْ‬ ‫تكن ب ي‬ ‫تك ي‬ ‫ين‬ ‫رضاب‬ ‫الشفت� دون‬ ‫در ًة ما قيمة‬ ‫الكأس‬ ‫ْ‬ ‫خمر ّ‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ليست دون ٍ‬ ‫بغ� تر ِاب‬ ‫لغة السماء بنورها وصفائها‬ ‫ما كنت أقبلها ي‬ ‫أ‬ ‫ِ ن‬ ‫ما ي ن‬ ‫والحروف عالقةٌ‬ ‫صدرك‬ ‫ب�‬ ‫نصاب‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫الوث� بال أ ِ‬ ‫كعالقة ي ِّ‬ ‫ف� دفء صدرك ت‬ ‫طياب‬ ‫قوافل‬ ‫يح‬ ‫تس� ُ‬ ‫ي‬ ‫يُ‬ ‫وتس� مثقلةً من ال أ ِ‬ ‫ي‬ ‫ف‬ ‫عناب‬ ‫العذب‬ ‫ريقك‬ ‫ي� ِ‬ ‫الشهي ُسالفةٌ معصور ٌة من أطيب ال ِ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ِّ‬ ‫الذنوب فإنها هي ُّكل ما قد َّ‬ ‫إها�‬ ‫ال تغفري هذي‬ ‫َ‬ ‫ظل تحت ب ي‬ ‫أ‬ ‫ف‬ ‫صحاب‬ ‫� كانا مر ًة‬ ‫فالجرح والسكـ ِّ ي ن ُ‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫ي� هذه الدنيا من ال أ ِ‬ ‫نز‬ ‫َ‬ ‫عصاب‬ ‫ت� من وجع‬ ‫ليىل‪ ،‬وما أقىس‬ ‫الحروف ُّ‬ ‫القلوب ِ‬ ‫وثورة ال ِ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ف‬ ‫يا زنبقاً خـ َ ِضال ً ُّ‬ ‫سحاب‬ ‫بنشوة‬ ‫يرف‬ ‫ٍ‬ ‫ويعيش ي� الصحراء دون أ ِ‬ ‫ف‬ ‫تدرين ليىل ما الهوى‪ ،‬إن الهوى كالخمر ي ن‬ ‫كواب‬ ‫ح� تـ ُ َص ُّب ي� ال ِ‬ ‫والحب مثل الوحي ليس يصده عن ي ن‬ ‫حجاب‬ ‫أي‬ ‫أع� ّ‬ ‫العشاق ُّ‬ ‫ُّ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ُ ن‬ ‫ثياب‬ ‫كنت‬ ‫أنا مذ عشقتـ ُ ِك ُ‬ ‫أن� أهفو إىل ٍ‬ ‫بغ� ِ‬ ‫جسد ي ِ‬ ‫أحسب ي‬ ‫حضور الجسم َ‬ ‫غياب‬ ‫سوى‬ ‫بداخل‬ ‫منك الح‬ ‫لكن ضوءاً ِ‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫ّ‬ ‫َ‬ ‫مثل ِ‬ ‫ي‬ ‫َ‬ ‫وثاب‬ ‫عاصم إن‬ ‫الجمال عن الدنيـ ّ ِة‬ ‫مجد‬ ‫ُ‬ ‫الخيول العـُصـ ْ َم ُ‬ ‫ٌ‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ذات ِ‬ ‫ت‬ ‫صوا�‬ ‫كنت‬ ‫خطيئ� ن يإ� عبدتـ ُ ِك يوم ِ‬ ‫ال ما عبدتـ ُ ِك يوم ِ‬ ‫رصت ب ي‬ ‫ي‬ ‫والسك� كانا مرة ف� هذه الدنيا من أ‬ ‫ين‬ ‫الصحاب‬ ‫الجرح‬ ‫ي‬ ‫شبل‬ ‫بقلم الشاعر عمر ي‬

