Healthy Living May 2014

FRIENDSHIP

Two Lake County women prove there is something extraordinary about the sisterhood of female friendship.

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From helping pioneer no-stitch/noneedle cataract surgery techniques to opening the area’s first eye surgery center, Mid Florida Eye Center has been advancing eye care in Lake County for over 25 years. Now, with Laser Cataract Surgery, our patients have more options than ever before for restoring their vision and being independent of glasses.

A BLADELESS SURGICAL EXPERIENCE

Laser Cataract Surgery is an option for patients who want to increase their chance of freedom from glasses. It’s the most advanced cataract surgery technique available today. The surgery is totally bladeless, giving surgeons

increased accuracy and the ability to correct astigmatism. Plus, the laser’s real-time 3D visualization, when combined with our surgeons’ expertise, results in a truly customized lens replacement procedure.

EXPERIENCE MATTERS

Together, our internationally renowned cataract surgeons— Dr. Jeffrey D. Baumann, Dr. Gregory J. Panzo, and Dr. Keith C. Charles—have performed more than 140,000 successful cataract and laser procedures. They understand how to effectively leverage laser technology to achieve the best possible visual outcomes.

ADVANCED TECHNOLOGY LENSES

When paired with the right lens, Laser Cataract Surgery can dramatically improve your vision—at all distances. Thanks to our participation in groundbreaking clinical research trials, we have a diverse selection of advanced technology lenses. We’ll help you choose the one that fits your lifestyle best.

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CELEBRATING SISTERHOOD 26

So often, you hear how women cannot be friends because of jealousy and competition, but in truth, the friendships women share with each other can be powerful and positive in many ways. Two Leesburg women sit down to talk about their friendship and its importance during times of joy and pain.

WRITER: SHEMIR WILES

YOU GOAL GIRL

Between maintaining those youthful feelings of invincibility and juggling family and careers, women in their 20s and 30s often put their health on the back burner. Now is the time to take control of one’s health. “Healthy Living” provides a comprehensive list of proactive steps young women can take so they can live long, healthy, and prosperous lives.

WRITER: JAMES COMBS

‘SHEAR’ DETERMINATION

In the beginning of his battle with acute lymphoblastic leukemia (ALL), 7-year-old Jay Ryon was most concerned about losing his hair. As a result, the Lake County Firefighters Charity recently held a “Shave-a-Thon” so the boy does not have to feel alone in being bald. Money raised from the event helped his family pay mounting medical expenses.

WRITER: JAMES COMBS

IN EVERY ISSUE

12 EDITOR’S LETTER

14 MEDICAL MYSTERIES

16 HEALTH MATTERS

HEALTHYBODY

SHAPE

SHAPAPE

54 CARDIO CHALLENGE

54 CARDIOCHALLENGE

Increase your cardiovascular endurance with these exercises.

WRITER: TRACY DRAPER

LOOK

58 SUMMER SKIN

Is your skin ready for tank top season?

WRITER: RUTH ANN BYRD

GENDER

60 WORLDS NEED NOT COLLIDE WHEN VENUS MEETS MARS

Men and women are different in many ways.

WRITER: RICHARD T. BOSSHARDT, M.D., FACS

ALLIANCE

62 STRENGTH IN NUMBERS

An accountability partner can help you achieve your health goals.

WRITER: LORI ESAREY, ARNP, ABAAHP, FAARFM, CFT

HEALTHYMIND

BEHAVIOR

68 BIPOLAR DISORDER 101

Learn the hallmarks of this debilitating disease.

HEALTHYSPIRIT

TIES

74 MAKING NEW FRIENDS

Tackling this daunting task is easier than you think.

MENCOURAGEMENT

76 BALLROOM DRESSES, SOCCER, AND THE NUTCRACKER

Three different daughters, one loving father

WRITER: RICHARD BURGUET

22 HEALTHY INSPIRATION

80 CALENDAR

84 COMMUNITY

90 THINGS YOU SHOULD KNOW

CONTINUED

HEALTHYFINANCE

PLANNING

78 TAKING CONTROL

Women should be more proactive when it comes to their finances.

WRITERS: THOMAS FROSS AND ROBERT FROSS

LIFE IS WHAT YOU MAKE IT—AND WE CAN HELP.

The late John Lennon hit the nail on the head when he said, “Life is what happens when you’re busy making other plans.”

It seems like yesterday I was a high school student typing in bowling results at the once-great Kokomo (Ind.) Tribune. You’ll notice I said “typing”, not keying. Yes, we used electric typewriters in 1976.

Across the room, furiously puffing his beloved briar pipe and scratching his flattop, sat Sports Editor Bob Ford, wearing enormous Harry Caray eyeglasses and a cardigan sweater.

Ford was a treasure, a crusty veteran who embraced change like we welcome lovebugs. “Burrhead Bob” had been around, so when he dispensed pearls of wisdom, us young pups clung to his words like a man grabbing the rail of a departing train.

Ford didn’t have much use for mouthy upstarts like me, but he’d occasionally offer a life lesson. For instance, each Thanksgiving Eve he’d tell me, “Don’t fall into a turkey’s butt,” although he didn’t say “butt.”

Ford was a character. And a brilliant writer. But he didn’t know much about healthy living. He was never part of the community he covered. His routine never varied. He’d leave at 5, drive to the Elks Club, knock back a few scotches, tell some dirty jokes, and be home by 6:30. Then he’d drink martinis, eat dinner, and walk the dog.

There was an entire world waiting to be explored, but Ford wasn’t interested. One day, someone mentioned Kmart. “Where’s that?” Ford asked. I nearly fell out of my chair. Kmart was on the main highway of the city Ford had lived in for 23 years. Couldn’t miss it. And it had been there for 20 years.

I’m happy to say I never fell into a turkey carcass. But that’s about the only piece of Ford’s advice I followed.

You see, I’ve been well acquainted with every Kmart in every town in which I’ve lived in. Dittos for the best BBQ stand, most popular thrift shop, that honest mechanic, most spirited ball team, and laziest public park. I immerse myself in my surroundings, and I get to know people. It’s my responsibility as a writer to do so.

So don’t be surprised if I show up on your doorstep to see what’s happening in your life. I’ll be asking how you maintain your physical, spiritual, financial, and mental health.

Understand that this magazine will never be filler and fluff. Healthy Living belongs to you, and we refuse to fill these pages with syndicated material by writers who can’t find Central Florida with a GPS.

Our staff is dedicated to plugging into the community to pinpoint issues and find secrets to success — in all facets of life. So tell us what’s working for you. I’d love to hear from you.

Life does indeed happen when we are busy making plans, but it doesn’t have to pass us by. Count on us to show you how to be stronger, wealthier, wiser, and healthier.

KENDRA AKERS publisher/editor-in-chief kendra@akersmediagroup.com

DOUG AKERS vice president doug@akersmediagroup.com

JAMIE EZRA MARK chief creative officer jamie@akersmediagroup.com

EDITORIAL // DESIGN // PHOTOGRAPHY

GARY CORSAIR executive editor gary@akersmediagroup.com

SHEMIR WILES managing editor/writer shemir@akersmediagroup.com

MARY ANN D ESANTIS editor-at-large maryann@akersmediagroup.com

JAMES COMBS staff writer james@akersmediagroup.com

FRED LOPEZ chief photographer fred@akersmediagroup.com

MATTHEW GAULIN photography assistant matt@akersmediagroup.com

STEVEN J. CODRARO associate creative director steve@akersmediagroup.com

JOSH CLARK senior designer/advertising josh@akersmediagroup.com

ANTHONY CASTO senior designer/editorial anthony@akersmediagroup.com

MICHAEL GAULIN production director michael@akersmediagroup.com

CONTRIBUTING

contributing writers RICHARD T. BOSSHARDT, MD, FACS RICHARD BURGUET

RUTH ANN BYRD LORI ESAREY, ARNP, CFT ROBERT AND THOMAS FROSS

ANGELA GIANGROSSI

FRED HILTON

contributing photographers SHAENA CHASTAIN RON VANDEVANDER

SALES // MARKETING

TIM MCRAE vice president of sales and marketing tim@akersmediagroup.com

MIKE STEGALL senior marketing representative mike@akersmediagroup.com

LORI STRONG marketing representative lori@akersmediagroup.com

MELANIE MELVIN marketing director melanie@akerscreative.com

HEIDI RESSLER marketing representative heidi@akersmediagroup.com

AUBREY AKERS production coordinator aubrey@akersmediagroup.com

LACEY MORGAN marketing assistant lacey@akerscreative.com

ADMINISTRATION

TINA MORRISON office manager tina@akersmediagroup.com

BRITTANY BUELL administrative assistant brittany@akersmediagroup.com

DISTRIBUTION

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Until next time,

Gary Corsair

Until next time, Corsair

Executive Editor

WHAT CAUSES THOSE

‘HOUND DOG EYES?’

WRITER: FRED HILTON

You have to love small-market television newscasts. They are more entertaining than most sitcoms. Every member of the news team is desperately trying to develop some special onair persona that will attract the attention of a large-market station. All of them are looking for some signature phrase that will set them apart from the competition and land them a big metro job.

Sportscasters are the main culprits. One that I used to watch on a small-market station stood out from the rest. When he was on the air, he would literally bounce up and down as if he really, really needed to go to the bathroom. And he had a couple of those “signature” phrases. One of them popped up every time he would talk about a NASCAR driver of the ’80s and ’90s named Ernie Irvan. Irvan was a successful driver and had a distinctive appearance: big puffy black bags under his eyes. Whenever the frenetic sportscaster would introduce a story about Irvan, he would seem to levitate in his chair and shout, “Ernie Irvan, the man with the hound dog eyes!”

Once I fi nished giggling I realized many people have bags under their eyes, but what causes them?

There can be plenty of reasons. “Puffy or swollen eyes can be caused by fl uid retention, stress, allergies, hormone changes, and other factors,” wrote Dr. William Goldstein for Eye Health Web. “Other times we get puffy eyes after sleeping. This can be caused by too much sodium in the diet, which causes water retention. Puffy eyes can also be caused by lack of sleep or excessive alcohol intake.”

You can treat puffy eyes in several ways, including ice packs, limiting sodium intake, increasing vitamin intake, and drinking plenty of water to clean out your system.

The main reason people get puffy eyes, however, is something we cannot control. Sarah Siddons for How Stuff Works states, “One of the biggest reasons people get bags under their eyes is their parents have them. It’s in your genes and aside from plastic surgery there’s not much that

can be done about it. As you get older, bags under your eyes will become a more permanent fi xture.”

If you do have puffy eyes, keep in mind that does not make you a NASCAR driver and you absolutely cannot drive at 135 miles per hour on I-75. The Florida Highway Patrol frowns upon that.

FRED HILTON spent 36 years as the chief public relations officer/spokesman for James Madison University in Virginia and 10 years prior as a reporter and editor for The Roanoke Times in Roanoke, Virginia. He is now happily retired in The Villages with his interior designer wife, Leta, their Cadillac Escalade golf cart, and their dog, Paris. (Yes, that makes her Paris Hilton).

