Discover a world of wellness at Northern Regional, where we redefine recreation through diverse amenities for all ages. As we gear up for our exciting fall programs, don’t miss out on registering for upcoming youth and adult sports, and be sure to mark your calendars for seasonal special events that bring our community together. Experience the difference this fall as health, community, and recreation seamlessly come together, making us the ultimate destination for your wellness needs.
HELLO AUGUST!
I can't believe we are just around the corner from sending our loved ones back to school!
We are excited to celebrate two years in beautiful Lake Norman with LKN Magazine in September! Our steady and organic growth has been truly thrilling, and we are grateful for your support.
This month, we are excited to share the incredible Symphony Park Luxury Independent Living Resort in Huntersville. Discover more about this amazing place starting on page 28.
We are also pleased to welcome Kyle Shelton Properties as a new advertising partner. We admire how Kyle gives back to the community, and his marketing tagline is fantastic, #SmyleWithKyle. Read more on page 26.
For an adventurous getaway, check out Glamping Wild, now open! Details begin on page 42.
Finally, you'll love the nostalgic story starting on page 32, featuring Cheri and Justin Lingafelt, owners of Accent
Prone on Highway 73. Learn about their transformation of a charming farmhouse, located next door to the fantastic Modern Fabrics.
Here's to an amazing 2024/2025 school year for our future leaders! Please let our advertising partners know you saw them in LKN Magazine.
Experience refined elegance at Symphony Park, North Carolina’s premier luxury independent living resort for seniors. Our all-inclusive retreat offers lavish one- and two-bedroom apartments with high ceilings, expansive windows, fully equipped kitchens, and modern bathrooms. Enjoy a haven of sophistication and functionality, where your monthly fee covers everything you need for a carefree lifestyle: Internet, cable, utilities, maintenance, weekly housekeeping, $500 dining spend down, fitness classes, and more. Discover the epitome of luxury living at Symphony Park.
THE GRANDEUR of AMENITIES
Symphony Park’s 58,000 squarefoot Grand Clubhouse, positioned as the community centerpiece, provides effortless access to a world of leisure, wellness, and dining options.
UNRIVALED HOSPITALITY
Experience a new standard of service with our dedicated concierge that seamlessly blends hospitality with luxury living.
WELLNESS & VITALITY
Embrace a holistic approach with amenities that include a heated indoor pool, fitness and aerobics rooms, group fitness classes, luxury salon and spa.
CULINARY EXCELLENCE
Enjoy a diverse array of dining options with three distinct restaurants, complemented by additional venues, including a sports pub, a cocktail lounge, and a grab-and-go café.
Nestled in the foothills of the Blue Ridge Mountains, and less than an hour from Charlotte, is a jewel of a leisure lifestyle club: Rock Barn Country Club & Spa. From championship fairways to five-star spa days its central location & exceptional resort amenities make it the ideal place to escape for a day. Or a lifetime.
• Two Championship Golf Courses
• European Day Spa with Hydrotherapy Circuit
• Tournament Play Tennis and Pickleball Courts
• Fitness & Aquatic Center
• Fine and Casual Dining Experiences
• Lodging
• State-of-the-Art Event Venues
Plan your escape today: (828) 459-1125 / reception@rockbarn.com
72 Putting Stories to Work
82 Celebrations: Celebrating 100 Years of Joy!
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IN EVERY ISSUE
08 The Publisher Perspective
20 Be Well Table: Fizzy Pineapple Mocktail
24 Marzano Capital Group: The Importance of Multiple Buckets
32 Living Life Accent Prone: Our Farmhouse Fixer Upper
36 919 Backyard BBQ: Tri Tip and Homemade Chimichurri Sauce
46 Mother Nurture: Investing in Knowledge that Lasts a Lifetime
50 Art Speak: Cary Caldwell
54 Ask Dr. Keith
56 Trackside Talks: Small Track, Big Deal
66 Savor Local: Blu Star Grill, Exploring a Delicious New Menu
70 One Man’s Perspective: Sail to Bermuda
74 Joyful Journey: Carolina Beach State Park
76 Calendar of Events
EMPOWERING YOUR PERSONAL WELLNESS JOURNEY
by MARTIE EMORY
WHILE EVERYONE’S STORY IS DECIDEDLY DIFFERENT, DR. DIANA WILLIAMS, FOUNDER AND OWNER OF STRATEGIC WELLNESS
CENTER IN HICKORY, JOINS HER TALENTED TEAM OF PROVIDERS IN TREASURING THEIR ROLES IN EMPOWERING CLIENTS TO TRULY LIVE THEIR BEST LIVES.
True to their tagline Feel Good – Look Good – Do Good, she and a talented team of 13 professionals guide clients with a holistic approach to the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual components of any healing process.
“We empathize because we’ve gone through it,” Diana shares. “Personally, I know what illness feels like, and also what wellness feels like. Accepting ‘normal’ isn’t always optimal.”
A board certified nurse practitioner and also board certified with the institute of functional medicine, Diana’s own journey to discovering the power of functional medicine began after the birth of her second daughter, with a list of symptoms that many women will find familiar – skin rash, joint aches and fatigue, weight gain, hair loss, digestive issues –even anxiety. Through her personal experience with traditional providers treating only symptoms and not underlying issues, she was led to research and discover the facets of functional medicine. Diana soon found a calling to support and educate others who have pursued the traditional route of medical care, but still feel – for varying reasons – that an element of their healing is missing.
Since 2018, she and her incredible team have been helping both men and women achieve hormone balance through the principles of functional medicine. Based in Hickory, and now a second location in Statesville, Strategic Wellness has served approximately 2,400 clients in the last six-and-a-half years, 75% of whom are female. Clients are grateful for the team’s dedication to their proactive involvement in maintaining good health, via treatments that focus on the root causes of their illness, and the optimal functioning of their body and organs.
Another primary promise at Strategic Wellness is you will never be “lost” in a system or leave an appointment feeling your concerns haven’t been fully heard. An initial consultation includes an in-depth review of your complete medical history, a look at your present diet, exercise and lifestyle habits, and a heartto-heart discussion of your top three personal goals going forward.
“We see all ages, from pre-menstrual disorders to women entering their retirement years who want to feel well enough to actively keep up with their grandchildren!” adds Diana.
Menopause management, hormonal balance, auto-immune issues, gut restoration, fibromyalgia and even Lyme disease are frequent topics. Diana and her team have advanced training in safe hormone replacement therapy, and educate on how hormones may decrease the risk of certain cancers, bone and memory loss, and heart disease. There are always options available for relief and healing. Many male clients have witnessed a positive difference in their wives’ wellness journeys that they turn to Strategic Wellness to better their own health – and the practice offers men’s hormonal and testosterone screenings.
To accompany their focus on functional medicine, you’ll also find the med spa services at Strategic Wellness to be an extension of their overall mission. Along with the relaxation of a signature facial, for example, you’ll learn how to focus on prevention and healing of the skin from the inside out. A customized treatment plan might include micro-needling to naturally increase collagen production, broadband light laser for any pigmentation concerns or injectables that include DermaGel, a completely natural filler that uses Platelet Rich Plasma (PRP) to stimulate collagen and volumization. Strategic Wellness clients experience aesthetic medicine through the lens of functional medicine, where they address the root causes of aging skin and tissue, and benefit from the latest technology and most recent advances in aesthetics and anti-aging technology.
Group “pamperings” are also available with Strategic Wellness and sister company Hayur Scalp Spa – an Ayurvedic scalp spa, perfect for bridal parties, milestone birthdays or a girls’ day out!
“We empathize because we’ve gone through it. Personally, I know what illness feels like, and also what wellness feels like. Accepting ‘normal’ isn’t always optimal.”
-DR. DIANA WILLIAMS, FOUNDER AND OWNER
If you’re searching for a new approach to your individual health and wellness, visit Strategic Wellness at 315 1st Avenue NW, Suite 102, in Hickory, 828.838.1225. Schedule a free 15-minute phone consultation online and learn more about their functional medicine and anti-aging services at strategicwellnesscenter.com. Follow them on Facebook and Instagram @strategicwellnessnc for updates and special events! Strategic Wellness is also now serving Iredell County and surrounding areas from Lowry Drug, 750 Hartness Road D, in Statesville.
FIZZY PINEAPPLE MOCKTAIL
by KATHARINE ROSENTHAL, RDN
Mocktails are all the rage right now, and for good reason! They taste delicious, and cutting back on alcohol is beneficial for our health. If you want to turn this mocktail into a cocktail, white rum tastes great!
Servings: 1
Prep time: 5 minutes
Total time: 5 minutes
Ingredients:
• 2 oz. coconut water
• 3 oz. pineapple juice
• 1 oz. grapefruit juice
• 2 oz. club soda
• Ice
• Mint or pineapple slice for garnish
Instructions:
1. In a glass, add coconut water, club soda, pineapple juice, grapefruit juice and ice.
2. Mix well. Garnish with mint or pineapple slices. Enjoy! For more recipes and nutrition tips, head over to the Be Well Table blog.
COACH MARK LACKEY
TEAM LOYALTY & LIFE GOALS
by MARTIE EMORY
Enjoying a fulfilling career before retiring from teaching in 2020 – though still active as a coach – Mark Lackey is the only person to have coached and taught at all four of Lincoln County’s high schools. That’s quite an accomplishment for this genuine leader, mentor and friend who was inducted into the Lincoln County Sports Hall of Fame in 2014 and remains a strong supporter of local high school athletics!
A graduate of West Lincoln High School, Lackey attended Appalachian State University and received his teaching certificate from Lenoir-Rhyne, even doing his student teaching at Lincolnton High School.
While he still does some substitute teaching, it’s no secret Lackey does miss the day-to-day adventures of watching students grow into successful young adults. He’s beyond thankful for the people he crossed paths with through the years and those he still considers close friends. “It’s so rewarding for a former player or student to speak and say “thanks for coaching me” and tell a short story of something they remember,” he shares.
Lackey’s career began in 1990 when he was hired at Lincolnton High School, coaching football, JV boys’ basketball and JV baseball. In 1991, he moved to East Lincoln High School where he coached football, JV boys’ basketball and boys’ golf. In 1992 – and for the next five years – he added varsity girls’ basketball to his resumé. Then, from 1997 until 2003, he focused only on football and boys’ golf.
The year 2003 brought a brand new high school to the mix –North Lincoln – where Lackey remained for the next 17 years, also serving as the school’s athletic director from 2003 to 2009, and again from 2017 to 2019.
