Area Woman Magazine Oct/Nov '22

Brent Srejma Aspire Bank

Ross Erickson Lars’ Body Shop

Eric Swenson Lars’ Body Shop

Jerry Kuhn Haga Kommer, Ltd

“As a growing company it’s really important to work with the right people. Aspire Bank and Haga Kommer CPAs are a part of our team.”

Eric Swenson & Ross Erickson, Owners Lars’ Body Shop

Aspire Bank and Haga Kommer CPAs were there for us when we started our business. They really understand what small business owners need and we love working with them!”

– Ryan & Jason Jundt, Co-Owners of J-Tech Mechanical

OUR WRITERS

are the voice of Area Woman Magazine. They bring to life the Fargo-Moorhead area and the incredible stories of the women we feature. These are the talented contributors showcased in this issue. Learn more about these and our other contributors at areawomanmagazine.com.

JESSICA hoeper

Jessica is a mother of five kids and resides with her family on her husband's family farm in central Minnesota. Jessica grew up in the Fargo area before relocating to Minnesota. She is a licensed independent social worker with 15 years of human service experience, specializing in child welfare. Jessica runs her own human service consulting and training company. Most recently Jessica added author to her tagline. She co-authored a book that became an international best seller on release date, " Success Codes: Secrets to Success You Weren't Taught in School."

KATHLEEN gallais

Kat runs the blog and Instagram page kattellsall.com and @kattellsall. She is passionate about exploring and sharing adventures in North Dakota, Minnesota, and beyond. She is an advocate for travel close to home, and simplifies planning with detailed itineraries and travel guides.

AMANDA davison

Amanda Davison is the Founder and Executive Director of the nonprofit, A Wife Like Me, a ministry equipping wives to experience healthier, happier marriages. She is the co-author of Dear Wife: 10 Minute Invitations to Practice Connection with Your Husband, a speaker, and founder of Awaken, a women’s event. She is the wife to a Minnesota farmer, mother of three, and lover of ice cream. Join the wives intentionally growing their faith and marriages through the A Wife Like Me Podcast, A Wife Like Me on YouTube, social media, or at awifelikeme.com.

WASIFAahmad hasan

Wasifa has been sharing her insights through blogging and helping women for nine years in beauty, healthy lifestyle, and fashion. As a dentistry graduate and makeup artist, she combines her passion for healthy living and beauty in her blog sifascorner.com.

JILL krahn and OLIVIA burke

Jill has been in the beauty and fashion industries for 37 years and is one of the founders of the franchised L'Oreal and Redken beauty schools across the US. Along with her twin sister Jodi, she owns Hair Success Salon and Day Spa in Fargo and the Fargo location of franchised Redken school The Salon Professional Academy. For trend information and releases, Jill travels to NYC often and works with the team at L'Oreal Professional Products Division at their NYC offices. Her daughter Olivia Burke is attending school in Scotland studying international business and marketing; she is the author of this issue's article. She is a graduate of Sheyenne High School in West Fargo and has a passion for the beauty and fashion business.

ALICIAunderlee nelson

Alicia Underlee Nelson's stories and photos have been featured in numerous publications, including Thomson Reuters, USA Today, Food Network, Delta Sky Magazine, AAA Living, Midwest Living, Rent.com, Apartment Guide, trivago Magazine, Matador Network, North Dakota Outdoors and craftbeer.com. She is the author of North Dakota Beer: A Heady History and a co-author of Midwest Road Trip Adventures.

BETH pridday

Beth Pridday has been an entrepreneur and educator her whole life. Her teaching career has included stints at University of South Dakota, Minot State University, and MState. She lives with her husband and two dogs in Detroit Lakes, where she is a full-time volunteer, sometimes retired, a part-time consultant, and business owner. She is passionate about giving-back, animal rescue, cooking, and travel.

SAM archer

Samantha is the co-owner and lead photographer at Images by Archer. Working alongside her videographer husband Ryan, they specialize in documenting couples, engagements, and weddings. Along with this, Samantha is currently a Ph.D. Candidate in Communication at North Dakota State University and an adjunct lecturer at Concordia College. Her doctoral work looks at the intersection of mass and interpersonal communication with specific focus on how relationships are built and maintained over technology. Find more of her work at @thearchers.studio or imagesbyarcher.com.

DAWN duncan

Dawn is driven by creativity and sharing her passion for writing, art, and healthy living with the masses. She is from Fertile, MN and now calls Detroit Lakes her home, after living in Colorado several years. She's a UND graduate and lifelong entrepreneur who is also a published children's book author. You'll usually find her hiking in the woods, kayaking, sweating in the yoga studio, or spending time with her husband, Michael, and their German Shepherd, Reva. Dawn is the founder of Yellowbright, a writing and editing agency, an avid community volunteer, and modern day Renaissance woman. Follow her @yellowbrightinc.com

MEGAN elgin

Megan grew up on the family farm in small town North Dakota and graduated from MSUM. She is an artist and graphic designer who loves all things creative. She is passionate about reading as many books as possible and loves discussing them with others. Megan lives in Horace with her husband and teenage son.

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Along with these, the season is bringing us clutch purses and ankle boots, ones that are made for walking (including through snow). There are some fascinating materials to experiment with, such as fringe and feathers to 3D embellishments like tulle and rhinestones.

A recognizable style appearing in our top looks is the sheer tulle blouse paired with buttery smooth leather trousers.

Many of the fall’s sheer fabric looks are accessorized with dainty jewelry. To finish off the look, just add some platform shoes. The color palette right now is comprised of browns, copper shades, and tans, more than we’ve ever seen before. I think brown is the new black for the season! Another fun twist is the appearance of zippy tones consisting of vibrant pinks and yellows. This trend consists of taking it back to the era of color, the 1960s to early 1970s.

However, as for the year 2022, Pantone has a statement about our new and beloved staple color of green; it is in for sure. Rumor has it that Spring 2023 is coming in with a calming splash of lavender, which may be needed after another long winter! Keep your eye out for these trends because my predictions are rarely ever wrong!

HAIR & MAKEUP HAIR SUCCESS SALON & SPA

Here are warm, espresso-tone colors with icy, shimmery blondes. Layering shades of the color give the face structure and dimension and Hair Success colors and shapes the style to the guest's facial shape. These models have many layers of dimensional color, yet the look is very natural. Waves are in for fall. Try the loose tousled look for an easy outdoor feel. You will notice as the season colors change so will the hair colors for the winter vibe.

When it comes to hair trends, fall 2022 is coming in hot with some spicy red tones and platinum blondes. Of course styles that shall never die are the 90s bouncy blowouts and beautifully cut curtain bangs. Oh, and by the way, did I mention that the shag is back? Yes, these hairstyles have hit new heights… literally. My thoughts are that your hairstyle alone is a look itself. For instance, a simple slicked and sleek ponytail and bangs style can never go wrong. The deal with bangs, even if you let them grow a little past their normal length, is that they still look presentable. As I always say, “They’re like lipstick, but for your hair.” This is a new era of fun and excitement, not to mention the opportunity to be uniquely beautiful. Rock what’s in and put a spin on it!

Alright, ladies, enough about us. It’s time to get men into the trends. The male style has taken a new approach. Instead of having to decide whether to keep it long or short, many trends for men encompass both! This means a lengthy tousled hair at the top with little to shaved sides. Two important things to keep in mind are that the length on the back is not as important as having more hair on top. Now, do not get me wrong, we are seeing the infamous mullet making an appearance. This time around, the mullet is all about embracing the ‘rock and roll’ texture and structure.

The overall hair color of the season that you all will be dye-ing for (see how I did that?) is a toasted caramel tone (accompanied with a glass of wine). [ aw ]

words :: Jason Cossette, RPh, PharmD InHealth Specialty Pharmacy

For more information about how dietary supplements or hormone balance could help you, visit inhealthcompounding.com/balance

For individuals seeking to improve their health and well-being using hormones, a healthy diet is often optimized with the addition of dietary supplements. These supplements are usually nonprescription products that can be purchased at a variety of retail locations and online. However, it is recommended that any supplement you plan to put into your body comes from a reputable brand or retailer. Your pharmacist is a great resource for information

AtInHealth Specialty Pharmacy,

we are big proponents of balancing hormones as a key factor in maintaining optimal health and well-being. To achieve this, we work with a diverse group of providers in our area to dial in hormone supplementation therapy for patients. Direct hormone supplementation is certainly a very important part of this process, but the importance of overall dietary and physical health cannot be overlooked! Nothing in the body works in isolation. Every system in the body is constantly interacting and adjusting, second by second, to its current environment. This certainly applies to hormones, which are our body’s messaging system.

There may be cases where a person’s hormone levels are low so they receive medication to boost those levels. But, if the body does not have the proper tools or the best conditions to respond to that hormone messenger, the therapeutic results might not be all that they could be. This is why it is vital that an overall health and wellness evaluation is crucial to an effective hormone supplementation program. Proper diet and exercise build the foundation for hormone therapy and complement prescription therapy to achieve the best results possible.

The following is a list of supplements we commonly recommend to hormone therapy patients.

Calcium with Vitamin D

(Citrate or Hydroxyapitate forms for easier absorption) )

• Important for bone health

Multivitamins

• Invest in a quality multivitamin/multimineral

• Sometimes one tablet daily is not enough!

B Vitamins

• A “B Complex” supplement ensures proper balance of B vitamin supplementation

• Important supplement for women taking birth control or hormone replacement therapy

Magnesium

• Magnesium is involved in the function of over 300 enzymes in the body.

• May promote better sleep when taken at bedtime

• Relaxes muscles which may also provide pain relief

• Look for Magnesium Glycinate form to avoid laxative effect.

Vitamin D

• Aids in the absorption of calcium

• May provide protection against osteoporosis, hypertension, cancer, and autoimmune disease

• Common doses are 1000IU to 5000IU daily, but some people may need more if a blood test says they are deficient.

Co-Enzyme Q10

• Important especially if taking medications such as “statins” or “beta blockers”

Essential Fatty Acids

• Commonly found in fish oil supplements

• An essential nutrient that has been known to reduce body fat and improve cardiovascular and metabolic health

• They are “essential” because the body cannot make these so we need to ingest them.

Probiotics

• Supplements the “good” bacteria in the digestive tract

• Seek out refrigerated products.

• Probiotics may be beneficial for irritable bowel, diarrhea, constipation, lactose intolerance, colon cancer and cholesterol.

DHEA

• Supports adrenal function/stress response

• Building block for the natural creation of testosterone and estrogen hormones in the body, which supports hormone replacement therapy. [ aw ]

make it tonight

sweet potato & apple risotto

INGREDIENTS

2 medium sweet potatoes, peeled and diced to ½” cubes

2 medium Golden Delicious apples, peeled, cored, and diced to ½” cubes

1 teaspoon pumpkin pie spice

3 tablespoons olive oil, divided use

Salt

Black pepper

2 tablespoons honey

2 sweet Italian sausage links, casings removed and crumbled

3 tablespoons butter, divided use

1 small onion, chopped

1 cup Arborio rice

½ cup white wine

4 cups chicken stock, very hot

¼ cup shredded Gruyère cheese

¼ cup shaved Parmesan cheese

4 leaves fresh sage, chopped

TOOLS OF THE TRADE

large baking sheet

aluminum foil

heavy-bottomed pan

ladle

½ - ¾ measuring cups

tablespoon mixing bowl

paring knife or apple corer

TECHNIQUE

"FOLDING" using a down-acrossup-and-over motion with the spatula in the mixing bowl

THE HOW TO

1. Preheat the oven to 400 degrees, line a baking sheet with foil, and drizzle it with a little olive oil.

2. In a medium bowl, toss together the cubed sweet potato and the apples with the pumpkin pie spice, a couple of good pinches of salt and pepper, the honey and 2 tablespoons of the olive oil, and turn them out onto the foil-lined baking sheet in a single layer.

3. Place these into the oven to roast for about 25-30 minutes until golden brown, stirring them a bit about halfway through the roasting to prevent them from burning on the bottom (do not worry if the apples begin to break down); set aside once roasted.

4. While the sweet potato and apples roast, begin the risotto: place a large, heavy-bottom pan (which is a couple of inches deep) over medium/medium-high heat, and once hot, add in the crumbled sweet Italian sausage, and brown it for a few minutes until cooked through. Set this aside on a plate.