TALK TO STRANGERS.”

This is a common rule that parents have enforced for generations. However, it should equally apply to children who spend time on the Internet. With a growing number of online predators, parents must take necessary steps to ensure their children use the Internet safely and responsibly.

• Do not put a computer in your child’s bedroom.

• Take time to become technologically savvy if you are not already. Learn common chat room lingo.

• Clearly communicate which websites your children can and cannot visit. Post your rules next to the computer.

• Check any online profiles your child may have, and make sure the profile does not have any identifying information.

• Know your child’s passwords and screen names.

• Always use parental controls provided by Internet service providers, browsers, and search engines.

• Do not allow your child to meet with anyone he or she has communicated with online unless you are present.

Source: kidsbuzz.prattlibrary.org/grownups/index.aspx?id=52168

DID YOU KNOW?

One in five U.S. teenagers who regularly spend time on the Internet say they have received unwanted sexual solicitation via the Web. Solicitations are defined as requests to engage in sexual activities or sexual talk, or to give personal sexual information.

Source: sentrypc.com/home/statistics.htm

“DON’T

“Dr. Felix Esarey is a wonderful man and wonderful podiatrist. I also respect how he was so forthright about the good, bad, and ugly of the procedures I underwent. You do not always get that kind of honesty these days. If I ever develop other foot problems, I feel good knowing he is a short drive away.”

--Mary Beth Kensell y

WOMEN’S HEALTH BY THE NUMBERS:

13.7%

of women ages 18 and older are in fair or poor health.

15.4% of women under age 65 are without health insurance coverage.

18.3% of women ages 18 and older smoke cigarettes.

32.8% of women ages 20 and older have high blood pressure.

35.9% of women ages 20 and older are considered obese.

67.1% of women ages 40 and older have had a mammogram within the past two years.

Source: Centers for Disease Control and Prevention

A STROKE IS NO JOKE

May is National Stroke Month. Stroke is one of the leading causes of death, killing approximately 130,000 Americans each year, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). The organization provides some important stroke prevention tips to help you from becoming a statistic.

• Eat foods high in fiber and low in saturated fats, trans fat, and cholesterol. Make sure to eat vegetables and fruit.

• Maintain a healthy weight. Obesity increases risk of a stroke.

• The Surgeon General recommends at least two hours and 30 minutes of moderate to intense exercise each week. Activities can include a brisk walk or bicycle ride.

• Do not smoke. If you are already a smoker, quit immediately.

• Limit your alcohol intake. Alcohol can increase your blood pressure. Men should have no more than two drinks per day, and women only one.

Seek medical attention immediately if you begin to suffer from one or more of these common stroke symptoms:

• Paralysis or numbness of the face, an arm, or a leg. Oftentimes, this happens on one side of the body.

• Trouble speaking or understanding words.

• Difficulty walking due to dizziness, loss of balance, or loss of coordination.

• Difficulty seeing in one or both eyes.

• Persistent headache.

Source: Mayo Clinic

HELP YOUR BABY BOOM

Bringing a child into this world is an exciting moment for expectant parents. However, it’s also a time filled with concerns and questions. This is particularly common for first-time parents who have no idea what to expect.

Never fear. Those concerns can now be addressed and those questions answered.

The Young Families Health Initiative Committee of Lake County is hosting the 25th annual Baby Fair on May 7 at the Leesburg Community Center. The event, which will provide prenatal and postnatal education, is open to fi rst-time or special needs moms and dads, as well as mothers who are currently pregnant or parents of newborns. Information will focus on healthy lifestyles, child safety, early learning, and positive parenting.

For more information, call Stacy Morgan at 352.314.6933.

Jorge L. Florin MD, FACS

Jorge L. MD, FACS

Dr. Florin started his surgical practice in August 1991 covering the West Orange and South Lake County areas. The practice now has two offices, one in Ocoee and one in Clermont. With five surgeons on staff, each brings with him experience and expertise in many facets of general surgery.

Dr. Florin started practice in August 1991

e now has two offices, With five surgeons on staff, each with him of Dr. primary laparoscopic surgery, hernia repairs, bowel resections and breast cancer care. Other Interest include both and surgery.

Dr. Florin’s primary interest include laparoscopic surgery, hernia repairs, bowel resections and appendectomies, breast cancer care. Other Interest include both thyroid and parathyroid surgery.

Dr. is certified American Board of Surgery is a fellow of the American has served as chief of surgery chief of at Health Central as well as to the Board of Trustees OF Health Central from 2005 to 2009

Medical Society. Dr. has by his peers as one of Orlando’s premier doctors both

Dr. Florin is board certified by the American Board of Surgery and is a fellow of the American College of Surgeons. He has served as chief of surgery and chief of staff at Health Central as well as appointed to the Board of Trustees OF Health Central from 2005 to 2009 by former Governor Charlie Crist. He is a member of the Society of Laparoscopic Surgeons and The Lake Sumter Medical Society. Dr. Florin has been recognized by his peers as one of Orlando’s premier doctors both in 2011 and 2012.

PINPOINTE LASER TREATMENT

The Center for Ankle & Foot Care uses the stateof-the-art PinPointe Laser to cure embarrassing and unsightly toenail fungus. This FDA-approved treatment is a safe and effective way to kill fungus and improve the appearance of your nails. Our practice also sells the SteriShoe. This patented ultraviolet shoe sanitizer kills the microbes that cause athlete’s foot, toenail fungus, and offensive shoe odor.

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Dr. Florin is married to Tami Florin and together they have six children. He enjoys playing tennis, traveling and spending time with family.

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IT’S ABOUT ‘THYME’

Although you can always buy fresh herbs at the supermarket, perhaps you should consider growing your own herb garden. The sights and scents alone would help relieve stress and revitalize your soul, not to mention help you save money. An herb garden will also add to your home’s curb appeal. Here are some health benefits of individual herbs.

Basil: Spent the night partying? Eat some basil, which is known to have a detoxifying effect on the liver.

Chives: This tasty herb can give your immune system a big boost. Multiple studies even suggest that eating allium vegetables, which include garlic and scallions in addition to chives, can lower your risk of developing certain cancers.

Cilantro: This highly fragrant herb supplies fiber and iron to your diet, as well as helps clear heavy metals from your body.

Dill: It’s great for curing hiccups. Just mix a teaspoon of dill leaf with a cup of boiled water, strain out the leaves, and drink the liquid slowly.

Mint: Rich in vitamin A, mint provides more than half of the day’s recommended intake in just two tablespoons. In addition, it is good for treating bad breath, indigestion, nausea, headaches, respiratory disorders, asthma, pimples, and cavities.

Sage: Sage is thought to be a natural remedy for anxiety and fatigue. It can also be a memory enhancer for older adults.

Thyme: Thyme contains thymol, which has been found to have antiseptic and antifungal characteristics. Thymol is a key ingredient in Listerine.

Save your own skin

Summertime is around the corner. Many people will become regular visitors to Florida’s world-class beaches and enjoy the surf, sun, and sand. There is certainly nothing wrong with being a beach bum … as long as you take precautions to avoid sunburns and skin cancer. Here are some tips provided by The University of Texas M.D. Anderson Cancer Center.

• Purchase a sunscreen with UV-A and UV-B protection.

• Make sure your sunscreen has a Sun Protection Factor (SPF) of 30 or higher. SPF reflects the sun’s rays, keeping them from burning your skin.

• Apply an adequate amount of sunscreen all over your body without forgetting your ears, feet, and the back of your neck.

• Sunscreen quickly wears off, so be sure to reapply it every two hours.

• Do not rely on sunscreen alone. Also, consider wearing lip balm with a SPF of 30 or higher, a hat with a wide brim, and wrap-around sunglasses with UV protection.

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FROM HIKING TO HANDSTANDS

WRITER: JAMES COMBS

AMANDA RICH UNDERSTANDS THAT HEALTH IS WEALTH

In 2005, Amanda Rich hiked the 2,185-mile Appalachian Trail that spans from Georgia to Maine. During six months on the trail, she blazed a path to self-discovery.

“I hiked the trail by myself. It was a life-changing experience and gave me a new perspective on life. I learned that you can accomplish anything you set your mind to. It was the happiest I had ever been, even though all I had was my backpack and a few items inside my backpack.”

Throughout her life, Amanda, 29, has always seized opportunities to put her best foot forward when it comes to health. As a matter of fact, she and her husband, Brandon, incorporate mini-backpacking trips into every vacation. They’ve enjoyed breathtaking hikes in Costa Rica, Alaska, and New England. In the future, they plan to complete the scenic Tahoe Rim Trail around Lake Tahoe.

As much as she relishes hiking, Amanda discovered a new passion two years ago after joining CrossFit Unmatched in Mount Dora. This intense exercise program allows her to perform a wide variety of exercises, ranging from kettlebell swings and running to rope climbs and handstand push-ups. She goes five times a week.

“Participating in CrossFit has changed my life,” she says. “It provides me with structure, and I sleep well and feel good all the time. It’s a really cool environment because everyone

is very supportive. The owners have instilled healthy habits and behaviors in me.”

aviors in me.”

A year ago, she took things to another level by competing in CrossFit competitions. Last November, her team emerged victorious at the Blue Cooler Crossfit Competition in Deland. This summer, she will compete in a competition held at Disney’s Wide World of Sports.

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Amanda realizes healthy eating is critical to achieve the most from her CrossFit training. Her diet consists primarily of lean protein and greens. “I log everything I eat and shop around the perimeter of the grocery store,” she says. “I avoid eating anything that comes in a box.” Her healthy habits have certainly not gone unnoticed. Whenever her coworkers at First Green Bank need advice on losing weight or living healthy, they turn to Amanda. Without question, she is a positive influence in the workplace.

“We always make healthy smoothies in the morning, and I always send out weekly emails consisting of health tips, healthy recipes, and healthy places to shop. Some of my coworkers have even asked me to do cooking demonstrations.”

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SISTER HOOD

Through friendship and companionship, women support each other in many ways.

WRITER: SHEMIR WILES PHOTOS: FRED LOPEZ

The bonds of sisterhood are not limited to college sororities; they are a universal part of being a woman. Female friendships are complex and somewhat enigmatic; however, they are also special because no one can understand what a woman goes through like another woman.

We share life experiences men could never fully comprehend, although some try their best to sympathize. Our close female friendships shape who we are and who we eventually want to become. They empower us when we feel weak, help us feel less alone, and give us an outlet to share our problems, thoughts, feelings, and triumphs.

The ties of sisterhood even have health benefits. According to a landmark UCLA study, brain chemicals released while stressed are a stimulus that motivates us to maintain our friendships with other women. And numerous studies have found that having multiple friends, especially as we age, reduces our risk of disease and keeps us from developing physical impairments. So our friendships aren’t just healthy, they are also healing.

