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The zero-waste game-changer for shopping, an “oarsome” achievement, and tackling men’s MH

11 THE WELLBEING WRAP

A quick review of this month’s good news

12 COMPASSION FATIGUE

Does our empathy have an expiry date?

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14 MQ CHARITY

The new mental health research charity that’s got everyone talking

18 JUNO DAWSON

Calling the shots, this author has always known who is on the inside – and now she’s living the life always meant for her

28 LEAVE A MASSAGE

It’s about time someone broke down the different types of massage available, and specifically how each can help you

38 POLITICALLY CORRECT

Alastair Campbell, former spokesperson for Tony Blair, sets the agenda for talking about mental health in Parliament

36 SOCIAL ANXIETY

How exposure therapy can help combat the condition, from someone who’s tried it

How to ensure you don’t tip the scales and head towards burnout

51 GOING ALCOHOL-FREE

The secret to utilising our primal instincts to change our habits

Pigeon backpacks to water bubbles, the tech heroes making the world a better place

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65 HEALTHY EATS

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70 MYTHBUSTER: CHIA SEEDS

62 PETER

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From a nervous breakdown to speaking out about mental health on her blog

Ran 44 marathons in 44 days in aid of mental health awareness

73 KERRY

Experienced a traumatic labour and struggled to bond with her daughter, until she found the right support

The key differences, to make sure you get the best support possible

44 WORK/LIFE BALANCE

46 TECH FOR GOOD

26 COUNSELLOR OR COACH?

78 JAMES

Struggled with his confidence due to severe acne, but now presents a show on Heart FM

Benefits of shopping seasonally, and what to make!

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60 MEDITATION TO THE TEST

Can nightly calm help us to have sweet dreams?

66 CHILD EATING DISORDERS Supporting your child in developing healthy relationships with food

76 HOW TO SUPPORT A LOVED ONE Being there when they go through a transition

82 HERO OF THE MONTH

The woman dedicating her life to saving others who have eating disorders

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Positive ISSUES

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Oarsome foursome smash record for Atlantic row in £250k fundraiser Four oarsmen set a new world record by rowing 3,000 miles in 29 days in memory of a mental health campaigner

eorge Biggar was joined by Dicky Taylor, Peter Robinson and Stuart Watts, as they spent 29 days and 15 hours at sea, rowing 3,000 miles across the Atlantic Ocean. It took them from La Gomera in the Canary Islands to Antigua in the Caribbean. The quartet raised the cash for mental health charity Mind in memory of Mr Biggar’s mother, Anne Fisher, who drowned at the age of 56 in the sea near the family’s Lake District home, in January 2011. Ms Fisher endured a lifelong battle with mental illness, and was a solicitor who retrained as a mental health and addiction counsellor. She also became a trustee for her local Mind branch. The £250,000 raised will be split between Mind and Spinal Research. Speaking to News and Star after completing the row, an exhausted Mr Biggar, 32, said: “It’s amazing to complete the row. “We set out with it as a charity initiative for two charities. For me personally, the Mind element is commemorative for mum,

who struggled with mental illness through her life. “I always felt a need and desire to do something to commemorate mum, and to bring that to fruition and to complete it – to do it such justice in such style with such great support, is amazing.” Dubbed “the world’s toughest row”, the challenge was expected to take the oarsmen 40 days to complete, but they arrived 11 days ahead of schedule. In the process, they Battling seasickness, shattered the previous record set by Latitude 40ft waves and chronic 35, who rowed the same fatigue, they amazingly distance in 35 days. Maurice Richmond

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The Uplift | News

Dr Tom Pell is looking to change the way we shop, to better protect our planet

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The concept is simple: as far as is possible, ensure that nothing we use is sent to general waste or incineration plants

Zero Waste supermarket is a go! We produce nearly 300 million tons of plastic every year, and over half of that is for single-use products – something’s got to change

lue Planet II brought attention to the devastating effect that our plastic dependence is having on the oceans, but, back on dry land, plastic buried in landfill can leak harmful chemicals into groundwater, and has even been shown to alter hormones and pose potential harm to humans. We need to change, and we need to do it soon. But, as plastic is so ingrained in consumerism, the question is, how? Well, Dr Tom Pell believes he has the answer. Inspired by similar stores he saw in Australia, Tom plans to open Birmingham’s first zerowaste supermarket: The Clean Kilo. Supported by crowdfunding, The Clean Kilo plans to open its first store in Digbeth, Birmingham, this spring. When open, the shop will sell food, drinks, cleaning products and toiletries. Shoppers will be able to bring

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their own empty containers, which can be any shape or size they like, as long as they’re clean and can fit on the scales. The containers will then be weighed before they are filled up, and then again afterwards. For Tom, The Clean Kilo is about more than just being zero-waste. As customers are able to buy the exact quantities of food that they need, and without the cost of packaging, it’s hoped that those who are struggling to put food on the table will be able to make their budgets stretch further. While it’s too late to reverse the damage that has already been done by society with plastic, shops like The Clean Kilo offer us a good chance to reduce our environmental impact and break a habit of single-use plastic. To find out more about The Clean Kilo, visit thecleankilo.co.uk Kathryn Wheeler

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Community rallies to double fundraising target for young family A heroic father-of-two, diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease aged just 30, has broken his £10,000 fundraising goal within four days Daniel with his partner Jord er their twins, Lola and Jasp

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JustGiving Messages to Daniel & Family The love and support shown to the Bradburys on their fundraising page...

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aniel Bradbury, from Nottingham, inherited the rare and early-onset PSEN1 type of Alzheimer’s from his father, who himself died from the condition aged 36. It prompted he and his partner, Jordan Evans, to kick off a fundraising page for a cherished family trip to Disneyland in Florida with their 18-month-old twins, Lola and Jasper. Worryingly, the twins have a 50% chance of being diagnosed with the same condition in later life too. More than 800 wellwishers have sent messages of support, along with donations to the young family’s cause. The fundraising total stands at more than £19,000. Originally, the target was £10,000, to be raised within six months. Mr Bradbury told Happiful he was humbled and overwhelmed by the support from the public in helping him.

He said: “Thank you for helping us achieve our goal. I can finally take my family for a much deserved holiday. You’ve made this all possible and for that I am eternally grateful.” “We have met some new friends along this journey and have had people reach out to us who are also affected or are caring for someone who is affected by this disease.” The keen drummer revealed to the Nottingham Post that he hopes to use some of the money for skydiving and seeing some of his favourite musicians, such as Kodaline and Ed Sheeran, in concert. It has also been decided that extra funds beyond the £10,000 target will go into a trust fund for their children, to support them once their dad is gone. For more information, or to donate, visit:

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Just want to send you and your beautiful family all the best in the world!! ‘If a thing loves – it is infinite’, William Blake.

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Nick Danny... I will never understand why life’s kindest people get dealt such a cruel hand! School days were made bearable for everyone around you with that infectious smile! A hero then and a hero now! x

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The Uplift | News

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Tackling stigma behind men’s mental health A scheme gives men from deprived backgrounds the chance to learn mental fitness techniques from Rugby League clubs

ore than 300 men have taken part in a ‘mental fitness’ programme, in partnership with top Rugby League teams. Offload, which is funded by the Big Lottery Fund, aims to engage men from “deprived areas” and has called on help from Rugby League Cares and State of Mind Sport. It also has backing from Salford Red Devils Foundation, Warrington Wolves Foundation and Widnes Vikings Foundation. The scheme gives fans the chance to go behind the scenes and learn how the trio of professional clubs develop mental fitness techniques. It comes as figures show that males account for 76% of UK suicides, yet only 36% of all psychological therapy referrals. Offload launched in April 2017, and is a “10 fixture programme” designed to prevent mental health problems. Each of the 10 fixtures hands power back to men, giving them evidence-based tools and techniques to practise.

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Areas covered include wellbeing, mindfulness, stress management, emotional resilience, problem-solving, goal-setting, challenging negative thinking, anger management, worklife balance and others. Emma Goldsmith, Health Programme Manager for Rugby League Cares, said: “As a sport, we recognise that a joined-up, fresh approach to men’s mental health is required. “The statistics surrounding male suicide and male ill-health, particularly in areas of deprivation, are shocking. Suicide is the biggest cause of death for men under 50 and a leading cause of death in young men. “Rugby League’s core affinity areas stretch across northern England’s major cities and towns, covering many lower socio-deprived economic communities. “We have a unique opportunity to directly target, influence and engage men who may be facing wellbeing challenges, and support them to develop effective coping strategies, recognise when they require further support, and enable them to access help in their local area.”

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wellbeing wrap Weird, wonderful and welcoming news Mentally Healthy

A new website to help children in schools access better mental health support has launched. Mentally Healthy Schools, an initiative from the Heads Together campaign, set up by the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge and Prince Harry, is on hand to give practical advice that youngsters can take into classrooms.

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Scientists at King’s College London have revealed birdsong can boost mental wellbeing for more than four hours.

How often do you practice self-care? A whopping 44% of you are taking a moment of self-care each day. This is a fantastic step in the right direction. To the 7% who never take time for self-care, take a look at page 44 for some inspo!

Results China, the world’s largest importer and end-user of elephant tusks,

has banned ivory sales.

Daily – 44% Weekly – 22% Occasionally – 27% Never – 7%

Army news The Army is seeking to address concerns that potential recruits could have about emotional and physical support. “Belonging”, a £1.6 million advertising scheme, will highlight how help over sexuality, religion and wellbeing are offered once people sign up.

The mental health charity Mind has launched a survey for you to have your say on the government’s proposed reform. Head to mind.org.uk

Mystery donor pledges millions for mental health An anonymous donor has given $100 million (£57m) to Canada’s largest mental health hospital. Toronto’s Centre for Addiction and Mental Health has landed the windfall. It is believed almost 7 million Canadians could benefit from the donation, which seeks to deliver cures for psychiatric conditions.

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The Uplift | The Explainer

What is

Compassion Fatigue? Is exposure to a 24-hour news cycle doing more harm than good? Writing | Kathryn Wheeler

here’s no escaping the 24/7 news cycle. Television, radio, push-notifications, live billboards, trending hashtags and Twitter moments; in 2018, we’re getting bad news faster than ever before. But, surely, there’s a limit how much we can take. How many Brexit updates, horrifying attacks, and middle-of-the-night Trump tweets can we take before we start responding to them on autopilot? Or, worse, are we so accustomed to bad news that we have no response at all? Sometimes used as a colloquialism for secondary traumatic stress (STS), compassion fatigue describes the apathy or emotional isolation one may experience after being exposed to the persistent pain or suffering of others. Initially identified in caregivers – such as those working as social workers, doctors, teachers, relief workers, and counsellors – compassion fatigue is now also being noted in the general public.

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So, is the constant onslaught of bad news we read, see and hear about on a daily basis to be blamed for generalised compassion fatigue? I put this question to Nicole Addis, a humanistic integrative counsellor and psychotherapist, with over 10 years of experience working with victims of trauma. “If we consider

Consider a “news-cleanse” a form of self-care compassion fatigue to be a form of STS, a syndrome of repeated exposure to emotionally or physically emotive, threatening, and sad stories and events,” she says, “then I think it would be reasonable to

say that constant exposure to such information would result in a form of compassion fatigue experienced by the individual, but, perhaps more importantly, suffered by a society.” If society is suffering from generalised compassion fatigue, we may find the evidence in charitable donation trends. The Charities Aid Foundation UK Giving Report for 2017 showed a record peak in the number of people donating to charities in November, the month where a number of national charities run major campaigns, such as Children in Need, Movember, and the Poppy Appeal, simultaneously. However, once the campaigns are over, the same report shows an overall decrease in the proportion of people donating to charities throughout the year. With over 180,000 charities in the UK, it’s possible that we’re all simply overwhelmed by causes. And, as the public spotlight inevitably moves on to the next big thing, it’s inevitable

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that our compassion will waver throughout the year. This fluctuation is not unusual. In fact, Jean Decety, the author of a 2010 study into compassion fatigue published in the journal NeuroImage, believes it to be a natural response that frees up cognitive resources, without which we would be unable to move on or function effectively. Imagine having to feel an equal amount of empathy towards every tragic thing that occurs every day, everywhere in the world. It’s unimaginable. It wouldn’t be healthy. Rather than allowing ourselves to get to the point where we are so emotionally fatigued that our brains cut off all empathy, we should learn to manage our responses before this happens. You shouldn’t feel guilty for turning off the news every now

and then if you feel overwhelmed or emotionally burnt-out. No single one of us should feel the burden of the world’s problems on our shoulders. You can return to the news when you feel emotionally ready. But it’s important to focus on the things that we can help, the people that we can support, and the small, special differences that we can make in our lives, and in the lives of others. Compassion fatigue is something that can affect all of us at some point. So stay one step ahead. Consider a “newscleanse” a form of self-care. If you find yourself feeling apathetic, or overwhelmed, switch it off. It’s something that Nicole recommends for anyone who feels they may be struggling to process constant bad news: “Don’t be afraid to choose not to watch.”

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Turn off all devices now and then. If you’re finding a piece of news particularly distressing, it’s important to limit exposure. Apps such as Forest, Onward, and StepLock all offer quirky ways to help us to curb our smartphone addictions. Get out and explore the world beyond your front door. This can help to ground you in the moment. Meet up with friends and agree to leave phones in bags. Do it the old-fashioned way, don’t say by text, or email, what you can say face-to-face. Be empathic, find your compassion, and practise kindness to yourself, others and society.

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Charity | MQ

THE MENTAL HEALTH RESEARCH CHARITY For every person diagnosed with cancer, £178 is spent on research per year. For mental illness, the figure is just £8. MQ wants to change that Writing | Kathryn Wheeler

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t’s hard to define when mental health research, as we would understand it, emerged,” says Sophie Dix, Director of Research at MQ – the UK’s only charity funding research into mental illnesses. Founded in 2013, MQ’s vision is simple: “To create a world where mental illness is understood, effectively treated, and ultimately prevented.” Yes, it’s simple, but it’s also revolutionary. For MQ, heightened awareness of mental illnesses has to be met with medical and psychological support – and when government funding remains limited, it’s down to charities to fill the gaps. “The UK is fortunate to have vibrant and largely positive public discussion about mental health – and, thanks to the NHS, it remains one of the few nations in the world with a commitment to provide

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mental health support to its citizens,” says Cynthia Joyce, CEO of MQ. “But service improvements can’t possibly meet all the mental health needs out there. MQ is working to help the media focus on research advances and getting innovative new ideas into practice.” It’s a cause to support, and one that makes total sense considering the steep increase in the number of people affected by mental illness in the UK. Which begs the question, why hasn’t a charity like this existed before? “Funnily enough,” says Cynthia, “with respect to mental health research, we’ve found that most people think someone else has it covered. There is lots of good work going on in the research sector, some government funded, some from industry. But mental health is complex and needs tackling on a huge scale if we hope to see real change take place.”