5. Next, add 2 tablespoons of butter and the remaining tablespoon of olive oil to the hot pan to melt together, and then add the chopped onion and sweat for about 2 minutes until translucent.

6. Add the Arborio rice to this and gently stir, making sure to coat all the rice grains in the butter/oil for about a minute or two; then, add the white wine to the rice and onions (careful if cooking with flame), and give a gentle stir, allowing the wine to reduce until almost absorbed, but not quite completely.

7. Then, begin adding the hot chicken stock to the rice mixture in ½ – ¾ cup increments at a time (about 1 to 1 ½ ladles), stirring gently to incorporate and allowing the rice to slowly absorb the stock and gently simmer (adjust your flame if necessary).

8. Continue to add additional increments of stock, stirring and allowing it to almost absorb, repeating this process until the rice is soft and creamy but not mushy, roughly 25 minutes.

9. To finish the risotto and serve, turn the heat off from under the pan; add in the remaining tablespoon of butter, the grated Gruyère, the shaved Parmesan, the browned sweet Italian sausage, the roasted sweet potato, apples, and ½ of the chopped sage.

10. Gently fold all these ingredients together in the pan, spoon generous portions of the risotto into bowls, and serve immediately; garnish each serving with an additional sprinkle of the sage and an additional sprinkle of cheese, if desired.

DIFFICULTY MODERATE

RISOTTO | Italian: from riso meaning "rice"

A northern Italian dish cooked with broth until it reaches a creamy consistency. The broth can be from meat, fish, or vegetables. Many types of risotto contain butter, onion, white wine, and Parmigiano-Reggiano. It is one of the most common ways of cooking rice in Italy.

In Italy, risotto is commonly served before the main course.

Wikipedia / August 2022

RECIPE AND PHOTOGRAPHY BETH PRIDDAY

How do you want your home to look and feel?

Timeless and polished, with interiors that showcase well-made pieces from many eras

Light, airy, calm and comfortable with soft neutrals and lots of natural light

Bold, sensual, colorful and enveloping: a home should be an escape from the mundane

Sleek, modern, and minimalistic for a streamlined, curated look

Cozy, rustic, no-fuss: a laid-back, easygoing retreat for friends and family

Colorful and vibrant, with a global flair: a joyful collection of unique things

Practical, functional, multi-purpose: the ideal house is practically indestructible

Cozy, whimsical, a collection of patinaed furniture, charming florals and vintage touches

Which pieces of furniture are on your wish list?

A classic Chesterfield sofa or a family heirloom that has stood the test of time

Pale wood furniture with smooth, clean lines

A sleek and curvy couch or chaise, perfect for lounging

Pieces with sharp, geometric lines

Sturdy, comfortable pieces made of reclaimed wood

A hanging rattan egg chair

A metal studio stool with rivets that works in any room

Distressed wooden pieces, either natural or painted in calming whites or creams

Describe your dream digs:

An English manor house or a painted lady Victorian

A restful, comfortable, calming retreat nestled in the mountains or forest

A midcentury Hollywood mansion with a pool

An open plan urban townhouse with big windows and space to display the art collection

An old-fashioned farmhouse with modern conveniences inside

A bungalow full of treasures — and a custom camper to take inspiration on the road

A loft in a former warehouse that preserves details that give character

A little cottage full of cozy nooks and crannies and a bountiful garden

What’s on your walls?

Timeless paintings on neutral walls: tasteful details like details like crown moldings add drama

White walls and minimal window treatments to maximize natural light and nature views

Vivid colors, bold wallpaper, art, mirrors and dramatic drapes

Neutral colors like black and white, artwork or lighting installations for a pop of color

Airy whites and creams accented with reclaimed barnwood

Colorful paintings, photos, maps, fiber art or tapestries – and maybe all at once

Neutral or concrete walls, accented with historic brick or reclaimed wood

Rustic stone, reclaimed wood or white walls accented with bucolic art

Which materials catch your eye?

Dark, polished wood

Light-colored wood

Lush velvet and anything reflective

Chrome and leather

Rustic wood and weathered metal

Natural textures like jute, bamboo and terra cotta

Stainless steel and concrete, exposed pipes and ductwork

Textiles with a story: heirloom lace, soft vintage sheets, embroidered dish towels

MARK YOUR ANSWERS TO THE QUESTIONS ON THIS PAGE, THEN TURN THE PAGE TO FIND THE INTERIOR DESIGN STYLE THAT MOST CLOSELY MATCHES YOU!

What's your weekend project?

Scouring the internet and estate sales for classic Shaker furniture

Tucking clutter out of sight using clever organizational systems

Swapping out light bulbs so every room is enveloped in the most flattering glow

Visiting galleries and lighting emporiums to source the perfect accent pieces

Going junking to find rusty accents, vintage window panes and signage to repurpose

Planning the next trip (even if it’s only to the flea market or the greenhouse)

Hitting the salvage yards for the next DIY project

Arranging fresh cut flowers or freshening up home accents with a coat of chalk paint

You can’t resist:

A Tiffany lamp or a family heirloom that adds gravitas to a room

Soft rugs and blankets and candles for a welcoming glow

Crystal chandeliers, a gleaming metal bar cart, gilt mirrors –anything that sparkles

Clever design: Even lamps or a streamlined espresso machine can be beautiful

Hand-lettered signs, antiques with character

Colorful textiles, interesting pottery and plants. There’s always room for more.

Practical furniture that combines wood and metal, cage lights with exposed bulbs

Décor inspired by nature: pastoral paintings, dried flowers, a windowsill herb garden

What’s your interior design pet peeve?

People who follow every trend. Homes should be carefully curated, not time capsules. Carpet. Wood floors (even imperfect ones) are so much better. Dull, utilitarian interiors in drab colors. Fashion matters just as much as function. Crowded, busy rooms. Negative space is as important as the space you fill. Sterile, minimalistic interior. Rustic wood and stone feel warmer and more natural. Buying mass produced art and furniture instead of working with artists/craftspeople People that throw out heirlooms or furniture when they could easily be repurposed

What’s in your closet?

Well-made, tailored clothing that’s designed to last. Some things never go out of style. Warm, casual, cozy basics that work equally well indoors and out in nature

Interesting silhouettes, patterns and colors that showcase your form and personality

Simple, streamlined neutrals accented with artful accessories

Practical clothing that you can work or play in

A variety of colorful, sculptural or patterned pieces that you can layer with ease

A uniform of utilitarian clothing and durable metal or leather accessories

A blend of vintage and modern shapes, colors drawn from nature and whimsical details

TURN THE PAGE TO SEE YOUR RESULTS

WRITTEN BY ALICIA UNDERLEE NELSON

With roots in opulent Hollywood Regency, this style is all about drama, texture and metallic accents. Textiles like suede, leather and velvet combine with vivid colors, regal jewel tones, vibrant art and striking patterned wallpaper for richly layered interiors. Furniture is often lowslung and curvy for maximum lounging comfort.

Glam fans love entertaining and treating themselves and their guests to the finest things in life. So invest in mood lighting and a bar in the dining room to take a dinner party to the next level and cultivate places to unwind on the patio and throughout the house. Add metallic and crystal light fixtures, mirrors, serving trays – even drawer pulls and door knobs – so every room sparkles and shines.

This style emphasizes sturdy, well-made furniture that can be passed down through generations and natural materials like wood and metal. Rich colors and a subdued decorating style let architectural flourishes like wood paneling, stained glass, intricately carved railings and decorative moldings around windows and doors shine.

Since historic homes contained several rooms, each with a specific purpose, traditional room layouts tend to be more symmetrical and formal than open plan living. Add a touch of traditional style with antique furniture (or a replica of a style that has stood the test of time), classic accents like a grandfather clock or solid bookshelves or even wallpaper and artwork from different decades.

This color palette is light and airy – neutrals like white, cream and tan are accented with just a hint of pale rose, watery green or soft sky blue. Nordic furniture is sleek and streamlined and often rendered in pale, blond wood. Wood floors are prized, but any smooth surface works well with this simple, relaxed style. Comfortable rugs, cozy blankets, and flickering candles create an atmosphere of warmth and relaxation.

To add a little Scandi style to your life, start by emphasizing space and natural light. Clear away unnecessary clutter, find a place for every object and let the room breathe. Choose minimal window treatments (or remove them entirely) so views of nature and soft natural light infuse the room with calm.

Contemporary (or modern) style is rooted in geometric shapes, strong horizontal lines and a strong emphasis on negative space. For this reason, it’s very closely related to minimalism, which also banishes clutter and elevates stark, stripped-down design. Contemporary furniture has very clean lines and often sits quite low to the ground. The way a piece looks and how it contributes to the harmony of the room is as important as how comfortable it is.

Interiors are neutral. Visual excitement comes from juxtaposing opposites like black and white, hard and soft, wood and metal. Color is used very sparingly and anything bright or curvy makes a big visual impact. Adopting a monochrome palette, choosing furniture with clean lines and eliminating clutter can add a contemporary touch to a room.

This popular style combines farmhouse comfort and thrift with modern conveniences. It combines antiques, found objects, family heirlooms and upcycled furniture and building materials in a refined way. Reclaimed wood (especially barnwood) is a cornerstone of the style. In addition to being eco-conscious, reclaimed wood lends a sense of history to doors, walls, beams, cabinets and floors... even in a new build. Metals like galvanized steel are repurposed too, so mixing metals is very common. Interesting rusty bits and bobs, family keepsakes, rustic stone and sturdy furniture create a home that feels durable and timeless.

The color scheme needs to tie all these disparate elements together. Most interiors are white, cream, beige or gray. But understated blues and greens can serve the same purpose. Heritage fabrics like plaid and gingham can also provide a sense of continuity.

Industrial style evolved as warehouses, factories and schools were converted into lofts and apartments. Instead of hiding the elements that made these spaces functional, exposed ductwork and pipes were incorporated into the design. Original wood floors, posts and beams were restored. Historic brick and antique windows were preserved.

A neutral color scheme keeps the focus firmly on these architectural elements. The fixtures, finishes and furniture mirror the wood, metal and concrete around them. While a previously industrial space or open concept dwelling is the best fit for this style, even new homes can adopt a little industrial edge. Try adding cage-style pendant lights or exposed Edison bulbs in kitchens or bathrooms. Swap out wood seating for metal chairs or stools, install a rough brick accent wall or fireplace or repurpose an old wood chest, library card catalogue or metal lockers into a new storage space.

Playful, layered and collected, the Bohemian (or boho) aesthetic is an amalgamation of eclectic styles from around the globe. Furniture and home décor feature natural materials like caning, bamboo, rattan and clay. Artfully displayed collections of plants, meaningful stones and crystals, driftwood and seashells mingle with pottery, art and little treasures picked up on numerous adventures. Boho fans enthusiastically explore new cultures and experiences, even if they can’t physically travel far from home.

Introducing collections of these objects is an easy way to inject boho spirit into a space. Adding intricate textiles, including tapestries, fiber art, handwoven rugs, embellished pillows and bedcoverings is another. The look is layered and colorful, so it’s hard to go overboard.

Approachable, cozy and comfortable, cottagecore (or farmcore) grew out of a lifestyle movement that cultivates the simple pleasures of home, hearth and garden. Despite the site-specific names, anyone can create a cottagecore home. Key zones include a well-appointed (and often open-shelved) country kitchen, an outdoor space for gardening and soaking up the sunshine and plenty of nooks and crannies to read, nap and create. A big dining room table and a fireplace, wood stove or fire pit are coveted additions.

Like its predecessor, shabby chic, pleasantly weathered warm wood, whitewashed furniture and vintage textiles feature prominently in this aesthetic. The broader color scheme favors creamy neutrals, pastels and shades drawn from nature. But art, fabric and flowers are whimsical and vibrant. This look prizes reusing and recycling, so interiors are a blend of materials and eras. [ aw ]

EXPLORE THE NORTH SHORE

MINNESOTA: A fun weekend getaway

WORDS & PHOTOGRAPHY : KATHLEEN GALLAIS

Follow Kathleen on INSTAGRAM & PINTEREST: @kattellsall WEBSITE: kattellsall.com

Minnesota’s North Shore is one of the Midwest’s greatest features. Stunning forests and waterfalls meet the grandeur of Lake Superior to create a slice of paradise. I spent three days exploring many of the parks and trails that the area has to offer and did this as a lone traveler, plus my trusty canine companion, Brutus. Prior to this trip, I had never traveled solo; to be honest, I was pretty nervous about the experience.