Nonetheless, there can be low moments. Jealousy, cattiness, and competition can weave their way into any solid female friendship. But, if the foundation is sound, such petty instances of insecurity and envy should never reach validation. Instead, they should fall by the wayside because ultimately we only want to see the best for our “sisters.”

When we want to know if a shirt is too tight or if we have indeed gained weight, only our girlfriends can answer honestly without retribution. When we need to unload our deepest, darkest secrets, our friends are the closest thing to a locked diary. And when we have to make difficult life decisions others would criticize, our closest girlfriends are the ones who won’t judge, but will instead offer a lifetime of caring words and loyalty.

REMEMBER ME?

Fran Sullivan and Angela Lackey first met nearly 40 years ago while working their first jobs as phone solicitors.

“We sold photo portrait packages for Olan Mills,” says Angela. “After school from 5 to 9p.m., we would sit in a small room in their building, which was right on Main Street in Leesburg, and cold call people out of the phone book to see if they would buy a package from us.”

Though Angela and Fran both attended Leesburg High School, the two girls did not run in the same circles. It was only through work that they began to get to know each other. Nevertheless, their jobs were only temporary, and when the work dried up and they graduated, they lost touch.

Fran stayed in Leesburg. Angela moved away to attend college and lived in Orlando for a while before returning to Leesburg. More than a decade passed before they finally saw each other again.

“We reconnected when our children started going to school together at First Baptist Daycare,” says Fran. “I would see Angela at birthday parties and it took us some time to realize we had known each other way back in high school. Then the girls started playing soccer together. Plus, our daughters’ birthdays are only a few days apart, so we started combining birthday parties. Eventually, we started forming a friendship again, but this time it was different because we had the kids to keep us connected.”

They quickly discovered they had many activities they enjoyed doing outside of being mothers, like dining out, shopping, and going to the beach.

“During the summer we visit the beach a lot, and every Labor Day it’s a tradition to go to the beach to celebrate the end of summer,” says Fran.

It does not hurt that their husbands get along — or that their daughters, Meagan and Lauren, are best friends. And now that the children are adults with their own families, Angela and Fran say they have been able to grow even closer and learn more about one another.

“Now we go to church together every Sunday, but before we go, we always have breakfast,” says Angela. “Actually, once or twice a week we go out to eat and catch up. We usually talk about everything — husbands, work, children, grandchildren, parents.”

But, just as they enjoy good times together, they also have been through their fair share of tribulations. Most significantly, they were able to uplift each other during their individual battles with cancer.

(Accessed April 15, 2014)

SOURCE: “Biobehavioral Responses to Stress in Females: Tend-and-Befriend, Not Fight-or-Flight” by Shelley E. Taylor, Laura Cous ino Klein, Brian P. Lewis, Tara L. Gruenewald, Regan A. R. Gurung, and John A.

In life, you have to have an outlet… having a good friend where you can just let your hair down and speak the truth without fears of judgment or criticism.

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Meagan and Lauren celebrate their sixth birthdays. Because their girls’ birthdays were so close together, Angela and Fran would throw shared birthday parties.

Angela and Fran in a Relay for Life event together. Both women are cancer survivors.

Angela and Fran’s daughters, Meagan and Lauren, graduated from Leesburg High School. Angela and Fran credit their daughters’ friendship for rekindling theirs.

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“I had a very rare cancer called Merkel cell carcinoma 12 years ago and Angela is a breast cancer survivor,” says Fran. “Because I went through my cancer first, I felt like I was really able to be there for Angela and help her. I understood what she was going through.”

That kind of support, Angela says, was, and has always been, invaluable.

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“In life, you have to have an outlet,” she says. “You have to be able to talk to someone openly and honestly, or else you’ll go crazy. Yes, you have the support of your husband and your children, but there is something about having a good friend where you can just let your hair down and speak the truth without fears of judgment or criticism.”

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f la has as Fran deals with her mother’s health issues.

Lately, Angela has been able to return the favor by lending an empathetic ear as Fran deals with her mother’s health issues.

“Angela lost her father three years ago, so she knows how difficult it can be to face the possibilities and then realities of losing a parent,” says Fran. “Through times like these, it is nice to have someone who knows exactly what you’re dealing with and can be there for you.”

Because I went through my cancer first, I felt like I was really able to be there for Angela and help her. I understood what she was going through.

SISTERLY LOVE

Healthy Living asked our female followers on Facebook to submit pictures of them with their best girlfriends as a celebration of sisterhood.

Roxy Vazquez, Michal Cordero, Natasha Roque, and Veronica Hernandez: 23 years of friendship

Amber Seaton Lewis and Mattie Trubey Crosby: 18 years of friendship

Amber Wilnau and Heather Stowers: 5 years of friendship

Brittany Hartline and Haley Gerig: 9 years of friendship

Amy Smith, Megan Farner, and Courtney Ponds: 12 years of friendship

Carrianne Kinney, Christina Benjamin, and Molly Soltis: 4 years of Friendship

each other emotional support. Fran

give each other emotional support. Fran recently took on the role of caretaker when Angela broke her ankle.

“We have always done something with the kids until recently when we planned a five-day cruise to the Grand Cayman Island and Cozumel, Mexico,” says Angela. “Well of course two weeks before it’s time to go, I break my ankle. Fran had to push me around in a wheelchair. She even came over to wash my hair and pack my clothes before we left. She did my laundry. She was really a true friend for me during that time.”

In a world where people are spending more time on Facebook and Twitter and less time talking face-to-face and maintaining real friendships, Angela and Fran agree it’s refreshing to still be the kind of people who take the time to bond and be active in each other’s lives.

“We have people ask us all the time if we are sisters,” says Fran. “I just smile and say, ‘No, we’re just really good friends.’”

Tailgating at University of Florida football games are one of Angela and Fran’s favorite pastimes.

Heart to heart friendship

The gift of friendship is invaluable. Nobody knows this better than Ocala residents Geneva Thompson and Betty Pritchard, who have been best friends since meeting at Bible Baptist Church in the early 1970s.

The memories they’ve shared since that time are endless. They’ve laughed together, lifted each other’s spirits, and served as a source of comfort and security for one another during difficult and sad times.

“Betty is a like a sister to me,” Geneva says. “I can tell her things that I would never tell anyone else. I also know that if I ever need anything I can rely on her. You cannot do those things with just anybody.”

Betty echoes those sentiments. “I understand Geneva and she understands me. Growing up, I had six brothers and no sisters. I consider Geneva to be the sister I never had.”

“Dr. Qamar is the kindest doctor I’ve ever met,” Betty says. “His staff is the same way. Everyone is just like family, and I never feel like I’m inside a doctor’s office.”

Betty first met Dr. Qamar in 2004. At the time, her heart rate had slowed considerably, and she was having difficulty breathing. She visited Dr. Qamar’s office and underwent diagnostic tests. He discovered three blockages in her heart.

her life. She went to Dr. Qamar for follow-up care, and after discovering additional blockages, he placed stents in her legs and kidneys.

Of course, an admiration for each other is not the only thing these longtime friends have in common. They both readily admit that no doctor touches their heart—no pun intended—quite like Dr. Asad Qamar of Institute of Cardiovascular Excellence. Betty referred Geneva to Dr. Qamar years ago. Both will tell you that Dr. Qamar’s expertise in cardiovascular care, combined with his thoroughness, is the reason their friendship continues today.

“He put two stents in me, and as far as I’m concerned he saved my life,” Betty says. “Unlike some doctors, he does a lot of testing instead of lots of guessing. I really appreciate that. My husband, Homer, is also a patient of ICE. His two brothers suffered aneurysms, and Homer was frustrated that his previous cardiologist refused to give him adequate testing. He went to Dr. Qamar, who discovered blockages in his leg and heart. Dr. Qamar has been a godsend.”

Geneva suffered a heart attack in 2009 after being admitted to the hospital for severe pain. Although her heart stopped beating, the use of defibrillation saved

“All I can say is thank God Dr. Qamar is so thorough and leaves no stones unturned,” Geneva says. “If more doctors were as thorough as he is, fewer patients who have blockages in their kidneys would have to go on kidney dialysis. I have no doubt that Dr. Qamar is one of the best physicians in the state and even the country. He is that good.”

Thanks to Dr. Qamar’s skill in diagnosing and treating cardiovascular problems, Betty and Geneva are alive today. And, not surprisingly, their friendship remains strong as ever. They enjoy shopping together, eating out together, and talking on the phone.

“I’ve never once been mad at her in all these years,” Betty says. “Sometimes we jokingly tell each other to shut up but we never mean anything by it. We depend on one another for everything.”

Friendships are priceless. So are great physicians like Dr. Qamar.

Thanks to the team’s skill in diagnosing and treating cardiovascular problems, Betty Pritchard and Geneva Thompson are alive today.

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• Conservative, bone sparing technique

• Does not sacrifice any ligaments

• 20+ years of successful patient outcomes

• Restores your knee to a more natural state

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ACL and PCL critical for knee stability

TKO Knee

Unlike most knee implants, the ACL and PCL are not sacrificed with the TKO

Total knee replacement is intended for individuals with degenerative, rheumatoid and post-traumatic arthritis of the knee. Knee replacement surgery is contraindicated for patients with certain types of infections, some mental or neuromuscular disorders, compromised bone stock, skeletal immaturity, severe instability of the knee, or excessive body weight.

As with any surgery, knee replacement surgery has certain risks. Speak to your surgeon to decide if knee replacement surgery s appropriate for you. Individual results vary and not all patients will return to the same activity level.

The future of orthopedic surgery

Dr. Vrej Manoogian is the only doctor in Florida to offer this revolutionary tendon-sparing BioPro TKO knee implant

Dr. Vrej Kristapor Manoogian is offering the most advanced treatments available for hip, knee, and shoulder problems.

Dr. Manoogian is the inventor of the “Living Hip” total hip replacement. This is the most bone-conserving total hip available and has the ability to maintain bone integrity throughout the entirety of a patient’s life.

With regards to shoulders, Dr. Manoogian performs arthroscopic rotator cuff repairs through incisions only millimeters in length. He also performs a multitude of other completely arthroscopic shoulder treatments, open procedures, and, when necessary, total shoulder replacement arthroplasty.

When it comes to knees, Dr. Manoogian offers the TKO implant, a complete ligament-sparing total or partial knee replacement. He offers other surgical knee replacement procedures, as well. Rather than using a one-size-fits-all approach, he carefully examines the ligament and functional status of the patient’s knees to see which option would best suit the individual patient.

Dr. Manoogian’s treatment philosophy has been and always will be to proceed with the most conservative treatments available to restore function to normal or as normal as possible.

TAKE THIS TO HEART

Despite the stereotype, ladies, elderly men are not the only ones who have heart attacks. Two Lake County women featured in Healthy Living’s February issue suffered heart attacks at the ages of 27 and 38, respectively. Here are some preventative measures you can take.

• Don’t use or smoke tobacco.

• Exercise 30 minutes a day. If you’re not an exercise enthusiast, walking will suffice.

