Area Woman Magazine Apr/May '20

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2020-2021

TOWN HALL LECTURE SERIES

Lectures for the season are held at the Fargo Holiday Inn. Each lecture begins at 10:30 am. Limited tickets available at the door $30. Entire season lecture tickets $100. For season tickets, contact Marcia at 701-840-1986 or visit fargotownhall.org.

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12 CONTRIBUTORS

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18 SPRING HAS SPRUNG

20 10-MINUTE MORNING MAKEUP

22 WHERE TO SHOP

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46 ATTENTION TO DETAIL

52 REFRESH IT AND S AVE WITH KIT CHEN REFRESH

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54 RELATIONSHIPS ARE IMPOR TANT IN MANY A SPECTS OF LIFE

56 T OP 5 MENOPAUSE MISCONCEPTIONS

58 REDEFINING MEMOR Y LOSS

60 THE BUFF LIFE

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74 MOONDANCE

76 HOMEWARD ANIMAL SHELTER

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are the voice of Area Woman Magazine. They bring to life the Fargo-Moorhead area and the incredible stories of the women we feature. These are the talented contributors showcased in this issue. Learn more about these and our other contributors at areawomanmagazine.com

REBECCA MEIDINGER

Rebecca is a speaker, Bible teacher, writer, blogger and stay-at-home mom to four wild kids in south Fargo and wife to her awesome husband Paul. As a speaker and bible teacher, it is Rebecca's joy to bring messages of hope, joy and freedom in Christ to groups of teens and adult women. As a blogger, Rebecca shares the real-life challenges of marriage and motherhood. Rebecca loves a hot cup of coffee, a cool morning run, and warm sunshine on her face. Learn more about Rebecca at rebeccameidinger.com.

Our cover story was photographed by Taylor Jane Photography and written by Rebecca Meidinger, page 64.

WASIFA AHMAD HASAN

Wasifa is a dentistry graduate, full-time blogger and makeup artist. She blogs and makes videos about beauty, makeup, fashion and lifestyle on her blog sifascorner.com.

ANGEL EVENSON

Driven by her goal of leaving you happier than before you met, Angel's main goal in life is laughter. She owns her dream, AKA, where she is a multifaceted consultant and coach. Her expertise ranges from sales and marketing to writing, educating and fitness. Her man-bun wearing husband and two precious kids keep her grounded, fulfilled and grateful. Stop by for a daily dose of yoga, motherhood and all things life-inspired on her blog angelskeenangles.com and instagram @angelskeenangles.

MEGAN ELGIN

Megan grew up on the family farm in small town North Dakota and graduated from MSUM. She loves all things creative including her job as the art director here at Area Woman Magazine. She is passionate about reading as many books as possible and loves discussing them with others. Megan lives in Horace with her husband and son, loves camping with her family in the summer, and snuggling on the couch with them in the winter.

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MARIAH PRUSSIA

Mariah is the owner of MPX Fitness, founder of the nonprofict NOW Project, professional MMA fighter, coordinator of fitness at MSUM, motivational speaker, corporate wellness coach and single mother. Find her online at mariahprussia.com

LINDSAY TRUAX

Lindsay is the editor of the website Pink and Navy Stripes, a lifestyle and fashion blog. She loves to help others take the latest fashion trends and make them wearable. Lindsay and her husband have three little girls.

CORI JENSEN

Livin' the dream as a mom of four and wife to a smarty pants teacher. She can't live without self-deprecating humor and coffee!

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Aubrey is a lover of wine, working out, reading, all things Gilmore Girls and Target. She has a deep passion for writing, travel and the entrepreneur lifestyle. Her company Brey Tyson Digital & Design focuses on digital marketing, website design and graphic design for small to midsize businesses. Mother of two and wife to a Brit, she takes life one day at a time while reveling in the chaos of family life.

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Ashley is a local health, fitness and life coach with a passion for inspiring and motivating others to live their best life. She started her own business, BUFF Inc., teaches group fitness classes at the YMCA in Fargo, is a health and fitness writer, has appeared on local TV as a fitness expert, and shares her life and expertise candidly on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter. To work with Ashley for nutrition, fitness and life coaching, contact her online at eatlivebebuff.com.

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spring HAS SPRUNG

I am so happy for warming weather and signs of green! I also feel styles from the 90s are in full bloom this spring. From puffy sleeves to tie-dye to mom jeans, these fun styles are making a comeback. Here are some ideas to get the whole family involved on these great spring styles.

TIE-DYE

Tie-dye is coming back in so many ways. I have seen cute dresses, tops, skirts and even some tie-dye jean jackets. It is such a fun way to add some color to your look. One of my favorite tie-dye tops at Evereve employs puffy sleeves as well. It is such a feminine look for a casual style. The best way to wear this look is in the form of sweatshirts. They can be worn with jeans or leggings now or with shorts as temperatures rise.

FUN SNEAKERS

I love when functional things come back into trend. I feel like anyone can get behind cute sneakers. I really like wearing mine with skirts too. You can wear them now and all summer long. I really enjoy a pair of printed sneakers I found that have some pops of neon in them. Styling printed sneakers is harder if you are a person that wears a lot of patterned clothing. So, when buying for this trend, keep that in mind. When pairing to patterned clothing, shoes with bold colors make matching easier. However, if you are wearing solid color items, go for patterned shoes that make a statement.

HIGH-RISE JEANS

The high-rise jean is something I am so happy is back. I cannot do another low-rise jean. They generally are not flattering. I love that a high-rise jean is very slimming and gives you more of a waist. They can so easily be dressed up or down. Utilizing a messy tuck also assists in giving yourself more of a waist. A messy tuck gives your outfit a more polished look and is flattering rather than just leaving your shirt untucked.

WORDS : LINDSAY TRUAX PHOTOGRAPHY : RYAN TRUAX

NEON COLORS

Normally I think of spring as being all pastels and floral patterns, but this year neon is coming back in a big way. My two favorite neon colors are yellow and pink. This trend can easily be styled with tops and jeans. Wearing a pair of jeans, a neon tank and a jacket can be such a fun look and something that can be worn from day to night, or to work. In the cooler parts of spring, I love to try and find styles incorporating neon to help bring a cheery feel as the days warm.

MIDI SKIRTS

Longer skirts are a great spring staple. I always feel like I have so many different things to attend in the spring that it’s nice to have something to dress up and down. Midi skirts are coming in bold patterns. The leopard print ones seem to be everywhere. These are great because you can style them with a graphic tee, plain tee, or a tank depending on how dressy you want to be. I frequently style mine with sneakers or pumps as well.

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10-MINUTE morning makeup

THE BUSY WOMAN'S GUIDE TO GETTING READY IN UNDER 10 MINUTES

Iwill admit it, I would rather spend 10 minutes in bed snuggling with my daughter than doing an exquisite eye makeup in the morning. I am sure many of you ladies will understand the sentiment. Then again, I don’t want to look I-didn’t-get-a-fullnight’s–sleep exhausted, I want to look polished and put together even though I have been running on coffee and good spirits.

To cut down the morning rush, I have devised a quick and easy makeup look based on my years of makeup product testing and working as a makeup artist. Today I am going to share my 10-minute makeup routine. It’s stress-free, will save you time, and you’ll look and feel beautiful.

face:

You don’t need to put on a moisturizer, a sunscreen and a foundation in the morning if you are in a hurry. Opt for a CC or BB cream with higher SPF. I love IT Cosmetics CC+ Cream and Derma E Tinted BB Cream. Just use it like you apply your moisturizer, with your fingers. Blend it down your neck.

Another tip you can follow is skipping whole-face makeup and going for targeted concealing. Under the eyes and around the nose and mouth are common areas that need concealing. Use a full-coverage liquid concealer that matches your skin color; you don’t need a color correcting or brightening concealer for this look. My favorite is Covergirl TruBlend Undercover Concealer because it’s affordable, found in drugstores and sets well. You don’t have to set it with a powder in Fargo-Moorhead weather. I use two dots under my eyes, blend it either with my finger or a fluffy blending brush.

If your skin is oily you can set the oilier zones with a setting powder. When the weather is dry and cold, I like to skip it.

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cheeks:

Choose a bronzer that is matte, not sparkly or glittery. It will add warmth to your skin and make your complexion look healthy. You can definitely choose a blush too, but using just one product will save you time. I suggest a formula like Benefit Cosmetics Hoola or NYX Professional Makeup Matte Bronzer.

eyes:

Curl your lashes and add some mascara like Covergirl Exhibitionist Mascara. If you have made a mascara mess (aka smudges) on the upper lids, don’t worry. Add some bronzer on your lids with a blending brush to add depth and some color. Your eyes are done.

brows:

Use a clear or tinted brow gel to brush your brows and make them polished. Glossier Boy Brow or Benefit Cosmetics Gimme Brow gels are two amazing products that I use over and over again. They are quick to use, set the brows well and brows look naturally fuller and groomed without making them look too “Instagram-y.”

lips:

For lips, think “my lips, but better” nude-ish pink color. Whatever outfit you choose, you should always have a lip product that is your fail-safe. It can either be a tinted lip balm, a lipstick, a gloss or a lip pencil. If you can squeeze in the time, you can also use a tiny bit of the lip product on the apples of your cheeks. This color will vary according to your complexion. My go-to lip products are Lorac Alter Ego lipstick in CEO and Milani Color Statement Lipstick in Naturally Chic.

To quicken your makeup routine in the morning, I suggest making a small go-bag where you can store your everyday essentials, i.e. a concealer, setting powder, mascara, a small blush/bronzer palette, a brow gel and a lipstick or lip balm.

SO TOMORROW MORNING

when you are getting ready, follow the above steps and keep your eyes on the clock. How long did it take? Let me know on my Instagram @sifascorner and share your 10-minute makeup look with me. I would love to see it!

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e LOVE respect:

how we saved our marriage

“Why doesn’t he get it?”

I pridefully thought to myself after an explosive argument with my husband about me having to manage everything in our life. Unable to understand why I had to say things a million times before he seemed to hear or even care, I just wanted to give up. Exhausted and tired of having the same argument, I sunk into myself.

Twelve years ago, shortly after saying “I do,” a mentor of mine watched me sink into myself. I divulged no personal information because I had seen how disastrous it can be to confide in people other than your spouse, and whole heartedly believed marriage was private. Out of respect for my husband I chose to only go to him, so my mentor assumed my attitude change was due to the continued difficulties my parents were facing. He recommended that I share the book “Love and Respect” by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs with them.

Little did he know, the book would not change their life, it would change mine.

As I started digging into the book and workbook, I felt God working in me. I became excited about the different future I knew was ahead of us, if I chose to embrace what I was learning.

He needs Respect.

A man deeply desires respect, and when he is not approached in a respectful way communication lines immediately close. An example popped into my head as I started to dig deeper to understand: Women often refer to their husbands as an additional child. It had always made me cringe, and now I fully understood why. Though I had never embraced that phrase, I had disrespected my husband in many other ways and I knew I needed to change my approach if I wanted things to change for us.

She needs Love.

Just as my husband needed to feel respected, I needed to feel loved. But love can be shown in so many different ways and it was unclear to him what made me feel loved. For the first time, we truly became vulnerable sharing what we needed.

He wasn’t going to feel motivated to love me if I didn’t respect him. I wasn’t going to respect him if he wasn’t loving toward me.

So, who should make the first move?

That was one of my favorite parts of the book. The first one to make an effort should be the one that feels most mature and in control at that moment. Sometimes, that was me. Sometimes, that was him. It became a true partnership as we evolved as people and a couple.

My mind shifted from what he wasn’t doing, to what he was doing. And, if there were things that I was frustrated about, I waited until I felt controlled enough to respectfully talk to him about it. He held his head higher because he finally was receiving the respect he deserved. In the days I struggled, he consciously focused on things that made me feel loved and it only motivated me to respect him more because he cared so deeply.

Defining moments happen in all our lives, and in an age of divorce, I wanted a different life. My perspective and understanding of what God wanted marriage to be changed when I read that book. And now, I am most grateful that we are able to give our children the gift my parents couldn’t give to me, a loving and respectful home.

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more than the blues

the NUMBER ONE COMPLICATION of CHILDBIRTH

If you were asked about complications associated with giving birth, what pops into your head? Going into labor early? High blood pressure? Gestational diabetes?

