“For it is in giving that we receive.” — St. Francis of Assisi
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have always been inspired by people who give freely. For example, a few years ago, when he turned 65, best-selling author Wayne Dyer gave away all his possessions—clothes, books, even his home—he donated it all. Now to someone who’s lived his life focussed on getting, such an act will seem absurd. How can someone give away everything he strived to get? But to those who understand that giving is the way to infinite abundance, Dyer’s no-holds-barred generosity will make absolute sense. If there’s one thread that connects the greatest and most successful people in the world, it is their willingness to give of themselves. Be it businessmen and entrepreneurs, scientists, philosophers, artists or sportspersons, they have generous hearts and open hands. They do not hesitate to share their wealth, their knowledge, their time and their love with others. They understand that in some strange and mysterious way, when we give, we receive. In fact, we receive a lot more than we gave, but not necessarily from the one we gave to—it’s not transactional, you see. It’s a mysterious law that governs our universe, which seems to be based on giving. Look at nature—it gives everything freely and abundantly, and to everyone, without reservation. And it never experiences scarcity. I’m sure that like me, many of you have experienced the power of giving at some time in your life—and also the joy, fulfillment and abundance that follow. But how and why does this principle work? It turns out that quantum physics has some answers. And that is what John David Mann, co-author of The Go-Giver attempts to explain in this issue’s cover story [p20]. Even though some of you might find portions of the article too abstract, it is my earnest recommendation that you stay with the story till the end. And then read the follow-up story by Azim Jamal, author of the best-selling book The Power of Giving, as he builds a beautiful case for generosity by citing true stories. Together, both these features will open your heart and enrich your soul. Thomas J. Watson, Sr., the legendary chairman of IBM, once said, “Really big people are, above everything else, courteous, considerate and generous—not just to some people in some circumstances—but to everyone all the time.” In Watson’s words is hidden the secret of lasting and authentic abundance—those who are big don’t give because they are big; they are big because they give. I can see the floodgates to abundance opening already. Can you?
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10 villages to be declared tobacco free in Vizag MAY 31ST IS celebrated as World No Tobacco Day and this year it is going to be an extra-special one for residents of 10 villages in Visakhapatnam. The credit for this happy development can be given to the ministry of health as well as NGOs like Public Health Foundation of India [PHFI] and Nature who have been carrying out sensitisation programmes in these villages. The tobacco-free status will be granted to them based on the research reports of these NGOs. A community worker said, “We have 22 families in our village. For the last six months, all the villagers have quit smoking and given up gutkha. People motivate one another to stick to the ‘no-tobacco’ resolution. We are looking forward to being called a smoke-free, tobaccofree village from May and hope to inspire other villages to follow our path.” The village leaders and self-help groups sensitise shops not to sell tobacco products in the village. Based on the combined decision, they have banned the sale of tobacco products in the village.
This baby elephant will always be indebted to humans
Food as fuel to cook? IN A COUNTRY that is still heavily dependent upon conventional sources of non-renewable energy, local innovations have the potential to bring about a real positive change. Take Cantonment High School in Chennai, for example. It uses organic wastes from kitchens of restaurants, offices and college canteens and converts them into fuel for its own kitchen. The organic waste produces methane gas in the bio-gas plant, which reaches a conventional stove in the kitchen through pipelines. The initiative has helped cook food on a daily basis for 150 children under the mid-day meal scheme in this government school. Once the plant attains its optimum capacity, it will then be able to fuel the stove for 150 minutes continuously everyday. The le -over sludge from the plant is used as high-quality manure for gardening.
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THERE’S ALWAYS TALK about cruelty by humans towards animals but here is a story from Assam that clearly shows that many humans have a heart that feels for animals. A baby elephant that was walking alongside a railway embankment slipped and landed itself in a pit and was unable to find its way out of the muddy ravine, when it was spotted by passengers from a passing train. These people were so moved at the sight of this helpless animal that they convinced the train’s engineer to stop the train so that they could help free it. They then gave it food and tried all sorts of tricks to entice it to come out of the pit and finally succeeded. The baby elephant suffered no injuries; it probably also learned not to stray too far from the herd in future.
