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SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 2, 2018

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Maryam Lemu

Focusing outward brings peace and fulfilment Hi there!

n this week’s edition of Tambari Extra, we’re telling you all you need to know on how to get rid of crow’s feet and also on the healthy living segment, we’re sharing all the reasons why you should consider going to visiting your doctor more often than usual. usu On the cover we have Hajiya Maryam

Lemu, an international motivational speaker and marital guidance counselor. In her interview, she shares with us her experiences that led to her choice in career, what she finds most enjoyable about it and a whole lot more. Read and be inspired. Enjoy the rest of your weekend. – Amina Alhassan

Call: 0818 7703733 or Email: tambari@dailytrust.com

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Fluffy fruity pancakes by HAFSAH ABUBAKAR MATAZU

ancakes are the perfect choice for a filling and satisfying breakfast, brunch, or simply when you need to satisfy your sweet tooth. Incorporated with fresh fruits, this healthier variation will be a favourite for everyone. Ingredients • 1 cup of flour • ¼ cup of sugar • 3 teaspoons of baking powder • Pinch of salt • 2 eggs • 1 cup of milk • 1 teaspoon of vanilla

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1 cup fruit of choice Butter

Direction In a mixing bowl, combine the flour, sugar, salt and baking powder and stir. In a separate bowl, mix the milk, vanilla and eggs and whisk well. Stir into the dry ingredients, but do not over mix. Set aside for 10 minutes until small bubbles appear on the surface. In a non-stick frying pan, heat enough butter to cook the pancake over medium heat and ladle a scoop of the batter into the frying

Plants you should grow in your garden by HAFSAH ABUBAKAR MATAZU

Y pan. Top with the fruit generously. Once bubbles appear on the surface and the edges begin to dry up, flip the

pancake and cook on the other side for two minutes. Repeat with the remaining batter. Serve while hot!

Creamy hot chocolate

ith the present chilly weather and the rain, hot chocolate will serve as the perfect beverage to warm you up. It’s creamy and chocolaty. What’s not to love about it? Ingredients • 2 cups of milk • 2 tablespoons of sugar • 1 cup of chocolate chips • Vanilla extract • Whipped cream

(optional) Direction In a small pot, heat the milk and sugar until it begins to simmer. Turn off the heat and stir in the chocolate chips until melted and well combined. Turn the heat back on and gently simmer (do not boil) before adding the vanilla extract. Serve in mugs topped with whipped cream and enjoy with your pancakes.

our garden should be your go-to zone for relaxation when you are at home. It should be a place of serenity and beauty and uplifts your spirit whenever you choose to spend your time outdoors. But one of the main things that make a garden are the plants, which is why we have compiled must-have plants in every lush garden. Chamomile: These daisy flowers add a bright pop of colour, not to mention how lovely it smells. Apart from that, it is a very handy plant to have for its medicinal and overall health properties. It is a perfect choice for a pretty garden. Mint: Mint takes little to care for in order to flourish in your garden. Its sweet smell will entice you. You can also pluck a few leaves to make a cup of tea. Lavender: The lovely purple colour of lavender attracts attention, not to mention its unique petals. It is also a very handy plant to have in your garden for scents, cooking, and for beauty remedies. It’s easy to maintain and worth having in your garden. Hibiscus: This exotic plant gives an eye-catching effect. Their large and colouful flowers draw attention, not to mention how sweet they smell. You u can easily pluck a few of the flowers to make a hibiscus drink, which h is very rich in vitamin C. it is a must-have iff you want to beautifyy your garden.