Yes, those are all common complications. But did you know the most common complication is depression? That’s right, depression. According to the American College of Obstetrics and Gynecology, 1 in 7 women develop depression and 1 in 10 women develop anxiety during pregnancy or in the 12 months following pregnancy. Both anxiety and depression are part of what is recognized as perinatal mood and anxiety disorders (PMADS). PMADS are mood disorders like depression or bipolar disorder, and anxiety disorders like generalized anxiety, panic disorder and obsessive-compulsive disorder that are diagnosed any time from conception to the first full year after giving birth.

Often, if we think of mood struggles after giving birth we tend to think of the “baby blues,” a normal reaction to hormone fluctuations that can include feeling sad, crying and tearfulness. PMADS are different in how long they last, the intensity of the symptoms experienced, and when they are experienced.

What do they look like? Well, it can look like a mother who is struggling to sleep even when the baby is sleeping because even though she is exhausted she can’t relax or stop thinking. It can look like a mother who feels angry and irritable, sad most of the time, struggles to finish tasks, or often feels on the verge of tears. Other postpartum concerns may include feeling like a “bad mom,” struggling to feel connected with baby, being constantly overwhelmed with parenting, and experiencing feelings of failure. Post-partum depression can also include experiencing thoughts of suicide and feeling that her family may better off without her.

Moms who may be struggling with anxiety disorders can experience panic attacks and intrusive thoughts that she can’t get out of her head. She may constantly feel on edge and be unable to relax, even if she knows the baby is safe. Other anxiety-related concerns may include difficulty sleeping and an obsession with cleanliness, germs and keeping the baby safe.

PMADs can have huge impacts if not treated. Women who are experiencing mood or anxiety concerns may struggle with breastfeeding, connecting with their baby, isolation from friends and family, and performing poorly at work. Relationships with their partner are also impacted. Speaking of partners, according to Postpartum Support International, 1 in 10 dads experience postpartum depression.

The number one complication of childbirth is something we aren’t talking about.

Am I at risk? While we don’t know 100 percent what exactly causes PMADs, we do know that there are certain people who are at a higher risk. Parents who have experienced loss, infertility, a NICU stay or have a previous history with a mental health concern are more likely to develop a PMAD.

While PMADs can sound scary, there is hope. Various effective treatments are available. Medication, therapy and social support (either in conjunction or individually), can be used to successfully treat PMADs. Yoga, mindfulness, massage and exercise can all be used to help treat symptoms. Joining a support group or local moms or parents group is also extremely helpful. Connecting with people on a regular basis, getting outside of the house, reducing stressors and getting enough sleep are all important things to consider when creating a postpartum plan.

If you have concerns about someone you know or are experiencing symptoms, reach out to a medical professional or someone with training in perinatal mood and anxiety disorders. Pregnancy and parenting is stressful, but you do not have to go it alone.

NATALIE REITER

is certified in Perinatal Mental Health and a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor. Natalie is the owner of Prairieland Counseling Services in Fargo which specializes in reproductive mental health for men and women. Natalie is board certified in telehealth and provides services across the state of North Dakota.

WORDS : ERIN HEMME FROSLIE PHOTOGRAPHY : DAVE ARNTSON

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SCHOOL’S SENSORY HALLWAY ENCOURAGES PHYSICAL ACTIVITY

When Deer Creek Elementary opened in fall 2019, the freshly painted white walls in the West Fargo School District school demanded something to make the building more welcoming and friendly.

Color. Shape. Movement. Art.

Thanks to art education students at Minnesota State University Moorhead (MSUM), the elementary school quickly added those elements. MSUM students collaborated with school staff to create a mural paired with a sensory floor — the community’s first interactive hallway.

Also known as a sensory or movement hallway, an interactive hallway gives students permission to work out their wiggles and take a brain break. Instead of a static image that is passively viewed, the art encourages students to jump, touch and stretch.

MSUM students Katie Sandberg (far left) and Paige Busby (far right) gather with MSUM alumna Lindsay Opp (middle), art professor Brad Bachmeier (middle) and Deer Creek principal Dr. Chad Clark (back right)

“From personal experience, it pains me to see students standing quietly in lines,” says Brad Bachmeier, a professor of art education at MSUM. “Kids need movement and this lets them do that.”

The Deer Creek mural is nature-themed. The branches of a painted tree challenge students to demonstrate how high they can reach. Stickers prompt students to complete activities such as doing a push-up against the wall or tracing a pattern with their feet. Butterflies hanging from the ceiling tempt students to jump.

While students have time to move during recess, sensory hallways allow transitions between classes to be more interactive and fun. For fidgety students, a quick hop or stretch can help them burn energy so they can focus.

Incorporating those activities into art makes a typically practical space more appealing.

“We wanted something that would mark our first year at Deer Creek while helping students identify with the new building,” says Lindsay Opp, the school’s art teacher. She earned a degree in art education from MSUM in December 2018.

“Art makes a school, a school,” she says. “It changes the atmosphere into a more fun, relaxed space.”

Opp designed the nature-based mural after her building principal asked her to add an interactive hallway to the school. She then reached out to Bachmeier to see if art students could help to make it a reality.

Bachmeier encourages art students to explore different settings where they can share their expertise in

art education. Members of the on-campus art educators club volunteer in schools. They lead art clubs at Churches United for the Homeless and classes at the Plains Art Museum. They practice art therapy at senior centers and with veterans.

“We want our students to be involved in the community,” he says. “We make sure they have opportunities to experience art in a variety of settings.”

For the Deer Creek mural, MSUM students volunteered more than 100 hours.

Paige Busby, a junior at MSUM, is president of the art club at MSUM. She spent a couple of days painting bushes and trees over her winter break.

“It made me realize that as a future art teacher, it’s my job to bring in artistic events and make the entire school more colorful,” she says. “I loved to see how (Opp) brought the classroom outside into the hallway.”

Katie Sandberg, a recent transfer student to MSUM, also worked on the mural.

“It was a great way for me to build relationships with the other students,” she says.

Before returning to school to complete her art education degree, Sandberg worked as a paraprofessional. With that experience, she quickly appreciated how welcoming and beneficial the interactive hallway could be for all students.

“Art is an equalizer,” she says. “Kids from a lot of different backgrounds can connect to the space.”

The interactive mural at Deer Creek encourages more physical activity in a child’s day, but also can help students practice academic skills. For example, young students can find all the ladybugs in the mural and count them.

In the future, students can contribute to the mural by adding their own details, such as prairie flowers.

“Giving students an opportunity to contribute to public art gives them ownership,” Bachmeier says. “It will be fun for them to say, hey, that’s mine.”

STUCK INDOORS BY THE CORONAVIRUS: 10 ways to keep your kids occupied and keep your sanity

WORDS : DOLORES SMYTH

The growing number of COVID-19 cases has triggered a wave of alarm and preemptive action across the globe. Closer to home, schools, libraries and even churches have closed their doors. While social distancing is a necessary, albeit overwhelming, way to stem the coronavirus outbreak, many parents have been left floundering for ways to keep their kids occupied at home as they count the minutes for their day-to-day routine to go back to normal.

Although some schools are providing their students with online classes, this may not be a viable option for your household. And even if it is, you still have to fill up the rest of the day as you hunker down at home with the kids. For many parents, letting their children play video games or watch TV for a reasonable amount of time is fun for the kids and gives you a much-needed opportunity to get things done. However, if none of that screen time offers any educational value or family bonding time, you may want to explore other solutions to help keep your kids from getting cabin-fever and keep yourself from going stir-crazy. Moreover, if your child is experiencing depression and/or anxiety because of the coronavirus pandemic, engaging in activities that promote family bonding can help reduce the incidence of depression and anxiety in children.

1. Set up an indoor campground.

Bring the sleeping bags and tents up from the basement or down from the attic and turn your family room into an indoor campground. No sleeping bags or tents? No problem. Create a campground by arranging chairs in rows of two in the family room, draping a bedsheet over the chairs to create the tent, and piling pillows and blankets underneath to create a sleeping area.

You can make your indoor campground as elaborate as you’d like with items you already have in your home. String Christmas lights across the top of the tent to create a starry night scene. Enjoy the glow of a campground “fire” made with paper towel tubes, tissue paper, and LED candles. Set up lawn chairs outside the tent and serve hot dogs, chips and trail mix; play cards and board games; or do an easy “camping” craft like making beaded necklaces or braided bracelets.

Add to the camping aura by having the kids help you make indoor s’mores in the microwave, oven, skillet, or, for a more “outdoorsy” experience, over a well-ventilated sterno flame. Last, if your kids are old enough to appreciate a spooky story, lower the lights and switch on a flashlight as you go around the group and tell ghost stories.

2. Host indoor Olympic games.

If you look in your kids’ toy boxes and closets, you’ll probably find that you have enough games and activities at home to arrange back-to-back and create a challenging obstacle course for your kids to compete in, tantamount to a kiddie indoor Olympic course.

HERE ARE 10 FUN (and cheap!) INDOOR ACTIVITIES YOU CAN DO AT HOME WITH KIDS OF ALL AGES.

You can kick off the indoor “Olympic games” with an opening ceremony where each child gets to parade onto the course to a theme song of his or her choosing. Depending on your child’s age, your child may want to grab a favorite teddy bear to serve as his or her Olympic mascot. At the close of the opening ceremonies, get your stopwatch and scorecard ready and time your little Olympians as they compete in consecutive games of skill and physical fitness such as:

• a ring or beanbag toss, a mini-golf course competition (a broom, a ping pong ball, and a plastic cup can be used in place of a golf club, golf ball and golf hole), or a ball throwing competition into boxes of decreasing sizes, with a point given per successful shot for each of these activities

• a sack race or a boiled egg and spoon race with a marked-off finish line and points given to the first person over the finish line

• a hula hoop competition with a point given for each second the competitors can hold up their hula hoop

• a pyramid cup-stacking race with points given to the first person to successfully stack his or her cups into a stable pyramid

• a physical endurance competition where points are given for the number of jumping jacks, push-ups and sit-ups the child can do in three 30-second intervals

• a mad dash crabwalk to the final finish line to close out the indoor Olympic games

At the end of the games, be sure to hand out prizes to each child, whether the prizes be stickers, dollar bills, or, if planned ahead, inexpensive pre-ordered gold medals.

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Send the kids off on a scavenger hunt.

Staying indoors can be a blast when the kids are set off on a scavenger hunt to seek and collect common household items. The scavenger hunt can be subject to a time-limit where each child competes alone or as part of a team to see which team collects the most items first. Go online for free, printable indoor scavenger hunt checklists listing everyday household items for seekers to find.

4.

Throw a costume party.

Let your kids raid your closet for hats, scarves and costume jewelry to throw a costume party. Add snacks and a tea set to make it a tea party-themed ball! Clear a space for a catwalk and let your little models parade their fashion choices for you.

5.

Put on an airshow with popsicle stick airplanes.

All you’ll need for this creative craft is popsicle sticks, a cutting tool, craft glue or a hot glue gun, and paint if you’re not already using colored popsicle sticks. Find age-appropriate tutorials online to guide your child as she cuts and glues popsicle sticks to create toy airplanes. You can add a propeller to the airplane by twisting pipe cleaner around the nose of the aircraft. For added fun, create a runway by taping sheets of construction paper together along a table or floor or by laying down a section of cardboard complete with runway markings.

6.

Hold an art show.

Grab smocks for your kids and spread out watercolors and brushes, crayons, markers or colored pencils on a table along with poster board or construction paper. Provide glue sticks and safety scissors to allow for added artistic touches. Once your little artists have created their masterpieces, hang up the artwork and host an art show complete with glasses of apple juice “champagne” and hor d'oeuvres.

7.

Make Play-Doh come to life.

Kids will enjoy following any of the numerous YouTube tutorials showing them how to make Play-Doh animal creations such as turtles, crocodiles and unicorns, and a Play-Doh park scene featuring trees, flowers and a duck pond.

8.

Bring out your child’s inner chef.

Give your child an apron and set up a toppings bar to make homemade pizza or your own ice cream sundaes. Other kid-friendly foods you can easily find recipes for online to make together (or let your older child make alone) are Emoji-inspired rice cakes, berry parfaits with yogurt and granola, and no-bake cookies.

9.

Expand your child’s knowledge with easy science experiments.

