INBETWEEN June/July 2014 by INBETWEEN Magazine

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INSIGHT 7 10 minutes with... Alan Thicke on life as a dad and his new show

INFORM 9 Health & LIFE NEWS

12 Kimberly Moffit Expert Q&A 14 Desperate to be thin How

to recognize the signs of eating disorders — and how to help

18 BOY TROUBLE Rebuilding the

mom/son bond

22 You’re bringing who home?

Dealing with their significant other

INSPIRE 25 suit your shape Find the ideal

suit to flatter your figure

34 jane seymour The mother

of six talks parenting and blended families

38 Have teen, will travel

Veer off the beaten track with these road trip hotspots

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cover photo courtesy of CTV

47 VACATION INSPIRATION

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ONTRIBUTOR

Co-Founders and Editors

Rachel Naud Liz Bruckner Art Director

Caroline Bishop Contributing Editor Jacqueline Kovacs Website Manager Victor Chard

Cory Cambridge

is a freelance writer and photographer, and mom to two young, very energetic boys. She claims her teen years were quite tame, especially compared to her parents’ wild imagination. “I wish they were as exciting as my parents thought they were. I was usually just drinking coffee with my friends at some local shop. At the time it seemed pretty cool.”

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Contributors Susan Bosley, Cory Cambridge, Ryan Francoz, Megan Funnell, Jordana Handler, Lara Hyde, Erika Lagyjanszki, Jennifer Merrick, Kimberly Moffit, Bonnie Schiedel, Janet Sangalang Copyright 2014 inBetween Magazine. All rights reserved. All images, unless otherwise noted, are Thinkstock.

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Bonnie Schiedel

is a writer and mom of one based in Thunder Bay, Ont., who wrote our cover story on Jane Seymour on page 34. As a teen she rarely gave her parents anything to worry about, but now has to admit that yes, mom and dad, she does regret the ankle tattoo she got when she was 18.

Jennifer Merrick is a Toronto-based freelance writer who enjoys sharing her enthusiasm for travel with her family. After many road trips, she’s learned the best way to deal with bickering in the backseat is to turn up the music loud enough not to hear them. This summer’s road trip will take them through Quebec, PEI, Maine and New Hampshire.

from Liz & Rachel

schiedel photo by laura myers . Editor portrait by Ryan Francoz

KEEPING YOUR COOL “You can’t control the happiness or destiny of someone else.” Spoken like a mom with years of experience, Jane Seymour’s nugget of wisdom is simplistic and undoubtedly true— especially when it comes to raising a teen or 20something. And she should know. As an actress, author, designer and mother to six, Seymour has seen her fair share of parenting wins and losses, and she speaks candidly about her tips and experiences on page 34. She’s obviously held her own because she’s the type of calm, cool and collected mother most women dream of being. All that and she’s 63 and still looks amazing. Not fair, right? Alan Thicke is another parent well-versed in the art of raising teens. A father of three, the Canadian actor has a new show called Unusually Thicke, in which he, his wife Tanya, and his teenage son Carter live out their crazy, somewhat scripted Hollywood lives. He was kind enough to share his thoughts on raising his sons, what he’s learned from the past, and how he and Jason Seaver compare on page 7. When it comes to trying parenting phases, we’ve tackled a slew of them this issue. We delve into the mother/teen son dynamic and

how to bridge the inevitable gap (page 18), how to keep it together when your child — teen or otherwise — brings home their first love (page 22), and what to do if you’re concerned your child has an eating disorder (page 14). On a lighter note, we’re also celebrating summer! To get you and yours beach-ready, we handpicked 21 figure-flattering—and affordable! — swimsuits for every body type (page 25), three off-the-beaten-track cross-Canada road trip destinations (page 38), and scoured two of Canada’s most male-friendly stores (Canadian Tire and Future Shop) for their best Father’s Day gifts (page 58). As always, we hope you like what you see and would love to hear from you. Write us at Rachel@inbetween.ca or Liz@inbetween.ca, and let us know your thoughts!

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Alan Thicke on life as a dad, his new show, Unusally Thicke, and what he and Jason Seaver have in common.

Photos this page and next, courtesy of Slice

Q: Your son Carter is 16. How different is parenting now compared to when your older sons were teens? A: The main difference is social media. Your values, your standards, your voice needs to be heard above the cacophony of the Internet universe. Q: How did your being an actor affect your elder sons, Brennan and Robin? A: Robin milked itâ&#x20AC;Śused it to meet girls and make friends. Brennan shunned it to be appreciated on his own terms. Both strategies worked for their personalities. Q: How do the stresses of your career and parenting compare?

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0ur checkered pasts catch up with us and can now be Googled for all to see A: Parenting always comes first; it’s my chosen legacy. A smarter person said “you’re only as happy as your saddest child.” Q: What have been your biggest parenting challenges? A: Hypocrisy. The “don’t do as I do, do as I say” bit. Our checkered pasts catch up with us and can now be Googled for all to see. Even between kids, I want to support (at least in principle) my eldest son’s medical cannabis business while telling my youngest not to smoke weed. His insomnia isn’t that bad! Q: On your show, Unusually Thicke, you’ve said that your wife Tanya is a big influence on Carter. How is her parenting style different than yours? A: She’s the sheriff, I’m the enabler. Q: What’s your advice for parents in the midst of raising a teen/young adult?

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A: Don’t wish them out of the house. You’ll miss them profoundly when it happens. Q: If you could go back, would you change anything in terms of the way you’ve raised your kids? A: I’d have the 15 writers from Growing Pains telling me what to say every day. Q: Speaking of which, how would you say your parenting style is different from Jason Seaver’s? A: We’re very similar in values but my behaviour isn’t always as good as his. I have more of a temper… and no censors to keep me in line. Q: You grew up in northern Ontario. Have your roots influenced who you are today? A: I took my boys to my hometown of Kirkland Lake every summer to know their ‘roots’. Those small-town, community-driven, hearty northern-folk values are still the best! ■

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84% The percentage of Ontario parents who want financial education in the classroom,

according to a survey for the Investor Education Fund (IEF).

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News Briefs

SCHOOL’S IN FOR SUMMER

Overly ambitious teenagers are taking advantage of the summer school system. (Yes, really.) Summer school is no longer just for struggling students and “slackers” — it’s the place for would-be scholars to advance their education and get better grades. In fact, school boards across Canada are reporting that in the past few years, summer schools have seen an increase in enrolment of over 20 per cent.

