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Aisha Bala Mohammed ‘Why we rehabilitate, beautify cemeteries’ Hi there!

his week, Tambari presents interesting topics to its esteemed readers. Our Culinary segment features tips on how to cook cauliflower soup. Cauliflower is an edible vegetable that most people do not know makes a delicious

soup. This week’s segment will reveal the secret of making cauliflower soup. Also, check out our Etiquette corner, where we will be talking about things not to do in an office setting. In the Health section, we will be telling you if roll-ons and perfumes are harmful to children or not. In the Beauty segment, we will also be giving you tips on fruit-

based oils that are beneficial to the skin. Our cover personality, wife of the executive governor of Bauchi State, shared her experiences as wife of a former minister, now governor. – Amina Alhassan Editor CALL: 0818 7703733 EMAIL: tambari@dailytrust.com

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ETIQUETTE

What not to do in an office setting by MOYOSOLUWA OLORUNSOLA b

workplace is where a lot of people spend most of their hours in a day. It is, therefore, wise that everyone tries their best to create a conducive work environment for their colleagues. There are behaviours that are not acceptable in the workplace. Here are some tips on what not to do in an office setting. Don’t take angry and dramatic calls: Doing this might be uncomfortable for your colleagues as you are subjecting them to emotional torture. It is better to take such calls in private or save it when you get home. Don’t gossip about your colleagues: This is a very bad idea, regardless of how tempting it may be. You may be spreading false information that might eventually get to the person of interest. You may cause problems at work by

gossiping, it. gossiping so avoid it Don’t hit on your boss, colleague or employer: This will most likely end badly, so do not do it. This might lead to awkward situations, including lawsuits. If one is not careful, one may need to resign or get fired as a result. Also, dating outside the office is better than office romance. Don’t respond when angry: It is very advisable to have control over your anger. Words are like eggs, when we say them we can’t take them back. Always remember this when angry in the office. Find respectable ways of cooling off, but refrain from talking back when angry.

WORTHY OF NOTE: IT IS VERY IMPORTANT TO THINK BEFORE ACTING IN THE WORKPLACE.

How to make cauliflower soup by MOYOSOLUWA OLORUNSOLA

auliflower is a vegetable which is high in fibre. It also enhances weight loss in people who are looking to lose some of that extra weight. Regardless of how you feel about this flower, the recipe for making it into soup will change your mind. Ingredients • 1 medium head cauliflower (broken into florets) • 1 medium carrot (shredded) • 1/4 cup of chopped celery • 2-1/2 cups of water • 2 teaspoons of chicken bouillon or 1 vegetable bouillon cube • 3 tablespoons of butter • 3 tablespoons of all-purpose flour • 3/4 teaspoon of salt • 1/8 teaspoon of pepper

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2 cups of milk 1 cup of shredded cheddar cheese 1/2 to 1 teaspoon of hot pepper sauce (optional) Recipe Cut the cauliflower into pieces. Chop the carrots and celery and add in a pot. Put some water in it and bouillon and boil. Leave it to simmer for 15 minutes or until the vegetable is tender. Do not drain the water from the mixture. Put butter in another pan and melt it. Put in flour, salt and pepper while stirring. Stir to avoid lumps. Add milk to this mixture gradually. Leave it to cook while stirring, until the mixture is thickened; then reduce the heat. Add cheese to the milk and flour mixture until it melts. You can add hot pepper soup if you want. This is totally optional. Then add the mixture to your cauliflower, celery and carrot mixture and your cauliflower soup is ready.

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Why I rehabilitate, beautify cemeteries - Aisha Bala Mohammed

Interview by AMINA ALHASSAN

Aisha Bala Mohammed, Fulani by tribe, is the wife of the executive governor of Bauchi State. She is the fourth of 24 children, but with members of their extended family, they were about a100. The number notwithstanding, they lived peacefully and happily. She shared her life experiences with Tambari. Educational background I was one of the girl-children who were not allowed to go to school in their parents’ houses. But, Alhamdulillah, today, I am proud to say that I am well educated in my husband’s house because I always wanted to be educated. I had the ambition to become a doctor, but this could not happen because of my tradition back then, which made it difficult for a core northern girl to get western education. I decided to chase my dream of becoming educated when I got married. I had to start from the scratch. I went to Garki Secondary School, here in Abuja. Then I wrote my private General Certificate in Education (GCE) examinations and passed. After that, I proceeded to the University of Abuja for distance learning. I read Public Administration. What was growing up like? As a village girl I really had fun. I always tell my kids that we had more fun than they are having now. We were about 100 in number, so we all had age groups. We would be in groups of three hree or four. Everyone had their friends and playmates. We had a very big garden that our elder brothers could hunt in. We played and fought too; so it was fun. I didn’t have any problem growing up, except for the challenge of going to school. chool. You said you wanted to o be a doctor, why did you change your mind? Becoming a doctor a f t e r