• Eat a heart-healthy diet rich in fruits, vegetables, and whole grains.

Source: Mayo Clinic

Young women have a lot on their minds — relationships, careers, weddings, husbands, and children, to name a few. If you are generally healthy, you don’t want to add worries about future medical issues to the load. A false sense of security and complacency, however, can lead to health problems down the road.

Writer: James Combs

BE ON YOUR ‘BREAST’ BEHAVIOR

Sure, only 5 percent of all breast cancer cases occur in women under 40, but you could still be one of those rare exceptions. Women should begin monthly breast self-examinations at age 20. Familiarizing yourself with the look and feel of your breast will help you notice any abnormal changes. That is important because early detection and prompt treatment will significantly increase your chance of survival. As a matter of fact, 90 percent of women will survive when breast cancer is discovered in an early stage.

If you have a family history of breast cancer, you should consult your physician about undergoing periodic mammogram screening before reaching age 40.

Source: Cleveland Clinic

AVOID SKIN SINS

For most young women, it is a point of pride to look and feel beautiful. Here are some important tips to maintain smooth, soft, clear, and glowing skin.

DO: Remember to wear sunscreen. Stick to SPFs between 15 and 50+.

DON’T: Smoke cigarettes because nicotine constricts blood vessels and blocks the flow of oxygen to your skin.

DO: Consume foods and beverages high in antioxidants and vitamins A, E, and C. After all, great skin starts on the inside.

DON’T: Forget about your neck, chest, and hands. Although these areas of your body tend to be ignored in skincare routines, skin in these areas tends to age the fastest.

DO: Use eye cream on a daily basis, as the skin around your eyes is thin and fragile.

DON’T: Use the same soap you use for your body on your face. Find a facial cleanser specifically for your skin type.

MAKE A PRE-PREGNANCY CHECKLIST

At some point, you and your husband will decide it’s an ideal time to have a baby. You may have already named your bundle of joy before conceiving. Anyway, it is vitally important to prep your body for pregnancy.

WATCH YOUR DIET: Avoid white bread, pasta, and food high in saturated fat. To optimize your fertility, eat slowly digested carbs such as whole grains and vegetables. Also, fill up on plant proteins such as nuts and beans rather than relying solely on animal protein.

WATCH YOUR WEIGHT: A healthy weight promotes a regular menstrual cycle necessary to conceive. Moreover, it will help you be more comfortable and healthier during your pregnancy.

EXERCISE: Use a combination of cardio, strength training, and flexibility training. Be careful, though, because a low percentage of body fat can affect ovulation.

USE FOLIC ACID: Folic acid can help prevent birth defects. Women trying to conceive need 600 micrograms of folic acid daily. Folic acid can be found in peanuts, beans, spinach, and asparagus.

AVOID STRESS: Too much stress can affect a woman’s menstrual cycle and tell her body to stop ovulating. Ideas to reduce stress include receiving a massage, taking a bath, listening to soothing music, and taking up a creative hobby such as painting.

GET INTENSE

When the phone is ringing, the kids are hungry, and the laundry bin is overflowing, you can still find time to exercise in your busy life — without having to take an hour walk around the neighborhood. Today, many women are turning to high-intensity, short workouts such as CrossFit, Insanity, and P90X, which allow them to fit exercise into their schedules without putting off other important tasks. The benefits of a high-intensity workout:

1. You save time. Research shows a 15-minute fat-blasting cardio routine burns more calories than 30 minutes on the treadmill.

2. It requires no equipment.

3. It is convenient because you can perform it anywhere.

4. It increases your metabolism.

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5. It will help you lose weight, not muscle.

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• How many times have you been asked, “Who’s your family physician?” If that question leaves you speechless, then it is time to find a family doctor, also known as a primary care physician. And no ladies, a gynecologist will not suffice. No disrespect intended, but there is more to women’s health.

• You need a doctor who can diagnose and treat conditions such as hypertension, diabetes, thyroid disease, sinus infection, asthma, allergies, bronchitis, influenza, common colds, and so on. Simply put, a primary care physician watches over

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• Here’s some positive news: Women who do find a primary care physician are not as likely to avoid the doctor as their male counterparts.

Source: onemedical.com/blog/live-well/the-case-for-having-a-primary-care-physician/

A study published in International Journal of Health Services found that states with more primary care physicians per capita experience fewer deaths from cancer, heart disease, or stroke.

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These days, young women are juggling full-time jobs while filling the time-consuming role of being a mother and wife. Between preparing for an important business meeting during the day and attending a child’s soccer game at night, things can get stressful. When you’re constantly busy, fast-food restaurants can seem like your best friend. However, if you want to maintain your health and slim figure, fast-food restaurants are your worst enemy. For the on-the-go businesswoman and mom, here are some healthy snacks you can pack and nibble on guilt-free. All it takes is a little planning and self-discipline.

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1. “Walk This Way” by Aerosmith

2. “Moves Like Jagger” by Maroon 5 & Christina Aguilera

3. “Get Right” by Jennifer Lopez

4. “Pump Up the Jam” by Technotronic

5. “Rock Your Body” by Justin Timberlake

6. “Jump” by Van Halen

“Beat It” by Michael Jackson

8. “Starships” by Nicki Minaj

all about legs

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Healthy legs are often taken for granted until they start hurting or varicose veins become large and noticeable. It is estimated that 80 million Americans suffer from some form of venous disorder.

“Aching, swelling, or a heavy feeling in your legs or ankles, as well as varicose veins, may indicate that you have a bigger, or possibly a life-threatening, issue,” says Bryan Carter, the newest medical staff member at Heart of The Villages. “I recommend getting your legs examined with ultrasound because there is no other way to rule out bad veins or a blood clot.”

Bryan knows legs. He’s seen many venous disease cases over the past 10 years, first as a U.S. Army medic and more recently as a nationally recognized physician assistant (PA). Bryan brings extensive, hands-on experience in venous disease treatments to the Heart of The Villages practice. He has treated thousands of patients and has taught physicians and other mid-level practitioners in Georgia and Florida about the technical art of venous disease and wound care. He is an active member of the American College of Phlebology and one of the few PAs in the U.S. to be inducted into the American Venous Forum.

Betty Rose of The Villages has returned to her active lifestyle after receiving treatments for diseased veins in both legs. “The veins in my legs were stinging and burning, and blood was pooling in my feet. Bryan used laser treatments and injections, and I am now back to walking, riding my bicycle, and golfing several times a week.

“Bryan is great at what he does and is highly skilled, kind, and compassionate. Thanks to him, I feel great and am

enjoying life to the fullest,” says Betty.

Heart of The Villages is known for its compassionate patient care as much as for its cutting-edge treatments and technologies. Sensitivity to the patient is the thing Jan Hickerson remembers the most.

“My right leg would ache while sitting on my sofa watching television. Bryan figured out the problem right away and successfully treated me. He thoroughly explained the procedure to me in terms I could understand,” she says. “In addition, his support staff was equally friendly and helpful. I feel like a new person and no longer have any downtime from the pain.”

Helen Layre was treated for spider veins that limited her mobility, and she agrees the compassionate care and genuine interest from Bryan and the Heart of Villages team are second to none. “Bryan always answered my questions. He was very accessible and really cared about my wellbeing. The entire team at Heart of the Villages is great. I’ve been looking for a comprehensive office like this for sevenand-a-half years,” she says.

After receiving a B.S. degree in molecular and microbiology from the University of Central Florida, Bryan received a master’s degree in venous diseases from the University of Nebraska. He is happy to be back in Central Florida where he spends his free time with his wife, Stephanie, and daughters, Alexandra and Brielle.

“Life is about quality, not quantity. We only have so much time on this Earth, so let’s live it to the fullest.”

His personal philosophy extends to his patients, who he wants to see living to the fullest.

of The Villages can help you get your healthy legs back when varicose veins or achy and swollen ankles are slowing you down.

Bryan Carter, MPA-C

Education:

University of Central Florida, B.S. degree in Molecular and Microbiology; University of Nebraska, Master’s degree, Venous Disease

Professional Affiliations: American Venous Forum

Jan Hickerson

“My right leg would ache while sitting on my sofa watching television. Bryan figured out the problem right away and successfully treated me. He thoroughly explained the procedure to me in terms I could understand.”

Helen Layre

“Bryan always answered my questions. He was very accessible and really cared about my well-being. The entire team at Heart of the Villages is great. I’ve been looking for a comprehensive office like this for seven-and-a-half years.”

Betty Rose

“Bryan is great at what he does and is highly skilled, kind, and compassionate. Thanks to him, I feel great and am enjoying life to the fullest.”

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A fundraiser for a local boy battling leukemia proved to be quite a hair‘razing’ experience.

WRITER: JAMES COMBS PHOTOS: FRED LOPEZ

When Santa Claus recently made a special appearance to have his head shaved, he was not there to make a fashion statement. He was in Mount Dora for a fundraising event to support 7-year-old Jay Ryon, a Round Lake Elementary School student who was diagnosed with leukemia in January.

“I saw a news broadcast about Jay and knew I wanted to do something to help,” says John Lee, a Melbourne resident who has played Santa Claus for more than 20 years. “In my opinion, the Christmas spirit should last all yearlong.”

John, who was dressed in his Santa suit, had no qualms about being bald. However, his snowwhite beard remained intact.

“I can put my hat on and still be Santa with my beard.”

And in true Santa fashion, he spread joy and happiness by giving Jay’s family a special gift: a two-night beach getaway.

“The family has been through a lot and deserves a break,” he says. “I want Jay to know that Santa is thinking about him and all the other children in the world who are fighting diseases.”

BALD IS BEAUTIFUL

Jay is bravely battling acute lymphoblastic leukemia (also known as ALL), a cancer of the blood and bone marrow. It is the most common type of cancer in children.

Following his diagnosis, Jay spent more than 40 days at Orlando’s Florida Hospital for Children receiving chemotherapy treatment intravenously and orally. He arrived home in March. Jay’s father Nick Ryon,

a firefighter with Lake County Fire Rescue, and his mother Maggie Denk, a camp director at Easter Seals Camp Challenge, have been on family medical leave from their jobs since late January to be by their son’s side.

“After being diagnosed, Jay wasn’t worried about being hospitalized on his birthday or missing school and soccer,” Maggie said. “The thing that bothered him most was losing his hair and being bald by himself.”

Once the Lake County Firefighters Charity heard about Jake’s concern, members quickly went to work on the boy’s behalf. The group organized a “Shave-a-Thon” in the parking lot of Mount Dora’s Black Bear Smokehouse on March 22. Local firefighters and community members had their hair cut and heads shaved to let Jay see firsthand he was not alone.

The “Shave-a-Thon” included a silent auction, bounce house, coloring tent, disc jockey, corn-hole competition, a dunk tank, and a food-eating contest. Attendees donned orange shirts with the words “Fighting for a Cure.” Orange is Jay’s favorite color and the color of leukemia awareness.