THE HISTORY

“Mental illness has been described in texts dating back over two millennia, but it wasn’t until the 19th century that psychology and psychiatry emerged,” Sophie says. “Many of the earliest drugs to treat mental illnesses were discovered by chance last century.” And there hasn’t been much progress since. Sophie explains: “In the last 30 years, academia and the pharmaceutical industry have struggled to find new treatments for mental illness, and little in the way of new medicines.” But, even as a young organisation, MQ is seeing incredible breakthroughs. “One of our scientists is interested in how hormones affect how well talking therapies for anxiety work. She found that, dependent on the phase of a women’s menstrual cycle, there are better times of the month to deliver treatment than others.”

Research REVOLUTION

With respect to mental health research, we’ve found most people think someone else has it covered

WE SWEAR

MQ’s star-studded campaign, We Swear, is an invitation to the public to say enough is enough – our understanding and treatment of mental illness has got to be improved, and research is integral to seeing real change. Why “swearing”? “The vision for this arose naturally from discussions with stakeholders, patients, families, and GPs all struggling to name the feelings of frustration and desire for a commitment to make a change happen,” says Cynthia. The campaign dares people to swear to take a stand for pioneering mental health research, through fundraising and raising awareness. To date, over 600 people have taken up the challenge. Among the supporters are Mel C, Rag’n’Bone Man, Arlene Phillips, and many more celebrity heavyweights. Why the need for celebrity endorsement? “A good friend of mine once said that in the field of medical research, not having a celebrity can kill you,” says Cynthia. “It’s a bit dramatic – but there is no doubt that celebrities of all kinds are role models in our lives. And they cut through the noise with their messages.”

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A MULTIDISCIPLINARY APPROACH

Even when funding is available, there are several challenges to researching mental health, namely because it is such a broad subject with countless variables such as genetics, poverty, socialisation and biology. MQ prides itself on what it calls a “multidisciplinary” approach to research. “There are many different types of science that can be used to understand more about mental illness and how we can treat it,” says Sophie. “We need the social sciences to understand how life experience and the society that we live in may impact mental health. We need psychology to understand behaviour and mental processes, and we need neuroscience to understand the mechanics and biology of the brain.” In order to achieve this, MQ takes steps to fund early-career scientists, with the aim of encouraging them to commit to working together to tackle mental illness.

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MQ’s CEO Cynthia Joyce on:

3 REASONS TO SUPPORT MENTAL HEALTH RESEARCH

1 “What we’re doing now doesn’t seem to be enough. Mental illness has such a huge impact on so many people. A society that is rich in research and health resources works to alleviate and prevent suffering, and ensures our children have the best possible start in life.”

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2 “The sad fact is that the rates of people seeking help for illness and premature death associated with mental illness are rising here in the UK and around the world. My family and friends are amongst those suffering. I want to do everything possible to change this.”

3 “New technologies have made it possible to study and intervene in mental health problems in completely new ways – there is much hope that these new innovations will transform lives.”

Research REVOLUTION

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THE MIND AND THE BODY

Only in recent times has the increased visibility of mental illness encouraged both the public and professionals to re-evaluate the hard distinction between mental and physical health. But despite this, there is still a lot of uncertainty about the ways in which they interact. “People with severe mental illness are likely to die on average 20 years earlier than those without. Also, people with physical illnesses such as diabetes and heart disease are more likely to have mental illness, and if they have mental illness their physical health symptoms are likely to be worse. We simply don’t understand why,” says Sophie. But, despite this clear link, the difference in spending on research into physical over mental illnesses is shocking. “Despite fantastic efforts by the royal family, politicians and celebrities, stigma remains a big issue,” says Sophie. “This means that in terms of research, the public don’t put the same pressure on the government to invest more, nor is there the same level of charitable giving towards research.”

People with severe mental illness are likely to die on average 20 years earlier than those without

For Cynthia, the disparity in funding is also a lot to do with how we identify our own mental health. “The simple fact is that many of us don’t realise when we need help – nor do we know what to do when someone asks for help, whether a child or adult.” She adds: “We need to make mental health literacy a basic part of health education, and we need to do it now.” March 2018 • happiful • 17

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In the Spotlight | Juno Dawson

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Inner STRENGTH

This Is Me Award-winning author Juno Dawson writes about everything from gender identity, to mental health, to addiction. Yet it was her own life that proved the big read when, in 2016, she announced she was transitioning from James Dawson, to the person she’d always known she was: Juno

Interview | Rebecca Thair

he first time I met Juno Dawson was at the Mind Media Awards in 2017 – a night celebrating phenomenal efforts and achievements in the field of mental health. So, as you can imagine, I was pretty excited (and in awe) to be listening to all these incredible people. During the ceremony, Juno was on stage to present the Digital Champion Award, alongside one of Happiful’s founders, Aimi Maunders. While she had the attention of the room full of journalists, Juno took the opportunity to speak to us all about being kinder to each other, and about taking the opportunity to reach out to people, and not promote hate. “48% of young trans people haven’t just thought about it, they’ve attempted suicide,” she said. Juno’s speech was one of the most memorable moments of the night, and the entire room stood to applaud her words. When she thinks back, her only disappointment was that Prince Harry had already left the building by the time she got to speak.

Photography | Joseph Sinclair

So, as we’re sat in an east London studio prepping for our cover shoot, I take the opportunity to ask her, as someone in the media: how can we better represent and support trans people? “Whereas to the press we’re something to be debated, to us it’s our lives,” Juno says. “We have to go out there day after day and live in this world, and the press are portraying us as something to be wary of – and of course, that’s not the case.” And the problem, Juno explains, is not just about the representation of transgender people in the media, but also other minorities, including the way mentally ill people have been presented for decades. So what needs to change? “Let us speak for ourselves,” Juno implores. “So few trans people have been given a voice in the media, and I’m very lucky that I’m one of them. Trans men are almost unheard of.” She has a point. In our discussions, we reference maybe five or six transgender people, all women, who are in the public eye on a reasonably regular basis – who get to speak and represent their community. March 2018 • happiful • 19

In the Spotlight | Juno Dawson

ournalist India Willoughby was recently in the Celebrity Adolescence is a difficult period for a lot of people, but Big Brother 2018 house, but for trans people to get more puberty for someone who feels their gender isn’t right is even of a voice, they need more screen time than one stint on more emotionally fraught. While she started her teenage years reality TV. Their stories need to be told. And thankfully, struggling with friendships, Juno found an incredible support there is a show that aimed to do that, which Juno was a part of. network in three girls at sixth form – who she’s still close At the time of our interview, Juno’s episode of ITV’s friends with to this day. Juno reflects, “I realised the power of Transformation Street was a few days away from airing. Having friendship when they’re the right friends. Up until that point, seen the first episode and the way people were presented, I ask I’d had quite toxic friendships with people who’d teased me. But Juno if she’s happy with it. now, I was accepted as one of the girls.” “I would have pulled consent if I hadn’t been!” She’s as quick In fact, it was these close friends who supported Juno with her as one of her fictional characters. “I agreed to take part in gender identity. In 2013, Juno first properly started talking to Transformation Street because I could them about how she was feeling, and see what Sally Benton, the director, while they were incredibly supportive, wanted to achieve: to take a much they realised they had no experience maligned minority group and put of it. They encouraged her to speak to them slap bang on primetime ITV1.” a professional, and Juno notes that she Knowing Sally’s past experience was in the privileged position of being – she made the TV series Long Lost able to afford private therapy. Family presented by Davina McCall While initially sceptical about – Juno realised she would use a counselling, Juno shopped around sympathetic and respectful touch. and tried out two counsellors, before However, there was some controversy finding third time’s the charm with with the show, given its focus on the her therapist Dean. “The first two were surgical aspect of a transition, which, lovely, but I felt like they didn’t get as Juno notes, is only a small part of a it,” she says. “And I’d say to anybody trans person’s life. considering therapy that it’s about the “Yes, your exterior changes,” Juno dynamic and the relationship.” says, “but that’s only to come in line While Dean’s tough-love style might with your insides. Even my mother not be for everyone, Juno recognises had to accept that while I’ve changed it’s exactly what her Yorkshire phenomenally outwardly, I’m just as sensibility needed. “He had to snap me irritating as I was before. Nothing else out of trying to give him the answers I about me has changed whatsoever.” thought he wanted,” she says. “I’d gone And in our discussions, that couldn’t to him specifically about my gender “The first year of my be more apparent. Even at five years transition, and he quickly realised transition was an old, Juno knew exactly who she was. there were a lot of things that needed She describes her childhood, growing talking about – my sense of identity, incredibly positive up during the late 80s in the suburbs my anxiety issues. There was a lot to experience because I was of Bradford, West Yorkshire, where unravel.” she would tell anyone who would For Juno, transitioning came with finally living the way I listen: “When I grow up, I’m going to extra complications, given that she was wanted to live” be a girl.” already an established author and in For Juno, living in this very the limelight. ordinary, suburban life, she always Having written all her life, Juno knew that her gender assigned at birth grew up with lots of encouragement, wasn’t right for her, but didn’t know about transgender people particularly from her grandma, who read all her Dr Who-based to express it. “All I wanted was to hang around with girls and I stories. But Juno never thought being a writer was an option was told that wasn’t right, so I never formed good friendships.” for her, being from a working class family in Bradford. So, her As she entered adolescence, Juno retreated into her bedroom career developed into teaching, which she did for five years. and the comfort of science fiction – particularly Star Trek, But one summer, something clicked. She was reading some of Doctor Who and Star Wars – but recognises the positive the big teen fiction series – Twilight, The Hunger Games – and influence this alone-time had on her. “I don’t know if I’d be the says: “I realised that not many of these teenagers sounded like writer I am today if it weren’t for the fact that that’s what my me, and they didn’t sound like me when I was a teenager.” teenage years were,” she says. Continues >>>

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‘There was a lot to unravel’ – Juno’s counsellor Dean has really supported her

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‘When I grow up, I’m going to be a girl’ – Juno’s always known who she was supposed to be

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he was inspired to give it a proper go, and I realised the power of in 2012 she friendship when they’re published her first book, Hollow Pike. the right friends. Up until Since then, she has that point, I’d had quite carved a refreshing, Juno-shaped niche toxic friendships with for herself in the people who’d teased me young adult market – penning 11 books to date, not including her upcoming April 2018 release, Clean. Never one to shy away from serious topics, Juno’s forthcoming novel covers themes of addiction and drug use. So, to ensure she was describing detox and recovery as accurately as possible, she did her research – speaking to people who’ve been through rehab and 12-step programmes. And that vein of realism runs through the novel to ensure it’s raw, authentic, and in no way glamorises addiction. Given her audience, I ask if that was tricky to navigate. “I think often the focus is somewhat on the young rather than It began in 2010, when Ayla Holdom, a helicopter pilot in the the adult,” Juno says. “I didn’t set out to shock, but I wanted to Royal Air Force Search and Rescue team, had her life splashed completely go for it in a way I hadn’t before.” across the Sun newspaper when they outed her as transgender. And in doing so, she notes that she’d not enjoyed writing a The reason for this? Her colleague and fellow co-pilot happened novel so much in years. Juno says, “I think when an author has to be HRH Prince William. Without her consent, she found her enjoyed writing a book, that joy shows in the page.” life being devoured by the public purely because of the job she When you understand how much Juno loves her job, you’ll was in. understand why transitioning in 2016 while she was in the She moved on to fly for the National Police Air Service, and in spotlight wasn’t a “choice” for her. “A lot of people have talked 2015 she won an Attitude Pride Award. What stuck with Juno, about my ‘brave’ choice to transition so ‘bravely’ in the public and what she found so powerful about Ayla’s story, was how she eye. But it wasn’t a choice. I had to work or I would have wasn’t able to make it the night of the awards – because she was starved,” Juno says. “And I must admit that made it easy. There working. She was saving lives. wasn’t time to worry about it, I just had to do it.” “Ayla sent her mum to collect her award, and it was such a So how was that first year? message that it hadn’t always been easy, but there was a future “On the one hand, the first year of your transition is the for Ayla and her mum,” Juno recalls. “And it occurred to me, hardest because you constantly have to convince people that that maybe there was a future for me and my mum. I was like, what you’re saying isn’t a phase,” she notes. “But at the same ‘What are you waiting for?’ I’d been in therapy for a long time at time, you’re thrilled. The first year of my transition was an that point, but that was the moment where I wasn’t prepared to incredibly positive experience because I was finally living wait for a second longer.” the way I wanted to live. In fact, I’ve heard of it referred to as So how did her own mum, Angela, take the news? gender euphoria, rather than gender dysphoria.” “Initially, she did go into panic mode. But the thing with One of the biggest concerns for many trans people, is the panic is, it’s not forever,” Juno says. “I call it ‘the sky is falling’ reaction of their loved ones. While Juno had always known she period, whereby everybody expects there to be a much more was Juno through and through, and had been speaking to a fundamental change than there really is. Then the dust settles, counsellor for several years about her gender identity, moving and people realise they’re left with exactly the same person. But forwards and telling her family was another big, scary step. a much more honest, authentic and happier version – and who While Juno had seen trans people in the media more and could begrudge that?” more in the past 10 years or so, with the likes of Nadia on Big After coming out to friends and family though, it’s a Brother 5, model Andreja Pejić, writers such as Paris Lees, and slow old process. And it does concern Juno that shows like activists like Munroe Bergdof, there was a defining moment, Transformation Street might make it appear like a makeover. when Juno knew it was time. Continues >>>

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n reality, we’re now five years down the line from when Juno first told people. In that time, she’s had counselling, hormone replacement therapy, laser treatments and, most importantly, is expressing who she truly is and has always been inside. But Juno has also embraced the fact that she’s in the public eye, and is taking her opportunity to be the voice for transgender people who don’t have opportunities to speak for themselves. In 2016, she started writing her column for Glamour, as well as penning a variety of pieces for the Guardian and Metro, speaking out about feminism, sexuality, gender and mental health. She’s also a role model for Stonewall, the charity dedicated to supporting LGBTQ+ people. She visits schools and offers any trans youths who might be in the room an opportunity to hear from someone who knows exactly what they’re going through. Her advice? “I would say to young people – transgender or otherwise – the importance of talking and understanding you’re not alone,” she says. “Mental illness whispers in your ear that you’re the first and only person to have felt this way, and of course the more of us who open up about our mental health problems, the more we realise that this is a normal part of being alive.” In this positive new world, where she’s embracing who she truly is, dating is the one thing that stuck out as an ongoing challenge in her articles for Glamour. “In the four years I’ve lived as Juno,” she says, “I’ve dated three wonderful guys. One described himself as straight, one bi, and one queer. I don’t think those labels particularly matter.” But while Juno isn’t concerned by labels, her experiences on Tinder suggest that not everyone feels the same. “Some guys are dating transgender women in secret, not because they don’t fancy them, but because they worry what people will think,” says Juno. “Dating a trans woman doesn’t need to say anything about you. Sexuality and gender are two completely different things, and as a society, we spend way too much time worrying about what other people will say. Life is way too short.” Juno definitely hasn’t got time for that. I’m reminded of the closing sentiments of one of her articles, where she said that now she’s the right woman, she would wait for the right man. Juno laughs, “That’s RuPaul isn’t it? ‘If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell are you going to love somebody else? Can I get an amen?’” And it’s completely right, and empowering, and we can all relate to that. But, luckily, Juno does love herself, and she spent a long time on introspection to get here. “The thing I learned in my 20s,” Juno says, “is that it’s OK to be single. And you can get a lot of happiness from doing your own thing. Why would I settle for a romantic relationship that brings me less joy than my friendships?” And those friendships that Juno cherishes, along with the support of her family, are what have helped her to be in the position she’s in today – undoubtedly happy in her own skin.

