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OCTOBER 29, 2015 | The Jewish Home
Dating Dialogue
What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters
Dear Navidaters,
Thanks for taking the time to answer my question. I appreciate your shidduch column more than any of the others, so thank you. I am a serious and educated guy approaching my mid 30s..
I really want to get married. I do not have a lack of dates, nor do I have a lack of people trying to set me up. It simply happens to be that the girls I like don’t seem to like me back.
B A LT I M O R E J E W I S H H O M E . C O M
The most common reaction from girls as to why they give a no is, “He’s such a nice, sweet guy, but I need someone more edgy.” Or, “He’s going to be an amazing husband but he’s too much of a soft, sweet type.” I take charge on my dates, plan nice outings, splurge on the girls I go out with. I certainly do not think I come across as timid. But I really want practical tips. How do I come across as more of a “gavrah” (strong/manly) type when intrinsically I’m just a more laid back/sweet type? Thanks, Ben
Disclaimer: This column is not intended to diagnose or otherwise conclude resolutions to any questions. Our intention is not to offer any definitive conclusions to any particular question, rather offer areas of exploration for the author and reader. Due to the nature of the column receiving only a short snapshot of an issue, without the benefit of an actual discussion, the panel’s role is to offer a range of possibilities. We hope to open up meaningful dialogue and individual exploration.