A thunderous applause erupted when Jay and his parents arrived at the event. As the boy sat in his wheelchair and watched stylists and barbers cut, snip, and shave, his big smile was priceless. For him, the bald heads became a symbol of hope and solidarity.

All head-shaving participants collected monetary pledges from family and friends prior

to the event to give to Jay’s parents. Retired pastor Dick Turnipseed of Tavares also took a symbolic stand on behalf of

that goal, she allowed nine inches to be cut off her brown hair. Her husband, Mike Bass, is a lieutenant with Lake County Fire Rescue and personal friends with Jay’s parents.

“I’ve known Nick and Maggie for a long time and love them to death,” she says. “I wouldn’t have minded having my head shaved. Moreover, I lost my father to throat and lung cancer several years ago. It is important to help make a positive difference in the lives of cancer patients and their families.”

Of course, losing hair was not the only sacrifice attendees made. Orlando Predators cornerback Anthony Shutt volunteered to be repeatedly dunked in a tank of water on a somewhat windy day. “The water is cold but I don’t really mind,” he says. “Jay has been through a lot recently, so I’m glad to help in any way I can.”

GLOBAL SUPPORT

child cancer patients. When Patti Stiner of Salon Therapy in Eustis used an electric razor to remove the remaining patch of hair from Dick’s freshly shaved head, he rubbed his scalp and broke out into a big smile.

“I have a grandson who is five,” says Dick, who raised $300. “If he ever contracted leukemia, I would want others to come together and do something like this for him. I felt the Lord calling me to do this.”

Michell Bass of Webster promised to have her head shaved if she could raise $1,500. Since she fell a little short of

with more than 8,000 followers. People as far away as Antarctica and Alaska have sent Jay well wishes, funny videos, and inspirational messages, as well as photographs of themselves holding up signs of encouragement. Firefighters across the country and soldiers in Afghanistan shaved their heads and posted pictures on Jay’s Facebook page to show support.

Locally, Nick’s brotherhood of firefighters and other community organizations have organized several local fundraisers — including a 5K run and golf tournament — to help offset the family’s accumulating medical expenses.

“It is amazing how people can come together for such a wonderful cause,” Maggie says. “My co-workers at Easter Seals even donated 12 weeks of sick leave so I could focus on Jay and not have to worry about anything else. This awesome support has certainly helped me, Nick, and Jay get through these difficult times.”

The “Shave-a-Thon” is just one example how Jay has received an outpouring of community and worldwide support. Shortly following Jay’s diagnosis, Nick’s sister, Tami Buckles, created a Facebook page to update family members on his progress.

“I didn’t want family members to have to call or text message Nick and Maggie,” Tami says. “At first, the page was set to private. However, Nick requested that I set it to public, and overnight the page had 3,000 likes.”

Since then, the Facebook page, affectionately known as “Team Jay,” has gone viral

Although Jay is currently in remission, his cancer battle is not over yet. He will require ongoing chemotherapy treatment to prevent a possible relapse.

One thing, however, is certain; he is not alone in this battle. And while he may be short on hair, the brave boy is long on courage, strength, and determination.

Anyone who would like to donate money toward Jay’s medical expenses can mail a check to Lake County Firefighters Charity, 734 N. Third St. Suite 156, Leesburg, FL 34748.

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A cardiac positron emission tomography (PET) exam helps to evaluate your heart health by measuring the blood flow brought by the coronary arteries to the heart muscles. PET scans are used to identify coronary artery disease and manage your treatment plan.

As one of the oldest private cardiology practices, Cardiovascular Associates of Lake County was first to bring this technology to our area.

We are dedicated to bringing innovations in cardiovascular care to our patients. Since 1992, we have been your partners for life.

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CARDIO CHALLENGE

WRITER: TRACY DRAPER

WANT TO IMPROVE YOUR HEALTH AND DROP THE EXTRA POUNDS? PERFORM THESE HEARTPUMPING WORKOUTS

According to the Aerobics and Fitness Association of America, there are five basic components of fitness: nutrition, resistance training, flexibility, proper rest, and cardiovascular training. Omit any one of these and we are not in balance. All five components work together to ward off disease and make us stronger, leaner, and healthier. Cardiovascular training is often overlooked or misunderstood. It is crucial for having a strong, wellfunctioning heart. As I tell my clients, “It doesn’t matter how your body looks if your heart stops beating.”

CHOOSE YOUR GOAL

1. WEIGHT LOSS: Three to six times a week for 30 to 45 minutes at 60 to 70 percent maximum heart rate (MHR).

2. CARDIOVASCULAR ENDURANCE: Three to four times a week for six-plus minutes at 65 to 75 percent MHR.

3. CARDIOVASCULAR STRENGTH: Once per week (as one of your regular workouts) for short bursts of 15 to 30 seconds to start with 75 to 90 percent MHR.

Now, choose your method of cardio workout: treadmill, stair climber, or elliptical machine. Of course, if you do not have access to these you can walk, jog, use real stairs, or bike.

MUSCLE GROUPS TARGETED: whole body

TREADMILL

To break up the monotony of walking in place, add some speed work to your workout. Do a 10-minute warm up at a comfortable pace (heart rate: 50–60 percent of your MHR). Then ramp up the speed or elevation for one minute. Bring it back down after a minute and walk for four minutes. Repeat four times and add a cool down for five more minutes. Voila! Your 30-minute walking cardio routine is over with in no time flat.

CHALLENGE

Make it a run or jog for the one minute of speed work. Build up to two minutes, and then walk. DID YOU KNOW?

Walking can reduce your risk of osteoporosis.

Source: American Heart Association

CARDIO FUEL

A good snack prior to a cardio workout is a complex carbohydrate, such as a sweet potato, whole-grain bread, or legumes.

Source: naturalnews. com/038747_nervous_system_ calming_foods.html

HOLLY HOMEMAKER

Holly is home every day with her little ones. She has only minutes of time here and there throughout her day for exercise. Does this mean that she cannot work out? Not at all! Studies have shown that exercise (even cardiovascular) in ten minute segments is beneficial. All she needs to do is make it a priority and get a little help with the wee ones. Ten minutes of walking fast in the morning; a ten minute break mid-day and one after dinner will do much to help her physically – and mentally.

STAIR CLIMBER

A great benefit of utilizing this machine is stronger and leaner buns and thighs. Simply pick a pace that is comfortable for you and climb away. Keep your HR in the 60-75% MHR zone for maximum fat-burning results. To make it interesting, try skipping a step: this will increase your HR so only do it for a few steps at a time until you get the hang of it.

CHALLENGE

MUSCLE GROUPS TARGETED: whole body

Hold onto the rail on one side, turn sideways, and step across in front of your body. Be sure to do this at a slow pace the first time you try it. Your balance, coordination, and both inner and outer thighs will be put to the test. Do this for a few steps at a time. Then face the front before turning to the other side for a few steps.

TRAINER’S TIPS

• Remember your goal: a stronger heart and leaner body.

• As you exercise, hold in your abs, but don’t hold your breath.

• If you feel weak or too winded at any time, slow down.

• You should be able to speak in short phrases the entire time you are working out or else you are working too hard.

ELLIPTICAL

This is a fantastic machine for those with hip, knee, or back problems. It is easy on the joints and great for the heart, as well as for burning fat. A cross between a treadmill, bicycle, and Nordic skier, these machines can be high calorie-burners. Most machines come with assorted workout programs. The main thing to remember is you need to pace yourself and keep your MHR in the 65–80 percent range for best results. Each machine has a heart rate chart on it so you can find the perfect exercise heart rate for your age.

TRAINER’S TIPS

• Remember your goal: a stronger heart and leaner body

• As you work out hold in your abs but don’t hold your breath!

• If you feel weak or too winded at any time simply slow down

• You should be able to speak in short phrases the entire time you are working out or else you are working too hard”

CHALLENGE

Pedal backwards for a while and see how different muscles work in your legs. It can be awkward feeling at first, but you might decide you like it better in reverse.

WRAP UP

Keep in mind that a strong heart is critical not only to your health but also to your longevity. There are so many ways to exercise your most precious cardiac muscle. By finding the method you like the best, you are far more likely to include it into your weekly workout routine. If you need a little help, find an exercise buddy. The accountability and social aspect of having a training partner is beyond measure. So what are you waiting on? Get moving!

Source: Aerobics and Fitness Association; http://exercise.about.com/od/ weightloss/a/The-Truth-About-The-Fat-Burning-Zone.htm (Accessed March 28, 2014)

MODELS: Tracy Draper and John Hockley on location at Gold’s Gym, Mount Dora SOURCES: Yorke, Mary. Personal Fitness Training: Th eory & Practice, Sherman Oaks, CA: 2010

TRACY DRAPER is an AFAA-certified personal trainer with more than 12 years experience in personal fitness training. As a wife and mom, she discovered a few years ago that she could once again be an athlete, as well. In 2014, she is leading a team of cyclists on a cross-country ride. Visit www.RideAcrossUSA.com for more details.

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SUMMER SKIN

WRITER: RUTH ANN BYRD

Winter’s dry, cold weather paired with indoor heat can be harsh on your skin, making it feel itchy, dry, and rough. Follow these three easy steps to help regain your natural glow and get your skin ready for summer fun.

STEP ONE:

Exfoliate, exfoliate, exfoliate. I cannot say this word enough. One must remove the top layer of dead skin cells before new skin cells can give you a healthy glow. For the body, this can be accomplished with dry brushing, a loofah, or body scrubs.

Try this: Prior to showering, use a natural bristle (not synthetic) body brush on dry skin to exfoliate your entire body gently. Brush in long strokes toward the heart. Daily dry brushing stimulates circulation, cleanses the lymphatic system, and removes dead skin. Dry body brushes can be purchased on a variety of Internet sites.

If you aren’t into dry brushing, try a sugar or salt scrub once or twice weekly. Sugar scrubs are gentler for sensitive skin.

If you choose sea salt, grind it in a coffee grinder for a finer scrub. Here is a simple body scrub recipe:

1. Mix one tablespoon sugar or sea salt with two tablespoons organic coconut oil, one tablespoon honey, one freshly chopped sprig of rosemary, and 12–15 drops organic lavender essential oil.

2. Gently rub the scrub onto your skin in a small circular motion.

3. Rinse with warm water and pat dry. No need to wash off the scrub with soap. Enjoy the richness of the coconut oil on your skin.

STEP TWO:

Hydrate both internally and externally. Start by drinking at least eight 10-ounce glasses of water daily. Drink even more if you are working up a sweat. Increase your intake of essential fatty acids by adding flax and chia seeds to your daily diet. Both are high in omega-3 essential fatty acids, which help increase the moisture content of your skin. Hydrate externally by applying a high-quality

moisturizer to the face and body. While facial moisturizers should be tailored for an individual’s specific skin type, body moisturizers are generally more forgiving. Look for a body moisturizer containing at least 10 percent lactic acid, which will help exfoliate dead skin cells and allow moisturizers to penetrate deeper.