“I started the girls’ basketball program and the boys’ golf program,” he explains. “The boys’ golf team won the State 2A golf championships in both 2009 and 2010 and finished as state runner-up the next three years.” This dynamic group of golfers also won 10 conference championships over the next 12 seasons.
In the spring of 2020, Lackey retired from teaching but moved to Bandys High School as an assistant girls’ basketball coach for the next three years. While at Bandys, fate stepped in with the opportunity to coach at West Lincoln High School.
“I graduated from West Lincoln in 1982, and I knew this opportunity would never come around again,” he shares. “When we played our first game last winter, I had completed coaching at all four Lincoln County High Schools and one in Catawba County.” This coming school year will be his second coaching at his alma mater!
Lackey credits much of his coaching and teaching success to solid family support, and always shares one important piece of advice with young coaches – marry a special person who understands
what coaching is all about and how much time it involves. He then adds that his wife, Heather, is the “perfect example!” Lackey’s son, Chase, a recent ECU graduate, was also a three-time allconference golfer at North Lincoln High School.
“I still get a thrill from watching individual athletes grow and get better at their sport,” he adds. “That’s a very rewarding experience.”
Lackey’s best advice to novice coaches is two-part – always be loyal to your athletes and don’t dwell on a loss.
“You learn more from a loss than you do from a win – it’s just not as fun!”
Reflecting on his varied career, it’s clear he also followed his own wise life advice – to learn and experience everything you can. “You will be a better person for having done so!”
In 2021, Lackey won the N.C. High School Athletic Association’s Special Person award – honoring someone with at least 10 years experience in education and athletics, who is still active in the field, and who has routinely gone “above and beyond” for his athletes.
Well done, Coach Lackey – the guy you’ll find cheering for young athletes all around Lincoln County for many years to come!
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THE IMPORTANCE of MULTIPLE BUCKETS
by BRANDON JAMES, FINANCIAL ADVISOR
We save money for different purposes; retirement, travel, unexpected expenses, home renovations, etc. Here at Marzano Capital Group, we are big proponents of the “multiple bucket approach”.Different buckets (or savings vehicles) should be used for different purposes.Here are the different buckets I am referring to:
1. Emergency Fund: There is no exact science when it comes to how much money you should have in your emergency fund.As a rule of thumb, at least 3-6 months of expenses would be a good starting point and on the higher end if you have a single income household.This bucket is important because it serves as protection, so you do not have to dip into retirement savings or investments that are allocated for something else when unexpected expenses arise.A basic savings account or money market are suitable for this bucket.
2. Pre-tax retirement: Common accounts within this bucket are: 401(k), 403(b) and Traditional IRA (Individual Retirement Account).Most employers offer a retirement plan as part of the employment benefits package. Usually, this retirement plan comes with an “employer match” that helps the employee accelerate their savings on a pre-tax basis (qualified savings). This is a great tool and one you should take advantage of, especially if a match is offered.IRAs are non-company sponsored accounts that you can open and fund on your own.There are contribution limits on these types of retirement accounts and the earliest you can access this bucket without penalty is age 59 ½.
3. Roth: This bucket could be in the form of Roth IRA or Roth 401(k).Roth savings are done on an after-tax basis and while there is not a tax benefit during the accumulation stage, the tax-free nature of all withdrawals after age 59 ½ can prove to be impactful.This means all of
your contributions AND all of your gains will be tax free.There are contribution limits for Roth IRAs and the earliest you can access this bucket without penalty is age 59 ½ as well.
4. Non-retirement: These accounts can be in individual name or joint name and have several key components.The first is liquidity.With non-retirement accounts, you can access your money without penalty at any time.You may owe some taxes on withdrawals, depending which investments are sold to produce the money you need.Secondly, there are no minimum or maximum contribution limits.Therefore, you can fund nonretirement accounts with after-tax dollars at a comfortable level within your budget.Often when someone retires before the age of 59 ½, it is the money in their non-retirement account that bridges the gap between their last paycheck and social security and/or retirement account distributions.A lot of people have goals for retiring in their 50’s but fail to have a plan for how they will accomplish this.
All of these buckets/accounts are important and serve a certain purpose. By utilizing each one of them, it can help keep you from using the wrong ones at the wrong times.We would be happy to help you navigate which buckets you should be adding to and help determine the savings rate for each one.
Contributions to a traditional IRA may be tax deductible in the contribution year, with current income tax due at withdrawal. Withdrawals prior to age 59 ½ may result in a 10% IRS penalty tax in addition to current income tax. A Roth IRA offers tax deferral on any earnings in the account. Qualified withdrawals of earnings from the account are tax-free. Withdrawals of earnings prior to age 59 ½ or prior to the account being opened for 5 years, whichever is later, may result in a 10% IRS penalty tax. Limitations and restrictions may apply.
“All of these buckets/ accounts are important and serve a certain purpose. By utilizing each one of them, it can help keep you from using the wrong ones at the wrong times. ”
Securities offered through LPL Financial. Member FINRA/SIPC. Marzano Capital Group is an other business name of Independent Advisor Alliance, LLC. All investment advice is offered through Independent Advisor Alliance LLC, a registered investment advisor. Independent Advisor Alliance is a separate entity from LPL Financial.
KYLE’S DEVOTION TO A “SMYLE” –
BEYOND THE CLOSING TABLE
by MARTIE EMORY
Family values run deep at Shelton Property Group, where Kyle Shelton has honored generations of his family by continuing the tradition of business ownership, where exceptional service and lifelong clients are a way of life.
Shelton Property Group (SPG) is a premier real estate service based in Charlotte and dedicated to helping individuals, families and investors achieve their real estate goals. Under Kyle’s leadership, SPG leverages cutting-edge marketing strategies and unparalleled customer care to ensure clients receive top value for their assets.
Kyle and his wife, Kellie, have called Charlotte home since 2017, when he began his career in real estate. Kyle quickly indulged in the business utilizing mentors to best equip his skillset. After years of developing his craft, Kyle wanted to cultivate his own brand to better serve and connect to his community. In 2020, he brought this dream to life with the launch of Shelton Property Group at eXp Realty. SPG is built on a foundation of excellence and strong family values which are reflected in every aspect of their work. This commitment has made SPG a trusted name in the Charlotte and Lake Norman areas, as well as for clients expanding a 50-mile radius. Whether you’re buying or selling, SPG’s expertise in negotiations and deep market knowledge make them a trusted partner in navigating the dynamic real estate landscape.
“We believe clients should feel at home with their real estate journey,” Kyle shares. “For them to feel at home, SPG has proudly centered our foundation on four pillars of business that we feel not only meet but exceed client expectations.
• Integrity – “The cornerstone of our business. We believe in being transparent and honest from the start, ensuring our clients feel confident and secure in their real estate journey.”
• Hard Work – “Our commitment to you. We strive to exceed industry standards and go the extra mile to achieve the best outcomes for our clients.”
• Communication – “Effective communication is key to a successful real estate transaction. We listen, ask questions, execute a solution and stay connected with our clients and colleagues to ensure a smooth and seamless process.”
• Adaptability – “In a constantly changing market, adaptability is essential. We stay ahead of the curve by embracing new trends, technologies and client needs to provide the best possible service.”
There’s no shortage of daily inspiration in the real estate world, and while no two days are the same, Kyle savors his most gratifying moments when he sees clients “win” – whether it’s first-time buyers building roots, families relocating for a dream job or investors achieving goals with a new property. He cherishes being part of a life-changing moment in someone’s life.
In 2022, Kyle envisioned sharing the company’s success with the community –and his marketing tagline #SmyleWithKyle was the perfect starting point! Partnering with a local orthodontist was the logical next step, and Lineberger Orthodontics, a family owned practice serving Charlotte, Huntersville, Mooresville, Denver and surrounding areas, was a natural fit.
“A ‘smyle’ is contagious, and we wanted to share that with individuals who might not be able to incur additional expenses for a new, beautiful smile,” says Kyle. “My grandma always told me, ‘You will win the world with your smile.’ If one smile could do that, what could lots of amazing smiles do?”
With every closed real estate transaction, SPG contributes to someone in need of orthodontic care through the Lineberger Orthodontics Family Services. SPG’s community engagement extends well past a successful real estate transaction, with many grateful patients benefiting from the Smyle With Kyle program. For Kyle, it’s spreading kindness as only family can!
For unprecedented care during your journey to the perfect home, reach Kyle Shelton at 704.615.6799, email him at kyleshelton@sheltonpg.com, visit sheltonpg.com for a look at current home listings and follow @sheltonpropertyg on Instagram. Shelton Property Group at eXp Realty is located 3440 Toringdon Way, Suite 205, in Charlotte.
“Kyle
came to us by recommendation of a friend. He helped my wife and I close on a dream house in the Charlotte area during the crazy 2020-2022 real estate market. His expertise was crucial so that we could find a good value. Professional and courteous agent. Highly recommend.”
- MARK G.
“Can’t recommend Kyle enough for anyone looking to purchase a home in the Charlotte area. I was relocating from the midwest and ended up buying the house sight unseen – something I never felt I’d be able to do. I was comfortable with the idea after seeing how well he knew the market, his up-front, direct communication and thorough work ethic. Every question and worry I had was addressed with a level of care I have never experienced. I couldn’t imagine working with anyone else in this market and look forward to a continued relationship for my future home buying needs!”
- CHRISTIAN B.
BALANCING RESORT-STYLE SENIOR LIVING WITH THE WARMTH OF HOME
story by MARTIE EMORY, photography by JEJ PHOTOS
IMAGINE A SENIOR LIVING COMMUNITY THAT CAPTURES ALL THE ELEGANCE AND COMFORT OF YOUR FAVORITE VACATION DESTINATION WHILE ALSO OFFERING PERSONALIZED CARE AND A STRONG SENSE OF COMMUNITY.
Symphony Park Living, celebrating its grand opening in June 2024 in Huntersville, NC, is setting a new standard for what high-end senior living should be. It’s designed to renew the human spirit and foster a genuine sense of belonging. Current residents describe Symphony Park as vibrant and engaging, and loved ones appreciate it’s a 100% family oriented and hospitality-driven environment.
Symphony Park Living offers one- and two-bedroom apartment suites on beautifully landscaped grounds. Choose from five unique floor plans, each designed to inspire a luxurious lifestyle. The one-bedroom suites include The Eleanor, The Katherine and The Knox, while the two-bedroom options feature The Bennett and The Taylor. Each suite boasts spacious layouts, elegant finishes and stunning views, with luxury vinyl plank flooring, spacious kitchens with full-sized appliances and quartz countertops and large windows that provide abundant natural light.
On-site amenities are unmatched at this fully secure community, known for its welcoming vibe that encourages residents to interact with each other on a daily basis.