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By Manoj Khatri Your father is Bengali and mother is Polish, you grew up in Canada, married a man of Lebanese descent, and spent time in London—how does the world look like to a person who has had so many cultural influences? I feel blessed. To be honest, my mixed blood and diverse cultural references caused a lot of confusion and identity issues when I was younger. However, today I understand that my differences are my strength. I have unique experiences and a unique view of the world. I am very open and accepting and curious about the world to this day. I was a global citizen even before there was such a concept. However, at my core, I am very Indian. I came to Mumbai when I was 16—it was ‘Bombay’ then—and I spent more than a decade in India, so a lot of my cultural references are still Indian. I call myself a global Indian.
SHE FIRST GAINED FAME when she appeared in a Bombay Dyeing commercial. Since then, Lisa Ray has made a career for herself in modelling and films, both commercial and independent. Now though, she is be er known for having publicly chronicled her struggle with Multiple Myeloma [MM], a type of blood cancer, on her blog. Breaking the taboo that surrounds discussing cancer publicly, she no longer feels the need to keep up any image and treasures authenticity. As a result of her treatment and changes in her diet and lifestyle, the cancer in now in remission. Meanwhile, she has successfully resumed her media career and now also finds time to support several philanthropic campaigns. Here are excerpts from our interview with this confident, brave and inspiring woman.
What made you write the “The Yellow Diaries”? Where did you find the strength to be open and vulnerable like any other common man or woman? The Yellow Diaries started from a simple impulse to try to decode and process my Cancer Journey. I wrote to understand. It was like journalling, except I chose to upload those words onto a blog. I can’t explain exactly Complete Wellbeing
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what motivated me to start a blog—but I can tell you that I started writing when I was on steroids and sleepless at night. Words have always been important to me, and using them to express what I was going through helped me connect with my vulnerability and the truth of the moment. When I was facing my mortality, it made me realise how much I value truth and authenticity and it released me from the efforts of maintaining an ‘image’ for the media. I simply wanted to share a very human experience and I’m fortunate that people supported me through it. I guess Cancer made me brave. Writing is known to be therapeutic. Do you think blogging about your disease contributed to your healing? I think my healing journey involves so many aspects of my life today, from food and nourishment to lifestyle changes to detoxifying techniques to healing old emotional and mental wounds to meditation—but the courage to begin to make those changes in my life started with blogging. It also helped me connect with others. I will never forget the full hearted support I got from India. I think that blogging also helped to challenge the fear factor around cancer. There’s a taboo in India—and to a lesser extent abroad—about discussing a serious disease openly. I couldn’t understand why? Keeping it a secret for the first two months of my treatment was difficult and painful and it made me think about other cancer patients who are suffering in silence. Writing the blog helped challenge this cultural taboo.