Get Active

Obesity has become a worldwide epidemic and problems start at a young age. According to Canada Health Measures Survey 2010, 93 per cent of Canadian youth aren’t meeting Canada’s Physical Activity Guidelines, and based on the findings of Active Healthy Kids Canada, 69 per cent of Canadian youth are logging more screen time than ever before. To get your kid moving, look into niche summer programs that will encourage your teen to be active on a daily basis— choose ones that incorporate activities like biking, hiking, swimming or running— and get the entire family outdoors (sans devices) after hours.

The Canadian youth unemployment rate for people aged 15 to 24 has been rising steadily for a year, hitting 14.5 per cent in April. In May the number dipped to 13.6 per cent as the economy surprised analysts with 54,000 new jobs for the age range.

TAINTED LOVE

Teens and young adults are known for their angsty outlook on life, but recent research says negative emotions felt during these years can have a lasting effect. According to a study conducted by the University of Alberta, depression and anger experienced in teenage and young adult years can grip a person well into middle age, and can affect romantic relationships, child-rearing and even careers. inbetween

ASK THE EXPERT with Kimberly Moffit

Q. I’m trying to keep an open mind, but I really

can’t stand my daughter’s new friend. She’s rude, disrespectful and is incredibly judgemental. I’m afraid her negative influence will rub off on my child. Do I ban their friendship? Will that even work?

A. Adolescents enter into

Kimberly Moffit is one of Canada’s most experienced relationship experts and provides practical advice for families, parenting and psychological topics. She’s a regular speaker for Queen’s University’s MBA and Women in Leadership Programs, and a frequent lecturer at the University of Waterloo. Kimberly also makes regular TV appearances on shows including CTV’s Canada AM, CBC’s The National, City TV News and Global TV’s Morning Show to name a few.

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friendships for all different kinds of reasons, and as adults, we’ve forgotten what it’s like to be in their shoes. There are pressures to be ‘in’ with the cool crowd, to have friends, and to not stand out in a negative way. You don’t know the social pressures your daughter is going through right now, and banning her from seeing her friend will likely only result in negative consequences for your relationship. Chances are it will embarrass her and make her distance herself from you. Your goal is to help your daughter make better decisions — not make decisions for her. Have an open conversation where you express your

concerns in a non-threatening manner. Explain to her the impression that her friend leaves, and ask her if it’s something she recognizes too. She may even notice her friend’s behaviour and be annoyed by it! The bottom line: Approaching her openly and in a non-judgemental way will help her be open with you and not feel like she’s backed into a corner. Good luck! ■

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Eating Disorders

Desperate to Be

Thin Eating disorders are rampant in teens and young adults. Hereâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s how to recognize the signs â&#x20AC;&#x201D; and how to help. by lara hyde

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Eating Disorders

Brenda Smith’s* daughter, Leslie, was 13 when she told her parents she was swearing off candy — something she loved and regularly consumed with abandon. That same year, Leslie also informed her parents of her plans to become a vegetarian. Smith recalls thinking both decisions were seemingly normal and to be expected from a health-conscious child on the fast track for adulthood, but looking back she recognizes that they were the first indicators of her daughter’s bizarre and unhealthy eating restrictions driven by her desire to lose weight. She’s far from alone. In fact, more teens and young adults than ever before are seeking treatment for eating disorders — anorexia, bulimia and binge eating among them — with 75 per cent of the sufferers female and 25 per cent male, says the Canadian Medical Association Journal. While many are quick to point fingers at the media for the continual growth and cite its unrealistic images of what defines beauty, for many sufferers, the roots of their disorder(s) are far more complex than simply a

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desire to be model thin. The warning signs Eating disorders aren’t always easy to diagnose; they don’t necessarily manifest themselves in a way that is obvious, which makes it critical for parents to trust their gut when they suspect their child may have a problem. “Eating disorders often have their root in anxiety disorders, which frequently occur alongside an eating disorder, and in many cases, occur first,” says Kim Ewing, a registered couples and family therapist practicing in Kelowna, BC. The most common form of anxiety to be linked with an eating disorder is obsessivecompulsive disorder (OCD), which can present itself as fears of eating in public, fear of food and weight gain, or compulsive rituals, such as weighing bits of food or cutting it into tiny pieces. Although eating disorders typically start between ages 13 and 24, studies have shown signs of body dissatisfaction in girls as young as five. Though it’s rarer for boys to suffer from them, experts say those who do are less likely to seek help due to feelings of shame and embarrassment. “These disorders are very

serious, and concerned parents should be watching for warning signs,” says Merryl Bear, director of the National Eating Disorder Information Centre (www.nedic.ca) based in Toronto. To put into perspective just how serious, The Renfrew Centre Foundation for Eating Disorders reports that a staggering 20 per cent of people suffering from anorexia will prematurely die from related complications, including suicide and heart problems. For Brenda and her husband, who live in Western Massachusetts, Internet research prompted them to reach out to a local therapist. “The problem was, when we asked about the symptoms we found, we were told that Leslie didn’t meet the classic eating disorder criteria and therefore ‘didn’t have an eating disorder,’ so we didn’t pursue treatment at the time,” she says. It was only after Leslie reached a crisis point and returned emaciated and listless from a two-week camp that they began to act. Thankfully, they were referred to a local pediatrician who was also an eating disorder specialist, and Leslie was hospitalized for medical stabilization. The

family then began the grueling process of treating their daughter at home, using a familybased treatment [see Getting Professional Help].

