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IN ISLAM By: Amani Aboul Fadl Farag
'll try to supply as much information in this big subject as our small page can allow. In case you need more details, I refer you to a useful book Fiqh as-Sunnah - by Sayyed Sabiq – is originally in Arabic, but you can find its English translation if you want. DIVORCE AS A LAST OPTION: Although divorce being allowed in Islam is a sign of the lenience and practical nature of the Islamic legal system, keeping the unity of the family is considered a priority for the sake of the children. For this reason, divorce is always a last choice, after exhausting all possible means of reconciliation. For example, Allah addresses men asking them to try hard to keep the marriage, even if they dislike their wives: ... live with them on a footing of kindness and equity. If ye take a dislike to them it may be that ye dislike a thing, and God brings about through it a great deal of good. - Surah 4 Verse 19 Also the following verse is addressed to women asking them the same thing: If a wife fears cruelty or desertion on her husband's part, there is no blame on them if they arrange an amicable
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settlement between themselves; ... - Surah 4 Verse 128 Again, the following verse is addressed to the family or the society for the same purpose of rescuing this bond, which God did not make easy to break: If ye fear a breach between them twain, appoint (two) arbiters, one from his family, and the other from hers; if they wish for peace, God will cause their reconciliation: For God hath full knowledge, and is acquainted with all things. - Surah 4 Verse 35 But, if after exhausting all methods of reconciliation, the hatred between the husband and wife is still greater than tolerance, then divorce becomes inevitable. Here comes the genius of the Islamic law, which holds practical, rather than unrealistic approaches, towards real situations. The ultimate aims of marriage, as well as any other aspect of human life, are to achieve happiness and virtue. So, when people are denied their right to end an unhappy marriage, these two aims are seriously violated. This is, as the couple will live in suffering, which may lead them to marital infidelity. Thus divorce in this case – if weighed up to the disaster of family disintegration - will be less disastrous.
HAYATI FAITH METHODS OF DIVORCE: Men have the right to divorce. If a man dislikes keeping his marriage for any reason, he divorces his wife and compensates her financially by paying her what is termed mut'a payment. This is in addition to the regular financial sustenance for her living, in case she has the custody of their children. Divorce becomes in effect once the husband utters or writes down any of the legal formulae of divorce such as: ‘I divorce you’ or ‘you are divorced’…etc. The husband can do these either by himself or through a messenger.
category, the husband can't remarry his divorcée till all the legal procedures are done, all over again, and the husband pays new dowry for her. Divorce can happen three times in the couple's lifetime. The third divorce falls in the third category, because they cannot go back to one another, till after the wife ‘happens’ to marry someone else, then ‘happens’ to get divorced by him. In this case, she can go back to her first husband. Such a tough rule was made as a punishment and a way of preventing people from misusing this tolerant ruling of permitting divorce. The word ‘happens’ is parenthesized because the woman's new marriage and divorce should come naturally without planning, as many people might do to legalize her return to the first husband!
In case it is the woman's desire to end the marriage, the situation becomes different. Her reasons might be that she has received ill treatment, the husband is unable to sustain her financially or he is sexually impotent. She can prove these defects in front of the WHEN DOES DIVORCE BECOME judge, then the judge grants her divorce with INVALID? a full access to all her financial rights. In some cases, uttering the words of divorce become invalid. Among these cases is when Also, if the husband was good to her but she the husband is: does not want to keep on for an emotional reason, then she asks for what is termed 1. Drunk. khul'. This means to be granted divorce but 2. Forced to utter them by someone else. without any access for financial rights, plus 3. In a complete loss of temper to the paying back the husband the dowry that he extent that he is unaware of what he is already paid on marrying her. saying. 4. In an abnormal state of mind, such as CATEGORIES OF DIVORCE: temporary madness, epilepsy or in a coma. Divorce is of three categories: In such cases, divorce is null and void. • Raj'i (returnable) • Baynounah soghra (minor separation) • Baynouna kobra (major separation).
POST DIVORCE PROCEDURES: After divorce, it is obligatory for the woman not to get married to another man, except In case divorce happens through the after three complete menstruation cycles, if husband, he can take his wife back she is not pregnant. If she is, then she has to wait till she gives birth, so that the paternity within three months. This is without any of the child is not confused. This period of legal procedures, if they decide it - like they time is termed as ‘iddah. However, even if regret their rushing in divorce. In this case, the woman no longer has menstruations the divorce is termed as raj'i or returnable (e.g. after menopause), she should still wait divorce. for three months. So there is more to the But in case of khul', which is the second 'iddah than just the issue of paternity.
