JAYE magazine August 2009: The Back-to-School Issue

JAYE August 2009

make the most of your money, P. 76

Because College is More than the Classroom

Christiana Harris

fall’s freshest beauty trends

find your perfect look now! trading places Is today’s woman interested in a submissive man?

f o s y a 31 d -toBack l schoo n o i h s a f

starts the next chapter in her life

be your professor’s dream student (we’ll show you how!) newsflash to young hollywood — enough with the “leaked” sex tapes!

h the hottest it w le y t s f o t e dean’s lis th n o r jewelry e t s & e s m g e s a r b u , o s y Start s, dresse t e k c a j , s shoes, top at’s hot in denim -33 See pages 30

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31 days of back-to- school fashion Start your semester on the dean’s list of style with the hottest shoes, tops, jackets, dresses, bags & jewelry

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Christiana harris starts the next chapter in her life

72 be your professor’s dream

student

(we’ll show you how!)

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make the most of your money

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trading places Is today’s woman interested in a submissive man?

105 fall’s freshest

beauty trends Find your perfect look

now!

116

Put down that iced latte

128 newsflash to

young hollywood Enough with the

“leaked” sex tapes!

beauty buzz

44 beauty bulletin Inexpensive mani/

pedi products, hot

headbands and the

perfect back-to-school

eyebrow kit 46

beauty buys Perfumes perfect for any back-to-school setting

style in a snap

8 editor’s obsession The JAYE fashion team

can’t get enough of fall’s

crop of statement

necklaces 10 style study guide Fall’s neon trend and how

to make it work for you 42 designer spotlight Brian Reyes and his

sophisticated separates

fit for the power woman

on the go

fashion focus

88 on the horizon A first look at the key

trends for fall inspired by

designer collections

The IN Thing P. 15-41 the hottest trends in layering, graphic prints and pleating, the best peep-toe booties, the metallic trend for under $50, denim for every attitude; more

98 extras, extras Accessories take center

stage this season — the

bigger, the better

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118 features

56 crazy, sexy, cool Determined to show that

she’s equal parts bright

as she is beautiful, Christiana Harris

embarks on a new

journey — dental school

By Michael Jones 70 teacher’s pet As you head back to

school, use our handy

guide to help you score

points with your profs

76 Show me the money Everything you need to

know about preserving

your hard-earned

summer savings during

this tough economic

climate

The Regulars

JAYE pulse

51 scoop An interview with the

songwriter of Heidi Montag’s latest single,

eight must-hear albums,

plus more 63 JAYE digest Who’s the face of the GOP, the case against

marijuana, plus more 68 on the job Refining your

interviewing skills, the

411 on office politics,

plus more 128 till we meet again An open letter to starlets

urging them to put a stop

to the infamous “leaked”

sex tape

sex 101 81

Powerful women dating submissive men: a do or don’t, aphrodisiacs you’ll love, plus more

76 what’s it like to be

in love Through the ups and

downs, this young

couple’s

relationship continues to

7 Memo from Mike

flourish

By Terin Bufford

12 Masthead

beauty & Health

128 Horoscope

105 flawlessly fresh

Fall’s array of hair and makeup trends

offer something for everyone

By Randall Upshaw 112

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what’s beauty got to do with it Randall Upshaw looks for answers to why strong women are still judged on their outer appearance, and not their intelligence and work ethic

116 the case against caffeine TaNesha Spratling delivers facts on the

stimulant we can’t seem to live without

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118 addictions explained How to help someone you love bound by

dependency

By Michael Jones 122 5 common health problems and

solutions to them

Prevention is key with these issues

120 health headliners

Preventing cavities, dealing with stress,

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Memo from mike

JAYE August 2009

Here: The key to acing your courses: take notes and pay attention in class.

Right: Get a head start on fall’s key trends.

fresh starts & first looks

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don’t know about you, but to me, heading back to school represents a fresh start of sorts — you know, an opportunity to lay the foundation to receive that coveted dean’s list certificate in December. It gives you a chance to create a schedule that carves out enough time a few days a week for you to visit the campus recreation center and stay in tip-top shape.

It also allows you to build long-lasting relationships with new professors — and to continue to cultivate already-established ones with profs you’ve had before.

Check out our package “Teacher’s Pet” on p. 72 filled with tips and suggestions on how to positively stand out to your instructors and maximize your learning experience in their courses. (And believe me, these tips come in handy at the end of the semester when you’re a point or two away from an A, and it’s up to your professor to bump you up or not!)

Updating your wardrobe is another advantage back-to-school season affords, and in “31 Days of Backto-School Style” on p. 36, Saneeta Harris, our new uberstylish fashion director, picked the pieces worth spending your summer savings on to keep you on-trend all school-year long. And for you fashion mavens that are always looking ahead, behold “On the Horizon” on p. 88, our annual fall preview, which gives you a sneak peek of what’s for the season ahead.

With this month’s issue as your guide, and the ambition and zeal to be the best you can be, there’s no doubt in my mind that the sky’s the limit for you. Shoot Michael Jones Editor-in-Chief me an e-mail and tell me how you’re going to make the most of this semester. In jayemagmike@gmail.com the meantime, as always, have a ball reading the issue!

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speak your mind! Whether you’re complimenting us, or calling us out, we want your feedback! We reply to your notes, so to let us know what you think!

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editors’ obsession why we love it: ■ Take a moment and thank the fashion divinities for allowing accessories to take center stage the last few seasons — and we’re glad that statement accessories are sticking around for fall. After all, what’s easier than throwing on a pair of jeans, a solid t-shirt and taking it up a knotch with an oversize necklace like this one. And coming in under $12, the jewelry may be big, but luckily, the price tag isn’t. $11.80, Forever 21; forever21.com.

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jaye style study guide the look du jour: brights ■ Fashion lovers were all smiles when Marc Jacobs sent his models down the runway in vibrant neons anchored with black basics like tights, bags and boots, channeling flashbacks to the ‘80s. You can get the look too!

But don’t overdo it — center your outfit around one bold piece, or your friends may send you back to the decade that inspired this trend!

the celeb way:

others rockin’ the look:

on the runway:

Gossip Girl’s Taylor Momsen shows she’s rough around the edges in fishnets and leather and a pop of color.

Victoria Beckham in Antonio Berardi’s pink dress looking perfectly chic.

Marc Jacobs, Fall 2009

get the look $82, Chinese Laundry; shoes.com.

$14.80, Forever 21; forever21.com.

$36, Topshop; topshop.com.

$52, Max C London; asos.com. $359.99, Marc by Marc Jacobs; piperlime.com.

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Amy Adams cameraready in an oceanblue stunner.

all photos excepts marc jacobs: zimbio. Jacobs: Style.com.

Jessica Stroup and January Jones show birds of a bright feather flock together in Herve Leger.

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the staff Editor-in-Chief Michael Jones executive editor

Melissa Kimble

Fashion director

Saneeta Harris

MANAGING EDITOR Jillian Risnes BEAUTY & HEALTH DIRECTOR Randall Upshaw design director Omega Hensley special projects editor Erin Dustin deputy editor Michelle Halpern

Fashion

Market director Chandler Stephens ACCESSORIES DIRECTOR Dara Adeeyo Fashion Editor Angela Vereen fashion FEATURES Editor Colleen Moody style & Market editor Ashley Williams associate fashion editor Lyndsay McGregor ACCESSORIES EDITOR Catrina Gunter associate market editors Arriel Ginter, Cheryl Simmons Fashion writer Sarah Sudar

BEAUTY beauty editor Mary Rice ASSISTANT BEAUTY EDITOR TaNesha Spratling Features

Features editor Julia Dorce senior editors Arianna Davis, Sarah Shanfield Articles EDITOR Deja Gilmore ASSOCIATE EDITORS Terin Bufford, Amaris Castillo ASSISTANT EDITOR Kristin D’Auria editorial assistant Alexandria Byrd

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it’s never too early Fall’s on the horizon, and must-haves for the of list to start making your se pesky earlytho like Un . upcoming season no late-night cramming semester pop quizzes, be a style scholar; sessions are needed to es for a sneak peek of pag simply refer to these good to go! what’s ahead and you’re cinching feminine and g erin Lay : What’s IN separates Invest in classic pieces in How to get the look: nd well with each other — a neutral colors that mix don’t forget the tights! e k: We love layers becaus Places to wear the loo basics the on Pile gs. tin set they work in almost all remove ‘em when your when you’re chilly, and ut about comfort! not — fall fashion is abo where she showed layReferences: Lela Rose, r. unexpected pops of colo h ered charcoal grays wit m e JAYE Fashion Tea Your style professors, Th

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the in thing $540, Vivienne Westwood Anglomania; net-a-porter.com. bang for your buck Exchange a collarless jacket for a knit cardigan to create more versatile looks.

$425, Missoni; brownsfashion.com.

$39.99, J. Crew; jcrew.com.

$1400, Bottega Veneta; net-a-porter.com.

$3.99, Alloy; shop.alloy.com.

$10, Chasing Fireflies; chasing-fireflies.com.

$19.99, Turquoise; turquoiseboutique.com.

$60, Vince; brownsfashion.com. $19.99, Alloy; shop.alloy.com.

$22.99, Charlotte Russe; charlotterusse.com.

make the trend yours $12.99, Linea Pelle; lpcollection.com.

Lovely Layers

Fall’s mandate the chic and fabulous adhere to: pairng versatile basics with well-placed pops of color and cinching it all together

$225, Tory Burch; net-a-porter.com.

$10, Lipsy; lipsy.co.uk.

$8, Dorothy Perkins; dorothyperkins.com.

$467, Boy by Band of Outsiders; lagarconne.com. $1975, Jil Sander; net-a-porter.com.

$88 for pack of two, Falke; net-a-porter.com.

$18, Miso; republic.co.uk.

$12, A|wear; awear.com.

$9.99, Glitter Divaz; glitterdivaz.com. $79, Nine West; piperlime.com.

$22, Rip Curl; tillys.com.

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$30, Topshop; topshop.com.

$50, Topshop; topshop.com.

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clean slate Simple, solid t-shirts break up busy patterns and keep your look sleekly sophisticated.

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graphic design There’s no better way to attract attention this fall than with printed-skirts, to-die-for dresses in varied lengths and tribal accessories

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neck knowledge 86 the neckwear in favor of dangly earrings that draw attention to your facial features.

1. Dress $34.50, Delia’s; store.delias.com. 2. Sandals $44, Roxy; roxy.com. 3. Skirt $15.80, Forever 21; forever21.com. 4. T-shirt $16.50, Delia’s; store.delias.com. 5. Dress $36, Topshop; topshop.com. 6. Dress $29.99, Charlotte Russe; charlotterusse.com.

7. Sandals $130, Michael Kors; michaelkors.com. 8. Earrings $7, Jewellry by Diva; missselfridge.com. 9. Sandals $69.95, Steve Madden; stevemadden.com. 10. Earrings $8.20, Dorothy Perkins; dorothyperkins.com. 11. Sandals $39.99, Nine West; piperlime.com.

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flashing brights As long as the shapes are unfussy, bright colors are ideal matches with skirts in subdued palettes.

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in the crease

Hide problem areas and accentuate features you adore with the assortment of ruffles and pleats designers sent down the catwalk

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follow suit Pair tops with pleated details with more structured pant-and-jacket sets for a dose of personality and professionalism.

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1. Skirt $50, Topshop; topshop.com. 2. Dress $50, Lipsy; lipsy.co.uk. 3. Skirt $1455, Chloé; net-a-porter.com 4. Sandals $100, Carvela; oli.co.uk. 5. Dress $34.99, Charlotte Russe; charlotterusse.com. 6. Top $32, Topshop; topshop.com.

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Drama Queen

The perfect haven for your back-to-school essentials: a carryall equal parts durable and dazzling

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valentino $2395, neimanmarcus.com.

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Size Matters Score some extra credit points in Style 101 by investing in super-sized statement necklaces Fashion Editor: Dara Adeeyo

Clockwise from top left: mango $49.50, mangoshop.com. couture couture by juicy couture $268, neimanmarcus.com. forever 21 $220, forever21.com.

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Little Bow Peep With a variety of textured finishes, hardware details and superaffordable price points, shoe guru Steve Madden sets the tone for fall Fashion Editor: Dara Adeeyo

Clockwise from top left: steve madden from $109.95 to $129.95; stevemadden.com.

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the in thing 1. Necklace $14.80, Forever21; forever21.com.

2. Earrings $6, Miss Selfridge; missselfridge.com.

3. Top $22.99, Charlotte Russe; charlotterusse.com 4. Shrug $22.80, Forever 21; forever21.com. 5. Clutch $42, Lunacy Boutique; lunacyboutique.co.uk.

6. Bangle $5.80, Forever 21; forever21.com. 7. Shoes $9.99, Ami Clubwear; amiclubwear. com. 8. Tote $35, Yes Style; yesstyle.com.

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The JAYE Back-toSchool Denim Guide

denim directive: Show your personality with your everyday jeans by opting for skinny or boot-cut styles with acid-washes or distressed details. $80, Topshop; topshop.com. light bright Don’t be afraid to match your eye-catching acidwashed jeans with vibrant colors in classic shapes.

$39.50, American Eagle; ae.com. $190, 7 For All Mankind; net-a-porter.com.