MARYAM LEMU // CO V E R

‘Focusing outward brings peace and fulfilment’ Interview by RAHMA L. ADAMU

Maryam Lemu is an internationally recognised motivational speaker, as well as premarital and marital guide and counsellor. She is also a manager of schools and personnel development consultant. Maryam was born in 1973 in Sokoto, to a Nupe father and British mother. She has been married for 26 years with two boys. Educational background My educational background was very unconventional, to say the least. There was too much structure in secondary school and I had to take subjects I felt were not relevant or applicable to what my interests were. I did something that may be considered by many to be brazen, but it led me to the decision that when it came to the next chapter in my education, I would customise it to suit what I felt was relevant and I could use. I haven’t looked back since then. After I got married, which was at 18, right after high school, I left for the United States where my husband was living at the time. He tried to enroll me in a university, but I opted for the unconventional path and ended up enrolling in a Technical Community College at first, where I learnt some soft skills and became very proficient on the computer. After that, I enrolled in an online university correspondence course, where I took Small Business Management. That was when my adventure began. I took a lot of short courses. I attended boot camps where I would have condensed courses that lasted from one week to one month. I attended many workshops and seminars that I felt were relevant to my interest and that I could use and apply. I have continued to read and listen to audio books. I have also enrolled in many online courses and have found this to be what works best for me as I have been able to use and apply all I have learnt into what I am doing now. I would not recommend this as a recipe for everyone; it is just what has worked for me. Career background The best education I have ever gotten is practical experience from work. The first position I held while living in the United States was as a receptionist. Then I moved to sales. However, the job I enjoyed the most at that time was when I worked for a match-making service. My responsibilities were to interview prospects that were looking for a significant others to marry. I would find out what they were searching for and try and find a compatible partner for them with others who had also registered with the company in search of the same thing. Another great experience I had was working for the number one beauty company in the world. I was a district sales manager. I had a sales force of over 300 people reporting to me. It was the best training I had gotten in leadership and team building. The last position I held before leaving the United States was as an executive level recruiter. In that position, I worked for an employment agency that was contracted by other companies to identify and recruit executive level management staff. That was a fantastic experience. I was also the head of marketing for four branches of that particular company. My kids loved my title. We were referred to as “Head Hunters” in the industry. They loved the idea that their mum was a head hunter. It made me look super cool in their eyes. Growing up I had the most wonderful childhood. I grew up in a home where there was a lot of love, humour and laughter. My mother allowed us to be very adventurous, curious and encouraged us to explore. My brothers and I would go swimming in the nearby streams. We would follow some hunters into the nearby bush and watch them catch wild animals. This was really wonderful and exciting. My brother is an avid fisherman, so my mother would take us fishing and camping. As we grew old enough, we would go exploring rivers and streams by ourselves. My brother was extremely creative and very good at technical stuff. He made a lot of the toys we played with. I remember he once made a small helicopter

I WAS A TOMBOY GROWING UP. WHEN I WAS YOUNG I WOULD SAY I DIDN’T WANT TO HAVE CHILDREN using straw, wires and batteries. In those days there was no such thing as video games so we were inspired to be creative. My dad would take us to our village to meet with our relatives and enjoy their company. We would hear interesting stories of the past and what village life was like. We enjoyed it a lot. My mother would take us to England during the holidays to spend time with her sister. She lived in the countryside in a small village called Sidmouth in Devon. It’s one of the most beautiful and peaceful places I have ever been to. We would go swimming in the ocean and go fishing with our grandfather and have the most wonderful time. To say the least, my childhood was very unusual but absolutely wonderful. I was really blessed. Challenges faced in life The most personal challenges I have faced is coming to terms with the passing away of loved ones. I lost my half-sister, brother and sister-in-law. This was very devastating as we were extremely close. We also lost a very dear colleague who worked for the school I am in a few years ago. At the time of his death, he was the vice principal of the New Horizons College. The passing away of my step mother who was very dear to my brother and I was a major blow. I miss her dearly. I know these challenges are trials from Allah and a test of our faith. We continue to pray that we pass His tests. May Allah have mercy on them all. Life lessons I have learnt that by doing and focusing on doing for others, trying to make a difference, trying to be significant and contributing to the lives of others are the truest forms o f

