“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage.” — Anais Nin
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ike all children, I grew up on a healthy dose of stories about courage. My personal favourite was the Tintin comic series. The young reporter’s greatest quality was his courage. It led him into all sorts of trouble but also helped him triumph against all odds. But the one story that stands out as a symbolic tale of courage is that of The Cowardly Lion, a character from The Wonderful Wizard of Oz. The Cowardly Lion believes that he lacks courage compared to other lions, when the truth is that he always acts courageously in the face of threatening situations. He finally discovers that courage was in him all along, and that he was simply unaware of the fact. It is his self-image that makes him believe that he lacked courage. I don’t have to tell you that without courage, none of us can be happy. When fear directs our choices and decisions, our potential remains untapped and we live an unfulfilled life. And yet most people live like that, behaving as if they lack courage. Like L. Frank Baum’s lion, which was undoubtedly inspired by the human condition, they don’t realise that courage is something that we are all born with. Perhaps the over-glamourised version of courage that we witness in the media makes them believe that it’s all about being loud and audacious. But, as author Mary Anne Radmacher says, “Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the liĴle voice at the end of the day that says I’ll try again tomorrow”. This month, Margie Warrell, the best-selling author of Stop Playing Safe and Find Your Courage, tells us how we can go from mere platitudes about courage, to actually living fearlessly. “At the core of courage is choosing to live wholeheartedly—to bare your heart wide open to the full spectrum of experiences and emotions; to stop leĴing fear run your life, and to start owning your power to create, achieve, become and contribute all that inspires you,” she says. She teaches us how to create a mindset that embraces uncertainty. She encourages us to step out of our comfort zones as that is the only sure shot antidote to fear. So take action this month and claim what was always yours. Read the cover story, and then go, do something you always felt like doing, but never thought you could. Later, don’t be surprised if you find a familiar face smiling back in admiration—from the mirror!
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Music proves remedy for patients as well as composers AN ASSOCIATION CALLED ’Songs of Love’ called upon five young musicians who would volunteer to compose songs for terminally ill children. Megan Ford, who was diagnosed with leukaemia and is undergoing weekly chemotherapy, was overjoyed to receive a song made especially for her. A lot of faith has been invested in the concept of music therapy, as a result of which these children receive a dosage of special individual songs along with their regular medicine cycles. The songs serve as a remedy not only for the children but also for the volunteers who compose them. Written to give children a spiritual uplift, the lyrics incorporate special characteristics about them like their favourite people, places and hobbies. Time is a healer, and music an able companion!
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Why kids lie and what you can do about it
By Shefali Batra
THE MAIN REASON people lie is because they’re afraid that if they tell the truth, something unpleasant will happen. Lying is a defence mechanism; it’s an attempt to protect yourself from perceived danger. People who lie tend to be scared in some way. So when children start lying, it means they have sensed some danger. More likely, they are afraid of the autocratic authoritativeness of their parents and tremble at the thought of telling them the truth. The mistake most parents make is they o en misconstrue this fear for respect. Respect is not enforced—it is instinctive.
The truth about lies A well-known truth about lying is that everyone, including children, knows it’s bad. But we still indulge in it because the trade-off for lying is some kind of short-term payoff. And frequently, this payoff is higher than the perceived loss that comes with speaking the truth. Whether in business or in daily life, we have been conditioned to choose profitable opportunities over defeating ones. This same short-sightedness, when transferred to children compels them to focus on the immediate benefits of lying even at the cost of overlooking the long-term harm it does to their character. Consider these: >> No I didn’t get any homework today [evading responsibility] >> I was not misbehaving at the party [avoiding punishment] >> I did not break that jar, it just fell [escaping consequences] >> I did not hit him. He hit me first [keeping own self-regard] From the child’s past experiences, she has learnt 06 MAY 2014 VOL VIII ISSUE 07
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that telling truth o en results in bad/unwanted consequences while lying helps her avoid them.
The past makes way for the future Your child’s bad behaviour in the past may have led you to punish her. That’s how parents’ discipline their children when their actions call for it. But though punishment is necessary, it is never sufficient. That’s because the child does not understand why she is being reprimanded. All she knows is that if her mother doesn’t know the truth, the negative outcome vanishes and so does the punishment. That is why every child getting punished needs to understand exactly why she is being punished. She has to be told that it’s not the ‘naughty act or event’ but the ‘outcome of the naughty act or event’ that is responsible for her punishment. Not doing so means that we are indirectly encouraging our kids to lie.