Never Denim

Complete the Look $203, Helmut Lang; lagarconne.com. $11.50, Calvin Klein; debenhams.com. $14.99, Delia’s; delias.com.

borrow from the boys The boyfriend jean is still a hot trend. Pair yours with comfy flats and a fitted tank for a chic day look.

$4, Charlotte Russe; charlotterusse.com.

$46, Betsey Johnson; zappos.com. $60, Bags of Sparkle; bagsofsparkle.com.

$15, Wet Seal; wetseal.com.

$39.50, Gap; gap.com.

$90, Aldo; aldoshoes.com. $245, Elizabeth and James; net-a-porter.com.

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the in thing denim directive: On the weekend, comfort is paramount, so choose shorts, leggings and rompers that pair well with eye-catching accessories.

$190, 7 For All Mankind; net-a-porter.com. $174, True Religion; shop.metropark.com.

$36.50, Bullhead; shop.pacsun.com.

Twenty8Twelve

$180, Juicy Couture; mytheresa.com.

Complete the Look

$76, T by Alexander Wang; lagarconne.com. $4, Charlotte Russe; charlotterusse.com.

$70, Chinese Laundry; piperlime.com.

$161, Erin Wasson X RVCA; lagarconne.com.

best of both worlds These must-haves offer the comfort of denim and the sleekness of leggings.

$331, Tuleh Ray; bluefly.com.

$48, Arden B.; ardenb.com. $1295, Alexander Wang; net-a-porter.com.

one-piece wonder Late for that early-semester 8:00 class? Throw this romper on for a quick, unfussy look.

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The JAYE Back-toSchool Denim Guide

denim directive: For the office, stick with wide-leg jeans in a dark wash that can easily substitute for slacks and trousers.

$50, Kitson Robertson; bunnyhug.co.uk.

$65, Kew; kew-online.com.

$90, Levi’s; oli.co.uk.

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Complete the Look

$165.20, Elizabeth and James; net-a-porter.com

$11.80, Forever 21; forever21.com

$27.80, Forever 21; forever21.com.

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$25, Old Navy; oldnavy.com.

this page and previous spread runway images: denimology.com.

$48, French Connection; frenchconnection.com.

the in thing feminine:

preppy: $42, New Look; newlook.uk.co. $39.50, Delia’s; store.delias.com.

$45, Miss Selfridge; missselfridge.com. $25, Dorothy Perkins; dorothyperkins.com.

$44.99, Anne Klein; piperlime.com. $32.50, Old Navy; oldnavy.com.

$9.99, Ami Clubwear; amiclubwear.com.

What’s your jean attitude?

There’s a style of denim for everyone, but the key is finding what works for your personality.

Take inspiration from these four looks, and create outfits that work for your lifestyle and budget

hipster: $29.50, Wet Seal; wetseal.com.

$11, Fred Flare; madberries.com.

feminine:

$22.50, Volcom; shop.pacsun.com. $83, Dorothy Perkins; dorothyperkins.com. $48, American Eagle; ae.com.

$1.99, Forever 21; forever21.com.

$29.99, Keds; tillys.com.

$24.99, Converse; tillys.com. $6.80, Forever21; forever21.com.

$54.50, PacSun; shop.pacsun.com.

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Sharp Shooter

Photographer and fashion blogger Scott Schuman can be found snapping pictures of stylish people all over the country and posting them on his blog, The Sartorialist.

His book, bearing the same title, debuts this month.

■ Since 2005, admirers of street style have made the fashion blog “The Sartorialist” a daily destination for the most inspiring looks worn by regular people. “I thought I could shoot people on the street the way designers looked at people, and get and give inspiration to lots of people in the process.

My only strategy when I began The Sartorialist was to try and shoot style in a way that I knew most designers hunted for inspiration,” Scott Schuman, the creator of the blog, says in his bio on the Web site.

And now, followers of his blog, can carry a piece of Schuman with them at all times with his book set to hit shelves this month with countless images of people and outfits he’s snapped through the years. Visit thesartorialist.blogspot.com for more information.

Street style at its best

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protectnewyork.wordpress.com. street style photos: thesartorialist.blogspot.com.

Scott Schuman’s, the photog who chronicles people and their personal styles on his blog, book The Sartorialst hits book stores this month

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love ‘em or leaf ‘em Nix necklaces and let these statementmaking earrings steal the show.

Sandals $39.99, Bakers; bakersshoes.com.

earrings $3.80, Forever 21; forever21.com. blouse $19.99, Charlotte Russe; charlotterusse.com.

back-to-school ring 11.99, City of Angels; modcloth.com.

Start the school year off right with these stylish finds culled by Fashion Director Saneeta Harris

tights $88, Falke; net-a-porter.com.

bangles $14, Asos; asos.com.

boy crazy Contrast the masculinity of this menswear-inspired blazer with flirty, feminine pieces. wallet $36, Dana Buchman; kohls.com.

blazer $64, Fred Flare; Fred Flare.com. trench $363, 3.1 Phillip Lim; lagarconne.com.

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shake your bootie When the temps drop, throw on black opaque tights under those short minis.

booties $110, Berties; bertiesclothingshop.uk.co.

tote $155, Hayden Harnett; haydenharnett.com.

scarf $19.50, Gap; gap.com.

blouse $22.80, Forever 21; forever21.com. jeans $15, Hurley; tillys.com.

reading device $299, Kindle; amazon.com.

get flashy With a flash drive like this, you’ll have no problems studying and keepin’ those grades up.

necklace $19.99, Liz Claiborne; lizclaiborne.com.

flash drive $18, Fred Flare; fredflare.com.

jumpsuit $50, French Connection; frenchconnection.com.

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bag $1276, Miu Miu; bluefly.com.

dress $271, Marc by Marc Jacobs; my-theresa.com.

it’s in the bag Invest your summer savings in a durable bag in a neutral color that’ll be around for years to come. boots $45, Minnetonka; net-a-porter.com.

notebook $8.95, Moleskine Volant; net-a-porter.com.

hats off Having a bad hair day? Keep a fedora handy and you’ve got an on-trend solution in a snap.

skirt $45, Miss Selfridge; missselfridge.com.

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hat $16.50, Kirra; shop.pacsun.com.

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shirt $160, Steven Alan; net-a-porter.com.

menswear mania Snag an classic oxford shirt from your dad or BF or to save a little cash.

tank $44, Splendid; net-a-porter.com.

sneakers $39.99, Converse; takkens.com.

tunic $40, Topshop; topshop.com.

belt $125, Vivienne Westwood; my-wardrobe.com.

sweater $275, Rebecca Taylor; net-a-porter.com. jacket $260, Topshop; topshop.com.

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all in the details When the colors are simple, opt for elements like ruffles that are everything but.

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Below: Adored fashion designer Brian Reyes with singer Amerie (left) and actress Tracie Ellis Ross (right). Right and below right: Looks from Reyes’s fall 2009 collection.

Brian Reyes

Designer spotlight cropped jacket $680; blouse $345; pants $595; all Brian Reyes at saksfifthavenue.com.

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t’s the era of the powerful and independant woman — Oprah, Beyonce, Michelle Obama — and designer Brian Reyes designs for women with power, and those aspiring to have it. His fall assemblage, which Reyes called, “a sharp collection full of classic shapes with graphic elements,” works for women on the go looking for mix-and-match separates that have just as much longevity as they do style. Pleats, folds and other subtle details offer just enough feminity to offset the authority exuded by Reyes’s pieces, and show that today’s woman can be sugar, spice and everything nice.

Above: Belt $76 Below: blazer $1200; top $165; pants $595; all Brian Reyes at saksfifthavenue.com.

reyes: nymag.com. runway images: Style.com. looks courtesy of saks fifth avenue.

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matte about you Matte BeachBlush–Tenerife, $28, sephora is a back-to-school must-have that offers four harmonious shades of blush and bronzer in one tin that when swept together combine to create the radiance of a newly flushed face together with a golden glow. The shades include terracotta, pink, bronze, and soft caramel.

The latest products, trends and news

the headband way The Gathered Chiffon Rose Headband from Forever 21($3.80, forever21.com) is a way to exude elegance or express your more flirtatious side. This shiny gathered chiffon-covered tapered headband is decorated with a single chiffon rose and could be the perfect accessory to compliment your most trendy back-to-school ensembles.

cheap & chic This chubby, felt tipped pen makes achieving a perfect, professional-looking French manicure a snap without breaking the bank ($8, sephora.com). To use: Simply glide the angled tip over the whites of your nails (and toes), allow to dry (about 10 seconds) then, finish with either a clear coat or a translucent polish shade of your choice.

beauty BULLETIN The new Sephora Arch It Brow Kit is the secret to perfectly shaped brows. This little black case holds all of the arching, shaping, and grooming tools you’ll need to achieve that killer glance you dream about. The set includes three brow stencils in varying degrees of arch from natural to dramatic, a duo brow gel and powder compact to fill in and shape brows, a clear brow mascara to hold brows in place, tweezers, and an eyebrow brush all for $35.

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ultimate femininity Always be completely fresh with Summer’s Eve Feminine Wash. It’s specially formulated to wash away odor-causing bacteria from your most intimate areas. It is designed for daily use and keeps you feeling fresh and clean every day.

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Scentual Seduction

Miss Dior Cherie, $72, sephora.com, is a classy fragrance for the elegant woman. Miss Dior Cherie isn’t made to be worn daily. Squirt a few dabs for a night of romance, or to catch the hunky guy’s eye at work or your favorite restaurant.

Invest in an alluring fragrance that will surely attract a slew of hotties as you head back to school

By TaNesha Spratling

Light Blue by Dolce & Gabbana, $46.95, perfumespace.com, is a fresh fruity scent for the citrus scent lovers. It has a scent of lemons, blue bell, white rose and jasmine — the perfect scent for summer time.

Ralph Lauren Romance, $60, sephora.com, is an exquisite fragrance. It’s scent is everlasting, and as it fades away the scent changes according to your bodily scent. I tested Romance and loved it. It’s a must have.

Found: An edgy scent that’s hot. For fragrance-bottle collectors, Shalimar, $56.50, amazon.com, has a unique design to add to your collection and a fresh scent.

Take Notes Celine Dion fans: she has a fragrance for you. Its an elegant fragrance, $26, fragrancex.com. that produces a floral smell.

Summer’s here, and what’s hotter than a man with a fresh shower and a cool scent to accent the body?

You’ll fall head over heels for your guy in Coty Club Med My Ocean for Men, $5, deepdiscount.com.

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Ralph Lauren at its best.

Glamourous, $39, fragranceshop. com, is another elegant classy Marc Jacob’s Grapefruit Splash, fragrance for the ladies. $99, has a splash of a citrusy summer scent. Great for summer endeavors, apply Grapefruit Splash before heading on a lunch date with the guy you’ve been dating. He’ll adore your smell.

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>> Queries: We encourage you to send a query if you are unsure of our interest in the topic of your article. A query is a onepage specific description and outline of your article. You can query us on more than one topic at a time. >> Length: We recommend that essays run 1000 to 1500 words. Longer, researched articles can be up to 2500 words. >> Fact Checking: Your article will be carefully fact-checked before being published in JAYE. Therefore, we require that your research be as current as possible. Your research should also be organized and readily available, so you will be able to respond to fact-checkers questions quickly and accurately. >> Submitting content: Double-space your manuscript and leave wide side margins for possible notations. When submitting an electronic file, please save your article as a Word Document and e-mail it as an attachment. >> Lead time: Three to six months from publication. >> e-mail us at jayemag@gmail.com for more information on how to be published in Jaye magazine!

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>> WHAT’S HOT IN MOVIES, MUSIC, TV & POP CULTURE

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“Writing for other people allows me to step outside myself and see the world differently.”

>> on the rise

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Hope Hazlett Hope Hazlett is a singer/songwriter who aspires to tell a story and touch our souls through the wonderful world of music. Recently, Hazlett was standing in line at the grocery store when she flipped through a magazine. In a small caption she found her dream had come true. Reality star and aspiring recording artist Heidi Montag was releasing her latest single on iTunes “Your Love Found Me” penned by Hazlett herself.

“I think most people would be upset by finding out that way, but I loved it,” says Hazlett, who was aware that Montag as well as a few other notable singers had been interested in her song.

Till then she did not know anyone had recorded it. The tune is a catchy, upbeat number describing how it feels to fall in love and the excitement it brings to “find” yourself through the experience.

“Writing for other people allows me to step outside myself and see the world differently,” Hazlett explains. “I can say things I wouldn’t normally say and tell stories that wouldn’t relate to me as a performer, it’s really liberating.”

You can also catch more of her work on CBS’s short series Harper’s Island, and in and upcoming Microsoft commercial. Heidi Montag’s newest hit “Your Love Found Me” is available for download on iTunes. – Devin Thomas >> JAYE | AUGUST 2009 51

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>> on AUGUST’s movie menu Mila Jovavich has no idea what she’s in store for.

Most of us go to the movies to get away from the stresses that come with heading back to school, and what better way with a movie that ironically is everything that you would not want to experience on a romantic vacation.