In addition to my first taste of traveling alone, this was also my first time exploring in a camper van! Vanna Adventure Vans is a custom camper van builder and rental company out of Fargo-Moorhead. Their rental service is a great way to experience #vanlife without the commitment of owning a van.

Before leaving on my adventure, I committed to a three day itinerary and made a list of spots I wanted to see along the North Shore. After marking each point on Google My Maps (one of my favorite resources!), I identified the most logical place to stay each night and booked my campsites. The first night, I stayed at Jay Cooke State Park Campground. Then, I traveled up the North Shore, where I stayed at Black Beach Municipal Campground the second night. The final night was spent in Cascade River State Park.

My adventure began on a Thursday after work. I left at about 3:00 pm and headed to Vanna to pick up my rig. It’s just over four hours from Moorhead to Jay Cooke State Park, so I spent the evening driving and checking into my first campsite. Jay Cooke State Park is stunning and the campground is no exception. My site was simple and secluded. I loved that I could pull the van into the site, crawl into the back, and hit the hay.

After waking up in Jay Cooke State Park, I started my busy day by hitting the trails. Jay Cooke is home to a beautiful swinging bridge and unique rock formations that make for a fun hike with stunning scenery. After heading back to the site and packing up the few things I had unpacked the night before, I drove into Duluth. A walk around Canal Park was fueled by a cold brew from Duluth Coffee Co. and I was back on the road. New Scenic Cafe was on the menu for lunch; the burrata was delicious and fueled my adventure-filled afternoon.

VANNA ADVENTURE VAN // VOYAGEURS HIGHWAY

SWINGING BRIDGE // JAY COOKE STATE PARK

CAMPGROUND // CASCADE RIVER STATE PARK

CAMPSITE // JAY COOKE STATE PARK LIFT BRIDGE

GOOSEBERRY FALLS STATE PARK

EXPLORE THE NORTH SHORE

Gooseberry Falls State Park was next on my list. I love the bang-for-your buck that you get with the falls being so close to the parking lot. The falls are stunning and what I consider a must-stop on the North Shore. The last stop for the day was Palisade Head; this is a great spot to get jawdropping views of Lake Superior. Black Beach Municipal Campground is only five minutes from Palisade Head, which was wonderful since I was tired from the events of the day.

My last full day on the North Shore was a dream. I woke up early and hit the Superior Hiking Trail to check out Bean and Bear Lake overlook. The 7.8 mile (out and back) trek was SO worth the views! After the hike, both Brutus and I were exhausted. We crawled into the back of the van, turned on the fans, and took a three hour rest/nap/snack break to prepare for the afternoon. This was my first time visiting Tettegouche State Park. Tettegouche is home to many waterfalls, the most iconic of which is High Falls. Unfortunately, the bridge above had been washed out due to the flooding this spring, so we opted to visit Two Step Falls and Baptism Beach; these did not disappoint.

CAMPSITE // BLACK BEACH MUNICIPAL

TWO STEP FALLS // TETTEGOUCHE STATE PARK

CAMPSITE // CASCADE RIVER STATE PARK

BRUTUS AT BAPTISM BEACH // TETTEGOUCHE STATE PARK

Cascade River State Park was the final destination on the itinerary and another new-to me park. Similar to Gooseberry Falls, many of the waterfalls are near the campground and parking lot, providing big pay off for little effort. I stayed the night at the campsite and got up early to hike around the park. After getting my fill of stunning waterfalls, I hopped back into my van to begin the drive back to Fargo-Moorhead.

Although I was nervous for my first solo trip and van-venture, I found the experience to be liberating. It was fun to travel solo and I felt safe with the company of my dog and the security features of the Vanna Adventure Van. Minnesota’s North Shore has many incredible spots; I encourage you to explore it!

GGetting a yearly 3D mammogram can grant you peace of mind, or it can detect early signs of breast cancer.

3D mammograms are growing in popularity due to their advanced detection and imaging options. Sanford Health recommends getting screened once per year, starting at age 40. Here are five reasons you should schedule a 3D mammogram:

“Getting annual mammograms starting at age 40 is the really the best option we have for finding abnormalities when they are small”

1. Better Visualization

3D mammograms are advanced breast cancer detection tools that give radiologists better visualization of the breast. 3D mammography is the most effective screening tool for diagnosing breast cancer.

This technology captures multiple images of the breast at different angles. This provides a clearer picture for radiologists to evaluate the tissue and provides doctors with more detailed views of your overall breast health. 3D mammograms help to pinpoint the size, shape and location of abnormalities better than ever before.

2. Earlier Detection

3D mammography can identify previously undetectable cancer earlier and reduce the need for additional follow-up tests.

“Getting annual mammograms starting at age 40 is the really the best option we have for finding abnormalities when they are small,” said Melinda Talley, M.D., a breast radiologist at Edith Sanford Breast Center. “It is also important to talk with your doctor to determine if you should begin screening before age 40.”

3. Better For Dense Breast Tissue

A 3D mammogram performs particularly well in women with dense breast tissue, which describes the ratio of fat to connective tissue and glands on the 3D mammogram. It only describes how the breasts look on a mammogram, not how they

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Melinda Talley, M.D, Breast Radiologist at Edith Sanford Breast Center

“It is also important to talk with your doctor to determine if you should begin screening before age 40”

Melinda Talley, M.D, Breast Radiologist at Edith Sanford Breast Center

feel. Each woman’s breasts have fat, connective tissue as well as milk ducts and lobules that together are glandular tissue. Dense breasts have higher amounts of glandular and connective tissue and also lower amounts of fatty tissue.

Studies have shown that women with extremely dense breast tissue do have a higher risk for breast cancer than women with lower breast density; experts are unsure why. However, the main concern with dense breast tissue is that it can make cancer more difficult to spot. Dense breast tissue appears white on a mammogram, just like cancer.

4. Tailored Approach

Every woman who receives a 3D mammogram screening will also have her risk evaluated. Teams will talk to each patient about her family history and personal risk. If they learn that she may be at a higher risk, they work with her primary care physician to develop a personalized screening plan just for her.

Having a tailored approach to care ensures every woman gets the right breast health screening at the right time. And, if any questionable areas do arise during the screening process, there are a number of diagnostic tools available. These include breast ultrasound, breast MRI, and new contrast- enhanced mammography. These help the radiologist better visualize the potentially cancerous areas.

5. Overall Advantages

Digital technology offers several potential advantages over the current film method for mammography. Unlike film images, digital images:

• Can be stored and transferred electronically

• Are less likely to get lost

• Can be manipulated to correct for underexposure or overexposure. This may prevent the need for another mammogram. Allow radiologists to use software to help interpret or read them

• Have a large dynamic range that allows examination of all areas of the breast, despite varying densities

• Have a lower average radiation dose

Many of the mammography machines in use today are digital units, such as the 3D mammograms. The process of getting a digital mammogram is just like a regular mammogram. In fact, the only way you may know what type you get is to ask the technologist working with you. [ aw ]

by Tanya Ferber, MBA, BSN, RN

As we age, our brains change, but Alzheimer’s disease and related dementias are not an inevitable part of aging. Dementia is an umbrella term for a collection of symptoms that are caused by disorders affecting the brain having an impact on memory, thinking, behavior, and emotion, with the most common being Alzheimer’s disease. There are 10 warning signs and symptoms of dementia not to be confused with normal aging of the brain. If you notice any of them, don’t ignore them; schedule an appointment with your primary physician.

1. Memory loss that disrupts daily life:

This can include forgetting recently learned information, important dates or events, asking questions repetitively, increasingly needing to rely on family members for things they used to handle on their own.

Age-Related Change: Sometimes forgetting names or appointments, but remember later.

2. Challenges in planning or solving problems:

This can include trouble following a familiar recipe or keeping track of monthly bills. They may have difficulty concentrating and take much longer to complete tasks as compared to before.

Age-Related Change: Making occasional errors when balancing a checkbook.

3. Difficulty completing familiar tasks at home, at work, or at leisure: This can include driving to a familiar location, organizing a grocery list, or remembering the rules of a favorite game.

Age-Related Change: Occasionally needing help to use microwave settings or to record a TV show.

4. Confusion with time or place: People living with Alzheimer's can lose track of dates, seasons, and the passage of time. They may

have trouble understanding something if it is not happening immediately. Sometimes they forget where they are or how they got there.

Age-Related Change: Getting confused about the day of the week, but figuring it out later.

5. Trouble understanding visual images and spatial relationships: For some people, having vision problems is a sign of Alzheimer's. This may lead to difficulty with balance and trouble reading. They may also have problems judging distance and determining color or contrast, causing issues with driving.

Age-Related Change: Vision changes related to cataracts.

6. New problems with words in speaking and in writing: People living with Alzheimer's may have trouble following or joining a conversation. They may stop in the middle of a conversation and have no idea how to continue or they may repeat themselves. They may struggle with vocabulary, have trouble naming a familiar object, or use the wrong name.

Age-Related Change: Sometimes having trouble finding the right word.

7. Misplacing things and losing the ability to retrace steps: A person living with Alzheimer’s may put things in unusual places. They may lose things and be unable to go back over their steps to find them again. He or she may accuse others of stealing, especially as the disease progresses.

Age-Related Change: Misplacing things from time to time and retracing steps to find them.

8. Decreased or poor judgement: Individuals may experience changes in judgement or decision making including poor judgement when dealing with money or paying less attention to grooming and personal hygiene.

Age-Related Change: Making a bad decision occasionally.

9. Withdrawal from work or social activities: A person living with Alzheimer's disease may experience changes in the ability to hold or follow a conversation. As a result, he or she may withdraw from hobbies, social activities, or other engagements. They may have trouble keeping up with a favorite team or activity.

Age-Related Change: Sometimes feeling weary of work, family, and social obligations.

10. Changes in mood or personality: Individuals living with Alzheimer's may experience mood or personality changes. They can become confused, suspicious, depressed, fearful, or anxious. They may be easily upset at home, with friends or when out of their comfort zone.

Age-Related Change: Developing very specific ways of doing things and becoming irritable when a routine is disrupted.

Dementia affects more than 50 million people worldwide, with a new case of dementia occurring somewhere in the world every three seconds. Dementia can also affect individuals under the age of 65. Greater awareness and understanding of dementia are important to challenge the myths and misconceptions that surround the condition.

There is currently no cure for most types of dementia, but treatment and support are available. Our local community has several great resources available: Memory Café of the Red River Valley (memorycareofrrv.com), Family Caregiver Alliance (caregiver.org), Alzheimer's Association (alz.org) – MN/ND Chapter, along with memory care facilities and home care agencies, just to name a few. [ aw ]

Reducing harmful chemicals and toxins from your home shouldn't feel overwhelming. You can efficiently do this by taking small, achievable steps every day.

When we envision a healthy lifestyle, we often think about diet, exercise, sleep, and hydration. Maintaining good health is indeed all about putting in the right ingredients for the body to flourish, but these aren't the only factors we should consider.

We can consume the best produce, drink the purest beverage, or diligently sleep and exercise daily. Still, if we are breathing in particle-packed air, living in a toxic indoor environment, and using products full of harmful chemicals, it will not aid in our wellness. This is why to ensure a healthy lifestyle, we need to know that our home is free from harmful chemicals and toxins.

You do not need to spend much money or undergo a huge lifestyle change to achieve this. With some tips and tricks, you can make this process quick and easy. Here's how you can get started:

Improve THE AIR QUALITY

Did you know the typical American spends about 90% of their time indoors? According to U.S. Environmental Protection Agency, people who are often most susceptible to the adverse effects of air pollution (e.g., the very young, older adults, and people with cardiovascular or respiratory disease) tend to spend even more time indoors. Cleaning supplies, paints, insecticides, and other commonly used products introduce many chemicals directly into the indoor air, including volatile organic compounds. Building materials are also potential sources (e.g., asbestos fibers released from building insulation) or new materials (e.g., chemical off-gassing from pressed wood products). Other substances in indoor air, such as radon, mold, and pet dander, are of natural origins.

This is why you should regularly change or clean your furnace and A/C filters. Regularly means to mark it on your calendar and stick to the schedule. Depending on usage, these filters should be changed every 1-3 months so that the indoor air is clean and your system is running efficiently. Also, you can invest in an air purifier with a HEPA filter.