Watch for these signs When kids get caught in a lie they o en: >> Look away and make little eye contact with you >> Cross their arms or switch gestures if they get nervous >> Get fidgety because of guilt and fear about their punishment. >> Repeat themselves several times so you’ll believe that they didn’t do it When you’ve identified the lie, be cautious as well as compassionate. Even the Chief Justice of the Supreme Court shows compassion and offers punishment that is corrective. As parents we can certainly to do better than
that. A er all, our objective is not to simply punish our children and make them feel bad, but to make sure that we’re raising them to be responsible and honest individuals.
Be considerate If you suspect that your child is lying, don’t immediately accuse her. Remember that your child may actually be very afraid at that moment and just like adults, kids too are more comfortable speaking the truth when they are not afraid. So you first have to earn the trust of your child. To support your child in telling the truth, make him feel safe, loved and respected. Listen without judgment.
Shefali Batra [MD] is the Founder Psychiatrist at Mindframes, Mumbai. She has a decade of experience in developmental psychology, childhood behaviour modification and parent education. www.mindframes.co.in
Magnify the truth One would o en assume that if you want your child not to do something, you have to make her feel bad about doing it. All children know that it is not good to lie, but they do it out of fear. By focussing on what you ‘don’t’ want them to do, you’re drawing more attention to that behaviour. Now they will not only be fearful but also guilty. A better way to manage this situation is to praise your child each time she speaks the truth. That will motivate her to speak the truth more o en—in fact she will enjoy it too. Use phrases such as: >> “It’s very good to know that you are speaking the truth” >> “You’re a brave child for having spoken the truth” >> “I like knowing the truth. Thank you.”
Take your own advice If you don’t want your children to lie to you, you also must be completely honest with them in everything that you say to them, even when you’re refusing to give or do something they want. When they ask you why they can’t go play outside, instead of making up some arbitrary reason that isn’t true, share the real reason with them. Involve them in your process of wanting to be honest with them. And if the honest answer is that “you don’t know”, go ahead and tell them that you don’t know. Because it’s alright to not know! Your children need to learn that too—that it’s ok to not know. They need your honesty more than you realise it. By living what you want your children to do, you’ll set an example and show them what’s possible. They will learn to be brave, today as well as when they grow into adults. To subscribe to Complete Wellbeing, visit http://store.completewellbeing.com
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Changing times, changing ties On your journey of self-growth, not everyone you know may be able to keep pace with you but if you have to let go of them do it with gratitude and love
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Vanessa Anstee coaches women to live their courageous life now, gently and with a kick. She’s an executive and personal life coach with a passion and commitment to living fully. www.VanessaAnstee.com I REMEMBER ABOUT FOUR years ago my husband and I were in a couples coaching session together and I was just about to embark on a 10-month leadership programme. Our coach said to us, “If one of you is doing inner work, the other needs to do their work too, otherwise you will leave the other behind.” That comment stayed with both of us and fortunately we are still together and doing our inner work separately and simultaneously. But that’s not true for all my relationships. Some of them have been le behind. It is inevitable that as you grow into new success, you will leave people behind. Not everyone will understand, appreciate or even follow your lead. I see this in my current work where, as I step outside the box to lead, it unsettles those that are close to me who don’t necessarily share my journey or belief system. Suddenly there’s unease in our relationship because what I believe in and do feels ‘weird’ to them.
