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Issue 8 - 2015

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In this Issue 5

Tell Her, Tell All

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Security: Do you feel Safe in Your Home?

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The Boxer

9

Erythrina Caffra

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Reflections of a psychologist

13

Southern Boubou

14

Medical Moments from the Cookie Jar

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Is jy n goeie luisteraar?

19

What is Waste?

21

Walking your Four-Legged Friend

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From the Editor

September was a busy month, Spring is meant to be in the air, but looking at the grey skies around us, I for one haven’t felt very “springy”. September saw a friend loose her dad to cancer after a long struggle and my thoughts are with her and her family at this sad time. October is International Breast Cancer Awareness Month; we have all been touched by cancer one way or the other. When you drive or walk down our community streets during October, look at the pretty pink tree covers and remember what they really represent, and spare a thought for all those fighting against cancer.

On a lighter note, thank you to everyone who celebrated ‘Braai Day’ with a braai at home – the neighourhood sure smelled delicious!

A regular hot topic on the GarsCom Facebook page is driving skills and driver behavior in our area. I would like to say, that if we all stick to the rules of the road, driving would be less stressful for all of us.

“A car has several signaling devices - indicators, brake lights, hazard warning lights, headlights, reversing lights and the car hooter. These signaling devices are used by a driver to communicate to other road users what they intend to do. They help drivers “read the road”. Signals give advance warning to other road users that you intend to perform a manoeuvre.”

If you indicate your intension to turn at the circle, other drivers won’t cut you off - using your indicators will make driving a lot less stressful - for all of us.

I hope you will enjoy this issue, and look forward to receiving your comments and feedback. Until next time, stay safe. Anyone own a Bordeaux? Send us some pictures for issue 9 - featzmags@gmail.com

ABOUT CANSA

CANSA offers a unique integrated service to the public and to all people affected by cancer. As a leading role-player in cancer research (more than R12 million spent annually), the scientific findings and knowledge gained from our research are used to realign our health programmes as well as strengthen our watchdog role to the greater benefit of the public. Our health programmes comprises health and education campaigns, CANSA Care Centres that offer a wide range of care and support services to those affected by cancer, offer stoma and other clinical support and organisational management, medical equipment hire as well as a toll-free line to offer information and support. We also supply patient care and support in the form of 12 CANSA Care Homes in the main metropolitan areas for out-of-town cancer patients plus one hospitium based in Polokwane, as well as CANSA-TLC lodging for parents and guardians of children undergoing cancer treatment. Read more about how CANSA fights cancer in your community: Visit www.cansa.org.za or contact CANSA toll-free 0800 22 66 22 or email info@cansa.org.za. Follow CANSA on Twitter and join CANSA on Facebook and on Pinterest

Are you supporting the GarsCom Patrol Teams?

To get involved, or for more information email: patrols@garscom.co.za

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Tell Her, Tell All ‘Tell her, tell all’ campaign aims to educate women on the significance of knowing their body, and the importance of regular cancer screening. And to encourage all women to get to know the warning signs of cancer and what to do to reduce the cancer risk. It’s vital to educate oneself and to know the sign and symptoms of these cancers. CANSA has over 180 fact sheets sharing the signs, risks, symptoms and treatment options of all types of cancers that can be viewed on www.cansa.org.za or call the toll-free line (0800 226622) for a copy to help increase knowledge.

Apart from non-melanoma skin cancer, breast cancer remains the most common cancer in women of all races and ethnicities. According to the 2009 National Cancer Registry, 1 in 33 women in South Africa have a lifetime risk for breast cancer. The second most common cancer among women is cervical cancer, with a lifetime risk of 1in 42 women in South Africa. The incidence of cancer of the uterus is 1 in 160 women, and 1 in 460 have a lifetime risk for ovarian cancer.

Lesang Moholobela, whose mother was diagnosed with cervical cancer, also had a cancer scare herself and encourages women to do regular screening; “In 2012, I was doing a breast self-examination and found a lump in my breast. Fortunately, there was no cause for alarm. However, I always tell people that ‘you know your body best’. It’s not taboo to touch yourself. Doing a breast self-examination or getting a clinical breast exam at least once a month is crucial.” Find out more on how to do monthly breast selfexaminations here http://www.cansa.org.za/steps-how-todo-a-breast-self-examination-bse/.

Nellie Snyman found a lump in her breast during a routine examination in October 2010. She was referred to a specialist who diagnosed her with breast cancer, followed by chemotherapy and radiation. “I lost my hair but not my humour – my friends encouraged me to wear big earrings because I reminded them of a famous singer and I took the challenge to take off my wig at functions where nobody expected it. As a cancer survivor, I volunteer with CANSA as part of the CANSA Relay For Life programme, to create awareness of the disease.”