STEP THREE:

Protect your skin. All this exfoliation will make it more vulnerable to the sun’s powerful rays. Remember to apply a daily sunscreen containing micronized zinc oxide to all exposed skin. Reapply every two hours while outside and after swimming or excess sweating.

WITH WINTER IN THE REARVIEW MIRROR, IT IS TIME TO PREP FOR SKIN-BARING SEASON

RUTH ANN BYRD, owner of Aesthetic Skin Solutions in The Villages, is a licensed aesthetician specializing in skin rejuvenation and clinical treatment of sun damage, rosacea, and acne. She is also licensed in electrolysis, laser hair removal, and permanent makeup. Ruth Ann is dedicated to helping individuals look their best by improving the health and appearance of their skin. She can be contacted at 352.874.3653.

GENDER

WORLDS NEED NOT COLLIDE WHEN VENUS MEETS MARS

WRITER: RICHARD T. BOSSHARDT, M.D., FACS THE DIFFERENCES BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN GO DEEPER THAN JUST GROOMING AND GETTING DRESSED IN THE MORNING

Ilove women. My wife is a woman. My mother was a woman and so were my grandmothers. My daughters are women. Ditto my employees. Women define my life; they brighten and enliven it. They look, act, and think differently from men. Without them, life would be drab and dull, and certainly uglier. Imagine a testosteroneladen world filled with unkempt, unshaven, and probably smelly men hunting, playing sports, and scratching themselves. Not a pretty thought.

For those who argue for total equality between the sexes, Mother Nature must shake her head at such nonsense. There will never be biologic equality if only for one simple fact: women birth the babies. Nature has equipped them with unique physical and physiological attributes to ensure the survival of our race. Nature has also gifted them with a vital ability to endure and forget pain. It has been said that if men had babies, all families would have only one child. I believe that.

There is a long-running discussion between the sexes, which never seems to be resolved, as to which is the stronger. As so often happens with such questions dealing with complex subjects, the answer is it depends.

If we mean physical strength, men get the nod. Testosterone allows men to bulk up more from exercise than

women. Women cannot bulk up like a man, unless they take male anabolic steroids. Joanie “Chyna” Laurer of World Wrestling Federation fame was an example of muscle-bound womanhood, but her assertions that she never used male steroids always fell flat in the face of her bulging muscles, lack of body fat, and acne. Given the bald-faced lying by athletes when faced with allegations of steroid use, the circumstantial evidence is overwhelming. Unenhanced and pound for pound, men are stronger. However, when it comes to endurance, things get interesting. In timed and measured events, such as track and field, men run faster and jump higher and further. The male advantage extends to long races, such as marathons. But then something fascinating happens. In ultra-races that are 31 miles or more, women compete on equal footing with men and often beat them outright.

The reason women do so well in endurance events is unclear. Men have bigger hearts, bigger lungs, and more muscled legs. Studies suggest this may be the crux of the matter. A smaller size can be an advantage in ultra-distance running due to less wear and tear on the body, less energy expenditure relative to time on one’s feet, etc.

How about intellect? Until 2010, the

prevailing wisdom was women reigned intellectually until puberty, and then males took over leading the IQ race by a few percentage points. However, recent studies have indicated girls have reversed this advantage and are now slightly ahead of boys, regardless of age. Money spent on these studies seems to me to have been needlessly spent. Any husband could have confirmed this without expensive research. Advantage: women… slightly.

When it comes to longevity, women still hold the winning hand, but their lead is dwindling. In 1979, women outlived men by almost eight years. This had decreased to a gap of a little more than five years by 2005. The reasons are not completely understood, but some possible explanations have been advanced. One is the relative longevity of men has increased because they no longer perform as much manual labor. The other is the relative longevity of women has decreased because of entering the workforce in greater numbers and as a result, have become susceptible to once predominantly male maladies, such heart disease and high blood pressure. In addition, women still have the added pressures of raising children and caring for aging relatives. Women still win, but for how long?

Two areas in which women are

significantly behind men are obesity and anxiety disorders. When it comes to being overweight, men lead women slightly. However, when it comes to morbid obesity, women predominate 2 to 1. This is not a race anyone should want to win.

In terms of anxiety disorders, women, again, lead the sexes. For nearly all anxiety disorders, the prevalence ratio for women to men is 3 to 2. In my practice, more than 75 percent of my patients are female and it is my experience that middle-aged and older women not using antianxiety medication are the exception rather than the rule.

At the risk of belaboring the obvious, it is apparent that women are different from men. Women are

more relational, more nurturing, less aggressive, and more emotional. Many ancient civilizations venerated women, holding them in high esteem even, at times, to the point of worship. But the march of progress has seen a diminished status for women, except as they have sought to be more like men: ambitious, aggressive, and assertive. One of my surgical mentors, Dr. Leonard Shlain, wrote a fascinating book called The Alphabet Versus The Goddess in which he proposed that the lowered stature of women in society coincided with the rise of literacy and the progress this enabled. Think about the modern world. Porn, arguably an exploitation of gender, is almost entirely a male province. Aggressive behavior and violent crime?

Males predominate. Who are the despotic leaders of countries? Chavez, Castro, Bashar al-Assad, Kim Jongun, and Putin. Where are the women despots? I would suggest that humanity could benefit from more of the female perspective and less of a male one. Vive la différence!

RICK BOSSHARDT, M.D., graduated from the University of Miami School of Medicine in 1978. He founded Bosshardt & Marzek Plastic Surgery Associates, Lake County’s first practice to provide full-time cosmetic and reconstructive plastic surgery services, in 1989.

ALLIANCE

STRENGTH IN NUMBERS

AN ACCOUNTABILITY PARTNER CAN HELP YOU STAY ON TRACK AS YOU LEARN TO LIVE HEALTHIER

Are you still working on your New Year’s resolution of becoming healthy? If you are like most people, you may have given up by now. In fact, only 8 percent of people who make New Year’s resolutions actually stick to them, and the people who do not, usually give up after just one week. So, the question is how do you beat the odds?

Try having an accountability partner. An accountability partner helps you fulfill your commitment to living a healthy lifestyle, provides loving support, and shares a common goal with you. He or she should be someone you speak to or spend time with regularly. When you associate yourself with people who are living a healthy lifestyle and making wise choices, you tend to do the same.

Having an accountability partner creates a safe environment where people can open up and be honest. You and your partner support and sustain each other when experiencing those

inevitable peaks and valleys. Both of you can even change the way each other eats in social settings.

Of course, there are other benefits to having an accountability partner. Many studies show that positive relationships strengthen health and longevity, while a lack of social connectivity is associated with depression, cognitive decline, and earlier death. Moreover, researchers have discovered that overweight and obese young adults have a greater desire to lose weight when they surround themselves with other health conscious people. So how do you find an accountability partner?

WRITER: LORI ESAREY, ARNP, ABAAHP, FAARFM, CFT

1. Surround yourself with one or more people who are equally passionate about living a healthy lifestyle. Start by asking a friend you feel would appreciate your goals and passions and who understands the value of having an accountability partner.

2. Start with certain limits. Typically, it is best commit to working together for a set time. Begin with a six-week commitment and then increase it if the plan is working well for both of you.

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3. Set goals. Once you have stated your goals and timeline to someone else, you are more likely to follow through.

4. Look out for one another. You have to stand your ground when it comes to your own health and the health of those you love. When accountability partners are too soft on one another — to the point they are accepting or empathizing with backsliding too quickly — the dynamics change and healthy progress is likely to deteriorate.

5. Always speak the truth (with love). It is always best to be honest with someone whose health you care about. Having an accountability partner ensures you keep each other on track, and you can communicate about which areas you need continued support.

6. Make a goal to celebrate your successes together. For example, you might want to celebrate by running a race together, or simply making a delicious, healthy meal.

LORI ESAREY opened Total Nutrition and Therapeutics in 2007. Several years later, she started a second company, Vitality Wellness and Aesthetics. Her passion is empowering people of all ages to achieve optimal health. She earned two master’s degrees from the University of South Florida in nursing and nutritional and metabolic science. She is also board-certified in anti-aging and restorative medicine.

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MIND

BEHAVIOR

BIPOLAR DISORDER 101

What is bipolar disorder?

Bipolar disorder is a long-term condition characterized by dramatic shifts in mood. Some of the time, mood is elevated, and sufferers feel energetic, restless, powerful, or even euphoric. On the other end of the spectrum, those with bipolar disorder feel depressed, apathetic, fatigued, and don’t derive much pleasure from their activities.

Why is the disorder a concern?

During manic periods, it is possible to have delusions that impair judgment. Behavior tends to be riskier because the sufferer feels so energetic and positive. During depressive times, the weight of feelings can be so intense that the sufferer might consider killing himself. Suicide risk is also present even in manic periods, as some people may harm themselves because of their psychosis, or simply because they don’t want their life to be so chaotic anymore.

What is the difference between bipolar 1 and bipolar 2?

In bipolar 1, a sufferer has had at least one period of mania. The mood swings are quite severe, disrupting regular life. In bipolar 2, an individual shifts from manic to depressive periods over time. The manic periods are not as elevated, however, and the depressive periods tend to be longer. Most people with bipolar 2 are able to carry on their usual routines.

Professionals also recognize cyclothymic disorder – a milder form of bipolar disorder in which mood swings aren’t quite as severe. Additionally, although most people think of the manic and depressive symptoms as being mutually exclusive, it’s possible to experience both at the same time in what’s known as mixed bipolar disorder. If a person has four or more mood swings annually, then the bipolar disorder would be classified as rapid swing. Experts believe this swing frequency happens with up to 20 percent of bipolar disorder sufferers. Symptoms can vary quite a bit from person to person within each bipolar disorder type, so it is critical not to dismiss what someone is experiencing just because it doesn’t exactly match what another

sufferer is going through or describes. A licensed doctor or therapist can help determine which type of bipolar disorder a person has and how to best to manage precise symptoms.

How is bipolar disorder diagnosed and treated?

Doctors and therapists usually diagnose bipolar disorder after carefully examining symptoms. Often, this is done in conjunction with the administration of a screening test in which an individual answers questions about his feelings. Most suffers will need their medication for the rest of their lives, and it can take time to find the right combination and dosage. A doctor also likely will recommend some form of psychotherapy. Other forms of treatment, such as electro-convulsive therapy or trans-cranial magnetic stimulation are available as well, but more research is needed in these areas, and doctors and therapists usually reserve them for more severe cases. Hospitalization can be necessary when symptoms are extremely disruptive or pose a serious threat to health, or when professionals are trying to figure out what type and dose of medication to use.

What causes bipolar disorder?

Scientists and medical professionals aren’t quite sure what causes bipolar disorder. Even so, they strongly suspect it is biological with genetic components. Specifically, they believe that the way neurotransmitters in the brain are functioning is problematic. They acknowledge that, even if the disorder is genetic, environmental, social, and other psychological and physical factors may turn the disorder “on” or trigger it.