Another tip I have come across is to turn off the A/C and open the windows for at least 10-15 minutes each day, especially during warmer months. This can help to circulate the air and reduce the number of toxins inside your home.

Clean THE DUST AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE

Human skin and hair, pet hair, dust, and food particles, and dead bugs accumulate on the floor and other surfaces over time, causing allergies. A fully carpeted house gathers more dust and allergens than a house with a wood, cork, tile, or non-vinyl linoleum surface. If your home is carpeted, be diligent about vacuuming at least twice a week. If it has wood or tile surface, use warm water (with a couple of drops of lemon essential oil for a fresh smell) with a mop, and wipe the surfaces 1-2 times a week. If you have a toddler at home, regularly wiping down the surfaces with a wet sponge or towel is highly effective in cleaning.

A fully carpeted house gathers more dust & allergens than a house with a wood, cork, tile, or non-vinyl linoleum surface.

the typical American spends about 90% of their time indoors

Say Goodbye TO TOXIC CLEANING PRODUCTS

Speaking of cleaning up, we often use cleaning supplies full of volatile organic compounds (VOCs), phthalate-containing fragrances, asthma-causing fumes, and skin irritants. However, you can easily switch it up with natural cleaning products from plants or minerals. You can also make your own cleaners using products like lemon juice, vinegar, and baking soda.

Switch SYNTHETIC AIR FRESHENERS FOR THOSE WITH ESSENTIAL OIL

I am personally guilty of using fragranced air fresheners. I love especially the warm and cozy, fall-scented ones. Those sure make the house smell wonderful! But, plug-in and aerosol air fresheners contain VOCs, which can cause headaches, eye, nose, and throat irritation, may even be carcinogenic, and also harm pets. The easiest solution I have found is going the DIY route with essential oils and a diffuser. Add a couple of drops of your favorite essential oil (or mix and match 2-3 different ones) into your diffuser and turn it on. You can also add your favorite blend to a spray bottle full of water to create your own air freshening spray. This is a safe alternative that will provide ample scent and freshness around the home. (Note: If you have pets, be sure to research which oils are toxic to animals and avoid these! And, always keep diffusers out of the reach/access of your pets so they do not consume the liquid inside.)

Wash HANDS AND SEPARATE OUTDOOR AND INDOOR SHOES

Washing hands as soon as you get home is an excellent practice for both kids and adults. I know it may sound like a broken record, but washing hands mindfully with soap and water for 20 seconds is the simplest way to keep germs and toxins at bay. After the pandemic period, it's a common tendency to go for anti-bacterial hand washes, but new research has also shown that Triclosan, the main ingredient in antibacterial soap, deodorants, toothpaste, mouthwash, cosmetics, fabrics, and plastic kitchenware, has the potential to affect sex hormones and interfere with the nervous system. It’s best to go for a simple hand wash and water. This will do the trick!

Also, leave the outdoor shoes for the outdoor purpose only. Our shoes often carry germs, pesticides, chemicals, and dust which we do not want to bring into our home.

Add HOUSEPLANTS

Adding houseplants not only enhances the indoor decoration, but also purifies the air naturally. Plants can reduce pollution by neutralizing harmful volatile organic compounds (VOCs) present in many products that we use in our homes. Top air purifiers include the Philodendron, Spider Flower, Epipremnum Aureum, Gerbera Daisy, Chrysanthemums, Bamboo Palm, Peace Lily, Ficus, Mother-in-Law’s Tongue, Vine, Aloe Vera, and Chinese Evergreen species.

Reducing harmful chemicals and toxins from your home shouldn't feel overwhelming. You can efficiently do this by taking small achievable steps every day, “clean swapping” existing products for healthier alternatives. By doing this, you will establish a healthy lifestyle and improve your family's overall wellness. [ aw ]

Across the nation, an increasing number of women are deciding to deliver their babies with the assistance of a midwife. For Megan Klinkhammer of Fargo, the decision to partner with Essentia Health certified nurse-midwives for the birth of her son is one she is happy to have made.

While a medical doctor helped deliver her four older daughters, Megan was initially leaning toward a home birth for her son because she wanted to bring him into the world naturally. However, Megan’s husband was concerned that home birth could be too risky if complications arose.

This led Megan to Essentia Health’s midwifery department, where she felt she could achieve a more personalized birthing experience under the close watch of medical professionals.

“Working with Amanda was like a partnership versus a one-sided situation where she just told me what I needed to do,” Megan said.

While Megan mostly enjoyed an uncomplicated pregnancy, she did begin to experience contractions a little early, at 36 weeks. She went in to see Jennifer Janke, another member of Essentia’s midwife team.

“I told them my plan was for a natural birth,” Megan recalled. “They were just so open to that; the nurses were obviously on the same page as the midwife team. They gave me choices that I just hadn’t been given before.”

The certified nurse-midwives at Essentia work closely with expecting mothers to create a birth plan that meets their vision of how the labor and delivery should progress. While the hope is that the birth occurs as planned, Essentia has midwifery-friendly obstetricians, physicians and nurses ready to support patients should medical or surgical intervention become necessary.

Megan would meet regularly with certified nurse-midwife Amanda Swanson, with whom she immediately fell in love with as a practitioner because Swanson always let her take the lead in their appointments.

“Jen was phenomenal; she absolutely made me feel comfortable and ran the tests that I wanted her to run,” Megan said. “She put my mind at ease by emailing me less than 24 hours later with the test results and her advice. It just seemed very personal.”

A few weeks later, Megan began to experience contractions at a baseball game. This time, it was the real deal. When Megan was admitted to her room at Essentia Health-Fargo’s newly renovated birthing center, she was asked by her nurse about her plan for delivery.

During labor, Megan utilized the large whirlpool tub located in her room. Calling the delivery room and tub phenomenal, she says, “My contractions were cut in half because of the jets.”

Certified nurse-midwife Denise Powell was on call that night, and Megan remembers how attentive she was during the labor.

“Denise pulled up a chair next to the tub and coached me until it was time to push,” Megan shared. “I feel like that alone was entirely different from my previous experiences.”

Megan gave birth to a healthy baby boy named Cole in the early morning of June 9, the same day as her

"Jen was phenomenal; she absolutely made me feel comfortable and ran the tests that I wanted her to run."

Megan Klinkhammer

own birthday. Grateful to Essentia’s team of nurse midwives for helping to bring this “special birthday gift” into the world, Megan says that what made her time at Essentia really stand out was the freedom to choose her birthing experience.

“I love the fact that they were open to my natural views,” she said. “No one judged me, and I just felt like I was at home … like I was having the experience I wanted.”

MidwifeMyths and Facts

Myth: Midwives only deliver babies at home.

Fact: Most midwife-attended births occur in a hospital or medical center.

Myth: Midwives don’t have formal training.

Fact: Certified nurse-midwives have specialized medical training and must hold state medical licenses. Essentia Health’s certified nurse-midwives in Fargo have earned four-year college degrees, many in nursing, and then master’s degrees in nurse midwifery.

Myth: Midwives only allow a natural birth.

Fact: A certified nurse-midwife will support a patient’s choice to have a medicated labor and delivery, including an epidural. However, if a patient chooses a non-medicated delivery, they will help them cope with labor pain using various methods and techniques.

Myth: Choosing a midwife is less safe than a doctor.

Fact: Certified nurse-midwives are held to the same safety standards as physicians. Most women are candidates for midwifery care. If a woman is determined to have a highrisk condition, the midwife team will collaborate with our team of physicians or refer her to an obstetrician if appropriate.

If you are pregnant and want to learn more about delivering with one of Essentia’s certified nurse-midwives, please call (701) 364-8900.

is complicated. Approximately 3 million women face unexpected pregnancies every year in the U.S. 701.237.4473 christianadoptionservices.org

Partner with us as we reach out to women and girls in our area who are experiencing an unplanned pregnancy and offer them hope. Your support allows us to provide non-judgmental, decision-making mentoring, that includes adoption education, and other life-affirming supports.

Good afternoon Jess,

As I sit and wonder about things to wonder about, I wonder most loudly about this question:

“I wonder if we’ve honored ourselves and each other for our abilities to adapt, adjust, and conquer in the last few years?”

Warmly, Heather

WOW, what a powerful wondering! Immediately your wondering makes me realize on a grand scale that quite literally every person on this planet has had to adapt, adjust, and conquer at some level in the last few years. This is collectively something we have shared with everyone on this pale blue dot (Planet Earth). First of all, thank you for this “ah-ha” moment! I have “known” this in my mind, but had not embodied “feeling” this, until reading your wondering!

I think of Dolly Parton’s quote, “We cannot direct the wind, but we can adjust the sails.” To me, this speaks directly to how in the last few years we have collectively shifted our reality and how we live. The conquer part has me still wondering. Conquer means to “successfully overcome” and I don’t know if that part rings true for me/ all of us yet.

And, I appreciate your wondering about if we have honored the spaces we have adapted, adjusted, and conquered. I equally wonder if we could also parse out the spaces that feel adapted and adjusted to but not conquered?

I, for one, have certainly not conquered all of my fears that were activated in the last few years; I am quite sure I am not alone in this. But, there are spaces that I do feel gratitude for recognizing the ability I had to adapt, adjust, and conquer. For me, that was illuminated when I made the

Dear Heather,

response by :: jessica hoeper

quick change in schooling for my kids. I found how quickly I could adapt our home, adjust all spaces, and conquer the learning needed to meet the needs in that temporary moment. This built trust in self that is worthy of honoring, so I very much appreciate you wondering about that in an effort to give us permission to consider if we have honored ourselves!

Life really is about change; change can be beautiful and then other times change can be painful! But, change is not optional; how you choose to adapt, adjust, and conquer is where the choice rests.

“Adapt, adjust ,and conquer” will most definitely look different for each of our journeys, but we did just that, and so, like Heather, I too am wondering if we have honored ourselves and each other for this! I will be now. I will be reflecting on how I have adapted, adjusted, and conquered in ways I hadn’t noticed before and I will be honoring how I see that show up in those around me.

Thank you, Heather. You definitely wondered well!

Your friend,Jess

P.S.

You can participate in “Dear Wondering Woman” by emailing in your questions. We can join in honest, real and love-filled conversation around our shared wonderings. Write to me with your “wondering whys.” Let’s collectively as women share this wonder-filled journey of life together!

You can email questions to me at wonderingwhywithjess@outlook.com. I can’t wait to connect! Your “wondering” may be featured in an upcoming issue! [ aw ]

make it tonight

pumpkin pecan custard bread pudding

INGREDIENTS

SERVES

TECHNIQUE

"CUT IN" Hold a knife in each hand and cut across the butter, working it into the separate mixtures

DIFFICULTY BEGINNER

THE HOW TO

1. Preheat the oven to 350 degrees.

2. Toast the pecans on a large baking sheet for 8-10 minutes, stirring upon occasion, until deeper brown and fragrant.

3. Place the bread cubes in a 9×13 baking pan that has been treated with cooking spray or butter.

4. Whisk together the pumpkin custard ingredients in a mixing bowl and then pour over the bread cubes. Stir to ensure the bread cubes are coated with the custard and let sit for 20-30 minutes.

5. For the streusel, stir together HALF of the chopped pecans, the brown sugar, flour, salt, and cinnamon.  Cut the butter into the dry ingredients until the mixture resembles large crumbs.

6. Sprinkle the streusel crumbles evenly over the top of the bread cubes and custard.

7. Bake COVERED with foil for 30 minutes.

8. Bake UNCOVERED for an additional 10-15 minutes or until a knife inserted in the center comes out clean.

9. Cool for 20-30 minutes.

10. Cream the frosting ingredients together with a mixer until smooth.

11. Drizzle or pipe frosting in an irregular pattern over the bread pudding and serve warm.

12. Sprinkle with the top of the bread pudding with the remaining toasted pecans.

1 16 ounces French bread, cut into 1" cubes

PUMPKIN CUSTARD

2.5  cups whole milk or half and half

6  eggs

15  ounces pumpkin puree (Not pumpkin pie filling)

¼  cup brown sugar

1 teaspoon vanilla extract

1 teaspoon cinnamon

½ teaspoon ginger

¼ teaspoon cloves

¼ teaspoon nutmeg

CINNAMON STREUSEL CRUMBLE

½ cup butter

1 cup pecans – divided, toasted, and chopped cup flour

½  cup brown sugar

1 teaspoon cinnamon

½ teaspoon salt

½ teaspoon almond extract

CREAM CHEESE GLAZE

8 ounces cream cheese, room temp

2 tablespoons butter, room temp

1 cup powdered sugar

1 teaspoon vanilla extract

TOOLS OF THE TRADE

9"x13" baking pan

whisk

mixing bowl

electric mixer

aluminum foil

CUSTARD | Middle English; also crutard, custade, etc., meaning "shifted"

Defined as a variety of culinary preparations based on sweetened milk, cheese, or cream cooked with egg or egg yolk to thicken it, and sometimes also flour, corn starch, or gelatin.