Veronica Mars star Kristen Bell headlines When in Rome, a romantic comedy. The plot is about an ambitious young New Yorker disillusioned with romance. She takes a whirlwind trip to Rome to visit her sister, where she defiantly plucks magic coins from a “silly” fountain of love, bizarrely igniting the passion of an odd group of admirers: a sausage magnate (Danny 52 JAYE | AUGUST 2009

A Perfect Getaway is the perfect fix for your deprivation of adventure and thrill. David Twohy, who brought movie-watchers everywhere The Chronicles of Riddick and Pitch Black, is back directing this soonto-be summer smash hit. The plot thickens as Cliff (Steve Zahn who also starred in Night Train, Management) and Cydney (Mila Jovovich, a product of Resident Evil: Extinction, Devito, Cheers), a street magician (Jon Heder, Napoleon Dynamite), an adoring painter (Will Arnett, Monsters vs. Aliens) and a self-admiring model (Dax Shepard, Baby Mama).

But when a charming reporter (Josh Duhamel, Transformers: Revenge of the Fallen) pursues her with equal zest, how will she know if his love is the real thing? – Misti Gaffney

.45) go on a romantic honeymoon to Hawaii, and unknowingly befriend a couple that is later accused of murdering another couple. The movie shows a play-by-by of their trials and tribulations of finding out the truth about the situation at hand before It is unfortunately too late.

Grab the of girls (or your special guy!) and catch this must see out on August 14. – Alexandria Byrd Kristin Bell on the search for love in Rome.

filmofilia.com.

A Perfect Getaway delivers thrills and entertainment just in time for back-to-school season

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>> tunes to bob your head to

the elite 8

Artist: Amerie Album Title: In Love & War What to Expect: An oldschool R&B sound with collabos from the likes of Bryan Michael Cox, Teddy Riley, Sean Garrett and executively produced by L.A. Reid, set to release August 11.

Artist: queen latifah Album Title: Persona What to Expect: Earlier this year, Latifah’s spokeswoman proclaimed this album would deliver a “hip-pop” album with a “who’s who of music royalty.” And you’ll receive nothing but fire from the Cool-and-Dre produced LP.

Artist: third eye blind Album Title: Ursa Major What to Expect: Dubbed as their most political album yet, this work is the group’s first album (the record was produced by Sony) in six years and with hits like “Don’t Believe a Word,” trust us, it’s well worth the wait.

Artist: lil wayne Album Title: Rebirth What to Expect: Weezy’s rock debut, where he pays homage to the Beastie Boys on one of the tracks.

A special treat: up-andcomer (and Degrassi alum) Drake makes an appearance.

Artist: sean paul Album Title: Imperial Blaze What to Expect: The same reggae sound you’ve grown to love with less focus on party anthems like “Get Busy” and “Temperature” and more tracks devoted to addressing youth violence in Jamaica.

Artist: colbie caillat Album Title: Breakthrough What to Expect: This smooth singer gained a massive following with songs like “Realize” and “Bubbly,” and with world renown guitarist David Becker on two of the new album’s tracks, she keeps up the momentum.

Artist: mariah carey Album Title: Memoirs of an Imperfect Angel What to Expect: Mimi’s got an all-star lineup for this album (The-Dream, Bryan Michael Cox and Timbaland, to name a few), and get ready to download tracks like “100 Percent” to your iPod.

Artist: trey songz Album Title: Ready What to Expect: Though this R&B hearthrob is crooning about needing a girl on the album’s first single, we’re sure after this CD drops on August 25, he’ll have a crop of young ladies ready to be all his.

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amerie: media.onsugar.com latifah: starpulse.com. third eye blind: lukehimself.net. lil wayne: clutchmagonline.com. sean paul: men-hairstyles.com. calliat: insidesocal.com. carey: melodyplant.com. songz: blogxilla.com.

The 411 on a crop of albums worth snagging to listen to during those back-to-school study sessions

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>> brilliant books

>> this just in

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transformed into a model citizen through some behavior conditioning. With his newly tamed attitude, Alex finds himself defenseless in the face of danger. Because of this, he reverts back to his old behaviors and his old gangs. To find out what happens next to Alex, grab your copy of A Clockwork Orange this summer. –Terin Bufford The Social Contract by JeanJacques Rousseau The Social Contract influenced governments throughout Europe and helped to promote political reform and revolution. Rousseau’s quote, “Man is born free, but everywhere he is in chains.” These chains are not found in the state of nature, they must be constructions of convention. Rousseau seeks the basis for a justifiable, political authority in which people must give up their natural liberty. Check it out to find out if you are free, but still chained.

– M.G.

Which Kardashian sister fits your personality?

■ Having trouble keeping up with the Kardashians these days? Have no fear: Kourtney and Khloe are gearing up to appear in their own spinoff tentatively titled Kourtney and Khloe in Miami. Are you a loud and opinionated Khole or shy and reserved like Kourtney? Choose the numbers that fit your personality! – D.T. 1. Your favorite charity is the Brent 6. You have no problem posing Shapiro Foundation for Alcohol and in booty shorts and a motorcycle Drug Awareness. jacket for Maxim.

2. You think fringe is in and is not 7. You find yourself sucking couture going anywhere. pops.

3. You’d bare your soul (and your 8. You think you would be a great body) to protect animals. host of a late-night, radio talk show.

4. You change your mind a lot—like where you’re going to college If you chose more odds, you are 5. If you’re at a bar, you’re going to a Khloe; if you chose more evens, order a Guinness. you are a Kourtney.

a clockwork orange: prometheusbooks.com. the social contract: en8848.com. kardashians:

A Clockwork Orange by Anthony Burgess A Clockwork Orange was written

by Anthony Burgess and published in 1962. Burgess wrote this novel from a first-person account of a juvenile delinquent who undergoes a state-sponsored psychological rehabilitation for his horrible behavior. Burgess invented a new form of slang with a mixture of Russian words for this novel. This novel is said to be his most original and best-known work. American novelist, essayist, and social critic, William S. Burroughs said this of Burgess’ novel, “I do not know of any other writer who has done as much with language as Mr. Burgess has done here-the fact that this is also a very funny book may pass unnoticed.” The novel follows the life of a young man named Alex, who is faced early on with gang life and participates in several gang related activities. He is captured and imprisoned and

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After graduating from college this spring, Christiana Harris wasted no time packing up and moving to Tennessee to start dental school this summer. But before she left, she talked with Editor-in-Chief Michael Jones and in the process showed she’s as brainy as she is beautiful Photographed by Marscel Harris-Parker

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“Why does society pigeonhole women into thinking it’s one or the other, that you can’t be both beautiful and smart?”

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“I’ve had my fair share of highs and lows. I haven’t always thought highly of myself; I haven’t had a perfect life.”

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’m as ready as I’m gonna be,” insists Christiana Harris, who graduated from Prairie View A&M University, a historically-black institution outside of Houston, TX this past May with a biology degree and is starting the next chapter in her life that she dubs as “bittersweet.”

At press time, the 23-year-old Harris kicked off her post-grad journey at Mehurry Medical College in Nashville, TN where she’ll study dentistry, and soon into our afternoon phone chat, she reveals that her career choice was years in the making.

“I love dentistry because of the connection with the people. I actually realized I wanted to be a dentist when I was eight years old, and I had an amazing relationship with mine. I had some work on my teeth when I was younger, and when I was satisfied with my smile, it helped me break out of my shell, and my selfesteem rose too.”

It’s stories like Harris’s that justify why mom warned you about judging a book by its cover. “I’ve had my fair share of highs and lows. I haven’t always thought highly of myself; I haven’t had a perfect life,” she admits, while referencing the journey of our trailblazing first couple. “Look at the Obamas: they weren’t products of wealth, but through hard work, dedication and courage, they achieved their dreams. I can definitely relate to that.”

Another aspect of the Obamas’ life she can ally with: people’s constant focus on their appearance, and not their intelligence. “I modeled in a few shows while I was at PV and in Houston, but honestly, it’s just a hobby—something I do in my spare time; I’m not passionate about modeling. But it’s crazy how many people 60 JAYE | AUGUST 2009

I’ve met that have told me because I look a certain way, I should pursue modeling instead of dental school.”

“Why,” she questions, “does society pigeonhole women into thinking it’s one or the other, that you can’t be both beautiful and smart?” And though she may not have the answer she’s looking for, Harris is on a onewoman crusade to change society’s rigid views on today’s woman.

“I know I have to be an example to people, and sometimes I think about it, but most of the time, I just live life. People are always going to pay attention to you, and although I’m far from perfect, I’m pretty happy with who I am and the decisions I’ve made. I believe I’ve gotten to this point in my life because of the people in my life who have nurtured and molded me into the woman I’ve become,” Harris says, referencing friends and who have kept her grounded and “pushing me to go after my dreams even if I didn’t believe in them.”

When Harris isn’t chasing her dreams, she’s doing “a little bit of reading—I don’t read much, but if it’s interesting, I’ll check it out”; taking or teaching dance classes (Harris spent her days before departing for dental school dance instructing at a dance camp), and spending time with those close to her heart. “Believe it or not, I’m pretty normal,” she divulges, with an easy-to-adore giggle.

But when the subject of guys and dating comes up, Harris shoots it straight, sans laughter. “When it comes to dating guys my age, it’s usually a no-go,” she confesses. “And don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with men my age, but with what I’m doing with my life and where I’m going, I want someone who can challenge me and make think, ‘I really need to get it together’

and strive to be a better person, and it’s unusual to find a guy my age that does that.”

It’s also in the best interest of male suitors to save the recession excuses for the next girl, because Harris isn’t havin’ it. “There was this guy I was talking to, and he was in grad school, because ‘we’re in a recession’ and he couldn’t find a job. To me that’s no excuse; it seems like so many guys these days get stuck and don’t know what they want to with their lives.”

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fter writing a number of these types of profiles, it’s equal parts perplexing and refreshing to interview a girl—one who’s on the cover of this magazine, the apple of many people’s eye, and has accomplished so much in a little over two decades—because she talks more about other people than she does herself. Whether she’s expressing her appreciation to the aforementioned members of her support system (“I can’t thank them enough for sending me off with so much love; each of them mean so much to me.”) or the next generation of little Christianas (“I love kids; they are so honest—if you want to know anything, ask a kid; they’ll shoot you straight!—and they absorb so much. I try to instill the same messages in them that I learned growing up.”), it’s obvious she’s far from self-centered and full of it. And it’s also obvious that there’s a reason why.

“I have had to fight so hard for people to take me seriously, for them my choice to go to dental school. I feel like I have to prove myself, and honestly, I’m just getting started, so that’s what keeps me grounded.” ■

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quick hits on current events, happenings & trends Sarah Palin, Alaska’s governor, former vicepresidential candidate and potential leader of the Republican Party, is busy working on her memoir, set to release next spring.

republican roulette While President Obama’s been

hard at work for the last six months, the GOP’s been at it too — repackaging their brand and searching for a new crop of leaders to take them back to the glory days. Michael Jones takes a look at the party’s power players and offers his two cents

palin: wsj.net. Specter: newzar.wordpress.com.

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n case you’ve been sleeping under a rock, here’s a breakdown of what’s been going on the Republican Party since Barack Obama was elected president last November: Sarah Palin inked a book deal—set to hit bookshelves next spring, just in time for her run for reelection as Alaska’s governor.

Remember “Joe the Plumber”? Apparently, he’s had enough of the Grand Old Party and its position on the issues, so he declared his independence by well, declaring independent.

And there’s still a McCain on the loose—this time it’s not John, the well-known maverick of the Senate, but Meghan, his slick-talkin’, blogwritin’, Twitter-lovin’ twentysomething-year-old daughter who pens columns for the Web site The Daily Beast by day and makes appearances on evening news shows—Larry King Live, The Rachel Maddow Show, to name a few—by night.

Radio maven Rush Limbaugh’s on the attack hoping the president’s “policies will fail,” as he

emphatically told a group of conservatives during a speech this spring.

Former House Speaker Newt Gingrich isn’t afraid to voice his displeasure with the left, former Vice President Dick Cheney says we aren’t safe with Barack Obama leading us—despite the fact that “more Americans were killed by terrorists on Cheney’s watch than on any other leader’s watch in U.S. history,” as Republican Lawrence Wilkerson duly noted—and there are even members of the party who’ve had enough and fled: look no further than Republicanturned-Democrat Arlen Specter of Pennsylvania.

So you see, the GOP’s been engrossed in a who’s-gonna-be-the-face-of-the-party gambit, while many Americans believe that no matter whom the messenger is, it’s the message they’re selling that people aren’t buying.

Gay marriage, women’s rights and the wars are a few issues where it seems like the right won’t budge, so last November, Americans went

adios, gop!

Always known as a moderate Republican, Arlen Specter, a senator from Pennsyvania, switched to his affiliation to Democrat earlier this year.

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to the left, to the left, and realized the GOP is irreplaceable.

But never fear, conservatives, Michael Steele, the chairman of the Republican National Committee, thinks he has the remedy — a change in approach: “I’m not going to stand at the door with a little checklist and say, ‘Well, you can be a Republican and you can’t,’” Steele told

So as you see, the GOP’s been engrossed in a who’s-gonna-be-the-faceof-the-party gambit, while many believe that no matter whom the messenger is, it’s the message they’re selling— that people aren’t buying.

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Volunteering: there’s no trick to this trade

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t’s back-to-school season, and you know what that means: classes, parties and… an opportunity to volunteer.

Once August comes around, everyone’s seen their best friends this summer, your summer savings are coming in handy, and though you may not admit it, you’re glad to be back in

Business-driven social network LinkedIn has created a microsite for recent graduates to assist them in the job hunt.