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It occurred to me that maybe there was a future for me and my mum. I’d been in therapy for a long time, but that was the moment where I wasn’t prepared to wait for a second longer

Fun on set: Juno with her chihuahua Prince, and celebrity canine Stewie Sinclair

She says: “Whatever stage I’ve been at in my life, I’ve always been quite lucky to recognise my worth.” Sat in the presence of someone so sure of herself, who truly loves who she is, is utterly empowering. And while it’s taken a while for her to get here, she’s learnt a lot along the way. Her advice comes straight from someone who’s been through it all. So, I ask, on behalf of those going through a difficult time, who aren’t where she is – yet. What would she say? Juno’s response comes with the wealth of wisdom she’s gained: “You can’t do this by yourself – none of us can. I am where I am now because I did ask for help. We are so trained on the stiff upper lip and getting through it that we forget: none of us is an island.” Juno’s new novel ‘Clean’ is published by Quercus on 5 April 2018, price £7.99. Follow Juno on instagram @junodawson

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Do I need a

counsellor or a coach? Unpacking the difference between counselling and coaching and how they can help you, from someone who’s experienced both Writing | Kat Nicholls

n my teens, I found myself completely lost. Adrift Coaches work in all areas of life, from career coaching in a sea of school-friend politics, bullies and a deep to spiritual coaching. They all have the same aim, sense of isolation, I became consumed by selfthough: to help you get to where you want to go in life. hatred. Not knowing what to do or where to turn, This includes setting and achieving goals, navigating life this hate festered and developed into an eating disorder changes, and finding a way to thrive instead of survive. (with a side of self-harm). Last year, I found myself in need of this kind At this point, there was no question about it – I of support. I had dreams about my career and needed the help of a qualified mental health life all scattered around me, like unassembled professional. I received counselling through the Lego. Realising I was in over my head, I NHS and was then referred on for specialist reached out to a coach for a one-off session. After this support. Thanks to this early intervention All coaches offer different packages and I and a change in environment, I found myself session, I could have asked for a six-month coaching recovered and happy. gained clarity, relationship. But, as it was, all I needed was In terms of which type of professional I needed, and – most someone to hear my ideas and help organise this case was pretty clear-cut. Generally, if you’re them in a way that made sense. So, one importantly – struggling with a mental health condition, it’s 90-minute phone call and email support fitted important that you see someone who is suitably an action plan the bill perfectly. qualified to help you, like a doctor, counsellor, After this session, I gained clarity, book psychotherapist or psychiatrist. recommendations and – most importantly – an action If you’re feeling stuck in other ways though, you might plan. Suddenly my Lego ideas were looking much more benefit from another approach. And this is where coaching steps in. like the picture on the box.

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So, let’s break it down – what are the differences between counselling and coaching? 1 Counselling helps you cope better

day-to-day; coaching helps you take positive action If you’re feeling overwhelmed and are struggling to cope with everyday tasks, a counsellor can help you find a way to cope. If, day-to-day, you’re getting by OK but know you want to achieve more, a coach may be more suitable.

2 Counsellors help you recognise and

manage problems; coaches help you set and achieve goals

Sometimes we’re so lost, we can’t see what’s holding us back. Counsellors support you on that journey and, once found, help you manage or even overcome it completely. Coaches can be excellent problem-solvers, but their focus is more on helping you understand what you want in life and how to set and achieve goals.

3 Counsellors can analyse and look back

at your past; coaches tend to stay in the present and look ahead

Some therapies focus on the here and now, but others delve into your past to help you gain answers and understanding. This will depend on the counsellor you see and the type of therapy they use. While coaches may take past experiences into consideration, they are generally more focused on your present and future.

4 Counsellors can work within the NHS;

coaches are mostly self-employed

The NHS does offer counselling and, therefore, some counsellors work in the system. If you decide to go private, however, many counsellors offer this and will have set fees for this service. Coaching is not available on the NHS and will generally always cost money. Most coaches are self-employed and will promote their services online.

5 Counsellors can support people with

mental health conditions; coaches may not have this training

Anyone working as a counsellor should have suitable training to support mental health conditions. The title “counsellor” isn’t legally protected, so you are always encouraged to ask for their training, experience and qualification details (especially if you’re seeking help for a specific condition). Coaches may also have training in this area, but it’s not required, and many don’t have the training or experience to support someone struggling with their mental health.

Who you gonna call? “I’m struggling to get out of bed and am feeling hopeless.” >>> Call a counsellor “I’m not sure which way to turn in my career.” >>> Call a coach “I’m really struggling with my mental health.” >>> Call a counsellor “I don’t feel like I’m fulfilling my true potential.” >>> Call a coach To find a counsellor near you, visit counselling-directory.org.uk and to find a coach, visit lifecoach-directory.org.uk March 2018 • happiful • 27

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10-Step Guide To

MASSAGE

Self-care isn’t selfish, it’s essential. Here’s all you ‘knead’ to know about the ultimate treats to alleviate stress and radiate wellness Writing | Ellen Hoggard

he world of massage is wonderful, but if you’re new to the pampering lifestyle, knowing where to start can be quite overwhelming. But fear not, here we’ll break down some of the most common types of massage, delving deeper into their history, benefits, and which type is best for you. And remember, this divine lifestyle isn’t only for the privileged! There are many styles of massage to suit all needs, personalities, beings and budgets...

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To relieve pain during pregnancy… try prenatal massage Prenatal massage aims to relieve the pains of pregnancy for mums-to-be. In fact, many describe it as a godsend. This is a specialist form of massage, adapted for pregnancy, to help ease aches and pains, improve sleep and boost mood. Using techniques similar to those used in Swedish massage, expect gentle kneading and gliding strokes designed to soothe muscles, improve blood circulation and help you feel relaxed. It’s also common for the therapist to include acupressure and Shiatsu techniques, which stimulate key pressure points, promoting physical, mental and hormonal balance. Comfort is key to prenatal massage. There are a range of treatment beds used, including specially designed massage tables with a cut-out for belly and bust, allowing clients to lie on their front. Massage cushions and floor mats may also be available. If you’re interested in pregnancy massage, it’s advised you wait until you’re past 12 weeks, but no later than 32 weeks. Sessions typically last an hour or more, so do let the practitioner know if you need to pop to the bathroom – thinking about the loo is certainly not relaxing! Continues >>>

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3 To improve flexibility… try Thai massage

2 To support muscle recovery... try sports massage A sports massage is less of a pamper, and more physical therapy. Excellent for athletes, or those who are regularly active, this treatment aims to speed up muscle recovery time and helps to prevent injury. Despite relaxing the muscles, sports massage isn’t particularly relaxing. The practitioner will use stroking movements, working upwards towards the heart. This technique is designed to increase blood and lymph flow, therefore reducing muscle soreness and fatigue. They may also direct the

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strokes away from the heart, to help stretch the muscle fibres. Sports massage will also consist of kneading, or “petrissage”, and the friction technique. These methods work on addressing the deeper tissues of the muscle. Frictions in particular can be quite uncomfortable, so don’t be afraid to speak to your therapist if you need a more gentle approach. It’s advised you take it easy after a sports massage, as it can be a little intense. A great excuse for a rest day!

Also known as yoga massage, Thai massage aims to soothe and calm your senses, while improving flexibility and range of motion. This style of massage typically sees the practitioner taking the client through a series of intense, yoga-like stretches. Traditionally, Thai massage doesn’t involve oils or lotions, as found in other styles of massage. Instead, expect stretching, rocking and rhythmic pressing. Thai massage focuses on the energy lines within the body, working to the belief that when we are unwell, these energy lines get blocked. Thai massage aims to encourage the flow of this energy, bringing harmony back to the body. Generally bookable in one or two-hour sessions, the cost can be anywhere between £50 and £100, depending on the type of booking and your location. Thai massage is thought to be particularly effective for those with muscular tension, mind and body fatigue, and emotional stress. If you prefer the idea of remaining fully clothed during a massage, this might be the treatment for you!

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When you think of a massage, this will likely be the style that comes to mind

To feel total calm and relaxation… try Swedish massage When you think of a massage, this will likely be the style that comes to mind. With total focus on relaxation, expect gliding strokes, circular motions, bending, light stretching and kneading to help relax and ease shallow muscle tension. The intensity of the massage is up to you. Thanks to the combination of movements, it can be as gentle or intense as you like. A Swedish massage is “I love having a perfect for beginners, Swedish massage if or those who often I’m after something a little feel tightness in their back and shoulders. more vigorous, as I’ve found Sessions typically this to be one of the more last between 60 and firmer, deeper-reaching 90 minutes and it’s likely you’ll be asked massages.” to undress. Don’t worry, – Lucy you’ll be given a blanket, and the practitioner is an expert in draping techniques to protect your modesty – but if you’re uncomfortable, speak to them prior to the session.

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You don’t always need to get your kit off to benefit from a therapy treatment

5 To relieve tension and rebalance the body... try reflexology massage Reflexology is a traditional therapy, used to correct imbalances through the body. Traditional practice involves the therapist applying pressure to and massaging certain areas of the feet, hands and ears to encourage overall healing and improve wellbeing. A reflexology massage will mainly focus on the foot, calf and upper leg. It’s deeply relaxing and ideal for those with ankle injuries, common forms of arthritis and even everyday movement. Reflexology targets specific reflex points on the foot, to promote healing in corresponding organs. By applying pressure to certain areas of the foot, the practitioner can help ease headaches and sinus problems, as well as reducing stress and anxiety in the body. With treatments typically lasting 30 minutes, you’ll be fully clothed, though loose-fitting clothing is advised so the therapist can access the upper leg. Remember, while reflexology is suitable for anyone, it’s recommended that women avoid the treatment during the first three months of pregnancy. Also, if you have any foot problems or injury, please consult a doctor prior to the session.

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6 If your muscles are tense and you need to relax... try deep tissue massage The name says it all. This style of massage works on the deeper layers of the muscle tissue, and is particularly effective for those with specific muscular pain. Techniques are similar to that of Swedish massage, but with increased pressure. This massage can be beneficial for chronic stress and muscle tension, and uses slow friction and deep finger pressure to target the more tense muscles in the body. Deep tissue massage is actually a blanket term, describing a number of therapies, such as sports massage

and lymphatic drainage, and is often used medically by physiotherapists and chiropractors, or referred to by a doctor. Depending on how you feel, the clinic and your situation, expect to wear comfortable clothes, or change into a towel for treatment. Deep tissue massage isn’t one for the faint-hearted. Be prepared for some discomfort as pressure is applied, and for post-massage soreness. But don’t be put off. If you suffer with chronic tension, this style of massage is worth a try – your body will thank you.

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7 To relieve aching muscles… try a hot stone massage “When I want a real treat, a hot stone massage is my go-to. It’s the perfect blend of heat and pressure, and instantly relaxing. The stones provide a different sensation to that of the therapist’s hands, and I often recommend this for people who don’t like the idea of a more intense massage.” – Lucy

If you want to leave feeling rejuvenated, relaxed and calm, this one’s for you. Hot stone massage uses soothing oils, hot, and sometimes cold stones to promote muscle relaxation. Hot stone treatments work to the warm and cold technique; alternating between temperatures to soothe an aching body. A combination of soothing warmth and rejuvenating coolness encourages the body to detox and heal itself. Using hot stones encourages your body to relax. The practitioner

can focus on the muscle tissues, using both the stones and stroking methods. Hot stone massage can also instil a sense of calm, as the stones are coated in a fragrant oil. Benefits of hot stone massage include relaxation, released tension and increased energy levels. It’s also been reported to benefit those with back pain, depression and stress. Sessions typically last an hour, but we suggest you indulge as much as you can. You should leave feeling pampered, relaxed and special.

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8 If you need a physical, emotional and mental “boost”... try Reiki massage Reiki is an ancient healing therapy, based on the belief that life energy flows through all living things. Originating from Japan, the word itself translates to “universal life energy”. It’s believed that when the energy in the body becomes blocked, stress and disease develop. In a session, the practitioner will lightly place their hands on, or hold them just above your body, with the aim of influencing this life energy (also known as Qi) through your body. Benefits include reduced stress, improved relaxation and rebalancing, and promotion of the body’s natural healing abilities. Therapists believe it’s particularly beneficial for those going through divorce or grief.

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“Reiki is so much more than a physical treatment, in addition to releasing aches and pains, it clears the mind and generates a sense of positivity and wellbeing.” - Hannah A typical Reiki session will last one hour, and is carried out with the client sitting on a chair. You’re asked to wear loose-fitted clothing, as your comfort is important. Reiki is a completely non-invasive treatment. It’s wholly based on the body and your energy – you just need an open mind, and an open heart.

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9 To reduce stress... try aromatherapy massage

massage therapy with essential oils – what’s not to love? Aromatherapy massage is very similar to Swedish massage with the addition of soothing essential oils, so is often used as muscle and joint pain relief, or for relaxation. Each essential oil has different properties, so the ones used will depend on you, your symptoms and what you want to get from the massage. To relax, the practitioner may use chamomile or lavender essential oils. For a more uplifting experience, they may use clary sage or ylang-ylang. Aromatherapy massage has been said to help reduce discomfort of menstrual cramps, as well as ease headaches and improve sleeping problems. As essential oils are highly concentrated, they can be quite harsh on the skin. Speak to your therapist beforehand to discuss your symptoms, and the oils that may be used. Otherwise, try and allow yourself to be fully immersed in the experience, you deserve it.