providing your child with a sense of comfort. Any threat of being separated from this source of comfort and control will be met with hostility.” Bear also emphasizes the How you can help importance of not becoming “Early intervention is vital discouraged by their denial, or because it can help prevent the any hostility projected. “If you development of a full-blown need to, communicate your eating disorder, minimizing issues understanding and concern and such as anxiety, depression, tell them you will revisit the transitional difficulties, conversation in three days. Then perfectionism and body image make sure you do.” before they become more Next, book an appointment complex and difficult to treat,” to have your child seen by an says Ewing. expert. “Many doctors don’t know Parents can get involved by enough about eating disorders, paying attention to the changes and it is recommended that you in their child’s mood or social tell the doctor what you suspect activities. “If your child starts to based on your research and see their friends less or seems observances,” says Bear. to show decreases in normal Finally, trust your instincts. functioning at school or in terms “If something feels wrong, then of their personality, these may something is wrong,” Smith says. be signs of a problem,” says Bear. “If your doctor tries to minimize Should you suspect your child has your concerns, ask for others an eating disorder, education and who are more familiar with eating action are paramount, she adds, disorders. My daughter isn’t but cautions that parents should fully recovered yet, but she’s be prepared for a potential living a full and happy life while fight. “It’s best to anticipate a finishing her treatment. Early fairly negative, often aggressive intervention helped make a world response,” she says. “Eating of difference for her.” ■ disorders often develop as a *Not her real name coping mechanism and may be

Getting Professional Help Treatment options for eating disorders are varied and case-specific. Unfortunately, the increase in those seeking treatment means long wait lists and a lack of appropriate treatment available for those who desperately need it. If you’re concerned, talk to your doctor about hospitalbased programs, private treatment centres, dietitian or nutritionist support, individual therapy with a specialized professional and family-based therapy, such as the Maudsley Approach. (This is an intensive outpatient treatment that can prevent hospitalization, provided parents are seen as a resource and take on an active role in treatment by working with their child to bring his or her weight back to normal levels.) In certain cases, when approved by a physician, SSRIs (antidepressants) may also be effective at regulating behaviours, particularly when the eating disorder co-occurs with another psychiatric disorder. inbetween

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Mom & Teen Son

The mom/son bond can take a serious hit when the teen years arrive. These tips can help bridge the gap. by jacqueline kovacs

trouble

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Mom & Teen Son

hen I was pregnant with

my son, Riley, he would kick so hard in utero that it would wake me up at night. As a toddler, he quickly moved from those first tentative steps to running — often wriggling his little hand out of mine or his dad’s and trying to bolt off whenever he could. Once he learned to speak, he was just as busy — he always had lots to say about food he liked, stories he loved, friends he enjoyed playing with. Fast-forward a decade or so and my once exhaustingly active boy has to be coaxed, cajoled and finally ordered out of bed on weekend afternoons. He comes home from high school and naps. He’s active on school teams, but doesn’t dash outside to ride his bike or play road hockey. And conversation? Ugh. Most of my questions are met with either grunts or “Fine,” “Yeah,” “Good” or other onesyllable answers. What the heck happened to the little boy who used to fight with his sisters for his turn to sit and talk with me?

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The teen years happened, says Win Harwood, a parent education consultant based in Windsor, Ont. “Their brains are changing,” says Harwood. “There is very rapid development from the teen years through to about age 22, and it really affects them and their behaviour.” That sleep thing, for instance? “Their sleep patterns are totally disrupted,” confirms Harwood. “They sleep longer in the morning and stay up later. They’re just wired that way.” That same wiring also leads them towards more risk-taking behaviour, Harwood warns. “It raises their levels of dopamine, a feel-good chemical in the brain,”

she says. “Plus, their ability to assess risk is simply not there.” That combination leads to bad decisions, such as street racing or substance abuse. Harwood points out that accidents are the No. 1 cause of death in teens; suicide is second. “They don’t understand the risks,” she says, “and they want to get along with their peers.” But while peers are important, parents are still paramount, Harwood argues. “Parents really need to stay connected,” she says. “You need to build a healthy relationship.” Agreed, but how do you stay connected to someone who answers you in grunts and avoids

Mom & Teen Son

by keeping it together and speaking calmly about your expectations, you will get your message across and strengthen your relationship daylight like a vampire? Turn off the spotlight. “If we want boys to talk, we need to do something with them,” says Harwood. It’s true that my son tends to open up when we are driving somewhere and I’m not sitting in front of him, looking at him and asking questions. He opens up with his dad when they’re watching hockey together. Conversation is easier, says Harwood, when they don’t feel like they’re being interrogated. Ironically, an activity that takes the focus off talking actually encourages conversation. Stay calm: Want your kid to clam up? Just lose your temper. Yes, it’s incredibly hard to keep your cool in the face of another broken curfew or over-usage of your phone plan, or their unbelievably messy rooms. But by keeping it together and speaking calmly about your expectations, you will get your message across and strengthen your relationship.

“You’re looking to build a relationship based on dignity, respect and love,” she says.

boy inside of them that needs affection and nurturing.” Affection can be tricky when, on the surface, your teen boy coach, Don’t control: seems to be pushing you away “They don’t want to be controlled by staying holed up in his room and will fight that,” says or endlessly drawn to some Harwood. “The old discipline video game. But it dawned on model rewarding compliant me one day that I hadn’t hugged behaviour and punishing nonmy boy in a couple of days. compliant behaviour is as When I went to hug him, he outdated as the typewriter.” didn’t brush me off. In fact, he As our teens grow up, we have shared a story from his day and to give them more and more talked about his next track-andindependence — as they merit field meet. it — and our role as parents Later in the day, while my shifts to a role of coaching them husband and I were watching the towards adulthood. news, Riley came to sit with me, Let them know the limits: eventually putting his head in my Just because your son has a lap — an old ritual we had from later curfew or now knows when he was littler and wanted how to drive doesn’t mean me to massage his head. So I did. he now has a free pass on My husband and I exchanged household rules. Teens want “awww!” looks but said nothing. and need limits, even if their “Connection trumps everybehaviour suggests otherwise, thing,” says Harwood. “We have says Harwood. “You still need to initiate contact and spend to nurture them,” she says. “A individual time with our teen teenage boy still has a small boys.” I couldn’t agree more. ■ inbetween

you’re bringing

WHO HOME? The good news: Your child is coming home from college or uni. The not-so-good news: They’re not alone. Here’s how to deal with having “Mr./Miss Right” in your home, and how to maintain your rules and values in the process. by cory cambridge

“I’m

coming home

for reading week!” Carolyn Brooks, a journalism student at Toronto’s Centennial College, told her mother, Kate. The Winnipeg-based mom hadn’t seen her daughter for months and was looking forward to having her home. Then she found out Carolyn was bringing company — her new boyfriend. “It was weird for me,” admits Kate. “She had never brought anyone home before, but I was happy she was coming so I didn’t say anything about her boyfriend.” That was, until she couldn’t keep quiet any longer. Just days after arriving, Kate saw what Carolyn didn’t — that her boyfriend was more dud than stud.