“It’s been an amazing journey with highs and lows weaved together. I realised how important it is to look after your health and to go for the necessary health checks regularly. CANSA assisted me throughout the seven-week treatment period.

I live everyday with hope and encourage other survivors to do the same. A healthy lifestyle is of the utmost importance,” says Lucinda Carter, 10-year cervical cancer survivor.

Various screenings are available for women: • Do monthly breast self-examinations and Pap smears • Go for regular screening (clinical breast

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examinations) available at 30 CANSA Care Centres (http://www.cansa.org.za/ cansa-care-centres-contact-details/) countrywide Symptom-free women should go for a mammogram every year from age 40 SureTouch - non-invasive device for safe breast screening (not a diagnostic tool) - available at some CANSA Care Centres CANSA also has various Mobile Health Clinics which offer screening to people in communities who do not have easy access to health screening (http:// www.cansa.org.za/cansa-mobile-health-clinics/).

When it comes to screening for cervical cancer, it’s important to go for regular Pap smears that can detect abnormal cells in the cervix (mouth of the womb), that could develop into cervical cancer. CANSA encourages all women ages 18 - 25 who have ever been sexually active to have a Pap smear every 3 years, or 2 years later after first sexual activity (whichever is later) and continue until age 70. Also learn more about the Human Papilloma Virus (HPV) vaccine, which reduces the risk of cervical cancer - http://www. cansa.org.za/reduce-the-risk-of-cervical-cancer-throughvaccination/).

Visit the CANSA website for more information on CANSA’s Women’s Health campaign - http://www.cansa. org.za/womens-health/ or join us on social media for more information. CANSA The Cancer Association of South Africa on Facebook, @CANSA on Twitter and @ CancerAssociationOfSouthAfrica on Instagram.

(For more information, please contact Lucy Balona, Head: Marketing and Communication at CANSA at email lbalona@ cansa.org.za. Call 011 616 7662 or cell: 082 459 5230. You can visit www.cansa.org.za or call CANSA toll-free 0800 22 66 22 or email: info@cansa.org.za.)

DID YOU KNOW?

Lifetime risk of breast cancer in SA women

1* in 33

BREAST CANCER IS THE MOST COMMON CANCER AMONG SA WOMEN

BIG

WARNING SIGNS

& SMALL,

Let’s save them all!

A puckering of the skin of the breast

An unusual increase in the size of one breast

A lump in the breast or armpit

One breast unusually lower than the other.

Nipples at different levels

MYTH I am too young to get breast cancer

Men can’t get breast cancer

Alcohol is not linked to breast cancer Only women with a family history of breast cancer are at risk I have never had children, so I can’t get breast cancer

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A change in the skin around the nipple or nipple discharge

Dimpling of the nipple or nipple retraction

An enlargement of the glands

An unusual swelling in the armpit

Go for regular breast examinations

FACT Many women who are under 40 are diagnosed with breast cancer 1 in 1 249 men have a lifetime risk of breast cancer Alcohol use increases the risk of breast cancer All women are at risk, but family history increases the risk Women who have never had children, or only had them after 30, have increased risk of breast cancer

MOBILE HEALTH CLINIC

CANSA has Mobile Health Clinics that do screening in the communities

REDUCING THE CANCER RISK Do monthly breast self-examinations Go for regular screening (clinical breast

examinations) at CANSA Care Centres SureTouch - non-invasive device for safe breast

screening (not a diagnostic tool) - available at some CANSA Care Centres Symptom-free women should go for a mammogram

every year from age 40 Sponsored by

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The Cancer Association of South Africa (CANSA) is raising awareness in September and October with its ‘Tell her, tell all’ Women’s Health campaign. The focus is on educating regarding cancers that affect women, including breast, cervical, ovarian and uterine.

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Security

Do You Feel Safe in Your Home?

We all have alarm systems, armed response and dogs behind high fences, but do we feel safe in our own homes? There are over 18 000 house robberies committed in South Africa every year, open any newspaper or magazine to see the evidence of violent crime all around us.

In Garsfontein we are a little luckier than than most of our neighbours, I attribute this not only to our limited access routes, but also to the brilliant work done by our GarsCom Patrol Teams.

The book: Home Invasion, written by former detective Rudolph Zinn gives a good insight into home invasion and is a recommended read if you want to prevent becoming yet another statistic.

A few suggestions to improve your security include: • Prevent people from obtaining information about valuables in your house.

• Don’t share details regarding security

systems (and valuables kept at home)with outsiders – that includes domestic workers and gardeners.

• Try avoiding a routine when entering and leaving your property – you never know when you are being watched.