Indian head massage comes from Ayurveda, which focuses on the head, neck and shoulders

To improve sleeping problems and lift your mood... try Indian head massage

Used for thousands of years, Indian head massage comes from Ayurveda, a traditional treatment, and focuses on the head, neck and shoulders. With a range of techniques, varying in pressure, this is a deep massage that aims to encourage healing and restore balance in the body. Benefits include relieving tension in your neck, back and shoulders, as well as reducing stress and promoting a good sleeping routine. Loose, comfortable clothing is advised and, as oils may be used during the massage, a spare hairband or cap is recommended. Sessions typically take between 25 and 45 minutes, and your therapist may speak with you beforehand to discuss your lifestyle and any ailments. If you’ve never had an Indian head massage before, know that some of the massage can be quite firm. It may be an odd sensation, but shouldn’t be painful. If you’re worried, speak to your therapist. Because Indian head massage taps into your chakras – your body’s energy centres – it should leave you feeling more than relaxed; you should feel serene. To find a therapist for a specialist massage near you, visit therapy-directory.org.uk

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THOUGHTFUL IDEAS

Tips to relieve

Social Anxiety For some of us, it’s butterflies in the stomach. But for others, it’s a crippling fear of even leaving the house. Social anxiety can feel overwhelming, but you can take back control. Here, we give advice on overcoming social anxiety – from someone who experiences it herself Writing | Eleanor Segall

nxiety has a large impact on so many people’s daily lives. Whether it’s anxiety about a job interview, dating, meeting new people, travelling, health, work or whether you suffer from a diagnosed anxiety disorder and have panic attacks, it can be incredibly overwhelming. I have bipolar disorder – a mood disorder – and experience anxiety as part of this. When I was about 20, I started to have intense anxiety and panic attacks before social situations – so much so they would stop me from leaving the house. I was fearful of being judged negatively by other people, and this caused the physical symptoms of social anxiety – a racing heart, clammy and sweaty skin, negative and fearful thoughts, low mood and wanting to hide from situations by cancelling them to stay at home. The result was that I’d then feel guilty about upsetting others. The difficulty is that anxiety can often be triggered by something you’re not conscious of. It took time for me to realise that my limiting beliefs about social situations were due to my reaction to being diagnosed with a mental illness as a teenager. Although I still have to work with anxiety in my life, together with my family and friends, I’ve found how to make the social anxiety more manageable – here are my four top tips to hopefully help you too:

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Remember it will pass 1

I’ve learned that anxiety does pass, if you sit with it and let it be – for me, it takes about 45 minutes. Even five minutes of sitting with it can be incredibly difficult and takes practice, but knowing it will pass and can't harm you is important. The anxiety symptoms are often worse than the event itself. I’ve learnt with social anxiety that if I can face the event, I can lean on my support network to help me through it.

Use your support network – exposure therapy 2

When I’m really struggling with anxiety, my mum is extremely helpful. She’ll go with me for a walk or out in the car to get me used to being outside again and in the feared situation – exposure therapy. It can be incredibly hard to do this because you may not want to be outside the house, let alone go out to that party, interview or event you’re fearing. It’s good to build up gradually and do a few minutes at a time until you are then able to sit in that situation. I suggest doing this with someone you trust and who understands the condition. That person could be a family member or a therapist/support worker – you can get referred for help via your doctor if needed.

More than

1 in 10

people in the UK are likely to have a “disabling anxiety disorder” during their lifetime Physical symptoms of anxiety include: Nausea Sweating Racing heart Shortness of breath Butterflies in stomach Dry mouth Needing the toilet Pins and needles

Discuss it with medical professionals 3

If it gets very intense, speak to your GP – perhaps with a friend or family member to support you – to see if you can get referred on to the right therapy for you, which can be a bit of trial and error. What works for one person won’t work for everyone. Some doctors recommend cognitive behavioural therapy, others talking therapies, and some may suggest medication. There are lots of anxiety books by former sufferers too. Learn about the condition, but bear in mind you may still have bad days.

Talk to loved ones

It’s helpful to speak to trusted friends and family about how you’re feeling – particularly if you can’t leave the house. You may feel guilty for letting others down if you can’t attend social events, but it’s so important not to beat yourself up and to be kind to yourself. You have an illness and it’s OK to take some time for yourself to regroup. Anxiety can be debilitating and cause a lot of emotions, so it’s important to work on your mindset daily. For me, trying meditation and positive affirmations has really helped to calm my mind. Social anxiety is hard because it impacts on other people, not just yourself, but the important thing to remember is that there are ways to manage it to make the experience less intense, and perhaps to stop it completely – you just need to find a method that works for you. March 2018 • happiful • 37

Alastair Campbell | Breaking Down MH Policy

TIME TO TALK MENTAL HEALTH STRATEGY WITH

Alastair Campbell Alastair Campbell’s colourful and candid life has seen him scale the heights of journalism and politics, with two breakdowns over the course of 30 years. Reflecting on a past which included rebuilding his career, he tells Happiful his fears of an ‘anxiety epidemic’ Interview | Maurice Richmond

So, are we talking to Alastair the strategist, the editor, the campaigner or author?

You’re talking to me [laughs]. Today, I’ve done radio interviews about Brexit, so you’re talking to an anti-Brexit campaigner and the editor-at-large of the New European. I’ve had a conversation with my publisher about my upcoming novel, Saturday Bloody Saturday, and my coauthor Paul Fletcher about its launch. I try to do something everyday to promote mental health, be it writing, speaking, advising, consulting, strategising.

If I mentioned 1986, Scotland, Neil Kinnock’s tour, what comes to mind?

Err, breakdown. [Incidentally, earlier this month, Alastair 38 • happiful • March 2018

and Neil went to see ‘Network’, a play chronicling a TV presenter who has a mental breakdown on air.] I think about that moment of explosion, when my mind sort of cracked. [When Alastair experienced his first breakdown, he was arrested for his own safety and taken to a hospital in Glasgow.]

Were there any warning signs?

Looking back, there was a big build-up that I didn’t see at the time. I didn’t feel anything; I thought I was invincible. My mind couldn’t cope with it, and it just exploded.

Were you adequately supported at the time? My partner Fiona would say no. I was at a newspaper

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There was always a very on-edge side of me that you had to be wary of, but it gave me this energy and creativity

called Today and she was saying to them: “He’s cracking up.” My bosses replied: “No, he’s brilliant, he’s a whirlwind and he’s doing clever things.” So, I don’t hold them responsible. Looking back, when I was with the Mirror beforehand, there was a big drinking culture. I certainly felt supported there and in politics when I went back to work after my breakdown. I felt people were conscious that I’d had a bad experience and was trying to rebuild myself. Tony Blair didn’t realise how bad my depression was at times. I never felt I couldn’t pull out or raise a problem if I had to. However, I think a lot of people in the workplace feel they can’t even raise their problem.

You were headhunted in 1994 to work for Tony Blair. Did you have doubts about your suitability for the role? I did, and that’s why it took me so long to say yes. I remember saying to Tony: “Look, I have cracked up before.” I was drinking before

though, and I wasn’t in 1994. But the pressures that made me crack before would only be greater. Deep down, I did feel more resilient. But at the same time, I did have worries about it. Tony was so determined and said: “I know all about your history, and I don’t mind.”

actually wrote a passage that said when it comes to mental illness, there are those who are crazy and those who are a bit crazy, and it gives them this amazing energy and creativity – and that I was one of them. I wrote a blog saying hold on a minute, that’s not how it works.

Was he ahead of his time in terms of his understanding?

Did he mean you were high functioning?

I don’t think it was a level of understanding; he had known me for several years. Having seen how I had recovered from the breakdown, gone to the bottom of the Mirror and rose up to Political Editor, he had perhaps thought about it. I raised my mental health history with him and asked: “What if it happened again?” He was confident that it wouldn’t. That said, when he wrote his own book, I did take him to task as he

I think he meant there was always a very on-edge side of me that you had to be wary of, but it gave me this energy and creativity. There is something in that. But you can’t say there are these mad people and creative mad people. It’s much more complicated than that.

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Alastair Campbell | Breaking Down MH Policy

My big worry is that the government is using the mental health awareness battle as a substitute for policy

How would you describe it?

We all have mental health. Every single one of us. Some of us get ill, some of us get very ill.

Should we be protecting our mental health?

We should, but a lot of people don’t. People think I’ve always been a fitness fanatic, but I haven’t; I was a heavy smoker, big drinker. You wouldn’t necessarily think smoking and mental health are linked, but smoking is creating illness, creating anxiety, and drink definitely does too. I think the drinking culture in areas I know well – media, politics

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and journalism – is much less than it was. But I think with the general public, it’s embedded. We are a drinking nation. You used to see MPs bouncing off walls when they went into the House of Commons to vote.

Is the social media microscope detrimental to mental health?

I think it could be. My eldest son Rory, who’s 30 now, said at the very start of the social media rise: “This is a disaster. It’s terrible for people.” You have real relationships, and then you have these virtual relationships. I think there is some

You use social media to put your views out on controversial subjects. Are you concerned by the backlash?

Maybe my skin has grown too thick. It doesn’t bother me at all. I see the context; there does seem to be a lot of hatred and anger out there for everybody. I think it must put people off from going into politics.

So there’s no anxiety at all after tweeting out your views?

Not at all, it’s not good to stop saying what you think. I’m not one of those who puts themselves in the Katie Hopkins and Toby Young category

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good in it, but schools are now banning phones. Teachers say that kids are looking at them all the time. I was on a train, and there was a young woman on her phone looking at herself and putting pictures out constantly. It was like another universe. Nothing wrong with that on one level, but I don’t know the good it’s doing.

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where that person wants to be talked about. I am interested in saying what I think, and like a robust argument and engaging on that. People are more understanding when you do nail your colours to the mast.

Who do you think’s got it right, or wrong, with mental health?

Theresa May and Jeremy Hunt talk the talk. I think the expressions of mental health as a priority are good. But, you have to judge them by what’s been delivered. I don’t think the delivery has been good. My big worry is that, we’re winning the battle for better understanding and awareness, but more and more people are thinking: “Maybe I am in need of mental health support?” Then they’re finding the services aren’t there. I wish they would stop saying it’s a priority and not doing anything about it.

If you were the Director of Communications for the PM, what would you do?

They have got to match their words with policy. There’s loads of stuff that could be done. I accept money is going to be tight, but my big worry is that they are using the awareness battle as a substitute for policy. I would like them to say: “We all have mental health.” I would like them to stop thinking only of mental illness; we have to invest in people’s mental health. That would take me into areas of education and sport – the preventative side of things. I don’t think they do nearly enough on that. In terms of when they’re making decisions on funding, stop making it the easy area that always gets cut first. Build a long-term plan. There’s definitely something going on with young people and anxiety; if you’re not making sure young people get the help they need, it’ll cost you more in the long-term.

I would like them to stop thinking only of mental illness; we have to invest in people’s mental health

Sweden has launched a mental health ambulance. Does the UK need a dedicated team?

Funnily enough, Fiona and I were walking to an anti-Brexit meeting, and on the way there we saw this guy who was clearly having a psychotic breakdown. He was talking to things that weren’t there and there was a stream of nonsense coming out of his mouth. I said: “Have you got any friends I can call?” I got through to voicemails, and then rang 999 for an ambulance. They take you through a long checklist and I was worried I couldn’t restrain him and that he might hurt himself. Then I was told: “OK, if you can just keep him stable and calm, we’ll have an ambulance there in two to three hours.” I thought they were kidding me.

How is your mental health?

I would say I’m in a reasonably good place. I still get depressed. I still have low moods. I still get a bit manic. I still see a psychotherapist. There was a period in my life where I saw him a couple of times a week, but now I’d say it’s more like months apart. I have developed my own strategy by focusing on the things that

matter: my family. For me, creativity and writing help. Saturday Bloody Saturday will be my 14th book, including the diaries. Writing is a form of therapy.

Alastair’s latest novel centres on a football manager in the 70s who brings his struggling team to London, where the shadow of IRA terrorism stirs. Out now, available on Amazon and Alastair’s website: www.alastaircampbell.org

Does writing fiction help, instead of reflecting on the past with the diaries?

The diaries are quite useful for helping me figure out what to do in the future. I am self-aware enough, and know one of the reasons I get hired to talk to people is because of what I did. I have tried to use that in a positive way. Continues >>>

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Alastair Campbell | Breaking Down MH Policy

I would say I am in a reasonably good place, I still get depressed, I still have low moods. I still get a bit manic. I still see a psychotherapist

Alastair Campbell pictured with partner Fiona Millar

How did you first get involved with Mind?

They approached me years ago and were aware of me talking publicly about my mental health. At the time I was very involved with a leukaemia charity, and I said: “I’ll do it, but I don’t want to get drawn away from them.” As time has gone on, I realised Mind and mental health really motivates me, so I have got more and more involved: writing, talking, broadcasting, lobbying with government and businesses who take the wellbeing of their employees seriously – and give them time off when they need it. I was speaking at one of the big banks recently, and they have their own mental health counsellors inhouse working full-time, and staff are encouraged to see them. 42 • happiful • March 2018

Are you pleased your children have been exposed to mental illness from a young age?

My brother Donald, who had schizophrenia all of his adult life, died last year and my children were very aware of that, plus my own issues. My daughter Grace has been very vocal in talking about her anxiety. My son Calum is very active in Alcoholics Anonymous; he’s had issues with drink which he’s dealt with brilliantly. I do remember saying to them when I first started seeing the psychiatrist: “I have this depression, and you must never think of it as a bad thing.” There’s no doubt parents worry more about their kids than anything. I hope it helps that both of their parents are very open about mental health.

It would be probably be: “Calm down a bit. Stop drinking, stop smoking,” and probably: “Listen to what the people around you are saying.” At the same time, Stephen Fry once said having bipolar is horrible, but if somebody offered him a button he could press to stop being manic, he’s not sure he would press it.

If you had the same offer, what would you do?

If you said I could press a button and never experience depression again, I think I would take it. But at the same time, if you said as a result of that I might not have as many ideas for campaigning and books and be less creative, I would be worried.

So you would press it?

[Pause] I think I probably would. But that being said, I know exactly what Stephen Fry meant. Alastair Campbell is an Ambassador for Time to Change, also for Mind and Rethink Mental Illness, and patron of the Maytree Suicide Respite Centre in London.

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If you could say anything to Alastair Campbell, before the breakdown, what would it be?