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“The first thing I noticed was how he changed her personality,” says Kate. “She went from being outgoing, bubbly and happy to someone who was very quiet and not laughing. Being with him had changed her whole demeanour. On top of that, the way he talked to her was very controlling and that didn’t sit well with me.” The week was met with polite conversation, and though Kate admits it made her uncomfortable to have the boyfriend in her house, she did her best to make him feel welcome. A day before the visit was over, however, Kate’s silence came to an end. She sat Carolyn down and told her she needed to dump the boy. “I couldn’t stay

out of it anymore. Sometimes when you’re in this kind of relationship you can’t see it, and an outsider has to be the one to show or tell you.” Months later, Kate’s daughter dumped the boy, and thankfully, the honest tête-à-tête didn’t put a strain on their mother/ daughter relationship. But that’s not always the case, which is why knowing when it’s appropriate to voice your concerns is integral, says Kimberly Moffit, Torontobased psychotherapist and relationship expert. Speak up or shut up? For many parents, having their son or daughter bring home a significant other is a rite of passage they would rather not

Dating

experience. Sure, they might be in their early 20s, but to parents they’re still their “child”. So when you don’t like the new boyfriend or girlfriend, it’s an especially difficult time. You either speak up and risk damaging the relationship with your son or daughter, or keep quiet and suffer in silence. “It’s very important to talk to your child if you see signs of abuse, control or manipulation,” says Moffit. “Have an educated discussion with your child and tell them, ‘Whatever it is you need, we are here for you. We

can’t tell you how to handle your relationship, but we notice this and we’re worried about you.’ For some parents it’s gut-wrenching, but ultimately your child has to make their own choices. It’s important to remember that everyone has their own life lessons.” If it’s a matter of simply thinking Mr. Right is Mr. Wrong, Moffit suggests a lesson in humility. Take a trip down memory lane and remember the frogs you went through before finding your prince. “It’s important for parents

to remember the silly dating mistakes they made and not be too judgemental.” Living with the enemy If there’s one area to pull no punches, it’s your standards and expectations of behaviour surrounding romantic relationships — especially when in your home. Since every family has different views on what is and isn’t acceptable, your rules should be clear. “It’s very neccessary for parents to discuss expectations in advance. If, for example, inbetween

Dating

you clearly state that your child will be in their room while their guest is in another, stand firm. Don’t allow any matters to be misunderstood,” says Paul Plant, a child and youth counsellor at Kinark Child and Family Services in Peterborough, Ont. “The time to talk with your chid about ground rules is before the rules are needed, and not as issues arise. That’s when fights begin.” Tempers can also flare if you lose yours, he says, which is why it’s paramount to remain neutral, even if you feel anything but. “As your child matures and invites a significant other to stay over at your home, it’s key for a parent to be respectful whether you like your child’s partner or not.” Moffit agrees, and adds that interactions with your child’s new love interest can be awkward due to an oldfashioned case of the nerves. “Take the high road, be polite and treat them the same way you would treat anyone else in your home,” she says. “Give them a chance to come around. They’re young and might be nervous if this is the first time they are meeting you.”

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YOUNG LOVE

Dealing with your child’s teen romance

For Debbie Zuk, a mom of two from Montreal, having her 16-year-old daughter bring her first boyfriend home was a shock. “They showed up and wanted to watch TV in the basement, and my husband and I said yes, but were upstairs having a fit! We didn’t want to be too obviously overbearing, so we paid my son to go downstairs and watch TV with them to be sure all was well. It was our on-the-fly solution,” she says. In situations like this, it’s best to take some deep breaths and try to relax, says Plant. “Once a child reaches their teen and early adult years, the parenting you’ve done has laid the foundation for his or her morals and values,” he says. “Continue to gently guide them, encourage good decisions and be prepared for a bit of boundary testing.” If you haven’t already, have ‘the talk’ Seeing your child with a significant other may be surprising, but it’s the reality of what’s looming that really strikes fear in the heart of parents. After all, hormones are revving up and s-e-x may be on the horizon, making the importance of ‘the talk’ paramount. “By age 11 or 12, hormones have already kicked in, so if you haven’t already had an open conversation about sex with your child, it’s time,” says Plant, adding that it’s essential for parents to be clear that kids can and should come to them any time with relationship questions. “Between the entertainment industry, peer pressure and their raging hormones, it’s important that parents be a source of accurate and honest information. Otherwise they rely on information from other sources, such as their friends or the Internet, which we know have a tendency to be misinformed.” It may be one of life’s most awkward conversations, but the results can make or break a teen in love. ■

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Largebust body type

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Smallbust body type

For smaller chests, itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s all about the details. Adding ruffles or a bold print helps add volume and drama while balancing the rest of your body. Try a bandeau, which can help create the illusion of a fuller chest. our favourites:

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Straight figure body type

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TummyCONTROL body type

Looking to camouflage your midsection? Choose styles with a high waist, or try the trend of the summer, the full-piece suit. Opt for contoured styles and ruching, or choose a suit with built-in control panels for a slimming effect. our favourites:

Tommy Hilfiger, $149, tommy.com

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Full hips & thighs body type

To flatter a full bottom, look for suits that accentuate the waist and hide the hips. Choose a brief or boyshort style in dark colours, or try a suit with details at the waist, chest and arms to draw the eye up and in. our favourites:

Tommy Hilfiger, $149, tommy.com

Joe Fresh, $16 (top), $19 (ruched bottom), joe.ca

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To minimize broad shoulders, keep the details on the neckline, which forces the eyes to travel inward. Look for halter-neck styles that break up the neckline and balance dimensions overall. our favourites:

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Tommy Hilfiger, $149, tommy.com

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Actor, artist, author, philanthropist. Fashion, decor and jewelry designer. Mother of six, grandmother of four. Juggling multiple roles is nothing new for parents, but Jane Seymour, 63, is taking it to a whole new level. INBETWEEN caught up with her to talk parenting, blended families and the benefits of stepping into a closet and punching a pillow. by bonnie schiedel

eymour, a prolific and award-winning actor, is known for a variety of roles: from “Bond girl” Solitaire in Live and Let Die and a comic turn as the frisky mother-of-thebride in Wedding Crashers to guest spots on How I Met Your Mother and Castle, and the title role in the long-running 90s Western hit Dr. Quinn, Medicine Woman. The one she’s most proud of, however, wasn’t filmed on set. An involved, loving mother to her now-grown kids, she says it’s her pursuit as mom that serves as her biggest source of pride. Here’s how she did and continues to do it.