• Always remain vigilent – regardless what security measures you have in place.

• Remember – any security system is useless if it is ignored or turned off.

• Keep up to date regarding local crime trends (GarsCom members receive a weekly newsletter containing crime updates).

• Participate in the GarsCom Patrol initiative (for more information: email: patrols@ garscom.co.za).

Stay safe, keep an eye out for each other but remember – no-one likes a nosy neighbour – so beware of crossing the line.

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The Boxer Peter Pan of Dog Breeds

Boxers are large, muscular, square-headed dogs who look imposing – until you look into their eyes and see the mischief and joy of life reflected there. Their playful nature and boundless energy sometimes have them referred to as a Dog Peter Pan! Boxers are only considered fully mature at 3 years old – meaning they have one of the longest puppyhoods in the world of dogs.

The typical Boxer is intellegent, alert and fearless, yet friendly. He is loyal and playful but can be headstrong – especially if harsh training methods are used.

With minimal grooming requirements and legendary patience and gentleness with children, Boxers are great family companions – as long as you provide the excercise and mental stimulation they need.

Boxers originated in Germany. Boxers had been used as guard dogs during World War I, carrying out a range of duties – including guarding military sites, looking for escaped prisoners and escourt work.

Boxers are often distrustful of strangers, but will not be aggressive unless they preceive a threat to their family. Their loving nature will often have them thinking they are lapdogs.

Boxer owners around the world take delight in the breeds clownish behaviour. Boxers are high-spirited, happy and energetic. Watching a Boxer run is a delight. They are exuberant, happy and graceful – it is sure to bring a smle to your face when they start jumping, twisting and even turning somersaults to entertain you.

Points to consider before making a Boxer part of your family: • Boxers are high-energy dogs • Boxers are exuberant • Early consistent training is critical • Boxers are not “outdoor dogs” • Boxers mature slowly • They NEED to be around their family • Boxers drool – a lot and they snore loudly • Boxers shed – especially early spring • They are intelligent and respond well to firm but fun training • Some Boxers are are serious guard dogs, while others show no guarding instinct at all Vitals: Height: 53 to 65cm tall at the shoulder Weight: 27 to 31kg Life Span: 10 to 12 years

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Pasta with Tomato, Spinach, Basil and Brie

Preperation time: 10 mins Cooking time: 20 mins Serves: 4 Ingredients: - 2 gloves garlic, minces - Âź cup olive oil - 450 ml fresh ripe tomatoes, chopped (about 2 medium tomatoes) - 180ml brie cheese, rind removed, cut into small chunks - 1 teaspoon lemon zest - 3 tablespoons lemon juice (1 lemon) - A handfull of basil leaves, sliced thinly - 150g baby spinach, rinsed, patted dry - 200g linguine or fettuccine pasta

- ½ cup grated parmesan - Salt & pepper to taste Method: 1. Heat a large pot of salted water fr the paste. While the water is heating prep the ingredients. Once water is boiling, add the pasta and cook until al dante. (cooked through, but still a little firm to the bite) 2. While the pasta is cooking, place the garlic, olice oil, chopped tomatoes, chunks of brie, lemon zest and lemon juice into a large microwave safe bowl.

Microwave for 2-3 minutes or until brie is melty and soft.

3. Once the pasta is done, drain it and place in the bowl with the cheese and tomatoes. Add the basil and baby spinach. Toss together so that thespinach, basil, cheese and tomatoes are well dispearsed through the pasta. Break up any large pieces of cheese. Spinkle with grated parmesan cheese and freshly ground blacl pepper, and toss more to incorporate. Add salt to taste.

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Erythrina Caffra – Coral Tree The Coral tree is widely loved for its warm red to scarlet coloured flowers which appear from the cold winter months up to early spring. Its popularity can be ascribed to its ease of cultivation and long flowering period. Its unique appearance has continued to draw the interest of botanists, horticulturists, nature lovers and the general gardening public for decades.

This deciduous tree is medium to large in size, depending on the climate and soil conditions but can reach up to 20m in height. The Coral tree forms a round-headed, spreading canopy and has a beautifully light green appearance when in leaf.

The trunk and branches are grey, sometimes set with short sharp prickles. The leaves are typically trifoliate (three leaflets), which are broadly ovate to elliptic.

The flowers are spectacular and are produced before the leaves appear and carried in large clusters at the ends of thick, fleshy stalks. The flowers are short, broad, standard petals, the lower half of which turns upwards to expose the stamen.

The fruits are dark cylindrical pods which are up to 65mm long. The pods split to release the small, shiny, coral – red seeds which are marked on the one side with a black spot.

Commonly known as lucky beans.