Amaze your children while having them brush up on their science skills with these easy science experiments that you can do in your own home and with products you likely already have. Click on the “experiments” section of sciencebob.com to learn how to do such simple scientific experiments as: make ice cream in a plastic bag, build a soap-powered model boat, and make a static-powered dancing ghost.

10.

Relax with low-key, family-bonding activities.

If your days at home are better-suited for more low-key family activities, consider starting a 1000-piece jigsaw puzzle that you and your child can work on and frame once completed. Older children may be interested in starting a scrapbook or smash book with you. Other ideas for low-key fun for children of all ages are playing Mad Libs as a family, building a Lego village together, or playing tried-and-true family-friendly board games such as Clue, Monopoly, Scrabble, Chutes and Ladders, or Candyland.

During this time of uncertainty when anxieties are running high, make the best of a bad situation with these fun and family-friendly activities that will help keep your child busy and help keep you a little calmer.

Dolores Smyth is a parenting writer and mother of three kids ranging in age from preschool to junior high. Dolores knows a thing or two about keeping kids of different ages busy when school is unexpectedly canceled. You can follow more of her work on Twitter @LolaWordSmyth.

FAMILY MUSIC JAR CHALLENGE

Unplug and plug into music as a family

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it’s rare that I do anything as a parent that I would consider qualifying as #familygoals. But, of the handful things I’d give that badge of honor to, one is our “music jar” challenge. Full disclosure, the concept is not our brainchild.

We as parents hear on the news, read in articles and even get preached to at the pediatrician, the importance to unplug from screens and also to have meals together as a family as often as possible. It’s a thing. Yet real life schedules make it challenging. Staying so busy trying to accomplish all the things makes tearing a screen away from our kids a big task. I’m certainly far from perfect, so anytime I happen across a helpful tip I grab it by it’s coattails.

Even for 10 minutes this family activity can truly be enjoyable and make memories. I promise.

It’s all about that bass. Well, more accurately speaking, it’s all about that music.

My family's music jar challenge. An adaptation of an idea from one of my favorite Instagramers a year ago.

This challenge is a way we are introducing our kids to music outside of their everyday listening habits. And it also helps to engage and promote conversation around the family dinner table.

My hubby and I sat down and wrote down around 52 different bands and artists on little slips of paper and put them in a jar. Genre, time periods, personal likes or cultural popularity all totally open and put in the jar. We. Had. So. Much. Fun. Creating this.

Next the exciting part. Introducing our kids to music they’d either never heard before or rarely had.

We dug deep, writing down artists that we loved when we were teenagers, college influences, bands that helped shape our taste today, all the way to current loves. The net was cast far and wide and our experiment that’s been going on for less than a year has been a success.

THIS IS HOW MY FAMILY DOES THE MUSIC JAR CHALLENGE.

Each Sunday at dinnertime we draw a new slip of paper. From there we play for the kids at least two songs from that band or artist. Then over the course of a week we play one or more songs at dinnertime. This is all very flexible as some days and weeks are busier than others. And some artists have more to choose from than others.

Our one rule: No talking while the song plays.

At the end of the week we go around the horn and ask the kids to rate the artist on a one to five scale. It’s developed some hilarious conversations and laughter, especially when someone is drawn out of their seat to dance!

This challenge is excellent for all ages, and is free! Can I get a collective Amen?

In case you're curious … there has only been one band to get a perfect 5-star rating from our kids (ages 4-14) and that is (drumroll please) The Beatles!

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the ringmasters of the circus

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Where to begin when attempting to define the term “mother?” A mother is a woman who has more roles in one day than an actor has in a lifetime. As a mother or ringmaster, you will understand the energy required to gather all of the little clowns during the morning rush, and what it takes to prepare them for the circus we call life. Let’s not forget the healthy fuel required to run their little engines, the occasional doctor visits for optimal performance, and the moments of embracing them after an act that didn’t go so well. These are only a handful of performances and acts of love provided by a mother. The list is eternal and would never be exchanged for a lessor role.

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os, love and honor for being presented an award for the most unrecognized role. So, what better way to describe motherhood, then by what we all know to be true, a beautiful and organized, yet unorganized, circus. Being a mother has been, and continues to be, a blessing, a lesson and an unknown circus that requires faith and, honestly, luck at times. Whether you are a mother for the first time or fifth, there will always be a sense of uncertainty, or an underlying feeling of guilt of being insufficient. The reality is, you are more than enough. You are the tightrope walker when times get tough, the lioness protecting her cubs, and the ringmaster keeping the show together. You will have moments of weakness, moments of insecurities, and moments where you battle against yourself to go on stage. Guess what … you are not alone.

Coming to terms with the responsibilities of the ringmaster is a challenge, yet important to understand that everyone, especially mothers, need a break from the circus. Without the internal light, the fire and the energy required to perform on a daily basis, the show will go on. However, eventually the light will fade, the fire will go out, and your energy will become depleted. It is extremely challenging to provide all that you can to your children when you are not making the time to refuel your soul,

your spirit and your body. Motherhood is a privilege, a challenge and by far the most beneficial personal development course in life. There is a saying, “A mother’s job is to teach her children not to need her anymore.” After reflecting on that quote, I feel the reality is, we need our children more than they need us. Our children require love, the basic necessities in life, and lessons to help them grow. However, as a mother, our children teach us the importance of time management, patience and tough love, and help us recognize that we are not alone. Our children help us evolve into strong, confident and fearless ringmasters, allowing us to share our strengths and struggles with new ringmasters along the way.

I am grateful for my two beautiful circus performers, honored to be representing the state of North Dakota as 2020 Mother of the Year, and blessed for the numerous lessons that have come with motherhood. The recognition of the mother of the year award provided me with an affirmation that sacrificing time with my children to work doesn’t mean I am sacrificing the love that I have for them. As a mother, I have that found leading by example sometimes means falling on your face, and showing your children that once you fall, you have the opportunity to rise. Falling isn’t failing; it’s a lesson for the next show!

Summer Camp guide

Camp

The school year is soon coming to an end and kids of all ages are looking forward to sunshine and days of no homework. What happens when the novelty of those first few days of freedom wears off and boredom kicks in? Why, you send them to summer camp of course! We’ve compiled a list of some of our favorite summer camps and programs in the area so you can find something to interest everyone.

EDUCATIONAL CAMPS

College for Kids & Teens

June 8 – 11; June 15 – 18;

July 13 – 16; July 20 – 23

College for Kids & Teens is a summer camp program for K-12 students. Expert instructors teach classes that encourage exploration, adventure and creativity while cultivating young people’s understanding and appreciation for a variety of topics.

Minnesota State University Moorhead

1104 7th Ave S, Moorhead mnstate.edu/cfkt

STEM Kids Camp

July 20 – 23 and July 27 – 30

Ignite or fuel your child’s passion for science, technology, engineering and math with these fun, hands-on learning camps hosted by the NDSU College of Engineering. We offer morning and afternoon sessions for students in grades K-2, 3-5 and 6-8.

NDSU Campus

ndsu.edu/coe/stemkids

Camp Invention: Elevate

Camp Invention is a high-energy, handson STEM camp. Your child will create, collaborate and problem solve with inventions and challenges. For children entering grades K-6.

June 1-5

at Westside Elementary School

June 8-12

at Oak Grove Lutheran School campinvention.org

Code Ninjas Camps

Play and learn at Code Ninjas camps all summer long! Ninjas, kids ages 5-14, will build their very own video games, code their own apps, fly drones, assemble robotics, discover STEM and have fun! Various day camp and week-long camp dates June through August. Prices vary.

Code Ninjas Fargo

4480 23rd Ave S, Fargo codeninjas.com/camps/nd-fargo

Rusty K Ranch Camps

Have a child who loves horses and animals? Rusty K Ranch has a camp for everyone ages 2 and up. Camps include a twohour mini camp for the smallest animal lovers and their parents, half-day weekend camps, one-day camps and four-day camps. For those who love horses and want to learn more about them, try a fourday horsemanship camp. Busing from the Rustad Rec Center in West Fargo is offered for all day and four-day camps. rustykranch.com/camps.html

uCodeGirl

June 8-12

Our summer tech camp provides girls with project-based, hands-on experience with technology that inspires creativity, fosters collaboration, sharpens communication and cultivates critical thinking. Choose from two unique sessions categorized by age group, uCodeGirl Jr. (4th-6th grades), and uCodeGirl Sr. (7th-11th grades). UCodeGirl is a community of like-minded girls, inspiring female role models/mentors, and a rich collection of programs and activities offered throughout the year.

NDSU College of Business, Fargo ucodegirl.org

Red River Zoo Day Camps

Spend a week at the Red River Zoo participating in various activities such as outdoor adventures, crafts, animal encounters and more. Coordinated and led by the Education Department, children are sure to have an active, safe and fun experience. Each camp session has a different theme that will be explored throughout the week. Join us to discover animals and their habitats while having a wild time at the Red River Zoo!

Week-long sessions in June, July and August for preschool through sixth grade. redriverzoo.org

Family Wellness

It’s summer camp season at Family Wellness and we have activities to fit all children, ages 6-11. While each camp has a different theme, all offer fun in the sun, gym activities, splashing in the pool and a field trip at the end of each week. Our fullday camps are great for explorers wanting to have fun and learn.

familywellnessfargo.org/ youth-family/camps/

YMCA of Cass Clay

Camping, like many YMCA programs, is about learning skills, developing character and making friends. But few environments are as special as camp, where kids become a community as they learn both how to be more independent and how to contribute to a group as they engage in physical, social and educational activities. YMCA counselors are dedicated to making sure camp is an amazing experience for every camper. Weekly sessions run June through August. Find more details and register at ymcacassclay.org/camp.

Busy Beaver Camp: Half-day camping experience for ages 3-5

Camp Koda: Activities and exploration day camp for ages 6-11

Middle School Unplugged: Specialty camp for ages 11-14

Rock Climbing Mini Caps: Half-day camp for ages 7-14

Camp Cormorant: Overnight camp on Big Cormorant Lake for ages 7-14 ymcacassclay.org/camp

PARK DISTRICT ACTIVITIES

All of our local Park Districts offer numerous summer activates, programs and camps. From arts and crafts, to athletics and education, there’s something for all ages and interests.

Fargo Park District: fargoparks.com

West Fargo Park District: wfparks.org

Moorhead Park District: cityofmoorhead.com/departments/ parks-recreation/brochure-programs

SPORTS AND ATHLETICS

Ninja Summer Camp

Conquer Ninja Warrior summer camps! For ages 5-13, these summer camps are perfect for the ninjas in your family to come and play around on obstacles while learning technique and staying active. Monday through Thursday sessions in June, July and August. Sign up online at conquerninja.com/summercamp or call 701-232-6652. $150 per week, per person. Full members receive a 30 percent discount on all summer camps.

Conquer Ninja 3207 Main Ave, Suite A, Fargo conquerninja.com/summercamp

American Gold Gymnastics americangoldgymnastics.com/camps

ATA Martial Arts atafargo.com/programs/ children-martial-arts

Foss Swim School fossswimschool.com/swimming-lessonlocations/foss-swim-school-in-fargo-nd/

Just for Kix justforkix.com/danceclasses/dance-camps/

TNT Kids Fitness tntkidsfitness.org/camps/no-bummer-summer

Tri-City Storm Soccer Club tricitystorm.org/tcregistrations

NDSU, MSUM and Concordia College

all offer summer youth athletic camps for various sports. Visit the links below for more information.

NDSU: gobison.com/sports/2016/4/20/camps.aspx

MSUM : msumdragons.com/sports/2008/7/14/ GEN_0714082155.aspx

Concordia College: cobbersportscamps.com

ARTS AND THEATER

Fargo Moorhead Community Theatre

“The Addams Family”

Elementary and Middle School

Production Camps

Grades 2, 3 & 4

June 3 – June 26

Rehearsals Monday – Friday

9:00 AM – 4:00 PM

Performances June 24 & 25

Grades 5, 6, 7 & 8

June 3 – July 2

Rehearsals Monday – Friday

9:00 AM – 4:00 PM

Performances July 1 & 2 fmct.org/education

Summer Creative Camps

FMCT Ed is proud to present fun week-long camps for the entire summer! At FMCT Ed there’s something for everyone to enjoy. Be a part of our community of learners while we spend our days doing things that we love most – singing and dancing, creating and building, and challenging our imaginations while we develop life-long skills and wonderful friendships. If you love Hamilton or Disney, Shakespeare or Little Shop of Horrors there is a themed camp available for everyone from preschool up to eighth grade. Visit fmct.org/ education for camp dates and themes.