“Our 58,000-square foot grand clubhouse brings people out of their homes, encourages socialization and is resulting in
lasting friendships among residents,” says Executive Director Liam Goddard. He notes that a common concern heard from prospective residents is the feeling of isolation they previously experienced in their homes. “We have seen, firsthand, residents come into our community and immediately connect. They are eating dinner together as if they have been friends for years, and bonding via weekly social gatherings, group excursions and fitness classes.”
Besides cultivating new friendships, family truly is number one here at Symphony Park. The facility is pet-friendly, and there’s even an outdoor play area for children of all ages!
“Our community was designed to encourage families to visit and enjoy time together,” shares General Manager Julie Ogawa. “With three exceptional restaurants, a sports pub, cocktail lounge, movie theater, salon and spa, and several other high end amenities, it is our goal to make Symphony Park a true resort community. The adult children and grandchildren are excited about visiting, and many of the children say they want to live here – and ask when they can move in! For that reason, we even have two hotel rooms available to reserve when families come to visit, so they can stay a little longer and experience your new home together.”
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INSPIRING AND SUPPORTING A WELL ROUNDED, FULFILLING LIFESTYLE IS WHAT DEFINES SYMPHONY PARK – HERE’S A GLIMPSE OF THEIR ENERGIZING OPPORTUNITIES!
• Fitness classes tailored to seniors including yoga, Tai Chi and water aerobics.
• Arts and crafts workshops to encourage creativity.
• Educational lectures and book clubs for continuous learning.
• Social events such as themed parties, game nights and movie screenings.
• Outdoor activities including walking groups, pickleball, bocce ball and shuffleboard.
• Volunteer opportunities within the local community.
Crafted to savor meals with family, neighbors and friends, the Grand Clubhouse at Symphony Park Living features three full-scale restaurants, one on each floor, catering to diverse tastes and occasions with heart healthy, locally sourced dishes prepared by masterful chefs. Each restaurant has its own unique theme and delivers everything from high end fine dining to a more relaxed casual experience. Aside from those three restaurants, residents can choose from a lively sports bar, an elegant cocktail lounge and a convenient grab-and-go café, each providing both indoor and outdoor seating. This variety of exceptional dining options truly enhances the living experience at Symphony Park Living, making it feel more and more like a resort.
Other daily essentials include a wellness office with third party assisted services including in-home aid services, therapy services and an onsite nurse practitioner. Transportation off-site when you need it, weekly housekeeping, attentive maintenance team and dry-cleaning pick-up and delivery are also available.
The charming team at Symphony Park Living is solely focused on providing all residents with unparalleled comfort and convenience. Our concierge service, available seven days a week, ensures assistance with any request, exceeding the high standards of a luxury hotel. Friendly employees and a commitment to superior hospitality are just a few of the many factors that set Symphony Park apart. The community operates on a belief that every meticulous detail makes all the difference in daily life – that’s called the Symphony Park way!
WITH NEW RESIDENTS MOVING IN EVERY WEEK, RAVE REVIEWS ARE EASY TO GATHER:
“Our life at Symphony Park is very similar to living at a vacation resort. Experiencing the beautiful landscaping is like
walking through botanical gardens, and the gorgeous Grand Clubhouse includes a wonderful variety of activities. We are thrilled to be a part of this lovely resort community!”
- JOHN AND PAT A
“I am so happy I made the decision to move to Symphony Park. The food is excellent, and the staff is far beyond what I ever expected.”
- BILLIE C.
“I am so happy I made the decision to move to Symphony Park. The food is excellent, and the staff is far beyond what I ever expected. They are here to help with whatever you need –big or small. Plus, I have met so many nice people and made great friends.”
- BILLIE C.
If you’re looking to step into a luxury resort-style senior living experience with every necessary amenity and convenience –plus proximity to the beautiful Lake Norman area – call today or schedule a tour online to explore Symphony Park. Symphony Park Living is located at 12221 Sam Furr Road, Huntersville, North Carolina, 704.351.6404. Learn more about their lifestyle, suites, amenities and pricing at symphonyparkliving.com, email info@symphonyparkliving.com and follow this vibrant senior living community on Instagram @symphonyparkliving.
OUR FARMHOUSE FIXER UPPER
by CHERI LINGAFELT, photography by LIGHTHOUSE VISUALS
interior design by CHERI
LINGAFELT AND JUSTIN LINGAFELT
IT ALL STARTED IN 2020. THE WORLD FELT LIKE IT WAS COMING TO AN END AND DISTANCE WAS A NECESSITY. AT THE TIME, WE LIVED IN THE TYPICAL SUBURBAN NEIGHBORHOOD, LOOKING OUT OUR BATHROOM WINDOW AND SEEING OUR NEIGHBOR ONLY A FEW YARDS AWAY.
The craziness of 2020 set a desire in us to move away from it all and create our own little piece of paradise. Land was calling our name, and when a 22-acre old farmhouse hit the market in 2021, we were hooked. A month later, we sold our suburban home and were moving out to the country. We bought a tractor and decided, come hell or high water, we were bound to figure this farm thing out.
Now, let me preface this by saying we no longer live in the farmhouse. What started as a journey to create our forever home ended in a harsh realization of our inability to care for such a large property. We absolutely loved our farmhouse; the beautiful views, the barn and our farm animals, and we wouldn’t trade this adventure for anything. Ultimately, we realized that
owning a small local business and preparing to open our second location in a new city while consecutively finding out I was pregnant with our second baby was just too much to handle on top of caring for our farm. We made the decision to sell our farm to be able to better manage all of life’s responsibilities. It was a bittersweet decision and one that wasn’t made lightly. We are big believers in the principle that everything in life has a season, and this particular experience had its time and eventual chapter end allowing us to move on to the next great thing.
So, without further ado, let’s take a look at some of our projects across a two-year span!
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“The farmhouse journey taught us a lot, and upon reflection, I think it’s just the adventure we needed at the time.” - CHERI LINGAFELT
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There isn’t much a coat of paint can’t handle. We painted the barn black, the stone and brick white, and added some fresh new landscape to this already beautiful property.
We also added new custom doors throughout the interior and exterior of the property which drastically updated the look of the house.
Cherry hardwoods were throughout the entire home, so we instantly refreshed the space into a more modern look with a light oak wide plank.
The pantry and laundry rooms were two of the largest projects we tackled and my favorite design projects to date. When we bought the home, the pantry and laundry rooms were together in the same space off the kitchen. We decided to turn a smaller spare bedroom into the laundry room and create a larger butler’s pantry in the existing pantry space.
There wasn’t a space we didn’t touch in this home, and even though we had many more plans for the farmhouse and weren’t nearly able to complete the full spectrum of what we had intended, I think we added a lot of charm in our short time there.
The farmhouse journey taught us a lot, and upon reflection, I think it’s just the adventure we needed at the time. It will always hold a special place in our hearts, and who knows, we might just embark on another farm journey again one day when life’s demands are a little less tolling.
I hope you enjoyed this trip down memory lane!
Until next time, Cheri
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Design and personal life @cheri_lingafelt
TRI TIP & HOMEMADE CHIMICHURRI SAUCE
by TANNER JOHNSON
This month, I wanted to share a cut of beef that has become a new favorite of mine – Tri Tip! This is a popular cut over on the west coast and can be a little harder to find around here. But, a lot of your local cattle farms and local butchers will know what you’re talking about when you ask for one!
I got this beautiful Tri Tip from Little Mountain Farm & Cattle Co. it was beautifully marbled and evenly shaped. A great thing about tri tip is the flavor; it’s kind of between a more fatty cut like a ribeye and a lean cut like a filet/tenderloin. So, you get a lot of that juicy flavor in every bite! As with basically every other cut of beef, we did a reverse sear on this and served it with a delicious homemade chimichurri sauce on top.
Ingredients:
• 1 Tri Tip
• SPG seasoning (salt, pepper & garlic) – any kind works, or even just salt & pepper is fine
Chimichurri sauce ingredients:
• ½ C olive oil
• 2 T red wine vinegar
• ½ C parsley (finely chopped if doing this by hand – I just take the leaves off the stem and put all of these ingredients in a food processor)
• 3-4 cloves fresh garlic (chopped in half or thirds before food processor)
• 2 small red chilies (de-seeded and split in half, OR finely diced if doing by hand)
• ¾ tsp. dried oregano
• 1 tsp. sea salt, or kosher salt
• ½ tsp. crushed black pepper
• ½ tsp. crushed red pepper
Instructions:
1. The chimichurri is best if it can sit for a few hours or even a day before used, so make it ahead of time, and store it in the fridge.
2. How I do it is through a Ninja food processor – you add all of the above ingredients into the Ninja and blend it on “dip” mode for about 20-30 seconds until your desired consistency.
3. Next, you’ll want to season your tri tip with SPG, S&P or whatever seasoning, and let it dry brine in the fridge for a while (if time allows) – after this step, you’ll want to set it out on the counter to
get to room temp for 30 minutes to an hour before you start cooking.
4. Power up the first cooker (oven, grill, smoker, etc.) I always use a pellet smoker for the first step in a reverse sear set at 225 degrees.
5. Once the cooker is preheated, throw the tri tip in and flip it after 15-20 minutes. Time will vary here, and you definitely need a temperature probe to keep checking it. You’ll want to pull it off once it is an internal temperature of 105-110 degrees.
6. While it’s cooking in the low temp stage, you’ll want to prepare another grill for high heat (you can also use the same device and just let the tri tip rest while the grill gets up to a proper searing temperature).
7. Once the tri tip is temping at about 105 degrees and you’ve got a roaring fire over the charcoal, toss it directly over the coals to get a good sear on it. If your grill is hot enough, it should only take about 4-7 minutes of searing to get up to the perfect medium rare temperature (130-135 degrees).
8. I like to flip it every 30-45 seconds and rotate it around throughout the cook so it gets a nice, even char all over.
9. Once you get to your desired internal temp here, it’s time to let it rest! You’ll want to let a large piece of meat like this rest for about 10 minutes.
10. Slice against the grain, pour some of that homemade chimichurri sauce all over the top and enjoy!
Pro Tip: The grain on a tri tip typically goes in two different directions, so keep a close eye on the direction you are slicing it at the end to get the most tender bites possible! You can always defer to YouTube if you’re struggling to figure out where the grain is.
For more recipes and demos, follow Tanner on Instagram, TikTok, or Facebook @919backyardbbq
YOUR GUIDE TO STAYING HYDRATED
by KATHARINE ROSENTHAL, RDN
Water is one of the most important elements for all living things, especially during the warm summer months. When spending a lot of time outside and splashing in the pool, it can slip our minds to sip on water and consume hydrating foods. It is especially important to make sure infants, kids, pregnant women and older adults stay well hydrated as they are at the highest risk for dehydration.