attaining true happiness, peace of mind and contentment. As a teenager I was very selfish. I focused on making myself happy and doing things I wanted, regardless of how others felt. But as I grew older I realised that happiness comes when you touch people’s lives. Uplift people and lighten the load of others. I have learnt that contributing and making a difference and focusing outward brings a lot of peace of mind and fulfillment. If life has taught me anything, this is it. Most rewarding part of my career After I moved back home to Nigeria, I joined New Horizons College in Minna. I am currently the hostel administrator and the head of Human Resources Department. This is one of the most fulfilling chapters of my career thus far. I have the privilege of being able to do what I love most every day. I get to inspire, motivate, mentor and be a role model to over 400 learners. Another aspect of my passions is the public talks I give. I believe very strongly in anything to do with personal growth and character building. I love to also give talks on team building and leadership, as well as premarital and marriage topics. The feedback I get is tremendous. It is so fulfilling when, after I give my talks on marriage or personal development, I hear people say “I felt you were speaking to me” or “my husband and I are going through exactly what you talked about, I thought it was only us”. That connection is extremely rewarding, particularly realising that the little I know, which I am able to share, is making a difference. I feel truly blessed. Aspirations growing up Well, my aspirations are quite different from my reality today. When I was a teenager, I always thought I would open a restaurant that served eclectic dishes. My mum sent me to the UK right after secondary school to a French and Italian cooking school. During the course which lasted three months, I learnt how to cook over 200 French and Italian dishes. Growing up, my step mother and some of my friends also taught me African dishes. I am passionate about cooking and experimenting with different ingredients. I didn’t open a restaurant; however, I use every excuse to have a social get-together where I cook my favourite dishes. I have no regrets about how things turned out. Fond childhood memories I miss the age of innocence. I miss the freedom to be able to let your children run freely to explore, roam and learn. In those days we could go to our neighbour’s homes and play. It was so different from the way things are today. With little or no issues of drugs and some of the vices we see today, I miss not being able to give my children the same opportunities. It took a village to raise us. My brothers and I were disciplined by our neighbours and by total strangers. Although it was not fun then, I do miss the fact that the community was involved in everything. Joys of motherhood I was a tomboy growing up. When I was young I would say I didn’t want to have children. I didn’t like kids. It was so odd. I still joke today that I am allergic to children. I know it sounds terrible. But what my husband and I did worked well for us. My husband felt that because I got married quite young, it was really important that before we brought children into this world, we should both be ready. He felt that he should wait until I was ready to be a mother. It was not until the seventh year of our marriage that we had our first child. Alhamdulillah, we have been blessed with two children. It is the toughest, yet most fulfilling challenge when one is committed and dedicated to raising their children with discipline, good manners and high moral values. My husband and I are firm on discipline. We don’t tolerate any kind of brattishness or misconduct from our children. We don’t believe in spoiling them; on the contrary, we try to instill in them the virtues of hard work and the principles we were giving when we were growing up. Most cherished gift and who it was from My husband. He is a gift from Allah, and my children. They have brought meaning to my life, giving me a purpose. I am so fulfilled and blessed to have such wonderful gifts. How I met my husband I was in secondary school. My dad had already told me that I would not be getting into any tertiary institution until I got married. He was concerned about how easily influenced I was by my friends. So I was open to receiving suitors. My husband’s sister was my classmate and her older sister asked if she could

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SOCIETY NEWS Compiled by HAFSAH ABUBAKAR MATAZU

Tony Elumelu’s mum celebrated birthday in grand style

introduce me to her brother, who at the time was living in the United States. We started to correspond via letters. He would record audio messages on cassette and mail them to me as there was no internet at the time. We courted for two years before I finally met him. He introduced himself to my parents and the discussion of marriage started full swing. We got married less than a year after I graduated from secondary school. Most cherished attribute of his My husband is a straight shooter. He says it as it is. He doesn’t mince his words and I love how straightforward and sincere he is. He puts family first and is also into “girl power”. He loves to see women develop themselves and become strong and go out there and do things to make a difference. He always has my back. He always says “Maryam go for it, what have you got to lose?” Those are attribute that are very unique and not common in a lot of men. I respect him so much for that. First app I check in the morning/bedtime I’m not really a phone person so I don’t often check my phone first thing in the morning. I have my tea after I pray and hangout with the family. Favourite fashion item I am not sure I have one, but I do like broaches. Flats or heels Heels. What I wouldn’t be caught wearing Anything that’s not comfortable or modest. Favourite travel destination Sidmouth in Devon. It is such a beautiful place, very serene and tranquil. People are very sweet and polite. We still go there to this day when we can. How I relax I love mornings. Sitting with my cup of tea in the garden with the sun rising and birds chirping is so relaxing; and in the late evenings when the birds come back at the end of the day, into the trees. When my family joins me there, it is just the icing on the cake. Favourite quote “Your success as a leader is assessed by what happens when you are not around.” It is very fulfilling when you see people around you develop and grow. Favourite food Favourite dish is a nice juicy steak with mashed potatoes gravy and vegetables, nothing tops that. For local food, I love tuwonshinfaka with groundnut or vegetable stew. Definition of style I think, more than anything, when I wear my clothes, I want to own the clothes and not the other way around. I want to make sure they are modest, flattering, and chic without looking vulgar - simple, modest, yet fashionable. Favourite perfume, designer bag and shoes My favourite perfume is Versace Bright Crystal. However, I do not go for designer bags and shoes. Mum’s advice that stuck with me over the years It is not so much her advice but her actions. I watched her a lot. She really is a great role model to me she lived a very simple life. She was very kindhearted. She always saw the good and potential in so many people. She was always focused on