shi which came about a er ge ing diagnosed was that I realised I could finally use the media to highlight a cause that is vital and important to me, and not just promote something which is important to others. In your journey towards remission, did you feel weak at times? How did you deal with your weak moments? Did you ever contemplate giving up? Of course I felt weak and even depressed, but never hopeless. A er ge ing diagnosed, something was unlocked in me, an unlimited potential for hope. But during my weak moments, I turned to humour, writing, meditation and contemplation. I truly believed that there was a reason for my disease, that it was connected with emotional and mental traumas and that I could heal—though it would not be easy. What role does the mind play in healing? To what extent did your attitude and your thoughts help you in your tryst with MM? I believe the mind plays a huge role in healing. Holistic medicine, ayurveda and even traditional western medicine At the launch of the Ray of Hope Collection by Satya Paul in June 2013
Earlier you were recognised mainly for your breathtaking beauty but now you’re known for your inner strength and the media highlight your healing from MM. How do you relate to this difference? While I have a full life out of the spotlight, I have also spent a lot of my life in the public eye and it’s rewarding to be portrayed in a way that is closer to who I am in real life. Sometimes we become victims of our media image, and that happened to me in the first phase of my career. For instance, I was interested in performing in alternative, serious films, but at that point I was only offered roles in mainstream Bollywood films. This was in the 90s when the industry was very different. I have many interests and it was hard to be perceived in a one dimensional way—especially since I fell into this profession by accident. The other
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draws a strong connection between the mind, body and spirit in health and healing. Before you got diagnosed, you had been practising yoga and meditation for several years; you were also a seeker of spiritual traditions. Did that help in your healing? Without a doubt, my yoga and meditation practice helped me through my cancer treatment. What’s interesting is you practise and you practise more, but in order to reap the benefits, you need to be in a crisis. For instance, I think my relationship to fear and control over fear was different because of my meditation. I was able to manage my anxiety much be er due to my yoga practice. Tell us something about your term “cancer graduate”— what made you think of yourself as a graduate than a survivor? I’d like to point out a crucial fact about MM, the blood cancer I am living with: it is considered incurable. There are many new treatments and the prognosis is looking increasingly bright but the fact remains that I am living WITH the cancer. It is under control due to medication and lifestyle and diet changes I have made. In fact, I relapsed in early 2013 and ended up a ending a three week Life Transformation programme at a holistic healing centre called The Hippocrates Health Institute, where I started applying healing techniques like juicing and releasing emotional blocks. Fortunately, due to my medication and these changes, I went back into remission after a few months. That’s why I call myself a ‘graduate’, since it’s an ongoing learning process. I’d also like to share that I’m participating in a clinical trial right now, which is very promising and has the potential to cure. I believe with my heart I will be cured and heal completely, but I’d like to emphasise that I’m living with this condition at the moment. How have your priorities evolved from the pre-diagnosis time? What excites Lisa Ray now? My priorities have completely changed for the be er. Today my actions and priorities are in line with my values and my heart’s desire. Health, wellness, writing, giving back and spending quality time both with myself and with my family are activities for which I never had time before. I still love acting and being in front of the camera; how-
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At the launch of Rado HyperChrome Automatic Chronograph in Kolkata in June 2013 ever today whatever I do is rooted in intention and values. I’m doing a lot of writing and painting and discovering full expression in other art forms. I’m planning on spending half my year in India and the other half in Canada. I also practise gratitude and try my best to focus on what I have and not on what I don’t. Travel is also still important, but with balance. I led a crazy, unbalanced life for so many years that it is taking time to heal from that lifestyle Has life changed after being married? If yes, how? I have a soul mate and a partner-in-crime to share adventures with. We have so many common dreams and I’m so excited to make our dreams come true. You have been the brand ambassador for Rado for a very long time. Which values of the brand are you aligned with? Indeed, I have been with Rado for more than 10 years and it’s a relationship that very emotional. Rado stands for innovative, exciting, unique and enduring design. There’s an unlimited spirit about Rado and I hope that describes me as well. My association with Rado is an example of how my work can be aligned with my values. Lastly, if you could, would you change anything about your past? What and why? Not a thing. Every triumph and misstep has made me who I am today. And a big part of healing is acceptance—because life is a gift.
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Difficult Times Karen WyaĴ shares what she learned from her suffering patients during her work as a hospice physician
DURING MY WORK AS A HOSPICE PHYSICIAN, I had a great opportunity to study how people respond to times of suffering and adversity in their lives. What I learned by watching and listening to patients who were facing their death was that a spiritual focus on life is the most important factor for getting through the fires of suffering and creating something beautiful.
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Karen Wyatt is a family practice and hospice physician, and the author of the awardwinning book What Really Matters: 7 Lessons for Living from the Stories of the Dying. To sign up for her free What Really Matters Workbook visit www.karenwyattmd.com
you to the past. The dying focus on the present moment because it is all they have. But they find a great capacity to enjoy even the smallest things and savour each and every experience. Throughout each day, stop frequently and find the pleasure in exactly what you are doing in that moment.