WHY HYDRATION IS IMPORTANT
Many of us know that drinking water is important, but why?
To start, our body is primarily made up of water. When we lose body fluids through sweating, exhaling and eliminating waste among other things, we need to replace those fluids.
WATER HAS SEVERAL FUNCTIONS IN THE BODY. HERE ARE A FEW:
• Carries nutrients and oxygen to cells
• Lubricates joints
• Regulates body temperature
• Flushes out waste products
HOW TO STAY HYDRATED
Let’s talk about how to reach your hydration goals. Water intake is very individualized depending on activity level, body size and weather. A good general rule of thumb is to drink half an ounce of fluid per pound of body weight. For example: If you weigh 150 pounds, aim for 75 ounces of water per day. If you are unsure if you are staying well hydrated, you can always do the urine test! If your urine is looking close to an apple juice color, you are not hydrated enough. The goal is to have urine that is a light, pale yellow color.
Electrolyte drinks are very trendy right now, and you have likely tried them before or drink them daily. There is a place for electrolytes, but they might not be for everyone. People who are exercising excessively, have been outside in extreme heat or have been dealing with a dehydrating stomach bug would likely benefit from an electrolyte drink. When choosing an electrolyte drink, make sure to check for added sugars. If there are added sugars, I recommend looking for new electrolytes. I often see electrolyte drinks with an abundance of sodium as well. While sodium replenishment is great for when you are excessively sweating, you likely do not need the 1,000mg sodium supplement.
Tip: If you are not a big fan of how electrolytes taste (like me!), you can always dilute your electrolytes or use ½ the electrolyte packet at a time. This gives you the benefits of the electrolytes but also reduces the taste.
HYDRATING FOODS
• Cucumbers
• Tomatoes
• Zucchini and summer squash
• Watermelon
• Strawberries
• Asparagus
• Cantaloupe
• Spinach and iceberg lettuce
• Radishes
Try to incorporate these more often, and not just for the hydrating benefits because these foods are also full of fiber and are nutrient dense!
EASY WAYS TO ADD FLAVOR TO WATER
• Fruit infusions – such a fun way to make your water more tasty!
• Blood orange + rosemary (see recipe below)
• Blackberry + mint
• Strawberry + cucumber
• Lemon + rosemary
• Orange + basil
• Cucumber + cantaloupe
BLOOD ORANGE AND ROSEMARY HYDRATION DRINK
Ingredients:
• 6 cups of water
• 2-3 blood oranges
• 6 sprigs of rosemary
• ice
Instructions:
1. Fill a pitcher with 6 cups of water.
2. Wash and slice the blood oranges. Squeeze a few blood oranges into the water, and drop them all into the pitcher.
3. Roll the rosemary between your hands to enhance its flavor. Add to the water.
4. Add the desired amount of ice and serve. Enjoy!
LIFE AT WORK: WHAT’S YOUR STORY?
by JEAN MARIE JOHNSON
Remember that time when…? You won’t believe this, but…. So, this woman called and said….
You’re listening, right? That’s because I am about to tell you a story, and everyone loves a good one. While you don’t know where mine might go, there’s a heartbeat in my words. The mere suggestion of a story has connected us.
When we think about work and about business, we typically focus on information, facts and data, and consider where we are in relation to standards, goals and targets, as in:
“Our service level last month was 96 percent, a .5% increase over the previous month, netting us an average year-to-date gain of .3%. Our ATT was 221 seconds and AHT came in at 298 seconds. Nice job, guys. Any questions?”
And you think: No, I guess that pretty much sums it up.
In fairness, facts and data are indispensable to life at work because they provide us with a measure of our progress, effectiveness and success. But, by themselves, they leave us wanting; for us, there is so much more to the story.
THE COMPELLING NATURE OF STORIES
What makes stories so compelling? Why do we seem to need to tell them? In the article Our Stories, Ourselves, Sadie F. Dingfelder writes:
“The tales we tell hold powerful sway over our memories, behaviors and even identities – we don’t just tell stories, stories tell us. They shape our thoughts and memories and even change how we live our lives.”
Think back to any time in your life, and you will find a story with a heartbeat. And, not just any story, according to John Holmes, PhD, a psychology professor at Waterloo University:
“For better or worse, stories are a very powerful source of selfpersuasion, and they are highly internally consistent…evidence that doesn’t fit the story is going to be left behind.”
So, let’s say that you are a self-proclaimed animal lover. You delight in telling people stories about how you collected wild frogs in your backyard when you were three, paraded your mutt in the hope of winning “Best Dressed” when you were 10, and have rescued stray cats ever since. But, you might just leave out the part about how, on a dare, you flushed the fish down the toilet…because it doesn’t quite fit with the narrative. John Holmes explains:
“Storytelling isn’t just how we construct our identities, stories are our identities.” And, that is the clue to the other half of our story at work.
Organizations can’t just spout out numbers hoping that they will suffice in aligning and inspiring us to action. But, they can tell at least three different types of stories to draw us in with a heartbeat that goes beyond facts and figures.
• LEGACY STORIES help us to identify with an organization’s founder or a company’s deep roots. It makes us feel that we are part of a living history and that we are contributing to future chapters. It might center on a founder who, while building a multi-million-dollar insurance practice, carried his peanut butter and jelly sandwich to the office every day in a brown paper bag. Or, it may describe a Mom-andPop diner that never forgot its roots, establishing a tradition of community service and giving back.
• PURPOSE AND VISION STORIES inspire us by providing a “why” behind the numbers we produce. They elevate what we do by making it matter. These stories connect us to a larger reason for being such as protecting health, enhancing well being, promoting happiness or ensuring the rights of others. These stories compel us to contribute to a greater good.
• TEACHING STORIES instruct us by recounting experiences or situations that illustrate a company’s purpose, vision or values as they are lived by employees like you and me. These stories reflect who we are and for what we stand. They demonstrate our values in action, revealing our humanity and our humility, and speak to our courage in the face of adversity.
And, there is one more story going on at work. It’s a story with an utterly unique heartbeat: yours.
FINDING LUXURY IN THE WILDERNESS! GLAMPING WILD
by MARTIE EMORY
“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life? - Mary Oliver, American poet whose work was inspired by solitary walks in the wild
Blending a lifelong passion for outdoor adventure with her entrepreneurial spirit and some sentimental family ties, Founder Debby Hanley is thrilled to invite you to explore Glamping Wild.
This 40-acre parcel of property in the heart of the Blue Ridge Mountains has been in her family since the 1970s, and the supremely scenic destination has finally found its beautiful purpose. Debby – an avid world traveler herself – couldn’t be more proud!
“This wonderful location was compliments of my dad, who found the property and always wanted to do something special with it,” she explains. “Now, I’m able to do that in his memory.”
Following the loss of both her dad and her brother, Debby felt called to leave a 30-year legal career in South Florida, finding her next life chapter in North Carolina.
“The story of Glamping Wild started with a decision to renovate, rather than sell, a family cabin – now affectionately known as the Redheaded Woodpecker,” she said. “While I was doing that renovation, I kept driving by this little three-tent Glampground every day and had no idea what the structures were.”
Research led her to the term “geodesic dome tents” and even more studying introduced her to the concept of “Glamping.”
Fascinated, Debby found it was the perfect marriage of all the things she was passionate about, and she found the idea of creating a luxury space in the wilderness very appealing.
“This was something I could create in memory of my dad on this beautiful land that he discovered,” she shares. “Before long, I knew building a Glampground on it was perfect. It’s been a long process from concept to reality, but we are finally finished! Our dedication is rooted in creating a one-of-a-kind outdoor experience that truly offers meaningful value.”
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Debby shares her genuine aim is to deliver a Glamping experience like no other – perfectly blending the luxuries of home with the raw charm of untamed nature. Luxuriously designed and furnished, the destination features a trio of 20-foot dome tents with queen-sized beds and luxury bedding, plus a private bath and shower. “Caim” and “Dochas” are dog-friendly tents, while “Kokoro” is reserved for pet-free travelers. Caim is the Gaelic word for sanctuary, and Dochas is the Gaelic word for hope, while the Japanese word Kokoro simply means heart.
In keeping with the plan of discovering your own personal sanctuary, you won’t find TVs at Glamping Wild, though you will have WiFi access; but Debby predicts you won’t miss your favorite go-to binge habit as she invites you to embark on a close-to-home adventure, with a chance to fall in love for the first time – or re-establish your bond – with the great outdoors!
Glamping Wild is located in the very northwest corner of North Carolina, in an area affectionately known as the Flatwoods. The inspiring destination is less than an hour drive from Boone and West Jefferson in NC and Mountain City in TN. You’ll find lush hiking and walking trails, including an interpretive walking trail, relax in stream-front sitting areas, enjoy a chance to explore the wetlands preserve and, in your free time, savor a quiet stroll in the walking labyrinth. Each dome features a kitchenette and cookware, and there are private fire tables on each deck, as well as a communal fire pit at a stream-side beach, plus three
cold plunge areas, charcoal grill and picnic table. Both indoor games (board games or cards) and outdoor games (corn hole and spike ball) are available for downtime, or simply borrow binoculars or the telescope from the Well House for bird watching or stargazing!
The incredible Glamping Wild experience is now open to nature and luxury loving glampers! For more information, visit goglampingwild.com, call 954.261.4352 or email hello@ goglampingwild.com. Be sure to follow them on Instagram @ glampingwild for opening specials. Glamping Wild is located in Ashe County at 1421 Flatwoods School Road, Creston, NC.
MOTHER NURTURE
INVESTING IN KNOWLEDGE & SKILLS THAT LAST A LIFETIME
by IVEY GASKIN BAKER
I’ve become very familiar with the meaning of the phrase, “He’s growing like a weed” as my oldest child turns nine this month.
The month of July was rough. The weeds were out of control, and I cannot recall one good rain. I’m choosing not to use weed killer around any of my flowers or produce, so I am weeding by hand as needed. My baby enjoys pulling up weeds with Mom, and I don’t complain about having my little buddy with me. Until this point, we were getting some decent rains, enabling me to water every couple days, but July required hand watering, daily, with no end in sight for August. Sunny skies and 90-degree days as far as the meteorologist can see. Weed prevention and water was the focus for July. I installed drip irrigation and covered the front flower bed with 30 bags of mulch with the boys. It doesn’t solve all of my problems, but it definitely helps.