BREATHE IN “I felt my lungs inflate with the onrush of scenery – air, mountains, trees, people. I thought, ‘This is what it is to be happy.’ ” – Sylvia Plath, The Bell Jar

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THOUGHTFUL TIPS

How to achieve a

Work-life balance With 10.4 million working days lost each year due to work-related stress, maintaining a work-life balance is so important. Self-care is essential to our wellbeing, and it could be the one thing standing between you and burnout Writing | Ellen Hoggard

e spend much of our lives at work, and the pressure to succeed is constant. So, it’s important we have time to relax, unwind and enjoy other aspects of our lives. We get it, with a manager breathing down your neck and deadlines looming, taking a break can be the last thing on your mind, but trust us. Without a good work-life balance, stress, exhaustion and other health issues can rear their ugly heads. Achieving and maintaining a good work-life balance isn’t easy and takes time. If you’re used to working long hours, checking emails at home and saying yes to everything, it’ll take a while to break the habit, but persevere – it’s worth it.

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According to YouG ov, one in five 25 to 34-year-olds are unhappy with their work-life bala nce, co one in six 45 to 54-y mpared to ear-olds. Furthermore, two ou 34-year-olds believe t of five 25 to th expectation from th ere’s often an eir employer to work outside of thei r normal hours.

The Mental Health Foundation says the pressure of an increasingly demanding work culture is perhaps the biggest challenge to the mental health of the UK population

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How do you know if you’re lacking balance? With more than 40% of people neglecting other aspects of their life because of work, recognising the signs of poor work-life balance and knowing when change is needed is essential. Common signs of poor work-life balance include:

• tiredness • aches and pains • change in eating habits • working out of hours • feeling irritable, snappy or emotional • relationships struggling

Our tips to improve work-life balance (and to keep it that way!):

1 Schedule your day

It might sound counterintuitive, but setting aside time to exercise, go out with friends and pursue your passions can help you relax after a long day at work. At the start of each week, make plans to do things you enjoy. You wouldn’t think it, but scheduling time to do the things that nourish your mind and body can actually improve productivity the next day!

2 Learn to say no

Boundaries are important in maintaining a good worklife balance. Saying yes to everything may look good to start with, but can be harmful in the long-run. If you’ve got a bit too much on your plate, it’s OK to say no. And if you can help it, try to leave work at work. Keep things positive but set the line – make it clear you’re unavailable in the evening.

3 Work ‘smart’

This is a great way to utilise the moments when you are most productive. Instead of getting overwhelmed with a long to-do list, each morning write down your top priorities for that day only. Oh, and include a proper lunch break and finish time! Writing down just three to five top priorities each day is much more manageable, and you’re less likely to get distracted.

4 Make health a priority

This one’s simple: listen to your body! If you’re sick, then stay at home. Pushing through illness often only makes things worse. If you feel close to burnout or are experiencing frequent headaches or sleeping problems, consider speaking to your doctor. And ensure your employer knows how you feel. If you’re struggling, they should support you and, together, you can create a more manageable plan.

5 Know what you want

If you think you’ll benefit from reduced hours or remote working, consider speaking to your employer. This isn’t an option for everyone, but, if it will improve your wellbeing, it’s worth a discussion. And consider if the role is really what you want. Are you happy? If you’re unable to overcome the issues that are causing your stress, it may be time to move on. Of course, sometimes we can’t help but feel swamped with work – it’s totally normal. But feeling exhausted and dreading work each day is no way to live. As Hillary Clinton once said: “Don’t confuse having a career with having a life.”

It's OK to need a little help

Find a life coach using lifecoach-directory.org.uk

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Tech for Good The innovators creating a kinder, more sustainable future

n the 18th century, we had the industrial revolution. The 1950s began the digital revolution, as we moved away from analogue and mechanics. And now, we’re at the dawn of a new technological age. In the past 20 years, we’ve seen our everyday lives transformed with new developments: we said goodbye to dial-up internet in 1997 when wifi was first available to the public; the couldn’t-live-without-it iPhone arrived in 2007; and in the past few years we’ve seen an overwhelming rise in the popularity of voicecontrolled products to make our daily lives even easier. We have driverless cars in development, and the illusive subatomic “God Particle” has been found.

Blink twice and the next lifealtering invention is already off the shelves and in the bargain bin. The speed we’re moving at can feel scary – it is scary, but it can also be wonderful. Many people see advancements in technology as a way to not just make life easier for people in general, but to make a real difference in the world. Here, Happiful speaks to some of the inspiring people and organisations harnessing the power of tech to create a happier, more sustainable future.

Writing | Kathryn Wheeler

Backpack-wearing pigeons patrol the skies to record pollution levels

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Active CHANGE

1 Wearable Tech That Tracks Pollution

ir pollution levels in UK cities have been hitting dangerous levels. The Royal College of Physicians and Royal College of Paediatrics and Child Health have estimated that around 40,000 people die prematurely as a result of air pollution ever year. While the government struggles to make commitments to pollution control, Plume Labs is empowering citizens with tech to harvest data and fight pollution on a scale not seen before. Founded in 2014 with the goal to equip people with the tools to avoid air pollution, Plume Labs made headlines with their unusual first steps in tracking pollution across cities: a fleet of pigeons wearing tiny backpacks that record pollution levels. In March 2016, the pigeons were let loose across London, collecting data on the varying air pollution levels in the city. Not only did the so-called Pigeon Patrol make national headlines and bring light to a serious but often overlooked problem, they also provided the developers back in Plume Labs with the

data they needed to take the next step in their mission to help us breathe clean air. “We’ve gone from pigeons to people!” says Romain Lacombe, CEO of Plume Labs. Summer 2018 brings the release of Flow, a piece of wearable tech that tracks the pollution level in your area, with the aim of helping you find fresher, cleaner air. A small group of Beta testers who wanted to take their health into their own hands, successfully tracked 1,300 miles of walkways in London, covering 20% of the inner-city area. The detailed results of pollution tracking was unprecedented, and is evidence of just what a small group of people, empowered by technology, can achieve. “Pollution is personal,” says Romain.“With personal sensors, actionable advice, and crowdsourced data, we can arm people and communities with the tools to tackle the dramatic urban air pollution crisis – and help us find clean air, together.” Read more on uk.flow.plumelabs.com Continues >>> March 2018 • happiful • 47

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‘Instead of people feeling sorry for you, they’re like:“That’s a cool hand!”’

Bionic Hands Fit For Super Heroes

Joel Gibbard, CE O of Open Bionics , with 10-year-old Ca meron Millar

n the UK, around one in 1,000 people are amputees, but the NHS can only offer basic models of prosthetics. More advanced, private options can cost up to £65,000. Open Bionics want to bring affordable, advanced prosthetics to the masses, and they’re already making headlines with their superhero-themed bionic hands for children.

Open Bionics is hoping to revolutionise prosthetic design. 3D scanning allows them to build the socket for the hand in just 24 hours, fitting amputees with a precision not yet seen in prosthetics. Sensors attach to the skin to detect muscle movements, which control the hand and fingers. The bionic arms will be available later in 2018, but there’s an ongoing NHS trial with 10 youngsters giving feedback on the arms.

“We’re turning children with limb differences into superheroes by developing bionic arms based on their favourite films and video games,” says Joel Gibbard, CEO of Open Bionics. “These are affordable, highly functional, multi-grip myoelectric prosthetics that kids can get really excited about.”

11-year-old Tilly is on the trial. After contracting a deadly form of meningitis when she was just 15 months old, Tilly underwent an operation to have both her hands amputated. “Tilly loves heroes and superpowers, so in 2016 we worked with her to design a Deus Ex bionic arm,” says Joel.

In contrast to the “hook-type” and “basic gripper” prosthetics offered by the NHS, Open Bionics want to create limbs amputees will be proud to wear. “They’re not just getting medical devices,” says Joel, “they’re getting cuttingedge bionic hands inspired by their favourite characters, such as the Iron Man hand hot out of Tony Stark’s workshop, the Star Wars lightsaber hand, and the Snowflake hand, inspired by Queen Elsa from Disney’s Frozen.”

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“Instead of people feeling sorry for you because you don’t have a hand,” said Tilly, “they’re like: ‘Oh my gosh, that’s a cool hand!’” “Our incredible engineering team are always innovating,” says Joel. “By 2037, we’re aiming to develop a bionic hand with human-level function!” Find out more at: openbionics.com

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Ooho is made 100% from seaweed and plants

3 Tiles Convert Footfall Into Green Energy

magine powering a city by harnessing the footsteps of people walking its streets. For Pavegen, this will soon become a reality.

Founded in 2009, Pavegen created tiles that convert the energy from footfall into clean energy. As you step across the tiles, your weight causes electromagnetic generators to vertically displace, resulting in a motion that generates offgrid electricity. “With more than 55% of people living in cities and the pressures of climate change, it’s essential we replace carbonintensive transport systems with more sustainable options,” says Laurence Kemball-Cook, founder and CEO of Pavegen. According to Pavegen, a single footstep has the kinetic power to generate an LED light bulb for approximately 20 seconds. “We’re part of a fast-growing movement that’s helping cities become places where walking and cycling take priority over cars,” says Lawrence. “We’re creating a positive and lasting impact for our natural resources, but also for the health and wellbeing of our communities.” Find out more at: pavegen.com

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Zero-Waste Edible Water Bubbles

lready a major topic of conversation in 2018, Skipping Rocks Lab has come up with an innovative solution to our problem with plastic. Every single piece of plastic ever produced still exists. It’s a scary thought, particularly when 36 billion plastic bottles are used each year, and that number is growing at 4% per year. Skipping Rocks Lab is a sustainable packaging startup based in London. “Our mission is to provide sustainable packaging technologies to companies as an alternative to plastic packaging,” it says. “We’re pioneering the use of natural materials extracted from seaweed, to create materials with low environmental impact.”

For its first product, Ooho, it took inspiration from the thin membrane of egg yolks. The bubble that holds the water is entirely edible, meaning there’s zero waste. The lab says: “They’re 100% made of seaweed and plants, so they biodegrade within weeks.” But they see no need to stop at plain water. In summer 2018, they will be launching their own brand of flavoured waters coming in three sizes, and in various flavours including minty fresh, elderflower, and blackcurrant. Going forward, they intend to partner with established brands to provide edible Ooho packaging. Find out more and watch demos at: skippingrockslab.com March 2018 • happiful • 49

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Solar-Powered Water Disinfectors

ADI is a life-saving device created by Helioz. Powered by the sun, it exposes water to UV radiation that disinfects it. Just fill a bottle with water, place it and the WADI in the sun for a couple of hours, and watch the face on the display go from sad to happy. Once the face is smiling, the water is clean and safe to drink! Every day, 2,000 children under the age of five die because of waterborne diarrheal diseases. According to UNICEF, 99% of these deaths occur in developing countries. Low cost, sustainable, and endorsed by WHO and UNICEF, WADI offers the opportunity to eradicate waterborne diseases and improve the living conditions of people living in some of the most deprived communities in the world. Read more at: helioz.org

hen we’re introduced to lifelike robots, or the idea of a driverless car tearing down the motorway, the future can look like a scary place. But thanks to these innovative companies, a future with their tech in our world looks like a happy, sustainable place. Working across disciplines, cultures, and physical borders, pushing the boundaries of human creativity and invention, this small selection of tech companies striving for a better world is evidence that a kinder, cleaner and more sustainable future could be within reach.

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WADI devices allow people to have access to clean, safe water – one of the UN’s recognised basic human rights

HYGGE With no direct English translation, the Danish concept of â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;hyggeâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; describes the pleasure that can be found in everyday moments and time spent with loved ones

Happiful Hack

6 Ways to Manage Your

Inner Chimp

Whether for health reasons, a lifestyle choice or just to detox, going alcohol-free can be a challenge a lot of us try at some point. So who better to advise on managing our urges for that evening glass of wine than the co-author of The 28 Day Alcohol-Free Challenge? Writing | Andy Ramage

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Life LESSONS

he legendary psychologist behind Britain’s Olympic cycling success, Dr Steve Peters, suggests we envisage our brain as having two distinct parts: the chimp and the human. The chimp’s agenda is survival – it runs on emotions and is much more powerful than the human. The human is logical and wants to achieve self-fulfilment. Therefore, we have discovered that the key to hacking any habit is encouraging your powerful inner chimp to support this positive change. When it comes to going alcohol-free, the six tips below will help you manage your inner chimp to habit-hack victory.

List your reasons why

Restock the fridge

Bad habits need replacing

The chimp (and more primitive) part of our brain runs on emotions. Therefore, creating powerful, emotionally charged reasons “why” you want to take this challenge will rally your inner chimp to fully support this positive change. So, ask yourself “why” are you taking on this alcohol-free adventure? Dig deep to unearth as many reasons as possible to add extra power. Use paper, an iPad or laptop, whatever suits you best, but note down all your reasons. For a motivational boost, put them where you can see them as a daily reminder.

Your inner chimp wants an easy life, so wherever possible don’t make it easy to reach for an alcoholic drink. If there are no alcoholic options in the house then the chances of you making the extra effort to go to the shops is greatly reduced. Plus, this buys you time to make the choice that suits your healthy goals. The most effective way to do this is by restocking your fridge with healthy alcohol-free alternatives. The selection is now so good, that using taste as an excuse to drink is redundant.

Our primitive chimp brain loves habits because they save precious energy, and survival is all about energy conservation. So the best way to break bad habits is to trick the chimp and dress them up as healthy ones. Follow these three steps:

Chimp/Human Dr Steve Peters, suggests we envisage our brain as having two distinct parts: the chimp and the human.

1. Find your trigger – what time, place, emotion, preceding action or person is your trigger? 2. Uncover the reward – what’s driving the habit? Is it stress relief, companionship, escapism? 3. Change your routine and hack the habit – you keep the same trigger and reward, you just swap the routine. For example, replace the alcohol with an alcohol-free alternative or a spin class. It’s that simple. Continues >>>

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Know what you’re going to drink

Mindfulness

Celebrate success

Try an alcoholfree beer, such as Budweiser Prohibition Brew or Brew Dog Nanny State

Don’t give your inner chimp the chance to make any decisions because it will often make the wrong ones based on emotion and old habits. It’s key to know exactly what you’re going to drink. Phone the venue to find out if they stock alcohol-free alternatives. If no lookalikes are available, create your own. Perhaps order a soda water with lime, then add a mixing straw. It’s a dead ringer for a vodka, lime and soda. Get creative and always make sure you have a drink and a backup-drink planned, just in case.