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n pre-Islamic times divorce was a weapon used against the woman solely in a man's hands; when he wanted to harm the wife he would seek to divorce her and then take her back as he pleased. There were no set rules and the woman had no rights in the matter. So Allah Allah (The Almighty) invalidated this injustice by revealing the verse which says:
(Divorce is two times: then one may retain with goodness (and reasonable terms), or let go with goodness (and reasonable terms).) [2:229]
time lapses and he lets her go her way, she will be fully divorced for the first time, and is free to marry another man. Her first husband may remarry her with a new contract, if they both choose that option. If he does, and he then again divorces her, he may take her back her within the three menstrual periods, and this will be two divorces and returns. After two divorces and returns, if he divorces her a third time this is called the final and separating divorce wherein they are not allowed to remarry unless she waits the specified time of three menstrual cycles and then freely marries a different man with no intention of availing herself to this means in order to be able to lawfully marry her previous husband . If, for any reason, she becomes divorced from that man, only then, and on the condition that no shady pre-arranged dealings were made to circumvent this rule, can she re-marry her first husband. All these measures are designed to help protect the family and sanctity of the marriage bond, and the rights of the man and the woman. The waiting period is to determine that she is free from pregnancy. In case of pregnancy, the woman has to wait until after delivery before she marries a second husband.
As a way to help preserve the marriage even when some differences occur, a Muslim man following the Sunnah (way)of the Prophet (Peace be upon Him) may only divorce his wife while she is clean from menses wherein he has not had sexual relations with her in that month. Since this requires some waiting period before the pronouncement of divorce, this allows time for any anger to subside or misunderstandings to be cleared up, and gives time to other family members or mediators to help in reconciliation. If they continue on the path towards divorce, then she must wait three menstrual periods. During this time, he may take her back honorably into marriage. This Divorce is ultimately allowed in Islam to escape from will be counted as the first divorce and return. If the any harm caused by the irreconcilable differences. It
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HAYATI FAITH may become necessary in certain cases. There are strict rules about divorce to protect the interests and rights of the parties involved: the husband, wife and children. Some of them have been mentioned above. Divorce might be forbidden in the case where it would not solve the problem and cause undue harm to one of the two marriage partners, without achieving a needed benefit.
A man is more capable - at least theoretically - of controlling his flitting emotions and personal reactions when upset about the smaller issues in life, especially in terms of disputes with his wife. Divorce should never be a quick reaction for some suffering, misunderstandings, or differences of viewpoints, but only as a last resort and final solution when life becomes dangerously problematic and intolerable, wherein both spouse are afraid that they will Islamic jurisprudence obligates that in order not be able to abide by the limits set by Allah to avoid divorce, solutions should be sought and His Prophet about respectable behavior when critical disputes and differences occur with one another. between husband and wife; Allah, the Exalted, states in the Glorious Qur'an: Islamic jurisprudence permits the wife to have her marriage nullified upon her request if the (And if a women fears cruelty or desertion from husband abuses her physically or verbally. She her husband, there is no sin on both of them if is also entitled to have the marriage nullified they make terms of peace between themselves; for the following general reasons: and making peace is better.) [4:128] 1. if the husband is impotent and cannot perform his marital duties, Allah, the Exalted, also says: 2. or if the husband for any reason, refuses to (If you fear a breach between them appoint have sexual relations with his wife and fulfill two arbitrators, one from his family and the her lawful needs, other from her family: if the two of them both wish for correction, Allah will cause their 3. or is afflicted with a disabling terminal reconciliation. Indeed Allah is Omniscient and illness after the marriage, Well-Acquainted with all things.) [4:35] 4. or contracts any type of venereal or reproductive disease that may harm the wife One of the most natural and logical ways to or make her lose her desire to be with her help maintain a successful marriage is to let husband. Thus, we see that the woman is given the man have more control over the divorce the right to seek separation from her husband process than the woman because it is the man for legitimate reasons in many situations, who is financially obliged to take care of his exactly as the man has the right to seek divorce. wife, household and family, and has ultimate If a wife reaches the extreme limits of patience responsibility of their welfare. Therefore, and abhors her husband, feeling that life is he must rationally assess the situation, unbearable, then she has the right to divorce. grave consequences, and huge financial and This form of divorce is called annulment, or emotional loss that will result from a divorce. "Khula", wherein she pays compensation by The husband will lose the dowry he spent for returning her dowry or some other property. the marriage, and will have to pay the alimony A competent Muslim judge will look into and child support, as well as any newly the individual case if the husband refuses to acquired expenses from a new marriage on top accept the wife's request and if the request of that. Thus, with all these considerations, he is considered sound and valid, will pass a will not act just out of quick anger, fickleness judgment in favor of the woman. or passing emotion.