Now that the flowers are in full bloom, the boys are very invested in their success and excited to see them take off. They create their own bouquets and are dreaming up their own ideas for how we will sell them. For now, we are just pulling what is blooming together in real time to give to friends and neighbors. We are making no money on this expensive and exhausting business dream. I laugh my head off at posts on Instagram about picking my single tomato or flower that cost 70x more to produce than it would have to just buy at the store. Still, there’s something special about growing something yourself, and every day, we learn new lessons to become more efficient and to really make moves in 2025. As we start pulling together small bouquets of dahlias, cosmos and zinnias, I think the current big lesson that I’m learning is bloom time and working backwards on plantings and seed starts. If I want dahlias as my center flower, then I need to get my filler accents like strawflowers, bachelor buttons, Chinese forget me nots and bee balm in the ground earlier next year as these friends just were not blooming at the same time on this go round.
My oldest son is my early riser. He is up outside watering the flowers with me before he heads off to camp and I head to work.
Eli can tell when flowers aren’t looking so good and is by my side offering up ideas. Assessing a plant with droopy leaves, “Mom this flower needs water” or yellowing leaves, “We may need to fertilize these, Mom” or he starts looking over the leaves for bugs. We live on a pretty busy corner in the neighborhood and part of a big loop that neighbors like to walk. We get lots of onlookers stopping by to see what we’re up to. It’s a large flower bed and hard to miss; there’s obviously something going on. When neighbors yell over to us asking what we’re growing, Eli is quick to run to the street and strike up a conversation. He knows all the flowers by name, what colors we planted and what will soon be blooming. It’s a thrill to hear him speak with such maturity and confidence about a topic as nuanced as flowers.
If my boys are three rapidly growing weeds, let’s at least make them a goldenrod, a violet or a Queen Anne’s lace. I could certainly use those in a bouquet these days.
There is so much more waiting to bloom, in time. For now, I stop and smell the roses.
Expansion is Under Way
TIME TO CHOOSE YOUR SITE AND INTERIOR SELECTIONS
Welcome to The Cottages, a unique pocket neighborhood where a vibrant sense of community thrives. In this charming community, the traditional notion of front doors takes a delightful twist. Instead of facing the street, the front doors of our cottages open to a serene and inviting green space, tucked away on the backside of each home. This intentional layout creates an atmosphere that not only encourages residents to explore on foot but also promotes a genuine sense of connection and belonging. It’s not just a place to live; it’s a place to connect, grow, and create lifelong memories.
MASTERING NUTRITION LABELS AND INGREDIENTS LISTS
by KATHARINE ROSENTHAL, RDN
Reading the nutrition facts label and ingredients list can help you make quick, informed decisions so that you can select healthier options. Making educated health choices can help prevent and manage chronic conditions such as high blood pressure, diabetes and high cholesterol. Keep reading to find out how to stay empowered and take control of your health through reading the nutrition facts label and the ingredients list.
Nutrition Facts Label
The nutrition facts label can be tricky to read, but with the right tools, we can learn it and make more knowledgeable decisions while we are at the grocery store!
Here is a step-by-step guide to reading the nutrition facts label:
1.Start by looking at the serving size and servings per container. Serving sizes are standardized to make it easier to compare one product to another. The serving size now reflects the amount that people typically eat or drink of that particular food. It is also important to look at the servings per container, you might be surprised that many foods have more than one serving in the package/container.
a. If a product has two servings per container, but you eat the whole
container, then you have to multiply all the nutrients in the food label by two. For example, looking at the sample nutrition facts, if you eat two servings of this item, you would have eight grams of protein (instead of four grams of protein if you were to have one serving).
2. There are a few nutrients that we want to limit, these include: saturated fat, sodium and added sugar. Eating too many of these nutrients over a long period of time can lead to health conditions. It is hard to avoid these completely, and it is okay to have foods that may not be as nutrient dense once in a while. Every food fits!
3. Nutrients that you want to focus on getting more of are dietary fiber, vitamin D, calcium, iron and potassium. Dietary fiber aids in regular bowel movements and lowers blood glucose and cholesterol levels. Micronutrients are essential for many other beneficial functions in our bodies.
Reading the Ingredients List
The ingredients list can be even trickier for some people. There can often be ingredients that you have never heard of, but does that mean they are “bad” for you? Some ingredients go by different names than you’d expect. Some vitamins and minerals may go by their scientific name such as ascorbic acid (vitamin C) or alpha tocopherol (vitamin E). Ingredients such as carrageenan, xanthan gum or lecithin are used to thicken or emulsify. I always recommend researching the “hard-toread” ingredients in products before deciding if a food is “good” or “bad” for you. You may just be surprised by the functionality of an ingredient and which ingredients are unnecessary!
Tip: The ingredients that weigh the most in the food are listed first in the ingredients list.
ART SPEAK: UNVEILING LAKE NORMAN’S CREATIVE VOICES
by LAURA CZERWINSKI
This month’s featured creator is glass artist Cary Caldwell.
How would you describe your work?
Bursting with color! I love all colors and, with glass, I am able to play with the most brilliant colors that are both opaque and transparent. With glass, I am able to work abstractly. In the past, I was an art quilter as well as a pet portrait artist. I always felt that I had to draw or sew exactly what I saw. Working with glass allows me to create abstract and functional art.
Which other artists most inspired you?
This is a very hard question. As for glass artists, I feel like the obvious and one of the most well known glass artists is Dale Chihuly. His use of color is mesmerizing. Every time I see his work, I see new colors and shapes. Lesser known artists that inspired me include my grandmother (watercolor artist), my aunt (portrait artist) and, of course, my mother who is able to do anything artistic. Growing up, she had a local arts and craft show where she created and showcased projects.
Where do you find your best sources for inspiration?
I find inspiration all around me in my everyday life. Spotting unique color combinations or textures, new and old buildings, or even an animal that I see going about their daily life give me reason to pause and snap a photo. There are many times my husband has stopped and turned the car around for me to capture these moments when we are out for a drive.
What is the greatest compliment you’ve received about your work?
I’ve been fortunate to be recognized on a national level for my art quilts, but not for my newest passion in glass. In 2022, I was selected to be one of 20 local artists of ArtPop. This was both an exciting and incredible opportunity. I was fortunate to have my art displayed on billboards all over Charlotte. It was so fun driving to work on I-85 and seeing my name in lights every day. I was so impacted by the honor of being a part of ArtPop that I started sewing beach bags with the remains of my billboard.
What are you working on now that you are excited about?
I have been trying new techniques which have ignited so many new ideas! There are so many that I can’t wait to try, but there is just not enough time in the day for everything. I am working on pot melts (creating sheets of glass that have free flowing colors) and glass combing. There are so many things to learn which makes trying them all the more exciting!
What is one piece of creative advice you wish you had learned sooner? Making mistakes is the best way to learn, however, it can be expensive when it comes to glass. I have learned to save pieces that haven’t turned out how I planned instead of getting frustrated and breaking them or throwing them away. This medium allows me to repurpose those materials into new pieces. For example, many of my jewelry pieces are made from past experiments. In fact, many of these have become my most popular pieces.
Where can our readers learn more about you and see some more examples of your work?
You can visit me at carycaldwell.com or on Instagram @caryel8.
READY FOR A FEEDBACK RESET?
by JEAN MARIE JOHNSON
My penchant for organization may be rooted in my DNA, but I also know that it had its kickstart in the fifth grade when my friend Valerie raised a critical eyebrow and asked “Why is your desk such a mess?” It was true. I had pencil stubs and crumpled paper crammed in with books and other stuff. Crushed to the core, I cleaned up my act and never looked back.
FEEDBACK THAT’S HARD TO HEAR
At 10 years old, a dose of pre-adolescent shaming was the impetus behind my behavior change. But, the organizing habit, I soon realized, was a skill I could hone and apply to many things in life. Thank you, Valerie!
Feedback, though, can be hard to hear, at any age. Particularly when:
• Someone shares a perception that flies in the face of how you see or want to see yourself.
• It reinforces an old sense of yourself that you’re trying to change.
Sometimes, you just want to say “enough already with the feedback!”
FEEDBACK RESET: SEVEN TIPS
I’ve come a long way from feeling ashamed of the sub-par state of my fifth grade desk, but only because I’ve reset my relationship with feedback. Here’s how:
1. Put Feedback in Perspective
Remember that feedback is perception and interpretation of your behavior and its impact. It isn’t inherently right, wrong, good, bad or absolute. Example: You come home from work, and your significant other says “Aren’t we grumpy tonight?” You could snap back with a nasty retort like “Look who’s talking” or, defend yourself by saying “You have no idea what I had to deal with today!” Or, you could…
2. Pause Between the Stimulus and the Response
Train yourself to rein in that initial reaction that deflects or defends because it is a waste of energy. Being still and silent, even for a few seconds, allows you to interrupt an “automatic reaction” that might damage the relationship and prevent anything meaningful from occurring next.
3. Separate the Sender from the Message
You’ve got history or, at least, a shared context with this person who is making observations about you. It shapes how you hear them and the assumptions you make about their intentions: she’s saying this to help me; OR she’s out to get me; he’s always second guessing me; OR he doesn’t want me to fail. If you get stuck here, it’s difficult to…
4. Look for the Learning
It is valuable for us to consider how others perceive and interpret our words and actions. If a co-worker says: “You come off as abrupt, and it shuts people down.” You could say:
• “That’s your perception” which would shut her down and put an abrupt end to any learning.
• “Thank you for sharing” which is just plain faux courtesy. It sounds polite and respectful, but it’s usually dismissive and again cuts off conversation and potential learning.
The alternative is to look for the learning by opening yourself to hearing what you don’t see, what you don’t want to see or that you see differently by asking:
• “Really? That’s not at all how I see myself. I want to understand what you mean. Give me an example.”
• “I do? How?”
By listening to the response, you have a different lens through which to consider the impact of your words and actions on others.
Take the significant other who refers to you as grumpy. His observation may make you aware of how discouraged you’re feeling. That can be a valuable insight, a learning time for you!
5. Cut Some Slack
Despite the learning, you may also feel a little hurt or sad. Maybe your perception is that the person’s examples were exaggerated. If you don’t let that go, you won’t be able to use that learning because it is tainted by your resentment.
6. Bask in the Beautiful
Many of us are conditioned to diminish our strengths and gifts when others point them out, or we’re relentlessly and impossibly hard on ourselves. Rein that in, then remind yourself to bask in the beautiful. Relish and be grateful for your strengths, gifts and talents. Then, simply say “Thank you.”
7. Set Your Own Course
Remember that you can choose to use the feedback you receive for positive learning and personal change.