Trollwood Performing Arts School

trollwood.org/arts-programs/

Elevate Rock School

elevaterockschool.com/programs/

Plains Art Museum

Get creative with summer artist-led camps at the Plains Art Museum. Exploring topics such as surrealism, street art, clay and pottery, animation and more. public.plainsart.org/public/ youthfamily.faces

Bonnie Haney School of Dance

bonniehaneydance.com

MINNESOTA SLEEP-AWAY CAMPS

Camp Foley, Co-ed

Camp Foley is a co-ed, residential summer camp in north-central Minnesota. Camp Foley welcomes campers from all over the world each summer. Kids develop skills, build supportive relationships, grow in character and learn independence.

Pine River, MN campfoley.com

Osprey Wilds Environmental Learning Center

Help your child connect with the natural world and experience the joy, wonder, curiosity and amazement that immersion in nature can provide. Our camps focus on wildlife, nature, challenge and outdoor skills.

Sandstone, MN ospreywilds.org/ educational-programs/summer-camps/

Camp Lincoln for Boys and Camp Hubert for Girls

For over 110 years, Camp Lincoln for Boys and Camp Lake Hubert for Girls have excelled in providing one of the best sleepaway adventures in the United States. Our brother-sister camps are located on opposite sides of Lake Hubert. With top-ofthe-line activities and instruction, our family-run camps offer the perfect playground for skill-building, fostering emotional growth, and just having a blast. We know that choosing the best summer camp for your child is a huge decision, so please explore and discover why over 30,000 children from all over the globe have enjoyed spending their summers on the sunny shores of Lake Hubert.

Nisswa, MN lincoln-lakehubert.com

NORTH DAKOTA SLEEP-AWAY CAMPS

4-H Summer Camps

Washburn, ND ndsu.edu/camp

Metigoshe Ministries

Bottineau, ND metigosheministries.com/

Red Willow Bible Camp

Binford, ND redwillowbiblecamp.org

North Dakota Farmers Union Camp

Farmers Union Camp is like no other camp on earth, where city and farm kids have a blast just being themselves! Kids have fun doing hands-on activities and develop leadership skills, while learning about cooperatives.

ACTIVITIES:

Water Games

Campfire

• Theme Nights

• Talent Show

• Sports

• Games

Educational Camp Project

Banquet

Skits

• Dancing

• Swimming

• Co-op Store

• Climbing Wall

• Miniature Golf

• FUN!

LOCATION:

Camps are held near Valley City, Elgin and Devils Lake in June, July and August.

COST:

Senior Camp (grades 7-12)

5 days, 4 nights: $175

Junior Camp (grades 3-6)

4 days, 3 nights: $125

Transportation is provided. Cost includes meals, lodging, t-shirt and educational materials. Financial scholarships available. Register by May 15 to get $25 off camp fee!

CONTACT:

For more information and to register, go to ndfu.org, like “North Dakota Farmers Union” on Facebook, or call 800-366-8331.

“The girls had a great time at camp. They enjoyed every part of it. Their counselors in the cabin were the best, the girls said. Thank you again for making it this happen for our girls, we hope to come back next year. The girls are already taking about it!”

— The Feist Family

FARMERS UNION CAMP

Farmers Union Camp is for city and farm kids in grades 3-6 and 7-12. Camps are held near Valley City, Elgin and Devils Lake in June, July and August. Transportation is provided. Cost includes meals, lodging, t-shirt and educational materials. Sign up by May 15 to get $25 off camp fee. Financial scholarships are available. For more info or to register, go to ndfu.org, like “North Dakota Farmers Union” on Facebook or call 800-366-8331.

EXPERIENCE THE DEACON TRADITION

Providing exceptional faith-based education while inspiring excellence.

*3 yr old Little Deacons - 12th Grade *Scholarships are available

For information or a tour call 701-893-3271 jp2schools.org

small wonders

WORDS : AUBREY TYSON PHOTOGRAPHY : MIKE SMITH

For Lynnette Lein, president and founder of Small Wonders Preschool and Child Care Center, working with children has remained her passion project for thirty years.

Since March of 1999, Lein has been building a business based on faith and a dedication to connecting with children in a meaningful way.

Lein's strong educational background in marriage and family therapy and child development, along with strong faith and commitment to families and children, resulted in the creation of Small Wonders. Lein and her team joined together in a mission of providing a positive service and doing what is best for the community.

"We would be absolutely nothing without our team,” says Lein. “Everyone shares in the same belief of God. This belief has brought us all together, with a joint mission to do what's best for the community. We work together as a team to help raise kids while offering our support to guide towards balanced parenting while creating stable and positive family dynamics."

Lein feels blessed to have had the same strong team of people who have been with her from the beginning. She credits this to the family bond shared among the team members, families and children who attend any one of the three Small Wonders centers.

"All of our centers offer the same programs, with a Christian-based focus,” says Lein. “We offer full-day early childhood, pre-K programs and school-age programs for children aged six weeks to twelve years old."

The Small Wonders team works hard to build lasting bonds with the parents and their children who attend their facilities. Taking their jobs seriously, they offer parents the opportunity to connect with teachers and other employees throughout the day.

"Parents have said, if we have a question or a problem, you and your team take it to heart. You never make us feel like we are not validated. You make sure that no matter what it is, it gets fixed. This statement means a lot to my team and me. We value how our parents feel and make sure every one of them knows if they want to call me at any time with a concern, I welcome the call," adds Lein.

Lein's compassion and care for children go beyond the childcare facilities to her work within the Fargo-Moorhead community.

"Ever since I opened the doors to my first location, I knew I wanted to do something special for the kids,” says Lein. “Living in the country, I decided bringing children out to the country would be the perfect way to provide a new experience. I am blessed to offer multiple field trips to our pre-K and school-aged classrooms to visit my ‘farm’ to feed the horses, collect toads, to pick pumpkins and enjoy nature. This is truly a special bond that I have with the children, as I have been told that children remember this field trip for years. When I see former Small Wonders students in their teens and older, they still tell me how much they loved and remember visiting the farm."

With their constant support, faith-based curriculum and dedicated team members, Small Wonders, a staple in the Fargo-Moorhead community, is proud to have served families for the past twenty-one years.

Parents have said, if we have a question or a problem, you and your team take it to heart.

her choice to carry

WORDS : CAMBRIA LARSON

As women,

we love ‘love,’ don’t we? Well, it didn’t turn out to be love at all. Even though things were said, within a month I knew that I was carrying a baby. I found out I was pregnant. I was alone.”

Dolores vulnerably shared for the first time publicly what her unplanned pregnancy journey was like. The room was silent, respecting her authenticity and painful memories.

“I struggled with all kinds of emotions — including confusion, fear and hurt. There were certain things that remained constant. One of them was that God loved me. He wasn’t going to leave me. And abortion was not an option for me.”

Fortunately, Dolores sought community. She found a good church, met her doctor at the church, as well as a lawyer that would help through termination of rights, and friends who would walk beside her. Pregnancy as a single woman is hard, and carrying the stigma as well as the baby in the mid-1980s was a big deal.

Hurtful words many of us have said at one point or another did not sway Dolores from making an adoption plan

for her child. It is common to hear, “I could never give away my baby,” or, “I couldn’t handle wondering about my baby the rest of my life.” Two sentiments that are uninformed about the great care a woman takes in making her adoption plan and the understanding of what adoption openness can look like.

“I found a lot of women would love me, care for me, encourage me, but with all this going on, none of them could make the decisions for me.” When Dolores shared this with a room full of people at the Growing Forever Families fundraiser for Christian Adoption Services, each attendee could quietly reflect on what kind of support they have offered to a woman in an unexpected pregnancy. How are we serving women besides just voting “anti-abortion” or condemning abortion clinics?

“It was never about not wanting to raise her. It was always about wanting her to have the best life. I mournfully placed her in Jesus’ hands.” Dolores went on to introduce the couple she placed her daughter with in a semi-open adoption. In the banquet hall at the Holiday Inn, a community of supporters looked on as a photo appeared of Dolores meeting her now-adult daughter. Their story was still unfolding, and they graciously invited us to be part of it, hoping to encourage more adoption advocates.

when abortion is not an option

It was always about wanting her to have the best life.

Each spring, Christian Adoption Services invites our Fargo community to hear these personal stories of local adoption. Attending and listening to someone’s journey opens the door to truth about the joys and pains of the adoption process. Those who attend have a chance to reflect on our influence within our circles to encourage life and support a mom.

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Be part of the community in support of life. christianadoptionservices.org/gff

Dolores (right) meeting her daughter for the first time as an adult.

footitt homes

attention to detail

When Bob Footitt Jr. took over the family business several years ago, his goal was to continue the decades-long tradition of custom craftsmanship and attention to detail. A tour of this classic Fargo masterpiece, filled with luxurious finishes and a modern floor plan, showcases Footitt's achievement of this goal.

WORDS : TAMIE ZACCHEA PHOTOGRAPHY : J. ALAN PAUL PHOTOGRAPHY

THE DESIGN PROCESS

began with the homeowner, who envisioned a grand, welcoming entrance and long windows to let in maximum light. He began his quest at Simonson’s Lumber, with a photo of a home with large pillars and a formal dining room. “This is the look I want,” he said. So began the design of a meticulously appointed home.

The craftsmanship of the one-of-a kind double front door from Simonson’s Lumber makes a statement both inside and out. Footitt worked with Hebron Brick to design a walkway and surround worthy of these spectacular doors, and, of course, the columns that started it all. With at least 10-foot ceilings throughout the main floor and an open floor plan, the graceful arches and custom stained glass of the front door are visible from almost any angle. “When the sun is setting, the colors from the front door shine through the house into the backyard,” says the homeowner.

The nucleus of the main floor is the great room, featuring cathedral ceilings and a 12-foot fireplace, with a surround created from gray granite. The fireplace is roughly twice the size of a standard fireplace and produces an enormous amount of heat. To accommodate the venting needs without disturbing the lines of the fireplace surround, Red River Tile created custom Chameleon brand venting out of porcelain tile. The decorative venting adds to the design, rather than detracting from it. The homeowner’s choice of royal blue as an accent color brings the sky inside even on a cloudy day.

The great room segues seamlessly into the spacious kitchen, designed by Cathy Michels, certified kitchen designer, and fabricated by Wood Specialists, Inc. Elegant crown molding ceiling detail defines the space, which features cherry cabinetry throughout. Appliances were fitted with coordinating panels to blend quietly into the design. A butler’s pantry, multiple sinks and seating for six complete this gorgeous and still ultra-functional kitchen.

The dining room is elegance defined. Subtly set apart via cherrywood paneled arches and grey marble flooring, the space is beautifully lit with a wall of windows by day, and sparkling chandeliers by night. For ease in serving, Footitt worked with Wood Specialists, Inc. to provide custom cabinetry immediately off the dining room, continuing the palette of cherry wood in gradients of finish. The custom cabinetry is topped with Cambria Landscape.

This is a home created to entertain family and friends in comfort, and nowhere is that more apparent than in the lower level. Footitt recreated the homeowner’s dream fireplace for this space. “I just showed him the pictures and they did it,” says the homeowner. “Bob’s team, they just knew how to create it.” Hebron Brick worked with Footitt to bring the homeowner’s dream fireplace to life and Wood Specialists, Inc. and Cathy Michels created the bar space. With his unfailing eye for detail, Footitt made sure to create a landscape outside the lower level windows via custom limestone window wells that flow into the backyard landscaping. The lower level also features two guest rooms, a guest bath, a playroom and other amenities.

The backyard is an oasis of entertaining possibilities, with covered areas and multiple firepits, an outdoor kitchen and spa. Working with Footitt, Hebron Brick designed and installed numerous seating arrangements, providing the homeowners outdoor options in all but the worst of weather. Black rock defines the planting beds and coordinates with the slate exterior of the house, while transitioning smoothly with the limestone seating installations. Nearly undetectable is the drainage system. “We had to send water a long way from the house,” says Footitt. “Rich from Hebron used a combination of deep underground drains along with river rock beds, which look great aesthetically but also function really well.”

When attention to detail prevails, the result is a home that functions beautifully and is beautifully functional. Whether it’s an entire home or one room, attention to detail makes all the difference.