The wood is very soft, spongy and light. Hollowed trunks were used to make canoes and troughs, and cubes of wood were used as floats for fishnets.

There is a delightful avenue of them near Port St John where they are a splendid sight when in full spring flower and alive with birds.

A Lucky Bean

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Antonia Roos Reflections of a psychologist: mental illness through a lens of dignity A gentle hand brushes my cheek as someone whispers in my ear, “Hear the invisible…linger in its beauty”. I open my eyes and feel the cool breeze. I look out the window and, judging by the bright moon, I realise I’ve had about a ten-hour nap. There is a pattern in the apricot tree I hadn’t noticed- it is a wizard holding his hat. But wait, as the leaves move around, so does the picture- he is now jumping like a cat on a hot tin roof! I put on my glasses. Turns out it was just a crack in the branch, probably caused by the weight of the ripe fruit. I take them off again…

Since the age of five I thought I would become a musician.

I come from a small town in Bulgaria where we all had little due to the residual effects of communism, but had celebrated the little things, with music in the centre. Growing up in South Africa, music became my main activity and I passively entered piano competitions, at the guidance of my teacher. It was a new context but I enjoyed sharing my music on stage and advancing during practice. However, the focus gradually shifted from embracing and celebrating a gift, to an empty attempt towards perfection.

I became increasingly aware of the outward importance of achieving and being the best. Music was reified, as trophies and awards were highly valued in my environment. I was drawn by ambition at first, then by a fear, to partake in the competitive world of performing classical music. I was naive at the time in that I internalised unrewarded performances as personal shortcomings.

Being self-conscious and afraid of failure perpetuated a self-defeating cycle where my performance would suffer, resulting in more anxiety. It reached a point where I found little joy in playing, and performing would be a recurrent stressor. The self-consciousness became more global as I started to focus on other perceived imperfections. Perhaps the most debilitating of these was my increasing belief that I was appallingly ugly, with a focus on my skin. Only years later would I discover this to be body dysmorphic disorder.

As my self-esteem deteriorated, I gradually withdrew socially and began to neglect my music. I was also biased towards apparent signifiers in my environment that would reinforce my negative beliefs. Spending most of my free time in my room, I would confide in my diaries and compose music as an outlet for my feelings.

In Matric, I realised that with the state I was in, I would not be happy pursuing a BMus degree. It was a particularly difficult

time for me as I felt I had no other way of contributing to society. With the guidance of my sister and a psychologist, I had hope and energy to explore other interests I hadn’t been aware of. I realised I was unhappy with music because I was not pursuing it in a manner that I felt would give it justice. I see music as a universal language that is there for us to embrace and enjoy. Instead of attempting to present it in a manner that would be approved of by ‘experts’, I would rather involve music in a therapeutic context, in a similar role it served back in Bulgaria. I also realised that I am sensitive to the social world and that the human mind was of interest to me.

I took first year at university one day at a time, without expectations or pressure on myself to excel. I became comfortable in my environment and felt a sense of appropriateness in where I was. At the same time, I underwent treatment for my distorted perceptions of my appearance and addressed my self esteem. Having emerged with a healthy self-concept while enjoying my studies, I became driven with passion for psychology, one that is expanding to this day.

I used to think that the world was “out there”, “as it is”, where having my glasses on would expose my imperfections.

Today I consider perceptions as being coloured by one’s lenses of the world- a belief both liberating and comforting.

Perhaps partly owing to personal experience, I found myself particularly enticed to psychopathology. I have been both burdened with and overcome a disorder, and having been on both sides I see how one’s reality is dictated by perception.

Having experienced mental illness both personally and in my environment, I am enticed. As I found meaning in my experience not only did I reach a place of dignity, but as my own therapist once said, “There is nothing I respect more than human pain”.

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Southern Boubou – Laniarius Ferrugineus

The Southern Boubou is a bush shrike, found in southeastern Africa, mainly in Southeastern Zimbabwe, Eastern Botswana, Mozambique and Southern and Eastern South Africa. It frequents dense thickets in forests, mangroves, scrubs and our local gardens. In drier regions they are found in riverside woodlands.

The male Southern Boubou is a fairly distinctive 20 – 22cm log bird with black upper parts extending from the top of the head down to the tail, a striking white wing stripe, and a relatively long black tail with white outer feathers. The under parts are white shading to rufous on the lower belly, under tail and flanks. The bill, eyes and legs are black.

The female is similar to the male, but dark grey above and with a rufous wash to the breast.

Young birds are like the female, but mottled buffbrown above, have a buff wash to the wing bar, and are barred below.

Unlike true shrikes, which perch conspicuously in the open, the Southern Boubou prefers to forage in dense vegetation close to the ground, a habit which has led to its being called shy and skulking.