How can you meet this challenge? There is no hierarchy in spirituality We are all beautifully unique and our experiences and beliefs will impact and shape the success we have in life. Some people are really open to exploring their story and journey. Some others aren’t—they’re caught up in the status quo and for them it is the only way. There is no right or wrong, only an opportunity to explore. You can’t force anyone to want to shi even if you see how they’re limiting their power. Your job is to claim your light and success. Don’t make their resistance mean anything about you When people would challenge or resist my work, I used to make it mean something about me. I’d feel that perhaps I wasn’t enough and I didn’t really get it. But with time I realised that it’s just an expression of where they are and what they can see at this moment in time. Redefine the relationship You don’t have to cut people out of your life because of your new-found success. You get to redefine the relationship on your own terms. You can leave someone behind metaphorically but that doesn’t mean you have to do it physically as well. If you enjoy aspects of the relationship then keep them, just follow the resonance of the energy. Be clear with them and have a courageous conversation that shares what you enjoy about being with them and what boundaries need to be in place for you to still enjoy each other’s company. For example, I have a friend who thinks Complete Wellbeing
a lot of the work I do is silly, so we have an agreement not to talk about it. Let go with love For those relationships that you really need to let go of, do it with love in your heart rather than resentment or ego. We are all figuring out this game of life and we do so at a different pace and in different ways. When you decide it’s time to leave a relationship behind, you can do so by releasing them and sending them love. Holding on to resentment will not serve you on your onward journey. It won’t always be obvious when you need to leave someone behind. Sometimes the relationship just wanes and fizzles out. It’s helpful to bring closure and to acknowledge the gi s that the relationship gave you. As I look back at some of my relationships that no longer remain strong, it’s helpful to acknowledge and be grateful for what they gave me at the time. That helps me release the energy and give thanks for their support and friendship at the time. It means that if I meet them on my onward journey, I do so with a clean and open heart. Open up to new relationships As one relationship is le behind another potential one is coming into fruition. You are a traveller on a journey called life. As you stop along the way at different destinations, new people will be there to greet you. Many people don’t see the new friendships and opportunities. They keep their heads burrowed down and don’t notice those around them. If you stop and take time to enjoy the journey, you’ll make the most wonderful and incredible connections at just the right time. Your job is simply to be open to them and pay a ention. Relating to others as you grow as a person is both challenging and nurturing. It requires us to really know ourselves and get to know the other person. Once we’re clear about who we are, what’s important to us and what our definition of success looks like, it’s a lot easier to navigate through life in relationship with others. We see that our job isn’t to change anyone else; it’s just to follow our own guidance and energy. In relationship we co-create, and it’s important to honour our authentic selves by being with those that give us energy and empower us. Allow yourself the power to choose who you are in relationship with as your move forward. You choose who you plug your energy system into and you also get to unplug from those that no longer serve you. Doing this from a loving perspective is the key.
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Frequent flyer?
Bon Voyage! According to ayurveda frequent air travel can cause your vata to go out of balance. Geeta Vara shares tips on how to keep a check on it.
ARE YOU A BUSY executive who needs to travel frequently or is it just wanderlust? Although it can be fun and exciting, frequent and lengthy travel can disturb our bio-energetic forces, known in ayurveda as the three doshas—Vata, PiĴa, Kapha. Air travel, in particular, can drive our vata soaring. What’s vata you ask? Well it’s the dosha that governs all movement in the body and mind and is predominantly composed of ether and air qualities. Vata’s characteristics are dry, changeable, irregular and light. Since the activity of air travel has similar qualities, it hampers the vata balance. Knowing what your ayurvedic body type is can help to reduce the negative health effects of travel and also make your experience more pleasurable.
Adverse effects of air travel
Geeta Vara is a London-based Ayurvedic Practitioner, providing clients with personalised consultations, health coaching, bespoke treatments, corporate and private workshops. For more information visit: www.geetavara.co.uk.