WHY GUT IT?

refresh it and save

with KITCHEN REFRESH

Q:

What do clients love about your process? A:

It’s Fast – 1-5 day transformations

It’s Beautiful – numerous color choices, designer hardware, doors with style longevity

It’s Affordable – with the savings our clients experience with our system, many are able to add additional features like new countertops, backsplash and flooring

Made in NORTH DAKOTA – that’s right, our doors are made in Bismarck, and we are proud to be homegrown.

Q:

A:

What is your process?

Kitchen Refresh’s process is simple. The old doors and drawer fronts in your kitchen are removed, and brand-new custom doors and drawer fronts are created, using a wide variety of finish options and styles available to our clients. All of the doors have concealed soft-close hinges and new pull hardware. We also replace the drawer fronts on the client’s existing drawer boxes (which also get new pull hardware). Then the cabinet boxes are painted in a custom coordinated finish created to accompany all of our various finish options. We can also add panel ends, manufacture and install all new soft-close drawers, and remove or add cabinets, including islands and pantries.

Q:

Overwhelmed on where to start? A:

We have you covered. Our designer can meet with you in your home or in our West Fargo studio to cover all your goals for the space and assist you in not only making selections and adding function to the space, but having some fun throughout the process. We've also just added a remote video consultation option.

What makes your product different from companies similar to yours? A:

Other companies talk about ordering their products direct from the manufacturer. In our case, all Kitchen Refresh doors, drawer fronts, panel ends, crown molding and other items are manufactured by Kitchen Refresh. This ensures a higher quality standard and a lower price than thirdparty manufacturers. Also, because Kitchen Refresh is the manufacturer, there are literally hundreds of different door finish options, as opposed to a small handful that others might offer.

Q:Tell us about the free design consultation.

A:It’s not uncommon for remodelers to charge a hefty fee for a design consultation. Our design Kitchen Refresh consultations are always free. They are a big part of helping our clients navigate through the difficult decision process of recommendations such as finish color and hardware style. Additionally we look at using a client's budget most efficiently to integrate costeffective upgrades or improvements.

Q:What are some fun additions your team has helped clients with? A:

Our team has removed peninsulas and added islands, opening up the space for clients. We love adding functionality to client’s homes through the use of pantry and cabinet rollouts, and garbage and recycling rollouts, and the use of countless organizational units. We love designing custom tile backsplashes and adding new flooring. Fun additions like banquettes with storage and full pantry walls are also elements we have installed in clients’ homes. With a full-service designer and contractor teaming up, there really isn’t much we can’t tackle for clients.

On January 23rd Fargo Elim experienced a devastating fire. Our Residents and Children were successfully relocated with the assistance of our phenomenal staff, local fire fighter, police force, ambulance & emergency management. We are so grateful to all the dedicated professionals that made the evacuation successful and we humbly thank all the neighbors, volunteers, nursing homes, and businesses that opened their hearts and their doors to our residents, children and staff. After serving seniors for over half a decade we intend on recovering and maintaining our presence in this amazing community; we hope for another 100 years!

Pioneer House is still open to serve you. Thankfully our Assisted Living remains undamaged, open and continues to serve the Fargo community today.

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relationships are

WORDS : TARA EKREN

You know that feeling when you walk into your favorite coffee shop and they know your order? Or, you go to your hair appointment and your hairdresser asks how your daughter’s graduation party went? It is nice to have someone who listens, cares and knows you.

You know how comforting this can be if you have a similar relationship with your health care provider. If you don’t, know that this kind of relationship is possible when you establish a primary care provider, also known as a PCP. This provider will get to know you professionally, personally and make sure your health and well-being are their top priorities.

“It’s important to find a primary care provider who can get to know you, develop a relationship with you, have a deeper understanding of your medical issues and concerns and help keep you up to date on routine screenings, preventive care and vaccinations,” says Sara

This provider becomes familiar with your lifestyle, your family and other factors that might affect your care. They can also tailor your care to meet your individual needs. You see the same provider for routine care as well as chronic disease management, so there is a continuity of care that’s beneficial. This provider will see the big picture of your health and know that a cough that won’t go away or fatigue could be related to a more significant issue.

Benefits of a PCP

“In my experience, I’ve had several patients do routine screenings and we’ve caught things like cancer at early stages,” Schafer shares. “Another benefit is that I’m able to coordinate care for patients with complex issues who are seeing multiple specialists within the health system. I’m able to make sure we are all on the same page with the patient’s care.”

SARA SCHAFER became a nurse at Essentia Health in 2012 before beginning her nurse practitioner education. She has been a family medicine nurse practitioner since 2016.

Schafer, a nurse practitioner in family medicine at Essentia Health.

important in many aspects of life

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Choosing your PCP

When you’re looking to establish care with a primary care provider, there are a few things to consider.

♦ Are you looking for a medical doctor, a physician assistant or a nurse practitioner? Medical doctors and physician assistants are trained in the medical model or disease-centered model of care and both have advanced educations. A nurse practitioner is trained in the nursing model or patient-centered model of care and has nursing experience before advanced education. All providers are well qualified to care for you and, at Essentia Health, we encourage our providers to practice at the top of their licensure.

♦ Maybe you want to pick a clinic location close to home or work. Ask your friends and family for recommendations, or choose a provider based on their gender. You can visit EssentiaHealth.org to research clinic locations, providers at those locations and view biographies and videos of providers.

Family Medicine

Family medicine or family practice providers see people of all ages, from infants to elderly. Family medicine encompasses patients with both chronic (long developing) and acute (sudden) conditions. They can provide well-child checks and routine screenings; address male-and female-specific health concerns and exams; give vaccinations; and offer care related to family planning and birth control. They also can manage chronic conditions and diagnose and treat a wide range of illnesses, infections and injuries; provide nutrition and exercise guidance and perform preventive care visits.

Family medicine can care for your entire family. When your family sees one provider, that provider can get to know the entire family and build relationships individually and together. “It’s rewarding to see families grow and change over the years,” Schafer says.

READY TO SCHEDULE YOUR VISIT?

You can call 701-364-8900 to schedule your appointment or visit essentiahealth.org to make an appointment online.

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menopause misconceptions

In reality, perimenopause (also known as menopause transition) starts around the age of 35 when the natural decline in reproductive hormones begins.

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Hot flashes and night sweats certainly may point to menopause, but there are other common symptoms associated with perimenopause and menopause, such as:

♦ Mood Swings or High Irritability

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♦ Sadness or Depression

♦ Headaches/Migraines

♦ Breast Changes

♦ Memor y Loss or "Foggy Thinking"

♦ Exhaustion

♦ Constant Fatigue

♦ Insomnia

♦ Painful Sexual Intercourse

♦ Irregular Menstrual Cycles

♦ Decreased Libido

♦ Indigestion

♦ Vaginal Dryness

♦ Sudden Cravings and Weight Gain

While treating each of these symptoms individually may be worthwhile, it's possible there is an underlying issue that is affecting all of these areas, such as hormonal imbalance. Instead of caring for each individual symptom, it's wise to determine if there is an underlying problem that is causing multiple symptoms in the body.

“All Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) is the same.”

In actuality, within HRT there are not only different hormones a person can replace, but also a number of routes of administration with very important differences in how each individual person will respond. Those include: topical creams, vaginal creams, pellets, sustained (or immediate) release capsules, troche lozenges and sublingual drops. Patients should be educated on what is best for their own goals and lifestyle.

“I don't have to worry about menopause until I'm at least 50 years old.”

“My depression, anxiety, and sleep issues are all individual problems.”

“Hot flashes and night sweats are the only symptoms of menopause.”

WORDS : HEATHER NOVAK, RPh, PharmD PHOTOGRAPHY : Andrea Piacquadio from Pexels.com

Hormones fluctuate due to stress, diet, exercise, sleep, heat, environmental factors and more. So, while supplementing with hormone replacement may be beneficial, it's reasonable to also strive for goals of weight loss, increasing your energy levels, enjoying higher libido, and having more rejuvenating sleep by improving your diet, exercise, sleeping habits and adding nutritional supplements.

InHealth Specialty Pharmacy offers individual consultations to discuss all of these areas with patients. During and after an initial 45-minute consultation with a patient, InHealth works closely with patients and their healthcare provider to develop a customized approach to improving their symptoms and overall health. That may include a recommendation for hormone replacement, but it’s not just that. InHealth also helps develop a plan to improve sleep and fitness levels, and help make nutritious and delicious food choices as well.

For those interested in learning more or would like to get started with a hormone and wellness consult at InHealth Specialty Pharmacy, simply text “hormone” to 31996 or visit inhealthcompounding.com/balance.

InHealth Specialty Pharmacist Heather Novak RPh, PharmD is a 2004 graduate of NDSU College of Pharmacy. With specialized training through Professional Compounding Centers of America, Heather has over 15 years of experience in compounding and hormone therapy. She has a passion for helping patients with their hormone and nutritional health.

“HRT will make me feel like a whole new woman.”

redefining memory loss: “Creating Connections in Caregiving”

WORDS : DEB KAUL

“Cognitive impairment is such an isolating disease,” says Dale Rivard, a former deputy State’s attorney from Grand Forks who is undergoing tests to determine what is causing his progressive cognitive impairment. “The stigma associated with dementia is so powerful. From the moment you are diagnosed, people look at you differently, and they treat you differently. They avoid you.”

Unfortunately, significant loneliness among caregivers and individuals living with significant memory loss is endemic. The stigma associated with memory loss, especially if it’s associated with Alzheimer’s disease or related dementia, causes most individuals with the condition to deny or ignore the cognitive changes they are experiencing. They avoid visiting with their medical providers about their concerns and often deny to themselves and others that anything is wrong.

Instead, they live in denial, isolate themselves in their homes, and become apathetic, lonely, anxious and depressed. Sadly, their loved ones often follow suit. Hopelessness, helplessness and a sense of powerlessness frequently set in and too often become significant mental health concerns for these individuals.

Memory Café is passionate about liberating these individuals from this debilitating stigma. We want to change the culture and language associated with memory loss by shifting the stereotypical tragedy narrative of dementia to one of hope and empowerment. Many people, like Kate Swaffer, Christine Bryden and Dale Rivard are demonstrating that it is possible to live well and long with various causes of significant memory loss, including dementia. But, in order to do so you need support, education and community engagement.

“It is indeed possible to change what is referred to as the ‘long good-bye’ into a ‘long hello,’” says Cathy Greenblat, Ph.D. in "Love, Loss and Laughter., Looking at Alzheimer's Differently." Shifting our focus from a biomedical model to a social model that views dementing illnesses primarily as disabilities is key to successfully shifting this paradigm. How the individual is affected by the disability is dramatically shaped by the quality of care,” she says.

Memory Café agrees. We provide impactful programming that instills effective strategies for maintaining capacities, independence, and quality of life for individuals living with memory loss and their care partners. It provides a warm, safe place for people living with memory loss and their care partners to meet with others who are living with similar circumstances.

“It’s so important to get out of the house and meet with others

who are living with the same condition,” states Rivard. “Just because some doors close on you and it’s completely devastating doesn’t mean you give up. You don’t. Dementia is a disability you need to deal with. It’s so helpful to focus on what you can do.”

Rivard and others living with cognitive impairment will participate in Memory Café’s annual “Redefining Memory Loss” caregiver conference in June. He will be joined in a panel discussion by several care partners. Our keynote speaker, Cameo Rogers from Omaha, Nebraska, will focus on educating and supporting caregivers who frequently feel frustrated, judged, alone, unequipped and exhausted. Cameo will help caregivers identify ways to improve communication, both verbal and non-verbal. She will help them identify the remaining abilities and strengths of their care recipients in order to prevent and manage behavioral expressions and maintain dignity. She will also encourage participants to share their stories and focus on self-support resources and strategies, such as mindfulness. Cameo is a passionate advocate for caregivers.

THE CONFERENCE IS OPEN TO professional and community caregivers, and will be held on June 4 from 10:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. at the Holiday Inn in Fargo. To register call 701-404-6712 or search “redefining memory loss” at eventbrite.com. The registration fee, which includes lunch, is $30 for community members and $60 for professionals. Approved for 4.0 hours ND LSW CEUs.

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Caregiver Conference

Caregiver Conference

Redefining Memory Loss: Creating Connections in Caregiving

FOR those who want to learn practical strategies to support individuals living with dementia.