They feed on mainly insects, taken from the ground or picked off vegetation. It will also take small rodents, lizard snails and fruits.

The Southern Boubou has a duetted call, with an ooo-whee-ooo, followed by a whistled ooo-ooo-

whee or the other way round. The duet has many variations and the liquid ooo-whee-ooo call may be mistaken for the black-headed oriole.

The nest, built mainly by the female, is a shallow cup in a creeper or dense bush into which the usually two brown-blotched greenish-white eggs are laid. Both sexes incubate for 16 – 17 days of hatching and both bring food to the chicks.

Fledging takes place in another 16 days.

Note there are six races –differing in size, upper part colour and the extent of rufous on the under parts.

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Medical Moments from the Cookie Jar: Dr. Joji Theron (MBChB, MSC)

‘Darling’ she said ever so gently ‘I have some sad news. Uncle Dave* passed away this morning’.

And the physical blow followed those words like a cognitive transatlantic delay. Confusion. It must be a mistake. Are you sure? What happened?

No way! I was going to see him in a month during an already planned road trip. Devastation. The tumultuous cauldron of emotion, questions and reason. No matter whom you are, your race or religion, it is part of the package deal when loving someone – and in losing them. Grief is a human condition that shows no prejudice.

But perhaps due to my profession and the coping skills learned, I tend to disconnect partially during times where functioning and support to others is needed. My grieving is done alone, mostly when everyone else is sleeping or happily out somewhere, much later. But this impartiality in the nidus of the storm allows certain objectivity in observing. The modified Kübler-Ross model puts names to these cascades of emotional grief reactions, namely shock and denial; pain and guilt; anger and bargaining; depression, refection and loneliness; and finally acceptance. Important to note though, this is not a linear progression. Nor with a time-limit set to any stage. Depending on an individual as well as the depth of the loss, a person can rapidly go through all the first few

stages in an hour, even a day, cycling between them. Or over weeks or months. Only once having worked through all those emotions, can one get to a resolution of acceptance and begin to hope again. Although this, by no means, does not mean that you will never feel the loss and pain anymore.

Over the weekend of the funeral, I watched Uncle Dave’s dear, dear family live those phases of grief. His was a beautiful story. An honourable and charitable gentleman with a kind heart, Uncle Dave successfully raised a family and built a life from nothing as a boy. He died peacefully at the age of 89, next to his amazing wife of over 60 years.

He had had a wonderful day with all his children and most of his grandchildren the day before. And as legacy, he left behind an emotionally equipped and united family, all of whom were living welladjusted grief reactions, mourning the passing of a man they loved so dearly and celebrating his life that was. The depression and acceptance will come sometime after, particularly for his wife, but I have no doubt that they will support and love each other through this.

In a world that loves its quick fixes and easy accessibility, it struck me how seldom I see people face the tragedies of life head-on. Because, no matter how well it is explained, grieving hurts.

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Life is checkered shade and sunshine It is uncomfortable. It is hard. But it is essential in becoming. It is during these times that you excavate your being, define who you really are and what you truly believe in. Those dark days not only lay a foundation of strength, but also kindle empathy and kindness that becomes a molten core within your multi-dimensional being.

You discover who your people are: you discover who you are. And more often than not, I have patients asking for medication to glaze over these processes: a tranquilizer, and sleeping tablet, something to make the pain go away. And I hesitate, because unless the grieving reaction has become pathological or they are a danger to their own or other people’s lives, this shadowed part of life is so essential to walk through.

This grieving process is all-encompassing to loss in our lives: death of a loved one, ending of a relationship, losing your job, sudden disability, chronic disease or terminal illness, rejection, drug addiction, infertility and miscarriages and even incarceration. All of them entail loss, if even loss of a dream and a possible future. Important is to allow yourself to mourn: take all the time you need. Be kind to yourself. One of my closest friends stands at the precipice of losing everything she has, and as I walk beside her I can but admire her as she navigates this path of finding meaning and value within herself, her life and who she is becoming. There are dark days during which the fear is overwhelming. Sleepless nights of agonising.

But she is staying fully present, grappling with

her faith and the metal she is made of. And she is becoming more beautiful each day that she walks through her valley of darkness: no drugs, medications, alcohol or escapism. And when her night becomes dawn, which it always does, she will be dazzling.

‘From the sky the sun benignant Looked upon them through the branches, Saying to them, “O my children, Love is sunshine, loss is shadow, Life is checkered shade and sunshine’ Modified from the Song of Hiawatha by HW Longfellow Picture taken on the grounds of a Carthusian Monastery -Grande Chartreuse in the Chartreuse Mountains, north of Grenoble, France. J Theron 2012 *Name changed for confidentiality Dr Theron is a senior lecturer at the Medical School of the University of Pretoria, and has a background in emergency and pre-hospital medicine.