Those patients all had to accept that their lives were coming to an end soon and during that process each of them mastered certain spiritual lessons that are important clues to how we should be dealing with our own suffering. As a devoted student of those dying patients, I learned seven lessons that I have been able to incorporate into my own life and that have helped me find my way through my struggles:
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Suffering: embrace your difficulties rather than resist
them. This lesson is the key to learning the most effective attitude towards challenging times. Those who resist their suffering tend to experience more pain and more complications, while those who accept that suffering is just a part of life, quickly move on to focus on other issues. Use your time to make the best of each situation rather than complaining about the things you don’t like.
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Love: it’s all about relationships. In the final analysis, dying people care more about relationships than anything else in life. Those who have failed to love earlier in their lives spend most of their dying hours trying to rectify that situation. Pay attention now to the relationships that are already in your life. If you don’t already know how to give and receive love, start learning now.
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Purpose: is what you are creating in the moment right now. The dying have no future about which to daydream or fantasise. So they find meaning and purpose in whatever they are doing in the present moment. Recognise that your life is unfolding one moment at a time and that each and every moment has its own special purpose. Make every moment matter and stop living for what you might accomplish someday—there is only now.
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Surrender: stop trying to change what you cannot change. All attempts to change the way things are have long been abandoned by the time the dying get to their last days. But it is foolish for any of us to waste our precious time and energy trying to make things different than they really are. Once you give up this battle, direct your energy towards being creative instead.
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Impermanence: let go of your fear of failure. One of the most difficult tasks for the dying is to overcome the fear of death. But once they cross that obstacle, it becomes clear that nothing in life should be feared. Keep moving forward in your life and lose your fear that you will fail. Truly, no matter what happens, you cannot fail if you are on your path because failure doesn’t exist on the spiritual journey. So stop giving your energy to fear and live your life fully and courageously. With these seven lessons as a guide, it is possible to live with joy and celebration even in times of great difficulty. Pay attention now to these things that really matter so that you can spend your life in peace and equanimity. This is really why we are here and why we are facing such enormous challenges. Become a student now, practise your lessons every day and watch as the beauty of life unfolds before you, just as a flower blossoms in the light of day. To subscribe to Complete Wellbeing, send ‘CW SUB’ to 07738387787
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By Osho
THE NATURAL WORLD outside can be a mirror for what’s happening inside us. As waves come with water and flames with fire, so the universal waves with us. Try to understand what a wave is, and then you can feel how this consciousness of waves can help you to enter into meditation. You see waves in the ocean. They appear; they are in a sense, and still in a deeper sense they are not. This is the first thing to be understood about a wave. The wave appears; it is there in a sense, but still it is not there in a deeper sense. In a deeper sense only the ocean is. You cannot have a wave without the ocean, and even while the wave is there, only the ocean is. The wave is just a form, not a substance. The ocean is substantial; the wave is just a form. Because of language many problems are created. Because we say wave, it looks as if a wave is some thing. It would be be er if we use not wave, but waving. There is no wave, just waving— just an activity, not a thing; just a movement, not a substance; just a process, not ma er. The ma er is the ocean; the wave is just a form. The ocean can be silent. The waves will disappear, but the ocean will be there. Secondly, waves appear as individuals. Each wave has its own personality—unique, different from any other. No two waves are similar. One wave may rise, another may die. While one is rising, another is dying. Both cannot be the same because
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one is rising, another is dying. Still, the reality behind both is the same. They look different, they look separate, they look individual, but the look is fallacious. We are just waves in a cosmic ocean. Meditate on it, allow this feeling to go deep down within you. Start feeling your breathing as just the rising of a wave. You breathe in, you breathe out, and the breath that is entering you was someone else’s breath just a moment before, and the breath that is leaving you will become someone else’s breath the next moment. Breathing is just waving in the ocean of life. You are not separate—just waves. We are one deep down. We have a togetherness; individuality is false and illusory. Hence, the ego is the only barrier. Individuality is false. It appears to be, but it is not real. The real is the non-individual, the oceanic, the togetherness.