President Obama signs the Edward M. Kennedy Serve America Act in the presence of Senator Kennedy (right).

the books.

Exhale: there’s an activity that not only benefits others, but you as well.

That would be none other than the Edward M. Kennedy Serve America Act, which was officially signed and implemented on April 21by President Obama, which is part of the initiative “Renew America Together,” enacted January 19 to encourage and arouse interest in helping your community.

Essentially, the Act will also create

the 411 on vacations: From Expedia.com: 49.4 million Americans are vacation-deprived. Despite earning the least amount of annual vacation days, Americans will leave

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obama: councilofnonprofits.com.

ABC News. “But understand, it’s like, you know, when I come to your house for dinner, all right, and I sit down at your table. What do you think of me when I look at your wife or look at you and go, you know, ‘This is a nice meal but I would have preferred chicken. And if you could take this plate off, I think I’d like a different type of china.’ It is what you serve.”

As for me, if the Reds are serving chicken, mark me down as a vegetarian.

recent graduates, take note!

linkedin: mediabistro.com.

linkedin launches microsite for grads

175,000 new service opportunities and will expand service programs such as AmeriCorps, as well as four other ones concentrated in the realms of education, health care, energy, and veterans.

The award for service members for full-time education students will in exchange for their volunteering, will receive $5,350 for 2010. This award could potentially coincide with the Pell Grant scholarship

in order to avert rising college expenses. This particular incentive is for college students, but there are also opportunities for middle school and high school students as well. Perfect trade-off.

Go http://www.serve.gov/ and type in your ZIP code and keywords pertaining to what may interest you (mentoring, the environment, or veterans of the military).

– Alexandria Byrd

■ LinkedIn, the business-oriented social network launched in 2003, is giving 2009 graduates a chance to upgrade your profile (normally valued at $30) to a specialized advice microsite specifically aimed at ’09 grads. According to CollegeNews. com, you can make your profile as simple or detailed as you care to, but grads that complete theirs to 80% or better are eligible for the free three-month upgrade.

You can upload your e-mail address book and get connected right away, then scour your family tree for relatives and family friends. After that, the site provides mind joggers of people you can ask for recommendations that will appear on your profile, and other ways to tweak your digital presence.

Patrick Crane, Vice President of Marketing and Advertising at LinkedIn, says one of the major aims of the site is to garner inside referrals. Your profile might consist of your picture, past and present job experience, career goals, accomplishments and a list of your specialties.

Several additional applications are available, like a blog link or map to plot places you’ve traveled.

For more information, visit linkedin.com. >>

an average of 3 days unused. 34 % of Americans say they come back from vacation feeling better about their jobs and are even more productive. 53% of employed >>

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ou see it in movies, on TV and hear about it in songs. Some people enjoy it, some hate it, and some even make money off it. The occasional F-bomb? Not it. A leaked sex tape?

Nope. Violence? Good guess, but still, you’re wrong.

One more clue: it’s all natural and at the center of a heated debate all over the country on its legality. Weed, ganja, hash, Mary Jane—you’ve got it, it’s marijuana.

Currently I live in Hollywood, and I might be pressed to say it has the laxest weed enforcement policies in the country. And rumors suggest the mayor of West Hollywood has told his police force to look the other way when it comes to the stinky, commonly-used green stuff.

The truth is I am not down with that.

It is illegal to smoke marijuana in the state of California without a medicalmarijuana card. What if I wanted to drive above the speed limit or even under the influence, both of these are illegal and can have negative consequences. I feel it is unfair for police to choose which laws to enforce due to personal preference. I am aware of the benefits weed may have for cancer patients but let’s be honest: every time I walk through my apartment complex and smell skunk, is it the result of a patient trying to cure nausea?

There’s the argument that if it doesn’t affect me, why do I care but, statistically I think contrarily. The

Office of National Drug Control Policy has done extensive research to uncover the truth behind many popular misconceptions, one of which being “if I buy marijuana I’m not hurting anyone else.” For instance, a roadside study of reckless drivers in Tennessee found that 33 percent of all subjects who were not under the influence of alcohol, and who were tested for drugs at the scene of their arrest, tested positive for marijuana. And that doesn’t take into account how many had both alcohol and marijuana in their system.

I don’t believe that the foreign-drug cartels as well as American druggrowers will just roll over and allow the U.S. government to control the import and export of the drug. Just like tobacco and alcohol, the drug will be taxed. These dealers are accustomed to tax-free profits, and in some cases they don’t own the land they grow their crops on. Most of the marijuana on America’s public lands is grown in the vast national forests. Take California: more than 540,000 plants were seized or eradicated on land managed by the U.S. Forest Service in 2003 alone.

Legalizing the drug will not stop crime, and violence; it will just become easier to purchase. One more thing: like tobacco and alcohol, once it’s legal, it will also be lawful to advertise weed. TV and magazine advertising space will be used to market the drug, which could lead to increased

California lawmakers are seriously considering legalizing marijuana to create new streams of revenue.

exposure to underage kids, already earmarked targets in the drug market (the 2001 Youth Risk Behavior Surveillance System survey found that 42 percent of all high school students nationwide had used marijuana at some time in their lives). That number would easily increase if kids felt that it was only an age issue, like alcohol and tobacco currently are, and not illegal for everyone.

I have friends who smoke marijuana regularly. I have even worked in a job where my manager got high in the employee bathroom on a daily basis, and it doesn’t affect my relationships with them. However, I am a believer in the gateway-drug effect, and if we legalize weed, then will it be OK to have this conversation about cocaine or ecstasy?

As marijuana becomes more commonplace, the need to live on the edge and the drive to live dangerously will become harder to satiate. More people could turn to harder drugs, which will still be illegal. Drug cartels and dealers will see this shift in their markets and adjust to selling what the public wants. After all, they already have no problem retailing in illegal substances it’s pretty naive of us to assume they will grow a conscience if we legalize marijuana.

I’m not trying to ruin peoples fun or tell them that they are bad people because they choose to partake in marijuana when they need to relax, but I am saying don’t legalize it.

U.S. adults say they come back feeling rested after vacation. 53% of employed U.S. adults say they come back feeling reconnected with family after vacation. ■

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Rant “Making it legal doesn’t make it okay…with me.”

Annoyed by the discussion occurring in California, her home state, regarding legalizing marijuana, Devin Thomas shares her opinions on why she’s against it

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on the job Polish Your Interviewing Skills Whether you’ve just graduated this spring, and looking for your first job, or you’re revving up to snag one of those coveted on-campus positions, it’s important that you’ve refined your interview skills. TheCareerNews.com, a Web site that publishes a weekly e-newsletter with the latest news, tips and tools for your career, posted an HR Inmotion piece with a few things to think about to ensure you ace your interview: ■ Poor resume: If you are applying for a job that you are qualified for but not getting interviews, it might be a sign that your resume needs a second look. As you head back to school this fall, make an appointment with the career center to have them disect your resume and make sure’s it’s up to par.

■ Shaky job interview skills: Ask for feedback on your interview skills, strengths and weaknesses

from the interviewer — don’t pass up this opportunity to get some valuable coaching. It also shows the employer your receptivity for feedback and commitment to improvement.

■ If you feel really nervous and lack confidence then it’s important you address it. However, if you feel confident in interviews and think it went well but never get an offer, then it might suggest a lack of awareness. While you’re at the career center having your resume reviewed, see if you can participate in a mock interviews. If you’ve already graduated, browse the Web for workshops that offer practice interviews.

■ It is not uncommon for people to over estimate their own ability when it comes to job interviewing. If this could be the culprit, it’s important you seek some training or help to improve your interviewing skills. Look at every interview as a learning experience. >>

■ don’t do it!

Looking for a sure way to get fired? Kathryn E. Darden of Nashville, Tenn. has a list posted on Associated Content. Our favorite? Be a Workplace Drama Queen. Darden says “become emotional every time a customer or supervisor criticizes you or things don’t go your way. Don’t just get upset when someone is actually being mean — be a drama queen about any perceived slight. Turn on the water works and raise your voice an octave and a decibel level. You will soon be performing your dramatic one-man-show at home. You won’t win an academy award, but you will win a pink slip!”

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to career prosperity

■ office politics

How to Win at Office Politics

According to BigBadBoss.com, office politics is the use of one’s individual or assigned power within an employing organization for the purpose of obtaining advantages beyond one’s legitimate authority. Those advantages may include access to tangible assets, or intangible benefits such as status or pseudoauthority that influences the behavior of others. Both individuals and groups may engage in office politics.

It’s not easy to know how to play the “game,” but with these tips, first featured on CNN, courtesy of Louellen Essex, co-author of Manager’s Desktop Consultant: Just-inTime Solutions to the Top People Problems That Keep You Up at Night, you give yourself a chance for success: ■ Observe how things get done in your organization. Ask some key questions: What are the core values and how are they enacted? Are short- or long-term results most valued? How are decisions made? How much risk is tolerated? The answers to these questions should give you a good sense of the culture of your organization.

■ Profile powerful individuals. Pay attention to their communication style, network of relationships and what types of proposals they say “yes” to most often. Emulate those traits by drawing on the strengths you have.

■ Determine strategic initiatives in the company. Update your skills to be relevant to company initiatives. For example, don’t lag behind in technology, quality or customer service approaches that are crucial to you and your company’s success.

■ Develop a personal track record as someone who gets results. Style without substance will not gain others’ respect, especially in today’s organizations that focus on outcome.

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5 Easy-to-Implement Ways to De-stress Your Career Work’s already tough enough: You’re the new kid on the block, your boss is breathing down your back because her’s is too, and you’ve worked through your lunch break everyday this week. But exhale — women across the country responded to CareerWomen. com’s call for tips on how to survive in the office with less stress.

Here, the tips that made the top 5:

■ your money

Ensure your financial security by saving

Money Senior Editor Walter Updegrave shares his tips with money. cnn.com on how to save and be financially responsible: ■ Develop a retirement savings regimen. Once you’ve established your emergency fund, your next priority is to begin saving regularly for retirement.

■ Look for additional ways to save. Even after you’ve got your emergency fund and retirement covered, you’re probably going to want to save occasionally for other goals, say, a down payment for a house or car.

■ Don’t let easy excuses prevent you from saving to your full potential. When people without savings were asked by pollsters working for the National Foundation for Credit Counseling why they didn’t save, the number one reason

offered (by 59 percent of respondents) was that they had a limited income.

if at first you don’t succeed: According to The Career News, even in today’s competitive job market, the most qualified person rarely gets the job. Additionally, interviews are harder to get than before. When the job market was booming, it took an average of three interviews to get one job offer. Now it takes 17. The key is have a great interview, where the interviewer actually pictures you doing the job. ■ 70 JAYE | AUGUST 2009

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■ De-clutter your office or cubicle: An unorganized office can make you feel more stressed.

■ Seize the weekend: Use your downtime to recharge, exercise and connect with family and friends.

■ More water, less caffeine: Keeping hydrated improves your sense of well-being and helps you to relax.

■ Get more sleep: Being wellrested helps with coping. Try to get the recommended seven to eight hours of sleep per night.

■ Talk about your stress: Find a friend that can lend a supportive and sympathetic ear.

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Make an great first impression by sitting in the front of the class with pen and paper ready to take notes and pay attention to the professor’s lecture.

It’s never too early to develop a well-oiled professional relationship with your professors. So, grab your textbooks, sharpen those pencils, find that perfect back-toschool outfit, and use these tips to to take your classes by storm

Teacher’s Pet

By Jillian Risnes

Don’t be afraid to ask questions for clarity, answer ones that you know and participate in class discussions to show you’ve studied the material.

tion, speaking in class usually helps bump up that final grade.

The Early Bird is the (Book) Worm This seems small and obvious, but going to class and getting there on time can really make an impression.

Especially with students at a small school; however, this does not mean excessive absences go unnoticed at a large school. If you have to miss or know you’ll be tardy, try to let someone in class, a professor’s aide, or the professor know the reason. Not only does this help keep you from falling behind in the class (poor test scores very rarely please a teacher), but also instead of a professor thinking you’re the slacker student that can’t make it to class, you could be viewed at the considerate, committed student that had the courtesy to let someone know you had a prior obligation.

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Go the Extra Mile Make it a priority to talk to each of them and stop by during specified office hours — building a rapport with an instructor can go a long way.

College is, ultimately, the final step before taking that leap into the real world. Most, if not all, of your professors have been through this critical change in life, and these people have committed their careers to helping you learn concepts, put them into action and transition into a new stage of life, so don’t be afraid to be yourself.

Recent college graduate Adam Dewar says, “Find time to talk to your professor outside of the classroom, even if it’s not about class.

Teachers are human; they like to shoot the breeze too.” Who knows whom you might impress; after all, you’re only as successful as the team you’re surrounded by.

Participate In Class Discussions In any class, it’s difficult to be noticed when you’re a mute hovering in the corner. Speak up. No, chances are you won’t always be right, but the fact that you’re trying says something. And, when you are sharing a thought, all eyes are on you. What a better way to make an impression on those professors than taking the time to give an opinion on the topic at hand? Not to men-

Show Interest It’s OK to show professors you’re interested in their background and experience, and, if nothing else, allow them to see you’re invested in the subject they’re teaching.

Very rarely is this interest received poorly. These people show up each and every day. And, not only are they committed enough to show up every day, but they come with a lesson plan, a discussion topic, and a willingness to teach. A student who notices this and respects it will without a doubt make an impression.