For professionals and community members who want to learn practical strategies to support individuals living with dementia.

Focus on the Person

Focus on understanding what is happening to the person, how to be present, how dementia impacts communication, and how to improve caregiving

Sharing Stories and Strength

Taking Time For You

JUNE 4, 2020 — 10:00-4:00 Holiday Inn

Focus on identifying strengths, using strengths to prevent and manage behavioral expressions, and to create positive moments for caregiver and person living with dementia

» KEYNOTE SPEAKER

Focus on supportive strategies for caregivers to manage personal well-being and resources to support them. Includes panel discussion.

Cameo Rogers

» keynote speaker

is a sought after presenter at various state and national level conferences.

Cameo Rogers is a sought after presenter at various state and national level conferences.

Focus on the Person

JUNE 4, 2020—10:00-4:00 Holiday Inn 1

thursday JUNE 4, 2020

10:00-4:00—lunch provided

Focus on understanding what is happening to the person, how to be present, how dementia impacts communication, and how to enhance caregiving.

Holiday Inn 3803 13th Ave S Fargo

SESSION

Cameo Rogers is a sought after presenter at various state and national level conferences.

Focus on the Person

Sharing Stories and Strength

PROGRAM SCHEDULE

Focus on understanding what is happening to the person, how to be present, how dementia impacts communication, and how to enhance caregiving.

Focus on identifying strengths, using strengths to prevent and manage behavioral expressions, and creating moments of joy for everyone involved.

10:00 – 10:30 Registration | Vendors

10:30 – 12:00 Session 1

12:00 -1:00 Lunch provided | Vendors

Taking Time for You and Panel Discussion

SESSION

She served on an expert panel presentation for a screening of the Glen Campbell documentary, “I’ll Be Me.” She was awarded the NCCDP 2017 National Certified Dementia Practitioner of the Year Award. Cameo was a contributing author to the book, “Foundations of Therapeutic Recreation” discussing best practices in therapeutic, strengths-based interventions for older adults. Cameo’s professional experience includes serving older adults in community-based services, independent living, assisted living, memory care, long-term care, rehabilitation, and in-patient acute psychiatric care.

Cameo is a Certified Therapeutic Recreation Specialist, Dementia—Practitioner, Care Manager, Support Group Facilitator, and a Alzheimer’s and Dementia Instructor through the National Council of Certified Dementia Practitioners. She is currently completing her graduate work at the University of Nebraska Omaha in Social Gerontology. Cameo is a passionate advocate for enhancing knowledge, skills, and resources for those serving as caregivers.

1:00 – 2:15 Session 2

2:15 – 2:30 Break | Vendors

Sharing Stories and Strength Focus on identifying strengths, using strengths to prevent and manage behavioral expressions, and creating moments of joy for everyone involved.

Focus on supportive strategies in managing personal well-being and identifying resources to support the caregiver. Panel discussion to include caregivers and individuals living with dementia.

2:30 – 3:30 Session 3

3:30 – 4:00 Panel Discussion

SESSION

Focus on supportive strategies

For professionals and community members who want to learn practical strategies to support individuals living with dementia

Keynote Speaker Cameo Rogers

the BUFF life

FAITH:

ECCLESIASTES 3:11

As the season changes to spring, we watch as the dirt is washed away, grass turns from brown to green, and flowers begin to bloom. There is so much beauty in this season. This Bible verse from Ecclesiastes reminds me not only of what God does through the seasons of winter and spring, but also what He is doing through the many seasons of our lives. Whatever season you may be going through right now, just remember that God’s plans are greater. If you could see the size of the blessings coming, then you would understand the magnitude of the battle and season you are facing. God makes everything beautiful in it’s perfect time, so I am encouraging you that no matter how hard it is, trust that God is doing an incredible work through this season of your life. Amen!

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Good vibes are in the air, as we delight in spring’s arrival. We’ve all got a little more pep in our step this time of year. Breathing in the fresh spring air, feeling that warm sunshine beam down on our smiling faces. It’s what I call a healthy dose of vitamin D, and a whole lot of good vibes! Spring is a time for all things fresh, clean and new. My goal for you is to step into The BUFF Life. Choose to fully live life, prioritizing the principles BUFF represents: Believers Uniting Fitness & Food. I break this down each month by discussing faith, family, fitness and food, to unite and connect all of us. Welcome to The BUFF Life, I’m so glad you’re here!

two FAMILY: Staycation Fun

We love going on vacation, but more than that, we love new experiences as a family. Sometimes our favorite experiences happen at home, as a staycation. We like doing new and fun things together, so something we had never done before was renting a motor home. This was also one of Kendra’s dreams … she’s 9 years old, and this was a dream come true!

We rented a motor home from Outlet Recreation and spent the weekend in it … at home, in our driveway. We made such great memories, driving it everywhere we went (in Fargo) and each night we parked in our driveway, all four of us snuggled up inside this “home away from home,” playing cards, watching movies and eating popcorn like we were somewhere out in the wilderness. Our family would encourage yours to try something new at home. Perhaps you can plan your next camping trip in your living room! It’s not about where you go, but rather who you’re with and the memories you’re making.

FITNESS: Hello Date Night!

Carl and I love working out together and love having fitness date nights (or date days). We especially enjoy trying new group fitness classes, as these not only challenge us, but also bond us. New experiences are great in bringing people closer together, and the sense of community in the classes we attend is so supportive and encouraging. Whether it’s a high intensity circuit training class or a yoga class, group fitness classes give us a chance to participate without having to plan anything. Step out of your comfort zone, try a new class with your significant other or even plan a fitness date with your bestie.

“He has made everything beautiful in its time.”

WORDS & PHOTOGRAPHY : ASHLEY SORNSIN

FourFOOD:

This Frozen Fruit Bark is a delicious and nutritious snack (and dessert) that’s not only super easy to make, but also a lot of fun to make! There are so many ways to make this; each family member can make their own version. Get creative and have fun using different toppings (we like mixing up the fruit, adding nuts, seeds, granola and chocolate chips too).

I used a non-dairy yogurt and opted to add in fruit and dairy-free chocolate chips, but you can use what works for your family. It’s the perfect anytime healthy snack or dessert you’ll want to make every week!

Frozen Fruit Bark

recipe:

2 cups nondairy plain yogurt (almond yogurt)

¼ cup maple syrup (or honey)

1 teaspoon vanilla extract

⅓ cup blueberries

⅓ cup raspberries

⅓ cup strawberries, sliced

¼ cup chocolate chips (dairy free)

directions:

1. Mix yogurt with maple syrup and vanilla, set aside

2. Line a pan with parchment paper, spread the yogurt mixture in a thin layer.

3. Add fruit and any other toppings you desire.

4. Pop into the freezer and once frozen, break into pieces.

5. Keep stored in the freezer and enjoy!

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NON-FICTION passion for technical writing started at ndsu

ERIN NYREN is a scientist, business owner, lifelong-learning enthusiast, teacher and writer.

She traveled a diverse career path before learning that her true passion was teaching kids about science and writing. But the lessons she learned as an undergraduate and graduate student at North Dakota State University helped her achieve success.

“I was very fortunate that so many of my professors at NDSU had a passion for teaching. Their greatest concern was that their students learned, and that they understood the material. They gave very generously of their time and energy,” says Nyren.

Nyren discovered her love for teaching during her time at NDSU. She was asked a few times as a student to do demonstrations and experiments, and talk with girls about becoming scientists. She also mentored other undergraduates and pharmacy students while completing her doctoral degree.

“The most rewarding experience of my career thus far was hearing the stories parents told me about how excited their children were about science, especially when parents of preschoolers would tell me their kids taught them something new,” Nyren says.

Nyren said one of the most difficult decisions was making the choice to pursue a career outside the laboratory. Much of her education and early career was aimed at entering a research setting. Individuals with similar educational backgrounds often begin a post-doctoral fellowship after their doctorate, or they pursued another research-related career.

“Ultimately, I felt that I’d have a more fulfilling career making use of my writing and teaching skills,” says Nyren, who is a technical writer for Aldevron, a biotech company which manufacturers custom plasmids, RNA and gene editing enzymes at its headquarters in Fargo, and additional facilities in Madison, Wisconsin, and Freiburg, Germany.

At Aldevron, Nyren edits and helps manage the company’s procedural and manufacturing documents. The knowledge she learned through her time at NDSU made the subjects she reads and reviews every day more familiar and the work experience much smoother.

WORDS : BRYNN RAWLINGS PHOTOGRAPHY : JUSTIN EILER

“I built my skill as a writer and editor throughout my education. I wrote several publications while earning my doctorate,” she says. “I wrote and edited lessons and other teaching materials, and did freelance editing for other members of the scientific community. These set up a strong foundation for the writing and editing I do now at Aldevron.”

Nyren says technical writing and editing can offer a wealth of opportunity. There is currently a great need for writers in the fields of pharmaceuticals, biomedical manufacturing and engineering. Several companies that could use technical writers are headquartered in the Fargo area. Many, including Aldevron, have close ties to NDSU and can offer opportunities that may not be seen elsewhere.

Nyren started a business called Discovery Express in 2003. In the beginning, she taught after-school science programs at local preschools and elementary schools. Programs covered as many of the sciences as possible. There were two constants to every lesson — they needed to be hands-on and they needed to be fun and relaxed.

“We always aimed to give the kids something they could remember,” Nyren says. “Not necessarily because they had to memorize anything or study for it, but because they remembered the experience, making it easier to learn the science behind the activity.”

Today, Discovery Express remains a company focused on getting kids interested in science through books, lessons, kits and games.

Nyren earned her bachelor’s degree in biotechnology, and her master’s and doctoral degree in pharmaceutical sciences, all at NDSU.

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"Living with Grief" is our monthly drop-in meeting on the first Tuesday of the month held at Boulger Funeral Home. A topic on loss and grief begins our conversation for the evening. for more info: boulgerfuneralhome.com

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griefsupport@boulgerfuneralhome.com

Photography by Alecs Peters

These meetings are led by our Grief Support Coordinators Sonja Kjar and Ann Jacobson.

TEAM

FROM LEFT TO RIGHT: RUBY, SALLY, JAX, ELSIE, VIRGIL, ERICH AND KIT RICHARDSON

RICHARDSON

WORDS : REBECCA MEIDINGER

PHOTOGRAPHY

The ultrasound gel warm on her already bulging belly and her nerves a jumble of excited anticipation, Sally Richardson gasped when she saw two babies cuddling side by side on the screen. After many grueling weeks and months of fertility treatments and negative pregnancy tests, she ecstatically stared at the miracles growing inside her. “Two babies! We can do that!” Erich her husband, who takes all things in stride, nodded calmly. As the technician moved the tool around her belly, the screen changed, and the two babies seemed to change position. “So that must be the babies at a different angle?”

“Well, um, no,” responded the technician, hesitating. “Those are actually different babies.”

“You mean, like four babies? Ha. Nice joke.”

“No, I’m not joking. Yes, four babies. You’re having quads.”

Stunned silence filled the room. Erich stared at the ground, unable to say a word. “I didn’t say a word until at least the next day. I was just in shock. I couldn’t talk.” But Sally, the extrovert of the marriage, was bursting to talk. After telling the poor technician, Bob, to “Shut up!” she then turned her attention to the nurses and kept saying, “We got this. We got this. We got this,” while Erich continued to stare silently at the floor. “Thankfully I went back to work right after the appointment and was able to talk to my teaching team. I walked right in and held up four fingers. ‘Four? What? What are you talking about?’ ‘Babies! I’m having four babies!’”

When you tell someone you’re pregnant with quads, you don’t get the same response as when you tell them about a ‘normal’ pregnancy.”

FROM LEFT TO RIGHT: VIRGIL, RUBY, ELSIE, JAX AND KIT

When they first met as rival West Fargo swim coaches, Erich with the Sheyenne Mustangs and Sally the WFHS Packers, they never could have imagined that, together, they would one day dive into the wild, unchartered waters of parenting quads. Sally, being an eighth grade science teacher for West Fargo Public Schools, and Erich, directing the YMCA’s Gators swim program and head-coaching Sheyenne High School’s swim teams, are both highly invested in the youth of our community. Sharing a love for kids, their dating conversations revolved around their desires for children even before they broached the topic of marriage. As wedding bells rang, they jumped in head first but then struggled to achieve pregnancy for their entire first year of marriage. Sally’s obsession with learning everything there was to know about fertility cycles intensified with every devastating pregnancy test. Shortly after their first anniversary they embarked on a long and emo-

MARRIAGE, INFERTILITY

tional journey of fertility treatments. A grueling year later, they finally received the news they’d waited so long for. On Feb. 13th, 2017, they welcomed a beautiful bundle of joy named Elsie Kate.