Please note that the opinion expressed in this article is not necessarily held by the University of Pretoria.

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Is jy ʼn GOEIE LUISTERAAR? Anita Sinosich As luisteraar, waar sal jy jouself plaas op ʼn skaal van 1 tot 10?

1 = baie swak - 10 = uitstekend Vra vir mense wat hulle as die belangrikste rede beskou waarom kommunikasie tussen mense skipbreuk lei en jy kry die antwoord: Onbereidwilligheid en onvermoe van mense om werklik te luister.

Wanneer ons as gesinsgenote nie na mekaar luister nie kan dit die volgende tot gevolg hê: 1. Gevoelens van ongelukkigheid, verwerping, woede, irritasie, frustrasie, minderwaardigheid en isolasie.

2. Gebrekkige kommunikasie.

3. Probleme word nie effektief opgelos nie.

4. Oppervlakkige verhoudings – gesingenote vervreem van mekaar.

5. Gebrekkige vertrouensverhoudings en agterdog.

Dink ʼn bietjie watter van hierdie punte is van toepassing op jou. Hoe luister jy na jou kind?

Waar

Onwaar

Jou kind het skaars begin praat en jy maak reeds ʼn belangse gevolgtrekking en spreek dadelik jou gevoelens en opinies uit Jy val hom in die rede

deel.

4. Gepaste vrae: Die ouer vra vrae wat slegs gerig is op die verkryging van meer inligting en nie vrae wat evaluerend of beskuldigend is nie.

Byvoorbeeld: Rudi het net ʼn gewone fiets en wil graag ratte aan sy fiets hê. Hy vertel sy pa daarvan en sy pa kan nou ʼn gepaste inhoudsvraag vra: “Het jy al sommetjies gemaak oor hoeveel die ratte, asook die aansit daarvan sal kos?” Dit sal Rudi aanmoedig om verder te vertel. Rudi sal egter ontmoedig voel as sy pa sou vra: “En wie dink jy gaan daarvoor betaal?”

5. Geduld - Een van die beste maniere om jou kind te kry om te luister na wat jy sê, is om eers na hom te luister.

6. Gevoelens opvang en ondersteun – Dit is so maklik om verby jou kind se gevoelens te praat en te maak of jy dit nie raak sien nie. Dit is ook nou maar eenmaal so dat so baie mense ongemaklik is met sekere gevoelens, maar wees dapper as ouer en spreek dit aan. Dit sal oneindig baie beteken vir jou en jou kind se verhouding. Verstaan jou kind se gevoelens en plaas jouself in sy skoene. Probeer om die spesifieke situasie te sien soos hy dit sien.

Byvoorbeeld: “Jy moes baie ontsteld en vernederd gevoel het.”

Daar kom tye dat ʼn ouer se eie behoeftes op die voorgrond is en hy nie dadelik na sy kind kan luister nie. Jy kan wel erkenning vir jou kind se gevoelens gee en ʼn bepaalde tyd reel om later te gesels.

Gee die kind min kans on sy saak te stel Jy interpreter en gee dus jou eie betekenis ten opsigte van die saak Jy stel onnodige vrae en steur sy gedagtegang Jy beoordeel so wel as veroordeel Jy gee raad en oplossings Een van die belangrikste bewyse van liefde tussen ouer en kind is dat hulle hul ore vir mekaar sal oopstel. Kom ons kyk wat behels basiese luistervaardighede.

1. Gee volle aandag veral wanneer jou kind ʼn probleem het. Met ander woorde jy rig jou op jou kind se gedagtes, gevoelens en behoeftes. Die kind moet die middelpunt word terwyl jy jouself op die agtergrond skuif.

2. Gebruik die “vertel my meer” tegniek. Jy nooi die kind uit om te praat. “Ja, vertel my meer.” of “Dit lyk of jy baie bekommerd is.” Jou liggaamshouding, stemtoon, en gesigsuitdrukking moet ook meelewing toon.

3. Opsomming: Maak ʼn opsomming, hierdeur maak jy seker dat jy die belangrikste punte gesnap het. Dit sal ʼn goeie idee wees om naastenby jou kind se eie woorde te gebruik. Herhaal net die belangrikste @Garsfontein - 17 - Issue 8 - 2015

Environmental

What is Waste? Something we use inefficiently or inappropriately!

Waste is a human concept, there is no such thing as waste in nature. There is no need for waste management in the natural circle of life. Natural production and decomposition process are all well balanced. On the other hand however, man-made systems do not work quite as well.