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jaye in the classroom over-anxious ‘nerd’, but it’s important to remind yourself the reason you’re enrolled in school to begin with. Read the assigned text, do the homework, and study when you have a big test coming up. A professional, intelligent student that can maintain good grades and carry on a conversation can really leave a mark on the academic world.

Have the right attitude

Dress For Success Instead of rolling out of bed, brushing your teeth, stumbling out to the car and attending class half asleep, develop a ‘wake-up’ routine.

Take the time to take a shower, rub the sleep out of your eyes and put on business-casual attire to help you get in the right frame of mind before class—when you look better, you feel better, right? And, should you find yourself in a situa-

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Technology Tact Before yanking out those BlackBerrys G1s and iPhones to check e-mail, text your girlfriends, or play around with the newest apps, find out how each professor feels about it. Some will happily allow multitasking, but this a quick way to

Be ready to learn; beyond that, crave as much information as much as possible — you’ll use what you learn in your future career.

Find classmates that understand the coursework, befriend them and form study groups to review notes, quizzes and prep for exams.

Start each class with the right mentality: be ready to learn; beyond that, crave as much information as much as possible—this is the information you’ll use in a future career. Try to absorb any information available. Try walking into class on the first day of a new year thinking this professor and the information you’ll learn will be both influential and interesting. You might be surprised just how well a class and its teacher can meet your expectations when you look at it with a positive prospective and a willingness to learn.

fine line between a challenge and a confrontation—think about what you’re going to say before saying it, and how you’re going to say it.

tion that requires a looking pulled together (an impromptu call back for that work-study position or the cutie you’ve been eyeing from across the room noticing you), you’re already dressed for the occasion.

Ignite the challenge Don’t be afraid to challenge classmates and professors.“Should you disagree with something, explain and support your rationale; it might just provide a prospective not yet thought of. Be careful: there’s a

exasperate professors. Better to be safe than the professor’s least liked student in the class.

Use it, or lose it There is nothing more pleasing to a professor than seeing a concept they taught being implemented into a student’s life. Get in the habit of using and talking about the things you’re learning in class. Generally, the concepts being taught are upto-date and useful—and invaluable.

It’s never too early to start figuring out the quickly approaching postcollege adult, professional world. ■

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money We’ve been in the throes of a recession for months now, but as summer winds down and school kicks into high gear, the stakes seem to be higher (along with the price of food, clothes and gas!). Instead of living in fear of how you’re going to make ends meet, realize financial security can be yours with smart planning and savvy spending. Here, your guide to jump start your journey

A lesson in money management

By Melissa Kimble

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ike most of you, I only want to become successful. As any other recent college graduate, I simply want to live comfortably, and enjoy the fruits of my labor—I like to think of my college degree as my ticket to security.

But as the end of college approached, reality hit. Yes, my college degree is supposed to open doors, but it hasn’t promised security right off the bat. I would have to find a small part-time job until something bigger came my way and move back in with my parents for the time being, and honestly, these things were not a part of my postgraduation plan.

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figured out until I realized that the news reports and economists were actually right: this wasn’t just a forecast of omens that was coming our way—our economy was really in trouble; our country was in the midst of a recession.

Whether I have enjoyed it or not, the recession has definitely taught me a lot about my finances and planning for my future. At the beginning of my college career, money meant very little to me. I just assumed that it would always be there. That was until I started working, school bills started to add up, and I was finally on my own. I instantly had to become financially responsible.

Once I graduated, I was faced with my entire life ahead of me. I already knew it was coming. What I didn’t know was that there >>

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I thought I had everything figured out until I realized that the news reports and economists were actually right: this wasn’t just a forecast of omens that was coming our way— our country was in the midst of a recession.”

In order to walk the monetary walk, you’ve gotta talk the talk. Here, a list of need-toknow terms to assist you on your journey to financial prosperity. We’ll bill you later — sans interest ■ 401(K): A retirement plan offered by a corporation to its employees, which allows employees to set aside tax-deferred income for retirement purposes, and in some cases employers will match their contribution dollar-for-dollar.

■ Mutual fund: A large pool of money that investors create which is used to buy many different stocks, not just one. These are less risky because they buy a bunch of stocks and your money is spread out over several stocks. If one stock goes bad, you still have other stocks to pull from and won’t lose as much money.

■ Interest: The fee paid for using other people’s money. To the borrower it is the cost of renting money, to the lender the income from renting (lending) it out.

■ Finance Charges: Total cost of borrowing, including interest charges, commitment fees, and other charges paid by the borrower for availing the loan facility.

■ APR (Annual Percentage Rate): A standardized method of quoting the effective interest rate (actual cost of credit) on consumer loans, specially where interest is computed on monthly or other non-annual basis. An APR includes all fees (except penalties), and takes into account the continual reduction of principal amount through amortization.

■ Financial Portfolio: An appropriate mix of or collection of investments held by an institution or a private individual. The main goal is to increase the portfolio’s value by selecting investments that you believe will go up in price.

■ Asset: Something valuable that an entity owns, benefits from, or has use of, in generating income. An asset can be something physical, such as cash, machinery, inventory, land and building, an enforceable claim against others, such as accounts receivable, a right, such as copyright, patent, trademark, or an assumption, such as goodwill.

■ Liability: An obligation to pay an amount in money, goods, or services to another party. The balance sheet lists the liabilities.

It can also be called debt.

■ Capital: The measure of the accumulated financial strength of an individual, firm, or nation, created by sacrificing present consumption in favor of investment to generate future returns above investment costs.

–M.K.

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Even though times are hard, I have learned that I can’t let this recession defeat me.

Yes, I have to save more and cut back on my expenses but it has allowed me to appreciate the simple things in life that do not have a price tag.”

Revamp Your Financial Outlook As college students, many of us tend to not keep track with our money for two reasons: we feel that we don’t make enough to keep up with or we feel that we are too young to be worried about money and credit. Both of those reasons can hurt us more than help us in the long run.

It is important that even while we are still in college we being to take the proper steps to building a stable financial future. Every decision

would be a recession to accompany my new life. Graduating was the hard part right? Not exactly. The challenge would be deciding where to go after graduation. I had to sit down and re-create my post graduation plan.

It would require a major adjustment: not just with my physical location, but with my personal perspective on things. I had to first remember that things don’t always go as we plan, but they always work out for the better.

The recession has taught me the importance of saving and closely monitoring where and how my money is spent. And now, it is more important to really understand my money and how it can work for me.

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we make now, will affect us later on in life.

Embrace your financial situation head on and become fully aware of your financial health. A recent study by the National Center for Education Statistics shows that about 50 percent of recent college graduate have student loans, with an average student loan debt of $10,000, which can only increase as college tuition rates increase—this fact alone should motivate to

rely on mobile banking, e-mail alerts, and calendar reminders in my phone to keep me on track.

Even though times are hard, I have learned that I can’t let this recession defeat me. Yes, I have to save more and cut back on my expenses but it has allowed me to appreciate the simple things in life that do not have a price tag. Instead of going out to eat with friends, we have old-fashioned sleepovers and cook at home. I carpool to different places to preserve gas and coupons are now my best friend.

There are plenty of inexpensive things to do in my city: spoken-word clubs for $2 and renting movies in the “five for $5” sections in Blockbuster—in other words: you do not have to spend a lot of money in order to have a lot of fun.

Sometimes we can’t learn truly learn our lesson until something drastic happens. Nothing is more drastic than dealing with your finances

learn more about your money and how you can make it work for you. Even though you do not make a lot of money from that part-time job, still make it a point to save a little from each check.

Save a dollar a day. Start using a checkbook and keeping it balanced. These all seem like small ideas, but these can help us when we want to turn our big ideas into realities.

– M.K.

when the economic outlook is bleak.

Of course the economy won’t be on a continuous downward spiral for the rest of my life. If you think about it, things could actually be worse. What if we were in a full-on depression?

What would you do then? The recession is just another part of the business cycle that our country will make it through. We are close enough to the bottom where we can still appreciate our blessings. Now, we can take a step back and not be so hung up on what we think is important.

Sure I have to ration out my money, dollar by dollar, but I have now been equipped with thinking that will have me financially prepared for my future.

Material things do not last. Money comes and goes. What has become important to me is that I look beyond my current situation and press forward knowing there’s more ahead. That is a lesson that money cannot buy.

Did you know? >> By the time they reach their senior year, 56 percent of students carry four or more credit cards, with an average balance of $2,864. >> Overall average workers between the ages of 25 to 34 must spend 25 cents on every dollar earned on debt repayments. >> While teens believe when they get older that they will earn an average salary of $145,000. In reality, adults with a bachelor’s degree earned an average of $54,689 in 2005.

Source: Young Americans Center for Financial Education

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back-to-school money-saving guide: 11 ways to save your hard-earned moola ■ Track your spending. For a two-week period, write down every single purchase you make, whether it is cash, check, or credit purchase. Seeing exactly where you are spending money will help you to decide where you need to cut back on.

■ Trim the extras. Do you have an unlimited text or calling plan but hardly use your phone during the day? Do you have a gym membership but never commit to going? Do you buy magazines often? Call your cell phone company and reduce your plan based on your needs, ditch the gym membership and head to the park, and subscribe to your favorite magazines.

■ Coupons, coupons, coupons.

Clipping coupons are not just for house moms; you can also use them too! Check your Sunday paper or sites such as couponmom.com to find them.

The trick is to clip coupons for items that you need or buy on a regular basis.

■ Fish for student discounts. Use being a student to your advantage; most places offer student discounts.

Try sites such as studentdiscounts. com or simply check with your local fast food spots or businesses to see what discounts they offer exclusively for student. Most cell phone companies also offer student discounts but don’t always advertise them.

■ Kick those old (and bad) habits.

Do you smoke on a regular basis or have to drink at every party? Instead of constantly feeding into those habits, you should break them. Stop buying a pack of cigarettes every two days or buying alcohol for every “special occasion” and put that money in a jar to watch it grow.

■ Keep your car in check. Instead of paying someone, handwash your car yourself. Make it a habit to fill up your gas tank and never let it get below the half way mark. Eventually you won’t have to constantly put gas in your car. Make sure to have a good mechanic on hand for repairs and not someone who will overcharge you. You can save up to $100 a year on gas by keeping your engine tuned and your tires inflated to their proper pressure.

■ Remember the library? Do you love to read? Instead of racking up on books at amazon.com or Barnes and Nobles, first head over to your local library. A library card is free and will give you access to millions of books.

As long as you return your books on time, it will not cost you a thing.

■ Face those credit cards. If you have multiple credit card debt, call your credit card companies and see if you can consolidate all your credit card bills into one to keep track of your payments. To avoid late pay-

ment fees and possible interest rate increases on your credit cards, make sure you send in your payment a week to ten days before the statement due date. Late payments on one card can increase fees and interest rates on other cards.

■ Host a potluck. Instead of going out to eat, invite friends over for dinner. Have each friend bring over one dish and watch your options pile up. This will be easier on everybody’s pockets instead of going to eat at a restaurant and ultimately more fun!

■ Pass on the gift-giving and holiday cheer. Instead of buying holiday decorations and necessities during the holiday, wait until after the holiday to stock up on your favorite items. The day after, most superstores such as Wal-Mart will have holiday goodies marked down at least 50 percent for you to stock up on for next year. Also think about making gifts for friends and family. Personalized gifts such as scrapbooks or personalized picture frames will mean a lot more.

■ Make your job work for you.

If you have a part-time job, see what discounts are offered for your place of employment. Many businesses offer free or discounted services to companies and their employees. Also have a small percentage of your check go directly into a savings account. ■ — Compiled by Melissa Kimble

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relationships Do women want submissive men?

By Terin Bufford

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s gender roles evolve, relationships have as well. Men are losing their jobs at a more accelerated rate (“In the 2001 recession, 51 percent of all job losses were for men. It was evenly split. But in this recession 80 percent of the jobs that have been lost have been men’s,” Andrew Sum, a labor economics professor at Northeastern University who has been examining the employment issue at length, told Newsroom America).

More women attend college than their male counterparts (College enrollment rates were 71.5 percent for young women and 65.9 percent for young men, according to an April release from the Bureau of Labor Statistics).

And ultimately, more women seem to be dominating in their relationships—the strong, independent woman is doing more for herself these days, including wearing the pants in her relationships. But do women like, and more importantly seek, submissive men?

In some cases, some women do like their men to be submissive. Women love to be pampered and to be taken care of by their men. The term submissive is usually always used interchangeably with the term nice guy, but being the nice guy isn’t always a bad thing. Some men like being

the nice guy but they don’t want to be considered submissive. Submissive, by definition means, inclined or ready to submit—and has nothing to do with the term “nice guy.”

I asked 50 young college women at Lone Star College-North Harris in Harris County, Texas, if they wanted their men to be submissive.

I found out that about 49 percent of the women I asked on campus stated that they would actually prefer their men to be submissive, whereas 51 percent said that they would rather have a strong man than a submissive one.

Most of the women who said that they would want a submissive man

also mentioned that they were currently single. One young woman stated, “I’m single because I want to be. I haven’t found a man that can give me what I need when I need it.”

Though my statistics show contrarily, I couldn’t help but dig to find out why those other women would want a submissive man. Out of the women that claimed they would want their man to be submissive, a few of them also want a man that is dominant in the bedroom.