Upon Elsie’s first birthday, swimming along peacefully as a party of three, Erich and Sally jumped back into the tumult of family planning. Six rounds of IUI later (intra-uterine insemination), a test finally showed positive. Relief and joy flooded the Richardson’s. Erich recalls, “These quads are the result of our last ditch effort. We were giving it one more go.” Almost immediately Sally began noticing a change in this pregnancy. The sickness, bloating and showing were way ahead of pace. “I knew there was more than one. There had to be. It did not feel normal.” A short time later, at only five weeks, the early ultrasound showed her why … her very own relay team was swimming around in her belly.

“When you tell someone you’re pregnant with quads, you don’t get the same response as when you tell them about a ‘normal’ pregnancy.” Excited but also nervous for them, their communities immediately surrounded them. Sally’s teaching colleagues donated cribs and showered the Richardson’s with love and gifts. Additionally, in true swim-family fashion, the Fargo-Moorhead-West Fargo swimming community gathered around them with tremendous team spirit and generosity. The stacks of donated diapers in their garage multiplied as the pregnancy progressed. Being the athlete she is, Sally carried four babies like a champ, teaching fulltime up to 28 weeks and never needing bed rest. During her checkup at 30 weeks and 3 days, Sally’s doctor informed them that due to some concerns about a couple of the babies, it was go time. “Today is the day. These babies are coming today.”

RUBY BRIDGET

VIRGIL ERICHJAX AARON

KIT JESSALYN

READY OR NOT

“We were like, ‘Um, can we have an hour or so to do some things first? We didn’t come here expecting to have four babies today.’” After calling the grandparents, arranging care for Elsie, juggling coaches for a huge swim meet and packing their bags, Erich and Sally were back at Sanford prepping for C-section. On Mar. 8, 2019, (just a few weeks after big sister Elsie turned 2) four tiny, healthy, beautiful babies were born: Virgil Erich, 2 pounds, 14 ounces; Ruby Bridget, 3 pounds, 4 ounces; Jax Aaron, 3 pounds, 7ounces; Kit Jessalyn, 2 pounds, 5 ounces. Supermom Sally handled the delivery like a rock star, and true to their calm nature, not even having four babies in the NICU caused Erich and Sally to panic. Ruby was born with a hole in her heart, which healed on its own but still requires quarterly EKGs, and also needed an eye surgery early on. Kit, after failing the newborn hearing screening multiple times, needed tubes inserted in her ears to reduce fluid. Even so, the chill parents just rolled with it. “I just told the NICU staff, ‘You guys tell me when to worry. I’m not going to Google everything. I don’t need that stress. I’ll worry when you tell me to.’” Big sister Elsie got to know her baby brothers and sisters by watching NICU videos at home and listening to her parents’ stories. After five to seven weeks in the NICU, each baby came home one by one during a two-week period in late April. Each welcome home celebration was a day to rejoice as Elsie met her siblings.

You just gotta learn to be okay with a baby crying. I mean, they’re babies. They cry.”

PROUD GRANDMOTHER IONE SAUTNER MEETS BABY JAX FOR THE FIRST TIME A FEW HOURS AFTER BEING BORN.

A DAY’S WORK

And then one day there were seven, all under one roof. Two grownups and five children ages 2 and under. Four babies who needed additional night time feedings due to their small size, as well as cuddling, diaper changing, bathing, dressing, singing to, rocking and comforting, as well as a toddler who loved to “help” as much as possible. If you, like me, are wondering how in the world this is possible, Erich’s candor says it all, “Yeah. It’s out of control. It’s insane.” And yet, when you’re around the family, it’s clear that things are actually incredibly under control and surprisingly sane. Performing like an all-star relay team, Sally and Erich juggle two full-time careers while keeping their children at home each day. Most weekday mornings Erich is out of the house shortly after 5:00 for early morning swim practices. Supermom Sally’s day starts about the same time with an intricate dance of feed a baby, take a shower, feed a baby, get dressed for work, change a diaper, do her hair, make another bottle, brew a pot of coffee, lay a baby down for an early morning nap, put her makeup on, find a pacifier, find her shoes, change a diaper, pack her lunch. (Anyone else exhausted yet?)

By the time Erich gets home, Sally is ready to sprint out the door, taking a moment to give him a quick rundown of the morning report — “This baby didn’t get her bottle yet, this baby was just changed, this baby has a stinky diaper, here’s when to give Ruby her heart meds … go team!” And with that she passes the baton, throws a kiss, and is out the door.

For the next eight hours, Superdad Erich takes charge, feeding, changing, soothing, playing, reading and being a chill, champion dad. “Yeah, I mean, it can get a little crazy. But it’s mostly peaceful I’d say. It’s getting a lot better now that we know how they all tick. You just gotta learn to be okay with a baby crying. I mean, they’re babies. They cry. So if someone is freaking out while I’m changing someone else’s diaper or feeding another baby, I’m just like, ‘It’s okay buddy, I’ll be with you as soon as I can,’ and until then I just know he or she is going to cry. It just is what it is.” An immeasurable gift in this crazy life is that both Erich and Sally’s parents live just a few blocks away. “Our parents are all in. I mean, all the way in. They all have car seats in their cars, Pack ‘n Plays at their houses, and they help us out as much as possible.” If big sister Elsie needs some extra one-on-one time, grandparents are quick to jump in and whisk her away for an afternoon. If a baby needs to be rocked and there aren’t enough parental arms to go around, grandparents are ready to rock. If a parent needs a sanity break, relief is just a text away. “Our entire families have come on board to help us. We couldn’t do this without them.”

After school Sally sprints home so that Erich can meet her at the door, give her the afternoon report, and pass off the parenting baton. Erich then heads to a full six hours of swim practice, with the Sheyenne teams first and then Gators for the rest of the evening. Sally, in turn, undertakes the tremendous task of feeding supper to four babies and a toddler. Astonished, with my jaw all the way open, I asked her how in the world she accomplishes such a feat. With a flippant wave of her hand, she responds, “Oh, it’s just an assembly line.” Using a table with builtin highchairs, she seats all the babies in a row and goes down the line one bite at a time, while big sis provides their entertainment by dancing around the living room. After the babies get bathed and tucked in, Elsie and Sally steal a little one-on-one time before an exhausted mama tucks in the toddler. By the time Erich arrives back home around 9:30, the house is quiet, allowing Mom and Dad to eat a calm dinner together and get a few hours of sleep before the nighttime bottles begin. And then at the bright and shiny hour of 5:00 a.m., it all starts again.

SOLITARY SANITY

The surprisingly relaxed manner in which Erich and Sally parent is evident and inspiring. Rather than being frazzled and stressed by the constant onslaught of needs, Erich approaches it all with his typical chill demeanor. Sally, having the ability to embrace the crazy with humor and wit, attributes her own calmness to Erich and Lexapro. “Well, being married to him has calmed me down. He almost never gets flustered, much less stressed. And, I mean, let’s be honest, I’m on anxiety meds, and I’m not ashamed to say it.” After a few desperate months of feeling like she was going crazy, Sally wisely and bravely sought the help of her doctor. She’s been able to enjoy the wild ride and never-ending demands of motherhood so much more ever since. “Also, we quickly realized that to maintain household peace we needed “solitary zones” where a baby can cry in a safe place.” Outfitting two bedrooms as such, with Pack ‘n Plays, blankies and stuffed animals, has helped everyone retain their sanity, especially during various late-night crying fits, Kit’s colicky stage, and Virgil’s daily late afternoon meltdowns. The entire downstairs family room of their bi-level, in turn, has been transformed into a beautiful large nursery area, housing four cribs (all donated by teachers and painted white), four matching changing tables, video monitors, stuffed animals and beautiful photography of the babies and big sister Elsie.

So does any part of this journey bring Sally and Erich to their wits end?

For Erich, the spatial disorder is tough: “It’s really hard to keep things orderly at home with four babies and a toddler, especially now that the babies can move around. We can’t keep up.” And for Sally, “Just not being able to give them all the attention they need. I wish we could give them each as much attention as they need and deserve. That’s hard for me. But the worst part so far was when they all got their bottom two front teeth at

the same time. It was horrible. Screaming, crying, sleepless nights, fevers, diaper rash, ear infections … they all had it all. Now we feel like, ‘Well, we made it through that so we can make it through anything.’”

And of course, together they will. From teething to potty training to kindergarten to driver’s licenses to graduations — one minute at a time, one hour at a time, one day at a time, surrounded by their incredible cheer section, Team Richardson will make it through. From rivals to co-coaches of their best team yet, Team Richardson, party of seven, is swimming towards victory.

TO READ MORE OF THE RICHARDSON’S ADVENTURES, see Sally’s blog at fargoquads.com. [

A TABLE WITH BUILT-IN HIGH CHAIRS MAKES MEAL TIMES A LITTLE EASIER. FROM LEFT TO RIGHT: VIRGIL, JAX, RUBY AND KIT

A HAPPY JAX USES MOM SALLY TO PULL HIMSELF UP.

5 TIPS FOR successfully filing your tax return

WORDS : JAMES R. MARING, SERKLAND LAW FIRM

For most people, the thought of preparing their tax return is as daunting as public speaking. However, here are some helpful tips to help make the task a little less intimidating.

1. GET ORGANIZED

The key to minimizing the stress of tax preparation (and potentially reduce cost if using a professional) is to be organized. The more organized you are the less time it will take to get your tax return completed properly. I recommend you organize your tax documents in separate categories as personal information (such as the social security numbers for you, your spouse, any dependents), income, personal deductions, and business information (if applicable). If you do own a small business or have other side income, you need to keep your business income and expense items separate from your personal information. Some expenses are deductible for a business but are not allowed as a personal deduction.

2. REVIEW LAST YEAR’S TAX RETURN

An important document to review while preparing your taxes is last year’s income tax return. Most people don’t have too many changes from one year to the next. Therefore, this is a great way to check to make sure you aren’t forgetting anything such as a loss carry over or perhaps a tax credit or deduction that you qualify for and have used previously.

3. DON’T FORGET ABOUT YOUR RETIREMENT ACCOUNTS

If you participate in an employer-sponsored individual 401(k) plan or other qualified retirement plan, the deadline for contributions is Dec. 31. However, you can still fund an Individual Retirement Account (IRA) until April 15, 2020 and deduct the contribution amount toward your 2019 taxes. This is a very effective way of both lowering your 2019 tax bill while also bolstering your retirement funds. If you don’t have an IRA account set up, simply contact your bank and they should be able to assist you. The process is very simple and worth the effort.

4. GET HELP

You don’t need to take this task on by yourself. Fortunately, there are companies that offer tax software programs to help you complete the tax return quickly and relatively inexpensively. The IRS even offers free tax filing software for taxpayers with an adjusted gross income of $69,000 or less. When deciding whether to use a professional preparer or a software program, consider your income, the complexity of your return, unusual events that significantly affect your income or expenses, and your concern about a tax audit.

5. STAY INFORMED

Even if you use a tax professional, it is still wise to be as informed as possible regarding the tax laws that may affect your income tax return. The tax laws are constantly changing, and therefore it is important to spend some time trying to stay on top of the current changes. For example, the standard deduction amount changes can impact your decision whether it makes sense to itemize your deductions or use the standard deduction to lower your tax bill as much as possible.

JAMES R. MARING

This article was prepared by Jim Maring, an attorney with the Serkland Law Firm in Fargo, North Dakota. For more information, call 701-232-8957, email jmaring@serklandlaw.com or visit serklandlaw.com.

This article should not be considered legal advice and should not be relied upon by any person with respect to his/her specific situation.

MO NDANCE The Campin’ & Jammin’ Events

One of the best kinds of vacations is a girls trip. Women who take girls trips with their sisters, cousins, best friends, daughters or mothers have learned to put themselves high on their priority list and recognize the advantages of girls-only vacations. And you get the chance to just be you again. So reconnect for some Moondance Jammin’ Country Fest and Moondance Jam time!

of the Summer!