elebrated entrepreneur and philanthropist, Tony Elumelu threw his mother, Suzanne Elumelu an extraordinary party for her 90th birthday. The party was well attended by the crème de la crème of Lagos on the 26th of August had the likes of Aliko Dangote, Femi Otedola, Jim Ovia, Ooni of Ife, Segun Awolowo and many others as well. He shared photos from the celebration on his Instagram account captioning the photos, ”It was a great privilege to honour and celebrate our mother Chief Mrs Suzanne Elumelu, on the occasion of her 90th birthday yesterday with our friends and well-wishers. Mama is the foundation of who and what we are in business, as wives and husbands and as parents. Mama taught us the importance of legacy and of the integral role of women to the development of Africa. I celebrated her yesterday with my friends and family but I celebrate her every single day in everything I do. Happy birthday mama. I pray that we will have the opportunity to celebrate many more years with you!” Many more years to her!

Linda Ikeji awarded with UN Global Leadership Award

contributing and doing for others, touching lives and making a difference. Favourite sport, colour, car and weather I love lawn tennis, and I am a mean tennis player. My husband, son and a couple of friends get together and play on weekends whenever we can. I don’t have a favourite colour. Whatever is flattering works for me. I don’t have any favourite car. Whatever can take me from point A to B is fine by me. I love temperate weather, nothing too extreme. Favourite day of the week I love Sundays. It’s also our “family day.” We all gather at my mum’s house. My brother, his wife and kids and our family get together and have lunch and catch up. Beauty routine I don’t have any. I wash my face with whatever cleansers I have. When I get ready to go out I normally just use some light foundation or concealer and my eyeliner with whatever shade of lipstick I feel like. Role models I have been blessed in my life. I have been surrounded by a lot of role models. My parents, my brother who has been a great spiritual role model to me, and my husband for his straight forwardness and sincerity. Looking back, what I would you tell a younger me I would tell myself not to care much about what others say or think of me as long as I am doing the right thing. I used to be focused on pleasing others and trying to fit in. That is a recipe for negative peer pressure. I would advise my younger self, knowing what I know now, to read a lot. I am not talking about academics, which is a given. To read a lot and learn a lot about everything that is relevant. Read books that can develop minds, talents and character.

edia mogul and blogger Linda Ikeji’s efforts in media and entrepreneurship has been recognized by the United Nations and has been awarded with the United Nations Global Leadership Award. Apart from that, she was also invited to speak at the UN next year. She shared the news saying, “Got the Global Leadership Awards - Digital Media, from the United Nations Global Awards, for my contribution to building a global reach of media and entrepreneurship in Africa. And I was also invited to speak at the UN next year! What a year it’s been so far!” Just a few weeks ago, she was also conferred with an honourary degree from Trinity International College in Georgia, USA for her media contributions in Africa.

Adesua Etomi honoured by University of Wolverhampton Actress Adesua Etomi couldn’t hide her joy over the honour that was bestowed on her by her alma mater, the University of Wolverhampton in the UK. She attended the school studying Drama and Performance graduating with a first class degree. A painting of her was put up in the school alongside other high achievers and she took to Instagram to express how much the feat meant to her especially since she could barely afford the school fees at the time. “Today, I’m grateful for my university education. I remember how my mum and I would sit and wonder how we’d pay my university fees every single year. It’s amazing how God took me from that, to being celebrated and painted on the wall by the same university that we could barely afford.It may look hard right now but hang in there, there’s nothing God cannot do.” Congratulations to her.

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Tips on how to remove crow’s feet C

How to remove crow’s feet Aloe vera: It is one of nature’s most wondrous plants when it comes to beauty remedies. It also has anti-aging properties. Applying the gel from aloe vera leaf to the affected areas will go a long way in keeping crow’s feet at bay. Massage: Doing a gentle massage with nourishing oils such as olive or almond oil will help restore elasticity to your skin by moisturizing it and gradually fading those harsh lines. Milk: Milk is excellent for promoting collagen production, which in turn can help reduce the lines caused by crow’s feet and

wrinkles in general. It is as easy as dipping a cotton pad in milk and applying it to your skin and rinsing it off afterward. Doing this regularly will significantly reduce the appearance. Eye creams: Investing in good and quality eye creams rich in all the ingredients your skin needs for rejuvenation, toning and nourishment is key in getting rid of crow’s feet and dark circles too. Vitamin E: Using vitamin E is

one of the best ways to care and treat your skin. It re ge n e r ate s new skin cells and tightens the skin around your eyes. Eating foods that are rich in vitamin E or taking supplements will provide a long term solution if used consistently.

With additional information from the internet

DID YOU KNOW... THAT WEARING GLASSES CAN REDUCE THE APPEARANCE OF WRINKLES AROUND THE EYES?