Tip #1: Embrace co-parenting Though she’s the mother of Sean Flynn (36), Kate Simon (32), and twins Johnny and Kristopher Keach (18), and is technically a stepmother to Kalen Keach (36) and Jenni Flynn (33), Seymour makes it clear that she considers herself a moth-

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er of six. With the “s” word is not in her vocabulary, she points to her close relationships with the various blended family members as part of the reason she was able to navigate the potentially stormy waters of her four marriages and divorces. “The unique thing in our family is we’ve become very close friends with the other families,” she says. “Kalen’s mom and Jenni’s mom and I are very close, and we even get along with our mutual ex-husbands. We can all be in the same room at the same time. We all parented together. I think that was really important. For me, family is made up of people you love and who are important to you.” The end of a marriage is, of course, incredibly difficult. “My kids have been through divorce and remarriage and it wasn’t easy. But I also think when people are unhappy, and there’s unhappiness in the house, that’s even worse. [Ex-husband] James [Keach] and I get along

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when it comes to dealing with the children. We never stopped being a couple where that’s involved.” She says the reason for the smooth road is simple: she followed her own mom’s advice. “It’s about opening your heart, letting go and really trying to see the bigger picture, especially when children are concerned. I don’t want there to be animosity between the parents if I can help it.”

Tip #2: Give ‘em space, give ‘em limits That bigger-picture perspective has proved helpful in guiding her children through the fraught teen and young adult years. “You can’t control the happiness or destiny of someone else,” she says emphatically. “What you can do is encourage them, be supportive and listen. A lot of growing up is about breaking away from your family. I’ve noticed that they break away and then they come back, and all of a sudden it’s like, ‘Wow, how did you get so smart, Mom?’” That said, she adds that boundaries are key. “I think all kids need them,” noting wryly that kids may not say they want them, but they are ultimately grateful later on. “For example, I made sure punishments were established ahead of time: if you don’t do this, you will lose this

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I’ve noticed that they break away and then they come back privilege, whether it’s losing a toy when they’re younger or losing the use of the car when they’re older.”

Tip #3: Home is a haven Seymour made sure home was a welcoming, comfortable place. “I have strict rules, but I also enjoyed the fact that my kids could bring their friends home to a safe environment where they could all have fun.” That safe environment can provide a good framework for learning responsibility and owning up to mistakes, she says. “I realized with the older kids that once they go to college, you have no idea what they’re up to, so I’d rather they make mistakes before they go away. That way I’m close at hand if they do need help,” she says. “My whole thing with my kids is to be honest. No one expects perfection. If you mess up, then come clean and say ‘I’m really sorry, I made a bad choice and I’m going to do my best not to go there again.’” Tip #4: Be your best self (and hire a snakewrangler) Sometimes good parenting means

standing back and letting the messes happen. “It’s really hard to watch your kids make bad decisions, and to realize they have to learn from their bad decisions,” she says. “You can’t always protect them from everything, and, in fact, by trying to you’re not doing them any favours.” So what’s a parent to do? Somehow you have to stand back and accept that you cannot control someone else, but that you can control how you respond. “Two very good lines are, ‘I hear you,’ and ‘let me think about that and get back to you’!” With a laugh, she adds, “And then go beat up the pillow in the closet. I’m not saying you have to be calm! But try not to lose it in front of them whenever you possibly can.” Behaving like a grownup works on all kinds of levels, too. “I think kids watch how you behave. If you are strong, if you are consistent, if you enjoy your work, if you’re an honest person, if you behave nicely to people…a lot of that just rubs off on them. I’m absolutely thrilled when people tell me that my kids are well mannered and they can sit down and have a conversation at

Seymour loves visits with her daughter, Katie Simon, and granddaughter, Willa.

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the table. They’re not spoiled Hollywood brats, thank God.” Another way to model good behaviour? Do your best not to share your hang-ups with your kids, says Seymour, citing her dislike of snakes as an example. “I found someone who was very responsible and knowledgeable about them, and they taught the kids rather than me, because I didn’t want to pass my fears on.”

Tip #5: Ask their advice One of the simplest ways Seymour maintains connections is through family dinners. “I make a point of sitting down for dinner with my youngest kids every day, or if I’m away working then I’m on the phone with them, catching up,” says Seymour, whose busy work schedule currently includes filming a dance movie called High Strung

in Romania, an in-production indie film called Jake Squared, and executive producing a documentary called I’ll Be Me, about Glen Campbell’s Alzheimer’s diagnosis. She also enjoys asking her twin sons for advice about current projects. “I get their perspective. They love that.” As for the older kids, now parents themselves, connection means coming to visit with the babies (Seymour has four grandchildren, ages one through seven.) “I absolutely love and adore having the babies here,” she says. She encourages her adult children to hang out with their own friends and their children, as well, and is more than ready to watch her grandkids when they do. “We have everything they could possibly need. I did the house up with all the bits and pieces; the pushchairs and the playpens and the toys.”

Tip #6: Ride the wave Seymour reads her last parenting tip aloud from her latest book, The Wave: Inspiration for Navigation Life’s Changes & Challenges (West 26th Street Press), which also showcases her paintings (taking on multiple roles is clearly an art form for Seymour): “The cycle of life is so evident in the cyclical motion of the wave. It flows, it crests, it crashes, it lets go, it takes experience with it as it joins new water and connects with all its wisdom to become a new wave…all experience, both good and bad, is simply a part of the ‘cycle of life.’ It isn’t always a pleasant process, but if we’re open to it, the results can be more wonderful than we ever imagined.” She pauses. “That’s very pertinent for parenting, isn’t it?” ■ inbetween

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s kids grow older, opportunities for family vacations are as fleeting as summer itself. While jetting off to exotic locales may be tempting, with large tuition fees looming, a good old-fashioned road trip is a more feasible — and fun — getaway. Sure, there will be times where you threaten to leave your children on the side of the road (think of the memories!), but there are also those pinch-me, I-mustbe-dreaming moments that arise during a breathtaking sunset or an adrenaline-filled adventure that stay with you long after the trip is over. Not sure where to go? We’ve mapped out must-see, off-thebeaten-track destinations and attractions, perfect for even the moodiest travel companions.