Our economic value of material and energy leads to a lot of waste production which is highly destructive to the environment.

Waste management efforts are focused at local government level and based on high tech/ high energy waste disposal by methods such as landfill and incineration. These methods are becoming increasingly expensive and energy inefficient. Our current waste disposal is not sustainable and will have negative implications for future generation.

Methods to manage waste: • Waste minimization – look at ways to reduce your own waste – re-use plastic bags or simply don’t buy them at all • Recycling – this does not need to be limited to our paper and plastic recycling programme – why don’t we as a community look into getting our own glass, paper and tin recycling bins at the Spar centre? Have you considered a worm farm? (We will run an article on worm farms in the next issue) Our ultimate goal should be waste minimisation, but if everyone did their bit towards recycling there just might be some light at the end of the tunnel.

Currently between 21% and 40% of municipal waste in South African Cities is organic, increasing to up to 45% if you include paper and cardboard. More than half the waste sent to landfill can be used as growing media for plants. Considering the investment that went into creating the organic waste, this is too valuable resource to simply throw away. However, organic waste sent to a landfill rots under anaerobic (without oxygen) conditions, giving off methane gas. Methane is one of the “greenhouse gases” that trap heat in the atmosphere, contributing to climate change.

While garden waste can be shredded or chipped for use as mulch and compost. Food waste is putrescible (it becomes putrid and smelly) and attracts pests like rats and flies if it is left to rot. In order to prevent potential health and environmental problems, food waste is generally taken to landfills and buried.

Clearly more appropriate and sustainable approaches to waste management need to be adopted. We need a system that is local and community based.

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Walking Your Four-Legged Friend Our area is full of dog lovers who enjoy spending time walking their four legged friends. Anyone who has every read the GarsCom Facebook page will know all about the debates that rage around residents walking their dogs. Unfortunately not everyone loves dogs. We have a few ideas on dog walking etiquette to make all residents lives easier.

While it is always a good idea to socialize your puppy at an early age, it is very important to remember that other dogs might not be social. (I have first-hand experience with our wire-hair terrier Felix, he was well socialized as a puppy and often enjoyed play dates with other dogs, yet as he got older he developed a dislike for all dogs – we think it is simply because he believes he is a human.)

For more advise on socializing your dogs: contact Anita at Nifty Pups on 071 365 8787 Please keep in mind that no matter how well trained your pooch may be there is always a risk of an open gate or another dog without a leash. I never walk my pooch without a leash and if I have to share the amount of incidences where other dogs have attacked us – you will be shocked. Even a trained dog has an instinct to protect his area as well as his owner. Please keep your gates closed, even when you are standing right there – it really is in the best interest of your dog, as well as the dog walkers. However – dog walkers should be aware of other residents arriving home, and hold back your pooch to give residents a chance to enter their property safely without their dogs running out.

When it comes to a collar and leash, there are a lot of available options in this department. Some good advice would be to ensure your leash isn’t longer than 2m and that the collar is soft and comfortable on your dog. Try to imagine how you would feel been dragged down the street on a collar cutting into your skin – then take a good look at what’s around your dog’s neck.

Please do not walk your dog without a leash – if you do, and my pooch - on his leash bites your dog when he runs up to us – I will not take responsibility – and I am sure all other dog owners who make use of a leash will agree. Dogs are by nature curious and even well trained dogs want to give everything new a sniff – it’s who they are and what we love them for.

Identification is without a doubt the most

important thing you could buy your dog. A small tag on his collar, with your name and contact telephone number is a vital accessory. Daily residents are picking up dogs wandering the streets. This small investment will ensure when your dog makes a run for it, they can be returned to you. Visit Vet’s Health Café in Faerie Glen – they will engrave a tag while you wait.

Ensure that you are able to control your furry friend on his leash when you are walking down the street. My question to you is this: your 10 year old daughter walks down the road with your 40kg Boerboel on a leash, he’s well trained, and she loves holding the leash. What happens when the neighbour down the road opens his gate and his dog comes running out? Control means a lot more than a well-trained dog when you are walking down a residential street.

We all understand the importance of staying hydrated when exercising in the heat, but do you include your dog? They need water too. Carry a water bottle and a small bowl to ensure your friend can enjoy a drink when you are going to be away from home for an extended period.

Finally, The Poop Scoop! This topic has left me shaking my head when reading the GarsCom Facebook page, as there has even been photographic evidence! Dog owners – please try to maintain a level of respect for your fellow residents – if your pooch drops it – it is your responsibility to pick it up! A small scoop and plastic bag, is very easy to fit in your pocket!

To all the residents of GarsCom – happy walking!