Awareness allows our human brain to take control. Mindfulness shines a bright light on the habits that hold us back. Suddenly you notice what’s really going on. For example, how much and why you are drinking. As these subconscious routines come into view, you create a tiny gap between stimulus and response. Within this space lies room to make the choice that’s in keeping with your goals and dreams. It’s for this reason that mindfulness is such a powerful habit-breaking tool. Check out headspace.com and calm.com to get you started on your mindfulness adventure.

Your primitive brain loves rewards. So celebrate every alcohol-free achievement. Many of the greatest alcohol-free victories that we’ve witnessed from thousands of our members at OneYearNoBeer.com happen after a big social challenge such as a wedding, office party or hen do. You create a deep belief that actually life is so much better without the booze. So at the end of the night, celebrate – treat yourself to something nice, you deserve it. The best treat of all, however, is waking up the following morning full of life, ready to take on the world!

Competition We’re giving away FIVE copies of the empowering and life-changing book: The 28 Day Alcohol-Free Challenge. To enter, send your name and why you want to take the challenge to: editorial@happiful.com Andy Ramage is the co-author of ‘The 28 Day Alcohol-Free Challenge’ (Bluebird, £12.99/£9.99 eBook). Find out more about the challenge at OneYearNoBeer.com Terms & conditions apply.

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Real people. Amazing journeys. Real people. Amazing journeys.

True Life | Claire’s story

I thought I was losing my mind and I tried to ignore it Award-winning mental health blogger and author Claire Eastham reveals her journey from social anxiety to mastering self-care

unning down a street in central London, tears streaming down my face, I knew I’d really done it this time; I’d ruined my life. The mental health condition that I’d been hiding for 10 years, had finally seeped through my subconscious. During an interview earlier that morning, I experienced what I now know was a panic attack – the worst of my life. But at the time, I thought I was losing my mind. I knew from the moment I entered the room that something was wrong, but as was my usual approach, I tried to ignore it. A warm

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sensation seemed to flow from my head and down my body, and by the time it reached my heart, everything exploded. I couldn’t breathe, I felt dizzy and I swear, my heart was pounding so hard you could see it beating through my shirt. I can still remember the look on their faces when I rose suddenly from my seat and announced in a Jane Austinesque voice: “I have the norovirus and must leave at once!” Two things to bear in mind. Firstly, I’m from Bolton, so I’ve no idea where that posh voice came from. Secondly, I don’t think I’ve ever used the phrase “at once” since.

The next few days were a blur of terror, confusion and tears. I’ve never been I think I was born so afraid or felt so out of with social anxiety. I control. It was a nervous was always a shy and breakdown, one that had been 10 years in the sensitive child, the making. one who hid at parties Speaking honestly, I and got upset over think I was born with social anxiety. I was Claire has now written the smallest things a bestselling book always a shy and sensitive child, the who one hid at parties and also got upset over the smallest things. I was tired constantly, but couldn’t sleep. I felt By the time I was 14, clear emotional and, once again, on edge. Something signs of a problem began to emerge. I’d blush was very wrong, and I didn’t know what to do. whenever spoken to, developed a tremor in my On the day of my nervous breakdown, I’d hands, and froze if I were asked to share my work finally reached a crisis point; I couldn’t hide my at school. I lived each lesson on edge. What if a condition anymore, whatever it was. teacher spoke to me? What if I couldn’t answer? I finally opened up to my parents, who were During some lessons, I even feigned sickness and incredible. I went back to Bolton and visited hid in the toilets. the doctor, who diagnosed me with acute social I hoped it was just a phase, something that I anxiety and panic attacks within two minutes. would grow out of. I burst into tears of relief; I couldn’t believe that I didn’t let it stop me from doing well at it had a name. I wasn’t a freak. She prescribed university, making friends and having a social medication and suggested therapy. life. I had strategies to control it – alcohol was one So, what happened next? Well, it was really, and ignorance was the other. I suppose you could really, really shit for a while. You can’t heal a call me high-functioning. broken leg in a day, and the brain is exactly the In 2011, I left Bolton to move to London, same – it needs time. working for what I thought was my “dream I was signed off work for a month, which, at the company”. It was a fresh start; surely things would time, devastated me, but in hindsight, it was the be better here? I felt like a movie star, strutting best thing that happened. It gave me time to get to round London with a Starbucks coffee with all the grips with my anxiety and accept I wasn’t well. other commuters. What helped me the most was something I However, nine months later, I gradually noticed didn’t expect, a form of therapy called “exposure”. a change in my mood. The office that I worked in Exposure therapy encourages people who was filled with loud, dominant characters who suffer with panic to expose themselves in very were larger than life. I became convinced that small doses to a situation that makes them feel they didn’t like me and avoided most colleagues at uncomfortable. To clarify, this doesn’t mean that all costs. Even though we were on the 10th floor, if you’re afraid of heights you should jump out of I took the stairs rather than use the lift – good a plane. Instead, make a list of 20 baby-steps that for exercise, bad for sweat! I didn’t use the staff will ultimately lead you to your goal. kitchen, and I even started using the toilets on Continues >>> another floor to limit the risk of interaction. March 2018 • happiful • 57

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It took about one year, but I built the foundations and still benefit from them today

For example, I struggled in meetings, so my first step was to sit in my living room and imagine that it was a meeting. This exercise triggered a panic attack, but rather than running or trying to ignore it, I accepted what was happening. I accepted that although I felt very distressed, the panic couldn’t physically hurt me, or make me do anything dangerous. I also began to take better care of myself. Nothing fancy, just walking more and cutting down on coffee. It took about a year, but I built the foundations and still benefit from them today. As I grew stronger, I also started writing my now award-winning blog “We’re All Mad Here”. During my recovery, I noticed that the majority of material available either consisted of medical jargon I couldn’t understand, or was littered with

negative and bleak content. I wanted to write something that would empower others and break down the stigma that surrounds mental health. This is something that I intend to continue. As I write this today, I now have a bestselling book, I’ve spoken at numerous events, such as Stylist Live, and was recently nominated for a Mind Media Award. Going forward, my intentions remain the same. Mental illness is hard, but it isn’t a death sentence and you can get better. You’re not alone.

Our Expert Says

Graeme Orr MBACP (Accred) UKRCP Reg Ind counsellor

Claire masks the overwhelming anxiety she feels in public. She hopes a new start will help, but quickly finds herself becoming socially anxious and withdrawing. A vivid anxiety attack is the crisis that leads to Claire asking for help. Exposure therapy allows her to challenge the anxiety in manageable steps. As she learns to take care of herself, she feels transformed and sees success in both her speaking and writing.

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The Happiful Road Test

Sweet Dreams Studies say meditation can help prepare us for a great night’s sleep – but put into practice in the real world, alongside stressful days in the office and a never-ending to-do list at home, can it really help our volunteers to catch those illusive 40 winks? Writing | Kathryn Wheeler

t’s predicted that between 60% and 90% of people with insomnia also suffer with depression. Mental health and sleep go together like bed and breakfasts, so how do we ensure we’re getting the best quality sleep possible? Studies show that the answer could be as simple as regular meditation before bed. Meditation has been proven to

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help people fall asleep twice as quickly, enhance rapid eye movement (REM) sleep states, and preserve deep sleep. In fact, it apparently works so well that by the end of one insomnia and meditation trial, 60% of participants no longer qualified as insomniacs. So, the science has spoken. But what happens when we trial out these findings in the real world?

And, given meditation is about being present in the moment, would having an expectation stop us from truly experiencing the positive effects? Happiful asked two volunteers to meditate before bed each night for a week to see if introducing some calm into their nightly routine could help them get a good night’s rest. Here’s how they got on:

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Kat’s Diary This was a great way for me to make meditation a habit. Some days were easier than others to keep my mind calm, but I know this will improve with practise

Day 1 I struggled with my first meditation – my mind kept flitting to things from the day. But I slept well.

Day 2 I felt very tired and was nearly falling asleep during the meditation! I then slept straight through until morning.

Day 3 Tonight I tried a different meditation – a visualisation one to encourage self-compassion. I slept OK.

Day 4 My mind wandered a little during the meditation, and I was very tired again. Doing this a little earlier and getting to bed earlier is a new goal!

Hannah’s Thoughts

It had a positive impact on my overall mood and the way I handled stressful situations. I don’t think it had a huge impact on my problem with waking early, but there is a slight improvement!

Day 1

On the first night, I used breathing and mindfulness techniques, but it wasn’t a great start as I woke mega early!

Day 2

I used the same techniques as the night before. I still woke early, but not as early as on day one.

Day 3 Tonight, I really struggled to focus during meditation. I was just way too distracted and tired.

Day 4

I wanted to try something new so added some meditation music. This really helped! Although I still woke up early the next day,.

Day 5

Tried the music again. I woke up in the night but went back to sleep without a struggle.

Day 6 I completely forgot to meditate. So although I didn’t do it before bed, I did take a few minutes before I got up, and I felt better for it.

It’s become an enjoyable part of my wind-down routine

Day 5 After a stressful conversation, this meditation was much needed and really helped to calm me.

Day 6 Today I felt really excited about my meditation! It’s become an enjoyable part of my wind-down routine. I fell asleep easily and slept straight through.

Conclusion

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While the science can’t be denied, our volunteers struggled to reap the benefits of regular meditation when trying to slot it into their day-to-day routines during their first week. But they hope that with regular commitment they’ll see a natural improvement. And even if regular meditation doesn’t immediately improve sleep in the average person, the host of other benefits, including increased concentration, self-awareness, stress reduction, and even improved cognitive ageing, surely suggest that meditation is worth having a go at every now and then.

Peter (third from the left) at the London Marathon

I ran 44 marathons in 44 days Peter Thompson ran himself into the ground, losing track of what was important to him. But through challenging himself, he not only rediscovered his passion for the sport, but he raised phenomenal awareness and funds for mental health charities

ll I had in front of me was a list of 44 countries, a scruffy old map of Europe and a disproportionate amount of optimism, but I had an idea. What if I could do something no one had done before? What if I could run a marathon in every country in Europe in consecutive days? Over the past 10 years, running had become everything to me. It was my drive, my passion, my life. Everything I did revolved around running.

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What time I ate, how long I slept, where and when I was going to fit in the 100 miles I was running each week around work, family and my girlfriend. In October 2015, I crossed the finish line of the Amsterdam marathon in a time of 2:25:32. I was the first British finisher by about five minutes, and 25th in a field of tens of thousands. I was jumping for joy. However, this level of commitment and focus was becoming all consuming. Something had to give â&#x20AC;&#x201C; and it did.

True Life | Peter’s story Three months on and things were very Maybe I could run across England? Maybe I different. I had decided to stop running. I’d could run around Europe? That had a nice ring split up with my girlfriend, my motivation for to it. Maybe I could run a marathon in every the sport I loved had gone, and with them both country in Europe in consecutive days? my dreams and what I thought was my future. According to the United Nations, there were 44 I blamed running. The focus I’d placed on countries. I spent the next few weeks scanning the chasing a number had been focus I’d taken off internet for train timetables, visa requirements things that mattered more. and drawing up potential routes. I would think I Most of us have moments in life where we feel had cracked it only to hit a problem and be back lost, so far from the person we want to be. And to square one. Everything had a knock-on effect. I we have no idea how to get that person back. was stuck, I was lost. So what do you do – talk to family and But, this time I did the right thing – I spoke to a friends? Do you seek professional help? In friend. Together, Bill and I spent the next month hindsight, I should have done all of these batting ideas back and forth and came up with a things. Instead, I flew to Uganda to volunteer route. It still scares me a bit when I look at it! at an orphanage. Starting in Russia, I would run through The orphanage was called the Eastern Europe, the Balkans, before Raise Uganda Now Academy. returning to the UK to run the Or, as I found out when I got London Marathon. Then it was there, abbreviated to the RUN back through western to southern Academy. Only I could go all Europe, through Scandinavia, This level of the way to Uganda to get away finishing 44 days later in Ireland. commitment and from running and end up at the The route would be 95% public RUN Academy! focus was becoming transport, requiring 22 trains, 12 The trip was supposed to last planes, five buses, four cars and one all consuming. two weeks, but five days in I was ferry between Finland and Estonia. Something had to give crying in the manager of the On paper this could work, but the – and it did orphanage’s arms and feeling reality was a complete unknown. worse than ever. I needed to I enlisted the help of others – my find another way to deal with physio, my brother, my running things. When I returned, it felt like I club. Everyone wanted to help. I was was on the starting line of a new race. A new quickly learning that surrounding ourselves with challenge to look at my life and make a change. supportive people is key to achieving a positive In my time off from running, I realised just and healthy mindset. It’s an old cliché, but how much it had impacted my mental health together we are stronger. and wellbeing. I’m someone who finds it very Maybe asking for support showed that I was hard to sit still. I need to be active, working starting to change. Or perhaps that I found towards a goal. I decided I wanted to use it easier to talk about a physical or logistical running to make a difference. I wanted to reproblem, than I did about my mental health. find my focus and most importantly, I wanted Mental health is an important issue in society to be happy. and the cause I wanted “Marathons for the Mind” I was also acutely aware I didn’t want running to support. I know many people who have serious to return to being an obsession about speed mental health issues. Some have tried to take and times. I wanted to rediscover why I started their own lives and others battle through with running in the first place. I wanted it to be fun determination and courage that I admire greatly. again. So I needed a challenge… Continues >>>

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True Life | Peter’s story

We don’t need to run marathons or scale mountains to make a difference to somebody’s life

Peter’s route for Marathons for the Mind

I’ve seen people at their lowest, I’ve seen the stigma they face and the lack of support when they need it most. The mental health focus started for these people. But, I soon realised I was questioning my own mental health. I feel on top of the world one day and want to hide away the next. I always thought this was normal and never spoke about it. Having seen others with greater mental health needs than me, I thought it would be disrespectful to talk about my mental health. But, I now realise it’s not a comparison. We all have mental health just like physical health and there’s many levels within that. By talking, we help ourselves, others and we help to end the stigma. So, I set off on my journey and the longest and hardest 44 days of my life. I encountered lost luggage, bus cancellations, plane delays, sleep deprivation, snow, injury and even narrowly avoiding being arrested at Athens airport. 64 • happiful • March 2018

I have countless stories of people supporting my journey by giving their time, effort and hospitality, some not being able to speak a word of English. But 44 days later, I made it to that finish line in Dublin. I visited every country in Europe, covering over 11,000 miles by various means of transport. I ran over 1,100 miles – about the distance of running from here to Rome. I gained a much better understanding of my own mental health and the need to let others in. Most importantly, I raised over £19,000 for the incredible charities Mind and Livability, and have hopefully shown that we can all make a difference when it comes to mental health. When I returned, an interviewer asked whether I found it easier to run across Europe or open up about my own mental health. At that moment, I didn’t know what to say. If they’d asked me that when I was crying in the corner of a Budapest bus station, the answer would have been simple. But the fact I had to even think about it shows just how hard it can be to talk openly about our feelings. If I’m honest, I still don’t 100% know the answer, but I do know that neither of those things were easy, and I feel as proud of being able to talk more openly about my mental health as anything I’ve achieved physically. We don’t need to run marathons or scale mountains to make a difference to somebody’s life, and that openness to talk, seek help or listen without judgement is something that we’re all capable of achieving. I also promise that it comes with just as great a reward as crossing any finish line. To donate or find out more about “Marathons for the Mind” and Peter’s future challenges, visit marathonsforthemind.com

Our Expert Says

Rachel Coffey BA MA NLP Mstr Reg Ind counsellor

Peter’s story is one of strength and courage. Although it was, literally, a tough road, facing his feelings was a real turning point for him. As he said, it wasn’t easy, but we forget it’s often harder to try to ignore a problem than it is to deal with it. Peter’s used what he once saw as the problem to find a solution, and even go on to help others. As Peter discovered, accepting support doesn’t make us weak, instead it allows us to be strong!