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‫‪HUMANITY‬‬

‫نمر قربهم نبرصهم فال نراهم يرصخون فال نسمعهم ‪..‬عىل زفت طريق تحت جدار عتيق‬ ‫ين‬ ‫ين‬ ‫مستدفئ� يطعمون النار مما م ّنت عليم اكوام النفايات والقذارة‬ ‫ملتحف� السماء‬ ‫يتمددون‬ ‫ح� ف‬ ‫الصغ�ة ت‬ ‫مائت� ويموتون غرباء ت‬ ‫يعيشون ي ن‬ ‫فيأ� آخر ويصادرها‪ .‬ومنهم ما زالوا‬ ‫بقعتهم‬ ‫�‬ ‫ي‬ ‫ي‬ ‫ي‬ ‫ف� بيوتهم وقد كانوا فيما ض‬ ‫م� من اهل العز والرخاء بيد ان ظروف الدهرالقاهرة حرمتهم‬ ‫ي‬ ‫ين‬ ‫معدم� اال من رحمة جار او جارة تشفق فتأتيهم ببعض من طبخة تتشاركها‬ ‫خ�اتهم وباتوا‬ ‫ي‬ ‫وغ�هم قد باع قرسا كل ما له ليؤمن لزوجته او طفله او والده ثمن‬ ‫معهم لئال يقضوا جوعا ‪ .‬ي‬ ‫ين‬ ‫الدائن� وسط عالم الالرحمة‬ ‫عالج وال امل فخرس من يحب وخرس ما يملك وبات تحت رحمة‬ ‫واالستغاللية والمنفعة والبعض منهم و قد تخىل عنهم ابنائهم واستقالوا من واجب اكرام‬ ‫اهلهم فاصبحوا ف ي� مهب رياح الخوف والال استقرار يتحرسون يسامحون ويتألمون اما البعض‬ ‫االخر ض‬ ‫فمر� ال يملكون ثمن دواء او عالج يستسلمون منتظرين العبور علهم يجدوا ما وراء‬ ‫الموت عالم رحمة وسالم ال اوجاع فيه وال وال جوع وال احزان ‪ .‬هوالء هم من اطلق الروح‬ ‫ن‬ ‫ين‬ ‫منسي� ال ي ئ‬ ‫أيتمو� عربانا وما‬ ‫عليهم اسم‬ ‫لش� اال ليذكرنا بما قاله لنا المعلم « كم من مرة ر ي‬ ‫ن‬ ‫ن‬ ‫ن‬ ‫ن‬ ‫ن‬ ‫عاينتمو�‬ ‫آويتمو� مريضا وما‬ ‫سقيتمو� غريبا فما‬ ‫اطعمتمو� عطشانا وما‬ ‫كسوتمو� جائعا وما‬ ‫ي‬ ‫ي‬ ‫ي‬ ‫ي‬ ‫ي‬ ‫‪ ..‬وهكذا تحول الم هؤالء االخوة اىل نداء طارئ ودعوة الهية ضجت ف� ق‬ ‫اعما� فولد برنامج‬ ‫ي‬ ‫ي‬ ‫المنسي� ع� اث� صوت المحبة وتلفزيون المحبة ليحمل آ‬ ‫المهم اىل قلب كل مؤمن حقيقي‬ ‫ين ب ي‬ ‫يسمع فيصغي ينظر يف�ى تهزه المشاعر فيتحرك‪..‬ومع ازدياد الحاجة وتردي الوضع االقتصادي‬ ‫ف‬ ‫وخ� رقم ‪١١١٨‬‬ ‫ال�نامج اىل جمعية تسجلت ي� الدولة اللبنانية وحصلت عىل علم ب‬ ‫تحول ب‬ ‫وافتتحت لها مكتبا ف ي� منطقة جونية الستقبال االخوة وتقييم حاجاتهم والعمل عىل تلبية هذه‬ ‫الحاجات‪ .‬وصل عدد المستفيدين من المؤسسة ث‬ ‫أك� من الف وسبعمئة شخص وال تزال جمعية‬ ‫ين‬ ‫منسي� تؤمن الدواء والكساء والطبابة والسكن والتعليم لكل من قرع بابها ‪ ..‬يعمل فيها حاليا ‪١٢‬‬ ‫موظفا يقومون شهريا بخدمة ‪ ٧٠٠‬عائلة تعيش تحت خط الفقر تناضل للبقاء واالستمرار بالعيش‬ ‫ت‬ ‫ال� تعصف ببلدنا‪ .‬يعملون ونصب عيونهم كالم ماريوحنا الرسول ‪ :‬ال‬ ‫رغم االوضاع المأساوية ي‬ ‫‪.‬تكن محبتنا بالكالم او باللسان بل بالعمل والحق‬ ‫ن‬ ‫ين‬ ‫منسي�‬ ‫اللبنا� مدير عام تلفزيون المحبة ومؤسس جمعية‬ ‫االب جان ابو خليفة المرسل‬ ‫ي‬

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POETRY

THE POETRY OF

Kurt Nolan The One That Got Away He cast his line upon the surface One drunken Sunday afternoon His favorite fishing hole was silent Unbroken before the lure Ten years ago A decade past away A gentle tug upon his line And slowly he began to real His patience did not falter He fought against the tide The weight too great for the line to bear Weary from the struggle The line that began to tear Then ever so lightly He could feel her start to slip away Then just before she faded Underneath and out of sight He had time to wish he’d never caught The one that got away

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When I looked again To my surprise No tears were falling from his eyes Emotion absent from expression I knew that I was finally lost

Self Reflection I saw him for a moment The person I called me The mirror looked familiar Like a friend that I’d once known He looked so much the same to me Though he was taller He had grown

I want to wipe it from my cheek But I found nothing in its place When I looked again To my surprise No tears were falling from his eyes Emotion absent from expression I knew that I was finally lost

In Passing Our shoulders barely brushed But for strangers in passing It was enough I faultered slightly Turned my head In time to catch you steal a glance Our eyes only met once Then turned away ashamed

Then as I looked closer

You cross my mind

He just stared into my eyes

From time to time

I thought I saw a tear

Though our paths will never pass again

Running down along our face

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Gratitude is the healthiestofallhuman emotions.Themoreyou express gratitude for whatyouhave,themore likely you will have even more to express gratitude for.

“ Keep it 7elwee”

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