Conclusion

Bipolar disorder is a serious illness. It can manifest in a range of severity, however, and professionals acknowledge different types. Thought to be largely biological, the condition is controllable with a combination of medication and therapy, although hospitalization can be necessary. Anyone experiencing symptoms should see his or her doctor.

EVERYONE HAS MOOD SHIFTS TO SOME DEGREE, BUT IN SOME PEOPLE, CHANGES IN MOOD ARE DUE TO A MENTAL CONDITION THAT NEEDS TREATMENT

SOURCES: Bressert, S. (2007). The Causes of Bipolar Disorder (Manic Depression), vPsych Central. Mayo Clinic (2013). Bipolar Di sorder. WebMD (2013). Bipolar Disorder Health Center. Photo illustrator: Anthony Casto

Why Do You Need A SPECIALIST?

Little things can become big things, especially when it comes to joint pain. Many people live with shoulder pain for years, not realizing they may have tiny tears in the tendons surrounding the joint. With no warning, a simple thing like pulling a weed or swinging a golf club may result in a tear in the shoulder tendons.

“Repairing a complex tear is one of the more complex surgeries,” says Dr. Alfred J. Cook, who specializes in complex rotator cuff repairs and shoulder injuries. “At TriCounty Orthopaedics, we are on the cutting edge of new technologies, such as graph augmentation which reconstructs tendons. Not all surgeons have been trained to do these procedures.”

In addition to being a board-certified orthopaedic surgeon, Dr. Cook is fellowship-trained in Sports Medicine and Shoulder Surgery. Following his surgical residency at Northwestern University’s McGraw Medical Center, he chose to obtain an extra year of specialized training at Duke University’s School of Medicine, ranked among the nation’s Top 10 medical schools. EXPERTISE MATTERS.

Our specialties include:

• Total Joint Replacement

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SPIRIT

TIES MAKING NEW FRIENDS

We all need someone to make us laugh, to share our interests, to turn to for advice, support, and comfort. Yet, as we age, it may seem difficult to make new friends. That need not be the case. Making new friends is a skill that can be nurtured and perfected, just like any other skill.

In our teenage years, opportunities for friendship seem limitless. But once you reach your mid- to late-20s, those of similar age are starting to commit to marriage, raising children, and building a career. It is not that people over 30 do not wish to make new friends, simply that it is easier, and less time-consuming for them to stick to their old friends.

Of course, making new acquaintances is easy. Ask a lonely 30 year old if she knows lots of people and she may show you her 600 Facebook followers. But she may also complain she still feels lonely and has few close friends. Meeting new people and forming casual, shallow relationships is easy; making deep, intimate friendships is difficult. Yet in many ways, modern life provides better opportunities to form these sorts of deep friendships later in life.

To make new friends, it is important to ask not what you want from others but what others want from you. Many friendships are founded upon — and sustained by — a mutual interest.

Cultivate interest in a wide a variety of subjects. Do not focus too exclusively on

your love of literature or football. Watch more films, learn to play poker, keep up with politics, or join a history group. People often regret not having someone they can share their love of, for example, the Beatles, or French movies.

Of course, cultivating lots of new interests is of no use if you are tedious, unpleasant company. Work on your people skills. Ask yourself what sort of

other person feel small. If you monopolize the conversation, constantly interrupting and disagreeing, you are probably making your new friend angry.

Once you have taken a good look at yourself and done what you can to improve your attractiveness as a friend, it is time to seek out new people. Meet as wide a variety of people as you can and, above all, do not give up. You will meet many odious

conversationalist you are. There is usually much room for improvement. The golden rule when meeting new people is to listen. That does not mean patiently waiting for the other person to finish. Really listen to what they say. Maintain eye contact, smile and nod as the person you wish to befriend is speaking. In general, people in conversation with others appreciate two qualities above all: enthusiasm and cheerfulness. Life is difficult, and often tedious, so the last thing people want is to speak to someone negative and depressing. Always be conscious of how you are making the other person feel. If you boast, you are probably making the

individuals, and you will endure rejection. But that is true of any attempt to establish relationships with others.

Remember, no contact is ever a waste of time. Many people meet their closest friends through other friends. You may not care much for John, but through John perhaps you will meet Peter, with whom you will go on to enjoy a lifelong friendship. Sociologists identify three conditions necessary for establishing lasting friendships. The first is proximity. No matter how well you get along with a random stranger at a party, if he is just visiting from the other side of the country it will be difficult to build a relationship.

To make new friends, it is important to ask not what you want from others but what others want from you.

MENCO

BALLROOM DRESSES, SOCCER, AND THE NUTCRACKER

WRITER: RICHARD BURGUET

THREE DIFFERENT DAUGHTERS, ONE LOVING FATHER WHO IS A FAST REPENTER

Ihave three grown daughters, and I survived them all. I am not foolish enough to think I have raised them perfectly, but they love me and we talk regularly.

What father could forget the birth of his daughters? Nine months of anticipation and finally you hold that little wrinkled baby, and you just know life will never be the same again. And you are right. One day they will be teenagers and there will be an index card on her bedroom door that reads something like this: “This is my room. I keep it the way I like it. I don’t want anything touched. Thank you for following these rules about my room.”

Through all the years, and tears, and change, there is one thing I think defines my relationship with my girls. I have been intentional in my displays of love. Sometimes that has been by means of words, sometimes by my presence, other times by the way I love their mother, and sometimes by my participation with them. I have always been their father, and I have always tried to point them toward God, my heavenly Father.

I have three very different girls. My oldest played soccer on the high school team and I used to practice with her in the backyard. I would take off from work to be

at her games. I sought to encourage her. Oh, to be sure, we had to discipline her, but we always pointed her toward our love for her even in those times. To this day, we can still talk about the deepest issues of life, and she knows no matter what “dad loves her.”

My middle daughter was the ballerina. I have been to see her dance in more performances of “The Nutcracker” than any man who wears camouflage as regularly as I should! But ballet is her passion, so I developed an appreciation for it. Her need for parental approval was probably deeper than my other two girls’ needs. Being there was important; expressing my feelings in a genuine way was critical. We talk truthfully about spiritual struggles and life with each other. She may tend to be more open with her mother, but we know each other’s hearts, and she loves her daddy. I will be there when her first baby is born this month, and we will be together as families.

My youngest is the one who needs the most hugs. One of her passions has always been ballroom dancing, and I have always been one of her dance partners when we have the occasion. The honesty in our relationship is real, as well. I am the one who has been there when the hard things have hit home. We can talk about life in

this world, even in the most difficult times. She, too, knows the love of her father.

Please don’t think I believe I am the “greatest dad.” I am not. I can tell you about mistakes, failures, angry words, and bad actions. But in the big picture, I believe the most important thing I communicated to my daughters is I love them even when they are pretty unlovable, because Jesus Christ loved me when I was unlovable.

We dads ought to be deliberately kind and forgiving. We should be wise enough to withhold judgment until all facts are known. There should be a quiet courage that wells up out of deep faith and common sense that flows out of our lives. Being a “fast repenter” in front of my daughters when I am wrong has made the difference in the long run.

The fine art of being a good father is summed up in safe, secure, honest, and open communication that shows our girls we love them and we are the kind of dad they want their future husbands to be.

RICHARD BURGUET, B.A., M-Div., has been ordained in the Presbyterian Church in America for more than 30 years. He has served churches in South Carolina, Mississippi, Maryland, and Georgia. Richard is pastor of New Hope Presbyterian in Eustis and is coauthor of Covenants Disciples Workbook. New Hope is at 19535 Eustis Airport Road and on the web at www.newhopepca.com.

PLANNING FINANCE

TAKING CONTROL

WHEN IT COMES TO LONG-TERM FINANCIAL PLANNING, WOMEN SHOULD STRIVE TO SEE THE BIG PICTURE

Women are making important gains in education, health, business, and leadership. They are increasingly present at the highest levels of government and business and make up nearly half of American workers. Despite these important advances, women face some special challenges to long-term financial success that make financial planning critical.

For example, women often earn less than men. Recent data shows women typically earn between 77 and 82 percent of what their male counterparts make, and they generally suffer a greater loss of income following divorce. They also take time away from the workforce to care for family more frequently.

Though some estimates suggest nearly 90 percent of women will eventually become solely responsible for their finances, research shows many women don’t actively take part in their family finances, frequently giving their husbands sole responsibility for investing and planning for the future. Many women don’t seek financial

advice until death of their spouse or divorce forces them to take an active role in planning their future.

We have found that taking the following steps can help prepare you for the future and build increased confidence in your financial knowledge.

Become actively involved in your finances

Wives: If you have not taken much interest in your family’s financial affairs, or are content to allow your spouse to make decisions, it’s time to change that dynamic. Ask for your husband’s help in understanding your financial accounts and work together to make important financial decisions. If you work with advisers, accountants, or attorneys, ask to participate in meetings and form relationships with these important professionals.

Husbands: Take a moment to think about how you can help your wife participate fully in your financial lives. Even if you’re accustomed to shouldering the burden of your family’s finances, make sure your wife has the skills needed to take over if something should happen to you.

Don’t be afraid to ask questions

Many women worry about appearing uninformed when discussing investments and finances. Don’t let these worries dissuade you from active participation. And don’t be afraid to ask questions. Competent advisers will welcome you warmly and be happy to answer all questions. Many offer seminars and materials to educate you about basic topics.

Develop a plan for the future

Many women have not taken the important step of planning to meet their future financial obligations. A 2011 report showed just 24 percent of women in their 50s had a financial plan in place. Financial planning helps you evaluate your finances, plan for the future, and answer important questions, such as: How long will my retirement savings last? Are my investments appropriate for my needs? How can I fund my future medical expenses?

Build an emergency fund

The foundation of a good financial plan is having enough money to cover you in the event of a financial emergency. A financial crisis can take

WRITERS: THOMAS FROSS AND ROBERT FROSS

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many forms, such as the loss of a job, an expensive car or home repair, or a sudden illness. Keeping enough cash on hand to pay for these emergencies prevents you from having to liquidate investments or take out a loan. While every household has different needs, we generally recommend having three to eight months’ worth of living expenses saved for emergencies.

Build a support network

Many women are turning to support groups to help them tackle their finances, share ideas, and build their skills. You may find an existing support network in your area by searching online or by contacting a local financial adviser. Alternately, you may be able to start your own support network with women who you already know. Working together with friends, family, and loved ones can give you the support you need to take control of your financial future.

Consult an experienced financial adviser

If you are daunted by the idea of taking on new responsibilities or developing a financial plan on your own, a financial adviser can help. Remember, you are not alone. Financial advisers have years of experience providing advice and guidance to clients just like you. There are many women who find themselves in similar circumstances.

If you have questions about your current financial circumstances or would like help developing a plan for the future, find the financial adviser who is right for you.

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ROBERT AND THOMAS FROSS founded Fross & Fross Wealth Management with the shared vision of creating a truly world-class experience for their clients. Specializing in offering comprehensive financial planning to high net-worth retirees, Fross & Fross manages over $300 million in assets and maintains a stellar reputation of professionalism and experience throughout The Villages.