Depending on the recipe, custard may vary in consistency from a thin pouring sauce to the thick pastry cream used to fill éclairs.

BREAD PUDDING | Variations: Nelson cake, Wet Nelly

A bread-based dessert popular in many countries' cuisines. It is made with stale bread and milk or cream, generally containing eggs, a form of fat such as oil, butter or suet and, depending on whether the pudding is sweet or savory, a variety of other ingredients. Sweet bread puddings may use sugar, syrup, honey, dried fruit, nuts, as well as spices such as cinnamon, nutmeg, mace, or vanilla. The bread is soaked in the liquids, mixed with the other ingredients, and baked.

Savory puddings may be served as main courses, while sweet puddings are typically eaten as desserts.

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Homes are not just for humans. Our furry friends are sharing our living space with us and the American Pet Products Association reports that in 2020 there were more than 85 million homes with pets, with the most common being cats and dogs.

For pet lovers designing their home around their pet and a pet owner’s lifestyle, it has become ‘dog-gone’ easier over the past years to be inclusive. With the wide array of pet friendly products, fabrics, building materials, and do-it-yourself pieces, you can achieve style and functionality simultaneously. The upcycle movement to create pet beds out of old TV cabinets, dressers, suitcases and more has homeowners getting creative while being budget friendly. There are also several options in the retail market locally and online, as well as through sites such as Etsy, that offer items that can blend into a home’s aesthetic in terms of era-specific design, finishes, and colors. Additionally, many sizes are available, to accommodate even the smallest or largest cats and dogs.

Designed pet space can also be posh, with kennel and dog crate built-ins in entryways, underneath counters and stairways, and wooden (even handcrafted, custom made) pieces replacing wire or plastic options, which have been the norm until recent years. Pet parents are now doing a thoughtful build out to match their homes décor and have amped up features like heating and cooling, cameras, speaker systems, aromatherapy diffusers, and more to make their pets’ lives comfy and cozy.

When building out a space specifically for pets, materials matter. Consider using strong, scratch and stain resistant materials and fabrics that can be easily cleaned for longevity. And, do not forget to think about what is going to attract the pethair. Selecting fabrics that repel hair easily and that you can clean quickly will be key in terms of making frequent cleaning simple. Finding the perfect storage solutions for dog food, treats, leashes and more can also be a designer’s challenge to allow for easy access while keeping the homeowners vibe in mind.

Feeding time has also become streamlined with functional feeding areas underneath cabinets in a pull-out drawer, design-inspired feeding stations built on to the ‘pet designed wall’, and serve both the purpose of function and fashion. The goals are keeping the area clean, tidy, and seamless in your home’s overall appearance. Additionally, finding or creating solutions to hiding cat litter boxes in a stylish manner is something that has increased in popularity, as it allows for tucking away the rather unsightly necessity when having cats in the home. Litter boxes can be concealed in furniture pieces, making them streamlined into a room’s look and feel.

Ask any pet owner and they will tell you that bath or clean up time can get also be very messy. To avoid unnecessary cleanup when giving your pup or cat a bath, converting a spare bathroom or an area off your mudroom or back entry into a washing station for your pets is trending. Having an elevated tub, a detachable spray hose, and a tiled surface that can easily be cleaned after this rather cumbersome task is now being worked into the design plans with contractors when building a new home or remodeling a home that is pet-friendly. Paw-washing is part of the daily to-dos in a pet-friendly home and creating an area that serves this activity leads to ease and efficiency.

In a Home Design Trends Survey released last year, architecture firms reported that client interest in built-in rooms or kennels devoted to pets spiked recently. Clever design for a pet-friendly household not only can look good, but can make caring for your pets easier. Building outdoor spaces that are pet- friendly with safe plants, fencing, toys, scratching posts, and ‘catios’ are also trending. A happy, exercised pet that can safely spend time outside in your yard is the goal, as well as keeping your green space neat, tidy, and beautiful for the humans in your household, too.

Giving your furry family members stylish, design-friendly comfortable surroundings in your home that blends beautifully with your design and décor is the ultimate goal for pet lovers. Thankfully, the options in today’s world of décor and furnishings abound and there is an abundance of solutions for giving pets the royal treatment while beautifying living space in the process. [ aw ]

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" A pet-friendly household not only can look good, but can make caring for your pets easier.

Ahome is the place you build your life around. It is a place that provides you with comfort, care, and security and CCRI knows the importance of this and the impact it has on a person. Having a home means having a place to truly call your own and where you can enjoy life to the fullest. Serving people with disabilities means creating unique living spaces where people are not only in a safe place, but one catered specifically to their needs.

CCRI is committed to designing, creating, and completing homes that allow the people they support access to fully accessible living spaces. With the foundation provided by the organization as well as the generous support from the community, CCRI is able to finish these projects quickly and give people their own unique spaces. This allows them the opportunity to be in their own personalized home that not only meets their needs, but that is tailored to their interests as well. This results in a living space they are excited to live in and enjoy.

CCRI seeks to create a forever home. They are launching their capital campaign to build their fifth accessible home within the last five years. These successes show not only the dedication of CCRI to provide a special place for their clients, but also the dedication of the community. Without the compassion and care from generous donors, providing a safe and accessible home would not be possible. Thanks to ongoing support, CCRI is able to look toward the future and continue to create accessible homes for years to come.

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A home is not only a place where clients receive care, but also a chance for them to build lifelong friendships; it is a place where they can show off their personality and welcome new friends to visit! It’s easy to enjoy each day when you’re spending it with people who bring you joy, in a space that is absolutely and 100% you.

"CCRI is committed to designing, creating, and completing homes that allow the people they support access to fully accessible living spaces."

"A home is not only a place where clients receive care, but also a chance for them to build lifelong friendships."

The newest home to be built will be for four gentlemen with changing mobility needs. Homes like this one and the other housing projects by CCRI are putting the people they support at the front and center of the design and construction to create an accessible and enjoyable living space.

A home can mean many different things to a person and at CCRI, it means home will be a place where you are the focus and your comfort is number one. Building this home means more people are able to live their life in an accessible way and are able to become involved in their own projects as well as the community. Each home brings staff and clients together to form friendships that come from the mission to care for others. Home has always been a place where people come together and where memories are made to last a lifetime, and CCRI remains committed to continuing this legacy. [ aw ]

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Area Woman’s resident Bookista, Megan Elgin, serves up books worthy of spending your entire afternoon with. Search for Megan by name on Goodreads or @meganann on Litsy and find out what she’s reading now.

the time for knitted sweaters and falling leaves is here. As we prepare for cooling weather, my reading changes to match the season now more than any other time of year. I pull out the spooky or magical books to get in the mood for Halloween (friendly ghosts optional). But, I also like to find books that make me feel cozy and content to spend my days reading quietly at home, soft blanket and hot beverage included.

Read one of these books? Searching for something new to read? Tell us what you thought by using #areawomanbooks in your online review or send me an email with requests and questions at bookishmeganann@gmail.com.

words from :: megan elgin

myquillyn smith THE

NESTING PLACE:

It Doesn’t Have to Be Perfect to Be Beautiful

As the weather cools, we begin to turn inwards, spending more time indoors. So why not make our home as cozy as possible before winter weather hits?

“THE NESTING PLACE” ENCOURAGES YOU TO EMBRACE THE NATURAL IMPERFECTION AND CHAOS OF DAILY LIVING TO CREATE A HOME YOU LOVE.

Smith includes practical advice on finding the true purpose of each room in your home, then making that reality without spending a lot of money. It doesn’t have to be expensive to be beautiful and beauty is what you like, not what the latest trend might be. I particularly enjoyed her emphasis on not comparing your home to others or stressing about making things look perfect.

alexia gordon MURDER IN G MAJOR

Nothing says “cozy fall reading” quite like a cozy mystery book. If you aren’t familiar with the genre,

A COZY MYSTERY USUALLY INVOLVES A MURDER WHERE ANY VIOLENCE OR GRAPHIC CONTENT OCCURS OFFSTAGE (MEANING THE STORY DOESN’T INCLUDE THE GORY DETAILS).

The main character is typically a regular person pulled into helping to solve the mystery and they often take place in a small town setting. This popular genre offers a variety of topics for almost anyone and is a light, fun, and entertaining choice for all kinds of readers.

“Murder in G Major” is the first book of five in the Gethsemane Brown series. The title character, Gethsemane, accepts a position as the orchestra teacher at an all-boys school in the Irish countryside. With

few options, lost luggage, and no money, at least she has a place to stay looking after a cliffside cottage outside the village for the owner. Imagine her surprise when she meets the ghost of the famous composer who lived in the cottage 25 years ago. Falsely accused of murdering his wife and himself, he begs Gethsemane to help clear his name and find the real killer. As she gets closer to both the town and the truth, the real killer becomes more dangerous. I loved Gethsemane’s wit and determination, along with the connection she begins to form with her students. As a mother of a teenage boy myself, I found her time spent in the classroom as entertaining as the mystery itself and enjoyed the part the orchestra boys played in the plot.

lauren belfer ASHTON HALL

Speaking of homes, if you’ve ever wondered what it might be like to live in a big historic manor house, this book is a must read.

WHEN HER BELOVED UNCLE FALLS ILL, HANNAH AND HER 9-YEAR-OLD SON NICKY TRAVEL TO ENGLAND TO SPEND THE SUMMER WITH HIM AT ASHTON HALL. AN EVERCURIOUS NICKY, WHILE EXPLORING, FINDS THE SKELETAL REMAINS OF A WOMAN WALLED INTO A FORGOTTEN PART OF THE MANOR.

Hannah, along with the others in charge of preserving Ashton Hall’s history, begin to piece together clues from long buried ledgers, documents, and the personal papers of the manor’s Elizabethan Era residents. As she uncovers the secrets of the women who

lived before, Hannah’s own life begins to unravel and she realizes even separated by hundreds of years their lives are not so different. I loved the way we discover the history of Ashton Hall as Hannah does, the way she must make difficult choices to protect herself and her son, and the friends she makes along the way. [ aw ]

Annalise Duffy & Lakyn

Annalise Duffy and her husband, Tyler, were expectant parents of their second child when they received news a parent doesn’t ever imagine. Following a routine anatomy scan at 20 weeks, Annalise received a call stating the ultrasound showed findings that would encourage further scans through maternal fetal medicine. As the couple nervously prepared for further testing, they focused on their son Ronyn, a toddler at the time, and remained hopeful that their baby would be born healthy.

At the maternal fetal medicine appointment, the scan showed three soft markers for Down Syndrome. These markers did not say with certainty that the baby would be born with Down Syndrome, however, the probability was high. Annalise and Tyler’s thought of having the “perfect family” left as emotions overtook them and they tried to process the possibility of having a child with special needs. This appointment was followed by two more tests; these would ultimately determine if their little girl would have Down Syndrome.

“Even though in my gut I knew the answer and that our baby would have Down Syndrome, I still prayed, wished, and hoped that somehow we would escape these odds and have a normal, healthy baby.”

Annalise remembers being confused and filled with tension and anxiety; she and Tyler were overwhelmed with emotions. “It sounds odd,” she commented, “that when you are given the news that your baby will be born with Down Syndrome, you are deemed ‘the lucky few’. During that time, I felt anything but lucky.”

“It sounds odd, that when you are given the news that your baby will be born with Down Syndrome, you are deemed ‘the lucky few’. During that time, I felt anything but lucky.”

However, the dreaded reality hit while Annalise was busy at work; it is a day she will never forget. “When we finally did get the confirmation, I was in the middle of teaching a class. I remember my phone ringing on my desk and telling my students I had to take the call as I stepped out of the classroom in fear,” she said.