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girls in developing countries a global priority. “I Am Malala,” her recently published book, is a bold, frankly told account of the problems faced by Pakistan as well as the rest of the world when it comes to the radical brand of Islam pushed forward by the Taliban.
She’s since addressed the UN General Assembly, received the Children’s Peace Prize, the Sakharov Prize for Freedom of Thought from the European Parliament, appeared on the Daily Show, and is currently in the running for the Nobel Peace Prize, which will be announced on Friday. Her foundation, the Malala Fund, works to make the education of
Malala is an inspiration to girls all over the world, particularly young Muslim women who see her as an example of what it means to be a strong, outspoken advocate while still holding fast to the Islamic faith. Islam doesn’t have to be a religion of seclusion or oppression, and Malala is a bold manifestation of that truth.
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Named after Afghanistan’s own version of Joan of Arc, Malalai of Maiwand, there is a prophetic quality It’s been just over one year since the Taliban’s bullet to Malala’s deeply held convictions that sits alongside hit her point blank in the skull, but rather than her youthful innocence. Malalai is a Pashtun heroine silencing her voice, the attempted murder only served who inspired an entire battlefield to turn a losing to amplify her message of equality, opportunity, and battle into one of the worst defeats in the history of moderate Islam. the British army, giving her life for her country.
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J U D G I N G … J U D G I N G … know exactly what I’m talking about. A.K.A the handful of girls you know JUDGING….JUDGING of who have been misjudged in the Today, I’m going to talk to you about community because of the way they judging. What? You’re a fashion act, the way they dress, or due to columnist. What does this have circumstances in their life. anything to do with fashion? Leaving aside how they act because Just keep reading and you’ll soon we’ve all been immature at one point in our lives and if lucky enough, find out. were guided back to the right track Judging one another goes against without making us feel like complete everything Islam teaches us. Right? failures. Yes, I think that’s something we can all agree on. For the longest time Instead, I’m going to talk about my ever, I’ve been advised to always give field of expertise, fashion and the the person in question 70 excuses judgments that others bestow on before jumping to conclusions. their fellow community members as a result of the way that particular Sounds pretty easy, right? person chooses to dress. WRONG! Before I start a controversial topic We all know what we should do but that might produce friction from we don’t really do it. If you’re a girl all the Google/social media sheikhs, reading this article, you probably let’s get something straight. None 36 HAYATI
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HAYATI FASHION of us just magically woke up one day knowing exactly what Hijab is or how we should dress. If you did, please exit out of this screen because I do not want to waste your time. But in all seriousness, most girls can agree that dressing modestly has been a growing process. I can personally say I’ve learned so much in the past 10 years since I’ve consciously made the decision to wear the hijab. I’m not saying start with a hijab accompanied by a sleeveless shirt and a knee-length pencil skirt and tell everyone “don’t judge me, I’m growing in my hijab.” That’s ridiculous. I’m talking about the skinny jeans, cropped pants, leggings, the short blouses, the “bang-revealing” hijabis and all other aspects that could potentially label you as “dressed inappropriately.” You know what’s funny though, is that every single person I have ever talked to has defined “modesty” and “properly dressed” differently and because we, as dysfunctional and opinionated human beings, cannot agree on a definition, let’s go back to what Islam tells us. Islam has elevated the Muslim woman by ordaining her to fully cover her body in loose, nonrevealing garments avoiding the potential of outlining her body and its details. So realistically speaking and in a perfect world, the Abaya would be the best way to ensure that all of the above prerequisites are properly obeyed. Alternate to Abayas are long maxi dresses and skirts accompanied with loose tops. Many, including myself, are still in the skinny jeans phase but I tend to avoid leggings and jeggings. My shirts have gotten considerably longer (ok MUCH MUCH LONGER) and much less form fitting than when I initially began wearing the hijab (I can thank Allah and the evolving 38 HAYATI
modest fashion industry). My shirts reside about knee length and now every time I wear anything shorter, I feel uncomfortable. I usually end up driving home and changing. The point I am trying to make is that I didn’t just magically start dressing like this. I grew into it just like the majority of young women in my community and God-willing, I will continue to constantly improve on the way I dress. I was blessed to be surrounded by a supportive group of friends and family whom allowed me to make my own decisions WHILE slowly and gradually guiding me in the right direction. I do not remember a time when I was backlashed by anyone for the way I dressed but maybe that’s because I never really gave in to negative energy and always kept my head held high. I DID, however, always appreciate constructive criticism and tried to apply it to the best of my understanding. You know, the kind of criticism that makes you feel like the person in front of you REALLY cares about you and doesn’t want to just point out your flaws to feel better about themselves. Unfortunately, many other girls in my community were subjects of harsh and crude judgments, the kind of words that make you cry on the spot and when you question this person as being judgmental, you’re responded to with the ever-sofamous phrase of “I am only trying to give advice” or “This is not Islam and this is not hijab and we have to save Islam”. No, you’re not going to “save” Islam. However, THIS is what is completely and absolutely UNACCEPTABLE and THIS is exactly why we end up losing our youths to outside temptations. Whether that’s cutting themselves off from the communities, or girls taking