The next time you’re struggling with a work project, you might just tell your significant other which can start a very different conversation.
So much good can come from a little feedback.
ASK DR. KEITH
by KEITH O’NEILL, PH.D.,C.HT.
Dear Dr. Keith,
We have just moved to North Carolina, and both our children are going to start new schools in the fall. They both experienced bullying at their old school where they had been students for a number of years. They’re both terrified of starting over in a new community, school and afraid of being bullied. They’re a little shy and socially awkward. We aren’t sure how to calm their fears, and we are also possibly overly concerned because of their previous experience. What can we, as parents, do to support our children and stop the bullies?
Sandra P, Huntersville
Hey Sandra,
That is a great question, and you are not alone. Today, everyone is obsessed with bullies. Wherever you turn, someone is talking about bullying, and rightly so. According to the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development, 282,000 students are physically attacked in secondary schools each month, a child is bullied every seven minutes on a playground, yet, an adult intervenes only four percent of the time, and peers only eleven percent. Eighty-five percent of bullying on playgrounds goes ignored. In order to deal with this growing problem, we must first understand the circumstances that create such disturbing behavior.
Why do bullies bully? Feelings of inadequacy, insecurity, lack of confidence and I could mention numerous other traits, but basically, it’s low self-esteem. Bullies have little or no self-esteem, and they prey on the kids who also exhibit low self-esteem. Poor self-esteem is not just the cause of bullying, it’s the cause of being bullied, as well. That’s the problem. Most parents I talk with believe that bullies are the sole cause of bullying, and that is not the case. This is why looking to authority figures for the cure isn’t working, and parents are growing increasingly frustrated, anxious and angry.
We need to rethink the concept that bullying, in and of itself, is the problem, because the core issue behind bullying isn’t bullying; it is the lack of healthy self-esteem in our culture. While the focus is on the bullies, the solution to stopping bullying must also involve the children who unknowingly allow themselves to be bullied. The deeper issue behind bullying is the general deterioration of a sense of self-worth in our youth. It has become very clear, and no one can do anything about it except us, the parents.
Poor self-esteem in children has reached epidemic proportions, and some saw it coming. The results of a study published in
Aggressive Behavior in July 2001 indicated, “high self-esteem protects children and adolescents from involvement in bullying. Thus, it’s recommended that top priority be given by parents and teachers to preventing and reducing feelings of poor selfworth among children and adolescents.” That was true then, and it is true today. When children have good self-esteem, the bullies can’t get to them because they won’t allow it. It’s important for parents to know that healthy self-esteem is built through accomplishment and to avoid rewarding mediocrity. Compliments don’t build confidence. In life, not everyone wins or gets a trophy, however, it feels great when we earn one.
How can you help your children build healthy self-esteem? First, become the person you want your children to become. They learn more by what they see than by what they hear. Give them chores starting at an early age, tasks designed to teach them to be responsible and disciplined, and skills that will build confidence that they can carry with them into adulthood. Making the bed first thing in the morning, taking out the trash, taking care of pets and doing yard work are examples of daily responsibilities to help your kids earn that feeling of accomplishment. Enforce consequences for poor behavior and choices, and reward the good. If you choose to parent fear-based, worried your children will not like or love you for making them accountable or choose to enable or entitle them, you’ll fail them and take away their opportunities to develop confidence and self-worth. Healthy self-esteem is built through accomplishment and achievement, so encourage and nurture that, and they’ll be able to stand up to the bullies of the world.
Our job as parents is to teach our kids to become accountable, adaptable, responsible, respectable and resilient in a world that’s not fair and one that’s constantly changing. Our job is to prepare them for that world. Doing your job will help them to learn from their mistakes, adapt to change, make better choices and thrive in life. Too many parents want to be their kids’ friends and enable or entitle them. This will ultimately cripple them by taking away their opportunity to earn things, accomplish things and build healthy self-esteem, making them a target for bullies.
Helping your children develop healthy self-esteem cannot begin too early. It must be done by the parents, in the home environment. Merely punishing bullies won’t stop bullying. Improving your children’s self-esteem will. Because, when children have good self-esteem, bullying, jealousy and prejudice are minimized or disappear altogether.
Keith O’Neill Ph.D., C.Ht is a Psychotherapist, Professional Speaker, Author, Clinical and Sports Hypnotherapist, Mental Performance/Self-Esteem Coach and survivor of a life threatening head injury. If you’re struggling emotionally, need a speaker or a mental performance coach, visit theselfesteemcoach.com for more information. If you have questions for Dr. Keith, email them to keith@s-teamkids.com.
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TRACKSIDE TALKS:
SMALL TRACK, BIG DEAL
by CLAIR CROW
If you’re looking for fun for the whole family, look no further than your own backyard. Just 20 minutes east of Mooresville in Salisbury, NC lies Millbridge Speedway, a dirt track treasure for rookie and seasoned racers alike. You can bet you’ll see future stars of racing on the podium at Millbridge and, once in a while, some of your favorite professional race car drivers return to their roots at the premier facility, too.
Finn Crowdes, nine years old, is an Iowa native recently turned Mooresville, NC local. Finn got his start in racing in 2021 and has raced on quite a few tracks already! When asked what his favorite part about racing at Millbridge Speedway is, he said, “How fast the track is!” He has also made friends with “lots of kids” within the community and looks forward to competing against them. When asked which NASCAR driver he gets most excited he might see at Millbridge, Finn said, “Kyle Larson and Ryan Newman.” These two, alongside many other notable racing legends have been known to make regular appearances at Millbridge whether it’s to cheer on a family member or to hit the dirt themselves.
As previously mentioned, Finn Crowdes is new to Race City after his dad, Joe Crowdes, recently started his career as a graphic designer for Hendrick Motorsports. Joe has been an avid race fan since his youth, so it’s no surprise he described his new job as “a dream come true.” Joe, his wife, Kelsey, and their four sons ultimately decided to trade in the
comfort of their Iowa hometown for a fast-paced change of scenery in Mooresville because of “the community [they] have built throughout the years” while Joe has put in countless hours outside of his full time job providing freelance creative services within the racing community – all roads eventually leading them here. From March through November, you can find the Crowdes family, along with so many others in the motorsports community, at the race track “at least two nights a week.” When asked what makes Millbridge Speedway a premier dirt racing destination, Joe said, “When you show up to race at Millbridge, you are not only racing amazingly talented drivers, you are racing against crew members on top series teams, crew chiefs and top series drivers’ children, as well.” He added, “To people in youth karting, it is like driving into a NASCAR facility that is well maintained and cared for.” If you happen to pass the Crowdes family around town or at the track, be sure to give them a warm welcome! They are certainly a great addition to our wonderful community, and we are thrilled they now call Mooresville “home.”
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Local honey made from the abundant variety of flowering plants growing around Lake Norman.
“The taste of local honey is something you will never forget. It stays with you like a fond memory.”
George
McAllister, Owner, Bees of Lake Norman
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I was fortunate enough to catch up with NASCAR Xfinity Series rookie Jesse Love, AKA The Hammer, with a few questions. Love has risen through the ranks of NASCAR, from dirt to Daytona, finding success each step of the way. When asked what it is about Millbridge Speedway that keeps him coming back to compete, Love answered, “I just love dirt racing and racing with Chad Boat in general. Everyone at Chad Boat Industries (CBI) are my brothers, and to go race on the edge like that against great racers, makes for so much fun. I think it helps my car control in NASCAR cars, as well.” I was curious how Love got his nickname ‘The Hammer ,’ so of course I had to ask. He shared, “I used to hold all of the quarter midgets I drove wide open and everyone shouted ‘The Hammer!’ when I rolled out.” Love finally shared his “most memorable Millbridge moment” would have to be his “battle with Larson (Kyle) and Bell (Christopher) and Brent Crews for the win in 2021.”
When you spend an evening at Millbridge Speedway, you never know who you might see. But, chances are you’ve probably seen them on your screen, heard them on your radio or cheered them on any given Sunday. Regardless, at Millbridge Speedway everyone is there for the same reason – to spend time with family enjoying a night of down home, darn good dirt racin’ under the lights.
Needless to say, Millbridge Speedway may be small, but it’s kind of a big deal.
Full throttle, Clair
EMBRACING GRATITUDE: BEING A RAINBOW IN SOMEONE ELSE’S CLOUD
by ROBIN SHUPE KELLER
Appreciation is a vital force in human interactions, a sentiment that enriches relationships and uplifts spirits. The transformative power of appreciation lies in its ability to recognize and affirm the value of others, fostering a sense of connection and well being. In the words of Maya Angelou, “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” This profound insight encapsulates the essence of appreciation and its enduring impact on our lives.
Appreciation is not merely an acknowledgment of actions or words; it is a deep, heartfelt recognition of the intrinsic worth of individuals. When we express genuine appreciation, we affirm the unique qualities and contributions of those around us. This affirmation acts as a beacon of light, illuminating the lives of others and nurturing a sense of belonging and purpose. As Angelou wisely noted, “We may encounter many defeats, but we must not be defeated.” This resilience is often bolstered by the appreciation and encouragement we receive from others, reminding us of our inherent strengths and potential.
Being a rainbow in someone else’s cloud is a beautiful metaphor for the role of appreciation in our lives. Just as a rainbow brings color and hope after a storm, acts of appreciation can bring joy and encouragement to those facing challenges. Maya Angelou’s life and work exemplify this principle. Her words and actions have inspired countless individuals, serving as a reminder of the power of kindness and gratitude. “Try to be a rainbow in someone’s cloud,” Angelou advised, urging us to bring light into the lives of others through our actions and attitudes.
In practical terms, being a rainbow in someone else’s cloud means offering support, encouragement and kindness. It involves recognizing the struggles and achievements of others and expressing gratitude for their presence in our lives. This can be as simple as a heartfelt thank you, a note of appreciation or a sincere
compliment. These small gestures, when rooted in genuine appreciation, can have a profound impact. They remind individuals that they are seen, valued and cared for, fostering a sense of connection and positivity.
Moreover, appreciation has a ripple effect. When we express gratitude and acknowledge the efforts of others, we create a positive cycle that encourages more acts of kindness and appreciation. This ripple effect extends beyond the immediate recipients of our appreciation, influencing broader communities and environments. As Angelou observed, “When we give cheerfully and accept gratefully, everyone is blessed.” This reciprocal nature of appreciation highlights its potential to create a more compassionate and supportive world.
Maya Angelou’s life story is a testament to the power of resilience and the impact of positive influence. Despite facing numerous hardships, she rose to become a celebrated author, poet and civil rights activist. Her legacy is a powerful reminder that we all have the capacity to be a positive force in the lives of others. By embodying the principles of appreciation and striving to be a rainbow in someone else’s cloud, we contribute to a more empathetic and interconnected world.