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(sex) 101 Food as Foreplay WebMD provides ways to eat your way to a spicier sex life

According to a report by Jennifer Warner on WebMD.com, researchers say the smell, taste, and even appearance of certain foods can act as potent aphrodisiacs that not only get you in the mood for love, but also may even make you a better flirt and lover. And knowing what foods are appropriate at each stage of the sex and mating process can maximize these effects. Here’s a breakdown:

Foods for seduction include: ■ Shrimp. High in iodine, shrimp and other types of seafood are vital to the thyroid gland, which is vital for energy.

■ Chocolate. Not only does chocolate provide a jolt of caffeine, the plant has a flower that looks like sex organs.

■ Ginger. This root reportedly increases blood flow to the genitals in both men and women.

■ Olives. Green ones are believed to make men more virile, while black ones increase women’s sex drive.

■ Tomatoes. Known as “love apples” by Puritans, they have a reputation as a sexual stimulant.

■ Apples. Since Adam and Eve, this fruit has been synonymous with temptation.

The study also found that the scent of lavender and pumpkin pie was a powerful sexual stimulant for women, but the combination of Good and Plenty (licorice-flavored candy) and cucumber was the most potent sexual scent in increasing blood flow to the vaginal area.

Womp Womp!

Back to school equals a new crop of boys, right? Weed out the weak by nixing any of ‘em that use these played-out pickup lines.

■ Are you from Tennessee? Because you’re the only ten I see!

■ Baby, I’m no Fred Flintstone, but I can make your Bedrock!

■ Did you clean your pants with Windex? I can practically see myself in them.

■ I’d marry your cat just to get in the family.

■ Pardon me miss, I seem to have lost my phone number, could I borrow yours?

■ Stand back, I’m a doctor. You go get an ambulance, I’ll loosen her clothes.

■ You know how they say skin is the largest organ? Not in my case.

■ Is there a mirror in your pocket?

‘Cause I can really see myself in your pants.

■ Do you have a map? I just got lost in your eyes.

■ Are you religious? You’re the answer to my prayers.

■ Hershey factories make millions of kisses a day, but I’m asking for only one.

■ Remember me? Oh, that’s right, I’ve met you only in my dreams.

■ Don’t stop! I don’t usually get to see beauty in motion.

■ You don’t need car keys to drive me crazy.

Sources: Funny2.com and LinesThatAreFunny.com

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Flirt-friendly foods include: ■ Chili peppers. Spicy foods get the heart pumping and induce sweating.

■ Bananas. They contain chemicals that reportedly have a mood-lifting effect on the brain and raises self-confidence.

■ Carrots. Their phallic appearance and high-fiber content may induce sexual desire.

what’s it like to be in love?

After her fair share of unsuccessful relationships, Terin Bufford found love through a mutual friend. Here, she shares the ups and downs of her relationship and how she and the love of her life makes it work

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rue love is something that not all people get a chance to experience in their lifetime. Thankfully, I have had the chance to experience the good and the bad that comes with giving your heart to someone.

My boyfriend, Dwight Donnell Sneed, Jr. and I have been dating for a little over eight months and we have really come a long way with each other.

Though some might say that eight months isn’t enough time to know if love is real, I know that this love we share is a “forever” type of love.

Donnell and I met through a mutual friend in the Dallas area that knew he was in the Katy, Texas area all by himself and that I lived in Houston,

about twenty minutes from Katy.

So he gave me a call and we decided to meet at Café Adobe for dinner. We clicked immediately because we shared a very similar humor, he laughed at all my jokes and I laughed at his, whether they were funny or not.

He was a very random individual and someone that made me laugh. He was always real and down to earth, very smart and sexy. He was everything that I wanted in a man. Things started off wonderfully. We constantly talked on the phone, we hung out with each other, and we always had a great time.

In September 2008 when Hurri-

cane Ike hit Houston, Donnell decided to drive out to Dallas to be with his family and I stayed in Houston with mine. During those rocky days of having no power and no real way of communicating, we both had troubles with not being able to talk to one another. Donnell claims that that was the moment he knew he was in love with me—I, on the other hand, took a little more convincing. Before Donnell and I got together, my last relationship was very problematic and I wasn’t sure if I wanted to be in another serious relationship at that point. But God has a way of changing your mindset.

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(sex) 101 of fights, just like any other couple. We disagree on some issues and we try to our best to understand each other.

Communication was our toughest hurdle. There were some issues that I wasn’t always truthful about and there were some things that he would leave out. We had to grow up and understand that this relationship won’t make it if we don’t try.

For a while, I still wanted to live life like a young, single 21 year old should, but I had to realize that that wasn’t the case anymore. I needed my own wake Donnell graduated from college up call and I had to see the pain I was in 2007 and that simple fact pushes inflicting on Donnell. In a relationship, me to do better. He’s my ultimate each person will have to change some motivation. Not only does he push things about themselves in order to me to take the next step and to go make that relationship work. Though far but he also finds ways to help we tend to learn from our past experime along the way. I know that the ences, we have to learn how to not let those experiences overrun your current opposite is true when it comes to me. I feel like I have been able to relationships.

I am very thankful for Donnell being teach Donnell a lot about who he is in my life. He has taught me a lot about as well. I think I have been able to teach Donnell a lot about patience. who I am, both good and bad. DonI have also been able to really help nell has been very honest with me in him with compromising. The both several ways and he’s been very open.

He tells me what things I do that affect of us have been able to learn from each other about what things we him and us. (I have a lot of respect for should compromise on and what a man that will be real with me and that will be honest about what I do that things we have to understand about each other. “There annoys him.)

“Like any are something’s about her Donnell is very sup- normal couple, and her personality that I portive of me in every- we both found thing that I do. I have the flaws that we wasn’t comfortable with so I had to learn how to coma lot of hobbies and he could not stand promise on certain things shows a genuine inter- in the other person and we est in everything that I had to find some while still staying true to myself,” Donnell said. Like like to do. He reads all sort of middle any normal couple, we of my articles, encour- ground to both found the flaws that ages me to finish overcome the differences.” we could not stand in the school, and he inspires other person and we had to me.

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find some sort of middle ground to overcome the differences.

I guess I never really thought about where our relationship would go in the future. I knew that Donnell was someone that I wanted in my life and I didn’t know what to think about it. After a short while, Donnell met my family, and they absolutely loved him. He spends a lot of time with my parents and my father, playing golf and talking sports. I’ve been to Dallas a few times to meet his entire family, his two brothers, his sister-in-laws, his grandparents and his extended family. I really love the connections we’ve made with our families, it’s a wonderful experience. His families already call me sister-in-law, and his parents love me. Coming from past relationships where our families clashed or my parents weren’t very happy with my choices for boyfriends, it’s very refreshing to be with someone they like. And at this point, I honestly couldn’t see my life without him. He is my rock. Donnell and I are still learning from each other about life and love. ■

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>> Get a heads up on what’s hot for fall >> Spruce up your classics with the latest crop of musthave accessories

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3.1 phillip lim Looking for an instant update? Grab a graphic frock in classic black-andwhite — keep the accessories to a minimum and let the dress’s print grab attention.

on the horizon On tap for fall: graphic prints, new takes on classic shapes and unexpected updates on basic black. Consider the following ten pages your crash course in what to wear for the next six months Photographs via style.com

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alexander wang Look no further than fashion’s can-do-no-wrong It boy to design to a showstopping figure-flattering dress with so much attitude all eyes will be on you at the first party of the year.

brian reyes Ignite your fall look with jewel tones — emerald, turquoise or magenta, as seen here.

Fall’s upgrade: paring the vibrant hues with chocolate toppers that’ll come in handy when the temps tumble.

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derek lam Get your shine on in the season’s metallics, but for fall, add some gritty edge with black slim pants — leather optional!

jason wu Full skirts are major players and when worn with feminine blouses and coats, you’ll turn heads for all the right reasons.

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louis vuitton Black is everything but basic thanks to Marc Jacobs’s cutting-edge over-the-knee boots, textured tough-girl LBDs and carryalls adorned with hardware embellishments.

doo.ri Make purple the antithesis of delicately dainty with strong shoulders, lace tights and ankle boots that create an understated alluring look appropriate for the classroom and any afterhours gatherings with the gals.

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Maxmara Red is the new black, and fearless ladies aren’t alarmed to wear it head to toe. Don’t overdo it with the extras — no cuffs, necklaces or chunky rings; stick with understated rings and a satchel to tote your books in.

thakoon Get into gray’s anatomy: roomy capes plus stovepipe pants and coal-black accessories amp up the chic factor on normally subdued gunmetal tones.

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yves saint laurent You’ve all got a pencil skirt in the regular rotation, but with an elaborate snow-white blouse, platforms in an eye-catching color (and a bright lip!), yours will be equal parts timeless and on-trend.

Extras, Extras…

… read all about it: instantly update your back-to-school wardrobe with statementmaking accessories — ginormous necklaces, sky-high heels, jumbo bags, colossal cuffs, and giant rings. Warning: fall fashion isn’t for the faint of heart Fashion editor: Dara Adeeyo

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Necklace, $22.40, Arden B.

Clockwise: Bag, $2430, Bally; shoes, $1429, Nicholas Kirkwood; shoes, $55, Dorothy Perkins; bag, $29.80, Forever 21.

Flower rings, $3.80, Forever 21; black stone ring, $68, GUESS by Marciano; turquoise ring, $20, Blu Bijoux.

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Cuff, $18, Althea.

Shoes, $795, Miu Miu.

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Clockwise: Earrings, $3.80, $5.80, $3.80, $5.80, all Forever 21.

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Phillip Lim sent models down the catwalk in bowl cuts, pale lips and mascara on only the bottom half of the models’ eyes. Lim had all the models wearing a Okamoto-esque wig, and soft mod makeup. This look was created by using false lashes placed on the outer half of the bottom lash line.

Then matte charcoal shadow was used with a wet eyeliner brush to draw lashes beneath and shimmering pink and gold shadows covered the lids. As for the lips, they were softened with NARS concealer and sheer matte foundation was used on the skin.

flawlessly fresh

From bright lips and vibrant eyes to ponytails and chilibowled ‘dos, fall puts forward a look for everyone

By Randall Upshaw

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jaye beauty gucci Gucci has every intention of making strength and power a popular look for fall. Heavy foundation was applied onto the models’ faces while the eyes contained rainbow colors.

A combination of red and gold was used on the eyelid and blended up to the brow bone.

Violet was placed closely to the lash line and dragged towards the outer corner and up onto the crease. The insides on both top and bottom were also rimmed with a black pencil. A shimmering pink blush highlighted the cheekbones all the way to the temples while the lips were painted with an intense red.

michael kors Attempting to accomplish an intense look, Michael Kors’ makeup artist, Dick Page used the new Shiseido Luminizing Satin Eye Colors, available this month. He created a black smoky eye with texture by layering beige, grey and black shadows. To compliment these dark smoky eyes, he used one of the new Shiseido Perfect Rouge Lipsticks in Almond Pink.

Believe it or not, the product he used on the cheeks is a new product he’s working on for spring 2010. He’s playing with a few new formulas and wanted to give it a test run for fall.

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vera wang Vera Wang’s inspiration for fall was a chic, simplistic barelythere look. Models sauntered down the runway with their hair pulled back to emphasize the natural features of the face without causing distractions. These particular looks were achieved by wearing foundation, mascara and a nude lip, which ultimately created a classic look that would be ideal for Fall 2009.

versace A concentrated midnight eye was the way to go according to Versace for Fall 2009. The eyes were saturated in metallic black and midnight blue colors and rimmed heavily with black eyeliner for a smoky look. Fake eyelashes were added for extra drama. The skin was kept subdued and flawless in a dewy foundation and shimmery pale pink blush and the lips were topped with a nude gloss. With that, the hairstylist Guido Palau created a contrasting look with slicked back hair at the top and a softened, wavy look on the bottom.

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jaye beauty thakoon Beauty for the Thakoon fall 2009 collection formed a look that made “you feel of ease but that also was a little bit rock ‘n’ roll.” Eyes were done using a reddish-brown pencil all around that was then smudged out.

Black liner was applied close to the upper and lower lash line and no mascara was used.

Brows were dark and thick and skin was made dewy with a light foundation and a coral powder blush on the apples of cheeks. Kendal wanted to keep the focus on the eyes, so lips were muted with lip balm and concealer. Topping off the look were eccentric asymmetric buns. They had a deep yet classic slicked-over side part that enhanced the entire appearance and made this look one of the most unique.

rodarte The Mulleavy sisters at Rodarte opted for clean sophistication this fall. Hair was flawlessly slicked back with a deep part to keep it interesting. There was a hint of architectural influence in the choice of makeup that worked perfectly. The eyes were contoured with white and flesh toned lines giving the look structure and detail. Lips showcased a neutral shade with a touch of color to keep them from looking drab. The look aligned perfectly with the collection on the runway.

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While many observers are smitten with First Lady Michelle Obama’s fashion and beauty choices, others think it’s important to focus on what initiatives she’s championing and the intelligence and wisdom she exudes.

The Beauty Report What do Michelle Obama, Tyra Banks and Sarah Palin have in common? They’ve all been picked apart based on thier physical appearances while their intelligence and messages have seemingly been placed on the backburner. How do students feel about having to balance beauty and brains — and does it matter to them?

