hayden dethly

Hayden is 24 years old from Portugal. His favorite hobbies include gaming, listening to music and nerding out to TV shows! His *not so hidden* talent is making memes out of anything and he’s very proud of that.

My coming out story isn’t super long, I wasn’t sure if it was worth including but if there’s a chance that it some good comes out of it, then I’ll happily share. I was 17 and struggling with the fact I couldn’t be my true self. I used to ran a twitter account based around the things I liked, I kept it private but a girl in my class found it and in my bio, I stated I was gay, I felt like I could be myself online, because no one knew me and no one around me could ”judge” me.

I had never suspected that anyone I knew would ever find that account, to this day, I’m not exactly sure how she did it. I’m sure you can guess where this is heading. So yes, after finding that account, instead of keeping it to herself or talking to me privately about it, she decided to share that fact about me with everyone that would listen. For the most part, no one really cared, there were some stares and some giggles, but they quickly moved on. I was surprised because I know not everyone has it easy like that. My closest friends didn’t care and I’m sure deep down, they already knew and they respected me enough to let me take my time.

After this happened, I wanted my family to know from me, but I was too scared, so I wrote my mom a long text message... Looking back I know I could have talked face to face with my mom but again, the fear was stronger. I don’t think my mom was that surprised, she didn’t take it 100% well the first few days, mostly because she was worried for me and worried about me being in danger because not everyone in the world is so accepting. She did ask the typical ”Are you sure” questions and wondered if it was ”just a phase” - my mom actually talked to my dad about it too, so I thankfully didn’t have to come out multiple times. This awkward period didn’t last long, and nowadays it’s not even an issue and they see it as a part of me like anything else.

I’ve never felt the need to tell everyone that I know that I’m gay, I’m not hiding it, if someone asks about a girlfriend I’ll simply tell them I’m gay, like it’s no big deal, because it’s not and it shouldn’t be. I’ve learned that if someone judges you for being you, they have no place in your life and that has made things a bit easier for me.