Mount Dora Paddle Fest (May 2–4)

The inaugural Mount Dora Paddle Fest is a great event for serious racers, as well as casual paddlers. There will be races, eco-tours, kayak/canoe instruction, boat dealers, and equipment vendors. Event starts at 10a.m. at Lakeside Inn in Mount Dora. Cost varies.

Information: mountdorapaddlefest.com

Women’s Health & Fitness Festival (May 10–11)

This festival at Clermont’s Waterfront Park will focus on women’s health and fitness and will feature a 5K run/ walk, women’s paddleboard events, rowing, triathlons, health screenings, keynote speakers, and entertainment.

Information: sommersports.webconnex.com/WOMENSTRI

Ask the Experts: Stroke (May 15)

A stroke is a life-altering event that begins when the flow of blood and oxygen to the brain is impaired and results in the rapid loss of brain function. Learn more about your risk factors, as well as signs, symptoms, and recovery options from guest speaker Dr. Alexander Smirnoff. From 3–4p.m. at Comfort Suites Inn, 1202 Avenida Central, in The Villages. Information: 352.751.8000

Breast Cancer Support Group (May 15)

The diagnosis of breast cancer can be a journey that is both physically and emotionally challenging. Join other breast cancer patients and survivors for a monthly support group where you can receive encouragement and support to ease your struggles. Each meeting features a different speaker, open discussion, and light refreshments. From 1–2:30p.m. at Florida Hospital Waterman Cancer Institute, Waterman Way, Tavares.

Information: 352.253.3605

American Heart Association BLS (CPR) for New Healthcare Providers (May 15)

This introductory Basic Life Skills for Healthcare Providers through the American Heart Association offers individuals new to the health care field knowledge and skills for emergency life-saving techniques involving infants, children, and adults. Students receive an American Heart Association two-year certification upon completion of the CPR/ AED course. From 4 to 8.pm. at Southern Technical Institute, 1300 South Duncan Drive, Tavares. Cost: $45 per person.

Information: 352.508.5560 or creed@southerntechnicalinstitute.com

Nature Fest (May 17)

The Friends of Lake Louisa State Park invite you to attend the annual Nature Fest at Lake Louisa State Park. From 10a.m. to 2p.m., the fest will include a variety of exhibitors, demonstrations, displays, and activities for guests of all ages, plus guided nature hikes that focus on getting outside and safely enjoying natural Florida. Food will be available for purchase. Nature Fest is included in the regular park admission fee of $5 per car or $2 per pedestrian/bicycle.

Information: 352.394.3969 or friendsoflakelouisastatepark.org

Stand Up Paddleboard Crooked River Tour (May 18)

Enjoy the vista of the crooked river from a different perspective: a stand up paddleboard. No experience necessary; cost is $45, which includes paddleboard and paddle. Starts at 10am. at Hull Road Boat Ramp, 12325 Hull Road, Clermont.

Information: 352.406.0904 or mary@floridafromakayak.com.

Run for the Playground Family Fun 5K (May 24)

Runners and walkers will enjoy this beautiful USATF certified 5K (3.1-mile) course through a tree-lined and paved course at Lake Louisa State Park. At the halfway marker, be prepared for the infamous Tortoise Mound, and remember that wildlife have the right of way. Cost: $20, through May 19; $25, May 20–24; and $30 on race day. Starts at 7:30a.m at Lake Louisa State Park, 7305 U.S. Highway 27, Clermont. Information: friendsoflakelouisastatepark.org

Wounded Warriors Project Box Car Race (May 24–25)

Clermont/Minneola Box Car Racing will host its first national derby rallies event with proceeds benefiting the Wounded Warriors Project. Open to ages 7–21. The registration fee for each sanctioned race event is $100 per child, which includes four races.

From 7a.m. to 6p.m. on Scrub Jay Lane in Minneola. Information: www.cmboxcarracing.com

The Yum-Yum Club (May 27)

A professional chef and a registered dietician lead the cooking demonstrations. Each class features an easy to prepare recipe for a different course. The first class is scheduled for May 27 in the Conry CREATION Health Center at Florida Hospital Waterman, 1000 Waterman Way, Tavares from 6–8p.m. The cost is $30 per class.

Information: 352.253.3685 or visit ConryCREATIONHealth.com

We here at Lake OMS practice a full scope of oral and maxillofacial surgery that includes expertise in the areas of corrective jaw surgery, wisdom teeth removal, diagnosis and treatment of facial injuries, as well as bone-grafting procedures

Drs. Azizi and Figueroa employ the most recent advances in dental implant technology by utilizing CT-guided system for minimally-invasive implant surgery. With this technology, we can evaluate the bone ahead of time and place implants precisely in an ideal functional and esthetic position. We are committed to provide the highest quality treatment so our patients can smile and function with confidence.

Tired of just making a living?

MOVIN’ ON UP

The Villages Regional Hospital Auxiliary Foundation recently hosted its Hearts for Our Hospital Gala at the Savannah Center. Proceeds from the event went toward the hospital’s planned expansion, which includes new emergency department rooms, 62 new beds, and five large operating suites for complex procedures. This year’s theme was “Up, Up, and Away!” Attendees enjoyed a silent auction, open bar, live entertainment, and dinner catered by Orlando-based Puff ‘n Stuff.

PHOTOGRAPHER: RON VANDEVANDER

1. Glenn and Tara Myers with Hillary and Johnny Sturkie

2. Rhonda and Thomas Fross

3. Kevin Allen Scott

4. Dr. Christine Côté, Hugo Yepez, and Alice McWhinney

5. Dick Campbell and Don Henderson

6. Barbara Richardson and John Brandeburg

7. Michelle and Shane Finley

8. John and Gayle Erskine

9. Michelle and Dr. Maen Hussein

REVISITING THE ROARING 20s

“A Throwback to the 1920s” was the theme of the Boys and Girls Clubs of Lake and Sumter Counties inaugural Benefit Bash, held at the Savannah Center in The Villages. Those in attendance enjoyed casino games, dancing, a multicourse dinner, and an auction. In addition, a prize was awarded for the best-dressed gal or gangster, and live entertainment was provided by the Red Garter Jazz Band.

PHOTOGRAPHER: MATTHEW GAULIN

1. Shauna Jean, Lee Boggess, and Cynthia Christman

2. Katie Sartoris, David Carmichael, and Tonya Porter

3. Jason Young and James Manbo

4. Michelle Michnoff, Melissa Williams, and Connie Kolisnyk

5. Amy Serrano and Josh Fleck

6. Kenyetta Edwards and Joanna Hamlin

7. Cindi Ticconi and Mary Hunt

CHILDREN ARE OUR FUTURE

A ribbon-cutting ceremony was recently held for LifeStream Behavioral Center’s LAKE Academy and Children’s Center, which are located at 1217 Huffstetler Drive in Eustis. LAKE Academy will provide a special learning environment for students with emotional and behavioral disorders, while the Children’s Center will offer an interactive training program to improve parent-child relationships. The open house was attended by local elected officials, community leaders, and employees of Lake County Schools.

PHOTOGRAPHER: SHAENA CHASTAIN

1. Chancy Gaines, Darius Evans, Clayton Taylor, and Derrick Caceres

2. B.E. Thompson, Brenda Mitchell, and Sherry Olszanski

3. Laurie Despot, Pat Tugya, Hellen Rickard, Jab Martin, Joyce Symonds, and Kathy Walinske

4. Felicia Clark

6. Kathy Graham, Mark Martin, and Stephanie Mekenzie

7. Rona Henriques, Jill Baird, and Eva Benevit

5. Julia Carter

8. Elizabeth DeHart

Things you should know…

…ABOUT HAIR CARE

WRITER: ANGELA GIANGROSSI // ILLUSTRATOR: ANTHONY CASTO

1. DON’T WASH YOUR HAIR EVERY DAY

Every two to three days is enough. Washing your hair too frequently can sometimes contribute to further damage and frizz. Dry shampoo is a great fix for in-between days.

2. AVOID DAMAGING SUBSTANCES

Avoid too much UV exposure, cigarette smoke, and stress. All three can make your hair dry, brittle, and contribute to hair loss.

3. BE GENTLE ON WET HAIR

Hair is in its most fragile state when it is wet. Therefore, when combing out wet hair use a widetooth comb and go slowly. Also, use a detangling spray for longer hair to avoid extra breakage.

4. PROTECT YOUR HAIR FROM DAMAGING HEAT

Blow dryers, curling irons, and flat irons can cause unneeded damage. Use a thermal protectant product on your hair before you dry and style your hair. There are many kinds on the market so make sure to read the product’s instructions; some you apply to wet hair and some are sprayed on directly before using tools. Also, ask your stylist for a product recommendation.

5. WANT LONG HAIR? CUT IT

Your hair should be trimmed every six to eight weeks. Split ends do nothing but dull your looks and travel up the hair shaft. If you neglect trimming your hair, you will only have to cut more hair later. Maintaining healthy ends is the key.

6. HEALTHY HAIR STARTS AT THE ROOT WITH A HEALTHY SCALP

Take a few extra minutes when washing your hair to massage your scalp. Not only does it feel good, a good scalp massage increases blood flow and stimulates lymphatic drainage in the head, which results in stimulated hair follicles to promote maximum hair growth.

7. DIAGNOSE YOUR HAIR TYPE

Oily, dry, chemically treated, thinning, or normal... there are lines of products for every specific hair type. Use what is appropriate for you. If you do not use the right product, you will always come away from the mirror unhappy with how it looks.

8. COOL DOWN THAT CUTICLE

Rinse conditioner out of hair with a cool water rinse. It helps close the cuticle of the hair, which promotes shininess and helps reduce frizz.

9. STAY AWAY FROM HOME USE HAIR CHEMICALS

You may think you are saving time and money, but in the end, your hair will look bad and it is expensive to fix. Do you love your highlights? Save a bit of money and opt for partial highlights in between

doing the full head. It costs less, requires a shorter appointment, and does not create a nightmare for your stylist to fix later.

10. FOR GREAT LOOKING HAIR, DON’T SHOP-HOP

Find a stylist you can communicate with and trust. If you are constantly changing salons, you will never find two stylists who will give you the same thing. When you find a stylist you like, stick with them. Most stylists prefer you book ahead so just rebook before you leave. It helps eliminate emotional hair disasters and you are assured your time with your stylist instead of getting “fit in” at the last minute.

ANGELA GIANGROSSI is co-owner and stylist at Studio Styles LLC. She graduated from South Sumter High School in 1995 and received cosmetology training at Lake Technical Center in Eustis. Her favorite services to perform are coloring, cut, and style. Angela resides in Leesburg and is the mother of two awesome kids.

Extracranial

Samuel P. Martin - MD, FACS Vascular Surgery/Phlebologist Founder and Medical Director Vascular Specialist

Hugo V. Hart - MD, FACS Board Certified General Surgery Vascular Specialist

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Cerebrovascular