Appreciation is a fundamental human need that enriches our lives and relationships. By recognizing and affirming the value of others, we foster a sense of connection and well being. Maya Angelou’s wisdom and example teach us that being a rainbow in someone else’s cloud is a powerful way to spread positivity and resilience. Through acts of appreciation, we not only uplift others but also create a ripple effect of kindness and gratitude that benefits everyone. In the words of Angelou, “Let gratitude be the pillow upon which you kneel to say your nightly prayer.” Let us embrace the power of appreciation and strive to be rainbows in the clouds of those around us, spreading light, hope and joy.
OUR JOURNEY TO PARENTHOOD:
HOW PRAYERS, COMMUNITY AND SCIENCE CHANGED EVERYTHING
by CLAIR CROW
Infertility is one of those taboo subjects you don’t hear many people talking about for a variety of reasons. Common ones might be the feeling of embarrassment, not wanting to be a burden or worrying it’s too much information. Unfortunately, this means that the many who are battling it often feel alone. I’m an open book, wearing my heart on my sleeve always, for better or for worse. If there are tears to be cried, I will be crying them. So, as you can imagine, I talked openly about our infertility battle to my family and friends, even acquaintances sometimes if it made sense to. It was eye opening how many people shared similar experiences and personal stories once the door was opened. I don’t know that it makes things easier, but it does help to speak candidly about the mountain you’re facing to someone who gets it, and it allows you to be a source of hope and/or understanding for others.
After a year and a half, we were ultimately diagnosed with “unexplained infertility.” We decided with the advice of our medical team to try intrauterine insemination (IUI). We completed one in May 2022, another in July 2022 and a third in August 2022. All three were unsuccessful which left us depleted. The next step of our journey was in vitro fertilization (IVF). We knew three things to be true about IVF – it was much more expensive than IUI, it was far more invasive and the chance of becoming pregnant was much higher. We had noticed fliers at REACH
and were encouraged by our doctor to apply for The Samantha and Kyle Busch Bundle of Joy Fund (BOJ) which is an organization founded to remove financial barriers through their grant process for couples wanting to start a family. We were cautious but hopeful that we might be selected after turning in our application in July of 2022. After a couple of months went by, we assumed we weren’t chosen, had just had our third and final failed IUI and were grappling with how we’d go about finding funds to begin IVF.
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On September 8th, 2022, I met my husband and our aunt out for lunch to celebrate my 32nd birthday. Through some sneaky coordinating between her and the folks at BOJ, we received the biggest surprise ever when Samantha Busch showed up with a BOJ check in hand to help us pursue IVF without the financial burden.
Best. Birthday. Ever.
By the end of October, after lots of selfadministered shots, blood draws and an egg retrieval, we received the good news that we had eight viable embryos. We then prepared for the final step of the process, which was our frozen embryo transfer that took place on December 21st, 2022. The two weeks following were filled with nervous hope and lots of prayers. On January 3rd, 2023 we were met with good news…the best news, “Congratulations, you’re pregnant!” Our little Fuller’s due date was set for September 8th, 2023, a year after we received our BOJ gift and my 33rd birthday. Wouldn’t you know it though, our little dude insisted on making us wait an extra day. After three years of being on the scariest roller coaster we’ve ever been on, we delivered a healthy baby boy on September 9th, 2023.
If our story finds you on a similar roller coaster, my desire is that, after reading this, you’ll be filled with a new hope and strength to keep holding on tight!
Here are a few final notes I hope will encourage you:
• If you’re battling infertility, I promise you are less alone than how it probably feels.
• Lean on your community. Let them love you. Let them pray for you. Let them hold hope for you.
• Advocate for yourself to your medical team. They know what they’re doing, but sometimes you know your body best!
• Look into organizations in your area that want to help offload some of the burden of infertility whether that be through monetary gifts, support groups and/or therapy.
• Believe in something bigger than yourself. For me, that’s my relationship with God. I give Him all the praise and decided early on that, even if our prayers weren’t answered, He is still a good gift giver.
Sending you so much love and holding hope always,
PRACTICING PATIENCE
by REBECCA STEVENS
“Whoever is patient has great understanding, but the one who is quick-tempered displays folly.” Proverbs 14:29 NIV
James, the brother of our Lord, admonishes us to confess our sins and shortcomings to one another. Well, fasten your seat belts, brothers and sisters, because I am about to confess my head off!
One morning, not so long ago, I had an unusually long and boring list of chores and errands to accomplish. I convinced myself that, with the proper planning, I could get all of my chores done in fairly short order and then move on to doing something more enjoyable – which would have included just about anything else. Nevermind consulting God about what His plans for my day might have looked like. That would be my major Confession Number One.
Confession Number Two: I just love checking chores off of my to-do list. I get an unholy thrill out of it. Some people need illegal substances to get the rush that a to-do list with plenty of check marks gives me. Yep, that would be my signature brand of crazy.
Confession Number Three: My sinful and foolish pride always somehow manages to convince me that I’m so dang smart and resourceful that I could dip all of the water out of Lake Norman with a teaspoon if only I can devise one of my infamous schemes for getting the job done more efficiently.
Confession Number Four: God help the poor unsuspecting soul who, usually through no fault of their own, gets in my way when I’m on a mission to slay my to-do list. They’d have better luck with a grizzly bear that hadn’t eaten in a month.
One of the many items on my to-do list on this particular morning was to purchase a restaurant gift card for a friend. On my master plan, I allowed all of about 2.8 seconds to accomplish this task since the restaurant in question was directly across the street from the store where I intended to complete my first task of picking up an online grocery order.
I really should have known that my careful plans were about to go straight up in smoke when I rounded a corner and discovered a long line of other customers waiting ahead of me to pick up their orders. But I remained undaunted. Surely, I’d make up for lost time since my next destination was right across the street.
But when I got to the restaurant, I discovered to my horror that the doors were locked. “No worries,” I reasoned. ”This location has a drive-thru, so I can just grab the gift card at the window and be back on my way.” At the ordering kiosk, I informed the disembodied voice that all I needed was a gift card. She very politely answered that I would need to come inside to get it and that I would need to wait until the line at the drive-thru died down enough to allow her to leave the window long enough to walk up front and let me in. She apologized for the inconvenience and explained that her co-worker who was scheduled to work the front counter had just called in sick.
Did I offer understanding and encouraging words to this poor harried woman who was obviously trying to make the best of a bad situation? Hardly! With a roar of my engine, I jerked out of the drive-thru line and drove off in a huff – only to discover that I had pickled myself in a no man’s land of trying to find another exit out of the parking lot.
Once I finally extricated myself and got back on the road, I remembered that another location of the restaurant in question was across town but not too far from the next stop on my chore list. That would work.
I stormed into restaurant number two like an outlaw about to shoot up a saloon. I snatched up a gift card from the display rack, slammed it down on the counter and fairly screamed at a young associate to load it with the amount of my gift. She stared up at me as if I’d just asked her to perform brain surgery on a wildebeest.
Finally, she turned and sashayed back toward the kitchen calling for someone named Delores. After what seemed like an eternity, the young associate finally resurfaced and announced that I would need to wait for Delores to come out of the restroom to load my card. So much for my winsome Christian witness. It was only by the grace of God that I didn’t have a stroke. I slammed the gift card down and stalked out.
But God is good. He is so patient, even when I’m anything but. He waited for my little tantrum to subside before whispering in His still small voice to try the pharmacy that was less than a mile from my home. Sure enough, I found the gift card that I’d just spent the last hour of my life furiously chasing all over town right under my nose. Talk about letting me stew in my own juices. Message received, Dear Lord, message received.
Hopefully, I learned an important lesson that morning. God often wants us to cool our heels and practice a little patience while we’re waiting for His (not our own) marching orders. I discovered that I can try to do things my way and make a miserable mess or I can practice a little patience, surrender my to-do list to God and spare myself a boatload of stress and frustration. Seems like a pretty obvious choice, doesn’t it?
Prayer: Dear Lord, thank you for laughing with me and never at me whenever I slow down enough to catch a glimpse of myself through Your eyes. Please forgive my foolish and sinful pride that makes me think that I know better than you how to order and live out my days. Teach me to exercise just a fraction of the patience with others and with my circumstances that you so lovingly shower on me.
ONE MAN’S PERSPECTIVE - SAIL TO BERMUDA
by CHARLIE SCHULER
We were still working at the time, and we had three weeks’ vacation due us. We recently completed our celestial navigation classes with the United States Power Squadron. We were ready, or so we thought.
Bermuda is east of the United States in the Atlantic Ocean. Specifically, 32 degrees 18’ North and 64 degrees 47’ west. It has 20.6 miles in area with 64 miles of coastline. It is 650 miles east of Raritan Yacht Club in New Jersey, or 1300 miles round trip. It is like a postage stamp in the
have to add diesel fuel in cans on deck since we will be motoring more than usual. We had our charts and Pilot chart. The Pilot Chart shows the various currents and eddies in the ocean by month for many years. This helps you avoid those that go against you and helps you to find the ones that help you.
We set the date and watched the weather. It brought us back to reality when we heard that a tall ship with a crew of kids on board was sailing in our area and they sunk. It was warm and they had all the hatches open when they got hit with a rough wave and it rolled them over. Nobody who was down below managed to get out.
The two sailboats, SEAGULL TWO, ours, and VALELLA, the Tulls, left Raritan Yacht Club in New Jersey on time as planned. It was a beautiful sail and VALELLA was always in sight. You could tell when you were in the Gulf Stream. The water was 80 degrees and there were cumulus clouds in the sky.
We were out a few days when the wind started to pick up its windspeed. As the wind increased, I shortened the sail area. In no time it reached 45 knots and the seas climbed to 20 feet high. The sun was just setting. It looked like we would have to ‘hove too’. This is where you put the third reef in, secure the main on a starboard tack and tie the rudder to the opposite side. The effect is that the boat tends to go forward, but the rudder knocks her backward. Not comfortable. But you can’t sail in these conditions anyway, Marianne and I had our harness on because a Life Preserver wouldn’t do you any good. You wanted to stay with the vessel. And after hearing the story of the Tall Ship sinking, we didn’t want to be down below. So, we huddled together through the night, not fearing for our lives, but being very uncomfortable.
After six and a half days we arrived at Bermuda, tied up at the city docks and cleared customs. To our delight the Queen’s ship, Britannia came in and tied up just in front of us. What a pleasure to listen to God Save the Queen as they raised the English flag each morning.