She continued, “On the other line, the genetic counselor informed me that the amniocentesis tests came back and confirmed Down Syndrome. I don’t remember how the rest of the conversation went because it was as if I blacked out. I know I was trying to sound strong and brave so I could end the conversation as quickly as possible. When the call ended, I wanted to throw up. I started shaking and panicking while trying to hold back a flood of tears. I didn’t know what I was going to do. I had a class full of students I had just left and there was no way I could go back in there. I ended up making my way to the main office, finding an administrator, and going home to grieve.”

“No one dreams of having a child with Down Syndrome,” she explained. “In those days following the diagnosis, we were devastated for our baby girl, whom we chose the name Lakyn, and the life we created in our minds for her. We thought that the life we had planned wasn't going to happen.. It is one thing to feel the rollercoaster of emotions that this brings, but then there is seeing those same emotions and fears in your partner.

But, we knew that together, we would find a way through this punishment we thought God was putting on us.”

As part of the process of accepting the news about Lakyn and moving forward, Annalise and Tyler joined groups online composed of parents with kids who have Down Syndrome. These groups were local, international, and a few were specific to the age of the child. Annalise remarked, “I never posted initially; I just read what others were saying or asking, finding out what I could without bringing attention to the fact that I was scared to death to have a child with Down Syndrome.”

She explains that a common thread across these groups was that everyone was afraid when they got their initial diagnosis and had experienced horrible feelings and emotional reactions. Many posts shared fear, worries, uncertainties; all which captured exactly how she was feeling.

The veteran group members all shared the same responses, that having a child with Down Syndrome has a million more positives than negatives, that their families were so much stronger and better than they’ve ever been, and that they wouldn’t change a thing for the world.

It was those groups of parents that would help her progress towards acceptance. “I didn’t feel alone in my feelings anymore, no matter how dark those feelings were, and how ashamed you felt for having them, they were all validated.”

Those parents provided Annalise with the courage to be vulnerable and open about Lakyn’s diagnosis, her own feelings, and how to navigate an unexpected journey; which became the foundation of her initial blog posts.

Tyler has always been my rock, my voice of reason, and the person who keeps me centered and level headed. To see him in the same emotional state was heartbreaking.

"Our emotions are a form of authenticity and honoring them as valid is crucial and healthy.”

The most pivotal moment in her journey to acceptance, however, was meeting a local mom, Michele, and her son Conner, who has Down Syndrome. She shares, “It took me weeks to finally accept an invitation to meet them. At that point, I couldn’t even walk down the hallway to

my classroom at school without anxiety and a knot in my stomach because I passed the special education room on the way to my own. I knew I needed to buck up and just rip the bandage off and start making local connections.”

Annalise adds, “We met at the zoo. We walked, shared our diagnosis stories, I asked all the questions, and Michele answered them.” The big moment though was when Conner reached out for Annalise’s hand, where she then knelt down next to him and they hugged. “It was in this very moment that I knew everything was going to be okay; I think I even said that out loud, too.”

From there, Annalise started to really embrace her pregnancy and celebrate. She reflects, “I took maternity pictures! I never did this with Ronyn because I hated the way I looked. I was so self-conscious.”

“Taking those pictures,” Annalise continues, “repaired broken pieces of me. I remember putting on the dress and immediately feeling beautiful in my pregnant body. I cried as I reflected on where I was at in the journey and how far I’d already come. Those pictures will always be there for Lakyn and she will know she was loved, wanted, and celebrated before she was here.”

“I want others to have a place where their feelings and emotions could be validated as well. No one should ever feel alone in any journey."

As Annalise reads her earlier blogs, reflecting back on the journey through her pregnancy and her fears, she comments, “I hardly recognize that person. I’ve come so far in so many aspects of my life. I have a new sense of purpose and clarity. “Lakyn has given me everything I’ve ever wanted and that is to wake up every single morning and feel like I belong; I’m here for a reason. She makes me feel like I can move mountains. Together, we will.”

She continues, “I was ignorant about Down Syndrome. What I thought I knew is what caused all the sadness about the little girl I had envisioned. It’s what I didn’t know that kept me from seeing the beauty and potential of any life, not just Down Syndrome.”

Annalise learned that each person with Down Syndrome is unique and any individual is capable of achieving whatever they desire, as long as they are supported and given the opportunity, even those with Down Syndrome. “This was a significant moment in my journey. My mindset shifted and I found myself wanting to learn and do anything I could to help promote individuals with different abilities to achieve and succeed and to see them be included and celebrated.”

She started reading, networking, and learning about what Lakyn’s life could be like with advocacy and acceptance, not what she originally envisioned it would be like based on ignorance and lack of education. “I didn’t know if Lakyn would be delayed in walking or what she would be affected by in terms of health and development, but it didn’t matter because where there’s a will there's a way, and Lakyn wouldn’t be limited by her potential disabilities or others,” Annalise remarked.

When Lakyn finally arrived, Annalise’s and Tyler’s lives officially changed, and for the better. “The moment I saw her I was never the same. God was not punishing us. She was perfect. I wasn’t scared to look at her like I originally thought I would be, I actually couldn’t stop staring in awe knowing this child was mine. Lakyn did have some unforeseen health complications and spent 33 days in the NICU. She underwent three surgeries in her first six months of life which kept her from entering daycare. This resulted in Annalise taking an entire semester off from teaching.

“During this time at home with her, she became my best friend. When we looked into each other's eyes, there was this instant connection, like love at first sight. It sounds so cheesy but there is no other way to explain it. She is my person.” Annalise also realized that Lakyn was not just changing her life, but Tyler’s as well. Annalise watched his fears subside and his

“I found myself wanting to learn and do anything I could to help promote individuals with different abilities to achieve and succeed and to see them be included and celebrated.”

worries dissipate as he and Lakyn established their own special bond.

Today, Annalise’s favorite relationship to watch is the one between Lakyn and her big brother, Ronyn. She comments that Lakyn is the first person he greets in the morning and the last person he hugs before going to bed. “He sings to her, plays with her, and celebrates her,” Annalise relays with pride. “The most amazing part is that he doesn’t know she has Down Syndrome. We’ve never told him because we believe it’s irrelevant right now to our family dynamic. Watching him see her as his sister and not someone with Down Syndrome is a true testament to how we aren’t born with bias or judgmental thoughts towards others. These stem from what we learn from those around us. This is why I believe there is a need for awareness and change when it comes to education around Down Syndrome.”

As October is Down Syndrome Awareness month and top of mind, Annalise recalls three different situations involving kids with Down Syndrome that she learned of recently. These are stories that she says she refuses to remain quiet about as they are important in showcasing need for awareness and change.

The first instance involved a girl who experienced having her COVID-19 mask tied around her head with a shoelace while at school. Even though the girl had a doctor’s note excusing her from mandatory mask wearing, it was discovered that the shoelace was being used to secure the mask and prevented it from being taken off for more than six weeks.

Next, Annalise explained a story of a girl at an after school care program. The child required direct support since she frequently tries to run off. Funding was provided to the organization for the support professional to be hired, however, the organization did not complete hiring and the child was left unattended; she was without her shoes, outside in cold and rainy weather, with soiled pants when found by her mother.

Lastly, Annalise shared a story of a baby with Down Syndrome who was denied being put on the donor list for a heart transplant. “The doctor said to the parents that the process and procedures would be a ‘waste of a heart’ and the baby was denied life because of this.” This baby was Lakyn’s age.

“During this time at home with her, she became my best friend. When we looked into each other's eyes, there was this instant connection, like love at first sight.”

“Many people don’t know about these discrepancies because they don’t have a reason to be engaged in that type of content. It doesn’t make the news and it’s not blasted on the internet. This is the reason I will advocate, educate, and bring awareness for not just Lakyn, but all people with Down Syndrome, every single day. As a parent, I cannot let these things be a risk factor for my child; Lakyn and those like her are just as deserving of quality care and life as anyone else,” Annalise says. “It’s wrong. It’s discriminatory, abusive, neglectful, and something people wouldn’t even consider if it involved a child that didn’t have special needs. No child is an exception.”

“Lakyn has given me so much. She’s given me passion which has provided me clarity in my career, which I didn’t even know I needed. I want to be a difference maker, change agent,

and advocate for others, especially individuals with Down Syndrome. I want March 31st, World Down Syndrome Awareness Day, to be celebrated like Homecoming in schools and the Fourth of July in our communities, states, and country; crazy socks everywhere!”

Annalise shares that there are small adjustments people can make that promote acceptance.

“Refer to individuals with Down Syndrome as the individual first, such as, “Lakyn, the girl with Down Syndrome, not the “Down Syndrome girl”. She is Lakyn before anything else and Down Syndrome is something she has, not who she is. Another is, “don’t use the “R word”, and be brave and correct those that do. It’s insulting and politically incorrect.”

Annalise ends with, “Our journey and story have just begun. If you look at Lakyn’s smile, she lights up the room and your heart and it makes us question how we ever feared this life, this child. I pray through awareness, education, and acceptance that when an expecting family gets the unexpected news of Down Syndrome like we did, they respond with pride that they too are now a part of the lucky few.”

Annalise also encourages those who want to give back or become more educated surrounding Down Syndrome, to donate or volunteer with GiGi’s Playhouse Fargo. “GiGi’s has such a special place in our heart and having a Down Syndrome Achievement center locally is such a gift. The programs and services will benefit Lakyn and our family for years to come. It’s a home, a place where Lakyn will always feel safe and accepted.”

To read more detail and specifics around Annalise’s Journey, you can follow her blog here: https://annaliseduffy.wixsite.com/risingupwithds [ aw ]

OCT 11

TABLESCAPES ANNUAL FUNDRAISING EVENT

TableScapes is an annual fundraising event that celebrates creativity. Local designers create unique table designs that are truly a work of art. Funds raised from this event will be used to build a fully accessible home for four people with changing mobility needs. https:// ccrimoorhead.ejoinme.org/TableScapes2022

TIME: 5:30 PM

LOCATION: Courtyard by Marriott, 1080 28th Avenue South, Moorhead, MN

CONTACT: Adam Schroeder at adam.schroeder@creativecare.org

OCT 15

FARGO MASONIC VENDOR & CRAFT SHOW

Come see our local vendors and crafters and shop their booths at the Fargo Masonic Building. Lunch will be served from 11:00 am to 2:00 pm.

TIME: 11:00 AM – 3:00 PM

LOCATION: Fargo Masonic Center 1405 3rd St N, Fargo, ND

CONTACT: 701-235-7875

OCT 23

OKTOBERFEST CELEBRATION

OCT 27

PRESENTATION PRAYER CENTER 36TH ANNUAL FUNDRAISING BRUNCH

FEATURING KINDNESS

LEADER, NICOLE PHILLIPS

Holy Cross Catholic Church in West Fargo, ND will be hosting an Oktoberfest celebration on weekends during the month of October.

These include: Raffle, 50/50, Chance Baskets, Silent Auction, Jewelry, Cork Pull, Homemade Baked, Canned goods and Crafts.

On Sunday, October 23, a delicious Swedish Meatball dinner with all the

Fargo/Moorhead - After a two year hiatus due to Covid-19, the Presentation Prayers Center is excitedly bringing back its community celebration and fundraising brunch featuring Nicole Phillips, author, speaker, and podcast host on kindness.

Practice Kindness in a Divisive Culture with Nicole Phillips

Nicole Phillips has been favored by Oprah and named to her list of Top 3 Happiness Podcasts of 2021. Phillips comes spreading the message of the transformative power of her favorite Fruit of the Spirit - Kindness.

She hosts NPR’s The Kindness Podcast, has written 5 books, and ran The Forum’s Kindness is Contagious column for 10 years.

The Presentation Prayer Center is honored to host her and help spread the message of kindness during its annual brunch.

trimmings will be served from 10am – 1:30pm. Adults - $12.00 & Children ages 10 & under - $6.00. Take-Out available. Please contact the church to ask about weekend activities for both adults and children.

LOCATION: Holy Cross Catholic Church, 2711 7th St E, West Fargo, ND

CONTACT: 701-282-7217

This fundraiser is their largest of the year and all funds go toward supporting the Presentation Prayer Center’s mission to facilitate spiritual growth for people of all faiths through opportunities for prayer, solitude, spiritual direction, retreats and other means of spiritual life enrichment.