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Canadian Badlands, Alberta

Venture to this decidedly un-Canadian landscape chock-full of desert canyons, hoodoos and sandstone hillsides, and have a western adventure of a lifetime with discoveries of ghost towns, dinosaur bones and First Nations’ spirituality.

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Highlights: Dinosaur Provincial Park “You literally can’t walk without stepping on a bone,” says Marie Tounissoux, a program director at the park. You’ll find large dinosaur bones that look like they should be exhibited in a museum instead of sticking casually out of the ground at this UNESCO Heritage Site. Check out the fossil safari, which unearths many petrified treasures, including a tooth of a prehistoric carnivore.

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Drumheller The world’s largest man-made dinosaur guards this former coal-mining town. Climb up 85 feet into the giant mascot’s jaw for a dinosaur-eyed view of this Badlands town. Get a glimpse of the real deal at the Royal Tyrrell Museum, dedicated entirely to paleontology.

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Ghost Towns Jackie Chan’s Shanghai Noon and Clint Eastwood’s Unforgiven were shot in Wayne, Alberta, population 40. In the midst of abandoned buildings and brokendown equipment proudly stands the Last Chance Saloon. Nicknamed ‘Bucket of Blood’ back in the day because of fights among miners, it’s now a character-filled place to have a meal. Next door is a general store that serves ice cream.

Tipi Sleepover at Blackfoot Crossing Park “Everything around us has a song and a prayer,” says Laura Sitting Eagle, an interpreter at the museum. “Everything is a gift from our creator.” Families can spend the night at this site, which has been the meeting place of the Blackfoot people for thousands of years. inbetween

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Fundy Shore and Annapolis Valley, No

Many road-trippers head to Cape Breton for the Cabot Trail or to Lunenburg for its history and to visit the Bluenose II, but for a road lesstravelled experience, the Fundy Shore and Annapolis Valley offer stunning coastal scenery, a rich Acadian history, lush farmland and the petrified remains of one of the first creatures ever to roam the Earth.

Why:

Highlights: TIDAL BORE RAFTING At 54 feet, the Minas Basin has the highest tides in the world. One hundred billion tonnes of sea water rush in and out daily — more than all the fresh water rivers in the world combined. To feel this incredible power up close, raft the tidal bore on the Shubenacadie River. The three- to 12-foot rapids the waves create occur nowhere else on Earth.

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BLOMINDON Provincial Park The lookout point here is a calmer way to appreciate the tides. From the cliffs, which can reach in height to 600 feet, gaze at the red sands that stretch for miles until they reach the sparkling water.

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Grand Pre National Historic Site A statue of Evangeline, the romantic Acadian heroine who inspired Longfellow’s poem of the same name, stands on the site of the church and cemetery of the 17th century village. It commemorates the Acadians who were exiled from this land in the 18th century. The visitor centre’s poignant exhibitions details this less-thanproud moment in Canadian history.

Wolfville Home to Acadia University, this small town of 4,000 has a thriving cultural scene with many local galleries and theatres, and no chain restaurants or big-box stores in sight. Eateries here were among the first to jump on the local food wagon. And no wonder— the Annapolis Valley is the agricultural heartland of Nova Scotia. As you drive through the region, be sure to stop at a few of the vineyards and farms to taste the sweet bounty of the land. inbetween

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The Outaouais Region, Quebec

Just a short drive from Ottawa, the Outaouais Region in western Quebec offers an opportunity to explore caves, experience eco-adventures and discover nature encounters of the wildest kind.

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Highlights: Parc Omega “It’s completely different from a zoo,” says owner Oliver Favre. “A zoo has exotic animals in a small space — we have native animals in a big space.” Upon entering this 2,225-acre property, you’ll experience elk, who will steal your heart before stealing your carrots. Also on the premises: deer, buffalo, moose, wolves, bears and caribou in their natural habitat. If you want a true Canadian safari experience, stay overnight at one of their glamping-styled accommodations.

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Camp Explora If you’re a fan of The Amazing Race, you’ll love this adventure that combines a thrilling ATV ride with computer gaming and history. Take off on electric ATVs (low on noise and pollution) with an iPad to solve riddles on Mount Explora in Montebello. You’ll learn a little about history, too, but don’t mention that to your teens.

Kenauk Nature Resort Kenauk means turtle in Algonquin, and symbolizes Earth, healing and tranquility, all of which you’ll find in abundance here. The secluded chalets, set in pristine wilderness, have been enjoyed by heads of state and film stars, including, Sir Richard Attenborough, Pierce Brosnan, Nick Nolte and Chris O’Donnell. No cellphone access means you’ll have no choice but to unplug and unwind, and listen to the haunting sounds of loons. A nice change from incoming text beeps. ■ inbetween

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he concrete steps outside the Plaza del Mercado in Santurce, Puerto Rico, are the best seats in the city. People-watching is in its prime at this location where locals of all ages come to gather, drink, eat and blow off steam after a long workday. Moms in four-inch heels are laughing on a park bench, sipping mojitos and chatting while their little girls — no older than five — sit content on the ground colouring. Groups of teen boys chat stealing glances and smiles from the circle of girls sipping fresh fruit smoothies. Men run back and forth from the neighbouring bar across the street, chilled cans of beer in hand. Loud Caribbean music blasts in the background — a beat that can’t be resisted by patrons in line for a cold drink as their hips sway in authenticity to the rhythm of salsa. Nearby is the grittier part of Santurce. Scrawny cats and dogs with droopy teats dodge in and out of laneways while women sweep the dirt from their concrete floors onto the streets. Laundry is strewn on lines in front lawns with house fronts hidden behind black steel bars. The area comes alive at night, but it’s not one tourists want to be

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Above: A local shares a moment with one of the many stray cats in Santurce. To the right: Murals give new life to old, abandoned buildings.