What’s Beauty Got to Do With It?

By Randall Upshaw

he 2008 Presidential election was beyond monumental not only because our country was so fortunate to experience the election of the first Black President, but also because the United States could literally see an example of a strong, loving all-American family. Throughout the entire campaign President Obama emphasized the importance of having a solid education as well as the moral and ethical values on which you allow your family to stand, however he never once failed to thoroughly express to the American people how much of a backbone his wife, Michelle Obama, was for him not only throughout this election but as his life partner.

Michelle Obama’s solid educational background, extensive leadership qualities, and the active role that she plays in the lives of her two daughters, Malia and Sasha, makes her a

phenomenal woman in the eyes of many, but why does the media constantly focus on other facets of her life? Why is it that the Azzedine Alaia dress in which Michelle debuted at the American Ballet Opening Night Spring Gala was more important

know it.

Though Michelle Obama is a prime example of this she is unquestionably not the only example because many prominent female figures such as 2008 Republican Party’s vice-presidential nominee

“I absolutely refuse to allow my physical appearance to dictate the outcome of my future. I am working entirely too hard to earn my education and gain experience in order for me to be able to compete in corporate America and be a sought after candidate for any job that I apply for.”

– meah james than coverage over the actual event and the reason behind her attendance?

Taking this into consideration, there is an underlying issue that women of power are hindered with thanks to media coverage that seems to focus more on their physical appearance more than the way they are enhancing their careers and drastically impacting society as we

Sarah Palin, former supermodel Tyra Banks, and American media personality Oprah Winfrey encounter this excessive behavior on a daily basis.

As we embark on various professional careers after college, will we be taken seriously and treated accordingly in the boardrooms of the still male-dominated corporate America? Will we ultimately >>

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Above: Oprah Winfrey has battled public attacks on her appearance for years, but admires love how she always kills detractors with her smarts and kindness.

Below: Alaska Gov. Sarah Palin has had to fight her beauty-queen past for others to take her seriously.

be judged on our intelligence and overall professionalism or be subject to their physical appearance being a distinct determinant in the outcome of their future?

When asked how they wanted to be perceived and treated in corporate America versus what they expected, the responses from college women were very intriguing.

“I absolutely refuse to allow my physical appearance to dictate the outcome of my future. I am working entirely too hard to earn my education and gain experience in order for me to be able to compete in corporate America and be a sought after candidate for any job that I apply for,” Meah James, a sophomore criminology major at from Xavier University in New Orleans, says.

James continues, “I feel that if an employer cannot determine whether or not he would like me to be an asset to his company because of the way I dress, despite 114 JAYE | AUGUST 2009

“Women have been looked at and judged on their physical appearance for years. Whether women are applying for a job or walking around the mall, they should always be conscious of the way that they look.”

– kristen brawls the fact that I am overqualified for the position, it is not God’s will for me to work for that particular company. Now with that being said, self-expression is wonderful, but I am aware that when trying to get a job, proper business attire is appropriate. However If I am judged because my handbag is from Forever 21 instead of the latest Louis Vuitton Damier Speedy then that is definitely not my ideal work environment or the type of people that I want to associate myself with.”

James went on to reiterate how ignorant she felt it was for women to be judged and perceived strictly by their appearance instead of their intelligence, contributions to society, and content of their character.

“It’s so shallow how people can look at another person without being able to see past what they have on or their appearance as a whole.

I see this as being another form of discrimination. It’s the same as not being picked for a job because or your race or sexual orientation,”

opening page: z.about.com. winfrey: streetknowledge.wordpress.com. palin: sun-sentinel.com. banks: lovebscott.com. clinton: thaindian.com.

Left: Tyra Banks has shed her supermodel image in favor of one who champions women’s rights and issues that resonate with young people.

Below: Secretary of State Hillary Clinton keeps it simple with a cropped cut and pants suits that keep the atttention on what she has to say, not what she wears.

said James. “How does that employer know that just because a woman has on a particular article of clothing or has her hair and make-up fixed a certain way, she is not the most qualified candidate for a position?

How do they know that just because a woman can’t afford all of the most fashionable items that she’s not trying to better herself in a way that she can do so? They don’t know.

And for people to allow their entire perception of a woman to be solely based on her physical appearance is equivalent to denying her the right to vote because she is a woman. It is indeed ignorant and I will not allow myself to be hindered by this”.

Kristen Brawls, a sophomore education major at Stephen F. Austin University in Nacogdoches, Texas was just as passionate about the issue, but from a standpoint.

“I don’t understand why this is such an issue. Women have been looked at and judged on their physical appearance for years. I personally think it’s something that people need to accept and move forward in an effort to try and better themselves,” said Brawls. “Regardless as to whether or not women are applying for a job or walking

around the mall, they should always be conscious of the way that they look because it comes with the femininity. Women should have the ability to express themselves but if she expresses herself too much to the point of her appearance being visibly offensive to the employer that sounds like a personal problem.

Brawls thinks women use their beauty as a crutch and that they contradict themselves by wanting their appearance to define them when it’s most convenient for them.

“For instance, when women dress a certain way to get into upscale night clubs but get upset when they are judged on their physical appearance otherwise—good or bad—it sets a double standard. Ultimately, I just

want women to accept the fact that people are going to look at them and make assumptions based off of the way they look. That doesn’t necessarily mean that the assumption is bad but it is an assumption nonetheless and whether they want to admit it or not, they do the exact same thing to other people. It’s a way of life.”

With news networks crafting stories on the way that these iconic women present themselves in public, rest assured that this kind of coverage will be around for a while.

However, it’s up to us recognize the achievements and the talents of these women so that things that matter don’t fall by the wayside in favor of beauty dos and don’ts. ■ JAYE | AUGUST 2009 115

jaye health

It is estimated that the average daily caffeine consumption among Americans is about 280 mg/day, while 20 percent to 30 percent consume more than 600 mg daily.

somnia. 600 milligrams of caffeine creates significant health risks like increasing side effects of certain medications.

Cutting off caffeine cold turkey can cause withdrawal—headaches, irritability, fatigue, depression, and poor concentration. On the bright side, caffeine affects individuals based on of gender, height, weight, and age—other factors include if you’re pregnant or a smoker. In other words: for some caffeine may have a negative affect; and others no affect at all.

College students that seek a “buzz” from caffeinated products especially in the mornings have the

The Case Against Caffeine

The skinny on the stimulant in the Starbucks, Cokes and sweet that we think we can’t live without

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affeine… I have to have it. Don’t we all? According to trainer Marjie Gilliam an estimated 80 to 90 percent of Americans admit they take in caffeine daily, and I’m apart of those numbers—I drink sweet tea daily; it’s my favorite drink in the world!

On average, a cup of brewed coffee or tea contains 100 to 150 mg (milligrams) of caffeine, which is a healthy intake.

Caffeine is a bitter alkaloid naturally occurring stimulant found in leaves, seeds or fruit from over sixty plants around the world. It’s best for suppressing appetites and keeping you alert because it stimulates the nervous system. That’s

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The Health Report

We all know one, or may be one: an addict. Studies attribute many factors to why people fall prey to abusive behavior, but how do you help someone whom you care about? How do you know if you’re the one who needs help? Here, the answers to your questions ■ “It all started when we broke up,” confesses Danielle*, a 21year old whose spirited personality is seemingly hidden behind desolate facial expressions and puffy eyes, a result of the tears streaming down her cheeks onto the picture of her exboyfriend of three years, and in Danielle’s opinion, the origin of all that’s gone wrong in her life.

Danielle says that her ex “felt like we were going in two different directions. He was being relocated by his job; I still had at least two years of school left, and he said that he tried the ‘long-distance thing’ before and didn’t want to go there again. I was devastated.”

While many of her friends swooped in to pick up the pieces of her shattered psyche, she said they made things worse. “They kept saying that I was ‘too good for him,’ or that they ‘never liked him anyway’—all of the things that I didn’t want to hear.

So it made me shut them out.” Danielle’s parents heaved “You need to be focused on school” bombs from the left, and “He was way too old for you anyway” blasts from the right. And after a while, she didn’t want to listen to it anymore. >> JAYE | AUGUST 2009 119

The Health Report

So she turned to drugs—“just marijuana,” she nonchalantly says—and alcohol as an attempt to “make the pain go away.” I went to class high, smoked instead of doing my homework, and in the evenings, if I wasn’t getting drunk before a party, I’d drink and cry until I fell asleep. I’ve always been a good student, and the book worm in my circle of friends, so most of them thought I was burying myself in my studies to take my mind off of him. Now that I think about it, school should have been my addiction, not

counselor at Texas A&M UniversityCommerce, says. “Shopping, the Internet and sex can also be sources of addiction too.”

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o, what is addiction anyway?

According to WordNet, a large lexical database for the English language, addiction is defined as “being abnormally tolerant to and dependent on something that is psychologically or physically habit-forming.” Dalrymple adds, “Most of the time, an addiction stems

too much!’, the person you’re trying to help could interpret that as an attack, and immediately, they will become defensive,” Dalrymple says. Instead, she advises, go to the core of the addiction.

“Emotionally, something’s going on and that addiction is an escape for that person—a way for them to not have to deal with what’s really going on in their life. It’s easy to focus on the addictive behavior, but if you are trying to help someone, you have to dig deeper.”

And experts like Dalrymple sug-

drugs and alcohol, which, I think, made things worse.”

Though Danielle’s situation, may be extreme to some, her coping mechanism, which has lead to addictive behavior, is all too common—look no further than AddictionAnswers.com, a part of the Addiction Recovery Management Service, that reports about 40 percent of college students reported binge drinking (5+ drinks for men; 4+ drinks for women) in the past month; and according to According to data from the 2006 National Household Survey on Drug Use and Health (NSDUH), 112 million Americans age 12 or older (45 percent of the population) reported illicit drug use at least once in their lifetime; 15 percent reported use of a drug within the past year; and, eight percent reported use of a drug within the past month.

“Drugs and alcohol aren’t the only things that young people are addicted to,” Rhonda M. Dalrymple, Ph.D., a

from something deeper—perhaps a life-changing event like a death occurred in someone’s life or they grew up in an environment where they were exposed to an addict—and it’s important to realize that addictions are easy to develop, but hard to diagnose.”

“I knew I had a problem when I started missing class and not turning in assignments,” Danielle reflects.

She also references her declined performance at work and lighter pockets.

“I was always broke! It’s hard to pay for an addiction.”

Dalrymple agrees: “When other parts of someone’s life starts to be affected by whatever the addiction is, there may be a need for intervention.”

Intervention—when to step in and how—is a tricky proposition for most, and should be handled delicately.

“Let’s say someone you know has a drinking problem, if you begin a conversation with ‘I think you drink

gest that you make sure you’re in a proper place to offer support to someone before intervening. “You have to know how to separate yourself from the situation and not take things personally. All you can do is offer support and provide them with options. Selfawareness is so important—don’t get lost in their situation and don’t find yourself falling victim to those same addictive behaviors. It’s a balance: you want to be there for the person whom you’re trying to help, but you also have to take care of yourself too.” * For privacy, the name of the subject was changed.

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opening spread: cocaineaddictiontreatment.org. this page: hiddenepidemic.com. opposite page: blogcdn.com.

“It’s easy to focus on the addictive behavior, but if you are trying to help someone, you have to dig deeper.” –rhonda dalrymple

how to help a friend in need ting at first, there Though it may be daun nd in need without are ways to help a frie intrusive. Here are being overbearing and a few tips: ive.

■ Listen and be support m-solve ble ■ Brainstorm and pro potential solutions. to talk with other ■ Encourage your friend mbers. friends and/or family me do everything.

■ Remember you can’t needs help: If you think your friend , and without judg■ Approach your friend ow your concern. ment, let him or her kn t how much you ■ “I’m concerned abou ed about how sad drink,” or “I’m concern en lately,” are and withdrawn you’ve be ation without atways to start a convers tacking. ources to help ■ Research potential res people who can your friend. Also, look for your friend. help you as you assist

Are you at risk for addiction?

Answer these true or false questions, courtesy of healthline.com, to see if exhibit addictive behavior. Visit jayemag.com for explanations of your results 1. Addiction can begin when a person uses drugs, but addiction isn’t just using a lot of drugs.

2. Addiction usually follows a progressive course.

3. Signs of addiction include increased tolerance to a substance and withdrawal symptoms when a person stops or reduces the use of the substance.

4. People often become addicts in a day or two.

5. Addicts have a lack of control over thoughts, feelings, ideas or behaviors when it comes to the substance.

6. A person is considered addicted when substance use continues despite negative effects on his or her life.

7. Whether physical and/or psychological, addiction can be overcome.

8. An addict in recovery should recognize that owning up to the addiction doesn’t mean he or she is a bad person.

9. An important step toward recovery is accepting that change must occur. ■

bers y the num b n o ti ic d ad ■ In the United States, about 23 million adults (1 in 8) suffer from substance abuse.

■ Approximately 18 million adults (1 in every 10) are alcoholics or abusers of alcohol.

■ 53% of men and women in the United States state that one or more of their close relatives have a drinking problem.

■ Each alcoholic impacts at least seven other lives.

■ Every $1 invested in addiction-treatment programs results in more than $7 in social savings due to reduced crime and health care costs.

■ One in four of our children are exposed to alcoholism or alcohol abuse in their families before the age of 18.

