Gò0dNews for Marriage
Marriage Sabotage To An End ow many marriages have been destroyed simply because people have not properly resolved issues in their lives, commonly called baggage? What is baggage? How does it affect our marital relationships? If you stop and open your life’s bag and pilfer through it, what would you discover? How full is it? There’s a saying commonly referenced to when discussing marriage: “They’re bringing a lot of baggage into their new marriage.” You haven’t heard this before, have you? Why is this so common? Is it not the fact that issues that caused the previous relationship to fail were not recognized or accepted and resolved? How many people today enter into another relationship shortly after the dissolving of the previous one without resolving the causes of their failure? This common baggage problem does not just involve marriages. It also includes our social relationships. Any unresolved issues in our lives will affect the success of our marriage. They will sooner or later surface and sabotage the present relationship we are developing. Whose desire is it to destroy all relationships? Doesn’t he make it so easy and convenient to open our life’s bag of stuff and dig something out of it and sabotage our relationship with the possibility of permanent injury? Why do we find it so difficult to resolve so many issues from our past? Why do we make it so easy for Satan to use those issues against us, thus continuing our relationship failure cycle? This cycle will continue the rest of our lives if we fail to resolve baggage issues. Baggage, baggage, baggage. It’s no wonder the Bible says it’s so important that we need to lay aside every weight and sin that so easily besets us. Please notice that the Bible does not say that everything we carry with us in life is sin: absolutely the contrary. It becomes needless pain and suffering that we bear in our lives. How many times have you reached into your baggage and retrieved something and sabotaged your relationship? Are we not supposed to take our burdens and unresolved issues to the Lord in prayer and leave them in His care?
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Those issues are still unresolved if we pick them up to carry them with us as we leave the altar. Doesn’t that baggage get quite heavy to lug around all the time? If we continue doing the same things all the time, can we not expect the same old results? We need to seek the Lord and allow Him to help us in our unresolved issues. We need to open our hearts to receive God’s healing and lay aside all our unresolved issues which
will eventually sabotage our marriage. Seek the Lord and adopt His changes, and in time, your marital relationship will change for the better. Be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might. Peace will return to your marriage. You don’t have to continue to carry your relationship baggage any further. Stop! Resolve it! Forgiveness matters! God intended for our lives to be simple and easy, not burdensome, filled with pain and suffering. Isn’t His yoke easy and His burden light to carry? Don’t allow Satan to trick you into reaching into your bag of stuff for something to sabotage your marriage. Isn’t it worth fighting for to have a healthy marriage? Blessings and peace be unto you as you begin to evaluate all the relationships in your life.
About The Author
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by Carl Corser
Carl Corser is an ordained bishop, serves as president of the Gideons Cleveland North Camp, board of directors and chaplin of the Peach State Antique Tractor Club, and owner of Corser Enterprises (roll- off dumpsters, sheet metal and welding shop, and home renovation).