marriage, with the kids and lot of responsibilities, would have been difficult. I didn’t want to start what I couldn’t finish. But, Alhamdulilah, one of my daughters is a doctor. So, my aspiration has come true, through my daughter. What has life taught you? I have learnt a lot. My life is very simple and wonderful. I came to Abuja at the age of 18. I have been here for about 33 years. I have met with a lot of people from different tribes and backgrounds. And we live together in harmony without fear or or any grudge. I don’t have enemies or rivals. My friends have always been caring and helpful. Life has taught me to be kind and accommodating to other people. What do you miss about your childhood? I miss going to the farm. Even though we were not allowed to do that because we came from a royal family (my uncle was a king), we would, however, sneak out and go to the farm. I also miss climbing trees to pluck fruits; I wish I could still do that. Sometimes when I go to Bauchi, I would wish that I could go into the bush to pluck fresh fruits. Driving through some of the villages when on a road trip and seeing some of the

I WAS ONE OF THE GIRL-CHILDREN WHO WERE NOT ALLOWED TO GO TO SCHOOL IN THEIR PARENTS’ HOUSES. BUT, ALHAMDULILLAH, TODAY, I AM PROUD TO SAY THAT I AM WELL EDUCATED IN MY HUSBAND’S HOUSE lush fruits that some trees have, it makes me relive some of my most cherished moments of childhood. Can you as y share yyour experiences p a governor’s wife and managing your NGO? The difference between being the wife of a minister of the Federal Capital Territory (FCT) and that of a governor is quite little. I acquired a lot of experiences as the wife of a minister, so being a governor’s wife is not difficult at all. As a minister’s wife, I was already familiar with politics. have I a non-governmental organisation which focuses on helping women. I founded it about 10 years ago. We have touched the lives of women, children, people living with HIV, orphans and so many others. We also helped people who have problems paying their hospital bills. We brought them to an Abuja hospital to get treatment. My Foundation Al - Muhibbah we founded in 2007, with the sole aim of rehabilitating cemeteries, beautifying them in terms of fencing, planting trees and building houses where dead bodies would be washed. We reformed some cemeteries here in Abuja - Kado cemetery, Abaji cemetery, Gwari cemetery, Efab cemetery, and one in my village. We buy funeral and cleaning items and d o n at e to

different cemeteries. We then decided to expand the aim of the Foundation to help the less privileged in our society. We did this by training them in different skills acquisition schemes. In my village, I trained about 250 women and youths. We also did that in different local governments. We donated seven ambulances, two Hilux vehicles to different communities to take care of the less privileged. We gave one each to the Christian community, Muslim community, a community in Bauchi and Giwa community. Others were donated to Kirfi , Azare ( Katagum), Alkaleri, Jos and Bununu (Tafawa Balewa). We also built several schools so that children can get education. Why did you start with taking care of cemeteries? I decided on that after a lot of thoughts. It was when digging up graves and using body parts for criminal and ritual purposes were rampant. I felt that those things happened because we neglected the cemeteries. This is our final resting place, whether we like it or not. The maintenance of cemeteries is very important. It is a very serious issue in my culture because it is our final resting place. Our families are there and we will be there someday, so we should try our best to take care of cemeteries. We take some women and youths there sometimes to pray for the dead. It sometime people to always be good and reminds p from the evil practice of digging desist fro bodies up or any other evil deed dead bod they may be involved in. What are your challenges as a governor’s wife and life generally? governor Coming Comin from a large family and having a lot of people around my husband and a I, can be quite challenging because tthere is a lot of expectations from us. My husband did a lot of good things in Abuja, so more is expected from him as governor. The expectations huge. I am facing the challenge are quite h satisfying everybody, which can be of satisfy quite difficult. But we are trying our best. How did d you meet your husband? My hus husband and I are second cousins. known him as a cousin since I I have kn young. Our parents introduced us, was youn other and that is how we we liked each e our relationship. we have been started ou married for thirty-five years. We got married in i October 1984. How many children has God blessed m family with? your fam Allah has blessed me with five children - three boys and two girls. 13 children. I have six But I raised rai grandchildren. grandchil What is your most cherished attribute of your husband? I love that he is kind, generous and a t father to our children. He makes good fath out time for f me and his family. Tell us about the joy of motherhood. I was not very wise when I had my first chil child. I began to know the joy of motherhood when I had my second mother child. My mother and mother-inlaw ttook care of my first child. Motherhood is very rewarding and Moth I eenjoyed it and still enjoying it. What is your favourite