Healthy EATS

Ingredients: ½ cup quinoa Tofu (or meat of choice) 1 small sweet potato, a handful of purple sprouting broccoli, 1 red pepper, 1 red onion, 2 handfuls of spinach (washed) Olive oil, chilli flakes, sesame seeds, garlic, salt and pepper Method: 1. Rinse the quinoa. Bring to the boil, simmer for 15 minutes and put aside.

5. Serve on a bed of washed spinach and top with the crispy tofu. Yum!

Believe it or not, spring is fast approaching! As we dust off the chilly cobwebs of January and February and finally get through the Valentine’s chocolate (from yourself or another – we’re with you) it’s time to start anew. And by that we mean seasonal eating. Did you know that seasonal foods are harvested at their peak? This is when they are the most flavoursome and nutritious, and they’re better for the environment. Beyond the taste, eating seasonally is thought to support our own seasonal needs! Our bodies go through a lot as the seasons change, and that means our nutrition requirements change too. Heading down to your local market and grabbing what’s in season is a great way to give your body what it wants after a long winter – there’s a reason you crave crispy salad and watermelon in July, and warming root vegetable soups in December.

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4. Prep your tofu or meat of choice. With a splash of oil, fry on both sides until crispy. Once cooked, add all the veg and quinoa to a bowl and mix together with the garlic, chilli flakes, sesame seeds, another drizzle of olive oil and salt and pepper.

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3. In another tray, chop the onion and peppers into strips, chop the broccoli into small florets. Drizzle with oil, season with a pinch of salt and pop in the oven with the potato for 30 minutes.

Why it’s cool to shop seasonally

2. Preheat oven to 180 degrees. Peel and chop the sweet potato into small chunks. With a drizzle of olive oil, pop them in the oven to roast for 40 minutes.

Add some excitement and variety to your meals this year by eating in season, and treat yourself to fruit and veg when they’re most delicious. I've put together a quick and easy recipe using our top three picks for spring

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OUR NUTRITIONAL THERAPIST SAYS:

"Seasonal foods are a way of reconnecting with the cycle that nature intended for us. Foods eaten in season not only taste better, but they are healthier too. They are higher in antioxidants, which are natural components that fight free radicals, helping to keep you young and diseases at bay. Foods that are out of season are likely to be shipped from around the world to get to you, usually picked before their flavour peaks in order to survive the long trip and will lose their nutrients along the way."

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Sonal is a nutritional therapist and health tutor. She has been director of Synergy Nutrition since 2009 and consults privately, runs independent nutrition workshops, and is a regular guest on TV. March 2018 • happiful • 65

Lifestyle & Relationships

Tricky Conversations:

Encouraging Kids to Develop a Healthy Relationship with How early is too early to discuss certain subjects? By not having those tough conversations with our kids early enough, do we risk them making mistakes due to lack of information, or worse, misinformation? Writing | Bonnie Evie Gifford

besity. Healthy eating. Eating disorders. Three things we often hear in the news. With Public Health England estimating two thirds of British adults are overweight or obese, National Child Measurement Programme data shows a shocking one in five children begin primary school overweight – and almost one in three children leave primary school with weight concerns. It’s no wonder the focus has shifted towards getting kids to be more active and eat healthily, such as Change4Life’s 100-calorie snacks campaign. But, do we run the risk of making children obsess over what they’re eating, weight-loss, and how they look? An estimated 1.2 million people in the UK are affected by eating disorders. Charity Beat says that while many EDs develop during adolescence, children as young as six can develop an ED, while Anorexia & Bulimia Care UK report receiving calls about children as young at four. Those outside of the stereotypical age bracket are less likely to be diagnosed due to a lack of understanding of EDs in these age groups. So how do we start the conversation with kids and help them to develop a healthy relationship with food?

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Supporting KIDS

Discussing eating disorders and healthy eating

Whether you’re concerned your child may be having eating problems, or you want to make sure they’re comfortable to talk to you if they see any worrying behaviours in friends, raising the issue can be tough. You may be worried about saying the wrong thing, or not quite sure where to start. Here are a few things to keep in mind and help to get you started.

1. Research:

Make sure you feel comfortable with what you’re about to talk about, and you know the basics. Beat, NHS online, and Young Minds have some great resources to get you started. While you won’t be able to learn everything, it’s worth having a good understanding of the issue so you feel more confident and prepared.

2. Time and place:

Pick somewhere you will both feel comfortable, at a time when you’re unlikely to be disturbed. Make sure there will be plenty of time to have a longer discussion or if they have any questions.

3. Be patient and open:

Try to avoid any language that could be taken as accusing. Make it clear you are there to talk if they ever need to, or that there are other adults they can go to.

4. Remain calm:

If they become angry, upset, defensive or hostile, try not to react negatively or push if they aren’t ready to talk. Let them know you are there if they want to talk again later, and try bringing the conversation up another time with a fresh approach.

5. Be compassionate:

Make it clear that eating disorders are mental illnesses, not choices. Experiencing an eating disorder is not something to be ashamed of, but emphasise it is important to talk and seek help if they are concerned about their own eating habits, feelings towards food, or the behaviour of any friends.

6. Listen:

Ask if they have any questions or are worried about anything. Pay attention to what they say, and any unspoken cues. Do they appear visually upset? Closed off? Nervous? Try to engage them verbally if you can, and get them to open up.

7. Focus:

Steer the conversation towards healthy eating and the important role food plays in development, rather than focusing on physical appearance or the effects under or overeating can have. Make it clear that people come in all shapes and sizes.

8. Relate:

If you’re having trouble getting older children or younger teens to engage and think about the importance of nutrition and healthy eating, try reframing the conversation to something they are passionate about. If they’re interested in sports, emphasise the importance healthy eating can have on performance. If they’re avid readers, try talking about how healthy eating can help with concentration.

9. Act:

If you’re concerned about your child or someone close, contact your GP, visit counselling-directory.org.uk, or call the Beat helpline on 0808 801 0677 or Youthline on 0134 431 1200.

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Lifestyle & Relationships

Common questions kids might have: What’s an eating disorder?

An eating disorder is when a person uses food and/or the way they eat to cope with difficult feelings. When someone has an eating disorder, they often need help to think about food and themselves in a more healthy way.

Are eating disorders serious?

They can be. With help and support, people can get better. That’s why it’s important to talk if you’re worried or think you might need help.

What causes eating disorders?

No one’s really sure. Experts think there are some things that can make us more likely to develop an eating disorder. What we do know is that people don’t choose to have an eating disorder.

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Supporting KIDS

Steer the conversation towards healthy eating and the important role food plays in development

Tips for helping kids develop a healthy relationship with food Promoting a healthy relationship with food is the first step towards making sure children know how to talk about healthy eating, positive attitudes towards food, concerns around weight, health, and more. Try to:

Be a good role model.

Avoid skipping meals, start the day off with a good breakfast, and let the kids see you eating a balanced diet.

Keep a stock of nutritious, pre-prepared or easy-to-make snacks available.

This will help to avoid developing bad habits with sugar, salt or high-in-fat snacks. Encourage them to only snack when they’re hungry, rather than making it a habit or something to do when bored.

Explain the difference between everyday foods and sometimes foods. By labelling foods as good, bad, or outright banning them, it can make some foods seem more appealing due to their “forbidden” nature, or could encourage negative connotations around certain foods.

Make family meals a priority.

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This not only gives you a chance to show off your own healthy eating and be a good role model, but can also give you the chance to cook together, or let everyone have an input into the weekly menu. By giving kids the chance to choose what they’re eating, you can encourage them to consider balanced, nutritious meals. Getting them to help with the prep work can also galvanise picky eaters to try new things.

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Promising chocolate for good behaviour might seem harmless, but it can teach children to rely on food to help them deal with their emotions. Switch to non-food rewards like promising to play a favourite game together or trying out a sticker chart.

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counselling-directory.org.uk for more information or to find a professional counsellor beateatingdisorders.org.uk for information and support from one of the UK’s leading eating disorder charities youngminds.org.uk for pre-teen and young adult friendly advice and information from one of the UK’s leading mental health charities nhs.uk for more information, or talk to your GP if you have any concerns

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Food & Drink | Mythbusters

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Super FOOD

Chia Seeds

Planting the Notion of a Healthy Miracle? Often referred to as a ‘superfood’, chia seeds don’t seem to be going anywhere anytime soon. But how healthy are they, and are we better off saving our money? Writing | Rebecca Thair

rown in Central and South America, chia seeds come from the Salvia Hispanica plant, and are notoriously classed as a so-called “superfood”. But what does that actually mean? Well the origin story of the term “superfoods” is much like that of many superheroes – in a lab. The food industry started using this phrase based on claims that certain foods are particularly rich in nutrients, or have antioxidants that are extremely beneficial to us. However, their data is typically based on lab studies where the concentration of the antioxidants is much higher than that found in normal portions. This means that, realistically, there isn’t a benefit to the consumer without eating the food in huge volumes. As such, the EU has banned companies from putting these claims on their packaging without sufficient evidence – they are able to say something is full of antioxidants, but they can’t say these actually provide us with a health benefit unless they can prove it. But, just because the term “superfood” can be misleading, doesn’t mean the food has zero benefits...

THE GOOD

The popularity of these seeds stems from them being hunger-busters; chia seeds are rich in fibre, so they help you to feel fuller for longer. This is great for when you’re looking to eat healthier and cut back on snacking, but additionally, insoluble fibre doesn’t dissolve in your gut, meaning it helps food pass through your digestive system and keeps it healthy. The NHS recommends adults have a daily intake of 30g of fibre a day, and in just one 25g portion of chia seeds you receive 9g of this – a fruitful contribution. Chia seeds are also a great source of calcium, which helps to keep our bones healthy. For adults, the recommended daily amount of calcium in our diets is 700mg, and the good news is that in a 25g

portion of chia seeds, you can expect to get about 157mg of calcium. Given that in a 100g of low-fat yoghurt or fromage frais you’d typically get 140mg of calcium, a sprinkling of chia seeds with it really makes sure you’re getting the nutrients you need. They’re also a good source of plant protein, so a great additional option for vegans and vegetarians to fill their protein quota.

THE BAD

There’s claims that chia seeds help you to lose weight – hence the “superfood” diet-miracle notion. However, these aren’t proven. Logically, given their high-fibre content, chia seeds can help satiate so that you don’t feel inclined to snack, but the seeds themselves won’t directly help you shift any pounds. So, eating them as part of a healthy and balanced diet is good, but they aren’t a mystical superfood that allows you to eat anything and lose weight. And the risk is that when branded as a “superfood”, people have unrealistic expectations, and are looking for a quick fix rather than revitalising their diet to ensure they’re getting all the essential nutrients they need from elsewhere.

THE TAKEAWAY

There is no magic superfood that will solve all our nutritional problems, but chia seeds can provide us with some nutrients to benefit our overall health. Our expectations need to be realistic though – anything they give us, whether calcium, fibre or protein, can be gained from other food sources as well. So if you like the taste or texture – whether a sprinkling of toasted seeds on a salad, or mixed in with a smoothie – go for it, but keep in mind this isn’t 34th Street: there are no miracles here.

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JUST BE YOU Happiness doesn’t come from a cookiecutter: “Normal is subjective. There are seven billion versions of normal on this planet.” – Matt Haig, Reasons to Stay Alive

True Life | Kerry’s story

I suffered with severe postnatal depression and PTSD following a traumatic labour After the distressing birth of her first child, Kerry Thomas lost all faith in medical professionals. But when she found the right counsellor, she was finally able to work through her trauma and bond with her daughter

met my husband five years ago and instantly fell in love. He worked away a lot, but when he came home I was always so excited to see him. One evening, I went upstairs and there were candles all over the bedroom, he was stood there with a ring and he proposed. We soon decided to start trying for a baby, but six months went past with nothing. Then another six months. I ended up being referred to the hospital for an ultrasound to check my reproductive system. It turned out all those missed periods were because of polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) and endometriosis. That’s the reason I couldn’t fall pregnant naturally: I wasn’t ovulating. I was depressed. It was a rough few months, and I even tried to end things with my husband as I didn’t want to be the reason he couldn’t have children. Eventually, we were referred to a gynaecologist and started fertility treatment. Months passed with nothing. It left us with only IVF as an option. By this point, I was really struggling mentally and felt like a failure. I was a woman and I couldn’t reproduce. Continues >>>

Kerry and her baby girl

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True Life | Kerry’s story We went for the IVF treatment and, with the help of a fantastic team, it worked. We were completely over the moon, I must have gone through 20 pregnancy tests that week, just to make sure! Throughout my pregnancy, I lived in a bubble. I was terrified to do anything strenuous or eat anything that could affect the baby. I ended up with severe morning sickness, sciatica and pelvic girdle pain. My GP put me on medication for the sickness, but I was too scared to even take paracetamol when I was in pain. I went into labour four weeks earlier than my due date and I didn’t even realise. I was sat in bed and said to my husband: “I have awful stomach