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Point is, don’t judge but instead, put yourself in each other’s shoes, give advice (privately) and constructively out of love, and NEVER speak to another individual in a demeaning manner. Follow more of Ndaa: www.ndaatalksfashion.com IG: Ndaa_talksfashion Twitter: @ndaatalksfash
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MUSLIMAH This month’s front cover of HAYATI is by far my favorite so far. It is so creative, colorful and a beautiful depiction of a Muslim woman, fashion, style, religion with a fiery personality. This cover is everything that represents HAYATI and it was magnificently illustrated by Momna Aakel. By Fatima Togbe At 22 years old, Momna Aakel lives in Brooklyn, NewYork (where she moved to from Pakistan with her family). She is a nursing student and aspiring doctor by day, Inshallah and an amazing illustrator by night.
so far, but it amazes me to know that she has not art studies background at all.
Momna started drawing as a hobby but she has now turned her passion into a part time gig. Her inspiration can come from anything as little as an Instagram Momna has been drawing ever since she picture to a movie she’s watching, she tell can remember, but it is only in the past us. Since this is still part-time for her, she year or so (2012) that she decided to share only sketches when she’s in the mood too her gift with the world. As she gradually or when she has available time. It could improved on her talent, she went from be every day of every week or sometimes drawing to illustrating digitally last year. once a week. She describes her journey as being good Illustrations by Momna Aakel 48 HAYATI
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HAYATI FEATURE Momna prefers working on fashion illustration but sometimes it just depends on what she is inspired by. Although her fashion sketches could lead you to picture her as an avid fashionista, constantly following the latest trends, Momna confesses that she is far from it. However, like most girls she dabbles in a little trend following here and there. Since she lives in NewYork, she has to walk a lot so being comfortable in whatever she wears is primarily what shapes her sense of style. I find it quite intriguing to know what her sense of style and her slight interest in a trend or two have no influence what so ever on her sketches. However, Islam does inspire her work. Momna explains that in the beginning, Islam did not really influence her work, but after she began to follow many hijab fashion blogs, she was inspired to try to incorporate the best of both worlds in one piece.
“I am far from a fashionista!” The response she has been getting from people across of the world has been “awesome so far Alhamdulillah” she says. Social Media has helped her to improve her art and has given her the type of exposure she could have never dreamt of. When I asked her what her goals were and where she sees her passion for art going, she replied “I’m taking it one day at a time”, which I believe is the best thing to do many times. Other than illustrating, Momna is a huge makeup and nail varnish collector even though she admits that she does not use them as much as she would like to. “I love love love applying henna on friends and family and if there is no one available I would just grab a white piece of paper and start designing on that with a henna cone”. I am really amazed by this young girl’s talent and by the front cover she sketched and designed especially for Hayati this month. I wish her all the best and may Allah swt guide her studies and her craft. 50 HAYATI
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n Islam, the mother holds a very high status in the society. Paradise lies beneath her feet so the way to paradise for the child is to show an utmost respect to his or her mother. According to Muhammad (PBUH), the importance of the mother is three times above the importance of the father. The mother is also the school, she is the educator of her child or children and therefore, education begins within the home. What we often forget is that the baby’s first home
is within his or her mother’s womb and therefore, education begins within the home of the womb! Alhumdulillah, the miracle of fetus development into a fully-functioning human being contains careful steps. The first sense of the baby is touch which appears on week seven within the womb. From 13 to 18 weeks of pregnancy, the brain, nose and ears develop. I remember having my first ultrasound HAYATI 55
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“Every morning, as soon as it was time to pray fajr, my six-monthold baby kicked and punched” with my husband present. We were moved to tears to see a beating heart and a tiny little nose. All fetuses (scientific term for unborn ‘babies’) look the same in the beginning stages. But to us, this was a magical moment and this was our baby! I felt this enormous spiritual warmth enwrap my body like a blanket of protection, Alhumdulillah.