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Report Faulty Streetlights

A very small but important contribution you can make to the security of our neighbourhood is to report faulty streetlights to the City Council. A well-lit area is avoided by criminals and aids our patrollers who are endeavoring to keep us all safe. This needs to be done on a regular basis.

Telephone Numbers: 080 111 1556 or 012 358 9999 Email: streetlights@tshwane.gov.za Please ensure you provide the following: Physical address Street corner nearest to the faulty streetlight Streetlight pole number Details / nature of the problem Contact details of the caller

Wildest Dreams

Written by: Taylor Swift, Max Martin & Shellback

He said let’s get out of this town Drive out of the city Away from the crowds I thought heaven can’t help me now Nothing lasts forever But this is gonna take me down He’s so tall and handsome as hell He’s so bad but he does it so well I can see the end s it begins My one condition is Chorus:Say you’ll remember me Standing in a nice dress Staring at the sunset, babe Red lips and rosy cheeks Say you’ll see me again Even if it’s just in your Wildest dreams Wildest dreams I said no one has to know what we do His hands are in my hair

His clothes are in my room And his voice is a familiar sound Nothig lasts forever But this is getting good now He’s so tall and handsome as hell He’s so bad but he does it so well When we’ve had our very last kiss My last request is Chorus You’ll see me in hind sight Tangled up with you all night Burning it down Someday when you leave me I bet these memories Follow you around You’ll see me in hind sight Tangled up with you all night Burning it down Someday when you leave me I bet these memories Follow you around Chorus (x2)

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Want too see your work in print?

Email us at: featzmags@gmail.com

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All lyrics provided for educational purpose@Garsfontein only.

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MY BUSY BOOK: PAW PATROL by Nickelodeon. The Busy Book series

by Phidal Publishing brings the most popular Disney and Nickelodeon characters to life with this wonder range of Busy Books containing figurines and a huge playmat! It also includes a storybook with full-page, full colour illustrations. Please take note however that this is a choking hazard due to the small parts and is therefore not suitable for children under 3 years. Published by Phidal Publishing, Inc. Format: Hardcover – includes a storybook, 12 figurines, and a playmat.

DISNEY JUNIOR 1000 STICKERS. Disney Junior fans will love this awesome sticker book which includes 1000 super stickers as well as 60 activities containing colouring fun, super sticker activities and friendship activities to complete inside. Let them join their Disney Junior friends for an amazing adventure these holidays. There’s no doubt that they will be kept busy for hours on end! Published by Parragon Books Ltd. Binding: Softcover.

STORIETYD VIR 4-JARIGES translated by Linda Rode.

Four year olds will love this collection of stories designed to appeal specifically to them.

Make story time extra special with this wonderful collection filled with four wonderful stories to choose from. Packed with tons of fun and adventure, there is no doubt that 4 year old boys and girls will adore the brightly coloured illustrations and adorable characters on every page. Published by QED Publishing (Pearson Education South Africa).

Binding: Padded Hardcover.

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BROTHERS GRIMM TREASURED FAIRYTALES by Jenny Woods, Joff Brown and Jan Payne. Albert Einstein’s quote, “If you want your children to be intelligent, read them fairy tales. If you want them to be more intelligent, read them more fairy tales” came to mind when reading this treasury. This delightfully illustrated, fantastic collection of twenty spellbinding fairy tales will take any child (or adult) on a magical adventure through the enchanted kingdom of Brothers Grimm and is honestly an adventure not to be missed! With Xmas around the corner, this makes for a great gift too and is also available in Afrikaans – “Die Broers Grimm Geliefde Sprokies” (ISBN 9781775956440).

Published by Igloo Books Ltd. Binding: Padded Hardcover.

X-KIT ACHIEVE! EXAM PRACTICE BOOK MATHEMATICS GRADE 12 CAPS. This Grade 12 Mathematics Exam Practice Book is aligned to the latest national examination guidelines structure and was developed by experienced teachers and examiners to prepare learners for their exams.

It is CAPS compliant and includes exam papers and fully worked answers. Take a look at all the other Exam Practice Books, Study Guides and Essential Reference books available on www.x-kit. co.za or visit a Bargain Books branch for more details. Published by Pearson Education South Africa (Pty) Ltd. Binding: Softcover.

Congratulations to our Book Winners of Last Month Alula and Saul Eksteen Happy Reading

WINNERS

WIN! To win a copy of either X-Kit Achieve Mathematics Grade 12 or Die Broers Grimm Geliede Sprokies Email your name and book preferance to: featzmags@gmail.com with Bargain Books in the subject line

OCTOBER 2015 INTERNATIONAL BREAST CANCER MONTH Monday

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