I didn’t have the moment, like in the movies, when you cry happy tears, want to hold your baby and take pictures. I didn’t want to hold her at all. I was told to get up, get showered and that I’d be staying in the hospital. I thought the worst part was over. But I collapsed in the shower; I had bladder retention. I needed a catheter, but they couldn’t place the catheter in because of the swelling. I had to have gas and air just so they could pass the tube through. Even now, I still have flashbacks about that. Nearly a week went by and I wasn’t getting better – in fact, I was getting worse. I had doctor after doctor come and take a peek and walk away having a discussion about me as if I wasn’t there. I was in agony, Kerry was delighted when IVF but I also lost my dignity. helped her to get pregnant On day six, I was discharged. They said I just had bruising and that the community I was depressed. midwife would take care of I even tried to end me. Nine hours later, I was things with my rushed back into hospital. The community midwife came to husband as I didn’t my house and said she hadn’t want to be the reason seen anything like the injury I had sustained. he couldn’t have With help from our family, children we were able to go private. When I arrived, the consultant did a CT scan and blood tests. It turned out I had sepsis and an infected haematoma. I had ache from that pizza.” After being sat up for while, major surgery and was placed on oxygen as they he told me to let him know when I had pains. It were worried about organ failure. Finally I had turned out I was having contractions! some answers, and I still wonder whether, if we We went to the hospital and when we arrived I hadn’t gone back to the hospital, would I be here was 4cm dilated. They transferred me to a delivery today? There were days back then when I thought room and it was all going well, but our little girl that would have been for the best. I remained there was still back to back. I was in labour for 16 hours. for a further two weeks; I still hadn’t bonded with They had to break my waters. She got stuck at 7cm my baby. and was still back to back. I tore. They ended up When I was discharged, I couldn’t walk unaided. doing an episiotomy and used forceps to deliver I had to see an osteopath privately, as the hospital her as her heart rate had dropped too low. discharged me without any follow-up. It took At that point, I was in and out of consciousness. me four months to walk comfortably, and six I still can’t recall the full extent of what happened until I was walking normally. I’m still seeing a during my labour. chiropractor. 74 • happiful • March 2018

I was struggling mentally. I was having help me. They said I was going to be OK, and I was nightmares and flashbacks. I couldn’t sleep. placed on anti-depressants. I was constantly crying. I still didn’t have that My counsellor listened to my story and was special bond with my daughter. But shocked. She worked with me when I finally did get it, the anxiety through CBT and helped with and paranoia became awful. I exercises to deal with the anxiety. would sit in the kitchen crying After a couple of months, I found when she slept. I watched the clock it easier to talk to her. I was still for when my husband was coming having flashbacks, trying to put back home. I just wanted to pack a together what happened during bag and leave. One day, I got in my my labour. I had days when I just car when he came home and just sat and cried. I still couldn’t sleep. drove away. I felt so low. It got to the point Months passed and I became where I wanted out. We went very attached to my daughter. through every feeling I had week I wouldn’t let people look after by week and worked on trying to her and criticised everything my make sense of my labour. husband did. I wouldn’t I stuck with the counselling take her out through fear and it really did help me. I of someone taking her. saw her for two years, and it When I did, I gripped the helped because someone was buggy so tight that my listening to me. knuckles went white. Two years on and I am I didn’t have the moment, After six months, my now in a place to share my husband said I needed to like in the movies, when you story. I want to share it to speak to someone. My GP make women and men cry happy tears, want to hold referred me for assessment aware that getting help your baby and take pictures and, most importantly, by the mental health team. When I went to see them, having someone listen can my defences were up. I help them. I never knew hated the NHS. I hated or understood my mental the staff for what they did illnesses before I reached out, to me. I sat down and was asked: “Why are you but we all need someone to listen and support us. here? Tell me what’s wrong and what you feel on a I can now enjoy my time with my daughter. daily basis?” I was shocked and didn’t know what I won’t get that time back, but I can now look to say. When I finally plucked up the courage and forward to what’s to come and enjoy seeing said that I’d had a traumatic birth and it was the her grow. hospital’s fault, his reply – before I could even finish – was: “You seem like you don’t want to be Our Expert Says here.” My wall went back up. I went to see a different counsellor and I saw Kerry’s story highlights the prolonged and far-reaching implications of birth trauma. Not a different GP, but I was terrified. I felt like a only does it affect mother-baby bonding, it can also severely impact anxiety levels and daycomplete failure. But, finally, someone listened. to-day functioning. Reaching out is important, It took me a month of seeing her weekly before and not every issue can be addressed quickly; Fe Robinson sometimes counselling takes time. Kerry’s story MUKCP (reg), MBACP (reg) I completely opened up, but once I did, my psychotherapost and shows the need to stick with treatment, and to clinical supervisor keep believing that recovery is possible. counsellor told me that I was suffering with PTSD and postnatal depression. They said they would March 2018 • happiful • 75

Lifestyle & Relationships

How to support a

loved one’s

trans-formation Is someone close to you coming out as transgender? Here’s how you can emotionally navigate the potentially choppy waters, and why it is so important to try to understand their decision Writing | Noel Bell

f a family member comes out as transgender, the news may come as a shock and feel like a lot to process. It may come as an even bigger shock if your partner discloses that they are transgender, and you didn’t see it coming. In either case, there might be mixed emotions with the news, and a lot of emotional material to process.

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Gender identity develops independently of physical anatomy and may or may not correspond with the sex assigned at birth. However, you may feel all at sea getting to know a whole new terminology. It could prove useful to become acquainted with what the gender-related terms actually mean; there are numerous freely available information packs

online that explain the terminology. Practically, it may also prove to be a struggle to describe them with new gender pronouns – and potentially using their new name. You might be wondering if this is just a phase they are going through. However, if someone has consistently expressed a transgender identity, it is highly unlikely that this will

Authentic LIVING It is important to realise that nobody just decides to be transgender out of the blue. The only decision a transgender person makes is whether to live authentically and honestly. Deciding to come out as trans is an important first step towards being their true self and living the life they feel they deserve. It can be an exciting and liberating experience, but coming out as transgender can also represent one of the single most challenging things that they will do in their life. You can help them in their journey by listening without judgement. Ask questions to better help you understand what they are going through. This could assist in putting them at ease as they explain their personal life choices. It might be helpful to see it as their moment, rather than yours. Also, try to maintain your social boundaries. Asking about their love life, sex life, or other intensely private things are no-nos. Ask sensitive questions, such as “How are you feeling?”, or “How long have you known?” Any initial confusion you feel could be eased when you realise how much happier they are once they’ve started living as the gender they’ve always known they were supposed to be. Try to keep the focus on their happiness, as this will help you to navigate a new type of relationship. This could be challenging for some people, however, your encouragement could be vital in helping them access support services. Try to help them to get the support they need if they’re struggling with aspects of their journey. Their GP could be the first port of call as they can then be referred on to an expert on gender dysphoria to arrange initial assessments.

The only decision a transgender person makes is whether to live authentically and honestly

change throughout life. Coming out can invariably represent an accumulation of stress as it will have involved months, and possibly years, of agonising. There will have been a great internal battle about what to do or when to do it. Their decision won’t have been taken lightly as they will have worried about the potential risk of rejection by those they hold dear.

Gender dysphoria is sometimes known as gender identity disorder (GID), gender incongruence, or transgenderism, and is very real. People can feel trapped inside a body that doesn’t match their gender identity. Not helping a loved one tackle it and become the gender they want to be (if that’s what they really want) can have many negative consequences. It’s not uncommon for addictions to be triggered during the stress of forming a personal gender identity, or to experience anxiety, depression or even suicide ideation. Their anxiety levels can be compounded by speculating about what others might think when they come out, whether they will be hated, or whether they will lose their job, friends or partner. That’s why it’s so important to try to understand why they have made their decision. If your partner comes out as transgender, there might be an extra layer of complexity. Coming out as gay to a heterosexual partner can potentially be more clearcut as it usually means the end of the relationship, but coming out as transgender is not so straightforward. Some relationships can deepen, but others will find it more difficult to cope with. If you can put into words your feelings and any mixed emotions surrounding the news, you will be better able to come to terms with a new way of relating. Whatever you’re feeling, it’s understandable that you have some emotional processing to do. You could seek a creative or physical outlet that lets you release some of the stress you might be feeling. Counselling can offer a safe place to explore your feelings and thoughts about the changes affecting your family and relationship. Noel Bell is a clinical psychotherapist, focusing on relationships, addiction, and encouraging personal growth. Visit noelbell.net for more.

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My confidence hit rock bottom after years of living with acne Heart FM radio presenter James Stewart hasn’t always been full of confidence. Developing acne in his late teens severely knocked his self-esteem, but reaching out for professional help was the best decision he ever made

Photography | Joseph Sinclair

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True Life | James’ Story

or as long as I can remember, I’ve always yourself that it’s not something you may need to struggled a bit with my appearance. I see a doctor about. Spoiler alert: it was none of the remember when I was about 13, seeing above. I was prescribed a course of antibiotics for some of the kids at school developing six months and was delighted I’d finally found a acne as puberty kicked it. It was something I solution. Or so I thought... never really understood, and I just assumed it The six months passed, I was now about 19 and was because they weren’t washing properly or at university, and while I should have been having something else ignorant – there’s a general lack of the time of my life, I was deeply uncomfortable understanding about acne, even now. in my own skin. I was covered in aggressive acne I managed to glide through secondary school on both sides of my face, forehead, and back. It with just the odd spot, and aside from being a affected my desire to go out, to make friends, and slightly gangly, awkward drama kid, things were – most upsetting to me at the time – to get girls. fine. But when I was about 16 everything changed, Long story short, for me, the antibiotics didn’t quite drastically, in terms of my skin. work, and I was eventually referred It seemed like overnight these little to a dermatologist by my GP. pimples popped up all over my Ultimately, I think I always face. At first they weren’t red, or knew this would have to the angry – just lumps in the road at case, but it seemed like such I spent my entire that stage. At that time though, a dramatic thing when it student loan on it was my worst nightmare. All I happened. By now though, wanted to do was present “tele”, I’d accepted this wasn’t in expensive chemical and in my head I needed perfect my control, it was purely peels, I bought every skin to make that a reality. Now, hormonal, and mine had I know that couldn’t be further product on the planet, decided acne was the way to go. from reality! When googling acne, there but with all the stuff I (stupidly) did what I thought is a final step to treat it, once was the best thing, and googled I’d been putting on my and for all, and there are a the hell out of it – “How to get message boards and skin, it had gotten an million rid of acne.” Of course, there’s threads dedicated to it, because awful lot worse a few options that pop up, and it comes with a few notable I tried them all. I spent my costs – and not just financially. entire student loan on expensive ROACCUTANE. Depression, chemical peels, I bought every suicide, mood alterations are all product on the planet, I would cover buzzwords associated with this, and my face in manuka honey and leave it overnight, it really isn’t for everyone, but after three years, I but after a year or so, nothing did the trick. In was willing to do whatever it took. fact, with all the stuff I’d been putting on my skin, I was nervous. I was apprehensive. I chatted it turned out it had got an awful lot worse. for hours with the consultant and my parents, At that point, I did what I should have done and eventually decided we would go for it. With from the start and went to see my GP. I guess I this drug you have to have regular blood checks refused to accept it was a medical condition, and to monitor its effects, which I had under the I thought it was down to lifestyle. Maybe I drank supervision of a dermatologist who had recently too much milk, maybe my bed linen wasn’t right; prescribed it for her own son. you go through all these options just to prove to Continues >>>

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True Life | James’ story

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Graeme Orr MBACP (Accred) UKRCP Reg Ind counsellor

It took about one year, but I built the foundations and still benefit from them today.

Photography | Joseph Sinclair

Knowing this made me realise that with the right aftercare, it couldn’t be as bad as I thought. It works by shutting down your Whatever you might skin’s oil production, so it dries be dealing with – the shit out of your body – oh, and most annoyingly, you can’t acne, depression, drink! anxiety – there is I stuck it out for a further six ALWAYS a solution. months, took two large pills every day, dealt with the dry If you remember that, skin, lived off Carmex, became you can conquer (unintentionally) teetotal, and the “miracle drug” did its thing. anything It gets worse in the first three months, and then BOOM, the little shits vanish as quickly as they came, and I was acne-free by the time I was 20. Honestly, I couldn’t believe it. My skin had never looked better, I was free of the entrapment of my own skin, and I finally felt like I was back. It was the kickstarter for me to go off and pursue my dreams. I gradually began to develop confidence again, I got back into performing, and went to London, where I took the first steps in my career – a career I love with all my heart. Although what happened to me wasn’t a life-threatening illness, and in that respect I was and am very lucky, it did affect my mental state and confidence in a way that made me lose all sense of who I was and what I stood for. I had the support of my family, and our brilliant medical system here in the UK, and that’s all I needed. Whatever you might be dealing with – acne, depression, anxiety – there is always a solution. If you remember that, you can conquer anything. Never give up.

Our Expert Says James’ acne is more than a physical problem, and far from skin-deep. It undermines his selfconfidence, leaving him feeling withdrawn and alone. He attempts self-treatment, before finally deciding to get medical help. Although there are anxious moments in choosing his treatment, by getting the right help from family and doctors, he sees a huge improvement. His confidence returns and he goes on to pursue his dreams.

USE YOUR VOICE The everyday can be extraordinary: “I’ve always thought people would find a lot more pleasure in their routines if they burst into song at significant moments.” – John Barrowman

Happiful Hero

The ED Survivor Changing the Lives of Others Nominated by her partner, Adam McWeeney, Laura Phelan has dedicated her life to supporting those living with eating disorders

n the UK, there are an estimated 1.25 million people living with an eating disorder. Ten years ago, Laura Phelan was one of them. But now, after battling anorexia for three years as a teenager, Laura works tirelessly to raise awareness and offer support to those still fighting their own battles. Set on bettering the lives of others, Laura began by volunteering at the UK’s leading eating disorder charity, Beat. Eventually she trained as an Eating Disorder Specialist, at the National Centre of Eating Send your Disorders. Her nominations to training, which hello@happiful.com is ongoing and in line with the latest thinking from a range of psychologies and healing approaches approved by the British Psychological Society,

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has given her the foundation to help change lives. Founder of Phelan Well, a non-profit community interest company (CIC), Laura creates specialised one-to-one eating disorder recovery programmes. Identifying the longevity of mental illness, she teaches sustainable coping mechanisms, stress management, and nutritional interventions. In July 2017, Laura held her first not-for-profit, self-love event for young women. Even as the only man in the room, Adam says he could see the incredible impact that she was having on the young women. The event focused on building better relationships with yourself and food, and Laura is already making plans for the next one. An ambassador for Beat and a mental health trainer for Mind, Laura dedicates every spare moment she has to supporting others. “She is the most passionate and dedicated person I know,” says Adam, who was recently overcome with pride

Laura – A mbassa MH train dor for Beat & er for M ind

when he watched Laura talk to MPs in Parliament about how they could do more to ensure that people with eating disorders are given access to vital, lifesaving gateway support systems.

She is the most passionate and dedicated person I know

For more information on Phelan Well, visit the website: phelanwell.com

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