To purchase your ticket online visit https://www.eventbrite. com/e/practice-kindness-ina-divisive-culture-with-nicolephillips-tickets-393155868787 or via facebook event page .

To purchase your ticket in person contact Scott Mathern-Jacobson

TIME: 10:00 AM – 1:30 PM

LOCATION: Holiday Inn, 3803 13 Ave. S., Fargo, ND

CONTACT: Scott MathernJacobson, Executive Director at presentationprayercenter@ gmail.org or 701-799-2076

OCT 29-30

FMBALLET'S SPOOKY BALLETS

Dress up in your Halloween best and join us for our production of Spooky Ballets! This season we are back at the Fargo Theatre for this thrilling dance production. This show includes a variety of Halloween and fall inspired dance pieces, with a featured performance of "Nightmare Before Christmas".

Dressing up in your Halloween attire is HIGHLY encouraged! Prizes will be handed out.

Suggested for mature audiences (ages 8+). This seasons production will include zombies, skeletons, and monsters. Dancers age 8 - adult are involved in this production. www.fmballet.org

TIME: 7:00 PM (OCT 29) - 2:00 PM (OCT 30)

LOCATION: Fargo Theatre, 314 Broadway N #4715, Fargo

CONTACT: Lacey Gasper at info@fmballet.org

NOV 5

ST. ANDREWS (SCOTTISH) SOCIETY DINNER & PROGRAM

Celebration of Scottish food, bagpipes, tartans, songs, culture and history. Scots and Scot wannabes welcome! Purchase tickets by November 2. COVID vaccinations and full boosters required.

TIME: 5:00 PM

LOCATION: Courtyard by Marriott

1080 28th Ave S, Moorhead, MN

CONTACT: 402-981-2333

NOV 19

FARGO MASONIC VENDOR & CRAFT SHOW

Come see our local vendors and crafters and shop their booths at the Fargo Masonic Building. Lunch will be served from 11:00 am to 2:00 pm.

TIME: 11:00 AM – 3:00 PM

LOCATION: Fargo Masonic Center 1405 3rd St N, Fargo, ND

CONTACT: 701-235-7875

DEC 3-9

13TH ANNUAL “HOLIDAY COLLECTIONS” CRAFT/VENDOR SHOW

Holy Cross Catholic Church of West Fargo will host a Craft/Vendor Show on Saturday, Dec.3 from 9 am – 3 pm at 2711 7th St. East in West Fargo (just south of Costco). Over 75 artisans will be available for all your holiday shopping needs. This is the largest church-held craft/vendor show in the region. Lunch will be available for purchase.

Admission: $2.00. For more information, please call 701-282-7217.

TIME: 9:00 AM - 3:00 PM

LOCATION: Holy Cross Catholic Church, 2711 7th St E, West Fargo, ND

CONTACT: 701-282-7217

Fargo Public Library events are free and open to the public. A complete schedule of upcoming events is available at all Fargo Public Library locations and on our website at www.fargolibrary.org

SEP1- OCT 31

ONE BOOK, ONE COMMUNITY READING CHALLENGE

Join your local library's One Book, One Community reading challenge to earn prizes. Details available at www.1book1community.org

ALL PARTICIPATING AREA PUBLIC LIBRARIES: Fargo Public Library, Moorhead Public Library, and West Fargo Public Library

CONTACT: Lori West at 701-476-5977 or the downtown Main Library, 101 4th St. North, Fargo / 701-241-1492

NOW - NOV 16

WEEKLY FALL STORYTIMES FOR TODDLERS AND PRESCHOOLERS

The Fargo Public Library’s Fall Storytime for Toddlers and Preschoolers runs through Wednesday, Nov. 16. Sessions are offered at all three Fargo Public Library locations during the week. For details, visit any Fargo Public Library location, call Children’s Services at 241-1495 or visit our website at www.fargolibrary.org.

LOCATION: Fargo Public Library / 701-241-1495

Northport Branch / 701-476-4026

Dr. James Carlson Library / 701-476-4040.

CONTACT: Children’s Services at 701-241-1495

Every Thursday in October & November BEGINNER YOGA FOR ADULTS

This is a class for those who haven’t tried yoga before or who want a refresher. Along with gentle stretching, this class will teach breathing exercises to

OCT 14

FRIDAY FAMILY MOVIES

Free Friday movies are shown at 1 p.m. on most Fridays during the summer at the Dr. James Carlson Library. Free popcorn is served.

TIME: 1:00 PM

LOCATION: Dr. James Carlson Library

CONTACT: Lori West at 476-4040 or the Dr. James Carlson Library, 2801 32nd Ave. S., Fargo / 701-476-4040

Fargo Public Library

102 North 3rd St, Fargo, ND 701-241-1472

Northport Branch

2714 Broadway, Fargo, ND 701-475-4026

Dr. James Carlson Library

2801 32nd Ave. S, Fargo, ND 701-476-4040

Main CirculationLibraryDesk

701-475-4026

Children's Services

701-475-4026

provide calmness. The class meets most Thursdays at 6 p.m. at the Dr. James Carlson Library. Bring a yoga mat if you have one, or a large towel, and wear comfortable clothing that is easy to move in. This program is recommended for adults. For details, email Lori at lwest@fargolibrary. org. No registration is required.

TIME: 6:00 PM

LOCATION: Dr. James Carlson Library

CONTACT: Lori at 701-476-5977 or the Dr. James Carlson Library, 2801 32nd Ave. S., Fargo / 476-4040

OCT 22

RECOGNIZING REPTILES

Kids of all ages are invited to learn all about reptiles from members of the NDSU Herpetology Club who will have some scaly sidekicks along for hands on learning.

TIME: 10:00 AM

LOCATION: Main Library

CONTACT: Children’s Librarian at 701-241-1495. Main Library, 101 4th St. North, Fargo / 701-241-1495

OCT 27

ONE BOOK, ONE COMMUNITY EVENT: AUTHOR VISIT WITH LOUISE ERDRICH

An author visit with Louise Erdrich centered on her Pulitzer prize-winning book “The Night Watchman” is set for Thursday, Oct. 27, starting at 7 p.m. at the Knutson Center Centrum on the campus of Concordia College. Books will be available for purchase. This event is free and open to the public.

TIME: 7:00 PM

LOCATION: Knutson Center Centrum at Concordia College (901 8th Street South, Moorhead, MN)

CONTACT: Lori West at 701-476-5977 or visit www.1book1community.org

NOV 12

PAWS FOR READING

Emerging readers can sign up to read to a therapy pet (dog or cat) at the Main Library at 10 a.m. on the 2nd Saturday of each month. The sessions are 15 minutes each. Space is limited; pre-registration is required.

WHEN: 10:00 AM

CONTACT: Children’s Services at 241-1495 or the downtown Main Library, 101 4th St. N., Fargo / 241-1495

NOV 12

NATURE PRINTMAKING WORKSHOP WITH ANNA JOHNSON

Learn to make a nature print using natural materials with Native American artist Anna Johnson at this hands-on workshop at the Main Library. This event is part of the 2022 One Book, One Community event series. Pre-registration is required.

TIME: 10:00 AM / 1:30 PM

LOCATION: Main Library

CONTACT: Lori West at 701-476-5977 or the downtown Main Library, 101 4th St. North, Fargo / 241-1492

OCT 6 / NOV 3

A SENSE OF PLACE BOOK CLUB

For all interested readers; this club meets at 11 a.m. at the downtown Main Library. A list of tiles is available at www.fargolibrary.org

TIME: 11:00 AM

LOCATION: Main Library

CONTACT: Beth at 701-241-1492 or the Main Library, 101 4th St. N., Fargo / 701-241-1492

OCT 10 / NOV 14

TEA TIME BOOK CLUB

Book club featuring recent bestseller titles meets at 6:30 p.m. at the Dr. James Carlson Library. A list of titles is available at www.fargolibrary.org.

TIME: 6:30 PM

LOCATION: Dr. James Carlson Library

CONTACT: Jenilee at 701-241-8123 or the Dr. James Carlson Library, 2801 32nd Ave. S., Fargo / 701-476-4040

OCT 13 / NOV 10

DIVERSE PERSPECTIVES BOOK CLUB

Nonfiction, novels, memoirs and more; we seek multiple perspectives, with varying points of entry, and we work to center the voices of marginalized communities and people through our exploration about inequality and injustice in the United States. A list of titles is available at www. fargolibrary.org

TIME: 7:00 PM

LOCATION: Main Library

CONTACT: Megan R. at 701-241-1492 or the downtown Main Library, 101 4th St. North, Fargo / 701-241-1492

OCT 18

SENIOR BOOK CLUB

Book club featuring classic titles meets last Tuesday of the month (Sept. - May) at 7 p.m. at the Main Library. A list of titles is available at www. fargolibrary.org

TIME: 1:00 PM

LOCATION: Dr. James Carlson Library

CONTACT: Kirstie at kcarlson@fargolibrary. org or the Dr. James Carlson Library, 2801 32nd Ave. S., Fargo / 701-476-4040

NOV 17

VIRTUAL FALL BOOK PARTIES

It’s like a book club, but you can read whatever you want! Stop by the library’s Facebook page to chat about the books you've been reading recently, or check out what our librarians bring to recommend. No registration is required.

TIME: 7:00 PM

LOCATION: online on the Library’s Facebook page

CONTACT: Megan R. at 701-2411492 or the downtown Main Library, 101 4th St. North, Fargo / 241-1492

NOV 29

CURRENT HISTORY BOOK CLUB

Book club featuring classic titles meets last Tuesday of the month (Sept. - May) at 7 p.m. at the Main Library. A list of titles is available at www. fargolibrary.org

TIME: 7:00 PM

LOCATION: Main Library

CONTACT: Steve Hubbard at 701-241-1492 or the Main Library, 101 4th St. N., Fargo / 701-241-1492

Area Woman celebrates, showcases and supports women; the stories shared here encourage our community to consider the challenges women face and identify potential solutions. While our community is working toward that goal, Chris Johnson is dedicating his career to ensure the safety and wellbeing of all. Minnesota State University Moorhead (MSUM) alum Johnson, Ph.D., MSW, is the Chief Executive Officer of the Rape and Abuse Crisis Center of Fargo-Moorhead (RACC). The team supports those impacted by sexual assault, dating and domestic violence, childhood sexual abuse, human trafficking, sexual exploitation, and elder abuse. “When I was an undergrad at MSUM, I had a ton of respect for [RACC],” Johnson says. “Many of the social problems we deal with as a society can be traced back to the issues we address.”

Founded in 1977, RACC is one of the earliest violence intervention centers in North Dakota and Minnesota. Its 28 employees serve more than 3,000 people annually, and that number is growing. The organization’s programs include crisis intervention, advocacy, counseling, criminal justice assistance, and education. It runs Rainbow Bridge, a space for supervised parenting and safe exchange, and offers a program to those who have used violence against their partners. “Our feminist roots are still as relevant today as they were 45 years ago, but we need all voices at the table,” Johnson says. While 83 percent of RACC clients identify as female, the team seeks to create a community free of violence by addressing all ends of the spectrum – engaging everyone from offenders to victims of all backgrounds.

Chris

Working as a man in a women-dominated industry, Johnson recognizes it’s critically important to listen. He serves disenfranchised populations, those with barriers he admits he’s never known, and says, “I need to really consider how I use my power and privilege to ensure I am doing right by these folks.” Johnson addresses this challenge head-on by learning from the talented women at RACC. This includes Myla Korbel, Chief Program Officer, whom he considers a mentor. She earned an undergraduate degree and a master’s degree in counseling and human development, both from MSUM. “She is so highly respected in the community.

“THIS IS A VERY, VERY HIGH STAKES INDUSTRY. ONE INTERVENTION COULD BE THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN LIFE AND DEATH, SO THERE IS NO ROOM FOR ERROR.”

Johnson

She started with this agency in 1988,” he says. “Myla regularly says, ‘We do this work because we can.’ Even the most highly trained person may struggle to do this work. It’s one of the many things Myla says that I grab onto and hold close.” Korbel and her team respect his “listen and learn” philosophy. “Chris has a transparent leadership style with his staff regarding day-to-day operations and the future planning for the agency,” she says.

“HE IS ARTICULATE AND FOCUSED, WITH A GREAT MEMORY AND A MIND FULL OF KNOWLEDGE. HE ALWAYS HAS A VISION.”