walking alone in past 10 p.m. Just a street away sits Jose Enrique restaurant. It’s a nondescript joint located in a bright pink house. There’s no sign yet every local knows it’s the place to eat. Open at 6:30 each night, if patrons want a seat at first sitting, they have to get there ahead of time to put their name on the list. The eatery serves the type of fare you’d expect from a multi-starred locale. Chef Jose Enrique, who was chosen as a semifinalist in 2013 in the “Best Chef South” category for the James Beard Foundation award, prides himself on bringing guests the very best of Puerto Rican cuisine. From cheese fritters, which come golden fried and topped with a pineapple chipolte sauce, to the crumbled fillet entrée, dishes from the kitchen of Jose Enrique are the epitome of decadence. Beyond its delicious fare, Santurce is stealing visitors from

nearby typical tourist destination Old San Juan for another reason — its burgeoning art scene. “Art, I don’t want Santurce without you” The words, painted in Spanish on a brick wall against a white backdrop, speak volumes of the locals’ stance on art in Santurce. The largest neighbourhood in Puerto Rico, it’s chock-full of inspiring museums, concert halls, paintings, sculptures, graffiti and murals. Once crime-ridden and poverty-stricken, the area, which was abandoned by local government and considered to be the poorest on the island, is experiencing a re-gentrification that is seeing modern buildings

The Work of Columbian artist Fernando Betero, who is renowned for sculpting volumptious women.

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and restaurants dot the streets alongside abandoned apartments and businesses. Once governed by an anti-graffiti mayor, it’s been given new life by new mayor, Carmen Yulín Cruz, who is known for supporting local businesses and using art as a way to beautify and rejuvenate the developing area. Santurce is now home to two art festivals — Santurce Es Ley and Los Muros Hablan. The former started four years ago in an attempt to unite different styles of independent artists and breathe new life into a once downtrodden neighbourhood. (Last year, the festival occurred in April. A date has not yet been set for 2014.) The latter festival has only happened once, yet the fruits of it are still found alongside abandoned buildings in the form of explosive colours and faces, painted by everyone from local tattoo artists to Columbian painters and even 15-year-old girls from a nearby allgirls school.

The Museo de Arte: www.mapr.org/es Once a hospital, the tourism board pressured the government to transform the abandoned building into an art museum. Exhibits are devoted to everything from classic art to more recent works from 1930-1960. Behind the museum, locals and visitors can walk through a scenic sculpture garden, which has also become a popular venue for weddings. Centro de Bellas Artes: www.cba.gobierno.pr/ This venue showcases theatre, dance and music events. Outside the contemporary-styled building sits “The Muses,” an assortment of six-foot-tall copper sculptures each representing the different arts and cultures, the Centre embraces, including local and classical music, theatre, literature, dance, films, architecture, sculptures and painting. Book a tour Every painting has a story and local Melani Daniels from Puerto Rico & Co. (www.puertoricoandco.com) knows them all, plus has an insider scoop on the best restos, bars and music in the area. Casita Blanca: After you’ve worked up an appetite, stop here for a hearty homemade lunch. Chicken soup, fresh bread and fish fritters arrive at the table before you even order. If you still have room, try some of its authentic Puerto Rican fare including chicken stew, red snapper and fried skirt steak with onions.

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History in the making

If your teen is a history buff (or you’d like him to be), book a tour of Old San Juan and stop in at the Castillo San Cristóbal — the biggest fort built by the Spanish in America. Walk in the footsteps of 17th century soldiers who used San Cristóbal to guard against enemy approaches by land. Watch where the first shots of the Spanish-American War were fired and be sure to visit the overlook for the Devil’s Sentry Box or the “Garita del Diablo,” from which, according to legend, soldiers mysteriously disappeared. Be sure to head to the dungeon and show your teens how good they have it. Guides will flip off the lights, creating total darkness save for a small flicker of light coming from a five-inch gap in the wall. Lastly, don’t forget your camera as San Cristóbal offers stunning panoramic views of the coast from Old San Juan to Condado and beyond.

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Where to stay

Located in the heart of lively Condado Beach, the San Juan Marriott Resort & Stellaris Casino not only fits the family-friendly bill, it’s just steps away from safe streets with a myriad of high-end shops, restaurants and bars. Active families can keep fit with a rival game of on-site tennis and volleyball and later stretch their muscles at yoga class, which is offered some mornings for $5. For-rent bikes give kids the freedom to explore Condado Beach on their own, and a chance for you to de-stress at the Ocean Club Spa. As for food, one thing is for certain here — variety won’t be an issue. La Vista Latin Grill & Bar offers a delicious breakfast buffet — the perfect antidote for teenage bottomless pits — while lunch at La Isla Beach Bar is a great option with American favourites against a beach backdrop. For more sophisticated fare, The Red Coral Lounge serves signature cocktails and delicious bites of fish tacos, tostones and empanadas. This newly renovated space also showcases amazing live entertainment, DJs and salsa lessons! For other on-site entertainment, try your luck at the 24-hour Stellaris Casino, which offers state-of-the-art VLTs and gaming tables. Also available is the “You Shoot, We Share” video service, which enables guests to record their Puerto Rican adventures on their smartphone or on a borrowed-from-the-hotel GoPro camera. The video is professionally edited and added to the hotel’s YouTube channel. ■

From the graffiti murals in Santurce to the colourful Spanish colonial architecture in Old San Juan, visitors staying at the San Juan Marriott Resort now have an opportunity to experience the latest and emerging art scene developments. Visit www.marriottsanjuan.com to find out how you can book your own Artsy San Juan package.

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SelfTanning

When it comes to sunkissed skin, faux is the way to go. by liz bruckner We get it: Applying selftanners can be a risk. If you’re not overwhelmed with that smell, there’s the worry of streaks, not knowing which product to try, and looking, well, Oompa Loompa-ish. The good news? Self-tanners aren’t what they used to be, and a few simple prep steps can all but eliminate your concerns.

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The issue: Self-tanning novice The fix: Newbie or not, the trick to uniform coverage is being generous with product application, says Janine Falcon, beauty expert and founder of Beautygeeks (imabeautygeek.com). “It sounds counterintuitive, but streaks happen when there isn’t enough applied on skin, and it drags and misses spots.” Still worried? Consider an applicator mitt, which protects your palms from staining, saves product and allows it to glide on effortlessly, says Sophie Evans, St. Tropez Skin Finishing Expert. inbetween

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Need a little product guidance?