When we travel by air, the dry, re-circulated in-flight air, increased cabin pressure and high altitude add to our already disturbed diet and lifestyle routine. Coupled with time zone changes and disconnection to earth, air travel can leave our bodies feeling quite out of sorts. Air travel can leave people with: >> Excessive sleepiness >> Inability to focus >> Headaches >> Feelings of nausea and dizziness >> Muscular joint aches >> Indigestion and constipation >> Dehydrated/dry and blemished skin Those individuals with a ‘vata’ dominant constitution or those who have always been
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used to [or have a preference for] a rigid routine are likely to be the most affected by jetlag. Here are some simple vata pacifying tips:
Before travel Before you travel, treat yourself to a hot oil abhyanga massage to lock in moisture in the deeper skin layers. This is a fantastic antidote for aggravated vata since it has warmth and lubricating qualities that counterbalance the dry and windy elements of vata. You can always do a self-massage at home or even in your hotel room! If your hotel has a spa that offers ayurvedic massages, get one before you take your flight to the next destination. Digestion can be sensitive around the time of travelling. Besides, meals are often scheduled according to the time of the destination so if you do eat on board go for a light, easy to digest and small portion, opt out of eating breads and cold foods. If you are not feeling hungry, avoid the meals altogether to prevent the digestive fire being disturbed. Preventing toxin accumulation will ensure the jetlag is more manageable. A few days before travel, eat meals with plenty of proteins and healthy oils. Foods such as warm cooked whole grains, root vegetables, ghee and digestive herbs such as cumin, coriander, ginger and turmeric are all good choices. How about soups, stews, hot pots, kitchari, dals and rice to set you up for your journey? Pack a few healthy snacks such as nuts and other dry fruits for the trip. Avoid salads, frozen foods, dry snacks, and ice in drinks—these aggravate vata. Most airlines would be happy to prepare a special meal for you if you tell them your dietary preferences in advance.
During the flight Sleeping pills? Never! Have Chyawanprash to assist your digestion as well as give you an immune boost for the increased exposure to germs. Ashwagandha, a rejuvenating ayurvedic herb, can further boost your immunity and help you rest deeply on the flight. Triphala can help balance your bowels as well as provide an anti-oxidant boost as it contains lots of vitamin C. A great aid to prevent constipated bowels. If your digestive fire [agni] is disturbed, opt for trikatu—a great aid for poor Complete Wellbeing
digestion, colds and congestion. Sleep, relaxing music and meditation are great for balancing vata before, during and a er air travel. Try hot milk with some warming spices such as cardamom and nutmeg. On the flight itself, avoid those dry, salty snacks they serve, as well as caffeine, carbonated and alcoholic drinks as these can further dehydrate you. Drink a small glass of water every hour and carry with you some herbal tea bags on board if you can’t get hold of fresh ginger—just ask for hot water! Staying hydrated on a flight is essential. With the body fighting to stay warm in the blasting air conditioning on aircra s, our health is further hindered by cold food and drinks. However, we are aided by warming food and drinks. Warm water will ensure that our agni does not get disturbed. Excessive cold water on our agni quite simply can put it out. Ginger is a great antidote for other travelrelated issues such as headaches and nausea. Try the crystallised variety for convenience. Exercise your limbs by walking and stretching; this will ensure that your prana stays circulating throughout the body during the flight. It will also help prevent deep vein thrombosis [DVT]. Complete Wellbeing
Air travel can cause imbalance at every level, especially of the senses. Avoid excess stimulation of the eyes so that they don’t become dry and give them plenty of rest even if you do not go to sleep. Protect the ears by putting a drop of warm cured sesame oil and place cotton wool to cover. Apply sesame oil to the nasal passages to protect the membranes from airborne bacteria. Spend time periodically taking deep breaths to calm and balance the nervous system and mind. If you are planning to carry edible items or fluids, check with your airline whether these would be allowed in your carry-on baggage.
During your flight, avoid caffeine, carbonated and alcoholic drinks as these are known to dehydrate
Post-flight Care Once you arrive at your destination, adjust to the local time and sleep when it is the natural bed time with some leeway for your body to fully rest so that your body clock can reset quickly. Ensure your first meal consists of light, easy to digest foods just like you had before your flight. You should stay balanced with these simple tips. Bon Voyage! To subscribe to Complete Wellbeing, send ‘CW SUB’ to 07738387787
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COURAGE and stop letting fear run your life Nelson Mandela said, “Courage is not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it.” In the Wizard of Oz, the Cowardly Lion is on the quest for courage only to find that it was always there within him. Aspects of our everyday life—to love and be loved, to grow, to speak up— require courage. Margie Warrell educates us that courage is not about conquering the world, it is about conquering ourselves.