The events of the summer are held right here in the Leech Lake/ Chippewa National Forest Area near Walker, Minnesota. Start out by celebrating 14 years of country music at Moondance Jammin' Country Fest, June 18-20. The “biggest little country fest around” is a three-day festival with Old Dominion, Midland, Lauren Alaina, Nitty Gritty Dirt Band and John Michael Montgomery as a start of a great line-up of country performers to date. The 9th Annual Moondance Softball Tournament will also be held during this festival. Over $5,000 in cash and prizes will be awarded to the top teams.

Then kick your summer into high gear and join us for the biggest rock festival in Minnesota, Moondance Jam 29, July 16-18. Come and join us with over 50 bands on four stages and four great days of music and

rockin,’ which includes the pre-jam on Wednesday night. Alice Cooper, The Beach Boys, Chris Daughtry and Night Ranger are just the beginning of some of the great bands.

But don't let the fun stop there. Deuces Wild “dueling pianos” will be coming to the MDJ Saloon at the Moondance Fairgrounds on Friday, Aug. 7, for a pull–out-all-the-stops performance. They’ll be playing the music audiences want to hear — and sing along to! Also back by popular demand, Timmy Haus performs during happy hour. Reserve your table by calling 218-836-1055.

Then, come back and savor fall in northern Minnesota at our 8th Annual Harvest Moon Festival on Saturday, Sept. 26. For adults only, taste a variety of unique beers, wine, spirits and delicious food pairings, plus lots of adult fun. Entertainment

WORDS : GAIL BERGIN PHOTOGRAPHY : Provided by MOONDANCE

galore: scavenger hunt, ATV demo rides, wood duck house building challenge, the traveling art pub, redneck Olympics and more. The afternoon will be followed up by two great bands in the MDJ Saloon that evening. Friday night, at participating restaurants throughout the Walker/Leech Lake area, is the pre-tasting and pairing experience. Or join us in the Lazy Moon for some karaoke. Make plans with your friends to stay the weekend in our campgrounds or stay at one of our nice hotels or resorts close by. Proven to be a wonderful girls weekend!

the festival that PUTS YOU UP FRONT Moondance is well known for their open festival seating for all general admission ticket holders. That means everyone at Moondance has equal opportunity to get up to the front of the stage or sit back on the lawn seating area.

FEATURED at Moondance Jammin’ Country Fest and Moondance Jam

We offer the tropical-themed Tiki bar and stage just outside of the Lazy Moon Bar and Grill with entertainment starting in the early afternoon and playing into the evening — the only bar where you can get yummy tropical blended drinks. And as always, the Lazy Moon Bar and Grill will have their breakfast buffet and bloody mary bar open Thursday through Saturday 9:00 a.m. until noon, with entertainment starting at 11:00 a.m. The bar and restaurant stay open until 11:00 p.m.

Billy B’s, the “home of the lemon drop,” built in 2013 in honor of the late Bill Bieloh, founder of Moondance, is definitely the place to be! Come in and join us for one of our many toasts to Bill, check out all the photos and take a picture with Bill’s banner. Billy B’s overlooks the whole fairgrounds right on down to the National Stage. On Saturday the beer pong tournament is held there starting at noon.

TICKETS, CAMPING and LOCATION

Tickets and camping are available at moondanceevents.net or by calling 218-836-1055 for all our events, and should be reserved early for best selection. The festival grounds are located six and a half miles outside of Walker at 7050 39th Ave. N.W., Walker, Minnesota.

No other large festivals provide the down-home friendly feel of Moondance. We take great pride in how we treat our customers. The fans become a part of our extended Moondance family! [ aw ]

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books she loves

WORDS : MEGAN ELGIN

As I was thinking about which books to include in this issue, I kept thinking about the all the different families portrayed in the books I've read. These families all look incredibly different — some are traditional, others are far from it, and still others might look one way on the surface but be completely different on the inside. The most important thing is that regardless of how different they may be, by the end of the book I often come to understand them and through their eyes I can sometimes even understand my own family better. So I challenge you to expand your reading and find books about families that look very different from your own. Read diversely and see how it effects your view of your own family.

Educated

by Tara Westover

This is a beautiful but very tough book to read. That being said, you should absolutely run out and get a copy. Westover tells about her life growing up in a survivalist family in the mountains of Idaho. Isolated from regular society, the family was not allowed to go to school or even the hospital and there was no one to intervene when one of Tara's older brothers became violent. Without any formal education, she taught herself enough basics to earn a place at university where her thirst for knowledge transformed her. I was cheering for Tara the entire time and what she has accomplished is incredible. Education can be a powerful thing and can in some ways give us the strength and courage to draw conclusions that are different from those we‘ve been taught.

A Place for Us

by Fatima Farheen Mirza

An Indian-American Muslim family gathers together to celebrate the wedding of the eldest daughter, Hadia. It's been three years since the youngest sibling, Amar, left home. The entire family must now contend with the choices of the past that led to Amar's estrangement. In a narrative that examines decades of family life from the eyes of each member, the reader sees each viewpoint changing the threads of the story from one thing to another. I found myself making many connections between these characters and my own family growing up. It‘s a good reminder that how one person views something is different than the next, even within our own families.

LOVED THIS?

I also highly recommend reading "The Namesake" by Jhumpa Lahiri

Pachinko

by Min Jin Lee

Any list of family-themed books wouldn't be complete without at least one multigenerational story. "Pachinko" begins in Korea in the early 1900s with Sunja, the adored teenage daughter of a fisherman. She falls for a wealthy stranger who promises her the world, but when she discovers she is pregnant and that he is married, she refuses to be bought. Instead, she agrees to marry a gentle minister who is passing through on his way to Japan. This decision echoes down through the generations in a saga that is both heartbreaking and mesmerizing. I found myself completely immersed in the lives of this family and the complex and passionate characters Lee has created. Not only is it beautifully written, but the author does an amazing job of showing the hardships and prejudices the Koreans in Japan were living through.

Red, White & Royal Blue

by Casey McQuiston

What happens when America's First Son falls in love with the Prince of Wales? If you're looking for a fun read, I highly recommend this unconventional romance novel. When his mother became president, Alex's image as the handsome, charismatic, genius son is millennial-marketing gold for the White House. But Alex has a beef with England's very own Prince Henry. When the tabloids get ahold of a photo involving an altercation, the two rivals are forced to stage a truce for the media. What begins as a fake media friendship, grows deeper and soon becomes more than either Alex or Henry could have imagined. A secret romance between Alex and a surprisingly unstuffy Henry threatens to upend the two nations. One of the things I loved about this novel was the support Alex receives from his diplomatic mother and the sister he's very close with. They help him search for the courage and power to be the person he was meant to be and fight for the love he finds with Henry. And while this romance might be a hot-button topic, McQuiston writes a humorous, sexy, witty and outrageously fun novel that shows an unconventional couple in the same light as any traditional romance.

Read one of these books?

Tell us what you thought by using #areawomanbooks in your review.

Area Woman’s resident Bookista, Megan Elgin, serves you up with books worthy of spending your entire afternoon with. Search for Megan on Goodreads or @meganann on Litsy and find out what she’s reading now.

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note : All events are subject to change. Confirm dates and times before attending.

April 25

FREE DOCUMENT SHREDDING

Fight back against fraud and take this simple step to protect yourself from identity theft. There will be a shredding truck in parking lot G from 8:00 AM to noon. Shredding services are free of charge and open to the public. There is no cost to participate. Limit two boxes. Call AARP North Dakota at 866-554-5383 for more info.

8:00 AM – Noon

Fargodome (Parking Lot G)

1800 N University Dr, Fargo

April 26

BLOOMING IN EVERLASTING HOPE WELLNESS RETREAT

An intimate retreat for women walking the journey of infertility. The goal of the day is for each person to feel refreshed, inspired and motivated to care for themselves physically, mentally and spiritually. Overall, this day should leave each participant feeling more connected to others going through infertility. Each person will leave with actionable tips and ideas for how they can move forward into a more vibrant, healthy lifestyle. We want each person to feel calm, confident and more in control of their fertility journey.

9:00 AM – 4:00 PM

Dakota Medial Foundation 4141 28th Ave S, Fargo raisingeverlastinghope.org/events

April 27

YWCA WOMEN OF THE YEAR

Be part of the year’s most inspiring women’s event — highlighting the valuable role of women in shaping the Fargo-Moorhead community by joining us for the 47th annual Women of the Year awards. Since 1973, we’ve been shining a spotlight on exceptional women leaders and businesses at this widely-celebrated event. Tickets and sponsorships are available at ywcacassclay.org. For more information, contact 701-232-2547 or msvingen@ywcacassclay.org.

Socials starts 5:30 PM, Program and Dinner 6:30 PM

Delta by Marriott ywcacassclay.org

April 27

GROWING FOREVER FAMILIES

Christian Adoption Services invites you to a dessert reception as we share adoption stories and celebrate community advocates. Join us at this free event by reserving your seat online.

7:00 PM

Holiday Inn 3803 13th Ave S, Fargo christianadoptionservices.org

April 28

SPAY-GHETTI & NO BALLS LUNCH

Come out for a spaghetti lunch and raffle to support the Spay/Neuter Fund of Homeward Animal Shelter. Suggested $10 donation. All proceeds benefit the Spay/Neuter Fund of Homeward Animal Shelter.

11:00 AM – 1:00 PM

Holiday Inn Fargo 3803 13th Ave S, Fargo homewardonline.org

May 6

LGBT LOUNGE AND LEARN

What are the best exercises to prevent injuries and to maintain your health as you age? Hear from a certified personal trainer about the myriad benefits of a regular exercise routine and how it can help ward off common injuries. A light meal and refreshments will be provided.

5:30 – 7:00 PM

Holiday Inn 3803 13th Ave S, Fargo aarp.org/nd

May 7

PASSPORT TO HEALTHY LIVING KICKOFF

Join AARP for the “Passport to Healthy Living” 2020 kickoff event. Learn more about other upcoming healthy living activities in Fargo-Moorhead-West Fargo and enjoy some snacks and refreshments. In addition, we’ll have a 6:30 PM workshop to acquaint you with health and fitness apps, and ride share apps.

5:30 – 7:30 PM

Hilton Garden Inn 4351 17th Ave S, Fargo aarp.org/nd

May 20

GET READY FOR RETIREMENT

Lunch and Learn, or Lounge and Learn

For those approaching retirement, learn more about Social Security and Medicare. Attend this education session intended to help people nearing retirement make informed decisions about both programs.

Speakers from the Social Security administration and the North Dakota Insurance Department will focus on the basics of Medicare and how to get the most out of Social Security in retirement. There is no cost to attend, but registration is required online at aarp.org/ nd. A light meal will be provided.

11:30 AM – 1:00 PM or 5:30 – 7:00 PM

Fargodome

1800 N University Dr, Fargo aarp.org/nd

May 30

SHARE A STORY FAMILY LEARNING EVENT

With special guest Daniel Tiger

Free admission, free lunch, free books, lots of free activities and entertainment.

9:00 AM – 2:00 PM

Rheault Farm

2902 25th St S, Fargo

June 4

REDEFINING MEMORY LOSS CAREGIVER CONFERENCE: Creating Connections in Caregiving

Keynote speaker, Cameo Rogers from Omaha, Nebraska, will share practical strategies for enhancing the lives of individuals living with dementia and their care partners, either professional or community members. Strategies for boosting mood, promoting a calm and engaging environment, improving verbal and non-verbal communication skills, using photos and props to enhance use of longterm memories, and focusing on the person's remaining strengths and abilities, not their disabilities will be emphasized. The importance of taking time for yourself and using various self-care strategies such as mindfulness will be discussed. Panel discussion to include care providers and persons living with dementia. Register at eventbrite.com (search redefining memory loss), email hello@memorycaferrv.org, or call 701-404-6712. Cost is $30 for community members and $60 for professionals and includes lunch. Approval pending for NDLSW CEUs 4.0 hours.

QUOTABLE:

"For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. Then you will seek me and find me: when you seek me with all your heart, I will be found by you, declares the Lord." —

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Pray like this:

Our Father in heaven, may your name be kept holy.

May your Kingdom come soon.

May your will be done on earth, as it is in heaven. Give us today the food we need, and forgive us our sins, as we have forgiven those who sin against us. And don’t let us yield to temptation, but rescue us from the evil one.

MATTHEW 6:9-13

Dr. Khaled Rabadi