Here are some self-tanners we love. The issue: Faulty application The fix: Avoiding streaks and patches comes down to being prepared, so take the time to ensure you do your pre- and post-application due diligence. Before you start, use your favourite body scrub or handfuls of white sugar to perform a thorough buff in the shower, then apply moisturizer to the tops of your feet, ankles, knees and elbows, says Falcon. “The skin in these areas is a bit different, drier and more textured than on the rest of the body, and prone to absorbing product unevenly. Moisturizing them first levels the playing field, if you will.” Once you apply tanner generously, wash your hands immediately following application so you don’t get orange palms. Falcon also advises wiping any residue off toenails after you finish your feet. The issue: Product uncertainty The fix: While normal skin can use pretty much any product formula — spray, mousse, lotion or oil — dry and sensitive types do better with lotion, which tends to be more emollient and kinder to these skin types. People with oily skin typically don’t have that issue on their bodies, so Falcon advises going with whichever format appeals. As for your face, Evans says that because self-tanners have a tendency to show a little darker because of higher pH level in this area, a good rule of thumb is to use a regular moisturizer and apply your tanner of choice on top. Opting for a face-specific product is also an option, says Falcon, since some have built-in SPF, which protects skin for a couple of hours after application. The issue: That smell The fix: Look for glow moisturizers made with less DHA or no-odour formulas to keep tanner scent to a minimum. “I particularly like St. Tropez Self Tan Luxe Dry Oil because it gives a subtle gleam, but smells lovely and fresh since they designed the product’s fragrance to work with the ‘notes’ typically found in self-tanners. It makes the overall result far more bearable,” Falcon says. ■

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Hotel Workout

WORKOUT:

Suite Sweat Travel can fizzle out the best of exercise intentions. Thankfully, getting a great workout without leaving your hotel room is entirely possible. by susan bosley photos by erika lagyjanszki shot on location at trump international hotel & tower toronto

Triceps dip and hold

Using the bathtub for support (or a desk, club chair or coffee table in a pinch) sit down and scoot off, keeping your spine as close to the object as possible, and slowly begin to bend your arms until your bum is close to the floor. Use the same intensity on the way back up. After you’ve completed your personal best, try to dip half way and hold for 30 seconds. Reps: 10

Although fun, travel can throw a real wrench in the best laid fitness plans. Sure, many hotels are fitted with gyms, but let’s face it, running on a treadmill while staring at a sterile white wall can be less than inspiring. With that in mind, here’s a workout to get your heart pumping — all in the comfort of your cushy suite.

Bridge lift and squeeze

On your back with knees up, keep your feet close to your bum. Without using your arms to push yourself up, use your bum and hamstrings to slowly dig your heels in and peel your spine off of the floor. Squeeze your bum until your hips are as high as you can get them. Hold for five seconds, squeezing consistently, then slowly lower one vertebrae at a time. Visualize your hamstrings working as well for optimum results. Reps: 20

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Ballerina kick-back

Side plank hip-ups

Holding on to a desk chair or club chair back, turn one knee out to the side, overlapping at the ankle. Keeping your body upright and your leg bent, pull your belly button in for lower back support and begin to extend your bent leg behind you without arching your back. Feel the contraction in your muffin top area. Reps: 20 on each leg

Laying on your side with legs bent, stack your hips and rise up on an elbow, using your opposite hand for support on the floor. Either push off with your hand or lift your hips slowly. You should feel it in your waist after a few repetitions. Repeat on the other side. Reps: 10-20 on each side

FIT TIP

Plank to Downward Dog

Spread your fingers in a starfish shape â&#x20AC;&#x201D; this will help ease tension on your wrists and distribute the base of the plank position â&#x20AC;&#x201D; and with your hands directly under your shoulders, keep your bum parallel to the floor. Count to three while maintaining the plank, then lift your tailbone to the sky, pushing the floor away with strong and straight arms. Make sure to keep your biceps right by your ears, heels heading for the floor. Keep your eyes open and breathe deeply for three inhales and exhales, then return to plank, keeping your body parallel to the floor without letting your hips sink. Reps: 10-20

Get your heart rate up! Take the stairs instead of the elevator for a quick cardio fix.

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Hotel Workout

Frankenstein Forward

Using water bottles from your room, extend arms forward at chest level and alternate extending and pushing your left arm forward, then your right arm, then bring both forward. Try speeding up the process if you’re comfortable. Reps: 20, or continually for 1 minute

Susan Bosley is the owner and creator of “SkinnyLegs.” (skinnylegs.ca), a whole body, non-bulking, non-repetitive approach to creating a longer, leaner, stronger, slimmer you.

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Sick of giving neck ties? Here are some fun and functional gift ideas he’s sure to love.

Pizzacraft PizzaQue Propane Pizza Oven Combining two of his loves — pizza and cooking with propane — now Dad can prepare a feast of stone-oven pizza in the backyard. Buy it: Canadian Tire, $300

Mastercraft 20V Max Lithium-Ion 3-Tool Drill, Multi-crafter and Circ Saw Combo Kit Inspire him to get on those home renos with this kit. The tools feature a lithium Ion battery that offers more power and a longer run time, two 1.3Ah batteries, a charger and a soft case to store them. Buy it: Canadian Tire, $300

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Leatherman Wingman Tool For the handy dad, this all-in-one tool is the perfect fix-it solution for the home and cottage. Its one-hand opening and springaction jaws make it the tool that rules. Buy it: Future Shop, $44

Logitech Harmony Ultimate One Remote Men and their remotes. This high-tech ‘clicker’ allows Dad to customize controls and streamline the channel-changing process. Able to store up to 50 favourites on the touch screen, you may have to fight him for screen time. Buy it: Future Shop, $250

The Beer Machine Inspire his inner brew master with this machine offering more than 20 varieties of easily crafted ale, including light, stout or lager. Naturally carbonated with a pressure control system, The Beer Machine dispenses homemade brew with just the right amount of fizz and foam. Buy it: FutureShop.ca, $120

SKLZ Quickster Golf Net Just fore him! Now Dad can practice his swing in this 6 x 6’ net made with a composite steel and a fibreglass Tension-Tite™ frame Buy it: Canadian Tire, $200

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