Being on a schedule has its drawbacks. We had to leave Bermuda in a time of high pressure that gave us 12-foot following seas for three days and nights. We completed our trip on time and off to work we went. Proud of our accomplishment.
PUTTING STORIES TO WORK
by JEAN MARIE JOHNSON
130 STORIES, PLUS ONE
In 1974, Studs Terkel released a seminal book entitled Working: People Talk About What They Do All Day and How They Feel About What They Do. Studs, aka Louis Terkel (there’s a story there) interviewed 130 people, chronicling and honoring their stories. Search “Terkel,” and you will find these compelling narratives of work, life and meaning. There’s a heartbeat in every one.
Ours are no different. Each of us has a personal narrative, a story we tell ourselves about our work, the peaks and pits, the ditches and detours, the road not taken, the roller coaster, the ladder, the ceiling, the pasture and even “the zone.” And, somewhere in all of these is the heartbeat that sustained the effort and made it matter.
My random list of early occupations includes housekeeper, Avon Lady, Mary Kay consultant, English tutor, babysitter and receptionist. But, that’s not my story. Neither is being an organizational consultant. My story is about dignifying the work experience and making things better, period. It may sound lofty, but the lived experience behind it couldn’t be more grounded. It’s this clarity that fueled my actions and sustained my every effort.
AUTHOR, EDITOR, MEANING-MAKER
What’s your story?
The story that you tell yourself about your work influences your memories, your choices, how you act and even how you see yourself. That’s no small matter. However you frame it, you are the author, the editor, the meaning-maker. By telling yourself your story, you can make sense of your experience in a way that matters to you. It’s that powerful.
To get at the heartbeat of your story, ask:
1. What is the consistent thread that weaves through my work experience? Think in terms of a passion or a quality that you have brought to every work experience. This may be top of mind for you. If not, think about feedback you’ve received over time. You may find that thread in the echo of what others have seen in you. For me, that “thread” was the compelling desire to make more of what is, to make “it” better.
2. What do I contribute that means the most to me? What first comes to mind may be your key responsibilities or accomplishments, those that relate specifically to your current role. But, what you feel most deeply may be something else entirely. For example, I know a phenomenal editor. She makes other people look good in print and online. But, what matters most to her is building a motley crew of talented people who work well together. She has a gift and a passion for collaboration.
3. What story within my story is the one I can’t wait to tell? It’s the one that usually begins with “Did I ever tell you about the time I…?” This anecdote matters to you because it says something – or a great deal – about you. It could speak to any quality, such as your courage under fire, your unfailing ability to see the good in all situations or your ability to make others laugh. A friend who didn’t believe that he was “leadership material” tells of the time he sat with a mentor who asked him to recount all of his “people-accomplishments,” however small. Once he did, he saw himself differently, which changed the larger story he told himself. In time, he went on to lead others.
4. What values do I rely on at work, day by day? Think about difficult or challenging work situations that you’ve handled and feel particularly good about. This story within your story is likely to reveal the values you relied on, those that matter most to you. An IT professional told the story of a customer who thanked him for resolving a very complex technical issue. At the end of the long call, she told him how much she appreciated the respect he showed her throughout. He explained that, for him, expertise without respect wasn’t in his wheelhouse. Bingo: His story!
Wherever you are right now in your life and in your work, write a good story – one that celebrates and affirms what you’ve done, what you do and who you are. Go with the heartbeat. Do it for yourself.
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JOYFUL JOURNEY
CAROLINA BEACH STATE PARK: ENJOYING NATURE’S SPLENDOR
by ROBIN SHUPE KELLER
Carolina Beach State Park, situated along the southeastern coast of North Carolina, showcases the region’s natural beauty and ecological diversity. Encompassing 761 acres of lush maritime forest, pristine marshlands and the scenic banks of the Cape Fear River, this state park offers visitors a serene retreat amidst the bustle of modern life.
BRIEF HISTORY
Established in 1969, Carolina Beach State Park was initially part of a conservation effort to protect the unique ecosystems found along the Cape Fear River. The park’s history is intertwined with the region’s maritime heritage, evident in the remnants of Civil War-era fortifications that once guarded the river from Confederate blockade runners. Over the years, the park has evolved into a haven for outdoor enthusiasts and nature lovers alike, drawing visitors from near and far to experience its natural wonders.
RECREATION
Carolina Beach State Park caters to a wide range of outdoor activities, making it a popular destination for families, adventurers and wildlife enthusiasts. Hiking trails meander through dense forests of live oak and longleaf pine, offering glimpses of native flora and
fauna. The park’s marina provides access to the Cape Fear River, perfect for boating, fishing and kayaking. Birdwatchers flock to the park to spot herons, ospreys and other migratory birds that call the area home.
For those seeking a more immersive experience, the park offers campsites equipped with modern amenities, allowing visitors to spend nights under the stars surrounded by the sights and sounds of nature. Educational programs and guided tours are available year round, providing insights into the park’s natural and cultural history.
UNIQUE FEATURES
One of the park’s most distinctive features is the Venus flytrap, a carnivorous plant native to the region. Carolina Beach State Park is home to one of the largest populations of Venus flytraps in the world, attracting botanists and curious visitors alike who come to witness these fascinating plants in their natural habitat.
The park also boasts stunning views of the Cape Fear River, particularly from the Sugarloaf dune, a prominent geological feature that offers panoramic vistas of the surrounding landscape. Visitors can explore the remnants of the Civil War-era Fort Fisher, once a strategic
stronghold that played a pivotal role in the Confederate war effort.
AT THE END OF THE DAY
As the sun sets over Carolina Beach State Park, visitors gather around campfires or relax on the riverbanks, reflecting on a day spent exploring nature’s wonders. The park’s tranquil atmosphere and scenic beauty leave a lasting impression, inviting guests to return time and again to reconnect with the natural world.
Carolina Beach State Park embraces North Carolina’s commitment to conservation and environmental stewardship. From its rich history to its diverse array of recreational activities and unique ecological features, the park offers something for everyone to enjoy. Whether hiking through ancient forests, paddling along the river or simply relaxing in nature’s embrace, visitors to Carolina Beach State Park are sure to create memories that will last a lifetime. Plan your visit today and discover the magic of this coastal gem.
Carolina Beach State Park is located at 1010 State Park Road, Carolina Beach, NC 28428. Park, visitor center and park office hours vary by month. For more information, visit their website at ncparks.gov/state-parks/carolina-beachstate-park or call 910.458.8206.
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THURSDAYS
WELCOME HOME VETERAN LIVING
MILITARY MUSEUM @ RICHARD’S COFFEE SHOP-FREE COFFEE FOR VETS
9am-1pm, 165 N. Main Street Mooresville, NC 28115.
Every Thursday morning veterans get together and enjoy each other’s company and a free coffee
SATURDAYS
WELCOME HOME VETERAN LIVING
MILITARY MUSEUM @ RICHARD’S COFFEE SHOP-MUSIC JAM
9am-12pm, 165 N. Main Street Mooresville, NC 28115.
On Saturdays we have a Music Jam session, where anyone is welcome to come in and either play or have a cup of coffee, or just enjoy the music!
AUGUST 3
CORNELIUS BRICK RACE
10-11:30am, Cain Park, 21336 Catawba Avenue in Cornelius.
Free event, but registration is required. The inaugural Cornelius Brick Race will take place later this summer! Kids ages 7-14 will construct their very own toy brick car, then race one another in multiple heats until a champion is crowned. Awards will be given out for best design and most unique design.
AUGUST 6
NATIONAL NIGHT OUT
5:30-7:30pm, Smithville Park, 19710 South Ferry Street in Cornelius.
Each year, Cornelius Parks & Recreation joins the Cornelius Police Department in hosting our annual National Night Out event! This free public event promotes community safety and crime prevention. Partakers enjoy an evening filled with family fun, including children’s activities, food, entertainment and more!
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AUGUST
7
FUNCTIONAL MEDICINE SEMINAR
6-7pm, CrossFit Fort Dobbs, 310 Leitz Place in Statesville.
Join us for a seminar – healthy body, longevity and optimum body composition. We hope to see you there! Strategicwellnesscenter.com
AUGUST 8-10
FOOTLOOSE THE MUSICAL
7:30pm, Cain Center for the Arts, 21348 Catawba Avenue in Cornelius.
Cost: $20-$30/person. Celebrating 40 years since the iconic toe-tapping movie, Davidson Community Players brings the stage musical version of Footloose to Cain Center for the Arts! Youth rebellion is in full swing when a city kid moves to the country only to realize that dancing and rock music have been outlawed by a regressive preacher. It’s time for the next generation to show the old folks how it’s done! Performed entirely by DCP’s TS3 ensemble of young adult and teen actors, this production of Footloose will send a jolt through your dog days of August. Doors open at 6:30pm.
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AUGUST 13 (SIX-WEEK COURSE ON TUESDAYS)
MAHJONG CLASS
6-8pm.
Eight participants.Cost: $65 for six weeks Email susan@home2court.com to sign up.
SEPTEMBER 2-30
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SEPTEMBER 14
BANDS, BREWS & BBQ (B3)
4-9pm, Liberty Park.
Experience the ultimate fusion of music, craft beer and mouthwatering barbecue. Immerse yourself in a day filled with live performances from a variety of bands. Savor the rich flavors of locally crafted beer from regional breweries in the beer garden and adult gaming area. Enjoy a delectable array of barbecue offerings that will tantalize your taste buds from dozens of the best barbeque purveyors that North Carolina has to offer. This unique experience offers a variety of fun activities for all ages. With the scenic backdrop of Liberty Park and the vibrant atmosphere of Downtown Mooresville, this festival promises a memorable celebration of good music, great beer and delicious barbecue.
OCTOBER 5
FORSYTH WOMAN BOUTIQUE CRAWL
Winston-Salem
Get ready for Forsyth Woman Magazine’s 2024 Boutique Crawl, presented by Hawthorne OBGYN! Join us on Saturday, October 5th for an adventure through several boutiques in and around Winston-Salem. This is your chance to indulge in a day of exclusive shopping, exciting giveaways, and support for our local community. And stay tuned for our April 2025 date for the LKN Magazine boutique crawl! Secure your spot today by registering at tinyurl.com/FWBC2024.
NOVEMBER 14
SWEETGRASS ANNUAL OPEN HOUSE
4-8pm, SweetGrass, 146 Mooresville Commons Way.
The area’s most anticipated holiday open house. We offer tons of giveaways from our vendors, Tacos on the Road food truck and Side Bar Cart offering specialty cocktails – all with your raffle ticket from any purchase.
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