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Why you should consider going for checkups more often by HAFSAH ABUBAKAR MATAZU

ost of us have made a habit of only going to the hospital when we are feeling under the weather. But ideally, you should be going to visit your doctor every now and then, even when you are feeling fine. Oftentimes, illnesses and diseases don’t reveal their signs in the early stages, and by the time they do, treatment may be too late. As they say, prevention is better than cure. Dr. John Ankama of Nasara Specialist Hospital Kaduna summed up few reasons that should convince you to book an appointment with your doctor more often. Mental health: Day to day lives nowadays are accompanied with stress, tiredness and so many other things. And it may take a toll on your brain. Sometimes you may not even realise that your odd behavior such as mood swing or lack of sleep would give you reasons to be concerned. Going for checkup regularly will give your doctor the chance to fully examine you and how your mind is doing. Prevention: A doctor conducting a simple blood test, a vaccine and scans can help prevent numerous diseases once they are identified. Spending few minutes at the hospital may add many more years to your life. Hereditary diseases: If your family has a history of diseases such as diabetes, high cholesterol and heart diseases, then it is important you get yourself checked up to lower your chances of getting them. Your doctor can assist you in the necessary lifestyle changes and

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WHY IS SHE BLEEDING? My wife is thirteen weeks pregnant. The issue now is she is having some drops of blood. She did scan and the baby is okay but I do not know why it is happening so. Dough she was asked not to stress herself. But before then she had an operation to remove some growth they found in her stomach about six months ago, is that the cause of the bleeding? Adeleke, Abuja It is not likely that previous operation is the cause of the bleeding now. It’s what will calll threatened miscarriage. I agree with your doctor that your wife may benefit from adequate rest. Also there will be need to repeat ultassound scan to rule out low lying placenta.

by HAFSAH ABUBAKAR MATAZU

row’s feet are the lines visible beside the eyes, caused when the skin around that area begins to lose elasticity, otherwise known as wrinkles. It is more common amongst people over 30 or those who squint often, perhaps because of the sun, or putting stress on our eyes.

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medication you need to control it. Establish a relationship with your doctor: A good patient-doctor relationship is essential to health. Once you find a doctor that knows you in and out, it will be easy for him/her to know when you are okay and when you are not since he is already familiar with you and your history. Stick to one doctor, nurture your relationship and visit regularly to ensure you live the healthiest and fullest life possible. With additional information from the internet

MISSED PERIOD FOR THREE MONTHS I missed my period for about three months now and am not pregnant. I have seen a doctor and he advice I do a pelvic scan, which I did and the result shows a cyst. He placed me on some medication which I have been taking, apart from Cypro, Folic acid and Fesolate tabs he gave me. Is there any other medication I can take? Grace, Jos Cyst is hardly treated with antibiotics. Let your docotor do progesterone withdrawal bleeding test. He will know the drug to give. Concerning the cyst the size will determine what to do. Usually if it’s less than 5cm in diameter, conservative approach can be used especially if not associated persistent pains. Kindly see a Gynaecologist. ANY RELATIONSHIP? Dear Doctor, for a long time now, almost all cases of stroke (all types) happen in the early morning, (4, 5, 6 am)and mostly in bathrooms. why so? Maikas Are you sure? How many cases of stroke of stoke have you seen? I am not aware of any relationship between stroke or cerebrovascular accident and early morning hours. We believe in evidence based facts. Well since you mention I will try and observe further. CAN DEPO-PROVERA-CUASE PID I have PID and it has been on for about 8 years now (2011-now), as a result of taking depoprovera family planing injection. I’ve taken all the treatments available but it wont heal. Now my monthly period’s blocked, eventhough I ovulate, but the period cannot find its way out. Let me state categorically that the depoprovea is not the cause of the infection. It is also unusual to say Pelvic inflammatory disease did not respond to treatment for eight years. It could be due to under dosaging, wrong medication or fake drugs. I think you have to see a Gynaecologist for proper examination and treatment Also the menses not flowing out is a problem on its own and maybe some tests including possibility of hysteroscopy will help. PREGNANCY AFTER SEVEN MONTHS OF C/ S? Please doctor, I got pregnant seven months after a cesarean section. Please can I try labour? I don’t want to deliver by Caesarean section again. Aisha Katsina It is a little too early at seven month. Why not wait for a year? The preferable interdepivery interval is minimum of eighteen months. Your own will be less. It is not save for you to try normal delivery, it has to be by Caesarean section because of the short interval between pregnancy.