I RECENTLY FOUND MYSELF standing seven metres above the ground on a trapeze platform— in a safety harness, aĴached to safety ropes, with a safety net below me and a muscle bound man standing close behind—aĞer signing up for a fun morning out at a trapeze school. As I peered down at the net, I was suddenly overcome with fear. While I intellectually knew that I couldn’t hurt myself, I was still gripped with fear and terrified of leaning out to take the bar. 12 MAY 2014 VOL VIII ISSUE 07
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It was a potent reminder that unless we manage our fears, they will manage us. It’s also why I believe that one of the most powerful questions you can ever ask yourself is: What would I do if I was being courageous? How many times have you thought to yourself “If I just had the courage?” The courage to make that change, take that chance, speak my mind, say no to something that doesn’t inspire me, or yes to something that does. “Arrghh, if only…” we tell ourselves as we weigh up the risks, and focus on all that might go wrong. Desperate to avoid nagging feelings of regret, we do our best to rationalise why sticking with the status quo isn’t so bad. While we clutch onto whatever evidence we can find to ease regret and keep doubts at bay. All the while somewhere, deep inside, we wish we’d been braver. Talk to anyone in the twilight years of their life and they are likely to tell you that when they look back on key decisions in their life, they wish they’d acted with less timidity and greater boldness. Many people—old and not so old alike—have shared with me how looking back on even just the last 10 years they can see how they underestimated themselves too much, played safe too often and, if given the chance to do it over, would have leant more toward risk and less toward caution. Which is why I am passionate about challenging people to rethink risk, to expand the vision that they have for their life and to be more courageous—in work, in love and in life. Having witnessed the possibilities that can open up when people decide to stop playing safe, I know that even the most timid souls and risk-averse worriers can act with courage. That is, to take action in the presence of their fears and doubts, not in their absence. The word courage comes from the French cor, meaning heart. So at the core of courage is choosing to live wholeheartedly—to bare your heart wide open to the full spectrum of experiences and emotions; to stop le ing fear run your life, and to start owning your power to create, achieve, become and contribute all that inspires you. But how do you move beyond the platitudes and T-shirt slogans about being bold and living fearlessly? How do you actually take that brave audacious leap of faith over a chasm of fear? 14 MAY 2014 VOL VIII ISSUE 07
Know why you are doing, what you are doing You start by asking yourself “For the sake of what?” You see, nothing worthwhile is accomplished with a guarantee of success; risk is a toll, which life exacts en route to any meaningful endeavour. So finding the courage to risk demands being super clear about ‘why’ you are doing it in the first place. We are wired to focus more on what we have to lose than what we might gain. Therefore, before you can find the courage to risk losing something—whether it be material security, social status, professional pride or admiration—you have to be crystal clear about what it is you want to gain in the process. “For the sake of what?” are you going to lay your reputation, your pride, your status and vulnerability on the line? Only when your desire for something transcends your desire for safety [and comfort] can you rise above the fears hard-wired into you to protect you from such dangers.
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Your ‘Why’ is what gives your life a sense of purpose and lies at the intersection of your talents, passions, values and skills. It’s what fuels you and what fills you. It’s the ‘why’ that propelled Anthony Crowley to give up the security, status and trimmings of a job in the advertising industry to pursue his passion in the performing arts. A gifted musician, playwright and artist in his mid-twenties, Anthony decided he didn’t want to look back on life wondering ‘What if?’ Complete Wellbeing
While Anthony’s name is not up in lights beside Lloyd-Webber’s [yet], his plays and musicals have been presented and awarded around the world. Not only does Anthony draw enormous satisfaction from his work, but he provides a powerful role model for his children and many others on what it means to live your passion.
mutant viruses, violence, identity theft, global warming… the list is long. Marketers prey on our fears, the media prey on our fears while politicians play on our fears. Fear sells products. Fear sells papers. Fear wins votes. Fear makes profit. Fear grows power. And fear fuels fear. That’s why, in a world that is so filled
Confront your fears, rethink risk Fear often gets a bad rap, but it serves the vital role of alerting us to potential threats to our safety, protecting us from harm and pain. However, in today’s culture of fear, we can unwi ingly find ourselves living in its shadow, unable to distinguish those fears that are genuinely serving us from those that are stifling our actions and limiting our experience of life. Every day, we are bombarded with reasons why we should feel afraid. Fear of economic recession. Fear of job loss. Fear of losing our savings. Fear of radicalism, fundamentalism, government, racialism, terrorism, isolation,
Stop living in the shadow of fears that limit your life experience and stifle your actions
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