■ Treatment reduces criminal activity by 72%.

Source: BeaconHouseAlumni.com/Addiction101

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5 Common Health Problems and Solutions to Them The lowdown on issues that affect your well-being and what to do to get rid of ‘em By TaNesha Spratling

The Problem: Binge Eating Disorder The 411: Binge eaters go on large splurges, consuming an unusually large quantity of food in a short period of time (less than two hours) uncontrollably, eating until they are uncomfortably full. The weight of each individual is usually characterized as above average or overweight, and sufferers tend to have a more difficult time losing weight and maintaining average healthy weights. Unlike with Bulimia, they do not purge following a binge episode. Women binge as a way to hide from their emotions, to fill a void they feel inside, and to cope with daily stresses and problems in their lives.

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Binging can be used as a way to keep people away. As with Bulimia, Binging can be used as self-punishment for doing “bad” things, or for feeling badly about themselves. A person suffering with Binge Eating Disorder is at health risk for a heart attack, high blood pressure and cholesterol, kidney disease and/or failure, arthritis and bone deterioration, and stroke.

What to do: Binge eaters must seek professional help and possibly rehabilitation.

The Problem: Sexually Transmitted Diseases The 411: Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs) are common among women and very prevalent in the African American communities. Diseases such as, gonorrhea, syphilis, Chlamydia are the most highly distributed through sexual contact. They are not a death sentence as HIV/AIDS, but if you allow them to go untreated, your health will slowly deteriorate.

What to do: Chlamydia and gonorrhea are treated with antibiotics, for in most cases if you have one the other is accompanied with it. Syphilis is treated with parenteral penicillin. This means that the penicillin is either injected into the muscle or given through your vein.

The Problem: Alcoholism The 411: The craving that an alcoholic feels for alcohol can be as strong as the need for food or water. An alcoholic will continue to drink despite serious family, health, or legal problems. Like many other diseases, alcoholism is chronic, meaning that it lasts a person’s lifetime; it usually follows a predictable course; and it has symptoms.

The risk for developing alcoholism is influenced both by a person’s genes and by his or her lifestyle.

What to do: Alcoholism cannot be cured at this time. Even if an alcoholic hasn’t been drinking for a long time, he or she can still suffer a relapse. Not drinking is the safest course for most people with alcoholism. Although, alcoholism can be treated. Alcoholism treatment programs use both counseling and medications to help a person stop drinking. Treatment has helped many people stop drinking and rebuild their lives.

The Problem: Heart disease The 411: Heart disease is abnormal conditions that affect the heart and the blood vessels in the heart. The most common type of heart disease is coronary artery disease, which is the gradual buildup of plaques in the coronary arteries, the blood vessels that bring blood to the heart. This disease develops slowly and silently, over decades. It can go virtually unnoticed until it produces a heart attack.

What to do: Early stages of the disease are treated with medications.

If medications cannot alleviate chest pains, surgery may be necessary.

Prevention of heart disease is living healthy and active lives. Adopting a healthy lifestyle is one of the best treatments for coronary artery disease. ■

womens--health.net. sources: femalehealthissues.co.uk; psychologyinfo.com; something-fishy. org; std.about.com; medicinenet.com; womenshealth.gov; webmd.com.

The Problem: Depression The 411: A number of factors can cause depression: It may be a major life event that has resulted in a persistent state of upset, unbalance and negativity; it might be that the chemicals in the brain have become unbalanced which has been found to be related to fluctuating hormone levels which is typical during the menstrual cycle, pregnancy. The use of substances such as alcohol and some addictive drugs play a role in the occurrence of depression. The most common form of depression in women is post-natal depression, which begins following the birth of a child.

What to do: Depression is a hard problem to defeat; it takes time.

Antidepressant medication does not cure depression—it only helps you to feel better by controlling certain symptoms. Cognitive therapy helps the depressed person recognize which life problems are critical, and which are minor. It also helps him/her to develop positive life goals, and a more positive self-assessment.

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jaye health Cavity Prevention According to HealthDay News and www.health. msn.com tooth decay is the most common medical conditions, second only to the common cold. Below are tips to help prevent cavity development.

■ See your dentist every six months and have annual X-rays. Brush your teeth with fluoridated toothpaste at least twice a day, and floss every day.

■ Avoid snacking on foods that are chewy, sticky or sugary. If you do eat them, be sure to brush right after eating.

■ Avoid mints, candy and sugar-laden drinks.

■ Ask your dentist if you should use a sealant on your teeth.

Let’s talk about sex, baby!

Let’s face it: Due to hormonal changes, young girls get a little boy crazy— hormones are on a rage for the opposite sex, and it’s important that the younger generation understand the facts about sex and its consequences. Below are a few facts and tips on sex that can serve as conversation starters with young girls whom you encounter. >> Sex can wait. Abstinence is important because deciding whether to engage in sexual intercourse is a tough decision and can alter your emotions dramatically. >> ALWAYS use protection before intercourse. Condoms prevent Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs) and teenage pregnancy. >> Communicate with confidants. Talk to your parents, older brothers, or sisters which ever feels the most comfortable, and ask them about sex. >> Don’t get caught up. Girls tend to be emotionally attached to a boy and sorry girls, but more often than not, boys don’t reciprocate those emotions. Many times, sex is just sex to a boy, even though you may feel different.

Health 411: Asthma

Asthma causes swelling and inflammation in the airways that lead to your lungs. When asthma flares up, the airways tighten and become narrower. This keeps the air from passing through easily and makes it hard for you to breathe. These flare-ups are also called asthma attacks or exacerbations.

Asthma is treated over the long term. Control asthma attacks by using a daily asthma treatment plan. This is a written plan that tells you which medicine to take. It also helps you track your symptoms and know how well the treatment is working. Many people take controller medicine usually an inhaler everyday. Using an inhaler every day helps to reduce the swelling of the airways and prevent attacks.

Your doctor will show you how to use your inhaler correctly. This is very important so you get the right amount of medicine to help you breathe better.

Health Headliners

Health News: Condoms ■ Learning about sexual precautions, we are told to use condoms right? Well, an eye-opener: condoms do not fully protect you against STDs like to herpes, syphilis, HPV, and pubic lice—not to mention the 11 percent annual fail rate of condoms. Now men and women must re-educate themselves on various STDs. Looks like your best bet is remain sex free unless you are in a monogamous relationship, even still take precautions and get tested regularly you and your partner.covered by a condom—so condoms may not fully protect against HPV. So the only sure way to prevent HPV is to avoid all sexual activity.

Individuals can also lower their chances of getting HPV by being in a mutually-faithful relationship.

Health Alert: Less Stress is Best!

Stress can arise for a variety of reasons. Stress can be brought about by a traumatic accident, death, or emergency.

Stress can also be a side effect of a serious illness or disease.

There is also stress associated with daily life, the workplace, and family responsibilities. It’s hard to stay calm and relaxed in our hectic lives.

Ways to alleviate stress are relaxing, efficient sleep, eating healthy foods, make time for you or even talk to friends; get professional help.

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horoscope

This august, all eyes will be on you Leos, but don’t let it go to your head or you may scare away potential suitors

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Leo July 23-August 22 You adore attention and there’s no shortage this month, but you’re generous with praise too and people will love to bask in the warm glow you’re emitting. It’ll leave you walking on cloud nine and everyone is going to know about it! You’re in for some summer sizzle this August with an equally fiery partner and there could be a connection too.

Virgo August 23-September 22 Strong undercurrents from other people are making you feel a little on edge. It seems everyone’s behaving oddly as though the sun’s gone to their heads. Even you’re acting a bit out of character. However you should be able to smooth over any brewing trouble with soothing words that just roll off the tongue.

Libra September 23-October 22 You’re determined to set the world

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on fire in August. You’re feeling hot and ready to take the plunge with someone special. The passion and ferocity of Mars and Pluto join up with your ruler Venus this month giving you the power to set pulses racing. No one will be able to resist your confidence. This is an important month in an important year for you. Expect to be seeing more of the world and letting the world see more of you.

Scorpio October 23-November 21 A powerful and meaningful connection with someone is on the cards, whether you know them or not already. Your ruler Pluto in harmony with Mars and Venus means love and passion in equal measures.

You’re a force to be reckoned with and when you set your sights on your ideal partner there will be no stopping you getting them, whether they like it or not! You may also be tempted to take a big financial risk this month, but practice caution if you can because there’s no guarantee of a settled outcome.

Sagittarius November 22-December 21 You’re feeling wonderfully energized as the month starts, leaving others in your wake as you bounce from one task to another. Watch out for ego clashes with other strong personalities who want the limelight too. Mid-August sees you embroiled in heated exchanges with individuals for whom you can barely disguise your passion. You are a born traveller and philanthropist and now is a great time to in indulge both of these.

Capricorn December 22-January 19 The month begins with a feeling of harmony and balance and you are feeling a bit more confident about your financial circumstances. You feel at ease expressing your deeper feelings to loved ones too. However as the month moves forward the

possibility of some tension between your work and domestic life increases, but any challenges you face could be a positive way of clearing the air and therefore making progress in both these areas. If the tension in the air does boil over you can be consoled by the fact that it’s all a storm in a tea cup and will settle soon.

Aquarius January 20-February 18 Arguments with siblings, close friends and partners are possible this month and any trouble that does occur could simple be little more than hot air and bravado from all parties concerned. Dayto-day activities and getting about your normal routine, things you normally take for granted, could be fraught with complications and upsets in August. Try not to be everywhere at once or race about trying to achieve too many things; no one is expecting miracles so stop trying to perform them.

Pisces February 19-March 20 August is a good month to pour your energy into sorting out money matters and embarking on schemes that will see your cash working harder for you. Be careful not to fall for the charms of sweet talkers who aren’t exactly what they are making themselves out to be. Overall you can expect to be putting in a lot of effort this month and working hard in a lot of areas in your life but things will settle down toward the end of August.

Aries March 21-April 19 The summer heat could go straight to your head in August.

With fiery Mars in your sign tempers and temperatures are set to soar into the stratosphere. A difficult aspect from Mars to the area of your chart ruling home and family could see you clashing with your nearest and dearest. A better

way to channel this energy is into love and sex especially in the middle of the month when your ruler forms a devastating link with romantic Venus and passionate Pluto.

Taurus April 20-May 20 You start the month focused and wanting to be taken seriously. Others will be convinced by your methodical approach making this an ideal time to deal with officials like bank managers, accountants and bosses. Things will soon lighten up for you, an encounter with someone who ‘lights your candle’ perhaps. Expect life to get really hot when your ruler Venus teams up with fiery Mars and Pluto promising fireworks mid August.

Gemini May 21-June 20 Keeping a watchful eye on the cash flow can be dreary, especially when your friends our out making the most of summer. It can feel as if you’re missing out on all the fun. But don’t despair because when you’re off on a bigger better holiday than everyone else you’ll be glad you saved your dough. You can expect to feel the heat this summer in more ways than one.

Cancer June 21-July 22 You’re likely to feel all hot and bothered this August, but try not to let the sun go your head.

Just remember that keeping call means keeping calm. The best advice for you is avoid mid-day burn out and instead make the most of warm balmy nights which is much more your style. Evenings are your time so get plenty of siestas in order to make the most of those midnight fiestas.

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sex sells?

In an open letter to our fave entertainers, we exhort them to put a stop to the bad-girl rite of passage that is the sex tape Dear Young Hollywood, Our generation is inundated with admonitions from parents and professors to career counselors and HR experts: “Pay close attention to the image you present to the world via the Internet—it could come back to haunt you,” they laboriously urge, sometimes to no avail.

But we, the editors at JAYE, have our own suggestion, and it’s intended for young Hollywood’s power players (yeah, we’re talking to you, Paris. And poor Cassie. Oh, and we aren’t leaving you out, Rihanna.

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Rihanna

Leighton Meester

media firestorm including a statement from the starlet’s rep and raunchy images from said tapes circulating through the blogosphere and entertainment TV. We’re here to say enough. It’s not cute. It’s not sexy. And it’s none of our business. We love you for what we pay you to do: sing, act and entertain. Not for what you do in the dark—that for some of you, should never come to light.

Now, for some, we’re sure that these chronicles of your sexual escapades may have gotten into the wrong hands and perhaps were exposed to cause damage to your reputation, while picking up a paycheck along the way, but here’s a piece of savvy advice we suggest you apply before hurling your flack into damage-control overload: don’t make a tape to begin with.

Show us that discretion is still requisite in the age of every-thirtysecond tweets, insta-bulletins on MySpace and TMI photo albums on Facebook. Give us a chance to read about your humanitarian efforts, enjoy your latest works and indulge in your reality shows without waiting for a bombshell to descend from the pop-culture gates of hell: another sex tape anonymously leaked. If you didn’t hear us the first time: enough. As regular Jane Does, we have to be held accountable for our actions, good or bad, and starting with this open letter, we’re going to start holding you to the same standard. Capeesh?

Because after all, we deserve better. And frankly, you do too.

Love, Your fans and the editors at JAYE

disclaimer: the inspiration for this column came from published reports of the photographed celebrities on this page having sex tapes or graphic images leaked to the public. This column is for entertainment purposes and was not written to attack the credibility of the women mentioned in the piece. Hilton: celebrityandworld.com. kardashian: fashionindie.com. rihanna: riverdaughter.wordpress.com. meester: sticksandstonesgossip.com.

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