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AISHA BALA MOHAMMED // CO V E R music? The recitation of Quran. There is no sound as soothing as listening to the recitation of the Holy Quran. All your worries just fade and you have a stronger faith that Allah is indeed merciful. The first app you check before going to bed I check my Quran first thing in the morning. Before bedtime, I check my WhatsApp to reply to messages. What is your most cherished gift? My husband is my most cherished gift. What wouldn’t you be caught wearing? Tight-fitting clothes and anything that will expose my body. Your favourite travel destination Saudi Arabia because you get to meet people from different places. There, you will feel humble and appreciate the existance of Allah. You also eriences and knowledge. acquire a lot of experiences ax? How do you relax? I relax by going to my room and not talking ut 20 minutes, after my Zuhur to anybody for about prayer. I read in thee Quran that anyone who wants ell relaxed should observe this. to be perfect and well Honestly, it has helped lped me a lot as it makes the brain fresh and ready dy to take up the next task. What is your best st food? Vegetable, fruits and fish. Your mum’s advice vice that has stayed with you till now She taught me to be honest and straightforward. My parents also taught ught me to be helpful to others, as well as to be patient. ient. This helps you have peace and to be successful. ul. This advice has guided me in who I have become ome today. Its also an advice I have passed on to my children. When you are straightforward and d help others, you will be free of all worldly burdens. ns. By the way, of what use are we if we can’t be of help to those who really need our help. No matterr how little, you can never tell when you are savingg a life. vourite day of the week? What is your favourite My favourite day of the week is Friday because it is a day of prayerr and giving. It is also a day of blessing. Your favourite book My favourite book ok is the Quran. Looking back at your life, what would you tell yourr younger self? I don’t think I would ould do anything different because what hat and who I am today is as a result of what I was. Life is about destiny and d we can only make it better for ourselves. urselves. What advice do you have for young girls in our society? I will urge them to be decent, straightforward rward and hardworking.

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Without hardwork, you can’t achieve much. Life isn’t a bed of roses, so as ladies, they need to make sure that they remain dedicated, steadfast and hardworking to achieve the goal they have set for themselves in life.

LIFE IS ABOUT DESTINY AND WE CAN ONLY MAKE IT BETTER FOR OURSELVES

SOCIETY NEWS

Compiled by MOYOSOLUWA OLORUNSOLA

Banky W, after politics, announces return to music in 2020

usician and filmmaker, Banky W, who joined politics in 2018 has announced his intentions to return to music in 2020. Banky W whose real name is Bankole Wellington contested in the just concluded National Assembly election. He was vying to represent Eti-Osa constituency, Lagos at the House of Representatives. Bankole Wellington made the announcement via his twitter page in response to a fan who missed his music on November 22. He said, “Okay, I am going to do at least one more album in 2020. Not sure if many people feel the same as you do. But thanks for this. I really appreciate it.”

Chioma celebrates Davido

ew mother, Chioma Rowland, Davido’s fiancée celebrated her son’s father on the 27th birthday. She posted loved up videos of them via her Instagram handle. She said, “Happy birthday, my love. We’re so blessed to have you. Cheers to a hundred more birthdays together. I love you.” The couple welcomed their son, Ifeanyi Adeleke, a month ago.

Victoria Aguiyi Ironsi celebrates at 90

ife of the first military head of state, Late Johnson Aguiyi Ironsi, clocks 90. Former first lady, Victoria Aguiyi Ironsi was seen dancing to a song on her birthday. She looked agile, healthy and lively despite using a cane to support herself. This was posted on Twitter by one Olaudah Equiano. “Former First Lady Victoria Aguiyi-Ironsi celebrating her 90th birthday last weekend. Please watch”, he said alongside the video.