This is education in the womb.
After three months of pregnancy, when I told people that I was educating my child within the womb, some of them laughed at me. I do not blame them as it is a difficult things to grasp. I read the Quran out loud, I whispered (softly spoke) to my baby while rubbing my tummy and I put Quran recitation And when I saw my daughter’s on iQuran, the application on my heart beating, I had not yet realized mobile or cell phone and kept it how closely connected we would close to my tummy (not directly on become. In fact, at or after 18 the tummy because then, it would weeks, she was able to hear my own actually be too loud for the baby). heartbeat and my own voice. In fact, she also heard the voices of those Every morning, as soon as it was surrounding me especially that of time to pray fajr, my six-month-old her father’s. It is at this instant that baby kicked and punched. She woke we should realize how important me up to pray fajr or so I liked to listening from within the womb is think. The iQuran application and for the child and how listening is my recitation at least once a day, also a form of education reception. permitted me to share the beauty of the Quranic verses with my daughter. At just five months of pregnancy, That morning, the iQuran functioned I performed Hajj. Alhumdulilah, as a lullaby to my daughter. Her other than the minor colds and kicking and punching relaxed to coughs, Allah had made it easy for what I imagined was slumber. me. In fact, I had never walked so much before in my life! Miles and Remember the importance of miles of walking during Hajj had educating your child within the moulded my body into the perfect womb. He or she is already getting shape to give an easygoing birth. to know you and those closest to you Not to mention, my daughter was through listening! Alhumdulillah, inside of me at the time and every such is the miracle of Allah’s time the Quran was being recited creation and the magical moments at Makkah and Madinah and every we share with our child or children, time, the adhaan rang out among all beginning within the womb. the cities, my daughter was listening. HAYATI 57
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it's easiest to avoid any burning problem by keeping [it] at 110째." Consider purchasing and installing toilet lid locks, she says. "Babies are fascinated by water," Cronan says.
fingers or a bobby pin in exposed outlets and can get a serious burn," Cronan says. Check for exposed outlets behind furniture that you may have overlooked.
But remember, "You cannot create an environment that's 100% safe. Baby-proofing goes hand-inhand with close supervision," says Kate Cronan, MD, chief of pediatric emergency services at A.I. DuPont Hospital for Children in Wilmington, Del. "There's no substitute for somebody watching your child -- that's the best way to prevent an injury in babyhood and childhood."
Doors Put decals on sliding-glass doors so your child won't run into them. Use doorknob covers on doors that you don't want your child to open.
Fireplace "Purchase a fireplace hearth cover because once kids learn to walk or crawl, they run a risk of falling into a fireplace," Cronan says. Ready-made or even homemade cushiony devices that go around the hearth also can keep them out of harm's way.
Bathroom Start by turning down the water temperature on your water heater, advises Cronan. "When you put your baby in the bath tub,
Electricity Cover all unused electrical outlets with safety plugs that snap into outlets. "As soon as toddlers start crawling, they will try to put their
Windows Install window guards or adjust windows so they cannot open more than six inches. Tie up the cords to blinds so that a child doesn't get tangled up in Each year, more than 4.5 million them. children are injured in the home, Do not place a crib, playpen, according to the National SAFE highchair, or bed anywhere near KIDS Campaign. blind cords. Install safety glass in low windows And parents can prevent many and French doors so they won't common serious childhood shatter if a child falls into them. injuries by knowing where the Don't place furniture or anything dangers lie and how to protect that can be climbed on near a children from them. window.
Stairways Install gates once they start crawling. "Put them at the bottom of stairways to prevent them from getting up the stairs. And if you are worried about them getting out of a bedroom, put a gate on that doorway," Cronan says. "Don't put a gate at the top of the steps, because some babies can climb up a gate and fall from an even higher height," she says. Place the safety gate bar latch on the side away from your child's reach. Never leave anything on the stairs that you can trip on while carrying your baby. HAYATI 65
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let unattended on the stove. Teach your child that the oven is "hot" and not to touch it. Keep plug-in appliances, such as toasters and can openers, put away where your child can't reach them. Child safety expert Dave Riley, PhD, offers additional advice. "Get right down at baby's level and check things out at their eye level," he says. "Pick up anything that they can put into mouths including dirt," Riley tells WebMD. Still, baby-proofing doesn't stop there. "Baby-proofing changes with the age of the child," says Riley, professor of human development and family studies at the University of Wisconsin-Madison. "As soon as your baby develops any new capabilities, new dangers arise. So at each stage, you must really look at the house," he says
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