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You can use this technique in many ways. While breathing, feel that the ocean is breathing in you. The ocean comes to you, goes out, comes in, goes out. With every breath, feel a wave rising, with every exhalation feel a wave dying. And between the two, who are you? Just a nothingness, a void. With that feeling of the void you will be transformed. With that feeling of nothingness, all your misery will disappear, because misery needs a centre—and a false centre at that. The void is your real centre. With it there is no misery; you are in a deep ease. Because you are not, who can be tense? You are bliss-filled. It is not that you are bliss-filled, but because you are not, only bliss is. Without you, can you create misery? This meditation can help; it can bring a metamorphosis for you, it can become a mutation. But allow it to spread all through your life.
While breathing, think; while eating, think; while walking, think. Think two things—that the form is always the wave and the formless is always the ocean. The formless is deathless; the form is mortal. So think of yourself as a wave, or as a continuum of waves rising and falling, and just be a witness to this. You cannot do anything. These waves will disappear. That which has appeared will have to disappear; nothing can be done about it. Every effort is absolutely useless. Only one thing can be done, and that is to be a witness of this wave form. Once you become a witness, suddenly you will become aware of something which is beyond the wave, which transcends the wave, which is in the wave also and out of the wave also, which forms the wave and still goes beyond, which is the ocean. The universal waves with us. You are not, the universal is—and it is waving through you. Feel it, contemplate over it, meditate on it. Allow it to happen to you in many, many ways. Meditation is the way, and this harmony of oneness, this feeling of oneness with all is the end, is the goal. Try it! Remember the ocean and forget the wave. And whenever you remember the wave and start behaving as the wave, remember, you are doing something wrong and you will create misery because of it. Excerpted from The Book of Secrets by Osho International Foundation, www.osho.com.
Osho was never born never died. He only visited this planet earth between 11 December 1931 and 19 January 1990. He was a charismatic and gifted speaker who became the leader of a worldwide new spiritual movement.
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“Your true worth is determined by how much more you give in value than you receive in payment.” SO SAYS THE Law of Value, the first of five principles of giving that form the thread that weaves a tale entitled The Go-Giver. My friend Bob Burg and I wrote this li le parable in an effort to pin down on paper some of the subtle yet powerful laws that govern human behaviour. Perceptive readers have pointed out that the more you really look at these ‘five laws of stratospheric success,’ the more they seem to fly in the face of logic. The story’s protagonist, Joe, is understandably confused by this first law. “Honestly,” he protests, “that sounds like a recipe for bankruptcy!” Not at all, says his mentor: “All the great fortunes in the world have been created by men and women who had a greater passion for what they were giving—their product, service or idea—than for what they were getting.” Joe grapples with this, but soon accepts it, at least for the sake of argument. Hey, it’s a story. But is that really true? And, if it is, how is that possible?! Joe’s right: it seems to make no sense! Or, take the third law, the Law of Influence: “Your influence is determined by how abundantly you place other people’s interests first.” Complete Wellbeing
Again, Joe is bewildered: “That sounds like an awfully noble principle,” he says, “but I don’t quite understand...”—and what he doesn’t understand [or believe] is how a policy like that could possibly lead to one’s success. His mentor replies: “Because if you place other people’s interests first, your interests will always be taken care of. Always.” Really? How so? The essence of the book’s message is this: the more you give, the more you have. But how can that possibly be true? We don’t get into this in the book, but there is a fascinating sort of antilogic at work here—or not an antilogic, exactly, but a different logic than the one we’re used to. It is as different as quantum physics is from the classic Newtonian kind. VOL VIII ISSUE 05 MARCH 2014 17
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