Chris Johnson

Johnson’s strong start to his social work career began at MSUM, where he received his Bachelor of Social Work. “It is evident that MSUM has not deviated from its roots of being a teaching college. It’s apparent that the faculty is there for you. Not for their research, not for their tenure, but for you. This stuck with me throughout my entire academic journey,” he says. His passion for MSUM was visible to his daughter, Alexandra, who chose to follow in his footsteps. Today, she’s a junior in the same undergraduate program.

“IT’S COMFORTING TO KNOW THAT I HAVE SUCH A STRONG ROLE MODEL IN MY CORNER. HIS REFLECTION OF HIS MORALS SHAPED THE PERSON I AM TODAY; I AM FOREVER GRATEFUL FOR THAT.”

Alexandra Johnson

Despite his demanding schedule, Johnson remains committed to and engaged with MSUM. He served as an adjunct faculty member for seven years and is on the Master of Social Work Advisory Committee. In addition, he and his wife Ashley established the Gayel Marie Saude Scholarship Fund for social work students. It offers $2,500 per year and is meant to honor Ashley’s mother, who passed away in 2021.

To Johnson, MSUM has given him tremendous opportunity and he intends to give much in return. The demand for RACC’s services is rapidly increasing, and it’s seeking to nearly double its team of volunteers, advocates, counselors, and leaders.

For those seeking to support its mission, visit raccfm.com.

Chris Johnson

CHRIS JOHNSON, CEO OF THE RAPE AND CRISIS ABUSE CENTER OF FARGO-MOORHEAD (RACC), WITH ITS CHIEF PROGRAM OFFICER, MYLA KORBEL

Autumn is a beautiful time to change gears and slow down. Although the holidays approach and that tends to be a busy period for many people, the fall allows us breathing room between our glorious “lake life” summers in the Midwest and that when we hunker down and brave the winter. Taking time out of our schedules, not just at this time of the year, but always, is essential to staying focused and productive. “You can’t pour from an empty cup,” as the saying goes, and this season you’re invited to honor what your mind and body need in order to thrive.

Yoga: This may seem a bit redundant, as yoga is mentioned worldwide when it comes to health and fitness. But, there is a reason and also it speaks volumes that, as opposed to “trendy fitness,” yoga has been practiced for thousands of years. Its roots in ancient India have led to a global movement of strength, healing, and mindfulness and although I am a lifelong fitness gal, yoga is deeper than doing my weights and cardio in a gym. You can start at home if you are more comfortable getting your asana on solo; there are countless YouTube videos and tutorials, or you can begin reading magazines and books to learn about the practice. Even 15 minutes per day can help center your mind and prepare your body for movement, adding strength gradually that can enhance balance and mobility. I honestly don’t know how I lived without it, as now yoga is the cornerstone of my daily routine of care that keeps me centered. Ready to find a studio near you? Just do a simple search for beginner yoga series and you’ll find many F-M area studios and gyms, even private teachers, who can help you get started.

Sleep: I used to balk at the 8 hours a night idea. “I can sleep when I’m dead,” young me liked to say. Times have changed. Now in my fifties, I finally understand the benefits of getting my zzz’s and also subscribe to naps! Yes, naps. Just a 20 minute “cat nap” a day rejuvenates me and I am able to be more productive as a result. Pushing through the day when tired isn’t healthy; we all have to do it sometimes, but overall, entering each morning rested and ready to tackle our work and activities is so much easier! Give yourself a break and curl up, get cozy, and sleep, even if it’s just for a short bit to get revved up again. Routine is essential when it comes to being a good sleeper, so try your best to go to bed and wake up around the same time daily; it will make a difference in how your body responds to stress.

Here are five self-care activities I personally subscribe to that have helped me immensely on my wellness journey:

Bake And Cook: Now, I know not everyone loves kitchen time. But, fall is such a good time to make even simple recipes that honor the flavors of the season. We all know about pumpkin spice, but what about cinnamon, nutmeg, maple, bourbon, or butterscotch? Finding a good bread you can bake, even in mini loaves for gifting, or a good stew recipe that becomes a family favorite is a way to learn something new and change things up a bit in your food routine. Maybe it’s time to learn how to make a rich glaze before the holidays or get creative with those Pinterest recipes you’ve saved for years (and haven’t made). Time by yourself that is not pressured or interrupted, where you can create new foods can be soothing with the right playlist and a good recipe.

Paint: You may not “know how” to paint, but that’s okay! Hit your local dollar store for some simple, small canvases, brushes, and acrylic paints. Squeeze paint onto a paper plate and GO. Just paint. It doesn’t have to be of anything in particular, maybe it’s just colors. The idea isn’t to be the next Van Gogh, it’s to connect your brain to your brush, brush to canvas, which is slow and soothing. You can find yourself lost in it if you let go of expectations. When was the last time you allowed yourself to just play and create? Make your autumnal masterpiece and display it proudly, knowing you set aside artist time just for yourself, no agenda, no “have to” list. You’ll be pleasantly surprised how addictive it is to honor your need to play like that inner artist inside of you!

Gratitude Walk: Every morning, I take our German Shepherd, Reva, out for a walk very early, usually around 5 am. It’s such a beautiful time of day before most people in the neighborhood are awake; it’s serene. As we walk, I do what I call the Gratitude Walk and talk to God, out loud (softly, as to not wake the neighbors), about what I am thankful for. Some days gratitude comes out so easily, other days not so much and I feel I am choking out things to say despite feeling

not-so-happy. We all have those days, but gratitude is what I have found to be the quickest way to turn from sullen to focused, happy. Whatever your belief system, you can find gratitude and say what you are appreciative of; when you do, you’ll watch the magic happen as your thoughts soften and you find yourself feeling calmer. It’s a fabulous way to settle into autumn and all of the abundance in your life. [ aw ]

Amanda Davison is the Founder and Executive Director of the nonprofit, A Wife Like Me, a ministry equipping wives to experience healthier, happier marriages. She is the co-author of Dear Wife: 10 Minute Invitations to Practice Connection with Your Husband, a speaker, and founder of Awaken, a women’s event. She is the wife to a Minnesota farmer, mother of three, and lover of ice cream. Join the wives intentionally growing their faith and marriages through the A Wife Like Me Podcast, A Wife Like Me on YouTube, social media, or at awifelikeme.com.

Do you feel hurt by your SPOUSE’s words?

Do you communicate with a lack of care or concern? Do you often misunderstand one another or assume something that causes even more breakdown in communication?

If so, you’re not alone.

It took me a number of years of being married to realize that my communication toward my husband was destructive and was creating a pattern and cycle of destructive communication.

I’ve learned what often causes destructive communication and how to create constructive communication.

I had learned unhealthy communication styles from my childhood and from my personality that I had not realized were manipulative, negative, and sharp. Because this communication had served me well prior to marriage and even at the start of our marriage, I did not recognize the impact my communication was having on our relationship and therefore wasn’t addressing it. My husband was fearful of being honest with me because he knew he would pay for his honesty with my reaction (seriously hug him if you see him – babe, I’m so sorry).

If you’ve grown up in dysfunction, generational sin, undiagnosed mental illnesses or addictions, or if you have a spicy personality (you know who you are) – you’re in danger of destructive communication toward your spouse.

Continue reading to turn your ignorance into knowledge.

marriage, don’t let your past hold you and your family hostage any second longer by living in bondage. Christ died so that you can live in freedom from hurt caused to you or by you. Make amends today.

Sometimes it’s not this simple, and counseling is ideal. If that is you or your spouse, contact a local Christian Counselor today.

Familial hurts, abandonment, abuse, and common human disappointment can leave us with open wounds. These wounds, if hidden or buried, are typically directed toward your spouse. Unresolved pain can look like negative self-talk, jealousy, fear, defensiveness, passivity, manipulation, blaming, or doubt. Unresolved past pain causes your reality to be distorted. We can’t love people well and we can’t receive love well when we have unresolved wounds.

To heal unresolved wounds, be honest about its existence. Admit the pain, and bring it into the light.

Take responsibility for what your pain has done to yourself and to your marriage. Then ask for forgiveness, and forgive any person(s) where forgiveness is needed. Forgiveness is the most loving thing you can do. For the sake of your

Healthy couples listen and consider what the other thinks and feels. Unhealthy couples find themselves in a cycle of unresolved issues because nothing gets resolved. Defensiveness is a barrier to intimacy and is actually a predictor of divorce. A spouse might interrupt, misinterpret information, skew or exaggerate information, deflect information or blame the other spouse. Most couples recognize seasons of defensiveness and commonly relate these seasons to times when they are lacking intimacy and/or have low self-esteem.

To stop the cycle of defensiveness, one spouse must commit to refraining from defensiveness even if the other spouse stays defensive.

All it takes is one spouse refusing to be defensive by taking in a complaint, suggestion, or idea that their spouse has – accepting the information lovingly, and thanking them for it. This begins a new pattern and creates a new cycle of communication to start.

Ask God to reveal any areas of insecurity, and then ask God to soften your heart and guard your lips. Commit to speaking life to your spouse, and earn the right to bring something other than life to your spouse. Ask yourself, have I spoken enough praise to bring this to my spouse?

We want to phone the friend who will side with us and confirm how we feel. We want this so much that psychologists study it and have named it as The Confirmation Bias. It’s dangerous to your marriage and family. Biblical community looks different than possibly what your friends look like now – because biblical community groups hold each other accountable and won’t tell you what you want to hear. Instead, they will direct you toward Christ, possible repentance, and/or restoration.

If you aren’t already actively attending a local church – get your buns to one! Don’t let your spouse stop you from it. If you are already actively attending a local church but aren’t involved in a small group, call your church today and tell them you’d like to join one!

Friends, our marriages and families are our opportunities to let Jesus shine by how we love. I pray that you would desire to glorify God more than satisfying your flesh and tearing apart your spouse. There is too much at stake. [ aw ]

Wife Step: Today, go to your husband and apologize for your own communication by recognizing how your communication has been hurtful or unhealthy.

Miss North Dakota

Makes Strides in the Digital Realm

When asked what makes her excited about her work, this is how Reyna Bergstrom Asheim, a Fargo-native, Oak Grove graduate, and Concordia College alum, responded. You might more readily recognize her as 2021’s Miss North Dakota, the position which has all but consumed the majority of her last year. Before taking on this role, Reyna, a Communication major and Religion minor, returned to her alma mater as a Content Specialist. In this role, she served many functions within the digital media space, including writing stories for the Concordia College website and magazine and managing Concordia’s social media accounts. It was in this position that Reyna grew her love and passion for digital media, which would further impact her platform within her Miss North Dakota role.

While at Concordia and congruently assuming the role of Miss North Dakota, Reyna decided it was an opportune time to take on her Miss North Dakota roles full-time. “I knew I would regret it if I didn’t,” Reyna stated as she reminisced on her decision to take a step back from her job. In describing the shift, Reyna said, “It’s hard in those seasons of transitions. It’s difficult not to question whether you’re doing the right thing.”

This was fueled in part by the fact that not many people know Miss North Dakota can pursue the position full-time: “People were shocked to learn that. Like, wait, you do that full time?” she added.

While an entirely freelance role, Reyna spent a great deal of her year doing school tours across the State of North Dakota, presenting on social media literacy and balancing technology use in everyday life. When she was not at school tours, Reyna utilized her platform as an opportunity to connect with and empower others in the digital space. Ultimately, Reyna describes her background in communication studies as a driving force for her life and work.

Reyna lamented the importance of giving back to the digital world in a positive way while still maintaining personal boundaries, ensuring that media isn’t taking away from in-person interactions. “It’s a love-hate relationship,” Reyna described about her personal relationship with social media. Nonetheless, Reyna hopes that her professional career works towards helping others recognize the importance of social media, especially as it pertains to media use and media literacy. Reyna currently serves as a Senior Marketing Specialist at Sanford on the Women, Children, & Primary Care marketing team. In the future, Reyna aspires to seek a higher education degree in hopes of furthering her expertise in digital media and communication. [ aw ]

In a world where communication is increasingly digital, Reyna finds the importance of communication even greater.

“Learning, connecting, and creating in digital spaces.”

“I love people, I love words, and I love documenting life through stories. It’s naturally always what I’ve done, even as a kid.”

“Digital media is a primary means of how we communicate, and social media is an education tool that connects us. We have such power to be able to pour into people and give such positive content and value into people’s digital spaces.”