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Fruit-based oils beneficial to the skin by MOYOSOLUWA OLORUNSOLA

ruits are healthy, and they help regenerate the cells when consumed. Not only can these fruits be beneficial to the body, their products but can also be useful to the human skin. We have different oils that are fruit-based, which are beneficial to the skin. Passion oil is gotten from the seed of passion fruit. It can be used to treat skin diseases such as acne as it removes dirt that clogs the skin pores. It also removes impurities. Passion fruit has antioxidants that help

fight ageing. It also protects and rejuvenates the skin. Bergamot oil is gotten from the rinds of citrus fruit. The citrus fruit grows on bergamot orange trees. This oil helps to cleanse the skin. It can be said to be a natural cleanser. It unclogs the skin pores and balances sebum level. It also soothes and

tones the skin, especially when there are acne, blemishes, scars and pigmentation on the skin. Watermelon oil is gotten from the seeds of watermelon. This oil can be used to reduce the damage of UV exposure. It is good in hydrating dry, oily and acne-prone skin.

With additional information from the internet

DID YOU KNOW... THAT FRUIT-BASED OILS ARE MORE BENEFICIAL TO THE SKIN & HAIR THAN OTHER OILS?

H E A LT H Y L I V I N G By MOYOSOLUWA OLORUNSOLA

erfumes are fragrances that leave us smelling good. Everyone wants to smell good, but unfortunately, studies have shown that perfumes and roll-ons can be harmful to children under 12 years old. Perfumes contain chemicals that can be very harmful to one’s health. Inhaling chemicals in the place of oxygen can cause these kids to

Are roll-ons and perfumes harmful to children? have skin asthma h ki reactions, i h attacks k and breathing problems. And because kids can be enthusiastic, they tend to overuse perfumes to a point of causing them harm. Dr. Omobolanle Ayo of the National Hospital, Abuja said, “Perfumes, antiperspirants (which

temporarily l prevent sweating)) and d deodorants (which cover up the odour of sweat), are useful for both adults and some children. Children begin to require them especially when they attain puberty. Many of these products contain chemicals, including aluminium and a parabens. The safety of o these products has been questioned over time, q not n just for children, but also a for adults, with some speculations about some of these chemicals being linked to cancer. “However, there’s yet to be sufficient scientific evidence to back these claims. Other issues regarding the safety of these products for children have to do with allergies to some of the components. As such, some have come up with ‘natural deodorants’ for younger children, which do not contain some of these components.” With additional information from the internet

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Is it possible for a woman of 46 years to stop menstruating? And can this be said to be menopause? I stop menstruating two years ago. Is there any way that I can get pregnant with the help of any medical technology? Some say I can through test-tube baby, like an infusion of my husband’s sperm to fertilize my egg. If this is not possible, is there any other way I can get pregnant? Please, educate us so that my husband and I can take the necessary steps. - Mrs Asogwa, Yanyan Abuja Yes, it’s menopause. Once a woman around that age doesn’t see her menstruation for a year, it’s menopause. The taking of a husband’s sperm for insemination is called IUI ( intrauterine insemination) will not work. What you need is IVF with donor eggs. There is no age limit for a woman to carry her pregnancy now.

BABY IS NOT EATING WELL

I have a child of two and a half years and she doesn’t like eating much food, she, however, prefers tea. Although, she likes fruits, meat and fish a lot. But doesn’t take solid food like rice, beans, among others in small quantity. What should I do? - Madam Oluyinka, Abuja. One problem I observed nowadays is not making the children food palatable especially for fear of “sugar and ‘jedijedi’. In the course of treating children, is pathetic to hear and see mothers giving children pap without sugar. In such circumstances, it is preferable to make the food delicious, palatable and add sugar where necessary. It is also advisable to give multivitamins syrups. Take these steps and observe, please.

JAUNDICE AND IMMUNIZATION

Please, my baby is having jaundice, can she still be immunized? - Linda Yes you can, provided the baby is not severely jaundiced and on admission. The mild jaundice being treated at home is not a contraindication to immunization.

WHAT DO I DO, PLEASE?

My wife’s first delivery was stillbirth, she had Caesarean section seven years ago and the baby is alive. This is her third pregnancy and I was told she will need another Caesarean section. Please, Is the operation necessary, because I don’t want it? - Mr Markus, Kaduna I am still baffled by objections to Caesarean section. What is the source of your dilemma the baby delivered by Caesarean section is alive while the one delivered by normal delivery was not alive? Would it not have been better if the first one was delivered by operation and is alive? Also, what is the weight of the current fetus? Apart from that, there is a history of infertility from your narrative. Kindly agree to the operation to avoid unnecessary regrets. There is a need to do serious campaign to counteract the false notions against Caesarean section in this clime. This reluctance and aversions have resulted in thousands of maternal and neonatal mortality and morbidity annually. Avoidable deaths and regrets. I will encourage massive media awareness campaign on radio, television, social media and any other means to sensitize our people.